I’ve seen it both ways. Parents love the wrong kids (kids who don’t care about them) and don’t love the right kids that love them or Kids that love their parents and their parents take advantage of them. Don’t expect to much from parents or kids and you won’t be disappointed.
Why do you says they love the wrong kids? The selfish son says.. he BORROW. When someone borrow money they have to pay it back. He is selfish n greedy refuse to pay what he borrow back.
Ungrateful kids. I’m sorry...this is why my husband and I make sure we have enough life insurance money to cover our funerals. I don’t want my kids to hate/resent each other.
Parents should never be like these two parents and give so much money to one. If they dont have enough money to give to them equally they shouldn't give to anyone. Save that money to buried them. Whatever left after they both gone then they can split it equally among them. We as parents need to be fair towards our kids too.
The parent was unfair, but no matter what the situation is, the sons shouldn’t cut the parent off. Well here is a lesson learned to all parents. Don’t give no money to 1 kid if you can’t give for all fairly. This kids is trash!
Yep I agreed with you here. Just sad not one is big enough to look pass the money. I blame the parents because knowing you have so many sons why would you treat one better than the rest.
But when you borrow, should you pay back? It doesn't matter who you borrow the money from you have to pay back. Its the children who are selfish and greedy.
@@Ehang768 I’m gonna piss off a lot of listener, especially the majority of them are females. Just remember that wives come and go because they do not have to carry their last name forever as we men have to carry our roots.
@@maipha8560 why do you blame the parents? The son says he BORROW. should you pay it back when you borrow? I always pay my inlaws n parent back when I says I borrow.
Parents should not be like these parents too and give so much money to one and nothing to the others. If they don't have enough for everyone, save it for themselves. Sometimes it's not about the money but its the principle that the parents love the younger one more. Parents should love all their kids equally to avoid this type of resentment. I have grown kids too. I dont give to anyone. I put all their name as beneficiaries on my life insurance. When I go, they all received same amount as my blessings that I love them all equally, sons and daughters are all equal
@@koslis6833 if parents love kids fairly there would not be so much resentment like this. These parents are not being fair to the kids. They love the youngest son more. Put yourself in the kids shoes. Will you be very happy if your parents give so much to one of your siblings and you received nothing? Wouldn't you question their love for you?
I'm sure if the parents were fair to begin with, the kids wouldn't act out like this too. They are angry, feel unfair, and their resentment caused them to behave this way. Not saying it's right, but there's a cause and effect.
Ntuj nis hmoob so sad 😭😭 Neb cov me nyuam ko ces zoo cia lawv tuag mus thaum me me zoo dua os, niam tais txhob tu siab os lawv yeej txawj laus txawj tuag lawv yeej Tsi plhis mog...
Some of these comments are just wow.... first of all, the son who "borrowed," wronged the parents by lying. It wasn't a gift. 2nd of all....all the kids are ungrateful. The nyabs are trash. This is what happens to our elderly because the sons don't have balls to stand up for their parents knowing darn well their wives would not be like this to their own parents.
Those kids feel they are entitled to money that it’s not theirs to begin with! And the parents should have not given money to ANY of the kids! When it comes to money, it can do lots of damage!
Well nyab and tou will get to be grdpa and grdma on the way. They have kids too what they did to their parents. Their kids will do the same. What go around will come around later.
I only have 4 daughters...i really wish i was blessed with a son but if SONS like these only, i dont regret not having any...at least i can die in peace having an excuse y no one burried me.
Koj ua ib siab os niam tais.. koj cov tub cov kiv lawv cov menyuam tseem tab tom kib roj cuab yiag yuav nqis zaub mov rau lawm... Ua neeg nyob txoj kev laus thiab kev tuag ces yeej tsis muaj leej twg dhia dhau nawb! Lawv twb los txog lawv lub rooj npam lawm... Thaum los txog ces mam xav ces lig lawm os mog... Poj yeej ua cia yawm yeej ua dhau los... Mam thov kom zam txim ces cov kev phem lim xyiam thiab mob ntsoog twb tau ua los lawm es daws tsis tau... Ib txheej yuav ua mus ib txheej ib tiam yuav ua mus ib tiam sib txuas pes zws!!! Pab koj tu siab thiab koj tsev neeg rau txoj kev npam yuav los sai2 tom ntej no uas tsis muaj leej twg pab tau... Koj ces yeej meem nyob kaj siab li koj nyob tau... Kuv thov kom koj noj qab nyob zoo xwb os mog..
If u know how to be parents and are fair to ALL your kids, this wouldn't be a problem. Most of the times, when money issues like this arise, it's bc the parents favor one son over the other or didn't treat all their kids equally.
Maybe if the kids weren't such greedy bastards and thought about money only, the parents wouldn't have to worry about dying alone like in this case. I don't agree with your assessment on this specific situation
As a parent I don't favor one child more than the other. If the child is more lazy and hard headed he will get yelled at more. For you to say this means you are a greedy person who only thinks of yourself.
I am a parent too so I will put my two cents in. 20k is a lot of money. To select one child to give this money to is asking for issues. The parents may not be calculating and did it out of their love for the youngest son but the love for their other sons naturally comes into question here. Note love is measured by what you do since people are not mind readers. I am a parent too and I would have to place fault heavier on the parents. Parents want equal love from their children and must be examples of that. You can’t measure the little things but you can definitely measure the big things: 20k is a pretty big thing. Trust me, if you have many sons and do exactly this, believe me you will experience similarities if not the same.
I can relate to this story. My mil showered her favorite sons with her money. Kuv tsis yog khib but kuv tu siab rau my mil. I made a promised to myself to love and support my children equally. I do not want my children to go through this emotional roller coaster of being mistreated and unloved. I blamed both parents and the children on this story.
This is why I tell my husband we can make our own money & don’t “fight” over who his parents “love more.” Not worth the pettiness. Parents raise u with unconditional love. That’s how u have to approach them in later life. I guess I’m saying this becuz of spending time with cancer patients & with covid spreading...life is too short to hang onto these family disagreements.
One of many reasons I don’t want a lot of children. I don’t want them turning against each other for the sake of money. I make sure I have enough coverage for myself when I die.
