Sex and the City - How Charlotte Was Wrong About Everything
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- Опубліковано 27 вер 2024
- The Take is now on Snapchat. This month in celebration of Halloween, we'll be releasing two episodes a week! Scan our snapcode or search The Take on Snapchat to subscribe to our show and never miss an episode! / 5879691185 | Sex and the City’s Charlotte York (Kristin Davis) is a hopeless, old-fashioned romantic. She unabashedly dreams of getting married, having children, and living out a classic ideal of romantic love. This beacon of optimism acts as a stand-in for viewers who can identify with her conventional desire for a perfect-looking fairy tale. But if we look closer, much of the series is devoted to disproving the various “love myths” that Charlotte believes in. Here’s our Take on how, by showing how Charlotte is wrong about everything to do with love-but still right to believe in it -Sex and the City guides us to a deeper understanding of what romance is really all about.
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I think this video has a bad, misleading title. It indicates that Charlotte was never right in any aspect of her life. I think a clarification of what Charlotte got wrong about love would be less damning towards her as a character. =|
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After Charlotte tells Miranda that she only has a 15% chance of having a baby and Miranda follows behind her to make sure she gets home safely is one of my all time favorite moments in the whole series
good friends, as they should
Mine too! ❤️
Same... :)
Miranda was so cool like that... they were still kind of mad at each other yet she still followed her home
@@MalloryNewcomb she was emotionally mature, and had the ability to see Charlotte needing support was bigger than their current disagreement! -Carrie would never have done that, she would have asked ”are you sure? And then lit her cigarette and be trotting off to some shoe sale”.-
@@soilgrasswaterair "Well 50% off Manolo Blahniks! That's worth more than mere friendship" (throws cigarette away).
For all her faults, Charlotte is, without a doubt, the character that grows the most during the show's run. Her entire arc with Harry, from their initial relationship to their marriage and the loss of their baby, all the way to their adoption of Lily is so well done and shows all her strengths and learnings.
Yes! She had to grow from her 1st marriage and realize what truly will make her happy. I loved her relationship with Harry! Now that was the perfect relationship
Agreed. Her relationship with Harry is my favourite story arc on the show.
Harry and Charlotte getting together was my favorite part of the show. I adore them. I always liked Charlotte.
@@knockknocklandshark9022 Carrie having not even a hint of character development throughout the show was completely in character for her, if that makes any sense
knock knock Landshark I agree about Carrie 😒 she is relatable in that we all met someone as fun yet selfish as her
I love how she ended up finding love in a way that was totally unexpected. She was wrong, but she was right at the same time. And she was always my favorite.
how did it end for her?
not my opinion Charlotte and Harry ended up adopting a little girl from China and also ended up getting pregnant naturally a few years later. I feel like she was the happiest in her relationship when the movies came out
@The Psychedelic Underbelly Miranda started off good and funny and ended uncomfortably cynical. EVERYTHING was an issue. She became rude like every episode. The baby ruined her character
It was not believable that steve loved her🤷🏽♀️
he end up with a bald and fat guy.
not my opinion She is rich and married to an ugly men.
Charlotte’s most moving moments:
Calling Carrie on her sh*t when she was having the affair with Big
Confronting Big / defending Carrie when he tried to chase down the limo after standing Carrie up at the wedding. That “NO!” is just the fiercest ever.
My favorite Charlotte moments are when she said the girls should be each others soul mates, when she showed up for Miranda after she thought M had had an abortion and when she went to Brady's birthday after her miscarriage.
Her smacking Big with the flowers was my fave scene from that movie.
@@thefriesofLockeLamora Charlotte is underrated! Sure she can be annoying and hypocritical but she shows a hella lot of growth, as does Samantha with Smith and Miranda with Steve ( although I always wished she'd gotten together with the hot doctor and broken racial stereotypes instead)! I think Carrie was meant to be static just and be a mirror showing the other characters' growth! While I love Samantha, I relate to Charlotte (the most) and Miranda after that. When Miranda talks about how 4 smart women could talk about nothing but men, I really felt that!! The scene where Charlotte says they're each other's soul mates is one of the best scenes.
@@archieniv I might be wrong but I think the black guy you are talking about is a lawyer, and the quote you said at the end was from Miranda.
Again I could be wrong on the first one in case you are talking about someone else I dont remember.
If it is Miranda's neighbor, he is a lawyer.
Haven't watched the show in years.
