EMMA DID WHAT FOR HERSELF? ELLIE IN MORE TROUBLE! EMMA AND ELLIE
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- Опубліковано 15 вер 2022
- Emma is very proud of herself for doing this all by herself! It will be a great surprise for her friend! We went to take Ellie and her friends to the mall but we did not get to do any shopping and find out why because Ellie got in trouble again!
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Let me clear the air quickly so it makes sense. Ellie was not grounded in this video that’s why she was with her friends and had her phone. It had already been a month of her being grounded from the first time. We thought we could do something fun with her and her friends since she was NO LONGER GROUNDED!! She got in trouble for mouthing off at the mall. Her punishment was not buying anything while there. I am not going to make her friends leave the mall as well because she got in trouble they brought gift cards they had and I was going to allow them to use them because that was the plan. Like I said pick your battles meaning mouth off get nothing that’s one issue since there was a consequence we moved on from that and got cookies. Again that was the plan and she was already punished for the issue at the mall. We handle each occurrence as a reward or consequence that’s how WE DO IT!!
I thought you guys handled it really well and that the punishment fit the crime. It would have been wrong to punish her friends when they did nothing wrong, and I saw nothing wrong with still letting her have the cookies when she already received her punishment, adding more punishments after the fact I feel is wrong, unless she was warned about that beforehand.
This is why I love your family because it’s so raw & real. You’re a great mother Heather!
She has to learn the hard way that you don’t get rewarded for being ugly
THIS IS SO WELL PUT!!!
She does that because she’s comfortable enough to know that even though she is grounded she’s still able to go hangout with friends and still has some privileges I don’t think she truly thinks you’ll take those things away because of how lenient and nice in general that you are.
exactly!!
And she does need to take away her friends.
Yep. I would have been loved to be “fake grounded” (as I call it) as a teen. Grounded while still getting to hang out with friends, buy things, have your phone, etc…is not being grounded. My parents would have enjoyed that Crumbl with my siblings and I would have gotten nothing as Crumbl is considered a privilege (not a right) and you don’t get privileges when grounded. Still allowing things is continuing to enable. And this is coming from a mom of two and former nanny of 13 different children who all had firm boundaries and went through their teens without issue because they were grounded and not “fake grounded”. They learn real fast when they only get to go to school, no phone, no friends, no special snacks/drinks, no tv, and they get to wallow in their own guilt for being a turd.
So true!!!
yes
Ellie is not going to learn until she loses all her privileges. I guess it's time for her to be treated like a little kid if that's how she wants to act. No more hanging out with friends, no electronics, only go places with parents, no shopping. It will get her straightened out.
bit dramatic
@@katysludds no it’s not lmao your kids are never going to take you seriously unless you teach them to she needs to learn to be more respectful and when the mom takes a little bit of her privileges she still thinks she can do what she wants that’s not good so it’s not dramatic
Yes I totally agree with you she needs no electronics no friends no tv only going with parents
@@katysludds it's not dramatic considering she hasn't learned her lesson so far.
you keep doing what you’re doing! not giving in is def a great step. make her start cleaning her room, bathroom, etc. she needs to start earning your respect and realize how much you do for hee
I used to act that way. I had a smart mouth, talked back, all of that. Looking back, like there was no excuse and discipline definitely helped me. They say “hit it where it hurts” (not like that lol) but my mom definitely did by taking my phone away and not letting me hangout with friends until I got it together. The second I acted out, it would repeat until I finally learned…I’m not a mom but maybe this helps for when I used to be the same way.
You do SO much for your kids Heather. Do not let them take you for granted, grounding is a punishment that’s always worked on me as a child BECAUSE I lost privileges like going places, electronics, etc. that’s the point of being grounded and actually has you realize, as a kid, what youre doing wrong ❤️
I have been there and done that! With my daughter when she would do something like that i would have immediately left the mall and taken her friends home. I would not allow her to go out with friends or have any “extra” until the attitude changed. I agree….it’s all in the tone. These kids now a days need to learn respect! My kids are 15 and almost 18. I feel you Heather!! It is so hard.
