Seems like a guy answer. It's not always about "resolving a problem", because often problems don't really get resolved. Arguing is showing your partner that you are present in the relationship and that the relationship is secure through conflict.
I like how the interviewer was trying to put his words into Jocko's mouth in the beginning, but Jocko disagreed and immediately took Control over the conversation. He just did "tell me you have been an army leader without saying you were the one"
"i'm not looking to win an argument, i'm looking to resolve a problem." Sure, but if your wife is the problem, constantly bottling up all things she do that you dislike, leads to divorce and contempt. Love Jocko, and what he does obviously works for him and his wife (this far), but communication is key between couples. If its not had, one side resents the other because they never get to address what bothers them. I also don't believe for one second that Jocko doesn't tell his wife what he dislikes, I do believe that she doesn't do much of the stuff he dislikes anymore because they've been together for 22 years, so she knows him better than anyone at this point, so naturally he doesn't recollect things they argue on anymore. But there's no way a guy like Jocko Willink is going to be completely docile to the point where he constantly sits on things his wife does that he dislikes. As said above, its probably the case where they don't really do much of what the other disliked because they've worked on it for 22 years through communication.
Marriage is beyond entertainment, it’s a finance and social tie that you are building to someone you enjoy. The secret is to tolerate the defects of your loved one and enjoy the moments you have together the best you can… bad days may come, do not give up on your oath and I hope you can make what makes you both attractive to each other forever. This goes beyond the both of you and expands into the merge of families. Best,
The problem with military guys like a lot of business leaders and professionals is they are made to lead and tell people what to do. That shit doesn't work in the home.
It does if the government isn't gynocentric. Which is why every gynocentric soyciety stops existing after a generation. Females who don't do what they are told are not worthy of food.
"I don't bother expressing disappointments in my relationship, because when I do I would have to make a case for why I'm bothered by something and if I do so successfully my partner will make my life hell." That's depressing as f***.
Theres a lot of salt in this comment section. Marriage really isnt that hard if you find a level headed woman. And you yourself are capable and worthy of her trust.
i want kids i dont care as much about the women as long as shes healthy smart and can provide 1/2 for the kids. shell get ugly and ill peak when im 40 and get a step mommy.
Nobody cares about us, and anti-marriage Feminist propaganda is the order of the day. They actually don't want you to marry, and if you do, they want your marriage to be unsuccesful.
It has to be more than navy seals. What about the submarine nuclear engineering officer? That dude is a dork and he's on a ship for 6 months a year. But the money is probably really good, and the wife might actually like that he sends the checks and is out of sight. She's in stealth mode
Sounds like he just wanted to be difficult/contrarian with the interviewer. Because trying to “resolve the problem” will require “expressing yourself” as the interviewer put it. But macho man wants to say “no I don’t do it that way, I do it this way”, like a child 😂. Same shit. Let the interviewer get to the main point that he was going to ask. That wasn’t even going to be his main question.
Stupid advice. He should get back into the water because this kind of thinking will sink any marriage and get you a 100% divorce rate. Women are not about resolution first, a problem can't be resolved without the emotional part. Soldiers are trained to detach emotions and reason. There is only the mission and orders given to complete the mission. Nothing more, nothing less.
@@andrebaxter4023 No, he didn't provide any context. Highly emotional people don't care about any of that. 1. The emotional part, then anything else. That's how you de-escalate.
Not like a real man to fear communicating with his wife. She should be doing the backstroke when you lovingly stand your ground. If an honest quiet discussion is going to get you cut off from her care (love, sex, food, clean house and clothes) then she has the high ground in an unhealthy way. You're being dishonest with her and yourself and she knows it.
We lived in a military town in 2005-2019. My neighbor was SF, never saw him, his kids were always over with mine and vice versa. One day oldest neighbor boy shared that his mom had divorce papers on table upon dad’s return. This was in 2008. Imagine how psychologically demolished that guy had to be. I will editorialize two things: women must learn to be submissive to their husbands(Biblical command) and divorce must be illegal.
