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Should You Be a Breadwinner? | Filipino | Rec•Create
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- Опубліковано 1 кві 2022
- We asked these young Filipinos yes or no questions about being a breadwinner.
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“hindi mabigat ang pagiging breadwinner, ang mabigat is papaano ako”
eto ung kada gabi na tanong ko sa sarili ko eh
salute to all the breadwinners out there laban
Paano ka? Iisipin mo tlga Yan Kung Hindi galing sa puso mo Ang pagiging breadwinner mo para sa pamilya mo.kasi Kung galing sa puso mo Wala Kang iniisip na kapalit Kung paano ka.kusa nlang darating para sayo blessings from God Kung naniniwla ka sakanya ganun Lang yun
@@mikezafra3974 nah, the way i understood it "Ganito nlng ba ko habang buhay?"
Ito talaga! Gabi gabi ko to iniiyakan.
@@jackdawkins1241 diskarte mo Yan Kung magiging ganyan ka habang buhay.wag mo isisi sa pagiging breadwinner mo.wag puro reklamo mag trabaho Kung kulang trabaho mo ngayun dagdagan mo.wag puro reklamo
"wag puro reklamo, mag trabaho kung kulang trabaho mo ngayon dagdagan mo. wag puro reklamo"
wow bold of you to really push working 2 or more jobs at the same time in a country where exploitation is rampant, most of the working class are already exploited on their own profession, and here you are, instead of being empathetic, and looking at the reason why people need to add another layer of work tinutulungan mo pa ang mga kapitalistang mangexploit, ang dali lang sabihin na dagdagan mo trabaho mo at wag puro reklamo pag buhay privileged noh
"May gusto akong gawin kaya lang kasi, feeling ko ang selfish ko pag pinush ko yun tapos maiiwan ko sila" "Mawawala din si Nanay si Tatay, dun palang ba magsisimula ang buhay ko?" --- Grabe this episode made me tear up, sobrang nakakarelate. Thank you, ReCreate. To all breadwinners out there, proud ako sa inyo. Remember, there is nothing wrong na mahalin ng sobra ang pamilya. Pero wag kakalimutan mahalin ang sarili. Hugs! ❤
Totoo to kuya.. naiyak din aq sa comment mo.
Parang ini-echo nila yung thoughts natin within our heads, that's why it gets emotional. If mabigat na, pahinga lang. Soon, tayo naman. Tiwala lang! ❤
Totoo 'to. And yung pressure na kapag natumba ka, tutumba din sila.
Yung Sabi na Wala ka namang panahon ma-guilty kasi Wala ka naman Choice
Totoo :(
As someone who supports and help my parents / family. All I can say, hindi dapat responsibility ng anak ang bumuhay sa magulang / family. It is the parents’ responsibility to give a good life sa mga anak nila.
"I'm doing this because of the salary not because I want this job."
Gosh I feel you. 😭 Kaya natin to guys!
It'll be worth it.
Naiyak ako dito na part and yung part na may gusto kang i achieve but no one supports you and no one was proud of you.😭.
It will never be worth it, I can tell you that and nagsisisi ako na hinayaan ko family ko na umasa sa akin, I hope we all wake up that you being a breadwinner means your parents are irresponsible. Sad truth 💔🥺
Birthday mo lahat sila binibilhan mo nang cake tas pag ikaw na may birthday kahit mamon wala galing sa kanila.
-Breadwinner since 2016.
@@RS_buddingartist Sobrang relate. Just a week ago lang, may biglang-gastos na naman na kelangan bayaran (na wala sa budget), eh pang-birthday fund ko dapat yun. Ang sabi ba naman ng nanay ko eh kumain na lang daw ako sa jollibee. Nakakasakit ng damdamin, kasi pag-bday nila manghihingi pa sila pang-handa.
-Breadwinner since 2014 (ang layo ng age gap ko sa mga kapatid ko, di kasi nagfamily planning parents, tapos sa mas matandang anak ipapasa)
I’ve never felt so seen. Halos lahat ng naiisip ko na-articulate ng panel. At the end of the day, the responsibility of being a breadwinner is a blessing and a curse. A blessing in the sense na you’re giving back to your family, tumutulong ka na lumago sila and nakiita mo yung marked improvement sa buhay nila. A curse naman kasi walang naiiwan sa’yo, you’re not financially ready to face whatever the future holds. I love how one of the panelists asked, “paano ako?” Because that’s how it really feels. Paano ako pag ako na yung nagkasakit, pag ako yung tumanda. Totoo din yung feeling that you feel left out or parang stuck in a rut. I’m a senior manager and I am paid well for the job I do, but I have nothing to show for it. Wala akong kotse, wala pa ring bahay, ‘di nakakapag-travel. Pero, diyan pumapasok yung maturity that being a breadwinner gives you. You have a different perspective on life, kahit naiisip mo na napag-iiwanan ka, you know na your family is doing better because of what you’re doing. They’re eating whatever they want to eat, ‘di niyo inaalala kung mapuputulan kayo ng kuryente o tubig, di ka nangangamba na mahuli sa upa ng bahay, kasi you’re doing it all. Nandyan ang pride ng breadwinners, nasa pamilya natin. Sa lahat ng kapwa ko breadwinner, proud ako sa inyo. Mahigpit na yakap kahit nasaan man kayo ngayon. Darating ang araw, tayo naman!
