How To Stop Being A Victim - Part 2 - What All Victims Fail To Understand
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- How To Stop Being A Victim - An in-depth look at what makes a victim a victim and what you need to understand to break free forever.
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Being a victim is an externalization of power. Once you become aware of labeling yourself as a victim, the key is to reclaim your power by taking responsibility for it. We create our reality and knowing it is key. Great video Leo.
Hey aaron, I dont know you at all, but you pop up under almost every video I watch (:
Just wanted to say Hi, you've got a great taste ;D
+jonathan hinz He has a channel like Leo .U can check out his channel.
Stop trying to get subscribers
+updown 16 yeah it's a terrible channel where he copies Leo in all his videos and comments on here to get him subscribers
There are many other channels that talk about personal development other than Leo...Boruch Akbosh, Brendon.com, Brian Johnson, Infinite Waters, to name a few.
when i watched the first victim video last year i felt like i was stuck in my life, hopeless, but now as i'm watching this i can't relate to the victim metality anymore, i freaking did it, i changed
Nice!
Safia Magdy my man did it
I don’t even know you but I’m fucking proud of you take on the world by the balls my friend.
That's really wonderful! That says so much about you! So many people just listen to things and never take action. You did it! Yeah!!!
me too Safia, it's a great feeling and congrats :)
Took me 4 years to realize this. Foundational video.
Had seen it when the video was posted, realized it’s importance just now.
Leo man.....nothing else can describe how much you are revolutionising my life. I love you dude!!
+Hari Patel woof!
+Markus mew!
+Nico Bottema mooooo
+Leon Willett poooo
quackkk
Your mind is not your friend.. that one rang a bell so hard
Actualized is slowly turning into a subtle enlightenment channel haha
Good on you Leo, people need it
***** Yeah you almost got it. You even nailed Leo's slight hint of authoritative narcissism.
+Xtrullor If you watch all Leo's videos and take them to heart your life will be 100 % better in every sense. It's basically buddhist teachings in a way that westerners understand.
Riley Jones Oh I know, been a follower for over a year now. Thanks to him even enlightenment happened at a some point, which totally changed my life.
+Xtrullor I like that, it's what I think about all the time, so I don't mind.
it's been an enlightenment channel. your just now connecting the dots..lol
I watched the first one, when I first started watching your videos a little over a year ago. I was swimming in victim's mentality and felt completely at the mercy of life situations. I didn't realize that my victim's mentality was actually allowing me to avoid responsibility. It was serving my ego. Since then, life has been much lighter. But this video was good because it got me to do a once-over to weed out any remaining threads of victimhood. I have a few in relation to the limitations I have as a parent. And a ton relative to finances. Thank you again! :)
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Your videos are so extremely helpful to me. You are a blessing.
I realise that from a very young age I always felt like the world was against me. I was ill, kids bullied me and my family situation was very unstable so to say. I always felt like a victim of life, that life will always turn against me, that happiness is something for others. Like a Song stuck in my head, playing again and again. And I still feel that today, even though things have changed. As if everything is just further proof for this believe. as soon as something goes wrong inside of me a feeling of "i knew it, always me" comes up and I get anxious and depressed, because I wish it werent so.
And it isnt so. I now realize that I am no poor victim, that sometimes shit just happens. It is just life and has nothing to do with me being a victim or anything else.
also playing the victim stops me from taking Action, and Not acting is of course the best way to stay stuck.
Thank you Leo. Sometimes the truth hurts but I am really thankful for the effort you put into your Videos. They have helped me lots.
The projector example was genius...:)
I have a victim mentality when it comes to my career. Leo thank you for breaking down this information. I don't know where to start, but I know I need to!
Your video made me realize i have victim mindset in almost all the areas of my life... the exercise really show me how i am giving away my power to growth to outside things- my workplace, parenting, people who criticize and the rejections i face...need to revert the attention onto my self talk.. thank you so much : )).
I've been on this path a long time and have felt entirely alone and often second guessed my sanity. These videos are so reassuring and empowering. Thank you.
