Why Matt From Yes Theory Changed His Name: The Power of Letting Go | Know Thyself EP67
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- Опубліковано 6 чер 2024
- Matt Dahlia, cofounder of Yes Theory, discusses his reason for quitting UA-cam, and what he has gained as a result of that decision. Starting at the beginning, Matt shares his journey from entrepreneur to creating and scaling Yes Theory with his best friends. He openly discusses the challenges that came along with the success of the channel, including burnout, anxiety, and questioning if it was the right thing for him.
After making the decision to leave Yes Theory, Matt went on a journey of facing off with trauma and ultimately strengthening his ability to listen to his inner voice.
Matt also discusses some of the hardest things he has experienced, from completing an Iron Man to writing a book, he leaves us with an inspiring message to face off with the challenges and continue to choose growth.
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Timecodes:
0:00 Intro
3:17 Reflecting on Leaving Yes Theory and Writing a Book
7:39 Creating Yes Theory: Clarifying & Claiming the Life that You Want
15:54 The UA-cam Creator Burnout: Why it Happens and How to Avoid it
25:18 Facing off with Trauma & Anxiety
32:38 The Time I Yelled at God and He Answered: Listening to Your Inner Voice
43:19 Healing within Community: Our Men’s Group
54:59 Navigating the World as a Highly Sensitive Person
1:04:09 The Hardest Thing I’ve Ever Done: Writing a Book
1:14:56 What the World Needs Most: Each Other
1:22:32 André on Working with Logan Paul
1:29:30 Finding Success Without College
1:35:41 Why Matt Changed His Name
1:52:35 What’s Coming Next for Matt
1:54:24 Conclusion
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Matt Dahlia is a French-American author and entrepreneur. He is the cofounder of Yes Theory as well as Seek Discomfort, a clothing brand, and Fan of a Fan, a brand factory for creators. He has a newsletter at mattdahlia.substack.com/ where he openly shares his experiences and life lessons. He loves making up songs on the guitar and dabbles in tennis, salsa, and mountain climbing.
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I can relate in so many ways. I left a 6 figure career with 2 weeks notice and no backup plan. I was burned out, needed a change. I had been ignoring the inner voice that kept whispering, “How long can you do this?” I was living out of a suitcase while traveling almost weekly for over 10 years.
I wasn’t honoring my needs because I was holding on to a job while ignoring the signs of exhaustion and depression. My ears were no longer adjusting to cabin pressure. I had ear aches and fluid on the ear drums. At age 50 I was getting Eustachian tubes in my ears and I had lost hearing. I had ignored the obvious for at least a year because I had gotten comfortable with the pay and benefits.
That was in 2019 and I haven’t went back to the corporate world. For the first time I feel the freedom to dance to my own music.
I don’t care what my friends or family think about my career decisions or lack thereof.
You are spectacular!
So glad u took the decision to stop the burnout and relax
❤❤❤ Thanks for sharing your experience and life, I admire you , as not everyone can do what you did 🫶🏻🥰🙏fifi
I hated management consulting too!
hi this is so inspiring
Matt’s gorgeous moments of silent contemplation before answering each question is stunningly meaningful…his deep breath before speaking shows a magical reverence for his self, for Andre’ and for the humans listening. Thank You 🙏
No no, this pisses the sh!t out of me. It's like an inspired artist looking for inspiration. Dude, just talk!
Word! @@Lonelybushes
As I watched you two speak I realized that a part of me was still ashamed about that deeply connected part of myself. Even though I could live it with myself, I censored it to the outside world because I was afraid to appear „uncool“ or even weird. But after hearing you talk I suddenly felt so proud of that part and I knew that now‘s the time to show it to the world - because she needs us in our deeply connected power so much! 💕
I truly believe Matt is one of the most inspiring men in the world!
The symbolic meanings of Dahlia are: (1)New beginnings, (2)unfolding your destiny to the fullest
(3)kindness and compassion no matter what, (4)strength&tenacity (5)integrity&uniqueness
Well chosen name!!!