@@tagaway6173 I'm talking about the final guy she dates before getting back together with Steve. Wiki says the characters was called Dr. Robert Leeds and he was a successful sports medicine doctor....so that's why I recalled him being a hot doctor .
I could always appreciate her optimism.
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Likewise, while the other girls were more jaded and cynical, I myself related more to Charlotte's eternal idealism and cheery attitude! 💗
Naive
I think Charlotte was good and I love her
"Park ave Pollyanna"
"I've Been Dating Since I Was 15. I'm Exhausted! Where Is He?"
I relate to this so much.
Preach!
The amount of times i said that back when i was like 18 hahaha. I'm such a Charlotte person (although i also identify with Miranda a bit), but i had, like her, to let go of my preconceptions of love. I met the love of my life when i was 19 and have been with him every since (i'm 26 years old). He's the opposite of the person i saw myself with but it works!
😭😭😭😤 they should stop doing this.
That line will always be iconic.
Charlotte was always vastly underappreciated. She was honest, intelligent, loyal, and optimistic. Those are all wonderful qualities, but because she's a traditionally feminine character people thought lowly of her.
Its weird and makes no sense, but I always STRONGLY identified with both Charolette and Miranda. I know they seem like polar opposites but I feel like I fit somewhere in between them. Charlotte was the best idc what anyone says.
olivia martinez Same here girl! I related to Miranda being a career focused, cynical woman, but at the same time I relate to Charlotte’s desire to want to share something special with someone.
agree
@@westworlds also agreed.
@@westworlds Charolette and Miranda are foils of each other-which is why their character arcs paralleled so nicely
I know a girl who is Charlotte-type.
Girls like that are super optimistic, kind and care about their friends. We shouldn't blame them for wanting good-looking wealthy guy. They are pretty and good-looking by themselves, I think they have all rights to ask for it. I see myself only with a partner that as smart as I am. And I have never been shamed for it. People just think it's logical, that a smart girl prefers to date smart people. But why whenever pretty girls wanting to be with a pretty guy - everybody is so not here for it?
Absolutely ! I have always attracted guys who preferred me without any makeup and nice clothes on. Well, that's because I was always attracted myself to laid back guys who didn't care much about appearence and mundanity and preferred experiences over possessions. It may sound strange, but I've never been with a rich man and I wouldn't like to, because with money usually comes certain social obligations or values that I am utterly allergic to. I'm very happy living a simple life instead.
You attract who you are attracted to :)
I know! World hates the Charlottes; but why??
Pretty doesn’t sustain and isn’t enough to build a marriage on. Imo seeking a person to marry because of their looks is foolish.
I think you missed the point of the video. They weren't saying that Charlotte was wrong to have preferences. Just that she was so focused on the perfect idea of what a partner and marriage should be, she lost sight of actually finding a real connection with someone. She eventually let go of that rigid way of thinking and a met a loving partner that she really connected with. There is no shame in having ideals. But also know that life rarely works out the way you first envision. If you are too strict with your rules, you might miss out on some really great people.
TheSuperNats looks is not the only factor but still important. How are you going to love someone if you hate how their face looks?
I wouldn’t want someone to date me if they didn’t like my looks.
The older I get, the more I turn into a Miranda. Minus all the success
Lmao me too. It's okay girl! You don't have to be super sucessful just to be independent and opinionated
I felt that in my soul
Miranda was the most underrated of the 4.
I don't know what you class as success, but I hope you're not equating it to money/ career. Often when our careers are going well our personal life is a shit show. As long as you can go to bed most days and feel satisfied in what you've done, you're doing just fine. Miranda>>>>Carrie
I’m cryyyiiinng 😂😂. Same
Kristin Davis' portaryal of Charlotte is highly underrated. Mostly because her character is arguably the least edgy among the four main leads. She's often overlooked due to her being the most classically pretty yet vanilla character. It's hard to make someone so annoyingly naive and sometimes unrealistically optimistic still likable.
Which is ironic in many ways, because as "vanilla" as she was thought to be, there were times she actually put herself out there. Like with the artist painting her vagina, and when she had sex with an Hasidic Jewish artist.
She was an art curator and appreciated the arts, which is an industry full of fiery passion and appreciation for beautiful things. Deep down, she is so not Vanilla. She is more like a smooth tiramisu with chocolate choc chips to surprise and delight the palate. Hehe
Because being vanilla is the worst thing out there...not everyone is or can be edgy.
@@terzelrasmus-williams2530 well said with that analogy!
