How To Impress Someone You Like

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    It’s frustratingly common to get completely tongue tied when we’re in front of people we’d like to impress. Which is doubly unfortunate because it’s often those situations that could lead to us landing a great new job, connecting with a mentor, or even dating someone we’re smitten with.
    That’s why in this video I want to cover how you can avoid that awkward trap and impress the people you admire by standing out in a positive way. To do that, we’ll be referencing someone who has done it many times: Sean Evans of Hot Ones.
    ⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰
    1:38 - #1: Ask questions beyond the obvious ones.
    3:09 - #2: Use the question preamble.
    4:48 - #3: Steer conversation towards things that elicit emotion.
    7:40 - #4: Tease playfully / have fun.
    9:18 - #5: Comfortably express disagreement.
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  • @bradenboyko
    @bradenboyko 4 роки тому +7326

    *At a Job interview:*
    Me: so how are your 3 kids doing? Is your daughter still on the volleyball team?

    • @kushzei
      @kushzei 4 роки тому +375

      Easy way to impress interviewer for sure! :D

    • @Gabriel.4190
      @Gabriel.4190 4 роки тому +170

      They’ll think your a stalker

    • @smokejc
      @smokejc 4 роки тому +371

      @@Gabriel.4190 that was the joke

    • @manchul
      @manchul 4 роки тому +421

      10/10 if you apply as a hacker

    • @Th3Colossus7
      @Th3Colossus7 4 роки тому +144

      Who are you and what are you doing in my living room?

  • @AscendedMasculine
    @AscendedMasculine 4 роки тому +22953

    Treat someone like a celebrity and they'll treat you like a fan

  • @HvyMetal4Ever
    @HvyMetal4Ever Рік тому +163

    "see them as a human"
    Indeed
    I got to meet one of my musical heroes some years ago. It was backstage at a show, and everyone was losing their minds, asking for autographs and pictures. He wasn't in a great space at the time. His band-mate and dear friend passed away just 6 months prior.
    I approached him, and said "I'm so sorry for your loss"
    He was caught off guard. I think it was that human moment that so many skipped past all night.
    I saw him again a few months later at another show backstage. I made a comment, and I think it clicked who I was. It's like he was genuinely happy to see me. Such a great experience

    • @AutomHatter
      @AutomHatter 6 місяців тому

      Was that musical hero Dave Grohl?

    • @HvyMetal4Ever
      @HvyMetal4Ever 6 місяців тому +7

      @@AutomHatter Chad Gray from Mudvayne / Hellyeah. It was shortly after Big Vinnie passed.

    • @HM87520
      @HM87520 10 днів тому +1

      Don't take my question personally but did you say that because you genuinely wanted to comfort him or because you wanted to stand out among the other fans? 🤔

    • @HvyMetal4Ever
      @HvyMetal4Ever 10 днів тому

      ⁠@@HM87520to be genuine. He looked broken man. I’ve been there, and I know what it’s like. Everyone else was putting him in Star mode, not a human being who just lost a dear friend.

  • @nak3dxsnake
    @nak3dxsnake Рік тому +673

    Damn Sean Evans can even tease and joke with people who aren't funny and still relate to them. Thats always been next to impossible for me.

    • @MoltenPlastic
      @MoltenPlastic Рік тому +16

      I find it helps to just switch off your brain for a moment and take the plunge. A bit like diving into cold water. After a respectful tease the whole conversation can get so much more relaxed.
      Don't forget that high status people are used to people tiptoeing around them and often bored of it.

    • @BD-zg7is
      @BD-zg7is Рік тому +4

      practice. he's done hundreds of hundreds of interviews. just go practice with ppl :)

    • @corail53
      @corail53 Рік тому +1

      Because he himself is not funny.

    • @Sorayan13
      @Sorayan13 8 місяців тому +3

      This is such a wrong view. Every person has humor, just not the same humor.
      So it's not because you don't find them funny that they aren't funny. It's just your opinion.
      Sean, or his team behind the curtains, have a talent of finding out everything there is to know about the celebs, even their kind of humor.

  • @adels.185
    @adels.185 4 роки тому +5799

    Boss: Do you have any questions?
    Me: So do you have any weird fantasies?

    • @sal_strazzullo
      @sal_strazzullo 4 роки тому +23

      Lol

    • @chiepah2
      @chiepah2 4 роки тому +104

      No longer potential Boss: Um... nooo.

    • @acc1541
      @acc1541 4 роки тому +68

      Also boss: nope, but i do have weird fishes.

    • @babybu8452
      @babybu8452 4 роки тому +13

      hahahaha killer question! nail it!

    • @seohyunism1
      @seohyunism1 4 роки тому +31

      actually this is a good way to crack a joke in a serious situation, I think it's good

  • @Milestonemonger
    @Milestonemonger 4 роки тому +2037

    I appreciate a genuinely curious person.

    • @danparish1344
      @danparish1344 4 роки тому +38

      Curiosity is probably my biggest asset to my company - I like to know every little detail when I problem solve.

    • @aidanh999
      @aidanh999 4 роки тому +7

      Why?

    • @PowerRedBullTypology
      @PowerRedBullTypology 4 роки тому +8

      What is the best and the worst comment you've ever written? ;)

    • @weneedmoreconsideratepeopl4006
      @weneedmoreconsideratepeopl4006 4 роки тому +5

      @@PowerRedBullTypology Man, do you ever think, "wow I wish I wrote that comment"?

    • @PowerRedBullTypology
      @PowerRedBullTypology 4 роки тому +1

      @@weneedmoreconsideratepeopl4006 Yeah when they have a lot of thumbs up I sometimes do..other than that not really. Why?

  • @ragtop63
    @ragtop63 2 роки тому +286

    Sean is definitely a unique host. Make no mistake, there is a team of people, including the creator of Hot Ones, Chris Schonberger, doing the research and digging up the topics Sean presents during his shows. His delivery is definitely his own but all credit must be given where due.

    • @CristinaTringali
      @CristinaTringali Рік тому +18

      I guess I’m watching a different show then all these other people. I see a super awkward guy reading prepared questions and never knowing how to follow up with anything interesting. The questions are good but they are delivered in a wooden manner and he can’t say or do anything clever on the fly.

