My mom was a stay at home wife/mom with a side business braiding hair and another business sewing, she made enough on her side hustles to spoil us and enroll us all in sports and my dad even paid for her to get her masters because she got bored and my siblings and I were in school. I strive to do the same.
Your dad and mom had a great dynamic, and their situation is what it should be if the woman is a SAHM. It also shows how confident your dad was in the relationship by paying for her school as well as the strength of their relationship. There are guys who are too insecure about their relationships, and they protest loudly if the woman wants to do something to improve herself (school, fitness, work, etc).
That’s how my mom was. My mom was a teacher that kept and taught us. She was resourceful and started tutoring other kids when we got older (she had the heart and personality for special needs children). That covered our extracurricular stuff and she was still available to take care of our day to day dealings while Dad covered household expenses, savings and investments. We excelled in school (no student debt) and Dad invested well so they could retire off half, enjoy life, and still reinvest the other half to pass on to his kids and grands. They worked together in their own ways.
@@numerologicatarot3333 because we know that that’s only going to last for 2-3 years tops then she’ll be in her 40s expecting another man to come along and do exactly what her ex husband did for her
@@numerologicatarot3333 she is lying, she wants a man.....she's just not being honest about it....if her needs were that simple, she wouldn't even be on this show.....she'd be on a date as we speak.
he sure is... he is just waiting to move up into her nice house and put her thru all the mind game she can stand... wont be no meals, no flowers or anniversary's babbby... just a bunch of Mary J Blige playing in the back ground, maybe she can become best friends with Tamar!!! LOL :)
She kinda looks like LaLa to me. I was married for 10 years. I didn’t have her life as I wasn’t a stay-at-home mom. But I’ve learned marriage is really about family, trust, honesty, forgiveness, compassion, and love. Not love in a romantic sense, but love in a family sense. If you view your spouse as family, the love becomes unconditional. If you are only viewing love with a spouse as romantic, then it’s easier to break because romantically you can become unhappy quick.
Being a Stay at home mom is a blessing. I absolutely loved it. I went to work when the kiddo was 5. If you can be a Stay at home mom then do it!!!!!!!!
Would you really recommend it although divorce is possible? Serious question. Unless we're running some kind of business from home then yes? I'm just afraid the younger generation, especially the girls, will hear this and think they have to do nothing and IF he decided to leave then they're left with nothing.
A 15-year age gap is crazy. There’s do doubt that she was young and naive when she married her ex-husband. As she said, people do grow and change, especially women when they reach about thirty years of age. They start to see things differently. I honestly think the age gap was the main issue.
My husband is 15 yrs my senior. Yet I’d be an absolute fool to think that just because my stomach is still flat and 40 year olds still hang at the club that a younger, more ‘fun’ man that can match his provision is an option… I signed up to grow old with him, not run off when I get bored.
@@pretty_wingz How about we just take her word for it, she was bored, she wanted out. It's so disrespectful, and lacking accountability to put it on him. I'd rather she said he was controlling, abusive, manipulative, lazy....then basically to come with the whole...."WE Outgrew each other" nonsense. She wanted to be in the street. Same as Tia Mowry from what we've seen from her so far. No real marriage ending issues.....just want3d the streets. Dam shame!
@@pretty_wingz Then she had a nerve to think, try to influence other women to join her. I mean a whole stay at home wife/mom. The allure of the street, attention, and random D in yall....is powerful. Couldn't say not one bad thing about this man, compared to the horror stories of pookies we hear about. Smh...dam shame
At least she letting it be known up front that she just wants to be a fun girl. I personally couldn’t take her seriously because she gave no real reason for ending her marriage.
She stayed married long enough and had enough kids to earn a nice retirement plan. Mortgage paid, child support for a few years while she lives a close to 40 year old hot girl summer lifestyle.
@@10_door_tycoon I definitely think you're right. As she gets closer to 50 she's going to start realizing those guys won't be there when she has medical or financial issues etc. She'll want a stable provider but the streets are undefeated.
@@chillycharles910 That's why she is talking about how she doesn't need money. She gets her money from the husband. And she doesn't seem to have appreciated what he did to create a lifestyle for them. She is also talking about she is headstrong. Headstrong and housewife is a bad combination! That woman will never be satisfied because she does not want to follow anybody, including a husband. You notice she didn't call him "husband"🧐 She even said she does not get attached. Bad sign for a spouse! And lastly, she is too lazy to go anywhere. I think she is good with Netflix and chill 😒 She needs a man to get her out of the house. I feel bad for her. She is going to end up being an aged out toy for a half bum or a successful playboy 😢
Kendra is right. This is an amazing opportunity to see what happens when you marry a young woman that claims she wants to be a housewife. She’ll do it until “She doesn’t feel like it anymore”, then divorce you, take the house you finally just paid off and hop back on the dating market to “Go out” and “have fun”
This is pure and complete Nonsense. She has 3 kids that alone is enough to put some sense into a brainless or a airhead, let alone a 38 years old grown woman. This has nothing to do with the fact that she was young, but install instead it has everything to do with the lack of wisdom and discernment. I sincerely hope this is fake, but if not she is going to learn life the hard way. Ty🙏
I agree! Esp with a big age gap. She must feel she missed out on her younger years and now wants to enjoy but her ex is way older and doesn't match her energy. Not saying that this is what happens with all women who marry young. But I'm sure a good number esp if their husband is way older
I've been married for 12 years and I'm still a SAHM. My kids are of school age and i do get restless but I'm trying to start this business cause i rather work for myself than "the man" And it's helpful to have a supportive husband.
So as a middle aged woman with three kids, you blow up your home to go back into this terrible dating scene because “you were young” when you got together and “he didn’t understand you ?” Wow 🤦🏾♂️
Lol She really chose going back into the work force over being a stay at home wife, and all she keeps asking for now is fun. The only type of dudes who’s gonna hit her up is just looking for temporary “fun”.
I like that Kendra asked about married life. I’ve been happily married 19years and NONE of my single friends ask me for advise. They assume I have it easy because I married young and have a great husband.
So a 38 year old woman is not allowed to have fun? 😂 Marriage is a union....not prison. Stop being miserable, wish people the best and move on with your life.
The same men giving this woman heat for “what their opinion on why she left her marriage” better have the same heat for their homeboys who don’t do right their kids, ex-wives/BMs.
@TheDroShow How did get that from what she said? She said she was married for 15 years, this would imply that the first child, who is 18, was born before their marriage. I do believe that she was dating him while in her teens, though. She was kind of hesitant in revealing the age gap,
@@AuroraFox444 exactly, a lot of people particularly the men in the comments are bypassing that issue. Makes you wonder if they’re protecting their own children, since they willingly have blinders on. Smh She also stated she’s been on her own since 14 years old. The writing is on the wall.
Those wedding vows are not meaning much, today. It’s sounds good during the “performance” but folks are leaving due to the other not using an Oxford comma.
Wedding vows been meaningless not just today, men and women been cheating having outside children, lying about husbands fathering children. Men have been taking care of side families. This ish just didn't start now
This happens all the time when younger women marry way older men.He got old and now she’s moving on.Marriage is a complete joke in my opinion.He should’ve married someone closer to his age.
