A lot of people say a pro of online dating is that the people on apps are available, while in real life you may not know if the person you like doesn't want a relationship or is already in one. But like 3/4 of people on online dating are also unavailable if you want a serious relationship because they only want hookups or validation. Then when you finally match with someone who's looking for the same thing as you, there's no mutual attraction 😭.
That does sound challenging. I'm planning on doing a deeper dive into the users of online dating sites but from what I've gathered so far you're pretty much right about that. Certain dating sites like Tinder tend to attract more people looking for casual hookups or are just there for validation, attention or boredom.
I don't do dating apps, and I will only ask a girl out if I feel comfortable around them, I'm really protective, I've never had a gf and dating today sounds like hell. On top of that girls today just sound harder to trust
I agree with you, except I consider both genders hard to trust. But I'm more likely to trust someone if they're a friend I know irl from school or something than if they're a random person on a dating app.
I think it's a mix of my audience growing up over time and no longer watching my videos or people feeling like they got the general idea of what I'm trying to say and feeling like the videos have gotten repetitive for them.
Thanks for the video Josh. I don't know if I said so already but happy new year, man! Keep up the content! Anyways yeah, I think if we actually gave people a chance, we would be pleasantly surprised
That's totally fine, I don't think online dating is essential for every person, just that a lot more people are resorting to online dating as a way to meet people. You can still be successful meeting in person given other research that shows that most people find longer term partners in person through mutual connections.
Hey Josh this is probably why I haven't gotten a girlfriend yet I'm just hoping things change for the better for me I don't know if it's me being a short guy or I'm just doing something wrong I don't see why The girls I talk to don't date me
Mate u have no idea how difficult it is approaching a girl when u are fairly decent looking but u are 5'5 lol. I never had issues with going out with girls until i finished high school because back where I am from height never really mattered. Fast-forward a few years later and u go to Western countries and girls feel disrespected being approached by a guy who is under 5'10, hence we resort to online dating to filter out the girls who are ok dating a short guy.
I think that's a totally fine method to take if you're finding success with it. I was speaking more to the guys who are afraid to approach women, not the ones who do and struggle with being successful at it.
Arranged marriages still exist in more traditional cultures. What about arranged marriages do you think makes sense to keep in a more westernized country like the US? Would you prefer people don't actively choose who they want to date in favor of their parents and family deciding for them?
@@TheJoshSpeaks Absolutely. Arranged marriages have low rates of divorce and are sustainable. Conversely the Liberation of Women worldwide has consistently led to higher rates of divorce, abortion, broken families and STDS. Maybe that whole liberation stuff of the 60s wasn't such a good idea...
@@komicsreviewer8505 Hang on a second, you set up a bit of a red herring there with your answer. You presented a few issues such as divorce, abortion rates, broken families, and the rise of STDs and you somehow made it seem like the liberation of women in the '60s is the cause of all of those things. Divorce rates today are at their lowest in decades but it was the introduction of "no-fault" divorce that led to a major skyrocket in the divorce rate. Granted that divorces are lower statistically when marriages are arranged, you would need to make a case here as to why "no-fault" divorce, being part of the liberation movement is actually a bad thing. You simply implied that it was but didn't elaborate. Abortion rates seemed to have peaked in the 90s and have been on a decline ever since. What we tend to send across the data is that with more access to contraceptives, sex education, and more autonomy over one's body people make more informed choices that will affect their livelihood and wellbeing. I'm not sure what this point has to do with arranged marriages though. To the point about broken families, there are lots of causes as to why this is but given your implication that the liberation movement is the cause, you would need to really elaborate on that further. Systems like mass incarceration, the drug crisis, the globalization of industries, and more have put massive stress on families and have been large factors in leading to divorces and broken families altogether. I'm not sure how women have access to more opportunities in the workforce or the ability to leave unfulfilling marriages is necessarily a bad thing. Given that arranged marriages have higher rates of domestic abuse, sexual abuse, higher potential for marriages of adults with minors, and more I'm not really sold on why that is a better system. What tends to be the successful component of arranged marriages is the strong family element and inclusion which can be replicated and promoted more within our Western society. But your vague notion that women's liberation is the root cause of all of these issues seems weak to me and reeks of agenda-based leading.
1:01 muh lack of confidence. I think guys nowadays subconsciously know how vvomen appraisal/perceive them, and you have to go through a serious amount of cognitive dissonance to make yourself believe random vvomen you approach value you. See vvheat vvaffIes Iatest on how this sub5 indian dude gets treated by “being confident & going after what he wants”
Do you feel like value is bestowed upon you by the women you approach or is it something we develop inside ourselves and by the people we love and care about within our lives?
@@Mew2Win approaching someone does display a level of confidence, but how they respond shouldn't be the determining factor in whehlther you're confident enough to approach them, although I can understand how that can be hard if you've faced multiple rejections in the past.
@@TheJoshSpeaks you can’t even “display confidence” when vvomen are so repulsed by your Iooks, they run away & tell you to get away from them the moment you try approaching them (before opening your mouth). Just Iook at what I toId you to
A lot of people say a pro of online dating is that the people on apps are available, while in real life you may not know if the person you like doesn't want a relationship or is already in one. But like 3/4 of people on online dating are also unavailable if you want a serious relationship because they only want hookups or validation. Then when you finally match with someone who's looking for the same thing as you, there's no mutual attraction 😭.
That does sound challenging. I'm planning on doing a deeper dive into the users of online dating sites but from what I've gathered so far you're pretty much right about that. Certain dating sites like Tinder tend to attract more people looking for casual hookups or are just there for validation, attention or boredom.
