"Look at ur self ! Why don't you change your self and stop being like that! Be like your siblings , cousin, and friend ! Theyr way more better than you! What a disappointment kid!" Kinda hurt so much becuase they think comparing us ro other kids make us change and get better! Which is wrong and it never makes you get better! Becuase comparing yourself to other people actually makes your confidence very low! Your gonna think your the only one who's not Perfect but everyone is!
This is very true I would be studying all night till like 4 am and my parents say get more sleep when they’re the ones making me do work because they are never satisfied
Sorry for saying but They are not the ones making you do it u should do smart work instead of hard work studying till 4 am ,no it won't help you .you should try to study and plan before your exams. Trust me there are 100s of ways to do efficient and effective learning
'Look at ur siblings, cousins, friends. They do much better' .. hit me hard!!!! "Why you awake till 3AM?.. this is not for your good health. " ~parents
It's not always the scolding for days or beating for not studying properly. Sometimes, few words or lines parents say unintentionally hurt you to the core..... Your videos are great and too relatable
@@thats_not_breezyshes_soo_windy literally me too...I tear up easily when someone says something not much good about me...I once almost cried infront of the whole class when the teacher was getting stressed and shouted at me when I asked for extra sheets...
“She’s only 3! Be a better role model! Do more! Jeez are you ungrateful! We don’t have enough money for that! It’s her birthday! Stop being selfish! Share your stuff! You’re too old for that/this” it hurts a lot
@@iloveadinosaur that's literally me😭 I once cried in front of the whole class when the boys were teasing me😭 That's a nightmare, and one of the reasons I don't have any friends is bcoz I'm too sensitive, I literally cry and isolate myself.
This is true, they even told me "what i said was true" well yeah im very much aware of it but you saying that is like putting salt on my wound. But well lifes go on . I love my self and im proud of me.
I wish my mom was amazing, she doesnt care abt how much i get, but when i get less the 10% i would cry but she never cheers me up but my dad does, btw we only take in my school 10/10, not more
A friend of mine’s parents would never let her get anything below an A+. I remember her coming to my house and almost having complete panic attacks. Parents need to realise that their kid isn’t perfect.
My father was the same way. Anything below an A is considered a bad grade. I can’t get an B or B+, not even an A-. If I did, it’s always to get it back up to an A or higher. Even if I said we weren’t allowed to do corrections, he’d always tell us to. And blamed us for not having hardly an graded work showed, but it wasn’t our fault that the teacher didn’t grade it until the end.
true im an 8yo almost 9 my mom always gets mad at me she hits me really hard she always want everything perfect everything right and it was pressuring me one time i was grade 2 7yo this is a night i mean a real painful night i was trying my hardest my mom kept hitting me and then she hitted me and it was a really strong one that my arm literally became red i didn't know what to do all i did was cry and my brother was also doing homework but he only gets hit a little bit but i get so many hits and also now im a 8yo life was pretty good until i started to go downhill my brother would start hitting me punching me i was too scared to tell mom also even now i still haven't told mom but one night my brother hitted me and then i started crying he told me to stop crying he got mad he hitted me again i cried again mom woke up she was shook she asked me why i was crying i told her and my mom got a little bit mad at my brother he started crying and mom told me to hug brother i really didn't want to but i didn't want mom to get mad and also he always want me to do everything that he says and if i don't he would hurt me i really just felt like he doesn't love me and he has this 9yo brother and my brother the one hurting me is 13yo his 9yo brother he just love him more than me and i felt like he was just treating me like a maid he compares me to his 9yo brother he says that he nice *WHAT ABOUT ME I TRIED BEING NICE EVERY SINGLE TIME* *YOU JUST DON'T REALIZE IT* and the worst part is mom is also kinda like him and i felt like no one loves me i get more presured that sometimes when my mom my brother is sleeping they don't know that i was crying the whole time i was just saying to my self i wanna d!e i wanna sucic!de i don't wanna live and i was hiding everything i didn't want anyone to know i also want to leave this house but i can't i can't leave I don't know what i would do without my family also if anyone experienced this i hope you guys are okay:) also guys a update our mom also enrolled us to a soccer thing idk and our tournament is alsmost starting its going to be live if you guys wanna watch then go also guys this is a true story
"Doing homework happily" "Mom randomly talk about how you need to concentrate more" "Hold back tears" "I never scream at you why are you crying" *Really is because those words hurt me because I do concentrate in my classes and trying my best at it...*
I am like this. My parents were always happy with my grades, even if I had gotten a F. They supported me but for me it was that I just don't stand failing in anything, so I would stay until 4 am studying. I feel like the problem was me. In not all cases it's the parent's fault.
I push myself to get the best grades and what I get is a •Good Job• I don’t even think they appreciate it when the next day comes it like i never got a good grade because they would only bring up my flaws and fails- :,))
I felt this one. My parents, mostly my dad, was never happy with my grades. Ever. He'd always say do better next time. There was never a "great job" or a "that's impressive" with him. Even when I'd get 100's on my tests, quizzes or what ever he'd still say "do better".
Even when you get 100!!! That's terrible.... That's like soo impressive and the perfect grade, and your dad still have an attitude like that? Anyway I am really impressed by you, dear 💗 Work smart and always make yourself proud!
If I was in your situation, I would rip my 100's test paper in front of him saying "If this isn't what you want, which do you prefer? My grades or me being kicked out of the house by you? I want honest answer immediately." If he kicks me out, I say: "I'm sorry that I'm not your favorite, daddy. 🥺" (sarcasm)
yeah i remember once I got a 10/10 but still my father was like why don't you trying getting an 11 if you'll improve your handwriting then maybe your teacher will bless you with some extra marks and i was like WTH is he talking about
When I was 12, I got 98% in Math and they weren’t even satisfied. That one moment got me to realize there is never enough for them. Then I try my best to just give them what they need, not what they expect.
Girl same I am 12 and I got a 96% in my math test but they were still a tad bit satisfied.. Sorry turns out my parent were in a family crisis at that moment 😮 I ❤ them! Mashallah
math is my worst subject. my parents know it. last year I got a 82 on my math exam. they weren’t so satisfied. they thought I could do better. math just isn’t my thing. they think I should be good at everything. they say “I’m not comparing you to other kids” when they are. parents have high expectations.
this is so relatable, everyone is always so surprised when I tell them Ive had Straight A's pretty much my whole life. Tbh im burnt the hell out but I fear "failure" more than i hate studying/stress. i'm so tired of my only worth coming from a grade on my schoolwork. i hope everyone that's going or has gone through something similar is doing okay. stay safe for me
Omg it’s really a rare gem to find a comment like this on this types of videos…Same! Like I’m really scared even if I get full marks like no mistakes- Like what if this happens next time or something-😭
They may not satisfy with our result but they still allow us to live with them and Adjust their expenses for us 😢 ( parents have no problem if we get fail their only problem is with the society)
Yep. I'm homeschooled but still understand. I was way behind on schoolwork because of lack of motivation, when I was down rock bottom is when I was forced to do my school. When I stayed up till 8am, my parents were MAD.
Yes ,so true when I study till 12:30 they would say that it's not good for your health but after the result they would say you should work hard than this
Thankfully I learned to be hard on myself and I learned to love it. It pays off in the end even though I might be up at 3 am completing essays and such. but in reality, its that discipline that gets me into colleges and a high role in society.
Omg I speak Chinese, Spanish, English, and Italian and it’s still not good enough for them!! I always get compared to ppl online who can speak 8 languages or sth crazy like that
But I'm so lucky that I got the most supportive and understandable mom 💜 Love you and your content Clara because you portray most of our girls struggles so beautifully and you LOVE YOURSELF 💜 That's what makes you even more Special 💜
So true. My dad isn’t bothered unless it’s maths and my mum isn’t bothered until she hears that my friend did better. It annoys me how my mum keeps comparing me to her. She’s such a lovely girl but that doesn’t mean I want to be her. Edit: It’s so sad how so many people can relate
@Santino Andujo why would they stop being friends with her? It's not like their friend is the bad one. It's the mum for always comparing. Instead they should talk to their mum about how her comparing them to all their friends is bad for mental health or maybe go talk about it to a teacher or something.
My mom has a quote for this "Nobody is going to look at your grades, all that matters is that you know how to do it." It really made me happy to know that she didn't care about them. Remember when your parents say this, KEEP THIS QUOTE IN YOUR MIND.
