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Today we are our sharing our birth story! Jacob and I tell you all about what happened when I gave birth to our beautiful son. SPOILER ALERT: I didn't end up having a natural labor. Let me know your thoughts in the comments below!
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SPYDAR! 😂
Good one! 🤭😂😂😝
Hypocrite. Don't tell women how to behave modestly when you've posted pictures of yourself all over the internet.
@@josh6153 it got leaked
@@kelvin4975 so what? Shouldn't have taken them in the first place. Weren't exactly modest were they?
@@josh6153 no idea but maybe that’s before she became modest.
I also wanted an unmedicated birth but tapped out because I was in active labor and only 4 cm when I arrived at the hospital. When I decided to get an epidural, the anesthesiologist was so kind and reassuring, it made me feel a lot better about my decision. He said that I shouldn’t be ashamed to get an epidural because you wouldn’t get a tooth pulled or have any other surgery without pain medication, that it is a tool that will help me relax and allow the labor to go smoother. I was sad that I “couldn’t do it,” but ultimately I’m glad I did and made my birth more positive.
I think you should be proud of yourself! It is incredibly brave to carry/grow a baby in you for 9 months! Then you have to give birth, breastfeed, and become a mother 😬 It is such a blessing but so much hard work!
I've delivered 3 babies, 2 of which I got an epidural. I delivered my second naturally, and the difference was my water had not broken until right before he came out. My first delivery, my water broke at the beginning of labor, and with my third (just a few days ago) my water was broken during labor. That makes the pain SO much worse. Once they broke my water with my third, I was shaking with pain during my contractions. I was so happy to get the epidural. My sweet babe was born shortly after. No shame in needing some relief!!!! And like your mom said, there's no trophy for delivering naturally. Great job, mama!
"Time didn't exist". I like that, because growing children show you that time exists and it moves much faster than you had realized. My oldest just graduated and I feel like she was just a baby yesterday.
Finally! Been waiting for this story. Love that your husband is part of this too. God bless your growing family, Abby 😊
About the doctor having to reach in... My third child had shoulder dystocia (his shoulders were the wrong way and he was partially delivered and couldn't get past my pelvis) and the doctor had to reach in while a nurse maneuvered him out. He was 10lb 12oz and 23.5in. He was a natural birth. The only way I can describe the pain is like... I was dying. It was like an out of body experience. I don't even think I was moaning or anything anymore at that point. I was out of my mind. It was roooough. 😰 The healing process was very slow. But I've had three more babies since. Two of them naturally. Somehow your mind does, as you elduded to, dull the memories enough that you're willing to go through it all again!
Wow.
@shadow inc In my experience, my natural 7lb9oz baby was seriously almost pain-free with no meds. My other unmedicated 9#5 oz baby born 2 yrs later was very painful bc of the back pain. But could just be the positioning as well.
our views do not align, they only align on some things lol, but words can't fathom how happy I am for you. Seeing how much you radiate happiness brings me so much joy. Your energy makes me so excited to be a mom some day. I am so so so happy for you and your growing family
@@mang0omilk I know!! Personally, I am ultra left leaning, some may even say leftist (pls don't come for me lol.) But for some reason I am so comforted by Abby's channel. It brings me such a huge sense of peace although our views couldn't be more different. I know that even though Abby and I disagree on a lot of fundamental things that as long as I respect her she will respect me.
I do agree with her about some things though, like how nowadays a woman choosing to be a stay at home mom is extremely demonized and how feminism has almost took a turn for the worst. However I think a woman should do whatever she wants and whatever makes her happy, and it is never acknowledged on my side of the aisle how beautiful, important, and stabilizing parenthood is. That's why I love her channel and find strange amounts of comfort in it. She makes me want to be a mom even more than I already do, and I am only 17 (18 as of tmrw) But yea sorry for this long winded reply, I love her channel even though the views we hold close are immensely different.
@@ynessriedel23 I am also a staunch leftist, but I do find myself enjoying her content haha. Maybe because we’re both vocalists and I can connect with her on that. She has also done a few videos on judaism that I found really interesting.
First, congratulations!!!
Second, I'm a mom of 4 and it took me until my 3rd to be okay with myself not enjoying the newborn stage but just acknowledging that and moving on with my life helped me so much. I was able to enjoy parts of it because I wasn't insisting I enjoy all of it. ❤
And third, you have so very much to look forward to. Kids are incredible and every stage is its own adventure.
