@@joshuatimothy2966 That’s a really good question, I think it’s a defence mechanism like hurt people hurt people. Which is unfortunate cause we could really help each other if we were more open and more understanding but it is hard to be open about certain things I applaud these strangers for not only telling their stories but mine as well and I think lots of people can relate
I miss being naive. I miss the person I was before people showed me that not everyone on this earth is good. I miss thinking that everyone had my best interest in mind because I had theirs.
maritza if people are scamming and sneaky and not good that is a reflection of themselves . sometimes god exposes people to you so you can leave a toxic person or place that will destroy you. that fact that you it bothers you that people are not who they present themselves to you says that your on the right track and path.
She made me cry happy tears because she’s so right. We show our teeth out of habit and kindness but to really feel yourself smiling and filled with joy is an experience.
I miss being carefree, as you get older and take on more responsibilities you get wrapped up in schedules and a routine that you become less spontaneous. I miss that, the simple times.
I agree 👍💯I used to take a different route home every day just because. I also I used to pick a different subway stop to get off at and spend the day in that neighborhood checking ✔new restaurants, cafes, parks, live music and the vibe etc.
Is it just me or do you guys also see how beautiful everyone is? I love the fact that because of the lenses you can see the micro changes on everybody's faces while they speak. It's just mesmerizing how everyone speaks in an unique and beautiful way.
I feel that, too, and I’ve thought about it. I think it’s because strangers can be more real under these circumstances than they can with people who know them and have expectations about and from them. They don’t have to hide in their “roles.” What a wonderful outlet!
I was thinking the same thing! I know this may sound weird, but I love all the imperfections! We're so used to instagram filters showing the best angle and shift/paste style of faces. There's just something about the idk our natural imperfect beauty-- whether it's the gap in our teeth, the acene on our skin, or dimples on our cheeks.
@@howardyoo4070 I think the same. There wasn’t as much cruelty among the youth I don’t think (possibly because there was no social media) but they had more in the family I feel like. Now don’t get me wrong, many people still face harshness in their family. Expectations, discipline, overall childhood trauma and dysfunctional family dynamics, but I feel like it was much more prominent back then. That’s why I feel like this generation is breaking free from the chains of societal expectation and rules, while simultaneously creating a more aggressive one. Depends which portion of the generation you focus on
I guess I miss being self-confident and not worrying about what others think. I'm always wondering if I'm good enough and so I miss just going anywhere and being like: Hey, this is me, just as I am.
I changed that. I acctually was really insicure before, and with the time I learned to respect my self and be proud of the amazong person that I am now... So learning to accept yourself the way you are, and finding and loving your qualityies is the key ....idk....
Also me and Im a guy. Guy's are expected to be confident and a lot of their attractiveness comes from having confidence. Im probably one of the least confident dudes
I'm also working on that and it's so encouraging to see, that I'm not the only one who's struggling with that. I just try to keep in mind what Luna Lovegood once said: "Being different isn't a bad thing. It means you're brave enough to be yourself."
Missing our youth-like-confidence is one that I think most of us can definitely relate to in this media driven world that shoves insecurities down our throats on the daily.
Turn off and tune out social media, give yourself a break. Go outside lay on your back look up at the sky... even if it's dark look for star's. When the world is traveling so fast remember you are the driver of your bus and you can put it in park. EVEN if it's just for a little while it's worth it. When I was in my mid-20s I started buying myself 1 inexpensive flower I'd stop in the morning just long enough to enjoy it's smell and again just before bed. I still buy myself flowers at 55 and it still brings me joy. Find your joy, it doesn't have to be a big expensive thing.
@@nomvuyomashile3373 You are most definitely welcome ☺ Im happy it made since. We feel good from the inside out, Not the other way round. Most importantly take care of you. Live well my friend.
Yes! I miss how confident in myself I was when I was younger. There was no career or idea that was too big for me to accomplish. Now I get nervous thinking I’m not good enough for the job I even do now
The girl who said that she missed herself and who she was because she felt so influenced by other people and the person she was in a relationship with, I understand that and relate to it too.
Something I miss about my childhood is vibrancy. That sounds strange but when you become an adult colors are dull, seasons can become dull/not as much vibrancy or excitement. Knowledge/life experiences can take away that life vibrancy.
@@Lea-ov8vq yes! I do agree with you! Holidays are very dull to me because my dad passed a few days before Christmas 2 years ago. I’m trying to bring back that excitement especially since I’m pregnant with my first child. It’s hard but you are so so right!
@@samanthayoung6818 I'm so sorry for your loss ma'am. I hope you have the most magnificent, healing, peaceful and positive pregnancy ever. Sending lots of love to you and the little one💗✨
I miss the person I was before I allowed trauma to transform me into someone I don't recognize or like. I think I really needed this video, thank you Thoraya.
Setting boundaries is hard but it's worth practicing, because if it costs you your peace, it costs too much. Since then, things are looking so much brighter. Thank y'all for understanding my meaning.
When she said that she discovered she likes an early dinner, I understood her, I really did. Your life could be unraveled in a small discovery, it's never big, it's always the small stuff.
This is so true! A couple months ago I finally came to terms with the fact that I don't like grapes because I find the way they burst in my mouth to be surprising. Since I can remember, I always assumed I loved grapes as they are juicy, purple, bite-sized, tart morsels of tender fruit that need not be peeled, seeded, or sliced and can be enjoyed by the bunch for a reasonable price. Even though this realization seems a trivial one, it has brought me a lot of peace as I have realized that things that I "should" logically like because of their surface traits aren't necessarily the things that I do, in fact, like. Perhaps I am free to do-- or not do-- as I please even when common sense says that doing something else would make me happier. I can start to declutter my life and learn how to better take care of my human animal by believing my apparent preferences without substituting them with seemingly more sensible narratives.
@@viviansaravanan7531 since I watch this video I'm trying to find these things that makes me happy, I discovered a lot about me. I can see that you are in this journey too, finding your happiness, I'm happy that I found some of it. I hope that you found everything that makes you happy and more
When she said she was eating things she didnt really like I felt that. Ex likes certain food, and he eats the same thing all the time. Luckily we never lived together, but I just stopped cooking for him and cooked what I liked. He'd B*tch about it. He said "you should eat the same things all the time" I like trying new things.
I miss having friends, and being able to go out and just get to know people and make new friends. As we get older, slowly everyone has to deal with other stuff (job, movig to a new city/country, family) ... and suddenly you notice, there's no one left.
Same, I feel you. Im going to start trying new things that involve in a way meeting people and also, have more hobbies to keep my mind occupied and at peace. You should try :)
I miss how I felt when both of my children lived with me. There was so much energy in the home, especially when their friends would come over. I really miss that time in my life.
Me too. I am now alone as my husband died young. This is the worst time in my life. I will always need my Bob. I was gifted by having him , but then excruciatingly taken. I am only alive for my children to visit.
I miss that as well, the noise ,the laughter ,the music ,my children just having fun cooking together ,sitting down to a meal everyday ,my children laughter...
"i miss being innocent" "I miss being happy" "I miss being myself" "I miss me when I was don't care what people say" These are such a simple sad statement but a fact 😩😭😭
Yes baby, you can still be. Stop caring and start living. You deserve to be you. Your authentic self. Stop worrying about others and you will be okay 😘❤️
I miss being a child. When I was so carefree. When I wasn't so confused or anxious about the future. When opinions didn't affect me at all. When the world seemed like a really nice place. When I just wanted to have fun. I miss it a lot.
The more i watch these videos the more I realize that I'm not alone in this harsh world. Everyone is fighting something and we are all missing something in our lives.
Because I worked with people in a professional context, I had to teach them the boundries of who you can express those feelings for and when. Honestly, I fell in love with each of them completely each and everyday. I tried to teach each of them that all love is an act of patience, kindness, and service. I hope that now those kids are both middle-aged and young adults who can show their families and caregiverers appreciation and self-help and pride. The love they acknowledged in me was such an unexpected gift that I feel warm when I think of them. They seemed to recognize that I was sincere. Love lasts forever in my heart and mind. I hope they can still feel the love I pray They have.
when people started talking about missing their confidence, thats exactly when i started tearing up because i miss my confidence too and i feel like i lost it over the years of hardships.
I miss my confidence too. Although it came back a bit with the job I have now. I am still depressed and feel like a looser with a b.s. job and no degree.
Keep a clear conscience and believe in your heart more than anything else. Add a faith cherry on top and you are now magical. God be with you fellow beautiful hearts.
I realized that I don’t miss anything about myself. I had a hard a hard trauma filled life from an early age I dealt with depression and anxiety. I’m 23, going on 24 getting to know my self everyday and growing every single day!
@ Kayla M. same.. at first glance at the title, I thought to myself that I don't miss anything! How could I?! It was horrible! I learned many, many (maybe too many) hard lessons at too young an age and throughout my young life (and beyond).. then I cried like a child fighting her tiredness.. Keep growing better, girl! 💚💙❤🙏
Was looking for this kind of answer. I feel the same way.. i don't miss the stress, looking over my shoulder (emotionally), the inability to build meaningful relationships.. It's not at a level that a "normal" person is but everyday i am starting to like myself more and everyday that I'm not expecting the day to go wrong, is a win! Good on you, Kayla. Keep up the goed work and greetings from Holland!!
I miss being happy. I miss being innocent. I miss not caring about the standards of society. I miss being myself. I miss my confidence. I miss feeling okay. Being motivated to do things that other people want me to do. Pride in things I do. Excitement in getting up in the morning for something. Not feeling guilty.
What I miss most about myself is my eyesight. Before I started losing my sight, I had my own place, an amazing job, and freedom. Within a span of a few weeks I went from 20/20 vision to being legally blind and not even able to walk down a sidewalk by myself. I had to leave a job that I wanted to make a career of and retire from, that first week as I had no clue what was going on. By the second week i knew that it was unsafe for me to drive. The third week is when it got to the point where it was hard to walk up and down the stairs to my apartment without tripping and falling. I did everything I could to keep my apartment, but had to give up after two years and move into my parents' house. I had everything that I ever wanted, and lost it all due to an eye disease that can not be corrected. I was a very happy person before this, and it has changed me to the point that I don't recognize myself. It has changed relationships and my viewpoint on the world and life in general. I have become bitter, resentful, and angry as I was always the good guy that did everything for everyone and this happened to me. Whereas people I know screw everyone over, get everything they want, and nothing happens. I mostly miss who I was back then, not necessarily my eyesight. I was 27 when my life changed, back in 2016
I’m sorry to hear that; you’re stronger than most. You might take some comfort if you have not yet read the book of Job. Incredible story about suffering and injustice. Praying for you bro
Despite your hardships, you are still that man. You just have to find him again. He’s not gone, just hibernating 😊 You will be happy again one day but it will take time and determination… This is a random question, but did you notice a decline in your health after receiving a covid shot (if you have had it?)… My friends mom is going through something similar and it all happened a couple months after getting her shot. She went from vibrant and healthy to struggling and extreme vision loss. I believe these shots cause demyelination in some people among other things. It could be something to look into.
I miss me before kids. I was carefree, brave and fearless. Now I’m riddled with anxiety and fear of how the world will treat my children. How the world will hurt them.
brandy you love them don't worry about the world just b e the amazing mother you probably are and they will grow up to be amazing people like their mother . you have the first say in your children's life fill their heart and head with great messages about themselves and just pray for them always and the rest is in gods hands. you do your part and let god to his which is to protect them. may your children grow up to be everything you have ever hoped and make you a proud mama amen
That’s something every parent goes through. Secret is that yes, they will be hurt, inevitably, but they’ll be okay anyways. Being hurt and let down is a part of life and we wouldn’t be as good people without it. There are much worse things than being hurt in the world. Only thing you should really be worrying about is how to raise your kids so that they’ll face whatever it is they go through the best way possible.
