“Y’all got ta get out the way of men maturation. Stop coddling and enabling grown boys. If a man don’t want to work no job, he don’t deserve to make it… Let him go live with his grandma.”
One of the many benefits of not shacking up before marriage is not having to depend on a woman to take care of you while you’re chasing a “dream” cause you already handling ya own whether a significant other is in the picture or not.
It's not just about supporting a man. It's about supporting a man with character, values, morals, dogmatic work ethic, who has made it unmistakable clear through how he treats you that are the woman for him. Any man who would come up on a woman's back and drop her when success is achieved is a man who never wanted that woman to begin with and trust me when I say, he showed her that in many ways over the course of the relationship but she thought she good be a good enough woman to change his mind. You can never be the right woman for the wrong man.
I did that in a relationship and it was the mistake of my life. I believed in that brother’s talent, encouraged and supported him but he had zero drive and my time and energy was absolutely wasted. When I started to hold him accountable he just cheated and left. It was a fantasy not a dream.
“It’s not the man turning it off. IT’S GOD! We change through the power of God! We’re not changing on our cognizance! We not changing on our own power! IT’S THE POWER OF GOD THAT’S CHANGING US!”
I knew this woman with 5 small children. Her husband was in federal prison doing a 17 year bid. One day she told me that when he would get in trouble in high school, his mom would always be at the school defending him when he was wrong and making excuses for him and that life led him to prison.
Men coming from a man. Since I’ve went to GOD in prayer (continually not just once) and asked him to remove the free will he’s given me and to replace it with his perfect divine will for my life and also to take away all autonomy from my actions so I’m walking in alignment with him. It has been exponentially easier to flee from the everyday temptations I have to deal with. It works for me and might help someone else male or female.
Free will is hard but it separates us from animals, now. I don't think you're supposed to try to give it back. Surrendering and aligning to the principles of the Creator still allows you free will to choose such. Slavery is wrong bc it denies free will, and I don't think our Creator would have us be slaves. Aligning with Reality and principles voluntarily js nkt the same as trying to eliminate your actual power of volition
My husband spent 6 years and 11 months being a drug dealer. He changed his life when we met. I love him and I understand everything you're saying, Tony. Got me crying right now :')
You don't "chase a dream", you build a vision. Im in the middle of building my vision, but I keep a side job to ensure the bills are paid while I'm building. There is no such reason why a man can't work a side job while he builds his vision...ladies!!! You are not supposed to take on the responsibility or the role of paying a grown mans bills. He is perfectly capable of doing that himself.
I like his comedy, I think he’s so funny, but now he has a girlfriend and 2 small children. He was on Kevin Hart’s podcast and they asked him about getting married. He gave a sorry excuse of “when the time is right”🙄🙄 I have started to lose respect for men who pussyfoot around getting married.
Tony, when you said "unbecoming," you made me think about my mom. When I was growing up & acting up, my mom used to say, "Tricie, that's so unbecoming." 😊
Only if he will do it for her, you have too many men out there who ain’t self made. It ain’t until a man meet a woman that he got all of these ideas. Whereas the woman comes into the relationship without an agenda
When I tell you I was weak when you said the black people move in and you saying "there go the neighborhood "😂😂😂. Im so weak, I'm black qnd think the same
No! Many women chase their dreams with "a job" under their arms!!! Men can do the same! And real men wouldnt have it any other way!!! It makes them hungrier...
I like when you said “after she got her hook (influence) in there” because often times we just jump down a man’s throat trying to tell them why they need to change but I believe that once they see that you stand on business and that you have standards, morals and values then they become receptive to our message.
Truth. Our Florida courts 👨🏾⚖️🏛️🗂️🗃️ are hard. TG is from Polk County. I'm from Saint Lucie County. We grow up watching the cycle, it's not the way (the streets) to go. Plus, I used to work in a Clerk of Circuit Court office for 4 years: raise your sons & daughters, stay out the way 🙏🏾. A local bail bondsman told me like this: they give you a lot of charges & make it sound bad, they make your bond so high that your family ("grandma", momma, daddy, etc.) can't afford it, they keep people in the county jail for 3 or 4 years before they decide your fate.
