"Stop Marrying For Love, Your Relationships Should Be Transactional" - Wisdom For Women From a Man.

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  • @emeraldanthony5623
    @emeraldanthony5623 24 дні тому +158

    Every marriage is different and unique. The only manual to all marriages is the word of God.

    • @mercyoni4804
      @mercyoni4804 21 день тому +8

      I agree with you 100%! There is no one answer fits it all! God bless you!

    • @LyndaA2024
      @LyndaA2024 20 днів тому +3

      💯

    • @seunbakare485
      @seunbakare485 19 днів тому +2

      💯

    • @immanuelzenith8640
      @immanuelzenith8640 10 днів тому +1

      💯

    • @Annie-em6qe
      @Annie-em6qe 2 дні тому

      Yes but he is saying you should do your homework before jumping into the institution hook, line and sinker because there are repercussions. This is required of the children of God to be good stewards.

  • @rarashideout
    @rarashideout Місяць тому +328

    1. "You must achieve some level of financial independence as a woman." I agree with this as you will be more valued, your family will be more valued, and as that the man won't treat you anyhow as he respects you and holds you in high regard.
    2. Don't marry someone who you love as a woman." No I don't agree. In as much as eros love can blind, it is should not be overlooked. Why can't we have it all?. The filos, eros and agape love. The only thing is as a woman know how to control your emotions and know what you want in a man. If possible write your questions down and keep adding more. If you meet any man, you ask your questions and if they are not convincing enough, you let them go. If you accept them, you don't suddenly become blind. As you are in a relationship, go back to your questions and ask yourself if their actions correspond to the answers they gave that allowed you to accept them. Cos some people know the best answers to give but are not really like their answers. So in a relationship you love step by step. Even emotionally. You have to be in control of your emotions, such that if they have not proven themselves to you one step at a time, as a woman, you do not wholeheartedly "fall" for them. But you do have to love them and they must love you as well. So you have to ask yourself questions as well. Like, "do I love this person?, does this person actually love me?" And the love includes the filos, eros and agape love. In fact, the eros and filos love is easily seen and experienced especially when you are attracted to them. But the Agape love, many do not know, let alone show it. That is where kindness, caring, patience, not selfish, not eaily angered, not boastful etc comes in. So yes you need the eros and filos love, the Agape love may not be there initially but your partner should be working on building Agape love as well in the relationship. At the point of marriage, the three love should be present for and in both parties.
    3. "Relationships should be transactional" I don't agree with this. If Relationships are transactional, it means there is no love. There are people that can do everything for you yet you still cannot love them. You can't enter marriage with someone you don't love. Yes, have some values you need to see in your partner but also be in love with them. Marriage is not business venture. What if you get married and you now find someone you love outside marriage, who also has all the transactional benefits you found in your partner? Cos there will always be someone better than your partner. Or what if you marry transactionally and the person loses alllllll the transactional benefits they had and are finding it difficult to bounce back, what happens to the marriage?
    4. "What am I getting out of this." In the same context of transactional marriage this is a wrong method. If means there is possibly no love and by that I mean Agape love. Cos love is not selfish. This statement is a selfish statement. You dont enter marriage to get, you enter to give and if everyone understands this, then it means we keep pouring into each other, and no one gets empty.
    Like I said in point 2, Agape love is the most difficult love to give and receive but it can be worked on by the Holy Spirit and it must be present before marriage. PTI mentioned Agape love, but his statement doesn’t show Agape love. Agape love is not transactional. Agape love is not selfish. He kept contracdicting himself. If you say marriage is transactional but you cannot marry for children? 😂😂😂.
    5. "Reinvent yourself and be the best version of yourself and always upskill" I agree with that 100%
    6. Always bring value, but there is always someone more valuable than you. Your partner must not marry you just cos of what they can get from you alone. If you lose all will they still choose you? Don't forget Job lost allllllll he had, and what did his wife tell him?
    7. "Teach your children to not only live for marriage" I agree with this. However this also comes from the curse God placed on Eve and womanhood that "our desire will be for our husband". So all some women desire is marriage. However if we are able to notice this we can consciously extend our desire to other things. Cos for men, their desire is solely their work. Marriage is an afterthought for most men. Men and women are not the same. So it's important to understand this and consciously work out our weaknesses.
    I am glad He mentioned it is mothers that train children. As a father who is the head, you are head in everything including training of your children. It is not a woman's work alone. Yes Winnie, people still have that old mindset and making the kind of men we have today.
    8. "Build The Bridge Before You Cross it." I agree, but this is not just in value but love as well. Don't just look for value and marry someone you don't love. You may not love the person initially but that bridge should be built before marriage.
    Though I don't agree with some of your point, thank you for your wisdom PTI and thanks Winnie for bringing him.