Ang gusto ko lang maging masaya ka. Magawa mo ang mga gusto mong gawin sa buhay. Ikaw naman. Hindi pangangailangan ng pamilya. Alam ko masaya ka na napoprovide mo yun sa family mo pero ayun na lang ba ang purpose mo sa buhay. Maging provider sa family mo. May sarili ka din buhay kailan mo uumpisahan iprioritize ang sarili mo pag wala na sila? Pag wala ng nakaasa sayo? Baka hindi mo na alam ang gagawin mo pag nangyari yun dahil nasanay ka na na palagi kang nagbibigay. Baka mawalan ka na ng reason to live. Baka mawalan ka na ng Purpose. Sana lang dumating na agad yung araw na ikaw naman. Dahil deserve mo yan. 🙏🙏🙏🙏 Deserve lahat ng bread winners yan!
@@lovemusic-xy9wb salamat! Ito rin naman ang dasal ko. Sana dumating din yung panahon na ‘yan and sana soon. Lahat ng sinabi mong fears, nararamdaman ko rin yan, pero tali ako sa obligasyon and I’m honestly ok with it. My dad died right after I graduated from college and I am left to take care of my mom and my brother. This is a cross that I gladly carry. But I, too, hope I reach a point of financial stability that I can give whatever my family needs and pursue the things I want to pursue. Sa ngayon, ipinagdarasal ko yan. Sana talaga dumating na. 😊 Again, thank you for your kindness and concern!
I feel you and you know we are exactly on the same both. Sad part is late ko na na realized na inuna ko kasi sila kaya eto ko ngayun. I hope wag ka magaya sa akin. Hinde kahit kelan darating yung ikaw naman kasi kung darating yun dapat ikaw mismo ang magdesisyon nun sa sarili mo. Bagay na huli ko na ring naisip. Eto matanda na rin, walang bahay walang ipon walang negosyo, pag nag retire na ko which is malapit na eh retirement lang aasahan pag ubos na SSS na lang. Pinag uusapan pa ng mga kamag anak manager yan nung kabataan niya nag abroad pa tapos walang naipon? Nakalimutan na nila kung bakit wala kong ipon 😅
Don't give up your life for your parents because they already lived theirs and yours is just getting started and its ok to be selfish and do the things you always want to do. If they tell you "wala kang utang na loob" don't take it personally this is just their defense mechanism because most parents they don't want to work anymore and be dependent on you and that is wrong. Break the cycle. Encourage them to work again there are alot of jobs for them that are both less stressful, fulfilling and meaningful (college instructor/consultant/driver) they don't need to earn big amounts just enough to pitch in to the needs of the family. Live your life, be an inspiration, and the change you want to see.
Disclaimer this is my dad's account, but not gonna lie, I do feel pain seeing them work, and I do agree with your argument it's just hard to swallow for me, I still want to help but I'm so conflicted atm...
@@retiredmilitarysoldier2776 The only reason why we're struggling other than this being a cultural issue is that our decision-making is based on emotions. Be as rational as possible about this issue and trust me everything will be easier.
@@retiredmilitarysoldier2776 it's okay if it's your choice, but if they depend on you like you are their investment/retirement plan? that's wrong
Asking for your parents to work again is the most selfish and stupidest thing I've heard and read here, being selfish is not ok and will lead to these kinds of problems. Would you not want your parents to live comfortably and let them rest for the remainder of their lives? If you want to break the cycle then make sure that when you get old you will not be a burden to your kids, remember your parents went through martial law, kudetas, economic crises and no internet. the Philippines was different back then and most of our parents are not financial literate. stop adopting the western "me first" attitude we do not live in a first world country and should not be an easy target for capitalism, next nito is maging rampant na ang divorce dahil sa "me first" attitude na yan
@@deecee7073 isn't being treated as a retirement plan selfish as well?
Hugs para sa lahat ng breadwinner. Sorry that you feel like you're losing yourself in the process of helping out. Sana magkaroon kayo ng opportunity to put yourself before anyone else 🤗
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Ayun, iyak ulit.
Yung mahilig tayo magcompute at magbudget. Excel is Life. Yung akala nila andami mong pera kase di ka nagkukulang sa bigay, pero paranoid na tayo kung aabot pa ba ang pera.
I agree na di responsibility ng anak, kaso maiisip mo minsan na wala silang retirement fund kase nagastos sa pagpapalaki sayo.
Pero tunay yun. Minsan matatanong mo , paano ako? Tapos iiyak mag isa. Tapos nood ng 4 sisters and a wedding at 7 sundays.
Proud ako sa lahat ng Breadwinner. Kapit lang tayo. Iyak lang kung kelangan. Aasenso din tayo.
Hay!!! naka-ilang excell nako tas may unavoidable expenses na bubulaga na more than pa sa emergency expenses mo, tapos magagalaw yung ipon.
This kind of content/topic should be present in mainstream media. Para alam ng new generation what's the reality of life..
as a panganay who's still in college, i'm afraid that some of these stories would soon be mine. i'd love to give back to my parents voluntarily, but i'm afraid they'll depend on me until they become my responsibility. i have my own things that i want to do, and want to have, so i hope i achieve them in the near future.
Same, last year ko nrin for college and im very anxious of the future.
Same, last year ko nrin for college and im very anxious of the future.
my advice, pag nakapagwork ka na, start saving kaagad as in magipon ka ng magipon kahit paunti unti,
as also a panganay, i have this concern also. But, I would make it a point not to disclose my salary. I will give them only a percentage of my salary not more or less. Just enough. I hope youll openly communicate and voice out once you start earning. I work part time so I could still get a sense of what it feels like to be the breadwinner.