I'm 51 years old and I've learned a lot from my own experiences and getting more knowledge from your videos Mr. Gaskins. And you are right, mess around in Polk county, you gone get exactly what you're not looking for.
It sad when God sends some men a good wife like you Tony and they still don't change. So they move on to find another woman and go through the same thing again.
God’s hand has been all over you. Listening to your story again and hearing a little bit more detailed info, your wife was chosen for you. She held you down through all that! Her spirit knew you were special. God chose her for you so you can do what you do. So inspiring. God bless you as you continue to bless so many including me. I’ve gotta get your book.
TG, I’m listening to A Woman’s Influence on CD right now - just heard the 72 hour rule story! I had the county library bring in TWO of your books to put more people on to you!
I also seen that short about Calvin being a playboy. The one lady said she bought that car and making the car payments for Calvin and she took that car. Lol 🤣🤣😂
@@jadajordantransitioningqueens yess - they are lame. I don’t appreciate how they appear to be on the straight and narrow when some guests like Tony are on, but when they have other guests they are different and messy. Those men have more growing to do, but they are making money off of women who cannot discern what they are doing and I don’t like that😤 These women are subscribing and helping to build their weak platform, and I don’t like that either!
I’m over here crying 😂😂 this story was very much needed and a great perspective on if someone does decide to try to help a man but the stories about your history together with your wife is hilarious thanks for sharing!
Thank you for the clarification and thank you for clearing things up for us after men's gaslighting. And thank you for blessing this guys ex with this information.
Your journey is amazing Tony,! I hear you and respect the man that you have become and still becoming. Your wife has been that very word, where scripture says "Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord" I pray you continue to teach, to correct and give sound counsel to us all out here. God bless you and your family continually. 🙏🏾🔥
TG you funny mane but real at the same time. I agree 1000% and as always I love to hear the testimony of you and your wife. Love also how you man up and take responsibility for your actions and love how you preach and stand on being a faithful man That last 10 mins YesSah man’s discipline only goes so far you have to give it and be subject to the higher power Jesus Christ
Thank you for clearing this up. It has been sooooo misconstrued for a very long time in my opinion. GOD bless you and your family Tony! Oh and the built like they shouldn't be TOOK ME OUT.
I think it would be really interesting to hear your take on the lady who married a pathological liar story on Tik Tok. It just went viral today. It’s lengthy but I know you have some goooood insight on these types of things.
“Y’all got ta get out the way of men maturation. Stop coddling and enabling grown boys. If a man don’t want to work no job, he don’t deserve to make it…
Let him go live with his grandma.”
I love how he gives credit to his wife and esteems her.
Me, too. I absolutely love it. Such a healthy and secure kinda love. ❤️🖤❤️
His wife looks 10 times better than he does she can get a man fast.. couldn't say so much for Tony .. 😂 at this point he would get robbed 😊
A godly woman will be praised 😊
One of the many benefits of not shacking up before marriage is not having to depend on a woman to take care of you while you’re chasing a “dream” cause you already handling ya own whether a significant other is in the picture or not.
Right! Handle your own, rather you & your woman live together or not. However, she'll play play a role if she loves you.
“She refused to stand beside me if I was gonna be less than my best.” TG
It’s not to say he would’ve stayed with her after he made it. She could’ve supported him and he would’ve left still . Great message
@@reginayfavorsfacts!!! What Kanye West said They leave you for a yt girllllll 🤦🏽♀️
That part 💯⏰ 😂
It's not just about supporting a man. It's about supporting a man with character, values, morals, dogmatic work ethic, who has made it unmistakable clear through how he treats you that are the woman for him. Any man who would come up on a woman's back and drop her when success is achieved is a man who never wanted that woman to begin with and trust me when I say, he showed her that in many ways over the course of the relationship but she thought she good be a good enough woman to change his mind. You can never be the right woman for the wrong man.