    • @deesbookedlife
      @deesbookedlife Місяць тому +8

      Thank you so much! I shared the exact same sentiments as you!

    • @chimafavouronyekachi1104
      @chimafavouronyekachi1104 Місяць тому +2

      Thank you very much

    • @ngwanaJeso
      @ngwanaJeso Місяць тому +2

      I love this. Thanks rara❤

    • @melissasorel5064
      @melissasorel5064 Місяць тому +9

      You are right. What they want to do with marriage in this generation is some else. As if marriage started in this generation. What then so much divorce? With all this " mindset"?

    • @marycynthiaofficialtv
      @marycynthiaofficialtv Місяць тому +11

      You're well grounded my sister. God bless your good sense

  • @Ositaukamakaemmanuel
    @Ositaukamakaemmanuel 26 днів тому +44

    About not marrying who you dated in the university, i think it's about marrying who is willing to grow and adjust to the dynamics of life, am married to my course mate and we have been happily married for 7 years now and what has helped us is that we have kept growing to gether .

    • @blessingonyechoba3472
      @blessingonyechoba3472 22 дні тому +6

      That's why I always say ...filter what you listen to. There no dynamics to this marriage thing.

    • @rarashideout
      @rarashideout 19 днів тому +8

      Exactly, you can't just make such a conclusion. People change no matter how or where you met them.

  • @lystra_vic3032
    @lystra_vic3032 10 днів тому +3

    Watching this and I'm so proud of myself. Especially when he said there must be money somewhere. Inside book, anywhere money must be somewhere.

  • @Amaka.Oluchi
    @Amaka.Oluchi 20 днів тому +12

    In all i believe in searching for a Partner ,it should be done prayerfully and most importantly dont ignore the leading/guidance of the HolySpirit in this area.
    And be willing to be in the effort required when necessary.

  • @ZendelAtkinson
    @ZendelAtkinson 29 днів тому +240

    Relationships often face challenges regardless, but there’s always a way to move forward. My marriage had its share of significant problems, but with the right help, my wife and I managed to resolve them and strengthen our relationship. Solutions are available if you’re willing to put in the effort and collaborate. Keep hope alive-answers are possible.

    • @BruceKnapp-n4q
      @BruceKnapp-n4q 29 днів тому +2

      I’m struggling with serious issues in my relationship and can’t bear the thought of losing her. My love and desire to have her back in my life are immense. I’m willing to do whatever it takes and would be very grateful for any guidance or suggestions.

    • @ZendelAtkinson
      @ZendelAtkinson 29 днів тому

      Saying farewell to someone you love dearly is never easy, but in my case, I had the assistance of a spiritual counselor who saved my marriage from falling apart. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

    • @BruceKnapp-n4q
      @BruceKnapp-n4q 29 днів тому +1

      I'll immediately search for her online. I appreciate it. I'm hopeful that adopting this strategy will also bring about positive changes for me; I miss her deeply.

    • @ZendelAtkinson
      @ZendelAtkinson 29 днів тому +1

      I promise you will not regret it

  • @Geeleo2282
    @Geeleo2282 26 днів тому +20

    First and foremost God is love and love is written all throughout the Bible. It also states to love deeply! Go to God and pray for Him to give you wisdom to make the right decision in any relationship or marriage! It is okay to marry the person that gives you butterflies in your stomach as long as you also use your brain to determine the both of you have meeting of the mind. Stop listening to everyone else’s opinions. This may cause you to miss out on blessing. What works for one will not work for all! Lean not on your own understanding. Pray and he will lead down the right path. I pray that everyone finds love and happiness.