    • @kevinbasto5611
      @kevinbasto5611 Рік тому +4

      @@CristinaTringali 100% agree, its like he's reading these questions for the first time, like the room is empty...

    • @TNEQL
      @TNEQL 11 місяців тому +3

      @@CristinaTringali The "awkwardness" is exactly the appeal of the show. Nobody wants to see rich people in suits stroking their own egos and pretending they're kings anymore.

    • @davidc2838
      @davidc2838 11 місяців тому +1

      @@CristinaTringali Show us how it's done... Make something SUPER Successful that MILLIONS of people watch and love.

    • @davidc2838
      @davidc2838 11 місяців тому

      @@kevinbasto5611 Nonsense. Not a single bit of confusion or uncertainty on his part. Clearly you don't perform or have a huge following. He's ALSO eating Scorching Hot Wings of Death, WHILE doing the Interview. Go show us how it's done...or shut yer pie hole.

  • @SyrillSilly
    @SyrillSilly Рік тому +91

    I am not sure if anyone has noticed how GREAT these videos are for people who struggle with pragmatics. I am an intervention specialist who has to help students on the spectrum learn how to interact with and/or read people in social situations.
    These videos are gold and an unexpected gift that emerged from the virtual void 🤩

    • @ramonew7815
      @ramonew7815 11 місяців тому +6

      Seeing people past what they represent to you and looking at the human beneath is absolute dynamite practical advice.

    • @dadadadave9652
      @dadadadave9652 2 місяці тому +1

      "intervention specialist who has to help students on the spectrum learn how to interact with and/or read people in social situations" sorry, can you tell me more on this? what is this job and how do you go about doing so? sounds kinda fascinating!

    • @unredactedrecords8521
      @unredactedrecords8521 8 днів тому

      @SyrillSilly, please tell me some of the highlights and the lowlights of helping students on the spectrum learn how to interact in social situations.

  • @TimeFliesTimeManagement
    @TimeFliesTimeManagement 4 роки тому +5775

    *Confidence is silent, Insecurities are Loud*

    • @daithiocinnsealach3173
      @daithiocinnsealach3173 4 роки тому +310

      My insecurities make me silent.

    • @polaroidandroidjeff6383
      @polaroidandroidjeff6383 4 роки тому +45

      Damn man with deep thoughts like this you should have your own UA-cam channel.....

    • @TheRightLadder
      @TheRightLadder 4 роки тому +65

      Confidently releasing silent farts

    • @scotthannan8669
      @scotthannan8669 4 роки тому +29

      Dumbest statement ever
      Confidence is not silent, insecurities are not loud, this is just a silly statement made for people who are insecure to feel better about themselves by thinking the opposite of the truth

    • @scotthannan8669
      @scotthannan8669 4 роки тому

      bookmarkthis haha

  • @ZacharyLaid
    @ZacharyLaid 4 роки тому +7442

    Treat the person you admire as if they are just a normal friend.

    • @JoeSmith-oy3hk
      @JoeSmith-oy3hk 4 роки тому +352

      Treat the person I admire as if they are imaginary, got it.

    • @Michael-nq4rc
      @Michael-nq4rc 4 роки тому +38

      ...Unless it's Robert De Niro.

    • @keiranleonard1301
      @keiranleonard1301 4 роки тому +31

      @@Michael-nq4rc or Kim Jung un...

    • @Snow_Pulse
      @Snow_Pulse 4 роки тому +5

      Zachary Laid Finding Freedom You sir know what’s up Woke

    • @99999george
      @99999george 4 роки тому +79

      @@JoeSmith-oy3hk another good tip is to not overuse self-deprecating humor

  • @rapzad3623
    @rapzad3623 2 роки тому +62

    The problem with doing this, at least with “peers” (like someone you want to date) is if you “do research” and start asking in-depth questions about things you wouldn’t know about without that research you’re probably going to creep them out

    • @rileywiebe3512
      @rileywiebe3512 Рік тому +7

      Maybe do it in an uncreepy way-like comment on something obscure about a recent (not old) post. Like something or someone in the picture

    • @libertyandjusticeforall6435
      @libertyandjusticeforall6435 Рік тому

      You sound like an ugly person

    • @themonsterunderyourbed9408
      @themonsterunderyourbed9408 Рік тому +3

      When you start thinking with "my date is higher status than me."
      You've already failed (especially as a man).

    • @user-wg9hf8ly2f
      @user-wg9hf8ly2f 3 місяці тому

      I think the research aspect would just force it anyways. There’s much to be said for asking unique and interesting questions but for dating I think the focus should just be on “what do you want to know about this person” rather than “how can I make this person like me”.

  • @aramislucas3281
    @aramislucas3281 Рік тому +324

    Back when I used to be a treinee at a gym, there was a girl that I became friends with and I noticed she even used to became blushed and nervous when I talked to her, as if she was interested, and then when we followed each other on Instagram I discovered that she was a singer from a considerably popular local band that I had never happen to know because I'm not a big fan of that specific music style. But it was interesting to see how I behaved naturaly just because I didn't knew who she was. I didn't ask her out btw, I was not single at the time lol

    • @princesmith8008
      @princesmith8008 Рік тому +14

      Bruh....

    • @Goyleguy266
      @Goyleguy266 Рік тому +11

      L

    • @alanalycan3986
      @alanalycan3986 Рік тому +15

      Aww c'mon we was all anticipating a love story here lol. I admire you though of course being faithful to your lady !!! 💙 Kudos

    • @1337-Nathaniel
      @1337-Nathaniel Рік тому +4

      You're a real one. What's her band called though?

  • @thescoobymike
    @thescoobymike 4 роки тому +3723

    "This is such a good interview, good research"
    Sean: so are you!

    • @tychobrahe6379
      @tychobrahe6379 4 роки тому +258

      "Y-y-you too"

    • @FrenchToast663
      @FrenchToast663 4 роки тому +48

      Sean Evans is my favorite late night host

    • @Lenduya
      @Lenduya 4 роки тому +191

      Why are you leaving things out?
      K Stewart: This is wild...
      Sean Evans: So are you

    • @TheReal_Dirty_Dan
      @TheReal_Dirty_Dan 4 роки тому +26

      At least he was aware so he doubles down by repeating it lol

    • @thescoobymike
      @thescoobymike 4 роки тому +7

      @@Lenduya oh I didn't catch that lol

  • @saralind2032
    @saralind2032 4 роки тому +1080

    "look at us. Hey. Look at us. Who would've though? Not me."

