You MUST have (enforced) boundaries, standards, expectations, great communication and more. It’s not wise to operate out here in the dating market and life in general without them.
Not every woman is going to want you, that’s life and trying to convince her to go out with you is a recipe for disaster, If she says no once don’t make her say it twice.
Facts. And men need to do the same once you get close to GOD and align yourself with him you’ll see women in a totally different way. You’ll only choose women for deeper reasons than just the surface (their looks)
One time I got into an altercation and the women around me saw the "monster" come out then all of a sudden those women wanted to chill with me. It felt good but I don't like being that way so I slowly started keeping my distance. Thats not me. I feel only toxic people like those types.
I was taught don’t give a woman nothing she don’t earn from you. Then you dont have to worry about being a nice guy it’s earned through her behavior with you.
@@moneysprungv5856 this is nothing but real I learned this from my pops. And also from my uncles my pops use to tell me as a kid anything I give you you’re gonna earn. He was literally teaching me to use that method on other people. So that I wouldn’t get used
No point in being bitter towards people who don’t like your authentic self. I’m a stand up guy I wouldn’t say nice I just rather treat people how I want to be treated if that’s a turn off having integrity so be it i don’t need your validation to be the person God wants me to be
That’s why you tell them F off ice cold remember there was ice cold to you in the beginning when you spoke and introduced and shot your shot nobody got time for time waster keep moving in life until you find a woman for you.
When they start to come around it’s only temporary. Once you help build their confidence/self esteem up, Once that is built up, they will discard you like hot garbage lol
Practice kindness. Not only to others, but to yourself. Part of being kind to yourself w/ women is knowing to walk away if she is not RECEPTIVE. You can be kind, AND sexy to women! If that woman doesn't choose you, she did you a favor! Stay up brothers
Some women really aren't used to being treated with decency from their fathers to their past relationships. I actually have had several women tell me this and one who was attracted to me even broke down crying and admitted to her not feeling worthy enough to date a man like me. When you realize it's often times more of them than you, you won't sweat them saying that "you're a nice guy but..."
Nice guy with boundaries is really the medium I found. I use to think i was nice..but i am probably moreso considered "Kind-Hearted" because that Nice stuff go away when im tried. I will end stuff quick.
As you said love yourself first, being a nice guy is who I am to everyone, If you take advantage of that you will have cursed yourself, so love who you are first.
There is GREAT power in walking away. You communicate so many different things at one time: you respect yourself, have confidence in yourself, value yourself above any interaction that is not favorable and a whole lot more things. 👍🏾
This is great rom and like I have said before the BIGGEST insight iv had with women is knowing who dose NOT like you, or who is not feeling you. Attraction is not a choice it's either there or not and you can make yourself miserable spending time on the wrong ones
This comment is the secret. In addition, you must watch even the ones that shows she likes you closely as you may have a clinger who has other things in mind. There are lots of people out here in the dating market that are not mentally and emotionally sound.
When she says you're a nice guy, it doesn't have anything to do with your kindness. It has to do with the fact that you're acting like a woman, which as a man, makes you unnattractive. For example, you aren't taking the lead, and you wait for her to make the decisions like where to eat or where to go on a date. Or you are passive instead of direct. Or you don't speak your mind on things, whether its about something you don't like or how good she looks. Or you're just afraid to lose her and it affects your behavior. A woman can tell, and you come off as a little boy if you have these behaviors, The solution is to be direct, decisive, take the lead, have boundaries, be honest and authentic all while being kind. When she says you're "too nice", its because you aren't being authentic, and she can feel it. If you just simply move on like you say WITHOUT understanding why you were called "nice", you'll just have the same problem with the next woman. This is why many men end up with women they aren't truly interested in, because its super easy to be your authentic self when you don't care. We don't have to do that though when you self-reflect and truly understand what happened.
facts it takes strength to walk away lots of guys are in marriage relationships friendships knowing damn well they getting played never explain yourself just leave
I never change who I am. I’m still the same person. I just put on muscle. I always had confidence always kept up on my appearance. I always smell good to be honest. I could care less what the woman think . I know you can’t force nobody But in your city you got like 200,000 people live there you telling me there’s nobody that ain’t feeling you.