  • @LIGHTEDHEALTH
    @LIGHTEDHEALTH Місяць тому +115

    Never lose your financial independence 👌 😊

    • @zainabinti5170
      @zainabinti5170 28 днів тому +7

      Nowadays men come for those financial independent women. They also want soft life.😂😂😅

    • @lilianakeya9868
      @lilianakeya9868 22 дні тому

      ​@@zainabinti5170True 😂😂😂

    • @thelmaamanda2287
      @thelmaamanda2287 14 днів тому +1

      You spoke well

    • @LIGHTEDHEALTH
      @LIGHTEDHEALTH 14 днів тому

      @thelmaamanda2287 thank you

  • @Mercyohmsmillinery
    @Mercyohmsmillinery 4 дні тому +3

    I want to add this , men are providers ,as a woman don't take up the responsible of providing every thing needed in the home else you won't like the outcome at the long run

  • @mollypeters4408
    @mollypeters4408 Місяць тому +17

    Am glad am hearing this before marrying ❤❤with all this wisdom if I make a wrong choice partner I will blame myself. Thanks alot my role model Winnie, love you so much

  • @christianausoro4593
    @christianausoro4593 Місяць тому +18

    If you're listening to this more than 3times please gather here.
    Winnie God bless you for bringing this Sir P T I here today, have really learn alotttttttttt

  • @derahnghargbu-nitte1112
    @derahnghargbu-nitte1112 26 днів тому +3

    This man won my heart with his content. Goodness he has so much value to dish out. Winnie please ask him if he is interested in remarrying, I might give it a try. I am a divorced mother of two, working and very responsible

  • @CarrenNhavira
    @CarrenNhavira 22 дні тому +11

    How crazy😂! Today l was just having a conversation with myself and l was telling myself that l will never marry a person because they give me butterflies but l will marry someone who deserves me and then later on l came across this video.Thank you PTI ,it's very helpful

    • @splendid9529
      @splendid9529 18 днів тому +2

      The butterfly is the advert/sign post directing you to the product/company, but u have to unemotionally examine the product quality and value

  • @PrudencePraiseEsinna
    @PrudencePraiseEsinna Місяць тому +97

    Who else saw the resemblance of him to Peter Obi ???

  • @oladayosaka
    @oladayosaka 4 дні тому +1

    This man is deep and only deep thinker will understand all he had said. All is points are not for feeble minded. When you have been married for long, you will definitely understand almost everything he said.
    Wow! PTI, I give it to you.

  • @unyimeakpan3692
    @unyimeakpan3692 Місяць тому +5

    Never loose your financial independence, perpetually up-skill, love who you marry, everything has consequences(teach your Children). Thank you so much Sir P.T.I. and Winnie for this beautiful piece. May God Almighty bless and reward you greatly, amen.

    • @bamijokomalik
      @bamijokomalik День тому

      You captured all the points so concisely. Well done 👍

  • @hannahj7855
    @hannahj7855 17 днів тому +1

    Winnie I’m so happy you mentioned described love using the scriptures. Love is deep according to the bible. It’s not just a feeling.
    People should stop downplaying the word “love” God is love✌️

  • @maryikani
    @maryikani Місяць тому +3

    PTI is full with so much wisdom. His statements are unconventional but they make alot of sense when received with an open mind. Alot of tables were shaken but I learned alot. Thanks Winnie for inviting PTI, thanks PTI for dishing out your wisdom to us for free .❤

  • @BridgetChikafa
    @BridgetChikafa Місяць тому +16

    Hey my winnie just the intro that man is right 😂😂😂😂like he is on point thank you for bringing him he is a blessing to our elegant family

  • @peacendukwe
    @peacendukwe 29 днів тому +46

    I would marry a man I love I just won't be blind ahhhhh.

    • @Purelydee
      @Purelydee 20 днів тому +1

      KING SOLOMON MARRIED THE WOMEN HE LOVED AND ENDED UP FOLLOWING THEM TO WORSHIP THEIR gods. Kindly read 1 Kings Chapter 11.

    • @philomina272
      @philomina272 20 днів тому +2

      Marry someone who genuinely loves you. Not you

    • @peacendukwe
      @peacendukwe 20 днів тому +9

      @@philomina272 I would marry someone who genuinely loves me and I genuinely love him too we must love each other.