Wow, I just forced myself to do the exercise and I was having trouble to even come up with a limiting belief. I suspected that my ego was telling me that I'm all perfect and shit, so I really thought about it and picked something. I didn't expect to have proper answers to those questions, so I was really surprised that I wrote several pages full of evidence that I'm holding myself back in that specific area (for me it is money). Really got some powerful insight, so if anyone thinks that he or she doesn't need to do the exercise, DO IT!! It's really worth your while. :)
My Ego, my mind, and my own behavior holds me back. Nobody holds me back, but myself. Thank you for opening my mind.
I am such a victim I watched part one a year ago though and I have been taking action but I see now more than ever how much of a victim I am and I am needing more and more action. I say needing because I cannot accept who I am right now I know I can be better/ happier. The video from a year ago sank into my psyche so much that I could remember bits and pieces from that video that have helped me tremendously make right choices but I forgot the origin. My mantra has even become "I have a choice".Thanks for your wisdom!! Gonna re watch this and part one.
Wow! I bought the Life Purpose Course and what can I say... This isn't 10x, it's more like 10000x, really. I'm super grateful that someone took the the time to put this out there. The implications of this thing doesn't even compare with other Self- help products. It's unleashing the authentic you that was always there, waiting to be awakened. Just get it!
I needed this. I've been struggling with depression and hopelessness. A key reason is I've concluded that I will ALWAYS have a strong inner critic. Off to do some thinking. Thanks, Leo.
I understand. Its interesting that you came here for thinking. I discovered by definition depression is synonymous with self pity and then defining that to victim mentality. Unhappiness, blaming others. So what is the solution? Self honesty. Responsibility. Facing truth that I have been avoiding. Etc.
Fun stuff once I get past resistance. Salutations to all readers!
It's very important for a person to understand when they are victimizing their selves; we all do it to some degree. One must "practice becoming the master of the self so that they may not be controlled by their mind no longer." A good life is lived in constant practice.
Hi' Leo! I really appreciate the work you've been doing, it's helped me a lot. And just to let you know how far your wisdom is getting, I'm from a small town in Brazil. Before I found out about your videos, I was in a pretty dark place and unhappy, but with your help I'm finally starting to see life differently. And you also have been helping me with my English, indirectly of course.
Thank you Leo, for being here
I use to have victim thinking but your videos really helped me realize I'm not, that I am my only obstacle but I'm still in a constant battle with myself in a lot of aspects in my life, like trying to figure out which path to take, in my life I feel really stuck and lost sometimes but your videos have really helped me a lot, thank you so much Leo!!
Good! Better to be fighting yourself than the outside world. As least now you have the right battleground.
This is really great content Leo. I’ve recently started your online course and was led to the victim mentality videos from there. Wow have I learned something huge about myself. So grateful to be on this journey.
14:43 "A problem is a feature of the mind."
I am so close to that paradigm shift I can taste it it's.
like stepping over a threshold if you will ..
and everytime I get to this point I sabotage!! why is that Leo?
Please don't say fear of failure ..
is it because I know that up until this point my Foundation isn't solid enough? so intuitively my cells destroy everything? that's that inner spiritual knowing saying you didn't do massive work you're not ready for the next step so we're going to knock you back down get it right..
I hope you are still reading comments and responding like in your earlier days when you were growing because I'd love to hear from you
A few years ago I watched part 1 and that started the process of me getting more towards self-actualization. It's really nice to see part 2 now and see the progress I've made and be reminded of the fundamentals. Thanks Leo, keep up the good work.
After watching your first part has given me a relief I didn’t know what was holding me back. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge!
You're by far the best and most influential role-model I've had in my whole life. Who knows how much different my life will be in years to come from practicing all the wisdom and knowledge I've learned from this channel.
Sometimes I feel fed up with your video, and then I try to stop temporarily. But oftentimes without warning, I feel problems come to me without warning at all, and often times it makes me sad, depressed, and feel don't know at all and don't understand. I think my mind and mental have growth but actually, it's not enough. So I try to search in your channel the topic that relates to my current condition at that times, and it always makes me: "Wow I don't know something like that happened, it's beyond mindblown and my mind is so narrow to feel so sorrow and thinking there is no other way."
Your concept is so profound because this is not much taught in our school, society, family, or works but it really relates to any of us.
