One thing I've consistently noticed is that emotionally intelligent people inspire and motivate others, often leading by example. They are also driven by intrinsic goals and have a strong sense of purpose.
Makes complete sense. Intrinsic goals will forever be much more motivating than extrinsic rewards towards creating the structures that you need for the life that you want. And that is inspiring! Thank you for sharing, it gives me a lot to think about.
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I once taught an EQ class to thousands of people for a major international bank and what I learned was it's certainly teachable but cognitive empathy is a weapon for the people who need to "learn it". Its not an idea its a way of living, thinking and Interacting with Oneself!! The rest of the world observes that interaction as your personality, demeanor and temperament.
Good. I don't want the guy working on my heart to empathize with me. I want him focused on fixing the damn thing. If he's a little phycopathic that's all the better.
@@myself2noone I get your logic but unfortunately that’s not the case, when doctors see you as flesh/money not as human beings that’s when malpractice and negligence is at its highest. The best surgeons and doctors are highly competent at their work, but also respect that you’re still a human being even when you’re unconscious.
I once worked for a guy who was wild, foul-mouthed, and who had what today we would call extremely high emotional intelligence. Our customers loved him. The employees loved him. He saved my life and taught me to be the best person I could be, and I will forever be grateful to him.
@@shrugalborkar5308delivery, people become addicted to how hillarious can foul mouthed be. Nd its mostly not to belittle someone but how stupid of a situation person is in nd baggage people carry. Example: Fuck u man for not caring about urself, kudos.
@@julianalcantar8776ooo I’ll look into it, even though the story he said was short, I also want to be like the bus driver, super inspiring and motivating to remain empathetic and positive despite the negativity surrounding you ☺️
I work with these things as an swedish after-school-activity-center teacher ("Fritidshem", which is a part of the swedish educational system). In my teachers degree, this and informal learning was my major, when the other teachers where studing math or language or whatever. Our form of education is not manditory for the kids to attend, but the aaabsolute majority of our kids also stay for this too.
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Emotionally intelligent people tend to be active rather than reactive. They think before they speak. They think before they act. They learn to identify when they are not in a productive frame of mind, and they tend to avoid making big, life-changing decisions when their head "isn't in the right place."
I have not seen a correlation between who is "emotionally intelligent" and who is successful. I know more successful jerks than successful nice people. And I have several decades of experience in both large and small organizations across government, academia and private industry. After reading a couple of Goleman’s books I was always hoping someone could explain to me why my reality is so different.
One way to think of it: organizations play different games. If the game is dodgeball, that's going to reward different people than an organization that plays poker or darts, or one that bobsleds. The games they play, for enduring organizations, may fit their clients, investors, and workers. For example, Boeing seems to have started with games like bobsledding and darts, working together and trying to engineer the highest quality products for discerning clients. But a merger with a problematic firm changed the most rewarding games to dodgeball and poker, attacking others' strengths and hiding weaknesses to win despite underinvestment. Of course, players can get confused about what game they're playing. It seems, Boeing employees were playing poker with regulators and clients, trying to win permits and contracts despite consistently weak hands. Regulators, clients, and investors, however, thought Boeing was still quality oriented, and thought they were bobsledding together, so they didn't scrutinize Boeing enough. Unfortunately, that has led to a long series of tragic accidents for the public. You might think, "well, those Boeing people must completely lack emotional intelligence, what a bunch of successful jerks." While there seem to be a fair number of them in upper management, there've also been whistleblowers and loyal engineers trying to improve operations from the inside. Some in management might also be compartmental enough to treat workers well while deceiving regulators, investors, and clients. Sadly, emotional intelligence could help them do that well. Like lots of skills, emotional intelligence can also advantage manipulative behavior. With that perspective, you might think, "my jobs sucked, they just rewarded jerks." Or, "was that nice person I knew really nice, had ulterior motives, our interests happened to align, or just liked working with me?" Maybe all of those were true. It's possible to be acting strategically and genuinely treat others well for the sake of others or on principle. People can be complex. But if your workplaces seemed to lack nice people, it doesn't sound like they were good places for you to work, not because there's anything lacking about you, but because they didn't find making those workplaces feel better worth the investment.
Agree. The issue which is missed is group selection. If you follow his precepts and you’re surrounded by people who are receptive (and not deceptive) then it works. Unfortunately society is enduring massive malware via multiculturalism and Diversity. Corporations are actively creating friction thinking they are morally justified to enforce a mix of people. We are designed to be with people similar to us - not different. It’s a bitter pill to swallow.