    • @anna_thema3732
      @anna_thema3732 4 роки тому +26

      thanks for the chuckle

    • @saralind2032
      @saralind2032 4 роки тому +1

      anna_thema didnt even think anyone would see this lolll

    • @Treyzor8989
      @Treyzor8989 4 роки тому +5

      Thought*

    • @inh6940
      @inh6940 4 роки тому +3

      Look at us.
      Hey, look at us.
      Say it again.
      Look at us.

    • @duhvnlocs
      @duhvnlocs 4 роки тому +6

      classic Rudd

  • @tyrroo
    @tyrroo 5 днів тому +1

    Bro, this is the best ad for Hot Ones I've ever seen!
    As someone who hates spicy food, I had no idea it was a legit interview show, I thought it was just celebs eating gross intense spices!

  • @punkinkng
    @punkinkng Рік тому +234

    As highlighted in this video, Sean's real talent is predicting people's deaths.
    "Have you ever killed anyone?"
    "We haven't heard from Coolio in a while."

    • @BabyJesus66
      @BabyJesus66 Рік тому +12

      He killed Coolio

    • @Pb4Au
      @Pb4Au Рік тому

      😬 i cringed at that

    • @jumpieva
      @jumpieva Рік тому +1

      I caught that too, didn't age well lol

    • @djramennoodles
      @djramennoodles Рік тому +18

      ​@@jumpieva neither did Coolio

    • @Vanden_Vanden
      @Vanden_Vanden Рік тому

      Poor Coolio, did great work for children ,and had an interesting interview before his passing. "Coolio Joined The Hip Hop Uncensored Podcast To Talk about being approached to do some weird stuff while he was and artist. "

  • @Harsh-bx2mf
    @Harsh-bx2mf 4 роки тому +2452

    Do I need to eat 4000 gallons of hot sauce before I can be like Sean Evans

    • @calebf612
      @calebf612 4 роки тому +41

      Most likely, be strong

    • @tomothy527
      @tomothy527 4 роки тому +10

      not in one sitting, do it in increasing amounts over the course of months.

    • @csnoopy
      @csnoopy 4 роки тому +8

      Heck no. You need 5000

    • @farwakhan4423
      @farwakhan4423 4 роки тому +3

      yes

    • @ClarkieReidri
      @ClarkieReidri 4 роки тому +14

      Yes, this is coming from someone who subjects themselves to the hottest sauces they can find, once you have drank a half bottle of Da Bomb, nothing can scare you anymore. No person or object will hurt you as much as that will.

  • @lokidecat
    @lokidecat 2 роки тому +4848

    Sean is the best interviewer hands down. He's respectful, funny, well-read, and has great banter. So great to watch a master at work.

    • @daweihuang9687
      @daweihuang9687 2 роки тому +59

      Really? He sounds like a robot trying to recite a script to me.

    • @orti1283
      @orti1283 2 роки тому +33

      @@daweihuang9687 I don't think so, but even if he was, the script is very good

    • @lokidecat
      @lokidecat 2 роки тому +42

      @@daweihuang9687 to each their own opinion. he's garnered much respect in the industry for his style and conversational tone. You don't have to like it.

    • @riderzinc
      @riderzinc 2 роки тому +31

      Sean Evans and Nardwuar are my favourite interviewers

    • @Noobie2k7
      @Noobie2k7 2 роки тому +40

      @@riderzinc Natdwuar is on a whole different dimension.

  • @karabelles5142
    @karabelles5142 2 роки тому +27

    I love that we are now analyzing Sean’s interview and research skills. That’s how good he is. Thanks for this. Super helpful.

  • @davidcummins8125
    @davidcummins8125 Рік тому +3

    It is funny how much of the status thing is an illusion. A friend was star-struck in a bar when he saw the DJ of his favorite radio station. He would never have approached him. I didn't know who the heck he was, so I just dragged my friend over and had a 5 minute conversation with the guy. The real thing is the human connection. Another time I was at a conference and blew off a boring session. I ended up bumping into the guest speaker for the whole event in the cafeteria and bonding over how terrible the food was. I appreciate these videos for making the good moments more reliable, not just "a weird thing that happened to me".

  • @kobetiu8628
    @kobetiu8628 4 роки тому +921

    Sean: Hey what's your name?
    Person: *that's a great question*

    • @G33KST4R
      @G33KST4R 4 роки тому +58

      Person: Wow. You really did your research.

    • @thedynamitepriest2755
      @thedynamitepriest2755 4 роки тому +32

      Most likely question fro Sean:
      Imagine you live in a fantasy world and you wanted to get out of it. What name would you pick for yourself?

    • @Frdnnd
      @Frdnnd 4 роки тому +21

      @@thedynamitepriest2755 that's a great question

    • @yourmajesty3569
      @yourmajesty3569 2 роки тому +1

      That is exactly what Sean doesn't do. And exactly how people don't respond.
      How are you funny?????

    • @nobodyishere
      @nobodyishere 2 роки тому +12

      @@yourmajesty3569 r/woooosh

  • @eliseerickson5994
    @eliseerickson5994 4 роки тому +521

    On the way into my first job interview I noticed a sign outside that stated the company was the oldest in its industry and the year it was founded. (exactly 200 years before!) When I was asked how much I knew about the company, I brought that up and asked if they were doing anything special for its anniversary. They called me the next morning with a job offer.

    • @TheRightLadder
      @TheRightLadder 4 роки тому +6

      Did they do anything?

    • @eliseerickson5994
      @eliseerickson5994 4 роки тому +89

      @@TheRightLadder they gave me the job

    • @christophergonzalez8598
      @christophergonzalez8598 4 роки тому +11

      @@eliseerickson5994 They have you a job because you are White.

    • @Rytoast99
      @Rytoast99 4 роки тому +71

      Christopher Gonzalez no lol troll stfu

    • @eliseerickson5994
      @eliseerickson5994 4 роки тому +38

      @@christophergonzalez8598 unfortunately, this is probably true :( white privilege is real asf

  • @pastrana21
    @pastrana21 Рік тому +4

    never get tired of how often sean impresses guests with his questions. though at the same time sean has said that he does a massive amount of research prior to any interview/guest

  • @e.l.2734
    @e.l.2734 Рік тому +3

    The way you put together those scenes really makes Sean's genius show.

