When CPS "investigated" my parents, they let them pick what relative we were allowed to stay with while they did so. So my parents picked my nearest Grandparents, who agreed to use my service dog as a pawn in their game by suddenly not allowing him in their house anymore. Told CPS multiple times that I was being forced to choose between having the medical equipment and care that I needed and staying in an abusive home, or being completely trapped without my lifesaving medical equipment in a slightly less abusive home while my service dog was left defenseless with my parents. CPS did not care at all, told me they couldn't make my grandparents allow me access to my medical equipment because "if they say no dogs in the house, then no dogs in the house." and that if I really needed my service dog, I should deny the true allegations against my parents and move back into the abusive home. CPS literally helped my family use my disability against me to keep me trapped in an abusive home. I'm 1000% certain they could have told them they couldn't pick a relative incapable of caring for my medical needs, but nope, they just wanted to force me into silence so they could move on to helping other parents abuse their children. (For anyone who may be confused by the phrasing, in the US, a service dog is legally considered medical equipment. What they did is the equivalent of forcing a wheelchair bound child into an inaccessible home under the excuse of "Well your grandma doesn't want wheel tracks in her house, so you'll Just have to make do.")
Haha ok calm down karen, a dog is NEVER life-saving medical equipment. Holy shit I'm glad that CPS dis what they did. Hahahaha life saving hahaha medical hahaha equiptment
As someone hoping to be working as CPS when I grow up, that's so disgusting I will most likely think of this case in future when I learn about it. Honestly, why???
Another important thing to note is that CPS doesn't acknowledge neglect to be harmful. Most leading scientists recognise neglect to be more harmful than outright abuse. A child could be in a home environment where the parents never speak to or even look at the child -- as long as the child is allowed to go to school, they are fed, and they aren't actively being assaulted, CPS won't give a shit.
I don’t know how long ago this was but I’m pretty sure this is grounds for a lawsuit against CPS, your parents and your grandparents. They should not be allowed to deny you your service dog and force you into an abusive household so you could have the medical equipment required
Reminder that neglect is also abuse. You are justified in how you feel and are entitled to the same respect and help that active abuse victims deserve.
This is why I've started using "active" and "passive" as modifiers to pretty much any form of abuse. It both validates victims who think/get told they didn't have it "bad enough" but also alleviates some of the "how dare you accuse me of" reactions.
my dad was in my life. emotionally not present, only physically, but he was still there. in other words he wasn't really there, cuz he was always in his nerd cave gaming or watching tv. idk if it did leave an impact on me, but it still counts as neglect. I can't fully blame him for being as emotionless as he is, cuz both my parents came from abusive households and his were the stern teacher type and had, as I heard from my parents, cruel raising methodes/advise like "put your toddler in a cold shower when they pee themself instead of using the potty" luckily my parents never followed their advise, but I know from my mom that my dad is extremely confrontation averse and his robotic like enotional state is also due to his childhood. I know that's not an excuse, but they're already both way too settled into how things are to willingly open old wounds(go to therapy) and try to change a 50y/o's mind. also they both still tried their best despite the odds and I'd say my sisters turned out with not that many issues. I can't say I did, cuz I won the neurodivergent lottery and we all know that NDs very often get mistreated. at times unintentional or bullied for being "weird" .. ( ಠ◡ಠ)👍
@@smolmoru similar vibes. A "father" in the sense that bills were paid and a $20 bill occasionally was given here and there. His mother was abusive to the point his father was distant and focused on work to avoid her, and in turn she was abandoned by her own mother to her grandmother so she could remarry a wealthy banker. Generational trauma is a monster
My little brother had a phobia of traveling by train. Entire family supported him and he had a great therapist/psychologist helping him. I was so proud when I saw one of his post on Instagram, sitting on a train with the caption "A small step for most people, a huge step for me". Way to go lil bro 💪
something tells me most of them wouldn't really mind anyway. i wonder if there's any correlation between the people who _care about_ pure blood and people who _actually have_ pure blood. might explain a thing or two.
My mom reacted similar to the mom who dismissed that person's phobia and didn't allow the person to grieve over their boyfriend dying. My mom basically told me that when my ex "died", that she wasn't gonna have me be all depressed, cry all day, and lay in bed all day and that I should get up and do things. This was the morning AFTER I thought he khs.
Do parents even exist without this mentality? Every parent I know from the entire millennial generation claimed they knew what was best to their kids just to control or abuse them.
Honestly I can actually relate to the meme about opening up about trama then being told "stop being dramatic that never happened". Whenever I try to confront my family about the madness they're trying to pull, they say that "I'm always going back to nonesense, you have to learn to grow up and stop talking like that." 🙂I can't wait till I can leave my family, block them out of my life and have them wondering what they did wrong over the years.
I feel bad for you, I hope you're able to escape it soon. I have to stay with my parents until I'm stable enough to be on my own, and I know how difficult it is for people to just shut you down whenever you try to open up about something.
They're not going to wonder it. They're going to pretend everything is your fault. Those types of people lack any self awareness. Hope you can find a better life outside your family.
I think you'll discover life without any toxic relationship is like being reborn. Since I got divorced my life is 300% better in every way and I know it was the best decision I ever made.
I cannot IMAGINE wanting to control your 22 year old and their finances. As soon as I turned 18 my mom drove me to the bank to set up my own checking and savings accounts. Absolutely WILD 🤦🏾
Not gonna lie, I'm 20 and my parents still help me with managing finances sometimes because I'm confused by how it works sometimes but they can't control what I'm spending money on what the hell are people thinking
@@2020-p2z same, there's these "child saving account" that you can open from younger ages (with parental supervision ofc). The only catch is that you can't make a credit card, only saving account.
I feel bad in this particular case, because i can see why parents who dealt with student loan debt would be desperate to avoid letting their own children go through the same, but c'mon bro, holding her bank account hostage is not the way...
Im a retired critical care/trauma/burn nurse. I worked 12 hr shifts in Masks and protective gear for years. I also have silent asthma. I have zero tolerance for people who refuse do it long enough to shop at walmart.
It's bcs they are gull off 💩 and know it, so they hide it behind aggressive defensive behaviour where they act really bad & like the victim, to deflect from reality..
My mother found out that I got a medical exemption from work (severe anxiety and panick attacks, a result of her abuse) and told me that this meant I was declaring myself incompetent and that she could legally drag me back home if she wanted to, essentially threatening me over the phone when I refused to apologise for a fight that she started. Immediately went to my doctor and confirmed that she couldn’t actually do that and removed her as my emergency contact.
I suggest that you remove her from your phone contacts as well. After that threat, it's time to cut her out of your life completely, as soon as its logistically safe and possible to do so.
I really just want to go roundkick your "mom's" teeth in. I've had to get exemptions from a lot of things due to my anxiety (ptsd induced too) as well as a few physical issues I've been struggling with most of my life, but just because sometimes you need to take a step back or have to avoid certain things doesn't mean you're incompetent or unable to work or function alone. It just means you've got a few things you can't do and as long as it doesn't hinder your overall ability to get what you need done it isn't an issue. In my experience dealing with a controlling narcissist of a mother, it's best to cut direct ties with that individual if possible. In my case, my own mother has begun to see what she's done wrong and is doing better for herself, however I don't involve her with anything directly, nor would I keep her as an emergency contact. Also, I don't believe severe anxiety or PTSD is grounds for needing a conservatorship unless it's specifically ordered by a professional, and it seems to me based on your comment that you're in contact with someone who's given you what you need to get a medical exemption for your job. She was probably just threatening you with that because she knows she's got nothing else to throw. I really hope you're doing well, and I hope you can recover from the trauma you've experienced at the hands of that woman. Good luck with your job as well
As a 33-year-old that grew up in a household like these, I just want to let everyone suffering through this now know that it really does get better. You're going to get out and do great things ❤
Yep. It took until I was 38 to hit my last straw and go no contact (or as close as I possibly can) with my toxic and abusive mother. It’s by far the best decision I ever made. I wish I would have done it in my 20s and hadn’t listened to all the people that said “but she loves you. She’s your mother. No one will ever love you more. When she’s gone you’ll miss her. Whether you like your parents or not you have an obligation to respect them.” and on and on and on. I blocked her on everything and the family members that let her use their social media to get to me got blocked too. (Except for my very elderly grandmother. I told her that I think someone hacked her account and she changed her password, lol) It’s been so peaceful and nice without her stirring up drama and causing me panic attacks.
is adult life really worse and way harder?? it's something adults say a lot and it kinda scares me, but I realize most adults probably had a pretty decent childhood so adulthood seems worse.
@@universal_stupidity It's full of trade-offs, really. Some things are better, some things aren't. On the plus side, you're likely to be more independent, you can make your own choices and live your life the way you want to (within reason). You are free to pursue your own hobbies and interests and explore the world and your identity. On the negative side, you become financially responsible for yourself. You also (usually) have to be in charge of regulating yourself. Your schedule, health, and home are all (largely) in your control and yours alone. There are good and bad parts, but most people I've met seem to enjoy adult life more than being kids.
I was 34 when my mother died. I truly didn’t care. I wish I had gone NC long before then. I found out my father died 3 months after he passed away. Wasn’t in my life much, and wouldn’t take me in when I called him as a teenager. No one seems to understand why I don’t care that they died. Some people think it’s because I’m autistic. It isn’t. The only person who cared about me was my grandmother. I did care when she died.
@@chandranelson2772 Yeah, both my sibling and I have said that if our mother dies before our grandmother, we will split the cost of a funeral and basically do whatever Grandma wants. If our mother dies after Grandma? We’re not doing anything. Other family members can take care of all that or the state can donate her body to science. We really don’t care. I rarely say it out loud, but I think I will be relieved when she’s gone. I won’t have to worry about her trying to cause chaos in my life.
I was investigated twice for abuse while teaching, one was from a family that were habitually reporting teachers because they weren’t feeling special enough, the other was from an admin who made it up based on the kids she overheard playing with tape….both were never proven but it traumatized me enough to leave teaching, how can this woman be that proud for 50?! I was I counseling for 2!
I'm guessing they were false accusations like yours. We don't know the full background or the extent of this convo since the idea of the reddit is to highlight insane parental outtakes. Still a weird flex lol. It isn't uncommon for malicious reporting to happen though
@@AlakaxamM Thank you very much, that's what I keep trying to tell myself. I know I never did anything and that those people were malicious but it cost me so much to be away from work and to have my reputation tarnished, I'm just glad that I'm away from places where I encounter insane parents, but I feel so bad for those kids.
@@BrownEyedBirdAudios I'm sorry they put you through that. Being a teacher makes the whole ordeal public in addition to threatening your license. I know it was traumatizing, but weren't you able to at least get your lost wages? Some people are insane. I'm glad you're happy and out of there now
My mom told me that when I was a teenager, she would rather I "bring home a black man than a black woman". So much insanity. We had so many arguments about the racism there.
@@brothersandsistersofvalhalla she is also very homophobic. She was trying to make a point of the "lesser of two evils" if I "had to" date someone that wasn't white 🙄. The part of that statement I didn't share is "because you won't have kids". She was very focused on mixed race kids being just a terrible thing on top of everything else terrible to unpack about the situation.
@@brothersandsistersofvalhalla it is amazing as an adult I grew up so accepting of everyone regardless. I'm guessing my own internal struggles with being a bi man in the 80s/90s had an influence. Now I have three grown children (youngest is trans) and I love them all no matter what. There's certain things I know better than to engage my moms family in at this point, or it's a dumpster fire.
