I would love to hear about her daily routine and how she balances everything. Your podcast has helped my Marriage in so many ways and helped me really learn to hold myself accountable. I love having a traditional marriage but I was definitely not raised that way so it’s great to see another woman who was raised like I was and also chose this life. Thank you for what you guys do ❤
I would love another one of these where peaches goes more in depth about being a women and self care vs how she approaches her relationship because theres alot of self love and consideration that needs to be built within yourself to have a healthy relationship first
I just want you guys to know that I’m 15 years old and my dad and his girlfriend remind me of you guys and they listen to you guys daily and I’ve never seen my dad happier, peach looks exactly like my stepmom but my step mom has purple instead of red, but back to my point as a 15 year old and learning this stuff it has really impacted my relationship with my current girlfriend in the most positive way
i love seeing a couple that is traditionally untraditional. like the alternative style the tattoos, it’s all too relatable. i have a lot of friends who share similar styles and interests as me but completely are against my traditional relationship that me and my boyfriend are working towards. it’s sooo refreshing, LOVE THIS CHANEL LOVE U GUYS
I jusy can't get over how he looks at her. You can literally see the love. So glad you guys are helping people like me grow that emotional maturity needed to experience that sort of love.
Been married for almost 24 years and I have always served my husband first and brought his plate to the table, I never realized until recently how much he appreciated it and how special it made him feel..
The towel folding scenario just made me check myself. I think my way is the "right" way and get frustrated when jobs aren't done my way. That's nothing to do with the other person, it's entirely on me. Thank you!
On sleep: my husband has PTSD from his time in the Marines. His nightmares get worse during the summer because that's when he was experiencing the heaviest enemy fire. When we first started dating, it was summer. I always put my hand on him and asked him if he was ok. One day, he teared up, I asked him why. His previous girlfriend (cohabitated) would get angry at him for waking her up and tell him to sleep on the couch. I was shocked by how callously a woman, who claimed to love him, could treat him. It's not just women getting the shaft out here folks.
Watched the gentlemen's podcast earlier today!! And I'm so excited to have this on my screen now. I was mulling over everything I listened to today at work tonight.. and its really sinking in. Its been a while since a podcast has resonated with me enough to keep me hooked. And you guys have my full attention right now. I'm not in an active relationship. but this information can be utilized in so much more in everything. professionally, with my two young children... future relationship possibilities. And I'm like an infant soaking in all this information like a sponge. Looking forward to the coming podcasts once I catch up to your current work.
I also wanted to thank you guys for making me realize that I am that wife that complains about the dumbest shit. I don’t do all of the things you spoke on but I definitely do a lot of them and it makes sense now why my husband would rather be alone some days. ❤❤❤ you guys are beautiful people
I can't remember the name of the person who said this originally; I'm paraphrasing, " When you yell at your significant other, that shows how far apart your heart's are from each other."
I look forward to watching your videos every time you post. I’ve been trying so hard to become a better woman for myself and for my man and you both, especially Khrys, have taught me so much so far! You guys are dope!!
Love you both...meaning your talks make me think, feel and sometimes cry...and the realization that I could have been the problem in my ex marriage... But so you know, I've bought a notebook and I've been writing pages and pages of notes on what you are saying.... THANK YOU....and I will be continuing to listen in!!!
You guys have really helped with placing the guidelines into getting that classic relationship standard. I just wanna say thank you. I have been able to deep into myself and work on myself
Y’all conversations have broken my brain 😂. In a positive way. That whole touch thing when overstimulated, the way you guys understood one another and discussed it, that blew my mind.
I’ve only been watching y’all for the past few days but I’ve already seen the impact in the way I’m communicating with others now. It’s so refreshing to see a couple who cares about each others feelings. Kudos to you guys.
I always love listening to both of you talk while I complete my daily task as well as complete my homework for nursing school! It really touches me and your voices are incredible.
I want to thank you both. I am new to your podcasts and these made me realise how petty i can be and how much i get stuck in my own mindset. Thank you. You are both beautiful people, on the in-and outside. It is so nice to hear you speak to each other. You can see the love you have for each other. Thank you for helping me be better
You guys are so cute, I love your dynamic and the vibe between yall. That's the type of relationship I hope to one day find. Love it and keep up the good work guys. ❤
My husband and I both just started watching you guys and love your views and insights! I know you don't like tictoc but that's where we found you guys and have been hooked! We're starting the checklist this week!
Hey guys! Just wanted to take the time to thank y’all! Listening to u guys has really made me think abt things I was doing in my current relationship that was my fight or flight response from my old relationship! U guys have really helped me realize my own toxic behaviors as well as ideas for communication and showing my current fiancé he’s appreciated I’m super glad I found u guys on TikTok and I hope the best for y’all! Thank u both again so much!
On the towel folding and similar, when anyone comes at me about how I did something "wrong" cuz it wasn't done their way, my response is always "If that's how you want it done, you do it. If I'm doing it, this is how it will be done."
I really like how you guys are always trying to understand other perspectives even if you have your opinions on situations. It's great talking to people or listening to people with other opinions and perspectives because that's how you actually figure out the best solutions. I think people would realize how much they argree on things if they were just willing to shut up and listen to what the other person has to say. There's always common ground, it's just people's egos tend to get in the way.
