DISCLAIMER: this video is not intended to offend, harm, or discredit faith or religion. This video has been created to highlight the potentially traumatizing elements of ALL religions.
I have been traumatized by religion. I have Bipolar and my church family claim I needed deliverance. The elders laid hands on me. Pastor, which is my aunt in law would say I need to be more active in church. I was on the choir and usher. They believe if you go to Sunday school, morning service, evening service, Bible study every week your faith will increase and will be healed. I no longer subscribe to Christianity and I follow a spiritual path now
I know this is a sensitive topic, but it's one that has derailed my life before i ever had one. My family has committed to christiany so entirely that you wouldn't ever know the truth. I honestly dont think they're even aware. The mentally ill family members are "lost" and need to find jeaus- proof of the family curse, while the "healthy" members are in denial and use spiritual bypassing to deny any trauma, abuse, and problems. They ignored the abuse in childhood and blame and shame the adult for the problems that resulted in the outcome. And if you have an feelings then you are angry, sinful, and need to forgive to move on. It's enraging and utterly mind bending
Whoa this is soo needed! I feel seen! I Grew with a strict Muslim family in a strict Muslim community. I felt ostracized when I wanted to normal teenage things like going to the movies with friends or a college party. After being in therapy it truly helped me realize my own personal relationship with God is what matters MOST. not the opinions of anyone else including family.
I relate to this so much. I grew up in a strict Christian family and we weren’t allowed to go to movies, attend sporting events, have tvs, go to amusement parks. Have sleepovers, cut our hair l, wear jewelry, wear make up, or paint our nails. I also was only allowed to wear skirts.
This content is highly needed. My mother - a bipolar disorder patient with schizophrenic affect - has chased folks, myself, my father, other family members for over 40 years. Everyone should listen to her because God whispers in her ear. Once I became an older adult I realized it was mental illness. It was damaging growing up with her as a parent, and spiraled me into one marriage to escape, and later another marriage to return to that type of control, because I felt I wasn’t behaving good enough without the religious trauma. That all has changed, but it still is a trauma I deal with daily.
My ex 's Mom was a religious narc. Helped him lie to court on me while smiling in my face. Hes as treacherous as his mom. They deserve each other, 51 and still home with her. I'm free!!
Sounds like he was her emotional husband. I had a similar dynamic with my mom in the earlier days. But fortunately for me, she wasnt as bad as this lady. I'm 10 years free from religion!
The irony of overly religipus Christians is that by trying to push their views and standards of behaviors on others (rather than focusing on their persobal ovedience to God and loving others, rather than trying to CHANGE others) they are behaving like the Pharasees that Jesus spoke out against and came to free people from.
I was raised up in a mainstream popular religion .It taught a burning Hell and the earth was going to be distorted by fire.It scared me to death as a child and young person.I started researching the subject of He'll and found out it was mankind's common grave.I no longer fear death and Hell.
That's wonderful! I agree with what you have found out. And children should never be afraid of religion. They should thrive in it if the parent so pleases. And...there should be an age at which the child learns of the things that may scare them.
I too was raised with such brainwashing and developed complex ptsd by 6 as result. My father told me that we were going to murdered for our faith, citing matthiew 24:24. I lived in constant anticipation of it. Sounds ridiculous as an adult, but as a young child it was very terrifying and real. Then there’s the minor crap of being taught I’m going to hell for going to the movies, wearing nail polish and temporary tattoos. Being told my mother is the spawn of Satan and having exorcisms performed on me 🙄
I stopped going to church because I felt I was doing it for my parent and siblings to get that "label".....but the gaslighting and confusion was unbearable for me. Nowadays i just read the bible on my own. I wanna build an exclusive relationship with God
I LOVE this comment!! Yes, I can relate for sure. It's wonderful when you want to know about this on your own and not feel forced to "conform" to a specific culture that creates pressure. Good for you!
go for worship and forgett aboutt negative people. as you near the end- get older or ill you may have regrets ffor not going to church for the wrong reasons and get saved iff not
Thank you for making this video my entire family is in a religion that dissociates when you leave. Very stressful, but im very unhappy and determined it's not for me. I feel very guilty for not loving this religion like my family I feel trapped and condemned. It's going to be struggle through this process.
