Are you trapped in the past, unable to fully embrace the present moment due to trauma? Gabor Mate

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  • Are you trapped in the past, unable to fully embrace the present moment due to trauma? Recognizing Triggers and Patterns Embracing the Present, and Shaping the Future by Gabor Mate #trauma #addiction #mentalhealth #chronicillness #stress
    Join Dr. Gabor Mate an interview by Tim Ferris as he unravels the impact of trauma on our lives and shares practical steps to break free from its grip. Discover how to respond to the present moment and create a brighter future. Don't miss this transformative video!
    Tim Ferriss has been listed as one of Fast Company’s “Most Innovative Business People” and one of Fortune’s “40 under 40.” He is an early-stage technology investor/advisor (Uber, Facebook, Shopify, Duolingo, Alibaba, and 50+ others) and the author of five #1 New York Times and Wall Street Journal bestsellers, including The 4-Hour Workweek and Tools of Titans: The Tactics, Routines, and Habits of Billionaires, Icons, and World-Class Performers. The Observer and other media have called Tim “the Oprah of audio” due to the influence of The Tim Ferriss Show podcast, which is the first business/interview podcast to exceed 100 million downloads. It has now exceeded 800 million downloads.
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    The power of words to control our emotions can be therapeutic to our mental health;
    ✅ “I'm here for you.”
    ✅ “You are not alone.”
    ✅ “You are worthy and deserving.”
    ✅ “You don't have to apologize.”
    ✅ “There is treatment available to you…”
    ✅ “You are strong!.”
    I suffer from bipolar disorder. There are times that I experienced cyclical remission through music and motivational inspirational speech I was able to survive every stage of my cyclical depression. Inside Serene is my alter ego - my trusted friend a gatekeeper of my pandora's box of mindfulness that helps me overcome mental struggles.
    " We must be willing to encounter darkness and despair when they come up and face them, over and over again if need be, without running away or numbing ourselves in the thousands of ways we conjure up to avoid the unavoidable". - By Jon Kabat-Zinn
    ✅ Be empowered ✅ Be intentional ✅ Be in control
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  • @charlottehewson9522
    @charlottehewson9522 11 місяців тому +29

    Can I just say, I love the raw honesty of Mate (and the interviewer), and how he has to identify his own mother as the root of some of his childhood/adulthood issues but he doesn’t dishonour her with these statements, he clearly loved and respected her (I believe she has now past). As a stressed mother raising my own child (now adult) I hope one day he will see the true clarity of our situation and appreciate I too did my best under challenging circumstances as he grows through adulthood. Ultimately, they are all life lessons on each of our paths. For a brilliant academic, Mate has a fantastic bedside manner (if you think of YT viewers as patients) and a great way of explaining & simplifying complicated human behaviours. What pains me about life (which I need to get a grip of and process) is all that exquisite education in his brain goes the day he leaves this lifetime which seems the most insane part of life to me. Yeah, I know, he will leave behind children, treated patients, books, academic papers etc but still…

    • @anitachojnacki4512
      @anitachojnacki4512 10 місяців тому +1

      My God I want to love this man..actually I DO LOVE HIM/HIMSELF/MAN/SOUL/BODY. HOW DO YOU THANK A HUMAN FOR SAVING MY LIFE ...MY DOG COOPER,DR GREG NEATE PERTH,..MR GABOR MATE ONE WORD GENTLEMAN.

    • @devialagarasankamsala4102
      @devialagarasankamsala4102 4 місяці тому +1

      Gabor mate is one of the greatest human being on earth. I can't think about losing him to destiny.

    • @VeronicaDuignan
      @VeronicaDuignan 24 дні тому

      I find all of the interviews I've seen with Dr Mate fascinating but I don't always feel that the content covered matches the what the title promises

  • @neewollah19
    @neewollah19 6 місяців тому +14

    How great is this man... Thank you, G. M. 🙏

  • @charlottehewson9522
    @charlottehewson9522 11 місяців тому +21

    Mate is such an eloquent, profound & conscious speaker, please give me an ounce of that. xx

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 8 місяців тому

      Yeah, but he favours psychedelics, a no-no in my books🙁

    • @gaston_rem
      @gaston_rem 24 дні тому

      @@robynhope219 why is it a no-no in your books?

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 24 дні тому

      @@gaston_rem obviously, they're poison and injurious to health...anybody promoting psychedelics is a quack.