Y’all are so admirable. I can really tell how much work you’ve put into yourselves and your relationship. It’s truly an inspiration. Thanks for doing what you do!
My husband loves playing video games and every Saturday plays d&d so I started playing video games and d&d because I can see hiw much it means to him to enjoy those hobbies. He used to feel guilty to play them and not spend time with me so now that we both can enjoy it together it has really helped us be able to bond ❤ now if he says he just wants to do it alone then I step away and go do my own hobbies but that's been a rare case where he didn't want me to participate
That’s amazing and beautiful to hear! Don’t forget to have him also be mindful of ways you both can bond over the things you enjoy as well. I bet you will feel the appreciation magnified when he does it in return. ♥️ wishing you both nothing but happiness.
You gave me so much to think on. I’m that a*s who complains about the towels because I am aiming to ensure they fit in the space they’re going to. I never stopped to think about how he was taught or how truly insignificant it is compared to things that could be wrong. Thank you, sincerely. It was a good reminder of something I had thought I had grown beyond, and see I still have to work on.
13:27 one of my insecurities/fears is that my bf will stay with me if he ever becomes unhappy/miserable in the relationship. He stayed with his ex (mother of his son) for years after he was “checked out” of the relationship. The only reason he left was because of a ‘huge incident’. Granted I’m only hearing one side of the story…but still a fear of mine.
This ep reminded me of a sad moment I had for a friend. My husband sometimes travels for work and he's in the National guard so he has to drill some weekends. I pack he's bag for both occasions. I had a friend tell me that he's never had anyone pack his bag for him, he's former military. None of his ex wives or girlfriend have done it. I've been packing my husbands bags since we started dating.
I didn’t realize how old you were (not saying you guys are old people ) but being 22 and seeing how old y’all are helps me with my “I’m behind” mindset. Knowing I still have time to get things right for myself and my partner for my future kids, is like a breath of fresh air.
I am so grateful for your work. Thank you so much. My man and I have a wild story. I'm going to share it with you two someday. You need to know that because we have listened to your podcast a few times together (we don't live together and together time is limited). I believe he feels more comfortable sharing and articulating things I need to change to make his experience in our relationship more beneficial. I feel like we had a breakthrough last night, and the other day. Endless appreciation for you two, your relationship, and your openness. ❤
You guys are the best! I just did 22 years in federal prison, it’s been super difficult reaclimating to society. I’m in a committed relationship but it’s so foreign to me. I’m learning how to be vulnerable and open with my gf. I really appreciate your views. Your pod cast has been a godsend! Thank you
I’m here from TikTok but honestly I just want to keep saying thankyou both..I don’t know exactly why yet because I’m still healing and going through stuff but I know for a fact your videos will help me get there. I appreciate the knowledge being shared it’s amazing to witness a genuine relationship x
I absolutely LOVE you guys❤ Your my FAVORITE couple & me watching y'all has made my husband curious & start watching as well!! I aspire for my marriage to be like yours✨🖤🤞🏼 I love the way he looks at you😍🥰 And you, him💅🏼 I just LOVE it✨🫶🏼🫶🏼
I listen to you guys every day, you guys have definitely helped especially living with bpd in a relationship trying to find yourself and understand you guys have just truly helped so much especially on the bad days❤️❤️
It's crazy that it has already been over a year since I've started listening to you guys. I started on Spotify looking for help with my relationship and ways to improve as a wife. This was one of my first streams I listened too and I dove deep after. I came back to it today, and I just have to say that I see that you both have not only matured as individuals but also as partners in life. The progress I see in you both makes me feel hopefully that there will be progress in mine. Thank you for your honesty and advice. Without it, I wouldn't have ever opened my eyes to my part in the downfall. Peaches, I would love a redo of this list someday! What do you feel being a good wife means, not just Chris's wife, but in general. What can we do as women to support our men in ways that he feels appreciated. I would love to hear it! Thanks again, love, light, and prayers in all your future endeavors!
Thank you for this Khrys!! I've been listening to the podcasts in order at night after the kids go to bed and I just clean up the house while I wait for my hubby to get home from work. Not only is it giving my mind something else to focus on, but I use them to basically challenge myself on how long it takes me. You guys are definitely making a difference! ❤❤
I can see why people say this is toxicity but I think it's super cute and it's healthy. This is your life partner... why make both your lives harder? Why not work together to make your life the best it can be. This is anything but toxic.
Acts of service is definitely my love language and same for my hubby too, I would say 90% of the time I take away the plates but when my hubby does it it makes me really happy.
I have the same power napping problem and also I’ve always wanted a dynamic like your guys’. I just found you guys maybe a week or two ago and I’ve made a point to start from episode 1 and watch at least one every morning except I found this video and couldn’t wait to watch it!!
