This video is incredibly vulnerable and something I've been terrified to post. Remember to be kind to yourself and others during these challenging times. Live with empathy and support those around you. Don't give up hope that we will get through this, because we will and we will be stronger because of it.
It’s okay to share your feelings even though it may be hard sometimes. The reality is that sometimes you need to share your emotions to get better and that’s okay Molly. ❤️
So perfectly put. I both love and hate when people tell me how strong I am just because I have chronic pain. Because I know when they say those things, they're saying they're not as strong as me. And that is simply not true. We all have our burdens.
Omg right. My sister in law had cancer this year (horrible but she's good). Meanwhile I've been fighting with an avm, avf and seizures in my brain for 14 yrs and family has acted like I'm good no worries because its not the C word.
True, but having enough $ helps. Those with enough $ can likely access services they need for all sorts of life issues. But, true, anxiety and depression are practically universal among all socioeconomic levels. The problem is that life in the US is expensive! There arent any great social services. People must pay out of pocket for everything they have. They must secure their own safety net. Its crazy how people that seem monetarily secure in the US can be easily wiped out if one, or more snaggles hit. This would be a huge topic to cover regarding culture and economics blah blah so thats all I will say.
@@Starry_Night_Sky7455 I think theres a study that shows that money stops correlating with happiness at around the $250k salary mark. It's not that many makes you happy, but having enough money removes the vast majority of lives stresses.
@@Starry_Night_Sky7455 It's not always the case, my dad spent like a month hospitalized because of his depression and he is a doctor who can afford any treatment (and was seeing a therapist, taking meds and everything) yet he still can't fully recover... sometimes it's such a deep problem that no money can get you out...
@@TheAwesomes2104 Much below that, it's around 50k (saw the study, too). If you can spend 10,000 or 20,000 every month does not make a lot of difference any more.
You just said in one sentence what took me a page to say! Lol! It makes me sooo angry that people think because I’m not poor I should be happy because you know- the more money you have the less chance of having mental illness🤨. I’ve had severe depression and anxiety for most of my life. My brain doesn’t care how much money I have!
Molly, As a dad of 3. Who was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. Who has no hope of remission. I’m here to tell you. It’s ok to feel hurt, sad, and in pain. Don’t feel guilty. Hurt is hurt no matter who you are or how privileged you are. In 2020 my whole world has been taken from me. Thank you for being open and honest. You are a inspiration to many, and even in times like these. When all you have is to be honest about what you are going through. It is super helpful for you to share. For you to let it off your chest, and for others who might find hope. Keep being you!
My dad was in exactly the same position as you a few years ago. He died a year ago, leaving me and my mum and younger brother. He was really worried about how we would cope when he was gone - I don't know if this is the same for you too or not. But just in case it is, I don't know if there's anything I can say to make this easier, and obviously the circumstances of our lives are probably very different, but just know that even though it hurts like hell and things aren't at all the same we are muddling through and so will your kids. I'm sorry if this is crossing a boundary but I hope it brings you a bit of peace. ❤️
you know what absolutely boggles my mind? that healthy people exist. Genuinely healthy people. No mental illness, no physical illness, no chronic illness. Just healthy. what a life that must be.
I was just discussing something similar with a friend of mine, "You know there are people out there who can experience something and it just...doesn't determine how their entire day is going to go? I wonder what that's like...." #mentalillness
but then again, people get attack. I see a lot of influencer that clearly have a good life and they are living fun stuff and people tell them that they are tone deaf and that they shouldn't do the things that they do. Is so annoying.
Hurt people hurt people. People have always gotten jealous of others they perceive to have much more positivity if they're in a negative space, nothings changed but its ruining public platforms. You can never please everyone so live for yourself and do what you think is best for yourself because people are gonna hate whether you decide to show what an amazing time you're having or what struggles you're currently having and you explaining just well, you. We get brainwashed in society to think our service is more important than our mind and wellbeing. Physical health is just as important as mental health and I think society fixates on the physical more cause so much of us are fucked up lol and don't know how to fix our internal problems. Work on your worth and forgiving. Lastly, emotions are always valid no matter what degree of struggle you're in. Also the more negatively you think about something the more of it you'll attract, so be careful!
@@nicoleroberts3304 I couldn’t agree more. Everyone goes through good and bad times. Influencers often post only the good side so people perceive them as living a perfect life.
You would never tell someone who got good news "there are people having babies and getting engaged, there are people way happier than you" all emotions are valid, regardless of what your relative situation is
All pain is valid. Even the richest person in the west can experience existentialist pain:) but I hope you would visit my channel and judge my pain, the pain of not being able to afford your education though being a person who is passionate, nay, crazy about knowledge. Judge whether it was the most valid pain for a blind person who is mercilessly being faced with challenges.
@@kirdot2011 There's a lot of people in the world who had it arguably harder. But I guess good for you, that you can't imagine it. Maybe a little naive though
"Thank god, I can't be the only one that's crying every single day." That hit me deep. I've been feeling that for a while. Thank you for being human, Molly.
I honestly needed to hear that a lot. I have had a lot of hardships this year and the most recent being my grandfather died of COVID-19. I am so glad you posted this video. I honestly think you should post more videos like this more often. We are always here for you Molly. Thanks for be so honest. I love you
Me to I feel like I’m being selfish every time I cry because I know some people have it so much worse which makes me even sadder and it becomes a cycle
One of my favorite Carrie Fisher quotes: "I am mentally ill. I can say that. I am not ashamed of that. I survived that, I'm still surviving it, but bring it on."
We have a saying in Germany :"Geteiltes Leid ist halbes Leid." and in this situation you could say "Geteilte Last ist halbe Last." it means "A shared burden is a half burden.". So sharing this with us means that each of us is carrying a small bit of your burden so you don't have to carry it alone and crying doesn't mean that you are weak it just shows how strong you are. It also shows that you are a human. A beautiful, strong and loving human. You've got this :) :) :)
Ikr ? I hate how crying is seen as being weak, especially the saying "boys don't cry",(repressing feelings is actually really bad for your mental and physical health), crying is just your body releasing pain from the mind and showing pain to others just speaks volumes about how much you trust them.
I love the German language they have such nice idioms 💓 I worked with a older German chef for years and we were best buds despite him being 50+ and me being a 20 yr old dishwasher :) He used to say to me that there was a German saying of ‘someone you could steal horses with’ and how that described our ‘partners in crime’ relationship because in a stressful kitchen you need someone you can rely on 😂 I miss you Wolf!! 😂😂
molly talking about how everyones pain is valid and you dont have to feel bad about it because other peoples pain is “worse” is something i think i and a lot of people really needed to hear. especially this year, thank you molly.
“All pain is valid” thank you Molly. This is the opposite of “think about the people who have it worse than you” and that is the worst thing to say to someone who’s hurting and sad.
All pain is valid. Even the richest person in the west can experience existentialist pain:) but I hope you would visit my channel and judge my pain, the pain of not being able to afford your education though being a person who is passionate, nay, crazy about knowledge. Judge whether it was the most valid pain for a blind person who is mercilessly being faced with challenges.
I agree. And I'm very happy to see someone say it. In my opinion, personal pain should never be compared because we're all unique beings and we all deal with something in life and we all deal with it on our own way. So good to have people like Molly here
@@theenlightenedarab8081 not really. Not always. a rich person whining about having the most expensive ship and a poor person crying over dying of hunger aren’t the same things. I don’t feel sad for rich people who get money by hurting others.
Tbh, people admitting they aren’t okay gives me more hope than those who paint the picture of perfection on social media. Why? Because it tells me I’m (we) not alone and I can keep going.
@@loveshell6945 Also, it can feel very isolating and that isolation makes things worse. I don’t ever want anyone else to suffer, but knowing you’re not alone in how you feel makes things easier to tackle...at least for me.
Don't you ever give up your privacy for your audience, you deserve the same boundaries as the rest of us. Do not feel bad that there are things you don't want to tell us.
I agree 100% with this. We have no more right to her information just because she has choosen to be on UA-cam and she has no responsibility to her fans to share things she doesn’t want to. I feel bad for those in the public eye that are going through severe mental health struggles and the pressure to continue to put out content and perhaps don’t feel like they don’t have a chance to breathe.
wow... I can't tell you how much I appreciate your belief in my video and it's purpose. I've quite possibly never struggled more to post a video in my 6 1/2 years on UA-cam so it means a lot that you believe it's important and meaningful.