Thank you! And you're welcome. I'm so sorry. That is NOT the way you should feel. I don't believe any religion would want you to feel this way, especially the Christian faith. The way we can feel is often a reflection of a poor church or family who doesn't know how to deliver what some individuals need on their journey.
Hi, May I ask what you mean when you say they dissociate when you leave? Do you mean they stop associating with you? I’m sorry for asking. I really don’t understand.
Thank you! Please remember to do more on this topic. Many of us need it. ❤ My musings are around religious narcissism, manipulation or gaslighting that pressure members to be "committed" to traditions and activities that thrown things out of balance in other areas of their life as a believer. ...words used to hold people hostage by saying their blessing is dependent on if they give their time to responsibilities that may be more than they can honestly manage.
I like that you mentioned the earrings. This past year I officially left the denomination that I was raised in, my husband and I both did. Earrings were a big no no. It was a monument for me to go get my ears pierced a few months after, I was shaking the whole time expecting to be well on my way to help that us how deep the brainwashing goes. At 32 I got my ears pierced ,an adult choice and expected to go to hell. Right after I came down with Covid , and it was particularly bad case of it. My brain took me straight to "this must be my punishment". But now I'm fully recovered, enjoying pretty earrings and working through some more challenging thought patterns. I enjoyed your video very much and would love a second part!
Thank you! I'm glad this was helpful. Some of the religious ideologies do more harm than good and push people away. It's healthy that you branched out. And...I enjoy pretty earrings too!
At the same time speaking your truth is nessary.. I was traumatized losing identity In experiencing leadership abuse so I discovered that I been some self sabotaging and I have understood why I settle or why I attracted due to my woundedness .
I'm glad you are doing "good compasionate" version of christianity. My problem is, I feel like no matter how good a therapists version of it is, there's always going to be a conflict of interest on some level with a case like mine. I need to have trust that the therapy I'm investing in will NEVER hit a line of contention along those lines. So I personally need a secular therapist for my religious trauma.
Thank you! We need a "good compassionate" version of Christianity. We don't have that often. And your view of this makes sense. Sometimes you can go secular therapist to work things out and then return to a religious view of things once you re-organize your understanding. Just one way to look at things.
@@TherapistTamaraHill this is kinda what I mean. The framing still comes back to opening a person back up to religion when they're not even asking for that.
@@joshknightfall I am a therapist and a Christian , and have all types of clients ( Atheist , transgender, and etc.) Some of my clients know, many don’t. I never bring it unless asked or my client brings up the topic for themselves. I am not perfect, but my clients consistently say that they feel respected , cared about , and accepted by me. I ultimately aim to be with people as they journey through THEIR life. I get why you feel the way you feel , I feel the same when ppl force the their beliefs on me. It is okay to do what you need for you.
I experienced Fundamentalist Bible Cults for years. I can tell you real life senarios that would peel the paint of the walls. Needless to say, none for me thanks. I now have a higher power today and that feel totally comfortable to my spirit and soul.
Thank you so much for your informative and numerous videos 💓💓!!!!! I think it sounds really strange that they made your mother remove her little bit of makeup off at the church!!! Too strict. 🥴 Thanks again. 👍👍💯
This subject is very triggering for me we were raised in a Christian religion Jehovah's Witnesses and my father and mother decided to home-school us kids and a lot of our school books was religious textbooks from the Jehovah's Witness organization which discourage College also discouraged extra curricular activities this did a big disservice to us because to work in today's world they're not going to be asking you what Bible scriptures say and mean so that did some damage to my social skills which I tried to redirect when I went into Job Corps also as a second grader I can remember my parents being so twisted up in that religion that I went to school one day without having no dinner the night before and my teachers made up Halloween bags for all the kids and put it in our cubby holes being a kid, kids love candy I took the Halloween candy my mother found it reported it to my father he was so upset at me that he took me for a drive at 12 at night and said since you want to worship the dad get out and be with them punched me in my face then pushed me out the vehicle now remember I was in the second grade the trauma that has left on me on top of so many other things then to grow up and be shunned and banished from the congregation because I picked up smoking to deal with my anxiety three years ago was my limit where I decided to leave it all behind and focus on what I knew of the Bible and my personal studies and not to claim any form of religion whatsoever because if you think of religion it is a imperfect man's definition or ideology of what the Bible supposedly teachers!