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 24 дні тому

      What planet are u on?

  • @robynhope219
    @robynhope219 6 місяців тому +8

    Not anymore. However, I find that when I have a bad day, my past is front and center.

  • @zovalentine7305
    @zovalentine7305 5 місяців тому +7

    Rest in peace 🙏
    A.A. Milne
    18 January 1882 ~
    31 January 1956⚘

  • @colleenmoore7101
    @colleenmoore7101 9 місяців тому +7

    You were the gift.

  • @waynewells2944
    @waynewells2944 8 місяців тому +7

    Yes just on point . I like Gabor Mate videos

  • @carolspencer6915
    @carolspencer6915 Рік тому +11

    Thankyou to both of you.
    💜

  • @caroesner
    @caroesner Рік тому +93

    Good interview, skip the spliced in videos, they’re distracting and confusing.

    • @terrapreta1
      @terrapreta1 Рік тому +17

      Right. It's just silly.

    • @OmarRossMusic
      @OmarRossMusic 5 місяців тому +3

      They have to splice in content because this content is not theirs

    • @hollywoodwear123
      @hollywoodwear123 2 місяці тому +3

      It cheapens the interview

    • @ontheway4648
      @ontheway4648 Місяць тому +2

      Yes. It interrupts the flow of the dialogue.

    • @Tascountrygirl
      @Tascountrygirl 27 днів тому +4

      And the spliced segments are irrelevant and therefore confusing and irritating.

  • @maoridoll2008
    @maoridoll2008 25 днів тому +2

    Great knowledge & wisdom 💚💙💜

  • @anjac3645
    @anjac3645 10 місяців тому +10

    Lovable, humble, honest man😊

  • @curlyhair5396
    @curlyhair5396 10 місяців тому +7

    This interview with dr. Gabor Maté is inspirational and realistic. I have to say that the short videos are pertinent, thank you for the visual and kinesthetic tool, people not having auditive intelligence can navigate this interview better!

  • @omarlittle-hales8237
    @omarlittle-hales8237 5 місяців тому +3

    Salam, Shlomo, Shalom, Peace.
    Israel Needs A President Like Dr Gabor Mate, Whom Obeys The Torah.

  • @susand484
    @susand484 11 місяців тому +6

    With much respect for Gabor's work and the work of many others, I can't help thinking about the enormous percentage of people who don't have access to the help he recommends. What percentage of therapists even have the skills for the work? They are a completely unsupervised profession. And they make more money if you depend on them for a long time... Most can't afford to do that and others living in places where there is no access. For myself, even if I had access I wouldn't do it. I've had enough of that. But that doesn't mean I have given up on myself, far from it. But with the persistent message I keep hearing from the trauma experts, I can't see people not giving up. I have just had experiences that were exceptional and my hope comes from that. So yes Gabor's words are intended to give us hope, but
    , and there is a big "but" who has the resources? It's a bit elitist and incomplete. One of the problems with psychology is that there is such an intense emphasis on research, to prove that this field is backed by science. But all you really have is correlations. There are too many variables to to be real science. And then there is the need to keep spiritual beliefs out of the mix. But people have spiritual beliefs! Are we going to continue like Freud and disregard, because he was an atheist? To talk about healing and not talk about the spiritual is absurd to some of us. To talk about meditation as a practice and not about the spiritual is pretty absurd also. It's not like nobody has healed from trauma without the help of "professionals". Of course they have. Oprah does us the favor of giving us advice that is not elitist and not devoid of the spiritual. She knows a lot about trauma as do most black people. They must be looking at all the clueless, self pitying white people and rolling their eyes up. "Lord give me patience." They have so much experience with overcoming trauma and seeing what happens if a person doesn't heal. We should be looking at the black culture for answers. We should be looking at artists who have used their art to recover. The academic culture of psychologists and therapists should be looked at with a certain skepticism. They don't have to tell us who they are...... They might not even know who they are. Gabor is the exception and I thank him for that.

  • @sandracaezza7234
    @sandracaezza7234 7 місяців тому +4

    This was so powerful TY. I will play it over to be sure I am getting the info correctly. OM to be played to an arena of seekers of answers

  • @carolynlamar8079
    @carolynlamar8079 11 місяців тому +3

    Thank you💕🦋

  • @irektaflinski5449
    @irektaflinski5449 Місяць тому

    I admire and love this man 😊but feel very identified with him because I grew up in similar way and pain 😢but something divinely helped me survive and thrive against all odds (shame, guilt and rejections) pain has led me to heal others and be in the helping profession and as I heal others I too heal my own wounds!! Thank you Dr. Mate 🙏🏾

  • @sasankasinghabahu2319
    @sasankasinghabahu2319 4 місяці тому +2

    Such a genuine talk. Thank you !!!