Well said. I didn't enjoy the newborn stage either. My kids were so precious to me, and I would have done anything for them, but it is incredibly hard work. Being on call 24/7 is exhausting in so many ways. I'd do it again in a heartbeat, it's 100% percent worth it, but it's ok not to have adored being in that time period. Mine are 13 and 8 now, and it's SO MUCH FUN. I've felt it's increasingly gotten better the older they've become.
Love the birth story everyones is different and they dont go always how we planned. You did great bringing your baby here and a great mom!
I had a home birth with two midwives and a doula with my husband at my side. I’m so grateful for my experience.
All birth is natural. We should say unmedicated birth.
Youre going to switch this up when trans women can get pregnant lmao
Wow, Abby, my birth story was very similar to yours! Wanted to try all natural, but the pain was just too intense. I was in labor for about 14 hours total and had to push for 3 hours, then had a shoulder distocia, and the doctor had to get him out manually. I also I tore a lot too. It's so nice to hear a story that is so relatable.
I love hearing birth stories! I'm blessed with 6 beautiful children.. 1 no meds, 2 w/ meds and 3 c-sections, respectively. Each experience was different but amazing independently and still my favorite stories to recap. God willing, I'll add more chapters 💞
Thank you for talking about this!! I’m probably 5-10 years away from this stage of life but I super appreciate the discussion on having a well rounded view of pregnancy and birth with regards to medical intervention.-Praying that the Lord will bless me with a husband who is as involved as yours is, what a blessing that is! 💕
Giving birth absolutely terrifies me
Going to the bathroom after Taco Bell terrifies me, gives you some perspective.
@@lieutenantflyboy as someone who has bowel issues the cramps can be like contractions 🥴
I had my first baby 9 weeks ago and also was hoping to go unmedicated. My water ended up breaking before I was in active labor and I was just slightly crampy. I then started losing my plug. They checked me at the hospital and I wasn't effaced at all and was only 1cm dilated. They kept telling me that they didn't think my water had broken. Their test for Amniotic fluid was also negative and they were like "you might have an infection there is a lot of discharge present." They were so sure they were going to send me home. I talked to multiple nurses and a doctor and they gave me one more test and it BARELY came back positive. They decided to treat me as an induction since I wasn't contracting much. I responded rapidly to the meds and my contractions were intense within 2 hours on Cytotec (helps to thin cervix). Then they put me on Pitocin and by that point, I was almost 6cm dilated and 100% effaced. I ended up getting the epidural at 6cm because my contractions had been intense and back to back with no breaks for several hours from the medications. I was so exhausted I didn't know if I'd be able to stay awake to push (not that I could actually sleep but I felt like I could barely keep my eyes open. My epidural was AMAZING. I went from moaning in pain and being unable to speak at all to laughing and calling our families to chit-chat. Another 2-3 hours and I was ready to push. Luckily I only had to push for 15 minutes. What I learned from all of it was that it's better to have a positive birth than to suffer through it and have it be traumatic (many don't have any control over this). I felt so good about my decision. I knew I had to accept that things were probably not going to go my way when my water broke in pre-labor. I'd love to attempt an unmedicated birth again someday though.
As a mom who has went through labor and the early days of having a newborn, I feel that Abby and her husband both give very insightful thoughts here. And Abby, your description of contractions is very spot on in my opinion. I described it as menstrual cramps but x1000000. Very informative for expecting parents! Thanks for sharing
You guys are so sweet - I like how you and Jacob are both so involved and enjoying your respective roles ❤️. (Btw, watched while nursing 🐄🌌)
That’s exactly how my first labor went. Water broke at home, contractions ramped up quickly, it took 15 hours to get to 3cm (I started at 1.5cm), I was in SO MUCH a pain for 3cm, I got an epidural, baby was born less than an hour later. So 3 to 10 cm in an hour. 😅 I definitely still had pain while the epidural was in and while I was pushing. I was able to have med free deliveries with my next two babies. My third birth was my dream birth. I had a water birth and maintained my calm pretty well even through transition. It was amazing! But both ways get your babies here and all birth is incredible.