The sleep thing!!!!! My husband has nights where he tosses and turns. For him, it’s as simple as me rolling over and putting a hand on his arm or his chest. It’s like it calms his mind and he goes back to sleep. We don’t wake up and discuss right then, because I too am a restless sleeper, so I’ll be up the rest of the night, but I help calm him in the moment and am there if he needs to discuss the next morning! I love that I can do this for him!❤
I've been watching yall from the beginning and I did alot of stuff wrong at first, I have went through a divorce unfortunately but through that I saw what I did wrong and have changed alot and how I react to situations now bc of that. With that I've learned who my friends are bc alot of people turned their backs on me bc they say I've changed too much and what i have to say without yelling and screaming and reacting like i use too hurts there feelings and think i shoudnt think that way that i will wind up alone, even my ex husband and alot of my own family thinks that. That really does hurt me a little bc my family has always been very important to me but I know I can't just have their influence and beliefs bc that wouldn't be me I would just be a clone of them. It was hard to except that I have more to change and watching yall is showing me that and how happy yall are and I want that for myself but at my age it's so hard to find anyone that sees a relationship the same way that I do they mainly see it as a sexual thing and that's it and I don't, and I just want to thank yall so much for doing what you are and putting everything out there and helping other people just like me. ❤
I love the idea of a booking a session. The fee is reasonable but enough to weed out people that aren’t serious. My husband and I both have past trauma so saying “can you clarify what you mean by x”. “I think we’re on the same page but can you explain it differently.” “I’m having a hard time with the word x”
oh my gosh the hangers!! I have had the exact same intentional thought about my husband and hangers too! (this is my husbands youtube account btw) He shows me so many graces and has taught me to be gracious and to focus on all the ways he loves me over the silly preferences. He shows me the same respect. He is such an example of unconditional love and patience.
I'm excited to listen to this video. I did see the how to be a good man one and am noticing the changes in my boyfriend. I tend to ebb and flow when it comes to situations I'm not perfect but honestly your husband has been such a huge help. I was diagnosed with BPD a while back and really don't know if I believe in it but he has been such a huge help in my recovery. I'll have to send you an email soon. Would love to hear your thoughts on how to stay calm in the work environment sense I cannot find a video on it. But both of you have been such a tremendous help so I cannot thank you enough.
Thank you for this! Listening to this I have realized a lot of my faults and understand the frustration within my relationship now. I’m working hard to do better and be better to break the cycle in both of our family.
Big socks in the house guy myself. Never thought about that I don't like things on my feet. I wear them because my feet get cold easily but starting to think deeper I don't like things on my feet like sand or cat litter or things. I get it now lol love the podcast btw. Really gele like it's helping me in my personal growth to be a better partner for a woman who deserves more than what I've given.
I love this couple. So healthy and strong. I love how their love is tangible even through the screen and you can see the attraction in their eyes when they look at eachother. I grew up with shtty examples of relationships so I’m really fighting to improve myself so I’m not a remake of my parents toxicity. Specifically my mom. I catch myself acting like her, and it disgusts me. I want to be better.
Ive been working my way through you guys stuff and that hangers thing is so relatable 😂 He will put my clothes way but not my socks, underwear, or pants and I once was like 'Man why doesnt he put the hangers here when he takes a shirt off.' Funny. Love it.
Amazing as always. My husband is now getting into your videos with me. If I am not listening to an audiobook I am listening to you guys. I enjoyed the live Patron tonight. You guys rock.
Peaches!💕you in my opinion a fantabulous lady, woman and female! I come from a shitty past also…I’m glad to have found you guys Much love and peace to you both
✨overstimulation ✨ after having my son I struggled sooo much with this and my husband didn’t understand it! He kept touching me when I repeatedly asked not to be touched but after some conversations and meltdowns on my end he got it 😂😂
So I have a very different kind of relationship from you guys. Very different. And I fucking love it. I have been binge watching these over the last few days because I love having my mind opened to new things. I won’t say I want this. Because I just don’t. But the reality is, you have opened my eyes to some things and presented very intense thought for me that I very much appreciate. And have even learned some from y’all, including a different communication style and gave me words for “extreme accountability” which is something we practice, but never had words for. I appreciate everything you do, and love watching this.