Welcome to the club.
what a good talk today, Rec-create! thank you for bringing this out. Shoutout to all breadwinners out there! yakap sa ating lahat 🤍
🥂 TO ALL BREADWINNERS
totoo naman iginapang ng parents namin ang pag-aaral naming magkapatid (aside from food, shelter, clothing, love and support nila) pero we did our part din na mag-aral mabuti, makatapos on-time, at walang bisyo
nakakalungkot lang kasi ilang taon na kaming nagtatrabaho magkapatid pero yung parents namin parang walang plano sa buhay (they have their own small business pero humina na dahil sa pandemic, sabi nila basta daw may mauutangan pa sila tuloy lang, pag wala na titigil na hay) malapit na rin silang maging senior citizens pero wala silang ipon at walang magiging pension kasi di sila naghulog
minsan nakakalungkot isipin na parang ipinanganak ka lang ba sa mundo para maging tagapagbayad ng utang? di mo naman matiis na hindi sila tulungan kasi sa mata nila at ng ibang tao magiging madamot ka, makasarili, at walang utang na loob
pero tama, paano naman ako? (yung kapatid kong bunso ikinasal na recently, and I'm still living with our parents) ayoko pa ding magkapamilya or magkaanak sa ngayon dahil di pa ko ready at di ko pa sila kayang iwan, di ko gugustuhing magsilang ng bata sa ganitong hirap ng panahon at kung sandwich generation lang din ang mararanasan nya
same
@@vernonchwe4365 sana po makayanan natin kahit mahirap situation, laban lang tayong mga breadwinners ✊
Ganyan na ganyan mindset q kuya. Parang ayaw q ng mag ka anak gawa nang nangyari sa akin.
Totoo Hindi mo kargo ang mga magulang mo.pero bakit lagi mo iniisip paano nman ako? Ang pag tulong sa kapwa walang kapalit Lalo na sa pamilya.lalo na Kung galing sa puso mo tlga.alam mo Kung bakit? Wag mo iisipin Kung paano ka Kasi dios Ang bahala sayo Basta malinis Ang puso mo sa pag tulong. Mas okay na nkakatulong ka kesa sakit ka sa ulo sa pamilya mo.
@@mikezafra3974 breadwinner ka ba dude? Kung hindi manahimik ka nlng. Kung breadwinner ka pero malaki nmn ang salary mo, manahimik ka na lng talaga.
Yung mahirap eh “Papaano Ako?” Ouch! 😭🥺 Panganay and Breadwinner for the longest time gusto ko naman gawin ang gusto ko kaso hindi kaya. Hindi madali. Sobrang emotional ako sa video nato. 😭
I feel you. Same here. That "Papaano ako?" got me 💔
Bawi tayo sa next life mga bhie 😭
ako din :(
Bunso here but turned breadwinner 😢
Yung nagiguilty ka gawin gusto mo kase mas okay na ipang gastos na lang sa utilities. pero paano naman ako nga diba? 😞😞
Sana mapanood to ng mga traditional parents of today.
I hope they realize na their "papunta ka palang pabalik na kami", mantra ay di na uubra these days. Big hug to all breadwinners out there. Stay strong. 💪🏼
This is one of the most triggering phrases as a panganay.
Yun ang hirap sa mindset nung karamihan ng boomer na parents na padamihan ng anak para may mga mag aalaga pag tumanda
Ito ung katumbas ng 'wala kang utang na loob'.
Mga pangannay naging panganay lang FEELING BREAD WINNER.. Wala namang na ambag.
This is indeed the reality and very common in the Filipino culture. Salute sa lahat ng breadwinners na nagsasakripisyo for the fam. Kahit mahirap g lang. Soon makakaahon din.
I remember I posted a picture sa social media na kumain ako sa labas with my friends. Nang umuwi ako sa aming hometown, I received a sermon from a family member na "Nagkaon-kaon ka ug lami pero imung pamilya gagutom dinhe". And I was so stunned and hurt. I was speechless and in a matter of second nitulo jud akong luha pero wala ko makatingog. It was really painful that people don't realized that I also need to reward myself for the hardwork, for the sleepless nights, for passing the comprehensive exam, for hustling 2 jobs while studying in graduate school while nagpa eskwela pud sa akong mga manghud, or for anything that would help myself and my family. It was just even a celebratory dinner. In short it was all free! That exact conversation made me promise to myself to not let my future generation bare the pressure of giving back to their family.
If you watch this video, makikita mo ang mga hugot ng mga breadwinners. I salute all the breadwinner in the family. Life gives us choices but we just choose the road that most people are afraid to take.
God! I'm crying while watching this video. Everything is relatable esp si Ate na naka-violet.
:(
Your such a great inspiration. Hopefully ako rin sana.
Sending Hugs atee ❤️❤️
hugs ate!! 🤍
kasakit ba ani, same sa akong papa ni adto og birthday, wala ni kaon kai kami iyang g huna2. dapat ma break na gyud ni nga sumpa.