Oh my gosh I never thought Molly Burke would’ve actually see this let alone reply to it!!! I’m freaking out right now!!! This made my day. Watching your videos have given me great relief these past few months. Happy New Years btw 🥳🥳
@@MollyBurkeOfficial Of course it's meaningful! Mental health still isn't talked about openly enough and you are making a difference in many people's lives 💖
As my youth leader said, "We're all in the same storm, not necessarily the same boat." By helping each other build and maintain our boats and understanding which boats people come from is how we get through the storm. Make a little ship blockade against the storm I guess. To everyone reading this, you are much more wonderful and amazing then you could ever dream. Someone out there has a similar boat. ❤️❤️❤️
As a mental health counselor I want to thank you for being so vulnerable and open with your audience. This pandemic has touched us all as human beings, and to know that we are all in it together is the most comforting thing we have. Thank you for talking about some of your struggles - because it might open the eyes of someone else and lead them to seek help too. I have been following you for a while now, and I love watching your videos. I am also glad you are going to be giving yourself time to rest and heal. ❤️
I got diagnosed with cancer right when the pandemic started to hit my country. Your videos helped me get through a long period of isolation I have never experienced before. Thank you for making these videos and being an inspiration to everyone!
All pain is valid. Even the richest person in the west can experience existentialist pain:) but I hope you would visit my channel and judge my pain, the pain of not being able to afford your education though being a person who is passionate, nay, crazy about knowledge. Judge whether it was the most valid pain in the planet.
i failed one class and got a C in another, when i'm used to being a "good" student. 2020 has sucked for university students with mental illness who DON'T have the pressures of any kind of celebrity, so i can't even imagine what it's like as someone with a platform who doesn't want to show the honest effects of the tragedy this year has been. I'm glad you felt confident enough to be vulnerable and honest with us, and i stand with you in mental illness solidarity. I have severe clinical depression, complex-ptsd with ocd tendencies like yourself, and moderate anxiety, along with ADHD. This year took my grandfather and my great-grandfather from me. So I hope 2021 brings healing and good things for all of us, not because things are going to magically improve the second it hits midnight, but because we as a society deserve more togetherness and healing than ever.
Are you doing online classes for the first time? Because if thats the case ESPECIALLY don't beat yourself up (even though you shouldn't anyway, you did what you could and you'll do better next time!!) because the first time I took online classes....I failed them all. I was a good student too and it wrecked me but its just not my learning style and thats not something anyone can choose. So if that happens to be the case, remember that! xoxo
This was beautifully said. There will be much healing for you. I'm rooting for you girl, you got this. I'm sorry for your loss, they are now watching over you and will see you succeed in whatever it is you want for yourself. *hugs*
I cried all throughout the video, the constant repetition that “all pain is valid” sent me through a whirl wind of emotions, and I appreciate how transparent she is and unknowingly helping many with her words
I DID THE SAME THING like wow really all ive done is sit on the couch and then im like wait shut up you literally got a masters degree what are you talking about lol
I feel the exact same way, I got my masters degree this year but it feels like I did nothing because I have been at home writing my thesis since january
I was the same, like "this year sucked". Then I realized i finished university from molecular biology with red diploma, got engaged to the love of my life, found a meaningful job in gene therapy developement, with help of my parents we progressed on buying a land and building a house, moved temporarily for working days away from my partner and our dog ... It was just SOOOO many changes that it is really hard to stay on top of them
I lost both my parents this summer so to say it’s been a painful year for me is an understatement. But your pain is just as valid as mine and anyone else’s. Sending you prayers and good thoughts.
My dad passed in November very suddenly and violently and then couldn't even hug anyone for support so I definitely feel your pain *hugs*. If you need someone to talk to please feel free to reach out to me on instagram (just because I rarely check my youtube notifications) at @chronicallyvegann
"All pain is vaild" im crying... molly you're such a beautiful person it breaks my heart to see you cry i just wanna hug you 😭😭 do NOT feel bad, because youre so right all pain IS valid. Were here for you ❤
Please don't feel too bad about not feeling good. Its a Part of life, and honestly you inspire me by always going.. doesn't have to always be forwards.. but going.
"Saying you can't be sad because someone has it worse than you do is like saying you can't be happy because someone has it better than you do." All experiences are valid. They are just simply different. ♥
WAS THAT THE CAT I WAS HEARING?!?! I kept looking around my house for mine, being like, “Is someone shut in a room who wants out? Is Sebastian picking on one of the others again? Is there a stray outside that needs help?!”
“Privilege” doesn’t erase struggle. Never feel like you need to hide anything you’re going through. You have so many people, some that’ve never met you, that love you so much. Wishing a much better 2021 for you and everyone else in this world.
you don't need to put air quotes around privilege. she has talked about her having white women privlege in regards to her experiences as a blind women.
*feels like I didn’t Accomplish anything* “Girl, you got through it! That in itself was an accomplishment” THAT opened my flood gate of tears. Thank you for this. Sending all the love Molly. Thank you for being you.
"Your pain is valid" is a lesson I had to learn by the hardest. I was born with a severe physical disability, spina bifida, that affects every aspect of my life, yet people still constantly told me growing up "remember that other people have it worse!" You're right. They do. Many people with spina bifida are unable to walk. Some are paralyzed from the neck down, but only my feet are paralyzed. I could walk with a walker or crutches for the first 16 years of my life, but gradually lost the ability to walk as i got older, had more leg pain, and had to navigate a hilly college campus. Many people with SB need 100+ surgeries through their lifespan. I'm 28 and I've had 15ish surgeries. I have severe depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideation, but I've never had to be hospitalized (although it probably would have helped me) and I can manage fairly well with medication, so people believe my mental illnesses "aren't that bad" or "I'm exaggerating." I am from a privileged background, but that does not take away the profound physical challenges I have experienced and will experience for the rest of my life, the severe mental illness I fight off every day, the trauma of being bullied and harassed daily by peers as a child, the emotional abuse I experienced as a college student that still causes trust issues and anxiety in my close relationships. But still, I feel guilty for being upset by my circumstances because "others have it worse." I will make a goal in 2021 to replace the thought "others have it worse" with "my pain is valid." Thank you Molly. Your pain is valid, and I wish you all the best.
I just wanted to say that we all minimize our own pain, I think. "Just" your feet are(were?) paralyzed, but that's a big deal. Like you said SB affects every part of your life. I saw a thing where someone said that if you're not allowed to be hurt or upset because someone ekse has it worse, than only 1 person has the "right" to be sad. It's not healthy to be positive all the time, everyone has issues in life. And SB causes actual physical pain and psychological because you often lose some of your independence, among other things. I know other people do have it worse than me, but that doesn't invalidate my struggle. I can be compassionate and empathetic without ignoring my own crap. Its so hard, though. From a random stranger on the internet, hang in there.
Thank you so much for that. Honestly,I feel there shouldn’t be a reason to downplay someone’s feelings like it’s not enough. Everyone going through something horrible(big or small) is valid. Take care and stay safe🙏🏻
@@C-SD I meant "just my feet" in the sense of "only my feet are paralyzed, everywhere else is not." I see your point though. My wording still minimized my issues in comparison to others' issues even as I'm saying that I try not to do that anymore. Good catch! :)
@@ginthemaid112 @place holder while i make a decision Thank you both for your kind words! From a random stranger on the internet, I wish you both the best in the new year! Stay safe and take care of yourselves. :)
I’m in tears reading this. Your pain is absolutely valid and it’s insane what you have been through. You deserve happiness and I know you can achieve it.
By opening up to us you’re helping so many people. It’s not a burden, it’s sharing life experience. We need this. So thank you. We all want to feel we’re not alone in our struggles.
Two of my friends did not make it this year. RIP to everyone that did not make it to the end of the year. One died from suicide and one died from complications to covid19. They were both 25.
Wow, deaths from both sides of what’s going on in this world. Depression from what the world has become and sickness from what has happened to this world. I’m so sorry!
I have so much respect for you for making this video. I went through a lot of pain caused by my family since I was a kid that I’ve never been able to discuss with them. All I ever hear from them on the rare occasions that I complain in front of them is “oh please, you’ve had it good,” or them listing something that they experienced that they think was worse. So I’ve never told them that I struggled with depression and crippling social anxiety for years, and they would never understand if I told them how I was emotionally neglected by them for the majority of my life. Just because you think you’ve had it worse doesn’t mean you know what someone’s going through, or that they’re not hurting as much as anyone else. Be empathetic to others who share their pain with you and never dismiss or invalidate someone else’s experiences.
I just lost my dog. She was my best friend. Didn’t pass nursing school this year after trying so hard.. single and pretty lonely.. Plus all the shit this year. I've been feeling like shit 😕😪 thank you for this video.
Jeez, I feel you when it comes to your dog. Lost 2 of my cats (lost and couldn't find them) and another one died from a disease. I lost all three of them in one month. I still cry.
I lost my service dog in June. Very sudden. She was fine on Thursday, and died Sunday morning. 💖💔 I lost my cat, she was 14. I lost 3 pet mice, who each died in less than a week. I think the whole litter was sick, but OMG. My uncle Passed away in his sleep during summer. Was fine all day, and died in his sleep. At least we could have a memorial at the gravesite. I feel bad for grieving families now that the weather is so cold. Yep. Even without covid my 2020 would have sucked, but it made things 100X worse, by separating me from my supporters and family.