I was raised as witness both parents in the truth but both were the most abusive people ever. But I was always told because I didn't want to do what was right i recieved such treatment. Fast forward I carried that guilt until I was 35 and decided to get baptized. But at this time I was able to look at this from an adult lense and see how my parents abuse of me and each other was enabled by the term endurance. I got soo depressed after coming in because I still felt guilty about not loving this religion. Well I decided I can't do it any more.
Both my mother and my grandmother were religious nuts and I think because they had suffered through so much trauma so many variations of trauma throughout their entire lives religion was just something for them that they have that no one could take away from them. Growing up my mother and my grandmother treated their faith Like a weapon against me it was like their faith their Bible was their barrier and you could not get close to them. You could not get to know who they were as actual human beings. Everything was about punishment and hellfire and never being good enough for God's love or their love and I often joke with my therapist that if I'm going to thank them for anything it's because they kind of made me into the non-believer that I am. 😂 For My mother, there was this constant need growing up that she had to emotionally and psychologically and spiritually punish herself and me and at the same time demand that I give my obedience and my love to her God.
I was the youngest of 3 my sister went to public school, my dad put me in a religious school i was totally lost later I realized they didn't want me there I was put at the back of the room and was told racial things with punishment ear pulling and back of hand knuckle wacks. When I was expelled for failing I was beaten life was hard along with depression.
Well said and desperately needed to be high lighted so I have experience the brain washing in tradition so being careful what you are saying is VIP respectful.
Thank you so much for posting this. I am in therapy now because of religious. Basically the leader said that in xiety is not of God and I was demonized and for that I had to repent status of PG version has Treasures absolutely horrible thank you for posting this video
ABSOLUTELY! My mother and her Church of God In Christ flying monkeys mercilessly subjected me to triangulation and their intriguing mess (a third cousin on maternal grandmother's side of the family was her exploitatively trifling pastor. After my mother died, my agnostic sister embraced those dissembling cultist heathens who ran her into the ground. I've had nothing to do with them beyond sending them a copy of the resolution adopted by our county board of commissioners celebrating my mother's highly eventful life, since my sister couldn't trouble herself to get an obituary in the newspapers on my mother.
It sounds like a lot of manipulation occurred here. I'm sorry to hear this. Hypocritical individuals within the church with the wrong spirit and the wrong focus can truly traumatize those individuals who never see this wickedness and evil coming -- especially from this realm.
@@TherapistTamaraHill A lot of manipulation translates into my mother's churchy side of the family, including my late bossy first cousin who was a United Methodist minister and evolved into one of my mother's flying monkey golden children. As for my evangelical jackleg preacher first cousin on my father's side of the family who saw a need to humiliate me very publicly from childhood on, I wonder when he got Jesus. Because it didn't take now did it ...
Thank you so much for this content, @TherapistTameraHill is there a way to email you? I too am an MSW My neighbor and babysitter was a very religious Catholic from down South, my mom is Orthodox Christian and my dad is Jewish she told me every day that people like myself being interfaith I'd go to hell, and that my dad would go to hell and that my mother would go to hell. She made me feel awful and that fear persists today and now as an adult I'm trying to have my own relationship with God and thoughts with religion. My mom and dad didn't know my neighbor did this when I was a kid I told them now as an adult my mom was so angry she didn't know this woman was hitting me or making me feel bad, about my relationship with God my parents taught me God is all loving and all knowing but this neighbor had such a grip on me
Oh my. I'm so sorry you experienced this. I truly don't believe God would be satisfied with her behaviors. She has the title of a religious woman but her heart was far from God as the scripture in 2 Timothy 3:5 says. "They will act religious, but they will reject the power that could make them godly. Stay away from people like that!" I wonder where she is today. It's heartbreaking that evil can seep into the very area of life that should be compassionate, loving, accepting, educational, and all embracing. She sounds like she traumatized you and caused damage. I do hope you are able to put your mind and heart at ease despite what she did. My email is in the description box.