This video couldn’t have come at a better time because you said something very profound in your video about weaponized incompetence. I watched it yesterday and you bring up the same point today. I wanted to take the opportunity to thank you! I’m in the Army so I wash my uniform tops turning them inside out to leave the patches on the velcro shoulders. This solidifies them onto the uniform, making them much harder to accidentally get pulled off whenever I take equipment like a ruck off for instance. It also saves me time not have to get them perfectly on the center of the pocket each time and to find where my crazy kids hid them (they’re obsessed with the patches and will play with them if they find them not attached to my uniform). If you don’t turn the uniform inside out though, the tumbling in the washing machine and dryer ding up the corners of the patches and can make them look a little messed up over time. Well, normally Sunday night each week I do my weekly uniforms but my wife had already done it for me. When I was getting ready for work, I pulled my top out of the dryer and it was not inside out. I smoothed down the corners of the Velcro patches and they looked good still. Before I left I said to her “hey, if you wash my uniforms do you mind folding it inside out?” And explained the patches getting messed up over time. She nodded and I went through the rest of my day as normal. When I saw your video it really put into perspective some things for me. I wanted to apologize to her and chose to wait until I could see her in person after work. I looked at her and said “I just want to say that I owe you an apology! Yesterday, you took the time to wash my uniform. You were intentional with it too, making sure to take out my pens, paper and all my other every day items out of the pockets. You went out of your way to do something nice for me and…” Before I could finish she said “and you still complained…? HAHA!” To which I responded “YES!! I’m very sorry. I’ve been thinking about it all day and just wanted to say I’m sorry, I see you and appreciate you! Do you forgive me?” (Side note, we are HUGE and asking for forgiveness instead of just saying sorry. We both grew up being forced to say sorry to others and giving a half ass apology through sorry never gives the other person the power over the forgiveness. Asking for forgiveness is a thing we’ve done to give the power to the one slighted to process the emotions and truly forgive. We implement this with our kids too. They’re allowed to say yes or not right now, but no within our loving family is not a permitted response) Just seeing her body language, the way her eyes twinkled at the acknowledgment and appreciation for her efforts as I apologized was truly life changing to me. I could see the validation she so desperately craved being realized in real time and made me understand visually that despite how much I love my wife and try to express that, many times it gets lost in translation because I don’t realize that I’m neglecting the way she needs me to communicate that love to her.
We have been married 27+ years and I treat my husband very much like you treat yours. We are happy and I love it! But I always learn something from you Peaches. Old dogs can learn new tricks!
Umm I love you both. I agree on almost everything you say. I'm 35 with 3 kids from a prior relationship. And my new bf is a father of 5 and He has full custody. I consider all kids kinda mine....I'm just a part of the village. I just want to day you both help me in so many ways.
The interest thing, I did the with my boyfriend. He really likes going to the gym and working out and I personally have never been a very physically active person but I have been wanting to get into shape so I asked him the other day if we could go together. We’ve gone twice now in the morning and we go on walks which he likes and I can tell that he enjoys having me do that with him.
Totally not petty!! Its exhausting knowing somethings off but not knowing WHAT is wrong, and i tend to panic that its me or something i didnt notice i did.
I love your content! I just recently began watching your podcasts from the beginning. I found the gentleman podcast to be incredibly helpful, it was mostly general rules that would apply to everyyone. This one however, seemed very specific to your relationship and did not contain as many general rules that would apply to other people's relationships. Are there any more general rules or suggestions that you have to make a traditional woman in a traditional relationship better at it? Thank you🌻.
So I heard part of your shivery podcast, I can not find it again, can you please help me? I love the feeling I got from that, it was eye opening for me
Honestly. With Peaches first point i understood it further than communication, i think it really was 1- keep an active understanding in your every day interaction with yiur husband thag he is a person, and he may not communicate the best. So your active understandinf truly keep a good float to your marraige when yiu can stop the moment and say- what do you mean? How does that make you feel when i do/say this? (:
I bring my man his plate always this hit home big time he always says iam not a good women but i do this and many other things to show him he matters😢What is his example of a good women id like to know..
The dinner plate! 😂 the first time I did it my poor guy looked at me like I was insane 😂😂 then when I noticed he didn’t get his tea I just got it. Don’t ask if he wanted it just brought it to him he literally goes WHY!?! I was like you needed a drink what? He was like that’s seriously NEVER happened before. Unless we’re sitting at the table with the meal in front of us he gets served 🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️
My grandpa always told me that the best things you can do for any relationship in life is practice thoughtfulness, wisdom, and respect.
I would love to hear about her daily routine and how she balances everything. Your podcast has helped my Marriage in so many ways and helped me really learn to hold myself accountable. I love having a traditional marriage but I was definitely not raised that way so it’s great to see another woman who was raised like I was and also chose this life. Thank you for what you guys do ❤
I would love another one of these where peaches goes more in depth about being a women and self care vs how she approaches her relationship because theres alot of self love and consideration that needs to be built within yourself to have a healthy relationship first
I just want you guys to know that I’m 15 years old and my dad and his girlfriend remind me of you guys and they listen to you guys daily and I’ve never seen my dad happier, peach looks exactly like my stepmom but my step mom has purple instead of red, but back to my point as a 15 year old and learning this stuff it has really impacted my relationship with my current girlfriend in the most positive way
i love seeing a couple that is traditionally untraditional. like the alternative style the tattoos, it’s all too relatable. i have a lot of friends who share similar styles and interests as me but completely are against my traditional relationship that me and my boyfriend are working towards. it’s sooo refreshing, LOVE THIS CHANEL LOVE U GUYS
SAME!!!
I jusy can't get over how he looks at her. You can literally see the love. So glad you guys are helping people like me grow that emotional maturity needed to experience that sort of love.
I don’t blame him, she’s beautiful
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Been married for almost 24 years and I have always served my husband first and brought his plate to the table, I never realized until recently how much he appreciated it and how special it made him feel..
Peaches makes me try so hard to be half as amazing as she is to her husband seriously ❤️
The towel folding scenario just made me check myself. I think my way is the "right" way and get frustrated when jobs aren't done my way. That's nothing to do with the other person, it's entirely on me. Thank you!
Same!!!