Also, when you pronounce Matt Dahlia, it almost sounds like "mandala", which represents the spiritual journey, starting from outside to the inner core, through layers! 👋😇🏵
WOW, this has to be one of the BEST interviews you have done, for me personally, I 1000000000% resonate with it, being a HSP, the first part of life’s journey being for everyone else, the overwhelming trauma, the awakening story, the realness, the book (currently writing and it is the hardest thing ever 😅), literally have no where to hide from yourself, THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU 🙏 both, so much! Before watching this I was doubting myself “again” as I only have one very close supporting friend, family and everyone else think I’m “crazy” because I am healing mine and their trauma, After watching this, I AM ALL IN ON MYSELF NO MATTER WHAT 🙌🏻🕊️🌿💕✨ thank you sincerely, so much, such a wild life, keep going, keep speaking, keep sharing, you are not only
Inspirational, you are Aspirational, for so many 🙏 much love and gratitude 🫶
I too changed my last name. Everything Matt said resonated...evolving into more SELF, vibration of words, lineage attached to the name. I chose LOVE. I wanted my name to represent how I show up be it as Sister, Mother, Daughter, Nona, Friend, that it be with, in & through LOVE 💚💜💚
I see Matt's high sensitivity in asking questions to interviewer to engage and share the spotlight.
I've been a huge yes theory fan for years. I would say they changed my life - they opened the door of possibility for a new life & I've made so many life-long friends through the yes theory community. It's so beautiful to see Matt grow and come to this place... spiritual growth is the ultimate form of discomfort. I've been on my own journey with it and it's lovely to see people I've looked up to go on the same.
It's wonderful to see two young men sharing the vulnerabilities of life, and how that brings you into such presence with one another. Such a blessing to listen, I think even my twenties something son was listening without being too obvious about it. How great is that! Great to hear so much truth, taking ones time to express such honestly of one's self. How lovely.
Thank you for holding the space for all this wisdom and love. I have been reminded of, and learned so much about life and myself, Thank you.
This was insanely pure and therefor so comforting. You've really opened my heart by this. It changed me in a way I can't described yet. Thank you thank you for what you guys just did ❤️
Yes! Such resonant experiences and perspectives. I relate to the high sensitivity, the defining your relationship to family forward, and to the messy path of learning to trust your inner voice and that balance of heart and head. Matt, I'm totally inspired by your authenticity and evolving journey of self awareness and integration. Claiming your choices and creations. Super helpful to hear now. Great mutual connection and reflections from Andre. Thank You for your presence. Yes.
That voice at 39:30 is your hunch! Follow it.
I don’t know if it’s intentional but this video is 1.55.51 minutes.
555 represents major changes, it represents the 5th chakra or throat chakra, and Mary Magdalene for starters. Sandwiched between 11, one is of course is the Most Divine number and 11 represents awakenings and new beginnings.
There are no accidents this is a divinely guided video channeled beautifully between the 2 of you.
So much love and gratitude for the work you’re doing and the ripple effect it is having.
This whole convo hit home. This podcast inspires me to be a better human and to listen to myself more deeply. Thank you André! Thank you Matt! All the love!
Thank your for the mere act of trying to bring these experiences to the surface. It's brave, it's humbling and relatable, regardless of which profession we are in. Thank you!
So brilliant, as expected of your podcast! I couldn’t believe how much I was relating to Matt, in many ways it felt like we’re the same person. I’m highly sensitive too and my breakthrough also came when I unexpectedly unleashed some deeply embedded rage when I was alone, shouting and cussing like never before, and on the other side of it was a love and acceptance I had never felt before 🥹 I’m also really grateful Matt interviewed André for part of it haha, love learning these new surprising facts about him! I am waiting for that book André! All my love and gratitude to the both of you! 🙏💖
So happy to see Matt here 🤍I'm listening to this right away!
Love it when young men share of themselves in deep conversations! It’s authentic, refreshing, and unifying. This is true power. I’ve often thought about our lack of “rites of passage”in North American culture as being a major source of internal angst in young people. I’ve also thought about it as it relates to sending our young men and women to war…we may not even know of the emotional devastation …the trauma that is experienced by those who return from conflict, having lost themselves. A part of them hasn’t returned. I’ve often thought that this is a place for our elders (another role that has been deleted from our society), those who never were soldiers and are not affiliated with the war machine in any way, to come together and “grandfather” or “grandmother”these wounded ones by sharing a compassionate ear and another perspective…a deeper perspective that offers our wounded sanctuary…a soft place to recover and build a new life, one that isn’t being identified as a soldier, in their own unique way. That was only one iteration. Even those of us who were never pro soldiers have experienced intense conflict and combat in our lives at times. The elders guide others to answer this question: Who are you when you’ve fought the good fight, but it’s time to drop your sword?