Wow, money is more important than unconditional love. It's partially the parents fault because they didn't give evenly knowing that they expect them to contribute evenly when they died. I would have given the other 3 son 10k each and demand the youngest son to return 10k back within a certain time. As parents, you are your children first teacher so they learn from you. That's also the reason why you don't have so many dang kids because you don't have enough to give the same to each one. It's just sad that of all the 4 sons, no one is bigger and look pass the money.
At first I'm wasn't going to comment but second thoughts. First of all, shame on you as a mother and parents. Speaking of fairness; if the money was to loan to your youngest son so that they can buy their first house then I will agree with you but uhm hello... it's $20k you're giving away for free or as a gift to your one son while the others left empty handed. I can feel your other sons are hurts, sad, and feels unloved. It's definitely not greed but it's a betrayal feelings you got from your own parents that made you feels unwanted and unloved! You should have thought it through before giving to your youngest son when its $20k, its not just a couple hundreds. As being parents when it comes to lectures the naughtiest will of course get more of the beating but when you spread your loves and gifting you must give the same amounts! I am so sick of seeing parents favorite their children. Second of all, shame on the sons! Even if your parents didn't share their life saving on you they still give birth to you. You owe them your life! At least do your duties as a son and fulfillment your parents last wish. You may be mad but you can't get away the facts that you are still their son's! Geesh people now and days are so hard headed and ungrateful. It's so common senses. Smh
I don’t think the kids were selfish and I don’t believe the parents thought anything when they gave the money to the youngest son. The moral of the story is about treating your kids fairly.
This is a good story for more Hmong families to learn. There are still more Hmong families that are still doing the same cycle... I experiened & witnessed my in-laws siblings were demanded greeds & ungrateful with no conditional love. Very sad heart touching story 💔💔💔😢😢😢😢
Tus niam tais pab koj tu siab heev li. Tsis tsim nyob muab roj tsha yug cov menyuam no li. Peb ua neej nyob sib pab thiaj txawj sib hlub es tus twg tsis muaj los yuav tsum koom tes los pab tus ntawv; txhob cia poob qab. Nej yog ib tse neeg koom ib cov roj ntsav tsis tseem nyog nej yuav los ua yeeb ncuab li no, ua rau nej txiv tuag tu siab ntso tsis pom qab qhia rau leeg twg li. Thov Vaj tswv foom koob moov rau koj.
Wow... koj cov tub no yog 1 cov tub nyab ntshaw nyiaj xwb tsis muaj kev hlub. Yog zoo li koj cov tub no xwb ces hais rau cov ua tsis muaj tub los tsis txhob tu siab nawb mog. Txawm li cas los txhob tu siab os me niam tais aws lawm luag tej laus 1 txawm tias haiv neeg muaj haiv tsim no os mog.
Me niam tais awd txhob tu siab os mog koj cov me nyuam yog ib pab me nyuam kws ruam txhaj plaws thiab lim hiam heev es thiaj tsis paub pauj niam txiv lub txiaj ntsim yus niam yug yus es nim muab txoj sia los pauv nim nchuav roj nchuav ntshav los mus pauv nej txoj sia nej siv lub siab lim hiam Li no rau nej niam cas nej tsi muab nej cov tua tuag kom tag es nej tseem yuav hlub ua dab tsi nej mas tsis tau zoo lau
Wow, this money belongs the parents. None of these kids deserves any. They are very capable to take care of their family. This story just breaks my heart. There is no leader in this family. Muaj ib pab tub zoo li pab no xwb ces cia txhob yug lawm os. OMG
Ua cas niam txiv hmoob mas nim hais “ib leej mi tub cag” hos ntxhais ces nim “ib niag ntxhais qhuav”. Tub cag tub cag quav dev, zoo li tej pab niag no xwb na...Ho!
Wow some horrible and ungrateful kids!!!! Why are they jealous when that money was borrowed? But then the youngest took advantage and was just going to take the money for free. Damn!! How sad!
Tsis tsimnyog yug tau ib pab li os... Niam txiv los zoo li hos minyuam los phem sib xws nkaus li lau...tsev neeg no ces los ua neej xiam tiam lawm xwb os...nrog koj tu siab kawg li os tus niam tsev aw...
I'm not going to lie, but if you haven't experience the same situation as this family you wouldn't know. I have and I don't feel bad for this grandma/grandpa at all! Favor one over the other is WRONG!! I do more for my parents than my siblings because I love them but at the end my siblings get more than I do! I try not to get too butt hurt about it because I still have respect for my elders/parents. As messed up as it sounds, I am upset like the kids in the this story! You wouldn't know until it happens to you.
Peb ua niam ua txiv txhob hlub ib tug tshaj ib tug es menyuam thiaj tsis tu siab rau yus. Peb yuav tsum tseg nyiaj faus peb es txhob muab rau tej menyuam. Ua ib daim ntawv tseg es lwm hnub tsis muaj yus lawm mam faib yus cov nyiaj rau sawvdaws es lawv thiaj tsis tu siab. Kuv li kuv coj li no.
Pab niag me nyuam no e tsi hlub lawv niam li lawv pua paub tia lawv tawm qhov twg lo ma ca siab phem ua luaj cov tub no yuav pham thaum lawv lau thiab od
Yog kawg li nawb txhob xav tias tom ntej no cov nyab siab phem no yuav tau zoo no tsis muaj hnub li nawb yuav tsuj niam thiab txiv tu hneev ntaws xwb los mav
Cov me nyuam no tsis txawj xav especially cov tub. You don’t realize how many siblings you had lost n how much your parents hurts/cried. Nrog koj tu siab mog tus niam tsev, Thov kom koj nyob zoo es txog thaum koj mus es mus zoo2 xwb, koj cov me nyuam thiaj tsis cem2 ntxub2 koj lawm mog.
tus me niam tsev pab koj tu siab tshaj plaws lub neej no. xyov yog tim ab tsi tiag tab sis kuj tim neb 2 tug laus me ntsis thiab tiam sis qhov loj yog tus tub hlob tsis meej pem thiab tej zaum nej pab txiv tub no tsis yog ib pab neeg meej pem es thiaj muaj tej teeb meem loj ua luaj no. yog lub teb chaws meskas no muaj me nyuam los yuav tsis muaj los tsis txhob tu tu siab. lub neej no muaj kev khaum kawg lawv cov me nyuam tseem yov ua rau lawv es tu siab ib txhia tseg ib txhia mog
If you love your parents...nothing come between. Don't let greedy be part of your pure love for your parents. I understand where the other sons are coming from. But dont let your parents dying in broken hearts.