I am very lucky to find your channel, I am also on the journey of self-improvement every day and every time 😊
These two videos show how you have grown in presenting the content you've worked quite hard for in compiling. The first part shows how you want to help but are kind of "attached" to it , the second part shows how you are in a way "detached".Good job.
I was badly bullied as a child emotionally and physically and had a really bad school childhood
I am now 51 years old and have spent my life trying to fix this many times
I’ve been reasonably successful in my life but I’ve always felt like I’ve held myself back from being truly happy and successful because I don’t believe I deserve to be
I find it difficult to form real friendships because I always believe I cannot trust people
I’ve managed to stay married to an amazing lady and I have a great 6 year old son but the rest of my life is in the toilet
Trust and confidence is the big things I don’t have
I’ve spent $1000’s on counselling
Nothing changes
Your an amazing speaker Leo and easy to understand even in the most complicated subjects. You have a gift.
Just finished the exercise at the end of this video. When it's put in writing, WOW. Can't remember why I stopped freewriting but this was enlightening and inspiring.
Also purchased the life purpose course. As I go through it, the regrets of the purchase are dissolving. Feels like your holding my hand and I quickly realized that's not a bad thing.
Thank you.
Thank you for making this video. I've been stuck in victim-mode so long
that I've lost my direction in life. What to do, what do I like to do?
What am I good at? What should I work with? Where should I live? It has
been a mess and I've lost many friends and kept to myself. This started
when I looked into this spiritual way of living. I've read about law of
attraction and stopped my thoughts when i noticed they weren't serving
me, turned then around and startad thinking positive. But when you don't
feel positive, It feels like hypocrisy to fake the thought when the
feeling doesnt match.. I was feeling better for a while though, in the
start of thinking like this. But now I've realized that months have gone
by and I have been really unsatisfied about almost everything.
Complaining and projected my problems to the outside world. Man now It
has sunk in and I realize much better now what I have to do. Thx alot!
Watching your videos makes me feel good,safe and gives me courage to change my way of thinking. Thanks Leo 🙏
I feel that I get little change in my brain with every video you shoot my bro , really really thanks
Took 10 mins doing this exercise.
Abstractions becomes soo practical..
Man!! He's a God🙏
People like Leo are going to knock therapist and psychologists out of the running. Priceless resource here for self help. And there is so much to choose and learn from. Thank you!
Leo I'm going through a really tough growth period and your videos are helping me to improve my outlook on life. Thank you.
As everybody else I'm also really thankful. So thank you for letting me be a person who is able to make themselve happy without seeking validation of others. Really thank you.
I'm truly with you, Leo. I can see how you are kind of taming it back lately for everyone and yet it all still points to doing Enlightenment work. I look forward to the super advanced Enlightenment videos that you are probably just waiting to release. Thank you, again! If it were not for you...I would still be asleep.
I been struggling for 5months now about my situation till it depressed me. After watching this and the first video before this I laugh at my silliness. The huge mountains that I carried on my shoulder is just actually a spec of dust that I can just easily shrug off. Thanks Leo ever. You save my life. ❤
I admit, it took some convincing for me, but I'm now totally bought into this stuff. This is brave of this guy, to tell people what they DO NOT want to hear. It has a very low chance for people to actually understand it but Leo still does it nonetheless.
Mastering yourself is the key to life. with that you accomplish anything which anyone has the potential to do.
Had to find part 2. Thank for giving a real comprehensive video. Helps me be more and actually takes steps to healing. Other videos say stop being a victim but I appreciate you giving examples how you changed. Thank for helping me understand the HOW🤗
I'm a Medicine student and even though I am yet to graduate and everything's going great for me Or rather should be going great for me, for some reason I feel really unmotivated to study lately and feel stuck and lost and empty. It's been going on for months. And I know that if I don't take immediate massive action I might very well fail in my final year. I started watching your videos recently. I was skeptical at first as they are quite long and old. But I must say that I'm getting some really eye opening insights from you. I am grateful for have stumbled across your channel. This video especially made me realise all my problems are clearly internal and there's nothing holding me back except me.
So thank you Leo 🙏🏻🙌🏻, really appreciate your work.