Thats true. Your IQ may qualify you for the job but your EQ will get you to the door. Always be kind and you'll never know how far it can go. I got interviewed for a job bec of a referral from a old collegue. I know deep in my heart that I wouldnt be even get that chance of an interview if I wasnt being referred bec of too many candidates. I believed that if you are always kind and diligent at your work, even though you dont ask it, people will happily refer you or still want to work with you in the future ❤
Well said sir! This was introduced into our very large corporate environment 15 years ago. Was transformative for our management team and hence company. And I agree completely… It absolutely should be part of the education system. Starting with young children and even in College. The result would be, as you stated, better relationships, leading to a better world.
Notes: EQ- Self aware Manage emotions Empathy Self aware Know your emotions Self management :~ Can you manage big emotions to do what you have to right now Social awareness:~ Practice empathy Relationship management:~ Trust Communication Conflict management Poor listening:~ Cutting ppl off- 1) listen 2) say what i think they mean 3)say what I think Practice good listening and you will get better Positive leader increase productivity
It's like, there were three of us, whom were talented artists, in my High School. But, when I went to college at The School of Visual Arts; every student was wildly talented. Big fish in a big pond.
I agree but, as an artist myself I took other artists as inspiration! I get ideas from art work from other artists..in my mind it's not a competition.....
@@abdulrahmanraheem423I agree with you. The op shouldn't treat art as a competition. Art is subjective man, although you may be surrounded by other talented artists, it doesn't mean you are not talented and you should def learn from them rather than compete with them
I am not cut out to be a lawyer, but I am in the course that leads to that profession currently due to an awkward turn of events. I realise now, how much controlling our emotions is necessary to even do the most basic things in this field and how much I had been lacking in it. This video made me re-evaluate the way I have been taking situations, people's words or life and work in general. Listening to an old man and not some background voice reading off of a script gave me assurance and I sort of felt positive after listening to the bus driver story. I would make EQ a subject that I would look into aside from my hobbies and work from now on. Thanks again.
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Heres the thing about EI, know the saying "turn your tongue seven times before you speak" , thing is, emotional reactions are usually instantaneous. I dont think humans really think about or have full control over emotions. People who don't "blow up" and people who are genuinly kind have high EQ. Also, you can't/shouldn't internalize everything because it's unhealthy. So the people who know how to express themselves clearly/properly are also high EQ people.
Emotional intelligence should be taught in school but it mainly comes from the parenting. Learning how to be empathetic is one thing but applying it to your everyday life and changing the way you think and brain structure w neuroplascity to become a better person i think is possible. I had issues w how i treated people and emotional issues in college and that wasnt the person i wanted to be. I became more self aware of my actions and who i wanted to be until it became who i am now. I am a very nice person now, and i dont think about it now. Its just who i am. I think with time we can become the people we want to be. But teaching your kids how to have manners and treating people with respect is where it starts! If more people cared about eachother we would be more enlightened as a species and this place would be a much better world
Amazing information ! I completed my MA in SEL (social emotional learning) did my thesis on empathy! If you can regulate and understand your own emotions you can support others!
At my last company, the boss stressed people out and pushed everyone too hard. He did have some emotional intelligence, and I found him likeable, but he was bad as a boss. I was burned out. I left the company, as have several others since. It was a real pity.
Compassion in place of empathy perhaps. Empathy does give up some of your agency over you emotions. Compassion provides the listening and understanding needed.
Apart from the four types of awareness there are two one more from my experience, namely: situational awareness and contextual awareness. When all these 6 types work together like cogs wheels within an individual, the intelligence is created that is then fully in harmony with what is within the best interest of all individuals who are part of every situational dynamic. Without these aspects working together in harmony, emotional intelligence could be present, but not in a creative-generative way. A wholly heart-centered way. Emotional intelligence is invaluable and needs to be considered very very deeply.
When you work with someone who is trying to use some of these stategies and you can see that it is not natural for them, they come across as inauthentic, and that reduces them in my view.
Ouch, if I read this correctly. Trying to learn how to raise your EQ is a struggle for some. Practicing these strategies feels uncomfortable, but is necessary for our personal growth. It can definitely come across as false. I hope I’m wrong, but are you saying you look down on those trying to improve? Or just that inauthenticity makes you uncomfortable?