22 year old sahm and you guys have helped me overcome so much. From my own bullshit to relationship bullshit.
Thank you guys
On sleep: my husband has PTSD from his time in the Marines. His nightmares get worse during the summer because that's when he was experiencing the heaviest enemy fire. When we first started dating, it was summer. I always put my hand on him and asked him if he was ok. One day, he teared up, I asked him why. His previous girlfriend (cohabitated) would get angry at him for waking her up and tell him to sleep on the couch. I was shocked by how callously a woman, who claimed to love him, could treat him. It's not just women getting the shaft out here folks.
@@heathercoyne7970 I’ve went through this type of thing with my Marine. It is mind boggling how cold some women can be!
Watched the gentlemen's podcast earlier today!! And I'm so excited to have this on my screen now. I was mulling over everything I listened to today at work tonight.. and its really sinking in. Its been a while since a podcast has resonated with me enough to keep me hooked. And you guys have my full attention right now. I'm not in an active relationship. but this information can be utilized in so much more in everything. professionally, with my two young children... future relationship possibilities. And I'm like an infant soaking in all this information like a sponge. Looking forward to the coming podcasts once I catch up to your current work.
I need peaches to narrate a good book on audible so I can fall asleep to her soothing voice lol
hey! get your own woman! lol just kidding.
@@aintnoneyabusiness7634 😂😂
I also wanted to thank you guys for making me realize that I am that wife that complains about the dumbest shit. I don’t do all of the things you spoke on but I definitely do a lot of them and it makes sense now why my husband would rather be alone some days. ❤❤❤ you guys are beautiful people
I can't remember the name of the person who said this originally; I'm paraphrasing, " When you yell at your significant other, that shows how far apart your heart's are from each other."
I discovered yuns on TikTok, but yall have helped me so much. The only podcast I have actively pursued to listen to on UA-cam. Thanks so much.❤
I look forward to watching your videos every time you post. I’ve been trying so hard to become a better woman for myself and for my man and you both, especially Khrys, have taught me so much so far! You guys are dope!!
Totally understand not wanting to be touched when you’re going through it. And the bliss of having a partner who understands without upset ♥️
Love you both...meaning your talks make me think, feel and sometimes cry...and the realization that I could have been the problem in my ex marriage...
But so you know, I've bought a notebook and I've been writing pages and pages of notes on what you are saying....
THANK YOU....and I will be continuing to listen in!!!
I am learning even 30 years into our relationship that sometimes I need to ask for clarification instead of being defensive
You guys have really helped with placing the guidelines into getting that classic relationship standard. I just wanna say thank you. I have been able to deep into myself and work on myself
Y’all conversations have broken my brain 😂. In a positive way. That whole touch thing when overstimulated, the way you guys understood one another and discussed it, that blew my mind.
I’ve only been watching y’all for the past few days but I’ve already seen the impact in the way I’m communicating with others now. It’s so refreshing to see a couple who cares about each others feelings. Kudos to you guys.
I freaking love you guys. You have completely helped rewire my brain and inspire me to want to be better, and to want better for myself.
I always love listening to both of you talk while I complete my daily task as well as complete my homework for nursing school! It really touches me and your voices are incredible.
I want to thank you both. I am new to your podcasts and these made me realise how petty i can be and how much i get stuck in my own mindset. Thank you.
You are both beautiful people, on the in-and outside. It is so nice to hear you speak to each other. You can see the love you have for each other. Thank you for helping me be better
You guys are so cute, I love your dynamic and the vibe between yall. That's the type of relationship I hope to one day find. Love it and keep up the good work guys. ❤
One thing that helps is constantly search the content you like and it should pop back up that what I do when I start seeing stuff I don’t care for
My husband and I both just started watching you guys and love your views and insights! I know you don't like tictoc but that's where we found you guys and have been hooked! We're starting the checklist this week!
I have just recently found yall and holy crap - y’all are a gold mine! I look forward to this video SO much!
Hey guys! Just wanted to take the time to thank y’all! Listening to u guys has really made me think abt things I was doing in my current relationship that was my fight or flight response from my old relationship! U guys have really helped me realize my own toxic behaviors as well as ideas for communication and showing my current fiancé he’s appreciated I’m super glad I found u guys on TikTok and I hope the best for y’all! Thank u both again so much!
This podcast makes me appreciate my husband. He is amazing.
On the towel folding and similar, when anyone comes at me about how I did something "wrong" cuz it wasn't done their way, my response is always "If that's how you want it done, you do it. If I'm doing it, this is how it will be done."
I appreciate you sticking with doing TikTok because it took a year or more for me to even come across you two and it has changed my life
Thanks for this! Me and my gf saw this and the gentleman series and we had discussions on both.
I really like how you guys are always trying to understand other perspectives even if you have your opinions on situations. It's great talking to people or listening to people with other opinions and perspectives because that's how you actually figure out the best solutions. I think people would realize how much they argree on things if they were just willing to shut up and listen to what the other person has to say. There's always common ground, it's just people's egos tend to get in the way.
Y’all are so admirable. I can really tell how much work you’ve put into yourselves and your relationship. It’s truly an inspiration. Thanks for doing what you do!