I disagree marriage is hard because people aren’t align with God, but their desire & listening to other people & trying to entertain the village instead of their King or Queen!
@@mrmoe110 all depends on the person. Someone can make life easier or harder. At the end of the day life is hard period. There’s pros and cons to both.
@@jmar385 no one is perfect and life is not a straight line. Everything requires work and things you dont want to do. If you think its not hard than ask your wife. You might be the one who is hard to deal with.
@@TheNaturallycoolYou answer you own questions😂😂. I’m led by spirit not by desire & emotions. God know what’s best. You can’t speak for me or the woman I’m with. Assuming & projecting is a big red flag, especially when you don’t know anyone.
She will definitely get the fun times she wants but as they say be careful of what you wish for. She's been on her own since she was 14 and Independent but married and a stay-at-home mom for 15 years the hypocrisy and delusion is unbelievable.
this is a realization women go thru after hearing all the fantastic hookup culture stories they never got to experience and end up feeling missed out, unable to connect with the sister hood. She is taking a step closer to catching up to all the experiences she missed.
The SAHM advise is real. I think of myself as a modern version. I don’t have to work but I run my business around my kids once they started school. It is luxurious sacrifice.
The social media apps got her wanting to live like what she sees . She wants fun over stability smh. She Ready to run the streets with half of hubbys money and probably his house and pookie just clapped them cheeks from all the cackling she did. Regret is creeping around the corner when she realizes she hit the wall
I like that she is honest about what she wants. She is looking for male attention and intimacy that's it. Not looking for a husband or a man to come in and parent her kids or run the house. Just a dude to spend time with. I know there is a single dad out there that is looking for the same. Men praise marriage but its work for the woman and she's not looking to go back to that.
This is why marriage between 20-25 is so nuanced to me. Outside of fertility, I don’t see the advantages especially for women to get married so young. By the time they hit 30 they don’t recognize themselves in addition their desires and dreams tend to change as well. But good luck to this doll.
Young marriage mates have the ability to grow and experience things together for the first time. Older folks are looking for the perfect mate and are less likely to work through the lows of marriage.
She is crazy as heck to leave her provider husband who afforded her the opportunity to be a stay at home wife to come to this hookup culture as an almost 40 year old woman with three kids. She will learnt though !
@@aguy9071I agreed until that last part. Some of those who wait until they are ready, while others had witnessed some horrible suitors in their 20's and found the one until later on in life.
@@aguy9071 You are correct about the young marriages, however, in this case there was a 15-year age gap. He’s already experienced a lot more than her. Being a mother at 20 and in age-gap relationship will have its challenges.
There is a lot to unpack here: - This is a cautionary tale for middle-aged people who want to marry much younger people under 25. People’s brains are not fully developed until they’re 25. They mature, and 99.9% of the time, they outgrow you as the age gap becomes very obvious in a lot of ways, if you’re picking up what I’m putting down. I say “people” because it goes for men, women, non-binaries, straight, gay, whatever. - I have a feeling that there’s more to the story than “I don’t want to be a housewife”. A lot of SAHMs that I know went back to work in some capacity like a part-time job or volunteer work at the school or somewhere else when the kids were old enough to go back to school. I wonder if hubby “forbade” her to do that. A lot of women I know would take SAHW/M over working full time as long as she can do some kind of activity when the kids are in school, like a part-time job, content creation, or volunteer work, but they wouldn’t take if if they’re solely dependent on the guy and the only thing she’s allowed to do is keep house.
This is a poor excuse as most people in early times were successfully married way before 25. It's not a brain development thing. Also people can choose to grow together instead of choosing to grow apart. She made a choice, to choose things contrary to her marriage. That is all. She is an example of what happens when you listen to society hell-bent on 'independence' from family but dependence on career and industry.
This would make sense if only older females didn't do the same thing. Y'all nforget what the statistics show. Over 80% of all divorce is filed by females. This means young or old females have no issues leaving marriage. So y'all can kill trying to lowkey preach to men about why not to pursue young females when old mature females will do THE SAME EXACT THING
@@nesasio1004they were “successfully” married bc women didn’t have access to credit or their own money. It was survival. The highest divorce rate spoke happened after 1974 with the fair act which gave women the right to own cars, houses, their own funds, and opening lines of credit.
@@nesasio1004yes, but they were married to people in their peer group most likely. Like most people grandparents were within the same age range and got married young as teens or right out of high school. This lady story is different, she didn’t marry her high school sweetheart, but a man that was technically old enough to be her father, 15 year age gap, unfortunately played a factor.
If you listened to what she said, she lost herself in marriage and motherhood and was depressed. So, it's unfortunate that people are pretending she left her marriage for no reason. Was she emotionally supported through her depression? Also, if being a housewife is your dream, by all means, do it. However, there is a reason that so many of our mothers and grandmothers wanted to exit that setup. There are requirements made of housewives, especially those who are totally dependent on men; some women are not comfortable with that. Do what's best for you.
I'll let you in on a little secret. Women complain about everything. In fact, when a woman stops complaining, is when a man should be very concerned, cause that woman has checked out and is likely complaining to some other man she's having sex with.
😂keep justifying breaking up your family so you could be strong independent and a single mother of three. Marriage vows didn’t mean shit and don’t mean shit so don’t get married simple solution!
You are correct. Some men are not providers. Some women are not housewives. Its a harsh reality for some people to accept. It has nothing to do with if you had two parents or not. Life over time tends to shape people.
I wish I could love this comment. You hit the nail on the head. Men don't really know how to support the woman when she has issues. All he knows how to do is pay the money, and leave the house 🤷🏽♀️
I had an opportunity to wife up a girl who was only 19. One of my concerns was her waking up one day needing to fine herself, taking half my shit along the way. I hope she changes her mind about not getting remarried. Beauty fades.
At least you were aware of the risks, too many men in the comment section don’t seem to understand the risk to marrying someone so young while having a large age gap. How mature were they at the same age?🤡
I can’t believe that people really think she left her marriage to have fun. A 15 year age gap, it was much more than leaving to have fun. Maybe She was being respectful to her kids and her ex in-laws and didn’t wanna air the dirty laundry. And even her saying that her husband wasn’t accommodating to her growth, that was really telling. He was 15 years older than her and wasn’t understanding of her growing. Yeah there were more reasons for this divorce, it definitely was not cause she wanted to have fun.
Why aren't people more prepared with their answers? The questions remain the same. Liars and cheaters should be excluded from the deal-breaker list. Love your show Kendra!!!
She could have been dealing with financial abuse as a stay at home mom. It's also exhausting and depressing being home 24-7 raising kids and no sense of self. Who knows what she dealt with in her marriage. Just because a man was taking care of everything it doesn't mean that he was doing it with kindness. How can you say that she should have stayed without knowing the full context of her marriage and why she left.
How can you say all that , judging that man and you don't even know him😮, maybe she just got corrupted by the sisterhood of negativity when it comes to relationships and fell for the bs , only God and her knows lol , but usually if it's a "victim" story they are QUICK to justify divorcing,but if not then they don't give a clear answer hymmm 🤔
I wanted to jump off the roof after things went south while spending a weekend out of town with my ex .....I couldn't imagine LIVING with that mf. Whew!