The child with the gun reminds me of entitled parents that bring their kids to an archery center (I practise archery and sometimes cover for the owners when they are out of the country competing). They always think that the bows and arrows are toys and get really surprised when we reprimand them for doing dumb things, for example walking around with a loaded bow and lightly holding the string. I once had a mother daughter duo come in, my friend that was working with me that day was going over the rules with them told me that the mother kept insisting it was okay to load her bow while either standing away from the firing line or someone was on the lane, which anyone that works with any type of ranged weapon can tell you, that's how the accidents happen. Both of us had a bad feeling about this, but couldn't pay as much attention to them as we wanted since the range was pretty much fully booked. But at some point when I am doing the check up and making sure everyone is following the safety rules, I look over to them and see the lady had a loaded bow with the string pulled back, aiming at her 8 year old daughter that was in the lane! Needless to say, we kicked them out after that...
The "ok with others being lgbtq+ as long as it is not my kids", I've seen it happen to my best friend and his little sister. Little sis is bisexual and my best friend is a trans guy (trying to start his transition). I remember talks before he came out trying to poke on his parents about sexualities and genders, and they seemed ok on some level (seemed majorly ok with it), I was crushed, helping him get better after a disastrous coming out on his brithday even more. He came out to them around 3 years ago, they're still aren't supportive nor accepting. The subject is now taboo. A while after the birthday disaster, his little sis accidently came out in front of their mom. Worst mistake as mom has had a lot of trouble with lesbians (the problems were she had troubles with bad persons but since they were lesbians....). The sis has no trouble to be honest, but my friend cannot talk about it. I remember being in utter shock when he told me how it went the same evening. "The day you change (the day he'll look like a dude) you won't be welcomed in the house anymore. I'll still love you but I won't be able to look at you anymore" Now another fun part. That very same best friend of mine made me realise I was also transgender. We always hang out at each other places since we met as kids (we are now young adults), and we had to stop hanging out at his place since I started transitionning myself. We feared his parents would clash at me for influencing him since I was trans too. And we would laugh how technical speaking it was him that influenced me by making me realise of things connected. Our situations with clise family about being transgender was like day and night. While I was very lucky to be really well accepted and supported (even coming from an old dad, no really into lgbt people at first), he was rejected awfully. His mom and him didn't talk for a straight month after his coming out while he was living with her every single day. I am happy that my mother offered him the support of a mother and advices, ecen shelter if he really needed it. And truthfully, I am kind of teary as writing this.
Your mother is how one should be, unconditional love for you so deep it extended to your friend. If all moms were like yours, the world would be a better place for sure. My mom keeps hoping there will be some kind of Pride event in our town so she can go and give mom hugs to everyone who has been rejected by their own family. There are no LGBTQ+ people in our entire family, my mom just has that much empathy for other humans. You and I both got lucky to be blessed with great moms. ❤❤❤
Just remember this is a small corner of the internet and a lot of people aren't this batshit insane. Go watch some chaotic good videos or something to help restore balance 😈
Let me just say that I do agree with teaching children the importance of firearm safety, but not when they can barely walk. I would do like my grandfather did with me and teach them at the age of 10. He made sure that I knew how to maintain a gun, knew trigger discipline, and understood that a safety mechanism isn't 100% fool proof. Once I had those things learned, then he finally took me shooting. It was a rare treat to go shooting with him in the back yard (big property outside of city limits in Texas) and it was usually reserved for things like getting good grades, finishing all of my chores, and helping around my father's mechanic shop.
Agree here. my father grew up in a rural area where hunting is basically a way of life, my mother wouldn't even let my brother and I play with nerf or water guns out of overreaction, so I freaked out just being around firearms. Finally asked my dad for a crash course in my late 20s because i was tired of being deathly afraid of them. I still treat them with an overabundance of caution, but the terror my mother instilled, which was not remotely helpful, I've gotten over to a degree, and I know what to do.
4:22 this is exactly how I feel about my transphobic “grandfather”. He’s abused me multiple times while my guardians don’t even bat an eye. Emotional abuse, mental abuse, verbal abuse, and physical abuse. I’ve told my guardians multiple times I want absolutely NOTHING to do with him but they don’t do shit. He visits our house almost everyday, I’m forced to interact with him and whenever I want to visit my grandma he’s always there. I’ve tried explaining that I want to stop seeing him and stop considering him a family member “oh sweetie you can’t just do that because he was a little disrespectful..” he was extremely disrespectful. It’s getting to the point where I’m uncomfortable around him.
Stay away from him as much as possible; your unease is a signal to you that something is wrong. If you don't talk to him, maybe hide in your room when he's there it might help you get a handle on your stress. Someday you can move out and tell them all to get screwed. You do not have to stay in contact if you don't want to.
@@gl15col maybe not stay in your room but you can go take a walk or do anything that will occupy your time and thoughts while he is visiting. Putting a mix of occupations can be great since bad emotions/thoughts could be associated with an occupation by "he is there so I do that" becoming "I do that so he must be there". So, I suggest to do a mix of occupations that makes you think about something greater while you don’t want to see him. Wishing you the best!
CPS. If these asshats who are responsible for your safety and wellbeing refuse to protect you, get outside help and make sure to tell them literally everything and see if they would be willing to force your guardians to take a lie detector test.
Insane mom: "Hi, my *one and a half year old baby* has been having *seizures,* so how much *deadly nightshade* should I give them? Thanks!" FTFY Yeah. That's what belladonna is. Another name for deadly nightshade. How much of that would I prescribe? Oh, I dunno, how 'bout...NONE, and a visit from CPS, stat!
I'm a queer teacher in the South and a few weeks ago I literally had a parent want to meet with me because he was worried about pride flags in the room. I had to explain that it's literally illegal to have those in my state. He was also worried if I was a "they/them" or "something you can't say". That cemented the fact that I'll NEVER tell a parent about my personal life and orientation. Never have before and never will going forward. I work with a parent from my class and she'll never know about it either. Things like this always happen when you feel the safest...
That's a very wise decision. While it sucks you can't be yourself at work, it's unfortunately a safety issue at this point if you do try to be yourself. I'm very sorry you're not allowed to be who you are because of others who would threaten your safety in retaliation.
My parents were the same way when they found out I am gay, they even sent me to conversion therapy, that was a decade ago and now they fully support me, my lesbian trans sister, my pan nb sibling, and my bi sister I can honestly say it hurt even more that my parents could support total strangers, my mom even had a safe space sticker on her office door when she had an office as the dean of coms and mandated that all of her staff have training so they could be appropriately able to deal with any hateful conduct that might happen.... and yet she made me get tortured for years It was crushing and I'm neurodivergent so I don't even feel emotions that strongly, it made me consider ending it all because Mt parents could love perfect strangers more than me
@@2020-p2z I've never heard that saying before but I definitely agree Something somewhat similar you might like is "what's the best way to make sure your kids are atheist? Send them to Catholic school"
Damn, that's terrible! I'm glad that C. therapy is banned in spain since 2017. Far right didn't want it to get banned tho. But they lost because the rest of parties signed up the yes for banning them. So glad it's banned, since now goes against the law, if an institution is discovered actively doing that shitty thing they get in trouble Ofc some conservative schools exist, but it's not the same to get told u will go to hell than be psychologically abused and even physically
I basically act as a stand in parent for multiple girls I know because I care more about them than their actual parents do. I'm really not against making licenses to be a parent an actual thing. It would help so many kids who end up in shitty situations outside of their control.
Unfortunately, the reality of something like that would lead to whatever entity is in charge of deciding who gets a parenting license gatekeeping what sorts of people are allowed to give birth, in more ways than just readiness. I can see there being a fee or monetary requirements if it were ever to be a real thing. If it were possible for someone to actually know who’d be a good parent, I’d totally be for it. Also, kudos on helping those girls that need it.
It sounds so enticing, but unfortunately it is 100% a slippery slope towards eugenics. And how'd you enforce it? Sterilization? Forced adoption? The first one was exactly what was done to disabled people in the turd reich, the latter would lead to abusive/controlling parents hiding their children from the world.
I'd be for it if it wouldn't also have the unfortunate side-effect of opening the floodgates for eugenics (for instance, it'd make it real easy for racists to make it illegal for PoCs to have kids, just by refusing to give *any* PoC a parenting license).
To everyone reading this thread: Look up "Residential Schools", "Eugenics in the US", "The 60s Scoop", and the programs that took newborn babies away from Maori parents in New Zealand and Aboriginal parents in Australia. We basically already had a "parent-license" in several countries … applied solely to Indigenous People. The results are … really bad.
@@John_Weiss This is exactly what popped into my head and caused me to reply in the first place. It’s awful. I think the only thing that could help with this is to only give financial support for the first 2-3 kids. So people won’t be incentivized to have kids for government help but pat ents that truly need assistance are able to get it. I’ve met too many kids who were not well taken care of, that had 7-9 siblings because their parents got welfare and the money didn’t go towards them.
That dad: I'll always love and support you, gay or straight or whatever. I just literally voted against your right to get married if you're gay. I've never seen someone contradict themselves so much in a single conversation holy hell
it's funny that the mom at 29:15 is not using the "rock on" emoji as she thinks, but actually the one for "I love you" in sign language. Ironically it kind of fits with her emotionally manipulative texts lol
Yeah, all that "all problems would be solved if only we were racially homogenous" BS simply conveys a lack of education at least down to the Middle Ages.
The homophobic father one reminds me of the conversation I had with my mom and how she couldn't realize that her not being able to have an abortion doesn't mean others have to feel the same way
I’m glad that this subreddit exists because as a victim of abuse I don’t always realize abusive behavior. Subreddits like this help me, who wants to be a parent, to see what is crazy and abusive behavior, and what kind of behavior to avoid.
That whole "voting against gay marriage" part reminds me of a gal I knew in college who was going for that & I couldn't help but say something to the effect of "Why can't the gays be as miserable in marriage as so many of the straights if they want to?" I mean, I feel like gay & other LGBTGA+ marriages are more often healthier than straight marriages so less likely to be miserable, but either way, they should have the equal right to have a marriage if they want.
50 investigations woman: well, i'm a lawyer (my grandfather and parents are too, so i've had a lot of exposure to lots and lots of cases). i saw cases of abuse with VIDEO PROOF, PICTURES AND WITNESSES and courts still judged in favor of the abuser leaving the child/children with abusive parent. a lot of abusers are incredibly manipulative people who are able to charm their way out of legal trouble and turn the case against their victims, even with iron-clad evidence to support victim's claims. i am, sadly, not surprised this is something that happened to OP too.
Small correction... i am pretty sure with belladonna she didn't mean the plant, she meant the homeopathic "medicine" derived from the plant... so she wasn't poisoning the baby, she just gave it sugar-water, which is only slidly better
Yeah, she means the plant extract, which is sold super diluted. Unless she bought from someone who presses their own flowers 🤔... Belladonna has it's uses, I guess, but better to get a solid prescription from the doc than to risk an accidental poisoning.
this just reminds me how crazy my mom was. She still doesn’t believe she was abusive even after she kicked me out to be homeless at 14, then disowned me again for being transgender. Im 18 now and will have to be on disability my entire life and can’t go to university. I have to have a service dog and have 4-10 seizures a day. But nah, Im fine she never did anything wrong
YIKES! That's Horrible! I hope that you stabilize. Remember that there are open-coursework videos put out by universities. Watching them is certainly not the same as a degree, of course, but they're nevertheless a means of learning the material. That is something that can potentially help you in the future by giving you preparatory-lessons for the actual courses. You Are Valid. Your Pain and Trauma is Valid. _She_ is a Liar, a total PoS, and an Inappropriate Use of Carbon Compounds.