@@TherapistTamaraHill Thank you so much will email you she died long ago, but yes she played the part of a religious person but wasn't far from it, how she treated people.
Same here I am just now having the confidence to do what I should have done when I left at 15. I did exactly what she said went the total opposite and had no proper adult support and guidance. I was like an animal left to defend for myself and I horribly taught myself. This lady hits it so perfectly
Option for our religious liberty, is very similar to what our option for our liberty of life is also like. Both religious liberty, or the liberty of life itself too, wont necessarily happen for any of us, consistently, unless there'd at first be able to be certain regulation and "checks and balances", set in place too, to help to even out liberties to where less harm would happen (generally). Which is why we have road code. Or regulation of human rights. A lot of the faith abuses are what's to be expected of situation that demand to remain free to take faith to whatever extent the people decide to. As this is the recipe for disastrous situation where by religion can turn into a tool of harm and misery . Perhaps some cult can serve to become like breeding ground for cluster B personality disorders . Children are often vulnerable and unable to resist, until later on in life by which time they'd possibly already be also up against personality disorders they'd acquired earlier on in their youth, (as a survival mechanism). Without the checks and balances, then there's still room for abuse of the liberties . Which in turn can leave in the wake of this the problem of intergenerational trauma , associated personality disorders associated to whole family dynamic dysfunction . This is situation i have experienced. So i relate to things described .
I grew up in a narc Catholic family 😵💫 boy oh boy did they twist the Bible to there agenda i come from a Mexican household too where we are supposed to view our elders as saints & that they can hear the “voice of God” they know what he says /think 🙄 my mother would constantly tell me “God told me to tell you this” so I would follow what she would say out of fear / manipulation or I always got thrown that I would burn in hell I’m now 26 years old & escaped the grips of my narcissistic family & my eyes woke up more about the Catholicism of how much life experiences I missed because of this religion & my family I was angry very angry once I came out that I was sexually abused by a sibling I was thrown that God hates me & im a demon & im going to go to hell for “falsely accusing”. 🙄 I’m glad I left & now I feel like I want to leave the church of how much the the church sided with abuse & cherry pick the Bible for there own agenda thank you sweet soul for this video it helped me a lot to understand my thoughts & I feel seen & heard I always get told by other Catholics to forgive my family because Christ says so & that’s my fault that I put my faith into people & not God . Don’t get me started on how I started therapy that I need to pray to God more 😵💫🙄 . To pray away bad thoughts
DISCLAIMER: this video is not intended to offend, harm, or discredit faith or religion. This video has been created to highlight the potentially traumatizing elements of ALL religions.
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I have been traumatized by religion. I have Bipolar and my church family claim I needed deliverance. The elders laid hands on me. Pastor, which is my aunt in law would say I need to be more active in church. I was on the choir and usher. They believe if you go to Sunday school, morning service, evening service, Bible study every week your faith will increase and will be healed. I no longer subscribe to Christianity and I follow a spiritual path now
I know this is a sensitive topic, but it's one that has derailed my life before i ever had one. My family has committed to christiany so entirely that you wouldn't ever know the truth. I honestly dont think they're even aware. The mentally ill family members are "lost" and need to find jeaus- proof of the family curse, while the "healthy" members are in denial and use spiritual bypassing to deny any trauma, abuse, and problems. They ignored the abuse in childhood and blame and shame the adult for the problems that resulted in the outcome. And if you have an feelings then you are angry, sinful, and need to forgive to move on.