You are a great parent heather! They don’t realize how good of a mom you are at the time but they will be thankful later when they’re adults. You are raising them to be functioning adults. Not people who think they are owed everything in life. Great job! Stand your ground
I get yelled at by my teens too and i’m 34. No means no stand your ground. I love seeing this side, it helps give us tips.
Thanks for being so candid. It is hard with teens sometimes but we have to stick to our rules and consequences as parents. Hang in there.
i always knew ellie had that type of attitude. no more spoiling her, no more electronics, friends, shopping, money. if she wants to be mad she can be mad in her room 🤷🏽♀️
I have a sister whose 13 and I get it! i'm also a social worker for that age, I think you just need to stand your ground and not let her get the things she thinks you would normally let her get, like the lulu, when she's behaving that way. I think she will just need a reality check that she can't get everything she wants and that being nicer to you guys can help her get the things she wants. you got this! you're doing good with it! & remember it's not just you guys, it's the age. i'm sure her friends parents are all struggling too, you're not alone!
I love that you guys are real on the vlogs, cause it’s life! Not everything is perfect
Hang in there, you got this. There is nothing like raising a teenager. And every kid is different so what works for one may not work for another. You stay strong and keep doing what you are doing. What you are trying to teach her is very important, not just with you guys but in life how you talk to people matters. And thank you for showing us mother’s that we are not the only ones that go through this stuff. 💜
She’s 13 and thinks she can get what she wants. Therefore she’s going to yell at you because she thinks she can. Stay firm and don’t let her speak to you like that. Also, the fact that she really yelled at you because you asked for a sip of water is just funny 😂 I grew up in a military family so the first time I did what Ellie did was the last time. You should be more strict also with the whole money spending. She should work for the money, not ask you for any. Chores is enough lol
My daughter is 11 and starting with the tone you’re talking about. Thank you for showing your real life, I always can relate to you guys in some way or another!
Your an amazing mom Heather, keep doing what your doing! 🙌When I was around Ellie’s age I got a part time job and that definitely really helped me to learn responsibility as well as valuing money and how to work well with others/communication. Every one is different though and i’m not a mom but just thought I’d let you know what helped me get out of that phase in life😂 Love your family and how real you guys are!❤️
Heather exactly what you are doing. Ellie is a great kid but it is that dang age. You have to stand your ground and teach her respect because she will have to have that on her own. You have done a great job and please dont feel like a bad mom when they get angry. I felt the same way alot. My kids are my entire world even if they are grown now. Do not let comments from people make you feel like you are not raising her in the best way. You are and they both will see that eventually. I just wanted to tell you that I think you are a great mom and not to let it get to you. 😊
Another thing Id recommend is if she is already in trouble and allowing her to have friends over while being grounded, maybe take that away from her too and she’ll learn quick! Don’t even allow her to go to the mall with her friends only go places with y’all and don’t allow her to have crumbl even if it was the original plan 🤷🏽♀️ Doing it for a week only will make her feel it
Honestly I think trying what you said is good start but like having a talk and asking her why she does it. I am sure it’s because she wants to look cool in front of her friends but it’s not. I know from experience
I agree, every time I would get grounded, I would have no phone, no friends, no going out to the mall, just school and home.
@@nattyice3106 Same thing for me
@Kayla w Also I wouldn't be getting anything from Starbucks
@@nattyice3106 I wouldn't either.
i have always loved how open you guys are! I have watched y’all since you started and i feel like i have grown up with emma 🥺
Oh Ellie. It's hard being a teenager and even harder a parent of a teenager. I think you're doing great setting boundaries and being clear with her about why she's in trouble. Wishing peace for you all!
Thanks for being so raw with us Heather. I remember being 13 and acting similar. This is such a hard age and with maturity things will change. I think your doing great. Wishing y’all the best.