Rupi Kaur's poem "friendship nostalgia" sums up pretty much what I miss, so I'm just gonna share it with you here. She is a fantastic author, you should read more of her! Really inspiring i miss the days my friends knew every mundane detail about my life and i knew every ordinary detail about theirs that us the walks around the block The long conversations when we were too lost in the moment to care what time it was when we won and celebrated when we failed and celebrated harder when we were just kids now we have our very important jobs that fill up our very busy schedules we compare calendars just to plan coffee dates that one of us eventually cancels cause adulthood is being too exhausted to leave our apartments most days i missing knowing i once belonged to a group of people bigger than myself that belonging made life easier to live friendship nostalgia - rupi kaur
I'm always amazed at how honest so many people are in answering your questions. It makes me wonder if they aren't used to people asking their thoughts or listening as you do!
Man, everyone always has these deep and emotional answers. I just miss being able to run up a flight of stairs without being sweaty and out of breath. 😆
I miss how energetic, adventurous, and happy I was. I used to walk an hour to the library and would be on the internet ( search, watch anime and wrestling, and editing photos) for hours. Then walk home and still had energy to dance. I used to wake up early and take the bus everywhere, just exploring the world around me. Now I just go to work and home and be so exhausted from work and life. I used to be happy, even though i didn't have any friends, I enjoyed being my own friend and having fun by myself
sakoya why don't you take the bus on your day off and go somewhere fun like you used to bring that part of yourself back even if it is for a day or couple of hours. the person is still you she is just waiting for you to bring her out. i say you do it.
Geez I wish I was that happy and energetic at some point in life haha but I like hearing this it was interesting and in a way motivates me as I later learned in life happiness is a choice, and not the result of something. We have to make a choice and choose to find happiness. I also realize I’m more happy when I stopped looking for things to be fulfilling with a hope that they would and then often it wasn’t fulfilled so it ended up making me disappointed but in the process I found out it’s usually the simplicity in little joys that are more fulfilling
I miss how positive and outgoing I used to be. Now I'm quite, serious,self conscious and feel that I'm not good at anything. But I'm greatful to be alive and witness this beautiful moment with everyone else.
I miss being able to breathe. I remember being able to have those nice, deep breaths that just make you feel so free. Whenever I'm aware of my breathing I notice that my heart feels heavy, and there's just so much pressure there now. So being able to breathe again would be nice, literally and metaphorically.
Hey, I feel with you so much!! I had this for YEARS, and didn't even realize it... just was feeling depressed, empty, breathing shallow and kind of "holding my breath", waiting for something to happen,...Not daring to let go of worries, let go of the pain and the pressure. At one point I literally started to have unbearable aching pain under my collarbones, you know, round the tip of the lungs.That's when i actually realized that this is what I deperately WANT to and NEED to get back, being able to BREATHE again. And somehow, after a long time of suffering, things started to change. I started to change. Being able to take the first really deep breath again was like surrender and like being born again. This happened only recently. (Btw I'm a fortysomething woman) I still have to pay conscious attention to taking deep breaths, but it comes more easily now. So what I'm trying to tell you is, you should know that you CAN get it back, and you WILL get it back, you are strong enough to process and deal with all the pressure and the pain, things will change eventually! So just keep working on yourself and you'll get there!
Try heart coherence breathing exercice, also The Wim Hof Method breathing exercice, try the channel Take A Deep Breath, also the channel DMT Breathing. From my heart to yours, i hope your breathing gets better ❤️
Hey i think it would be good for you to look into TRE (trauma & tension release exercises) if nothing has helped for you. I used to have the same thing but this actually helped loosen those tightened muscles in my chest from going through a lot of stress and now it's a lot easier to breathe
I can relate to this so much. I’m 22 years old and I feel like I’m deteriorating so quickly. There’s something wrong with my nose and lungs and it feels like I’m getting half the air I’m supposed to be. It feels like my nasal passages are shrinking or just insanely swollen or something, and even when I try and take a deep breath, it feels like the air doesn’t get to my lungs. Breathing isn’t liberating anymore. It feels like a task that I have to force so hard to do and when I think about it I think about how unfulfilling it is. I can barely smell anything anymore either. I’ll stretch my face and nose to open up my airways and that’s the only time I feel like I am getting enough air. It sounds insane that I’m paying this must attention to my nose and lungs but breathing is something that is so essential to being in the present moment and when I’m outside and trying to focus on the nature around me I feel like I can’t be there with it because it feels like I’m suffocating. I’ve spoken with my doctor about it and they’re not sure what it is so I am seeing an ENT specialist but they said nothing is wrong besides some minor swelling and mucus buildup. Hopefully they listen to me and are able to help me more. Good luck to you and the issue you’re struggling with. I hope one day you are able to breathe the way you used to and find liberation and peace through breathing again❤️
It might be selfish of me, but this is the exact reason I don't want to be in a relationship. I like to do what I want when I feel like doing it, without having to worry about the needs and wants of another person.
I miss how I was before the pandemic. All my life I was introverted and never spoke and kept to myself. All through high school I slowly came out of my shell and started speaking up more and meeting new people and people realizing that I wasn't just "the school weirdo". I was really looking forward to senior year, I got my grades together and finally on track to graduate and be even more social. The pandemic happened and I got shoved back into my shell and didn't get a senior year and all I gained was anxiety and paranoia. I was so much happier back then and it truly makes me sad that I was becoming a different person and was truly happy but now I'm not and I haven't felt that way in years now.
Can definitely relate! Sounds like really awful timing too... But we can still make it! Don't be afraid to take the steps again. I think it's worth it! And your description of how you felt when you started to change really makes it sound so worthwhile!
I feel similar... Due to Covid I moved back to my hometown and lost contact with my friends at university... a few weeks ago I finally saw them again and they made me feel so loved and strong. It's like I forgot how to be myself in the last years and it all came back that day. I realized that I know exactly what I want in my life, I just lost the courage to ask for it. But I deserve to be happy. So I will stand up for myself now and live that beautiful life of mine! Hope you are doing okay and you find back to yourself just like I did. Someone out there misses you right now, I'm sure of it.
Listen God is good and I understand that sound’s elementary….BUT your happiness and love is part of Gods nature Those negative voices are the voices you need to ignore and need to recognize them as not being your own. Just reject those thoughts and go scream laugh cry and love❤
the way i can relate 1000% to you.. i was the introvert and finally gained so much confidence and enjoyment when expressing myself. i was also looking forward to senior year next year when the pandemic hit and i’ve been in my self-sabotaging shell ever since
Same, but as a kid I also didn't really think about or understand the worries or issues of my parents and those around me. I selfishly only really cared about myself as most children do. As an adult I am more empathetic and more sensitive to the issues of those around me.
I miss everything about me. When you meet someone, don't mold yourself to them. As great & amazing as they are, that's them. If you marry them, don't get lost in their story. Have kids? Don't make them everything your life is or is about. Once their grown & gone on their own adventures - you'll still have you with all these great memories to add to yours. If you don't you'll end up like me. Full of memories, but nothing underneath. Stay an individual. Find your balance. I'm hoping to find mine. And doing it during a pandemic sucks. I'll I've done is internalize it. Don't be like me.
This reminds me of the film Runaway Bride when she tries all the types of egg to find out what she really likes. Enjoy your journey finding you. Try all the eggs until you find yours!
Being an individual is not easy and requires patience as well as the experiences we go through as part of living. You have memories, Andrea, that is a good thing, you have experienced life. What will you do next?
Writing this through heavy tears. Honestly I don't remember much of the good times in my life. I don't know if you can miss something you've never had but I miss having self-confidence at a normal, healthy level. I miss the person that I love being himself, before some circumstances happened. Therefore I miss feeling respected by those who say they love me. I miss not comparing myself to any existing woman and automatically thinking that I'm less attractive and just unworthy. I miss not having so much guilt on my shoulders. I miss not hoping that the next day the world will end and I will not have to deal with everything. I miss not thinking about myself as a trash not worthy of living. I miss being free from everyone including my inner critic.
@@MariaHernandez-fk1on Thank you, Maria, I truly appreciate your comment especially since I feel that I have nobody in my life to tell me a good sincere word. Honestly. I hope you're at peace and you'll always be.
@@MariaHernandez-fk1on Though I cannot fully believe that (but I wish to be more positive), to be honest I just wait for my dog to pass away so I don't have any other responsibilities and can leave the world myself. Sounds stupid but this very, very, very problematic kid is the only reason I'm still alive and that's even more depressing.
Hang in there 🙏🏿 I've been there. Just take it day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute, or moment by moment. Just keep going. It's harder than many people think because you feel so deeply. Yet, it's because you feel so deeply and have suffered so much, you'll enjoy the reward a lot more 🙏🏿
I do not at all, actually, feel like I'll ever understand what it's like to miss my "depressed self" when I must try to deal every day, and have for 31 years, with chronic, clinical depression. I think very few people w actual, biochemical, almost lifelong, sometimes incapacitating depression would "miss" the options and joys and freedoms available to a non-depressed person. I think few people could miss being someone who doesn't need to struggle to get out of bed, brush their teeth, bathe, leave the house at all, or attempt to work only to repeatedly fail. I am not saying that it's not possible to miss depression; it must be, if so many people feel this way. But, I just think that surely liberation from the true mood disorder of severe depression---which completely narrows, dwarves, and dehumanizes one's existence---is something far more depressed people long to experience, than anyone who no longer suffers from it could really "miss" the deforming, destructive, life stunting, dream crushing disorder of chronic depression.
I miss how open and inviting I used to be, I've always been empathetic and saw the good in others. My trust was misplaced, I realised people had bad intentions and I let them take what made me beautiful. I'm learning that its ok to be vulnerable
It gets better, you’ve realized. That’s the hardest step. 😘 you just have to find the people who are worth receiving YOUR time. You are the prize. Always have been. Always will be.
@@danilotusflower being vulnerable isn’t a bad thing in most situations. As long as it’s not being used against you. Boundaries are not only necessary but are okay to give people. You seem like a beautiful soul. Other peoples issues are not yours. Community is needed, but not everyone needs to be in your community. You deserve people who actually see and hear you. Not who they want you to be, not who you are not. Just you. There is nothing wrong with you. Your community will help you through your battles not make them worse. Self awareness also helps you realize not everyone is..
I miss having goals or motivation to do things especially school, right now I couldn’t care less about where I end up, I miss having a purpose for doing all of the daily things I do. I’ve felt this way for three and a half years now and it’s not going away at all :(
Ahh this is me. After college I felt lost. All these goals you have before that ….then you just have to “live life” . It’s difficult! I hope you find something that’ll give you that motivation back
I miss allowing myself to depend on people. Over the years I became so protective of myself that I dont have enough trust in others to give them the power of supporting me.
I allow myself to both give to and receive from others easily and with grace and joy. 💜💓💞 (just an affirmation) I also find it frustrating when i observe myself blocking others from helping me and denying them the chance to feel purposeful
I miss living in the moment, in the present. I feel as if I’m just existing. Life used to be so vibrant and exciting. I’m 16; I’m supposed to be experiencing and making the most of life, but I’m just there.