I can't even... You're the same age as my youngest kid. Please accept some mama hugs, and know that you are a precious spark of the Divine, and deserve to be treated as such! 💙💗🤍💗💙
God these stories make me want to be able to help but I'm not 18 yet. I hope to be either social worker or physical therapist and I definitely want to be an adoptive parent or, well I dont know word for it on English, but it's basically taking care of children until they are adopted by someone else or have place for them in Orphanage. I don't think it's called foster parent but maybe? Anyway yeah, stories like this break my heart. I wish you all the best and so much happiness. Just keep reminding yourself that she was WRONG. good luck, really.
Youre so right about the "knights in shining armor" thing, like , it's incredibly frustrating to have people say they care about you yet completely disrespect your simple wish not to have a person in your life. The best is when they set it up like an intervention, so you come home and that person is there surrounded by a bunch of people who came to ""mediate"" your own personal thoughts and feelings in regards to your relationships, like its all some big problem they need to save you from and fix your relationships for -their own convenience- your well-being
i cant imagine how horrible it would be if you were let down by a partner who is the same gender as you, and your parents think it "proves them right" when they said that the person was manipulating you, when being let down is something that can happen in ANY relationship
That's even more funny when you learn it was actually a religious day. It's amazing how many people confuse Halloween with the Day of the Dead. Very different holidays.
@@brothersandsistersofvalhalla tbf Halloween is not originally Christian. It was paganic, similar celebrations happened all around Europe at the pagan times. It's about death but also about new beginnings, as it's the pagan new years. This is why some people think it's satanic. But then again Christmas and Easter are also pagan celebrations. Christianity just liked to steal holidays from pagans for it to be easier to indoctrinate them.
@@brothersandsistersofvalhalla What's worse is that Day of the Dead isn't demonic at all either (unless I'm forgetting something), but more like a memorial.
12:30 ''a messy house is linked to mental issues'' my adhd brain starts sweating nervously, tries to ignore the chaos on my desk alone, not talking about my apt
I cannot agree more with the last point you made. Chances are if someone is exaggerating or making up past trauma for attention, there is definitely some other issue that needs addressing asap. Encourage them to get professional help. Even if they're just making it all up for fun, it won't hurt and might help them learn and grow
I feel so bad for OP at 16:14. Any real parent would clearly see that their child has been through something traumatic and needs some time to overcome it. A real parent would support their child through that time of grief instead of telling them that their feelings are invalid. All kids deserve a parent, but not all parents deserve a kid.
I'm so glad more and more parents are moving away from the boomer mentality and treating their children as people. It's really hopeful that one day we will have a much better generation.
Oh, definitely. Generations develop and evolve over time. Hopefully, more people will learn from their parents' and others' mistakes than repeat them, and so they end up treating their kids well, which would get passed on to the next generation and the next. I hope I'll be able to see what it's like after a while, to see how far we come.
Eventually, all us millennials and generation Z will be crotchety old farts too, probably just as f***** up and bigoted in our own ways as these people…
we are going to be that generation, plus all the little things are going to be solved, like explaining why you can't pause video games, and some bigger things too like bosses that are less of an asshole
sometimes i think what some parents really want is a dog. a dog listens to you and depends on you, a child grows out of that and can talk back. not that i want those people to have a dog instead of a child, the dog would probably suffer silently
See, the really sad part is, turning 18 doesn’t always mean you can escape, especially if you don’t want to just be homeless. I had a coworker who was 20 I believe and she got fired because she kept turning up to her shifts late… why was she always late? Because her parents kept forcing her to take them shopping just before she needed to go to work and then would dilly dally and take too long. One of the managers said “I really hate having to do this, and I wish I could do more to help cause her parents are horrible, but she’s gotten way to many write ups now. We can’t have an employee we don’t know will actually show up.” I am paraphrasing a bit as this was years ago, but like, he legit kept asking her questions to see if there was any way to help her get out of there, or just make it to work on time reliably, but ultimately her parents won, yet again (this wasn’t the first time), and she was fired and had to continue relying on them. I really hope she’s found a way out and is doing better now.
5:10 ...it's honestly scary how many people still have a problem with mixed """race""" couples. I never understood how severe the problem was until I started dating someone from a different, non-european ethnicity and man... The looks and stares we sometimes get are just priceless. Can be really annoying but we've learned to laugh about it. It's also a 100% worth it. She is the best that ever happened to me.
Ngl, listening to this subredit is simultaneously cathartic and triggering. Makes me realize that I'm not the only one, also opens up deep wounds. At least thiccy cliccy wiccy amsr makes it palatable.
@@stefangrobbink7760 And, for them, doing nothing doesn't harm anyone either. They can't move or think. They're potatoes. It's not their fault if they don't take a human child into therapy; they're not the ones who brought the kid into this world, and--- again --- they're potatoes. Verdict: Support potatoes, not bad parents.
An important thing about these people making mountains out of molehills is that they dont actually care about the instigating incident. If you accidentally take a charging block and they accuse you of stealing it, you must immediately submit to their judgement. If you defend your actions, you are now defying them. Now its about power and heirarchy.
My bio mom, cuts me out of her life because she doesn't like that I am a lesbian and had my name legally changed. She even "came out" and acted like the victim. This is from a woman who forgave everyone who actually abused her and her kids. And continued to allow them in her life and her childrens lives no matter how much it hurt them.
If I was a teacher and a parent tried to argue about pride flags in the classroom I would say "of course I will burn any flag with strips in my classroom"
I would tell her, "If we have to remove one flag, we will remove ALL flags from the the school, including the one waving outside. That's how that works."
My mom abused me and my brother when we were kids, had the cops called on her TWICE, only stopped the abuse because they threatened to arrest her if they got called to our house again, I was in therapy because of suicidal tendancies and DID caused by her abuse, I even straight up told her to her face that my dad in the only one I consider a real parent and actually listen to because he's never hurt me and even after all of that she still doesn't believe she ever did anything wrong and complains that parents aren't allowed to "discipline" their children anymore. No increadibly woman, no one is saying you can't discipline your kids, what they are saying is you can't beat your kids. There is not a difference between abuse and your idea of "discipline" your idea of "discipline" is abuse and if you can't understand what discipline actually is then you don't deserve to call yourself a mother. You may have given birth to me but that doesn't give you the right to do whatever you want to me. You're my mom in DNA only but I don't even have any biological children of my own and I'm already more of a parent than you ever were.
That story about the person afraid to cross the street infuriated me so much. I was hit by a car ten years ago at a crosswalk. We had to pass that crosswalk heading to one of my physical therapy appointments and I had to hold my mom's hand to get through it. Would it really kill you as a mother to show support to your traumatized child?!
11:10 that lady reminded me of the sister of the lady I babysat for when I was 13. One day, before they left, they were sitting around talking. The sister was all giddy because the school had sent child protective services after her and when they had arrived she had just finished her spring cleaning. She was laughing about how her house was spotless, so it meant CPS couldn't get her on anything. Lady, they weren't there because you haven't cleaned your oven. I stopped babysitting for them soon after because they always came home drunk and I didn't feel safe around that.
CPS did do that in my case. They were called once, but didn't get involved until my mom got arrested and found she had drugs. They completely screwed everything up so it wouldn't surprise me if they screwed up that situation too. I really hope the kid in the sister's home was taken from her because honestly if CPS had to be called to begin with that's really concerning.
18:50 I was playing pokemon black for nostalgia while listening to this video. I nicknamed my scolipede "Bella". short for Belladonna(another name for nightshade. chose because scolipede is a poison type). I was training her up for the next gym, and RIGHT as she hits level 38 click says "Belladonna". I immediately thought "WHAT THE ACTUAL F-"
Omg the belladonna one killed me. It’s basically a poisonous plant, actually good against fever in VERY SPECIFIC DOSES. The „does anyone have a clue about the dosage“ made me rage.
It always gets me how some folks reacted to mask mandates, even to mere mask REQUESTS. It's as if they equated these filters covering the lower half of one's face with full length black burkas on a sun baked day.
I've gotten cursed out twice now while out shopping because I tend to wear a mask (I'm an out of shape not quite middle aged asthmatic, I have enough trouble breathing as is, I really don't need any respiratory viruses). Thankfully I've been on my own when it's happened, but if they're going to get aggressive with a 6ft masc-ish person, I'm slightly afraid of how they treat other people (like I'm not unimposing and I totally have rbf, so I guess they may just react to me, but I really hope they don't behave that way to children or people of smaller stature than them)
@@brothersandsistersofvalhalla Honestly, they should be allowed to do so. I think we should start letting natural selection take some effect again with these types of cases, it’s just unfortunate for the other people forced to be around them.
Med student currently taking pharmacology here- atropa belladonna (the toxic plant referenced here) does actually contain a compound (atropine) that is genuinely life saving in certain conditions. However, 1) it's not used for seizures, 2) dosing is very, VERY specific- very easy to overcorrect and kill your patient, 3) the plant has other shit in it that is probably especially toxic for a literal infant, and 4) each plant has a variable dose of atropine so you have no idea how much you're actually giving based on the number of flowers Tl; dr from a medical perspective this is much, MUCH worse than it appears to be bc of wack dosing and usage.
As someone who is currently just starting college, I had to learn all about FAFSA laws, that mother asking for all the blackboard stuff and location, isn't actually legal for her to view without the child's permission. Control of that stuff transfers as soon as you turn 18 or go to a non k-12 (aka college or trade school)
It may be a language thing? Belladonna is also known as Nightshade, Wolfsbane, or Monk’s Hood. Generally an infamous poison. I realize it is a family of plants but…. Yikes.
Yeah was looking for a comment like this so I didn't end up spamming it but like, she didn't care to look up what it was XD I hope her child isn't dead o.o
I think the most insane thing my dad ever did was one time he got mad at me cause he told me to clean the Legos off my floor, and I didnt, so he scared the shit out of me by staring at me from outside my window, I was scared of windows for at least a month after that.
17:37 actually the get back on the horse right away thing (apart from being seriously hurt, then please go see a doc) has also something to do with the hoses mind. They are incredible smart animals. And if they learn that if they get you off, you will stop, this behavior will reoccur and mostly even in a more dangerous way. But it can also help with the riders mind. But everyone handles trauma differently and please make sure you’re not alone when you go riding on a difficult horse
16:12 as someone who’s terrified of crossing the street without even having a traumatic experience linked to it I’m disgusted by how the parent talked to them, I’m so sad
Parent: *Proceed to destroy your thing for just responding to what they say* Me: *cry* Parent: Thats what you get for talking back to me. Me: …This is too much, do i just leave? {i have nowhere to go, barely any money} Parent: why are you sad, stressed and anxious all the time. Very very quick recap of my current life. I litteraly don’t know what to do anymore. If anyone got idea, let me know.
try talking to them about your problems. they probably will realize their problems, and if they don't, atleast you will feel better. Talking on personal experience, letting out your pain will make you suffer a lot less, since atleast they'll know what you're going through.
