As a daycare worker, I can tell you that 5 year-olds have a surprising amount of drama. They forget about it quickly and repeat it again after nap time.
I had the pleasure of going through some old meeting transcripts from kindergartens in the 90's, and wow. They actually had a whole section on the agenda called "fights", where they talked about how the kids were not allowed to fight it out in the past, but they would be going forward. "A good fight solves a lot of conflicts", and the teachers agreed that they should interfere as little as possible, to make the kids sort out their differences "the natural way" (for boys only, apparently). Not only is this extremely concerning, as they were teaching little boys that conflicts are best solved, not with communication and empathy, but with violence. I wonder how well this has served them now, 30 years later. Furthermore, the girls' "exclusions of each other" was mentioned but not adressed. So all in all, if you're a guy, go ahead and fuck people up if you disagree with them, and if you're a gal, keep up the psychological warfare. What the actual frick.
I once read something along the lines of "society hates teenage girls, so teenage girls don't want to be teenage girls." It feels very true. Thinking back, I didn't want to be associated with teenage girls either, so I was heavily in the 'not like other girls' corner, and I know I talked shit about other teenage girls to make myself appear different from them.
Same! When I was a teen I went so overboard trying to make sure I wouldn't be associated with "other girls" my age. Now as an adult I see my little sister going through the same phase and it just makes me sad. Girls shouldn't have to feel embarrassed about being girls.
Granted I'm not a teenage girl but I've literally never seen or heard any animosity whatsoever directed specifically at teenage girls from society at large, quite the opposite.
@@-Devy- where have you been?! Stuff like Twilight for example gets hate mainly for being popular with teen girls. Granted, it is not a well written series, but it's not much worse than like, idk, all these mass produced marvel movies we're seeing now, and yet which one is the one people feel the need to make a big song and dance about hating? Stuff like this is literally always happening. It's misogyny with an extra layer of thinking someone's dumb because they're young.
@@k4nd1incyb3rsp4c3 I mean, people also hate Twilight for the racism and pedophilia. But I do agree that a solid chunk of the hate was just "lol vampires don't sparkle"
As a person who lives in Florida, agreed. 😂 One literally had decals like “Jeep Family” and “My Other Ride is a Jeep Too.” Though that one got me like, “why do you need TWO Jeeps?” 🤔
I once saw a post/meme saying something like "I'm not like other girls... I'm a 45 year old man" and for some reason that absolutely took me out, I couldn't stop laughing 💀
Alice Roosevelt was amazing! She was completely independent in a time when “young ladies” all had to conform. She wore a blue gown instead of white at her “coming out” party. Couldn’t get out of the party but got out of the white gown everyone else had to wear. The color became known as Alice Blue. In her generation she was a massive rebel who pushed for equality. Got to love that.
@@wiggletonthewise2141at the time (and still now for some areas/high class people in the US), young women would have a ball when they were presented to society. Basically a party to announce they're old enough for courting/marriage
@@sandrosliskeYep, that was literally what it was. If you were the daughter of a wealthy family, your role was to marry into another wealthy family and make sure the wealth all stayed within your class. Meanwhile, the sons of wealthy families needed to find wealthy young ladies to marry and bear them sons to keep passing the wealth on to. So the girls' families would hold debutante balls to basically advertise their daughters to their friends' sons. It's not called the marriage market for nothing.
That one about “I AM like other girls because I am unique and amazing” really did a lot to take me out of my shit mindset back then. I still love video games and ducks, but I finally have a great relationship with pink and dresses and showing some skin and thinking about romance, Just like other girls. And I love myself for that
I'm an autistic trans boy. back when I didn't know either I was always trying to be like the other girls, and I behaved almost exactly like those "not like other girls" girls. I have no clue how I managed that, but in hindsight it's quite funny.
Transmasc culture is growing up like either "I'm not like other girls" or "I am definitely a normal gorl and very femme nothing boy here hahahaha" or both
"Make sure you knock up the woman before she turns 25" My mom was 34 when she had me, she's now 53, with 17-20 year old kids. No woman or another human being has the right to tell me or any other person who can give birth the "right age" or the "right parenting" because every human being is goddamn different. These words literally disgust me, it's their choice to make, not yours
haha so true... I had my first child at 31 and even then I wasn't sure if I was really ready for it. I'd have been a terrible mother before that. I remember a girl in my university course who had a child while she was studying and it was only possible, because she came from a catholic family with 4 siblings of her own who all jumped in and helped. Not everyone is that fortunate and has a huge family to back you up with childcare. Promoting "knocking up" young women is basically promoting poverty, since at that age very few women have even finished their education.
It also sounded like, woman are only there to breed and giving the man a "beautyful child", not caring about what the woman wants. That's what disgusted me the most.
pretty sure the push to knock up women young was specifically intended to prevent careers and get women out of the way in society asap so they have less effect on how it's run, and to encourage impulse decisions so she doesn't have time to really figure out her goals and test the waters before committing to anything and just goes along with whatever a man wants like a good little pet, and the women who parrot it 1 take the drop in egg count way too seriously(humans have an average over 300,000 eggs, this is Among the possible reasons for fertility problems but it's not the most common reason, and a number of reasons aren't even on the mother's side), and 2, are women who had their lives taken over young and are resentful at their loss of allowance to control their own lives, and since society laughs at them for blaming their husbands and it's not socially acceptable to openly hate their kids, they just direct that resentment at other women for having the opportunities they didn't.
I think the "I'm not the one you'll marry" things are all people who keep getting dumped, but are too egotistical to cope with it in any other way than turning it into a 'positive'. They might keep dumping them, but they'll never forget them. No, Cheryl, go to therapy.
To the lady shaming women for not shaving their armpits: the fact you are married to someone who wouldn't like you if you didn't shave yourself raw head to bottom, says a lot about your choice in men.
i once didn't shave for like a week and for some damn reason i apologized to my partner about it. he apparently hadn't even noticed and he said he was just happy i was there
@@nyangatagaming903 100%! My gf of 8.5 years and me currently have to have a long-distance-relationship (yay.....life....) and if there was a Genie in a Lamp that made it that her and me are together forever but she will have hairy legs for the rest of my life, i would take this deal in less than a heartbeat. No hesitation. My gf is the greatest, kindest and generally bestest human i've ever got to know and a few hairs won't ever change that
Not liking armpit hair is fine, but it should go for men too. For example i think leg and arm hair looks good on men and women, but chest, armpit and butt hair is a no for me. Hair thats in sweaty areas collects smell and i just dont like it.
In defense of women, sometimes it's just a self-defense mechanism to basically lampshade how different you are. It's not always a "point of pride" kind of expression, it's more like nervously laughing while declaring you're a freak as a way of trying to preemptively cut people off from being abusive toward you. It's not a pleasant place to be in and it usually comes from being bullied for minor differences when you were younger, stuff like wanting to read a book at recess or something benign like that that kids will make a big deal over.
Because feminity is so shamed that to prove we are human beings and some object for men who can't think or have choices we have to prove we are not like other girls is honestly depressing
As an overweight person with OCD, one of my triggers is being afraid people think I smell or I'm dirty, so hearing The Click tell me I smell good today, actually helps lol
Ooof I'm sorry, I have OCD too so I get it. It's important to remember that smelling bad isn't a moral failing, and doesn't make you a bad person. I go through depressive episodes and struggle with hygiene so sometimes I have to make peace with the idea that I may smell bad and that's okay. Obviously I try my best to wear deodorant and shower and all that but sometimes i just don't have the energy and that doesn't make me a bad person
22:40 I find it so ironically funny that they used Junko as a model for "other girls" when she quite literally was one of the most iconic villains I've ever seen, managing to become the mastermind of all 3 killing games even though she was dead for the other two and being an interesting villain ( like her different moods : secretary Junko, kawaii Junko, etc. ) and her amazing villain arc. ( also the fact that she doesn't match the description at all, like did the person just search up random blonde girls ? ) The fact that they're comparing her to Toko and saying that Junko is white when they're both Japanese is hilarious. And technically neither of them could fail school cause the staff were all dead. The thing about Toko having a girlfriend is true though. TOKOMARU ( not the beach, the danganronpa ship. ) The characters are from the video game franchise Danganronpa and you can understand a bit better if you browse their wiki pages.
No, actually. Instead, I very vividly remember times, when society told girls that reading books is waste of time since men are not interested in well-read or educated women and they prefer girls who are good at domestic duties, smile a lot, talk a little, tell them how much smarter they are and never ever contradict or disagree with anything man says. So clearly there is no reason to read books, and if a girl is reading not to appear smarter to a man but for her own pleasure, it's clearly just some silly nonsense that fills her head with unnecessary wild ideas. Ah, good (not so) old times. May they never return.
@@Tired.Cactus TBH there are 2 types of girls that men are attracted to if go by this comments. You have: a) Nerdy, well read, can discuss stuff. b) Illiterate, doesn't talk much, obedient, housewife. This tells me that he ideal girl would: Look at books all day but can't read them, spend all day cooking but all she cooks is recreations of videogame foods, has a degree in chemistry and other in biology that she uses to clean and cook better, she doesn't talk at all she is a mute, but you can have great conversations with her in body language alone. She is obedient but obedient like a genie is, meaning that she will twist all orders to mean anything she wants to do while still complying to the order to the letter but not the spirit, because she is obedient and independent. Ofc she would have one big boob and the other boob would be flat, the same for the ass, one check massive and the other flat. She would wear dresses, but bellow the dress there would be jeans and on top of the dress a t-shirt, she would also wear an apron but she would but it on the back like a cape, she would put makeup, but only half of the face would have makeup applied. Yes i had too much fun writing this bullshit
As a kid I was always very different from my girl classmates and I took pride in that. As a teen I realised I was acting like a quirky girl, but I couldn’t stop feeling good about being different. I thought I’d just have to live with having this cringe feeling of being “so mega different” to the other girls. Turns out I’m just agender and autistic. Edit: omg thank you so much for 1k likes!! I have never gotten so many on a comment before ^^
22:25 Fun fact: the girl used for the “other girls” picture is Junko Enoshima, who is a war criminal. That killed hundreds of people. This implies that other girls are war criminals Edit: I also find it ironic that they put “white” as one of her traits when she is literally Japanese, I wonder if the creator of that just found a random picture of her without even knowing who she is
The "me" girl was also Toko Fukawa/Genocide Jack: not a war criminal but definitely still a serial killer.💀 I guess it kinda fits tho bc when she isn't Genocide Jack, she do be acting really judgmental/pick me as far as I can remember lmao. Regardless, that part made me laugh and definitely wonder if OP even knows the characters.🤣
6:45 wtf is wrong with people?? i am increasingly glad each year that i didn't have kids when i was 20 or 25. I was immature and had some shit to work through which i didn't even know i had to do at age 20. Having kids is only in very small parts about healthy genetic components, and in EXTREMELY BIG PARTS about being a reasonable adult who's not projecting their own unresolved trauma responses on their children.
If I ever were to say "I'm not like other girls" I would probably follow it up with something like "Because no singular girl/woman can be all the exact averages of literally every other female-identifying human"
@@spiker.ortmann That's true! Maybe a better way for the phrasing would add an all, since many all statements that exclude something from an all tend to be true. There are certain exceptions of course, but there's not many in the case of people specifically. You could say all women are women... but you could also say there are people who could both be considered a woman and not a woman, such as people identifying as Demigirl or something similar.
I used to think I was quirky… until I was diagnosed with autism after 30 years of existing. Turns out not all girls collect everything and anything pink. (It’s a special interest) Also I’m non-binary. 😂
I was kinda like that too lol. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 4 and diagnosed with autism in high school. I love collecting cute and colorful things too! Like plushies. My favorite is my squishy pink dinosaur and squishy Tom nook plush.
I find the “group of girls cause drama” such a weird stereotype as the drama in my childhood usually came from young boys trying to prove themselves as better than each other.
@@pencilcase8068 there is a surprising large amount of young boys that bully girls because they like them. It is rooted in the toxic masculinity society forces down their throats.
I spent most my childhood thinking "I'm not like other girls." I felt depressed because I didn't fit in. Anyway turns out I'm a guy and my life would have been so much easier if I had heard about trans people before I was 14.
All people look back and say "It would was been easier...if I'd only known..." that's literally being a teenager ❤❤ You are who are you are today because of what you've been through. That's perfect ❤
22:20 Fun fact: those two girls are from Danganronpa. One is a neurotic writing prodigy that has a whole nother personality that's a mentally unstable serial killer. The other is a fashionista who's also the cause of the world being thrown into total despair and basically bringing the apocalypse through sheer manipulation and cruelty. So, basically, all girls are killers, according to whoever made that meme.
