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ഒരു പ്രശ്നവുമില്ലെങ്കിൽ പിന്നെ എന്തിന്...? Gauthami Nair Part-1 |

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  • Опубліковано 15 сер 2024
  • About our guest :
    Gauthami Nair is a Neuroscientist, Indian actor and director who is associated with Malayalam films. She made her silver screen debut in the 2012 movie Second Show opposite Dulqar Salman. Her second film was Diamond Necklace in Malayalam, in which she starred with Fahad Faasil and Samvrutha Sunil, as a nurse. She won the Filmfare Award for Best Supporting Actress - Malayalam for Diamond Necklace. Her role as a Tamil girl in the film was very much appreciated. She later married film-maker Srinath Rajendran in 2017. She recently made a comeback with the Manju Warrier movie Meri Awaz Suno, in which she played the role of RJ.
    She has continued pursuing the education all along in are of psychology. She has studied MSc Clinical Psychology at the Women’s College in Thiruvananthapuram. She is currently working at the Sree Chitra Hospital in Thiruvananthapuram as a research fellow in the area of Neuroscience.
    In this two part conversation, Gauthami shares her thoughts on the major decisons like Divorce that she had to take in the recent past. She shares how every divorce need not be difficult and devoid of respect. She shares her reason for her separation. She states why it is important for women to marry late. She shares her difficulty with ADHD, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder and how growing up focusing on a task has been mighty difficult. She shares many valuable ideas that could help with mental health awareness. She shares how she deals with anxiety and the recurring thoughts that invade her mind. This conversation shares a lot of valuable insights on mental health struggles that all of us go through. As a clinical psychologist herself she shares why therapy is so important and can help us navigate difficult situations in life. She talks about how she motivates herself even when things are rough for her.
    This is an episode that can inspire each one of us to be a better human and be kinder to other people, because we don`t know what they are going through.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 298

  • @iamwithdhanyavarma
    @iamwithdhanyavarma  Рік тому +44

    Pls watch the video and do share and subscribe to the channel...do remember to leave a like ..thanks so much

    • @Life_of_Hariii
      @Life_of_Hariii Рік тому +2

      Mam plz invite bhavana...

    • @newbie_2023
      @newbie_2023 Рік тому

      Can you please find someone who have more to say about NPD and other psychological topics...
      I believe it will help lot of your viewers , people like me are having a very difficult time in going through this awkward situation , I'm unable to convince others about my situation because they don't know what is NPD and how the abuser makes you a puppet for his/her play 😔

    • @thomaspj1247
      @thomaspj1247 Рік тому +1

      Avarude personal matters share cheyan thathparyamilla enn paranjittum , ningal irritate cheyunnathu.

    • @newbie_2023
      @newbie_2023 Рік тому

      Somewhere the interviewer tried to invad the boundaries , but Goutami managed to be on her grounds.
      If more people talk about these things we will get to know the values of keeping our boundaries 👍🤠
      Life is all about learning how vulnerable we all are in a situation that we don't expect in our life , some people will make narrow escape for such situations, some people will learn their mistakes and re write their paths 🌱

  • @rado2244
    @rado2244 Рік тому +237

    30's നോട്‌ അടുക്കുമ്പോളാണ് ജീവിതത്തെ പറ്റി ഒരു ക്ലാരിറ്റി കിട്ടുന്നത്.... Just awesome. I wanna show this to those people who blamed me of getting married at my 30's. Nailed it!👏🏻

    • @aparna3846
      @aparna3846 Рік тому +5

      നിങ്ങൾ പറഞ്ഞത് കിറുകൃത്യം 😊

    • @jjjishjanardhanan9508
      @jjjishjanardhanan9508 Рік тому +1

      Truth

    • @Nikhithagopalan
      @Nikhithagopalan Рік тому +1

      True

    • @shinereshma8135
      @shinereshma8135 Рік тому +1

      sathyamanu

    • @beenaanish3550
      @beenaanish3550 Рік тому +9

      The idea about life keeps changing every 10 years, as long as your situations are changing. Marrying in 30's means struggling to raise your children till mid 50's. That's too difficult. Instead, get married and have kids(if you wish to) between 25-30. You will be almost free of responsibilities towards 50. God willing, there is a scope for peaceful retirement life.
      This advice is based on my personal experience. I pursued studies and concentrated in career till 30, while my sister got married after her master's. Now, in my forties, I am still struggling with two small kids (10 & 6) while my sister's kids are in college. She spends her forties much more effortlessly. Of course, her career suffered. So, there are merits and demerits for both these choices.

  • @Malhar_2024
    @Malhar_2024 Рік тому +70

    12.20 to 12.40 💯 സത്യമാണ്. 30s നോട് അടുക്കുമ്പോഴാണ് ജീവിതത്തെ പറ്റി ഒരു ക്ലാരിട്ടി കിട്ടുന്നത്. Generalise ചെയ്തതല്ല. പക്ഷേ എനിക്ക് അങ്ങനെ ആയിരുന്നു

  • @aparnajayakumar.s
    @aparnajayakumar.s Рік тому +13

    She is my senior. She is very kind and lovable. She is very intelligent too...