One key strategy is self-awareness, where they recognize and understand their own emotions, leading to better control and less impulsivity. They practice mindfulness, which allows them to stay present and maintain calmness in stressful situations.
Very informative, thank you Daniel Goleman. On Emotional intelligence ; self awareness, self management, social awareness, and relationship management. Yes! We love a leader who listens, is empathic and has an even or balanced temperament.
Emotional intelligence is the key not only to personal development but also to building quality relationships! Self-awareness is the first step to understanding oneself. Empathy helps us connect with others on a deeper level. Emotional self-control and adaptability are essential in a rapidly changing environment.
Ive read EQ 2.0. I scored an 86 on my first guaging test. Ive been teaching this in my youtube spaces to other male content creators. I need a version of this to help us men who are extremely rough around the edges, grew up in the hood, abusive upbringings, military, etc...
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If high emotional intelligence makes you more empathetic and sympathetic towards others wouldn't that hinder your ability to be successful in a society where making as much money as possible is the measure of success? They keep showing people in business settings and relationships but I would imagine someone with high emotional intelligence to be like a Buddhist monk or something.
Bingo. Apathy is more valued for the bottom line in my opinion. You care about your employees, but ultimately turning a profit will always come first. Unfortunate setting in which we live.
The leaders in the Marine Corps had extremely low EQ, but I had always thought it was intentional to make sure nobody re-enlists. That way there will always be few leaders and a lot of troops.
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Emotional intelligence is a human ability and will always remain so. Legendary quote. We need to be in control of artificial intelligence 24 seven. We should be able to power off any artificial intelligence on demand if it threatens humanity or our free will.
Its likely that AI will be a more reliable emotional companion after it makes it past current limitations. Also, animals have EQ as well. Orca have a more sophisticated emotional awareness than humans. Dogs are used as emotional support professionally.
@@meditateforawareness I don't see how you've come to that conclusion about something called artificial intelligence and the progression of quantum computation when both of those technologies are in their infancy, but sure.
@@dps8629 Fool!! AI or quantum computation have no capacity for emotional intelligence or a soul, and will most likely never. Unless humans become cyborgs lol. QC and EI are 2 different dimensions. At this point AI is not at an infant stage. what rock are u stuck under? Maybe Q.C is. But still how tf can u assume AI or QC can generate E. I. smh
I think people often mistake the inability to control one’s emotions with low emotional intelligence, but the former can be triggered by lots of stuff unrelated to EQ (bad/traumatic past experiences, stressful times, certain physical conditions etc.). Maybe a high EQ can help coping with lots of issues but it’s not like it gives you everything you need to deal with tough emotions. Though, lots of jerks could indeed benefit from some extra EQ points, haha. What also seems somewhat disregarded is that a functional EQ and good social interactions often are about what NOT to pay attention to. Sensitive people can be exceedingly in tough with other people’s energy and therefore lose the ability to be their best selves. ‘Registering too much’ is bad too.
Raise your EQ My life : my husband left me to marry another woman and take everything i had when i need someone i can trust and happy with in my lower What a life.
It's a wonderful experience for me because. After watching this video I am really happy because I tried many time to understand how to overcome the EQ problem in my life. However still I am facing the EQ problem some situation i don't know what was happening i couldn't control my self in certain time. But after watching this video it's give lot of new information like how to overcome the issue and how gradually improve our self etc.
I loved this video, it helps to get the message out that it really is quite important to have a good amount of emotional intelligence especially as a leader! I've been in many classrooms where if my teacher seems very unorganized & with zero visible thrill to teach I find myself zoning out and not performing as well as I could be.
If you really zoom out this is all just common sense. It’s really not that complex. They are repackaging common sense and the golden rule into an academic answer.
Big think always lays out issues that really are where we should aim to live to make a better healthier world. They are science based and good natured. I hope society takes serious this in particular. Teaching Emtional and valuing Emtional intelligence.
Okay a sexy question, Jordan Peterson says EQ doesn’t necessarily exist because it’s a term coined by a journalist back in the early 80s I think. It’s not something that can be evaluated or measured. It’s almost like saying “I’m healed mentally” but what really does that mean???? Ain’t we all a bit crazy?!😭💀idk do I make sense?
What kind of argument is that? Things exist, even if you can't measure them by number. And words only exist because humans do. It doesn't matter who named "emotional intelligence" - it could have been a farmer, for all i care. And health is on a spectrum, no one is either totally healthy or totally sick.