  • @lokimorginstjarna33
    @lokimorginstjarna33 3 роки тому +1771

    Sean Evans deserves everything he's made of himself. Him and his superb team host one of the best talk shows in history.

  • @jaxx-inspiregrowcreate2862
    @jaxx-inspiregrowcreate2862 4 роки тому +526

    Be genuine, be yourself. If they don’t like you, move on

    • @fadeskywards1245
      @fadeskywards1245 4 роки тому +2

      Right

    • @montanerdz
      @montanerdz 4 роки тому +37

      Yeah, until nobody likes you 😂 then what?

    • @Carlos1234jfk
      @Carlos1234jfk 4 роки тому +31

      @@montanerdz then you're free

    • @AlexanderMoen
      @AlexanderMoen 4 роки тому +78

      Be careful. Lots of people use the "be yourself" reasoning as an excuse to not better themselves, or to justify jerk-like actions.

    • @jk3838
      @jk3838 4 роки тому +4

      The person you want to be is the person you really are inside

  • @1989red13bfc
    @1989red13bfc Рік тому +4

    Sean is a gem. That’s why his show has done soo well.

  • @thomaschezik9769
    @thomaschezik9769 7 місяців тому

    I totally stumbled on this video, but this is one of the most valuable 15 minutes of education that anyone could have in learning how to network and connect with a stranger that they are interested in partnering with or learning from. HUGE HIGH YIELD how to.

  • @thescoobymike
    @thescoobymike 4 роки тому +254

    When Sean Evan's is impressed, you know you made it

  • @Miketz
    @Miketz 4 роки тому +597

    Boss: "Do you have any questions?"
    Me: "Have you ever killed anybody?"

    • @jamesgarrett7844
      @jamesgarrett7844 4 роки тому +32

      Can’t wait to use this at my next interview

    • @satyamprakash7030
      @satyamprakash7030 4 роки тому +5

      Maybe😋😋

    • @fistbomb3368
      @fistbomb3368 4 роки тому +1

      @@jamesgarrett7844 so how did it went?

    • @anotherstockcivic
      @anotherstockcivic 4 роки тому +4

      Was it good for you too?

    • @miseno31
      @miseno31 3 роки тому +25

      And if you have, what were the highlights of killing, and what were the most frustrating things about it?

  • @cameronjadewallace
    @cameronjadewallace Рік тому +1

    I've been listening to this channel all day after it came up in my autoplay, and I've been trying to learn how to human properly lately. I've been feeling like I'm out of sorts, but my self-confidence (that I've built on my own just by listening to NF) has gotten in my way. Now... I've been seeing flaws in my character and how I can fix it.
    I mentioned to my coworkers that I've found this channel today and been listening to it ravenously and they asked how it's been going... I laughed and said "Well, it's just Day 1!!!" And they found it hilarious.
    I've always been known for my humor, and now ... I actually think this is helping me be more personable, instead of relying on shock value.
    I love this channel. I hope it helps me human better.

  • @callmejeff9272
    @callmejeff9272 Рік тому

    Honestly this one of the best vids I’ve come across. Became a standout at my current job because of asking those great questions at the end of the interview

  • @EricMarlow
    @EricMarlow 4 роки тому +2775

    HOW TO IMPRESS SOMEONE YOU ADMIRE (summary)
    1. ask killer questions beyond the obvious ones 00:28
    2. use the question preamble to connect on a personal level 03:09
    3. steer conversations towards the other persons emotion or passions 04:52
    4. tease playfully and have some fun 07:37
    5. comfortably express disagreement 09:12
    This is an awesome video and this summary doesn't do it justice. Watch it all the way through. Thank me later. 🙂

    • @dougm6106
      @dougm6106 4 роки тому +13

      Actually, ty in advance =)

    • @Sabadoe2013
      @Sabadoe2013 4 роки тому +12

      I clicked on the first time stamp you wrote. I didn't pause the video a single time after that.

    • @Santhanaram
      @Santhanaram 3 роки тому +9

      Thank you for creating the summary Eric...love the engagement

    • @Sneha-fh3uh
      @Sneha-fh3uh 3 роки тому +3

      Thanks

    • @abelarvizu2898
      @abelarvizu2898 3 роки тому +4

      this is awesome, thank you!

  • @haythamhakla
    @haythamhakla 4 роки тому +121

    I remember I had an interview in a high tech company and I was extremely under qualified. I researched the interviewer online before the interview and found out he had a couple of patents. I brought that up while he was walking me from the lobby to the interview room. He was so shocked I even knew about it and I got the internship the next day.

    • @JustMe-ob3nw
      @JustMe-ob3nw Рік тому

      What a terrible idea. I would’ve thought you were a freak, an adulator. It also makes you look like someone who is calculating. I would have you escorted out by security on the spot. Amazing you actually got the position. This person is probably very naive for having hired you. Also, people who behave like this are the reason why toxic working environments exist. I would bet you probably have very strong back stabbing’ tendencies too.

    • @Parallaxxx28
      @Parallaxxx28 Рік тому +1

      That’s actually a really good skill. How did you get to know who your interviewer was?

    • @ThinkBeFree99
      @ThinkBeFree99 Рік тому +4

      How did u ask this though. Could be kinda creepy for some lol

  • @katomlife8635
    @katomlife8635 Рік тому

    Sean Evans is such a talented interviewer.
    What makes highlight and lowlight questions so interesting to the interviewee...
    Highlight questions will bring them joy and make you sound interested in them.
    Lowlight questions sound like you care and will create a connection with them.

  • @ezra9401
    @ezra9401 2 роки тому +3

    I usually would gloss over UA-cam videos these days, even the educational ones that I usually like. This video was really grabbing my attention and provides a great perspective and information. Kudos.

  • @Benisued
    @Benisued 4 роки тому +280

    damn man the quality of this channel is soaring

    • @CC-bu2gv
      @CC-bu2gv 2 роки тому +5

      so what are some of the highlight and lowlights of the videos you've seen so far?