  • @Abigail-ns2fk
    @Abigail-ns2fk 6 місяців тому +3

    I really appreciate this one

  • @cyberninjasworld
    @cyberninjasworld Рік тому +5

    Great interview

  • @heartsonastring6653
    @heartsonastring6653 2 місяці тому +1

    Omg ME TOO !!!!! I've only seen the character. Lol I want to awe the movie now. ♡

  • @joannetuinstra1472
    @joannetuinstra1472 6 місяців тому +2

    Thank you

  • @leahannwhite1111
    @leahannwhite1111 10 місяців тому +3

    The past is imagined. 💓

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 6 місяців тому +5

      The past lives inside us all.

  • @jlockwood65
    @jlockwood65 8 місяців тому +4

    Can someone please point out where in the video identifying triggers is discussed?

  • @youbetyourwrasse
    @youbetyourwrasse 4 місяці тому +2

    My mom thought I was laughing when she beat me and therefore I was a demon. Needless to say there is nothing like seeing the cruetly erupt through your own hand to get you to REALLY decide it's time to take a scalpel to the psyche and LOOK at the stuff been avoiding. What a MONSTER I could be .. Now I love everyone. We all have been hurt. Some folks are more sensiitve and others less so. So even a horrible murderer is a freaked out little kid .. Just like me when I have raised my hand in rage. And now things are different. And changing month by month. YEARS of living a mess I can't expect it to be perfect overnight. My wouldn't little kid is learning to trust me. After over five deceades. I have HOPE that is REAL. :D
    PS. and eye laughed at the shoulder tap analogy because I imagine the tap to be some dude with his fly open and in the next moment there is bloodshed. O love creepypastas! Heheeheh

  • @dnnsmtchll
    @dnnsmtchll Рік тому +10

    some of the interjected videos are disconcerting and bothersome the guy i the hoddie looking around ??????? very bad

  • @haizzzz7486
    @haizzzz7486 11 місяців тому +2

    Thank you,
    I’m like that too, I sometimes think I’m analysing people. But I think I’m just trying to understand there actions. I have come across a narcissist, extreme tendencies. Yes we all narcs in someway or another. Instead of judging him, I found myself thinking “why are you like that, where did you learn that from” as I observed him, I didn’t take his “character” personally. He’s alright, yeh extremely self absorbed and selfish but that aside, he’s an alright guy.
    My baby sensitive, more so than my other kids. She couldn’t handle angry environments. She’s 10 now, but extremely wise for her age, still a child of course but sometimes she says things that are well beyond her years. I would never tell her that she’s sensitive or gifted. She would play with that in her head and try to make an identity for herself out of it.

  • @maureendrennan9328
    @maureendrennan9328 Рік тому +5

    I used to feel like a performing circus clown for everybody. Keeping folk happy....

  • @robynhope219
    @robynhope219 24 дні тому

    Trapped in the past...omg...never seen anyone as trapped in the past as GM.

  • @Tascountrygirl
    @Tascountrygirl 27 днів тому

    I add to the commentary that wonders why the extra video segments are added.

  • @Moonlvr555
    @Moonlvr555 11 місяців тому +4

    Thank you 🙏 for this interview 💗. Where is the continuation of this?

    • @insideserene
      @insideserene  11 місяців тому +3

      here is the part 2: ua-cam.com/video/Z27ShqHksao/v-deo.html

    • @Moonlvr555
      @Moonlvr555 11 місяців тому +1

      @@insideserene a million thanks for this 🙏 💗😁👌🏽

    • @insideserene
      @insideserene  11 місяців тому +4

      @@Moonlvr555 you're welcome just want to help others because these videos help me a lot in terms of trauma acceptance

    • @Moonlvr555
      @Moonlvr555 11 місяців тому +2

      @@insideserene thank you 🙏 💗. The world needs this content so much right now 💗

    • @manishgrampurohit6424
      @manishgrampurohit6424 3 місяці тому +2

      @@insideserene thank you so much, but it says video2 is private. Is there a way I can view it.

