Damn this one hurts. Even though they hurt you their highs are so addictive. They take a pound of flesh when they split and leave and convince you that you're a villain.
@MarcoElias344 Appreciate the comment, yea bro there’s definitely nothing like it and like these people. But what a beautiful thing it is to rebuild yourself into a stronger person than you’ve ever been. Best wishes Marco !
That girl is psycho!! They all go by the same play book but slightly different. My Ex covery narc played lots of mind games and gaslighting. Best way to beat the narc is to learn about the condition, not blame yourself and to love yourself above all.
@@hermosotino Yes, gaslighting is a huge tactic they use, maybe the biggest.. Couldn’t agree more brother! Looking after ourselves is the priority and to not tolerate any abuse ! Much love.
You got off easy if you told her to leave and she didn’t grab a knife. Glass. Hit you. Break windows. Throw chairs. Mine was super violent and had to trick her into leaving. As she would pickup a heavy glass bottle and threaten to hit me with it. Shatter glass. Throw drinks in my face. Spit in my face. Punch. . .
Sounds like a joyful experience. Yep, these women can be extremely violent. And going back at them in a violent way would not make a difference. They never stop. They would rather die than to give in. It can go out of hand very easily turning it into a lifelong disaster.
@ssing7113 Sorry to here brother, certainly is not ideal and no one should have to go through stuff like that. Sometimes wonder how someone can get to that, i guess there in a tremendous amount of hurt and pain to do such things to others.. The ex i had did try to hit me a fair bit, though as bad as it is, i experienced an abusive father when i was young, i wont enclose the details, but it was very ugly and not ideal. Luckily though we got out of that when i was very young. So i think just comparing to what we experienced there, the hitting from the ex mrs wasn't to much hassle. Have sympathy for you though, unfortunately very ugly people internally..
It would had been helpful if we knew about narcissistic women before engaging with them. But no normal functioning person I know of would want to inform themselves about these disorded people if they are living a normal life. We cannot prevent future dangers all the time but we can learn from our past experiences and be more cautious and aware.
100% hit the nail on the head. I’m the exact same, from the life I grew up with and the friends and family I had, I didn’t know someone like that could exist. I guess it just shows how hurt and how much these people are truly struggling, so compassion can come in there. But I feel things happen for a reason and we can learn from these things, and how if that happened now things would be a lot different, which means we’ve learnt from it ! Yes I agree to be a lot more aware and I think for me I sometimes now can be a little to cautious and it might be beneficial to understand that there are a lot of beautiful kind and loving girls and women out there, and to not be disheartened by this one tough experience. There’s hope boys, and I remind myself of that. Thanks @chocolatecookie8571 ;)
The point and lesson for us is to learn about codependency and childhood wounding. Self focus. Boundaries. Self love. So it doesn’t happen again and we live life taking care of ourselves first…
How to get out when she captures the children? Sorry, bro, it is not that easy as you say, especially when she has destroyed both you and the children.
Its certainly a lot more complicated when children are involved. This happened to me when i was younger, being the child, and we could see who we wanted to spend time with as my father was physically abusive to us. He did try and brain wash us a lot and which I'm sure your ex partner has done. I just hope it works out for you and your children can see who loves and cares for them more. The role you can play in this to show your children more healthy love and hopefully they gravitate toward you. What is in your control is the healing and steps you can make for yourself, and build yourself back up again. I hope for the best for you.
There is a video on the steps to healing on the end screen. In terms of picking these people out, the previous video I had, had slightly poor audio quality, I can create a new one if thats something your interested in.
So true. I lasted nearly 4 years and lost myself. It’s been a year and still healing
Only up and looking forward from here !
Amazingly said , I 100% true, , thank you
Thankyou! You're very welcome @stephenstreeter5279
Damn this one hurts. Even though they hurt you their highs are so addictive. They take a pound of flesh when they split and leave and convince you that you're a villain.
@MarcoElias344 Appreciate the comment, yea bro there’s definitely nothing like it and like these people. But what a beautiful thing it is to rebuild yourself into a stronger person than you’ve ever been. Best wishes Marco !
That girl is psycho!! They all go by the same play book but slightly different. My Ex covery narc played lots of mind games and gaslighting. Best way to beat the narc is to learn about the condition, not blame yourself and to love yourself above all.
@@hermosotino Yes, gaslighting is a huge tactic they use, maybe the biggest..
Couldn’t agree more brother! Looking after ourselves is the priority and to not tolerate any abuse ! Much love.
You got off easy if you told her to leave and she didn’t grab a knife. Glass. Hit you. Break windows. Throw chairs.
Mine was super violent and had to trick her into leaving. As she would pickup a heavy glass bottle and threaten to hit me with it. Shatter glass. Throw drinks in my face. Spit in my face. Punch. . .
Sounds like a joyful experience.
Yep, these women can be extremely violent.
And going back at them in a violent way would not make a difference. They never stop. They would rather die than to give in. It can go out of hand very easily turning it into a lifelong disaster.
@ssing7113 Sorry to here brother, certainly is not ideal and no one should have to go through stuff like that. Sometimes wonder how someone can get to that, i guess there in a tremendous amount of hurt and pain to do such things to others..
The ex i had did try to hit me a fair bit, though as bad as it is, i experienced an abusive father when i was young, i wont enclose the details, but it was very ugly and not ideal. Luckily though we got out of that when i was very young. So i think just comparing to what we experienced there, the hitting from the ex mrs wasn't to much hassle.
Have sympathy for you though, unfortunately very ugly people internally..
It would had been helpful if we knew about narcissistic women before engaging with them. But no normal functioning person I know of would want to inform themselves about these disorded people if they are living a normal life. We cannot prevent future dangers all the time but we can learn from our past experiences and be more cautious and aware.
100% hit the nail on the head. I’m the exact same, from the life I grew up with and the friends and family I had, I didn’t know someone like that could exist.
I guess it just shows how hurt and how much these people are truly struggling, so compassion can come in there.
But I feel things happen for a reason and we can learn from these things, and how if that happened now things would be a lot different, which means we’ve learnt from it !
Yes I agree to be a lot more aware and I think for me I sometimes now can be a little to cautious and it might be beneficial to understand that there are a lot of beautiful kind and loving girls and women out there, and to not be disheartened by this one tough experience.
There’s hope boys, and I remind myself of that.
Thanks @chocolatecookie8571 ;)
The point and lesson for us is to learn about codependency and childhood wounding. Self focus. Boundaries. Self love.
So it doesn’t happen again and we live life taking care of ourselves first…
@@ssing7113 in general like with every relationship you learn more about yourself, definitely I did.
How to get out when she captures the children? Sorry, bro, it is not that easy as you say, especially when she has destroyed both you and the children.
Its certainly a lot more complicated when children are involved. This happened to me when i was younger, being the child, and we could see who we wanted to spend time with as my father was physically abusive to us. He did try and brain wash us a lot and which I'm sure your ex partner has done. I just hope it works out for you and your children can see who loves and cares for them more. The role you can play in this to show your children more healthy love and hopefully they gravitate toward you. What is in your control is the healing and steps you can make for yourself, and build yourself back up again. I hope for the best for you.
tagged video where?
There is a video on the steps to healing on the end screen. In terms of picking these people out, the previous video I had, had slightly poor audio quality, I can create a new one if thats something your interested in.
background music is too loud...
Appreciate the heads up
Agree