I was led to believe that people who have high psychopathic traits are the ones who do best in business, politics, with narcissists a close second though doing better in the arts such as film and pop music..
Couldn't agree more that better societal EQ would make a better world! Writing a book on why it's so important after being depressed for 20+ years with the emotional intelligence of a watermelon until more recently.
Unfortunately not all the bosses have these kinda of qualities, sometimes i feel some employees have more higher emotional intelligence than the bosses .
I appreciate this explanation very much! I’ve tried to learn about the concept of EQ in the past but was put off by the material I found-much of it seemed very theoretical, dry, unapproachable.
All these concepts works well only when we focus our energies on how best we can do our job what ever may be. But many wants to know these so called secrets is to make money and to become powerful. Thats where its purpose is lost
How interesting to persue this subject. Its everywhere! But to dive deeper and deeper into the heart of how empathy is born. Wow! I believe it is an innate characteristic in humans. We were created to be pleasing to one another. To care for and uplift one another. Ultimately, to live one another.😉👍♥️
This is excellent, just 1 thing. Kids need to be kids, so let them be. Teach this to older kids, like 8th grade and on, that's when they really need it. Thanks, Doc
One thing I've consistently noticed is that emotionally intelligent people inspire and motivate others, often leading by example. They are also driven by intrinsic goals and have a strong sense of purpose.
Totally agree. They are people you would want to be around.
Makes complete sense. Intrinsic goals will forever be much more motivating than extrinsic rewards towards creating the structures that you need for the life that you want. And that is inspiring! Thank you for sharing, it gives me a lot to think about.
…and those without do the exact opposite
This is the dumbest thing in the world. Being Emotional Intelligent is not a thing. You are talking ab out someone that loves their job
@@user-nc9pc3gr4c bro did not watch the video
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I once taught an EQ class to thousands of people for a major international bank and what I learned was it's certainly teachable but cognitive empathy is a weapon for the people who need to "learn it". Its not an idea its a way of living, thinking and Interacting with Oneself!! The rest of the world observes that interaction as your personality, demeanor and temperament.
Empathy is a weapon? How so?
@@lkae4 because they learn to manipulate the world. Think wolf in sheeps clothes.
@@lkae4wolf in sheeps clothing 👻
@@lkae4fake empathy is a weapon.
@@Alritealritealrite Thank you. How do we determine when empathy is fake or real?
I’m in medical school and I’m shocked at how little EQ a lot of doctors have… the worst are surgeons lol
I couldn't agree more.
Good. I don't want the guy working on my heart to empathize with me. I want him focused on fixing the damn thing. If he's a little phycopathic that's all the better.
@@myself2noone I agree. Can you imagine a deeply empathic surgeon crying cause you're very very sick lol. No one wants that
@@myself2noone I get your logic but unfortunately that’s not the case, when doctors see you as flesh/money not as human beings that’s when malpractice and negligence is at its highest.
The best surgeons and doctors are highly competent at their work, but also respect that you’re still a human being even when you’re unconscious.
My god , 100% agree
I once worked for a guy who was wild, foul-mouthed, and who had what today we would call extremely high emotional intelligence. Our customers loved him. The employees loved him. He saved my life and taught me to be the best person I could be, and I will forever be grateful to him.
Wait how was he high on eq if he was wild and foul-mouthed?
@@shrugalborkar5308delivery, people become addicted to how hillarious can foul mouthed be. Nd its mostly not to belittle someone but how stupid of a situation person is in nd baggage people carry.
Example: Fuck u man for not caring about urself, kudos.
@@shrugalborkar5308I guess they’re trying to say that despite the guy being foul-mouthed he would score high on EI.
ahhh.. a special forces guy on- leave trying to make some extras
why he's called high emotional intelligence when he was wild and foul-mouthed?
Learning about the bus driver was inspiring.
There is a book out there called The Energy Bus! I definitely recommend it.. it’s an easy read too
..well he is not just an ordinary bus driver but an ev-@ngel one
He also mentioned about this incident in his book “Emotional intelligence “
What a gem, he knew what the world needed. Heartwarming ❤
@@julianalcantar8776ooo I’ll look into it, even though the story he said was short, I also want to be like the bus driver, super inspiring and motivating to remain empathetic and positive despite the negativity surrounding you ☺️
HOW TO IMPROVE OUR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE should be mandatory in early education
True. Unfortunately governments don’t want us to be very intelligent so we’re manipulated much easier.
Great idea! Maybe life would give a few less hard knocks.