These sons n daughterinlaw needs to grow up. It aint your money to begin with, your parents can give it to whomever they want. Want money work for it. Also don't ever call your own parents stupid. Smh
Txhob tu siab tus niam lau aw tiam no ces peb Txhob cia siab peb cov me nyuam os lawv tsuas xav kom yus pab lawv xwb tej me nyuam yeej tsis hlub peb li os es yus npaj yus lub tsev rau yus mam mus nyob rau yav laus xwb os tu2 siab kawg os
Tu siab tiam no peb tau lub neej tau zoo noj zoo , lub neej kaj siab heev tabsis qhov tu siab yog qhov uas peb tej mi tub mi nyuam tiam no es lawv twb tau Nyiaj dawb2 los ntiav lawv los tu yus tabsis los lawv tseem muaj lub khib thiab muaj lub tsis kam tu peb rau thaum peb ua tsis taus noj. Es ua peb txoj kev ntshaw peb ib txwm cia siab tias tu tub tu kiv los npaj laus tabsis thaum peb laus lawv twb tau Nyiaj ntiav lawv tib si los tu peb tabsis lawv twb tseem tsis kam tu peb os Hmoob. Es cov ho tsis muaj tib li los txhob tu2 siab thiab os.
Cov me nyuam no tsis hlub niam thiab txiv lawv lub neej yeej yuav raws li niam thiab txiv txoj kev txom nyem uas lawv tsis hlub niam thiab txiv. Lawv cov me nyuam cov me nyuam yuav ua li lawv ua rau lawv niam lawv txiv. Ib qhov ntxiv tim tib Co nyab yeej phem. Yog cov nyab zoo tus tub ua los tus nyab tias txhob ua phem ces yeej zoo.
Hais txog qhov cov tub cov nyab tsis hlub ces yeej tu siab kawg hos hais txog ntawm nyiaj ces yeej tim koj me2 vim tub ki coob2 koj yuav faib tsis txhua ces txhob faib yog yuav faib ces ntau tsawg los faib sib luag thiaj li sib haum vim tiam no neeg ua nerj nrog nyiaj xwb
Cov niam txiv ua Tsi muaj me nyuam los txhob kho2 kom muaj thiab hos Tsi muaj los txhob tu2 siab thiab mog yij meej khwv rau yus tus kheej noj kom txaus hnav kom tsim nyog xwb thiaj Tsi mob2 hlwb
This story goes both ways, I don’t feel bad for the parents or the kids. Be better parents, your kids are the way they are because they probably got things handed to them growing up and don’t know how to be grateful in general regardless what they are given or have. Overall, it’s simple, only give out what you can give to all kids, otherwise don’t give at all. 20k is a lot of money to just give, at least borrow to them and make them pay back some.
It sad but Hmong parents do favor and help and give the most amount to the kids that they love the most. I have experienced first hand but I just dont say anything because I love my silblings.
This is why my husband and I made our kids worked in high school and college and taught them financial literacy and credit at a young age. When they got their first big boy and big girl job after college, we went over different types of insurance, so that we don't end up like these parents bc we've seen this issue a lot in our community where grown boys and lazy daughters leeched onto their parents for anything.
Grandma don't worry tou and nyab will have their turn. They will get to be gradma and grdpa. Everyone of them have there own kids. I think these kids must be poor kids family. Why they depend on there parents money so bad?
Tos luag hais tias cov muaj me nyuam los txhob zoo zoo siab ho cov yug tsis muaj los txhob tu tu siab no los yeej muaj li luag hais tiag o lawv niam no kuv twb paub kuv cov twb yuav mus raws li zaj no thiab tu siab tshaj li nawb
Koj cos tus ua tsib tau txiv or they don't really love you 2. Sad! Waste of time to raise them...👀 That's story piss me off. What's wrong with the sons!!!🤣🤣🤣
Tub nyab ua los tsis yog hos 2 tug laus los ua tsis ncaj lawm yog tim sawv daws lawm os ua neej nyob cas yuav nyuaj2 siab rau ntu laus ua luaj tiag xav kom tsis txhob txhob txawj laus xwb os lawv aw
Bao Yang seriously! These sons have some nerves to call their parents up n demand them to give them money! Omg! This is beyond me! And youngest son should have kept his mouth shut but I guess karma so his wife had to tell the other sister in-law! How sad! Should let them all die back in Lao with the other 4 children!
🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔I’m an only son but these sons should understand that their parents PAID for the weddings. They should be considerate to paying for their parents’ funeral. In addition, if one has the courage to deceive his parents from not using the money as intended for, let karma hit him well. These sons don’t understand where they branch off from.😭😡
Txhob tu siab vim lawv tseem muaj lawv cov tub yeej tsi hlub lawv ib yam li koj cov tub niam tais cov tub coj phem rau neb lwm hnub lawv yeej pom ke npam ib yam mog tu nyab lo yeej mag ke npam ib yam mog
How are the parents in the wrong? They weren’t. They did what any parent would do. Those are some selfish sons and their wives aren’t any better. I hope the nyabs parents are proud.. smh. They couldn’t love the parents, so they swindle the husbands to feel the same. Money isn’t the issue. The sons are. They’re boys, not men.
As parents, to prevent this issue. If you give, give to all. If you're going to help your children down payment to their house, help everyone. Don't just pick and choose. Children will be children no matter how old they are. To prevent all these hurt, just don't give to anyone. Save your money for yourself.
A yang, so you’re saying you wouldn’t be mad if your mother in law gave your brother in law and his wife 20k and your husband and u nothing, but later you have to pitch in the same amount for their funeral, and you’re ok with that? Just a question.
@@px2824 No, they asked! And only ignorant Hmong people would be that selfish to throw in that kind of guilt trip about funeral costs and arrangements. Let’s say they did ask previously and were denied, only then I would feel some type of way. It’s depressing that Hmong people will spend that kind of money on funerals, but wouldn’t dare entertain the thought of spending that kind of money while their parents are still living. We got it backwards.