The voice that Matt heard after he let his rage out is what I call my Constant Traveler. It’s always been my wise, constant companion, but there was too much internal noise to hear it. I found mine through a process I describe as Contemplative Writing. Now, the voice I playfully call, Sophie Rae (two different words for wisdom) is my constant travelling companion. Sometimes I get distracted, but the vast majority of the time I hear her and allow her to guide me. Bravo, Matt, for sharing your trek through the wilderness.
Honor your no’s because until you can your yes’s really have no value…profound, Andre! ❤
Completely lost myself in this conversation, it was like I was there with them. ✨ I love how Matt started interviewing Andre, he did a great job! It was really interesting to know more about Andre! ✨ Also what a wonderful person Matt is and his story is fascinating. Thank you both for that! ❤️✨
Love this! Love you guys & great job in your life of service. Much love coming your way & to every beautiful soul who reads this 😘🥰🙌🏻
Such incredible beauty in this video. Totally inspiring. Feeling the love!
Thank you for this beautiful sensitive conversation gentlemen 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Really enjoying this conversation today ❤ Blessed to connect to these moments.
Loved it! It's inspiring to see Matt embracing his sensitivity. You never got to share what happened in Hawaii, but I guess it's for part II. ;)
Bravo! Lots of these experiences deeply resonate, let’s make this a normal conversation!❤
so many shifts for me during this. thank you for sharing
Matt couldn't keep away for too long. He's back wit a vengeance now doing what he's supposed to do. Bravo bro. ty 4 vid.
I’m commenting halfway through and I want to thank you for your vulnerability.
I also want to share that I relate to your experience deeply and I’m twice your age and female. It goes to show that we’re all one in spite of our 3D meat suit. 💖🙏🏻✨
I think it’s so interesting how 2 totally different humans can have the same intense ability to read a room and deeply emotionally connect yet also share the same challenges that come with having these super powers. I’ve started a blog for the same reason. I want to give back and help but I also get completely overwhelmed with expressing myself or trying to remember all that i’ve learned about myself. I’m finding more ways to avoid than to jump in. I thrive when I’m talking to strangers. I thrive when i go outside of my familiar but when you have your own family (tribe) it’s much harder to start new. Therefore, the loneliness comes from lack of freedom to physically connect to like minded souls.
I do feel better knowing there are souls out there that completely relate. Listening to this podcast makes me want to continue to dive into the unfamiliar and inconvenient.
Matts energy is awesome
This sharing is soooo important!
Thank you for the vulnerability!
really like his way of expressing him self, so candid and authentic *
Thank you both💛🙏💛
Two wonderful human beings!!! ✨❤️✨❤️
I love your intros , makes you want to listen good job thank u för content/ Sweden ❤
Powerfull words from u guys, much love
Superb. Simply superb.
Loved it. Super relatable.
Powerful episode guys
Celebrating you Matt ☺🫶🏼
Showing up when it is inconvenient is phase 2 of phase 1 seek discomfort, I feel. Miss ya Matt. You, do you!
Another observation: a lot of people, who love to take risks, sometimes get "fragmented" (meaning: their soul-energy is no longer in one piece) I would recommend Matt to look into the Soul Retrieval modality. For example, if 8 years ago he has "left a piece of himself" in certain place, or with a person, perhaps, then after awhile he would feel "empty" somehow, and would experience some "intrusions" into his energetic field, due to the "vacant" space within.That would cause anxiety and unexplained mental stress. Every being has to be whole and complete energetically! "Keep it together, keepittogether!.. as Eddy Murphy said in the "Bowfinger"😉
(...sorry, I'll keep watching... Loving this dialog!!)
Love this. This is my first podcast here. the light on the bottom right when Andre is speaking is super distracting and bright. :) Not sure if there is a way to turn it off or turn it around :)
Here's the thing, to free yourself, do whatever you want, travelling around, explore and stuff need Money, it's easy to say that when you've got much money. Not many people get that kind of opportunity. Anyways, this is inspiring overall 🌟
Dang..as a mother of 4 HSP's WE jokingly refer to it as blessing/curse. I wish my beautiful daughter would cross paths with you. Incredible strength in vulnerability. This is also good stuff to share with my son. What a gem.
