AITA For Refusing To Take My Daughter To "Her" Birthday Party?
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- Опубліковано 5 лют 2025
- AITA For Refusing To Take My Daughter To "Her" Birthday Party?
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AITA For Refusing To Take My Daughter To "Her" Birthday Party?
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My 5-year-old daughter, Cleo, has disliked pink for years, and I've made that clear to my dad's partner, Prue. Despite this, Prue constantly gives Cleo pink gifts and insists she’ll “grow out of it.” Things came to a head when my dad invited us over for dinner, which turned out to be a surprise “birthday” party for Cleo-months after her actual birthday. My sister warned me ahead of time that the entire house was decorated in pink, right down to the cake. My husband and I decided to skip the party and took the kids to McDonald’s instead, framing it as the surprise. My dad showed up briefly but left upset, and both he and Prue accused me of being ungrateful.
It didn’t stop there. My sister overheard Prue admit to my dad that she purposely chose pink decorations to “push Cleo out of her comfort zone,” which caused a big argument between them. My dad later apologized and admitted he should’ve stepped in, while Prue doubled down, claiming I’m “depriving Cleo of femininity.” After some reflection, I had a sit-down with them to set clear boundaries. Prue admitted she was projecting her own struggles with a strict childhood onto Cleo, and while I empathized, I made it clear that Cleo’s feelings come first.
Since then, my dad has been more supportive, and Prue is making small efforts to change, like sending Cleo a green dinosaur puzzle-something she genuinely loves. While I’m cautiously optimistic, I’ve made it clear that if Prue crosses the line again, we’re done. Cleo is thriving, and that’s what matters most to me.
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Making everything pink sounds more like a spiteful act when you know someone dislikes that colour.
I disliked pink as a kid, probably partly due to the fact that pink is pushed onto girls. That was 50 + years ago, when it wasn’t quite as bad as it is now. In contrast my son liked pink and was teased for it. Let’s stop colours being gender specific, it doesn’t matter what colours kids like!
Prue’s excuse about her childhood makes no sense. She was forced to wear dresses she didn’t like and into the ‘traditional’ view of femininity and was trying to do the same thing to Cleo to put right her own childhood? Barmy.
I hate pink and my oldest niece hates it. She hated it when she had her daughter 15 years ago and girl baby clothes were mostly pink. I lucked out, I had a son.
She's just being controlling ,and she's trying to inflect her beliefs on your daughter. Tell your father and Pure that if they can't follow your rules then they don't need to interact with your children.
I didnt like pink as a kid and now as a woman rarely pick anything pink. Everyone is differeent, but Prue needs to recognise that and boundries.
Something is wrong with Prue. What does it matter if the child doesn’t like pink? It is not written in heaven that females must like pink.
Si tu hija no se siente cómoda con la fiesta organizada sin su consentimiento, es totalmente válido que la apoyes en su decisión. Un cumpleaños debe ser un momento de felicidad, no de incomodidad. ¡Ánimo!
I agree with you
Just tell Cleo about the pink decorations and let her decide. She can say no, or ignore the pink and enjoy Grampa
This is the dumbest, most petty ish I've ever heard. I wish these were the problems in life I had to worry about.
Sounds like all of you have too much time on your hands.
@markchester7584 I didn't say that. My take is that, yes we all have our favorite colors but to say that a child's happiness depends on a certain color is wrong set of values. What if they become homeless n the only coat for kid is pink, the child is being taught that color matters instead of being gracious n thankful for what is given.
If the child was born color blind, there wouldn't be a problem....or is it the parents who are making a big deal about color? I think the parents are the problem. This family needs to get a life!
Really? You think a child is incapable of having its own likes and dislikes?
Kid don’t like pink kid don’t like pink don’t force it I myself don’t like pink I do have few dress or shirt that’s pink I do have some family tell me your girl you should like pink I say nope they respect me for that
My mother loved to dress me in pink...even down to my underwear. I hated it as I started getting older. I will wear pink now on occasion but it is my choice.
I don't 'like' pink but decided to have a blush pink room when I moved into my new home
Most peoples have a favorite color for me it blue tell Prue mind her own business and to stay out of your family life stand your ground