    • @philomina272
      @philomina272 20 днів тому

      @@peacendukwe aaaaayyooo

    • @sylviakelechi7698
      @sylviakelechi7698 19 днів тому +4

      Marry with this mentality and come back and let us know after 5years.
      When an elder talk listen
      You think all you will do in marriage is loving up and down, don’t worry until you are faced with reality of life
      Better marry for genuine reasons
      Love is not enough to keep a marriage

  • @faithasaya
    @faithasaya Місяць тому +8

    Dear sisters, listen keenly to these words of counsel.

  • @kataraelaine8739
    @kataraelaine8739 17 днів тому +5

    I don’t agree with everything. And that’s okay. You can choose to listen and take what you want from it. But make sure you be true to your needs, standards and desires. Everybody’s outlook and needs are different in life! You can find love and value in the same place. Just be patient and continue doing the self work!

  • @ChiomaaaT
    @ChiomaaaT Місяць тому +3

    Glad that the love is a construct / love is not real statements were clarified. Love is real and awesome when it’s not misconstrued.

  • @jenniferesther8675
    @jenniferesther8675 Місяць тому +3

    These points are on fire 🔥
    Glad to know I’m on track hearing this from a man of knowledge.
    Thank you so much Sir PTI
    we love you

  • @asiegbugrace6727
    @asiegbugrace6727 15 днів тому +1

    Even without listening through. The caption is correct. LOVE does not guarantee marital success. Women especially should really know what they want before getting married. They need to be intentional when choosing a marriage partner.

  • @efejukujohn251
    @efejukujohn251 9 днів тому +2

    Guy you can marry anyone you want and it would work,you can follow everything they said here and still fall into a wrong marriage,a man that’s insecure about your financial independence at first doesn’t mean he can’t change later,marriage is all a leap of FAITH,anyone can change !!! That’s why it takes two to marry,and it takes 3 for the marriage to last forever (God) stay blessed guys and discern on what is right

  • @oyekunleoyeyinka7470
    @oyekunleoyeyinka7470 17 днів тому

    Thanks for inviting him. He is wonderful. I enjoyed the section. He is right about d red flags and d part of guys saying when we get there we would cross the bridge. Let's build the bridge now and understand d concept of crossing it. Thanks so much sir!

  • @abidataderinkola5045
    @abidataderinkola5045 Місяць тому +2

    A round of applause for this man🥰 superb...

  • @onyinyesspace9085
    @onyinyesspace9085 Місяць тому +1

    Winnie, thank you so much. For someone who has made some mistakes, I almost cried watching this. This man broke down things in a way a 5-year-old would understand. It's not enough to say "be intentional," he told us HOW to be intentional. We need to have him back, please. Thank you, Sir PTI. Thank you, Winnie.

  • @labake1679
    @labake1679 29 днів тому +6

    Marriage is a work in progress o, a sitting down together and laying down goals does not necessarily mean what is said will eventually stay that way. Ups and down rollercoaster. But in all, each build yourself and build each other with agape love. Be generous in all ways to each other and be forgiving. You must have Christ as am individual which will carry one far. He or she who has Christ has all things.

  • @IsikakuJoy
    @IsikakuJoy 29 днів тому +2

    Thank you Sir for pouring out your wisdom and thank you Winnie for inviting him

  • @jesutofunmiadebumowa3610
    @jesutofunmiadebumowa3610 29 днів тому +3

    Thank you so much Winnie for this. As a first born daughter, this is so essential 😮. Congratulations on getting to 500k🎉🎉🎉

  • @adebiyihannah1980
    @adebiyihannah1980 28 днів тому +1

    This topic so very important. People see love in different perspectives.or rather say people don't understand love

  • @HeartDiary
    @HeartDiary 22 дні тому +1

    You’re absolutely right, and your point about financial independence is so important. It’s not about trying to “prove” independence or rejecting support from a partner; it’s about having the skills and resources to support yourself if needed.
    Financial independence empowers women to make choices, contribute meaningfully, and feel secure, which ultimately benefits everyone in a relationship.
    A lot of people do misunderstand this concept, thinking it’s about accumulating wealth before marriage or striving for some unattainable financial status. But financial independence really means being financially capable and aware, knowing how to budget, manage expenses, and make the most of whatever income you have. It’s about being prepared for life’s uncertainties and being able to contribute, support, and grow.
    Encouraging financial literacy and independence is key for all women, regardless of their relationship status. It’s about empowerment, stability, and confidence, knowing that no matter what, you’re equipped to handle your own finances.