So grateful you and baby boy are doing great and loved hearing your birth story!! Sounds like you had a great dr helping you. My first was sunny side up and I was SO grateful for that epidural! Second was a c section and I knew it was coming and was terrified but it went great and wasn’t so bad. Now pregnant with third. As long as baby and mama are safe it’s an opportunity to praise God! 🙏💓
The way Jacob looks at you (right at the beginning of the video) and snaps back once you start the intro 🥹
So cute! He goes from “Wow, my girl is so dreamy” to “okay I gotta be serious now” hahaha
Girlll the perineal massage 😭😭 so sorry that happened! But love that you had your beautiful baby boy ❤️ birth is hard no matter how you go about it! I am a personal advocate for home births lol but birth is so hard and there’s a lot of factors at the end of the day what matters most is that you and your baby are healthy ❤️ so happy for you too!!
I am so happy for you that you had a wonderful support system and great doctor, what a blessing! Congratulations again, on the birth of your son, you did it and should be so proud of yourself! Having your first is life-changing, and was for me almost like a identity crisis. But having a second newborn is SO much easier, and more fun, than the first (IMO). You are doing great!
The more I listen to birth stories, I always wonder how women did it before advanced medicine when they encountered such problems. Great story, another miracle from God. I love these baby noises and wow, I'm quite impressed with how he's not crying dramatically to be honest 😂😂.
I also love how your respect for each other jumps out of this video. The way you correct each other's error, it doesn't bring the other person down.
Sadly many women died
Do you mind me asking how long you guys had attempted stretching leading up to labor? Like, how many weeks had you guys been stretching for?
Abby and your hubs, you grew a human being!!! Having a child I believe is a true miracle
hubs didnt do shit to grow the human 😊
Wow Abby you are incredible 👏 you have a great partner in Jacob you too work really well together and it shows how in tune you both are when talking God bless your union and that little angle you have now 😇
Your description of the pain is very accurate. I gave birth naturally, and even though I was dead set on no painkillers or interventions I did start to ask for painkillers toward the end of active labor. (I'm glad now it was too late for them to give any!) The pain really is that terrible, and pretty shocking how different it is from ordinary pain. I'm now glad I got to experience it, but that's easy to say in hindsight when you're not in agony. But I very nearly had the same story as you.
I was waiting for the story Abby😊 the baby has such great parents! I hope you and your family have a blessed day😊
This is the most TMI but the pain feels like you are going to have the biggest bowel movement of your life but it’s so painful to do it. That fullness pain
Did it hurt when the doctor reached inside to push the baby’s head down? Or did you not feel it? Did you feel then stitching you up as well or no?
I was at a generally high level of pain, so I don't think I felt it more than anything else! As for the stitching, I felt it a little bit but not that much :)
I had 4 kids (within 5 years 🥴) the first 3 only iv pain meds and vaginal births. The last one I was so petrified of the pain that I got an epidural. It only worked on half my body too. I loved having a mirror on the 4th one! I love stories!!
That’s funny that you had the first 3 without an epidural. I did the same thing 🤣 I had IV meds w my first and those made me crazy. I felt like I was out of my mind. Babies 2-5 completely unmediated and even a few of those were induced with pitocin. Baby 6, bonus baby for us at age 39. I remember looking at my dr and saying, I’ve done this 5 times, I never planned to do it again, I don’t want to do it again, I want lay back and sleep and you hand me my beautiful baby 🤣 needless to say, I got an epidural for the first time and it was amazing and I enjoyed delivering my last little bundle of joy.
@@disneyjenn1671 yes! That was 4 for us. Not planned so I didn’t want to do it. I was already in so much pain only at a 4 that I asked for the epidural. Baby had his arm above his head almost the whole labor so they had to lay be back to get him out of position 5 hours later he was ready. I couldn’t imagine going the whole labor with him like that.
Because of this video, I didn't do any perineal massages and was able to achieve my low intervention labor with no tearing at all. It might work for some people, but I really don't think it's necessary! Thanks for sharing. Your 3 cm pain sounded like my 7 cm pain without any pain meds!! That's intense
Oh wow... mine is similar in a few ways.
Got 511 contractions 2 days before due date. Too painful for sleep or napping. But then they got less organized... I was 0 dialated, barely thinning and in a lot of pain already. 2 days and a lot of pain later, finally 3cm and thinned. I was exhausted at that point, accepted pitocin... it got crazy painful veeery fast, got an epidural at 4cm. The bliss... then it took a turn for the worse. Her heartbeat dropped with every contraction, my water was meconious and my cervix began swelling. Emergency c section...