Them: "Oh, you did do what I want you to do, so say goodbye to your laptop!" Me: "Well I hope you like being alone in your old age." Years later... Them: "Why don't you come visit me?!" Me: "Because you'll more than likely destroy me." *block*
Ugh, the one with the mother giving the phone number to the grandparents... I feel that. At some point, I had to set a firm boundary with my mom, that my father and his wife do not get any (and I mean ANY) information about me, ever. They really aren't on speaking terms, but sometimes she'd get friendly with them, and end up telling me my father's shitty opinions on me and my life choices. No thanks!
So I got sick a few years ago and my doctor suggested me calling my family over to inform them about it since I needed to stay at home for a bit. I cautiously said ok I guess and I specifically told my dad to not bring my sister along (tldr: I hate her), just my brother. Reached the day of the appointment keen on having my brother calm my nerves and guess whose face I see instead~ Fast forward 3 or so years, guess who fell into depression (thankfully out by now but not fully), get highly anxious about everything including driving and is still living in my family home doing jack shit 💕✨ I asked for one thing and that couldn't even be done. "oh but she's family" yeah I love my family but my mom and sis? I'd be doing better if they weren't around
Had to move back with my mom, for a spell due to some recent personal issues and events. Spent 6mnths fighting with her to get a copy of the mail box key, seeing as we both work different times of the time. 11 mths arguing to replace my mattress, I lost, so I could stop sleeping on the couch. All the while arguing with her, with sited sources that sleeping for so long on the couch wasn't good for my back, and getting told I shouldn't question her on it, cause she's a liscened massage therapist and know the truth. Finally won out, to then have her secretly remove me from our apartments notification system. So, if a package ever shows up to the front office for either of us, only she will know. I could fill the subreddit with all kinds of stories like, my first ever F in middle school, came home one day, to absolutely EVERYTHING haven been taken out of my bedroom, except an barren mattress. No, pillows, blankets, drawers, TV, clothes.... NOTHING, and being told I had to earn it all back. Spent an entire semester, having my wardrobe, and life micro managed til that F was gone.
That's just horrible. Keep your distance as much as you can. Definitely emotionally harden your heart against her. What she did to you for getting an 'F' - that's child abuse. And it's not how you get a kid to study more or otherwise do better in school. She sounds like a controlling b1tch. I hope you're doing better now.
I wish you had family members to snitch to. Parents like that always want to keep their face in front of relatives. But srsly, good luck with her. And remember you deserve better
I'm going to be ranting here, but these insane parents always make me furious. I'm seventeen, and getting ready to never talk to my grandmother again once I turn eighteen after she emotionally abused her two kids and consistently forgets about all of her grandsons because she "can't send them jewelry." I made this decision after she forgot my 9-year-old brother's birthday. Trying to explain to a 9-year-old that their grandparent forgot about them is probably the hardest thing I have ever done. She also was a pretty awful parent. Everyone knows that you're not supposed to play favorites as a parent, right? That's one of the basic rules of parenting. When her oldest son went to a prestigious college, she got a license plate with "UNC" Ma on it. (School name has been changed for privacy). When her second son went to school? Nothing. It has been 28 years since her oldest graduated college, but she still has that license plate. Not only is she an insane parent, but she is also a Karen(literally). She's warned me not to go to college because it will "indoctrinate" me. The best part of this opinion? SHE WAS A TEACHER. SHE WENT TO COLLEGE. SHE SENT BOTH OF HER KIDS TO COLLEGE. Luckily my parents support me in this decision to cut contact, so I doubt they'll give her my phone number.
Omg!! I want him to come out with a calendar. Either him in a maid outfit with puppies, or a fireman outfit with ducks. I want my Cliccy fireman calendar 😍
9:02 i find this so funny because if i were in this household I would be dead because: 1.) i am trans 2.) im gay as all hell 3.) im dating a man 4.) he is trans 5.) 5 he is a person of color 6.) i would argue with my entire family 24/7
For anyone who needs this: Just because someone else's situation is worse doesn't negate that you're going through shit too. Everyone has ebbs and flows in life. You're allowed to complain and get things off your chest, and it's actually helpful to do so. Your pain and suffering is as real as the tween's who got broken up with for the first time to the person who just lost their parent. It may be varying levels of pain, but it's all real. You and your feelings are valid.
I am really grateful I had sane, responsible parents who still care for me in the appropriate way to parent a 30-year-old, lol. My in-laws are more dysfunctional, not quite insane but the things I've witnessed from them (and learned from my husband when he was younger) raise similar alarm bells that these posts do, although not to the same extent. Unfortunately they live much closer to us than my own parents and we see them pretty much every week (or more), compared to a couple times a year for my folks. Even though I didn't grow up with this abusive crap I still feel triggered by all of it. Choosing to have kids requires much more self-work than merely wanting kids, I have found.
8:00 That reminded me of that one scene in a Star Trek movie where the Vulcan academy dean tells Spock that he's surprised he even qualified, being half-human and all
1:09 Friendly reminder that abuse is abuse. The severity does not matter, abuse is abuse. Some people have it worse than others; that does not make anothers' problems any less valid to complain about.
Stories like these make me VERY grateful for the normal and loving family I grew up in. My best friend did grow up with a messed up family and she could tell a few stories.
Ugh, the one about giving the phone number to the grandparent w/o permission is bringing up memories. We had to train half of my extended family out of automatically telling a parent about anything happening w/ their kid after the kid had expressly stated that any and all communications should go through the other parent, including health updates. They kept just telling the bad parent because "They are your parent and deserve to know" without any considertion of the child's (who was an older teen by this point) wishes and it was so frustrating. Like, you aren't their parent, you're just an aunt/uncle. You have no right to make these decisions, back off!!
as a brazillian, here in brazil everyone is already very racially ambiguous. But I guarantee you, it does not much to solve racism, all that it changes is that what it means to be white or to be black is much more generic (white = light skin, black = dark skin, no matter what your facial features, hair, whatever). The racism still remains
18:50 God, tjis actually really scared me. That is avery dangerous berry, that has been historically famous for being used in poisoning (especially through mistakes in dosage), and if used medically should be handled with the UTMOST care, by following exactly the dosage prescribed by a doctor and nobody else! The fact that they're being so careless with such a plant when using it ON THEIR CHILD is positively dreadful.
Febrile convulsions are caused as the name implies by a fever. Unless belladonna reduces temperature it won’t help. Over the counter medication often does the trick but also the bab6 should be checked by a doctor as the fever could be caused by a serious issue.
When CPS "investigated" my parents, they let them pick what relative we were allowed to stay with while they did so. So my parents picked my nearest Grandparents, who agreed to use my service dog as a pawn in their game by suddenly not allowing him in their house anymore. Told CPS multiple times that I was being forced to choose between having the medical equipment and care that I needed and staying in an abusive home, or being completely trapped without my lifesaving medical equipment in a slightly less abusive home while my service dog was left defenseless with my parents.
CPS did not care at all, told me they couldn't make my grandparents allow me access to my medical equipment because "if they say no dogs in the house, then no dogs in the house." and that if I really needed my service dog, I should deny the true allegations against my parents and move back into the abusive home.
CPS literally helped my family use my disability against me to keep me trapped in an abusive home. I'm 1000% certain they could have told them they couldn't pick a relative incapable of caring for my medical needs, but nope, they just wanted to force me into silence so they could move on to helping other parents abuse their children.
(For anyone who may be confused by the phrasing, in the US, a service dog is legally considered medical equipment. What they did is the equivalent of forcing a wheelchair bound child into an inaccessible home under the excuse of "Well your grandma doesn't want wheel tracks in her house, so you'll Just have to make do.")
Haha ok calm down karen, a dog is NEVER life-saving medical equipment. Holy shit I'm glad that CPS dis what they did. Hahahaha life saving hahaha medical hahaha equiptment
As someone hoping to be working as CPS when I grow up, that's so disgusting I will most likely think of this case in future when I learn about it.
Honestly, why???
Yeah, CPS is awful in my area too. I'm so sorry you had to go through that.
Another important thing to note is that CPS doesn't acknowledge neglect to be harmful. Most leading scientists recognise neglect to be more harmful than outright abuse. A child could be in a home environment where the parents never speak to or even look at the child -- as long as the child is allowed to go to school, they are fed, and they aren't actively being assaulted, CPS won't give a shit.
I don’t know how long ago this was but I’m pretty sure this is grounds for a lawsuit against CPS, your parents and your grandparents. They should not be allowed to deny you your service dog and force you into an abusive household so you could have the medical equipment required
Reminder that neglect is also abuse. You are justified in how you feel and are entitled to the same respect and help that active abuse victims deserve.
Thank you, this is definitely something I needed to hear! ^^
This is why I've started using "active" and "passive" as modifiers to pretty much any form of abuse. It both validates victims who think/get told they didn't have it "bad enough" but also alleviates some of the "how dare you accuse me of" reactions.
This actually made me cry a bit, thank you
my dad was in my life. emotionally not present, only physically, but he was still there.
in other words he wasn't really there, cuz he was always in his nerd cave gaming or watching tv. idk if it did leave an impact on me, but it still counts as neglect.
I can't fully blame him for being as emotionless as he is, cuz both my parents came from abusive households and his were the stern teacher type and had, as I heard from my parents, cruel raising methodes/advise like "put your toddler in a cold shower when they pee themself instead of using the potty"
luckily my parents never followed their advise, but I know from my mom that my dad is extremely confrontation averse and his robotic like enotional state is also due to his childhood.
I know that's not an excuse, but they're already both way too settled into how things are to willingly open old wounds(go to therapy) and try to change a 50y/o's mind.
also they both still tried their best despite the odds and I'd say my sisters turned out with not that many issues. I can't say I did, cuz I won the neurodivergent lottery and we all know that NDs very often get mistreated. at times unintentional or bullied for being "weird" .. ( ಠ◡ಠ)👍
@@smolmoru similar vibes. A "father" in the sense that bills were paid and a $20 bill occasionally was given here and there. His mother was abusive to the point his father was distant and focused on work to avoid her, and in turn she was abandoned by her own mother to her grandmother so she could remarry a wealthy banker.
Generational trauma is a monster
My little brother had a phobia of traveling by train. Entire family supported him and he had a great therapist/psychologist helping him. I was so proud when I saw one of his post on Instagram, sitting on a train with the caption "A small step for most people, a huge step for me". Way to go lil bro 💪
Yayy!! I'm so proud of him:D
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Proud of him lol
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The "pure" bloodlines grandma makes me think of the times people get back 100% on a genealogy test and the lab is like "sorry, you're inbred."
something tells me most of them wouldn't really mind anyway.
i wonder if there's any correlation between the people who _care about_ pure blood and people who _actually have_ pure blood. might explain a thing or two.
grandma on some literal nazi shit
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@@Anomalocariawhat's pure blood?
@@radschele1815 hard to say without rewatching the video, but it sounds like we were talking about purely inbred blood lol
My mom reacted similar to the mom who dismissed that person's phobia and didn't allow the person to grieve over their boyfriend dying. My mom basically told me that when my ex "died", that she wasn't gonna have me be all depressed, cry all day, and lay in bed all day and that I should get up and do things. This was the morning AFTER I thought he khs.
She's not trying to "Help", she's trying to CONTROL them.