  • @EstherSulle-z2o
    @EstherSulle-z2o 5 днів тому

    Thank you Uncle P.T.I and Sis Winny for a good message . i hope this message will bring positive impacts in our lives may the Lord God help us to put into practice this message .May the Almighty bless you aboundantly.

  • @Thetalekeeperstories
    @Thetalekeeperstories Місяць тому +2

    Yes, we want him back.
    Thank you so much PTI.

  • @JosephAbu-e5y
    @JosephAbu-e5y День тому

    ❤ Amazing depth of wisdom, pls bring him back more .Tnk u Sir and Zee, you are the best

  • @nobleanurika9730
    @nobleanurika9730 20 днів тому +1

    I’m glad I watched this video. I must say it was more than insightful. Thank you Winnie for all you do for us. Sending you lots of hugs and flowers💐🌹🫂

  • @jirosigbenu2964
    @jirosigbenu2964 28 днів тому +2

    He's definitely a highly esteemed in LW nation ❤

  • @junicnamome4639
    @junicnamome4639 Місяць тому +77

    Some one to like my comment 😂if love was real why did someone die when they broke his or her heart😂😂 thanks for hosting

    • @ukemeebong-y8w
      @ukemeebong-y8w 29 днів тому +1

      Very powerful advice u have said it all thank you Sir.

    • @naikiadexa1123
      @naikiadexa1123 День тому

      Some people lose their minds when heartbroken and never heal. So yes, love gives life or could kill.

  • @ogebestogebest6021
    @ogebestogebest6021 Місяць тому +52

    Thank you Sir, i always tell my younger friends to marry a Man that loves you not the Man you love.

    • @florenceeyabi6168
      @florenceeyabi6168 Місяць тому +15

      You cannot please society . Most advice is based on people's experiences . If a man hears that he is being married for money and not love. They will still complain.
      There are very good relationship with people who love each other. They too will come up and say " marry your friend" .

    • @faiththikazi154
      @faiththikazi154 Місяць тому +8

      I think love should be both ways.

    • @themalawiandiner180
      @themalawiandiner180 Місяць тому +10

      Marry a man you love and who loves you back, love can be mutual. Marrying a man you don't love is toxic advice. No human wants people pretending to like them, because of monetary etc benefits.

    • @florenceeyabi6168
      @florenceeyabi6168 29 днів тому +2

      @themalawiandiner180 I tell u. This is crazy.

    • @adebiyihannah1980
      @adebiyihannah1980 28 днів тому +3

      This topic so very important. People see love in different perspectives.or rather say people don't understand love

  • @NdeVictory
    @NdeVictory Місяць тому +1

    I want him to pour me more wisdom 😭😭😭😭
    Thanks PTI for the excess knowledge and thanks Winnie for bringing him

  • @believersamuel6942
    @believersamuel6942 16 днів тому

    Wow!!! winnie those points are mind blowing and eye openers to a better life indeed. PTI is indeed a man of wisdom, I see a whole lot of sense in all what he said, thank you very much Sir. Aunt Winnie we would really love to have him back on stage, he's worth listening to all day. With such wisdom and guidance, I'm certain the erroneous mind set some of us youths have will greatly be corrected so that we have a wholistic life reflecting in all areas of life and not just in marriage. I love this.

  • @melodyomozokpia8183
    @melodyomozokpia8183 6 днів тому

    I love you Sir!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So good to see you hear... highly esteemed Sir!

  • @gloryetukafia64
    @gloryetukafia64 20 днів тому

    I'm so blessed by this outing, God bless you too.

  • @SeidMariam-m4r
    @SeidMariam-m4r Місяць тому +12

    I don't believe in love at first sight (does it exist?)
    I believe we grow in love with time. So I am not dating a man I love but want to love.

    • @adebiyihannah1980
      @adebiyihannah1980 28 днів тому +3

      Wow wisdom... If a lady loves a man more it's a problem u get too worried and hurt

    • @queenthelmakosi3472
      @queenthelmakosi3472 21 день тому

      Uve typed it.. as a lady, let ur man’s love be more than that of urs. E get why o! 😆
      Nothing bits a man that love u more than u love him…. He will do anything for u… but if the lady loves more na she go carry the family for head like suka.