Man, I've been scrolling through the comments trying to find mention about this one. I was tempted to just put a comment about how whoever made that meme clearly never played or watched Danganronpa because of how they labeled Junko.
No girl is like other girls, because everybody's different and we all have our own thoughts and personalities. there's no such thing as "other girls." I firmly believe that we're all unique in our own way.
When I dealt with my “not like other girls” phase, it was partly rebellion in the face of my hyper religious and conservative relatives trying to force me to act certain ways. So yeah… I really hated pink when I was younger. Now I have a lovely collection of sparkly pink dice that only roll well when I am the DM in combat. No, I didn’t almost kill my players with a pack of wolves in the first session, what are you talking about?
Im now kinda curious on how your hyper religious relatives treated you for it manifest in the whole "I'm not like the other girls"-phase. Must have been pretty horrible to go trough that while young, so Im glad you are seemingly over that part of your life (and have found the wonders of D&D)
for some reason the image that popped into my head when i heard the description of your dice was the pink fuzzy dice people put on their car's rear-view window. i kinda want a pink, fuzzy D20 for my car now...
As a Christian, I am horribly sorry about your relatives. I wish that we would stop cherry picking what we like/dislike. If you have any questions please ask, once I again, I apologies :)
I didn’t have my ”I’m not like other girls” phase, I had my ”WHY I’M NOT LIKE OTHER PEOPLE, GOD, PLEASE, JUST MAKE ME LIKE OTHER GIRLS, MAKE ME BASIC, I CANT FIT ANYWHERE, IM FREAK” phase Edit: People did tell me their stories in the comments, and I wanted to say that for everyone who was going or is going through same phase: You are not freak even if you think so right now. You are really beautiful and amazing person, who just didn’t find right place to them in the world. I hope everything will get better soon for you later, just remember that you’re really important and special 💜
...and now how do you feel? i mean i had kind of the same, but with the boys side. Now i have my freaky nerdy wierdy friends, and im kind of, "f*ck you, you are booring", but i want to know about other stories
Thank you so much for this comment. I am so happy to read that I was not alone in this. I was afraid of commenting something like this and being accused of being a pick me
22:49 my favorite part is the implication, that Junko Enoshima, a psychopath who was so smart that she got bored of life and tried to plunge the whole world into despair, is normal.
"Who had drama when they were five?" I will never understand the drama we had at five. I remember this girl would go to my friends to claim them and to say I wasn't allowed to hang out with them. I was genuinely upset and now I'm just bewildered as an adult.
Primary school was so weird. The Drama was just very very confusing especially now looking back my parents always thought it was just because we were 3 girls and I was being a very sterotypical high masking autistic girl. As an adult now looking back there is a reason one of those girls is still one of my very few friends even if we havent lived in the same country for going on a decade while I havent spoken to the other one since a different mutual friend dragged her along on a movie night when we were 15 and I was back for a holiday. And I was waaay to shy and clueless to figure it out until years later. It took me 2 years and a school change due to a move to realise I was being bullied for some inane reason.
5 year old drama is as ridiculous as it is intense. My 5 year old drama was that the other 5 year old girls were so bewildered that I didn’t express a crush on any of the boys that my then Bestie and 1 other friend asked me to a play date as a ruse to get me to confess. Like 5 minutes after I arrived they locked me in a room with them and interrogated me for what felt like hours until I burst into tears and made up a crush so that I could finally leave. You know how kids _never_ get tired of asking the same question over and over again? Same thing except turned on a fellow 5 year old that hated noise (autism). And then the rumor that was created under literal torture haunted me for 7 years thereafter. I honestly wish I was more of an asshole as a kid, like that situation _totally_ called for screaming bloody murder until an adult intervened but I didn’t do that because politeness and “don’t be a crybaby” and stuff
Reminds me of my best friend throughout primary school. She hated it when I'd speak to the other kids and try to have other friends, she'd say I was 'taking off' and be horrible to anyone I wanted to be friends with lol. By the time we were about 10/11 I was more confident in ignoring it and making other friends too despite what she said. Then when we went up to secondary school we drifted apart completely and made our own new friend group. Was weird how possessive she was.
I once managed to hang with the "popular girl" group once in year 3 (Australia) or something. Apparently they would sit around on a bunch of rocks in a circle in the school garden and just... kinda gossip and shit talk everyone else in the school? Like, girls... we are 8-9 years old. I convinced myself that we were faking emulating adults. And I was convinced it was part of the game when the girls claimed they had "boyfriends". When it turned out I was asexual and autistic over a decade later I finally began to wonder if they were being genuine or not...
I think I had a "I'm not like other girls phase " I was extremely tomboy ish and was into very nerdy things. A lot of my friends were the same, and while they had no interest in makeup or dating as we went into high school, I became extremely interested in those things. I felt like I had to not wear makeup or I would be seen as vain or "like other girls". I never thought that I was better for not wearing makeup, but I thought that others would think I was less for liking those things. I now realize that I can wear makeup and feel beautiful, while still loving outdoorsy "tomboy" things and nerdy books and games. Like that one post said, it's sad that little girls feel like they can't be perceived as "like other girls" because of the 1-dimensional stereotype that is often promoted
@@es68951 100% that is such a harmful idea that is promoted to so many kids. I've seen my own brothers be horribly impacted by this. There are so many stereotypes that hurt everyone, especially the children that hear them every day
@@es68951Well, yeah. The stereotype for "woman" is looked down on and hated, while the stereotype for "man" is respected. Both are just 1-dimensional stereotypes, but one makes you more acceptable to the general public.
The one comment near the beginning of the video - teen girls think they’re “not like other girls” because they are independent, have their own thoughts and interests, dress in a way they like instead of trying to impress someone else - was so on point. Girls have so much expectations placed on them, but at least they start to build some sense of self actualization at that age.
As a not girl anymore who is autistic, I've been excluded, mocked and bullied all my life for being "too weird" or "too quirky", so it's really.. jarring seeing so many people TRY to seem like that kind of person. Like it makes them cooler somehow. I've been bullied by "quirky girls" too, which is even weirder. It feels people just want to be weird in the socially acceptable way, and don't have a problem when they still shame ""weird"" (ie. The wrong kind of quirky) people.
Yeahhh same. I was also the wrong kind of weird. Turns out in my mid twenties I found out I was autistic. I struggle greatly with flat face or resting birch face in public when I'm low empathy and low energy, and this often got characterized as me 'hating everyone' when really I'd just run out of energy to pretend to smile 24/7 anymore. I'd typically have a token girl in any school that was willing to approach me anyway, so I also had the wonderful privilege of rumors spreading that I was massively lesbian. Four times. At the school I graduated from, the girl in question was my *sister.* And yeah, turns out I'm not quite straight, but I'm not quite a girl either. But things like sexuality and gender identity are pretty hard to parse when one is also struggling with undiagnosed autism one is constantly being alienated for, and well, being constantly accused of being lesbian and being bullied for that too doesn't really encourage one to explore potentially being attracted to girls. Just ended up hating looking at them for a good long while until I accepted I wasn't one. Everything kinda just gets chalked up to, "I guess I'm too weird, I wish I could be normal." Apparently some people were even scared of me? How that translates to 'let's bully the crap out of this kid' I have no idea. But people later admitted they were creeped out by me, and found me unsettling. Go figure. People are weird. Not autistic kinda weird, but people in general? Weird. They see something that is different from their own threshold of out of the ordinary and decide to tear it apart.
Same here, I will admit I was one weird kid. I learnt that Harry Potter snake language to insult people, that was definitely questionable lol. My best friend was autistic and I found out I was after I realised we were carbon copies of eachother
I always find the concept of thinking you're the only different one as so weird. It's almost as strange as Swedes not realizing they're actually just Danish meatball makers. More love from Denmark.
For some reason that reminded me that time in 30 year war when Swedes manages to conquor castle in Bohemia because some idiot forget to lock up back doors.
I feel that in 20 years all those 'I may not be the one you marry' quirky girls will still believe their exes are thinking about them constantly, but meanwhile if you asked those ex-bfs about them they'd be like "Who?"
I've noticed a trend (althought it might just be a specific selection) of songs basically being about a woman singing she's over her ex and lives fine without him, but wishes him the worst and hope he's sad about losing her. These songs are stupid and it's actually the other way around; they can't stop thinking of their exes. Now you could argue that this is the whole point, it being ironic, that deeply they actually care and miss their exes. But that's really not how the song comes across; they're too rude, arrogant and act like they're better, with no hint at sarcasm. A better example is the Swedish song "Jag ljuget så bra" by Linda Beingtzing, where she's singing "You think I'm thining of you and I feel regret? Not at all. I can survive on my own, sleeping well at night, read the paper alone and a wide bed to myself. I can't have it better. ... ... I'm lying so well". This song has this part of sarcasm that everything she says is the exact opposite. Sorry for this mini-rant ...
I guess everyone wants to feel like they were special to someone and that they mattered, and that the pain of rejection they felt is somehow reciprocated. Being rejected hurts, we all were in some way in some form at some time (and if you haven’t, I’m very happy for your incredibly privileged wealthy life) and maybe besmirching their hypothetical future is a “sour grapes” situation… “you’re so boring you won’t be worth my time eventually so GOOD you’re gone, I’m not crying, you’re crying.”
@@Liggliluff that’s why, when I write breakup songs, I usually try to make them about how the person telling the story was hurt rather than “I’m DoiNg sOoOo mUcH bEtTeR wiThOuT yOu!” but that might just be because they aren’t about a real ex I’ve had
@@Aldi-Officalto be fair in bad idea right it shows that she actually does care.Same with deja by and good for you.Non really state that she is over then rather that she is still obsess.I’d say Olivia Rodrigo is quite the opposite of what the OP is saying.
I will say though, if you think men are “less dramatic” and therefore easier to hang out with, you were/are not invested in your friends’ lives enough. My chosen professional career has had me work around a ton of men that I inevitably end up befriending (dang extroverted side), and they gossip, fight, and act petty JUST AS MUCH AS WOMEN DO. And it’s hilarious. Men just have a different means of going about it than my women friends tend to. TLDR: Men CAN and WILL BE dramatic af if the situation arises. 😂😂😂
Anyone who says that men are not dramatic has a very poor understanding of history. It is littered with examples of men being petty, judgmental, gossiping, all of that... for example, how can anyone say 'European royal court in the early modern era' without the DRAMA?😂
I love this as a trans girl coz like I'm discovering why so many girls like the conventional "girly" stuff. It's fun. Shopping is great when ur allowed to shop for what you want. The bright colours add something interesting and nails are just nice. But like also lots of girls have a personality outside of that, and I think it's just important not to put people into stereotypes and just realise that everyone is different
In my experience those women who say that "I only have male friends because women are so much drama" are the ones who start the drama and then are suprised when others defend them self. Also guys can be dramatic and toublesome too, it is almost like it it is about individual and not about gender 😱
22:32 that is Junko and she is definitely not like other girls. From what I heard she caused humanity to basically go extinct so that there will be a ton of despair. The game series she comes from have brutal deaths after each trail like the person being hanged and the corpse used to play a giant piano.
Basically yeah to all that you said about Junko is correct The piano part is a bit worse than that: [the villain "cought"] a person (alive) using a rigid collar, and then used their body to play a giant piano until the suddent movements caused them (the person with the collar) to break their neck. After that the victim was kept a bit in the air, showing a silhouette like they've just been hanged. Afterwards the piano "closes" (that part that is used to protect the keys) and the body gets crushed. Not going to spoil who or why those series of events take place (bc of spoilers) but those games are wacky, lemme tell you
11:50 i remember seeing this comic during my "I'm not luke other girls" phase and it definitely help me realize maybe I should open up to other girls, now I'm just happy that I saw the comic or else I'll still be that girl sitting in the corner thinking I'm different and not willing to makes friends
Im an autistic woman who wasnt diagnosed until well into adulthood. These are actualy painful for me to see. I knew i was diferent than everyone around me in a fundamental way i didnt understand and couldn't discribe though i desperately tried. Left with nothing else i focused on these shallow surface differences trying to find where i fit in the world but i never felt superior or pretended to. I was trying my hardest to fit in and to find conection in a world that didnt understand me or i it. Truly feeling different and out of place is an incredibly isolating and degrading existance. Now that "quirky" is cool and you have people using these shallow differences to feel superior it reminds of when "quirky" was used as an excuse and apology for me failing to meet others social expectations for me. ("Sorry, My daughter's a bit quirky") I showed to much obvious intelegence to be called a retard (with one notable exception of a teacher in second grade) and so "quirky" was the label assigned to me. Some of these post I feel are people like me trying to find aceptance for their differences by copying things they see not knowing the community they are trying to conect to are about weaponising society's aceptance for individualism in order to elevate themselves above others rather than building people up. It really sucks seeing people like these narcissistic bitches burning the social goodwill the public has towards people like me who genuinely struggle to fit in. The missuse of the work quirky is just the sugar on top of this shit sandwich.