@reifleming Those that are complaining are only doing so because she’s attractive. They wouldn’t slam her if she was undesirable. That’s why they are saying she’s used up and won’t find anyone.
This part. Being SAHM is very isolating and you most definitely loose yourself. Staying together is ideal but dying slowly inside isn't it either. I wish her well.
Talk about it, Sis! I’ve never been married but I could empathize with what this woman was saying in the video. Listening to other women’s stories on marriage and divorce makes me tread cautiously with thinking about uniting with anyone. I value my freedom as a woman and I definitely don’t take it for granted. I understand marriage can be a beautiful thing but it also has its dark side depending on who you choose to do it with. Whew! 😮💨😮💨
I've seen plenty of woman in her mindset try to experience all the things they think they've missed. She's about to get every hole ruined in a short time.
Men like younger women and fail to take into consideration that said younger woman hasn't come into her own, yet. People really do have to live and explore and find themselves before attaching themselves to another person (may it be marriage or procreating).
Exactly. Our brains are not fully formed until we’re 25, and for most people, modern conveniences, better opportunities and easier circumstances didn’t force them to “grow up fast”. In today’s times, 34 is the maximum age to be considered as a “young adult”.
@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living brain not fully formed until 25, is a rather modern insinuation. Times are indeed inconvenient for, or better still, hostile to traditional relationships
Them streets be calling them home. And she said she dont have to work so more than likely she is still being taken care of by her X husband. And trust there are many men who are ready for a party and nothing serious so she'll get exactly what shes asking for.
She wrecked her family for fomo (hot girl summers) lets hear you chicks try to justify it. No he wasnt a bad man because if he was she would have hinted towards that.
lol they don't have to justify a thing, all they have to say is "We grew appart", or "I needed to find myself" - that's all these modern women have to say.
She's in the Charlotte/Atlanta market area. There's literally tens of thousands of single women her age who are beautiful and singing the dating blues. She'll get smashed definitely but very few guys are willing to spend money courting a chick with her baggage.
@@Persile61 I live in Atlanta and attend alot of social events. I speak based on what I know. She is pretty average for Charlotte and definitely for. Atlanta.
I know y’all are upset that a woman left a marriage without citing abuse, but remember that most adults have something called FREE WILL. It’s not a crime to decide not to stay in a relationship, male or female. If children are involved you need to care for them but laying next to someone just bc you picked them 20 years ago? Nope People don’t have to embarrass their partners by exposing health issues, lack of attraction, financial problems, ugly personalities or ED just so others can validate their choice. She’s 38 and he’s 53 we only see her and have no idea what he’s like. If she made a mistake it’s hers to make, we can’t say that for her
When a man gets used to you giving him everything you have and all of your time, when it takes a toll on you and you start trying to preserve some energy for yourself… they will have a fit and shame you for it and that’s when you finally realize you’re with the wrong person. The provider husband is already rare. A provider who is supportive of your own goals and well being as much as his own and doesn’t treat you like you’re beneath him because he pays for everything is even more rare.
on the other end they live out their hoe phase first and then wanna be wifey at 35. Only way to win as a man is to stay noncommittal and treat them all like they belong to the streets 🍻
I was a stay at home mom With the option of going back to work as a RN. I LOVED staying home with my kids and catering to my husband. Unfortunately he committed a crime which forced us apart but I would never speak against being a house wife. Just find your purpose.
I would really like to find a documentary or poll of divorced/legally separated people asking them what their expectations of marriage were? People always like to say that they didn't get married to get divorced. I don't necessarily believe that.
Why whenever Kendra asks these women why would a man be lucky to be with u?....they always say some goofy azz sh*t...ain't no man lookin for no woman to be his personal motivational speaker....🤦🏿♂️
Women like her crack me up. They think they can jump into the dating pool where they got off.Get mad when they find out they are now in the piss pool section.
How is that the same thing? Are you suggesting working (‘providing’) is putting life on hold? So a man that is unemployed (not providing) is living life? Please explain.
@@acebutterfly2725 what I'm saying is, if you think putting your life on hold to be a wife is stopping your life, us men, ive been married for 20 years. We could simply just say hey, all this providing ive done, that money could have went to other things that I find important, but I put my family first
I have a lot of respect for this woman and her experience. She obviously knows what marriage is really about and I hope she finds the person shes looking for.
Black women are hedonistic followers. These women do whatever feels good to them, it's the reason why they are bi and lesbian until a certain Awakening. They sexualize themselves instead of respecting family.
She gave some great advice about how to choose a partner but still walked away fir no reason. I wish her all rhe best tho because she seems level headed. The streets will gladly accept her as a fun girl since thats what she wants.
Had a whole family and wrecked it for what?????? Gurl life will teach you….. he never understood you growing…wow. Her mother should’ve taught her not to play in the street with the 18 wheeler‘s because you could get ran over, your gonna learn now
It's pretty obvious a young woman who left a probably toxic home at 14 and married a way older man a few years later probably was preyed upon. Children and family with a man does not mean you have to sacrifice your whole life for him esp. wheh he probably took advantage of you when you were young and dumb..She grew up and knows what she wants..why is that problematic? our people are weird
People keep saying this, but news flash we all must be bad people to be making the dating scene worse. This means that everyone has issues within themselves for dating to even be so bad.
Western Civilization is one of the only cultures where a “Kept” woman would dissolve her family because she wants to find herself. So basically, at this time she’s looking for laughs and good beef 🥩. I could NEVER
This is what men that want PYT never think about. Tbey only rhink about a young impressionable girl they can mold, but eventually that girl will grow up and desire more out of her i developsd life, or simply resign herself to hopelessness. I hope Dave is taking notes.
Aw I hope they tried therapy and counseling before she walked away if that's the full reason for her divorce. I don't believe she'll have a hard time finding someone else but I do think she could end up wishing she had fixed what was wrong in her marriage.
This is why men or women who talk about marrying someone significantly younger than them need to do some reflection...a younger person is likely going to change, grow, and that may mean growing apart from you.
This is the problem with older men wanting to date younger women. You want her to "stay in her place" -- young, immature, looking to you as a parent and insecure. They want to keep you in a lower position than them
Am I the only one confused? I get it sham moms get lonely bored but that’s why you get hobbies, stay in touch with family, make friends, get involved with the community church volunteer work anything, work part time. I don’t get how divorce happen from that. Just sounds like she’s having a midlife crisis to me
Exactly 💯 Add more to the marriage instead of blowing it up. There is soo much on the line. Why marriage is taken so lightly like this is crazy to me.Looks like boredom kills more marriages these days than anything else.
The man who’s sole responsibility it is to feed and clothe you can easily take it back the next day if he chooses. Be careful being a stay at home mom. Make sure to have a rainy day find and always be ready to get back into the work field.
Yes the stay at home mom life is NOT what they paint it to be at all! I know from experience. It’s hard as hell and not for everyone. I see exactly why feminism exists and is necessary.