I lost my dog because she was attacked by another dog 😔 So sudden. It was so traumatizing and my family hasn't been okay since.. this all just happened & it's been heartbreaking especially given the times. My cousin lost her cat a month ago.. My best friend lost her two cats within days apart. What is this? I feel like everyone is going through things. We can't cheer each other up cause everyone is going through shit but at least we understand each other more and be more kind to one another. I'm sorry reading the sad stories. But we got this guys! We can all do this! ❤ ugh its hard so hard right now but we have to hang in there 💕💕💕 we got this!
i've struggled with multiple different mental illnesses since the age of 3 and i am currently 22. i can't imagine what you're going through mentally, but i want you to know that your strength and honesty in sharing this is so appreciated. sending you so much love, molly
Like Cherry Valence said in The Outsiders: “I’ll tell you something, Ponyboy, and it may come as a surprise. We have troubles you’ve never even heard of. You want to know something? Things are rough all over.” Even though it seems like someone has it better or worse than you, everyone is always going through something, things are rough all over.
Thank you for sharing this! I love that book so much it genuinely changed my life, I’m grateful you decided to type this comment I needed that reminder 💜
@@Eriey3 I know! It’s defiantly the beast book I’ve ever read, and I love the movie as well. I’ve always wanted to see what it would be like when my dad was a kid, and I feel like I do when I read/watch the outsiders (also karate kid too)
On of the biggest lies anxiety and depression tells us that we have to hide our struggles or we’ll be a burden. You pushed through it and told us, that is incredibly hard to do. I know from experience. I’m proud of you. You already know, but I’ll repeat again: You will get through this. Hang in there.
I was diagnosed with anxiety at the age of 6, at the age of 15 with depression and an eating disorder (I am 27 now) and last year with PTSD. It`s okay to be not okay and crying is sometimes healing. Thank you for sharing your strugles.
She’s so brave and beautiful. When Molly was talking about mental illness, it made me feel so much better when she said it was okay. And I really appreciate her saying all pain is valid, because I really try to live by that.
@@MollyBurkeOfficial You are a pillar of hope for me. But what gives me hope is that you are struggling but have so much hope and that you know that we will all get through this.
Perspective and pain are relative. What might feel like the end of my world, might not feel that way for you and vice versa. Be gentle with your self and celebrate accomplishments, big and small. I hope you find whatever it is you are looking for.
As a health professional we get taught pain is proportionate. If a child crys at scrubbed knees. That is the worst pain their nervous system has ever experienced. Everyone's tolerance and chemistry is different. To one person something is painful, to others something is easy and there are so many factors. Your pain and emotions are individual and real and valid. I feel pain too right now. We are in this together 🐝
I relate so much to crying everyday. Feeling like it’s just one thing after another. Feeling so sad, irritable, unmotivated. I’m praying this ends sooner then later and everyone can start healing from all of this ❤️
I started crying before I clicked on this video. I don’t have anyone to talk to, but I’m so glad you are talking about this. I hope you have someone you can talk to about everything. Sending virtual safe hugs.
I needed to see this video. I live alone, I’m single as well so I’m lonely. I have amazing family... but I can’t see them. I am grateful that my job has not been affected, and that I have a roof over my head. But it was already lonely and depressing before the pandemic. And this has only heightened it to the Max. I’m strong, but some days I just want to throw in the towel.
You literally have the same story as me. Single,lonely...luckily still working. But haven't been able to do anything this year. We just have to work through it and work on ourselves!
Oh Molly. I met you right before the pandemic at Zurich airport and it made my day. It makes me sad that you are sad. But at the same time you gave me hope and made me feel less alone. I will never forget this hug I got from you. And I feel very close to you, thank you for making me feel less alone. Love!
I honestly appreciate you uploading a video being vulnerable, & saying you’re not okay. I’m not okay. A lot of people aren’t okay, and... that’s okay ♥️ Personally makes me feel a little less alone in it.
All pain is indeed valid and shouldn’t be judged by someone having it “worse” 🤍 Thank you for sharing, Molly, you’ve got this and things will eventually fall into place 🤍🤍🤍
@Caramel Cupcake Is there much point in feeling guilt? Apologise if you can, tell them that you know their pain is just as valid and I’m sure they’ll understand because we all suffer in different ways. And if you acknowledged that you’ve invalidated your friend’s pain, Molly has done her job in educating someone ☺️ Hope your pain lessens soon enough 🤍
I really needed to hear “all pain is valid” because I’m constantly invalidating myself. Your video made me feel so much better about myself. We love you molly 💜
Molly, it's ok. We all have struggles. You have always been such a beacon of light, you are so strong, but you are also human. We understand, and we are here. Everyone should be able to share their struggles, and if they don't want you to share that, they are ignoring the fact that *you are human.* You have struggles, like everyone, we are here, and you will come out the other side, and we will help you through it.
You are a pillar of hope *because* you are so honest. Your pain makes me feel hopeful that I will overcome where I am now in order to meet new pain and grow from that too. You are incredible and you will find so much more happiness in your future 💕
Crying doesn’t mean someone is weak, it means that person was strong enough to handle pain for a long time We love you molly and we appreciate you sharing this with us
Oh Molly, I am a 60 year young grandma. I watch you're videos because of you're honesty. I admire who you are. You are a light on this planet. I am sorry for you're pain. I am hugging you. You are so very loved.
This women has helped me through so much of my life. I’m so happy I found your videos . never stop you help so many people and you don’t even know it ! All love keep your head up
I think so many people don't talk about depression because they feel that they somehow don't have the right to be depressed in the first place. There will always be people who have it worse than you, but there will always be people who have it better. Neither side negates what you are going through. Molly, thank you for sharing this! It's so important to talk about. I hope everyone has a Happy Healthy New Year!
mollly, this is powerful. everything you feel is as valid as those who look up you. thank you for sharing, feel what you need to feel and continue supporting all those that support and love you
It’s helpful to see this. I’ve also wondered why everyone is saying it’s been a tough year even though they seem to not be struggling to hold it together like I am, or wondering why we’re not then leaning on each other more. Hearing only a fraction of your year, even before this video, I thought, “Of course you’re struggling! That’s so much to deal with!” And yet I struggle to validate myself too, even though it’s been a similarly difficult year.
If you can’t validate yourself, I will. Girl, I don’t know your story, but I know you have been through hard things. You are allowed to be sad and angry and emotional over these things. You’ll get through this. 💕💕
I think people are saying it because if they don't it feels... insensitive af. If I'm being honest, 2020 wasn't my worst year. Overall it was actually a pretty good year for me. I've always been struggling with anxiety but the pandemic forced me to stay home where I am most comfortable and basically gave me the excuse i needed to just...RELAX. All the pressure I felt to get over my anxiety was just gone because things were out of my hands. I still have struggles, I still randomly get anxiety or literally wake up after 3 hours of sleep because of it. But overall, my mental health improved some just because of the pressure that was taken off my shoulders. Another great thing that happened to me was reconnecting with an old friend and starting my own podcast. Those things have brought me a lot of joy and the podcast gave me some direction in life. But if I talk to someone like you who had a horrible year and say 2020 hasn't been so bad, wouldnt it be so insensitive? You'd either think I'm joking or an asshole. So the default is just to say that 2020 has been a tough year because even if that isn't true personally, it's true for *most* people. Even if they didn't have to worry about finances or food, no one can see family or friends.
“When your heart is broken..it let’s the light in”, Molly you are so strong, stronger than you think. Don’t ever feel like you can’t take time for yourself, it’s ok to take that time for you. You are so brave for making and posting this video, I’m sure it will help many.... you’re not alone. 🤍
Being privileged doesn’t mean you can’t have problems. Everyone has to deal with their own stuff, even if your problems don’t seem “as bad” as others, they are still hard to get through. Mental health is not a competition :)
Love you so much Molly 💕 You have been very open and genuine this year. I hope you’re not too hard on yourself for feeling like you have been keeping anything from your fans. As a dedicated viewer I have heard you bring up a lot of your struggles mentioned here, perhaps not with a dedicated video, but those really paying attention have heard you express yourself all year long and we’ve been thinking of you, and rooting for you. You’re amazing and I hope your 2021 is a wonderful year for growth and love. 💕
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All pain is valid. Even the richest person in the west can experience existentialist pain:) but I hope you would visit my channel and judge my pain, the pain of not being able to afford your education though being a person who is passionate, nay, crazy about knowledge. Judge whether it was the most valid pain in the planet.
I recently just lost my kitten around Christmas, which has sent my depression to spike like crazy. I related to some of this video. You are never a burden. I enjoyed watching this video even though it made me sad.
Oh Molly. I can’t tell you how much I’ve felt this way. I am a lucky person, I live in a good area and don’t need to worry about money. My family is healthy and I have so many blessings. Yet I cry almost every day, I feel lonely and lost. I struggle to stay positive though everyone else has it worse. It seems, like you put it, that so many little bad things that make days bad. I feel like even you have so many more things to feel sad about than I do. It’s comforting to hear again that everyone deserves to let themselves feel sad or alone.