It's enraging and utterly mind bending
Whoa this is soo needed! I feel seen! I Grew with a strict Muslim family in a strict Muslim community. I felt ostracized when I wanted to normal teenage things like going to the movies with friends or a college party. After being in therapy it truly helped me realize my own personal relationship with God is what matters MOST. not the opinions of anyone else including family.
I relate to this so much. I grew up in a strict Christian family and we weren’t allowed to go to movies, attend sporting events, have tvs, go to amusement parks. Have sleepovers, cut our hair l, wear jewelry, wear make up, or paint our nails. I also was only allowed to wear skirts.
@@pearlykatte4747 So you went to a random person with a diploma from liberal western college for spiritual guidance and you found God? 😂
This content is highly needed. My mother - a bipolar disorder patient with schizophrenic affect - has chased folks, myself, my father, other family members for over 40 years. Everyone should listen to her because God whispers in her ear. Once I became an older adult I realized it was mental illness. It was damaging growing up with her as a parent, and spiraled me into one marriage to escape, and later another marriage to return to that type of control, because I felt I wasn’t behaving good enough without the religious trauma. That all has changed, but it still is a trauma I deal with daily.
My ex 's Mom was a religious narc. Helped him lie to court on me while smiling in my face. Hes as treacherous as his mom. They deserve each other, 51 and still home with her. I'm free!!
I'm sorry. This is sad. Sometimes it happens like that. But thankfully you are free from that kind of bondage.
Sounds like he was her emotional husband. I had a similar dynamic with my mom in the earlier days. But fortunately for me, she wasnt as bad as this lady. I'm 10 years free from religion!
The irony of overly religipus Christians is that by trying to push their views and standards of behaviors on others (rather than focusing on their persobal ovedience to God and loving others, rather than trying to CHANGE others) they are behaving like the Pharasees that Jesus spoke out against and came to free people from.
I was raised up in a mainstream popular religion .It taught a burning Hell and the earth was going to be distorted by fire.It scared me to death as a child and young person.I started researching the subject of He'll and found out it was mankind's common grave.I no longer fear death and Hell.
That's wonderful! I agree with what you have found out.
And children should never be afraid of religion. They should thrive in it if the parent so pleases. And...there should be an age at which the child learns of the things that may scare them.
I too was raised with such brainwashing and developed complex ptsd by 6 as result.
My father told me that we were going to murdered for our faith, citing matthiew 24:24. I lived in constant anticipation of it. Sounds ridiculous as an adult, but as a young child it was very terrifying and real.
Then there’s the minor crap of being taught I’m going to hell for going to the movies, wearing nail polish and temporary tattoos. Being told my mother is the spawn of Satan and having exorcisms performed on me 🙄
@@TherapistTamaraHill this is such a rarely acknowledged yet extremely damaging type of abuse. Thank you for touching on it!
This is sooooooooooooooooo needed. Thank you love. You truly discuss the hot topics.
You're welcome! Very glad to hear this touchy topic was helpful.
Hit the nail on the head again...it's like you know my family 💯 I have serious trauma from family using relgiosity to enable or brush past abuse
Thank you! I'm glad this was helpful to you!! A lot of families use religion to cover themselves and their pain. That's not a good cover.
I stopped going to church because I felt I was doing it for my parent and siblings to get that "label".....but the gaslighting and confusion was unbearable for me. Nowadays i just read the bible on my own. I wanna build an exclusive relationship with God
I LOVE this comment!! Yes, I can relate for sure. It's wonderful when you want to know about this on your own and not feel forced to "conform" to a specific culture that creates pressure. Good for you!
go for worship and forgett aboutt negative people. as you near the end- get older or ill you may have regrets ffor not going to church for the wrong reasons and get saved iff not
Thank you for making this video my entire family is in a religion that dissociates when you leave. Very stressful, but im very unhappy and determined it's not for me. I feel very guilty for not loving this religion like my family I feel trapped and condemned. It's going to be struggle through this process.
Thank you! And you're welcome.
