Thank you for this video. I recently learned that I’m neurodiverse. I was feeling bad about myself the past few months for not doing well at work. I’ve thought about quitting an amazing job. But through videos like this I’m understanding that maybe there’s a reason I’m struggling but maybe I simply need some accommodations.
Yes, massive miscommunication messes. It’s a huge problem with people not meaning what they say, not following through or the literal meaning being not being what what was meant. Additionally when I say something and I think it’s clear and reminding people that they said yes and my thinking we had a plan and my preparing and my taking action on it, but people after all that effort and investment of preparation and action on what I thought was agreed, it’s awful. So I feel upset and exhausted. Conversely, it’s true that often somebody/somebodies gets/get upset when I’ve said something not intending to be mean or critical at all, but just being factual or matter of fact. Exactly right on these challenges. So well said.
I was happy for many years before I was consistently marginalized and was met with no understanding. It wears you down and some people can't afford adult diagnosis because it's expensive to "require accomodations" so they just take advantage of your abilities when it benefits the company and they treat you like crap when they could give the smallest effort to try and understand
This was amazing ...and emotional .... I am so literal that it causes misconceptions and issues in my life from others.. also neurodiversity for me in the workplace frustrates others... Especially when there's a one size fits all training approach... With the inability to ask questions later..
I loved this video. Accommodations get a bad rap, but if we focus on it being “how to get the best out of staff with special talents” I think it will be more productive. Incan’t count how many employer mandated workshops I have had to sit through for neurotypical people, which were completely useless for my needs.
This is so fabulous and I'm saving it to my Neurodiversity bookmarks. Much appreciated from an ADHD'er who has a lot of learning to do about neurodiversity and people with autism in particular. #differentnotless
Great video! Not understanding why this video doesn't have at least a million views. Seriously. Well, I did what I could to change that. Thanks for posting.
I work in an open office and have issues with sensory overload so I ended up purchasing some very expensive noise cancelation earbuds just so I could at least function and do my job and they let you use earbuds for my job is not phone based , because these earbuds do such a wonderful job of drowning out noise I can't really engage with my coworkers because I can't hear them which is what I prefer because they are unfortunately very toxic and clique driven which is the perfect storm for bullying so now I'm being targeted because I'm quit, you Can't win when you're like this even though there are accommodations, it never helps when you are constantly being bullied and harassed because you are different and most jobs favor and support the toxic environment
Hello Dr. Dave Caudel; Can you help me get started in getting ideas to get connected with Neurodiversity content creators because like you I am a big self advocate. I am getting a late start in knowing my neurodevelopmental gifts. 46 years went without the best diagnosis that is accurate.
Massive problem with the sensory. Lights, smells, certain noises, and more. Seems a small thing to accommodate at times or if not small seems well worth it to make functioning better.
i dont know if i have autism i just started looking into it last night.but i have trouble with the the social aspect of work and usually quit my job because of it.i find it difficult navigating the social environment and would rather just work without having to interact with other people.i just have a hard time connecting with people,and also i dont feel like talking to people all the time and find the micro(little) social interactions a drag.i do feel like people dont always take what im saying how i meant it and read me wrong.i think i can understand sarcasm and what not but i definately dont think like other people im beginning to realise.and i have been experiencing stigma from other people because of my bad social skills,or my lack of socialising.its funny i literally just wanna do my job and dont bother anyone but somehow it seems like i piss people off somhow.like im just here to make money not friends.ive tried to make friends but i just end up being overwhelmed and regret it so i just try not to make friends now and just try to do my job.
Hey Koyo, what you're describing is actually fairly common among the autistic community - most adults are undiagnosed. Funny thing, I started to learn social skills just so people would leave me alone and let me do my job without starting drama or trying to get me fired, along the way as I learned how to interact better I formed a lot of useful connections/allies in the workplace that made everything so much better. Wasn't looking for friends but I ended up with several friendly acquaintances, heh.