Yes, the enabling needs to stop!!!! Such a destructive way to reinforce problem behavior
“She refused to stand beside me if I was less than my best” amen!!!!!!
“She kicked me off… hit me wit a 6 piece…” I am SCREAMING!!!! 😭😭😭😭😭😩😩😩🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Mrs. G. is what I call a "classy gangsta." She does not play and I am here for it.
Oh my gawdd😂😂😂
I did that in a relationship and it was the mistake of my life. I believed in that brother’s talent, encouraged and supported him but he had zero drive and my time and energy was absolutely wasted. When I started to hold him accountable he just cheated and left. It was a fantasy not a dream.
We are too giving. It's good for babies up to 7 years. After that it's crippling coddling just like he said
She deserves all that you give her because what she gave you in the beginning was priceless
“It’s not the man turning it off.
IT’S GOD! We change through the power of God!
We’re not changing on our cognizance! We not changing on our own power! IT’S THE POWER OF GOD THAT’S CHANGING US!”
I knew this woman with 5 small children. Her husband was in federal prison doing a 17 year bid. One day she told me that when he would get in trouble in high school, his mom would always be at the school defending him when he was wrong and making excuses for him and that life led him to prison.
Not the Dazzling Dimes 😭😂
Men coming from a man. Since I’ve went to GOD in prayer (continually not just once) and asked him to remove the free will he’s given me and to replace it with his perfect divine will for my life and also to take away all autonomy from my actions so I’m walking in alignment with him. It has been exponentially easier to flee from the everyday temptations I have to deal with. It works for me and might help someone else male or female.
Free will is hard but it separates us from animals, now. I don't think you're supposed to try to give it back. Surrendering and aligning to the principles of the Creator still allows you free will to choose such. Slavery is wrong bc it denies free will, and I don't think our Creator would have us be slaves. Aligning with Reality and principles voluntarily js nkt the same as trying to eliminate your actual power of volition
My husband spent 6 years and 11 months being a drug dealer. He changed his life when we met. I love him and I understand everything you're saying, Tony. Got me crying right now :')
❤
You don't "chase a dream", you build a vision. Im in the middle of building my vision, but I keep a side job to ensure the bills are paid while I'm building. There is no such reason why a man can't work a side job while he builds his vision...ladies!!! You are not supposed to take on the responsibility or the role of paying a grown mans bills. He is perfectly capable of doing that himself.
Sheri gave Tony the 6 piece 😂😂😂 🇯🇲😂
Straight 🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲
I like his comedy, I think he’s so funny, but now he has a girlfriend and 2 small children. He was on Kevin Hart’s podcast and they asked him about getting married. He gave a sorry excuse of “when the time is right”🙄🙄 I have started to lose respect for men who pussyfoot around getting married.
Especially when they have children
Unk out of here thuggin shooting windows out😂😂
I’m 4 minutes into the video and im cryingggggggg 😂😂 I’m built a way I don’t want to be built either but I’m working on it 😂😂😂😂
Tony, when you said "unbecoming," you made me think about my mom. When I was growing up & acting up, my mom used to say, "Tricie, that's so unbecoming." 😊
Only if he will do it for her, you have too many men out there who ain’t self made. It ain’t until a man meet a woman that he got all of these ideas. Whereas the woman comes into the relationship without an agenda
Peanut gallery womennnn 😂😂😂😂
Okayyyyy 😂😂😂😂
When I tell you I was weak when you said the black people move in and you saying "there go the neighborhood "😂😂😂. Im so weak, I'm black qnd think the same
Next Tony goes and shoot the windows out 😂😂😂😭…. definitely needs to be a movie
Woww .. Tony you and your wife really came up together through the mud. A real couple of devotion and love 😭❤❤
No! Many women chase their dreams with "a job" under their arms!!! Men can do the same! And real men wouldnt have it any other way!!! It makes them hungrier...
Tony doesn't tell not one lie.