A man's sacrifice is to void himself of emotion to handle the difficult situations in life and become a protector, whether he is hyper emotional or not. He does not let himself get emotional in times of stress, he is stoic, he is strong, he is rooted, he is prepared. A woman's sacrifice is to eventually stop intervening when her child is in need of support, comfort and nurture, and allow her children to fight their own battles and heal, somewhat, on their own, without her support. That's my belief anyway.
I knew guys in the British Army who by 24 had been married, divorced and then married to another woman.
@@johnmitchell2269 that's actually interesting but doing that by 24 is crazy
some of the greatest advice about relationships you could hear: "i'm not looking to win an argument, i'm looking to resolve a problem."
@@johnbaczewski5336 exactly most people just want say I'm right you're wrong they're not looking to resolve the problem
Seems like a guy answer. It's not always about "resolving a problem", because often problems don't really get resolved. Arguing is showing your partner that you are present in the relationship and that the relationship is secure through conflict.
@@m.bird. The problem is the woman not being quiet
Just common sense, really
@@m.bird., nah. Arguments never make anything better in a relationship.
If your wife actually care about resolving the problem and not enjoying an argument, you got yourself a rare one.
Key Word: De-escalating
I like how the interviewer was trying to put his words into Jocko's mouth in the beginning, but Jocko disagreed and immediately took Control over the conversation. He just did "tell me you have been an army leader without saying you were the one"
yes thats acutually true props to you man
When will these guys learn?!?!…..wait till you get out to get married. There’s plenty of time young men
@@babyseals4872 true 👍
He knows, when mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.
"i'm not looking to win an argument, i'm looking to resolve a problem."
Sure, but if your wife is the problem, constantly bottling up all things she do that you dislike, leads to divorce and contempt. Love Jocko, and what he does obviously works for him and his wife (this far), but communication is key between couples. If its not had, one side resents the other because they never get to address what bothers them. I also don't believe for one second that Jocko doesn't tell his wife what he dislikes, I do believe that she doesn't do much of the stuff he dislikes anymore because they've been together for 22 years, so she knows him better than anyone at this point, so naturally he doesn't recollect things they argue on anymore. But there's no way a guy like Jocko Willink is going to be completely docile to the point where he constantly sits on things his wife does that he dislikes.
As said above, its probably the case where they don't really do much of what the other disliked because they've worked on it for 22 years through communication.
Marriage is beyond entertainment, it’s a finance and social tie that you are building to someone you enjoy. The secret is to tolerate the defects of your loved one and enjoy the moments you have together the best you can… bad days may come, do not give up on your oath and I hope you can make what makes you both attractive to each other forever.
This goes beyond the both of you and expands into the merge of families.
Best,
The problem with military guys like a lot of business leaders and professionals is they are made to lead and tell people what to do. That shit doesn't work in the home.
😂😂😂
@@andrewcombe8907 very realistic take 😂😂😂
Tell me you you don’t know who jocko is without telling me you don’t know who jocko is lol
Same with people in maintenance or manufacturing. Basically careers where you deal with your superiors poor decisions in a time crunch scenario.
It does if the government isn't gynocentric. Which is why every gynocentric soyciety stops existing after a generation. Females who don't do what they are told are not worthy of food.
That is the saddest thing to hear:(
@@CAM-wk3dj not really it's just how it is
"I don't bother expressing disappointments in my relationship, because when I do I would have to make a case for why I'm bothered by something and if I do so successfully my partner will make my life hell." That's depressing as f***.
Hear hear, people marry to resolve a problem 😅
Best advice
Suffer win battle. This is how he communicates with wife.
😂😂😂 Cmon it’s kinda funny. It’s odd to think one of the most masculine jobs of all time has high divorce rates.
Women don't care, they just want 9-5 and a better house than her friends.
Theres a lot of salt in this comment section. Marriage really isnt that hard if you find a level headed woman. And you yourself are capable and worthy of her trust.
😂 Why is nobody finding one?