Not a breadwinner but have seen my older cousins become one. I am an adult with a career na and my cousins can now express their frustrations in life to me and all they say is they don't have any freedom nor investments for their own future. One of them even gave up on her dreams to have her own family because of the responsibilities she needed to oblige and now she's a spinster at 37 and is alone 'cause her parents have recently died and that her brother (also my cousin) has now a family of his own. All those hard work and yet she's all alone in the end seemed a bit unfair on her part.
naiyak ako dito just now. I'm 38 (not a breadwinner pero matagal tumulong sa pamilya), and I have since decided not to have children kasi tao lang ako nagkakamali at ayokong maging cause for concern or worry ng mga magiging anak ko if ever, kasi nga they really have their own lives to prepare for. Kung mahina ka, mabubuang ka talaga sa self-conflicting emotions (masama ba kong anak kasi hindi ako nagbigay?). Pero nakabukod na ko ngayon and I thank the Lord for a more sound mind. It's very hard to choose but you really have to make it and stand with it, as well as bear the consequences of the choice you made.
I remembered once sa tita ko talking about my cousins posting about flexing the food what they've eat in social media and she said 'kumakain ng masarap pero di maabutan yung tatay nila'. I felt the guilt inside of me as a panganay, na baka ganun din ang iniisip nila sakin. Yes, its an honor and previledge to help our parents and siblings lalo na if we are capable enough naman but don't put the word RESPONSIBILITY on that. I am 27 now, unstable in all means, financially.. mentally and even my career. Been worked for a couple of years na ultimo allowance hihingiin pa dahil pangbayad ng utang, minsan mahihiya pa ako sa accting namin dahil every cut off nasa list ako ng may cash advance just to provide my daily expenses at allowance kasi lahat ng sahod naiabot na lahat. Then I just suddenly realized, naubos na ako. Burn out. Hindi na makapagfunction ang sarili ko ng maayos dahil sa sobrang overwhelmed at stress sa buhay, na eto ako 27 na pero wala ng natira sakin, 27 na pero pakiramdam ko I have nothing at all. I agree sa isang nagcomment dito, its a blessing and curse to be on this position. Hindi ako nanunumbat sa lahat pero honestly di ko alam paano nako? Andun yung guilt at the same time awa sa sarili ko. Nakakapagod din pala
Can relate so much. Being a breadwinner I always ask them/myself:
"paano ako?"
"hanggang kailan kayo aasa sakin?"
"when I can start making a LIFE?"
Si Ateng naka-stripes! I admire her so much. Ang hirap ng buhay ng breadwinner pero ang positive pa din niya. AND HER DREAM? Charity work. Ang galing lang.
" Kung magbibigay Ka, salamat, Kung Hindi, salamat din"
This what my parents told me after I finished college and got my first job. Until now they never ask for anything, I give everything voluntary.
My mother was once a breadwinner who provides everything for her younger siblings as the eldest for all her 9 siblings.
you got one of the best mom. keep her happy
That's why your mom knows the feeling at ayaw nyang maranasan mo yung naranasan nya
Sana all
Yan yung mga masarap bigyan, yung hindi nanghihingi.
Toxic yung mindset na magkakaanak ka tapos gagawin mo lang retirement plan sila
Not a breadwinner but still struggling in life, I burst in tears when ate in stripes said that, " When you open up that this is my dream, no one supports you no one listens to you. I graduated and applied as a manager, no one was proud of me." Me being a black sheep, an outcast and a laughing stock because I haven't achieved anything in life and when you tell them that you want to be something in the future but they laugh it off because they know that you're not serious. So I end up bottling my feelings and keeping my plans a secret just to avoid hurtful comments and stop them from eyeing on me.
We hear you ,Keep reaching your dreams ! Fullfill your own happiness by achieving it little by little.
my mom is the very first one who laughed at me when i, first time, shared my dreams. i was a teenager and i know by then the feeling of heartbreak not from the opposite sex but from someone you thought you can share with your everything.
I've got so emotional on this video, I'm a breadwinner and I could say that our parents is no longer our responsibility, but I've seen how my parents sacrificed a lot for me to become someone who I am today. It's not a responsibility but it's a love for them.
As an eldest child, I grew up thinking that 'giving back' to my parents was a 'responsibility', because even as a child, my father always told me that "ate, kailangan mong mag-aral nang mabuti para pagdating ng panahon, ikaw na yung bahala sa amin at sa mga kapatid mo". I'm still a college student, yet I am stressing over on what my post-college life will be. There's no room for failure, no room for time-outs, and no room for a complaining, or else I will be labelled as 'walang utang na loob'. To be honest, I already wasted my teenage life just so I can be able to be a 'good' ate, and right now, I'm afraid that soon, the participants' stories will also be a reflection of mine.
Everytime naiisip ko ung hirap ng buhay, binabalikbalikan ko tong video na to 🥹
I felt every word na sinabi nyo. Tingin ko kung lahat ng magiging magulang in the future same ng mindset nyo, wala ng anak na iintindi financially sa magulang nila. To be fair sa older generation of parents dito sa Philippines hindi nila kasalanan kung bakit ganun din yung mindset nila, kasi siguro nung time nila walang nagtuturo o nagsabi sa kanila na kung ano ba dapat. But now our generation is talking these topics at mas marami na ang financially literate, I hope this chain will end soon. By then, the next generation of Filipinos will be busy being great in their passion for themselves and just simply happy with their lives.
"Kung hindi ka kikilos, walang ibang gagawa" hits me hard.
I teared up while watching this. I can definitely relate to them. Hugsss para sa lahat ng katulad kong Panganay na Breadwinner, hindi Panganay pero Breadwinner!!! Better days are coming.
Youngest pero breadwinner ❣️ Not all youngest ang pabigat charot haha pero "hindi mabigat ang pagiging breadwinner ang mabigat ay yung paano ako" FEELSSSS
Same girl!!! Bunso na naging panganay 😢
same...