There are a lot of great guys like this legend here
he's the one I kinda fancied from yes theory
IM GOING TO FIND MY NEW EARTH BOOK BY ELKART !!!
I’M GOING TO READ IT NOW!
THANK YOU FOR THE CHANNEL!!!!💜🙋♀️💜
The biggest issue for the "high-pace" of any continuous activity is the ADRENAL EXHAUSTION!
It is a physical condition that needs to be supported carefully, and every athlete knows that they need to have an extra nutritional protocol, such as Vit.B6 /Niacinamide combo., for example.
(There're more, of course, but those nutrients are very important!) Our adrenals are a "back-up" system for the heart (electrically, as we are an electro-magnetic beings, right?!.) SO, when the adrenals are shutting down, the heart takes on the whole load. Gets tired. The result: our "heart is not into it", literally and metaphorically! We can't love anymore, loose interest - we get depressed.
Everything is connected, as we know: the body/mind/soul/spirit. Balance is the key.
(anyhow, I'm only into the 20 min. of the conversation, so - "diving in" for more!)😉😇
You've been getting some banging guests recently
thank you
Remember: being spiritual DOESN'T mean you need to believe in a religion. You CAN succeed at recovery from anything and also be agnostic or atheist. For many years, I thought I'd never get through my eating disorder issues because I couldn't believe in the kind of god that I was brought up with. But then I realized that I can define god as whatever god means to mean--I can define god as the universe in its entirety--I found peace and strength to let go.
COV#£ was AMAZZI…. I mean, brutal! 😂
In all honesty, I loved this one because it resonates so much with what I’m going through now. Letting go of my personal training business, and really just sitting in the void. Writing poetry, growing food and being content with not chasing anything. Thank you 🙏
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Hi, Andre. Please make one with Allen de Botton!!!!
Very cool, if the name change doesn't work out, just change it back. Thank you.
“Sensitivity IS COOL!” 🙏
Bruh ,when I see Matt and I hear him speak I feel an instant connection…so I google his bday and sure enough we are almost bday twins. Both Aries . 27 th and 28th. Although ,strangely my mom would always celebrate my bday on the 28th for most of life .until I got older and saw on my birth certificate it said 27th not 28th. 🙃
HAHAH November 19th is my birthday I feel so honored :D
you got to get Darius J Wright on this channel. Solid dude.
Incridible how you guys describe a true relationship with God. Matt, if you ready this, theres much more from that, seriously read proverbs 1 chapter by day through 1 month. I bet my life God wont talk to you. Please be aware of Him
I love them chairs, what are they, where are they from?
Would be so interesting to look at the yes theory guys' Human design charts! Matt is probably a 3/5 profile or 1/3. What do you think?
❤❤❤ Awesome 🤩 Thank You 🙏🫶🏻🥰fifi
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Bashar: Play with the clay.
The truth is on one is able to work with Thomas who is a evil, so this guy left but his brother came in tommy who caused hassle and had to leave so his brother came back. Loads of issue there ammar found a boyfriend and Thomas brought this useless guy Stefan to keep control over business
Need to balance with more female voices.
lol
@@nabilrise1551 🙄
It's interesting sitting here listening and repetitive things I hear is " fuck it, im going all in" or let's go all in, and I'd live to hear a conversation unpacking the "all in" - I understand that looks different for everyone but I also feel that it's a buzz word or statement that gets thrown out there to build the hype and motivator or whatever you wanna call it, but like I said, I would LOVE to hear what that literally involves, the gritty, the ugly, the basic boring, the actual reality of that. Just a curious thought as I listen and go back to listening to this episode 🫶🏽
Just wow. And thank you. To you both. Have felt so connected to Matt for so long through Yes Theory because of his joy, connecting with other so open heartedly and his sharing about anxiety. Specially depersonalization and his horrible experience with marijuana. I had a similar horrible experience and he was the first person I’d ever heard to share about it. I thought I was going crazy. And can’t thank him enough for sharing about his experience. And how much it helped me. Truly. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🤍🤍🤍