I’ve watched you since Emma was young young & you’ve always been a great mom I felt like they walked over you at some points in your some videos and I’m so glad you’re finally putting a stop to it. You definitely do sooo much for your kids they should be so lucky to have you! I wish I had a mom half as good as you are.
You’re doing great, Heather! Just stay consistent and don’t back down! She will finally figure out that you’re not giving in anymore! ❤
You are doing great Heather! Ellie will learn soon and you are amazing to Ellie & emma! Emma, have so much fun! Awesome video :))
You guys are doing a great job as parents. Heather you and Mark are really trying your hardest to do what you guys can do for your girls.
Great job Heather! You did the right thing 👍👍
My mom would have made us leave the mall and she would’ve taken my friends home. I usually lost all privileges and all fun plans would be canceled for the day if I have attitude or raised my voice.
In todays age you have to pick your battles. She yelled and got mouthy her consequence was not being able to buy anything. Each struggle has a consequence and that’s what we are teaching her right now.
@@emmaandellie I think you’re doing a wonderful job! I know I wasn’t easy on my mom by any means! I also personally feel like my mom over did punishments like that growing up but I did quickly learn to not give attitude. That being said I also grew to feel like I couldn’t express emotions as much. All you can do is your best❤️❤️
I'd totally do the same thing with my kids. I don't care if their friends are there or not. that attitude comes out & we're going home sans friends. depending on how bad the attitude is, I'd probably make them return everything they had already bought too.
Don’t reward for bad behavior! Take it all away! She either will change, or grounding will make her change. Make her do more chores, and spend her grounding around you and Mark. Entitlement is not on her side. I’m glad Emma is doing good. Ellie, change your behavior and attitude or stay grounded from everything! Your parents have nothing but time to wait for you to get your act together!
Heather shouldn’t allow her to hang out with friends. Taking other stuff away while still letting her have friends around isn’t helping.
Thank you for making this video so relatable. My teenage girls have mouths on them also. I appreciate you being real and not pretending that everything is perfect.
I think you guys are great parents you do a lot for them rather everyone knows that or not you guys know that and so do the girls! I’m glad you guys actually discipline your children when they are acting up because I feel like a lot of you tubers don’t show that part let me get seem like their life is just all perfect all rainbows so I know I at least really appreciate you guys being 100% on your channel
Great job momma!!! It is really hard but you and mark have each other don’t give in
I’ve got 4 boys. 23,22,18 and 16. You’re doing the right thing. Stand your ground. If you give in once, then it sets that standard!! You’re going a great job!!
You guys are the parents so keep it up and hang in there! She’s not the boss and you are not there friends! I think you do so much for them!
love you guys!! been here since day 1!!
I'm not a parent but here are some things I think you should apply.
Definitely no money or anything luxury only necessities.
No phone or electronics of any kind minus watching tv with family/games with family.
Make her clean her own room/bathroom weekly or whenever it needs to be cleaned if it's gets messy before that.
Make her do her own laundry once a week.
Make her cook once a week.
Make her do dishes/help clean the kitchen.
No going out with friends or having friends over at all.
Only going out with you or emma.
Doing homework as soon as she gets home.
No fast food or restaurant food at all unless it's necessary.
No sweets or junk food.
Take the dogs for a walk once a day.
Anything else you think she wouldn't like to do that needs to be done.
Heather you are a great mom been watching you guys years and how much the girls have grown.I’m a girl mom of three a 14,9 and 4 year old. When my 14 year old was 13 she had the same attitude and I would take her phone away and ground her and I also had her do more chores. I realized also that I was spoiling her by doing to much for her Like her laundry and cleaning her room and she wasn’t learning to be more independent. May be try having her having her do more thing on her own so she realizes how hard you work to give her what she needs like washing her clothes,keeping her room neat and taking her places. Just remember your a great mom regardless of anything you know you daughter the best. I hope things get better teenage years are the worst.