I cannot describe right now how deeply all you said makes sense to me. I’m actually relieved that somebody else thinks on that level of depth. I am myself on a journey of self development. And these videos have really helped me put things into perspective...kinda given me the structure that i was lacking and was looking for among all the seemingly random realisations about the self that i have had. Thank you
Thank you Leo for this great content. I just watched part one a month ago and man, there is a huge work that need to be done.
man, I know every word u talked about and I was already aware of it after I blamed things to my parents. Ur talk make me really think it through to a deeper level. Appreciate it.
I don’t know about others who have also been on the journey with Leo for the past 3 4 years but holy man this THIS VERY video is so powerful that I am keep finding myself coming back to it and finding myself at awe at how much more I can take from very bit of insight laid down in this video. This is definitely a true Actualized classic
Thank you for this Leo. you have a wonderful knack for relaying information in a way that can be easily understood and applied 👌
Maria Kalymnios :)
i had a such a big fight, with the one person i care about... and that finally got into my head. that im the problem, im creating the problems, in my own head. im my own enemy. when i started to listen, about feeling like a victim, blaming the whole world about my negativity, is opening my eyes, to what a toxic person i become for myself, and the ones i care about.....now i know, i need help
Hey. I'm coming into this with 1.5 years of self-development, so much of what is being said is just reaffirming the realizations I already came to. I guess the value of affirmation is to remove doubt. Much appreciation and gratitude to you Leo!
After watching the first video and this second one, there seem to be two ways of taking responsibility by working on yourself.
1. Working towards the internal/ psychological: find and change faulty beliefs, search for assumptions you have, work on introspection etc.
2. Working towards the external/ physical: learn new things, practice skills, get a job, change habits etc.
Both seem necessary and need serious action, but the first seems to be the fundament for the second. If the first way of working on yourself contains too many faults (is not developed enough) , then you will see those same faults manifest themselves in the second way of working on yourself, through the external actions you take.
That does not mean you should do nothing in the second domain, trial and error are part of the proces and faults in the second domain can enhance the first domain if you are concious of your mistakes and why they happened, but it does mean that spending time on developing the first domain is very important to keep growing.
This is pure gold. The points Leo are hitting on in this video were a large factor in my spiritual awakening, when I fully realized the truth of it. I'm thrilled that he has taken the time and effort to make these clear and concise videos. Now all we need is someone to program an automatic monkey-chatter comments blocker into UA-cam...
I was a victim in the past, i no longer will be one
That's still a negative though. From my limited knowledge, which I dare be arrogant enough about, any afformation should be stated in the positive.
you guys are reading into this comment wayyy too much lol
+Pat Pfeiffer You know... there are quantum processes related to what you explained in the comments. Timeless subconscious reality probably resides in a 5th dimension where time is manipulable as as merely other spatial axis as a fourth layer or geometric dimension. Please, don't associate spiritual "dimensions" to this what I stated, I is merely what mathematics predicts about geometry. And the reason for not only the universe to exist, but the multiverse as well, is is an inevitable geometrical recursion through the whole infinite 12 dimensions to the multiverse, the inevitability of the golden mean. it's beautiful, but sometimes is madly insane.
+kyle walcker Who???
Very true Leo, even childhood traumas came to the surface, next step, clear them all and move forward.
Thanks man.
Thank you for your video and insight. I'm now realising what you were teaching and I'm trying to work towards going into a creator mindset to finally having internal peace.
This exercise open my mind in a huge way , I was deceiving my self oh my god , thank you
Leo- For victims especially the physical and mentally abused there's a healing process that needs to happen. You just don't get up and go. Like if you had a heart attack or got hit by a bus where you actually survive that, you can't just get up and go. The mind needs to "heal" first before it can do the work that you want it to. I am not saying the victim should just give up but it needs to heal/rehabilitate first to be able to get what you want to train it to be more mindful, for example. I guess for some they bounce back very quickly but for others it will take longer.
Thank you Leo. Your video is clear, practical and very informative. Explaining key points, of inner-world reality, and becoming the watchman.
Thanks Leo, I'm glad I found your sight, your presentations are easy to listen to. You have given me some insight to work with and I look forward to more... all in all thank you for your time and efforts, it's helping!
Hey Leo you have helped me a lot with my "issues". I just want you to know it. I appreciate your work.
