I'm at a point in my life where it's no longer hard for me to say No. Even me, am proud of myself. I've realized their emergency is not my priority and I'm not responsible to solve their problems, if I have it, I'll graciously do it. I confidently tell them I have debts I'm paying off and my resources can't accomodate their request at the moment. Each time I do it, I pat myself on the back. #Shalom
Black tax is not just about diaspora... Its actually any1 working and has to support his/her family when they work. It was coined in SA where parents would position themselves for kids to work and do things for them
The content of this video is so on point. As a 1st born, a lot is expected of me, but I've explained to them my situation, emergency only. These are real issues and it's commendable that you are using your channel to bring such awareness.
You are looking splendid! (Love the top). Thank you for talking about this, I saw my parents go through the demands of Black Tax growing up when Western Union (with its hefty transfer fees) pretty much held the monopoly over international remittances. I have seen that it never ends. I have obligations but have learnt to say no and make myself unavailable to people who might have expectations that I am not in a position to meet. It’s a real challenge for almost all of the African diaspora. Remittances remain the most effective form of financial support across the continent. The numbers exceed so-called development aid as well. While I am all for remittances and have seen how many lives, families etc back home have benefitted and continue to benefit from them, I must say Black tax is so very costly in so many ways.
This statement "the likelyhood one will be broke in canada than in Nigeria" Please can you throw more light. If possible can you make a video on this. Thank you so so much for always delivering valuable content. God bless you❤❤❤
I spoke a little more about it in the video. There is some leverage in Nigeria that is not available in Canada. There are options of not paying rent on time, boycotting utilities and depending on people to get by in Nigeria that is almost impossible in Canada. In Nigeria, you can start a business from the trunk of your car or the side of the road, cant happen like that in Canada. I may just make a video about it. Thanks a lot
Thank you for this video, great as usual.Marina i appreciate your consistency through the years with your videos. Frank, down to earth and informative. Keep it up. On the topic i do not do more than the ability God has given me. I never borrow to fund transfers back home.
I appreciate that! I am happy for you. Some people are so backed into a corner that they get into debt to fund lifestyles back home, which is sad really
Thank you for this video. I wish everyone back home could watch this. The expectations don't align with the reality of most people here. Most people just assume you MUST be able to afford to send large amounts..some will even make calculations for you based on the exchange rates. Forgetting that we spend dollars here and not Naira. Like you suggested, I let my family members know the true situation of things. I don't do too much explanations with outsiders. Everyone will be alright. Lol
That emotional blackmail part. I zone out when that starts. How can you have run out of goodwill with all your friends and family that me who is a total stranger on the internet is your last hope? My own charity list is long please.
On this side of my planet, Na peace o! 🤣🤣🤣. I do only what I can afford, I don’t entertain”emergency” bullying 🤣, I don’t project an image that am not , and don’t put myself under pressure. Like you said , if you die, they will migrate. Thank you much
Where is the lie ? I can totally relate to all you have said. The moment you travel abroad you become a means to an end to some. It’s always their audacity for me 😂. Anyways “GIVE BUT DONT LET IT EMPTY YOU”.
This content is giving. The mentality of 90% of Nigerians is those abroad are very rich so it is their responsibility to take care of them and children. Currently am on the hot sit, just because my husband resides in the UK automatically became a witch. I hear dont mind the wife she is behind his actions not wanting to help us. Someone even called me once to give her the private number i use in speaking to my husband. Can you imagine?
I referenced people in that specific situation in the video but you and I know that is not everyone's reality. The suffering is everywhere so we can all manage our expectations
After visiting Africa and pretending to be broke I realized they had been using me for 8 years they don't care about you they only care about what you can do for them I blocked everybody when I got to France I am building my life back and I visited a therapist I have been financially abused for almost 10 years my advice to you focus on yourself those people are users.
We Haitians face the same dilemma with our people back home, and many who come here finally realize the harsh reality we have been living in the western world.
I'm at a point in my life where it's no longer hard for me to say No. Even me, am proud of myself. I've realized their emergency is not my priority and I'm not responsible to solve their problems, if I have it, I'll graciously do it. I confidently tell them I have debts I'm paying off and my resources can't accomodate their request at the moment. Each time I do it, I pat myself on the back. #Shalom
Fantastic!!! And nobody has died abi?. I had to learn hard lessons and I have borrowed myself sense.
This is so true i got my share of the black tax two weeks after arriving in the diaspora. And i was not even done sorting my housing issue.
Wow!
Black tax is not just about diaspora... Its actually any1 working and has to support his/her family when they work. It was coined in SA where parents would position themselves for kids to work and do things for them
"We're not comparing suffering..." Preach it pls!😂
It is not suffering competition biko, lol. Thanks
The content of this video is so on point. As a 1st born, a lot is expected of me, but I've explained to them my situation, emergency only.
These are real issues and it's commendable that you are using your channel to bring such awareness.