  • @cloweeist
    @cloweeist Рік тому +107

    I totally agree with gauthami s views. I married at 28 but still i feel if i was given more time i would have been happier.yes 28 is old but may be i did not have the emotional maturity of a 28 year old. However there are girls who are 23 who get married and take forward their marital life so beautifully so I feel it's not about the age but about the person, the circumstances and so many factors . Being forced to marry /make a decision just because your parents are getting old is wrong .

    • @Gauthaminair13
      @Gauthaminair13 Рік тому +18

      Ive seen plenty of 23 year olds who are happily married as well, but I see the conditions that make them need to be happy also.. it’s a very complicated subject and space because like you said, circumstances play a major role

    • @never3385
      @never3385 Рік тому +4

      Very true age doesn't matter here....marry when you are ready

    • @rshaaa6964
      @rshaaa6964 Рік тому +1

      Exactly..

    • @reshmim7447
      @reshmim7447 Рік тому +4

      I married at 25, it was a mess..oh God..I just dunno how I did n faced alone!

    • @soumyas3265
      @soumyas3265 Рік тому +5

      Marriage is not just whole purpose of life ... Just my opinion..

  • @nikis8558
    @nikis8558 Рік тому +67

    Its quite deep! I like Gauthami from the beginning of her acting career. There is a spark in her eyes while talking.. Keep Going! Btw Dhanya Ma'am is the best host ever❤️

  • @Jibyabram
    @Jibyabram Рік тому +48

    Supriya, Guatami..... expecting more such personalities in the new episodes...
    They are really an inspiration for those who are going through a similar situation.. ❤❤❤
    Thanks DV..

  • @raji.r
    @raji.r Рік тому +47

    I could relate to Gautami's anxiety and overthinking situation. For me, it could be a valid or a hypothetical scenario triggered by whatever happened at some point in the day. I get anxious, overwhelmed, I go into worst case scenario..blah blah. The way I am dealing with it now is, I will go through that emotion, finally I come to "is there something that I can do about-yes/no-then why worry". sometimes if that won't help, I just cry my heart out. Then I calm down. ✌🏽

  • @SargaRS
    @SargaRS Рік тому +51

    Usually no body talks about ideological differences that can lead to a separation... but I have seen people go through that.... and elders complaining about " immaturity " of the couple for their separation. It is indeed very difficult to figure out things if your paths are parallel ....and when you understand that it will never meet .... it always better to leave happily

  • @sunlitmist
    @sunlitmist Рік тому +23

    Most couples are not compatible , many of them still compromise and live together because of many reasons , from child to society etc by sacrificing their lives and happiness. Only bold could come out… congratulations for listening to your inner self Gauthami!

  • @tn1077
    @tn1077 Рік тому +46

    Can't wait for Part 2. Apart from being a really good actress, I always loved her outlook on different topics that she would share on IG♥️

    • @iamwithdhanyavarma
      @iamwithdhanyavarma  Рік тому +12

      Part 2 is very good you must watch..she talks about so many things that need pir attention

    • @Gauthaminair13
      @Gauthaminair13 Рік тому +12

      Thank you ❤

  • @nandapushkar4300
    @nandapushkar4300 Рік тому +10

    Brilliant conversation. What Gautami said is TRUE, people doesn't know what's going on in ones house , yet people tend to judge and assume.