I came to "How To Stop Being A Victim - Part 1" from the Life Purpose Course (video "08 - 100% Responsibility")... but this Part 2 is what is blowing my mind right now. Have been taking notes almost all the time. And I don't consider myself victim-minded since years. Now it seems I have been not noticing at least a couple of areas of my life where I still do have the victim mindset.... really deep stuff after 15:00 . Thanks for sharing!
I wanna start off by saying thanks to your videos so far I've been learning quite a bit and for that I thank you.
It's so great to know that when I open the video it'll start with a trademark: HEEEEY THIS IS LEO. Always with the same intonation I love it :D
You have no idea, how much have you just helped me. Thank you eternaly for that, for opening my eyes.
All one needs to do is make truth their greatest objective, purpose, intention and everything will workout as it should.
In Sahaj Marg, suffering and obstacles help you progress spiritually. They are considered a blessing.
+Borpheus Maximus that's amazing
It's in a lot of religions. Christianity too says to welcome suffering
James 1:2-4 Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.
people pay alot of money to therapists to get the same inspiration and mind expanding information about psycology that you give us Leo. thank you Leo for changing my life.
I totally agree! Don't forget parapsychology. ☺
I would add to your learning list also history/sociology/anthropology to get a macro level of understanding psychology.
And also Biology in general such as :physiology, nutrition, evolution,neuroscience,ecology...
These are also very crucial subjects to learn in your life imo.
Hallo Leo! bin ein absoluter Fan von dir denn deine Videos sind sehr hilfreich für meine persönliche Entwicklung, um mich weiterzuentwickeln. Vielen Herzlichen Dank. Mach weiter so! LG aus der Schweiz😚
Thank you Leo. Highly grateful.
It's a huge challenge to stop being a victim, but a I imagine it's the path to a more fulfilling life.
Thanks Leo! you were the last piece on fixing my victimism.
Leo, man I have been on this road the past 10 years this is heavy many won't get it! I agree is totally an inside job, being a victim is looking at the external we are powerful creative beings we are not pitiful victims. This video will help thousands and hopefully millions to take their power back from the circumstances from the victim mentality they created for themselves. You are changing the world one person at a time. Thank you p.s. I love the middle finger LOL!
Nothing is ever anyone else's responsibility or blame. All other outside people are are damn near perfect saints and wonderful generous human beings.
Got the message. Thanks.
Feels like something shifted in me.
Thank you soo much for your work 👏
Leo, you are "spot-on"! You help all of us so much! Thanks!
Maybe I missed something, but you didn't talk about in either of the 2 videos that victim identity FEELS good for the victim. Like if you're really deep into it, you are like this special snowflake that the world is extra cruel towards, no one is as unlucky as you in the whole world. And if victims find each other, they sit and validate each other and give each other comfort and attention, feeding each other. Or is this such an obvious symptom that you didn't mention it?
The Stormchaser this is so bloody true!!!
@thestormchaser Wow ! that really helped .Totally gave me a new perspective about victim mentality.
Yeah. I think all of us do this. When I first entered my career, I worked with guys that were always finding someone else to blame and would often times even stop working so that they could reinforce each other by complaining that things were everyone else's fault. Seems somewhat human nature. But several years later I was directed to stop some work that had problems and then chewed out by the manager. When I explained that I was ordered to do this, he said " you know what needs to be done". So from that point forward often I would try to do as I was directed, but also take responsibility for the outcome. I think all of us feel satisfied by either being a victim.. then validated by others, or satisfied in taking responsibility and being part of solutions. It is just much easier to be a victim.. complain to others and then receive the nuturing sympathy, whether the problem is real , or imagined. That way we are vindicated that we shouldn't even try. The effort route is more difficult but more satisfying in a mature way.
Oh...the sentence is nice said : Ur mind actually have 2 burn calories 2 create and sustain problems "...how true.
When ur dream is awakening...it will happen= just how it is...since u are its dreamer ♡❤
Old video but I know this is a very valuable one this might be the one to change my frame of life
Really what i needed right now, ive been stuck for months
Amazing metaphor Leo.
Have watched your videos a couple of days now and it has been more helpful than 4 years of therapy
Thank u
The most valuable talk I have ever heard on self development and coaching subject. I wish it was thought at schools, Universities. Thank you Leo, I came from similar background as you and growing as a person listening to your informative videos.