And have you heard of the girls who "train themselves to have no facial expressions to prevent wrinkles"? That sure causes some feelings in context of autism...
@oriawik Never heard of them, and honestly, I just find that idea amusing. Although there may be some nuance I'm missing, that might be more disturbing.
@@strawberry_punch_art Ouch, right, I forgot it was a thing, meanwhile, for me it takes super intense emotions to naturaly make expressions. I remember training in front of a mirror as a little kid to make sure my smiles weren't creepy...
This is a bit off topic, but what would you say is the benefit of getting an autism diagnosis? I've suspected for years that I might be somewhat on the spectrum, but in between not really feeling a diagnosis would help me understand myself better -- it's just sticking a label on stuff I already understand pretty well -- and feeling like it might just give people a convenient box to put me in, instead of just listening to how I feel and taking me seriously. . . . I don't know, I guess I've never seen much point in finding out, one way or the other.
@@eyesofthecervino3366 two extra reasons 1. You don't need to share your diagnosis even if you get it. 2. You are fixing the statistics of how many people have it
Bro the thumbnail just brought me back when people thought it was trendy and cool and inclusive to have a gay guy as a friend to show off like a chihihuha in a purse to show how "we respect others"
29:46 kills me, I'm just imagining the dad/mom being like "Dark blue jeans?? Outrageous! We are an upstanding family who respects the traditional values of light blue jeans! No daughter of mine will be wearing dark blue jeans in this household! Go change your clothes this instant, missy!!"
There actually are people like this around. Every subculture kid knows someone who is a lot into that kind of things, but looks completely normal because their parents are all into appearances and conformity. Also, my parents were all into molding me into something that I am not, until my teenage self used scissors to destroy all the pink clothes and then had almost nothing to wear, so I totally understand that girl and know that she is not coming from the narcissistic place. Her post was misunderstood.
I love how I thought I just was a cringey ,,not like the other girls"-girl when I was younger. Turns out I am neurodivergent, ftm and aroace. So, I am indeed not like the other girls.
Note to all young women: stop comparing yourself to this this generalized group of 'other girls' - I promise, none of them want to be lumped in like that either. We're all different, and the trending image of femininity is constantly shifting. If you like something, like it. Stop checking what other people think of it first. You will be much happier and it will be one less thing you have to relearn in adulthood. You like pink? Cool. You hate it? Cool. Doesn't matter, and it doesn't mean anything truly important about your image as a woman. Its just a color. Same goes for your taste in clothing, shoes, music, decor, etc. Just like what you like. And if people assume that you're quirky, or popular, or girly, or tomboyish or a bog witch because of your personal choices - that's on them. No need the force yourself into an exclusive box just to feel special.
A month later, this is a charming and informative post. I, an aging man, loved the spoken statement that all those girls and women are simultaneously resisting being lumped together. That is so much more human-feeling than a blur of anonymous herd animals trotting around together. "Women are not zebras" is another must-have T-shirt.
I admittedly had a phase like this but it turned out I just wasn't a girl to begin with. Ironically, I do a lot more of that stereotypical "feminine" stuff, like wearing nail polish and covering everything in rainbows and glitter, now that I have matured and embraced my trans-masc identity. 😅 It also turns out I LOVE women. ❤
hell yeah brother! i used to be very "meh" torwards the idea of gender at all and just would avoid thinking about it too much and was very GNC, just turned out i was avoiding the fact that i wasnt thinking about gender in a deeper way because i wasnt *happy* just being a GNC girl. then in my baby trans man days i avoided ANYTHING too femme because of crushing dysphoria, but now as ive gotten older, more confident, and started T ive gone back to being more GNC, but in more of a secure way than a "just dont think about it just dont think about it just dont think about it!" way
this is exactly me!! i grew up identifying myself as a tomboy who liked “masculine” things only, and it was the same during my baby trans boy days. now that i’m more comfortable with myself i find that i enjoy buying clothes from the women’s section, painting nails and doing makeup, because i know those things don’t detract from my identity as a trans man edit: the one masculine thing i never had to force myself to like was men LMAO
Yeah, i hated women who liked being women. If i'm a woman and i hate this, they are lying! Turns out i'm not a woman and women are actually cool. Not wearing nail polish anymore though because i tend to pick at it and as a hairdresser i feel like that wouldn't look professional. Also i get to do other peoples hair now so my own gets the minimalist styling version. But getting testosterone for a few years really brought out my feminine side. No need to overcompensate anymore, yay!
It took me years to understand that I didn't get along with most girls not cuz they were girls, but cuz I was a neurodivergent weirdo and as soon as I started studying IT suddenly I got along just fine with everyone. So if u suspect u don't fit in cuz of massive adhd or autism, try comp sci.
I had a similar experience! I'm not neurodivergent, but I've felt pretty isolated all my life, and it feels almost magical how much easier it was to make friends as soon as I went to a queer, nerdy, or a black queer space. Gee, suddenly I am indeed like everyone else. And on top of that, I'm not even the only enby in my circles! 🤷🏾 I cannot recommend enough to trial and error hobbies; it'll literally take less than a year for results
Fun fact: I thought I had no fashion sense, then I went to a gay conference and found out I was dressing like a butch lesbian! Sometimes it just takes a little exploration to find the people you are like.
@@cookiecat6317 ahh you were referring to the second time he said jeep. The first time he read "Jeep girls" sounded right to me, so I was a little confused. But the second sounded off, I didn't hear that when I skipped back. Thank you
Junko may have been a unforgivable, genicidal war criminal, but she did it with ✨ S T Y L E ✨ But yeah, talk about not knowing where your source material comes from 😂
I love that The Click collects rocks like I do, I feel weird about the fact that I have a bin of rocks I've collected sometimes and remembering The Click, my fav UA-camr, has drawers of rocks makes me feel better. Love you Click ❤
My parents keep pushing me to shave my legs, and it drives me crazy. My mom keeps saying it’s HyGeInE but has no good answer to what’s unhygienic about having effing hair. I hate it, it’s so uncomfortable that they keep bringing it up, literally *no one else notices or cares*
The whole "i only hang out with guys because girls are so much drama" is a perfect example of "if it smells like poo everywhere you go, you should check your shoes". Like, if all your friendships with girls end in drama, you're the one who causes the drama.
Girls are different drama than guys is probably a more apt description. Lived with 60 girls in boarding school for 4 years. In my experience girls are less direct when it comes to conflict and you end up with a lot of “alliances” of people either not talking to each other or being passive aggressive. Guys dorm on the other hand much more direct, someone gets pranked, punched or they get drunk together and are besties again. Pick your poison, most drama is equally annoying to deal with anyways. I was friends with both but gravitated more towards guys because our interests overlapped more and I’m more direct. Really don’t understand this dichotomy of either or when both are possible and you’re gonna have to deal with individuals that have their own idiosyncrasies anyways. Small addendum: This is based on my experience but still largely a generalization. You’ll meet great and terrible people of either gender and they’ll be their own individual with their own thoughts, feelings and behaviors which you may or may not agree or be comfortable with. Please just be open to people and treat them with courtesy.
Disagree. Boys don't judge me for being Autistic, the girls did. Boys are more direct than girls, and I prefer honesty and not beating around the bush if something is wrong or bothers you. I just get along with guys better. There is nothing wrong with that.
I did tend to be the only girl in a group, or.maybe one of two, but that was a demographic thing. I was in special ed classes back in the day when girls didn’t get diagnosed as often, and the majority of our little groups tended to be Not Like The Other Kids, so while other girls were a mystery to me, it was more that I didn’t know any. Making my first actual girl friends was pretty awesome actually!
@@sarmajere2866 Same! Special needs girls are often ostracized by other girls, but not guys. We weren't the drama, the girls just didn't like us, and we didn't like them. No problem with having a different preferance for freinds that leans more towards guys.
I went through a MAJOR pickme girl phase-turns out I wasn’t even a girl to begin with and I was just trying to relate to the gender I was always more comfortable with, even though I did sometimes lie about disliking things that are traditionally feminine-like saying I hated shopping-simply because I wanted to relate to boys and saying those things made me feel more masculine; glad I figured it out eventually though
English makes no sense and when you add all the small regional variations to names of things it just gets more complicated. Its my native language and I still think Click is better at it than me.
I heard a great description of this attitude, "when a person realizes the complexity of their own existence, but hasn't worked out that its the same for everyone else"
i’m not like other girls. i quit doing that about four years ago and have been living happily as a man ever since also that one where they said museums are for kids or something actually made me like pause in confusion because i’m minoring in ancient studies and ngl if people didn’t tell me it was time to go i would Not leave museums most of the time if anything they’re more boring to kids cause kids don’t really care about “oh this random disc” but when you find out they were used to vote to exile a person for like a year and the same few people wrote the same name a whole bunch of times to skew the vote and get one person exiled it’s honestly hilarious (the exiling thing was to keep people from getting too influential or something like that)
As a recovering INLOG I agree with the post at 3:25. Growing up , all the fun and interesting qualities were considered masculine. Even the fact that I was the top of my class, people would be shocked and say: wow, you're even smarter than most boys. I was told girls were just air headed puppets that like to play with dolls, shop, obsessed with their looks and spoiled. I looked at myself and saw much more than that, so I tried to stay away from the stereotype as much as possible. I had horrible acne which not only hurt mentally but physically. But whenever people would sympathize or suggest remedies I'd pretend like I didn't care about my looks. I've always liked both the color balck and pink, but would only wear black. I'm so glad I've grown out of that phase. Please, teach your little girls they can like and practice whatever they want and still be feminine and special and interesting without the need to put other girls that don't share their interests down.
Nobody has a problem with the individuality, it’s when you have to attack others to do it. “Everyone else is silly and boring except me” invites everyone else to go “uh, no”, because that’s an asshole thing to say. It’s also not good for the individual, because they feel isolated, they don’t understand those around them and will repress the parts of them that conform rather than accept that everyone is similar in some ways and it’s not bad to be similar. It also hurts those around them when they’re treated like side characters or stereotypes. Making fun of the people isn’t okay, but making fun of the ideas is fine when they’re harmful.
@@jayfalcon-rw3qc Eh, I wouldn't necessarily call all of it criticism, at least half of it is entertainment. And there's nothing wrong with being cringe, the problem is when it's harmful.
@@midnight4685 I don't think everything has to be judged on an ethical scale. If a comedian does a bad set, it's a bad set, that's all. I'm not going to pretend otherwise. People generally put content online because they want it to be seen. But once it's out there, you can't control the response it gets from people. You either read the room well, or you bomb. And then you can either learn to laugh at yourself, or complain about it. Everything we say ultimately reveals more about who we are than most of us realize. The hard pill to swallow is when your audience becomes more acutely aware of your faults than you
I had a "I'm not like other girls" satge. I was (and still) very shy and introverted, and had a really hard time interacting with people in general and it came out like that for a few years. Also the fact that I'm enby probably played played a part in that lol.
Same in middle school. And then I realized I was a boy, not a girl. Still, society makes girls feel bad for enjoying feminine things so they feel a need to express that they're different. It's sad, really.
This used to be more than enough to make someone literally not like any of the other girls because the internet wasn't invented so there were like 40 relevant girls in your universe, given that universe was a rural-ass minority language school. I sometimes wonder if the trope still has roots in that cultural memory.
I'm not like other girls, I want to dress like a goth vampire/pirate/cowboy and I'm actually a trans man. Seriously used to be one of these "girls" because I knew I was different. And then I realized I was a boy. Also, the comic with the goth girl and the stereotypical girl complimenting each other is so wholesome, I love that.