Let me put in my opinion, I have old parents, my mother is old and needs a lot of care too. no one understand unless they have old parents. old parents are always whinny, complain a lot, gossip, and everything else. The point is that of course they’re not perfect, far from it actually. There may be good ones out there, but most are not. My mother is not all nice and good either. But, and here’s the big but, there is not “two sides to a story”. People always say in stories like this, there’s two sides to a story, that this mother may tell this story like her kids are bad but truth is maybe she, the mother, is the bad one..... but here’s the big but..... realistically there isn’t two sides to these stories. As kids, we just need to take the crap from our parents and take care of them. Even if it is a burden on our lives, even if it makes our life hard, and even if we have to make sacrifices in our lives to have our parents live with us and take care of them. There’s no winning in fighting against your parents, and there’s no good in trying to justify your side of the story. No matter how bad your mother or father is, one of the son and his wife has to live with the parents and take care of them to old age, til they’re gone, plain and simple. If, like this story, there’s many sons and daughter in laws, but none of them is willing to live with the parents and none is willing to take care of the parents, then that means the sons are pussy whooped and the daughter in laws are evil itches. These sons are screwed up along with their wives, period! Imagine when the sons were little, and since they are a burden on the parents, and imagine if the sons required a lot of care, the parents just dumped them in orphanages or left them on the side of the road, does the parents have “their side of the story??” Of course not, automatically the parents are deemed evil and bad parents, plain and simple. So it’s the same when the parents are old, the kids just has to deal with it and take care of the parents til they’re gone. If the kids feel like their parents are too much to deal with, and leave them in old folks home, then these sons should have been left at orphanages by the parents, and they should have been left on the side of the road or in the jungle in Laos to fend for themselves. Imagine how much of a burden these kids are to the parents when their sick, crying sooo much especially when the parents are scared of the communist killing them and running away in the jungle, the parents should have just threw them down a cliff!! What a waste of these parents’ energy for these sons. They’re bunch of bastards, and their daughter in laws will get their karma from their own kids one day. Fuked up bastard sons and evil itch daughter in laws. They’ll get their karma.
No body perfect sometimes we can make mistakes as the parents have done to their youngest son, but the older sons should forgive and forgive their parents because their parents rise them grow up and paid their weddings.
I’ve seen it both ways. Parents love the wrong kids (kids who don’t care about them) and don’t love the right kids that love them or Kids that love their parents and their parents take advantage of them. Don’t expect to much from parents or kids and you won’t be disappointed.
I agreed with you.
Why do you says they love the wrong kids?
The selfish son says.. he BORROW. When someone borrow money they have to pay it back. He is selfish n greedy refuse to pay what he borrow back.
Well said. I completely concur. Parents always love the kid(s) that don’t give a shit about them. My parents are exactly like this.
Yup
@@owlpix8273 so true
Ungrateful kids. I’m sorry...this is why my husband and I make sure we have enough life insurance money to cover our funerals. I don’t want my kids to hate/resent each other.
Parents should never be like these two parents and give so much money to one. If they dont have enough money to give to them equally they shouldn't give to anyone. Save that money to buried them. Whatever left after they both gone then they can split it equally among them. We as parents need to be fair towards our kids too.
I agree with you both!
@@pkcyang2910 , I totally agree with you too. The parents are causing resentment. They should split it evenly.
Agreed, my husband and I don’t want to rely on our kids to take care of us in our old age and our funerals
The parent was unfair, but no matter what the situation is, the sons shouldn’t cut the parent off. Well here is a lesson learned to all parents. Don’t give no money to 1 kid if you can’t give for all fairly. This kids is trash!
Yep I agreed with you here. Just sad not one is big enough to look pass the money. I blame the parents because knowing you have so many sons why would you treat one better than the rest.
Theses nyab are nyab trash and the sons are of money not love
But when you borrow, should you pay back? It doesn't matter who you borrow the money from you have to pay back.
Its the children who are selfish and greedy.
@@Ehang768 I’m gonna piss off a lot of listener, especially the majority of them are females. Just remember that wives come and go because they do not have to carry their last name forever as we men have to carry our roots.
@@maipha8560 why do you blame the parents? The son says he BORROW. should you pay it back when you borrow? I always pay my inlaws n parent back when I says I borrow.
Love ur parents. Dont be like these greedy kids.
Parents should not be like these parents too and give so much money to one and nothing to the others. If they don't have enough for everyone, save it for themselves. Sometimes it's not about the money but its the principle that the parents love the younger one more. Parents should love all their kids equally to avoid this type of resentment. I have grown kids too. I dont give to anyone. I put all their name as beneficiaries on my life insurance. When I go, they all received same amount as my blessings that I love them all equally, sons and daughters are all equal
They will get to be grdma and grdpa one day. There kids will do the same.
@@koslis6833 if parents love kids fairly there would not be so much resentment like this. These parents are not being fair to the kids. They love the youngest son more. Put yourself in the kids shoes. Will you be very happy if your parents give so much to one of your siblings and you received nothing? Wouldn't you question their love for you?
I'm sure if the parents were fair to begin with, the kids wouldn't act out like this too. They are angry, feel unfair, and their resentment caused them to behave this way. Not saying it's right, but there's a cause and effect.
@@maryly09 There parents very old those tou and nyab take advantage on them.
Ntuj nis hmoob so sad 😭😭 Neb cov me nyuam ko ces zoo cia lawv tuag mus thaum me me zoo dua os, niam tais txhob tu siab os lawv yeej txawj laus txawj tuag lawv yeej Tsi plhis mog...
Some of these comments are just wow.... first of all, the son who "borrowed," wronged the parents by lying. It wasn't a gift. 2nd of all....all the kids are ungrateful. The nyabs are trash. This is what happens to our elderly because the sons don't have balls to stand up for their parents knowing darn well their wives would not be like this to their own parents.
Those kids feel they are entitled to money that it’s not theirs to begin with! And the parents should have not given money to ANY of the kids! When it comes to money, it can do lots of damage!
Ua cas cov me nyuam no tsi txawj sib hlub li os hmoob aw.