Honestly, I don’t need my parents to put that pressure on me. I’m so anxious and scared to disappoint the family that I’m already putting it on myself all alone-
My mom has always said, as long as you did your best and gave it 100% effort then it’s ok if you get a low grade. you did all you could and you just learn for next time. But if you get a low grade because you procrastinated or were lazy or didn’t study then that’s not ok. She would never be mad at me for getting a bad grade but she does expect me to do my best. But of course doing my best doesn’t include depriving myself of sleep or rest or any of my needs.
I'm like 1 month late, but it's ok, I just kinda don't care and carry on with my life, just make sure your grade improve even little by little so that you know you are certainly trying:)
Here is a short story of mine 🙂 - It actually happened with me i studied non stop and got a bad nosebleed . ..i even passed out on my table my parents rushed to the hospital i stayed there like 2 weeks and i couldn't remember anything instead of formulas they had to bought a therapist for me after treatment for like 2/3 months i became normal And they again never pressured me about studies
My teacher appreciated what my class has done to pass. She said "As long as you tried your best, its okay. Even if you don't pass, atleast its not a 0"
Is it bad that I started tearing up watching this? I mean it's so true. Whenever someone tells me to "study harder" or "do better" it makes me like, insecure...... Is that just me????
one thing parents don't realize: they tell us that we study for our own success but in reality we study and go out on our way in harmful decisions to make them proud. we study for their praise, not ourselves and when someone gets a higher grade you get compared to them and you feel terrible about yourself.
Reading the comment section makes me realize how wonderful my parents are. They always encouraged me to work harder. Neither pressurized into pulling an all nighter nor compared me with other kids who scored more than me. They always said that I mattered more to them than the marks. I will follow up with the same path with my future kids too. Hope everyone will understand that verbal and emotional abuse is more traumatic than physical ones. EDIT: From the comments I got to learn something more about it. Now that I think about what I wrote I will rephrase my words " Any form of abuse be it mental, physical and emotional are traumatic."
It's so lovely that you have caring parents like this and wish to become the same! It's absolutely right, health always comes first before any grades or studies. Toxic comparison has never benefitted anyone. I hope the mindset can spread to everybody ❤️
Aw lucky, my parents want me to study all day and I should get above 90%..even the top grade in English won’t satisfy them and I go to an above average school 😞
lmao once I got 99.7% as my average score on finals (scored the top in our school) and my parents were super happy but on the next midterms I slipped a little and got a 98.4% and they were like, "why did your grades drop? are you not studying during all those hours you spend sitting at your desk? do we need to take your phone away?" I mean, I understand and everything, but sometimes I just need a little break or understanding... and it's not exactly easy to keep up with everything, especially when you're on the school swim team (that has practice at the crack of dawn) + orchestra + volunteering club + honors classes lmao Edit: I’m not saying that my parents don’t love me, just that they want and expect the best from me at all times lmao But also being compared to your guy best friend (who is also secretly my boyfriend-) is like the worst feeling ever because it’s not like I’m doing horribly, just that he and I always compete for 1st place and we go back and forth. But obv my parents don’t see that.
i didn’t realize how much pressure my parents were putting on my grades until just a few months ago, this video reminded me just how horrible they treat me. thank you for creating this community though, i love your channel. i am ashamed for being skinny, to the point where i eat a lot ,, until things kinda go down hill, yk ? and my grades ,, feel like i’m never good enough. anyone else going through this, i’m so sorry :( i will give you a virtual hug
"i got a 82%!" "only 82%?! try harder!" "..." "omg ur math is not good enogh, get all A's! you only get A's, B's, C's and D's, try harder next time sweetie pie." "ur grades aren't good enough.. do u want to get grounded? study harder! idc what u get, dont get a C rat. "look at your friend, (name) gets A's and B's while u are stuck getting A's, B's, C's and D's. be like her!" (name): "it's fine, just study harder! your parents are just tryna make u better!" "you got better ig. try getting no C and D! its better for your card." "till u get a bf, u don't have to worry about money and the future!" "why u keep getting sick?! stop being like that eh." (teacher name): "sweetie... did u get enough sleep?" (my name): "yeah... i did, :..)"
Soo trueee…after watching this video my mom was like …”see how much other’s parents pressurise their children , you should be grateful to have such supportive parents like us”❤❤
I relate to this on an emotional level. My parents have basically taught me: “If you don’t meet our expectations, you aren’t good enough.” So, I’ve always devoted my time to meeting their expectations, and trying to satisfy them. “You got a B- in Math? When I was your age I always got A’s. You need to do better.” “All kids deserve parents, but not all parents deserve kids.”
True I also relate to this I got a A on my science test they say : didn't you study! Only A , it was so hurtful that you do hardwork and your own parents thinks that's not enough .
I once got 99% on a math test and my parents strait up asked me where did that other one percent go and thenade me study until 11 pm the next test and the got annoyed at me for not sleeping like leave me be
this is so true this is a real story i almost fainted for studying too much because of pressure but im ok now im still studying though but with a little bit confidence in my grades no matter what my parents tell me
same like i don't care abt my marks anymore im passing right thats enough for me and i also dc what my parents tells me im doing my best ik...not my parents should know
I've always loved the relatability of your content. It makes me always wanna come back for more! My parents are pretty strict on grades. My GCSE results came back a few days ago and let's just say they WEREN'T happy. It's not like I failed anything but I wasn't "the asian standard" (basically all of the top grades). I think it really hit me when a member of staff at my school asked to see my grades, saying another member of staff told him I did really well. I awkwardly gave him my report, ashamed of myself for my grades. And he told me "you really need to stop beating yourself up over this. You did amazing!" But I knew the lecture and yelling I was gonna get when I got home. So when I got home I got yelled at and lectured saying I failed everything. Some of the subjects which i had studied really hard for I ended up doing really well in and I was so happy with myself but my parents won't ever see that. They'll just see me as a failure and someone whose value is just numbers on a sheet of paper.
i was the opposite. i’m mexican american, but i had an asian best friend growing up. i had parents who were supportive and proud of my grades as long as i had a b+ or above. whenever i’d hear my best friend’s parents talk down on her for having grades that were the same as mine or higher, i would get really self conscious. i don’t blame her for any of this, but her parents’ way of thinking got to her as well, and she would grimace or say “ouch” whenever she’d see my grades, which were still okay. i started forcing myself to study longer and harder and neglected my health because of it. i’d beat myself up for getting grades HER parents wouldn’t be proud of, and they weren’t even mine. to this day i still feel so horrible for her because she’s held to these high standards and is unhealthy because of it… i’m still learning to unlearn this and be kinder to myself.
@@cantro8959 idk why you say “nah,” i never said mexican or latino parents aren’t hard on their kids. they just aren’t as strict as asian parents are. i’m speaking from my experience alone. ela is just english language arts, isn’t it? i was in honors english and ap u.s. history in high school. i wanted to be in even more advanced classes, but i was already sacrificing my wellbeing forcing myself to overachieve. i’m just saying that my friend’s strict parents took a toll on me as well, not just her. it’s an extremely toxic way of thinking.
This is true tbh, as an asian myself I always felt bad for my fellow peers if they got less than 90% which is like an A. We were honestly brought up with the mindset that anything less than 90% is bad.
I can relate...I studied all day all night from 4:00 am to 12:00 pm but I just got my result today and I did so bad.I am afraid that everyone/fake friends will gossip about it...
So true.Actually one time I got 97 and my parents were so made at me , then the next year I got 100 and they didn’t appreciate how much I worked hard 😪
Lol same I remembered a incident when I got 98/100 in maths and instead of appreciating me my father asked where's the other 2 marks? Like wtf!! I sometimes find it very funny lol the fact that their over expectation sometimes freaks me out and I don't know how to fell about it ? 🙄😏
@@Jaeshin123 same…I got 98 this year and then 99 for finals but yea I pretty much cried most of the time and all my classmates were saying that I’m so ungrateful of my marks when they don’t even know the consequences.
omg I didn’t know how much people get stressed by their parents to do better. my parents just want me to try and do my best. my older brother is also here if I needed his help and my mom was a teacher but obviously other people don’t have an older sibling or a parent that is was a teacher to be there for them. nobody should take granted for anything they have.