  • @breathe9220
    @breathe9220 Рік тому +5

    ഞാനും ആദ്യം സിനിമ കണ്ട് നോർമൽ ആകാൻ ശ്രമിക്കുമായിരുന്നു. പക്ഷെ ഇപ്പോ ആ സിനിമയിലെ പോലെയൊക്കെ സിറ്റുവേഷൻ വന്നാൽ ചുറ്റുമുള്ള മനുഷ്യർ എങ്ങനെ പ്രതികരിക്കും എന്നൊക്കെ ചിന്തിച്ചു പിന്നേം പഴയ പ്രശ്നങ്ങളിലേക്ക് മനസ്സ് ചെല്ലും. കാരണം എനിക്കിത്പോലെ 20 മിനിറ്റ് കണ്ടാൽ അതിൽ ലയിച്ചുപോകാതിരിക്കാൻ കഴിയില്ല
    ഇപ്പോ ഞാൻ സിനിമ കാണൽ തന്നെ കുറച്ചു. കോമഡി പരിപാടി ഒക്കെ ഓക്കേ ആയിരുന്നു. മൂഡ് റെഡി ആകുമ്പോ തീരും.
    ഇപ്പോ അതുമില്ല. ഇപ്പോ എനിക്ക് ടെൻഷൻ വന്നാ ഞാൻ ആ വാ ആയ്കോട്ടെ ലൈൻ ആണ്. എന്ത് വേണേലും ചിന്തിപ്പിച്ചോ എനിക്ക് ഒരു കുന്തവുമില്ല. കാരണം നന്മയുള്ളത് മാത്രമേ ദൈവത്തിൽ നിന്നുണ്ടാകൂ.. ചീത്ത ചിന്തകൾ പൈശാചികമാണ്. പിശാചിനെ ഞാൻ കേൾക്കേണ്ട കാര്യമെന്താ.. അൽഹംദുലില്ലാഹ് ഫീ കുല്ലി ഹാൽ..
    🤲🤲🤲
    എനിക്ക് ഇപ്പോ നാല് ദിക്‌റുകൾ കൊണ്ടോ എന്തേലും ദുആ അർത്ഥ സഹിതം കണ്ടാലോ അപ്പോൾ ഞാൻ ഓക്കേ ആകും.. ഖുർആൻ ആയത് കണ്ട് ഞാൻ അതിന്റെ അർത്ഥം എന്താണെന്ന് ചിന്തിക്കും.. അങ്ങനെ ചിന്തിച്ചു ചെല്ലുമ്പോ എനിക്ക് അള്ളാഹു കൂടെയുണ്ട് എന്നെ കൈവെടിയില്ല. അല്ലാഹുവിന് എല്ലാ പ്രശ്നങ്ങൾക്കും പരിഹാരം ഈസി ആണ് ഇങ്ങനെ ചിന്തിച്ചു എനിക്ക് വിശ്വാസവും ഒപ്പം സമാധാനവും വന്നെത്തുന്നു. അത് നിലനിൽക്കുന്നുമുണ്ട്. ഞാൻ ആലോചിച്ചു ആ സിറ്റുവേഷനിലേക്ക് മനസ്സിനെ എത്തിക്കാൻ ശ്രമിച്ചാൽ അല്ലാതെ ഇപ്പോ മനസ്സിൽ ഒന്നും വേണ്ടാത്തത് കടന്നുകൂടുന്നില്ല. മുൻപ് എന്തേലും കേൾക്കുമ്പോഴേക്ക് ടെൻഷൻ ആയിരുന്നു. മരണം രോഗം ഒന്നും കേൾക്കാൻ എനിക്ക് ത്രാണിയില്ലായിരുന്നു. അൽഹംദുലില്ലാഹ് എനിക്ക് സുഖം ലഭിച്ചിരിക്കുന്നു.

  • @Jaykob185
    @Jaykob185 Рік тому +38

    Dhanya Chechi - you can create this same as a podcast(Spotify)
    Like jayshetty. And The Korean Vegan
    So that many can listen to this while commuting
    pS - suggestion 😊😊
    I listen to all your interviews

    • @wasimahammed444
      @wasimahammed444 Рік тому +1

      Yes. Listing it on Spotify will be very helpful. I like to listen to conversations while i am commuting, watering my plants or doing some other works. Its difficult to do it on youtube while doing all these.

  • @athisayaj4413
    @athisayaj4413 Рік тому +14

    Oh I love this woman , the clarity she has and the perspectives are just on point. Loved every bit of this Interview .wishing you a great life ahead gouthami

    • @iamwithdhanyavarma
      @iamwithdhanyavarma  Рік тому +6

      The most important part is that Gauthami talks openly about so many things that are easily brushed under the carpet in our society ..

    • @athisayaj4413
      @athisayaj4413 Рік тому

      @@iamwithdhanyavarma absolutely. Most importantly you make the guest feel comfortable and the warmth in your conversations makes them talk their heart out. Great work Dhanya Chechy

  • @SKK-ih2gx
    @SKK-ih2gx Рік тому +14

    Multi-faceted personality. Good to see the different sides of Gautami

  • @peterengland4055
    @peterengland4055 Рік тому +5

    Out of the the interviewers I've seen in malayalam, i must say you're the classiest. The way you put forward your questions and let the interviewee present their ideas, pushing the audience to think and relate is just awesome. Most UA-cam interviews are just trash loaded with clickbait questions and nonsense. I've even seen interviews where directors were asked funny and nonsensical questions. Kudos to you anyway❤

  • @Iamvee149
    @Iamvee149 Рік тому +6

    She s exactly me, i do over think and watch friends one whole episode from Netflix to distract from everything.. also it's s damn true, we realise what we want and what is right and wrong, everything near to 30.. i married when 29 and just after that things changed . I am grateful for the companionship i have with my best friend but the rest when it comes to responsibility and shits wth family and in laws and society, that's ridiculous and cannot accept at all, gradually it's raising the anxiety to a worse condition! I blame the system we follow here.. it sucks.
    Great thanks to Dhanya for another amazing interview..love yu for what you do 💓

  • @akhil3678
    @akhil3678 Рік тому +6

    കണ്ണുകൾ പോലെ തന്നെ മനോഹരമായ ചിന്തകളും 😍

  • @jayakumardivakaran537
    @jayakumardivakaran537 Рік тому +16

    Yes, every interview done by Dhanya Chechii has a unique touch. She definitely gives space for the guest and never overdo it. 😊😊

  • @Regina_Phalange.
    @Regina_Phalange. Рік тому +22

    Goutami truly deserves a lot more space not in just film industry but in all those areas where she puts her handz in as she can dfntly bring d best output using her well acquired knwldge..She has got a lot more on her plate to offer to this society..She is clear, smart and truthful 💖

  • @sarahs.k9656
    @sarahs.k9656 Рік тому +11

    Such A Lovely Interview.. You are so warm.. Everyone should get a friend Like Gautami💖 Wish to see you more in Cinema... Also my favrt is you in diamond necklace...