    • @Benisued
      @Benisued 2 роки тому +1

      @@CC-bu2gv
      highlights:
      5 easy ways to start a conversation
      why good relationships turn bad
      turn anxiety into charisma
      lowlights are difficult, I understand videos from this channel end up being pretty personal, a charisma lesson that I need will be different than what you need, but the reaction videos that they started making, I think, are their weakest link right now

  • @ALLROY240
    @ALLROY240 4 роки тому +122

    0:49 I think that question would have floored most interviewees.

    • @kichapps
      @kichapps 4 роки тому +15

      Yeah. That's a really long sentence to comprehend...

    • @DustyyBoi
      @DustyyBoi 4 роки тому

      @@kichapps no? I'm gonna guess English isn't your first language

    • @meat.
      @meat. 4 роки тому +26

      Alojzija it’s a pretty complicated question. We don’t all watch rick and morty like you

    • @yanited7603
      @yanited7603 4 роки тому +5

      @@DustyyBoi Rude. You might need to watch more charisma on command.

    • @blackharpy7468
      @blackharpy7468 4 роки тому +3

      @@DustyyBoi Stop judging and start self-developing. You need to.

  • @laurafedora5385
    @laurafedora5385 Рік тому +62

    It’s hard to ask questions beyond the obvious ones if you don’t know the person that well though.
    Sean has the luxury of being able to do some research on celebrities’ interests or new work. If you did that to your crush, you’re a creepy stalker 😆

    • @JamesDavisakaRemguy
      @JamesDavisakaRemguy Рік тому +1

      Good Point, let's hope he responds at some point in the (near?) future. I'm sure he can come up with some way of presenting this "research" so that it's not interpreted as a creepy invasion of one's privacy. If done (adroitly or adeptly?) done GOOD...ly(?!), it can come off as very flattering that you sacrificed the time/effort/blood/sweat/tears to go to these lengths, but that's probably part of the risk-taking that he refers to in this video. *It's all in the delivery* - which itself would make a great by-line for Charisma University!

    • @mrmatiti3405
      @mrmatiti3405 7 місяців тому

      Not sure CoC agrees with this but my approach is to just be interested in what they are doing or where they have been, even though I am not familiar with it. For example, I met someone who worked with building electric excavators. My first response was "Well, that sounds a little unpractical because they require a lot of energy. How long does it last before it's out of battery?". It lead to a very interesting conversation where he got to give me some insights on electrical excavators.
      I am also the type to ask if someone wore hula skirts if I find out they lived in Hawaii. That either leads to a good laugh or a good story if they actually did wear one.

  • @CharlesChacon
    @CharlesChacon 9 місяців тому

    At a former job, I used to do a lot of job interviews and I loved asking questions like this. I always reviewed the resume of the candidates not to judge their qualifications, but to find talking points to start a personal connection and this led to some really good trust with every candidate we eventually went with

  • @drbelli
    @drbelli 3 роки тому +620

    Sean makes guests feel like not being interviewed at all, instead he plays inside the spicy wings game and the questions feels more like an excuse to engage those invited, rather than the focus of it all, Hot Ones format is unique and fresh, and is a display of good things to come. Sean is a talented guy, bright yet humble, a good content maker/contributor .

    • @CidGuerreiro1234
      @CidGuerreiro1234 2 роки тому +11

      Agree, the show is great. I normally don't give a flying about celebrities, but Sean makes the conversation interesting to watch by asking really good question (and actually letting them answer, unlike some hosts who wants to be in the spotlight 100% of the time).

    • @SStupendous
      @SStupendous 2 роки тому +3

      @@CidGuerreiro1234 That last part applying to Kimmel. I really like this guy. ACTUAL interview. Instead of how many talk-show hosts are.

    • @katec5105
      @katec5105 Рік тому

      Very true

    • @mummyjohn
      @mummyjohn Рік тому

      feels similar to Craig Ferguson. I'll have to check this guy out

  • @zanemiracle6121
    @zanemiracle6121 4 роки тому +1726

    Before watching video:
    Guy: How's it going? ❌
    After watching videi;:
    Guy: Imagine how you're feeling right now. Now take that same situation and imagine that you're on Mars. So fellow martian, how's it going? ✅

    • @raphaelmotta7630
      @raphaelmotta7630 4 роки тому +131

      That actualy made me smile, if someone said that to me in real life I'd instantly conect with them. haha
      I'm gonna use this!

    • @Ot-ej5gi
      @Ot-ej5gi 4 роки тому +20

      still the same thing, but only on Mars...

    • @Ot-ej5gi
      @Ot-ej5gi 4 роки тому +5

      @Alan Hardcastle A story?! that's not even a story, they absolutely randomly pick Mars and the rest of it is just a totally RANDOM ramble.

    • @DeadPointDelusions
      @DeadPointDelusions 4 роки тому +5

      Vadim Galperin I think you’re missing the point 😂 it entices your imagination

    • @Ot-ej5gi
      @Ot-ej5gi 4 роки тому +1

      @@DeadPointDelusions How so?

  • @bonniecreevy2642
    @bonniecreevy2642 Місяць тому

    I love Sean Evans. You always learn something new about the celebrities and he doesn’t bait them just for views. I think he’s the best interviewer I’ve ever seen

  • @Antichaos111
    @Antichaos111 Рік тому

    Awesome callout to Sean, guy has an amazing presence and does an amazing job as a personality.

  • @marc-andrecote2948
    @marc-andrecote2948 2 роки тому +630

    Got it, so killer question on first date: so do you think your insecurities in relationship are the fruit of a long and heartfelt grief from the fact your dad did not love you?

    • @CaneSr
      @CaneSr 2 роки тому +27

      Dayumn

    • @XIVDock
      @XIVDock 2 роки тому +82

      Not open ended enough. Can still boil it down to yes or no, assuming the person decides to answer instead of immediately throwing themselves at you

    • @TheManhwaSummary
      @TheManhwaSummary 2 роки тому +2

      Hahahahahaha

    • @earlyangelo5704
      @earlyangelo5704 2 роки тому

      Noted. Thanks

    • @Bryan-kl5rr
      @Bryan-kl5rr 2 роки тому +3

      This should help with my dating life, or lack thereof. Thanks 🤙

  • @silvervixen007
    @silvervixen007 4 роки тому +1756

    As someone who is socially awkward and maybe even on the autism spectrum... this channel surprisingly helps me a lot! 🙆‍♀️

    • @shadmanhasan4205
      @shadmanhasan4205 2 роки тому +19

      Same.