…and you’re hilarious. I suppose to be sleep. 😂🤣😂
Amen!! Get a J.O.B! ☺️
When you said “we is unslept and unkept” you made me laugh even though I respect your transparency and your commitment to truth 😊
Once you said “good credit to manage your family” I had to amen twice! We are living that right now. God’s got us! 💪🏾
I like when you said “after she got her hook (influence) in there” because often times we just jump down a man’s throat trying to tell them why they need to change but I believe that once they see that you stand on business and that you have standards, morals and values then they become receptive to our message.
I’m glad you’re taking about this enabling coming from black women. Preaching 👏🏾
TG, your commitment to truth is appreciated.
I love hearing your story, it never gets tired. You and your wife pushed through so many obstacles. God is with you both.
Truth. Our Florida courts 👨🏾⚖️🏛️🗂️🗃️ are hard. TG is from Polk County. I'm from Saint Lucie County. We grow up watching the cycle, it's not the way (the streets) to go. Plus, I used to work in a Clerk of Circuit Court office for 4 years: raise your sons & daughters, stay out the way 🙏🏾. A local bail bondsman told me like this: they give you a lot of charges & make it sound bad, they make your bond so high that your family ("grandma", momma, daddy, etc.) can't afford it, they keep people in the county jail for 3 or 4 years before they decide your fate.
I'm 51 years old and I've learned a lot from my own experiences and getting more knowledge from your videos Mr. Gaskins. And you are right, mess around in Polk county, you gone get exactly what you're not looking for.
We can do nothing but respect your honesty and your truth. While delivering wisdom and laughter
It sad when God sends some men a good wife like you Tony and they still don't change. So they move on to find another woman and go through the same thing again.
10:46 - if you build it they will come 👏🏼👌🏼🙏
God’s hand has been all over you. Listening to your story again and hearing a little bit more detailed info, your wife was chosen for you. She held you down through all that! Her spirit knew you were special. God chose her for you so you can do what you do. So inspiring. God bless you as you continue to bless so many including me. I’ve gotta get your book.
😭😭😭😭😭😭 Tony and Sheri was the truth. Not T shot the lady windows out
Lmao I love the level of dedication. But God!
💯 every word true
I got me the kingdom Wife. Thank you for the blessing Tony!
TG, I’m listening to A Woman’s Influence on CD right now - just heard the 72 hour rule story! I had the county library bring in TWO of your books to put more people on to you!
I also seen that short about Calvin being a playboy. The one lady said she bought that car and making the car payments for Calvin and she took that car. Lol 🤣🤣😂
Hope he is as the dollar bill
There are a lot of clowns in the pulpit. 💯
Talk Tony! All to Jesus, only God keeps. 💥
Tony going to always come with the Truth and life examples 🙏🏽
Tony has saved sooooo many lives!! keep it up TG
51:23 THANK YOU! Tony!!! They be flippin’ back and forth! Stay on the message GOD GAVE YOU, TONY!
YES! I HAVE NO RESPECT FOR THEM. THEY DON'T STAND FOR ANYTHING. 🦋
@@jadajordantransitioningqueens yess - they are lame. I don’t appreciate how they appear to be on the straight and narrow when some guests like Tony are on, but when they have other guests they are different and messy. Those men have more growing to do, but they are making money off of women who cannot discern what they are doing and I don’t like that😤 These women are subscribing and helping to build their weak platform, and I don’t like that either!
@canditate740 Exactly! It's sad though.
@@jadajordantransitioningqueens it is. Those ladies need to come over here! We laugh and we learn!
@@canditate740 😭 yeeesss!
Stand firm on your JOURNEY, Tony while Walking in the SPIRIT with your message. ❤
TG you got yourself a real Jamaican women🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲
So good to hear how u guys can relate to others and remain humbled. We should never forget where God brought us from. Praise God!
Amen, this message blessed me. I pray the men & women watching are blessed and hear the message. I pray all of us grow closer to God. 🙏🏾
I’m over here crying 😂😂 this story was very much needed and a great perspective on if someone does decide to try to help a man but the stories about your history together with your wife is hilarious thanks for sharing!
Omg! Thank you for being transparent and sharing. You are a real one.
As the sayin' goes....."you gotta pay where you lay."