Same feels. Big hugs to us youngest na breadwinner.. 💗💗
Same po! Hehehee
As a bunso of two siblings up to this day ate ko lahat nag nababayad ng bills and needs namin ni mama. My mama had a stroke last 2018 and hindi na nakabalik sa work. I'm currently working part time and nag rereview at the same but my ate never pressures me na eto ganyan bayaran ko na dapat to but I'm helping her silently bili bigas and bayad ng tubig in a small way.
I've never heard my ate complained about being a breadwinner or tinatago niya lang and sobrang helpful nito kasi since we're not really vocal to each other. I know that same with these people my ate also experience physical and emotional pain. Thank you rec-create.
As a bunso I've seen all the sacrifices and hard work of my ate from a far and I'm proudly say she's my mentor in my 24 years existence and I've learn so much from her money and mindset wise! To all breadwinners proud na proud kami sa inyo mga ate at kuya without you hindi namin alam ano mangyayari bukas. To my ate I'm proud of youuuuuu. I looked up to you!
Thank you for this. Na touch ako 😢
True. Libre mo ate mo minsan sa labas. Magkwentuhan kayo. Magkamustahan. Kahit simpleng pagkain lang sobra nyang maappreciate yun.
being a breadwinner should be a choice.
Sad reality is for most of us not.
Agree, children should never, in any way be obligated to shoulder any responsibility that is supposed to be carried by the parent.
If well off siguro yung family to begin with hindi issue kung sino magiging breadwinner
there's actually no choice bro. if you want a better life for your parents and siblings, the only right thing to do is to help them. it would be hard to accept knowing that your sisters/brothers have to stop going to school/college due to financial constraints.
Isa ito sa gusto ko sa Re.create. Hindi lang naman tungkol sa sex ang topic nila (na ginawang big deal ng ibang nakabasa sa chat ko sa isang video nila). What I mean is matapang sila na pag usapan ang mga topic na hindi madalas naoopen dahil feeling natin taboo or conflict sa paniniwala nating mga Pinoy. Naaamaze ako sa mga guests nila na nagsheshare ng kanilang experiences na walang takot na majudge. Underrated ang channel na ito and I think deserve nila magkaroon ng million subscribers.
Thank you for the kind words, Cherry!
As a panganay sobrang relate. The pressure of parents for the eldest to support the family. Na kapag nagdecide ka na ikaw naman sana they would make you feel selfish for thinking for yourself naman.
FAVORITISM !!!
Tatlo kaming Magka kapatid, ako ung pangalawa .. ung panganay namin may Pamilya na pero ako ung sumalo ng Responsibility ng kapatid ko sa mga anak nya, ung kapatid kong bunso na spoil masyado ng mga magulang ko ka kaya kahit walang trabaho ok lang pati ung panganay .. ako lang ang may work samin lahat , hndi na eligible ung tatay ko kasi may sakit na Prostate Cancer! Nagreklamo ko once sa nanay ko bakit hndi mo sila sbihan na mag work bkt ako lahat! sobrang sama ng loob ko sa nanay ko kasi nung once na sumabog nako di ko na kinaya ang lahat Pagod,Hirap,Gastos basta lahat .. ung dating pinapadalhan ko sila ng grocery di ko na ginawa may nasabi pa sken , "MADAMOT at MASAMA daw ang UGALI KO". sinabi nya pa na ikaw ung MAYROON kaya dapat TULUNGAN MO ?! sbi ko MA! HANGGANG KELAN KO TUTULUNGAN ?! may nakita kbang tumutulong sakin?! "PAANO NAMAN AKO ?!" 😭😭😭😭😭😭
panganay 40yrs. Old with 5Kids , 4 nasaken kasi ako nagpapa aral ..
Bunso 28 walang work! hilata lang sa bahay..
now im 33 , wala pang pamilya ! kasi nattakot ako baka magalit ung nanay ko na unahin ung sarili ko kaya heto patuloy pa din sa buhay .. Pinag darasal nlang na sana mabuhay pa ng matagal at lumakas pa! sila ganon pa din 😭
Ahon mga ka Breadwinner!
Laban lang , Kaya nten to 💪💪💪
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Payakap po :)
Marami na breadwinners with the mindset that generational poverty stops with them. Either by not having children of their own (childfree) or preparing for their own retirement so their children wont need to support them in the future
I am afraid of having children kasi baka madala ko sa kanila unconsciously yung naging upbringing sakin.
Hugs to all these breadwinners, I feel you ♥️ I’m also a panganay, not just supporting financially pero tumayong magulang ng mga mas nakakabatang kapatid (attending PTA meetings, graduation/recognition, meeting their school requirements, assignments, nagtitimpla ng gatas, paligo, lahat). Eventually napagod na ako, had a suicidal period (after I got married and realized hanggang kelan ko sila susuportahan e gusto ko na magkasariling pamilya). Now I have learned to blindfold myself para matuto sila kumilos para sa kanilang mga sarili, especially now kasi may siblings (youngest ones) are all legal age na. My parents are still young I suppose. Kung titiisin ko pa din ang sarili gaya dati, kawawa ang asawa at anak ko.
So if any of these people interviewed are reading this, especially the beautiful lady in a white top because I relate to her the most: PLEASE LEARN TO BE A BIT SELFISH. Start establishing yourself for your future.
Makakaraos din! ♥️ Tiwala lang. Kasi kung nakaya nyo para sa kanila, kaya din natin para sa atin. 🥰
Huhu hugs. I feel you.