Wow, yes, I know what you mean, but I m in my early forties, and have stopped to truly live only in my mid thirties, so at 16, wow, shit, that's early! Until my early thirties I could still really, really deeply feel everything, the wind on my face, the sun, the cold, my bicycle, smells, tastes, textures, my connection with other humans, my love for them, the exhilarating cold when plunging into an icy cold mountain water lake. Now, nothing. I m not even depressed, and life is pleasant, for sure, and my are friends lovely, I love my work, and my gorgeous flat etc etc, but wow, nothing gets to me. The other day I took a long, hyper refreshing bath in a clear, icy cold river, and sure, it was cold, and supposedly thrilling, somehow, but I was barely experiencing it. I ve become like an empty, but well functioning shell of a human being, and I don't know how to connect my spirit to my body again.
Same age as you. Same feelings. Sometimes I have mental breakdowns over little revelations I’ve made. The fact that my whole life, I’ve been taught that nothing is more important than school. How is that possible? That all my times been wasted on it. I feel as if my years should’ve been filled with something else. But this is it. Adults have had the opportunity to find themselves outside of school. But this is all we know. Also the revelation that I’ve never been completely alone for more than a few hours. I’ve never had my mind to myself for a whole day. IVE NEVER HAD A DAY. Just 24 hrs where I can decide what I want to do. It’s always been moulded around others routines. So yeah. I feel the same as you. My life is not mine, but somebody else’s.
I miss the person I was. I feel in the last ten years I have lost allot of myself. Going hiking, taking pictures, doing things when I wanted. I look in the mirror and don't recognize the old sad person starring back at me. This was a good question.
I miss being a confident badass that wasn’t scared to try new things. One time I bought a car that was a manual transmission and never having driven one before jumped in, taught myself and drove to work. Now I’m such a chicken shyt. What happened to that cool guy in the Honda accord? 😔
I miss taking risks. This world has molded us in such a way to have a secure job, secure future that we put up with anything and everything to have that.... Even if it is costing us our happiness. I remember being carefree and taking risks to figure out who I was or what I liked but now I am just stuck in this cycle/routine of "exceptions" and I think I am losing myself to it.
Wow ... yes ... exactly. I realized this about myself recently and decided to take a job change at the company I work for. Hopefully, your epiphany will allow you to take a risk soon, even if it's a small one.
I miss my wild and creative mind that found in my darkness as a child. A lot of things happened in my childhood that should have broke me but I still had a happy corner to myself where I would draw, write, and journal. I missed being the creative that didn’t care about critiqued and all these made up parameters about what things should mean or look like.
@@danilotusflower same, same, same.. I'm older now and can't understand why I don't do these things anymore since the real, true "me" can so be found in them! 💚💙❤🙏
I miss being a dreamer, having plans for myself and feeling like I could accomplish them some day. I mostly settled for all society norms I told myself I never would. I'm just a boring lawyer and don't contribute to the world at all. I don't have the courage to change it because I forgot all my passions
It's never too late. That dreamer is still inside of you, and things can change in a heartbeat if you just decide to that you are worthy and capable of being and doing more.. Have a bit of faith. In God, in yourself. It's never too late❤
Hard job you have chosen, this may sound neurotic especially if your a man, but I'd suggested you buy yourself 1 live flower, even if it's potted so long as your attracted to it. Go look for something you like the smell , the look set it on your night stand every morning when you wake up look at it, smell it, touch it it will bring you joy even if it a live plant as you'll see it grow with YOUR love and care for it. Before long you will get your MOJO back.
But being a lawyer is such a cool job and I feel like lawyers are mostly badass people. Boring is not the word I'd choose to describe this profession. I'm sorry you feel this way about yourself. Im sure you're not boring. Im pretty darn sure :) And did you just say you did not contribute to the world? Why bc that isn't true. You help people get justice or whatever, that's making a difference in their lives.
The second young man, I felt his answer. I, too, miss my carefree self when I didn’t have so much knowledge about life and the world. Some times ignorance really is blissful.
I personally miss my childhood My smile, when I didn’t know what the world was I miss being naive basically I miss being a little kid Who didn’t know I would go through a lot in the future I miss thinking, well, nothing I miss thinking that one day I’d be the queen,or that one day I’d live in a mansion. I miss loving the little things I miss not knowing I miss me I miss the friends that I used to have at my old school I miss myself I miss when I was trusting I miss when I was caring I miss when I was loving I miss me
It sounds crazy when she says „I miss having depression“ but I kinda understand her. I’m actually with her on that. The years that I’ve been depressed were the years were I did so many things I see as quality time like spending time alone, listening to a shit load of music of all kind, drawing, writing, reading, going on walks and enjoy nature, feeling stuff. Depression felt and feels deeply woven into my personality since I‘ve had it since I was very young, that when I gave depression the space and time in my life that it asked me to it actually felt like I was giving myself the time and space to feel and just be. Now that I’m getting older and healthier I have to take on so much more responsibility and I don’t have (or take, maybe it’s on me…) the time or (head-) space to just be. Feeling a lot of difficult emotions always felt enriching but with the new lifestyle it feels like a burden, like the real me could never fit in the adult world. I don’t know if I’m making sense right now. I miss the depressed me, that’s all I’m saying. I miss feeling a lot, even when it’s complicated, I miss thinking about life, the big stuff.
I wonder if you mean that you miss feeling feelings when you were depressed. Because when you are out of that, you think more about real life and physcial things, rationally. Im currently severely depressed and I always wonder if I'll ever get out of it one day.. alive. I hope I do.
@@Lyra556 Err. Ingrid. I know you're hurting but please be nice and considerate. Everyone is different... No one can tell you how to feel. This girl says she misses depression and that is HER experience and feeling. No one can take that away from her...
it’s not confusing at all like I get that. there was so much stuff going on in my brain before i was diagnosed and medicated for depression, and now my brain is just kinda empty and all i’m doing is existing, without any meaning or feeling. idk if that’s exactly what you meant but that’s my take on it too
@@bapbirb hey you! I’m rooting for you and I wish you all the best. With what I wrote it’s difficult to argue or make it sound believable that I don’t want to glorify depression. I missed the part where I’m saying I’m grateful for not trying to erase myself from earth anymore and I regret that. I am very fucking grateful that I feel better now, I know it’s a privilege, and I wish that for you too. When I’m rereading what I wrote three weeks ago (feels longer), I see that I’m not “over the hill” myself if you could say so. I’m clearly not giving myself the space to be my authentic self and follow my interests and I can still sense that note of the hopeless perspective on the future, this “I will never fit” mentality. I don’t know if my answer means anything but I’d come to the conclusion that the answers are always inside of you and that brutal honesty with yourself and radical self-acceptance and -love is the key. As shitty as depression is, it brings out the most empathetic, loving and real people. The world needs people like us and I hope you can see more and more how much value you bring to the world. You are important, your perspective matters and it’s not your fault that you suffer from depression. Be good to yourself. If you need someone, I have an open 👂🏻 🧡
I love how all these people actually share and try to express themselves and their experiences and how it has affected them. I could never put into words how I feel about myself and how I process my reality and what that means to me. Much love to all. We're all on this ride together
Try journaling daily ! And also read books about people telling their story; it will help you gain knowledge on how to put words and form sentences about what you feel, what you go through etc. Also emotion charts! You just have to choose the word that you’re feeling rn and write it down + the reason why Sometimes we just want someone to listen but because no one does, it’s better to silence ourselves and our emotions. Delete all the words because then we have nothing to say or feel. But emotions are actually here to help us connect with our true selves and others more deeply. Most of the words I know now I learned from reading; books, dictionaries, stories, fictions, articles, etc. Emotional intelligence and verbal communication is like a muscle, work it out and you’ll see how much strength you have! Sorry for so many words, hope this will help you! Take care of yourself :)
@@louisem3969 I'm not the person you wrote this for but thank you so much for the advice :) so many people keep saying that journaling is useless and a waste of time. I always knew it wasn't a waste of time.
It's heartbreaking to see what's happening to our younger people. I sometimes feel it's because they spend way too much time trying to measure up to others when they are beautifully unique that's what makes them special.
Its even crazier and harder with all the transgenser ideology forced om young people, the pandemic stuff being forced, and all the othwr social stuff going around.
i miss being able to trust people, being able to love freely, and letting people in my life without doubting them even though they mean no harm thinking of all the times they've proved themselves. i miss the person i was when i hadn't gone through extremely traumatic experiences that scarred me for life, i miss wanting to wake up everyday.
I miss writing poetry. I seldom read my own poetry and realize how much I miss it. I ask myself: what happened to you? Everything used to inspire you: Love, friendships or relationships, politics, peace, war, hope, a flower in the spring time, a hot summer day, the falling leaves of autumn, a cold winter... love.
The poetry is inside of you, the only difference may just be that you don't write it down or speak it into existence. The poetry inside of us doesn't just evaporate away. It's there, give yourself more of a chance to prove yourself to you, my friend.
I miss listening to music just for the sake of it and truly enjoying the lyrics. Being in the moment with the story of every song. Nowadays, I have a cloud over my mind and I just listen to music to shut out the responsibilities and stresses of life.
I always end up coming back to your videos, seeking for that human vulnerability that I don't always see in "real life" with people around me. You make every face so beautiful and unique. This question really caught my eye on the feed and I loved every answer. Thanks to the people who dared to share their story too. Have a nice day :)
Sometimes when I watch these, the tears roll down my face because I identify with so many of these people. I think identifying with others might be why so many people watch these. These videos let us know that we are not alone, and our thoughts and feelings are normal.
wow this question is so deep, yet it’s definitely something we should ask ourselves. it’s a great way of seeing how far you’ve come, & also seeing how you can grow to get where you want to be. such an amazing way to do self reflection.
I miss being unafraid and unaware that I could fail. I'm slowly getting to the closest I can get to that as an adult -- being afraid to fail and doing it anyway 🥰
I miss not being in a perpetual state of worry. I can never just sit down and relax because there's a big uncertainty about my next few years that will determine the rest of my life.
I hope you can quiet your mind. I sit at the opposite side of this, seeing death every week, particularly unexpected death has meant I don't really invest in future planning. Making and worrying about plans that can be snuffed out in a second just seems pointless. It would be nice to feel there are possibilities again.
your life is in the hands of the almighty don't lose these years worrying about the next coming just take it a day at a time. make these the best years of your life while your waiting for the other years to come then you won't regret anything. wishing you all the best amen the years are going to go by weather you worry or not.
I miss being emotional - As a teenager all my feelings were so intense. Really sad, angry and happy moments. A certain song, film or experience could be so moving. Now it's so hard to reach a certain state.
For so long I've hated myself. I've despised myself for allowing myself to get abused and hurt by all the aggressors in my life. I've hated myself for still trusting people in general despite all of my pain, for still being kind and compassionate and understanding. I've hated myself for making friends and letting people inside my heart. I miss trusting myself. That's what I miss the most. But hearing all of these brave people talk about how they miss being innocent and naïve and stupid... words I've used to put down myself countless times, brings me to tears. I've always thought myself weak for not changing with my experiences, but I look at their pain and self acceptance, and I realize that I am strong. I realize that I am lucky. I realize that despite my disorders and my neuroticism, I have not yet broken. I am still ready to fight.
It really hit me to see there are so many people unhappy in this world. There are so many people in this world who can give love and comfort, no one should feel lonely, not being welcome or not be loved.
This shit hurts man. Like everything’s good but these videos make you take on a certain level of introspection that’s so deep and it brings certain things to the surface that aren’t exactly easy to deal with. This is art. Thank you
The theme that struck me from so many of the responses was the same one I would state - my sense of wonderment about the world, loss of naïveté, our cynicism having replaced that exhilaration of new experience. Perhaps that’s why we romanticize childhood with its air of the eternally possible.... we’ll never have the opportunity to see everything for the first time again. However, it doesn’t mean we can’t be grateful for those moments of joy still available to us. We must be still willing to seek them.