I was clinically dead in April after a suicide attempt. It's been a constant struggle for me this year. But I've made it this far! I'm hoping to keep surviving. Your videos have definitely helped. There's no reason to feel shame for mental illness. Depression is a constant struggle. I will be thinking about you and sending good vibes!
I hope things will get better for you and that healing will come your way and that you can keep surviving, just know you are never alone and asking for help doesn't make you weak :)
It's a lot. Not a little. It might be just little to someone else but that someone else isn't living your life and honestly that sounds like hell of big deal to me. Be proud of yourself. And keep going. 😊
This. All of this. I lost both my parents this year and also found my boyfriend of six years was living a double life and got married to another girl who he was apparently dating at the same time. Being alone and unable to be surrounded by family and friends has been the hardest time in my entire life. I live alone with two dogs and the holidays were insanely difficult. Just want to give a shout-out to everyone going through terrible struggles and keeping up the fight. Here’s to a new year and a new start. Edited: typo
I’m so sorry you’ve had to endure all of that. What a terrible sense of betrayal you have had to deal with. Praying for you. Know that you are loved with the most powerful, Divine love.
Oh my word I can't believe you've gone through that. You're incredibly strong, and you're better than people who take advantage of you. You're beautiful, forgive those who wrong you, and you'll be beautiful on the inside 💞
U got through it good job I got through my dad almost dying my grandma died and then not being able to see my uncle and cousins for now 3 or 4 years the pandemic added on to it and then moving this year and crying my eyes out because I hate moving it feels like u loss everything for a bit and its not fun. For me it doesn't seem like that many bad things compared to other peoples , but really TO EVEYONE IN THE WORLD GOOD FUCKING GOOD
“Your pain is valid” is the first step in empathy. Thank you for this ♥️ this short phrase will bring such comfort to myself and others. Validation and recognition are powerful in not feeling alone and being supportive ♥️
Molly talking about everyone around you being in pain and no one having the ability or the energy to lift the others up, is exactly my family these days and I said this exact thing a few days. It's a very difficult thing to live through.
Molly, thank you for being so honest and open! I am a puppy raiser and a medical doctor and I also struggled with depression over the last year and you’re right, I felt so guilty about being sad because I felt I was being ungrateful or not appreciating what I DID have. I can relate to you in si many ways and it does make it so much better to know that I am not the only who’s crying every day. I love your videos and seeing you really motivates me as a puppy raiser to keep working hard with my puppy so that he can hopefully hope someone like your guide dogs have helped you!! 🖤🖤🖤🖤
I got my doctorate in February and am still jobless. Hopefully, this part-time customer service job works out it's my best option. I feel like I have been gutted this year. I still have to be strong and lead my family and press on. Mental health struggles since I was 13. The struggle is real. I hope to see relief soon, too.
This is surprisingly my first year in a while without having a really bad panic attack. I think it is because my baby brother was born this year. Never give up, Molly. Anxiety and depression is hard. You are an amazing person.
"Your pain is valid" is something I have to remind myself often. "What have you got to be depressed about?" is one of the worst things someone could possibly say to me (it makes me feel weak, as in: other people can cope with stuff, why can't I?) and yet it's something I subconsciously tell myself all the time. Thanks for the reminder. I love this and I love you for being so open with it.
I totally agree. When friends and family tell me "just choose to be happy" and, like you said, "you have nothing to be depressed about". It makes me even more depressed, because I tell myself that they are right and now there's something REALLY wrong with me because I'm depressed about nothing. I do "choose to be happy", but it just masks my actual feelings and is exhausting.
Molly: I don’t want to be complaining Me: girl you are being open and honest witch is so amazing and I think people should learn to be able to do! don’t EVER let anyone make you feel like a burden because you AREN’T🥰
@@BronzeBombers13 That isn’t AT ALL what she meant. You took “I don’t want to burden you with more...” AS “I am a burden....”? Wow, I’m at a loss for words...
Thank you Ms. Molly Burke! I have mental health issues and I love some amazing people who also do. I love that you brought up all pain is valid. Thank you for sharing and being present for those of us who haven't heard it yet. They haven't heard that it's ok to not be ok, and that they aren't alone. As a young person, I didn't hear from anyone famous saying what you're saying. We didn't even have you tube. Thank you for having courage to share your gift of sharing with us!
I really felt this, I haven't left the house really since march. I've accomplished basically nothing. My binge and stress eating has been at an all time high, I've put on 45 pounds. My depression is horrible. Even though our struggles are different, I recognized your pain and saw my own. Thank you for being so vulnerable, I feel this so much.
Thank you. Thank you so so much for posting this Molly. This year has been so hard for me and my mental health, I felt like I was the only one ho regressed and needed more help than before.
Never feel guilty for being "privileged" yet airing out your grievances! It doesn't matter if you have a great job, a boyfriend, etc, you are still going through a lot of shit! I'm honestly really grateful you made this video because there were times that I'd be watching your videos while having a mental breakdown, wondering how you seem so okay when my life was crumbling around me. While I hate seeing you in pain, I'm glad I'm not alone in this. Sending you so much love
This video is incredibly vulnerable and something I've been terrified to post. Remember to be kind to yourself and others during these challenging times. Live with empathy and support those around you. Don't give up hope that we will get through this, because we will and we will be stronger because of it.
Molly you are so inspiring
Thank you for sharing ❤️
You are so inspiring, and I hope that you feel inspired too
It’s okay to share your feelings even though it may be hard sometimes. The reality is that sometimes you need to share your emotions to get better and that’s okay Molly. ❤️
So proud of you Molly! Your videos gave me strength during this year! 😊
"Just because the person next to you is in a full body cast, that doesn't mean that your broken arm doesn't hurt"
So perfectly put. I both love and hate when people tell me how strong I am just because I have chronic pain. Because I know when they say those things, they're saying they're not as strong as me. And that is simply not true. We all have our burdens.
I love this! Xx
Thank you 😭
That's what I always say. Your feelings are not invalid just because someone has it worse than you.
Omg right. My sister in law had cancer this year (horrible but she's good). Meanwhile I've been fighting with an avm, avf and seizures in my brain for 14 yrs and family has acted like I'm good no worries because its not the C word.
Anxiety and Depression doesn’t discriminate on wealth.
True, but having enough $ helps. Those with enough $ can likely access services they need for all sorts of life issues. But, true, anxiety and depression are practically universal among all socioeconomic levels. The problem is that life in the US is expensive! There arent any great social services. People must pay out of pocket for everything they have. They must secure their own safety net. Its crazy how people that seem monetarily secure in the US can be easily wiped out if one, or more snaggles hit. This would be a huge topic to cover regarding culture and economics blah blah so thats all I will say.
@@Starry_Night_Sky7455 I think theres a study that shows that money stops correlating with happiness at around the $250k salary mark. It's not that many makes you happy, but having enough money removes the vast majority of lives stresses.
@@Starry_Night_Sky7455 It's not always the case, my dad spent like a month hospitalized because of his depression and he is a doctor who can afford any treatment (and was seeing a therapist, taking meds and everything) yet he still can't fully recover... sometimes it's such a deep problem that no money can get you out...
@@TheAwesomes2104 Much below that, it's around 50k (saw the study, too). If you can spend 10,000 or 20,000 every month does not make a lot of difference any more.
You just said in one sentence what took me a page to say! Lol! It makes me sooo angry that people think because I’m not poor I should be happy because you know- the more money you have the less chance of having mental illness🤨. I’ve had severe depression and anxiety for most of my life. My brain doesn’t care how much money I have!
Molly, As a dad of 3. Who was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. Who has no hope of remission. I’m here to tell you. It’s ok to feel hurt, sad, and in pain. Don’t feel guilty. Hurt is hurt no matter who you are or how privileged you are. In 2020 my whole world has been taken from me. Thank you for being open and honest. You are a inspiration to many, and even in times like these. When all you have is to be honest about what you are going through. It is super helpful for you to share. For you to let it off your chest, and for others who might find hope.
Keep being you!
🙏🙏🤗🤗🤗so sorry your going through this hugs prayers sent xx
Sending huge love, hugs, prayers!
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My dad was in exactly the same position as you a few years ago. He died a year ago, leaving me and my mum and younger brother. He was really worried about how we would cope when he was gone - I don't know if this is the same for you too or not. But just in case it is, I don't know if there's anything I can say to make this easier, and obviously the circumstances of our lives are probably very different, but just know that even though it hurts like hell and things aren't at all the same we are muddling through and so will your kids. I'm sorry if this is crossing a boundary but I hope it brings you a bit of peace. ❤️
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you know what absolutely boggles my mind? that healthy people exist. Genuinely healthy people. No mental illness, no physical illness, no chronic illness. Just healthy. what a life that must be.
i feel happy and healthy at the moment but nothin is permanent unfortunately
I’m a believer that healthiness is a state of being and never a state of permanent identity like we use the word. And it’s a spectrum.