    • @davecullins1606
      @davecullins1606 2 роки тому +39

      In my experience, if you start to *heavily* self-identify with something you see as fundamentally limited, then you're more likely in general to doubt your own abilities which is just going to lead you to give up on seizing a lot of opportunities you wouldn't otherwise have given up on if you hadn't let that thing be at the center of your identity. That thing being autism in this case.
      That has been my own experience as an autist, and I have also seen other autists suffer from not following that advice.

    • @jasperw.2701
      @jasperw.2701 2 роки тому +11

      I don't find that surprising. I'm kind of in the same place. This guy is a genius!

    • @viper505th
      @viper505th 2 роки тому +7

      The tools they give me confidence to carry on through the awkwardness haha

    • @wesleygraham335
      @wesleygraham335 2 роки тому +25

      I think Dave is right. If you put yourself in box or category such as labelling yourself as ‘maybe even on the autism spectrum’ you’ve now created a belief in your mind which is not helping you. If you can remove the labels that society places on us we become more free to express who we are without caring. It takes work though. Your awkwardness is most likely due to suppression in society because you do things differently. Just a theory from someone that used to think the same things.

  • @dontmindme6995
    @dontmindme6995 10 місяців тому +3

    For me the most important thing about conversations and questions is to ask something you're actually interested in.
    Sean asks phenomenal questions, but his job is to get information out of people for the sake of informing and entertaining viewers and listeners.
    When I'm in a conversation, I want this information for myself, so there is no point in asking something you don't care about.
    Also it gives the conversation genuity which can make even ordinary, uncreative questions feel natural and interesting

  • @dimassalazar906
    @dimassalazar906 8 місяців тому +1

    Craig Furgerson is the best interviewer. Wish he was still on tv.

  • @AlexPlatinumAdvice
    @AlexPlatinumAdvice 4 роки тому +360

    This is a lot of great info, whenever I go out on a date I typically ask 5 in depth questions with the girl, then get into more detail.
    Also, in the past when I would have interviews I would always study up on the company. When they were founded, who founded them, what their goal and values are.
    I almost always got hired for every job I applied.
    Good stuff my man.

    • @Ana-bx6fn
      @Ana-bx6fn 4 роки тому +36

      Could you give examples of the questions that you asked during the interviews?

    • @chag3406
      @chag3406 4 роки тому +16

      ^ and the first 5

    • @drpizzagames1015
      @drpizzagames1015 4 роки тому +8

      Nothing to comment just want the notification when/if you respond to the replies

    • @NelemNaru
      @NelemNaru 4 роки тому +1

      Do you have a set of questions to asks on dates, or are they different depending on the girl?

    • @nexo8742
      @nexo8742 4 роки тому

      What are the 5 deep questions?

  • @samtoshner8002
    @samtoshner8002 4 роки тому +312

    Sean Evans deserves an award for his abilities as a talk show host.

  • @jesseworkme
    @jesseworkme Рік тому

    you, and your team, are good at interviewing people ill give you that .. its frustratingly common for "influencers" and "celebrities" to believe they are better than the rest of the population

  • @emory4258
    @emory4258 6 місяців тому

    These questions are also being asked while they are eating spicy food! This makes an even interesting conversation because not only are they concentrating on the heat going on in their mouth but they are also thinking about the conversation. So far this is the most interesting video so far for me in my opinion that I've watched from you. I haven't seen them all but so far.....

  • @Nero_2276
    @Nero_2276 4 роки тому +50

    I loved the line about asking a job interviewer about what they like about working there. That can lead into many directions.

    • @JaysonT1
      @JaysonT1 4 роки тому +2

      I ask that on very interview Iźve been on. They always say"the people". Ironically, I worked a job (setting up stages) where the people I worked with and the environment were VERY hastle.

    • @janetmiller2160
      @janetmiller2160 4 роки тому +1

      @@JaysonT1 hostile, jicywi

  • @evolicious
    @evolicious 2 роки тому +273

    Sean is this generation's greatest interviewer. He is light years ahead in connecting to celebrities in a modern way and knows how to treat everyone so equally and respectfully. Everyone WANTS to be on this show because of Sean and his team.

    • @joshuapikal7578
      @joshuapikal7578 2 роки тому +28

      yes, but then there's Nardwuar

    • @yeldarb1880
      @yeldarb1880 Рік тому +3

      3 letters, jre

    • @karenphan8046
      @karenphan8046 Рік тому

      @@joshuapikal7578 you

    • @orbit1894
      @orbit1894 Рік тому +4

      @@joshuapikal7578 Nardwuar is the goat

    • @Elurin
      @Elurin Рік тому

      @@orbit1894 Nah, he is a goat, or perhaps eats goats?

  • @FatimaFarmer
    @FatimaFarmer Рік тому +2

    Your channel is amazing! He is my favorite interviewer and this breakdown was so well done!

  • @jesseowens4652
    @jesseowens4652 Рік тому

    It helps a lot to keep your mind open and be truly curious about the person. If you are genuine it will show in a very obvious way and they will respect you for that.

  • @lexilowe4928
    @lexilowe4928 4 роки тому +275

    Sean Evans is an awesome interviewer. He inspired me to start asking people more and better questions about themselves, and it's made my social life so much better. And for job interviews, I do a ton of research on all the people I'll meet. Probs not as much research as Sean and Chris do, but it would be weird if I tried to do an "Explain that Gram" on a job interview.

  • @LisaGemini
    @LisaGemini 2 роки тому +220

    Self confidence impresses anyone. Being intelligent is huge. It might seem geeky to you, but it's vital. Thanks for the video!

    • @7ylerD
      @7ylerD Рік тому +10

      People don’t respect intelligence, per se; people respect competence. They like when you are able to effectively interpret and respond to what they’re saying, but they don’t like when you come off as a know-it-all.

    • @romancetips365
      @romancetips365 Рік тому +1

      I have both and I still don't have any friends, go figure... :-P

    • @MikeD-hn9hf
      @MikeD-hn9hf Рік тому +2

      I think if recent history has taught us anything it's that you don't have to be intelligent to be confident.