A level headed woman? Is that like Bigfoot or the Loch Ness Monster? Please, tell me more about this mythological creature
@@randomrandom3985 probably not capable or worthy I guess
@@k-3402 unicorn*
Jody took real good care of Mrs Willink's needs when Jocko was playing soldier
If you're a young guy in your 20s, you can push marriage and family down the line, till you finish your tours.
And the still want us to get married and make families
i want kids i dont care as much about the women as long as shes healthy smart and can provide 1/2 for the kids. shell get ugly and ill peak when im 40 and get a step mommy.
@@oh_knee7173well damn
bro "they" want you to get married? normal people want to lol
Nobody cares about us, and anti-marriage Feminist propaganda is the order of the day. They actually don't want you to marry, and if you do, they want your marriage to be unsuccesful.
No they don't. They legit have that saying "if they wanted you to have families they'd have issued you one" and so on.
It has to be more than navy seals. What about the submarine nuclear engineering officer? That dude is a dork and he's on a ship for 6 months a year. But the money is probably really good, and the wife might actually like that he sends the checks and is out of sight. She's in stealth mode
if this guy doesn´t even win arguments with his wife....why am i even trying lol
Live in shit barracks or marry the first thing to give you attention and move into a reasonably sized home... Its a broad military problem as well.
That is why they come to Asia
Appeasement?
What did they say 6.5 out of 1000 men only trying to marry.. i love the internet it makes it REAL EASY to see whats NOT worth it
No its not life is much happier and freer without marriage by far.
Sounds like he just wanted to be difficult/contrarian with the interviewer. Because trying to “resolve the problem” will require “expressing yourself” as the interviewer put it. But macho man wants to say “no I don’t do it that way, I do it this way”, like a child 😂. Same shit. Let the interviewer get to the main point that he was going to ask. That wasn’t even going to be his main question.
Stupid advice. He should get back into the water because this kind of thinking will sink any marriage and get you a 100% divorce rate. Women are not about resolution first, a problem can't be resolved without the emotional part. Soldiers are trained to detach emotions and reason. There is only the mission and orders given to complete the mission. Nothing more, nothing less.
Context is key. He could be resolving the problem by acknowledging his wife’s feelings whilst de-escalating.
@@andrebaxter4023 No, he didn't provide any context. Highly emotional people don't care about any of that. 1. The emotional part, then anything else. That's how you de-escalate.
Not like a real man to fear communicating with his wife. She should be doing the backstroke when you lovingly stand your ground. If an honest quiet discussion is going to get you cut off from her care (love, sex, food, clean house and clothes) then she has the high ground in an unhealthy way. You're being dishonest with her and yourself and she knows it.
Basically jacko is owned by his wife
Aren't your deployments only 2-3 months? Lol
@@TheDrunkHamster yeah your wife won't be happy you come home every 3 months
Just marry with army woman😂
@@MahendraS-mm6hj 😂😂😂😂
Hey, do you want to right or happy, trust me. I have been married for 35 yrs. I am happy, she is always correct. So do not be stupid.
We lived in a military town in 2005-2019. My neighbor was SF, never saw him, his kids were always over with mine and vice versa. One day oldest neighbor boy shared that his mom had divorce papers on table upon dad’s return. This was in 2008. Imagine how psychologically demolished that guy had to be. I will editorialize two things: women must learn to be submissive to their husbands(Biblical command) and divorce must be illegal.
How about women stop getting married to men?
women does not have a concept of sacrifice
@@ValentineDonato unfortunately yes many of them don't
most of them have it but with their children not you as a man
A man's sacrifice is to void himself of emotion to handle the difficult situations in life and become a protector, whether he is hyper emotional or not. He does not let himself get emotional in times of stress, he is stoic, he is strong, he is rooted, he is prepared.
A woman's sacrifice is to eventually stop intervening when her child is in need of support, comfort and nurture, and allow her children to fight their own battles and heal, somewhat, on their own, without her support.
That's my belief anyway.
@@axjkhl7699 then why are they worse at raising children?
Yes they do with their children but not with their husband
When u r out for months on duty the girl with 10 plus body count will be taken .. sad modern times