I was just discussing something similar with a friend of mine, "You know there are people out there who can experience something and it just...doesn't determine how their entire day is going to go? I wonder what that's like...." #mentalillness
I feel this so hard
IKR?!
Just because we are privileged doesn’t mean we don’t have problems. Everyone does.
but then again, people get attack. I see a lot of influencer that clearly have a good life and they are living fun stuff and people tell them that they are tone deaf and that they shouldn't do the things that they do. Is so annoying.
I agree. We ALL have different struggles.
Others bad experiences don't negate your own
Hurt people hurt people. People have always gotten jealous of others they perceive to have much more positivity if they're in a negative space, nothings changed but its ruining public platforms. You can never please everyone so live for yourself and do what you think is best for yourself because people are gonna hate whether you decide to show what an amazing time you're having or what struggles you're currently having and you explaining just well, you. We get brainwashed in society to think our service is more important than our mind and wellbeing. Physical health is just as important as mental health and I think society fixates on the physical more cause so much of us are fucked up lol and don't know how to fix our internal problems. Work on your worth and forgiving. Lastly, emotions are always valid no matter what degree of struggle you're in. Also the more negatively you think about something the more of it you'll attract, so be careful!
@@nicoleroberts3304 I couldn’t agree more. Everyone goes through good and bad times. Influencers often post only the good side so people perceive them as living a perfect life.
You would never tell someone who got good news "there are people having babies and getting engaged, there are people way happier than you" all emotions are valid, regardless of what your relative situation is
Love this, Mary! Such a good point and great way to look at it.
Wow. So true
I've never heard this comparison before and I absolutely love it. Definitely will be using it. Thanks for posting!
All pain is valid. Even the richest person in the west can experience existentialist pain:) but I hope you would visit my channel and judge my pain, the pain of not being able to afford your education though being a person who is passionate, nay, crazy about knowledge. Judge whether it was the most valid pain for a blind person who is mercilessly being faced with challenges.
dang what a statement! I'm going to remember this for the rest of my life
“All pain is valid”
You are so right Molly. No matter who you are or how your life is, or who has it harder than you, pain is pain.
I can't imagine anyone who has had it harder than Molly.
@@kirdot2011 you can’t? Uh-
@@kirdot2011 There's a lot of people in the world who had it arguably harder. But I guess good for you, that you can't imagine it. Maybe a little naive though
I murdered 7 people now I'm in pain cos I'm in prison
That pain wouldn't be valid
"Thank god, I can't be the only one that's crying every single day." That hit me deep. I've been feeling that for a while. Thank you for being human, Molly.
I honestly needed to hear that a lot. I have had a lot of hardships this year and the most recent being my grandfather died of COVID-19. I am so glad you posted this video. I honestly think you should post more videos like this more often. We are always here for you Molly. Thanks for be so honest. I love you
Me to I feel like I’m being selfish every time I cry because I know some people have it so much worse which makes me even sadder and it becomes a cycle
One of my favorite Carrie Fisher quotes: "I am mentally ill. I can say that. I am not ashamed of that. I survived that, I'm still surviving it, but bring it on."
We have a saying in Germany :"Geteiltes Leid ist halbes Leid." and in this situation you could say "Geteilte Last ist halbe Last." it means "A shared burden is a half burden.". So sharing this with us means that each of us is carrying a small bit of your burden so you don't have to carry it alone and crying doesn't mean that you are weak it just shows how strong you are. It also shows that you are a human. A beautiful, strong and loving human. You've got this :) :) :)
Love that, so true ♥️
Ikr ? I hate how crying is seen as being weak, especially the saying "boys don't cry",(repressing feelings is actually really bad for your mental and physical health), crying is just your body releasing pain from the mind and showing pain to others just speaks volumes about how much you trust them.
I love the German language they have such nice idioms 💓
I worked with a older German chef for years and we were best buds despite him being 50+ and me being a 20 yr old dishwasher :)
He used to say to me that there was a German saying of ‘someone you could steal horses with’ and how that described our ‘partners in crime’ relationship because in a stressful kitchen you need someone you can rely on 😂
I miss you Wolf!! 😂😂
I love that! The burden does feel lighter after being vulnerable w friends
That is such an amazing phrase. Thank you for sharing.
molly talking about how everyones pain is valid and you dont have to feel bad about it because other peoples pain is “worse” is something i think i and a lot of people really needed to hear. especially this year, thank you molly.
I agree I needed to hear this
Its not a game about who has it the worst, like the first episode of go on. But it just is.
“All pain is valid” thank you Molly. This is the opposite of “think about the people who have it worse than you” and that is the worst thing to say to someone who’s hurting and sad.
All pain is valid. Even the richest person in the west can experience existentialist pain:) but I hope you would visit my channel and judge my pain, the pain of not being able to afford your education though being a person who is passionate, nay, crazy about knowledge. Judge whether it was the most valid pain for a blind person who is mercilessly being faced with challenges.
I agree. And I'm very happy to see someone say it. In my opinion, personal pain should never be compared because we're all unique beings and we all deal with something in life and we all deal with it on our own way. So good to have people like Molly here
@@theenlightenedarab8081 not really. Not always. a rich person whining about having the most expensive ship and a poor person crying over dying of hunger aren’t the same things. I don’t feel sad for rich people who get money by hurting others.
Tbh, people admitting they aren’t okay gives me more hope than those who paint the picture of perfection on social media. Why? Because it tells me I’m (we) not alone and I can keep going.
Because misery loves company. We don’t want to be miserable alone. It’s the ugly truth.
@@loveshell6945 Also, it can feel very isolating and that isolation makes things worse. I don’t ever want anyone else to suffer, but knowing you’re not alone in how you feel makes things easier to tackle...at least for me.
@@kyliedunmire7280 Yes I know. You just verified what I said.
Don't you ever give up your privacy for your audience, you deserve the same boundaries as the rest of us. Do not feel bad that there are things you don't want to tell us.
I agree 100% with this. We have no more right to her information just because she has choosen to be on UA-cam and she has no responsibility to her fans to share things she doesn’t want to. I feel bad for those in the public eye that are going through severe mental health struggles and the pressure to continue to put out content and perhaps don’t feel like they don’t have a chance to breathe.
Absolutely! Idk when we decided that being a public figure means you don't get privacy anymore.
About a month ago I just laid in bed sobbing and screaming “I don’t know what to do anymore” at the top of my lungs. You’re among friends.
This should legitimately be on the trending page right now.
wow... I can't tell you how much I appreciate your belief in my video and it's purpose. I've quite possibly never struggled more to post a video in my 6 1/2 years on UA-cam so it means a lot that you believe it's important and meaningful.
Oh my gosh I never thought Molly Burke would’ve actually see this let alone reply to it!!! I’m freaking out right now!!! This made my day. Watching your videos have given me great relief these past few months. Happy New Years btw 🥳🥳
100%!!!
I agree. More people should see they aren’t the only ones struggling
@@MollyBurkeOfficial Of course it's meaningful! Mental health still isn't talked about openly enough and you are making a difference in many people's lives 💖
As my youth leader said, "We're all in the same storm, not necessarily the same boat."
By helping each other build and maintain our boats and understanding which boats people come from is how we get through the storm. Make a little ship blockade against the storm I guess.
To everyone reading this, you are much more wonderful and amazing then you could ever dream. Someone out there has a similar boat. ❤️❤️❤️
Wow that’s such a great quote. It’s so true.
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I love the aspect of that quote. The storm makes so much sense
As a mental health counselor I want to thank you for being so vulnerable and open with your audience. This pandemic has touched us all as human beings, and to know that we are all in it together is the most comforting thing we have. Thank you for talking about some of your struggles - because it might open the eyes of someone else and lead them to seek help too. I have been following you for a while now, and I love watching your videos. I am also glad you are going to be giving yourself time to rest and heal. ❤️
We got you Molly. It’s ok to cry. We are here for you to talk to. You got this. We love you. ❤️
Yes I agree!
Thank you for liking my comment, Molly. I just wanted you to know that we are here for you.
I got diagnosed with cancer right when the pandemic started to hit my country. Your videos helped me get through a long period of isolation I have never experienced before. Thank you for making these videos and being an inspiration to everyone!
Proud of you bestie. ❤️🎆
you are not burdening us, your honesty is always welcomed
I give you a 🤗
Thank you for being vulnerable, you are strong and give me hope. I feel your pain.
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yeah she isn't a burdening she is a great human.
@@brokenalex3304 Right. When all else fails, hope can shine when you believe in it, Molly.