  • @habeebasulthana3638
    @habeebasulthana3638 Рік тому +19

    As I'm also a mental health professional..I respect all her personal affairs and things she had come across...but still It's not fair to term a person Clinical Psychologist without completing MPhil in Clinical Psychology, and if she has completed that, it's totally fine...and also talking about neuroscientist the one who completed PhD in a particular field namely of neuroscience can only be termed as neuroscientist.. it's not that just googling what I'm doing is considered as a neuroscientist....Also every kind of things she had spoken in this first part ...about ADHD....is not complete, somebody scrolling into social media for a longer period of time is not labelled as ADHD. ADHD as a disorder is more into inattention, hyperactivity and impulsivity with lot more symptoms ( varies with individuals)...and also a person with overthinking should never try of scrolling into social media or Netflix as it is a negative coping mechanism and overthinking can take place due to various psychological issues, a person should be given therapy if needed for the underlying cause rather than talking about it in more lighter way, it is also a thing to be considered more intensively..
    Im not sure whether the second part will be covering the complete picture and clarifies all those mentioned biases in the first part...but at the present phase no false information should be conveyed to the public...
    Thank you ☺️
    @iamwithdhanyavarma

    • @kurian_jose
      @kurian_jose Рік тому +4

      The clinical psychologist and neuroscientist definitions... yep 👍. I was laughing at the silliness.

    • @aparnaharinarayanan6922
      @aparnaharinarayanan6922 Рік тому +7

      Completely agree! The exact thoughts I had while watching this. It's not just therapy which is sensitive. When a public figure who happens to be an 'aspiring' Neuroscientist/Clinical Psychologist discusses such serious stuff so lightly, there are high chances of people getting influenced and misled, even if it is unintended. So there should have been extra caution and clarity, according to my opinion. I feel Dhanya even prompted some questions to bring better clarity, but didn't seem like working well. People already have a lot of misconception regarding mental illnesses. Serious conditions like Depression and OCD have already become silly casual usages for many. Let's not bring in more of such blunders please!

    • @aparnaps4873
      @aparnaps4873 Рік тому +2

      Agree...Appreciate the effort taken to explain these points 👏

    • @habeebasulthana3638
      @habeebasulthana3638 Рік тому

      @@aparnaps4873 🤍

    • @shahanakp2827
      @shahanakp2827 Рік тому

      Same thought came across while watching. 👏

  • @meg_apras_ith8541
    @meg_apras_ith8541 Рік тому +10

    You are doing great work Dhanya. A very stigma ayitila karyam, you were able to make comfortable from most of all celebrities to talk about their mental health problem, and make us all aware it's not a big deal , most of all great personalities are dealing with these kind issues in their personal life. It gives confidence to normal people tht it s not a disease and anyone can go through this. And we are getting tops also how to deal with .
    You are a gem 💎. Keep doing great things, inspire people ❤️

  • @TheKatChat47
    @TheKatChat47 Рік тому +15

    I like the way you choose the guests❤️❤️after watching every episode, there is something that I need and try to learn from them 😇😇

  • @musicmysoulandlife
    @musicmysoulandlife 11 місяців тому +2

    I am sorry Dhanya, but as a doctor I am forced to say something aloud. A research fellow in one topic in neuroscience can't be labelled a neuroscientist. The scope of a neuroscientist is much larger. And a real neuroscientist will be able to call themselves so without having to Google it. She is a psychologist. Plain and simple.

  • @TheTeena1991
    @TheTeena1991 Рік тому +11

    Such a thought provoking perspective ,you need to regulate ur emotions first to be therapist. So true may be not only as a therapist also as a human ,so deep perspectives ! A beautiful conversation!!

  • @ziaanns909
    @ziaanns909 Рік тому +14

    Pls upload the second part ASAP...waiting..u r a vrry practical and genuine person Gauthami.

  • @renukakammadath
    @renukakammadath Рік тому +35

    "We all have our own dirty laundry" 💯
    Very much true!!!

    • @Gauthaminair13
      @Gauthaminair13 Рік тому +5

      🤗

    • @renukakammadath
      @renukakammadath Рік тому +5

      ​@@Gauthaminair13 aww.. Its so precious dr.. 🫂♥️ we all have been through a lot, a lot of ups n downs.. A lot of struggles and an absolute roller coaster ride!! ♥️ We shall overcome some day!!!!🫂

    • @rhythmrhythm519
      @rhythmrhythm519 Рік тому +1

      True❤️

  • @aishwaryaravindran2152
    @aishwaryaravindran2152 Рік тому +12

    We would love to see Dhanya having deep conversations on experiences and perspectives of people rather than asking about their personal lives. Personal space should be kept personal, if some one needs to talk about it, they would talk.