13 is a tough age, unfortunately I used to speak to my mother the same way at that age. I never understood what the issue was because my words weren't hurtful, but it was the tone just like you said. You guys will get through it and I think you're doing the right thing!
i’m not a parent but don’t give in or she won’t learn , you guys are doing a great job! love the videos!!
Personally, I would not let my child hang out with friends. That’s a privilege.
You guys are doing exactly right. If she's doing that snappy tone thing there's only a matter of time before she will be cussing you guys out if you don't intervene now.
You’re an amazing mom! I’m around Emma’s age and when I was Ellie’s age, taking things away did not work because I just found new things to do and I had tv. But my parents would not give me any money to spend or any new things until they’d see constant good attitude/behavior. So then I changed up my behavior and got a part time job where my dad worked. That made me work hard and change my attitude. However I must say I didn’t have that issue all the time and I was pretty good and quiet most of the time. I definitely did not have a lot of behavior issues.
I am happy that Emma is doing better and trying new things! I remember going to a Kelly Clarkson and Miley Cyrus concert because me and my friend loved them. Eli’s birthday is coming up, I can’t wait to see the vlog hopefully if she posts one. A great place in Orlando is Disney springs. If you want Disney souvenirs it’s a great place to go. Magic kingdom would be nice for a birthday too. Also me and my friends go to the cinema at Disney springs; it’s AMC dine in. We love it there.
so you clean her room for her, pretty much do everything for her, shes rude in return, and “grounded” but gets to go shopping with her friends and disrespects you even more, and then gets 30 dollar cookies as a reward? you’re not a bad mom, but she gets too much which is why she thinks doing whatever she wants will get her even more.
True
I agree, I have a 14 year old daughter, I would have brought her straight home, friends send home definitely no cookies and grounded for 2 weeks, no friends, no treats, no technology, no shopping trips. You need to harden up Heather.
Mixed Messages! Either parents stand their ground or suffer the consequences
this
i acted the same when i was 13, im 18 now and i feel absolutely terrible for treating my parents that way. she probably doesn’t realize it now. all you can do is just continue teaching her the correct ways.
Early love y’all’s videos!!!
i went to the pitbull concert in milwaukee last month & it was AMAZING. you’re gonna have so much fun emma!!!! hope you vlog it :))
U are great parents!!!.....glad you deal with her instead of let it go.....I'm dealing with the same stuff you're not alone....lol
Tough love; you are doing amazing. Stay consistant - train them up right, and you will see the reward when they are older. I really like how you deal with it and then move past it.
Hi Heather, my parents when I was the age of 13 now I’m 20 but back then my parents usually would take my friends back home and cancel every plan for that day, they would also tell me to go to my room and take away my phone and tv, they would come into my room when they saw I was calm and sit next to me in bed and explain to me that what I did was wrong, that I shouldn’t have yelled or some sort. If during the week I start behaving better I would gain little by little my privileges back. I am grateful my parents did that because now I know what’s wrong and what’s right! Hope this helps!
I always like it when Emma and Ellie’s Family makes awesome and fun videos like this :)
i went to a pitbull concert this past friday & it was absolutely the BEST concert i have ever been to !! so excited for emma !!🤍
Emma was so funny with his stress to buy concert tickets :D
It’s def the friends she hangs out with. She copies who she hangs out with
I agree I think she may just be in thr wrong crows right now and will realized it later
Exactly!
They need to move away from the district.
@@jafaelpetals2022 I feel as if they were “real friends” of ELLIE’s they wouldn’t let her talk to her parents like that
@@Stephsjournal- They’re toxic.
omg i work at a concert venue and pitbull came a few weeks ago and it was BY FAR THE BEST concert of the year it was just like a huge party it was sooo fun you’re gonna love it!!
I saw Pitbull and Iggy last month! It was a great show!!! Have fun!!!
I feel you Heather. I have a daughter too and this is the most difficult stage of childhood but if you don't correct the behavior now it gets worse as they get older. My daughter used to pull that crap with me all the time and she went plenty of times without. I love Marc's solution 😜 hey that's how our parents raised us and we turned out ok.