I APPRECIATE YOUR CANDANCY!! SO MUCH, I THANKYOU. IVE NEVER HEARD YOUR STORY!! GOD BLESS!
Wow I loved this story time!! Thank you for your honesty and sharing your experience.
Thank you for the clarification and thank you for clearing things up for us after men's gaslighting. And thank you for blessing this guys ex with this information.
I just looked up his wife she is gorgeous. Deserves the world
Your journey is amazing Tony,!
I hear you and respect the man that you have become and still becoming. Your wife has been that very word, where scripture says "Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord" I pray you continue to teach, to correct and give sound counsel to us all out here. God bless you and your family continually. 🙏🏾🔥
This message and advice was awesome 👌
Powerful message TG! Ain't nobody else out here giving us this truth and transparent message. God continue to bless 🙌🏾
This is a powerful message! Thank you for sharing this!
I have so much respect and love for Mr. & Mrs Gaskins🤍
"This what love is made of". - TG
Omg!! That story was crazy lol thank you for keeping it real with us Tony! ❤
Gotta be from Tampa to know the the drak boys 😂😂😂 you really are a true Florida boy Tony 😂😫😫
The power of God!!! Thank you Tony for speaking the truth. We have to listen to these words. I appreciate it. 🙏🏽
TG you funny mane but real at the same time. I agree 1000% and as always I love to hear the testimony of you and your wife. Love also how you man up and take responsibility for your actions and love how you preach and stand on being a faithful man
That last 10 mins YesSah man’s discipline only goes so far you have to give it and be subject to the higher power Jesus Christ
I’m so glad to hear your honest perspective on this topic.
Preach and teach us!!!
Tony Thank you very much for your vulnerability and transparency. I make fewer mistakes because of your testimonies ❤🙏🏿🙏🏿
I am part of his growth club and mannnnnn this guy is real as heck....❤❤❤ Iont want nothing but the best for me and he gone lead me to it
Tony u are such a blessing...MANNNNNNNN...u r too funny!!!! She hit me with a 6 piece and left😂😂😂😂 JUST REAL!!!
Thank you Tony! You always bring it home
Hear you loud and clear Tony, thank you !
PREACH ‼️‼️‼️‼️ It's ALL THE POWER OF GOD ‼️‼️‼️‼️
Much respect uncle t an auntie Sheri 🔥
Amen Tony ( PROVERBS 27:17) Iron Sharpens Iron 👑😁💡
I ❤❤❤❤❤ THiS THANK YOU. YOU SURE DO HAVE A TESTiMONY. THANK YOU SOOO MUCH FOR TELLiNG THESE MEN WHAT THEY NEED TO BE DOiNG 🙌🏾.
Ent!!! So happy he said it
Speak Tony, especially when you talking about making it 2 weeks off $25...glory to the most high GOD!!!
Exactly 💯 Tony, there's a way 2 do everything.
17:53
You preaching
I hope they
listening 👂🏽
So funny 🤣 I hate my lil fupa I had twins lol good story I'll check out the book for my daughter she loves novels
I had twins too. Boys ❤
The consistency in the message !
Lol. You have to work period. 💯
Well said Tony, well said.
Speak it sir!!❤
THANK YOU!!!!! FOR EXPLAINING TO US ALL THE DIFFERENCE
When I saw the title, I already knew exactly what video this was related to, and the comments were extremely controversial.
Amazing story, your wife is a blessing ❤
Thank you for clearing this up. It has been sooooo misconstrued for a very long time in my opinion. GOD bless you and your family Tony! Oh and the built like they shouldn't be TOOK ME OUT.
Noted Coach TG...THANK YOU 🙏
Id sure like to see what Calvin looked like. 🥴
I think it would be really interesting to hear your take on the lady who married a pathological liar story on Tik Tok. It just went viral today. It’s lengthy but I know you have some goooood insight on these types of things.
Would probably say check his vices
Yeah I did that and uuhhh yeah, built da bear 🐻 and he left me for the town ho . They are both gone, gone 🤦♀️but uuhhh🤣🤣I won't try that again. 😊😊js