The "I'm not like other girls" to "Oh shit I'm actually trans (masc)" pipeline is so real. Like, I used to be one of these "girls" too, and here I am now, wanting to look like a pirate as well. We're all on the same boat apparently LMAO
When I was younger, I used to hang out with guys more than with girls. Not because “girls are drama” but just because that’s who I ended up getting along with. Also I’m trans now
As an aroace, probably genderqueer, neurodivergent person, growing up in a very traditional conservative place, I definitely had my quirky girl face and it makes me laugh and cry at the same time
With the post at 34:32 "I might not be the girl you marry" it seems so baked in the idea that marriage is a deadend, that once married you are STUCK with this person and not the idea that marriage can be a new chapter in life filled with excitement or you know you don't have to marry if u don't wanna (pov i am a not married person who's just online too much and seen too much of r/arethestraughysok?)
I'm not like other girls, and I am like other girls. I do whatever I want, whether that's playing video games or getting my nails done, because lets be honest, it doesn't matter. Do what makes you happy.
Yep. Life is plenty hard, and it turns out there are no bonus points for heaping on extra suffering. If it's not hurting you or others, enjoy and let it recharge you. If anyone else has an opinion, pity them for the additional weight they've chosen to carry.
22:27 I don't know about you, but last time I checked, 'other girls' weren't complete psychopaths with the sexual preference of 'Despair'. I get wanting to use dangyrompy characters but maybe pick just a different character in general...
Yeah. Like... They could have used Sonia and Chiaki from the second game and made their point WAY better. Possibly including the "White" part, since Sonia is from a monarch country. Though, tbh, she's not like other girls either.
Watching this made me laugh. "I'm the girl you're going to be thinking of in 20 years while you're with a wife that blah blah blah" If that girl was all that, SHE would have been the woman I married. She was the toxic mess I noped out of. As for my wife? She's an angel that stuck by me through the worst days of my life.
31:37 Oh, at one of the supermarkets they always sell heart shaped boxes on Valentines day and tree shaped boxes before Christmas that are full of various kinds of cheese. I absolutely love those.
At what point will we stop making up what we think girls are meant to be like, hating that image, then trying not to be "girls". Its a self fueling fire of hatred and we need to be proud to be women. Girls can be curious, intelligent, outdoorsy, sporty, artistic, weird, awkward, hates clothes, loves clothes, caked in makeup, no makeup. We are all different and unique but yet united by our one thing in common, being female 😊
6:25 This woman tried lesbian relationships and found out she wasn't lesbian and decided be an "intimacy guru" as a result. You can imagine how that's going.
I personally love the song "Most Girls" by Hailee Steinfeld. Literally addresses the whole thing with "Some girls" and then gives examples of how girls may look or act differently from each other, but the chorus is very much we are the same in that we "are smart and strong and beautiful." Still love that song.
The thing is, i was kinda right during my "i'm not like other girls" phase. First because I was really mentally ill, then was diagnosed with neurodivergency, to finally realise i was in fact not a girl at all ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I carry a bag of "emotional support" rocks in my purse. When I have panic attacks, I pull the rocks out and focus on them to distract from my anxiety. It works pretty well to help calm me down while waiting for my meds to kick in.
"Ugh - everyone's transcending now. I did it before it was cool, and now I've descended to the deepest levels of the underworld." - the competitive guide to not being like other transcendental souls
i've had very bad experiences with girls (as a girl) and it made me really salty towards other women. i was never mean to other girls, but there still was a voice in my head telling they're all the same and i shouldn't trust them. Nowdays i'm just super scared to even pass any girl in public :( i'm getting better and actually wish i had a girl friend, but still the trauma is present. I have only guy friends because of it and ofc i love my friends, but still wished for more deep connection and healing from my bad experiences because i know that there's lovely girls who i would love as a friend.
When insisting that you’re not racist is one of the first things you have to say about yourself… girl, everyone immediately suspects you might actually be racist.
I always thought I was not like other girls. Turns out I wasn't. I was just ostracized and emotionally stunted as a result. Nearly 30 now and in therapy. Looking back I would prefer to have been more like other girls.
I love how Click has an amazing grasp on the English language, but every once in a while the Swedish comes out full force, like when he says Jeep like "Yeep" lol Hallå från USA Hoppas alla mår bra
My wedding felt kinda like a ‘not like other weddings’ since my hubby and I decided to do pajamas as the dress code but it wasn’t in an effort to be different it was actually to lessen the dysphoria since I’m non binary and wouldn’t feel comfortable in a dress and can’t quite pass in a suit either (in my opinion at least).
(10:25) That's a good point. She tries to make a point how she's "messy" and "don't care about her outwards apperance", yet she's full of makeup. She's fine to do what she wants, but the point she's trying to make fails due to it.
"Im not like other girls I write poetry and can't figure out what I am lol" But really, I spend half my time in my room. Having a crisis trying to figure out what am I am. Oh, wait, I'm just a teenager. 😅😂
Not shaving does nothing to help with temperature regulation or help retain heat at all (and vice versa for keeping cool). It is entirely an aesthetic choice and at an edge case it could be said to help with hygiene/odour as a hairier individual in hot climates may find that their sweat will cling to said hair, although this situation is never really a problem as most people have access to showers etc. I am not judging anyone but making up excuses implies there is something wrong with one or both options to begin with.
@@bumblebeeyellowdragon no the reason we evolved less hair was because we didn't need it as we developed sweat glands as our means of thermal regulation. The only area on the human body that is effected by whether or not you have hair there is the head and that is only due to the relative heat loss there in comparison to rest of the human body. I suggest you actually look into it rather than assume stuff based of weird logic. I mean if there was any realistic chance that what was originally stated was true, Inuits would be hairier than Turks (they're definitely not).
@@nathanthom8176 You need to go back to elementary school biology if you don't know that mammals developed body hair as a means to keep warm. Also Northern countries generally do have more body hair then countries in warmer climates. How much are you gonna announce that you don't know?
@@bumblebeeyellowdragon It used to be that way, but it has mostly lost it's function since we developed more efficient way of heat conditioning. Now for most people living in comfortable temperature, armpit hair has little to no effect on any bodily funtion. I suggest you to view adaption not as "purpose", but more like "reason" for some trait to evolve. And when the environment changed, it will likely stay if it doesn't have major disadvantages despite becoming largely useless because there isn't a "reason" for it to be eliminated by natural selection.
I can remember when i was in my "not like others girls" phase i found it really weird that other girls thought that celebritys are really hot and that they want to marry them because of that. I actually thought i was different because i did not care about looks. Turns out i was just asexual
I have a feeling the "I'm not like other girls" really just didn't know many girls personally, and were lonely. They turned that loneliness into hostility for every other girl in the world. (I was definitely "not like other girls", and complained about it all the time when I was a teenager.)
As a daycare worker, I can tell you that 5 year-olds have a surprising amount of drama. They forget about it quickly and repeat it again after nap time.
As an animator at camp, 6 year olds are the same minus the nap
Indeed, and a hint at the perils of having more than one child in proximity to each other.
I had the pleasure of going through some old meeting transcripts from kindergartens in the 90's, and wow. They actually had a whole section on the agenda called "fights", where they talked about how the kids were not allowed to fight it out in the past, but they would be going forward. "A good fight solves a lot of conflicts", and the teachers agreed that they should interfere as little as possible, to make the kids sort out their differences "the natural way" (for boys only, apparently). Not only is this extremely concerning, as they were teaching little boys that conflicts are best solved, not with communication and empathy, but with violence. I wonder how well this has served them now, 30 years later.
Furthermore, the girls' "exclusions of each other" was mentioned but not adressed. So all in all, if you're a guy, go ahead and fuck people up if you disagree with them, and if you're a gal, keep up the psychological warfare.
What the actual frick.
Omg i know, my two year old niece has more tea than i do
My two favorite ones are “i’m not like other girls, I’m actually a trans guy” and “I’m not like other girls, i’m WORSE”
this is a little off topic but following that second one, i like saying "im built different,,, and *worse*" and something about it delights me
How about both
haha i love those. both are true for me, lol
I'm not like other girls, I'm a trans man.
Is another way of saying, I'm not like other girls, im a guy. Lol
"Boop"
Me, a trans fem: ahh yes, men. 👌
I’m both
*creepy, maniacal laughter*
I once read something along the lines of "society hates teenage girls, so teenage girls don't want to be teenage girls." It feels very true. Thinking back, I didn't want to be associated with teenage girls either, so I was heavily in the 'not like other girls' corner, and I know I talked shit about other teenage girls to make myself appear different from them.
Same! When I was a teen I went so overboard trying to make sure I wouldn't be associated with "other girls" my age. Now as an adult I see my little sister going through the same phase and it just makes me sad. Girls shouldn't have to feel embarrassed about being girls.
I thought that too but ends up I really wanted to seize the means of production and not send all the cookies to the overlords.
Granted I'm not a teenage girl but I've literally never seen or heard any animosity whatsoever directed specifically at teenage girls from society at large, quite the opposite.
@@-Devy- where have you been?! Stuff like Twilight for example gets hate mainly for being popular with teen girls. Granted, it is not a well written series, but it's not much worse than like, idk, all these mass produced marvel movies we're seeing now, and yet which one is the one people feel the need to make a big song and dance about hating? Stuff like this is literally always happening. It's misogyny with an extra layer of thinking someone's dumb because they're young.
@@k4nd1incyb3rsp4c3 I mean, people also hate Twilight for the racism and pedophilia. But I do agree that a solid chunk of the hate was just "lol vampires don't sparkle"
"does this actually happen? Are there really people who make their whole personality... jeeps?" As someone who grew up in Texas..... yes.
Jeeps are awesome… at least the original ones. In a museum.
As a person who lives in Florida, agreed. 😂 One literally had decals like “Jeep Family” and “My Other Ride is a Jeep Too.”
Though that one got me like, “why do you need TWO Jeeps?” 🤔
same goes for Arizona lol knew so many Jeep girls in high school.
Yeah 🤘
(the only reason I used this emoji is because it was under the title: Texas)
@@covespringskids haha, hook 'em horns!
She's not like other girls, she has one giant foot - she's actually a snail.
And you'll never guess why she's chasing you...
NO NOT THE SNAIL
Oh no
PLEASE NO
Oh shit
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!! Death snail!
I once saw a post/meme saying something like "I'm not like other girls... I'm a 45 year old man" and for some reason that absolutely took me out, I couldn't stop laughing 💀
Naaaaah im wheezing
Tbh I don’t think I would be able to stop laughing if I saw that too
Alice Roosevelt was amazing! She was completely independent in a time when “young ladies” all had to conform. She wore a blue gown instead of white at her “coming out” party. Couldn’t get out of the party but got out of the white gown everyone else had to wear. The color became known as Alice Blue. In her generation she was a massive rebel who pushed for equality. Got to love that.
What was a coming out party? I assume not coming out of the closet lol
@@wiggletonthewise2141at the time (and still now for some areas/high class people in the US), young women would have a ball when they were presented to society. Basically a party to announce they're old enough for courting/marriage
@@KFoxtheGreat A debut party is another term for it
So it's like they are showing off the wares? That's messed up.
@@sandrosliskeYep, that was literally what it was. If you were the daughter of a wealthy family, your role was to marry into another wealthy family and make sure the wealth all stayed within your class. Meanwhile, the sons of wealthy families needed to find wealthy young ladies to marry and bear them sons to keep passing the wealth on to. So the girls' families would hold debutante balls to basically advertise their daughters to their friends' sons. It's not called the marriage market for nothing.
That one about “I AM like other girls because I am unique and amazing” really did a lot to take me out of my shit mindset back then. I still love video games and ducks, but I finally have a great relationship with pink and dresses and showing some skin and thinking about romance, Just like other girls. And I love myself for that
I'm an autistic trans boy.
back when I didn't know either I was always trying to be like the other girls, and I behaved almost exactly like those "not like other girls" girls.
I have no clue how I managed that, but in hindsight it's quite funny.
I'm also autistic and I did a very similar thing lol
Same
I did the exact same thing, and I never realised why I acted like that until a couple years later.
Transmasc culture is growing up like either "I'm not like other girls" or "I am definitely a normal gorl and very femme nothing boy here hahahaha" or both
Same
On a funny note I used to be super proud of the fact I didn’t go through a boy crazy phase like “other girls “ turns out I’m a lesbian lmao
TOO REAL 💀
Huge same...