Sending you big hugsssss
You are looking splendid! (Love the top). Thank you for talking about this, I saw my parents go through the demands of Black Tax growing up when Western Union (with its hefty transfer fees) pretty much held the monopoly over international remittances. I have seen that it never ends. I have obligations but have learnt to say no and make myself unavailable to people who might have expectations that I am not in a position to meet. It’s a real challenge for almost all of the African diaspora. Remittances remain the most effective form of financial support across the continent. The numbers exceed so-called development aid as well. While I am all for remittances and have seen how many lives, families etc back home have benefitted and continue to benefit from them, I must say Black tax is so very costly in so many ways.
Wow! Thank you for sharing this.
You hit the nail on the head. Before now I will literally squeeeeze myself but now, saying No is a lot easier. If e nor dey, e nor dey.
If e nor dey, e nor dey oooo.
I really appreciate how you speak on controversial topics like this and explain both sides for better understanding, it is really helpful. 💯❤
Many thanks 😊
Another Greattttttttt video from Marina!!! This makes too much sense!!! Thanks for all your great work Marina. More Grease to your elbows!!!!
You're so welcome!
This statement "the likelyhood one will be broke in canada than in Nigeria" Please can you throw more light. If possible can you make a video on this. Thank you so so much for always delivering valuable content. God bless you❤❤❤
I spoke a little more about it in the video. There is some leverage in Nigeria that is not available in Canada. There are options of not paying rent on time, boycotting utilities and depending on people to get by in Nigeria that is almost impossible in Canada. In Nigeria, you can start a business from the trunk of your car or the side of the road, cant happen like that in Canada. I may just make a video about it. Thanks a lot
Marinaaaaa…. U make sense 100% of the time. I’ve listened to you for a few years now before arriving and u still make sense. Thanks Ma’am. ❤
Much love Marina❤. Always real and on point 🙌
I love your top. Driving/sitting in the car and chatting is so therapeutic lol
Very therapeutic I tell you, lol
Can i love this video a million times plus? Thank you for this Marina.
You are welcome anytime
Thank you for this video, great as usual.Marina i appreciate your consistency through the years with your videos. Frank, down to earth and informative. Keep it up. On the topic i do not do more than the ability God has given me. I never borrow to fund transfers back home.
I appreciate that! I am happy for you. Some people are so backed into a corner that they get into debt to fund lifestyles back home, which is sad really
This is one of your frames I like the most, Marina... and that hair color! 💥
Oh thank you!
23 is very hard for people in America and Canada and Europe
Thank you for this video. I wish everyone back home could watch this. The expectations don't align with the reality of most people here. Most people just assume you MUST be able to afford to send large amounts..some will even make calculations for you based on the exchange rates. Forgetting that we spend dollars here and not Naira. Like you suggested, I let my family members know the true situation of things. I don't do too much explanations with outsiders. Everyone will be alright. Lol
Calculating exchange rates for people is so wild, lol. Thanks a lot for your input.
True matter, the emotional blackmail is real.
That emotional blackmail part. I zone out when that starts. How can you have run out of goodwill with all your friends and family that me who is a total stranger on the internet is your last hope? My own charity list is long please.
I just found you and I am so happy I did. Thank you 😘
Wonderful video. Its about time this is talked about.
I am glad to hear. Thank you
The audacity ehn I no even get mind make such/any demands from people abroad while in Nigeria
Truth is always bitter but it takes only the one who wears the show to tell how it pinches' . nice talk sis.
Thank you dear for this wonderful video
God bles you with more knowledge to share
Amen! Thank you very much
Great video Marina! You hit the nail on the head😂😂😂😂
Thank you!! 😁
On this side of my planet, Na peace o! 🤣🤣🤣. I do only what I can afford, I don’t entertain”emergency” bullying 🤣, I don’t project an image that am not , and don’t put myself under pressure. Like you said , if you die, they will migrate. Thank you much
Emergency bullying is the right word. Thank you very much.
We are working hard thanks
All the best
Where is the lie ? I can totally relate to all you have said. The moment you travel abroad you become a means to an end to some. It’s always their audacity for me 😂. Anyways “GIVE BUT DONT LET IT EMPTY YOU”.
Your last statement should be on a tshirt,lol
This content is giving. The mentality of 90% of Nigerians is those abroad are very rich so it is their responsibility to take care of them and children. Currently am on the hot sit, just because my husband resides in the UK automatically became a witch. I hear dont mind the wife she is behind his actions not wanting to help us. Someone even called me once to give her the private number i use in speaking to my husband. Can you imagine?
Whenever I hear ' his wife is controlling him', just know the man has sense and is standing up against rubbish, lol. People are so weird honestly.
I referenced people in that specific situation in the video but you and I know that is not everyone's reality. The suffering is everywhere so we can all manage our expectations
Well said 👍🏾
Thanks Canada American and Europe too thanks they always ask thanks l am in Germany
Very lovely frame
Thank you very much
After visiting Africa and pretending to be broke I realized they had been using me for 8 years they don't care about you they only care about what you can do for them I blocked everybody when I got to France I am building my life back and I visited a therapist I have been financially abused for almost 10 years my advice to you focus on yourself those people are users.
We Haitians face the same dilemma with our people back home, and many who come here finally realize the harsh reality we have been living in the western world.
The reality can be harsh. Thanks for sharing
I have learn to say no, when it is not possible. anything they want to say, the can go ahead.
Some will ask you the brands that you cannot even use here
Exactly! The audacity.
😂😂😂