Do parents even exist without this mentality? Every parent I know from the entire millennial generation claimed they knew what was best to their kids just to control or abuse them.
She needs to get her own account and block them out of her personal life.
Well she needs to be ctrl+alt+del'd
CONTROL parent of the year education
@@tiredmrp Exactly.
Honestly I can actually relate to the meme about opening up about trama then being told "stop being dramatic that never happened". Whenever I try to confront my family about the madness they're trying to pull, they say that "I'm always going back to nonesense, you have to learn to grow up and stop talking like that." 🙂I can't wait till I can leave my family, block them out of my life and have them wondering what they did wrong over the years.
I feel bad for you, I hope you're able to escape it soon. I have to stay with my parents until I'm stable enough to be on my own, and I know how difficult it is for people to just shut you down whenever you try to open up about something.
They're not going to wonder it. They're going to pretend everything is your fault. Those types of people lack any self awareness. Hope you can find a better life outside your family.
Same, lmao :,)
I think you'll discover life without any toxic relationship is like being reborn. Since I got divorced my life is 300% better in every way and I know it was the best decision I ever made.
Thanks for the advice everyone
I cannot IMAGINE wanting to control your 22 year old and their finances. As soon as I turned 18 my mom drove me to the bank to set up my own checking and savings accounts. Absolutely WILD 🤦🏾
In my country, you can have a savings account at 14. Pretty sure I had one opened shortly after I was old enough.
Not gonna lie, I'm 20 and my parents still help me with managing finances sometimes because I'm confused by how it works sometimes but they can't control what I'm spending money on what the hell are people thinking
@@2020-p2z same, there's these "child saving account" that you can open from younger ages (with parental supervision ofc). The only catch is that you can't make a credit card, only saving account.
I feel bad in this particular case, because i can see why parents who dealt with student loan debt would be desperate to avoid letting their own children go through the same, but c'mon bro, holding her bank account hostage is not the way...
@@isascarparo5992 helicopter parenting is never a good thing, even with good intents.
Im a retired critical care/trauma/burn nurse. I worked 12 hr shifts in Masks and protective gear for years. I also have silent asthma. I have zero tolerance for people who refuse do it long enough to shop at walmart.
It's bcs they are gull off 💩 and know it, so they hide it behind aggressive defensive behaviour where they act really bad & like the victim, to deflect from reality..
Parents destroying their children properties on facetime are just giving their children ammunition to sue them...
My mother found out that I got a medical exemption from work (severe anxiety and panick attacks, a result of her abuse) and told me that this meant I was declaring myself incompetent and that she could legally drag me back home if she wanted to, essentially threatening me over the phone when I refused to apologise for a fight that she started.
Immediately went to my doctor and confirmed that she couldn’t actually do that and removed her as my emergency contact.
I suggest that you remove her from your phone contacts as well.
After that threat, it's time to cut her out of your life completely, as soon as its logistically safe and possible to do so.
I really just want to go roundkick your "mom's" teeth in.
I've had to get exemptions from a lot of things due to my anxiety (ptsd induced too) as well as a few physical issues I've been struggling with most of my life, but just because sometimes you need to take a step back or have to avoid certain things doesn't mean you're incompetent or unable to work or function alone. It just means you've got a few things you can't do and as long as it doesn't hinder your overall ability to get what you need done it isn't an issue.
In my experience dealing with a controlling narcissist of a mother, it's best to cut direct ties with that individual if possible. In my case, my own mother has begun to see what she's done wrong and is doing better for herself, however I don't involve her with anything directly, nor would I keep her as an emergency contact.
Also, I don't believe severe anxiety or PTSD is grounds for needing a conservatorship unless it's specifically ordered by a professional, and it seems to me based on your comment that you're in contact with someone who's given you what you need to get a medical exemption for your job. She was probably just threatening you with that because she knows she's got nothing else to throw.
I really hope you're doing well, and I hope you can recover from the trauma you've experienced at the hands of that woman. Good luck with your job as well
@@bombdotcom2168 roundhouse kick?
hell nah I'm getting a pirate ship to fire every cannon into them
@@raul-aurelianserban8295 may I join the crew captain?
@@Tailzy26 Ye got a license to operate heavy machinery?
As a 33-year-old that grew up in a household like these, I just want to let everyone suffering through this now know that it really does get better. You're going to get out and do great things ❤
Yep. It took until I was 38 to hit my last straw and go no contact (or as close as I possibly can) with my toxic and abusive mother.
It’s by far the best decision I ever made. I wish I would have done it in my 20s and hadn’t listened to all the people that said “but she loves you. She’s your mother. No one will ever love you more. When she’s gone you’ll miss her. Whether you like your parents or not you have an obligation to respect them.” and on and on and on.
I blocked her on everything and the family members that let her use their social media to get to me got blocked too.
(Except for my very elderly grandmother. I told her that I think someone hacked her account and she changed her password, lol)
It’s been so peaceful and nice without her stirring up drama and causing me panic attacks.
is adult life really worse and way harder?? it's something adults say a lot and it kinda scares me, but I realize most adults probably had a pretty decent childhood so adulthood seems worse.
@@universal_stupidity It's full of trade-offs, really. Some things are better, some things aren't.
On the plus side, you're likely to be more independent, you can make your own choices and live your life the way you want to (within reason). You are free to pursue your own hobbies and interests and explore the world and your identity.
On the negative side, you become financially responsible for yourself. You also (usually) have to be in charge of regulating yourself. Your schedule, health, and home are all (largely) in your control and yours alone.
There are good and bad parts, but most people I've met seem to enjoy adult life more than being kids.
I was 34 when my mother died. I truly didn’t care. I wish I had gone NC long before then. I found out my father died 3 months after he passed away. Wasn’t in my life much, and wouldn’t take me in when I called him as a teenager. No one seems to understand why I don’t care that they died. Some people think it’s because I’m autistic. It isn’t. The only person who cared about me was my grandmother. I did care when she died.
@@chandranelson2772 Yeah, both my sibling and I have said that if our mother dies before our grandmother, we will split the cost of a funeral and basically do whatever Grandma wants.
If our mother dies after Grandma? We’re not doing anything. Other family members can take care of all that or the state can donate her body to science. We really don’t care.
I rarely say it out loud, but I think I will be relieved when she’s gone. I won’t have to worry about her trying to cause chaos in my life.
Sometime im glad no one complains abt missing the old click bc this is much more wholesome (trust me)
The old click?
Click was always a wholesome boy
@@enzo1673 A cursed wholesome boy
This is the only Click I know about.
Insane png click was something else
The Click: "You can't control your kids forever!"
Insane Parents: "Challenge accepted"
19:00 holy fuck..
I mean, Belladonna CAN cure seizures.. you can't have a seizure if you're dead
I was investigated twice for abuse while teaching, one was from a family that were habitually reporting teachers because they weren’t feeling special enough, the other was from an admin who made it up based on the kids she overheard playing with tape….both were never proven but it traumatized me enough to leave teaching, how can this woman be that proud for 50?! I was I counseling for 2!
I'm guessing they were false accusations like yours. We don't know the full background or the extent of this convo since the idea of the reddit is to highlight insane parental outtakes. Still a weird flex lol.
It isn't uncommon for malicious reporting to happen though
@@AlakaxamM Thank you very much, that's what I keep trying to tell myself. I know I never did anything and that those people were malicious but it cost me so much to be away from work and to have my reputation tarnished, I'm just glad that I'm away from places where I encounter insane parents, but I feel so bad for those kids.
@@BrownEyedBirdAudios I'm sorry they put you through that. Being a teacher makes the whole ordeal public in addition to threatening your license. I know it was traumatizing, but weren't you able to at least get your lost wages?
Some people are insane. I'm glad you're happy and out of there now
@@AlakaxamM Sadly, I never did. but yes, I am happy now, voice acting is my new calling
@@AlakaxamM with how that mom is acting I'm sure that many were not false
He’s still at it.
His amazing power to smell me through the screen.
Anybody else slightly scared?
Yes. Yes I am.
Soon he will be able to crawl through the screen
@@dumbcat2146 Imagine the chaos that will unfold.
@@TheArtBunch **SNIFF** h i v i e w e r
@@hopespeakacademyofficial 😭
My mom told me that when I was a teenager, she would rather I "bring home a black man than a black woman". So much insanity. We had so many arguments about the racism there.
That sounds more like sexism than racism since it's the gender not the skin color she seemed to hate.
@@brothersandsistersofvalhalla she is also very homophobic. She was trying to make a point of the "lesser of two evils" if I "had to" date someone that wasn't white 🙄. The part of that statement I didn't share is "because you won't have kids". She was very focused on mixed race kids being just a terrible thing on top of everything else terrible to unpack about the situation.
@@smstnitc Geez. I would get rid of contact with that person as soon as you can. She sounds dangerously bigoted.
If it's okay, may I ask what gender you are? Also, love anyone who makes you happy. That's what matters.
@@brothersandsistersofvalhalla it is amazing as an adult I grew up so accepting of everyone regardless. I'm guessing my own internal struggles with being a bi man in the 80s/90s had an influence. Now I have three grown children (youngest is trans) and I love them all no matter what. There's certain things I know better than to engage my moms family in at this point, or it's a dumpster fire.
The child with the gun reminds me of entitled parents that bring their kids to an archery center (I practise archery and sometimes cover for the owners when they are out of the country competing). They always think that the bows and arrows are toys and get really surprised when we reprimand them for doing dumb things, for example walking around with a loaded bow and lightly holding the string. I once had a mother daughter duo come in, my friend that was working with me that day was going over the rules with them told me that the mother kept insisting it was okay to load her bow while either standing away from the firing line or someone was on the lane, which anyone that works with any type of ranged weapon can tell you, that's how the accidents happen. Both of us had a bad feeling about this, but couldn't pay as much attention to them as we wanted since the range was pretty much fully booked. But at some point when I am doing the check up and making sure everyone is following the safety rules, I look over to them and see the lady had a loaded bow with the string pulled back, aiming at her 8 year old daughter that was in the lane! Needless to say, we kicked them out after that...
The "ok with others being lgbtq+ as long as it is not my kids", I've seen it happen to my best friend and his little sister.
Little sis is bisexual and my best friend is a trans guy (trying to start his transition). I remember talks before he came out trying to poke on his parents about sexualities and genders, and they seemed ok on some level (seemed majorly ok with it), I was crushed, helping him get better after a disastrous coming out on his brithday even more.
He came out to them around 3 years ago, they're still aren't supportive nor accepting. The subject is now taboo. A while after the birthday disaster, his little sis accidently came out in front of their mom. Worst mistake as mom has had a lot of trouble with lesbians (the problems were she had troubles with bad persons but since they were lesbians....).
The sis has no trouble to be honest, but my friend cannot talk about it. I remember being in utter shock when he told me how it went the same evening.
"The day you change (the day he'll look like a dude) you won't be welcomed in the house anymore. I'll still love you but I won't be able to look at you anymore"
Now another fun part. That very same best friend of mine made me realise I was also transgender. We always hang out at each other places since we met as kids (we are now young adults), and we had to stop hanging out at his place since I started transitionning myself. We feared his parents would clash at me for influencing him since I was trans too. And we would laugh how technical speaking it was him that influenced me by making me realise of things connected.
Our situations with clise family about being transgender was like day and night. While I was very lucky to be really well accepted and supported (even coming from an old dad, no really into lgbt people at first), he was rejected awfully. His mom and him didn't talk for a straight month after his coming out while he was living with her every single day.