I’m the same way Gym Eating right Self care All kinds of cologne Dress nice Confidence Investing money Giving back to the community Those are key factors that separate a man from the majority of men because most men are either super skinny or overweight.
Walking away is so important. Even if she does seem into you, you may have to still walk away if you start seeing those red flag behaviors. That’s really where you will be tested….if you can walk away regardless of how fine she looks but she throwing red flags out left and right.
How come Travis Hunter immediately popped in my head? As I always say be a nice respectable gentleman, but at the same time don't take no disrespect from nobody.
Thanks for the 💎 Unc. A couple of weeks ago I was talking to a coworker from a different department and there was some sort of attraction between us and one day we were discussing dating outside the workplace and keeping it professional at the work. She said you are a nice guy and are way too clean for me. I respectfully cut her off immediately and told her have a bless life. Like you said don’t waste time. I’m 40 years old I don’t have time chasing woman who don’t want me I found a new one who wants me. Like you said there are plenty of woman out there.
I had an ex that would tell me crap like “I don’t like guys that like me back” “I don’t like that your not assertive enough for me” anyways I let it be and we broke up year later. On social media she’s posting about how the streets are cold and no one cares about her and she was dealing with a cheater and this and that. She messaged me trying to be friend. I told her straight up. “I’m in love with you hopefully that scare you off😂”! I was vindicated after that.
If you a nice guy and always been don’t change for no woman….be you no matter what ,and just sharping up your game,make sure it’s always tight.at the end of the day game wins no matter if you nice or bad.
Imo, the truth of it is: most (if not all) women like certain masculine traits (like assertiveness, confidence in your skills, money dominance, strength, self-respect, success, etc, etc) in men. Unfortunately, a lot of nice guys aren't aware of that or bring those traits to the table, yet. It's on us to grow, first, improve ourselves, have some passion, goal and/or ambition(s) in life and then expect a certain type of woman. From there, we can walk away from women that aren't right for us.
Understandable but we can’t all be the same type of man. This is the top 10% men you’re talking about. Now in other countries women are a lot more realistic and look for guys that have maybe a few of those traits but can provide or similar to their dads. In the U.S women all want the same man lol and are very unrealistic
As a woman 💯, in my experience the "nice guys" aren't assertive (and all the other things you mentioned) cause they seem to be more concerned with being the "nice guy" vs getting things done. And by that definition it's extremely unattractive, to most women.
Great video!!! I use to be hurt when alot of attractive women do me wrong. So a old timer seen me heart broken over these females and he told me don't worry the next bus will pick you up that stuck with me for many years. And help me. Thank you Ed.
You can’t teach an Old Dog new tricks unfortunately. If she wasn’t brought up by her father to respect not only her self but men in general then there is nothing that your kindness will do to convince her to treat you well. We all accept the love we think we deserve.
Just think about this. Guys Don’t be a nice guy be a good guy. You don’t ever have to be a bad boy or carry those tendencies just be a real man and be authentic and become the best version of yourself trust me you gone see these type of women coming a mile away.
lol most wont even look your way or wont play with you because they know better its like repellant i had to understand that instead of thinking they hate me or im doing something wrong
@ facts bro and trust me when you get body game. A lot of people get intimidated. Some men. Women and children too lol. Silence , masculinity and semen retention is a few of our greatest assets as men
@@garthyahudahandrews8504 they are it’s not enough masculine men in this world so when you are one you praised I volunteer with children I see the difference I make in their lives
@@PuddyKatMan love bombing me, talking negative about others, always playing victim, manipulation, using back hand comments, just something in my spirit told me something is not right
Great vid I learned this to little to late but hopefully the young men take heed. I will say at least some women are being honest about not wanting or portraying the damsel in distress and hopefully if more will be honest that will help the nice guys avoid them
Love yourself to save yourself for the one that's coming to you with stability, respects, and has the qualities you seek. These track stars aren't worth giving them quality time.