The kids are very selfish especially the daughter in laws.
Well nyab and tou will get to be grdpa and grdma on the way. They have kids too what they did to their parents. Their kids will do the same. What go around will come around later.
These sons have no respects for their parents!!!
I only have 4 daughters...i really wish i was blessed with a son but if SONS like these only, i dont regret not having any...at least i can die in peace having an excuse y no one burried me.
Koj ua ib siab os niam tais.. koj cov tub cov kiv lawv cov menyuam tseem tab tom kib roj cuab yiag yuav nqis zaub mov rau lawm... Ua neeg nyob txoj kev laus thiab kev tuag ces yeej tsis muaj leej twg dhia dhau nawb! Lawv twb los txog lawv lub rooj npam lawm... Thaum los txog ces mam xav ces lig lawm os mog... Poj yeej ua cia yawm yeej ua dhau los... Mam thov kom zam txim ces cov kev phem lim xyiam thiab mob ntsoog twb tau ua los lawm es daws tsis tau... Ib txheej yuav ua mus ib txheej ib tiam yuav ua mus ib tiam sib txuas pes zws!!! Pab koj tu siab thiab koj tsev neeg rau txoj kev npam yuav los sai2 tom ntej no uas tsis muaj leej twg pab tau... Koj ces yeej meem nyob kaj siab li koj nyob tau... Kuv thov kom koj noj qab nyob zoo xwb os mog..
If u know how to be parents and are fair to ALL your kids, this wouldn't be a problem. Most of the times, when money issues like this arise, it's bc the parents favor one son over the other or didn't treat all their kids equally.
Yes I agree
Maybe if the kids weren't such greedy bastards and thought about money only, the parents wouldn't have to worry about dying alone like in this case. I don't agree with your assessment on this specific situation
Wrong
As a parent I don't favor one child more than the other. If the child is more lazy and hard headed he will get yelled at more. For you to say this means you are a greedy person who only thinks of yourself.
I am a parent too so I will put my two cents in. 20k is a lot of money. To select one child to give this money to is asking for issues. The parents may not be calculating and did it out of their love for the youngest son but the love for their other sons naturally comes into question here. Note love is measured by what you do since people are not mind readers. I am a parent too and I would have to place fault heavier on the parents. Parents want equal love from their children and must be examples of that. You can’t measure the little things but you can definitely measure the big things: 20k is a pretty big thing. Trust me, if you have many sons and do exactly this, believe me you will experience similarities if not the same.
Agree. Love cannot be measured but money has does. My fil split his money among his sons equally.
I can relate to this story. My mil showered her favorite sons with her money. Kuv tsis yog khib but kuv tu siab rau my mil. I made a promised to myself to love and support my children equally. I do not want my children to go through this emotional roller coaster of being mistreated and unloved.
I blamed both parents and the children on this story.
I agree with J H. I can relate to this story too. It's a lesson for myself to learn and to love my kids equally as much as I can too.
Oldies always favours one son, amd literally gives everything to one son but expect equally from all.
Wow, these sons and their spouses are so selfish and ungrateful. Hopefully they get a taste of their own medicine when they get old.
This is why I tell my husband we can make our own money & don’t “fight” over who his parents “love more.” Not worth the pettiness. Parents raise u with unconditional love. That’s how u have to approach them in later life. I guess I’m saying this becuz of spending time with cancer patients & with covid spreading...life is too short to hang onto these family disagreements.
Man!!!!!! Why Can I have good in-law? Life is not fair at all.
Me nyuam sib txeeb niam thiab txiv cov plhaws quav noj ces li no tiag tsis tsim nyog tej me nyuam yuav ua li no rau cov laus 😭😭😭
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Tu siab heev li os yom vim cov nyab siab me siab dub xwb mog txhob tu os yog cov yug g muaj lo txhob tu siab os
Niam thiab txiv ces yeej hlub lawv tus tub ntxawg chaj xwb os. Cov hlob yeej tsim nyog chim lawm thiab os vim tsis ncaj ncees tiag ne.
First one hais tau raug kuv siab tshaj
Awb cas es yuav txaus tu siab ua luaj li na Thov txhob ua li rau cov laus thiab lau
Mloog zaj neej neeg no tag ces ua rau yus cov tab tom tu tub tu kiv tag kev cia siab kawg li
Niam tais lawv twb yug tau ib pab thiab muaj ib hnub twg lawv cov yeej yuav ua ib yam rau lawv os...thov kom koj ua Niam tsuas ntsib txoj kev noj qab nyob zoo os
One of many reasons I don’t want a lot of children. I don’t want them turning against each other for the sake of money. I make sure I have enough coverage for myself when I die.
Cia lwm hnub lawv cov mam ua rau lawv os mog tu me niam tsev nrog neb tu siab heev os
Wow, money is more important than unconditional love. It's partially the parents fault because they didn't give evenly knowing that they expect them to contribute evenly when they died. I would have given the other 3 son 10k each and demand the youngest son to return 10k back within a certain time. As parents, you are your children first teacher so they learn from you. That's also the reason why you don't have so many dang kids because you don't have enough to give the same to each one. It's just sad that of all the 4 sons, no one is bigger and look pass the money.
At first I'm wasn't going to comment but second thoughts.
First of all, shame on you as a mother and parents. Speaking of fairness; if the money was to loan to your youngest son so that they can buy their first house then I will agree with you but uhm hello... it's $20k you're giving away for free or as a gift to your one son while the others left empty handed.
I can feel your other sons are hurts, sad, and feels unloved. It's definitely not greed but it's a betrayal feelings you got from your own parents that made you feels unwanted and unloved! You should have thought it through before giving to your youngest son when its $20k, its not just a couple hundreds.
As being parents when it comes to lectures the naughtiest will of course get more of the beating but when you spread your loves and gifting you must give the same amounts! I am so sick of seeing parents favorite their children.
Second of all, shame on the sons! Even if your parents didn't share their life saving on you they still give birth to you. You owe them your life! At least do your duties as a son and fulfillment your parents last wish. You may be mad but you can't get away the facts that you are still their son's!
Geesh people now and days are so hard headed and ungrateful. It's so common senses. Smh
Neb cov me nyuam mas ntse tiag2 ntse ob sab.