  • @evelyneniola2901
    @evelyneniola2901 27 днів тому

    Wao!! Good to see my Pastor again. Thanks Winnie for bringing him on the couch.

  • @MercyGyamfuaOkomeng
    @MercyGyamfuaOkomeng 23 дні тому +1

    Wow.. it makes sense.. God bless you Winnie ❤️😘

  • @liveeverydaylikeitsyourlas984
    @liveeverydaylikeitsyourlas984 Місяць тому +2

    That was powerful,once you are bringing Value,you will stay relevant.

  • @pemphomwale9374
    @pemphomwale9374 17 днів тому

    Winnie you're an angel for choosing to share this. Thank you.

  • @chiderapromise4605
    @chiderapromise4605 8 днів тому

    Thank God I came across this video in my early 20s💜💜. Thank you so much Winnie for always sharing value.❤

  • @AnnaKayode
    @AnnaKayode 29 днів тому

    Some of the best relationships advice ever. I totally agree with everything said 💯 percent. Wish I knew this way earlier. I'll save to keep watching later and pass these wisdom on to my daughters.

  • @a1_beats345
    @a1_beats345 Місяць тому +1

    A wealth of wisdom from PTI, thank you Sir. God bless you Winnie for this episode.

  • @busayo8514
    @busayo8514 24 дні тому +2

    walk into love with your eyes opened.

  • @ukumewinifreduwem6090
    @ukumewinifreduwem6090 29 днів тому +1

    The truth is bitter. His words hurt but they are real

  • @chefritakitchen5298
    @chefritakitchen5298 Місяць тому +2

    Thank you so much sir, my eyes are wildly open now, I'm really blessed to hear wisdom from you ❤.

  • @DrRAJAkinola
    @DrRAJAkinola Місяць тому +19

    Winnie! God bless PTI... You see these things are also scriptural clarity o but many twisted it... I promised myself that my kids boy & girl will know how to wash car, change tyre, cook, wash....as human survival....but in marriage now know the reason God gave you the physical strength as a man, so you can take over from your woman even though she can do it.... I grew up watching boys and I still don't know what's special about the male that's not special about the female.... Just know your strength... Be a strong feminine lady.. not just one stereotyped feminine lady.... i love this❤❤❤❤... Thank you always

    • @winniesschoolofelegance
      @winniesschoolofelegance  Місяць тому +1

      @@DrRAJAkinola God bless PTI indeed! And thank you for all you shared too with your comment.❤️❤️❤️

    • @DrRAJAkinola
      @DrRAJAkinola 27 днів тому

      @winniesschoolofelegance 🙏🙏🥰🥰🥰

  • @bellojoy2186
    @bellojoy2186 28 днів тому

    PTI, thank you so much for sharing your wealth of wisdom with us. Winnie, thank you for bringing him🤗, we'll be glad to have him back.

  • @nattemboirene5122
    @nattemboirene5122 Місяць тому

    Thank you Mr.PTI this is very enlightening.
    Most men we hear from re the toxic ones.
    Now this is from a true definition of wht a companionship should be not selfish at all

  • @thechristianperspective
    @thechristianperspective Місяць тому +3

    Hi Winnie, i am watching from uganda....i have bias on people that are of age an unmaried giving marriage advise. Having been a victim in a church that had all pastors of age and unmarried, i saw many mistakes they made that kept all of us single until each of us had to run for their lives. When we left, its like the covering also left...we started dating and many are now getting married. I was dating one of those pastors and waited for him 6years but he wasnt taking any step....iam getting to the 3rd floor and he is 44now and still single....however i have found a God fearing man and pastor who iam planning a wedding with. Ama gonna tryna listen but i pray to the Holy Spirit that i am objective. Thank you for the video

    • @irenemark9219
      @irenemark9219 Місяць тому

      I agree. I don't agree with some of what he said at all. I think what he saying is his truth. To believe in marriage as being transactional is not even scripture. There's the love factor which is important

    • @yemoseh1
      @yemoseh1 29 днів тому

      ​@@irenemark9219listen well in full, dont look at only captions

    • @naikiadexa1123
      @naikiadexa1123 День тому

      ​@irenemark9219 you'd see that in the bible, the duties outlined for men and women are responsibilities of submission and love. He said love will grow along the way not that you should dislike/hate the man you marry.