I love that girl with the early dinners. I think she was in an abusive relationship without realizing it. He manipulated her into doing everything he wanted and she lost herself for it. So many women go through that.
A lot of men do too. In fact most married men do everything she wants because divorce could ruin him. But that's how it is and they know nobody will care so they accept it
enmeshment. happened with my partner. I'm in the process of learning to find myself again, but whilst still being together. spending lots of time on my own..he isn't abusive, we just got together young and only wanted to be with each other and I have past trauma responses of giving myself up for people, and he didn't know I was doing that.
I miss the person that I was around my dad. I lost him over 20 years ago when I was 19. He was my world and my best friend. I miss the complete trust I had in this person. I lost all trust in people since he left.
Two years ago when I was 19 and just returned from a life changing internship I watched my father die in our laundry room from a stroke and he was already gone when the ambulance came and I couldn’t do cpr very well and it was too late…. I lost all trust in everything but one person who exploited that dependency through a year and half toxic situationship. I checked myself in a psych ward last October and stayed for two weeks. I’m in a while diffrent space now. I’m rediscovering God after being spiritually caught up and in a very happy relationship. Not everyday is the best but I am finding trust agin, trust in romantic love, trust in myself and trust in Jesus
rachel zaga i have also lost my father as well and im sorry for your loss . look at it this way that you had an amazing person as your father and your his daughter and his blood will always run through you . you are half him and im sure you got amazing qualities that he had also . i'm glad you guys were on amazing terms trust me allot of people really have very sad relationships with their parents. may god bless you be patient you will be with him in heaven amen
To the young father who misses his compassion, thinking of you this evening: you’re on the right path. For your tender heart & your daughter. Proud of you.
I miss loving myself before loving anyone else and it was such a feeling of satisfaction that you do not need anyone else to be happy or to feel loved:)
The way you capture our collective humanity is beautiful. Thank you for being a bright light and giving others the chance to share a part of themselves.
Whilst greatly capitalizing off them let's not forget. I don't know how charitable she is, but she has a less than altruistic angle here, there's always a self serving aspect. Is this extremely relatable and important content? Yes. Is it exploitative for one's personal gain? Likely also yes.
I miss being close with my family. They live nearby, but I don't see them much. Sometimes I feel anxious around them. I miss feeling at-home and comfortable with them. I miss doing hikes and whatnot with them.
though i can relate to that i still feel sorry you feel this way. if you feel like talking about it let me know, i'll kindly listen. you are so worth it, sending you love.
I was once a courageous and outspoken person. This has brought me negative attention and problems. I am now silent and rarely speak to others as I now realize that most people are very cold and selfish and vindictive.
I miss when I thought my family was perfect. I appreciate the knowledge that I have now because I've learned from my other family members' experiences, but I miss the time when I didn't know that there were so many issues in my family, and that it was pretty much up to my mom and dad to fix them.
I miss being a child and believing that I could love the world back to life and out of depression and darkness through music and acts of kindness and love. It crushed me to find out most people do not want to love others unconditionally, and they treat you like there's something wrong with you if you do. I guess that broke my confidence a lot too, because people were so cruel back, and I started to feel, why should I put all this effort in to people who don't care, but worse, they despise you for it. It's like most people like all the darkness now and hate the light. And I know it's a sign of the times. And now I know for sure only Jesus can change people's lives and hearts with his love and goodness.
@@jazzyboo100 Well I hope you receive Jesus and the gospel truth if you haven't, cuz now I realize that there was nothing wrong with that childlike faith in the power of love, nor is it naive, but rather, it was misinterpreted as my own power. Rather it was that heavenly faith I brought with me from God when I came into the world, a precious gift of faith and love worth preserving, and not of my own power did I receive such a heart, but it was and is, the very heart of God that I was feeling, or had absorbed as an innocent spirit, but I had forgot that only his love is powerful enough to save the whole world, therefore the weight of the world is not mine to bare. So, If only God can love us and fill us and overflow us with that absolute perfect love from heaven that transforms us and fills us with faith, than we need to place that childlike faith in the source of that love, who is God, in the one who is always faithful in love, so that we are filled and it just naturally starts spilling over out of our cup, rather than trying to change others or fill their cup, we need to just be filled with the love of God, and others will either want that joy for themselves from seeing your example, or they'll reject you, but either way you stay sustained focusing on that amazing love relationship with God through Christ, and just move right along walking away from the haters. Cuz baby, that's a precious crown you got. Just straighten that crown on with the wisdom of the word of God in the Bible, and fly straight as an arrow. Jesus is coming back soon ❤ Much love!
I miss my smile. I miss smiling truly, without it making me feel weak and vulnerable. I miss smiling without the slightest chance to willingly stop. I miss smiling for no other reason than the pure feeling of life. I miss smiling out of love and warmth. I miss smiling without it being fake. I miss my smile...
We're the most beautiful creatures ever .. I love how similar we are and not so similar at the same time Whenever I watch these people opening up I feel so connected to them and feel human again, and that's amazing
You just getting deeper and deeper with the questions , with the content , with people's hearts and souls , you always bring out their pain , their joy , their best and worst , just their truth . That explains that they're so comfortable around your camera , and you and your questions even though are too personal and touching Always in love with channel and its Honesty ❤️
I miss being naive and compassionate. I think often times we realize how much older we’re getting and we observe/experience how cruel this world is, to the point where we lose small pieces of ourselves, become reserved, or pay little to no attention to it. Practically ignoring it to save whatever small pieces we have left of us.
This question is so deep and the video is beautiful as always. The camera quality is better than my eyes, and somehow the people look so real and beautiful in ur viewfinder
I fully agree that even the way it is filmed is very personal. I enjoyed to watch it in fullscreen and turn my phone, so I can really see in their eyes and watch for example the little sparks before they smiled. ☺️
I miss me. Cancer changed me. Physically. Mentally. I miss the old me. She died and left an empty girl who puts a smile on her face every day for the people she loves.
I miss not knowing about myself. Before I knew how much anxious, insecure, diffident I am. Before when I was the happiest kid all day, when I actually valued myself and took care of myself. Before when I had big dreams and hopes about my life, the passion I carried with me everytime. I miss that.
When I was a child, I looked forward to becoming a grown-up, but now that I'm a grown-up, I miss the carefree days of my childhood. Loving people just the way they were without judgment. Thoraya, I don't know if you'll read this comment, but I think you're an Angel, these questions can literally save someone's life. Don't stop doing this.
The more I watch these the more I realize many of us are the same but we don’t talk enough to realize
couldn’t have said it any better!
Exactly!
I imagine that what you said is one of the reasons that pushed thoraya to make these videos
My question is that, if most of us are going through the same thing, then why do we judge each other?
@@joshuatimothy2966 That’s a really good question, I think it’s a defence mechanism like hurt people hurt people. Which is unfortunate cause we could really help each other if we were more open and more understanding but it is hard to be open about certain things I applaud these strangers for not only telling their stories but mine as well and I think lots of people can relate
I miss being naive. I miss the person I was before people showed me that not everyone on this earth is good. I miss thinking that everyone had my best interest in mind because I had theirs.
I relate 🌈🌻🌺🌟🦋🌷
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Very relatable
maritza if people are scamming and sneaky and not good that is a reflection of themselves . sometimes god exposes people to you so you can leave a toxic person or place that will destroy you. that fact that you it bothers you that people are not who they present themselves to you says that your on the right track and path.
I relate 💯
I love the woman who said she missed smiling a lot even though she did it every day - its so important to be happy.
She made me cry happy tears because she’s so right. We show our teeth out of habit and kindness but to really feel yourself smiling and filled with joy is an experience.
The first women is so beautiful and her voice is so nice and relaxing
I was looking for the comment... so true
I was thinking the same thing 🥰
I was looking for this comment too! Lol so much beauty not just physically :)
@@perthwatchgirl her eyes are not even red. She's clearly not stoned lol
I wonder how many people she made smile while they were watching this video...
I miss being carefree, as you get older and take on more responsibilities you get wrapped up in schedules and a routine that you become less spontaneous. I miss that, the simple times.
I agree 👍💯I used to take a different route home every day just because. I also I used to pick a different subway stop to get off at and spend the day in that neighborhood checking ✔new restaurants, cafes, parks, live music and the vibe etc.
Like 👍you said schedules 📅 and responsibilities rule these days and my life.
@@aviissac2628 you should definitely incorporate all those fun things into your daily life. exploring is a must 👌🤗
Same. 🥺
@Vanessa Viel...me too
"I miss being innocent; not knowing anything about this harsh world" I felt that one !
Same
I dont miss being stupid
Is it just me or do you guys also see how beautiful everyone is? I love the fact that because of the lenses you can see the micro changes on everybody's faces while they speak. It's just mesmerizing how everyone speaks in an unique and beautiful way.
I feel that, too, and I’ve thought about it. I think it’s because strangers can be more real under these circumstances than they can with people who know them and have expectations about and from them. They don’t have to hide in their “roles.” What a wonderful outlet!
I was thinking the same thing! I know this may sound weird, but I love all the imperfections! We're so used to instagram filters showing the best angle and shift/paste style of faces. There's just something about the idk our natural imperfect beauty-- whether it's the gap in our teeth, the acene on our skin, or dimples on our cheeks.
I’m with you on this aspect. They’re beautiful.
YES. It’s what I appreciate so much about this channel.
They open up their soul, that is the reason.
We, people are so afraid to share our real self, and see, ?? It make us beautiful and loveable.
I miss believing the world was a kinder place than it is
ana you be the kind person the world needs the fact the you care makes you an amazing person. bless you
Me too.
Being a 40 year old man seeing all these young people feel like that breaks my heart. They get exposed so much faster to the harsh realities of life
Pray not for easier life pray for stronger self
I always thought that you guys also had a tough time but in a different way than ours
@@howardyoo4070 I think the same. There wasn’t as much cruelty among the youth I don’t think (possibly because there was no social media) but they had more in the family I feel like. Now don’t get me wrong, many people still face harshness in their family. Expectations, discipline, overall childhood trauma and dysfunctional family dynamics, but I feel like it was much more prominent back then.
That’s why I feel like this generation is breaking free from the chains of societal expectation and rules, while simultaneously creating a more aggressive one. Depends which portion of the generation you focus on
@@hannahwillis9838 That’s called a revolution. That is quite literally the age of Aquarius.
@@CarpeDiezNutz please, astrology in the human condition? i respect yor view, but totally disagree
I guess I miss being self-confident and not worrying about what others think. I'm always wondering if I'm good enough and so I miss just going anywhere and being like: Hey, this is me, just as I am.
+1
I changed that. I acctually was really insicure before, and with the time I learned to respect my self and be proud of the amazong person that I am now... So learning to accept yourself the way you are, and finding and loving your qualityies is the key ....idk....
Relatable
Also me and Im a guy. Guy's are expected to be confident and a lot of their attractiveness comes from having confidence. Im probably one of the least confident dudes
I'm also working on that and it's so encouraging to see, that I'm not the only one who's struggling with that. I just try to keep in mind what Luna Lovegood once said:
"Being different isn't a bad thing. It means you're brave enough to be yourself."
Missing our youth-like-confidence is one that I think most of us can definitely relate to in this media driven world that shoves insecurities down our throats on the daily.