I got a 97% overall and came 2nd, it's my first time being on top 3 and my parents were like - "Great job, next time u will be first! " I loved how they supported me ❤️
I’m lucky that me and my sister are 8 years apart so my parents can’t compare us. Like what’re they gonna say, “Oh you got an 80% on your chemistry final? Well your sister knows 9 of her 10 sight words for this week”
My dad puts so much pressure on me as if I’ve always been a bad student. I’m always getting good grades and right now I’m rocking with straight A’s. I took a math test last week and crashed out. I couldn’t think right and I studied all week for it. He was so condescending and belittling. Ima do online school now.
Same, my mother was not satisfied even when I get 96%. She always says me "Don't compare with the friends who get lower marks than you . Compare yourself with your friends who scored higher than you." 🥺🥺
I once took a really math test and got 95% But still got Yelled at, Compared, I did my best. I stayed up all night, I focused a lot, Thought my parents would be proud and support me. My school is starting in 2 days and my parents are flooding me with homework and chores. Because of this I've had ️Anxiety for over 1 year. Why can't they support us? They were kids too, They know how it feels. Even when i study on my own they still ask me to do even more. I wish they knew how I'm feeling. I know they love me but this? It's too much. I'm already struggling on loving myself, Focusing on ME. (This is from a few week ago) I was so happy when I heard I'm going on vacation with my family, BUT. They decided to leave me here with my aunt so i can do my studies. They always say i'm always spending time on my chrome but all the time i get is 30 minutes a day. Sometimes I don't even get time to take breaks. Sorry for the long comment I just wanted to get this out of my head and feel more relaxed..
ohh I'm so sorry for you. Why don't you try talking to them and telling them how they make you feel. Or are they the kind of parents who it is impossible to talk to about these things? Look I kinda know how you feel bcs I struggle so much in loving myself bcs I think I'm not smart and cultured enough and that I do not have enough knowledge about different things and so one but at least I've got my mother who supports me. Otherwise I would die. I've already got kinda depressed and lost the motivation of doing anything even though I get a lot of support from my family, so I always imagine what would have been of me if I had not. I study hard and am very hard on myself and I don't like my grades but my mum tells me it's okay and that she knows and appreciates all the efforts I'm doing. I mean she's not blind, she sees how often I start studying in the morning and only go late to bed. This is why I don't understand parents that are that insensitive and still don't support their children even though they see how much and how hard they study... I hope you'll be able to talk to them about your feelings and that they'll understand it and stop putting so much pressure on you. I just know to good ( even though I have a pretty supportive family) how unhealthy this can be. PS: My family often says that I'm a genius and that I've got so many good grades and that can also be a bit annoying sometimes bcs as I already said I don't think my grades are good and sometimes I fear to not really be as they're saying... bcs I often really doubt on myself... Sending you a lot of love and support and I'm sure you'll make great things even though your parents do not see it yet😊😊❤️
you know what, all in all school is rubbish! I know we have to study if we want to have a good and well paid job and in the best case one that you pretty like you have to study, but bcs if school I barely haven't got any time left to chill, like no breaks. It's only Homework Homework and more Homework and exams exams and more exams. What the fuck, that's no life? My school starts in a bit more than a week now and I'm already desperate about it. Just thinking about it makes me sick 🙄. So sometimes when I need a break I tell my mum that I need one and then she allows me to take a day off. Bcs otherwise I would bare it cause I nearly have no life... Ps: But it's only sometimes. Don't think she lets me skip school/ classes whenever I want.. cause that would be always 😂😂. It's really only when she sees that I'm on my limits..
I slept most of the time and just took the tests since that's all I needed to pass if I aced them. Not once did I study because I didn't need to. Just keep in mind the moment you let ANYONE know you're smarter than average they either try to use you or raise their expectations so they can live vicariously through you. I hated it but once you're on your own you'll be glad it's all over.
@@zarahmartins6165 idk I'd suggest finding shortcuts. That's what I always did even if it was because I was bored. You don't have to bend over backwards to finish school with a good grade.
I’m so grateful I have parents that aren’t THAT strict with my grades. But because I’m a high achiever I tend to put such high expectations on myself since I base my self worth on what grade I get. Either way, my parents don’t mind what grade I get, as long as I worked hard.
Ngl , whenever I started to get happy after improving at a subject (Like for example , I used to get 20/100 for maths and now I got 57/100) my mom would be like : “ That’s all? “ , “ It’s not an improvement “ or “ don’t be so happy “ , etc. that really hurts. I relate to this sm
*You're doing great, trust me.* 20/100 to 57/100 is a HUGE improvement!! I'm aiming to do the same too. It doesn't matter what others think about you. YOU know how hard you've worked. 🤗
That's great improvement! You improved for yourself, not for your mom, so if she can't see what a wonderful child she has, that's her loss. Again, good job!🙌🫶🫶
Same here I got a 40% in my exam and withing 3 months I improved to 70% I was the weakest in physics in which I got 26 and from 26 today when I got around 50 I was so happy but to my parents I am just a failure and a disgrace to the family.... they don't see my improvement but what they see is I have to get a 90% I am pretty sure that even if I got a 85% they wouldn't have been happy and there they say that we are not telling u to get 90% even if you get a 80% we will be happy.... What do they actually mean?
I’m so glad I have parents who want me just to be happy and they never force me to study. They guide me to, but if I ever get really hard on myself, they always encourage me and help me :) I love them so much.
@@person-bd7ks tbh if I got 74% I would’ve really done something to myself because I would think that I’m not enough for my parents They love me so much that I try to study more and more because I want to repay their efforts. Their unconditional love is the biggest motivation for me
Things almost all parents do: (EDITED) 1. They care about your grades more than your learning 2. For strict parents a “ 70-90% “ is Bad 3. They say “Okay” when you finally get the perfect score 4. They tell you to go get sleep but study !24! Hours a day 5. Strict parents will take away your electronics when some of them you could use as a resource to study 6. COMPARING 👩🏻>👩🏼 grades with other kids 7. Choosing grades over YOU 8. Setting HIGH expectations 9. Telling family members about your grades and business 10. Limiting your activities 11. Not always impressed 12. Slowly becoming toxic (possibly) 13.taking away your belongings 14. Grounding 15. Yell or say hurtful things 16. They say they don’t care about your grade before the test but scream at you when you get a bad one (If there’s more tell me)
@@Anime58676 my friend advices: when you invite a friend over or your with your friend at school tell them to run to the police or call 911 (you can secretly record them doing these things and give evidence )
@@shushma4524 girl ur not inferior, dont listen to her, (ik its not easy) try your best and tell her that you are not inferior, coz probably theres someone out there who will be happy and proud of you
" You are born to be real, not to be perfect" - Min Yoongi Okay so whoever who is reading this don't forget the words and yea I understand that you guys want your parents to be proud of you, same for me. Yea it's hard but don't ever overwork yourself. That's my opinion, thank you
Finally there's ppl who I can relate to!😢 My grandma always compare me to my cousins or siblings like "why can't you be like your sister!? She smart and mature and look at you always on your phone I shouldn't have gave you that new phone..if you don't make your grades high then I'll take your phone away" even tho I have tried to study and make my grades high and when I was in 5 grade(currently in 6 grade rn) at least I pass even tho I didn't get honor but at least be grateful that I pass it's not like everyday I get honored...at least I pass because I put effort at least but she doesn't see that...
the feeling never goes away. First it's your parents being disappointed in you, then you internalise it. Right now i'm here crying feeling like everything i have worked for is not good enough because people from my high school have it better and put in less work (they are rich).
for me my parents always says “we are not sad because of your grade but we are sad for you because you worked so hard for nothing” and they say” “ all parents just want the best for their kids not the worse”
This is so real... I've been a topper since kindergarten and if I didn't do good, my parents would be hella mad... While when my big brother got the same score they congratulated him🙃I can't even please them with a 95%...
Man I feel this. Especially.now my grades came in and i got a 44 in one of my classes im being forced to study. To who ever is reading this and is going through the same thing. 'You are not just your grade. Your parents may not see it but you know yourself best Make yourself happy and take care.' it will get better soon.
All the things my mom does to me> ------------------ 1.body shaming me(fat-shaming) 2.comparing me to others 3.isn’t greatful for what I get in my marks 4.always expects always good things from me 5.saying really hurtful stuff 6.curses at me in my other language 7.she says “I work school is easy working is harder I barely even get to sit and you do!!” Yes but school breaks my limits and my mental health NOT joking
What hurts the most is that it’s so relatable which is really sad especially when your being compared to others make me feel I’m not good enough for who I am.