I got it too and it worked so I second that lol
The funny thing about teenagers.. they’re embarrassed for their friends to hear that they’re sick even when they’re not but they’re not embarrassed to throw a tantrum over water in front of their friends 😅 I sure can’t wait for my kids to be that age 😆 my advice would be don’t give empty threats. Stand ground. It sounds like you do so good job 👏🏼
this is how my cousin used to be, it was rarely corrected only by everyone else but her parents; she’s 22 now and is worse but now she “can’t” be corrected because she’s an “adult” and makes her own choices. im 26 and respect my mom because she did not accept this behavior whereas my cousin can say some really ugly witchy things to her mom who was a single parent.
not i’m not a mom but the very few times i acted because unfortunately i thought it was cool my mom took every single thing away from me; my most memorable was skipping out on my best friends quince but now i can accept accountability for not having those memories i wish i could have
I need this video so much. It’s so hard!
I saw Pitbull and I’ve loved Pitbull for as long as I can remember. His concert is so much fun!
emma is so pretty
I love your family. Heather your a beautiful mother. Heather you and Mark are great parents. sending lots of love from nz. love your videos x so happy for Emma going to a Concert x
my mom would neverrr let me yell at her or disrespect her, I learned from a young age how to respect my mother and others if not i would’ve gotten a whopping and everything taken away. She definitely got it easy but that’s just the way you want to “punish” her.
Awesome good for you! Congrats! Have fun.
loved this video! thanks for sharing your personal struggles with us ❤ and yay Emmaaaa! another adult purchase 👏🏽 so happy for you 🥲
Congratulations Emma you are going to have a wonderful time at the concert 🎵 trust me you are going to love it have fun and be safe and happy
I feel you ! I have a daughter that’s 12 and she does the same thing . She has a mouth for sure . I have to take her phone away and no tv until she straightens up and learns how to talk .
I use to be like ellie at that age. My mom and I use to butt heads all the time bc of my tone. Everything she said made me snap or would irritate me. My mom just stopped doing stuff for me (materialistic) and tried to build a connection with me 1 on 1. After a while my mom and I got closer. She will grow out of it and eventually see that her parents are her biggest supporters!!
I was always told, pick your battles. I had many to choose from 😂
Good for you Heather! You did the right thing. Ellie is just showing off in front of her friends. Poor Mark with the cookie crumbs. Make them clean it up Mark! 🛻🍪
Omg Pitbull was my very first concert. He puts on an amazing show and everyone was dancing all night. I love Mr.Worldwide
If I ever acted that way my mom would block me from everything. You’re being too nice for her being “grounded”. If she’s grounded that means no friends, no phone, no tv, no shopping, no crumbl cookies. You sit at home and you clean your room and bathroom and other than that you sit in silence. You are such an amazing mom and she is pushing her limits because she knows how amazing you are.
I luv u guys
Ooooh, Ellie has some rude awakenings coming lol
I went to a Backstreet Boys Concert middle of July!! That was my dream concert. Pitbull was in NJ in August. I know alot of his older music. Havent listened to him in a while tho.
Love you guys !!! I grew up listening to pitbull he is amazing 💖💖🇵🇷🇵🇷. I'm a mom of 2 but they still little but I remember I use to do that to my mom all the time when I was a teenager, she would say nope you wanna act like that then let's go home and I'll be grounded no phones, no going out, I would clean my room and others since she was the one doing it. I use to get sooo mad but then when we moved I realized how much she done for me. Now I like cleaning 😂but now I know when my kids gets older
Hey, it's all about respect!! You did right. The kids decide to act up in front of friends. You must set them right!
I also have a 13 year old, but a boy and it’s the same 🤦🏻♀️ We’ll get through it! Loving parents correct their children ❤ Love your videos!