All pain is valid. Even the richest person in the west can experience existentialist pain:) but I hope you would visit my channel and judge my pain, the pain of not being able to afford your education though being a person who is passionate, nay, crazy about knowledge. Judge whether it was the most valid pain in the planet.
i failed one class and got a C in another, when i'm used to being a "good" student. 2020 has sucked for university students with mental illness who DON'T have the pressures of any kind of celebrity, so i can't even imagine what it's like as someone with a platform who doesn't want to show the honest effects of the tragedy this year has been. I'm glad you felt confident enough to be vulnerable and honest with us, and i stand with you in mental illness solidarity. I have severe clinical depression, complex-ptsd with ocd tendencies like yourself, and moderate anxiety, along with ADHD. This year took my grandfather and my great-grandfather from me. So I hope 2021 brings healing and good things for all of us, not because things are going to magically improve the second it hits midnight, but because we as a society deserve more togetherness and healing than ever.
Are you doing online classes for the first time? Because if thats the case ESPECIALLY don't beat yourself up (even though you shouldn't anyway, you did what you could and you'll do better next time!!) because the first time I took online classes....I failed them all. I was a good student too and it wrecked me but its just not my learning style and thats not something anyone can choose. So if that happens to be the case, remember that! xoxo
This was beautifully said. There will be much healing for you. I'm rooting for you girl, you got this. I'm sorry for your loss, they are now watching over you and will see you succeed in whatever it is you want for yourself. *hugs*
I cried all throughout the video, the constant repetition that “all pain is valid” sent me through a whirl wind of emotions, and I appreciate how transparent she is and unknowingly helping many with her words
I was thinking today “wow I really accomplished nothing this year”... I really forgot I graduated from college lmfaooo
UM, congratssss!
I DID THE SAME THING like wow really all ive done is sit on the couch and then im like wait shut up you literally got a masters degree what are you talking about lol
Lol same!! Graduate December 20th but didn't walk. Feels like it didn't happen 😂
I feel the exact same way, I got my masters degree this year but it feels like I did nothing because I have been at home writing my thesis since january
I was the same, like "this year sucked". Then I realized i finished university from molecular biology with red diploma, got engaged to the love of my life, found a meaningful job in gene therapy developement, with help of my parents we progressed on buying a land and building a house, moved temporarily for working days away from my partner and our dog ... It was just SOOOO many changes that it is really hard to stay on top of them
*i’m sending an abundance of love, light, & healing energy to everyone reading this* 🦋🦋🦋
So sweet 💜
Thank you
Your amazing too.
I thought u said sending an ambulance 😬
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I love when you said “no matter what you’re going through, your pain is valid.” Love and hugs from Houston 🖤
Something I’ve been telling all my patients is just because things could be worse, doesn’t mean you don’t deserve better.
That's amazingly said! Your patients are very lucky to have you. I hope you're doing well today💜
I lost both my parents this summer so to say it’s been a painful year for me is an understatement. But your pain is just as valid as mine and anyone else’s. Sending you prayers and good thoughts.
I cannot express my condolences. My heart goes out to you 100X over. Love and prayers to you.
My dad passed in November very suddenly and violently and then couldn't even hug anyone for support so I definitely feel your pain *hugs*. If you need someone to talk to please feel free to reach out to me on instagram (just because I rarely check my youtube notifications) at @chronicallyvegann
@@MollyBurkeOfficial thanks so much sweetheart!!
@@Mary-op8hi so so sorry for your loss and thanks so much. Sending you good vibes and virtual hugs.
"Your pain is valid" you dont know how much that helped me , you just literally told me the key to life
"All pain is vaild" im crying... molly you're such a beautiful person it breaks my heart to see you cry i just wanna hug you 😭😭 do NOT feel bad, because youre so right all pain IS valid. Were here for you ❤
“The only one who can truly satisfy the human heart is the one that made it”
I totally agree.
Please don't feel too bad about not feeling good. Its a Part of life, and honestly you inspire me by always going.. doesn't have to always be forwards.. but going.
"Saying you can't be sad because someone has it worse than you do is like saying you can't be happy because someone has it better than you do."
All experiences are valid. They are just simply different. ♥
That is so wonderfully put
Lavender being like “MOMMY WHY YOU CRY?” was so cute! My cat does the same thing when I’m crying.
Sometimes I feel like my cat doesn't like me and then I cry and she immediately just goes "HELLO I LOVE YOU GIVE PETS"
God loves you!
Guinea pigs are surprisingly gentle and sweet when their owners are depressed or anxious
WAS THAT THE CAT I WAS HEARING?!?! I kept looking around my house for mine, being like, “Is someone shut in a room who wants out? Is Sebastian picking on one of the others again? Is there a stray outside that needs help?!”
My success in 2020 was that I was able to get off my anti-depressants finally! Thank you for sharing, Molly.
“Privilege” doesn’t erase struggle. Never feel like you need to hide anything you’re going through. You have so many people, some that’ve never met you, that love you so much. Wishing a much better 2021 for you and everyone else in this world.
you don't need to put air quotes around privilege. she has talked about her having white women privlege in regards to her experiences as a blind women.
Privilege erases a lot of the most brutal struggles. Just not all of them.
*feels like I didn’t Accomplish anything*
“Girl, you got through it! That in itself was an accomplishment” THAT opened my flood gate of tears. Thank you for this. Sending all the love Molly. Thank you for being you.
Exactly, I needed to hear that too. Take care!
Thank you for sharing. The best thing my therapist ever said to me was, "It's okay to not be okay".
"Your pain is valid" is a lesson I had to learn by the hardest. I was born with a severe physical disability, spina bifida, that affects every aspect of my life, yet people still constantly told me growing up "remember that other people have it worse!" You're right. They do. Many people with spina bifida are unable to walk. Some are paralyzed from the neck down, but only my feet are paralyzed. I could walk with a walker or crutches for the first 16 years of my life, but gradually lost the ability to walk as i got older, had more leg pain, and had to navigate a hilly college campus. Many people with SB need 100+ surgeries through their lifespan. I'm 28 and I've had 15ish surgeries. I have severe depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideation, but I've never had to be hospitalized (although it probably would have helped me) and I can manage fairly well with medication, so people believe my mental illnesses "aren't that bad" or "I'm exaggerating." I am from a privileged background, but that does not take away the profound physical challenges I have experienced and will experience for the rest of my life, the severe mental illness I fight off every day, the trauma of being bullied and harassed daily by peers as a child, the emotional abuse I experienced as a college student that still causes trust issues and anxiety in my close relationships. But still, I feel guilty for being upset by my circumstances because "others have it worse." I will make a goal in 2021 to replace the thought "others have it worse" with "my pain is valid." Thank you Molly. Your pain is valid, and I wish you all the best.
I just wanted to say that we all minimize our own pain, I think. "Just" your feet are(were?) paralyzed, but that's a big deal. Like you said SB affects every part of your life. I saw a thing where someone said that if you're not allowed to be hurt or upset because someone ekse has it worse, than only 1 person has the "right" to be sad. It's not healthy to be positive all the time, everyone has issues in life. And SB causes actual physical pain and psychological because you often lose some of your independence, among other things. I know other people do have it worse than me, but that doesn't invalidate my struggle. I can be compassionate and empathetic without ignoring my own crap. Its so hard, though. From a random stranger on the internet, hang in there.
Thank you so much for that. Honestly,I feel there shouldn’t be a reason to downplay someone’s feelings like it’s not enough.
Everyone going through something horrible(big or small) is valid. Take care and stay safe🙏🏻
@@C-SD I meant "just my feet" in the sense of "only my feet are paralyzed, everywhere else is not." I see your point though. My wording still minimized my issues in comparison to others' issues even as I'm saying that I try not to do that anymore. Good catch! :)
@@ginthemaid112 @place holder while i make a decision Thank you both for your kind words! From a random stranger on the internet, I wish you both the best in the new year! Stay safe and take care of yourselves. :)
I’m in tears reading this. Your pain is absolutely valid and it’s insane what you have been through. You deserve happiness and I know you can achieve it.
I can't imagine realizing that you're losing your mobility like that, so stressful. I'm so sorry :(
By opening up to us you’re helping so many people. It’s not a burden, it’s sharing life experience. We need this. So thank you. We all want to feel we’re not alone in our struggles.
I really needed a little molly today girl be real. I come here for real ness not fake positivity
Two of my friends did not make it this year. RIP to everyone that did not make it to the end of the year. One died from suicide and one died from complications to covid19. They were both 25.
So sorry for your loss 🙁.
I'm so very sorry 😞💔
I am so very sorry. Blessings to you. How horrible.
I'm so sorry for your losses ❤
Wow, deaths from both sides of what’s going on in this world. Depression from what the world has become and sickness from what has happened to this world. I’m so sorry!
I have so much respect for you for making this video. I went through a lot of pain caused by my family since I was a kid that I’ve never been able to discuss with them. All I ever hear from them on the rare occasions that I complain in front of them is “oh please, you’ve had it good,” or them listing something that they experienced that they think was worse. So I’ve never told them that I struggled with depression and crippling social anxiety for years, and they would never understand if I told them how I was emotionally neglected by them for the majority of my life.