I am happy that my mother offered him the support of a mother and advices, ecen shelter if he really needed it. And truthfully, I am kind of teary as writing this.
ak ime!
Your mother is how one should be, unconditional love for you so deep it extended to your friend. If all moms were like yours, the world would be a better place for sure.
My mom keeps hoping there will be some kind of Pride event in our town so she can go and give mom hugs to everyone who has been rejected by their own family. There are no LGBTQ+ people in our entire family, my mom just has that much empathy for other humans. You and I both got lucky to be blessed with great moms. ❤❤❤
Seeing parents do stuff like this makes me want to explodify the world like a James bond villain
Makes so much more sense why they do what they do now.
Just remember this is a small corner of the internet and a lot of people aren't this batshit insane. Go watch some chaotic good videos or something to help restore balance 😈
Capture all the Karens and insane parents, strap them to a rocket, then blow the rocket.
Poor world. Why not remove the humans instead.
Or just make sure you don't do the same thing?
Let me just say that I do agree with teaching children the importance of firearm safety, but not when they can barely walk. I would do like my grandfather did with me and teach them at the age of 10. He made sure that I knew how to maintain a gun, knew trigger discipline, and understood that a safety mechanism isn't 100% fool proof. Once I had those things learned, then he finally took me shooting. It was a rare treat to go shooting with him in the back yard (big property outside of city limits in Texas) and it was usually reserved for things like getting good grades, finishing all of my chores, and helping around my father's mechanic shop.
Handing a toddler a gun like it's a toy is the exact opposite of "firearm saftey". This is how children shoot themselves or others.
Nice.
I doubt that would work for immature children to be honest
Agree here. my father grew up in a rural area where hunting is basically a way of life, my mother wouldn't even let my brother and I play with nerf or water guns out of overreaction, so I freaked out just being around firearms. Finally asked my dad for a crash course in my late 20s because i was tired of being deathly afraid of them. I still treat them with an overabundance of caution, but the terror my mother instilled, which was not remotely helpful, I've gotten over to a degree, and I know what to do.
Or we could just not be teaching people how to shoot each other period. Or is that too much of a civilized take for America?
4:22 this is exactly how I feel about my transphobic “grandfather”. He’s abused me multiple times while my guardians don’t even bat an eye. Emotional abuse, mental abuse, verbal abuse, and physical abuse. I’ve told my guardians multiple times I want absolutely NOTHING to do with him but they don’t do shit. He visits our house almost everyday, I’m forced to interact with him and whenever I want to visit my grandma he’s always there. I’ve tried explaining that I want to stop seeing him and stop considering him a family member “oh sweetie you can’t just do that because he was a little disrespectful..” he was extremely disrespectful. It’s getting to the point where I’m uncomfortable around him.
Stay away from him as much as possible; your unease is a signal to you that something is wrong. If you don't talk to him, maybe hide in your room when he's there it might help you get a handle on your stress. Someday you can move out and tell them all to get screwed. You do not have to stay in contact if you don't want to.
@@gl15col thank you! I appreciate your words and I’ll try my best to follow your advice.
@@gl15col maybe not stay in your room but you can go take a walk or do anything that will occupy your time and thoughts while he is visiting. Putting a mix of occupations can be great since bad emotions/thoughts could be associated with an occupation by "he is there so I do that" becoming "I do that so he must be there".
So, I suggest to do a mix of occupations that makes you think about something greater while you don’t want to see him. Wishing you the best!
CPS. If these asshats who are responsible for your safety and wellbeing refuse to protect you, get outside help and make sure to tell them literally everything and see if they would be willing to force your guardians to take a lie detector test.
@@LunaP1 I know they love and care for me, they just don’t understand how hard it is for me to communicate with him.
Insane mom: "Hi, my *one and a half year old baby* has been having *seizures,* so how much *deadly nightshade* should I give them? Thanks!" FTFY Yeah. That's what belladonna is. Another name for deadly nightshade.
How much of that would I prescribe? Oh, I dunno, how 'bout...NONE, and a visit from CPS, stat!
I'm a queer teacher in the South and a few weeks ago I literally had a parent want to meet with me because he was worried about pride flags in the room. I had to explain that it's literally illegal to have those in my state. He was also worried if I was a "they/them" or "something you can't say". That cemented the fact that I'll NEVER tell a parent about my personal life and orientation. Never have before and never will going forward. I work with a parent from my class and she'll never know about it either. Things like this always happen when you feel the safest...
oof that sucks
That's a very wise decision. While it sucks you can't be yourself at work, it's unfortunately a safety issue at this point if you do try to be yourself. I'm very sorry you're not allowed to be who you are because of others who would threaten your safety in retaliation.
Okay, well now I have to model and print a gun with "Gazer: The gay laser" engraved in it with a case that says "Property of the glitter mafia"
YES!!! I love this idea
Yes please.
make it shoot glitter like a glorified watergun
@@noaccount2494 that feels like it'd need an air pressure mechanism, I'm not that advanced in modelling 😅
@@justaperson4656 fair enough haha
My parents were the same way when they found out I am gay, they even sent me to conversion therapy, that was a decade ago and now they fully support me, my lesbian trans sister, my pan nb sibling, and my bi sister
I can honestly say it hurt even more that my parents could support total strangers, my mom even had a safe space sticker on her office door when she had an office as the dean of coms and mandated that all of her staff have training so they could be appropriately able to deal with any hateful conduct that might happen.... and yet she made me get tortured for years
It was crushing and I'm neurodivergent so I don't even feel emotions that strongly, it made me consider ending it all because Mt parents could love perfect strangers more than me
What is it they say? There is no hate like Christian love.
My brother had to wait till our mother died to come out. She would have never accepted that her "perfect" son was gay.
@@2020-p2z I've never heard that saying before but I definitely agree
Something somewhat similar you might like is "what's the best way to make sure your kids are atheist? Send them to Catholic school"
@@seshthecat perfect son? And what is your brothers number? Lol jkjk
Damn, that's terrible! I'm glad that C. therapy is banned in spain since 2017. Far right didn't want it to get banned tho. But they lost because the rest of parties signed up the yes for banning them. So glad it's banned, since now goes against the law, if an institution is discovered actively doing that shitty thing they get in trouble
Ofc some conservative schools exist, but it's not the same to get told u will go to hell than be psychologically abused and even physically
I basically act as a stand in parent for multiple girls I know because I care more about them than their actual parents do. I'm really not against making licenses to be a parent an actual thing. It would help so many kids who end up in shitty situations outside of their control.
Unfortunately, the reality of something like that would lead to whatever entity is in charge of deciding who gets a parenting license gatekeeping what sorts of people are allowed to give birth, in more ways than just readiness. I can see there being a fee or monetary requirements if it were ever to be a real thing. If it were possible for someone to actually know who’d be a good parent, I’d totally be for it.
Also, kudos on helping those girls that need it.
It sounds so enticing, but unfortunately it is 100% a slippery slope towards eugenics. And how'd you enforce it? Sterilization? Forced adoption?
The first one was exactly what was done to disabled people in the turd reich, the latter would lead to abusive/controlling parents hiding their children from the world.
I'd be for it if it wouldn't also have the unfortunate side-effect of opening the floodgates for eugenics (for instance, it'd make it real easy for racists to make it illegal for PoCs to have kids, just by refusing to give *any* PoC a parenting license).
To everyone reading this thread: Look up "Residential Schools", "Eugenics in the US", "The 60s Scoop", and the programs that took newborn babies away from Maori parents in New Zealand and Aboriginal parents in Australia.
We basically already had a "parent-license" in several countries … applied solely to Indigenous People. The results are … really bad.
@@John_Weiss This is exactly what popped into my head and caused me to reply in the first place. It’s awful.
I think the only thing that could help with this is to only give financial support for the first 2-3 kids. So people won’t be incentivized to have kids for government help but pat
ents that truly need assistance are able to get it. I’ve met too many kids who were not well taken care of, that had 7-9 siblings because their parents got welfare and the money didn’t go towards them.
That dad: I'll always love and support you, gay or straight or whatever. I just literally voted against your right to get married if you're gay.
I've never seen someone contradict themselves so much in a single conversation holy hell
it's funny that the mom at 29:15 is not using the "rock on" emoji as she thinks, but actually the one for "I love you" in sign language.
Ironically it kind of fits with her emotionally manipulative texts lol
Click:
"Man I can't wait till we're all the same color so racism is over"
Me, who knows European history:
"Oh dear..."
me a german :
"oh je"
Americans literally inventing races and ethnicities to be the whitest whites: yes
Yeah, all that "all problems would be solved if only we were racially homogenous" BS simply conveys a lack of education at least down to the Middle Ages.
The homophobic father one reminds me of the conversation I had with my mom and how she couldn't realize that her not being able to have an abortion doesn't mean others have to feel the same way
"Stop letting them [this person who is not me] manipulate you! You aren't really gay!" *proceeds to try and manipulate them*
Wild
I’m glad that this subreddit exists because as a victim of abuse I don’t always realize abusive behavior. Subreddits like this help me, who wants to be a parent, to see what is crazy and abusive behavior, and what kind of behavior to avoid.
That whole "voting against gay marriage" part reminds me of a gal I knew in college who was going for that & I couldn't help but say something to the effect of "Why can't the gays be as miserable in marriage as so many of the straights if they want to?" I mean, I feel like gay & other LGBTGA+ marriages are more often healthier than straight marriages so less likely to be miserable, but either way, they should have the equal right to have a marriage if they want.
I believe every American has the right to marry whomever they love. Also to go through a painful, expensive soul crushing divorce.
50 investigations woman: well, i'm a lawyer (my grandfather and parents are too, so i've had a lot of exposure to lots and lots of cases). i saw cases of abuse with VIDEO PROOF, PICTURES AND WITNESSES and courts still judged in favor of the abuser leaving the child/children with abusive parent. a lot of abusers are incredibly manipulative people who are able to charm their way out of legal trouble and turn the case against their victims, even with iron-clad evidence to support victim's claims. i am, sadly, not surprised this is something that happened to OP too.
Small correction... i am pretty sure with belladonna she didn't mean the plant, she meant the homeopathic "medicine" derived from the plant... so she wasn't poisoning the baby, she just gave it sugar-water, which is only slidly better
Yeah, she means the plant extract, which is sold super diluted. Unless she bought from someone who presses their own flowers 🤔... Belladonna has it's uses, I guess, but better to get a solid prescription from the doc than to risk an accidental poisoning.
Yeah, the belladonna thing really scared the living daylights out of me. I was like: "Are you trying to murder your child?"
this just reminds me how crazy my mom was. She still doesn’t believe she was abusive even after she kicked me out to be homeless at 14, then disowned me again for being transgender.
Im 18 now and will have to be on disability my entire life and can’t go to university. I have to have a service dog and have 4-10 seizures a day.
But nah, Im fine she never did anything wrong
YIKES! That's Horrible!
I hope that you stabilize. Remember that there are open-coursework videos put out by universities. Watching them is certainly not the same as a degree, of course, but they're nevertheless a means of learning the material. That is something that can potentially help you in the future by giving you preparatory-lessons for the actual courses.
You Are Valid. Your Pain and Trauma is Valid.
_She_ is a Liar, a total PoS, and an Inappropriate Use of Carbon Compounds.