  • @energiefee9574
    @energiefee9574 6 місяців тому +1

    🙏🧡

  • @ericgendell8874
    @ericgendell8874 7 місяців тому

    Dr. Mate is a true healer, a genius who's understanding of human nature is clear characterized by down to earth common sense and personifies compassion and wisdom.
    The Buddha's statement "all of life is suffering" points toward the association between suffering and attachment, that the relinquishing of attachment is transcendence of the egoic mind as the entrance to Nirvana, of which I am unconvinced is possible without psychedelics asthe Buddha ate a mushroom before passing from the mortal coil.
    One important distinction I discovered regarding suffering is that there are 2 types of suffering, requisite suffering , which is inevitable and unavoidable, that when one is clear and allows suffering to pass through without holding on, is generally tolerable and more akin to temporary discomfort than the endurance of protracted pain that characterizes suffering and then there is excessive suffering to which one maintains and exacerbates attachment to trauma that is internalized, repressed into denial and becomes a fixture of identity where the sufferer is trapped in a web of lies, distortions and exaggerations.

  • @DS-nv8bi
    @DS-nv8bi Рік тому

    i am not able to find pt2 i also can go without the video interjections and a cut-up interview

  • @kimalexander8276
    @kimalexander8276 Рік тому +4

    Not a fan of the video interjections. Really prefer your authentic connection , in this case the Amazing Mr Mate … keep it real , engaged , throughout. In my opinion of course x

  • @imit23
    @imit23 9 місяців тому

    I have to.leave can not deal with conflict

  • @gulrabbani7349
    @gulrabbani7349 11 місяців тому +10

    Dr Mate I'm from Pakistan having a mid life crisis, a divorce with 6 kids, no monitory help from my ex who's quite well off, I'm just addicted to listening to u. I'm a muslim n had v strange ideas about Jews but listening to u was able to connect on a humanitarian level. Loads of respect!! Request u to read about the life of our prophet Muhammad peace be upon him as well, stay blessed!!

  • @mysticmouse7983
    @mysticmouse7983 11 місяців тому +2

    Mic stands would be good

  • @imit23
    @imit23 Рік тому +4

    Can u help me gabor mate
    I live in chronic pain ..I can not get rit of the taperecorder of my fn mind of past trauma most all were big trauma hit me up I love u to help me I don't even know how to identify my feelings

    • @imit23
      @imit23 Рік тому +1

      Thanks learning some things from you thank you Gabor Mate

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 6 місяців тому +1

      Read the Myth...very helpful.

  • @elizabethalexander6528
    @elizabethalexander6528 Рік тому +4

    I raised 3 sons and it was all hard but they did have a hard time sitting still and really need a different method from child to child for sure. I was an excessive talker tho.

    • @alvodin6197
      @alvodin6197 Рік тому +4

      You obviously didn't get his message. You don't raise children by "methods". You actually bond with them and build a relationship..instead of focusing on your children's "faults"

    • @CaptainPhilosophical
      @CaptainPhilosophical Рік тому

      ​@@alvodin6197 the world is blessed to have such an insightful understanding person who can project their judgement of how a mother of 3, in your opinion, failed to understand a youtube video. Good for you in revealing your judgement to the world.

    • @alvodin6197
      @alvodin6197 9 місяців тому

      @@CaptainPhilosophical what the fuck does that it even mean? I'm explaining what gabor meant, and I agree. If you or someone wants to fuck up Ur kids, be my guest. Im simply exlaining how parenting affects our children.

  • @megmathisen9072
    @megmathisen9072 28 днів тому

    Interview is amazing but the cut always to images that are mimicking the conversation are somewhat distracting. Just a respectful thought.

  • @theotherandrew5540
    @theotherandrew5540 Рік тому +7

    Cut off at the wrong moment.

  • @Ayla93-ij3ln
    @Ayla93-ij3ln Місяць тому

    I wonder what Gabor’s opinion is on getting childhood cancer, then living as an adult childhood cancer survivor!

  • @newleafvibes
    @newleafvibes 9 місяців тому +1

    Where's part 2?

  • @brianlew9559
    @brianlew9559 11 місяців тому +2

    Oof, splice out those weird video clips man. Great interview but holy cow, the video is just insane. ;)

  • @zovalentine7305
    @zovalentine7305 5 місяців тому +1

    ❤ Winnie-the-Pooh❤
    🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟

  • @fairozeuvais1879
    @fairozeuvais1879 Рік тому +1

    This video cut off half way. Is there a part 2?