Most women don't like nice guys until they are around 25+ and no longer attracted to toxic men. It's sad but true. Dont change your personality for anyone!!! If you're a nice guy don't change!!!
Every situation is different, only engage in romantic relationships with people who prove they like you and respect you in a romantic way. Exception: my friend asked his co-worker out 12 times and 12 times she said no, he asked her a 13th time and he said go out with me once and if you don't have a good time I promise I'll never call you again. He was 20 years her senior, today they're happily married with two children.
If she told you that then don’t waste your time she looking at your story because she know you probably gonna try to hit her up again. It’s a old trick women use as bait
Here's the conundrum: from puberty to the age of 30 most girls/women don't like nice guys. My advice is don't let the woman you want to date know you're nice until after you've slept with her. It works.
What are you guys thoughts on having obsessive intrusive thoughts about your woman’s past. Never had this happen before but I’m hoping it goes away. She’s an older single mom, a part of me is saying that it’s my inner man that just can’t accept this. But I’m really fond of this woman.
When it comes down to dating black women you have to look a certain way type of way or be a Mr good bar if you don’t have these traits it’s over for you
most nice guys are actually nice. they don’t mean no harm. if a man or woman doesn’t like them….something off about that person. nice ppl are the optimists…the glass half full type of ppl. they know life is hard and try to view the positive.
Eating my chicken breast and greens 🥬 while watching the OG 🔥 but i had women who aint like me at first but then when they conversated with me they changed they mind! But then again idc, i just love talking to women in general wether they like me or not, its fun regardless, jokin around, flirting, all dat😌🔥 guys theres billions of women in the world
This all goes back to the saying “only like the women who like you” cause those girls never called me a nice guy
I wouldn’t even say Nice guys.
I’d say a stable, disciplined man who lives a drama free life with set boundaries.
You MUST have (enforced) boundaries, standards, expectations, great communication and more. It’s not wise to operate out here in the dating market and life in general without them.
@@IWantMyVisionBack a disciplined man definitely sets boundaries
I'm an old dog learned a long time ago in college that if a woman just calls you for a favor cuz your the nice guy
That's all your gonna be used for.
I will take this theory further: Walk away from anyone who don't like nice guys.
Or better yet, walk away from ANYONE who doesn't respect you at all.
Good Game
Not every woman is going to want you, that’s life and trying to convince her to go out with you is a recipe for disaster, If she says no once don’t make her say it twice.
Facts a big mistake
More like men dodge a bullet
Like you said in one of your recent videos. Women like men who are a reflection of her. Men need to understand this & stop complaining.
Facts. And men need to do the same once you get close to GOD and align yourself with him you’ll see women in a totally different way. You’ll only choose women for deeper reasons than just the surface (their looks)
I thought it was opposite attract 🤔
@ in some cases that’s true but overall the woman need to be aligned with you are trying to align with you
One time I got into an altercation and the women around me saw the "monster" come out then all of a sudden those women wanted to chill with me. It felt good but I don't like being that way so I slowly started keeping my distance. Thats not me. I feel only toxic people like those types.
I was taught don’t give a woman nothing she don’t earn from you. Then you dont have to worry about being a nice guy it’s earned through her behavior with you.
I like this philosophy
That's some wisdom right there
@@moneysprungv5856 this is nothing but real I learned this from my pops. And also from my uncles my pops use to tell me as a kid anything I give you you’re gonna earn. He was literally teaching me to use that method on other people. So that I wouldn’t get used
Facts. If she doesn’t want to hangout/go on a date with you, move on 💯
No point in being bitter towards people who don’t like your authentic self. I’m a stand up guy I wouldn’t say nice I just rather treat people how I want to be treated if that’s a turn off having integrity so be it i don’t need your validation to be the person God wants me to be
I agree. The only problem is they want to come around after being used and abused.
That’s why you tell them F off ice cold remember there was ice cold to you in the beginning when you spoke and introduced and shot your shot nobody got time for time waster keep moving in life until you find a woman for you.
@sluggo832003: No problem at all. Don't fall for the reach back. If a woman didn't want you in her prime, don't bail her out in her decline.