I can't even... You're the same age as my youngest kid. Please accept some mama hugs, and know that you are a precious spark of the Divine, and deserve to be treated as such! 💙💗🤍💗💙
God these stories make me want to be able to help but I'm not 18 yet. I hope to be either social worker or physical therapist and I definitely want to be an adoptive parent or, well I dont know word for it on English, but it's basically taking care of children until they are adopted by someone else or have place for them in Orphanage. I don't think it's called foster parent but maybe? Anyway yeah, stories like this break my heart. I wish you all the best and so much happiness.
Just keep reminding yourself that she was WRONG.
good luck, really.
@@John_Weiss get me my ak-47
it's for the mom dont worry
@@ines1084 just so you know, you were right, it is called a foster parent !! :)
Youre so right about the "knights in shining armor" thing, like , it's incredibly frustrating to have people say they care about you yet completely disrespect your simple wish not to have a person in your life. The best is when they set it up like an intervention, so you come home and that person is there surrounded by a bunch of people who came to ""mediate"" your own personal thoughts and feelings in regards to your relationships, like its all some big problem they need to save you from and fix your relationships for -their own convenience- your well-being
i cant imagine how horrible it would be if you were let down by a partner who is the same gender as you, and your parents think it "proves them right" when they said that the person was manipulating you, when being let down is something that can happen in ANY relationship
On my School they call halloween "costume day" cause some parents thinks that halloween is a demonic ritual
As a satanist, this makes even more fun
That's even more funny when you learn it was actually a religious day. It's amazing how many people confuse Halloween with the Day of the Dead. Very different holidays.
@@brothersandsistersofvalhalla tbf Halloween is not originally Christian. It was paganic, similar celebrations happened all around Europe at the pagan times. It's about death but also about new beginnings, as it's the pagan new years.
This is why some people think it's satanic. But then again Christmas and Easter are also pagan celebrations. Christianity just liked to steal holidays from pagans for it to be easier to indoctrinate them.
Fun Fact: Birthday celebrations were at one point rejected by Christians because they thought it was a pagan ritual.
@@brothersandsistersofvalhalla What's worse is that Day of the Dead isn't demonic at all either (unless I'm forgetting something), but more like a memorial.
@@thatoneriffperson5194 so its like a funeral with extra steps?
It’s such a great thing to hear an eagle scream right after the words “shh disclaimer”
I thought it was "psst disclaimer" ... going back to listen again but very carefully now.
12:30 ''a messy house is linked to mental issues'' my adhd brain starts sweating nervously, tries to ignore the chaos on my desk alone, not talking about my apt
I cannot agree more with the last point you made. Chances are if someone is exaggerating or making up past trauma for attention, there is definitely some other issue that needs addressing asap. Encourage them to get professional help. Even if they're just making it all up for fun, it won't hurt and might help them learn and grow
I feel so bad for OP at 16:14. Any real parent would clearly see that their child has been through something traumatic and needs some time to overcome it. A real parent would support their child through that time of grief instead of telling them that their feelings are invalid. All kids deserve a parent, but not all parents deserve a kid.
My daughter started clapping when you did and going “yaaaay!” (She’s almost 10 months, just loved that you were smiling, clapping, and talking)
Yay 😊 👏
That's so cute?? Aww.
I'm so glad more and more parents are moving away from the boomer mentality and treating their children as people. It's really hopeful that one day we will have a much better generation.
Oh, definitely. Generations develop and evolve over time. Hopefully, more people will learn from their parents' and others' mistakes than repeat them, and so they end up treating their kids well, which would get passed on to the next generation and the next. I hope I'll be able to see what it's like after a while, to see how far we come.
Eventually, all us millennials and generation Z will be crotchety old farts too, probably just as f***** up and bigoted in our own ways as these people…
On the other hand, tiktok and the promulgation of ever more immersive technology
I got a shit mom and an awesome dad so I got a pretty good balance there
we are going to be that generation, plus all the little things are going to be solved, like explaining why you can't pause video games, and some bigger things too like bosses that are less of an asshole
sometimes i think what some parents really want is a dog. a dog listens to you and depends on you, a child grows out of that and can talk back.
not that i want those people to have a dog instead of a child, the dog would probably suffer silently
I don't trust any of these people with an animal, of any kind.
I know my parents love the dog more than they love me.
Relatable, my dad gave more freedom to the dogs then me
See, the really sad part is, turning 18 doesn’t always mean you can escape, especially if you don’t want to just be homeless. I had a coworker who was 20 I believe and she got fired because she kept turning up to her shifts late… why was she always late? Because her parents kept forcing her to take them shopping just before she needed to go to work and then would dilly dally and take too long. One of the managers said “I really hate having to do this, and I wish I could do more to help cause her parents are horrible, but she’s gotten way to many write ups now. We can’t have an employee we don’t know will actually show up.” I am paraphrasing a bit as this was years ago, but like, he legit kept asking her questions to see if there was any way to help her get out of there, or just make it to work on time reliably, but ultimately her parents won, yet again (this wasn’t the first time), and she was fired and had to continue relying on them. I really hope she’s found a way out and is doing better now.
5:10 ...it's honestly scary how many people still have a problem with mixed """race""" couples. I never understood how severe the problem was until I started dating someone from a different, non-european ethnicity and man... The looks and stares we sometimes get are just priceless. Can be really annoying but we've learned to laugh about it. It's also a 100% worth it. She is the best that ever happened to me.
How do people like this make this far into not only being adults but also HAVING CHILDREN TO BEGIN WITH?!
Ngl, listening to this subredit is simultaneously cathartic and triggering.
Makes me realize that I'm not the only one, also opens up deep wounds.
At least thiccy cliccy wiccy amsr makes it palatable.
The number of people calling him "Thliccy cliccy wiccy" brings so much joy to my life.
Every video strengthens my belief in a license to have kids , jeez these parents have as much sympathy as a potato
A potato has more sympathy by not being actively harmful in these cases.
More like mistletoe, they're parasitic.
@@stefangrobbink7760 And, for them, doing nothing doesn't harm anyone either. They can't move or think. They're potatoes. It's not their fault if they don't take a human child into therapy; they're not the ones who brought the kid into this world, and--- again --- they're potatoes.
Verdict: Support potatoes, not bad parents.
We would end up with eugenics and "pure race breeding programs" so quickly.
Potatoes are good, these people aren't
An important thing about these people making mountains out of molehills is that they dont actually care about the instigating incident. If you accidentally take a charging block and they accuse you of stealing it, you must immediately submit to their judgement. If you defend your actions, you are now defying them. Now its about power and heirarchy.
My bio mom, cuts me out of her life because she doesn't like that I am a lesbian and had my name legally changed. She even "came out" and acted like the victim. This is from a woman who forgave everyone who actually abused her and her kids. And continued to allow them in her life and her childrens lives no matter how much it hurt them.
If I was a teacher and a parent tried to argue about pride flags in the classroom I would say "of course I will burn any flag with strips in my classroom"
I'd say that its secretly God's rainbow and wink.
I would tell her, "If we have to remove one flag, we will remove ALL flags from the the school, including the one waving outside. That's how that works."
Hahahahaha YES
@@LunaP1 yess
Honestly, just listening to these is making me feel better about my parents. Great video Click, thank you!
As someone who has parents like these, I hope things get better for the OPs in this video.
And I hope that things will get better for you, stay strong
@@erikstolzenberger1517 things have gotten better for me, thank you. I moved away from my parents and I'm doing much better now.
@@queen_of_flatulence Great to hear that, all the best wishes for your future 🙂
My mom abused me and my brother when we were kids, had the cops called on her TWICE, only stopped the abuse because they threatened to arrest her if they got called to our house again, I was in therapy because of suicidal tendancies and DID caused by her abuse, I even straight up told her to her face that my dad in the only one I consider a real parent and actually listen to because he's never hurt me and even after all of that she still doesn't believe she ever did anything wrong and complains that parents aren't allowed to "discipline" their children anymore. No increadibly woman, no one is saying you can't discipline your kids, what they are saying is you can't beat your kids. There is not a difference between abuse and your idea of "discipline" your idea of "discipline" is abuse and if you can't understand what discipline actually is then you don't deserve to call yourself a mother. You may have given birth to me but that doesn't give you the right to do whatever you want to me. You're my mom in DNA only but I don't even have any biological children of my own and I'm already more of a parent than you ever were.
That story about the person afraid to cross the street infuriated me so much. I was hit by a car ten years ago at a crosswalk. We had to pass that crosswalk heading to one of my physical therapy appointments and I had to hold my mom's hand to get through it. Would it really kill you as a mother to show support to your traumatized child?!
26:54 It reminds me when my mom read about my sexuality (pansexual) and she said "I'm okay with you being pansexual just don't date girls."
LMAO my parents did that when I came out as trans. "you can be trans just dont act like a boy and dont talk about it"
Ah. Yes. Very "okay" with it. : ) (but hello fellow pansexual!)
Omg hi my fellow pansexualss! Also i would be like "but that's the whole point"
11:10 that lady reminded me of the sister of the lady I babysat for when I was 13. One day, before they left, they were sitting around talking. The sister was all giddy because the school had sent child protective services after her and when they had arrived she had just finished her spring cleaning. She was laughing about how her house was spotless, so it meant CPS couldn't get her on anything. Lady, they weren't there because you haven't cleaned your oven. I stopped babysitting for them soon after because they always came home drunk and I didn't feel safe around that.
CPS did do that in my case. They were called once, but didn't get involved until my mom got arrested and found she had drugs. They completely screwed everything up so it wouldn't surprise me if they screwed up that situation too.
I really hope the kid in the sister's home was taken from her because honestly if CPS had to be called to begin with that's really concerning.
If CLS is found then they should do a strong search, there is most likely something
18:50
I was playing pokemon black for nostalgia while listening to this video. I nicknamed my scolipede "Bella". short for Belladonna(another name for nightshade. chose because scolipede is a poison type). I was training her up for the next gym, and RIGHT as she hits level 38 click says "Belladonna". I immediately thought "WHAT THE ACTUAL F-"
Omg the belladonna one killed me. It’s basically a poisonous plant, actually good against fever in VERY SPECIFIC DOSES. The „does anyone have a clue about the dosage“ made me rage.
This Subreddit is proof that some people should not be parents. Not that it was needed.
It always gets me how some folks reacted to mask mandates, even to mere mask REQUESTS. It's as if they equated these filters covering the lower half of one's face with full length black burkas on a sun baked day.
These people would be the first ones to try to walk on Mars outside the colony without a space suit on.
I've gotten cursed out twice now while out shopping because I tend to wear a mask (I'm an out of shape not quite middle aged asthmatic, I have enough trouble breathing as is, I really don't need any respiratory viruses). Thankfully I've been on my own when it's happened, but if they're going to get aggressive with a 6ft masc-ish person, I'm slightly afraid of how they treat other people (like I'm not unimposing and I totally have rbf, so I guess they may just react to me, but I really hope they don't behave that way to children or people of smaller stature than them)
@@brothersandsistersofvalhalla Honestly, they should be allowed to do so. I think we should start letting natural selection take some effect again with these types of cases, it’s just unfortunate for the other people forced to be around them.
The last time I caught a cold was in November, 2019.
I'm wearing my lovely silk masks in public from now on, especially during cold and flu season.