Just because you think you’ve had it worse doesn’t mean you know what someone’s going through, or that they’re not hurting as much as anyone else. Be empathetic to others who share their pain with you and never dismiss or invalidate someone else’s experiences.
I just lost my dog. She was my best friend. Didn’t pass nursing school this year after trying so hard.. single and pretty lonely.. Plus all the shit this year. I've been feeling like shit 😕😪 thank you for this video.
Jeez, I feel you when it comes to your dog. Lost 2 of my cats (lost and couldn't find them) and another one died from a disease. I lost all three of them in one month. I still cry.
Sending you love and hugs (pending consent)
My 18 year old cat had to be put down :( it’s been a hard year.
I lost my service dog in June. Very sudden. She was fine on Thursday, and died Sunday morning. 💖💔
I lost my cat, she was 14.
I lost 3 pet mice, who each died in less than a week. I think the whole litter was sick, but OMG.
My uncle Passed away in his sleep during summer. Was fine all day, and died in his sleep. At least we could have a memorial at the gravesite. I feel bad for grieving families now that the weather is so cold.
Yep. Even without covid my 2020 would have sucked, but it made things 100X worse, by separating me from my supporters and family.
I lost my dog because she was attacked by another dog 😔 So sudden. It was so traumatizing and my family hasn't been okay since.. this all just happened & it's been heartbreaking especially given the times. My cousin lost her cat a month ago.. My best friend lost her two cats within days apart. What is this? I feel like everyone is going through things. We can't cheer each other up cause everyone is going through shit but at least we understand each other more and be more kind to one another. I'm sorry reading the sad stories. But we got this guys! We can all do this! ❤ ugh its hard so hard right now but we have to hang in there 💕💕💕 we got this!
i've struggled with multiple different mental illnesses since the age of 3 and i am currently 22. i can't imagine what you're going through mentally, but i want you to know that your strength and honesty in sharing this is so appreciated. sending you so much love, molly
Like Cherry Valence said in The Outsiders: “I’ll tell you something, Ponyboy, and it may come as a surprise. We have troubles you’ve never even heard of. You want to know something? Things are rough all over.”
Even though it seems like someone has it better or worse than you, everyone is always going through something, things are rough all over.
YES!!!
Thank you for sharing this! I love that book so much it genuinely changed my life, I’m grateful you decided to type this comment I needed that reminder 💜
@@Eriey3 I know! It’s defiantly the beast book I’ve ever read, and I love the movie as well. I’ve always wanted to see what it would be like when my dad was a kid, and I feel like I do when I read/watch the outsiders (also karate kid too)
Love the Outsiders for many reasons; thanks for the reminder!
Love this book I read it 10 times and love the movie
On of the biggest lies anxiety and depression tells us that we have to hide our struggles or we’ll be a burden.
You pushed through it and told us, that is incredibly hard to do. I know from experience. I’m proud of you.
You already know, but I’ll repeat again: You will get through this. Hang in there.
I was diagnosed with anxiety at the age of 6, at the age of 15 with depression and an eating disorder (I am 27 now) and last year with PTSD. It`s okay to be not okay and crying is sometimes healing. Thank you for sharing your strugles.
Hope you’re doing better :)
Hang in there thinking about you
"all pain is valid. No matter what place you come from in life". Thank you Molly, something we all need to hear
She’s so brave and beautiful. When Molly was talking about mental illness, it made me feel so much better when she said it was okay. And I really appreciate her saying all pain is valid, because I really try to live by that.
Thank you
@@MollyBurkeOfficial You are a pillar of hope for me. But what gives me hope is that you are struggling but have so much hope and that you know that we will all get through this.
@M. P. you too
Perspective and pain are relative. What might feel like the end of my world, might not feel that way for you and vice versa. Be gentle with your self and celebrate accomplishments, big and small. I hope you find whatever it is you are looking for.
Honey girl, THANK YOU. I’ve watched you grow up for the last two years and now YOU’RE TEACHING ME
I hope seeing your dad lifted a little bit of the dark cloud around you, Molly. We're all in this together!
It really did.
As a health professional we get taught pain is proportionate. If a child crys at scrubbed knees. That is the worst pain their nervous system has ever experienced. Everyone's tolerance and chemistry is different. To one person something is painful, to others something is easy and there are so many factors. Your pain and emotions are individual and real and valid. I feel pain too right now. We are in this together 🐝
I relate so much to crying everyday. Feeling like it’s just one thing after another. Feeling so sad, irritable, unmotivated. I’m praying this ends sooner then later and everyone can start healing from all of this ❤️
I started crying before I clicked on this video. I don’t have anyone to talk to, but I’m so glad you are talking about this. I hope you have someone you can talk to about everything. Sending virtual safe hugs.
A Carr load we can talk :)
I am here too talk be your support if you need
I hope 2021 brings some good things to you :)
I needed to see this video. I live alone, I’m single as well so I’m lonely. I have amazing family... but I can’t see them. I am grateful that my job has not been affected, and that I have a roof over my head. But it was already lonely and depressing before the pandemic. And this has only heightened it to the Max. I’m strong, but some days I just want to throw in the towel.
I am single and live alone too! Sending virtual hugs your way!
You literally have the same story as me. Single,lonely...luckily still working. But haven't been able to do anything this year. We just have to work through it and work on ourselves!
Also single and living alone. I’ve never felt so lonely. I understand how you feel. Hope it gets better. ❤️
Oh Molly. I met you right before the pandemic at Zurich airport and it made my day. It makes me sad that you are sad. But at the same time you gave me hope and made me feel less alone. I will never forget this hug I got from you. And I feel very close to you, thank you for making me feel less alone. Love!
I honestly appreciate you uploading a video being vulnerable, & saying you’re not okay. I’m not okay. A lot of people aren’t okay, and... that’s okay ♥️ Personally makes me feel a little less alone in it.
All pain is indeed valid and shouldn’t be judged by someone having it “worse” 🤍 Thank you for sharing, Molly, you’ve got this and things will eventually fall into place 🤍🤍🤍
@Caramel Cupcake Is there much point in feeling guilt? Apologise if you can, tell them that you know their pain is just as valid and I’m sure they’ll understand because we all suffer in different ways. And if you acknowledged that you’ve invalidated your friend’s pain, Molly has done her job in educating someone ☺️ Hope your pain lessens soon enough 🤍
I really needed to hear “all pain is valid” because I’m constantly invalidating myself. Your video made me feel so much better about myself. We love you molly 💜
Molly, it's ok. We all have struggles. You have always been such a beacon of light, you are so strong, but you are also human. We understand, and we are here. Everyone should be able to share their struggles, and if they don't want you to share that, they are ignoring the fact that *you are human.* You have struggles, like everyone, we are here, and you will come out the other side, and we will help you through it.
You are a pillar of hope *because* you are so honest. Your pain makes me feel hopeful that I will overcome where I am now in order to meet new pain and grow from that too. You are incredible and you will find so much more happiness in your future 💕
“Pain demands to be felt.”
- The Fault in Our Stars
All pain needs validation
Ouch. I needed to hear that but... ouch.
Crying doesn’t mean someone is weak, it means that person was strong enough to handle pain for a long time
We love you molly and we appreciate you sharing this with us
Oh Molly, I am a 60 year young grandma. I watch you're videos because of you're honesty. I admire who you are. You are a light on this planet. I am sorry for you're pain. I am hugging you. You are so very loved.
This women has helped me through so much of my life. I’m so happy I found your videos . never stop you help so many people and you don’t even know it ! All love keep your head up
I think so many people don't talk about depression because they feel that they somehow don't have the right to be depressed in the first place. There will always be people who have it worse than you, but there will always be people who have it better. Neither side negates what you are going through.
Molly, thank you for sharing this! It's so important to talk about.
I hope everyone has a Happy Healthy New Year!
Lavender was saying 'I'm here and I love you'
mollly, this is powerful. everything you feel is as valid as those who look up you. thank you for sharing, feel what you need to feel and continue supporting all those that support and love you
I love how Lavender kept seeming like she was telling molly that hey you have me it’s okay
It’s helpful to see this. I’ve also wondered why everyone is saying it’s been a tough year even though they seem to not be struggling to hold it together like I am, or wondering why we’re not then leaning on each other more. Hearing only a fraction of your year, even before this video, I thought, “Of course you’re struggling! That’s so much to deal with!” And yet I struggle to validate myself too, even though it’s been a similarly difficult year.
If you can’t validate yourself, I will. Girl, I don’t know your story, but I know you have been through hard things. You are allowed to be sad and angry and emotional over these things. You’ll get through this. 💕💕
I think people are saying it because if they don't it feels... insensitive af. If I'm being honest, 2020 wasn't my worst year. Overall it was actually a pretty good year for me. I've always been struggling with anxiety but the pandemic forced me to stay home where I am most comfortable and basically gave me the excuse i needed to just...RELAX. All the pressure I felt to get over my anxiety was just gone because things were out of my hands. I still have struggles, I still randomly get anxiety or literally wake up after 3 hours of sleep because of it. But overall, my mental health improved some just because of the pressure that was taken off my shoulders. Another great thing that happened to me was reconnecting with an old friend and starting my own podcast. Those things have brought me a lot of joy and the podcast gave me some direction in life. But if I talk to someone like you who had a horrible year and say 2020 hasn't been so bad, wouldnt it be so insensitive? You'd either think I'm joking or an asshole. So the default is just to say that 2020 has been a tough year because even if that isn't true personally, it's true for *most* people. Even if they didn't have to worry about finances or food, no one can see family or friends.