The educational system never teaches practical and necessary life skills.
@@thewb8329 Well, not during these dark times. :-P
I work with these things as an swedish after-school-activity-center teacher ("Fritidshem", which is a part of the swedish educational system). In my teachers degree, this and informal learning was my major, when the other teachers where studing math or language or whatever.
Our form of education is not manditory for the kids to attend, but the aaabsolute majority of our kids also stay for this too.
the bus driver story made me cry, that was the kindest thing ever
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Emotionally intelligent people tend to be active rather than reactive.
They think before they speak. They think before they act.
They learn to identify when they are not in a productive frame of mind, and they tend to avoid making big, life-changing decisions when their head "isn't in the right place."
I have not seen a correlation between who is "emotionally intelligent" and who is successful. I know more successful jerks than successful nice people. And I have several decades of experience in both large and small organizations across government, academia and private industry. After reading a couple of Goleman’s books I was always hoping someone could explain to me why my reality is so different.
Because you’re right lol.
One way to think of it: organizations play different games. If the game is dodgeball, that's going to reward different people than an organization that plays poker or darts, or one that bobsleds. The games they play, for enduring organizations, may fit their clients, investors, and workers. For example, Boeing seems to have started with games like bobsledding and darts, working together and trying to engineer the highest quality products for discerning clients. But a merger with a problematic firm changed the most rewarding games to dodgeball and poker, attacking others' strengths and hiding weaknesses to win despite underinvestment.
Of course, players can get confused about what game they're playing. It seems, Boeing employees were playing poker with regulators and clients, trying to win permits and contracts despite consistently weak hands. Regulators, clients, and investors, however, thought Boeing was still quality oriented, and thought they were bobsledding together, so they didn't scrutinize Boeing enough. Unfortunately, that has led to a long series of tragic accidents for the public.
You might think, "well, those Boeing people must completely lack emotional intelligence, what a bunch of successful jerks." While there seem to be a fair number of them in upper management, there've also been whistleblowers and loyal engineers trying to improve operations from the inside. Some in management might also be compartmental enough to treat workers well while deceiving regulators, investors, and clients. Sadly, emotional intelligence could help them do that well. Like lots of skills, emotional intelligence can also advantage manipulative behavior.
With that perspective, you might think, "my jobs sucked, they just rewarded jerks." Or, "was that nice person I knew really nice, had ulterior motives, our interests happened to align, or just liked working with me?" Maybe all of those were true. It's possible to be acting strategically and genuinely treat others well for the sake of others or on principle. People can be complex. But if your workplaces seemed to lack nice people, it doesn't sound like they were good places for you to work, not because there's anything lacking about you, but because they didn't find making those workplaces feel better worth the investment.
There isn't a correlation between intelligence and success either.
Agree. The issue which is missed is group selection. If you follow his precepts and you’re surrounded by people who are receptive (and not deceptive) then it works. Unfortunately society is enduring massive malware via multiculturalism and Diversity. Corporations are actively creating friction thinking they are morally justified to enforce a mix of people. We are designed to be with people similar to us - not different. It’s a bitter pill to swallow.
Agreed.
Perhaps he should have used the word “liked” or the phrase “who build successful relationships”.
Thats true. Your IQ may qualify you for the job but your EQ will get you to the door. Always be kind and you'll never know how far it can go. I got interviewed for a job bec of a referral from a old collegue. I know deep in my heart that I wouldnt be even get that chance of an interview if I wasnt being referred bec of too many candidates. I believed that if you are always kind and diligent at your work, even though you dont ask it, people will happily refer you or still want to work with you in the future ❤
A sign of a true leader is caring ❤
Well said sir! This was introduced into our very large corporate environment 15 years ago. Was transformative for our management team and hence company. And I agree completely… It absolutely should be part of the education system. Starting with young children and even in College. The result would be, as you stated, better relationships, leading to a better world.
You are one of those idiots that were brainwashed by your corporations? ugh, people are so easily brainwashed
Notes:
EQ-
Self aware
Manage emotions
Empathy
Self aware
Know your emotions
Self management :~
Can you manage big emotions to do what you have to right now
Social awareness:~
Practice empathy
Relationship management:~
Trust
Communication
Conflict management
Poor listening:~
Cutting ppl off- 1) listen 2) say what i think they mean 3)say what I think
Practice good listening and you will get better
Positive leader increase productivity
You do realize how brainwashed you sound? You are the 15th person to have the same exact post.