I can’t be angry or bitter towards them we will all make mistakes but I’m not here to save them I’m not The Most High God
When they start to come around it’s only temporary. Once you help build their confidence/self esteem up, Once that is built up, they will discard you like hot garbage lol
And what do you mean by “used and abused”?
“Nice guys” finish last because women don’t know what’s good for them.
Great content as always Uncle Rom! 🙏🏾
Practice kindness. Not only to others, but to yourself. Part of being kind to yourself w/ women is knowing to walk away if she is not RECEPTIVE. You can be kind, AND sexy to women!
If that woman doesn't choose you, she did you a favor! Stay up brothers
Agreed. If she can't handle being treated decently then leave immediately. It's simple, go where you are wanted and that goes for both men and women
No one's talking about Women.....
@@FinanceAristocracyEven still, women also need to have self-respect.
Some women really aren't used to being treated with decency from their fathers to their past relationships. I actually have had several women tell me this and one who was attracted to me even broke down crying and admitted to her not feeling worthy enough to date a man like me. When you realize it's often times more of them than you, you won't sweat them saying that "you're a nice guy but..."
Its a thousand you's ttheres only one of me - Kanye
Be the "Chill Guy"
Silence is power just lay back and chill the women that want you gone draw to you
@@righteousmasculinePowerful.
Nice guy with boundaries is really the medium I found. I use to think i was nice..but i am probably moreso considered "Kind-Hearted" because that Nice stuff go away when im tried. I will end stuff quick.
Exactly having integrity and treating people how you wanted is such a lost concept people confuse it for weakness
I like just how simple the wisdom is. Things are always more simple than we think. It’s almost funny.
Some woman call you nice because you didn’t make a move 💯
As you said love yourself first, being a nice guy is who I am to everyone, If you take advantage of that you will have cursed yourself, so love who you are first.
Yup the best thing to do is walk away. Ive been learning that for a few years.
There is GREAT power in walking away. You communicate so many different things at one time: you respect yourself, have confidence in yourself, value yourself above any interaction that is not favorable and a whole lot more things. 👍🏾
@PuddyKatMan you are 100 percent right
This is great rom and like I have said before the BIGGEST insight iv had with women is knowing who dose NOT like you, or who is not feeling you. Attraction is not a choice it's either there or not and you can make yourself miserable spending time on the wrong ones
This comment is the secret. In addition, you must watch even the ones that shows she likes you closely as you may have a clinger who has other things in mind. There are lots of people out here in the dating market that are not mentally and emotionally sound.
@@PuddyKatMana clinger ? Can you elaborate bro?
When she says you're a nice guy, it doesn't have anything to do with your kindness. It has to do with the fact that you're acting like a woman, which as a man, makes you unnattractive. For example, you aren't taking the lead, and you wait for her to make the decisions like where to eat or where to go on a date. Or you are passive instead of direct. Or you don't speak your mind on things, whether its about something you don't like or how good she looks. Or you're just afraid to lose her and it affects your behavior. A woman can tell, and you come off as a little boy if you have these behaviors,
The solution is to be direct, decisive, take the lead, have boundaries, be honest and authentic all while being kind. When she says you're "too nice", its because you aren't being authentic, and she can feel it.
If you just simply move on like you say WITHOUT understanding why you were called "nice", you'll just have the same problem with the next woman. This is why many men end up with women they aren't truly interested in, because its super easy to be your authentic self when you don't care. We don't have to do that though when you self-reflect and truly understand what happened.
facts it takes strength to walk away lots of guys are in marriage relationships friendships knowing damn well they getting played never explain yourself just leave
I never change who I am. I’m still the same person. I just put on muscle. I always had confidence always kept up on my appearance. I always smell good to be honest. I could care less what the woman think . I know you can’t force nobody But in your city you got like 200,000 people live there you telling me there’s nobody that ain’t feeling you.
I’m the same way
Gym
Eating right
Self care
All kinds of cologne
Dress nice
Confidence
Investing money
Giving back to the community
Those are key factors that separate a man from the majority of men because most men are either super skinny or overweight.