This is what i have to go through, just flipped around. My parents are the ones who say i shouldn't keep working for so many hours because it can damage my mental health, but despite what my parents say, i always strive for perfect grades. These are dire times in my life, and for the first time, i am starting to believe they were right all along.
yall, for everyone who does not sleep due to studying, studying and not sleeping is NOT the way. Sleeping helps you concentrate. I think you should study 3-5 hours a day, then have you free time, and sleep at least 8 hours. Renember you will always be enough if you get bad or good grades tho, and if your parents are like this then try to tell them this
"Look at your friend, she is so much better than you!"
Hits me hard
"Look at your cousins" hits hard too
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''Look at your sibling'' ALSO HURTS EVERY HARD.
@@mahanyayeddla7119 that's exactly what my mom says 🙁
"Look at ur self ! Why don't you change your self and stop being like that! Be like your siblings , cousin, and friend ! Theyr way more better than you! What a disappointment kid!" Kinda hurt so much becuase they think comparing us ro other kids make us change and get better! Which is wrong and it never makes you get better! Becuase comparing yourself to other people actually makes your confidence very low! Your gonna think your the only one who's not
Perfect but everyone is!
This is very true I would be studying all night till like 4 am and my parents say get more sleep when they’re the ones making me do work because they are never satisfied
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@@sennajansen9700 gurlly as an asian i come back from school then start snd end at around 3 or 4 Am
@@sennajansen9700 I bet they also study immediately after school but still take long to finish because there may be a lot of things to do.
Sorry for saying but They are not the ones making you do it u should do smart work instead of hard work studying till 4 am ,no it won't help you .you should try to study and plan before your exams. Trust me there are 100s of ways to do efficient and effective learning
Look....I won't stress my self like that
A someone who has parents not satisfied with a 90% on a subject I struggled with my whole life, I relate.
I'm sorry you have to go through this . Honestly 90% is an excellent grade . Don't lose motivation and keep going!
Yeah like is 64.5% Out of 65 not good enough in MATHS
@@Itz_rosie_here personally , it wouldn't satisfy me but you do you!
My mom isn't satisfied with a 99%
@@EnchanciaMystique what?
'Look at ur siblings, cousins, friends. They do much better' .. hit me hard!!!!
"Why you awake till 3AM?.. this is not for your good health. " ~parents
It's not always the scolding for days or beating for not studying properly. Sometimes, few words or lines parents say unintentionally hurt you to the core..... Your videos are great and too relatable
This seriously..I'm the type that overthink a lot so even small words hit me..
@@thats_not_breezyshes_soo_windy same people say I'm really sensitive and it really offendes me.
They just don't understand
@@thats_not_breezyshes_soo_windy literally me too...I tear up easily when someone says something not much good about me...I once almost cried infront of the whole class when the teacher was getting stressed and shouted at me when I asked for extra sheets...
“She’s only 3! Be a better role model! Do more! Jeez are you ungrateful! We don’t have enough money for that! It’s her birthday! Stop being selfish! Share your stuff! You’re too old for that/this” it hurts a lot
@@iloveadinosaur that's literally me😭
I once cried in front of the whole class when the boys were teasing me😭
That's a nightmare, and one of the reasons I don't have any friends is bcoz I'm too sensitive, I literally cry and isolate myself.
No matter how much I love them and/or how much they love me, their words hurt.
Yea same😭
This is true, they even told me "what i said was true" well yeah im very much aware of it but you saying that is like putting salt on my wound.
But well lifes go on . I love my self and im proud of me.
Yeah
True. Very true.
Ik
As someone who couldn't satisfy parents with even a 94% I feel you all.... 🙂
Omg- same
I can't satisfy them with 97% 💀💀💀
@@sanayabeniwal2114man if in math i got 97 my mom would celebrate
@@Samxd90 I got 99 in math and my parents yelled the shit out of me
@@ItsaraKulap What the hail . My mom is happy with 89.5
If my child gets ever 50%-80% i Don't care i only care that they did great job and i want them to keep growing by me helping them ❤
You would be a great mom/dad ❤
Ye u would be amazing!
I wish my mom was amazing, she doesnt care abt how much i get, but when i get less the 10% i would cry but she never cheers me up but my dad does, btw we only take in my school 10/10, not more
@@ahmadibrahim8502 I'm so sorry, btw you're still learning new things when you achieve it you will be stronger than ever
Thanks :3
A friend of mine’s parents would never let her get anything below an A+. I remember her coming to my house and almost having complete panic attacks. Parents need to realise that their kid isn’t perfect.
Ikr. Everyone is good at something. I mean it’s bad getting bad grades, but never pressure your child.
My father was the same way. Anything below an A is considered a bad grade. I can’t get an B or B+, not even an A-. If I did, it’s always to get it back up to an A or higher. Even if I said we weren’t allowed to do corrections, he’d always tell us to. And blamed us for not having hardly an graded work showed, but it wasn’t our fault that the teacher didn’t grade it until the end.
true im an 8yo almost 9 my mom always gets mad at me she hits me really hard she always want everything perfect everything right and it was pressuring me one time i was grade 2 7yo
this is a night i mean a real painful night i was trying my hardest my mom kept hitting me and then she hitted me and it was a really strong one that my arm literally became red
i didn't know what to do all i did was cry and my brother was also doing homework but he only gets hit a little bit but i get so many hits and also now im a 8yo life was pretty good until i started to go downhill my brother would start hitting me punching me i was too scared to tell mom also even now i still haven't told mom but one night my brother hitted me and then i started crying he told me to stop crying he got mad he hitted me again i cried again mom woke up she was shook she asked me why i was crying i told her and my mom got a little bit mad at my brother he started crying and mom told me to hug brother i really didn't want to but i didn't want mom to get mad and also he always want me to do everything that he says and if i don't he would hurt me i really just felt like he doesn't love me and he has this 9yo brother and my brother the one hurting me is 13yo his 9yo brother he just love him more than me and i felt like he was just treating me like a maid he compares me to his 9yo brother he says that he nice *WHAT ABOUT ME I TRIED BEING NICE EVERY SINGLE TIME*
*YOU JUST DON'T REALIZE IT* and the worst part is mom is also kinda like him and i felt like no one loves me i get more presured that sometimes when my mom my brother is sleeping they don't know that i was crying the whole time i was just saying to my self i wanna d!e i wanna sucic!de i don't wanna live and i was hiding everything i didn't want anyone to know
i also want to leave this house but i can't i can't leave I don't know what i would do without my family
also if anyone experienced this i hope you guys are okay:)
also guys a update our mom also enrolled us to a soccer thing idk
and our tournament is alsmost starting its going to be live
if you guys wanna watch then go
also guys this is a true story
Parents will constantly say their childhood was worse even though they're pressuring their child to be the most perfect angelic child on earth..
yeahhhhh but lets be honest for a second guys you don’t need to be perfect to get an A+
"Doing homework happily"
"Mom randomly talk about how you need to concentrate more"
"Hold back tears"
"I never scream at you why are you crying"
*Really is because those words hurt me because I do concentrate in my classes and trying my best at it...*
Same...
Facts🥺
My mom quite literally told me I'm not trying hard enough to do my work when in reality I'm doing like 10 assignments all at once so I don't fail 🙃
The part of holding tears and they get angry on you its so reletable to me💀
@@IsabelaCute Same
"She doesn't spends time with me"
~parents lmao
So true 🙂
True
Underrated comment!
We met before right??!!
I feel like you should study 1-2 hours and do something else
I am like this. My parents were always happy with my grades, even if I had gotten a F. They supported me but for me it was that I just don't stand failing in anything, so I would stay until 4 am studying. I feel like the problem was me. In not all cases it's the parent's fault.
Everyone wants God to make them born in a happy family like yours😢
As a person who CAN’T even satisfy my parents with a 99%. I feel u.
Same bro
Same
Same
Bro I failed 2 exams but still my parents didn't say me anything
POV: you get a 7.5/8 on an essay
Remember this
“Don’t let people celebrate with you at your success if they don’t believe in you at your worst”
This hit
Okie
FRR
Very true
But they're parents not just 'people'. We can't be disrespectful.
When I do well I get a dry “good job” and that makes me so sad that they don’t appreciate or recognize the effort I put into it.
😭🥹 i don’t even get a “good job” ever
My parents are not even satisfied with 98%... (parents phone)
Edit: thank you for 10 likes!