"I'm doing this because of the salary not because I want this job 😭 "
Thank you Re-Create! Salute sa lahat ng Breadwinners!
im 18 and i feel what the girl in black top said na pinapalaki yung pangarap pag maliit pa then pag laki na hindi naman pala kaya suportahan. i always tell my parents na bet ko maging doctor noong bata pa ako, and they always say na susuportahan nila ako and they sometimes even brag about it sa mga titas and titos ko. and now im in college, taking a course thats far from my dream. tsaka ko lang narealize na hindi pala kaya and i ended up so heartbroken. hirap pala talaga kapag panganay pa tapos ang laki pa ng pangarap mo para sa sarili mo. it's hard to leave it behind dahil may pamilya kang iniisip na umaasa sayo. kapit at mahigpit na yakap mga breadwinners! kaya natin to,, maabot din natin pangarap natin. :)
Yung mga parents na tamad…ayaw magtrabaho, e responsibilidad nilang buhayin Ang mga anak nila…giving back should not be an obligation. It is a choice. Pero tayo bilang tao, we choose to help. Pero disiplina Sa pagbibigay.
In the first place hindi nga dapat "breadwinner" ang tawag dyan because only one party wins in this setup and it's obviously not the one carrying the family. They loses so much in the process. At this point being a breadwinner is overrated and romanticizing it either won't help the breadwinners. What we need is a whole new generation of parents who prepares for their future and doesn't tolerate this kind of setup.
Napaluha ako noong napanood ko ito and I feel ateng nakastripes' pain in life. Laban langs!
"paano ako"
never thought these two words could mean a lot. 🥺😭
Actually for me okay lang naman mag help sa house expenses like (Electricity, water, and food) pero kung luho na ang hinihingi ibang usapan na yan
Relate na relate ako sa lahat ng thoughts sa video na to. Lalo na sa question na "would you ask your children to support you" this is my motto nowadays na I can sacrifice my joy at this very present just to be prepared enough for my future family kasi ayoko ng maranasan ng magiging mga anak ko yung bigat ng reponsibility na naranasan ko dahil pinanganak ako sa hindi may kayang pamilya. It's so good to know na hindi ka nag iisa, na may mga kapareho ka ng principle sa buhay.
This hit close to home ❤️ Great content, Rec Create team!
I'm the oldest sibling in the family, and I believe the breadwinner should be the parents. Sabi ng magulang ko, hindi ako pinanganak para buhayin sila. Pinanganak ako dahil alam nila na kaya nila ako buhayin. Sabi ng mgulang ko na dapat I enjoy ang life at fullest. Be smart and make sure that I will be ready for future responsibilities.
"Gusto ko saken matapos na yung ganong ano, yung cycle"
Bro same.
Inflation has really fucked up our generation. I mean 23k for a Teacher 1 working for Dep.Ed is really good if we're in 1985. For me, hindi issue yung tumulong sa pamilya. Ibang klaseng fulfilment ang nabibigay nun especially for a family-oriented nation like PH. It's just that EVERYTHING is just too expensive for the average Filipino worker nowadays. Kaya God bless our economy. After 50 years, baka 100 pesos na pamasahe sa jeep. Kawawa tlga future generation.
Truee
Makes me wanna join this talk, a big hug to all the breadwinners! Hirap maging panganay. But somehow it is something that i am very proud of. 🥰
I am not the eldest but I need to support them. All their feelings were actually happening to me. Lalo na yung part na “ kakasahod molang ah?” Dilang nila alam. Hehe. But I am happy that I am able to support them. Though sobrang tiring siya pero worth it naman kapag nasusuportahan ko sila. I know better days will come for me. Thank you for this content! ❤️❤️❤️
A lot of "breadwinners" either repeat the cycle, stop the cycle, or not want to have kids at all 😶 Mahigpit na yakaaaap mga kapatid!! ❤️
I chose to stop the cycle.
Damn it hits you hard when that one person said "Papano ako" laban sa mga katulad natin ajaaaa
True. In reality ginawa mo na ang lahat pero di mo pa din alam kung papano ka. Kung tutuusin alam mo na dapat yung sagot pero naubos ka lang
My parents are still working right now. I asked them, bakit di na kayo magretire at sa bahay na lang magpahinga. They answered, tapos hihingi kami sa inyo ng pera lagi? They're trying their best to earn money and save din as their retirement plan. Sa ngayon, mas marami pa silang pera kesa sa amin na mga anak nila. Hahaha. I am so blessed to have them, they also taught us to be independent, work hard and earn money para sa future namin. Nagshe share kami ng mga kapatid ko sa ibang household bills, pero kapag wala na talaga at di kaya ng budget namin, si papa na bahala. We give not because they (my parents) asked, we give kasi we have.
Breadwinners have so much of parked dreams and unheard battles. Kung ipapasa mo pa sa salinglahi mo yun “values” and “culture” ng tinapay, kasalanan mo na yun.
Yung may gusto kang gawin para sa sarili mo, pero you have to let it go kase you have the responsibility to take own before yourself.
What's more scary about being a walking retirement plan is that our savings are one hospital bill away from going to zero. That gives me so much anxiety when making financial decisions.
THIS IS SO TRUE!!