Lmao I'm abro and like boys very rarely so I definitely relate (I'm definitely in my girl obsessed (life-) phase)
Saaaame I didn't understand at all the girls who were boy crazy, turns out it's because I like women lmfao 😭
Me wondering why I never had a type in men and didn’t know what a crush was
"Make sure you knock up the woman before she turns 25" My mom was 34 when she had me, she's now 53, with 17-20 year old kids. No woman or another human being has the right to tell me or any other person who can give birth the "right age" or the "right parenting" because every human being is goddamn different. These words literally disgust me, it's their choice to make, not yours
haha so true... I had my first child at 31 and even then I wasn't sure if I was really ready for it. I'd have been a terrible mother before that. I remember a girl in my university course who had a child while she was studying and it was only possible, because she came from a catholic family with 4 siblings of her own who all jumped in and helped. Not everyone is that fortunate and has a huge family to back you up with childcare. Promoting "knocking up" young women is basically promoting poverty, since at that age very few women have even finished their education.
the fact she was dressed like some kind of villain
It also sounded like, woman are only there to breed and giving the man a "beautyful child", not caring about what the woman wants.
That's what disgusted me the most.
pretty sure the push to knock up women young was specifically intended to prevent careers and get women out of the way in society asap so they have less effect on how it's run, and to encourage impulse decisions so she doesn't have time to really figure out her goals and test the waters before committing to anything and just goes along with whatever a man wants like a good little pet, and the women who parrot it 1 take the drop in egg count way too seriously(humans have an average over 300,000 eggs, this is Among the possible reasons for fertility problems but it's not the most common reason, and a number of reasons aren't even on the mother's side), and 2, are women who had their lives taken over young and are resentful at their loss of allowance to control their own lives, and since society laughs at them for blaming their husbands and it's not socially acceptable to openly hate their kids, they just direct that resentment at other women for having the opportunities they didn't.
👏👏👏🫶🏻❤
I think the "I'm not the one you'll marry" things are all people who keep getting dumped, but are too egotistical to cope with it in any other way than turning it into a 'positive'. They might keep dumping them, but they'll never forget them. No, Cheryl, go to therapy.
To the lady shaming women for not shaving their armpits: the fact you are married to someone who wouldn't like you if you didn't shave yourself raw head to bottom, says a lot about your choice in men.
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i once didn't shave for like a week and for some damn reason i apologized to my partner about it. he apparently hadn't even noticed and he said he was just happy i was there
@@nyangatagaming903 100%!
My gf of 8.5 years and me currently have to have a long-distance-relationship (yay.....life....) and if there was a Genie in a Lamp that made it that her and me are together forever but she will have hairy legs for the rest of my life, i would take this deal in less than a heartbeat.
No hesitation.
My gf is the greatest, kindest and generally bestest human i've ever got to know and a few hairs won't ever change that
Honestly. I didn't shave for 6 months once and my husband never said a thing! Get someone that loves you for you!
Not liking armpit hair is fine, but it should go for men too. For example i think leg and arm hair looks good on men and women, but chest, armpit and butt hair is a no for me. Hair thats in sweaty areas collects smell and i just dont like it.
In defense of women, sometimes it's just a self-defense mechanism to basically lampshade how different you are. It's not always a "point of pride" kind of expression, it's more like nervously laughing while declaring you're a freak as a way of trying to preemptively cut people off from being abusive toward you. It's not a pleasant place to be in and it usually comes from being bullied for minor differences when you were younger, stuff like wanting to read a book at recess or something benign like that that kids will make a big deal over.
Because feminity is so shamed that to prove we are human beings and some object for men who can't think or have choices we have to prove we are not like other girls is honestly depressing
@@floofdoodle4349yeah internalized misogyny makes me really sad like I wish people could just love themselves for who they are 😢💗
I'm sorry but the beginning of this comment made me laugh "In defense of women" sounds like something to come out of a weird Nice Guy post
Why did you have to tell me that
WHY
What did i do to get such truth my god
@@rookideetrainer1635 Or a Wollstonecraft redux.
As an overweight person with OCD, one of my triggers is being afraid people think I smell or I'm dirty, so hearing The Click tell me I smell good today, actually helps lol
Oh I thought it was just me! That little comment always makes me feel a little better 😂
Sounds like you gone thru alot of bullying
@@rufusneumann9703as another fat person, telllll me about it man! didnt help thay i am also autistic lmao
Ooof I'm sorry, I have OCD too so I get it. It's important to remember that smelling bad isn't a moral failing, and doesn't make you a bad person. I go through depressive episodes and struggle with hygiene so sometimes I have to make peace with the idea that I may smell bad and that's okay. Obviously I try my best to wear deodorant and shower and all that but sometimes i just don't have the energy and that doesn't make me a bad person
This is so real,, ocd aboit self image and hygiene is so hard to tackle but little things like this are just so cute
22:40 I find it so ironically funny that they used Junko as a model for "other girls" when she quite literally was one of the most iconic villains I've ever seen, managing to become the mastermind of all 3 killing games even though she was dead for the other two and being an interesting villain ( like her different moods : secretary Junko, kawaii Junko, etc. ) and her amazing villain arc.
( also the fact that she doesn't match the description at all, like did the person just search up random blonde girls ? )
The fact that they're comparing her to Toko and saying that Junko is white when they're both Japanese is hilarious. And technically neither of them could fail school cause the staff were all dead. The thing about Toko having a girlfriend is true though. TOKOMARU ( not the beach, the danganronpa ship. )
The characters are from the video game franchise Danganronpa and you can understand a bit better if you browse their wiki pages.
omg
MY DEAR DANGANRONPA MATE, I FOUND YOU!!!!
Remember when society told you that just because you read books, you’re a morally superior human being which is the solution for attention from guys.
Better than the time they told ladies to not bathe, for the exact same reason.
No, actually. Instead, I very vividly remember times, when society told girls that reading books is waste of time since men are not interested in well-read or educated women and they prefer girls who are good at domestic duties, smile a lot, talk a little, tell them how much smarter they are and never ever contradict or disagree with anything man says. So clearly there is no reason to read books, and if a girl is reading not to appear smarter to a man but for her own pleasure, it's clearly just some silly nonsense that fills her head with unnecessary wild ideas. Ah, good (not so) old times. May they never return.
@@Tired.Cactus TBH there are 2 types of girls that men are attracted to if go by this comments.
You have:
a) Nerdy, well read, can discuss stuff.
b) Illiterate, doesn't talk much, obedient, housewife.
This tells me that he ideal girl would:
Look at books all day but can't read them, spend all day cooking but all she cooks is recreations of videogame foods, has a degree in chemistry and other in biology that she uses to clean and cook better, she doesn't talk at all she is a mute, but you can have great conversations with her in body language alone. She is obedient but obedient like a genie is, meaning that she will twist all orders to mean anything she wants to do while still complying to the order to the letter but not the spirit, because she is obedient and independent. Ofc she would have one big boob and the other boob would be flat, the same for the ass, one check massive and the other flat. She would wear dresses, but bellow the dress there would be jeans and on top of the dress a t-shirt, she would also wear an apron but she would but it on the back like a cape, she would put makeup, but only half of the face would have makeup applied.
Yes i had too much fun writing this bullshit
@@diablo.the.cheaterWhat if I want a woman who will step on me?
* cries in millenial*
As a kid I was always very different from my girl classmates and I took pride in that. As a teen I realised I was acting like a quirky girl, but I couldn’t stop feeling good about being different. I thought I’d just have to live with having this cringe feeling of being “so mega different” to the other girls.
Turns out I’m just agender and autistic.
Edit: omg thank you so much for 1k likes!! I have never gotten so many on a comment before ^^
sounds familiar
Way too relatable. Always felt different, so I went out of my way to be more different and prided myself on it.
Genderfluid autistic.
Literally same
AA battery ( i needed to do that)
@@reneedoesnotfuck actually I’m asexual and (mostly) aromantic too so I’m an AAAA battery muahahaha
22:25
Fun fact: the girl used for the “other girls” picture is Junko Enoshima, who is a war criminal. That killed hundreds of people.
This implies that other girls are war criminals
Edit: I also find it ironic that they put “white” as one of her traits when she is literally Japanese, I wonder if the creator of that just found a random picture of her without even knowing who she is
THANK YOU i thought there was no othe danganronpa fan
they DEFINITELY didn’t know 💀
I was looking for this comment before I commented….
The "me" girl was also Toko Fukawa/Genocide Jack: not a war criminal but definitely still a serial killer.💀
I guess it kinda fits tho bc when she isn't Genocide Jack, she do be acting really judgmental/pick me as far as I can remember lmao. Regardless, that part made me laugh and definitely wonder if OP even knows the characters.🤣
Hello my fellow Danganronpa fans
6:45 wtf is wrong with people??
i am increasingly glad each year that i didn't have kids when i was 20 or 25. I was immature and had some shit to work through which i didn't even know i had to do at age 20.
Having kids is only in very small parts about healthy genetic components, and in EXTREMELY BIG PARTS about being a reasonable adult who's not projecting their own unresolved trauma responses on their children.
If I ever were to say "I'm not like other girls" I would probably follow it up with something like "Because no singular girl/woman can be all the exact averages of literally every other female-identifying human"
Right, but that means you are like other girls, just not as ALL the other girls...
@@spiker.ortmann That's true! Maybe a better way for the phrasing would add an all, since many all statements that exclude something from an all tend to be true. There are certain exceptions of course, but there's not many in the case of people specifically. You could say all women are women... but you could also say there are people who could both be considered a woman and not a woman, such as people identifying as Demigirl or something similar.
similar to 'because everyone is their own individual person' haha
@@malia_ej You know, that would probably be a much easier way to put it
I used to think I was quirky… until I was diagnosed with autism after 30 years of existing.
Turns out not all girls collect everything and anything pink. (It’s a special interest)
Also I’m non-binary. 😂
Omg! Your special interest is collecting pink stuff?! That's a cool special interest!💟 into it~
When your special interest is something associated with your agab so you end up overshooting "other girls" and landing in "quirky" territory. It me.
Me at 15: “I’m not like other girls”
Me at 35: “I am EXACTLY like other autistic girls” 😂😂😂
I was kinda like that too lol. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 4 and diagnosed with autism in high school. I love collecting cute and colorful things too! Like plushies. My favorite is my squishy pink dinosaur and squishy Tom nook plush.
SAME!
I find the “group of girls cause drama” such a weird stereotype as the drama in my childhood usually came from young boys trying to prove themselves as better than each other.
Not to mention picking on you "because they like you."
Yeah, I felt this in my soul.
@@eyesofthecervino3366who does that? This sounds so weird to me
@@eyesofthecervino3366who does that? This sounds so weird to me
agreed. all the drama i was involved in had started by boys lmao
@@pencilcase8068 there is a surprising large amount of young boys that bully girls because they like them. It is rooted in the toxic masculinity society forces down their throats.
I love complimenting other women, because I was bullied in middle school and high school. Be the change you want to see in the world.
I spent most my childhood thinking "I'm not like other girls." I felt depressed because I didn't fit in. Anyway turns out I'm a guy and my life would have been so much easier if I had heard about trans people before I was 14.
protect trans youth
Same. I would've loved some puberty blockers 😭😭😭😭😭
My whole life has been a lie
I wish my parents acepted me as a trans guy
All people look back and say
"It would was been easier...if I'd only known..." that's literally being a teenager ❤❤
You are who are you are today because of what you've been through. That's perfect ❤
22:20 Fun fact: those two girls are from Danganronpa. One is a neurotic writing prodigy that has a whole nother personality that's a mentally unstable serial killer. The other is a fashionista who's also the cause of the world being thrown into total despair and basically bringing the apocalypse through sheer manipulation and cruelty.
So, basically, all girls are killers, according to whoever made that meme.
God seeing Junko and Toko in this video is a whiplash
Tbh Junko would probably have 100 boyfriends then turn them to despair
Man, I've been scrolling through the comments trying to find mention about this one. I was tempted to just put a comment about how whoever made that meme clearly never played or watched Danganronpa because of how they labeled Junko.
I was waiting for someone who would catch this, I started laughing when I saw Junko and Toko
Calling Junko white and straight, lmao
I'm not like other girls, I'm a trans man
the gang right here
Same
What up gang✨✨
Saaaaame
"I'm not like other girls. I'm a Transformer. Autobots! Roll out!"
No girl is like other girls, because everybody's different and we all have our own thoughts and personalities. there's no such thing as "other girls." I firmly believe that we're all unique in our own way.
Ugh... that's so normie of you! ;)
This belief is honestly the core of feminism
Nah im basic af nothing special about Me lmao
When I dealt with my “not like other girls” phase, it was partly rebellion in the face of my hyper religious and conservative relatives trying to force me to act certain ways. So yeah… I really hated pink when I was younger. Now I have a lovely collection of sparkly pink dice that only roll well when I am the DM in combat. No, I didn’t almost kill my players with a pack of wolves in the first session, what are you talking about?
They were _hamsters._
Really big ones.