My husband loves playing video games and every Saturday plays d&d so I started playing video games and d&d because I can see hiw much it means to him to enjoy those hobbies. He used to feel guilty to play them and not spend time with me so now that we both can enjoy it together it has really helped us be able to bond ❤ now if he says he just wants to do it alone then I step away and go do my own hobbies but that's been a rare case where he didn't want me to participate
That’s amazing and beautiful to hear!
Don’t forget to have him also be mindful of ways you both can bond over the things you enjoy as well. I bet you will feel the appreciation magnified when he does it in return. ♥️ wishing you both nothing but happiness.
You gave me so much to think on.
I’m that a*s who complains about the towels because I am aiming to ensure they fit in the space they’re going to. I never stopped to think about how he was taught or how truly insignificant it is compared to things that could be wrong. Thank you, sincerely. It was a good reminder of something I had thought I had grown beyond, and see I still have to work on.
I listen to you guys converse, its something im always willing to do and strive for.
Yes! I never stress, and I always give him his plate and I always take it. It's a sign to me of respect and honor towards him.
13:27 one of my insecurities/fears is that my bf will stay with me if he ever becomes unhappy/miserable in the relationship. He stayed with his ex (mother of his son) for years after he was “checked out” of the relationship. The only reason he left was because of a ‘huge incident’. Granted I’m only hearing one side of the story…but still a fear of mine.
This ep reminded me of a sad moment I had for a friend. My husband sometimes travels for work and he's in the National guard so he has to drill some weekends. I pack he's bag for both occasions. I had a friend tell me that he's never had anyone pack his bag for him, he's former military. None of his ex wives or girlfriend have done it. I've been packing my husbands bags since we started dating.
I didn’t realize how old you were (not saying you guys are old people ) but being 22 and seeing how old y’all are helps me with my “I’m behind” mindset. Knowing I still have time to get things right for myself and my partner for my future kids, is like a breath of fresh air.
I am so happy she did this! I just watched his gentlmen video and was itching to watch this one!
I am so grateful for your work. Thank you so much. My man and I have a wild story. I'm going to share it with you two someday. You need to know that because we have listened to your podcast a few times together (we don't live together and together time is limited). I believe he feels more comfortable sharing and articulating things I need to change to make his experience in our relationship more beneficial. I feel like we had a breakthrough last night, and the other day.
Endless appreciation for you two, your relationship, and your openness. ❤
Oh I do the hanger thing too! I literally JUST did it cause I’m listening to this whole cleaning and I just hung up the clothes.
I love that she recognizes you get overstimulated I get overstimulated and get guilt tripped if I don’t want to be touched
You guys are the best! I just did 22 years in federal prison, it’s been super difficult reaclimating to society. I’m in a committed relationship but it’s so foreign to me. I’m learning how to be vulnerable and open with my gf. I really appreciate your views. Your pod cast has been a godsend! Thank you
I’m here from TikTok but honestly I just want to keep saying thankyou both..I don’t know exactly why yet because I’m still healing and going through stuff but I know for a fact your videos will help me get there. I appreciate the knowledge being shared it’s amazing to witness a genuine relationship x
I wanna thank you guys for all the great and amazing words. You have taught me alot in all situations as a mother, and as a spouse.
I absolutely LOVE you guys❤ Your my FAVORITE couple & me watching y'all has made my husband curious & start watching as well!! I aspire for my marriage to be like yours✨🖤🤞🏼 I love the way he looks at you😍🥰 And you, him💅🏼 I just LOVE it✨🫶🏼🫶🏼
I listen to you guys every day, you guys have definitely helped especially living with bpd in a relationship trying to find yourself and understand you guys have just truly helped so much especially on the bad days❤️❤️
I just love the way you two look at each other!!💞💞💞
Yay I am so happy that I made it to this one. I am excited for this one.
It's crazy that it has already been over a year since I've started listening to you guys. I started on Spotify looking for help with my relationship and ways to improve as a wife. This was one of my first streams I listened too and I dove deep after. I came back to it today, and I just have to say that I see that you both have not only matured as individuals but also as partners in life. The progress I see in you both makes me feel hopefully that there will be progress in mine. Thank you for your honesty and advice. Without it, I wouldn't have ever opened my eyes to my part in the downfall. Peaches, I would love a redo of this list someday! What do you feel being a good wife means, not just Chris's wife, but in general. What can we do as women to support our men in ways that he feels appreciated. I would love to hear it! Thanks again, love, light, and prayers in all your future endeavors!
Thank you for this Khrys!! I've been listening to the podcasts in order at night after the kids go to bed and I just clean up the house while I wait for my hubby to get home from work. Not only is it giving my mind something else to focus on, but I use them to basically challenge myself on how long it takes me.
You guys are definitely making a difference! ❤❤
I can see why people say this is toxicity but I think it's super cute and it's healthy. This is your life partner... why make both your lives harder? Why not work together to make your life the best it can be. This is anything but toxic.
The fact that you also communicated that when he had his phone in his hands how it made you feel and then he responded and set it down... So loving.