“When your heart is broken..it let’s the light in”, Molly you are so strong, stronger than you think. Don’t ever feel like you can’t take time for yourself, it’s ok to take that time for you. You are so brave for making and posting this video, I’m sure it will help many.... you’re not alone. 🤍
Being privileged doesn’t mean you can’t have problems. Everyone has to deal with their own stuff, even if your problems don’t seem “as bad” as others, they are still hard to get through. Mental health is not a competition :)
Exactly. And, privileged or not, everyone has problems.
Thank you for saying this. Pain is pain.
Love you so much Molly 💕 You have been very open and genuine this year. I hope you’re not too hard on yourself for feeling like you have been keeping anything from your fans. As a dedicated viewer I have heard you bring up a lot of your struggles mentioned here, perhaps not with a dedicated video, but those really paying attention have heard you express yourself all year long and we’ve been thinking of you, and rooting for you. You’re amazing and I hope your 2021 is a wonderful year for growth and love. 💕
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All pain is valid. Even the richest person in the west can experience existentialist pain:) but I hope you would visit my channel and judge my pain, the pain of not being able to afford your education though being a person who is passionate, nay, crazy about knowledge. Judge whether it was the most valid pain in the planet.
I recently just lost my kitten around Christmas, which has sent my depression to spike like crazy. I related to some of this video. You are never a burden. I enjoyed watching this video even though it made me sad.
I'm sorry you lost your fur baby, treasure memories of him/her.
Mental illness is REAL! My granddaughter has been dealing with severe anxiety especially now with the pandemic. Hope you find strength and peace soon
“I don’t know what’s next” was so heartfelt 💔I’m feeling the same way
Oh Molly. I can’t tell you how much I’ve felt this way. I am a lucky person, I live in a good area and don’t need to worry about money. My family is healthy and I have so many blessings. Yet I cry almost every day, I feel lonely and lost. I struggle to stay positive though everyone else has it worse. It seems, like you put it, that so many little bad things that make days bad. I feel like even you have so many more things to feel sad about than I do. It’s comforting to hear again that everyone deserves to let themselves feel sad or alone.
Your honesty makes me feel less alone. Thank you for sharing this, Molly.
I was clinically dead in April after a suicide attempt. It's been a constant struggle for me this year. But I've made it this far! I'm hoping to keep surviving. Your videos have definitely helped. There's no reason to feel shame for mental illness. Depression is a constant struggle. I will be thinking about you and sending good vibes!
Sending you so much love and healing.
I hope things will get better for you and that healing will come your way and that you can keep surviving, just know you are never alone and asking for help doesn't make you weak :)
God bless you congratulations on coming back from the end ❤️you are truly a miracle. You are truly not alone.
Thanks everyone.
Stephanie, sending you love and hugs. Things will get better!!
One of my accomplishments is that I have cried every day for a few years and this past week I’ve only cried once. It’s little but it’s also a lot
It's a lot. Not a little. It might be just little to someone else but that someone else isn't living your life and honestly that sounds like hell of big deal to me. Be proud of yourself. And keep going. 😊
This. All of this. I lost both my parents this year and also found my boyfriend of six years was living a double life and got married to another girl who he was apparently dating at the same time. Being alone and unable to be surrounded by family and friends has been the hardest time in my entire life. I live alone with two dogs and the holidays were insanely difficult.
Just want to give a shout-out to everyone going through terrible struggles and keeping up the fight. Here’s to a new year and a new start.
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I'm so sorry that happened I hope you're okay. You can get through this and be stronger than ever
I’m so sorry you’ve had to endure all of that. What a terrible sense of betrayal you have had to deal with. Praying for you. Know that you are loved with the most powerful, Divine love.
Damn dude...respect to you and lots of love....It has been hard for all of us this year...I hope you're doing better
Oh my word I can't believe you've gone through that. You're incredibly strong, and you're better than people who take advantage of you. You're beautiful, forgive those who wrong you, and you'll be beautiful on the inside 💞
U got through it good job I got through my dad almost dying my grandma died and then not being able to see my uncle and cousins for now 3 or 4 years the pandemic added on to it and then moving this year and crying my eyes out because I hate moving it feels like u loss everything for a bit and its not fun. For me it doesn't seem like that many bad things compared to other peoples , but really TO EVEYONE IN THE WORLD GOOD FUCKING GOOD
I cried with you. I cried for you. But i also cried for myself. I feel relieved that I’m not the only one. Thank you for sharing.
My tear burst when she said “you will get through it” 😥😥😥
“Your pain is valid” is the first step in empathy. Thank you for this ♥️ this short phrase will bring such comfort to myself and others. Validation and recognition are powerful in not feeling alone and being supportive ♥️
Molly talking about everyone around you being in pain and no one having the ability or the energy to lift the others up, is exactly my family these days and I said this exact thing a few days. It's a very difficult thing to live through.
Molly, thank you for being so honest and open! I am a puppy raiser and a medical doctor and I also struggled with depression over the last year and you’re right, I felt so guilty about being sad because I felt I was being ungrateful or not appreciating what I DID have. I can relate to you in si many ways and it does make it so much better to know that I am not the only who’s crying every day. I love your videos and seeing you really motivates me as a puppy raiser to keep working hard with my puppy so that he can hopefully hope someone like your guide dogs have helped you!! 🖤🖤🖤🖤
I got my doctorate in February and am still jobless. Hopefully, this part-time customer service job works out it's my best option. I feel like I have been gutted this year. I still have to be strong and lead my family and press on. Mental health struggles since I was 13. The struggle is real. I hope to see relief soon, too.
Good luck! You CAN do whatever this is you are doing/have to do!
This is surprisingly my first year in a while without having a really bad panic attack. I think it is because my baby brother was born this year. Never give up, Molly. Anxiety and depression is hard. You are an amazing person.
"Your pain is valid" is something I have to remind myself often. "What have you got to be depressed about?" is one of the worst things someone could possibly say to me (it makes me feel weak, as in: other people can cope with stuff, why can't I?) and yet it's something I subconsciously tell myself all the time. Thanks for the reminder. I love this and I love you for being so open with it.
I totally agree. When friends and family tell me "just choose to be happy" and, like you said, "you have nothing to be depressed about". It makes me even more depressed, because I tell myself that they are right and now there's something REALLY wrong with me because I'm depressed about nothing. I do "choose to be happy", but it just masks my actual feelings and is exhausting.
Molly: I don’t want to be complaining
Me: girl you are being open and honest witch is so amazing and I think people should learn to be able to do! don’t EVER let anyone make you feel like a burden because you AREN’T🥰
Thank you, love! I really appreciate it.
@@MollyBurkeOfficial glad I could send a little love your way 🥰
She isn’t saying she feels like a burden. Where did you pull that from? I’d be immensely offended from that remark!
@@loveshell6945 she literally says it at 3:52
@@BronzeBombers13 That isn’t AT ALL what she meant.
You took “I don’t want to burden you with more...” AS “I am a burden....”?
Wow, I’m at a loss for words...
YES MOLLY! THIS is the honest, empathetic, considerate video that everyone needs going into 2020. We made it!
Thank you Ms. Molly Burke! I have mental health issues and I love some amazing people who also do. I love that you brought up all pain is valid. Thank you for sharing and being present for those of us who haven't heard it yet. They haven't heard that it's ok to not be ok, and that they aren't alone. As a young person, I didn't hear from anyone famous saying what you're saying. We didn't even have you tube. Thank you for having courage to share your gift of sharing with us!
Molly this year has been SO HARD for everyone! All pain is valid, like you said. It’s okay to not be okay. Sending hugs!!!!!
I really felt this, I haven't left the house really since march. I've accomplished basically nothing. My binge and stress eating has been at an all time high, I've put on 45 pounds. My depression is horrible. Even though our struggles are different, I recognized your pain and saw my own. Thank you for being so vulnerable, I feel this so much.
Thank you. Thank you so so much for posting this Molly. This year has been so hard for me and my mental health, I felt like I was the only one ho regressed and needed more help than before.
Never feel guilty for being "privileged" yet airing out your grievances! It doesn't matter if you have a great job, a boyfriend, etc, you are still going through a lot of shit! I'm honestly really grateful you made this video because there were times that I'd be watching your videos while having a mental breakdown, wondering how you seem so okay when my life was crumbling around me. While I hate seeing you in pain, I'm glad I'm not alone in this. Sending you so much love