True. Feeling ko nga nadedepress ako dahil alam ko kahit di nila sabihin ako ang aasahan kapag nagka emergency. At sobrang laking pressure nun. Palaging mainit ang ulo ko pero hindi ako pedeng tumigil. Kailangan may malaki akong savings dahil ako ang huling sandata kapag nagkaroon ng malaking problema. Yung ako ang nag iisip para sa future namin na dapat resposibilidad ng magulang. Wala kasi sila emergency savings kahit sabihin kong kailangan yun wala parin silang ginagawa para makapagsave. Pag may naospital sa family mababa na ang 100k na ilalabas mo sa hospital. Imagine kung wala kang ganung kalaking pera tapos stress ka pa sa health condition ng family member mo tapos hirap ka kung kanino ka mangungutang. Tignan ko lang kung makatulog ka. Tapos need mong magtrabaho dahil alam mong ikaw lang aasahan. 😭😭😭 Ewan ko na lang pero ang sigurado ako hindi ko pinili ang mabuhay lalo na ang magkaroon ng buhay na meron ako. Hindi ito ang naimagine kong buhay noong bata ako. Sobrang layo sa mga pininta ng magulang ko na pede kong maging buhay. Yung mapagtapos nga di nagawa paano pa yung mga bagay na gusto mong gawin at maachieve sa buhay.
SALAMAT for this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to share our experiences as breadwinners! Yakap ng mahigpit at patuloy sa pagiging mabuti! 💗🙏😊
Si mama palagi niyang sinasabi saakin na, "Di ka ba natutuwa na makakatulong ka na sakin?" I am so tired. Gumaan ung pakiramdam ko sa video na to saka sa mga comments. Salute to all of us na breadwinners!
GOOD TALK. PLEASE, WE NEED MORE OF THIS. THANK YOU!!!
Thank you for contents like this! Yung rollercoaster of emotions ko are valid pala and its comforting to see that there are a lot who can relate at di ka magisa. Yung inggit, napagiiwanan even resentment from parents naranasan ko na lahat. Fighting lang mga ka-breadwinners and magtira para sa sarili, lets teach and let our siblings fend for themselves once they're ready. ❤️
Thank you so much for this ReCreate Team! Muntik nako maiyak ng slight watching this kase sobra sobrang alam ko kung ano yung mga pinagdadaanan and mga thoughts nila as in spot on!
Matinding yakap para sa mga kapwa ko naging retirement plan na! Kapit lang tayo.
It is not easy to be a breadwinner.
Deprived ka sa life,sa finances, sa experiences because of the responsibilities pero fulfilling ung feeling
Mabuhay sating Breadwinners ❤🙏
Im so emotional everytime i hear this kind of topic. Being a young breadwinner in my family really take a toll on my well being. I was lost in the process but im regaining myself and redeeming those times wherein i was lost and empty inside.
Just recently, my Mom told me to work, not for them but for myself. Pero ngayon pa lang na wala akong work, ang goal ko na ay to work hard and earn money to be able to give back to them, and to become financially independent. Sana talaga mangyari na ‘yon this year. Hindi man ako breadwinner, I commend all the breadwinners out there. Don’t forget to take care of yourselves. ❤️
Hearing other breadwinners talk about the difficulty of being one and relating to it feels comforting in a way. I just realized how strong we are kahit na minsan sobrang pagod na at gusto nang sumuko pero kinakaya for the sake of our families. Someday, tayo naman ang mauuna. 🥺💖
For me the hardest part of supporting your family financially is when it comes across your mind na parang ang unfair kasi hindi mo naman dapat yun obligasyon to begin with. However, you will still continue to give support kasi somehow you also cannot let them starve.
Thank you Rec-create for this vid! I was really emotional the whole timr watching this vid! This is very inspiring for the future breadwinners and Salute po for all the breadwinners 😍 sobrang nakaka mangha po ang pagmamahal at dedikasyon niyo.
Great insights from this video. Thank you Recreate for raising awareness in behalf of breadwinners! Salute to all the breadwinners out there. Sana everyone would be more appreciative of them and their sacrifice and love for their families.
being a breadwinner is not a responsibility, it is a choice. Proud of y'all. Malaking akap sa inyo. ❣️
Salute to all the breadwinner out there. Laban lang, pero sobrang iyak ko while watching this. Sobrang relatable tlga 🥺❤❤
More topics like this. Ang ganda ng message. Makikita mo talaga mga perspective nila. Salute to those who want to break the cycle. Satin na sana matapos yung pagiging iresponsable.
grabe this topic, PLEASE PLEASE DO MORE!!! Madami pang bagay na kelangan ma discuss openly
YAKAP SA LAHAT NG BREADWINNERS! Im proud of you!😊
Nice topic thanks sa pag upload Rec•Create
Sobrang hanga ako sa breadwinner they are willing to sacrifice for the sake ng family.
YAKAAAAAAP SA LAHAT! Thank you for bringing this out, kurot sa puso! 💖 -Bunso hereeeeeeee
To all the parents PLEASE before having kids make sure that you are able to raise them in a good way. This cycle of supporting the parents has to stop. Your KIDS SHOULD BE PREPARING TO START THEIR OWN LIFE AND FAMILY. Not the other way around.
I'm proud of y'all! Hindi po ako breadwinner kaya I am so blessed to have my kuyas with us na hindi nagsasawang tumulong saamin. I will try my best para sa susunod ako naman. Thank you po sainyong lahat na breadwinner! Maraming nagmamahal sainyo!
Woah thankyou for this, me being the youngest in the family, this helped me to understand the courage it takes for a person to support their family. It made me cryyy
Thank you for this video.
Narealize ko valid lahat ng sentiments and emotions ko.
Being a breadwinner at a very young age is not easy,lumipas 20s ko na di man lang ako nakapagtravel kahit Baguio man lang.