I’m here for the lavender tattoo - very pretty I’m inspired
Acts of service is definitely my love language and same for my hubby too, I would say 90% of the time I take away the plates but when my hubby does it it makes me really happy.
I just wanna say I love you guys! I love y'all's connection and love for one another.
I have the same power napping problem and also I’ve always wanted a dynamic like your guys’. I just found you guys maybe a week or two ago and I’ve made a point to start from episode 1 and watch at least one every morning except I found this video and couldn’t wait to watch it!!
The sleep thing!!!!! My husband has nights where he tosses and turns. For him, it’s as simple as me rolling over and putting a hand on his arm or his chest. It’s like it calms his mind and he goes back to sleep. We don’t wake up and discuss right then, because I too am a restless sleeper, so I’ll be up the rest of the night, but I help calm him in the moment and am there if he needs to discuss the next morning! I love that I can do this for him!❤
I'm in love with how Khrys looks at Chris at 9:09 . The attentiveness and adoration just melt my heart. You remind me of me and my Kris! ☺
I've been watching yall from the beginning and I did alot of stuff wrong at first, I have went through a divorce unfortunately but through that I saw what I did wrong and have changed alot and how I react to situations now bc of that. With that I've learned who my friends are bc alot of people turned their backs on me bc they say I've changed too much and what i have to say without yelling and screaming and reacting like i use too hurts there feelings and think i shoudnt think that way that i will wind up alone, even my ex husband and alot of my own family thinks that. That really does hurt me a little bc my family has always been very important to me but I know I can't just have their influence and beliefs bc that wouldn't be me I would just be a clone of them. It was hard to except that I have more to change and watching yall is showing me that and how happy yall are and I want that for myself but at my age it's so hard to find anyone that sees a relationship the same way that I do they mainly see it as a sexual thing and that's it and I don't, and I just want to thank yall so much for doing what you are and putting everything out there and helping other people just like me. ❤
I love listening to these while I’m cleaning.
I love the idea of a booking a session. The fee is reasonable but enough to weed out people that aren’t serious.
My husband and I both have past trauma so saying “can you clarify what you mean by x”. “I think we’re on the same page but can you explain it differently.” “I’m having a hard time with the word x”
And when people are financially invested. They are less likely to fail on the follow through
Y'all rock! I truly appreciate your time and content so much! Thank you!!
oh my gosh the hangers!! I have had the exact same intentional thought about my husband and hangers too! (this is my husbands youtube account btw) He shows me so many graces and has taught me to be gracious and to focus on all the ways he loves me over the silly preferences. He shows me the same respect. He is such an example of unconditional love and patience.
I'm excited to listen to this video. I did see the how to be a good man one and am noticing the changes in my boyfriend. I tend to ebb and flow when it comes to situations I'm not perfect but honestly your husband has been such a huge help. I was diagnosed with BPD a while back and really don't know if I believe in it but he has been such a huge help in my recovery. I'll have to send you an email soon. Would love to hear your thoughts on how to stay calm in the work environment sense I cannot find a video on it. But both of you have been such a tremendous help so I cannot thank you enough.
Hardest work I’ve ever doing ..learning to respond instead of react ❤ prepare to work daily ..it’s worth it
I just barely saw that towel video and what’s wild is everyone said that he was folding the towels the right way 😂
Thank you for this! Listening to this I have realized a lot of my faults and understand the frustration within my relationship now. I’m working hard to do better and be better to break the cycle in both of our family.
I just started seeing your videos and I really relate to you peaches and I see the way you look at Chris and vice versa. I know that look ❤
You get it too. I had this moment too
Big socks in the house guy myself. Never thought about that I don't like things on my feet. I wear them because my feet get cold easily but starting to think deeper I don't like things on my feet like sand or cat litter or things. I get it now lol love the podcast btw. Really gele like it's helping me in my personal growth to be a better partner for a woman who deserves more than what I've given.
I love this couple. So healthy and strong. I love how their love is tangible even through the screen and you can see the attraction in their eyes when they look at eachother. I grew up with shtty examples of relationships so I’m really fighting to improve myself so I’m not a remake of my parents toxicity. Specifically my mom. I catch myself acting like her, and it disgusts me. I want to be better.
Ive been working my way through you guys stuff and that hangers thing is so relatable 😂 He will put my clothes way but not my socks, underwear, or pants and I once was like 'Man why doesnt he put the hangers here when he takes a shirt off.' Funny. Love it.
Amazing as always. My husband is now getting into your videos with me. If I am not listening to an audiobook I am listening to you guys. I enjoyed the live Patron tonight. You guys rock.
Peaches!💕you in my opinion a fantabulous lady, woman and female! I come from a shitty past also…I’m glad to have found you guys Much love and peace to you both
✨overstimulation ✨ after having my son I struggled sooo much with this and my husband didn’t understand it! He kept touching me when I repeatedly asked not to be touched but after some conversations and meltdowns on my end he got it 😂😂
So I have a very different kind of relationship from you guys. Very different. And I fucking love it. I have been binge watching these over the last few days because I love having my mind opened to new things.