@@ClaraDao me neither. So I just stopped putting so much efforts. Because ik it's never enough
I push myself to get the best grades and what I get is a •Good Job• I don’t even think they appreciate it when the next day comes it like i never got a good grade because they would only bring up my flaws and fails- :,))
"Did anyone else get a better grade?" or more subtle "What was the best grade?"
One time i got a F and my dad said it was okay and we could work on what we needed to do. Such a great dad i love him so much 😊
people tend to judge someone because of their results, but what they don't know is the amount of effort and hard work you actually put in it.
facts
I felt this one. My parents, mostly my dad, was never happy with my grades. Ever. He'd always say do better next time. There was never a "great job" or a "that's impressive" with him. Even when I'd get 100's on my tests, quizzes or what ever he'd still say "do better".
I feel u 🥺
Even when you get 100!!! That's terrible.... That's like soo impressive and the perfect grade, and your dad still have an attitude like that? Anyway I am really impressed by you, dear 💗
Work smart and always make yourself proud!
If I was in your situation, I would rip my 100's test paper in front of him saying "If this isn't what you want, which do you prefer? My grades or me being kicked out of the house by you? I want honest answer immediately."
If he kicks me out, I say: "I'm sorry that I'm not your favorite, daddy. 🥺" (sarcasm)
yeah i remember once I got a 10/10 but still my father was like why don't you trying getting an 11 if you'll improve your handwriting then maybe your teacher will bless you with some extra marks and i was like WTH is he talking about
@@niini01 extra marks??? ☠ why would the teacher give u 11/10 for good handwriting 😃... ur enough, if its like this its his problem.
"why isn't she talking to us?"
-her parents
- My parents
- our parents
-Parents
look what youve done. :’)
~ All of our parents
"I was so much better" Hits me so hard...
"Mom I got 100!"
"that's it?"
"what? you expect me to get 101%? do you not know the grading system?*
"i got A+"
"thats it? no A++?"
"the neighbour son got 105 because he has good handwriting. today no rice for you!!"
Yes that’s it or do u want me to get a 0% instead of getting all A’s?
@@Sclaraticx "have you ever gotten an A++ in school?" Yeah? "Well let me call grandpa or grandma to see if it is true
When I was 12, I got 98% in Math and they weren’t even satisfied. That one moment got me to realize there is never enough for them. Then I try my best to just give them what they need, not what they expect.
Girl same I am 12 and I got a 96% in my math test but they were still a tad bit satisfied..
Sorry turns out my parent were in a family crisis at that moment 😮
I ❤ them! Mashallah
Bro wtf my parents happy even if I get 90 percent
EXACTLY! I got 95% once and my mum hit me 😭😭
@@jamberrytoastieAwh i so sorry for u! :( my mom would be happy if i got 80-100
math is my worst subject.
my parents know it.
last year I got a 82 on my math exam.
they weren’t so satisfied.
they thought I could do better.
math just isn’t my thing.
they think I should be good at everything.
they say “I’m not comparing you to other kids” when they are.
parents have high expectations.
this is so relatable, everyone is always so surprised when I tell them Ive had Straight A's pretty much my whole life. Tbh im burnt the hell out but I fear "failure" more than i hate studying/stress.
i'm so tired of my only worth coming from a grade on my schoolwork.
i hope everyone that's going or has gone
through something similar is doing okay. stay safe for me
Omg it’s really a rare gem to find a comment like this on this types of videos…Same! Like I’m really scared even if I get full marks like no mistakes- Like what if this happens next time or something-😭
Ikr...in university now but still the cycle repeats... Even getting full marks don't matter if you don't wake up early in the morning
Ive got straight A's in school till 4th grade
Yes same
I feel you 😔
They may not satisfy with our result but they still allow us to live with them and Adjust their expenses for us 😢 ( parents have no problem if we get fail their only problem is with the society)
And when we study till 3:00 AM, they're like
“it's not good for your health ”
so truee
Exactly like they care
Yep. I'm homeschooled but still understand. I was way behind on schoolwork because of lack of motivation, when I was down rock bottom is when I was forced to do my school. When I stayed up till 8am, my parents were MAD.
Yes ,so true when I study till 12:30 they would say that it's not good for your health but after the result they would say you should work hard than this
So true dude
And then your shit drops from 76% to 65% because of lack of sleep 💀
it doesn't dude
@@Ishrak-mo1rhit can
@@Ishrak-mo1rhit does for me alot of the time
YES SO TRUE!!!!
It is with me today 😂😢
This gave me, ✨️Anxiety ✨️
🤣 🤣
nah just study
@@Jonasbnn0 true until you manage to know the things you study for and when school time your ready to put your class mates in shock! 😁👍
@@Chad-uk7rv Oh my god it's a goofy gacha life character and a giga Chad!
@@kirby4667 Are you being mean..?
Thankfully I learned to be hard on myself and I learned to love it. It pays off in the end even though I might be up at 3 am completing essays and such. but in reality, its that discipline that gets me into colleges and a high role in society.
This is so relatable I started crying lol- and they would be telling me to sleep even tho they said study from 24 hours
Yea study English you should do even better than that
😂😂(It was a joke)
@@orangesite7625 that’s a bit mean
@@orangesite7625 even tho it a joke it still rude
@UMIeditz #roadto60subs he's definitely rude and not the one who's cursing rn 🤔 I feel like someone's being a little hypocritical
@@orangesite7625 kinda rude and kinda unnecessary
I still remember how I got 97% at school and my parents were like "where'd you leave the 3%?"
Same for me 💀
I ate 1 percent and fed another percent to our fish and gave one percent to my phone simple :D
hi paimon
@@Rama_Berro bro wut? 😭
@@Rama_Berro Justice fo green avocado✨
“Look at your Friend, she can speak chineese”
Makes me cry:(
“But mom she is Chinese-“
Omg I speak Chinese, Spanish, English, and Italian and it’s still not good enough for them!! I always get compared to ppl online who can speak 8 languages or sth crazy like that
@@Mila_Bo_Bila4 languages !? I can’t even speak 2 lmfao. Remember to value urself always💯
This is so relatable, im sorry to anyone here who had/has to go through that
"Your siblings are passing and your not. You're a disgrace to this family." goes and hits hard 🔥🔥
That's really true .
My parents never said that to me
@@ElviraXXX some parents say that to their children 😭 its from my personal experience
@@angelicskyyy has your parents told you that??
@@ElviraXXX mhm
Girl my parents were not even satisfied with 94% and I'm like what the hel-
My parents are also not satisfied when I got biggest chance for a quiz competition- They're like it's none of their buisness!😐
I got 85% and my parents didn't care they had no reaction 🕳🚶
Same gurl
I got 95 percent though they were not happy
I got a 97 and they told me why don't you work hard😿
also them:
“UR NEVER GETTING ENOUGH SLEEP CAUSE OF THAT DANG PHONE! UGH! THIS GENERATION..”
Exactly we balance enough all day it’s really hard IM NOT A MACHINE!
😂
Ikr they don't see efforts we put in studies tooo
Truee
Facebook enters chat*
The fact that the end and the start is connected....its showing how much efforts it needed for her to get 76%
But I'm so lucky that I got the most supportive and understandable mom 💜
Love you and your content Clara because you portray most of our girls struggles so beautifully and you LOVE YOURSELF 💜
That's what makes you even more Special 💜
Same!
Lucky..
My parents don't care as long as I don't get a C or B2 they'll be happy
Mine too 🤧🥺💜my mom say's that dont be upset work hard and rock ur nxt exams 🗿
Me too! I have a really supporting and understanding parents!
i always forget that i'm so privileged to have parents that are calm with me and never pressure me
I wish I had parents like yours
same
i'm so happy my parents kinda calm
but they will not stop comparing with others
So true. My dad isn’t bothered unless it’s maths and my mum isn’t bothered until she hears that my friend did better. It annoys me how my mum keeps comparing me to her. She’s such a lovely girl but that doesn’t mean I want to be her.
Edit: It’s so sad how so many people can relate
Yes that happens to me
I have a bestfriend. In exam she is in first place and I'm 9 place now my mom always proud of her
@Santino Andujo why would they stop being friends with her? It's not like their friend is the bad one. It's the mum for always comparing.
Instead they should talk to their mum about how her comparing them to all their friends is bad for mental health or maybe go talk about it to a teacher or something.
@Santino Andujo it’s the mothers fault, not the friends..
@@tall_asexual7188 and
@@AURI3N .