Im now kinda curious on how your hyper religious relatives treated you for it manifest in the whole "I'm not like the other girls"-phase. Must have been pretty horrible to go trough that while young, so Im glad you are seemingly over that part of your life (and have found the wonders of D&D)
Sparkly pink dice of doom
for some reason the image that popped into my head when i heard the description of your dice was the pink fuzzy dice people put on their car's rear-view window. i kinda want a pink, fuzzy D20 for my car now...
As a Christian, I am horribly sorry about your relatives. I wish that we would stop cherry picking what we like/dislike. If you have any questions please ask, once I again, I apologies :)
I didn’t have my ”I’m not like other girls” phase, I had my ”WHY I’M NOT LIKE OTHER PEOPLE, GOD, PLEASE, JUST MAKE ME LIKE OTHER GIRLS, MAKE ME BASIC, I CANT FIT ANYWHERE, IM FREAK” phase
Edit: People did tell me their stories in the comments, and I wanted to say that for everyone who was going or is going through same phase: You are not freak even if you think so right now. You are really beautiful and amazing person, who just didn’t find right place to them in the world. I hope everything will get better soon for you later, just remember that you’re really important and special 💜
...and now how do you feel?
i mean i had kind of the same, but with the boys side.
Now i have my freaky nerdy wierdy friends, and im kind of, "f*ck you, you are booring", but i want to know about other stories
@@PutoMedicoBrujoEventually, you discover everyone was freaks all along, and all that ever mattered was if they were kind freaks.
@@valerielevasseur8674this is my favorite mentality
Thank you so much for this comment. I am so happy to read that I was not alone in this. I was afraid of commenting something like this and being accused of being a pick me
Same.
22:49 my favorite part is the implication, that Junko Enoshima, a psychopath who was so smart that she got bored of life and tried to plunge the whole world into despair, is normal.
And that the “good” option is also a serial killer 😅
And the other one is another serial killer and she has like, 20 different kinks.
1:29 “I’m not like other girls. When I’m sad, I commit ✨Grand Theft✨”
"Who had drama when they were five?"
I will never understand the drama we had at five. I remember this girl would go to my friends to claim them and to say I wasn't allowed to hang out with them. I was genuinely upset and now I'm just bewildered as an adult.
Primary school was so weird. The Drama was just very very confusing especially now looking back my parents always thought it was just because we were 3 girls and I was being a very sterotypical high masking autistic girl. As an adult now looking back there is a reason one of those girls is still one of my very few friends even if we havent lived in the same country for going on a decade while I havent spoken to the other one since a different mutual friend dragged her along on a movie night when we were 15 and I was back for a holiday. And I was waaay to shy and clueless to figure it out until years later. It took me 2 years and a school change due to a move to realise I was being bullied for some inane reason.
I had a similar experience, this one girl tried telling me to go play with another kid and I just wanted to get out of the heat.
5 year old drama is as ridiculous as it is intense. My 5 year old drama was that the other 5 year old girls were so bewildered that I didn’t express a crush on any of the boys that my then Bestie and 1 other friend asked me to a play date as a ruse to get me to confess. Like 5 minutes after I arrived they locked me in a room with them and interrogated me for what felt like hours until I burst into tears and made up a crush so that I could finally leave. You know how kids _never_ get tired of asking the same question over and over again? Same thing except turned on a fellow 5 year old that hated noise (autism).
And then the rumor that was created under literal torture haunted me for 7 years thereafter.
I honestly wish I was more of an asshole as a kid, like that situation _totally_ called for screaming bloody murder until an adult intervened but I didn’t do that because politeness and “don’t be a crybaby” and stuff
Reminds me of my best friend throughout primary school. She hated it when I'd speak to the other kids and try to have other friends, she'd say I was 'taking off' and be horrible to anyone I wanted to be friends with lol. By the time we were about 10/11 I was more confident in ignoring it and making other friends too despite what she said. Then when we went up to secondary school we drifted apart completely and made our own new friend group. Was weird how possessive she was.
I once managed to hang with the "popular girl" group once in year 3 (Australia) or something. Apparently they would sit around on a bunch of rocks in a circle in the school garden and just... kinda gossip and shit talk everyone else in the school? Like, girls... we are 8-9 years old.
I convinced myself that we were faking emulating adults. And I was convinced it was part of the game when the girls claimed they had "boyfriends". When it turned out I was asexual and autistic over a decade later I finally began to wonder if they were being genuine or not...
I think I had a "I'm not like other girls phase " I was extremely tomboy ish and was into very nerdy things. A lot of my friends were the same, and while they had no interest in makeup or dating as we went into high school, I became extremely interested in those things. I felt like I had to not wear makeup or I would be seen as vain or "like other girls". I never thought that I was better for not wearing makeup, but I thought that others would think I was less for liking those things. I now realize that I can wear makeup and feel beautiful, while still loving outdoorsy "tomboy" things and nerdy books and games. Like that one post said, it's sad that little girls feel like they can't be perceived as "like other girls" because of the 1-dimensional stereotype that is often promoted
Speaking of 1-dimensional stereotypes... "be a man"
@@es68951 100% that is such a harmful idea that is promoted to so many kids. I've seen my own brothers be horribly impacted by this. There are so many stereotypes that hurt everyone, especially the children that hear them every day
Idk why but I was like that when I was little 😭 it was so fucking cringy, and the funniest part is that now I’m trans lol
@@es68951Well, yeah.
The stereotype for "woman" is looked down on and hated, while the stereotype for "man" is respected.
Both are just 1-dimensional stereotypes, but one makes you more acceptable to the general public.
The one comment near the beginning of the video - teen girls think they’re “not like other girls” because they are independent, have their own thoughts and interests, dress in a way they like instead of trying to impress someone else - was so on point. Girls have so much expectations placed on them, but at least they start to build some sense of self actualization at that age.
i may not be the girl you marry, but i will be the man who tells you that you're doing great and keep being you
That’s so wholesome!
I’m a grown woman. Can I get affirmation too?
@@MaidMirawyn You're doing wonderfully Dea! Keep being you and stay hydrated:)!
- A young trans man
@@MaidMirawynhey you're doing a great job I hope your life is what you want it to be 😅
As a not girl anymore who is autistic, I've been excluded, mocked and bullied all my life for being "too weird" or "too quirky", so it's really.. jarring seeing so many people TRY to seem like that kind of person. Like it makes them cooler somehow. I've been bullied by "quirky girls" too, which is even weirder. It feels people just want to be weird in the socially acceptable way, and don't have a problem when they still shame ""weird"" (ie. The wrong kind of quirky) people.
Yeahhh same. I was also the wrong kind of weird. Turns out in my mid twenties I found out I was autistic. I struggle greatly with flat face or resting birch face in public when I'm low empathy and low energy, and this often got characterized as me 'hating everyone' when really I'd just run out of energy to pretend to smile 24/7 anymore. I'd typically have a token girl in any school that was willing to approach me anyway, so I also had the wonderful privilege of rumors spreading that I was massively lesbian. Four times. At the school I graduated from, the girl in question was my *sister.*
And yeah, turns out I'm not quite straight, but I'm not quite a girl either. But things like sexuality and gender identity are pretty hard to parse when one is also struggling with undiagnosed autism one is constantly being alienated for, and well, being constantly accused of being lesbian and being bullied for that too doesn't really encourage one to explore potentially being attracted to girls. Just ended up hating looking at them for a good long while until I accepted I wasn't one. Everything kinda just gets chalked up to, "I guess I'm too weird, I wish I could be normal."
Apparently some people were even scared of me? How that translates to 'let's bully the crap out of this kid' I have no idea. But people later admitted they were creeped out by me, and found me unsettling. Go figure. People are weird. Not autistic kinda weird, but people in general? Weird. They see something that is different from their own threshold of out of the ordinary and decide to tear it apart.
Same here, I will admit I was one weird kid. I learnt that Harry Potter snake language to insult people, that was definitely questionable lol. My best friend was autistic and I found out I was after I realised we were carbon copies of eachother
I always find the concept of thinking you're the only different one as so weird. It's almost as strange as Swedes not realizing they're actually just Danish meatball makers.
More love from Denmark.
For some reason that reminded me that time in 30 year war when Swedes manages to conquor castle in Bohemia because some idiot forget to lock up back doors.
I never stop enjoying the relationship between Swedes and Danes🍿
Be careful, the aces are gonna invade Denmark
@@ryanschoeff HOW _COULD_ YOU, SPY ?!
@@ryanschoeffTraitor. Turncoat. How dare you reveal our plans?
I feel that in 20 years all those 'I may not be the one you marry' quirky girls will still believe their exes are thinking about them constantly, but meanwhile if you asked those ex-bfs about them they'd be like "Who?"
I've noticed a trend (althought it might just be a specific selection) of songs basically being about a woman singing she's over her ex and lives fine without him, but wishes him the worst and hope he's sad about losing her. These songs are stupid and it's actually the other way around; they can't stop thinking of their exes.
Now you could argue that this is the whole point, it being ironic, that deeply they actually care and miss their exes. But that's really not how the song comes across; they're too rude, arrogant and act like they're better, with no hint at sarcasm. A better example is the Swedish song "Jag ljuget så bra" by Linda Beingtzing, where she's singing "You think I'm thining of you and I feel regret? Not at all. I can survive on my own, sleeping well at night, read the paper alone and a wide bed to myself. I can't have it better. ... ... I'm lying so well". This song has this part of sarcasm that everything she says is the exact opposite. Sorry for this mini-rant ...
@@Liggliluff olivia rodrigo
I guess everyone wants to feel like they were special to someone and that they mattered, and that the pain of rejection they felt is somehow reciprocated. Being rejected hurts, we all were in some way in some form at some time (and if you haven’t, I’m very happy for your incredibly privileged wealthy life) and maybe besmirching their hypothetical future is a “sour grapes” situation… “you’re so boring you won’t be worth my time eventually so GOOD you’re gone, I’m not crying, you’re crying.”
@@Liggliluff that’s why, when I write breakup songs, I usually try to make them about how the person telling the story was hurt rather than “I’m DoiNg sOoOo mUcH bEtTeR wiThOuT yOu!” but that might just be because they aren’t about a real ex I’ve had
@@Aldi-Officalto be fair in bad idea right it shows that she actually does care.Same with deja by and good for you.Non really state that she is over then rather that she is still obsess.I’d say Olivia Rodrigo is quite the opposite of what the OP is saying.
I'm not like other girls. I'm actually nonbinary.
Omg same
LOL MOOD
BuT yOu HaVe tO bE a GeNdeR
Same😊
hey, same! *virtual high five*
I will say though, if you think men are “less dramatic” and therefore easier to hang out with, you were/are not invested in your friends’ lives enough. My chosen professional career has had me work around a ton of men that I inevitably end up befriending (dang extroverted side), and they gossip, fight, and act petty JUST AS MUCH AS WOMEN DO. And it’s hilarious. Men just have a different means of going about it than my women friends tend to.
TLDR: Men CAN and WILL BE dramatic af if the situation arises. 😂😂😂
Anyone who says that men are not dramatic has a very poor understanding of history. It is littered with examples of men being petty, judgmental, gossiping, all of that... for example, how can anyone say 'European royal court in the early modern era' without the DRAMA?😂
I love this as a trans girl coz like I'm discovering why so many girls like the conventional "girly" stuff. It's fun. Shopping is great when ur allowed to shop for what you want. The bright colours add something interesting and nails are just nice. But like also lots of girls have a personality outside of that, and I think it's just important not to put people into stereotypes and just realise that everyone is different
In my experience those women who say that "I only have male friends because women are so much drama" are the ones who start the drama and then are suprised when others defend them self.
Also guys can be dramatic and toublesome too, it is almost like it it is about individual and not about gender 😱
22:32 that is Junko and she is definitely not like other girls. From what I heard she caused humanity to basically go extinct so that there will be a ton of despair. The game series she comes from have brutal deaths after each trail like the person being hanged and the corpse used to play a giant piano.
Basically yeah to all that you said about Junko is correct
The piano part is a bit worse than that: [the villain "cought"] a person (alive) using a rigid collar, and then used their body to play a giant piano until the suddent movements caused them (the person with the collar) to break their neck. After that the victim was kept a bit in the air, showing a silhouette like they've just been hanged. Afterwards the piano "closes" (that part that is used to protect the keys) and the body gets crushed.