@@cindy_rn8348 no I’m not going to be a slave. I have boundaries whether it’s a job or my family. I work 100 times harder now as a SAHM than I ever have at a job.
leave these 304s alone, so their 304 ideologies will disappear as they past away alone. If you cater to it, you’ll keep it alive. A lot can change in the next 2 decades. Focus on your financial freedom. You have a world to experience. Run dating apps in different locations and go where you are celebrated. Stop wasting time n money on these 304s.
I'm impressed with the number of Christian God fearing women that grow apart and get divorced. Her laugh after "when was the last time your were intimate with someone" was very telling. Married for 15 years, a mom for 18. My bet is she been making up for lost time and racking up a body count higher than The Predator. I could be wrong, but I have experience in that arena.
I already see what’s going to happen unfortunately. Beloved, I would not put out this vibe that you don’t require anything from this man other than “a good time.” You will attract someone who is either unwilling or unable to meet your needs…NEEDS YOU DEFINITELY HAVE. You’ve been married your entire youth…it is ruthless out here chile.
@@arthurjennings5924 Anyone over the age of 50 is considered old to anyone under 40. There is also no rule in the Bible to date older. This is just my hypothesis based on being a woman and knowing women who are married to older men, it’s very little attraction that brings those relationships together, so stability and personality compatibility have to be perfect or more than likely it will fail. People are willing to gamble a lot for money and beauty, so no judgment. But statistically at this day and age, those relationships will more than likely end in divorce, which is unfortunate.
No cap people want the wedding but no marriage.
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That's real talk
High-key
They want it when it's good, not when it's bad.
@@SweetEssieyep
My mom was a stay at home wife/mom with a side business braiding hair and another business sewing, she made enough on her side hustles to spoil us and enroll us all in sports and my dad even paid for her to get her masters because she got bored and my siblings and I were in school. I strive to do the same.
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How a family should be. 🎊
That’s amazing always good for a stay at home/wife and mom
to have something on her own. Your life cant revolve / fully depend on one person.
Your dad and mom had a great dynamic, and their situation is what it should be if the woman is a SAHM. It also shows how confident your dad was in the relationship by paying for her school as well as the strength of their relationship. There are guys who are too insecure about their relationships, and they protest loudly if the woman wants to do something to improve herself (school, fitness, work, etc).
That’s how my mom was. My mom was a teacher that kept and taught us. She was resourceful and started tutoring other kids when we got older (she had the heart and personality for special needs children). That covered our extracurricular stuff and she was still available to take care of our day to day dealings while Dad covered household expenses, savings and investments. We excelled in school (no student debt) and Dad invested well so they could retire off half, enjoy life, and still reinvest the other half to pass on to his kids and grands. They worked together in their own ways.
She's about to learn the hard way how cold the streets are.
She’s she’s been dating and does not want anything serious right now so how does your comment make sense for her?
@@numerologicatarot3333 because we know that that’s only going to last for 2-3 years tops then she’ll be in her 40s expecting another man to come along and do exactly what her ex husband did for her
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she is lying, she wants a man.....she's just not being honest about it....if her needs were that simple, she wouldn't even be on this show.....she'd be on a date as we speak.
I get it. Your comment is based on an assumption that you are making. It makes perfect sense now.
@@TheTrulynice1412lol now y’all are discerning and can speak for women??? Y’all are something to really chortle about.😂
Pookie rubbing his hands like Birdman right now 🥷
he sure is... he is just waiting to move up into her nice house and put her thru all the mind game she can stand... wont be no meals, no flowers or anniversary's babbby... just a bunch of Mary J Blige playing in the back ground, maybe she can become best friends with Tamar!!! LOL :)
Nah, more like Stevie J😂😂
Pookies about to have a physics lesson with that body. Going to run that body count to infinity
I hope she has somebody to tell her. Women who have been married for a long time tend to be game-dumb.
@@R.Yvette.X. I hope that 50 year old don't get ahold to her. Grandpa going to scramble her brain with game
She kinda looks like LaLa to me. I was married for 10 years. I didn’t have her life as I wasn’t a stay-at-home mom. But I’ve learned marriage is really about family, trust, honesty, forgiveness, compassion, and love. Not love in a romantic sense, but love in a family sense. If you view your spouse as family, the love becomes unconditional. If you are only viewing love with a spouse as romantic, then it’s easier to break because romantically you can become unhappy quick.
I was trying to see who she looks like….LaLa indeed, she looks like the son
I hope you didn’t mean LaLa Anthony. If so you tried the hellz out of LaLa!
@@10_door_tycoon I did
Yup I said the same thing she reminds me of Lala
@@reddtrem 🤦🏽♂️ Not even close
Being a Stay at home mom is a blessing. I absolutely loved it. I went to work when the kiddo was 5. If you can be a Stay at home mom then do it!!!!!!!!
Right she doesn't speak for all stay home moms.
Would you really recommend it although divorce is possible? Serious question. Unless we're running some kind of business from home then yes?
I'm just afraid the younger generation, especially the girls, will hear this and think they have to do nothing and IF he decided to leave then they're left with nothing.
I was raised with a mom at home who was raised with mom at home so..... yeah that.
@@daniellefennell3877yeah this woman is an ungrateful btch to be honest. You get your life back when the kids go to school!!!!
How many women would slit her throat to have a husband like she got rid of ? Smh
Ain't shit in these streets 😂😂😂, I'm wondering who was in her ear telling her to leave for the streets.
Any man that marries a woman that left her husband other than abuse or infidelity is a fool.
the streets is calling.
she's one of the more realistic guests on the show. i can dig it.
She seemed inebriated. Maybe that's why. Or maybe not. It just seemed like she was slurring her words.
@@SweetEssie i did not see any of that.
@@SweetEssieI didn't get that at all
@@SweetEssienope
Then you date her!
i wish i could be a stay at home mom. enjoy the cold streets sis
A 15-year age gap is crazy. There’s do doubt that she was young and naive when she married her ex-husband. As she said, people do grow and change, especially women when they reach about thirty years of age. They start to see things differently. I honestly think the age gap was the main issue.
My husband is 15 yrs my senior. Yet I’d be an absolute fool to think that just because my stomach is still flat and 40 year olds still hang at the club that a younger, more ‘fun’ man that can match his provision is an option… I signed up to grow old with him, not run off when I get bored.
@@pickmeishaname checks out ✔️✅
@pickmeisha Bingo! I agree 💯. I bet your name drives them crazy 😂😂
@@pretty_wingz How about we just take her word for it, she was bored, she wanted out. It's so disrespectful, and lacking accountability to put it on him. I'd rather she said he was controlling, abusive, manipulative, lazy....then basically to come with the whole...."WE Outgrew each other" nonsense. She wanted to be in the street. Same as Tia Mowry from what we've seen from her so far. No real marriage ending issues.....just want3d the streets. Dam shame!
@@pretty_wingz Then she had a nerve to think, try to influence other women to join her. I mean a whole stay at home wife/mom. The allure of the street, attention, and random D in yall....is powerful. Couldn't say not one bad thing about this man, compared to the horror stories of pookies we hear about. Smh...dam shame
At least she letting it be known up front that she just wants to be a fun girl. I personally couldn’t take her seriously because she gave no real reason for ending her marriage.
She stayed married long enough and had enough kids to earn a nice retirement plan. Mortgage paid, child support for a few years while she lives a close to 40 year old hot girl summer lifestyle.