*taught
This is taught at universities, if one who is in a psychology program decides to go far enough, say, to a doctorate level. Only thing is, if the one doing the research does not grasp it and simply projects it, it does nothing for the individual, or the clients they treat in the future. Reflection, introspection, and insight is where these things come from. I am just glad someone is saying it, it needs said loud and clear. Trouble is, most college students are distracted and motivated by future financial gain, therefor, not to reach self-actualization. When I point this out in my courses, I get viewed as rude and/or arrogant, I find that disturbing.
notes:
Who is responsible for the quality of your life?
Our Areas of responsibilities:
success
failures
emotions (how to master your emotions)
accidents
circumstances of life,( genects, family, money, political, country )
relationships
Victim stages:
Stage 1 unconscious
The external world is a greater obstacle to him than he is to himself
No control
Labeling
stories
Blame
Can't trust yourself
Defensive
“You don't know me, You don't know what i’ve been through”
Frustrated
Stage 2
Unfair cruel depressing world
Fighting over control
Competitive
Aggressive
Stage 3
Creating circumstances, happiness
Not too focused on others or past
Being present
chose how to act in the present moment
You always have control of your reactions/thinking/feeling and how you interpret your reactions
ACTION!!!!! (we tend to think we do enough but we don’t really know how much work is necessary in the first place) work smart!
Something will work for me!
Stage 4 conscious
Just being
THERE IS A FAILURE IN THE VICTIM TO APPRECIATE THE POSSIBILITY OF SELF DECEPTION.
YOUR MIND IS YOUR OBSTACLE: common negative self talk
I can't
Impossible
Too hard
Unfair
World is evil
I have/must/should to do this
I have never done that
What if I fail
But it's his fault
I’ve already tried that none of that stuff works
“Never happen”
This always happens”
I'll try - not try just do
I think i'll do this
Maybe
Not good enough
I’m not good at that
What's the point?
Too much effort
It's too late for me
It's easy for you - you had this - and I had this bad stuff
But how am I going to do it?
THINGS CREATED BY YOU/THINGS YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF:
Mental filters
Attitudes
Limiting beliefs
Judgments
Unquestioned assumptions about reality
Lack of introspection
Visualization
Model of reality as a whole
Emotional reactions
What you view of right and wrong and good and evil
Habits you have or don't
Your self talk
Lack of mindfulness
Ego and how ego affects relationships and the wholeness of everything
What are problems?
Reality is a projection warped by our physiology
Problems are a feature of the mind.
Problems are a projection of the mind.
You project meaning to the situations in the external world and they are an indicator of how you hold yourself relative to reality.
Problems have to be sustained activity.- that you are creating.
There is no problem without the mind.
Problems are not things that exist in the external world.
Your mind is looking for solutions in the wrong places externally, not internally.
The outer world isn’t the only thing that matters.
How to identify your victim mentality:
Problem:
Reasons it's impossible to change:
Why it's not your fault?
How is this an external problem?
How the this an internal problem?
How am I creating the obstacle?
What am avoiding by creating this obstacle?
What must I believe to be a victim?
Personal development requires you to be 100 responsible for everything. “What you choose to happen to yourself is more important than the events that affected you”
Blame:
A.Blame is a low conscious activity which is indicated by our level of awareness.
1.Blame is something our ego creates that makes us feel better by using good (yourself) and evil (situation, people, anything but you) to separate ourselves from responsibility.
2.The distinction between good and evil is a false distinction one created in your mind as it allows you to create a separation and creates a stronger sense of you.
3.Blame is pointless the more you realize it. It diverts your attention from the things that need to be fixed. Nothing will get done.
Most people understand responsibility as blame: This is how most people understand responsibility.
Just/only Your ability to respond.
blaming yourself or others!
internalizing blame!
someone tells you “you’re responsible” it means you need to go and guilt yourself or make yourself feel bad.
Believe that you are bad or evil or wrong.
It's interesting that all life's problems actually stem from avoiding the internal world. It's funny, as Leo was saying in the video the importance of realizing this, I sort of naturally "got" what he meant at a slightly deeper level. This isn't to say I have mastered myself by any means, as I still cling to a victim mindset in many ways(the most pronounced being procrastination of self introspection) but i'll do my best to take this video to heart
Hey Leo. Thanks for the great video again.