Turn off and tune out social media, give yourself a break. Go outside lay on your back look up at the sky... even if it's dark look for star's. When the world is traveling so fast remember you are the driver of your bus and you can put it in park. EVEN if it's just for a little while it's worth it. When I was in my mid-20s I started buying myself 1 inexpensive flower I'd stop in the morning just long enough to enjoy it's smell and again just before bed. I still buy myself flowers at 55 and it still brings me joy. Find your joy, it doesn't have to be a big expensive thing.
Oh and you ARE beautifully you!! There isn't another you anywhere.
@@onlyyours725 I so needed to hear this …thank you for such beautiful words 🌻
@@nomvuyomashile3373 You are most definitely welcome ☺ Im happy it made since. We feel good from the inside out, Not the other way round. Most importantly take care of you. Live well my friend.
Yes! I miss how confident in myself I was when I was younger. There was no career or idea that was too big for me to accomplish. Now I get nervous thinking I’m not good enough for the job I even do now
The girl who said that she missed herself and who she was because she felt so influenced by other people and the person she was in a relationship with, I understand that and relate to it too.
Something I miss about my childhood is vibrancy. That sounds strange but when you become an adult colors are dull, seasons can become dull/not as much vibrancy or excitement. Knowledge/life experiences can take away that life vibrancy.
It all depends on your mentality :)
@@Lea-ov8vq yes! I do agree with you! Holidays are very dull to me because my dad passed a few days before Christmas 2 years ago. I’m trying to bring back that excitement especially since I’m pregnant with my first child. It’s hard but you are so so right!
Ecactly
@@samanthayoung6818 I'm so sorry for your loss ma'am. I hope you have the most magnificent, healing, peaceful and positive pregnancy ever. Sending lots of love to you and the little one💗✨
Omg so true!!
I miss being me and not just what I need to be to survive in this world.
Thisssssssssssss is it
This 😩😔
This hit different
Awww same🥺
"...not just what I need to be to survive in this world..." that part right there 🥺
I miss the person I was before I allowed trauma to transform me into someone I don't recognize or like.
I think I really needed this video, thank you Thoraya.
The fact that you can self reflect shows how beautiful a person you really are 💖
Me too.... U r awsm bro
I felt this.
Same
Setting boundaries is hard but it's worth practicing, because if it costs you your peace, it costs too much.
Since then, things are looking so much brighter.
Thank y'all for understanding my meaning.
When she said that she discovered she likes an early dinner, I understood her, I really did. Your life could be unraveled in a small discovery, it's never big, it's always the small stuff.
This is so true! A couple months ago I finally came to terms with the fact that I don't like grapes because I find the way they burst in my mouth to be surprising. Since I can remember, I always assumed I loved grapes as they are juicy, purple, bite-sized, tart morsels of tender fruit that need not be peeled, seeded, or sliced and can be enjoyed by the bunch for a reasonable price. Even though this realization seems a trivial one, it has brought me a lot of peace as I have realized that things that I "should" logically like because of their surface traits aren't necessarily the things that I do, in fact, like. Perhaps I am free to do-- or not do-- as I please even when common sense says that doing something else would make me happier. I can start to declutter my life and learn how to better take care of my human animal by believing my apparent preferences without substituting them with seemingly more sensible narratives.
@@viviansaravanan7531 since I watch this video I'm trying to find these things that makes me happy, I discovered a lot about me. I can see that you are in this journey too, finding your happiness, I'm happy that I found some of it. I hope that you found everything that makes you happy and more
When she said she was eating things she didnt really like I felt that.
Ex likes certain food, and he eats the same thing all the time. Luckily we never lived together, but I just stopped cooking for him and cooked what I liked. He'd B*tch about it. He said "you should eat the same things all the time"
I like trying new things.
I miss having friends, and being able to go out and just get to know people and make new friends. As we get older, slowly everyone has to deal with other stuff (job, movig to a new city/country, family) ... and suddenly you notice, there's no one left.
❤️🌈🦄😎😊
Same
Same, I feel you. Im going to start trying new things that involve in a way meeting people and also, have more hobbies to keep my mind occupied and at peace. You should try :)
This almost made me cry I hope things get better
FEEL YOU!!
I miss how I felt when both of my children lived with me. There was so much energy in the home, especially when their friends would come over. I really miss that time in my life.
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Me too. I am now alone as my husband died young. This is the worst time in my life. I will always need my Bob. I was gifted by having him , but then excruciatingly taken. I am only alive for my children to visit.
I miss that as well, the noise ,the laughter ,the music ,my children just having fun cooking together ,sitting down to a meal everyday ,my children laughter...
@@missmiss975sending you love❤.
"i miss being innocent"
"I miss being happy"
"I miss being myself"
"I miss me when I was don't care what people say"
These are such a simple sad statement but a fact 😩😭😭
I miss all of that about myself 😭
Me too!!!
Never too late to grow stamina 💪
Yes baby, you can still be. Stop caring and start living. You deserve to be you. Your authentic self. Stop worrying about others and you will be okay 😘❤️
I miss being a child. When I was so carefree. When I wasn't so confused or anxious about the future. When opinions didn't affect me at all. When the world seemed like a really nice place. When I just wanted to have fun. I miss it a lot.
I do too. I think many many people do. 💔
The more i watch these videos the more I realize that I'm not alone in this harsh world. Everyone is fighting something and we are all missing something in our lives.
I miss how freely I used to be able to express my love for people.
Wow!🤩 That resonates with me on such a deep level that it hurts...💔
This
Same. :)
Because I worked with people in a professional context, I had to teach them the boundries of who you can express those feelings for and when. Honestly, I fell in love with each of them completely each and everyday. I tried to teach each of them that all love is an act of patience, kindness, and service. I hope that now those kids are both middle-aged and young adults who can show their families and caregiverers appreciation and self-help and pride. The love they acknowledged in me was such an unexpected gift that I feel warm when I think of them. They seemed to recognize that I was sincere. Love lasts forever in my heart and mind. I hope they can still feel the love I pray They have.
when people started talking about missing their confidence, thats exactly when i started tearing up because i miss my confidence too and i feel like i lost it over the years of hardships.
I miss my confidence too. Although it came back a bit with the job I have now. I am still depressed and feel like a looser with a b.s. job and no degree.
Keep a clear conscience and believe in your heart more than anything else. Add a faith cherry on top and you are now magical. God be with you fellow beautiful hearts.
I realized that I don’t miss anything about myself. I had a hard a hard trauma filled life from an early age I dealt with depression and anxiety. I’m 23, going on 24 getting to know my self everyday and growing every single day!
@ Kayla M. same.. at first glance at the title, I thought to myself that I don't miss anything! How could I?! It was horrible! I learned many, many (maybe too many) hard lessons at too young an age and throughout my young life (and beyond).. then I cried like a child fighting her tiredness..
Keep growing better, girl!
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Same :)
Was looking for this kind of answer. I feel the same way.. i don't miss the stress, looking over my shoulder (emotionally), the inability to build meaningful relationships..
It's not at a level that a "normal" person is but everyday i am starting to like myself more and everyday that I'm not expecting the day to go wrong, is a win!
Good on you, Kayla. Keep up the goed work and greetings from Holland!!
Feeling the same at 20. Kinda excited to lessen about myself
Hang in there. Been there done that. It won’t always be this hard. This too shall pass. Be patient and kind to urself. ❤️
I miss being happy.
I miss being innocent.
I miss not caring about the standards of society.
I miss being myself.
I miss my confidence.
I miss feeling okay.
Being motivated to do things that other people want me to do.
Pride in things I do.
Excitement in getting up in the morning for something.
Not feeling guilty.
I hope you find these things in yourself again. Hang in there stranger, you are loved and I love you. 🖤
♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️🙏
I miss my authenticity. I fell like I was more myself at 14 than at 40.
i think its because you were more innocent about the world then. it's not that your not authentic , its because it has turned into a fake world.
Being 40, I relate
What I miss most about myself is my eyesight. Before I started losing my sight, I had my own place, an amazing job, and freedom. Within a span of a few weeks I went from 20/20 vision to being legally blind and not even able to walk down a sidewalk by myself. I had to leave a job that I wanted to make a career of and retire from, that first week as I had no clue what was going on. By the second week i knew that it was unsafe for me to drive. The third week is when it got to the point where it was hard to walk up and down the stairs to my apartment without tripping and falling. I did everything I could to keep my apartment, but had to give up after two years and move into my parents' house. I had everything that I ever wanted, and lost it all due to an eye disease that can not be corrected. I was a very happy person before this, and it has changed me to the point that I don't recognize myself. It has changed relationships and my viewpoint on the world and life in general. I have become bitter, resentful, and angry as I was always the good guy that did everything for everyone and this happened to me. Whereas people I know screw everyone over, get everything they want, and nothing happens. I mostly miss who I was back then, not necessarily my eyesight. I was 27 when my life changed, back in 2016
That sounds incredibly difficult. Thank you for sharing.
I’m sorry to hear that; you’re stronger than most. You might take some comfort if you have not yet read the book of Job. Incredible story about suffering and injustice. Praying for you bro
Jesus.....
Despite your hardships, you are still that man. You just have to find him again. He’s not gone, just hibernating 😊 You will be happy again one day but it will take time and determination…
This is a random question, but did you notice a decline in your health after receiving a covid shot (if you have had it?)… My friends mom is going through something similar and it all happened a couple months after getting her shot. She went from vibrant and healthy to struggling and extreme vision loss. I believe these shots cause demyelination in some people among other things.
It could be something to look into.
@@selenacordeiro1458 he said it happened in 2016 and covid started in December 2019 so i don't think so
I miss me before kids. I was carefree, brave and fearless. Now I’m riddled with anxiety and fear of how the world will treat my children. How the world will hurt them.
brandy you love them don't worry about the world just b e the amazing mother you probably are and they will grow up to be amazing people like their mother . you have the first say in your children's life fill their heart and head with great messages about themselves and just pray for them always and the rest is in gods hands. you do your part and let god to his which is to protect them. may your children grow up to be everything you have ever hoped and make you a proud mama amen
That’s something every parent goes through. Secret is that yes, they will be hurt, inevitably, but they’ll be okay anyways. Being hurt and let down is a part of life and we wouldn’t be as good people without it. There are much worse things than being hurt in the world. Only thing you should really be worrying about is how to raise your kids so that they’ll face whatever it is they go through the best way possible.
Rupi Kaur's poem "friendship nostalgia" sums up pretty much what I miss, so I'm just gonna share it with you here.
She is a fantastic author, you should read more of her! Really inspiring
i miss the days my friends
knew every mundane detail about my life
and i knew every ordinary detail about theirs
that us
the walks around the block
The long conversations when we were
too lost in the moment to care what time it was
when we won and celebrated
when we failed and celebrated harder
when we were just kids
now we have our very important jobs
that fill up our very busy schedules
we compare calendars just to plan coffee dates
that one of us eventually cancels
cause adulthood is being too exhausted
to leave our apartments most days
i missing knowing i once belonged
to a group of people bigger than myself
that belonging made life easier to live
friendship nostalgia - rupi kaur
That's such an amazing poem, thank you for sharing :) and yeah, it describes my feelings very well too 😌
Thank you.
Makes me so melancholy
Beautiful.
I miss knowing I once belonged to a group of people bigger than myself.
I'm always amazed at how honest so many people are in answering your questions. It makes me wonder if they aren't used to people asking their thoughts or listening as you do!
Man, everyone always has these deep and emotional answers. I just miss being able to run up a flight of stairs without being sweaty and out of breath. 😆
sweet
Explore that. Go down the layers.
Do 20 lunges a day. After a week increase it to 30 a day.
Preach!