Not going to spoil who or why those series of events take place (bc of spoilers) but those games are wacky, lemme tell you
They sure are, but man do they make you cry
11:50 i remember seeing this comic during my "I'm not luke other girls" phase and it definitely help me realize maybe I should open up to other girls, now I'm just happy that I saw the comic or else I'll still be that girl sitting in the corner thinking I'm different and not willing to makes friends
Gotta love a bit of personal growth 😊
Im an autistic woman who wasnt diagnosed until well into adulthood. These are actualy painful for me to see. I knew i was diferent than everyone around me in a fundamental way i didnt understand and couldn't discribe though i desperately tried. Left with nothing else i focused on these shallow surface differences trying to find where i fit in the world but i never felt superior or pretended to. I was trying my hardest to fit in and to find conection in a world that didnt understand me or i it. Truly feeling different and out of place is an incredibly isolating and degrading existance.
Now that "quirky" is cool and you have people using these shallow differences to feel superior it reminds of when "quirky" was used as an excuse and apology for me failing to meet others social expectations for me. ("Sorry, My daughter's a bit quirky") I showed to much obvious intelegence to be called a retard (with one notable exception of a teacher in second grade) and so "quirky" was the label assigned to me.
Some of these post I feel are people like me trying to find aceptance for their differences by copying things they see not knowing the community they are trying to conect to are about weaponising society's aceptance for individualism in order to elevate themselves above others rather than building people up. It really sucks seeing people like these narcissistic bitches burning the social goodwill the public has towards people like me who genuinely struggle to fit in. The missuse of the work quirky is just the sugar on top of this shit sandwich.
And have you heard of the girls who "train themselves to have no facial expressions to prevent wrinkles"? That sure causes some feelings in context of autism...
@oriawik Never heard of them, and honestly, I just find that idea amusing. Although there may be some nuance I'm missing, that might be more disturbing.
@@strawberry_punch_art Ouch, right, I forgot it was a thing, meanwhile, for me it takes super intense emotions to naturaly make expressions. I remember training in front of a mirror as a little kid to make sure my smiles weren't creepy...
This is a bit off topic, but what would you say is the benefit of getting an autism diagnosis? I've suspected for years that I might be somewhat on the spectrum, but in between not really feeling a diagnosis would help me understand myself better -- it's just sticking a label on stuff I already understand pretty well -- and feeling like it might just give people a convenient box to put me in, instead of just listening to how I feel and taking me seriously. . . . I don't know, I guess I've never seen much point in finding out, one way or the other.
@@eyesofthecervino3366 two extra reasons 1. You don't need to share your diagnosis even if you get it. 2. You are fixing the statistics of how many people have it
Bro the thumbnail just brought me back when people thought it was trendy and cool and inclusive to have a gay guy as a friend to show off like a chihihuha in a purse to show how "we respect others"
I wish I had a group of friends that would carry me around in a purse.
@@bshap495😂😂😂
@@bshap495I'd do that but I'm too weak
@@bshap495 or have a purse
Lmfao 😭
29:46 kills me, I'm just imagining the dad/mom being like "Dark blue jeans?? Outrageous! We are an upstanding family who respects the traditional values of light blue jeans! No daughter of mine will be wearing dark blue jeans in this household! Go change your clothes this instant, missy!!"
Yeah, I was like "Oh, no! The horror of slightly different leg posing!"
There actually are people like this around. Every subculture kid knows someone who is a lot into that kind of things, but looks completely normal because their parents are all into appearances and conformity.
Also, my parents were all into molding me into something that I am not, until my teenage self used scissors to destroy all the pink clothes and then had almost nothing to wear, so I totally understand that girl and know that she is not coming from the narcissistic place. Her post was misunderstood.
I love how I thought I just was a cringey ,,not like the other girls"-girl when I was younger.
Turns out I am neurodivergent, ftm and aroace.
So, I am indeed not like the other girls.
You're not like the other girls, you're a man.
You're like the other neurodivergent, ftm and aroace people ;P
wait twins 😭 im also an nd aroace transmasc
@@lxckystars__ L O L we're both not like all those other girls
Note to all young women: stop comparing yourself to this this generalized group of 'other girls' - I promise, none of them want to be lumped in like that either. We're all different, and the trending image of femininity is constantly shifting. If you like something, like it. Stop checking what other people think of it first. You will be much happier and it will be one less thing you have to relearn in adulthood. You like pink? Cool. You hate it? Cool. Doesn't matter, and it doesn't mean anything truly important about your image as a woman. Its just a color. Same goes for your taste in clothing, shoes, music, decor, etc. Just like what you like. And if people assume that you're quirky, or popular, or girly, or tomboyish or a bog witch because of your personal choices - that's on them. No need the force yourself into an exclusive box just to feel special.
i needed this today ❤
A month later, this is a charming and informative post. I, an aging man, loved the spoken statement that all those girls and women are simultaneously resisting being lumped together. That is so much more human-feeling than a blur of anonymous herd animals trotting around together. "Women are not zebras" is another must-have T-shirt.
I admittedly had a phase like this but it turned out I just wasn't a girl to begin with. Ironically, I do a lot more of that stereotypical "feminine" stuff, like wearing nail polish and covering everything in rainbows and glitter, now that I have matured and embraced my trans-masc identity. 😅
It also turns out I LOVE women. ❤
hell yeah brother! i used to be very "meh" torwards the idea of gender at all and just would avoid thinking about it too much and was very GNC, just turned out i was avoiding the fact that i wasnt thinking about gender in a deeper way because i wasnt *happy* just being a GNC girl.
then in my baby trans man days i avoided ANYTHING too femme because of crushing dysphoria, but now as ive gotten older, more confident, and started T ive gone back to being more GNC, but in more of a secure way than a "just dont think about it just dont think about it just dont think about it!" way
this is exactly me!! i grew up identifying myself as a tomboy who liked “masculine” things only, and it was the same during my baby trans boy days. now that i’m more comfortable with myself i find that i enjoy buying clothes from the women’s section, painting nails and doing makeup, because i know those things don’t detract from my identity as a trans man
edit: the one masculine thing i never had to force myself to like was men LMAO
I’m a transmasc femboy and i love it. My life became so much nicer when I realized that transmascs can still present and act relatively feminine
Yeah, i hated women who liked being women. If i'm a woman and i hate this, they are lying! Turns out i'm not a woman and women are actually cool.
Not wearing nail polish anymore though because i tend to pick at it and as a hairdresser i feel like that wouldn't look professional. Also i get to do other peoples hair now so my own gets the minimalist styling version. But getting testosterone for a few years really brought out my feminine side. No need to overcompensate anymore, yay!
Live, laugh, love women
It took me years to understand that I didn't get along with most girls not cuz they were girls, but cuz I was a neurodivergent weirdo and as soon as I started studying IT suddenly I got along just fine with everyone. So if u suspect u don't fit in cuz of massive adhd or autism, try comp sci.
I had a similar experience! I'm not neurodivergent, but I've felt pretty isolated all my life, and it feels almost magical how much easier it was to make friends as soon as I went to a queer, nerdy, or a black queer space. Gee, suddenly I am indeed like everyone else. And on top of that, I'm not even the only enby in my circles! 🤷🏾 I cannot recommend enough to trial and error hobbies; it'll literally take less than a year for results
omg thats my life story right there
Fun fact: I thought I had no fashion sense, then I went to a gay conference and found out I was dressing like a butch lesbian! Sometimes it just takes a little exploration to find the people you are like.
my brother is autistic and his fav class in high school rn is comp sci 😭 (i have adhd and have yet to work it into my schedule)
Yeah I have bpd and it explains a lot
13:59 I understand that it’s his accent… but I find it so funny for some reason how he says “jeep” 😂😂
How is it pronounced? Asking for a german friend who apparently doesn't know as well 🥲😂
@@timescore5916 j as in g. Like "ginny" or "ginger"
@@cookiecat6317 ahh you were referring to the second time he said jeep. The first time he read "Jeep girls" sounded right to me, so I was a little confused. But the second sounded off, I didn't hear that when I skipped back. Thank you
I’ve never wanted to be friends with a historical person as much as I now want to be friends with Alice Roosevelt.
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When you know the game and characters, you can also read this picture as “other girls are theorists, but I’m just a serial killer.”
I mean- they're both serial killers if u think abt it
other girls commit genocide, im just a murderer
Junko may have been a unforgivable, genicidal war criminal, but she did it with ✨ S T Y L E ✨
But yeah, talk about not knowing where your source material comes from 😂
I hate it when I only have one giant shoe
I hate it when Seventh Chicken loses his giant shoe.
I hate it when beepboop42069 hates it when Seventh Chicken loses their giant shoe.
i hate it when ZDragonimated hates it when beepboop42069 hates it when Seventh Chicken loses their giant shoe.
I hate it when satanlittleprince hates it when Zdragonmated hates it when beepboop42069 hates it when seventh chicken loses their giant shoe
I love that The Click collects rocks like I do, I feel weird about the fact that I have a bin of rocks I've collected sometimes and remembering The Click, my fav UA-camr, has drawers of rocks makes me feel better. Love you Click ❤
My parents keep pushing me to shave my legs, and it drives me crazy.
My mom keeps saying it’s HyGeInE but has no good answer to what’s unhygienic about having effing hair.
I hate it, it’s so uncomfortable that they keep bringing it up, literally *no one else notices or cares*
The whole "i only hang out with guys because girls are so much drama" is a perfect example of "if it smells like poo everywhere you go, you should check your shoes". Like, if all your friendships with girls end in drama, you're the one who causes the drama.
At least some of the time. At the very least such a person is very bad at dealing with the drama and makes it worse.
Girls are different drama than guys is probably a more apt description. Lived with 60 girls in boarding school for 4 years. In my experience girls are less direct when it comes to conflict and you end up with a lot of “alliances” of people either not talking to each other or being passive aggressive. Guys dorm on the other hand much more direct, someone gets pranked, punched or they get drunk together and are besties again. Pick your poison, most drama is equally annoying to deal with anyways.
I was friends with both but gravitated more towards guys because our interests overlapped more and I’m more direct. Really don’t understand this dichotomy of either or when both are possible and you’re gonna have to deal with individuals that have their own idiosyncrasies anyways.
Small addendum: This is based on my experience but still largely a generalization. You’ll meet great and terrible people of either gender and they’ll be their own individual with their own thoughts, feelings and behaviors which you may or may not agree or be comfortable with. Please just be open to people and treat them with courtesy.
Disagree. Boys don't judge me for being Autistic, the girls did. Boys are more direct than girls, and I prefer honesty and not beating around the bush if something is wrong or bothers you. I just get along with guys better. There is nothing wrong with that.
I did tend to be the only girl in a group, or.maybe one of two, but that was a demographic thing. I was in special ed classes back in the day when girls didn’t get diagnosed as often, and the majority of our little groups tended to be Not Like The Other Kids, so while other girls were a mystery to me, it was more that I didn’t know any. Making my first actual girl friends was pretty awesome actually!
@@sarmajere2866 Same! Special needs girls are often ostracized by other girls, but not guys. We weren't the drama, the girls just didn't like us, and we didn't like them. No problem with having a different preferance for freinds that leans more towards guys.
I went through a MAJOR pickme girl phase-turns out I wasn’t even a girl to begin with and I was just trying to relate to the gender I was always more comfortable with, even though I did sometimes lie about disliking things that are traditionally feminine-like saying I hated shopping-simply because I wanted to relate to boys and saying those things made me feel more masculine; glad I figured it out eventually though
Underarms is another term for armpits.
And I'd recommend a plushie snake over going mad scientist.
English makes no sense and when you add all the small regional variations to names of things it just gets more complicated. Its my native language and I still think Click is better at it than me.
I heard a great description of this attitude, "when a person realizes the complexity of their own existence, but hasn't worked out that its the same for everyone else"
I might not be the girl you ended up marrying but I'll be that girl who sucks out your soul and adds you to my undead army.
Goals
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i’m not like other girls. i quit doing that about four years ago and have been living happily as a man ever since
also that one where they said museums are for kids or something actually made me like pause in confusion because i’m minoring in ancient studies and ngl if people didn’t tell me it was time to go i would Not leave museums most of the time
if anything they’re more boring to kids cause kids don’t really care about “oh this random disc” but when you find out they were used to vote to exile a person for like a year and the same few people wrote the same name a whole bunch of times to skew the vote and get one person exiled it’s honestly hilarious (the exiling thing was to keep people from getting too influential or something like that)
As a recovering INLOG I agree with the post at 3:25.
Growing up , all the fun and interesting qualities were considered masculine. Even the fact that I was the top of my class, people would be shocked and say: wow, you're even smarter than most boys.