    • @corail53
      @corail53 Рік тому

      ​@@7ylerD If you claim you are intelligent is shows how insecure you are - that is what turns people off. The folks who have to brag about how smart they are etc. People respect people being themselves and not having to one up or brag about things like that.

    • @corail53
      @corail53 Рік тому

      @@MikeD-hn9hf You don't.

  • @kaalen24
    @kaalen24 2 роки тому +29

    I love how Sean and his show is getting well deserved recognition for how incredibly skilled he and the show is at these interviews. Better than anything you will find on TV. Shout out to Dustin Poirier for doing the show!

    • @Swordifsh1
      @Swordifsh1 5 місяців тому

      I didnt see Poirier here? Or did you mean in a diff video?

  • @andreschumann7327
    @andreschumann7327 Рік тому +6

    Basically, Sean doesn't talk to celebrities like they are celebrities. In a nutshell, he talks to them as a person to another person, trying to get to know them better. This is exactly how I conduct my business meetings.

  • @seanpowlesland1703
    @seanpowlesland1703 4 роки тому +56

    Another thing that makes Sean so great is his how he takes his time. He never rushes his guests and takes his time asking questions. He's also comfortable in silence and doesn't feel pressured to ask killer question every time

  • @itsokbabygirl
    @itsokbabygirl 4 роки тому +45

    Sean Evans is like the celebrity whisperer! Also, his humility is a definite plus. He’s the right balance of admirer, intelligence, and chill! I love him. ♥️🙌🏼💯

  • @syedali1401
    @syedali1401 Рік тому +2

    Eye contact is the most powerful thing to keep someone connected to you for a while.
    It helps me a lot, its just makes the other person in a trance like state. I dont know exactly how it works. But this thing is powerful

  • @sweatiegonzalez9732
    @sweatiegonzalez9732 7 місяців тому

    Sean is inspiring. I'll come back for inspiration any time I ever need to interview with anyone.

  • @scotthullinger9955
    @scotthullinger9955 4 роки тому +68

    The way you impress me is by not trying to impress me. Humility says a lot.

  • @JS-th7ow
    @JS-th7ow 4 роки тому +66

    Just wanted to thank you. This channel has helped me a lot. Due to medical conditions I spent my teen years in isolated. I’m 20 now and this channel has helped me a lot in terms of socializing and being a more confident person overall.

    • @romanpabianczyk8870
      @romanpabianczyk8870 2 роки тому +7

      Maybe if it helped you then maybe it can also help me, because I was an outsider and scapegoat whole my life and I would like to create more social mind.

  • @drewphonix7685
    @drewphonix7685 Рік тому +30

    That, "We haven't heard from Coolio in a long time" hit different 2023

    • @koshobai
      @koshobai Рік тому

      What happened to him? Is it related to Weird Al?

    • @teme5866
      @teme5866 Рік тому +2

      @@koshobai He passed away in september of 2022

    • @koshobai
      @koshobai Рік тому

      @@teme5866 Welp, there we have it. Not so coolio in the end...

  • @ericsarchive7718
    @ericsarchive7718 Рік тому

    The Evans Ramsey interview is maybe one of my all-time favorites.
    Every Hot Ones is a Master Class.

  • @warbylpunkaz8797
    @warbylpunkaz8797 4 роки тому +101

    "We haven't heard from Coolio in a long time" - SE

  • @1chaplain
    @1chaplain 4 роки тому +74

    The day Sean gets featured in Charisma in Command, is the day I'm satisfied with the internet. Great content

  • @markc.7984
    @markc.7984 Рік тому +1

    "That's a great question" is a stalling technique while thinking up an answer.

  • @adambyers8010
    @adambyers8010 Місяць тому

    100% voting for this team!

  • @QueenZsWorld
    @QueenZsWorld 4 роки тому +77

    See them as human. Talk to then like you would a friend

  • @ZachWeiss
    @ZachWeiss 4 роки тому +828

    How to impress someone you admire: “Be unapologetically yourself”
    Done.

    • @peterDcontact
      @peterDcontact 4 роки тому +25

      i am sorry, this is the kind of advice Tony Robbins would give, the kind that i hate, what does that even mean?

    • @ZachWeiss
      @ZachWeiss 4 роки тому +48

      peterDcontact it means to stop trying to watch advice on how to be something other than how you would normally be. If you put on a show, the facade will fail at some point and that person you were trying to impress won’t stick around. If you don’t try to impress them from the get-go, if it’s meant to be, they will stay anyway.

    • @adels.185
      @adels.185 4 роки тому +5

      @@peterDcontact Means (if I got it right) that you are yourself and stick to your opinions and beliefs unapologetically

    • @ben-asinus
      @ben-asinus 4 роки тому +25

      Yeah, but to be able to do that you have to be the best person you can possible be. And that is hard or nearly impossible. So it is useful to be aware of the fact that you are not perfect. And it is good to be modest and to ask for apology every time you were wrong.

    • @ZachWeiss
      @ZachWeiss 4 роки тому +6

      ben yeah of course. When you are objectively wrong on something. I do like the tips on this video, it’s more like in my opinion, when you act like yourself without restraint then you tend to polarize people and the only people who stick around are the ones who count. 😊

  • @SohItGoes
    @SohItGoes Рік тому

    This such a well put-together video. Really so thoughtful! Thank you.

  • @THERICKMATTHEWS
    @THERICKMATTHEWS 2 роки тому

    one of the most useful video I've watched, it inspired me to amp up my hosting and interviewing skills. thank you for this

  • @MH-dv2cz
    @MH-dv2cz 4 роки тому +55

    So what I'm hearing is that my stalker skills are going to come in handy

  • @wilbeugre
    @wilbeugre 4 роки тому +28

    So I was right: treat human beings as human beings and be kind to anyone; it doesn't mean that you'll agree on everything but that is ok ☺️
    Keep up the great work guys! 👍🏿

  • @briangallagher710
    @briangallagher710 Рік тому

    This is excellent advice. I would also add that one should never lie or distort the truth, no matter how bad.