😂💯
I miss how energetic, adventurous, and happy I was. I used to walk an hour to the library and would be on the internet ( search, watch anime and wrestling, and editing photos) for hours. Then walk home and still had energy to dance. I used to wake up early and take the bus everywhere, just exploring the world around me. Now I just go to work and home and be so exhausted from work and life. I used to be happy, even though i didn't have any friends, I enjoyed being my own friend and having fun by myself
sakoya why don't you take the bus on your day off and go somewhere fun like you used to bring that part of yourself back even if it is for a day or couple of hours. the person is still you she is just waiting for you to bring her out. i say you do it.
Geez I wish I was that happy and energetic at some point in life haha but I like hearing this it was interesting and in a way motivates me as I later learned in life happiness is a choice, and not the result of something. We have to make a choice and choose to find happiness. I also realize I’m more happy when I stopped looking for things to be fulfilling with a hope that they would and then often it wasn’t fulfilled so it ended up making me disappointed but in the process I found out it’s usually the simplicity in little joys that are more fulfilling
It's not beyond reach.. ☺️
Ooft i felt that, adulting (work/life) can be tiresome af esp compared to when i was in my early 20s
I like how you talk. 'Why don't you' and 'I say you do it' sound very confident, supportive and charming.
I miss how positive and outgoing I used to be. Now I'm quite, serious,self conscious and feel that I'm not good at anything. But I'm greatful to be alive and witness this beautiful moment with everyone else.
I miss being able to breathe. I remember being able to have those nice, deep breaths that just make you feel so free. Whenever I'm aware of my breathing I notice that my heart feels heavy, and there's just so much pressure there now. So being able to breathe again would be nice, literally and metaphorically.
Hey, I feel with you so much!! I had this for YEARS, and didn't even realize it... just was feeling depressed, empty, breathing shallow and kind of "holding my breath", waiting for something to happen,...Not daring to let go of worries, let go of the pain and the pressure. At one point I literally started to have unbearable aching pain under my collarbones, you know, round the tip of the lungs.That's when i actually realized that this is what I deperately WANT to and NEED to get back, being able to BREATHE again. And somehow, after a long time of suffering, things started to change. I started to change. Being able to take the first really deep breath again was like surrender and like being born again. This happened only recently. (Btw I'm a fortysomething woman) I still have to pay conscious attention to taking deep breaths, but it comes more easily now. So what I'm trying to tell you is, you should know that you CAN get it back, and you WILL get it back, you are strong enough to process and deal with all the pressure and the pain, things will change eventually! So just keep working on yourself and you'll get there!
Try heart coherence breathing exercice, also The Wim Hof Method breathing exercice, try the channel Take A Deep Breath, also the channel DMT Breathing.
From my heart to yours, i hope your breathing gets better ❤️
Hey i think it would be good for you to look into TRE (trauma & tension release exercises) if nothing has helped for you. I used to have the same thing but this actually helped loosen those tightened muscles in my chest from going through a lot of stress and now it's a lot easier to breathe
I can relate to this so much. I’m 22 years old and I feel like I’m deteriorating so quickly. There’s something wrong with my nose and lungs and it feels like I’m getting half the air I’m supposed to be. It feels like my nasal passages are shrinking or just insanely swollen or something, and even when I try and take a deep breath, it feels like the air doesn’t get to my lungs. Breathing isn’t liberating anymore. It feels like a task that I have to force so hard to do and when I think about it I think about how unfulfilling it is. I can barely smell anything anymore either. I’ll stretch my face and nose to open up my airways and that’s the only time I feel like I am getting enough air. It sounds insane that I’m paying this must attention to my nose and lungs but breathing is something that is so essential to being in the present moment and when I’m outside and trying to focus on the nature around me I feel like I can’t be there with it because it feels like I’m suffocating. I’ve spoken with my doctor about it and they’re not sure what it is so I am seeing an ENT specialist but they said nothing is wrong besides some minor swelling and mucus buildup. Hopefully they listen to me and are able to help me more. Good luck to you and the issue you’re struggling with. I hope one day you are able to breathe the way you used to and find liberation and peace through breathing again❤️
@@skyfullofmaggots6837 I think that the breath of fore breathing exercice can help 🙏🏽 my nasals get liberated when i do this one in the morning
The woman’s answer about having an early dinner resonated with me!
It might be selfish of me, but this is the exact reason I don't want to be in a relationship. I like to do what I want when I feel like doing it, without having to worry about the needs and wants of another person.
@@ville666sora Wait but that's exactly what my boyfriend does...
BF and men do it . In some cultures they lead and they lead in a way that favors them all the time. Some cultures in families and countries.
Her ex seemed very selfish
I miss how I was before the pandemic. All my life I was introverted and never spoke and kept to myself. All through high school I slowly came out of my shell and started speaking up more and meeting new people and people realizing that I wasn't just "the school weirdo". I was really looking forward to senior year, I got my grades together and finally on track to graduate and be even more social. The pandemic happened and I got shoved back into my shell and didn't get a senior year and all I gained was anxiety and paranoia. I was so much happier back then and it truly makes me sad that I was becoming a different person and was truly happy but now I'm not and I haven't felt that way in years now.
Can definitely relate! Sounds like really awful timing too... But we can still make it! Don't be afraid to take the steps again. I think it's worth it! And your description of how you felt when you started to change really makes it sound so worthwhile!
I feel similar... Due to Covid I moved back to my hometown and lost contact with my friends at university... a few weeks ago I finally saw them again and they made me feel so loved and strong. It's like I forgot how to be myself in the last years and it all came back that day. I realized that I know exactly what I want in my life, I just lost the courage to ask for it. But I deserve to be happy. So I will stand up for myself now and live that beautiful life of mine! Hope you are doing okay and you find back to yourself just like I did. Someone out there misses you right now, I'm sure of it.
Listen God is good and I understand that sound’s elementary….BUT your happiness and love is part of Gods nature
Those negative voices are the voices you need to ignore and need to recognize them as not being your own. Just reject those thoughts and go scream laugh cry and love❤
the way i can relate 1000% to you.. i was the introvert and finally gained so much confidence and enjoyment when expressing myself. i was also looking forward to senior year next year when the pandemic hit and i’ve been in my self-sabotaging shell ever since
Couldn't find someone more relatable ✊️
I miss how I was never stressed or worried as a kid. Everything could go wrong and I wouldn't care at all
Same but when ur an adult sometimes u wonder how ur gonna make it thru
That totally me 😊😊😊
It’s like we hold so much trust in the world
Same, but as a kid I also didn't really think about or understand the worries or issues of my parents and those around me. I selfishly only really cared about myself as most children do. As an adult I am more empathetic and more sensitive to the issues of those around me.
I swear kids have so much more bravery than adults. Im such a coward now with everything lol
I miss everything about me.
When you meet someone, don't mold yourself to them. As great & amazing as they are, that's them. If you marry them, don't get lost in their story. Have kids? Don't make them everything your life is or is about. Once their grown & gone on their own adventures - you'll still have you with all these great memories to add to yours. If you don't you'll end up like me. Full of memories, but nothing underneath.
Stay an individual.
Find your balance.
I'm hoping to find mine. And doing it during a pandemic sucks. I'll I've done is internalize it. Don't be like me.
Thanks, Andrea
You seem on the right path though! Sending you love
you'll be alright, I'm sure
This reminds me of the film Runaway Bride when she tries all the types of egg to find out what she really likes.
Enjoy your journey finding you. Try all the eggs until you find yours!
Being an individual is not easy and requires patience as well as the experiences we go through as part of living. You have memories, Andrea, that is a good thing, you have experienced life. What will you do next?
Writing this through heavy tears. Honestly I don't remember much of the good times in my life. I don't know if you can miss something you've never had but I miss having self-confidence at a normal, healthy level.
I miss the person that I love being himself, before some circumstances happened. Therefore I miss feeling respected by those who say they love me.
I miss not comparing myself to any existing woman and automatically thinking that I'm less attractive and just unworthy.
I miss not having so much guilt on my shoulders.
I miss not hoping that the next day the world will end and I will not have to deal with everything.
I miss not thinking about myself as a trash not worthy of living.
I miss being free from everyone including my inner critic.
Everything will be ok, you will overcome this. You will find things that will fill you with love, peace and joy. You will feel safe and happy
@@MariaHernandez-fk1on Thank you, Maria, I truly appreciate your comment especially since I feel that I have nobody in my life to tell me a good sincere word. Honestly. I hope you're at peace and you'll always be.
@@MariaHernandez-fk1on Though I cannot fully believe that (but I wish to be more positive), to be honest I just wait for my dog to pass away so I don't have any other responsibilities and can leave the world myself. Sounds stupid but this very, very, very problematic kid is the only reason I'm still alive and that's even more depressing.
Hang in there 🙏🏿 I've been there. Just take it day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute, or moment by moment. Just keep going. It's harder than many people think because you feel so deeply. Yet, it's because you feel so deeply and have suffered so much, you'll enjoy the reward a lot more 🙏🏿
Hey how are you doing now...
I miss being passionate about my dreams. Being an adult and paying the bills has ruined the passion I used to have for creating music and the arts.
So happy for the girl who now can enjoy her dinners at 5pm 💙
Their eyes say a lot. It's like looking at an open diary with all these unexplained emotions
I appreciate the spice blend girl being honest about missing her depressed self. Not a lot of people would admit that.
Because depression becomes such a part of us that we feel uncomfortable without it?
@@HansLasser Yep
I do not at all, actually, feel like I'll ever understand what it's like to miss my "depressed self" when I must try to deal every day, and have for 31 years, with chronic, clinical depression. I think very few people w actual, biochemical, almost lifelong, sometimes incapacitating depression would "miss" the options and joys and freedoms available to a non-depressed person. I think few people could miss being someone who doesn't need to struggle to get out of bed, brush their teeth, bathe, leave the house at all, or attempt to work only to repeatedly fail. I am not saying that it's not possible to miss depression; it must be, if so many people feel this way. But, I just think that surely liberation from the true mood disorder of severe depression---which completely narrows, dwarves, and dehumanizes one's existence---is something far more depressed people long to experience, than anyone who no longer suffers from it could really "miss" the deforming, destructive, life stunting, dream crushing disorder of chronic depression.
I honestly can’t relate with her. My worst mental breakdown is one of the things i never in my life want to experience twice
Tbh I found her answer to be disturbing and illogical. I can’t say I will ever relate.
I miss how open and inviting I used to be, I've always been empathetic and saw the good in others. My trust was misplaced, I realised people had bad intentions and I let them take what made me beautiful. I'm learning that its ok to be vulnerable
Same hun, same. I just noticed it, lately 😔
Thisss🖤🖤 wishing the best
It gets better, you’ve realized. That’s the hardest step. 😘 you just have to find the people who are worth receiving YOUR time. You are the prize. Always have been. Always will be.
@@d.h.4778 thank you ❤ that truly means a lot to me especially today
@@danilotusflower being vulnerable isn’t a bad thing in most situations. As long as it’s not being used against you. Boundaries are not only necessary but are okay to give people. You seem like a beautiful soul. Other peoples issues are not yours. Community is needed, but not everyone needs to be in your community. You deserve people who actually see and hear you. Not who they want you to be, not who you are not. Just you. There is nothing wrong with you. Your community will help you through your battles not make them worse. Self awareness also helps you realize not everyone is..