Tu siab ua koj muaj ib cov tub ruam ruam li ko kuv pab hlub koj kawg li
I don’t think the kids were selfish and I don’t believe the parents thought anything when they gave the money to the youngest son. The moral of the story is about treating your kids fairly.
Such ungrateful kids! Myself as a nyab, I’d never have the heart to ask/fight my in-laws for their hard-earned money.
This is a good story for more Hmong families to learn. There are still more Hmong families that are still doing the same cycle... I experiened & witnessed my in-laws siblings were demanded greeds & ungrateful with no conditional love. Very sad heart touching story 💔💔💔😢😢😢😢
Tus niam tais pab koj tu siab heev li. Tsis tsim nyob muab roj tsha yug cov menyuam no li. Peb ua neej nyob sib pab thiaj txawj sib hlub es tus twg tsis muaj los yuav tsum koom tes los pab tus ntawv; txhob cia poob qab. Nej yog ib tse neeg koom ib cov roj ntsav tsis tseem nyog nej yuav los ua yeeb ncuab li no, ua rau nej txiv tuag tu siab ntso tsis pom qab qhia rau leeg twg li. Thov Vaj tswv foom koob moov rau koj.
Ntuj os ntuj cas nej yuav ua sib phim ua luaj li os nej cov tub yog txhaum 80% ob tus laus txhaum 20%
Wow... koj cov tub no yog 1 cov tub nyab ntshaw nyiaj xwb tsis muaj kev hlub. Yog zoo li koj cov tub no xwb ces hais rau cov ua tsis muaj tub los tsis txhob tu siab nawb mog. Txawm li cas los txhob tu siab os me niam tais aws lawm luag tej laus 1 txawm tias haiv neeg muaj haiv tsim no os mog.
Me niam tais awd txhob tu siab os mog koj cov me nyuam yog ib pab me nyuam kws ruam txhaj plaws thiab lim hiam heev es thiaj tsis paub pauj niam txiv lub txiaj ntsim yus niam yug yus es nim muab txoj sia los pauv nim nchuav roj nchuav ntshav los mus pauv nej txoj sia nej siv lub siab lim hiam
Li no rau nej niam cas nej tsi muab nej cov tua tuag kom tag es nej tseem yuav hlub ua dab tsi nej mas tsis tau zoo lau
Tu siab heev li os
Pab me nyuam kod yuav npam txhua tus. Tsim nyog tiag twb yog cov me nyuam yog cov pab 2 tug laus
Wow, this money belongs the parents. None of these kids deserves any. They are very capable to take care of their family. This story just breaks my heart. There is no leader in this family. Muaj ib pab tub zoo li pab no xwb ces cia txhob yug lawm os. OMG
Ua cas niam txiv hmoob mas nim hais “ib leej mi tub cag” hos ntxhais ces nim “ib niag ntxhais qhuav”. Tub cag tub cag quav dev, zoo li tej pab niag no xwb na...Ho!
Wow some horrible and ungrateful kids!!!! Why are they jealous when that money was borrowed? But then the youngest took advantage and was just going to take the money for free. Damn!! How sad!
3 cov poj niam nas, cov uas pheej ua ua plu es txog niam tais yawm txiv mas nim qus ceg dev hlo na, thov txhom tsim tsim niam pog txiv yawg thiab os, yus tus txiv nws yeej hlub hlub nws niam nws txiv kawg li 3 hlub 3 niam 3 txiv kawg nawb, tab sivim 3 cov poj niam phem xwb.
Tsis tsimnyog yug tau ib pab li os... Niam txiv los zoo li hos minyuam los phem sib xws nkaus li lau...tsev neeg no ces los ua neej xiam tiam lawm xwb os...nrog koj tu siab kawg li os tus niam tsev aw...
Hmoob meka yeej ib txwm sib txeeb nyiaj tsav ntuj os
I'm not going to lie, but if you haven't experience the same situation as this family you wouldn't know.
I have and I don't feel bad for this grandma/grandpa at all! Favor one over the other is WRONG!! I do more for my parents than my siblings because I love them but at the end my siblings get more than I do! I try not to get too butt hurt about it because I still have respect for my elders/parents. As messed up as it sounds, I am upset like the kids in the this story! You wouldn't know until it happens to you.
Peb ua niam ua txiv txhob hlub ib tug tshaj ib tug es menyuam thiaj tsis tu siab rau yus. Peb yuav tsum tseg nyiaj faus peb es txhob muab rau tej menyuam. Ua ib daim ntawv tseg es lwm hnub tsis muaj yus lawm mam faib yus cov nyiaj rau sawvdaws es lawv thiaj tsis tu siab. Kuv li kuv coj li no.
Yog lawm os
cov nyab tiam tshiab no txhob cia siab rau lawm mog lawv lub hlwb yeej tsis care niam pog
Pab niag me nyuam no e tsi hlub lawv niam li lawv pua paub tia lawv tawm qhov twg lo ma ca siab phem ua luaj cov tub no yuav pham thaum lawv lau thiab od
Yog kawg li nawb txhob xav tias tom ntej no cov nyab siab phem no yuav tau zoo no tsis muaj hnub li nawb yuav tsuj niam thiab txiv tu hneev ntaws xwb los mav
@@tsiamoua2235 yog lawm od
Cov me nyuam no tsis txawj xav especially cov tub. You don’t realize how many siblings you had lost n how much your parents hurts/cried. Nrog koj tu siab mog tus niam tsev, Thov kom koj nyob zoo es txog thaum koj mus es mus zoo2 xwb, koj cov me nyuam thiaj tsis cem2 ntxub2 koj lawm mog.
Vuag cas tu siab ua luaj cas tej niag minyuam no yuav tag kev cia siab ua luaj os
tus me niam tsev pab koj tu siab tshaj plaws lub neej no.
xyov yog tim ab tsi tiag tab sis kuj tim neb 2 tug laus me ntsis thiab tiam sis qhov loj yog tus tub hlob tsis meej pem thiab tej zaum nej pab txiv tub no
tsis yog ib pab neeg meej pem es thiaj muaj tej teeb meem loj ua luaj no.
yog lub teb chaws meskas no muaj me nyuam los yuav tsis muaj los tsis txhob tu tu siab.
lub neej no muaj kev khaum kawg lawv cov me nyuam tseem yov ua rau lawv es tu siab ib txhia tseg ib txhia mog
If you love your parents...nothing come between. Don't let greedy be part of your pure love for your parents. I understand where the other sons are coming from. But dont let your parents dying in broken hearts.