💯💯
@@chillycharles910She’s going to get her back blown out for the next 5 years and then she will regret leaving her husband for the skreetz.
@@10_door_tycoon I definitely think you're right. As she gets closer to 50 she's going to start realizing those guys won't be there when she has medical or financial issues etc. She'll want a stable provider but the streets are undefeated.
@@chillycharles910 That's why she is talking about how she doesn't need money. She gets her money from the husband. And she doesn't seem to have appreciated what he did to create a lifestyle for them.
She is also talking about she is headstrong. Headstrong and housewife is a bad combination! That woman will never be satisfied because she does not want to follow anybody, including a husband. You notice she didn't call him "husband"🧐 She even said she does not get attached. Bad sign for a spouse!
And lastly, she is too lazy to go anywhere. I think she is good with Netflix and chill 😒 She needs a man to get her out of the house.
I feel bad for her. She is going to end up being an aged out toy for a half bum or a successful playboy 😢
Kendra is right. This is an amazing opportunity to see what happens when you marry a young woman that claims she wants to be a housewife. She’ll do it until “She doesn’t feel like it anymore”, then divorce you, take the house you finally just paid off and hop back on the dating market to “Go out” and “have fun”
That’s what you got from this call?
This is a perfect example why men should avoid marriage like women avoid accountability……
This is pure and complete Nonsense.
She has 3 kids that alone is enough to put some sense into a brainless or a airhead, let alone a 38 years old grown woman.
This has nothing to do with the fact that she was young, but install instead it has everything to do with the lack of wisdom and discernment.
I sincerely hope this is fake, but if not she is going to learn life the hard way.
Ty🙏
At the cost of her kids’ stability!! She couldn’t hold off on the thotting until her youngest was in college?
I agree! Esp with a big age gap. She must feel she missed out on her younger years and now wants to enjoy but her ex is way older and doesn't match her energy. Not saying that this is what happens with all women who marry young. But I'm sure a good number esp if their husband is way older
I've been married for 12 years and I'm still a SAHM. My kids are of school age and i do get restless but I'm trying to start this business cause i rather work for myself than "the man"
And it's helpful to have a supportive husband.
And I'm also the same age as her
Most women envy your life but don't want to tell you that .
So as a middle aged woman with three kids, you blow up your home to go back into this terrible dating scene because “you were young” when you got together and “he didn’t understand you ?” Wow 🤦🏾♂️
Lol She really chose going back into the work force over being a stay at home wife, and all she keeps asking for now is fun. The only type of dudes who’s gonna hit her up is just looking for temporary “fun”.
@@nmmboy pretty much!
@@nmmboyfacts.
Her "blowing up her home" to get away from that man should tell you something
@@Theeorie4393 Yeah, the streets kept calling 😮💨
I like that Kendra asked about married life. I’ve been happily married 19years and NONE of my single friends ask me for advise. They assume I have it easy because I married young and have a great husband.
They might think to ask would be prying.
Feel free to offer them some if there is an opening in the conversation.
They probably don't think your marriage is great so no need to ask.
Super cute sweater! ☺️🍂🍁 you aren’t missing out on anything Charity!
Sadly to late the streets is coming her ex is not going to take her back after we’re finished with her
@@jonnyseablue6911😩 Be gentle, GEESH! She was a nice lady. 😂
@@katerab4916 nice to run through. She literally chose FUN over the well being of her children. Truly evil stuff
@@ShaneusSnake facts, leave because you are bored
@@ShaneusSnake she’ll learn quickly, fun isn’t all it’s cracked up to be
Good luck to her but I have a feeling she's in for a rude awakening. This dating scene isn't what she thinks it is.
She will be crying real tears
Agree
Yes, especially if she keeps running into men that’s subpar from what she came from
She said she’s looking for fun at 38 with 3 kids wtf her ex was 15 yrs older than her you can’t make this up.
It’s unbelievable. She gonna learn the hard way though. Pookie and RayRay gonna have a field day!!
Lol so you “Craigs” don’t have fun? You date every woman with the intention to marry? Men start with “friends” all the time come on now😂
@@mamat1213 Actually I did date with intention to marry.💍
So a 38 year old woman is not allowed to have fun? 😂 Marriage is a union....not prison.
Stop being miserable, wish people the best and move on with your life.
Comment I was looking for. She sounds crazy!
The same men giving this woman heat for “what their opinion on why she left her marriage” better have the same heat for their homeboys who don’t do right their kids, ex-wives/BMs.
Soon as the same women defending this woman have no smoke for men who leave their wives.
I appreciate her sharing her heart. I value marriage, but I know being a wife and having kids isn't for every woman who desire it.
Her not answering the intimate question and laughing really answered it lol
It was yesterday if not earlier that day! Lol
@@johnjay3308 lol exactly! 😂
Bang! Bang!
She put herself right in front of a firing squad absolutely undatable
She seems very datable. She’s attractive and fit. Men who don’t want children will be interested.
@@acebutterfly2725 Men who want a good time will be interested
Shes perfect for dating.
She'll be a great date, she'll do anything you want. In and out. If you're looking for something solid, she seems to be flaky.
Seems like she was 18 when she first got married so I can understand why she feels like she didn’t know herself. Best of wishes to her!
Yep the math is giving she was 18/19 when she got married, and he was 33/34. 🥴 15 year age difference
@TheDroShow How did get that from what she said?
She said she was married for 15 years, this would imply that the first child, who is 18, was born before their marriage. I do believe that she was dating him while in her teens, though. She was kind of hesitant in revealing the age gap,
She said she was 38, married for 15 years, divorced for 4 years.
@@sharisseg7214And i doubt she just got up and married a stranger, so you know he preyed on her as a minor 😖😥
@@AuroraFox444 exactly, a lot of people particularly the men in the comments are bypassing that issue. Makes you wonder if they’re protecting their own children, since they willingly have blinders on. Smh She also stated she’s been on her own since 14 years old. The writing is on the wall.
Those wedding vows are not meaning much, today. It’s sounds good during the “performance” but folks are leaving due to the other not using an Oxford comma.
Wedding vows are meaningless because people just don’t take it seriously. I agree
Wedding vows been meaningless not just today, men and women been cheating having outside children, lying about husbands fathering children. Men have been taking care of side families. This ish just didn't start now
This happens all the time when younger women marry way older men.He got old and now she’s moving on.Marriage is a complete joke in my opinion.He should’ve married someone closer to his age.
Those women divorce at a higher rate. I rather have a the younger women older women not it.
Marriage is hard but it’s rewarding with the right person. A lot a lot a lot of work
The opposite of being married is being single. Which one would you say is harder?
I disagree marriage is hard because people aren’t align with God, but their desire & listening to other people & trying to entertain the village instead of their King or Queen!
@@mrmoe110 all depends on the person. Someone can make life easier or harder. At the end of the day life is hard period. There’s pros and cons to both.
@@jmar385 no one is perfect and life is not a straight line. Everything requires work and things you dont want to do. If you think its not hard than ask your wife. You might be the one who is hard to deal with.