    • @iamwithdhanyavarma
      @iamwithdhanyavarma  Рік тому +7

      This is a space for people to share their lives... whoever is willing to they do...only what the guest is comfortable speaking about is spoken about and asked ..even aired .it is always what the guest is comfortable talking about

  • @Ashithas676
    @Ashithas676 Рік тому +6

    Hi Dhanya, for your kind information In India required qualification for a clinical psychologist is Mphil in Clinical psychology and you need a licence (by the Rehabilitation Council of India RCI)to practice as a Clinical Psychologist. Someone with a master's degree in psychology is a psychologist. Not a Clinical psychologist. Both are different.

  • @KNR-zo5hs
    @KNR-zo5hs Рік тому +8

    A few days ago, I saw that one song from diamond necklace where gauthami and Fahad starred and wondered where she is now. Some days later i saw her on chooral's vlog and then now here. She is on my recommendation for a few days now 😂.
    Anyways, Nice interactive session. Love to see more quality interviews like this! ❤️

  • @Jabinrazitalks
    @Jabinrazitalks Рік тому +8

    You are doing a great job Ms. Dhanya..
    But here am so sorry for saying that I totally disagree with Gauthami what she explained about ADHD and dealing with overthinking… this is not what people expect from a psychologist… watching Netflix is not a clinical approach to deal with overthinking.. it is a kind of escapism from some disturbing thoughts… in fact people who are really going through overthinking cannot watch a movie peacefully or they cannot divert their thoughts easily.. that is why they have to seek a professional help… and Ms. Gauthami, kids disturbing their elder siblings while studying at home is a common thing.. it’s quite normal.. pls don’t tell it is what hyperactivity or symptoms of ADHD.. people who watch this may think their children have ADHD…Bcz this is something every baby does…it is really misleading
    Anyway appreciating you the way you handled your divorce which is not easy for everyone..

  • @sumisoman4070
    @sumisoman4070 Рік тому +3

    Thanks for this interesting conversation.
    Liked Gauthami in Diamond Necklace..then somewhere you just disappeared. Happy to see you back ...all the best

  • @varadasuresh5084
    @varadasuresh5084 Рік тому +9

    Such a well-read woman! More power to you Gauthami❤

  • @ar.anandsomarajanjayashree3749

    Loved the clarity of her thoughts and the way she dissects simply why two people can’t go along together without any complaints. I completely understand how composed and how intelligent is her, to put forward her words with absolute clarity and simple vocabulary. Happy to see have brilliant people as actors or as neuroscientists 🥰✨👌

  • @archanar8634
    @archanar8634 Рік тому +21

    I have always admired her personality and liked the stories and thoughts she shared on instagram and also the blogs she used to write ...At some point you might feel that there is a lot going on in her mind but really can't share as this is a public platform..Always loved hearing her interviews...She deserves more work and attention.. Thank you for bringing her to the show❤️

    • @Gauthaminair13
      @Gauthaminair13 Рік тому +12

      Thank you ! There’s so much I would like to sit and talk about but sadly you know how social media works so 🙇🏻‍♀️

    • @deeh2525
      @deeh2525 Рік тому +1

      @@Gauthaminair13 same i also feel like this when i see your insta stories ☺️😊

    • @nijanair114
      @nijanair114 Рік тому

      E

  • @archanacr
    @archanacr Рік тому +5

    I happened to see a couple of videos in which she says "I'm scared of therapy". She said she's scared to be a therapist for now. Taken out of context it sounds like something else.
    Loved the episode. Waiting for Part 2

  • @arjunrajendran4826
    @arjunrajendran4826 Рік тому +9

    I can relate with her on some level, especially regarding overthinking, it's so difficult to deal with.

  • @aparna3846
    @aparna3846 Рік тому +10

    I can see shes still recovering from her disturbed phase of life.. One thing i felt is the point where she spoke abt watching netflix when shes anxious... Its not a very safe ideal way i feel...coz its a vicious circle... Bt its what everybody does 😊.. Am glad she was honest on that... Bt as a psychologist not an ideal solution.. Bt other than that bravo for her fearless and open attitude to life❤more power to u dear❤Loved the way she and her ex husband amicably split, not badmouthing each other and still friendly. which is to be taken as a good lesson for all of us❤
    And bravo dhanya chechi❤youve done it again!!!👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

    • @Gauthaminair13
      @Gauthaminair13 Рік тому +2

      🙏🏻 🙇🏻‍♀️ ❤ thank you 🤗

  • @TheKatChat47
    @TheKatChat47 Рік тому +5

    Gauthami❤️❤️❤️ I was completely able to relate with your thoughts 😘😘😘 you are an amazing soul and have clarity on your words

  • @justcommonthings1899
    @justcommonthings1899 Рік тому +4

    Checheee.thudakkathile bites vendaanne..please directly start the interview..you may put it as separate shorts but can avoid it in the beginning of the program?