The bus driver story is quite deep! Wow! Thank you for sharing.
It's like, there were three of us, whom were talented artists, in my High School. But, when I went to college at The School of Visual Arts; every student was wildly talented. Big fish in a big pond.
I agree but, as an artist myself I took other artists as inspiration! I get ideas from art work from other artists..in my mind it's not a competition.....
@@abdulrahmanraheem423 Never said I didn't.
Gotta be with the best to become your best.
@@abdulrahmanraheem423I agree with you. The op shouldn't treat art as a competition. Art is subjective man, although you may be surrounded by other talented artists, it doesn't mean you are not talented and you should def learn from them rather than compete with them
How well did you do in grammar and composition?
The bus driver story reminded me of a book I once read, The Energy Bus.. I definitely recommend for anyone looking for a quick and uplifting read.
I am not cut out to be a lawyer, but I am in the course that leads to that profession currently due to an awkward turn of events. I realise now, how much controlling our emotions is necessary to even do the most basic things in this field and how much I had been lacking in it. This video made me re-evaluate the way I have been taking situations, people's words or life and work in general. Listening to an old man and not some background voice reading off of a script gave me assurance and I sort of felt positive after listening to the bus driver story. I would make EQ a subject that I would look into aside from my hobbies and work from now on. Thanks again.
For some reason I started crying when he talked about the bus driver. ❤️🔥🙏🏻❤️🔥👁️❤️🔥
Me too!!! Bawled my eyes out 😢
we are so starved for kindness and warmth from another, that if we meet one we burst in tears
You failed the EI test. This is common among women.
@@adamrobert7578 do not confuse emotional immaturity , being emotionally dead with EI
yes like finally we got him telling the story here in youtube not just in the book
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Heres the thing about EI, know the saying "turn your tongue seven times before you speak" , thing is, emotional reactions are usually instantaneous. I dont think humans really think about or have full control over emotions. People who don't "blow up" and people who are genuinly kind have high EQ. Also, you can't/shouldn't internalize everything because it's unhealthy. So the people who know how to express themselves clearly/properly are also high EQ people.
Talking about emotional intelligence is a joy for me
it's so much to learn when you grew up in a household with no emotional intelligence
I'm painfully aware that my emotional intelligence has been low my entire life. I know it's held me back.
I enjoyed this. Really great and informative video.
Whenever I meet people like the bus driver, I always give my best energy back to them ! They make my day ? I make their day !🙂
Emotional intelligence should be taught in school but it mainly comes from the parenting. Learning how to be empathetic is one thing but applying it to your everyday life and changing the way you think and brain structure w neuroplascity to become a better person i think is possible. I had issues w how i treated people and emotional issues in college and that wasnt the person i wanted to be. I became more self aware of my actions and who i wanted to be until it became who i am now. I am a very nice person now, and i dont think about it now. Its just who i am. I think with time we can become the people we want to be. But teaching your kids how to have manners and treating people with respect is where it starts!
If more people cared about eachother we would be more enlightened as a species and this place would be a much better world
about 50 people said the same exact Communist Mao re-education brainwashing statement that you just said.
Amazing information ! I completed my MA in SEL (social emotional learning) did my thesis on empathy! If you can regulate and understand your own emotions you can support others!
Thanks for the video, great explanation of the set up.
At my last company, the boss stressed people out and pushed everyone too hard. He did have some emotional intelligence, and I found him likeable, but he was bad as a boss. I was burned out. I left the company, as have several others since.
It was a real pity.
Also called being kind and understanding, versus being an asshole.
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It is good to be an asshole, especially in this brainwashing video
Compassion in place of empathy perhaps. Empathy does give up some of your agency over you emotions. Compassion provides the listening and understanding needed.
Videos like this are exactly why I follow this channel
From writing his EI theories as answers in exams, to watching him so recently feels like next to Highway of Paradise.
Apart from the four types of awareness there are two one more from my experience, namely: situational awareness and contextual awareness. When all these 6 types work together like cogs wheels within an individual, the intelligence is created that is then fully in harmony with what is within the best interest of all individuals who are part of every situational dynamic. Without these aspects working together in harmony, emotional intelligence could be present, but not in a creative-generative way. A wholly heart-centered way. Emotional intelligence is invaluable and needs to be considered very very deeply.
When you work with someone who is trying to use some of these stategies and you can see that it is not natural for them, they come across as inauthentic, and that reduces them in my view.