Honestly I was that kid just like Ellie still catch my self in the bad habits of being rude and angry really fast . My mom use to take my phone not let me do anything and that’s what would work she wouldn’t let me do anything wouldn’t buy anything not even wash my clothes I had to do it my self wouldn’t even tell me if dinner was ready because she didn’t feel appreciated so she stopped doing stuff for me and when I realized how much I needed her I stopped . i asked for forgiveness and I tried my best and then we got along .. u have to cut her off now before it gets worse I know it’ll hurt and I know it’ll be hard but maybe just try it YOUR DOING GREAT MAMA !
Consistency is key! Set the standard if she goes below it there’s consequences. Let her know your word means something🧡
Omg Pitbull...thats amazing
I absolutely agree with you on bending over backwards! My third is turning 17 next week and I would say just recently she started acting more respectful toward me. I know what your talking about with the way you say things. That's the disrespect. It's hard punishing but I feel that if we had done more of it and not giving in,we MAYBE wouldn't be going through it. Just a thought,but who knows. Every kid is so different in how they respond to their parents. I think your doing the right thing. It worked for me. Some days better then others. Good luck!!!
You're being too nice Heather I didn't get nothing if I yelled at my parents and I turned out fine and we have a good relationship
I always told my kids that every action has a consequence. So make sure you can handle the consequence before you do the action. Also, when my daughter stomped up the stairs, I would wait until she got to to top tell her to come back down and try again. I would make her do that until there was not stomping or attitude in her walk.
omg emma yr gonna have the time of yr life!!!! i went to his san antonio concert it was awesome!!!
just to make sure i would make sure ellie’s mental health is okay. while i was struggling silently with mine i took my issues out on others and even the slightest thing would irritate me so bad for no reason, i ended up being diagnosed with depression and bipolar disorder. it could just be the teenage phase but i would just make sure it’s not something deeper
I have 3 boys I tear their butts up especially my older 2 now my youngest is 16 it's harder with him cause he is usually a good kid but sometimes he gets out of line. I definitely shaded some tears. I believe the Lord didn't give me girls cause I wouldn't know what to do. That's the hardest thing is not to give in. Because it's like the parents are in trouble too. Hopefully Ellie sees how to act sooner than later because it's her life.
Ellie’s got the teenage girl blues 🤓👸🏽❌🧟♀️
My mom told me the good perk of not strangling me when I was going through the phase is the grand baby😂🙂
I'm dealing with the same with my 13 year old son. We are also trying to teach tone!
Heather you and Mark are very good Parents to Emma and Ellie
I think you are doing the right thing. My mom would do the same thing. Keep doing you doing
I went to pitbull in my state, and it was the literal BEST concert I have been to- you will not be disapointed!
I completely understand I have a teen daughter with attitude .. your doing a great job
good morning!
I’m 42, I don’t have kids, but I had an attitude just like Ellie at her age. My mom and I used to have literal screaming matches. I never won. If I had yelled at my mom like that in public, she would’ve taken me home, and not allowed me to see my friends for God knows how long. We didn’t have cellphones and stuff in the 90’s when I was a teen, but TV, music, video games and talking on the house phone wouldn’t have been something I did for a VERY long time if I back-talked my Mom. Maybe if she keeps up the attitude don’t let her see her friends at all. Just my suggestion based on what my mom used to do that worked with me.
Same here
Emma is doing great at things and Ellie needs to respect her parents
Glad you put your foot down. No extra curriculum activities when it comes to grounding and no Mall or spending time with friends.
Mark lol it's the infinity cookie cutter for me heather lol he's more excited bout it than y'all are lol 😂💜💜💜
Good morning everyone happy Saturday morning and I loved your vlogs and you all amazing Supporter
My son's worst year was his eighth grade year he was Iin so much trouble I think it definitely was a phase. it's the hormones at that stage / puberty. What I did he was into playing baseball. I said if you get into trouble you can't play ball and that did work for him. You are definitely doing a great job keep it up and just know it's a age phase and it does get better I did the same as you calling sleep overs parents ect stay on top of everything. gl