  • @Jumiiz
    @Jumiiz Рік тому +21

    Dear Dhanya Varma,
    With all due respect, I can't help but notice that of late, there's a lot of focus on guests' personal life rather than their achievements, struggles to achieve something etc. I understand people have a natural curiosity to know about others' lives, and that it'll increase your view count etc, but steering clear of that was what made The Happiness Project special. (I know this isn't Happiness Project and that I Am has a different strategy. But people come to watch your content for a specific reason.)
    There was one question in Grace Antony's interview where you asked about her experience while acting with Mammootty. Would someone ask Mammootty how he felt while acting with Grace? It was a signal that you, like the majority of interviewers, are falling prey to 'peer pressure'. There are others to cover that kind of content. I love your work and have immense respect towards you and hence this humble request to stay unique and not become 'just another interviewer'.

    • @iamwithdhanyavarma
      @iamwithdhanyavarma  Рік тому +14

      Thanks for your feedback... Sometimes peopls wish to talk about thaelves.sometimes they don't...they wish to convey a message at times...trust me if the.guest wasn't comfortable or didn't wish to speak about it...none of this part of the content would be shor.or aired..This show is different in the way that it delves deeper into the lives so personal will be covered for sure. All this while being immensely.conscious of the.guest and what and how much they wish to share and only that much is aired for you as well.

    • @prakandi2
      @prakandi2 Рік тому +3

      I agree with this point, Dhanya. Supriya Menon was completely distraught and in pieces during the interview. I feel a lot of the interview as such was aired to get views. This reminds me of a popular singing talent show from the early 2000’s where every contestant had to cry during their expulsion.

    • @MP-wx7sy
      @MP-wx7sy Рік тому +1

      I too agree with the opinion..In one of the last interviews with Supriya Menon ,the anchor kept on asking questions related to her father and Dhanya Varma had to take break due to the bad condition of Supriya in Part 1.Even after that ,she kept on asking questions about the same topic again and again even after Supriya said that she was taking therapy to overcome her mental state..It was bad and highly unethical to ask such questions by knowing her deteriorating mental health condition ..Pathetic ! I didn't see the second part due to this behaviour..This can't be appreciated for any reasons dear Dhanya.. Please let them speak of themselves instead of tagging them with their spouses..With command over words and decent pronunciation you are not supposed to do this..I strongly disagree with your interview with Supriya and try to avoid such situations.

  • @jayakumardivakaran537
    @jayakumardivakaran537 Рік тому +4

    She is such a strong girl.. 😊

  • @ancyskumar9818
    @ancyskumar9818 Рік тому +1

    Dhanya chechi's interview kandal ket irikane tonuullu. She makes everyone comfortable and literally a sweet person ♥️
    ~Ancy

  • @shynedas
    @shynedas Рік тому +4

    Hi. Could you please have talk with Tamil actor Madhavan?

  • @nishithanair5506
    @nishithanair5506 Рік тому +6

    Thanks for the last statements of Dhanya. I have soooo many problems and don't know what all are they. Overthinking gives me pain and frustration every day. And the response I get from husband is, why are you over reacting to a small thing (wherein my reaction is result of the 10 things I thought in that situation, in that few secs) and the second thing he ask is why don't think of the blessings you have (like she said in ur interview with Supriya). So I'm stamped as a person with negative thoughts. They can't understand minds like mine exist and it is out of my control and might get fix with therapy or might not 🙄

    • @deeh2525
      @deeh2525 Рік тому

      May be you have bpd

  • @renjithr
    @renjithr Рік тому +7

    I wonder how life makes people bold and mature. I'm sure they might have traveled the hardest pathways.

    • @Gauthaminair13
      @Gauthaminair13 Рік тому +10

      Everyone suffers, im just in a privileged space to be able to speak about it 🤗

  • @_farisa__ali_8493
    @_farisa__ali_8493 Рік тому +2

    She is right...even my family my csns are married at 18 ( at her 18th bdy) ...They are pressuring me to get married am now 19..💔

  • @shinlakrishnankutty3982
    @shinlakrishnankutty3982 Рік тому +3

    Loved the interview👍

  • @sandrajoshy9755
    @sandrajoshy9755 Рік тому +4

    Super. Waiting for 2 nd part😍

  • @shambhusnair91
    @shambhusnair91 Рік тому +13

    "We all have our dirty laundry" 👌

  • @m_shaheerky3640
    @m_shaheerky3640 Рік тому +4

    Please bring Parvathy Thiruvath

  • @anithabalasubramanian7113
    @anithabalasubramanian7113 Рік тому +6

    Nice and informative interview 😍

  • @alltogether2051
    @alltogether2051 Рік тому +1

    Dhanya mam videos kurachoode volume undayirunnenkil enikkoru suggestion und karanam njanoru veetujoli cheyyumbolayirikkum ithu kelkkunnathum kanunnathum appol joli cheyyumbol full volume ittalum struggling to hear. Unfortunately no time to sit and watch. May be some of them feel silly but this is what I felt when i watch your videos😊 I like your all videos and especially you. God bless you

  • @sandramatt8604
    @sandramatt8604 Рік тому +8

    Diamond Necklace is the only movie that comes to my mind when I think of her. Has she acted in more?And I just felt like she spoke only about her D rather than movies/ more

    • @Gauthaminair13
      @Gauthaminair13 Рік тому +23

      Ive acted in 7 movies and directed one.. and btw this isn’t my fake account.. 😉

  • @kurienthomas9058
    @kurienthomas9058 Рік тому +3

    An interview worth listening....