I cant breathe with masks, so I actually have a reason not to
one day i'm gonna tell people proudly that you raised me when my parents didn't
I'm hugging you rn, hope it's ok? *hugs*
Eh I'm going to the store ya want some cookies
@@Tviannedo you is insane? *pulls out lighter and petrol*
Honestly, I am with you. Hope you do well in the future man.
Med student currently taking pharmacology here- atropa belladonna (the toxic plant referenced here) does actually contain a compound (atropine) that is genuinely life saving in certain conditions.
However, 1) it's not used for seizures, 2) dosing is very, VERY specific- very easy to overcorrect and kill your patient, 3) the plant has other shit in it that is probably especially toxic for a literal infant, and 4) each plant has a variable dose of atropine so you have no idea how much you're actually giving based on the number of flowers
Tl; dr from a medical perspective this is much, MUCH worse than it appears to be bc of wack dosing and usage.
As someone who is currently just starting college, I had to learn all about FAFSA laws, that mother asking for all the blackboard stuff and location, isn't actually legal for her to view without the child's permission. Control of that stuff transfers as soon as you turn 18 or go to a non k-12 (aka college or trade school)
I feel blessed to have semi normal parents comparing to some other people.
It may be a language thing? Belladonna is also known as Nightshade, Wolfsbane, or Monk’s Hood. Generally an infamous poison. I realize it is a family of plants but…. Yikes.
Yeah was looking for a comment like this so I didn't end up spamming it but like, she didn't care to look up what it was XD I hope her child isn't dead o.o
It does really weird things that aren't lethal if you microdose, but I definitely wouldn't even try without a degree in organic chemistry.
@@vxicepickxv They're most probably talking about a Homeopathy product. Sure, its useless quack but very popular with a certain type of parents.
I think the most insane thing my dad ever did was one time he got mad at me cause he told me to clean the Legos off my floor, and I didnt, so he scared the shit out of me by staring at me from outside my window, I was scared of windows for at least a month after that.
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For the sake of my own sanity I'm going to pretend that is the name of an alternative medicine and not medicine made out of the plant Belladonna
17:37 actually the get back on the horse right away thing (apart from being seriously hurt, then please go see a doc) has also something to do with the hoses mind. They are incredible smart animals. And if they learn that if they get you off, you will stop, this behavior will reoccur and mostly even in a more dangerous way. But it can also help with the riders mind. But everyone handles trauma differently and please make sure you’re not alone when you go riding on a difficult horse
16:12 as someone who’s terrified of crossing the street without even having a traumatic experience linked to it I’m disgusted by how the parent talked to them, I’m so sad
Parent: *Proceed to destroy your thing for just responding to what they say*
Me: *cry*
Parent: Thats what you get for talking back to me.
Me: …This is too much, do i just leave? {i have nowhere to go, barely any money}
Parent: why are you sad, stressed and anxious all the time.
Very very quick recap of my current life. I litteraly don’t know what to do anymore. If anyone got idea, let me know.
try talking to them about your problems. they probably will realize their problems, and if they don't, atleast you will feel better. Talking on personal experience, letting out your pain will make you suffer a lot less, since atleast they'll know what you're going through.
Them: "Oh, you did do what I want you to do, so say goodbye to your laptop!"
Me: "Well I hope you like being alone in your old age."
Years later...
Them: "Why don't you come visit me?!"
Me: "Because you'll more than likely destroy me." *block*
Ugh, the one with the mother giving the phone number to the grandparents... I feel that. At some point, I had to set a firm boundary with my mom, that my father and his wife do not get any (and I mean ANY) information about me, ever. They really aren't on speaking terms, but sometimes she'd get friendly with them, and end up telling me my father's shitty opinions on me and my life choices. No thanks!
So I got sick a few years ago and my doctor suggested me calling my family over to inform them about it since I needed to stay at home for a bit. I cautiously said ok I guess and I specifically told my dad to not bring my sister along (tldr: I hate her), just my brother. Reached the day of the appointment keen on having my brother calm my nerves and guess whose face I see instead~ Fast forward 3 or so years, guess who fell into depression (thankfully out by now but not fully), get highly anxious about everything including driving and is still living in my family home doing jack shit 💕✨
I asked for one thing and that couldn't even be done. "oh but she's family" yeah I love my family but my mom and sis? I'd be doing better if they weren't around
You should really post this
@@olakpasa6486 what?
my father told me that he drank because of me and my siblings. one of the many reasons I went no contact with him 10 years ago.
It's a fairly common practice for addicts to blame everyone but themselves for their addictions. You made the right choice.
Had to move back with my mom, for a spell due to some recent personal issues and events. Spent 6mnths fighting with her to get a copy of the mail box key, seeing as we both work different times of the time. 11 mths arguing to replace my mattress, I lost, so I could stop sleeping on the couch. All the while arguing with her, with sited sources that sleeping for so long on the couch wasn't good for my back, and getting told I shouldn't question her on it, cause she's a liscened massage therapist and know the truth. Finally won out, to then have her secretly remove me from our apartments notification system. So, if a package ever shows up to the front office for either of us, only she will know. I could fill the subreddit with all kinds of stories like,
my first ever F in middle school, came home one day, to absolutely EVERYTHING haven been taken out of my bedroom, except an barren mattress. No, pillows, blankets, drawers, TV, clothes.... NOTHING, and being told I had to earn it all back. Spent an entire semester, having my wardrobe, and life micro managed til that F was gone.
That's just horrible. Keep your distance as much as you can. Definitely emotionally harden your heart against her.
What she did to you for getting an 'F' - that's child abuse. And it's not how you get a kid to study more or otherwise do better in school.
She sounds like a controlling b1tch. I hope you're doing better now.
I wish you had family members to snitch to. Parents like that always want to keep their face in front of relatives. But srsly, good luck with her. And remember you deserve better
I'm going to be ranting here, but these insane parents always make me furious. I'm seventeen, and getting ready to never talk to my grandmother again once I turn eighteen after she emotionally abused her two kids and consistently forgets about all of her grandsons because she "can't send them jewelry." I made this decision after she forgot my 9-year-old brother's birthday. Trying to explain to a 9-year-old that their grandparent forgot about them is probably the hardest thing I have ever done. She also was a pretty awful parent. Everyone knows that you're not supposed to play favorites as a parent, right? That's one of the basic rules of parenting. When her oldest son went to a prestigious college, she got a license plate with "UNC" Ma on it. (School name has been changed for privacy). When her second son went to school? Nothing. It has been 28 years since her oldest graduated college, but she still has that license plate. Not only is she an insane parent, but she is also a Karen(literally). She's warned me not to go to college because it will "indoctrinate" me. The best part of this opinion? SHE WAS A TEACHER. SHE WENT TO COLLEGE. SHE SENT BOTH OF HER KIDS TO COLLEGE. Luckily my parents support me in this decision to cut contact, so I doubt they'll give her my phone number.
I love how you call the Lgbtq+ the “glitter mafia”
First time I’ve heard that! I’ve heard “Rainbow Mafia,” “Alphabet Mafia”
I LOVE IT-
I hate this subreddit but you make it at least bearable to laugh at owo
Ew owo
@@Noperison it’s just an emoticon what’s the big deal?
@Thatmemeguy2011 If you hate owo why are you watching the Click-
@@Noperison There's a different version of youtube for children btw. I suggest you head there or decide to be more mature
@@Noperison this probably isn't the channel for you
I am so tempted to join this subreddit because of how relatable it is. And that makes me sad.
Click’s hair is getting longer and longer. Is it long enough to braid? Because that would go great with a maid outfit… new fan art idea
Omg!! I want him to come out with a calendar. Either him in a maid outfit with puppies, or a fireman outfit with ducks. I want my Cliccy fireman calendar 😍
@@jaxscales6158 why just one of them? BOTH OF THEM AT ONCE
@@L0vely_Dem0n-z5h Every other month it alternates between maid Cliccy and fireman Cliccy
@@0gammag0 yes! Petition to make this happen. Please sign on the line:_____✍
@@0gammag0 YES I LOVE THIS IDEA. Cliccy has made me realize I’m incredibly gay and want a mustache
9:02 i find this so funny because if i were in this household I would be dead because:
1.) i am trans
2.) im gay as all hell
3.) im dating a man
4.) he is trans
5.) 5 he is a person of color
6.) i would argue with my entire family 24/7
For anyone who needs this: Just because someone else's situation is worse doesn't negate that you're going through shit too. Everyone has ebbs and flows in life. You're allowed to complain and get things off your chest, and it's actually helpful to do so. Your pain and suffering is as real as the tween's who got broken up with for the first time to the person who just lost their parent. It may be varying levels of pain, but it's all real. You and your feelings are valid.
I am really grateful I had sane, responsible parents who still care for me in the appropriate way to parent a 30-year-old, lol. My in-laws are more dysfunctional, not quite insane but the things I've witnessed from them (and learned from my husband when he was younger) raise similar alarm bells that these posts do, although not to the same extent. Unfortunately they live much closer to us than my own parents and we see them pretty much every week (or more), compared to a couple times a year for my folks. Even though I didn't grow up with this abusive crap I still feel triggered by all of it. Choosing to have kids requires much more self-work than merely wanting kids, I have found.
Being gay out of spite, is a whole mood
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That reminded me of that one scene in a Star Trek movie where the Vulcan academy dean tells Spock that he's surprised he even qualified, being half-human and all
1:09 Friendly reminder that abuse is abuse. The severity does not matter, abuse is abuse. Some people have it worse than others; that does not make anothers' problems any less valid to complain about.
4:20 You know after the recent drama that..., That comment has been put into a completely different light
These kinds of people make me grateful for having semi normal parents that raised me well and granted me almost all of my wishes
This makes me thankful that my family is Lutheran.
Stories like these make me VERY grateful for the normal and loving family I grew up in. My best friend did grow up with a messed up family and she could tell a few stories.
Ugh, the one about giving the phone number to the grandparent w/o permission is bringing up memories. We had to train half of my extended family out of automatically telling a parent about anything happening w/ their kid after the kid had expressly stated that any and all communications should go through the other parent, including health updates. They kept just telling the bad parent because "They are your parent and deserve to know" without any considertion of the child's (who was an older teen by this point) wishes and it was so frustrating. Like, you aren't their parent, you're just an aunt/uncle. You have no right to make these decisions, back off!!
as a brazillian, here in brazil everyone is already very racially ambiguous.
But I guarantee you, it does not much to solve racism, all that it changes is that what it means to be white or to be black is much more generic (white = light skin, black = dark skin, no matter what your facial features, hair, whatever). The racism still remains
18:50 God, tjis actually really scared me. That is avery dangerous berry, that has been historically famous for being used in poisoning (especially through mistakes in dosage), and if used medically should be handled with the UTMOST care, by following exactly the dosage prescribed by a doctor and nobody else! The fact that they're being so careless with such a plant when using it ON THEIR CHILD is positively dreadful.
11:28 I feel like this super common. Rather than take ownership of their addictions they make it everyone else’s fault.
"Ah yes, my baby has seizures so I´ll give it extract of a poisonous plant because some piss guzzling, incense inhaling mom group told me to"....
It's based off some legitimate research, but I wouldn't even try without a degree in organic chemistry.
Febrile convulsions are caused as the name implies by a fever. Unless belladonna reduces temperature it won’t help. Over the counter medication often does the trick but also the bab6 should be checked by a doctor as the fever could be caused by a serious issue.