I'm so sorry. That is NOT the way you should feel. I don't believe any religion would want you to feel this way, especially the Christian faith. The way we can feel is often a reflection of a poor church or family who doesn't know how to deliver what some individuals need on their journey.
@@TherapistTamaraHill i agree completely
Hi, May I ask what you mean when you say they dissociate when you leave? Do you mean they stop associating with you? I’m sorry for asking. I really don’t understand.
@@user-bd4bo4tb8u yes that is it..they drop association with you if you leave
I've got well over 500 pages of research in cultic studies.
Keep it coming. This is GOLD!
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Thank you! Please remember to do more on this topic. Many of us need it. ❤ My musings are around religious narcissism, manipulation or gaslighting that pressure members to be "committed" to traditions and activities that thrown things out of balance in other areas of their life as a believer. ...words used to hold people hostage by saying their blessing is dependent on if they give their time to responsibilities that may be more than they can honestly manage.
I like that you mentioned the earrings. This past year I officially left the denomination that I was raised in, my husband and I both did. Earrings were a big no no. It was a monument for me to go get my ears pierced a few months after, I was shaking the whole time expecting to be well on my way to help that us how deep the brainwashing goes. At 32 I got my ears pierced ,an adult choice and expected to go to hell. Right after I came down with Covid , and it was particularly bad case of it. My brain took me straight to "this must be my punishment". But now I'm fully recovered, enjoying pretty earrings and working through some more challenging thought patterns. I enjoyed your video very much and would love a second part!
Thank you! I'm glad this was helpful. Some of the religious ideologies do more harm than good and push people away. It's healthy that you branched out. And...I enjoy pretty earrings too!
Yes yes and YES! More of this please. This is my area of concentration. Keep it coming.
More to come!🤗👌
Thank you for discussing this complicated topic ❤️
At the same time speaking your truth is nessary.. I was traumatized losing identity In experiencing leadership abuse so I discovered that I been some self sabotaging and I have understood why I settle or why I attracted due to my woundedness .
This is a very deep I look at the world through a Biblical lens. I appreciate you talking about this.
I'm glad you are doing "good compasionate" version of christianity. My problem is, I feel like no matter how good a therapists version of it is, there's always going to be a conflict of interest on some level with a case like mine. I need to have trust that the therapy I'm investing in will NEVER hit a line of contention along those lines. So I personally need a secular therapist for my religious trauma.
Thank you! We need a "good compassionate" version of Christianity. We don't have that often.
And your view of this makes sense. Sometimes you can go secular therapist to work things out and then return to a religious view of things once you re-organize your understanding. Just one way to look at things.
@@TherapistTamaraHill this is kinda what I mean. The framing still comes back to opening a person back up to religion when they're not even asking for that.
@@joshknightfall I am a therapist and a Christian , and have all types of clients ( Atheist , transgender, and etc.) Some of my clients know, many don’t. I never bring it unless asked or my client brings up the topic for themselves.
I am not perfect, but my clients consistently say that they feel respected , cared about , and accepted by me.
I ultimately aim to be with people as they journey through THEIR life. I get why you feel the way you feel , I feel the same when ppl force the their beliefs on me. It is okay to do what you need for you.
I experienced Fundamentalist Bible Cults for years. I can tell you real life senarios that would peel the paint of the walls. Needless to say, none for me thanks. I now have a higher power today and that feel totally comfortable to my spirit and soul.
Awesome stuff ma'am ✊💯💯💯💯💯
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You did very well in talking about this subject
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First of all people think that God itself wrote the Bible.
Thank you for approaching this topic with respect and not defaulting to church assumptions of people that leave due to above mention trauma.
Thank you I needed this. My mother is completely trapped and lost her identity.
Honestly this is teaching myself exactly what I need to hear. I really enjoy learning new topics so I can be educated on more and more.