Truly realatble for students
My mom has a quote for this "Nobody is going to look at your grades, all that matters is that you know how to do it." It really made me happy to know that she didn't care about them. Remember when your parents say this, KEEP THIS QUOTE IN YOUR MIND.
Yeah mine too❤
Yess my mum says this too!
Yes my mom is like this too
But then how will we get into collage if we have bad grades?
They'll look at it in your college application and you'll be in for a surprise
Honestly, I don’t need my parents to put that pressure on me. I’m so anxious and scared to disappoint the family that I’m already putting it on myself all alone-
Yup! Same here!
Same LMAO
Same
Same LOL
Same
My mom has always said, as long as you did your best and gave it 100% effort then it’s ok if you get a low grade. you did all you could and you just learn for next time. But if you get a low grade because you procrastinated or were lazy or didn’t study then that’s not ok. She would never be mad at me for getting a bad grade but she does expect me to do my best. But of course doing my best doesn’t include depriving myself of sleep or rest or any of my needs.
Your mom is amazing
This is exactly What my mother does, so I completely understand you
@@hybridadderz2201 I’d have to agree, I’m really lucky to have her 🥰
That’s also my mom
What my mum says
Struggling with now,so relatable
The fact that I just got a 76% on my science test and my parents were upset makes it hurt even more 😢😢
@@Idk.and.idc- I’m sorry 😭
I'm like 1 month late, but it's ok, I just kinda don't care and carry on with my life, just make sure your grade improve even little by little so that you know you are certainly trying:)
@@tuenguyenhuu5870 Yep! That’s exactly what I do :)
Been living most of my life with a’s and b’s and I don’t know if a c is a good grade
I learned from my mom that a c is bad but yeah idk
My parents only want A’s, but even I set a goal. I find B’s yucky.
Here is a short story of mine 🙂 -
It actually happened with me i studied non stop and got a bad nosebleed . ..i even passed out on my table my parents rushed to the hospital i stayed there like 2 weeks and i couldn't remember anything instead of formulas they had to bought a therapist for me after treatment for like 2/3 months i became normal
And they again never pressured me about studies
Oh thats sad but its kinda happy bc you dont have to study that much and not passing out again.
So sorry that had to happen to you! 😥 I hope you are doing better now
This can happen I am scared
My anxiety spiked,
And I hope you're ok
The exact same happened with me...
My teacher appreciated what my class has done to pass. She said "As long as you tried your best, its okay. Even if you don't pass, atleast its not a 0"
aw. Lucky
The person who got a 0:
Im blessed i have truely parents like angel...they never told me like that even if i fail❤
Is it bad that I started tearing up watching this? I mean it's so true. Whenever someone tells me to "study harder" or "do better" it makes me like, insecure...... Is that just me????
:(
yes its jusr you. getting under 70 is a dissapointment we call it in asia.
@@onlybyaku anywhere it should be….
@@SumTymago why? Your making it sound like grades make up a whole person.
Yes i feel the same
one thing parents don't realize: they tell us that we study for our own success but in reality we study and go out on our way in harmful decisions to make them proud.
we study for their praise, not ourselves and when someone gets a higher grade you get compared to them and you feel terrible about yourself.
Reading the comment section makes me realize how wonderful my parents are. They always encouraged me to work harder. Neither pressurized into pulling an all nighter nor compared me with other kids who scored more than me.
They always said that I mattered more to them than the marks. I will follow up with the same path with my future kids too. Hope everyone will understand that verbal and emotional abuse is more traumatic than physical ones.
EDIT: From the comments I got to learn something more about it. Now that I think about what I wrote I will rephrase my words " Any form of abuse be it mental, physical and emotional are traumatic."
It's so lovely that you have caring parents like this and wish to become the same! It's absolutely right, health always comes first before any grades or studies. Toxic comparison has never benefitted anyone. I hope the mindset can spread to everybody ❤️
Even my parents too don't pressure a lot in me...❤
I feel really lucky ❤️ to have such parents
Same here they encourage me every step of the way❤
Spread love not discrimination❤❤❤
Aw lucky, my parents want me to study all day and I should get above 90%..even the top grade in English won’t satisfy them and I go to an above average school 😞
Those shivering hands are so relatable
A totally relatable video🥲
lmao once I got 99.7% as my average score on finals (scored the top in our school) and my parents were super happy but on the next midterms I slipped a little and got a 98.4% and they were like, "why did your grades drop? are you not studying during all those hours you spend sitting at your desk? do we need to take your phone away?" I mean, I understand and everything, but sometimes I just need a little break or understanding... and it's not exactly easy to keep up with everything, especially when you're on the school swim team (that has practice at the crack of dawn) + orchestra + volunteering club + honors classes lmao
Edit: I’m not saying that my parents don’t love me, just that they want and expect the best from me at all times lmao
But also being compared to your guy best friend (who is also secretly my boyfriend-) is like the worst feeling ever because it’s not like I’m doing horribly, just that he and I always compete for 1st place and we go back and forth. But obv my parents don’t see that.
The hell is wrong with your parents. They sound crazy.
Damn
who asked
@@MoonZenitsu and who asked for your opinion? certainly not me, or anybody else. so please, keep unneeded information to yourself. thank you.
@@lovemyairpodss ok
i didn’t realize how much pressure my parents were putting on my grades until just a few months ago, this video reminded me just how horrible they treat me.
thank you for creating this community though, i love your channel. i am ashamed for being skinny, to the point where i eat a lot ,, until things kinda go down hill, yk ?
and my grades ,, feel like i’m never good enough.
anyone else going through this, i’m so sorry :( i will give you a virtual hug
"i got a 82%!" "only 82%?! try harder!" "..."
"omg ur math is not good enogh, get all A's! you only get A's, B's, C's and D's, try harder next time sweetie pie."
"ur grades aren't good enough.. do u want to get grounded? study harder! idc what u get, dont get a C rat.
"look at your friend, (name) gets A's and B's while u are stuck getting A's, B's, C's and D's. be like her!"
(name): "it's fine, just study harder! your parents are just tryna make u better!"
"you got better ig. try getting no C and D! its better for your card."
"till u get a bf, u don't have to worry about money and the future!"
"why u keep getting sick?! stop being like that eh."
(teacher name): "sweetie... did u get enough sleep?"
(my name): "yeah... i did, :..)"
i need a virtual/ irl hug, idc where/ who r u, i just want one. :c.
@@Yvkiiz here you go: 👥👥 (i don't have the hug emoji on here sjsj)
Here’s some hugs ʕっ•ᴥ•ʔっ
@@Yvkiiz 🫂🤗
Reading the comments made me even more grateful to my parents who always support me whether my grades are bad or good
Yeah me too
Soo trueee…after watching this video my mom was like …”see how much other’s parents pressurise their children , you should be grateful to have such supportive parents like us”❤❤
Yall are so lucky
I have the most strict parents on earth 😭
lucky😊u😊
@@HeartssForMesame😭
You’ve made this subject so much easier for me to understand!
I relate to this on an emotional level. My parents have basically taught me: “If you don’t meet our expectations, you aren’t good enough.” So, I’ve always devoted my time to meeting their expectations, and trying to satisfy them. “You got a B- in Math? When I was your age I always got A’s. You need to do better.”
“All kids deserve parents, but not all parents deserve kids.”
True
True I also relate to this I got a A on my science test they say : didn't you study! Only A , it was so hurtful that you do hardwork and your own parents thinks that's not enough .
True
I once got 99% on a math test and my parents strait up asked me where did that other one percent go and thenade me study until 11 pm the next test and the got annoyed at me for not sleeping like leave me be
So I'm the lucky one ig coz I got one time 16/30 and my mom was like u can try a bit more but it's not super bad
Yep and then they're insanely surprised when they find out you have performance anxiety 🙃
Exactly
Or even anxiety lmao
There like criticizing you and then your like why are you so rude
and then blame it on your phone
I mean getting a grade that is close to failing is definitely a problem
@@LukeKirkland122 but I have a B+ in all my classes lmao
My Bengali (lndian) parents even say "lf u get lower than 90, that marks will not have ANY *VALUE* " 💀
💀💀💀
@@Liljonta😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
That's a common Indian thing
@@bhoomikaanand7641“common lndian TOXIC thing” 🙂🙂
My mom gets mad whenever i get lower than 99 :)
If your scores didn't satisfy them they'll think that you didn't study
this is so true this is a real story i almost fainted for studying too much because of pressure but im ok now im still studying though but with a little bit confidence in my grades no matter what my parents tell me
same like i don't care abt my marks anymore im passing right thats enough for me and i also dc what my parents tells me im doing my best ik...not my parents should know
Same
Same
She just explained my whole middle school life-
RIP@lunaria_Darkmoon
finally found someone who understands pain from school
All those pressure is good for our future.