It was overall a positive experience because of the staff and I got my baby girl. You look at your baby it's like staring at the sun. But the energy is love...
But damn, a c section was one of my great fears and I still beat myself up about it. I keep wondering if this would have ended differently if I hadn't taken pitocin... and then the epidural... would she be better off? Would i be better off? Would it prolong the inevitable or cost us our lives? Did I even give birth?
(Ty for an explanation on why you were in so much pain... fairly sure I was because of this too)
Yay I was waiting for this! I’m trying to get pregnant with my husband currently and videos like this are SO helpful 💜
This was insightful and lovely. Glad you are doing well! Thank you!
Bruh let HER talk…
FRRR He kept trying to take over explaining HER pain and experience and over describing details everyone already knows; I would get so irritated with this guy
Naw he's a really attentive wonderful husband. He was there and it was his experience too. She did majority of the taking. They vibed off one another to tell the story together. They each added their own little ingredient.
Your husband looks tired lol! God bless your family
Aw dude, the epidural was so worth it just because it put me to sleep for like an hour and I had not slept in a month.
I don't think I'd ever seen a birth story video before but I loved listening to you guys!
Funny enough, that phrase your husband mentioned was the same one my mother always says she repeated herself during labor 😊
I also loved how he said *we* when describing your videos and classic lifestyle, I think this is the first video I've watched with your husband on it, you guys are so cuuutee!!! 💙
Congratulations to you both, new healthy babies are such a blessing. It sounds like you went into the labor and birth well prepared but with an open mind as to how things may go. I think that’s so important because you never can fully plan how these things will go. Each of my labor and deliveries were so very different sometimes it’s shocking how many things can happen. I’m glad you’ve been taking time to enjoy your new little one. My youngest (of 6) is 41/2 years old now and I still long for the newborn sometimes 😊 they are just so precious.
Bless you Abby!! You had a heck of a hard time!! You are incredible!! ❤️
God Bless your family.
congratulations to you both! Thank you for sharing your story! ❤️ btw the occasional baby noises in the background 😆 so cute!
I went through the same kind of experience for my second child ,, baby was in occipitoposterior or sunny side up and the pain was excruciating and epidural does not work…kudos to you
So happy for you guys! Ive always wanted sons.
Okay... But are you going to tell us where you got that tea cup?!
Just so other women are aware it can feel like you’re peeing it depends my water broke differently each time. First time it burst. You definitely know you’re in labor and one another time I just kept having to pee I kept going to the bathroom like every 10 minutes. I called my doctor and asked him and he said get to the hospital, your water broke. I was like oh I didn’t know that, so that can happen.
Oh I wish you a very goth child.
I was never afraid of needles until I had a bad spinal tap at age 14. After that, there was no way anyone was sticking a needle in my spine ever again. I had five kids with no epidural.
Love hearing your story! I do badly wanted a natural birth, ended up with a traumatic emergency c section at 28 weeks 😫
Omg so sorry
You two are just awesome! Congrats 🙌🏽❤️❤️
Congratulations! 🥳🎉happy birthday baby boy❣️
Your husband seems so sweet and kind and caring for you. You are truly blessed!
Congratulations Abby and you are a warrior woman!
I'm both terrified of birth and excited (due in January) I really want to try unmedicated, but I definitely won't prevent the epidural if I need it!
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Love his sweater! 🇺🇸
Congrats y’all.
congrats
My birth experience didn’t go as planned as well. I went in to be induced, so already past the due date. I arrived at the hospital at only 3cm I wasn’t really feeling contractions. I was put on pitocin, upped the pitocin but still did not dialate enough, nor did my water break. They broke my water for me and due to being on high units of pitocin, contractions were incredibly intense, but I still not was not dilating!! I then decided to bite the bullet and get the epidural, still waited, waited, waited, after 24 hours only dilated 6cm. At this point, I was 41 weeks and 2 days so baby needed to come out. So I went with a c section. Parts of me feels illegitimate for not having a vaginal delivery, but the more I connect with my baby, the more I can reassure myself that nothing about my experience was unnatural. Just had to go step by step along the way. The staff was assuming that baby was just not in the right position to continue moving down the womb in order for me to push her out, and at the point, we were very time sensitive.