  • @pinto633
    @pinto633 11 місяців тому

    This creator needs a MC 😂 his content is always on point, lessons learnt on charisma are easy to be learnt and shows how much he cares about his community and self development

  • @HiddenLunarWings
    @HiddenLunarWings 4 роки тому +627

    Basically just be bald. Bald guys have all the charisma.

    • @witchbitchgirl
      @witchbitchgirl 4 роки тому +76

      That's the price you have to pay...

    • @alis7135
      @alis7135 4 роки тому +13

      @@witchbitchgirl lmao that was on point 👌

    • @jusayalex
      @jusayalex 4 роки тому +16

      Saitama made the right decision

    • @kirkjohnson9353
      @kirkjohnson9353 4 роки тому +10

      Why are bald homeless guys such a rare thing?

    • @josephd53
      @josephd53 4 роки тому +2

      Especially Seth Everman

  • @TheDonkyGamePlay
    @TheDonkyGamePlay 4 роки тому +21

    I once commented how good of an interviewer Sean is, that his questions really make the other side open up and he really digs a lot of information about them. Never got so many disagreeing comments hah. Glad you pointed this out

  • @roberthuttle
    @roberthuttle 2 роки тому

    Well-spoken people that can negotiate are unstoppable

  • @joannesuzieburlison7128
    @joannesuzieburlison7128 Рік тому

    This was very helpful. I think looking for that emotional charge is the best advice I've heard.

  • @lizicadumitru9683
    @lizicadumitru9683 4 роки тому +28

    You know the more I think about what this channel does and promotes the more I'm surprised at the genius of it 👍

  • @joeymcarthur8679
    @joeymcarthur8679 4 роки тому +128

    I'm so glad you're doing Sean. He's like, a gold standard.

  • @ceacea364
    @ceacea364 Рік тому

    Makes So much sense after you flawlessly explained it Thank you!!

  • @Dougfrilled
    @Dougfrilled Рік тому

    I started doing some extremely basic prep work for job interviews some years back and had the last one follow me to my car and give me the position on the spot. It’s that powerful.

  • @bphifer
    @bphifer 4 роки тому +8

    Video Idea: Chris D’Elia. Two things I notice that I’d love to hear y’all elaborate on.
    1) enthusiasm makes the difference. Guy has child like excitement about whatever he’s talking about
    2) creatively imagining scenarios to elaborate on the topic at hand and keep people engaged to what you’re saying.
    Can you do a video on this?

    • @NickOloteo
      @NickOloteo 4 роки тому

      Brandon Phifer and a video on Andrew Schulz. That guy can say almost anything and be hilarious despite the fact his laugh is cringe

  • @osse1n
    @osse1n 4 роки тому +174

    Never reveal your merits/accomplishments - let them do the digging by asking questions
    It's more interesting to uncover than to be served

    • @x.invictus6597
      @x.invictus6597 4 роки тому +16

      I wonder how I can block a channel.

    • @GladiatorPower
      @GladiatorPower 4 роки тому +2

      @@x.invictus6597 😂😂

    • @GladiatorPower
      @GladiatorPower 4 роки тому +10

      Stop commenting on every video I watch.

    • @SharpDesign
      @SharpDesign 4 роки тому

      No place this would make any sense.

    • @elektrotehnik94
      @elektrotehnik94 4 роки тому +1

      I'd say make a tease about you accomplishments, then let them do the digging if it sparks their interest

  • @ScooterDoge
    @ScooterDoge Рік тому

    Good info. I’ve never had a problem talking with anyone, even celebrities. Everyone is just a person.

  • @devam7768
    @devam7768 4 роки тому +5

    That mindset is golden! It's been a true game-changer in my own life. Sometimes we put the people we admire on a pedestal instead of seeing them as a fellow human being. This prevents us from connecting with them and making a lasting impression.

  • @blakeglosson
    @blakeglosson 4 роки тому +10

    Insightful and tangibly helpful. I love the idea of being playful with higher-profile people, rather than always speaking/responding in literal terms. Will definitely be using this. Thanks, Charlie!

  • @DrPatrickKingsep
    @DrPatrickKingsep Рік тому

    Great video and topic! This will help so many people who struggle with questions to ask to impress someone etc....

  • @rbfreitas
    @rbfreitas Рік тому

    Great video and a great example!

  • @mrs.buttercuppigeonpants
    @mrs.buttercuppigeonpants 4 роки тому +3

    I remember once on a plane I was sitting next to a famous soccer player and I had no idea who he was. We started to chat about his kids and after hearing I was a teacher, we started to discuss about what kind of education is better etc. I could tell that everytime a fan tried to talk to him about soccer stuff he politely answered the question and then went back to our conversation. You could tell he was interested in talking about something different for once! Famous people are tired of being asked the same things over and over again, they want to be treated as individuals and don't want their whole indentity to stop at what they are famous for.

  • @marialiyubman
    @marialiyubman 4 роки тому +8

    My favorite part is all the sauces on the table. It instantly makes me interact with the show because I want to try them all.

    • @XoIoRouge
      @XoIoRouge 2 роки тому +1

      Same! And it's a great way to break the ice too.

    • @shadmanhasan4205
      @shadmanhasan4205 2 роки тому +1

      Hah!! The Sauces would *MELT* that 🧊.... it's metaphorical... bit still 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @Meisterling
    @Meisterling 2 роки тому

    I absolutely love your last point

  • @Mike_In_Idaho
    @Mike_In_Idaho Рік тому

    Great video -- I really appreciate the tips to crack a joke occassionally, and how to assert yourself in a disagreement without offending. And now I want to go watch (and rewatch) more of Sean's videos!! :D

  • @xingmenneigong
    @xingmenneigong 4 роки тому +9

    I have a sarcastic dry sense of humour and it serves me well. I feel I need to change too much when I watch your videos. Causes me to over think, forget, then never say anything at all to people. Charisma comes through practice, intuition, empathy and a whole host of other skill sets learnt over time. To sum up your videos in one phrase "think outside the box", as cliche as that phrase is, it suits you perfectly. Stay confident, congratulations on your original UA-cam channel and best of luck in the future.

    • @__-fi6xg
      @__-fi6xg 2 роки тому +1

      I think everyone has His own Magic, at.least If you are good with communication.
      I conciously decide to be less social and its Just the part of me who wants to be alone from time to time. You either Accept me as i am or Not, i dont care.