Thank you so much for your informative and numerous videos 💓💓!!!!! I think it sounds really strange that they made your mother remove her little bit of makeup off at the church!!! Too strict. 🥴 Thanks again. 👍👍💯
This subject is very triggering for me we were raised in a Christian religion Jehovah's Witnesses and my father and mother decided to home-school us kids and a lot of our school books was religious textbooks from the Jehovah's Witness organization which discourage College also discouraged extra curricular activities this did a big disservice to us because to work in today's world they're not going to be asking you what Bible scriptures say and mean so that did some damage to my social skills which I tried to redirect when I went into Job Corps also as a second grader I can remember my parents being so twisted up in that religion that I went to school one day without having no dinner the night before and my teachers made up Halloween bags for all the kids and put it in our cubby holes being a kid, kids love candy I took the Halloween candy my mother found it reported it to my father he was so upset at me that he took me for a drive at 12 at night and said since you want to worship the dad get out and be with them punched me in my face then pushed me out the vehicle now remember I was in the second grade the trauma that has left on me on top of so many other things then to grow up and be shunned and banished from the congregation because I picked up smoking to deal with my anxiety three years ago was my limit where I decided to leave it all behind and focus on what I knew of the Bible and my personal studies and not to claim any form of religion whatsoever because if you think of religion it is a imperfect man's definition or ideology of what the Bible supposedly teachers!
I was raised as witness both parents in the truth but both were the most abusive people ever. But I was always told because I didn't want to do what was right i recieved such treatment. Fast forward I carried that guilt until I was 35 and decided to get baptized. But at this time I was able to look at this from an adult lense and see how my parents abuse of me and each other was enabled by the term endurance. I got soo depressed after coming in because I still felt guilty about not loving this religion. Well I decided I can't do it any more.
Both my mother and my grandmother were religious nuts and I think because they had suffered through so much trauma so many variations of trauma throughout their entire lives religion was just something for them that they have that no one could take away from them. Growing up my mother and my grandmother treated their faith Like a weapon against me it was like their faith their Bible was their barrier and you could not get close to them. You could not get to know who they were as actual human beings. Everything was about punishment and hellfire and never being good enough for God's love or their love and I often joke with my therapist that if I'm going to thank them for anything it's because they kind of made me into the non-believer that I am. 😂 For My mother, there was this constant need growing up that she had to emotionally and psychologically and spiritually punish herself and me and at the same time demand that I give my obedience and my love to her God.
Keep sharing this necessary truth.
❤Thank you!
I was the youngest of 3 my sister went to public school, my dad put me in a religious school i was totally lost later I realized they didn't want me there I was put at the back of the room and was told racial things with punishment ear pulling and back of hand knuckle wacks. When I was expelled for failing I was beaten life was hard along with depression.
Thank you 🙏 🙏🙏🙏
You're !welcome
Well said and desperately needed to be high lighted so I have experience the brain washing in tradition so being careful what you are saying is VIP respectful.
Thank you so much for posting this. I am in therapy now because of religious. Basically the leader said that in xiety is not of God and I was demonized and for that I had to repent status of PG version has Treasures absolutely horrible thank you for posting this video
You're welcome!! I'm glad this was helpful.
I'm sorry this happened to you. It sounds more like a cult than a faith or religion that is healthy.
ABSOLUTELY! My mother and her Church of God In Christ flying monkeys mercilessly subjected me to triangulation and their intriguing mess (a third cousin on maternal grandmother's side of the family was her exploitatively trifling pastor. After my mother died, my agnostic sister embraced those dissembling cultist heathens who ran her into the ground. I've had nothing to do with them beyond sending them a copy of the resolution adopted by our county board of commissioners celebrating my mother's highly eventful life, since my sister couldn't trouble herself to get an obituary in the newspapers on my mother.
It sounds like a lot of manipulation occurred here. I'm sorry to hear this. Hypocritical individuals within the church with the wrong spirit and the wrong focus can truly traumatize those individuals who never see this wickedness and evil coming -- especially from this realm.