  • @Aminatakandeh-x4m
    @Aminatakandeh-x4m 27 днів тому +1

    This is my first time commenting on your video, "in no time don't lose your financial Independent as a women "

  • @omoladeadaramola1649
    @omoladeadaramola1649 29 днів тому

    Thank you so much, PTI. This is a lot.
    Thanks to you too, Winnie, for bringing him on.

  • @churchgirldairies_
    @churchgirldairies_ 2 дні тому

    Thank you Pastor sir, this was very insightful. Thank you Winnie.

  • @angelamartekimarkwei8608
    @angelamartekimarkwei8608 Місяць тому +3

    Hi, PTI. You are welcome. Thanks for sharing valuable truths.

  • @saabaevelyne3618
    @saabaevelyne3618 20 днів тому +2

    Thanks to him for his words of wisdom

  • @temitopechristiana86
    @temitopechristiana86 28 днів тому

    Thank you PTI and also winnie this is golden, please bring him back for more wise words like this❤🎉

  • @monicaaidoo5559
    @monicaaidoo5559 Місяць тому

    That is why beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.... it is also a choice 😊

  • @Ghanevaedge
    @Ghanevaedge Місяць тому +1

    Thanks Winnie for this valuable insight with PTI.
    You've encouraged me to keep thinking that way that marriage isnt about love but the value. I thought that i am being weird cos the environment I am in now is not the same way as my thoughts. God bless you for this impact on each and everyone's life, Amen.

  • @abimbolaelizabethomisakin9970
    @abimbolaelizabethomisakin9970 Місяць тому +2

    This episode is so valuable… I’ve learnt a whole lot from it . Thank you Winnie, thank you PTI

  • @iheanachosusan9572
    @iheanachosusan9572 17 днів тому

    Thank you PTI, Winnie women need to sincerely have that curial meeting about addressing or teaching our sons how to take care of their wife.
    Though I believe sons take after their father lifestyle.

  • @ifeoluwamuyiwa-abe7868
    @ifeoluwamuyiwa-abe7868 29 днів тому +1

    I've watched this more than 8 times already 😂
    Thank you winnie, thank you PTI.
    This is so gooddddd

  • @funmiolaosun7319
    @funmiolaosun7319 26 днів тому

    Unconventional, however absolutely an eye-opening and saturated with wise counsels. Thanks a lot Sir. God bless you Winnie🎉

  • @Growth_with_motherhood
    @Growth_with_motherhood Місяць тому +3

    I love this.its a food of thought indeed ❤I wish i knew this 5 years ago😊,but regardless we move

  • @INSPIREdbyJAE
    @INSPIREdbyJAE 20 днів тому

    This is so valuable.. I have to write out this points and paste it in my bedroom to see every time.

  • @naongakalumbi8670
    @naongakalumbi8670 Місяць тому +2

    Value is not a destination but a journey

  • @stellatetteh7725
    @stellatetteh7725 Місяць тому +1

    I love you, My Elegant, Intelligent, beautiful Winnie; thank you so much for this amazing work.

  • @MujahNaomi
    @MujahNaomi Місяць тому +1

    When I saw the Caption I was not happy about it but going further I understand ❤

  • @chinecheremomeke7479
    @chinecheremomeke7479 13 днів тому

    This man exude so much knowledge 😭

  • @AnnaKitchenShow
    @AnnaKitchenShow Місяць тому +2

    Thank you dear Winnie for always bringing important people with wisdom and important words in our lives ❤🎉
    Love you ❤

  • @amittaracheal1309
    @amittaracheal1309 Місяць тому +1

    Thank you for sharing this valuable most definitely sharing with my Girls especially my nieces

  • @ogechukwufaith4199
    @ogechukwufaith4199 27 днів тому

    Thank you so much for coming PTI but I must rewatch this and put things on my note love you so much Winnie ❤

  • @HopeEdet-g9n
    @HopeEdet-g9n Місяць тому +1

    Thank you so much PTI l look forward to seeing more of your videos with Winnie ❤❤❤❤ Our humble coach

  • @AgathaOkolie123
    @AgathaOkolie123 Місяць тому +1

    Wow thank u Winnie ❤ this episode is 🔥 every woman should watch this. Thanks PTI this teaching is very important to me 🎉