Ouch, if I read this correctly. Trying to learn how to raise your EQ is a struggle for some. Practicing these strategies feels uncomfortable, but is necessary for our personal growth. It can definitely come across as false.
I hope I’m wrong, but are you saying you look down on those trying to improve? Or just that inauthenticity makes you uncomfortable?
@@hollyandstelladoodle8748 The latter.
started to confuse
Every new venture is unnatural until its natural.
If you were to learn something new, would you like to hear what you just said?
One key strategy is self-awareness, where they recognize and understand their own emotions, leading to better control and less impulsivity. They practice mindfulness, which allows them to stay present and maintain calmness in stressful situations.
If there was no background music added to, it might be better.
Very informative, thank you Daniel Goleman. On Emotional intelligence ; self awareness, self management, social awareness, and relationship management. Yes! We love a leader who listens, is empathic and has an even or balanced temperament.
Accountability/ Responsibility Intelligence should be a thing too.
I loved coming to the realization that I'd already been in the middle of reading his book prior to watching this video, that tickled me js a bit
Emotional intelligence is the key not only to personal development but also to building quality relationships!
Self-awareness is the first step to understanding oneself.
Empathy helps us connect with others on a deeper level.
Emotional self-control and adaptability are essential in a rapidly changing environment.
This helped me self evaluate. I am at the better side of EQ but still need to learn some things. Thank you for the video.
I think it is emotional intelligent to watch this video.
🤣 I had someone in mind to send this to and thought, "But they won't even watch it."
@@victoriarobbertze3828 because they don't get brainwashed as easily as you?
Ive read EQ 2.0. I scored an 86 on my first guaging test. Ive been teaching this in my youtube spaces to other male content creators. I need a version of this to help us men who are extremely rough around the edges, grew up in the hood, abusive upbringings, military, etc...
Kudos to you mate ! All the best for your goal !
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Thanks Daniel. I am particularly touched by the story of the bus driver, very inspiring.
love the way the professor explain in the video
If high emotional intelligence makes you more empathetic and sympathetic towards others wouldn't that hinder your ability to be successful in a society where making as much money as possible is the measure of success? They keep showing people in business settings and relationships but I would imagine someone with high emotional intelligence to be like a Buddhist monk or something.
Bingo. Apathy is more valued for the bottom line in my opinion. You care about your employees, but ultimately turning a profit will always come first. Unfortunate setting in which we live.
EQ may not lead to material success but surely it is the easiest recipe to happiness.
The leaders in the Marine Corps had extremely low EQ, but I had always thought it was intentional to make sure nobody re-enlists. That way there will always be few leaders and a lot of troops.
Discovering Hidden Time Wealth has been one of the best things I've done for my productivity. It feels like I’ve finally cracked the code to overcoming procrastination.
I’ve found having a lot of money it an effective way to bypass the need for emotional intelligence
You explain things with so much precision!
Thank u जी। Learnt a lot fromyou. I lll journal it. Dr David Goleman. 😊😊👌💐👍Great EQ Points. 4 Domains. Very Much Beautiful😊❤❤राधे राधे कृष्ण जी।
This is big happiness for me seeing you in here. Expect will get you here again.
Emotional intelligence is a human ability and will always remain so. Legendary quote. We need to be in control of artificial intelligence 24 seven. We should be able to power off any artificial intelligence on demand if it threatens humanity or our free will.
Its likely that AI will be a more reliable emotional companion after it makes it past current limitations. Also, animals have EQ as well. Orca have a more sophisticated emotional awareness than humans. Dogs are used as emotional support professionally.
@@dps8629 animals are obviously. AI isn’t
@@meditateforawareness I don't see how you've come to that conclusion about something called artificial intelligence and the progression of quantum computation when both of those technologies are in their infancy, but sure.
@@dps8629 Fool!! AI or quantum computation have no capacity for emotional intelligence or a soul, and will most likely never. Unless humans become cyborgs lol. QC and EI are 2 different dimensions. At this point AI is not at an infant stage. what rock are u stuck under? Maybe Q.C is. But still how tf can u assume AI or QC can generate E. I. smh
@@dps8629 AI can pretend to be EI. but they will not have EI lol
This guy is great, I imagined a very intense guy for some reason...compassion seeps through every sentence,
I think people often mistake the inability to control one’s emotions with low emotional intelligence, but the former can be triggered by lots of stuff unrelated to EQ (bad/traumatic past experiences, stressful times, certain physical conditions etc.). Maybe a high EQ can help coping with lots of issues but it’s not like it gives you everything you need to deal with tough emotions. Though, lots of jerks could indeed benefit from some extra EQ points, haha.