@@TheNaturallycoolYou answer you own questions😂😂. I’m led by spirit not by desire & emotions. God know what’s best. You can’t speak for me or the woman I’m with. Assuming & projecting is a big red flag, especially when you don’t know anyone.
She will definitely get the fun times she wants but as they say be careful of what you wish for. She's been on her own since she was 14 and Independent but married and a stay-at-home mom for 15 years the hypocrisy and delusion is unbelievable.
What's the hypocrisy and delusion
@@terrylewis1318 She's hasn't been own her own as long as she claims and she's also wasn't independent as she was married and a stay at home mom.
Maybe she got pressured to be a stay at home mom and now she is happy being her Independent self again ?
@@maddyngo2717 Why are you making up excuses for the bad behavior?
this is a realization women go thru after hearing all the fantastic hookup culture stories they never got to experience and end up feeling missed out, unable to connect with the sister hood. She is taking a step closer to catching up to all the experiences she missed.
In a rush to be used
You see Tia Mowry out here complaining about the dating game now that she divorced her husband lol grass aint greener.
The grass is DEAD on the other side. I'm tired warning married people. Let them learn.
Broke up her family to go have fun with pookie
Them dating apps aren't working
Another Tia mowry here 😂😂😂🤦🏿. Breaking up your solid marriage to be a “fun girl” 🤦🏿🤦🏿. Dudes will clap her cheeks and not take her serious
I love her, she's pretty. Youngest child is 10, has experience as a wife, great body and good personality.
I like her! She was nice sweet and kind and kept real
The SAHM advise is real. I think of myself as a modern version. I don’t have to work but I run my business around my kids once they started school. It is luxurious sacrifice.
The social media apps got her wanting to live like what she sees . She wants fun over stability smh. She Ready to run the streets with half of hubbys money and probably his house and pookie just clapped them cheeks from all the cackling she did. Regret is creeping around the corner when she realizes she hit the wall
Misery loves company.the only women that complain about being a stay at home wife, ironically aren't stay at home wives
A man can be a hard working provider, take care of his kids and she will still get bored and divorce you lol
Isn’t that a minimum standard? Shouldn’t he be a hard working provider? Take care of his kids?🤔
Yup. And people will defend her. But if he decides to leave her. The energy changes.
@@acebutterfly2725 Do you think that’s the norm?
I like that she is honest about what she wants. She is looking for male attention and intimacy that's it. Not looking for a husband or a man to come in and parent her kids or run the house. Just a dude to spend time with. I know there is a single dad out there that is looking for the same. Men praise marriage but its work for the woman and she's not looking to go back to that.
This is why marriage between 20-25 is so nuanced to me. Outside of fertility, I don’t see the advantages especially for women to get married so young. By the time they hit 30 they don’t recognize themselves in addition their desires and dreams tend to change as well.
But good luck to this doll.
Young marriage mates have the ability to grow and experience things together for the first time. Older folks are looking for the perfect mate and are less likely to work through the lows of marriage.
She is crazy as heck to leave her provider husband who afforded her the opportunity to be a stay at home wife to come to this hookup culture as an almost 40 year old woman with three kids. She will learnt though !
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@@aguy9071I agreed until that last part. Some of those who wait until they are ready, while others had witnessed some horrible suitors in their 20's and found the one until later on in life.
@@aguy9071 You are correct about the young marriages, however, in this case there was a 15-year age gap. He’s already experienced a lot more than her. Being a mother at 20 and in age-gap relationship will have its challenges.
I enjoyed this highlight! Truly insightful for someone like me who desires marriage
There is a lot to unpack here:
- This is a cautionary tale for middle-aged people who want to marry much younger people under 25. People’s brains are not fully developed until they’re 25. They mature, and 99.9% of the time, they outgrow you as the age gap becomes very obvious in a lot of ways, if you’re picking up what I’m putting down. I say “people” because it goes for men, women, non-binaries, straight, gay, whatever.
- I have a feeling that there’s more to the story than “I don’t want to be a housewife”. A lot of SAHMs that I know went back to work in some capacity like a part-time job or volunteer work at the school or somewhere else when the kids were old enough to go back to school. I wonder if hubby “forbade” her to do that. A lot of women I know would take SAHW/M over working full time as long as she can do some kind of activity when the kids are in school, like a part-time job, content creation, or volunteer work, but they wouldn’t take if if they’re solely dependent on the guy and the only thing she’s allowed to do is keep house.
This is a poor excuse as most people in early times were successfully married way before 25. It's not a brain development thing. Also people can choose to grow together instead of choosing to grow apart. She made a choice, to choose things contrary to her marriage. That is all. She is an example of what happens when you listen to society hell-bent on 'independence' from family but dependence on career and industry.
This would make sense if only older females didn't do the same thing. Y'all nforget what the statistics show. Over 80% of all divorce is filed by females. This means young or old females have no issues leaving marriage. So y'all can kill trying to lowkey preach to men about why not to pursue young females when old mature females will do THE SAME EXACT THING
@@nesasio1004they were “successfully” married bc women didn’t have access to credit or their own money. It was survival. The highest divorce rate spoke happened after 1974 with the fair act which gave women the right to own cars, houses, their own funds, and opening lines of credit.
@@nesasio1004yes, but they were married to people in their peer group most likely. Like most people grandparents were within the same age range and got married young as teens or right out of high school. This lady story is different, she didn’t marry her high school sweetheart, but a man that was technically old enough to be her father, 15 year age gap, unfortunately played a factor.
@@sharisseg7214 record stating 2000 BC that that was a common practice. This is also just an excuse
If you listened to what she said, she lost herself in marriage and motherhood and was depressed. So, it's unfortunate that people are pretending she left her marriage for no reason. Was she emotionally supported through her depression? Also, if being a housewife is your dream, by all means, do it. However, there is a reason that so many of our mothers and grandmothers wanted to exit that setup. There are requirements made of housewives, especially those who are totally dependent on men; some women are not comfortable with that. Do what's best for you.
I'll let you in on a little secret. Women complain about everything. In fact, when a woman stops complaining, is when a man should be very concerned, cause that woman has checked out and is likely complaining to some other man she's having sex with.
😂keep justifying breaking up your family so you could be strong independent and a single mother of three. Marriage vows didn’t mean shit and don’t mean shit so don’t get married simple solution!
You are correct. Some men are not providers. Some women are not housewives. Its a harsh reality for some people to accept. It has nothing to do with if you had two parents or not. Life over time tends to shape people.
I wish I could love this comment. You hit the nail on the head. Men don't really know how to support the woman when she has issues. All he knows how to do is pay the money, and leave the house 🤷🏽♀️
Good comment. The sad thing is everyone heard her reason for the divorce, they just didn’t think that it was a worthy cause to end the marriage.
I had an opportunity to wife up a girl who was only 19. One of my concerns was her waking up one day needing to fine herself, taking half my shit along the way. I hope she changes her mind about not getting remarried. Beauty fades.
At least you were aware of the risks, too many men in the comment section don’t seem to understand the risk to marrying someone so young while having a large age gap. How mature were they at the same age?🤡
I'm glad you didn't do that. 19 is too young for you. 🙏🏾
No. She should stay right where she is. She's not marriage material.