@@seejester yeh i want to work on my social skills also because you cant really get around it,i suppose its better to just have my social skills sharpened and ready for use lol!but i talk to people online like on chats and stuff and enjoy it but i dont always wanna talk in real life.but somtimes i do feel like talking its just not as much as other people
Lol me an autistic individual who works a customer service job that does require me to do 10 hour shifts every weekend. Since it’s a serving and bartending in a casino I don’t really get a solid break but many little ones that are often interrupted. Trying to figure out how not to get burnt out bc I like my coworkers and I make great money for the time being
This video has found me way too late. I have lost my job due to my company and HR refusing to accomodate me. I wasn't asking for outlandish things, I just wanted my desk to be back at the spot where I found that office to be less overwhelming and some understanding towards my differences. I've tried for five months, sinking into an autistic burnout in the process. I want to believe there's good companies out there happy to accomodate us because our differences can be an asset, but when every idea to make things better is met with excuses and skepticism, you should know straight away that such company is not your space to be. I just hope my next job, whatever that will be, treats me slightly better
HR is not your friend. Their objective is to protect the company, not the employees. Best to not identify yourself as autistic, or in a role as a manager/leader, your (potentially) neurodivergent employee, because that may lead to an unfortunate end to employment for the neurodivergent person. EEOC (U.S.) only applies with a clinical diagnosis. Undiagnosed (clinically) autistic individuals have no protections in an at-will employment environment.
It's pretty miserable when coworkers say things they don't mean, but everyone understands their actual meaning except me. Then I either look dumb or act dumb by taking people's words at face value when that's the wrong thing to do.
So how would you coach on low performance and hold them accountable from a productivity perspective while still treating them the same as others? What does that conversation look like? Like say not placing orders correctly or keeping up with a productivity rate?
Ideally there needs to be a good match between the autistic persons skills and interests and the tasks given so that this issue doesn’t occur in the first place.
I feel like this is a very male-centric type of struggle with autism. Of course not across the board but most female autistic people have a much easier time with reading people and communicating, because that’s how we were raised. I just don’t want an employer or anyone, really, to see this and think this is something all autistic people do because it’s not, and it could lead to some condescension in the workplace.
This is fantastic. Coaching people and explaining instead of shaming.
Thank you for this video. I recently learned that I’m neurodiverse. I was feeling bad about myself the past few months for not doing well at work. I’ve thought about quitting an amazing job. But through videos like this I’m understanding that maybe there’s a reason I’m struggling but maybe I simply need some accommodations.
Yes, massive miscommunication messes. It’s a huge problem with people not meaning what they say, not following through or the literal meaning being not being what what was meant. Additionally when I say something and I think it’s clear and reminding people that they said yes and my thinking we had a plan and my preparing and my taking action on it, but people after all that effort and investment of preparation and action on what I thought was agreed, it’s awful. So I feel upset and exhausted. Conversely, it’s true that often somebody/somebodies gets/get upset when I’ve said something not intending to be mean or critical at all, but just being factual or matter of fact. Exactly right on these challenges. So well said.
Teachers please help our students by watching this. Be forgiving and flexible how profound.
I was happy for many years before I was consistently marginalized and was met with no understanding. It wears you down and some people can't afford adult diagnosis because it's expensive to "require accomodations" so they just take advantage of your abilities when it benefits the company and they treat you like crap when they could give the smallest effort to try and understand
This was amazing ...and emotional .... I am so literal that it causes misconceptions and issues in my life from others.. also neurodiversity for me in the workplace frustrates others... Especially when there's a one size fits all training approach... With the inability to ask questions later..
I loved this video. Accommodations get a bad rap, but if we focus on it being “how to get the best out of staff with special talents” I think it will be more productive. Incan’t count how many employer mandated workshops I have had to sit through for neurotypical people, which were completely useless for my needs.
This is so fabulous and I'm saving it to my Neurodiversity bookmarks. Much appreciated from an ADHD'er who has a lot of learning to do about neurodiversity and people with autism in particular. #differentnotless
Great video! Not understanding why this video doesn't have at least a million views. Seriously. Well, I did what I could to change that. Thanks for posting.
I’m so glad I found this video!!!!
I work in an open office and have issues with sensory overload so I ended up purchasing some very expensive noise cancelation earbuds just so I could at least function and do my job and they let you use earbuds for my job is not phone based , because these earbuds do such a wonderful job of drowning out noise I can't really engage with my coworkers because I can't hear them which is what I prefer because they are unfortunately very toxic and clique driven which is the perfect storm for bullying so now I'm being targeted because I'm quit, you Can't win when you're like this even though there are accommodations, it never helps when you are constantly being bullied and harassed because you are different and most jobs favor and support the toxic environment
I love this! Thank you!