I won’t say I want this. Because I just don’t. But the reality is, you have opened my eyes to some things and presented very intense thought for me that I very much appreciate. And have even learned some from y’all, including a different communication style and gave me words for “extreme accountability” which is something we practice, but never had words for.
I appreciate everything you do, and love watching this.
This video couldn’t have come at a better time because you said something very profound in your video about weaponized incompetence. I watched it yesterday and you bring up the same point today. I wanted to take the opportunity to thank you!
I’m in the Army so I wash my uniform tops turning them inside out to leave the patches on the velcro shoulders. This solidifies them onto the uniform, making them much harder to accidentally get pulled off whenever I take equipment like a ruck off for instance. It also saves me time not have to get them perfectly on the center of the pocket each time and to find where my crazy kids hid them (they’re obsessed with the patches and will play with them if they find them not attached to my uniform). If you don’t turn the uniform inside out though, the tumbling in the washing machine and dryer ding up the corners of the patches and can make them look a little messed up over time.
Well, normally Sunday night each week I do my weekly uniforms but my wife had already done it for me. When I was getting ready for work, I pulled my top out of the dryer and it was not inside out. I smoothed down the corners of the Velcro patches and they looked good still. Before I left I said to her “hey, if you wash my uniforms do you mind folding it inside out?” And explained the patches getting messed up over time. She nodded and I went through the rest of my day as normal.
When I saw your video it really put into perspective some things for me. I wanted to apologize to her and chose to wait until I could see her in person after work. I looked at her and said “I just want to say that I owe you an apology! Yesterday, you took the time to wash my uniform. You were intentional with it too, making sure to take out my pens, paper and all my other every day items out of the pockets. You went out of your way to do something nice for me and…”
Before I could finish she said “and you still complained…? HAHA!” To which I responded “YES!! I’m very sorry. I’ve been thinking about it all day and just wanted to say I’m sorry, I see you and appreciate you! Do you forgive me?”
(Side note, we are HUGE and asking for forgiveness instead of just saying sorry. We both grew up being forced to say sorry to others and giving a half ass apology through sorry never gives the other person the power over the forgiveness. Asking for forgiveness is a thing we’ve done to give the power to the one slighted to process the emotions and truly forgive. We implement this with our kids too. They’re allowed to say yes or not right now, but no within our loving family is not a permitted response)
Just seeing her body language, the way her eyes twinkled at the acknowledgment and appreciation for her efforts as I apologized was truly life changing to me. I could see the validation she so desperately craved being realized in real time and made me understand visually that despite how much I love my wife and try to express that, many times it gets lost in translation because I don’t realize that I’m neglecting the way she needs me to communicate that love to her.
We have been married 27+ years and I treat my husband very much like you treat yours. We are happy and I love it! But I always learn something from you Peaches. Old dogs can learn new tricks!
Umm I love you both. I agree on almost everything you say.
I'm 35 with 3 kids from a prior relationship. And my new bf is a father of 5 and He has full custody.
I consider all kids kinda mine....I'm just a part of the village.
I just want to day you both help me in so many ways.
You guys are awesome. I found y’all on tik tok and have been watching all your videos. You guys are awesome
The interest thing, I did the with my boyfriend. He really likes going to the gym and working out and I personally have never been a very physically active person but I have been wanting to get into shape so I asked him the other day if we could go together. We’ve gone twice now in the morning and we go on walks which he likes and I can tell that he enjoys having me do that with him.
I have to say, I am loving the dual screens
Totally not petty!! Its exhausting knowing somethings off but not knowing WHAT is wrong, and i tend to panic that its me or something i didnt notice i did.
I love your content! I just recently began watching your podcasts from the beginning. I found the gentleman podcast to be incredibly helpful, it was mostly general rules that would apply to everyyone. This one however, seemed very specific to your relationship and did not contain as many general rules that would apply to other people's relationships. Are there any more general rules or suggestions that you have to make a traditional woman in a traditional relationship better at it? Thank you🌻.
Love the disclaimer
This is such an important conversationnnnnnnnnnnnnnuh
So I heard part of your shivery podcast, I can not find it again, can you please help me? I love the feeling I got from that, it was eye opening for me
Girl I’m all about the hangers. Just leave them I’ll do it! 🤣
♡♡ Thanks you guys for putting yourselves out there.
Honestly. With Peaches first point i understood it further than communication, i think it really was 1- keep an active understanding in your every day interaction with yiur husband thag he is a person, and he may not communicate the best. So your active understandinf truly keep a good float to your marraige when yiu can stop the moment and say- what do you mean? How does that make you feel when i do/say this? (:
I truly enjoy watching y'all
I never thought a glasses chain would look so good on someone as young as you
I bring my man his plate always this hit home big time he always says iam not a good women but i do this and many other things to show him he matters😢What is his example of a good women id like to know..
😊yaaaa I was so excited to hear this podcast from her.
The dinner plate! 😂 the first time I did it my poor guy looked at me like I was insane 😂😂 then when I noticed he didn’t get his tea I just got it. Don’t ask if he wanted it just brought it to him he literally goes WHY!?! I was like you needed a drink what? He was like that’s seriously NEVER happened before. Unless we’re sitting at the table with the meal in front of us he gets served 🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️