I can’t believe that people really think she left her marriage to have fun. A 15 year age gap, it was much more than leaving to have fun. Maybe She was being respectful to her kids and her ex in-laws and didn’t wanna air the dirty laundry. And even her saying that her husband wasn’t accommodating to her growth, that was really telling. He was 15 years older than her and wasn’t understanding of her growing. Yeah there were more reasons for this divorce, it definitely was not cause she wanted to have fun.
You marry for duty not happiness. Bw got it twisted
A 15 year age gap is usually predatory and the younger spouse usually grows out of it when they come into themselves.
She literally said there's a lot of responsibility. That tells you everything you need to know.
Why aren't people more prepared with their answers? The questions remain the same. Liars and cheaters should be excluded from the deal-breaker list. Love your show Kendra!!!
She favors La La (Anthony?)❤
She could have been dealing with financial abuse as a stay at home mom. It's also exhausting and depressing being home 24-7 raising kids and no sense of self. Who knows what she dealt with in her marriage. Just because a man was taking care of everything it doesn't mean that he was doing it with kindness. How can you say that she should have stayed without knowing the full context of her marriage and why she left.
How can you say all that , judging that man and you don't even know him😮, maybe she just got corrupted by the sisterhood of negativity when it comes to relationships and fell for the bs , only God and her knows lol , but usually if it's a "victim" story they are QUICK to justify divorcing,but if not then they don't give a clear answer hymmm 🤔
There's always women who will try to defend and justify this BS.
@@brandonlongdikjones8117 Yep. It's all the man's fault...AGAIN...lol...what a JOKE...
Why always assume the worst?? Financial abuse??? Every man who gives his woman the luxury of staying home isn’t this controlling tyrant.
@@brandonlongdikjones8117 I said without context your comment is without context so my statement was meant for no one to judge
Yes, this is why women should go 50/50. This proves it. If you have never been a stay at home you probably won't be. 50/50 is the future.
Hmmm
People look at me like I have a horns growing out of my head when I say 50-50 is the future
Imagine if she was a man saying he left his marriage for those reasons
Love the wisdom and vibes
Whew… newly divorced here… I totally understand. Those that are judging her really and never been married need to shut it. It’s not easy.
I wanted to jump off the roof after things went south while spending a weekend out of town with my ex .....I couldn't imagine LIVING with that mf. Whew!
@reifleming Those that are complaining are only doing so because she’s attractive. They wouldn’t slam her if she was undesirable. That’s why they are saying she’s used up and won’t find anyone.
This part. Being SAHM is very isolating and you most definitely loose yourself. Staying together is ideal but dying slowly inside isn't it either. I wish her well.
But when a husband leaves his wife. No one is telling those people who criticize him to shut it. The hypocrisy is on another level.
Talk about it, Sis! I’ve never been married but I could empathize with what this woman was saying in the video. Listening to other women’s stories on marriage and divorce makes me tread cautiously with thinking about uniting with anyone. I value my freedom as a woman and I definitely don’t take it for granted. I understand marriage can be a beautiful thing but it also has its dark side depending on who you choose to do it with. Whew! 😮💨😮💨
The grass ain’t always greener especially these days
I've seen plenty of woman in her mindset try to experience all the things they think they've missed. She's about to get every hole ruined in a short time.
STD’s and antibiotics and a good pregnancy scare and possible deletion for sure.
You all are absolutely disgusting
Men like younger women and fail to take into consideration that said younger woman hasn't come into her own, yet.
People really do have to live and explore and find themselves before attaching themselves to another person (may it be marriage or procreating).
Thank you! That’s the main lesson I took from this! I always say you should find yourself before finding a partner and I’m always proven right. 🤷🏽♀️
Exactly. Our brains are not fully formed until we’re 25, and for most people, modern conveniences, better opportunities and easier circumstances didn’t force them to “grow up fast”. In today’s times, 34 is the maximum age to be considered as a “young adult”.
@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living brain not fully formed until 25, is a rather modern insinuation. Times are indeed inconvenient for, or better still, hostile to traditional relationships
@@hippityhoppitus Brains not fully developed has to do with the QUALITY of one’s decision making. That’s why age should be considered.
@@acebutterfly2725Thank you! They’re not listening. 🙄🙄
Them streets be calling them home. And she said she dont have to work so more than likely she is still being taken care of by her X husband. And trust there are many men who are ready for a party and nothing serious so she'll get exactly what shes asking for.
Yep 304’s don’t retire they take breaks and timeouts!!!
A Christian doesn't destroy her marriage to run the streets lol
She wrecked her family for fomo (hot girl summers) lets hear you chicks try to justify it. No he wasnt a bad man because if he was she would have hinted towards that.
lol they don't have to justify a thing, all they have to say is "We grew appart", or "I needed to find myself" - that's all these modern women have to say.
Damm, she gave alot of insight and was very articulate not bad imo, shes not ugly, not an airhead, and seemspretty honest
She's in the Charlotte/Atlanta market area. There's literally tens of thousands of single women her age who are beautiful and singing the dating blues. She'll get smashed definitely but very few guys are willing to spend money courting a chick with her baggage.
@@chillycharles910well hulk is who she is looking for
@@main1033 She'll definitely get hulk smashed.
@@chillycharles910 lol if you say so. keep listening to these podcasters if you want
@@Persile61 I live in Atlanta and attend alot of social events. I speak based on what I know. She is pretty average for Charlotte and definitely for. Atlanta.
I know y’all are upset that a woman left a marriage without citing abuse, but remember that most adults have something called FREE WILL. It’s not a crime to decide not to stay in a relationship, male or female. If children are involved you need to care for them but laying next to someone just bc you picked them 20 years ago? Nope
People don’t have to embarrass their partners by exposing health issues, lack of attraction, financial problems, ugly personalities or ED just so others can validate their choice. She’s 38 and he’s 53 we only see her and have no idea what he’s like. If she made a mistake it’s hers to make, we can’t say that for her
3:18 the subject states she has nothing to offer
When a man gets used to you giving him everything you have and all of your time, when it takes a toll on you and you start trying to preserve some energy for yourself… they will have a fit and shame you for it and that’s when you finally realize you’re with the wrong person. The provider husband is already rare. A provider who is supportive of your own goals and well being as much as his own and doesn’t treat you like you’re beneath him because he pays for everything is even more rare.
One of the major downsides of marrying a young inexperienced woman. They'll end up with a midlife crisis and want to live out their wild phase.
Exactly.
on the other end they live out their hoe phase first and then wanna be wifey at 35. Only way to win as a man is to stay noncommittal and treat them all like they belong to the streets 🍻
yup..is what it is
Of course, so find someone your own age
I was a stay at home mom
With the option of going back to work as a RN. I LOVED staying home with my kids and catering to my husband. Unfortunately he committed a crime which forced us apart but I would never speak against being a house wife. Just find your purpose.
I would really like to find a documentary or poll of divorced/legally separated people asking them what their expectations of marriage were? People always like to say that they didn't get married to get divorced. I don't necessarily believe that.
Why whenever Kendra asks these women why would a man be lucky to be with u?....they always say some goofy azz sh*t...ain't no man lookin for no woman to be his personal motivational speaker....🤦🏿♂️
Women like her crack me up. They think they can jump into the dating pool where they got off.Get mad when they find out they are now in the piss pool section.