  • @sandhyasudheer
    @sandhyasudheer Рік тому +1

    There is something so charming about Gautami...always loved your work.enjoyed hearing u talk today.really hoping to see u in many good roles in the Future.Wish u good luck!!
    Good job with the interview Dhanya as always

  • @anniethomas6652
    @anniethomas6652 Рік тому +16

    Dhanya is trying to get answers. Gautham I is going all over the place.

    • @Gauthaminair13
      @Gauthaminair13 Рік тому +41

      Because sometimes I have a lot of thoughts going through my head, and I want to put across a lot of things.. but I cannot because it’s thé not the space for me to say it..

  • @somebody4969
    @somebody4969 Рік тому +2

    I am also having overthinking. Too much of overthinking.

  • @jijodasantonydas
    @jijodasantonydas Рік тому +3

    2nd part evidee♥️

  • @gandalf_of2am
    @gandalf_of2am Рік тому +9

    Now that you mention and that I try to recollect, yes You were hyper active in our childhood. I have a particular memory about a day in Nayakkanaparambu, where we both were exhibiting some traits of hyperactivity. Happy for everything that has and is happening with you ❤

  • @devikaammu389
    @devikaammu389 Рік тому +4

    Very much Relatable 🥺 Thankyou so much for this🫂❤️

  • @isabellealex1131
    @isabellealex1131 6 місяців тому +1

    Gouthami nannayitt samsarikkunund. But oru therapist ayitt polum anxiety polulla karyangal kurachude effective ayitt deal cheyyendathalle🤔

  • @anilithikkat5816
    @anilithikkat5816 11 місяців тому

    Very classy interview. Kudos to Dhanya. Gauthami is smart and communicates very well.

  • @lithathilakan6657
    @lithathilakan6657 Рік тому +8

    Love Gauthami in Diamond Necklace.. Look forward to hear more .. (esp about ADHD which I am also identifying in introspection).. I am also a mom of twins and then a single child. I can somewhat relate with you Dhanya when you shared your story abt feeling like inside a laundromat 😂.. Happiness project was part of my journey out of postpartum depression. What Gauthami said abt movies is what I used to do with Happiness project yt fav episodes when my anxiety was unbearable. The channel How to ADHD has given me some tricks to navigate my struggles to strengths. love to you all..

    • @iamwithdhanyavarma
      @iamwithdhanyavarma  Рік тому +3

      Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts...this conversation amongst us also in our living rooms is what I hope to bring forth via this show...this gives me the strength to go on inspite of all odds..thanks so much and much love..keep moving ahead❤️

  • @gayathrisureshbabu2683
    @gayathrisureshbabu2683 Рік тому +9

    The interview was really good and relatable. But as a psychologist, I must say that it is not okay to believe that you are hyperactive because of the limited behavior patterns you mentioned. And it is improper to diagnose somebody in an unofficial setting like what you mentioned. This is misleading. There should be a clinical approach as Dhanya Varma mentioned. Adult ADHD is so much more intense than the manifestations you denoted.

    • @Gauthaminair13
      @Gauthaminair13 Рік тому +5

      I already mentioned that we keep having our own little conversations to figure out own little problems and habits. There’s so much more to these conversations that happen than what I have actually spoken about in this interview. And where I work in the hospital, my team consists of some of the most intelligent doctors and therapists. Of course adult ADHD is more than what I said, but I was talking about myself and my problems I wasn’t speaking about how the general public may show such symptoms and I already stated in the beginning of the interview that I do not do therapy as I feel people can take any small thing you say to fit their own personal narrative in whatever way they like.

  • @hasna3588
    @hasna3588 Рік тому +4

    12:49 gouthami paranchad sathyaamaan. 18 vayassilaan njangalle areayikokke mrg nokkunnath.18 vayassil nikah kazikkum. Pinne education veno vendayo enn husum familiym theerumaanikkunnathinanusarich

  • @anjanaanju5833
    @anjanaanju5833 Рік тому +4

    Rimi chechiye kondu varuo mam

  • @jshreer8306
    @jshreer8306 Рік тому +1

    Perfect interview..

  • @SKY-kv7no
    @SKY-kv7no Рік тому +4

    I have always liked her from the beginning..donno..but there is something about her that intrigues me..but this interview helped me realise the reason. she has a clarity in her thoughts..other people might judge her because getting a divorce is still a sensitive issue in this society and people are still to accept tht term. When someone says tht they separated for their own sake in a very healthy manner, y can't people just accept and let them be!!

  • @christinathankachan1055
    @christinathankachan1055 Рік тому +1

    Thank you Dhanya Mam and thank you Gauthami

  • @user-bq7hm9iu6c
    @user-bq7hm9iu6c Рік тому +12

    *waiting for gauthami's massive comeback🔥*

  • @TheKatChat47
    @TheKatChat47 Рік тому +1

    Hi mam.. I have a small suggestion .. Please change the logo of IAM with Dhanya Varma from the centre to the corner and make it more visible

  • @Aryaa256
    @Aryaa256 Рік тому +3

    bavana chechiye kond varumo

  • @smithajagathan5589
    @smithajagathan5589 Рік тому +2

    Expecting stronger women personalities like this dhanya mam...really can emotionally connect with Supriya and Gauthami.. nice interview..
    @Gauthami - Could u pls suggest a good clinical psychologist in Trivandrum to consult..