“Look at your cousin they are so much better then you at everything”hits real hard
so truee
Fr
My Chinese friend has a cousin with her grades being 1,0 or something like that. In tenth grade. 😶
So true
Bro i hace a GPS off 1.7 and they don't care
I've always loved the relatability of your content. It makes me always wanna come back for more! My parents are pretty strict on grades. My GCSE results came back a few days ago and let's just say they WEREN'T happy. It's not like I failed anything but I wasn't "the asian standard" (basically all of the top grades). I think it really hit me when a member of staff at my school asked to see my grades, saying another member of staff told him I did really well. I awkwardly gave him my report, ashamed of myself for my grades. And he told me "you really need to stop beating yourself up over this. You did amazing!" But I knew the lecture and yelling I was gonna get when I got home. So when I got home I got yelled at and lectured saying I failed everything. Some of the subjects which i had studied really hard for I ended up doing really well in and I was so happy with myself but my parents won't ever see that. They'll just see me as a failure and someone whose value is just numbers on a sheet of paper.
i was the opposite. i’m mexican american, but i had an asian best friend growing up. i had parents who were supportive and proud of my grades as long as i had a b+ or above. whenever i’d hear my best friend’s parents talk down on her for having grades that were the same as mine or higher, i would get really self conscious. i don’t blame her for any of this, but her parents’ way of thinking got to her as well, and she would grimace or say “ouch” whenever she’d see my grades, which were still okay. i started forcing myself to study longer and harder and neglected my health because of it. i’d beat myself up for getting grades HER parents wouldn’t be proud of, and they weren’t even mine. to this day i still feel so horrible for her because she’s held to these high standards and is unhealthy because of it… i’m still learning to unlearn this and be kinder to myself.
This should get more comments and likes. 27 isn't enough
Nah my Mexican and Salvadoran parents literally make me study for having a b in ela
ELA is pretty hard but i feel like I can do better
@@cantro8959 idk why you say “nah,” i never said mexican or latino parents aren’t hard on their kids. they just aren’t as strict as asian parents are. i’m speaking from my experience alone. ela is just english language arts, isn’t it? i was in honors english and ap u.s. history in high school. i wanted to be in even more advanced classes, but i was already sacrificing my wellbeing forcing myself to overachieve. i’m just saying that my friend’s strict parents took a toll on me as well, not just her. it’s an extremely toxic way of thinking.
@@cantro8959ELA isn’t even that hard, no offense. I don’t even try at all and I have a A+. It’s inexcusable in my household.
This is true tbh, as an asian myself I always felt bad for my fellow peers if they got less than 90% which is like an A.
We were honestly brought up with the mindset that anything less than 90% is bad.
I can relate...I studied all day all night from 4:00 am to 12:00 pm but I just got my result today and I did so bad.I am afraid that everyone/fake friends will gossip about it...
So true.Actually one time I got 97 and my parents were so made at me , then the next year I got 100 and they didn’t appreciate how much I worked hard 😪
Mad*
Lol same I remembered a incident when I got 98/100 in maths and instead of appreciating me my father asked where's the other 2 marks? Like wtf!! I sometimes find it very funny lol the fact that their over expectation sometimes freaks me out and I don't know how to fell about it ? 🙄😏
same here i got like a 90 they are mad at me but when i gotna 100 they dont care
Bruh those parents you have are stupid they should be glad because you atleast passed
@@Jaeshin123 same…I got 98 this year and then 99 for finals but yea I pretty much cried most of the time and all my classmates were saying that I’m so ungrateful of my marks when they don’t even know the consequences.
omg I didn’t know how much people get stressed by their parents to do better. my parents just want me to try and do my best. my older brother is also here if I needed his help and my mom was a teacher but obviously other people don’t have an older sibling or a parent that is was a teacher to be there for them. nobody should take granted for anything they have.
That's true but not everyone's parents or families are all like yours so😩
Bro can we switch families 😫
@@ainahopeavendano9372 same I got a 94% in maths and my mum need better T-T
Wait ur parents mad at for having 94%? Mine would be buying me ice cream if I get anything over 90%
I got a 97% overall and came 2nd, it's my first time being on top 3 and my parents were like - "Great job, next time u will be first! " I loved how they supported me ❤️
And then they hit you with the "Your sibling still got better results than you"💀
edit: hate to be that person but
bet you thought i would do it hey🤡
Skill issue
OMG TWINS 💀💀💀
that’s what my science teacher says to me 💀💀
Too bad I'm the better grade sibling 🤭
But yeah before exams.. i study like 13 hrs a day, and 6 to 8 hours a day regularly (or at least 5 days a week)
I’m lucky that me and my sister are 8 years apart so my parents can’t compare us. Like what’re they gonna say, “Oh you got an 80% on your chemistry final? Well your sister knows 9 of her 10 sight words for this week”
My dad puts so much pressure on me as if I’ve always been a bad student. I’m always getting good grades and right now I’m rocking with straight A’s. I took a math test last week and crashed out. I couldn’t think right and I studied all week for it. He was so condescending and belittling. Ima do online school now.
" Mum! Dad! I got a 24 out of 25 on my maths test! "
" where's the rest of the 1 mark? "
*5th grade Marilyn took this way too deep to the heart.*
I took math really really really seriously in 5th grade. If one of my friends told me they got a higher grade than me, I would get super upset.
@@THE-local-potato same
Man I once got 96 but my parents were still mad that I did not make it to top 10
same my parents will always be mad why i always a mark
"im home! I got a 25 out of 25!"
"wheres the 0 marks?
Same, my mother was not satisfied even when I get 96%. She always says me "Don't compare with the friends who get lower marks than you . Compare yourself with your friends who scored higher than you." 🥺🥺
The fact is don't compare with anyone...
LMAO MY MOM DOES THAT TOO but I always shut her down when I tell her “I am the smartest one on the street”
Because it’s true, no one in my friend group gets higher grades but she’s still nit picky
When they're "just" words but they still really do a huge affect on us😭
cause we understand them
“ Success hits different when your parents don't believe in you"
I can also relate. They want me to get 90+. Weren’t they children once? They should know how hard it gets.
This comment deserves more recognition
Actually, their education system would probably be easier and less develop so sadly, it is highly likely that they don’t 😢
girl u know all the feelings that human can have - love ur videos
I once took a really math test and got 95% But still got Yelled at, Compared, I did my best. I stayed up all night, I focused a lot, Thought my parents would be proud and support me. My school is starting in 2 days and my parents are flooding me with homework and chores. Because of this I've had ️Anxiety for over 1 year. Why can't they support us? They were kids too, They know how it feels. Even when i study on my own they still ask me to do even more. I wish they knew how I'm feeling. I know they love me but this? It's too much. I'm already struggling on loving myself, Focusing on ME. (This is from a few week ago) I was so happy when I heard I'm going on vacation with my family, BUT. They decided to leave me here with my aunt so i can do my studies. They always say i'm always spending time on my chrome but all the time i get is 30 minutes a day. Sometimes I don't even get time to take breaks.
Sorry for the long comment I just wanted to get this out of my head and feel more relaxed..
Thats true....
ohh I'm so sorry for you. Why don't you try talking to them and telling them how they make you feel. Or are they the kind of parents who it is impossible to talk to about these things? Look I kinda know how you feel bcs I struggle so much in loving myself bcs I think I'm not smart and cultured enough and that I do not have enough knowledge about different things and so one but at least I've got my mother who supports me. Otherwise I would die. I've already got kinda depressed and lost the motivation of doing anything even though I get a lot of support from my family, so I always imagine what would have been of me if I had not. I study hard and am very hard on myself and I don't like my grades but my mum tells me it's okay and that she knows and appreciates all the efforts I'm doing. I mean she's not blind, she sees how often I start studying in the morning and only go late to bed. This is why I don't understand parents that are that insensitive and still don't support their children even though they see how much and how hard they study... I hope you'll be able to talk to them about your feelings and that they'll understand it and stop putting so much pressure on you. I just know to good ( even though I have a pretty supportive family) how unhealthy this can be.