I have friends, who would benefit so much from your videos. What you are saying is relating like exactly 100% to them. But it's hard to show it to them. Their life could be so much more free from unnecessary problems, but they are resisting me showing them another path. I've always tried to explain them this point of view from your video, which i am holding for a long time now, but it just doesn't work. Is it even possible to show someone this way, if he is consciously resisting the idea that his problems are self made?
You can't force consciousness onto a mule. Try it on the non-mules.
Wow, I am impressed! Thank you for another excellent video, Leo! My problem, als of many others is, I get that I shlould change something about my self and also my thinking, but I don't know what exactly. So I keep stumbling from situation to situation experimenting with my behavior and the view on the things. I also have a particular question, nor a very important but though, I would like to know how you look at it. My boss (a young woman of the same age) is often quite unfriendly and unfair. There were a couple of situations when she needed a favor (also a finantial one) and was overly friendly to me, and as soon as she got what she wanted, she became unfriendly again. A quite common situation, I'd say. So here's the twist. When talking with my husband about that, he says: "you acted right and did everything right while she acted like a b..ch she's known for anyway. Don't behave like her or you will end up as a b..ch, too, what I would never accept." Well, I on the other hand tend to think, I shouldn't have done her any favor and stop doing it in the future, as I want to live a good life too and no one else would take care or protect me if I won't. How would you behave if you didn't want to deceive your wife but also wanted to stay true to yourself and not be treated like a fool? I appreciate your answer!
What leo is saying in simple english is :----- " A victim thinks that the level of difficulty in surmounting the barriers that this world throws on him or her , seems much harder to overcome than him trying to elevate his mind trying to solve the problem using his own knowledge, experience and confidence(basically using his own mind) . Basically us claiming something as a barrier in our life is us being unconcious that its our mind that thinks its a barrier, actually it our mind , that is the barrier, Ego hides this real enemy :)
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I share this video at least 1st a month to a friend and or loved ones... Your insights are soo amazing... Thank you for your gift to share your divine knowledge
I have 2 adult children who are narcisstic and alcholic and it has been so painful. I am trying to not be a victim and make myself responsible for my happiness and count my blessings. I have good health and a world out there to enjoy. Reality is what it is and I cant change it. I love my children but I cant let them make me miserable. What must I believe to not be a victim? I like that Leo, a lot of my friends don't have children and they are happy so why can't I be, been asking myself this. I guess a lot of years of investment and it turned out bad but I did enjoy them when they were little and had much happiness so time to find happiness in other ways now.
WHOA!! I feel like watching your videos is like the maze of my mind unfolding...this video is a real milestone on the journey!
Love this and u Leo! You are so inspirational! Can’t thank u enough! You give me so much hope! So glad I found your videos! I want to live a meaningful life and I want to be the master of my mind! I have children and I also want to install this in them too! Thank you 🙏🏽x
This was so eye opening Leo! I loved it
Really good content Leo. You are helping many people. Our mind creates reality for us. As within so without. So if you have obstacles in outside world, those are created by your mind. Moment you erase obstacles in mind, outside obstacles dissolve themselves. I am sure victims won't have awareness enough to watch this video. Only victors are watching this video. The moment any victim is watching this video ( his outer is changed means his mind has changed) he is no more victim.
Love, respect and admiration for you, always!
In short, he is differentiating between psychological and physical fears. Take action when it's physical, and sit calmly when it's psychological:)
Waw. Where were you for such a long time when i was playing a victim. This is a mind blowing video. I benefitted alot from it. Many hats off to you.
Leo. I am so thankful for you and your work. It is saving me from my mind and self (ego).
I really appreciated this video. Thank you for your. Brilliant insights into common problems that many of us experience daily or throughout decades. Of life. Now. To put your advice into practice....... that’s the hard part and the work begins today! Have a great day.... ps. I’m 62. Sometimes in my opinion it feels like you are speaking to people a couple of decades younger than myself . Or make references to “ your grandma”. Well. This grandma is very young at heart snd hopefully. Your sage advice includes the struggles of us past the fourth or fifth decade in life also. Keep making videos leo. Listening to you has helped me greatly and I look forward to each new video!