I miss having goals or motivation to do things especially school, right now I couldn’t care less about where I end up, I miss having a purpose for doing all of the daily things I do. I’ve felt this way for three and a half years now and it’s not going away at all :(
Ahh this is me. After college I felt lost. All these goals you have before that ….then you just have to “live life” . It’s difficult! I hope you find something that’ll give you that motivation back
8 months later and I’m hoping you feel better. At least a little ❤
Sending sunshine your way
I miss allowing myself to depend on people. Over the years I became so protective of myself that I dont have enough trust in others to give them the power of supporting me.
when the right people show up and god brings them into your life you will automatically trust them
I allow myself to both give to and receive from others easily and with grace and joy. 💜💓💞 (just an affirmation) I also find it frustrating when i observe myself blocking others from helping me and denying them the chance to feel purposeful
Same
I miss living in the moment, in the present. I feel as if I’m just existing. Life used to be so vibrant and exciting. I’m 16; I’m supposed to be experiencing and making the most of life, but I’m just there.
Wow, yes, I know what you mean, but I m in my early forties, and have stopped to truly live only in my mid thirties, so at 16, wow, shit, that's early! Until my early thirties I could still really, really deeply feel everything, the wind on my face, the sun, the cold, my bicycle, smells, tastes, textures, my connection with other humans, my love for them, the exhilarating cold when plunging into an icy cold mountain water lake. Now, nothing. I m not even depressed, and life is pleasant, for sure, and my are friends lovely, I love my work, and my gorgeous flat etc etc, but wow, nothing gets to me. The other day I took a long, hyper refreshing bath in a clear, icy cold river, and sure, it was cold, and supposedly thrilling, somehow, but I was barely experiencing it. I ve become like an empty, but well functioning shell of a human being, and I don't know how to connect my spirit to my body again.
Same age as you. Same feelings. Sometimes I have mental breakdowns over little revelations I’ve made. The fact that my whole life, I’ve been taught that nothing is more important than school. How is that possible? That all my times been wasted on it. I feel as if my years should’ve been filled with something else. But this is it. Adults have had the opportunity to find themselves outside of school. But this is all we know. Also the revelation that I’ve never been completely alone for more than a few hours. I’ve never had my mind to myself for a whole day. IVE NEVER HAD A DAY. Just 24 hrs where I can decide what I want to do. It’s always been moulded around others routines. So yeah. I feel the same as you. My life is not mine, but somebody else’s.
@@gillianfoster2392 don't worry alot of people's life Starts in their 20s
I feel u!:(
I miss the person I was. I feel in the last ten years I have lost allot of myself. Going hiking, taking pictures, doing things when I wanted. I look in the mirror and don't recognize the old sad person starring back at me. This was a good question.
Same.
I miss being a confident badass that wasn’t scared to try new things. One time I bought a car that was a manual transmission and never having driven one before jumped in, taught myself and drove to work. Now I’m such a chicken shyt. What happened to that cool guy in the Honda accord? 😔
I know what you mean.
Yes
I know exactly what you mean. Had sooo many goals and dreams, then life, just life'd. I hope we all find ourselves again.
I miss taking risks. This world has molded us in such a way to have a secure job, secure future that we put up with anything and everything to have that.... Even if it is costing us our happiness. I remember being carefree and taking risks to figure out who I was or what I liked but now I am just stuck in this cycle/routine of "exceptions" and I think I am losing myself to it.
:( I feel the same
Wow. You just described my life. Wife, 2 kids, program manager job, house, motorcycles, spending money, and I'm absolutely dead inside.
Wow ... yes ... exactly. I realized this about myself recently and decided to take a job change at the company I work for. Hopefully, your epiphany will allow you to take a risk soon, even if it's a small one.
Capitalism is a humbug.
I miss my wild and creative mind that found in my darkness as a child. A lot of things happened in my childhood that should have broke me but I still had a happy corner to myself where I would draw, write, and journal. I missed being the creative that didn’t care about critiqued and all these made up parameters about what things should mean or look like.
I relate to this so much. I used to write poetry, music, short stories and draw but it's been so many years that anything has inspired me
@@danilotusflower same, same, same..
I'm older now and can't understand why I don't do these things anymore since the real, true "me" can so be found in them!
💚💙❤🙏
I miss getting excited over things, being happy, feeling sadness. I am faking my smile, my happiness, even my sadness.
I miss being a dreamer, having plans for myself and feeling like I could accomplish them some day. I mostly settled for all society norms I told myself I never would. I'm just a boring lawyer and don't contribute to the world at all. I don't have the courage to change it because I forgot all my passions
It's never too late. That dreamer is still inside of you, and things can change in a heartbeat if you just decide to that you are worthy and capable of being and doing more.. Have a bit of faith. In God, in yourself. It's never too late❤
Hard job you have chosen, this may sound neurotic especially if your a man, but I'd suggested you buy yourself 1 live flower, even if it's potted so long as your attracted to it. Go look for something you like the smell , the look set it on your night stand every morning when you wake up look at it, smell it, touch it it will bring you joy even if it a live plant as you'll see it grow with YOUR love and care for it. Before long you will get your MOJO back.
Oh I resonate so much with this.
never too late. take little steps, 1 thing at a time.
But being a lawyer is such a cool job and I feel like lawyers are mostly badass people. Boring is not the word I'd choose to describe this profession. I'm sorry you feel this way about yourself. Im sure you're not boring. Im pretty darn sure :)
And did you just say you did not contribute to the world? Why bc that isn't true. You help people get justice or whatever, that's making a difference in their lives.
The second young man, I felt his answer. I, too, miss my carefree self when I didn’t have so much knowledge about life and the world. Some times ignorance really is blissful.
I miss how I used to love so freely and with no walls!
I personally miss my childhood
My smile, when I didn’t know what the world was
I miss being naive basically
I miss being a little kid
Who didn’t know I would go through a lot in the future
I miss thinking, well, nothing
I miss thinking that one day I’d be the queen,or that one day I’d live in a mansion.
I miss loving the little things
I miss not knowing
I miss me
I miss the friends that I used to have at my old school
I miss myself
I miss when I was trusting
I miss when I was caring
I miss when I was loving
I miss me
7:40 dude, same
depression can be like a toxic relationship of dependency. Depression hurts you but you find a rare comfort in it.
I miss being excited about even the most random things.
It sounds crazy when she says „I miss having depression“ but I kinda understand her. I’m actually with her on that. The years that I’ve been depressed were the years were I did so many things I see as quality time like spending time alone, listening to a shit load of music of all kind, drawing, writing, reading, going on walks and enjoy nature, feeling stuff. Depression felt and feels deeply woven into my personality since I‘ve had it since I was very young, that when I gave depression the space and time in my life that it asked me to it actually felt like I was giving myself the time and space to feel and just be. Now that I’m getting older and healthier I have to take on so much more responsibility and I don’t have (or take, maybe it’s on me…) the time or (head-) space to just be. Feeling a lot of difficult emotions always felt enriching but with the new lifestyle it feels like a burden, like the real me could never fit in the adult world. I don’t know if I’m making sense right now. I miss the depressed me, that’s all I’m saying. I miss feeling a lot, even when it’s complicated, I miss thinking about life, the big stuff.
I wonder if you mean that you miss feeling feelings when you were depressed. Because when you are out of that, you think more about real life and physcial things, rationally. Im currently severely depressed and I always wonder if I'll ever get out of it one day.. alive. I hope I do.
@@Lyra556 Err. Ingrid. I know you're hurting but please be nice and considerate. Everyone is different... No one can tell you how to feel. This girl says she misses depression and that is HER experience and feeling. No one can take that away from her...
it’s not confusing at all like I get that. there was so much stuff going on in my brain before i was diagnosed and medicated for depression, and now my brain is just kinda empty and all i’m doing is existing, without any meaning or feeling. idk if that’s exactly what you meant but that’s my take on it too
Deep.... Profoundly deep... Wishing you well Jana
@@bapbirb hey you! I’m rooting for you and I wish you all the best. With what I wrote it’s difficult to argue or make it sound believable that I don’t want to glorify depression. I missed the part where I’m saying I’m grateful for not trying to erase myself from earth anymore and I regret that. I am very fucking grateful that I feel better now, I know it’s a privilege, and I wish that for you too. When I’m rereading what I wrote three weeks ago (feels longer), I see that I’m not “over the hill” myself if you could say so. I’m clearly not giving myself the space to be my authentic self and follow my interests and I can still sense that note of the hopeless perspective on the future, this “I will never fit” mentality. I don’t know if my answer means anything but I’d come to the conclusion that the answers are always inside of you and that brutal honesty with yourself and radical self-acceptance and -love is the key. As shitty as depression is, it brings out the most empathetic, loving and real people. The world needs people like us and I hope you can see more and more how much value you bring to the world. You are important, your perspective matters and it’s not your fault that you suffer from depression. Be good to yourself. If you need someone, I have an open 👂🏻 🧡
I love how all these people actually share and try to express themselves and their experiences and how it has affected them. I could never put into words how I feel about myself and how I process my reality and what that means to me. Much love to all. We're all on this ride together
Try journaling daily ! And also read books about people telling their story; it will help you gain knowledge on how to put words and form sentences about what you feel, what you go through etc.
Also emotion charts! You just have to choose the word that you’re feeling rn and write it down + the reason why
Sometimes we just want someone to listen but because no one does, it’s better to silence ourselves and our emotions. Delete all the words because then we have nothing to say or feel.
But emotions are actually here to help us connect with our true selves and others more deeply.
Most of the words I know now I learned from reading; books, dictionaries, stories, fictions, articles, etc.
Emotional intelligence and verbal communication is like a muscle, work it out and you’ll see how much strength you have!
Sorry for so many words, hope this will help you! Take care of yourself :)
@@louisem3969 I'm not the person you wrote this for but thank you so much for the advice :) so many people keep saying that journaling is useless and a waste of time. I always knew it wasn't a waste of time.
I’m struck by how hard life is for young people growing up in this crazy world! Your interviews are brilliant Thoraya.
It's heartbreaking to see what's happening to our younger people. I sometimes feel it's because they spend way too much time trying to measure up to others when they are beautifully unique that's what makes them special.
@@onlyyours725 not many people, certainty not enough people, who point that out to youngsters…
Its even crazier and harder with all the transgenser ideology forced om young people, the pandemic stuff being forced, and all the othwr social stuff going around.
i miss being able to trust people, being able to love freely, and letting people in my life without doubting them even though they mean no harm thinking of all the times they've proved themselves. i miss the person i was when i hadn't gone through extremely traumatic experiences that scarred me for life, i miss wanting to wake up everyday.
same you just explained me in a nutshell it’s very hard to trust when you have a loving heart
@@2mfours it is. i hope we can find peace one day, even when it's so hard
@@arielleeris5736 you will find no peace within this world, I assure you
I can relate to every word you've written here. Sending you deep felt love ❤
@@chrism8180 peace comes from within. Stop looking for it in the world and you will find what peace means.
I miss writing poetry.
I seldom read my own poetry and realize how much I miss it. I ask myself: what happened to you? Everything used to inspire you: Love, friendships or relationships, politics, peace, war, hope, a flower in the spring time, a hot summer day, the falling leaves of autumn, a cold winter... love.
Same I use to write poetry all of the time
The poetry is inside of you, the only difference may just be that you don't write it down or speak it into existence. The poetry inside of us doesn't just evaporate away. It's there, give yourself more of a chance to prove yourself to you, my friend.
@Cherif Hamed Tidjan "honest with the pen"
I like that
Yes! I miss drawing, too. I have other creative outlets now, but I'm thinking about bringing back those old practices, even if just a little.
Same, I used to be really into it and now I can't articulate anything. Another lost thing I suppose.
I miss listening to music just for the sake of it and truly enjoying the lyrics. Being in the moment with the story of every song.
Nowadays, I have a cloud over my mind and I just listen to music to shut out the responsibilities and stresses of life.
listen to some of your old songs im sure it will bring the feelings back. i pray that the clouds all turn into sunshine.