I don't do dating apps, and I will only ask a girl out if I feel comfortable around them, I'm really protective, I've never had a gf and dating today sounds like hell. On top of that girls today just sound harder to trust
I agree with you, except I consider both genders hard to trust. But I'm more likely to trust someone if they're a friend I know irl from school or something than if they're a random person on a dating app.
Dang bro where did your views go? That is some solid advice.
I think it's a mix of my audience growing up over time and no longer watching my videos or people feeling like they got the general idea of what I'm trying to say and feeling like the videos have gotten repetitive for them.
My manager at my old job started dating on tinder a few years ago, now they are married and have two kids
Thanks for the video Josh. I don't know if I said so already but happy new year, man! Keep up the content! Anyways yeah, I think if we actually gave people a chance, we would be pleasantly surprised
To be honest Josh I don't use online dating I just go out there and meet people
That's totally fine, I don't think online dating is essential for every person, just that a lot more people are resorting to online dating as a way to meet people.
You can still be successful meeting in person given other research that shows that most people find longer term partners in person through mutual connections.
Hey bro which topics that are cool and funny to text your crush
Very interesting Josh video it definitely caught my attention
Hey Josh this is probably why I haven't gotten a girlfriend yet I'm just hoping things change for the better for me I don't know if it's me being a short guy or I'm just doing something wrong I don't see why The girls I talk to don't date me
When was the last time you asked a girl out directly? I know you mentioned girls you were interested in but have you asked any of them out before?
@@TheJoshSpeaks only one and it didn't go well another one I use to be interested in I plan to hang out with her but I never got into it
Mate u have no idea how difficult it is approaching a girl when u are fairly decent looking but u are 5'5 lol. I never had issues with going out with girls until i finished high school because back where I am from height never really mattered. Fast-forward a few years later and u go to Western countries and girls feel disrespected being approached by a guy who is under 5'10, hence we resort to online dating to filter out the girls who are ok dating a short guy.
I think that's a totally fine method to take if you're finding success with it. I was speaking more to the guys who are afraid to approach women, not the ones who do and struggle with being successful at it.
Can we just bring back arranged marriages already?
Arranged marriages still exist in more traditional cultures. What about arranged marriages do you think makes sense to keep in a more westernized country like the US?
Would you prefer people don't actively choose who they want to date in favor of their parents and family deciding for them?
@@TheJoshSpeaks Absolutely. Arranged marriages have low rates of divorce and are sustainable. Conversely the Liberation of Women worldwide has consistently led to higher rates of divorce, abortion, broken families and STDS. Maybe that whole liberation stuff of the 60s wasn't such a good idea...
@@TheJoshSpeaks Please respond.
@@komicsreviewer8505 Hang on a second, you set up a bit of a red herring there with your answer.
You presented a few issues such as divorce, abortion rates, broken families, and the rise of STDs and you somehow made it seem like the liberation of women in the '60s is the cause of all of those things.
Divorce rates today are at their lowest in decades but it was the introduction of "no-fault" divorce that led to a major skyrocket in the divorce rate. Granted that divorces are lower statistically when marriages are arranged, you would need to make a case here as to why "no-fault" divorce, being part of the liberation movement is actually a bad thing. You simply implied that it was but didn't elaborate.
Abortion rates seemed to have peaked in the 90s and have been on a decline ever since. What we tend to send across the data is that with more access to contraceptives, sex education, and more autonomy over one's body people make more informed choices that will affect their livelihood and wellbeing. I'm not sure what this point has to do with arranged marriages though.
To the point about broken families, there are lots of causes as to why this is but given your implication that the liberation movement is the cause, you would need to really elaborate on that further. Systems like mass incarceration, the drug crisis, the globalization of industries, and more have put massive stress on families and have been large factors in leading to divorces and broken families altogether. I'm not sure how women have access to more opportunities in the workforce or the ability to leave unfulfilling marriages is necessarily a bad thing.
Given that arranged marriages have higher rates of domestic abuse, sexual abuse, higher potential for marriages of adults with minors, and more I'm not really sold on why that is a better system. What tends to be the successful component of arranged marriages is the strong family element and inclusion which can be replicated and promoted more within our Western society.
But your vague notion that women's liberation is the root cause of all of these issues seems weak to me and reeks of agenda-based leading.
@@TheJoshSpeaks My logic is impeccable. You're just as bad as those *objective* facecheckers over at Snopes. L O L
You ignored me😡😡😡😡😡
1:01 muh lack of confidence.
I think guys nowadays subconsciously know how vvomen appraisal/perceive them, and you have to go through a serious amount of cognitive dissonance to make yourself believe random vvomen you approach value you.
See vvheat vvaffIes Iatest on how this sub5 indian dude gets treated by “being confident & going after what he wants”
Do you feel like value is bestowed upon you by the women you approach or is it something we develop inside ourselves and by the people we love and care about within our lives?
@@TheJoshSpeaksso doing an approach itself isn’t showing any levels of confidence? Let alone hundreds. Never heard of zizous?
@@Mew2Win approaching someone does display a level of confidence, but how they respond shouldn't be the determining factor in whehlther you're confident enough to approach them, although I can understand how that can be hard if you've faced multiple rejections in the past.
@@TheJoshSpeaks you can’t even “display confidence” when vvomen are so repulsed by your Iooks, they run away & tell you to get away from them the moment you try approaching them (before opening your mouth).
Just Iook at what I toId you to