What also seems somewhat disregarded is that a functional EQ and good social interactions often are about what NOT to pay attention to. Sensitive people can be exceedingly in tough with other people’s energy and therefore lose the ability to be their best selves. ‘Registering too much’ is bad too.
You can do all those cool things but don't expect other people to be so considerate towards you
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Raise your EQ
My life : my husband left me to marry another woman and take everything i had when i need someone i can trust and happy with in my lower
What a life.
It's a wonderful experience for me because. After watching this video I am really happy because I tried many time to understand how to overcome the EQ problem in my life. However still I am facing the EQ problem some situation i don't know what was happening i couldn't control my self in certain time. But after watching this video it's give lot of new information like how to overcome the issue and how gradually improve our self etc.
I loved this video, it helps to get the message out that it really is quite important to have a good amount of emotional intelligence especially as a leader! I've been in many classrooms where if my teacher seems very unorganized & with zero visible thrill to teach I find myself zoning out and not performing as well as I could be.
i loved his book on emotional intelligence
.. thats whats its like to change a habit will stay with me for years
Thanks, gonnadevelop my emotional intelligence starting today
If you really zoom out this is all just common sense. It’s really not that complex. They are repackaging common sense and the golden rule into an academic answer.
Big think always lays out issues that really are where we should aim to live to make a better healthier world. They are science based and good natured. I hope society takes serious this in particular. Teaching Emtional and valuing Emtional intelligence.
Okay a sexy question, Jordan Peterson says EQ doesn’t necessarily exist because it’s a term coined by a journalist back in the early 80s I think. It’s not something that can be evaluated or measured. It’s almost like saying “I’m healed mentally” but what really does that mean???? Ain’t we all a bit crazy?!😭💀idk do I make sense?
What kind of argument is that? Things exist, even if you can't measure them by number. And words only exist because humans do. It doesn't matter who named "emotional intelligence" - it could have been a farmer, for all i care. And health is on a spectrum, no one is either totally healthy or totally sick.
very well said sir!👏 people should know how to balance IQ and EQ to achieve success, especially those high demanding companies.
I was led to believe that people who have high psychopathic traits are the ones who do best in business, politics, with narcissists a close second though doing better in the arts such as film and pop music..
Couldn't agree more that better societal EQ would make a better world! Writing a book on why it's so important after being depressed for 20+ years with the emotional intelligence of a watermelon until more recently.
This is so interesting i was meant to come across this.
Emotions run our lives so we should learn about them
This is interesting to watch as a raised Buddhist.
I agree that empathy will make a better world
Unfortunately not all the bosses have these kinda of qualities, sometimes i feel some employees have more higher emotional intelligence than the bosses .
what an amazing video, this should be compulsory watching for all organisations with KPI.
I agree. More EQ would make a better world, no doubt.
Anyone else here obsessed with Hidden Time Wealth? It's like discovering a secret formula for beating procrastination!
Thanks for sharing . Make a better world together
I appreciate this explanation very much! I’ve tried to learn about the concept of EQ in the past but was put off by the material I found-much of it seemed very theoretical, dry, unapproachable.
All these concepts works well only when we focus our energies on how best we can do our job what ever may be. But many wants to know these so called secrets is to make money and to become powerful. Thats where its purpose is lost
We need this more than EVER right now in our world.
ps. Daniel, maybe the Times could use a guy like you again.
Love the Govan Brown story!
How interesting to persue this subject. Its everywhere! But to dive deeper and deeper into the heart of how empathy is born. Wow! I believe it is an innate characteristic in humans. We were created to be pleasing to one another. To care for and uplift one another. Ultimately, to live one another.😉👍♥️
Glad to find out this one on UA-cam .
One of my favourite topics !
Thank you so much😊this video is amazing 😊
Thanks for having taught me a good framework to define and understand emotionnal intelligence !
Beautiful story about the bus driver .. made my day ❤
What a lovely human being ❤
This is excellent, just 1 thing. Kids need to be kids, so let them be. Teach this to older kids, like 8th grade and on, that's when they really need it. Thanks, Doc
God blessed the world with Govan Brown. Thank you
3:41 thought the Nobodies were attacking 😅
Beautiful 💚 hope the world and its people turn into a new leaf. 🙏🏽