Walking away is so important. Even if she does seem into you, you may have to still walk away if you start seeing those red flag behaviors. That’s really where you will be tested….if you can walk away regardless of how fine she looks but she throwing red flags out left and right.
There are plenty of fish in the sea. As men we better work to have option. You told us " dont try too hard " thx Uncle Rom 💯
Yea, don't let women slump you into 1 category, as men we constantly evolve.
How come Travis Hunter immediately popped in my head? As I always say be a nice respectable gentleman, but at the same time don't take no disrespect from nobody.
great video for frustrated nice guys.
Thanks for the 💎 Unc. A couple of weeks ago I was talking to a coworker from a different department and there was some sort of attraction between us and one day we were discussing dating outside the workplace and keeping it professional at the work. She said you are a nice guy and are way too clean for me. I respectfully cut her off immediately and told her have a bless life. Like you said don’t waste time. I’m 40 years old I don’t have time chasing woman who don’t want me I found a new one who wants me. Like you said there are plenty of woman out there.
I had an ex that would tell me crap like “I don’t like guys that like me back” “I don’t like that your not assertive enough for me” anyways I let it be and we broke up year later. On social media she’s posting about how the streets are cold and no one cares about her and she was dealing with a cheater and this and that. She messaged me trying to be friend. I told her straight up. “I’m in love with you hopefully that scare you off😂”! I was vindicated after that.
LOL haha
😂😂😂
If you a nice guy and always been don’t change for no woman….be you no matter what ,and just sharping up your game,make sure it’s always tight.at the end of the day game wins no matter if you nice or bad.
Imo, the truth of it is: most (if not all) women like certain masculine traits (like assertiveness, confidence in your skills, money dominance, strength, self-respect, success, etc, etc) in men. Unfortunately, a lot of nice guys aren't aware of that or bring those traits to the table, yet. It's on us to grow, first, improve ourselves, have some passion, goal and/or ambition(s) in life and then expect a certain type of woman.
From there, we can walk away from women that aren't right for us.
Understandable but we can’t all be the same type of man. This is the top 10% men you’re talking about. Now in other countries women are a lot more realistic and look for guys that have maybe a few of those traits but can provide or similar to their dads. In the U.S women all want the same man lol and are very unrealistic
As a woman 💯, in my experience the "nice guys" aren't assertive (and all the other things you mentioned) cause they seem to be more concerned with being the "nice guy" vs getting things done. And by that definition it's extremely unattractive, to most women.
This is sound advice
Great video!!! I use to be hurt when alot of attractive women do me wrong. So a old timer seen me heart broken over these females and he told me don't worry the next bus will pick you up that stuck with me for many years. And help me. Thank you Ed.
If a woman ever calls me a 'Nice Guy' im just gonna walk away and not say anything.
Excellent facts. Decency is definitely a good character
You can’t teach an Old Dog new tricks unfortunately. If she wasn’t brought up by her father to respect not only her self but men in general then there is nothing that your kindness will do to convince her to treat you well. We all accept the love we think we deserve.
Receiving Something For Your Time 🔑
I wouldn't call myself a nice guy I just treat people with mutual respect
All facts!! Been there before, never again
Talking that talk uncle rom🤞🏾
Just think about this. Guys Don’t be a nice guy be a good guy. You don’t ever have to be a bad boy or carry those tendencies just be a real man and be authentic and become the best version of yourself trust me you gone see these type of women coming a mile away.
lol most wont even look your way or wont play with you because they know better its like repellant i had to understand that instead of thinking they hate me or im doing something wrong
@ facts bro and trust me when you get body game. A lot of people get intimidated. Some men. Women and children too lol. Silence , masculinity and semen retention is a few of our greatest assets as men
@@righteousmasculine all facts but i find kids and animals being friendly and trusting towards me hahah
@@garthyahudahandrews8504 they are it’s not enough masculine men in this world so when you are one you praised I volunteer with children I see the difference I make in their lives
@@righteousmasculine
Being nice isn’t a bad thing.
Luckily i dodged a bullet recently she was a narcissist met her at church thought i found a good thing but she ghosted me but was a blessing
What, if you don’t mind sharing, did you see in her to make you think she was a narcissist?