Its funny how a woman can say they put their life on hold, men do the samething with yall when we provide. Those resources can go elsewhere
How is that the same thing? Are you suggesting working (‘providing’) is putting life on hold? So a man that is unemployed (not providing) is living life? Please explain.
@@acebutterfly2725 what I'm saying is, if you think putting your life on hold to be a wife is stopping your life, us men, ive been married for 20 years. We could simply just say hey, all this providing ive done, that money could have went to other things that I find important, but I put my family first
@@str8visionatlPreach🎯
you can't save streetwalkers.
Stop leaving the husband. The streets are coldddddd
Facts!
I have a lot of respect for this woman and her experience. She obviously knows what marriage is really about and I hope she finds the person shes looking for.
Many of you are delusional and disconnected.
It seems most of you can't meet the man you request on your own. Kendra is not a wishmaster.
Yessss.....looking for the street 😂
she looking for fun!! which is going to be eventually trauma
Black women are hedonistic followers. These women do whatever feels good to them, it's the reason why they are bi and lesbian until a certain Awakening. They sexualize themselves instead of respecting family.
There's nothing out there trust and believe.
Well guys this is a layup she don’t want commitment just a fun time. Have fun guys 😂 #hititandquitit
I love her personality and her honesty. She seems fun
She gave some great advice about how to choose a partner but still walked away fir no reason. I wish her all rhe best tho because she seems level headed. The streets will gladly accept her as a fun girl since thats what she wants.
Reading the comments is very interesting. This is why marriage counseling is important, so the parties can understand each others’ point of view.
she had reasons- she just did not want to give that info to strangers.
Had a whole family and wrecked it for what?????? Gurl life will teach you….. he never understood you growing…wow. Her mother should’ve taught her not to play in the street with the 18 wheeler‘s because you could get ran over, your gonna learn now
It's pretty obvious a young woman who left a probably toxic home at 14 and married a way older man a few years later probably was preyed upon. Children and family with a man does not mean you have to sacrifice your whole life for him esp. wheh he probably took advantage of you when you were young and dumb..She grew up and knows what she wants..why is that problematic? our people are weird
She absolutely gorgeous !!! She a catch fellas.
Gorgeous yes. Catch? Idk bout that
Dating is the worst it's ever been.
People keep saying this, but news flash we all must be bad people to be making the dating scene worse. This means that everyone has issues within themselves for dating to even be so bad.
Western Civilization is one of the only cultures where a “Kept” woman would dissolve her family because she wants to find herself. So basically, at this time she’s looking for laughs and good beef 🥩. I could NEVER
Yes, you could never understand bc you weren't there and likely would never be in her shoes
that is her darn right
A M.I.L.F. she will definitely find someone that will break her back out.
She’s already getting that back blown out, just listen to her
I think that was happening during her marriage FrFr.
It’s sad that we live in a generation where women rather let other people raise their children just so they can go work for another man
Agreed. It makes no sense at all
So you’re basically saying that men don’t raise children
@@sashab5173 no, you’re just a little slow
@@sashab5173no one said that, dingbat. Go back into the kitchen.
Most average men don’t make enough for the woman to not work. Even part time is not enough. You make time to raise your children in between.
This is what men that want PYT never think about. Tbey only rhink about a young impressionable girl they can mold, but eventually that girl will grow up and desire more out of her i developsd life, or simply resign herself to hopelessness.
I hope Dave is taking notes.
Another shining example of "Stimulation over Substance" good job! 👍
Aw I hope they tried therapy and counseling before she walked away if that's the full reason for her divorce. I don't believe she'll have a hard time finding someone else but I do think she could end up wishing she had fixed what was wrong in her marriage.
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I agree, I hope they tried counseling.
She's amazing wow I love her ❤the way she thinks
You can't make this up she wants a grown man to court her at 38 or till she bored of you
She is beautiful
This is why men or women who talk about marrying someone significantly younger than them need to do some reflection...a younger person is likely going to change, grow, and that may mean growing apart from you.
She seems very wholesome
This is the problem with older men wanting to date younger women. You want her to "stay in her place" -- young, immature, looking to you as a parent and insecure. They want to keep you in a lower position than them
Am I the only one confused? I get it sham moms get lonely bored but that’s why you get hobbies, stay in touch with family, make friends, get involved with the community church volunteer work anything, work part time. I don’t get how divorce happen from that. Just sounds like she’s having a midlife crisis to me
Exactly 💯 Add more to the marriage instead of blowing it up. There is soo much on the line. Why marriage is taken so lightly like this is crazy to me.Looks like boredom kills more marriages these days than anything else.
The man who’s sole responsibility it is to feed and clothe you can easily take it back the next day if he chooses. Be careful being a stay at home mom. Make sure to have a rainy day find and always be ready to get back into the work field.
She is a great catch
Yes the stay at home mom life is NOT what they paint it to be at all! I know from experience. It’s hard as hell and not for everyone. I see exactly why feminism exists and is necessary.
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You're going to be a slave to someone, it might as well be for your family. The grass isn't greener on this side.
@@cindy_rn8348 no I’m not going to be a slave. I have boundaries whether it’s a job or my family. I work 100 times harder now as a SAHM than I ever have at a job.
You just had the wrong man that’s all point blank period
@@jmar385 no it has nothing to do with my man and everything to do with babies and small children being a lot of work period!!
My mother was a sahm and witnessed many other sahms. That’s how I KNOW that’s not I would like. But kudos to all women who can. It’s tough work. ❤
leave these 304s alone, so their 304 ideologies will disappear as they past away alone. If you cater to it, you’ll keep it alive. A lot can change in the next 2 decades. Focus on your financial freedom. You have a world to experience. Run dating apps in different locations and go where you are celebrated. Stop wasting time n money on these 304s.
The streets callin
I'm impressed with the number of Christian God fearing women that grow apart and get divorced. Her laugh after "when was the last time your were intimate with someone" was very telling. Married for 15 years, a mom for 18. My bet is she been making up for lost time and racking up a body count higher than The Predator. I could be wrong, but I have experience in that arena.
I already see what’s going to happen unfortunately. Beloved, I would not put out this vibe that you don’t require anything from this man other than “a good time.” You will attract someone who is either unwilling or unable to meet your needs…NEEDS YOU DEFINITELY HAVE. You’ve been married your entire youth…it is ruthless out here chile.
She's been there done that....clearly marriage is no longer her goal
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 yea okay 😭😭😭😭😭😭
These large dating gaps don’t seem to make lasting marriages, a lot of these divorced women have the same story.
I was waiting for the customary he was beating or cheating, but she actually said it was because she was bored 😂
It makes sense to me, she was there for the stability not for the love.
@@arthurjennings5924 Anyone over the age of 50 is considered old to anyone under 40. There is also no rule in the Bible to date older. This is just my hypothesis based on being a woman and knowing women who are married to older men, it’s very little attraction that brings those relationships together, so stability and personality compatibility have to be perfect or more than likely it will fail. People are willing to gamble a lot for money and beauty, so no judgment. But statistically at this day and age, those relationships will more than likely end in divorce, which is unfortunate.