With my first two births I had an epidural, with my last two I didn't. With my third (no epidural), my doc had to reach inside and turn the head of my baby. So painful! I cannot imagine having torn during that!! Bring torn is incredibly painful, I can't imagine starting labor with them! My first newborn was my hardest, but worth it:)
If we decide to have more, I definitely think I'll go the epidural route again.
Congratulations
@Abi Thomason Not to my knowledge.
@Abi Thomason I did have a great-grandfather named Ben. So when people ask me if I'm "related to Ben Shapiro", I say "yes, he's my great-grandfather".
Did you say you had internal tearing from perineal massage?
Love you guys!
Lol! I have to ask, is your dad one of those people who doesn’t like to use the word “impact” unless we’re talking about a physical IMPACT? Because me too. My high school English teacher was always on a high hill about it and it rubbed off.
God bless your family
I also pushed for 2.5 hours (and was throwing up throughout), so I can empathize!
Wow so many similarities to my babies birth! I also wanted a natural birth, however I was totally open to intervention if i needed it and unfortunately I developed preeclampsia and had to be induced and opted for the epidural as well! It’s funny your husband brought up that Tolstoy quote because I kept telling myself “moment of pain for a lifetime of glory” quoting Louis Zamperini!
I'm glad it all worked out, even if it didn't all go as according to plan. The tearing sounds awful; I'm sorry you8 had to go through that.
I can't have children, but I had an epidural after I had surgery to correct my leg alignment. I was 16, and I insisted my surgeon operate on both legs at the same time. My femurs were turned in and my tibias were turned out. On my right leg, he had to also realign my fibula, so I had 5 surgical fractures, 4 plates, 23 screws, and 2 long-leg casts. But I thank God someone figured out the method of epidural because it helped so much. Unfortunately, when they tried turning it off, they forgot to keep up on my oral pain meds, and I went without any pain relief for 14 hours. I woke up screaming in pain, and my poor nurse had to scramble to find an on-call doctor to sign off on turning it back on. I don't think I could have been happier when it was turned back on and finally kicked back in.
I was going to have natural but no at 4 in the morning my son emblical chord was wrapped around his shoulders . So emergency c section.
You’re a very sweet couple BH!!
Your husband seems like such a great, genuine guy.
This is really good information. I myself I am not currently pregnant but my preference birth plan is unmediated water birth and I know myself when it comes to pain I really want it to push it for as long as I can but in pretty sure I would need an epidural but also that guilt lingering over you that you didn’t go thru with it but as you said it will help you and baby in the process so getting one doesnt sound as bad as I thought and thank you for the info on the perineal massage because I too have read on the “wonders” that massage does now im a little iffy on that but overall this was a very good detailed video 💖
If I hadn’t have had an epidural, I would have had to go under anesthesia after, to get the pieces of the placenta that were left inside.
Still want to do natural home births, though!
Lil bro has great parents 😄
We need a response video from the spider.
I pushed for 3 hours on pitocin no epidural cus my daughter had her hand up to her head¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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Are there actually people who care about any of this?
Sounds like someone ought to Sue about this perineal massage stuff…. That is the definition of harmful. What a terrible thing to do to someone. But congrats on your baby!
My husband and I did it, no problem. Sounds like they were too rough.
I have 2 children under the age of 4. I never once wanted a natural birth. I wanted the epidural for the first one before even getting to the hospital lol, and the second was a schedule csection so I had a spinal, which was glorious. I am curious what makes it so that some women want to go thru the natural birth and some dont. The pain is absolutely excruciating. I'm not sure why someone would want to deal with that when there are medical options available to alleviate the pain. I wouldnt have a surgery without some type of anesthesia. Childbirth isn't much different. This is one area where it's not worth being a martyr.
Did I miss the baby’s name? Mazel Tov to you 💙💙💙
You two are so beautiful
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I would take 5 years of new born if I could skip terrible twos, yeah? That’s where I am currently and it’s…naw.
Definitely were massaging way too hard!
Ya know if you were going to have a clASSicLy feminine birth, traditionally you would have had to give birth with no pain relief like a real woman.
I feel bad for this kid
Epidural = Heroin
Congratulations