PS: My family often says that I'm a genius and that I've got so many good grades and that can also be a bit annoying sometimes bcs as I already said I don't think my grades are good and sometimes I fear to not really be as they're saying... bcs I often really doubt on myself...
Sending you a lot of love and support and I'm sure you'll make great things even though your parents do not see it yet😊😊❤️
you know what, all in all school is rubbish! I know we have to study if we want to have a good and well paid job and in the best case one that you pretty like you have to study, but bcs if school I barely haven't got any time left to chill, like no breaks. It's only Homework Homework and more Homework and exams exams and more exams. What the fuck, that's no life? My school starts in a bit more than a week now and I'm already desperate about it. Just thinking about it makes me sick 🙄. So sometimes when I need a break I tell my mum that I need one and then she allows me to take a day off. Bcs otherwise I would bare it cause I nearly have no life...
Ps: But it's only sometimes. Don't think she lets me skip school/ classes whenever I want.. cause that would be always 😂😂. It's really only when she sees that I'm on my limits..
I slept most of the time and just took the tests since that's all I needed to pass if I aced them. Not once did I study because I didn't need to. Just keep in mind the moment you let ANYONE know you're smarter than average they either try to use you or raise their expectations so they can live vicariously through you. I hated it but once you're on your own you'll be glad it's all over.
@@zarahmartins6165 idk I'd suggest finding shortcuts. That's what I always did even if it was because I was bored. You don't have to bend over backwards to finish school with a good grade.
How I feel after studying one and a half hour straight:
I’m so grateful I have parents that aren’t THAT strict with my grades.
But because I’m a high achiever I tend to put such high expectations on myself since I base my self worth on what grade I get. Either way, my parents don’t mind what grade I get, as long as I worked hard.
Same here. I just noticed that my parents won't scold me if I score less but they do question me if I don't study with a proper plan.
Lucky you guys, i got a 5/20 last time and they are never satisfied , even tho i did all the best i can do.
Lucky.
My parents aren’t really strict on my grading on test they just reteach me I think im the one being hard on myself
Ngl , whenever I started to get happy after improving at a subject (Like for example , I used to get 20/100 for maths and now I got 57/100) my mom would be like : “ That’s all? “ , “ It’s not an improvement “ or “ don’t be so happy “ , etc. that really hurts. I relate to this sm
*You're doing great, trust me.*
20/100 to 57/100 is a HUGE improvement!!
I'm aiming to do the same too.
It doesn't matter what others think about you. YOU know how hard you've worked. 🤗
Bro if I got 57/100 I would be flying to heaven by now
That's great improvement! You improved for yourself, not for your mom, so if she can't see what a wonderful child she has, that's her loss. Again, good job!🙌🫶🫶
Same here I got a 40% in my exam and withing 3 months I improved to 70% I was the weakest in physics in which I got 26 and from 26 today when I got around 50 I was so happy but to my parents I am just a failure and a disgrace to the family.... they don't see my improvement but what they see is I have to get a 90% I am pretty sure that even if I got a 85% they wouldn't have been happy and there they say that we are not telling u to get 90% even if you get a 80% we will be happy.... What do they actually mean?
I got 65/100 but I failed my final exam :,)
I’m so glad I have parents who want me just to be happy and they never force me to study. They guide me to, but if I ever get really hard on myself, they always encourage me and help me :)
I love them so much.
U r lucky❤
@@aesthetic_me9645I really am 😊
Ur lucky
I got 74% and got bullied for a week straight
@@person-bd7ks tbh if I got 74% I would’ve really done something to myself because I would think that I’m not enough for my parents
They love me so much that I try to study more and more because I want to repay their efforts. Their unconditional love is the biggest motivation for me
Same my parents don't force me to get good grades
This is what ever student can relate to
Things almost all parents do:
(EDITED)
1. They care about your grades more than your learning
2. For strict parents a “ 70-90% “ is Bad
3. They say “Okay” when you finally get the perfect score
4. They tell you to go get sleep but study !24! Hours a day
5. Strict parents will take away your electronics when some of them you could use as a resource to study
6. COMPARING 👩🏻>👩🏼 grades with other kids
7. Choosing grades over YOU
8. Setting HIGH expectations
9. Telling family members about your grades and business
10. Limiting your activities
11. Not always impressed
12. Slowly becoming toxic (possibly)
13.taking away your belongings
14. Grounding
15. Yell or say hurtful things
16. They say they don’t care about your grade before the test but scream at you when you get a bad one
(If there’s more tell me)
they could also hit u :(
hitting us on the head
@@kimsuvanwita2423 fr
Litteraly my eomma and appa do all of them .its kinda getiing worse now:(
@@Anime58676 my friend advices:
when you invite a friend over or your with your friend at school tell them to run to the police or call 911 (you can secretly record them doing these things and give evidence )
Well that's true and i can relate 😭like how much ever I try, my parents always wanna compare me with others........
Yess.......
Here's a comeback for your parents:" And what abt you? Did you always get 100% on a test? I bet you didn't"
@@zara7306 the problem is my mom DID get 100% on her tests... meaning im just something that is inferior basically
@@shushma4524 girl ur not inferior, dont listen to her, (ik its not easy) try your best and tell her that you are not inferior, coz probably theres someone out there who will be happy and proud of you
@@zara7306 ikr 💯
" You are born to be real, not to be perfect" - Min Yoongi
Okay so whoever who is reading this don't forget the words and yea I understand that you guys want your parents to be proud of you, same for me. Yea it's hard but don't ever overwork yourself. That's my opinion, thank you
But in my case
"You're born to be perfect, not to be real"
@@dtrajoc5579 it's okay it's your opinion😊and i won't hold a grudge
for my parents its the inverse wish my parents were supportive .....
Yoongi never said that
ARMY 🥺✨💜
Finally there's ppl who I can relate to!😢 My grandma always compare me to my cousins or siblings like "why can't you be like your sister!? She smart and mature and look at you always on your phone I shouldn't have gave you that new phone..if you don't make your grades high then I'll take your phone away" even tho I have tried to study and make my grades high and when I was in 5 grade(currently in 6 grade rn) at least I pass even tho I didn't get honor but at least be grateful that I pass it's not like everyday I get honored...at least I pass because I put effort at least but she doesn't see that...
Sometimes parent dont understand your going through HITS ME REALLY HARD.
the feeling never goes away. First it's your parents being disappointed in you, then you internalise it. Right now i'm here crying feeling like everything i have worked for is not good enough because people from my high school have it better and put in less work (they are rich).
for me my parents always says “we are not sad because of your grade but we are sad for you because you worked so hard for nothing” and they say” “ all parents just want the best for their kids not the worse”
This is so real... I've been a topper since kindergarten and if I didn't do good, my parents would be hella mad... While when my big brother got the same score they congratulated him🙃I can't even please them with a 95%...
and then they say “oh dear, why do you look so ✨tired✨”
True frrrr
One comment and !93 like leemme fix dat
@@vocaloidmikuofficialsamoa729 u summonded me?
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Man I feel this. Especially.now my grades came in and i got a 44 in one of my classes im being forced to study. To who ever is reading this and is going through the same thing. 'You are not just your grade. Your parents may not see it but you know yourself best Make yourself happy and take care.' it will get better soon.
And they say I should get more sleep when they are pressuring me to stay up and study
FR
Agree
All the things my mom does to me>
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1.body shaming me(fat-shaming)
2.comparing me to others
3.isn’t greatful for what I get in my marks
4.always expects always good things from me
5.saying really hurtful stuff
6.curses at me in my other language
7.she says “I work school is easy working is harder I barely even get to sit and you do!!” Yes but school breaks my limits and my mental health NOT joking
My mom does the same thing to me dawg… 🙃
What hurts the most is that it’s so relatable which is really sad especially when your being compared to others make me feel I’m not good enough for who I am.
This literally made me cry fr like it's soo relatable for me & I know how hard that pressure & stress might feel
This is what i have to go through, just flipped around. My parents are the ones who say i shouldn't keep working for so many hours because it can damage my mental health, but despite what my parents say, i always strive for perfect grades. These are dire times in my life, and for the first time, i am starting to believe they were right all along.
yall, for everyone who does not sleep due to studying, studying and not sleeping is NOT the way. Sleeping helps you concentrate.
I think you should study 3-5 hours a day, then have you free time, and sleep at least 8 hours. Renember you will always be enough if you get bad or good grades tho, and if your parents are like this then try to tell them this