I was told girls were just air headed puppets that like to play with dolls, shop, obsessed with their looks and spoiled. I looked at myself and saw much more than that, so I tried to stay away from the stereotype as much as possible. I had horrible acne which not only hurt mentally but physically. But whenever people would sympathize or suggest remedies I'd pretend like I didn't care about my looks. I've always liked both the color balck and pink, but would only wear black. I'm so glad I've grown out of that phase. Please, teach your little girls they can like and practice whatever they want and still be feminine and special and interesting without the need to put other girls that don't share their interests down.
I'm glad you're in a better place now. Though out of curiosity, what's an "INLOG"? Google just turns up software.
@@electrowave114 it's short for "I'm not like other girls". And thank you ♥️
I'm not like other girls, I don't make fun of people who want to find comfort in their perceived individuality.
Why did you need to add that 💀
Thats sounds so bad 🥲
Nobody has a problem with the individuality, it’s when you have to attack others to do it. “Everyone else is silly and boring except me” invites everyone else to go “uh, no”, because that’s an asshole thing to say. It’s also not good for the individual, because they feel isolated, they don’t understand those around them and will repress the parts of them that conform rather than accept that everyone is similar in some ways and it’s not bad to be similar. It also hurts those around them when they’re treated like side characters or stereotypes.
Making fun of the people isn’t okay, but making fun of the ideas is fine when they’re harmful.
Oh no, cringe posts getting criticism for being cringe /s
@@jayfalcon-rw3qc Eh, I wouldn't necessarily call all of it criticism, at least half of it is entertainment. And there's nothing wrong with being cringe, the problem is when it's harmful.
@@midnight4685 I don't think everything has to be judged on an ethical scale. If a comedian does a bad set, it's a bad set, that's all. I'm not going to pretend otherwise. People generally put content online because they want it to be seen. But once it's out there, you can't control the response it gets from people. You either read the room well, or you bomb. And then you can either learn to laugh at yourself, or complain about it. Everything we say ultimately reveals more about who we are than most of us realize. The hard pill to swallow is when your audience becomes more acutely aware of your faults than you
I had a "I'm not like other girls" satge. I was (and still) very shy and introverted, and had a really hard time interacting with people in general and it came out like that for a few years. Also the fact that I'm enby probably played played a part in that lol.
Same in middle school. And then I realized I was a boy, not a girl. Still, society makes girls feel bad for enjoying feminine things so they feel a need to express that they're different. It's sad, really.
I think you put into words exactly what I experienced a couple of years ago
This used to be more than enough to make someone literally not like any of the other girls because the internet wasn't invented so there were like 40 relevant girls in your universe, given that universe was a rural-ass minority language school. I sometimes wonder if the trope still has roots in that cultural memory.
The ones that are like “Lol I’m not black like the other girls I’m actually Italian!” Are actually terrifying
The click isn't like other girls. He's quirky, a alpha male with a manly scream whom is very brave!!!!!
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hell yeah!
“YAAAAEH” “psst disclaimer” yes that is very manly
@@ZekeTheFur the manliest it can get
@@ThatOnePersonWhoCanSketch fr
I'm not like other girls, I want to dress like a goth vampire/pirate/cowboy and I'm actually a trans man.
Seriously used to be one of these "girls" because I knew I was different. And then I realized I was a boy. Also, the comic with the goth girl and the stereotypical girl complimenting each other is so wholesome, I love that.
The "I'm not like other girls" to "Oh shit I'm actually trans (masc)" pipeline is so real.
Like, I used to be one of these "girls" too, and here I am now, wanting to look like a pirate as well. We're all on the same boat apparently LMAO
@@aeifersucht"...on the same BOAT"? Ha ha, pirate pun.
@@naranciaisbestboi125 me and the homies love pirate puns
When I was younger, I used to hang out with guys more than with girls. Not because “girls are drama” but just because that’s who I ended up getting along with.
Also I’m trans now
my cat loves your videos any time i play them she lays her head on my laptop and stares longingly at the screen while making biscuit on whatevers near
As an aroace, probably genderqueer, neurodivergent person, growing up in a very traditional conservative place, I definitely had my quirky girl face and it makes me laugh and cry at the same time
No matter our upbringing or identity or gender, we are all united by the feeling of cringing towards our young selves ❤
With the post at 34:32 "I might not be the girl you marry" it seems so baked in the idea that marriage is a deadend, that once married you are STUCK with this person and not the idea that marriage can be a new chapter in life filled with excitement or you know you don't have to marry if u don't wanna
(pov i am a not married person who's just online too much and seen too much of r/arethestraughysok?)
I'm not like other girls, and I am like other girls. I do whatever I want, whether that's playing video games or getting my nails done, because lets be honest, it doesn't matter. Do what makes you happy.
Exactly!
Yep. Life is plenty hard, and it turns out there are no bonus points for heaping on extra suffering. If it's not hurting you or others, enjoy and let it recharge you. If anyone else has an opinion, pity them for the additional weight they've chosen to carry.
I'm a trans male so getting to say "I'm not like other girls" is honestly very accurate 😂
I'm not like other girls beceause I am not a girl.
I’m not like other girls because I don’t wanna exist 😂
@@Christmas_wolves well, if you say that you are like a lot of other girls haha
@@ljhbjldbkjbscoidUBV lol
@@alchemicmercurycan’t tell if this was a supportive comment or an accidental ally moment 😅
22:27
I don't know about you, but last time I checked, 'other girls' weren't complete psychopaths with the sexual preference of 'Despair'.
I get wanting to use dangyrompy characters but maybe pick just a different character in general...
Yeah. Like... They could have used Sonia and Chiaki from the second game and made their point WAY better. Possibly including the "White" part, since Sonia is from a monarch country. Though, tbh, she's not like other girls either.
Watching this made me laugh.
"I'm the girl you're going to be thinking of in 20 years while you're with a wife that blah blah blah"
If that girl was all that, SHE would have been the woman I married. She was the toxic mess I noped out of. As for my wife? She's an angel that stuck by me through the worst days of my life.
I'm not like other girls.
I have . . . snake arms.
Sir, we need to get you checked out.
ASDF reference
Ah, I see you are a person of culture
Snake hair is even more cultured...
31:37 Oh, at one of the supermarkets they always sell heart shaped boxes on Valentines day and tree shaped boxes before Christmas that are full of various kinds of cheese. I absolutely love those.
At what point will we stop making up what we think girls are meant to be like, hating that image, then trying not to be "girls". Its a self fueling fire of hatred and we need to be proud to be women. Girls can be curious, intelligent, outdoorsy, sporty, artistic, weird, awkward, hates clothes, loves clothes, caked in makeup, no makeup. We are all different and unique but yet united by our one thing in common, being female 😊
6:25
This woman tried lesbian relationships and found out she wasn't lesbian and decided be an "intimacy guru" as a result. You can imagine how that's going.
I personally love the song "Most Girls" by Hailee Steinfeld. Literally addresses the whole thing with "Some girls" and then gives examples of how girls may look or act differently from each other, but the chorus is very much we are the same in that we "are smart and strong and beautiful."
Still love that song.
I'm not like other girls, I don't sleep.
Because the city needs me 🦇
Thank you for doing what this city needs. 👉=🦇🧑/🦇👧/enbats-man
The thing is, i was kinda right during my "i'm not like other girls" phase. First because I was really mentally ill, then was diagnosed with neurodivergency, to finally realise i was in fact not a girl at all ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I'm also mentally ill and likely neurodivergent as well :)
I carry a bag of "emotional support" rocks in my purse. When I have panic attacks, I pull the rocks out and focus on them to distract from my anxiety. It works pretty well to help calm me down while waiting for my meds to kick in.
And works as "defensive support" too, a bag of rocks inside your purse turns your purse into a reliable self-defense weapon...
I'm not like other girls, I'm a floating ball of pure transcended energy.
Mood
"Ugh - everyone's transcending now. I did it before it was cool, and now I've descended to the deepest levels of the underworld."
- the competitive guide to not being like other transcendental souls
I'm 5 weasels in a coat
i've had very bad experiences with girls (as a girl) and it made me really salty towards other women. i was never mean to other girls, but there still was a voice in my head telling they're all the same and i shouldn't trust them. Nowdays i'm just super scared to even pass any girl in public :( i'm getting better and actually wish i had a girl friend, but still the trauma is present. I have only guy friends because of it and ofc i love my friends, but still wished for more deep connection and healing from my bad experiences because i know that there's lovely girls who i would love as a friend.
When insisting that you’re not racist is one of the first things you have to say about yourself… girl, everyone immediately suspects you might actually be racist.
I always thought I was not like other girls.
Turns out I wasn't. I was just ostracized and emotionally stunted as a result.
Nearly 30 now and in therapy. Looking back I would prefer to have been more like other girls.
I love how Click has an amazing grasp on the English language, but every once in a while the Swedish comes out full force, like when he says Jeep like "Yeep" lol
Hallå från USA Hoppas alla mår bra
They did nOT think Junko was the "basic" type of girl... Junko is the girl they WISH they were
My wedding felt kinda like a ‘not like other weddings’ since my hubby and I decided to do pajamas as the dress code but it wasn’t in an effort to be different it was actually to lessen the dysphoria since I’m non binary and wouldn’t feel comfortable in a dress and can’t quite pass in a suit either (in my opinion at least).
Aw, that's such a cool idea!
Oooh, if I wasn't already married I'd think about stealing this idea
(10:25) That's a good point. She tries to make a point how she's "messy" and "don't care about her outwards apperance", yet she's full of makeup. She's fine to do what she wants, but the point she's trying to make fails due to it.
"I'm a straight lesbian"
No. You're a pick me girl.
Edit: I'm not talking about bisexuals. Im talking about the girl from 30:54
As someone thats lesbian i speak for our side and we don't want to pick her. We'll toss her to the bisexuals since she's a "straight lesbian"
@@Milk-ck1wvAs someone that’s bisexual I speak for our side and we don’t want to pick her either lol
Then who's gonna pick her?
@@Milk-ck1wv I don't think they want to be picked by us, though. It's more like identity theft to fulfill men's lesbian fetish.
@@timothyisstupid That’s the best part, ✨Nobody✨
"Im not like other girls I write poetry and can't figure out what I am lol" But really, I spend half my time in my room. Having a crisis trying to figure out what am I am. Oh, wait, I'm just a teenager. 😅😂
Shaving in summer because hot.
Not shaving in Winter because cold.
This is the right stuff.
Not shaving does nothing to help with temperature regulation or help retain heat at all (and vice versa for keeping cool). It is entirely an aesthetic choice and at an edge case it could be said to help with hygiene/odour as a hairier individual in hot climates may find that their sweat will cling to said hair, although this situation is never really a problem as most people have access to showers etc.
I am not judging anyone but making up excuses implies there is something wrong with one or both options to begin with.
@@nathanthom8176 Hair was evolved on human bodies specifically for the purpose of temperature protection. So confidently incorrect with all that.
@@bumblebeeyellowdragon no the reason we evolved less hair was because we didn't need it as we developed sweat glands as our means of thermal regulation. The only area on the human body that is effected by whether or not you have hair there is the head and that is only due to the relative heat loss there in comparison to rest of the human body. I suggest you actually look into it rather than assume stuff based of weird logic.
I mean if there was any realistic chance that what was originally stated was true, Inuits would be hairier than Turks (they're definitely not).
@@nathanthom8176 You need to go back to elementary school biology if you don't know that mammals developed body hair as a means to keep warm.
Also Northern countries generally do have more body hair then countries in warmer climates. How much are you gonna announce that you don't know?
@@bumblebeeyellowdragon It used to be that way, but it has mostly lost it's function since we developed more efficient way of heat conditioning. Now for most people living in comfortable temperature, armpit hair has little to no effect on any bodily funtion.
I suggest you to view adaption not as "purpose", but more like "reason" for some trait to evolve. And when the environment changed, it will likely stay if it doesn't have major disadvantages despite becoming largely useless because there isn't a "reason" for it to be eliminated by natural selection.
I can remember when i was in my "not like others girls" phase i found it really weird that other girls thought that celebritys are really hot and that they want to marry them because of that. I actually thought i was different because i did not care about looks. Turns out i was just asexual
It's almost like different women have different agendas and interests. Who'd have thought😂
4:48 It's funny to me that click uses an old guy voice for Theodore Roosevelt because TR was in his early 40s at that time
I have a feeling the "I'm not like other girls" really just didn't know many girls personally, and were lonely. They turned that loneliness into hostility for every other girl in the world. (I was definitely "not like other girls", and complained about it all the time when I was a teenager.)