    • @insideserene
      @insideserene  Рік тому +3

      Part -2 is here: ua-cam.com/video/Z27ShqHksao/v-deo.html

    • @frankarrigazzi2781
      @frankarrigazzi2781 5 місяців тому +3

      @@insideserene it says that part 2 is private? Can you share the link please?

    • @heliusfacenna4109
      @heliusfacenna4109 2 місяці тому

      @@insideserene "Video not available."

  • @Alchemist75573
    @Alchemist75573 3 місяці тому +1

    What is missed in your explanation of the construct of personal reality is that YOUR BRAIN ( YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS BRAIN ) WILL CREATE YOUR PERSONAL REALITY - THROUGH EVENTS AND PEOPLE - IN A WAY, SO THAT YOU WOULD EXPERIENCE HABITUAL EMOTIONS - and, true, it comes out of the default programs encrypted in early childhood by caregivers … it’s endless reproducing of same generational patterns and suffering until pain wakes you up ..

  • @chrisnam1603
    @chrisnam1603 Рік тому +1

    Why are interview cut in pieces ? and if you give only a 'like' to people who write what you prefer to read, let's hope it's also possible to read the others who give inspiring reactions?

  • @adriandeutrom9092
    @adriandeutrom9092 7 місяців тому

    GM says we were programed in the past hence we live with that programe in the present moment
    But I am not that we were programed, but rather it is us that do the programing through the conditioning of of what we see around us
    I await for someone's thoughts

  • @user-qi9wy4jv7z
    @user-qi9wy4jv7z 4 місяці тому

    If I am suffering from my Trauma How would I know I had trauma for 30 years

  • @libertyisparamount1443
    @libertyisparamount1443 5 місяців тому

    1:17 really what about bulgaria, hm

  • @sallyalberts8972
    @sallyalberts8972 Рік тому +1

    Great content but extra videos very distracting

  • @dnnsmtchll
    @dnnsmtchll Рік тому

    HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THE LZR REFERENCE IS ----- NONe
    E AM 81

  • @debbielondon1809
    @debbielondon1809 Місяць тому

    What's with all the stupid pictures?
    In particular found the image meant to convey the idea of a "people whisperer" downright scary!

  • @grayigloo2023
    @grayigloo2023 7 днів тому

    It became harder and harder to watch this valuable interview because of those inserted video snippets that completely siphon your focus and weaken the flow of the conversation. And please correct those awful and incorrect AI subtitles.

  • @faithrafter2063
    @faithrafter2063 Місяць тому +1

    Could do without the video inserts 😅

  • @jokkesimola6955
    @jokkesimola6955 Рік тому

    change the youtube domain, pepole change the channel....

  • @Tascountrygirl
    @Tascountrygirl 27 днів тому

    Sadly, the text provided by the creators of this video is very inaccurate, sometimes meaningless. The subject is so important why not follow through with accurate
    text?

  • @imit23
    @imit23 9 місяців тому +1

    Crystal meth I tried loved never did it again

  • @doloreslujansalvador2644
    @doloreslujansalvador2644 Рік тому

    Gabor, I have been watching all your videos.grat help, great work. But are you not aware you are repeating the same over and over again?.this last video is not a good one and the pictutes are the worst tjing to watch. It does not matter you do not have anything new to explain. It has been ok till now. Tim Ferris and you are very intelligent people. No need for those videos. nor you. nor anyone of us. thank you for reading my comment.

  • @mtoconnor1585
    @mtoconnor1585 20 днів тому +1

    Leave out the accompanying illustrative clips. They take from the interview. Totally unnecessary.

  • @dnnsmtchll
    @dnnsmtchll Рік тому +1

    oh my god the damn smoker again !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!paleese stop !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @hologramm00
    @hologramm00 18 днів тому

    9:04 🙏

  • @user-ui4cu6fy4i
    @user-ui4cu6fy4i 3 місяці тому

    Damn I expected some wisdom from listening to this. This guy said a bunch of nothin

  • @eo1742
    @eo1742 4 місяці тому +1

    Had to stop watching… Those videos are of no use when you are speaking to such a knowledgeable professional. They are a distraction from his explanations. Play them when the interviewer talks if they need to be there.