Church is full of religious people and minority follow the scriptures just want to be apart of a big club
@@PuddyKatMan love bombing me, talking negative about others, always playing victim, manipulation, using back hand comments, just something in my spirit told me something is not right
Excellent video.
The power to walk away is Power!
Value your time
Exciting danger, (vs) Boring peace,
ROM went in accurate depth on this topic.
Great video uncle rom...incredible perspective that lots of men need to hear
Great vid I learned this to little to late but hopefully the young men take heed. I will say at least some women are being honest about not wanting or portraying the damsel in distress and hopefully if more will be honest that will help the nice guys avoid them
Ron. I have to thank God for this video. It felt like you were speaking directly to me. Thank you sir.
Or better yet, walk away from anyone who doesn't respect you at all.
Love yourself to save yourself for the one that's coming to you with stability, respects, and has the qualities you seek. These track stars aren't worth giving them quality time.
And after the wild ride with the bad boy, and he moves on, she is back to square one
This! ☝️💯Peace and blessings, Uncle Rom!
Thanks Brother
I needed to hear this, sir. Thank you.
I would replace walk, with RUN, VERY FAST, and NEVER return...💯
Most women don't like nice guys until they are around 25+ and no longer attracted to toxic men. It's sad but true. Dont change your personality for anyone!!! If you're a nice guy don't change!!!
She’s still attracted to the bad boys but the bad boy don’t want her 😂
Every situation is different, only engage in romantic relationships with people who prove they like you and respect you in a romantic way. Exception: my friend asked his co-worker out 12 times and 12 times she said no, he asked her a 13th time and he said go out with me once and if you don't have a good time I promise I'll never call you again. He was 20 years her senior, today they're happily married with two children.
This is a deep perspective unc
Yo I’m glad I’m getting the game at 19 years old
This might be your best video. We appreciate you sir
Is there a difference between a nice guy and a good dude ?
OG Wills!
When she says your not her type but keeps watching your stories, and watching you when your out? 😅
You’re*
@ 🤣🤣
She's waiting for you to level up and prove her to be attached to you. Pay her no mind
@ so they can catch you at the finish line, while Pookie gets it in the meantime?
If she told you that then don’t waste your time she looking at your story because she know you probably gonna try to hit her up again. It’s a old trick women use as bait
Any women that rewards a mans bad behavior is broken
#RomTalk 🐺✅🎬💚 Another Video #SitDown #Wednesday #FreeGame #NiceGuy #ManGetsWoman #LoveYourself #RW #ManGetsWomen #CouchVideo #Relationships
Deal with a woman that brings positive vibes into your life and if she doesn't respect you walk away from her
Here's the conundrum: from puberty to the age of 30 most girls/women don't like nice guys. My advice is don't let the woman you want to date know you're nice until after you've slept with her. It works.
What are you guys thoughts on having obsessive intrusive thoughts about your woman’s past. Never had this happen before but I’m hoping it goes away. She’s an older single mom, a part of me is saying that it’s my inner man that just can’t accept this. But I’m really fond of this woman.
@@christophermurray2442
No one is perfect. People can grow. Give her a chance.
All the best!
When it comes down to dating black women you have to look a certain way type of way or be a Mr good bar if you don’t have these traits it’s over for you
When women say Im nice guy i just walk away and be aware these women aint making me a target
Be aware these women love to play game
most nice guys are actually nice. they don’t mean no harm. if a man or woman doesn’t like them….something off about that person. nice ppl are the optimists…the glass half full type of ppl. they know life is hard and try to view the positive.
💯
research the etymology of the word Nice and tell me whether or not a woman should like nice guys. i'll wait
On to the next. Yours is most likely, not like the rest.
Basically Travis Hunter's fiancée
I'm not a nice guy lol
First
She toxic lol
Eating my chicken breast and greens 🥬 while watching the OG 🔥 but i had women who aint like me at first but then when they conversated with me they changed they mind! But then again idc, i just love talking to women in general wether they like me or not, its fun regardless, jokin around, flirting, all dat😌🔥 guys theres billions of women in the world