  • @RuthMadumo
    @RuthMadumo 29 днів тому +2

    At the end of the day it's an individual's choice because it's impossible to tell people how to live their lives and they will live it the only way they know how that's all

  • @dorahmohlago4638
    @dorahmohlago4638 Місяць тому +9

    The learning doesn't stop
    At this rate I might never get married 😢
    because love that is not feelings I am definitely not cut for this institution
    I have a long way to got 😂😂
    I am such a lover girl so how you make me feel plays a role in me deciding on who to keep

  • @SingleMom-q5i
    @SingleMom-q5i 28 днів тому +11

    Love makes you do stupid things, even things that will kill you... it is best to marry with your sense in tact.

    • @Iripia0318
      @Iripia0318 26 днів тому

      😂😂Marry with your sense intact had me dying

    • @oriyomiakintunde7127
      @oriyomiakintunde7127 23 дні тому +1

      This actually happened to me
      Thank God I escaped death
      I will share my story one day😢

    • @chizynweze4165
      @chizynweze4165 19 днів тому

      True, love can make one stupid especially for emotional people 😢

  • @Godsglory24
    @Godsglory24 Місяць тому +3

    PTI Thank you! You want to have financial independence and achieve some goals before marrying but society’s expectations cripples we women especially those of us in our 30s.

    • @Godsglory24
      @Godsglory24 Місяць тому

      « Time is going o, you have to look for a man and settle down » « have kids » Lord help us!

    • @realonebusinessschool
      @realonebusinessschool Місяць тому

      Naturally a woman's responsibility is to prepare herself towards becoming a good woman for her man because her entire responsibilities are expected to be taken care of by her man but it's not like that anymore, things have changed.
      Meanwhile, finding a good man will make a lot of difference.

  • @labake1679
    @labake1679 29 днів тому +4

    This man is so right however you want tosee it. Take it fromsomeone in marriage for over 30 years. Do not over expect from each other.

  • @favourajuobi27
    @favourajuobi27 Місяць тому

    Thank you mama... and thank you for hosting Papa PTI. Thank you for sharing and rooting for us.

  • @tobidurojaiye9014
    @tobidurojaiye9014 Місяць тому +1

    Thank you Winnie. This is really insightful. God bless PTI for the wisdom you’ve shared with us.

  • @elishashappinesscampaign1597
    @elishashappinesscampaign1597 5 днів тому +1

    I must recommend that the Microphone used is worth hearing. It sounds well.

  • @thelovearinze
    @thelovearinze 27 днів тому

    I love this so much! Never heard this much wisdom on the aspect of relationships. Thank you, Winnie ❤️

  • @ogbuoonyebuchi7460
    @ogbuoonyebuchi7460 Місяць тому

    Haven’t watched it but I trust my big sister Winnie 😊too always come up with top notch people.

  • @estyonyi8153
    @estyonyi8153 Місяць тому +2

    ❤❤❤❤
    I can't wait to digest this meal 😋😋😋
    Thank you Winnie for always dishing out valuable contents.
    Happy Sunday to you and every beautiful and elegant personality here ❤❤❤

  • @SafiyaAbdul-s1h
    @SafiyaAbdul-s1h Місяць тому +1

    Hii Winnie
    Thank you sooo much for bringing PTI to share these valuable information with us. It was really insightful

  • @uzodinmarejoice942
    @uzodinmarejoice942 Місяць тому +10

    This was a fun session 😂😂 thank you so much Winnie

    • @winniesschoolofelegance
      @winniesschoolofelegance  Місяць тому +3

      @@uzodinmarejoice942 it’s my absolute pleasure Dear! I am so glad you enjoyed watching!❤️

  • @ukponoudoh8089
    @ukponoudoh8089 Місяць тому

    Thank you PTI, this video carries so much value 🥰. God bless Coach Winnie💕❤️🥰.

  • @BeNiceey
    @BeNiceey Місяць тому

    Thank you PTI. This wisdom I have never heard before. But it more than gold.

  • @divinelovenene7100
    @divinelovenene7100 Місяць тому

    Thank you so much, Sir, for unleashing your bowel of wisdom.

  • @blessingmudzengerere6568
    @blessingmudzengerere6568 22 дні тому

    Winnie you look prettier when laughing, i liked seeing you laugh.