Hello Dr. Dave Caudel; Can you help me get started in getting ideas to get connected with Neurodiversity content creators because like you I am a big self advocate. I am getting a late start in knowing my neurodevelopmental gifts. 46 years went without the best diagnosis that is accurate.
Massive problem with the sensory. Lights, smells, certain noises, and more. Seems a small thing to accommodate at times or if not small seems well worth it to make functioning better.
i dont know if i have autism i just started looking into it last night.but i have trouble with the the social aspect of work and usually quit my job because of it.i find it difficult navigating the social environment and would rather just work without having to interact with other people.i just have a hard time connecting with people,and also i dont feel like talking to people all the time and find the micro(little) social interactions a drag.i do feel like people dont always take what im saying how i meant it and read me wrong.i think i can understand sarcasm and what not but i definately dont think like other people im beginning to realise.and i have been experiencing stigma from other people because of my bad social skills,or my lack of socialising.its funny i literally just wanna do my job and dont bother anyone but somehow it seems like i piss people off somhow.like im just here to make money not friends.ive tried to make friends but i just end up being overwhelmed and regret it so i just try not to make friends now and just try to do my job.
Hey Koyo, what you're describing is actually fairly common among the autistic community - most adults are undiagnosed. Funny thing, I started to learn social skills just so people would leave me alone and let me do my job without starting drama or trying to get me fired, along the way as I learned how to interact better I formed a lot of useful connections/allies in the workplace that made everything so much better. Wasn't looking for friends but I ended up with several friendly acquaintances, heh.
@@seejester yeh i want to work on my social skills also because you cant really get around it,i suppose its better to just have my social skills sharpened and ready for use lol!but i talk to people online like on chats and stuff and enjoy it but i dont always wanna talk in real life.but somtimes i do feel like talking its just not as much as other people
@@seejester What method of learning social skills worked best for you?
Lol me an autistic individual who works a customer service job that does require me to do 10 hour shifts every weekend. Since it’s a serving and bartending in a casino I don’t really get a solid break but many little ones that are often interrupted. Trying to figure out how not to get burnt out bc I like my coworkers and I make great money for the time being
If I ask for accommodations for autism, will they expect to see a diagnosis?
I prefer to refer to my personality as colourful :)
This video has found me way too late. I have lost my job due to my company and HR refusing to accomodate me. I wasn't asking for outlandish things, I just wanted my desk to be back at the spot where I found that office to be less overwhelming and some understanding towards my differences. I've tried for five months, sinking into an autistic burnout in the process. I want to believe there's good companies out there happy to accomodate us because our differences can be an asset, but when every idea to make things better is met with excuses and skepticism, you should know straight away that such company is not your space to be.
I just hope my next job, whatever that will be, treats me slightly better
I'm 46 finally discovering why I couldn't hold a job down for more than two years. Fucking tragedy.
HR is not your friend. Their objective is to protect the company, not the employees. Best to not identify yourself as autistic, or in a role as a manager/leader, your (potentially) neurodivergent employee, because that may lead to an unfortunate end to employment for the neurodivergent person. EEOC (U.S.) only applies with a clinical diagnosis. Undiagnosed (clinically) autistic individuals have no protections in an at-will employment environment.
It's pretty miserable when coworkers say things they don't mean, but everyone understands their actual meaning except me. Then I either look dumb or act dumb by taking people's words at face value when that's the wrong thing to do.
I thought it is neurodivergence. Neurodiversity is a mix between people being neurodivergent and neurotypical, or?
So how would you coach on low performance and hold them accountable from a productivity perspective while still treating them the same as others? What does that conversation look like? Like say not placing orders correctly or keeping up with a productivity rate?
There may be a sensory issue.
Ideally there needs to be a good match between the autistic persons skills and interests and the tasks given so that this issue doesn’t occur in the first place.
I feel like this is a very male-centric type of struggle with autism. Of course not across the board but most female autistic people have a much easier time with reading people and communicating, because that’s how we were raised. I just don’t want an employer or anyone, really, to see this and think this is something all autistic people do because it’s not, and it could lead to some condescension in the workplace.
Could you please send me a link where I can get an online evaluation for a high functioning autism in an adult?
These wokes make me 😅😅😅
All these woke shit 😂😂