These sons n daughterinlaw needs to grow up. It aint your money to begin with, your parents can give it to whomever they want. Want money work for it. Also don't ever call your own parents stupid. Smh
Txhob tu siab tus niam lau aw tiam no ces peb Txhob cia siab peb cov me nyuam os lawv tsuas xav kom yus pab lawv xwb tej me nyuam yeej tsis hlub peb li os es yus npaj yus lub tsev rau yus mam mus nyob rau yav laus xwb os tu2 siab kawg os
Tu siab tiam no peb tau lub neej tau zoo noj zoo , lub neej kaj siab heev tabsis qhov tu siab yog qhov uas peb tej mi tub mi nyuam tiam no es lawv twb tau Nyiaj dawb2 los ntiav lawv los tu yus tabsis los lawv tseem muaj lub khib thiab muaj lub tsis kam tu peb rau thaum peb ua tsis taus noj. Es ua peb txoj kev ntshaw peb ib txwm cia siab tias tu tub tu kiv los npaj laus tabsis thaum peb laus lawv twb tau Nyiaj ntiav lawv tib si los tu peb tabsis lawv twb tseem tsis kam tu peb os Hmoob. Es cov ho tsis muaj tib li los txhob tu2 siab thiab os.
Cov me nyuam no tsis hlub niam thiab txiv lawv lub neej yeej yuav raws li niam thiab txiv txoj kev txom nyem uas lawv tsis hlub niam thiab txiv. Lawv cov me nyuam cov me nyuam yuav ua li lawv ua rau lawv niam lawv txiv. Ib qhov ntxiv tim tib Co nyab yeej phem. Yog cov nyab zoo tus tub ua los tus nyab tias txhob ua phem ces yeej zoo.
Tom ntej no thov kom 3 cov yog niam tais yawm txiv tsa qhov muag ntsia 3 cov ntxhais ua neej thiab, txhob tias yus tus ntxhais hlub hlub yus ces niam qhua qhua tias zoo, twb tsis saib tias koj tus ntxhais puas hlub niam pog txiv yawg no nawb.
Rau muag ua neej ua neeg; qhib paj hlwb qhib siab kawm qhov tshiab ua qhov tshiab thiaj tshwm sim qhov tshiab neej thiaj vam meej. Ua thaj qub tau qhov qub ces mob siab rov yog yus ua niam ua txiv.
Tshob tshawj os koj tus nyab yos tau rov quaj tshaj ghov neb quaj ko os tshob tu siab mos
Txhob tus siab os
Neb cov niag tub nyab yeej yuav txawj laus xwb xwb los mas.
Qhia rau peb ib cov kwvtij hmoob tias, yug ib tug yuav hlub yeej hlub lawm. Cov menyuam nim no tsis zoo li thaum ub lawm. Txhob xav tias muab nyab rau lawv tas lawv yuav hlub yus cov laus no nawb. Txhob tos lawm os. thaum yus tseem muaj txoj sia yeej meem npaj yus ghov chaw so es thaum tag yus lawm lawv muaj lawv tus neeg tuaj coj yus mus rau yus ghov chaw lawm xwb.. .
Hais txog qhov cov tub cov nyab tsis hlub ces yeej tu siab kawg hos hais txog ntawm nyiaj ces yeej tim koj me2 vim tub ki coob2 koj yuav faib tsis txhua ces txhob faib yog yuav faib ces ntau tsawg los faib sib luag thiaj li sib haum vim tiam no neeg ua nerj nrog nyiaj xwb
Cov niam txiv ua Tsi muaj me nyuam los txhob kho2 kom muaj thiab hos Tsi muaj los txhob tu2 siab thiab mog yij meej khwv rau yus tus kheej noj kom txaus hnav kom tsim nyog xwb thiaj Tsi mob2 hlwb
It’s so true that when the parents are too nice and soft to the daughter, some daughter in laws disrespect them.
Grandma it's your fault for not being fair so live with it.
Ntuj aw pab tu siab uas tau ib pab niag tib Nyab zoo li no os😭
Hlubbkoj sib npaug ntau tus tub ces yeej sib khib tsis Tau Kev hlub
This story goes both ways, I don’t feel bad for the parents or the kids. Be better parents, your kids are the way they are because they probably got things handed to them growing up and don’t know how to be grateful in general regardless what they are given or have. Overall, it’s simple, only give out what you can give to all kids, otherwise don’t give at all. 20k is a lot of money to just give, at least borrow to them and make them pay back some.
Damn what a bounce of selfish kids. Ya should of respect your parents for what ever decision they chose.
It sad but Hmong parents do favor and help and give the most amount to the kids that they love the most. I have experienced first hand but I just dont say anything because I love my silblings.
The best kept secret is to never tell anyone how much money you have not even your own children. That's why there are gifts.
Your sons only want your money. They have no love for you and your husband. I feel sad for this couple.
This is why my husband and I made our kids worked in high school and college and taught them financial literacy and credit at a young age. When they got their first big boy and big girl job after college, we went over different types of insurance, so that we don't end up like these parents bc we've seen this issue a lot in our community where grown boys and lazy daughters leeched onto their parents for anything.
Tsis muaj tub coob los ntsaw2 muaj coob los cas tsis txawj hlub yus li thiab
Grandma don't worry tou and nyab will have their turn. They will get to be gradma and grdpa. Everyone of them have there own kids. I think these kids must be poor kids family. Why they depend on there parents money so bad?
Yog lawm!!!
Me niam tais aw txhob tu siab o lawv two yug tau in co thiab o lwm hnub yuav yog lawv zeeg o
pab neb tu siab kaug cas neb cov tu yuav tsis hlub ho
Tos luag hais tias cov muaj me nyuam los txhob zoo zoo siab ho cov yug tsis muaj los txhob tu tu siab no los yeej muaj li luag hais tiag o lawv niam no kuv twb paub kuv cov twb yuav mus raws li zaj no thiab tu siab tshaj li nawb
Peb cov niam Txiv yog coj li no ces tsis muaj neeg faus los yeej zoo lawm nawb.