Ganun ka hapit yung budget dahil sa mabigat na responsibilities. I love my parents pero di ko pa rin maiwasan yung 'what if di ako breadwinner?' kasi alam ko sa sarili ko na I could have done more to reach my full potential. Karamihan sa atin pala di nakakatanggap ng moral and emotional support from our families at nakakalungkot ito.
I have the same mindset na di ko ibibigay sa magiging anak ko yung responsibility ng pagiging breadwinner.
Kaya to us breadwinners,group hug.
It's optional. Pero kaya mo bang tiisin to see your parents suffering kase hindi ka nagbibigay ng financial support.
That's a guilt trip mindset ata
Agree.. but still it depends on the person/children if they want to help their parents.
@@maryjunburata2608 yes. Pag voluntary, it is good basta out of love not out of guilt or expectation. Not even forced.
Sooo touched about this video after watching, realizing and gets ko na yung sabi ng teacher ko before na, it's not her kids anymore to do responsibility and cared to them in the future.( which is majority of us are do disagree to her) I really love this video! It's practical and realistic!
I think it depends on every situation. All of them have a point and and every breadwinners can relate to them Maraming ways to give back not only money there is love,care etc.
This is so emotional. Pinakamagandang topic ng Rec.create for me.
As a breadwinner, I'm proud of myself and my fellow ones. Laban lang us! 💪
ako na panganay :,>
YAKAP sa ating lahat
Di ko alam kung breadwinner din matatawag na hindi mo magawa ang gusto mo dahil pag nagka emergency ikaw ang aasahan dahil walang savings ang parent mo. Yung kahit may pera ka di mo magawa yung gusto mo o magtravel dahil paano kung may biglang mangyari? Kailangan prepared ka financially dahil ikaw lang ang maasahan.
Breadwinner is the foundation of the success of the family. Salute to all breadwinners na pinili maging pagpapala sa pamilya. Shalom!
That "papa-ano ako?" hits me, as a breadwinner I thank you Rec-Create for this video :)
Omg nakakaiyak. Proud ako sainyo!!! Keep it up. Kaya natin to 😍🤗
Ganda ng topic.
Sobrang relate!!! Though youngest ako.
Tapos dahil ako ang may pinakamataas na sahod, bigla akong naging breadwinner.
Literal na pasan ang daigdig.
Thank you ReCreate 💗💗💗
"Hindi mabigat ang pagiging breadwinner, ang mabigat is papaano ako"
Breadwinner here🖐️ Kahit may mga oras na gusto ko nang bumitaw/ sumuko sa dami ng problema na kahit hindi dapat ako ang gumawa ng solusyon pero gagawan ko pa rin para sa kanila..
Lahat ng problema ko wala akong mapagopen-an ,idadaan na lang sa iyak. Isang way para gumaan ang pakiramdam ko. Then after non babangon ulit, bawal huminto para sa pamilya.
To all breadwinners here! Kaya natin to! 💪
It felt as if I was talking to myself when I was watching/ listening to the breadwinners in this interview.
Kudos to us, breadwinners
Wala akong kapatid pero proud ako sa magulang ko.. Minsan nagbibigay ako ng voluntary pero binabalik nila sakin sa paraang pagkain,damit, o pangangailangan ko. Na-appreciate ko yung sinabi ng tatay ko na dapat ang anak magkaroon ng independent life at sariling desisyon sa buhay niya yun lagi ang sinasabi niya at lagi kong naaalala yun. Yung parang culture gaya sa america na 18 palang adult age ehh kaya ng buhayin ang sarili. Parang sinasabi nila wag ka mag-alala nak kaya na namin ang buhay namin. Pero eto ako nagbibigay ng kusa dinadaan ko sa pagreregalo kasi alam ko na pag pera ang binibigay ay sinasauli nila sa ibang paraan. Kaya nakakabilib at Proud ako sa magulang ko❤️😊
Sa mga breadwinner diyan na maraming membro ng pamilya bilib ako sa inyo👑
Super relate... i am also the eldest and the breadwinner. I also have dreams for myself pero napakahirap abutin thinking na i have to do this para di mahirapan ang family ko... minsan naiisip ko di lang naman ako ang anak pero bakit ako ang sasalo ng lahat? Pati kapatid ko bakit ok lang na chill lang at di magtrabaho eh siya tong may anak pero hinahayaan lang ng parents namin. Napakahirap maging breadwinner pero kailangan lumaban para maitaguyod ang pamilya
Sheett. Dame.
Kapatid q rin. Parang okay lng maging reckless sa desisyon sa buhay. (Min wage,No Hmo,No insurance + 1 kid + 1 on the way)
Pero pag ako cguro tatanga tanga sa desisyon sa buhay. Kawawa magulang ko...
Naiyak ako hahahahahaha. Para sa mga bread winner ng family jan!! Fighting lang tayo guys, time will came It's our time naman na magagawa naten yung gusto naten.😊
"I grew up seeing how my mother work hard for me to get where I am right now" ♥️♥️♥️♥️
SUPER RELATE!!! First time to watch a video about breadwinners na very light and non-emotional which is unusual for me kc laging nkakaiyak yang topic na yan at yun nga...may iyakan rin pala tlga haha. I feel them huhu!
Hugs sating mga breadwinner. May sarili na akong family but I supported my mom until she passed away. I’m still supporting my dad until this day but it’s all worth it because I was able to make them happy for the remaining days of their lives.
“Bibilhin mo yan! Bibilhin mo lahat ng gusto mo.” Issa mood ❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