    • @Gauthaminair13
      @Gauthaminair13 Рік тому +2

      Sure. Please contact Dr. Krishna Prasad Sreedhar.. he is hands down always my favourite !

    • @shilpamohanan9288
      @shilpamohanan9288 Рік тому

      @gautami Can you suggest how to take an online appointment with him.

  • @Motivatewithme1995
    @Motivatewithme1995 Рік тому +2

    l just want to ask to these people they all are talking they are living in a new era then why they need such second name such as " Nair, Varma, Menon" and all.

  • @akhilalex7930
    @akhilalex7930 Рік тому +5

    Malayalam film industriyil kuduthal nal sustain cheyyan ee sensitive character vechu budhimuttanu....

  • @junevibez8189
    @junevibez8189 Рік тому +2

    Clear thoughts💞

  • @chippyrajesh2265
    @chippyrajesh2265 Рік тому +10

    Good to see Gautami again... Beauty with brain.... Thanks Dhanya ma'am for bringing her..... 💖💖🙏🙏👍👍👍👍👌👌

  • @divya433
    @divya433 Рік тому +1

    Best best besttt the best .point by point

  • @aji9803
    @aji9803 Рік тому +2

    Evdeyo enthokeyo clarity kuravu 🤔

  • @nanitales007
    @nanitales007 Рік тому +4

    Gauthami is very honest .Great interview.But questions seemed little bit personal from Dhanya’s side.

    • @Gauthaminair13
      @Gauthaminair13 Рік тому +9

      Naa she asked me if it’s ok to talk about some of the things before we started :)

  • @deepakkutty0609
    @deepakkutty0609 Рік тому

    Absolutely amazing UA-cam channel ! Deepak Nambiar .

  • @Dodhuvlog
    @Dodhuvlog Рік тому +1

    Chechii iit yil padikuvayrnile course kazinjoo??I like ur eyes very much

  • @user-bq7hm9iu6c
    @user-bq7hm9iu6c Рік тому +6

    *gauthami is an underrated actress🔥*

  • @babi.413
    @babi.413 Рік тому +1

    Ma'am waiting for an interview with "Navya 🥰"

  • @unnikrishnannair8117
    @unnikrishnannair8117 Рік тому +2

    Waiting for part 2

  • @lakshminair2918
    @lakshminair2918 Рік тому +1

    One can prevent hazards to only a certain extent, but one can always strive towards not making it a disaster. What will it take the world to overcome a mental health pandemic? Definitely more conversations with role models, but I am sure people like Dhanya can do much more to sensitize the society through powerful communication channels. It is good to put some metric to see the real impact of these conversation... what changes does it bring to the society , beyond the social media views!!!

  • @bhoomi2645
    @bhoomi2645 Рік тому

    She's very brilliant well mannered matured girl

  • @kevinj7569
    @kevinj7569 Рік тому +3

    Can you bring unni mukundan to your show?

  • @gardentimes4301
    @gardentimes4301 Рік тому

    We wish to see you in more movies like Diamond Necklace. Wish you best!

  • @kafeelaparveen4898
    @kafeelaparveen4898 Рік тому +2

    Good One ❤

  • @crajedits
    @crajedits Рік тому +2

    ധന്യ വർമ്മ.. ഗൗതമി നായർ .. കേൾക്കാൻ തന്നെ എന്തൊരു സുഖം💥💥

  • @Dreamcatcher_Couples
    @Dreamcatcher_Couples 6 місяців тому

    Nangde collegil arunn Gowthami such a nice person ❤❤❤❤

  • @ashalizzy9573
    @ashalizzy9573 Рік тому +4

    So nice to listen to her ❤️❤️

  • @supriyakrishnankutty3979
    @supriyakrishnankutty3979 Рік тому +8

    It's just a normal question for you dhanya that why you have been holding your name of caste along with your surname. Could you please write down your opinions about such things that happening around...

    • @shyamaretnakumar5868
      @shyamaretnakumar5868 Рік тому +2

      Her wish!

    • @radhikarajagopal413
      @radhikarajagopal413 Рік тому +1

      If many can take privileges in the name of caste whether in education or in jobs in India she has not getting the same out of it. Then what's other peoples issue. Let her or any one who wishes to use their surname be free to use it. Caste name as Surname is not a taboo in our country. In Kerala only this much of unnecessary pressures to remove surname. In Other states not only general category but also every other reservation catagory put their surname with pride. No one mock on them. If anyone dared to question them they will give befitting reply also

  • @regi_lalr5382
    @regi_lalr5382 Рік тому +4

    7:04👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

  • @arnavanoop2720
    @arnavanoop2720 Рік тому +1

    Yes 18 yrs..... she said correct age

  • @hydee6018
    @hydee6018 Рік тому +1

    Have you tried journaling?