@@TherapistTamaraHill A lot of manipulation translates into my mother's churchy side of the family, including my late bossy first cousin who was a United Methodist minister and evolved into one of my mother's flying monkey golden children. As for my evangelical jackleg preacher first cousin on my father's side of the family who saw a need to humiliate me very publicly from childhood on, I wonder when he got Jesus. Because it didn't take now did it ...
Thank you so much for this content, @TherapistTameraHill is there a way to email you? I too am an MSW
My neighbor and babysitter was a very religious Catholic from down South, my mom is Orthodox Christian and my dad is Jewish she told me every day that people like myself being interfaith I'd go to hell, and that my dad would go to hell and that my mother would go to hell. She made me feel awful and that fear persists today and now as an adult I'm trying to have my own relationship with God and thoughts with religion. My mom and dad didn't know my neighbor did this when I was a kid I told them now as an adult my mom was so angry she didn't know this woman was hitting me or making me feel bad, about my relationship with God my parents taught me God is all loving and all knowing but this neighbor had such a grip on me
Oh my. I'm so sorry you experienced this. I truly don't believe God would be satisfied with her behaviors. She has the title of a religious woman but her heart was far from God as the scripture in 2 Timothy 3:5 says. "They will act religious, but they will reject the power that could make them godly. Stay away from people like that!"
I wonder where she is today. It's heartbreaking that evil can seep into the very area of life that should be compassionate, loving, accepting, educational, and all embracing. She sounds like she traumatized you and caused damage.
I do hope you are able to put your mind and heart at ease despite what she did.
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@@TherapistTamaraHill Thank you so much will email you she died long ago, but yes she played the part of a religious person but wasn't far from it, how she treated people.
Ex Jehovah's Witness. This is spot on!
Same here I am just now having the confidence to do what I should have done when I left at 15. I did exactly what she said went the total opposite and had no proper adult support and guidance. I was like an animal left to defend for myself and I horribly taught myself. This lady hits it so perfectly
Option for our religious liberty, is very similar to what our option for our liberty of life is also like. Both religious liberty, or the liberty of life itself too, wont necessarily happen for any of us, consistently, unless there'd at first be able to be certain regulation and "checks and balances", set in place too, to help to even out liberties to where less harm would happen (generally). Which is why we have road code. Or regulation of human rights. A lot of the faith abuses are what's to be expected of situation that demand to remain free to take faith to whatever extent the people decide to. As this is the recipe for disastrous situation where by religion can turn into a tool of harm and misery . Perhaps some cult can serve to become like breeding ground for cluster B personality disorders . Children are often vulnerable and unable to resist, until later on in life by which time they'd possibly already be also up against personality disorders they'd acquired earlier on in their youth, (as a survival mechanism). Without the checks and balances, then there's still room for abuse of the liberties . Which in turn can leave in the wake of this the problem of intergenerational trauma , associated personality disorders associated to whole family dynamic dysfunction . This is situation i have experienced. So i relate to things described .
I grew up in a narc Catholic family 😵💫 boy oh boy did they twist the Bible to there agenda i come from a Mexican household too where we are supposed to view our elders as saints & that they can hear the “voice of God” they know what he says /think 🙄 my mother would constantly tell me “God told me to tell you this” so I would follow what she would say out of fear / manipulation or I always got thrown that I would burn in hell I’m now 26 years old & escaped the grips of my narcissistic family & my eyes woke up more about the Catholicism of how much life experiences I missed because of this religion & my family I was angry very angry once I came out that I was sexually abused by a sibling I was thrown that God hates me & im a demon & im going to go to hell for “falsely accusing”. 🙄 I’m glad I left & now I feel like I want to leave the church of how much the the church sided with abuse & cherry pick the Bible for there own agenda thank you sweet soul for this video it helped me a lot to understand my thoughts & I feel seen & heard I always get told by other Catholics to forgive my family because Christ says so & that’s my fault that I put my faith into people & not God . Don’t get me started on how I started therapy that I need to pray to God more 😵💫🙄 . To pray away bad thoughts
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There's a difference between a healthy whole leadership verses a unhealthy toxic leadership.
Try saying "don't do me wrong" instead of "leave me alone."
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