@@marymesk577 Thank you♥️
It really related to me
I always end up coming back to your videos, seeking for that human vulnerability that I don't always see in "real life" with people around me. You make every face so beautiful and unique. This question really caught my eye on the feed and I loved every answer. Thanks to the people who dared to share their story too. Have a nice day :)
Same here😌
Me too
Same here, thanks to you that you put every word here in the comments same in my head.
Beautiful answer, you really expressed what I feel as well,human vulnerability was a great expression,it makes people beautiful
Vulnerability is my absolute favorite quality in a human 💙🦋
I understand the woman who missed her depression. Human brains are so fascinating. Depression is horrible and scary but it's also like an old friend.
Sometimes when I watch these, the tears roll down my face because I identify with so many of these people. I think identifying with others might be why so many people watch these. These videos let us know that we are not alone, and our thoughts and feelings are normal.
wow this question is so deep, yet it’s definitely something we should ask ourselves. it’s a great way of seeing how far you’ve come, & also seeing how you can grow to get where you want to be. such an amazing way to do self reflection.
I miss being unafraid and unaware that I could fail. I'm slowly getting to the closest I can get to that as an adult -- being afraid to fail and doing it anyway 🥰
I miss not being in a perpetual state of worry. I can never just sit down and relax because there's a big uncertainty about my next few years that will determine the rest of my life.
i relate heavily to this. that's why i use fiction to distract myself
I hope you can quiet your mind. I sit at the opposite side of this, seeing death every week, particularly unexpected death has meant I don't really invest in future planning. Making and worrying about plans that can be snuffed out in a second just seems pointless. It would be nice to feel there are possibilities again.
your life is in the hands of the almighty don't lose these years worrying about the next coming just take it a day at a time. make these the best years of your life while your waiting for the other years to come then you won't regret anything. wishing you all the best amen the years are going to go by weather you worry or not.
Being a uni student who is not one of the party ppl, i can go on with the amount of stress burden it added on me.
I miss being emotional - As a teenager all my feelings were so intense. Really sad, angry and happy moments. A certain song, film or experience could be so moving. Now it's so hard to reach a certain state.
For so long I've hated myself. I've despised myself for allowing myself to get abused and hurt by all the aggressors in my life. I've hated myself for still trusting people in general despite all of my pain, for still being kind and compassionate and understanding. I've hated myself for making friends and letting people inside my heart.
I miss trusting myself. That's what I miss the most. But hearing all of these brave people talk about how they miss being innocent and naïve and stupid... words I've used to put down myself countless times, brings me to tears. I've always thought myself weak for not changing with my experiences, but I look at their pain and self acceptance, and I realize that I am strong. I realize that I am lucky. I realize that despite my disorders and my neuroticism, I have not yet broken. I am still ready to fight.
It really hit me to see there are so many people unhappy in this world. There are so many people in this world who can give love and comfort, no one should feel lonely, not being welcome or not be loved.
I miss being pure, innocent. Growing up sucks. One day I am going to miss walking. So I will enjoy being able to do it now as much as I can.
This shit hurts man. Like everything’s good but these videos make you take on a certain level of introspection that’s so deep and it brings certain things to the surface that aren’t exactly easy to deal with. This is art. Thank you
The theme that struck me from so many of the responses was the same one I would state - my sense of wonderment about the world, loss of naïveté, our cynicism having replaced that exhilaration of new experience. Perhaps that’s why we romanticize childhood with its air of the eternally possible.... we’ll never have the opportunity to see everything for the first time again. However, it doesn’t mean we can’t be grateful for those moments of joy still available to us. We must be still willing to seek them.
I miss being happy and careless and free. I miss my past strong self.
I love that girl with the early dinners. I think she was in an abusive relationship without realizing it. He manipulated her into doing everything he wanted and she lost herself for it. So many women go through that.
I think men go through that aswell but maybe most men don't speak much on that.
A lot of men do too. In fact most married men do everything she wants because divorce could ruin him. But that's how it is and they know nobody will care so they accept it
enmeshment. happened with my partner. I'm in the process of learning to find myself again, but whilst still being together. spending lots of time on my own..he isn't abusive, we just got together young and only wanted to be with each other and I have past trauma responses of giving myself up for people, and he didn't know I was doing that.
Men do it more lol, it is just that they are too egoistic to blame themselves
I am an early dinner woman!
I miss the person that I was around my dad. I lost him over 20 years ago when I was 19. He was my world and my best friend. I miss the complete trust I had in this person. I lost all trust in people since he left.
I’m sorry for your loss, You must feel terrible, I’m so sorry..
I wish I could help in some way
Two years ago when I was 19 and just returned from a life changing internship I watched my father die in our laundry room from a stroke and he was already gone when the ambulance came and I couldn’t do cpr very well and it was too late…. I lost all trust in everything but one person who exploited that dependency through a year and half toxic situationship. I checked myself in a psych ward last October and stayed for two weeks. I’m in a while diffrent space now. I’m rediscovering God after being spiritually caught up and in a very happy relationship. Not everyday is the best but I am finding trust agin, trust in romantic love, trust in myself and trust in Jesus
@@aprilgibson817 I hope you find healing 💜
rachel zaga i have also lost my father as well and im sorry for your loss . look at it this way that you had an amazing person as your father and your his daughter and his blood will always run through you . you are half him and im sure you got amazing qualities that he had also . i'm glad you guys were on amazing terms trust me allot of people really have very sad relationships with their parents. may god bless you be patient you will be with him in heaven amen
To the young father who misses his compassion, thinking of you this evening: you’re on the right path. For your tender heart & your daughter. Proud of you.
I miss loving myself before loving anyone else and it was such a feeling of satisfaction that you do not need anyone else to be happy or to feel loved:)
I miss my passion for life.. the way I used to love myself and feeling like I’m so confident around people.
The way you capture our collective humanity is beautiful. Thank you for being a bright light and giving others the chance to share a part of themselves.
Absolutely.
Whilst greatly capitalizing off them let's not forget. I don't know how charitable she is, but she has a less than altruistic angle here, there's always a self serving aspect. Is this extremely relatable and important content? Yes. Is it exploitative for one's personal gain? Likely also yes.
Well said👌
..a part of themselves that got taken away unbeknownst to them.. without a word said, just gone and forever changed..
As someone who has only recently been gaining confidence, it's interesting to hear other people say they lost their confidence.
I miss being close with my family. They live nearby, but I don't see them much. Sometimes I feel anxious around them. I miss feeling at-home and comfortable with them. I miss doing hikes and whatnot with them.
Tell them! You might be surprised
Start to come over more regularly (not for something special) and it’ll slowly become normal again
I miss feeling complete, full of energy and motivated. Now I'm afraid of being alone with my own thoughts. I feel worthless.
though i can relate to that i still feel sorry you feel this way.
if you feel like talking about it let me know, i'll kindly listen.
you are so worth it,
sending you love.
You are 100% made of worth!!!!! This is just a phase, don’t believe your own thoughts. Later you’ll feel great about yourself again
Get on therapy+meds if they prescribe y’all, if you have a physical disease you also wouldn’t leave it untreated right?
i miss having good health. i will do ozone therapy when lockdown ends.
I was once a courageous and outspoken person. This has brought me negative attention and problems. I am now silent and rarely speak to others as I now realize that most people are very cold and selfish and vindictive.
Fact: all of u who are watching this vid deserved to be loved
I miss when I thought my family was perfect. I appreciate the knowledge that I have now because I've learned from my other family members' experiences, but I miss the time when I didn't know that there were so many issues in my family, and that it was pretty much up to my mom and dad to fix them.
The first lady😍😍😍,everybody is so sweet,humanity is beautifull😍😍😍
I miss being a child and believing that I could love the world back to life and out of depression and darkness through music and acts of kindness and love. It crushed me to find out most people do not want to love others unconditionally, and they treat you like there's something wrong with you if you do. I guess that broke my confidence a lot too, because people were so cruel back, and I started to feel, why should I put all this effort in to people who don't care, but worse, they despise you for it. It's like most people like all the darkness now and hate the light. And I know it's a sign of the times. And now I know for sure only Jesus can change people's lives and hearts with his love and goodness.
My goodness, you spoke to my soul… This has been me most of my life…
@@jazzyboo100 Well I hope you receive Jesus and the gospel truth if you haven't, cuz now I realize that there was nothing wrong with that childlike faith in the power of love, nor is it naive, but rather, it was misinterpreted as my own power. Rather it was that heavenly faith I brought with me from God when I came into the world, a precious gift of faith and love worth preserving, and not of my own power did I receive such a heart, but it was and is, the very heart of God that I was feeling, or had absorbed as an innocent spirit, but I had forgot that only his love is powerful enough to save the whole world, therefore the weight of the world is not mine to bare. So, If only God can love us and fill us and overflow us with that absolute perfect love from heaven that transforms us and fills us with faith, than we need to place that childlike faith in the source of that love, who is God, in the one who is always faithful in love, so that we are filled and it just naturally starts spilling over out of our cup, rather than trying to change others or fill their cup, we need to just be filled with the love of God, and others will either want that joy for themselves from seeing your example, or they'll reject you, but either way you stay sustained focusing on that amazing love relationship with God through Christ, and just move right along walking away from the haters. Cuz baby, that's a precious crown you got. Just straighten that crown on with the wisdom of the word of God in the Bible, and fly straight as an arrow. Jesus is coming back soon ❤ Much love!
Amen
I miss my smile.
I miss smiling truly, without it making me feel weak and vulnerable.
I miss smiling without the slightest chance to willingly stop.
I miss smiling for no other reason than the pure feeling of life.
I miss smiling out of love and warmth.
I miss smiling without it being fake.
I miss my smile...
We're the most beautiful creatures ever ..
I love how similar we are and not so similar at the same time
Whenever I watch these people opening up I feel so connected to them and feel human again, and that's amazing
True spiritual connection💙
You just getting deeper and deeper with the questions , with the content , with people's hearts and souls , you always bring out their pain , their joy , their best and worst , just their truth . That explains that they're so comfortable around your camera , and you and your questions even though are too personal and touching
Always in love with channel and its Honesty ❤️
Need more older generation interviews.
The first lady looks so kind and peaceful...you can see she went through a lot 😕
I miss being naive and compassionate. I think often times we realize how much older we’re getting and we observe/experience how cruel this world is, to the point where we lose small pieces of ourselves, become reserved, or pay little to no attention to it. Practically ignoring it to save whatever small pieces we have left of us.
That's sounds 1000% correct. It's so sad. I miss being a child and being so bold and brave.
Crying in agreement
This question is so deep and the video is beautiful as always. The camera quality is better than my eyes, and somehow the people look so real and beautiful in ur viewfinder
I fully agree that even the way it is filmed is very personal. I enjoyed to watch it in fullscreen and turn my phone, so I can really see in their eyes and watch for example the little sparks before they smiled. ☺️
I miss me. Cancer changed me. Physically. Mentally. I miss the old me. She died and left an empty girl who puts a smile on her face every day for the people she loves.
I miss not knowing about myself. Before I knew how much anxious, insecure, diffident I am. Before when I was the happiest kid all day, when I actually valued myself and took care of myself. Before when I had big dreams and hopes about my life, the passion I carried with me everytime. I miss that.
When I was a child, I looked forward to becoming a grown-up, but now that I'm a grown-up, I miss the carefree days of my childhood. Loving people just the way they were without judgment.
Thoraya, I don't know if you'll read this comment, but I think you're an Angel, these questions can literally save someone's life.
Don't stop doing this.