Koj cos tus ua tsib tau txiv or they don't really love you 2. Sad! Waste of time to raise them...👀
That's story piss me off. What's wrong with the sons!!!🤣🤣🤣
Tub nyab ua los tsis yog hos 2 tug laus los ua tsis ncaj lawm yog tim sawv daws lawm os ua neej nyob cas yuav nyuaj2 siab rau ntu laus ua luaj tiag xav kom tsis txhob txhob txawj laus xwb os lawv aw
Cas yuav tau tu siab ua luaj li thiab os 👍😭😭😭😓
Cas yuav g txawj xav li o tej me nyuam no nas
pab tus siab kawg,vim uas niam uas txiv mas tsis yeej yi kiag nawm.tias tsi lawm cov me nyuam mas qhia rau lawm paub xwb .
Parent’s money are their money. Why fight for their money?? Ungrateful kids. Ur old enough so go make ur own money.
Exactly. I agreed with you. Grown ass children. Go make your own money.
Bao Yang seriously! These sons have some nerves to call their parents up n demand them to give them money! Omg! This is beyond me! And youngest son should have kept his mouth shut but I guess karma so his wife had to tell the other sister in-law! How sad! Should let them all die back in Lao with the other 4 children!
🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔I’m an only son but these sons should understand that their parents PAID for the weddings. They should be considerate to paying for their parents’ funeral. In addition, if one has the courage to deceive his parents from not using the money as intended for, let karma hit him well. These sons don’t understand where they branch off from.😭😡
Tu niam tais es puas txim nyog muaj cov me nyuam ko cas pab koj tu siab ua luaj
Yus txai qhov yus ua.
Always two side to a story, not gonna lie, some OG loves to exaggerate also, don’t forget that.
Txhob tu siab vim lawv tseem muaj lawv cov tub yeej tsi hlub lawv ib yam li koj cov tub niam tais cov tub coj phem rau neb lwm hnub lawv yeej pom ke npam ib yam mog tu nyab lo yeej mag ke npam ib yam mog
Cov tub cov nyab no phem tiag tiag li nawb
Lam txhob txwm muab qhov tsis faib nyiaj los hais xwb os. Tiag ces yeej tsis hlub ob tug laus tus siab kawg
Yog tej me nyuam txhheej no yeej tsis hlub tej laus
How are the parents in the wrong? They weren’t. They did what any parent would do. Those are some selfish sons and their wives aren’t any better. I hope the nyabs parents are proud.. smh. They couldn’t love the parents, so they swindle the husbands to feel the same. Money isn’t the issue. The sons are. They’re boys, not men.
I agree!
As parents, to prevent this issue. If you give, give to all. If you're going to help your children down payment to their house, help everyone. Don't just pick and choose. Children will be children no matter how old they are. To prevent all these hurt, just don't give to anyone. Save your money for yourself.
I agree! We live in America, doesn't matter how much they want to help one kid. If you are not selfish, it wouldn't be a problem.
A yang, so you’re saying you wouldn’t be mad if your mother in law gave your brother in law and his wife 20k and your husband and u nothing, but later you have to pitch in the same amount for their funeral, and you’re ok with that? Just a question.
@@px2824 No, they asked! And only ignorant Hmong people would be that selfish to throw in that kind of guilt trip about funeral costs and arrangements. Let’s say they did ask previously and were denied, only then I would feel some type of way. It’s depressing that Hmong people will spend that kind of money on funerals, but wouldn’t dare entertain the thought of spending that kind of money while their parents are still living. We got it backwards.
Let me put in my opinion, I have old parents, my mother is old and needs a lot of care too. no one understand unless they have old parents. old parents are always whinny, complain a lot, gossip, and everything else. The point is that of course they’re not perfect, far from it actually. There may be good ones out there, but most are not. My mother is not all nice and good either. But, and here’s the big but, there is not “two sides to a story”. People always say in stories like this, there’s two sides to a story, that this mother may tell this story like her kids are bad but truth is maybe she, the mother, is the bad one..... but here’s the big but..... realistically there isn’t two sides to these stories. As kids, we just need to take the crap from our parents and take care of them. Even if it is a burden on our lives, even if it makes our life hard, and even if we have to make sacrifices in our lives to have our parents live with us and take care of them. There’s no winning in fighting against your parents, and there’s no good in trying to justify your side of the story. No matter how bad your mother or father is, one of the son and his wife has to live with the parents and take care of them to old age, til they’re gone, plain and simple. If, like this story, there’s many sons and daughter in laws, but none of them is willing to live with the parents and none is willing to take care of the parents, then that means the sons are pussy whooped and the daughter in laws are evil itches. These sons are screwed up along with their wives, period! Imagine when the sons were little, and since they are a burden on the parents, and imagine if the sons required a lot of care, the parents just dumped them in orphanages or left them on the side of the road, does the parents have “their side of the story??” Of course not, automatically the parents are deemed evil and bad parents, plain and simple. So it’s the same when the parents are old, the kids just has to deal with it and take care of the parents til they’re gone. If the kids feel like their parents are too much to deal with, and leave them in old folks home, then these sons should have been left at orphanages by the parents, and they should have been left on the side of the road or in the jungle in Laos to fend for themselves. Imagine how much of a burden these kids are to the parents when their sick, crying sooo much especially when the parents are scared of the communist killing them and running away in the jungle, the parents should have just threw them down a cliff!! What a waste of these parents’ energy for these sons. They’re bunch of bastards, and their daughter in laws will get their karma from their own kids one day. Fuked up bastard sons and evil itch daughter in laws. They’ll get their karma.
No body perfect sometimes we can make mistakes as the parents have done to their youngest son, but the older sons should forgive and forgive their parents because their parents rise them grow up and paid their weddings.
Ib txias zoo dhau qhov zoo ib txias phem dhau qhov phem
Yog tub hlob txawg cov cov yaus thiab nuam txiv hais lus tawv qhaw ces yeej work thiab mas