@@terzelrasmus-williams2530
That was awesome... and yes, I do think from time to time about the painting thing and how she was very traditional but she wasn’t a total prude. Great example
Also that was her body in the painting but nobody knew except her friends - and it was artistic. She worked at galleries & had an appreciation for art. So it makes sense for the character
Last twist: after she adopted her first baby, she is finally so free and relaxed and relieved (of pressure) that she gets pregnant! Another example that when she stops trying to force anything, it comes to her naturally.
Or bebe chow steals it
Uh, no. That’s NOT how infertility works.
There are women in war-torn countries who get pregnant. Not exactly a relaxing situation, to put it mildly! So “relaxing had nothing to do with infertility.
And perpetuating that myth is very hurtful to people struggling with infertility.
@@tp7738 hi, I hope this doesn't come off as dismissive or disrespectful, but I think the person was making a paralel with charlotte as a whole - once she stopped looking for Mr. Right, she found someone who was perfect for her, and when she was in a happier, less stressed out mindspace she ended up getting pregnant. If I'm not mistaken, charlotte was never infertile, but it was really hard for her to get pregnant and keep the pregnancy, so it was simpler for her to get pregnant afterwards comparing to other woman who go through different struggles.
That until the second film where she became one of the worst characters of the movie.
@@tp7738 i mean.. yeah that can happen but its far from true that fertility and stress are not related. Stress has a real affect on your body and hormones.
I loved how she schooled Carrie about her cheating with Big.
Schooled Carrie and yet still secretly rooted for them to have a happy ending
Charlotte is a hypocrit. She cheated her husband with a gardener.
@@nemanjaras for some reason I'm kinda of willing to bet that ALL 4 main leading female characters from Sex and the City have also been "hypocrites" at some point or another during the show/movies
@@monabohamad2242 i'm willing to bet we all have been hypocrites at some point. knowing or unknowingly, we all make mistakes and that doesn't condemn us to a life of accepting when our friends repeat those same patterns... charlotte eventually being unfaithful doesn't exempt her wanting carrie to be better.
@@elismaria1612 what exactly do you mean by "Charlotte eventually being unfaithful doesn't exempt her wanting Carrie to be better"?
I hated when Carrie practically bullied her into giving her money for her poor life decisions when she was about to lose her apartment.
Right?!? So entitled. Nobody owes you your exorbitantly expensive apartment just bc they “have the money”. Same with the time she blamed her friend bc she lost her shoes at a party. Bring a bag for your expensive shoes or ask to place them somewhere safe.
Very entitled indeed. As time goes on and I re-watch SATC, I start to appreciate Charlotte more and more. And Carrie just works on my nerves. She is inconsistent. Wants a fantasy whirlwind romantic New York life,which in my opinion is unattainable and slightly a bit naive. She wants certain things but at the same time when she gets it, she is confused and frustrated that it didn't come with the pretty bow she expected it to come in. She lives in her brain more than in reality.
That had to be one of the worst episodes. You're in your late 30s, have less than 1,000 dollars in savings, the bank won't give you a loan, and you want your friend to loan you 30 grand, and guilt her into doing it???
I don't think that is the point of that episode,I mean, it's Carrie's fault becuase I think she can sell their shoes or sale clothing, but the part of Charlotte she could offer the money and she didn't do it, friends are for support other friends. Miranda and Samantha didn't doubt about it.
@GA I hear what you say and agree with you to a certain extent. In my opinion I feel that it wasn't fair to "money-shame" Charlotte when she didn't offer when Sam and Miranda offered money and then felt brazen enough to confront Charlotte about it and make her feel like a bad friend. Money is a sensitive topic for some people and I think Carrie should just have respected the fact that Charlotte didn't want to talk about it or even offer her money. Okay yes in the end Charlotte did give her her wedding ring from her first marriage to pawn off and make a down payment on her apartment. And it was an important lesson for Carrie. But Carrie basically bullied and "money-shamed" Charlotte for not offering money and for being rich. Money is not something one talks about lightly. A true friend would do what Charlotte - she schooled Carrie and Carrie realised that it's not fair for others to give her an easy way out. She even realised that she must handle her money better, which essentially led her to writing for Vogue and then getting her work published etc giving her more financial independence. It was an important episode in that light. Both friends essentially learnt from one another, but I do feel Carrie didn't have any tact on the matter.
Charlotte falling in love with Harry was my favorite story line on the show. I always liked Charlotte, she's such a princess type but there's something so sweet and earnest about her. She also helps balance the cynicism of the other 3.
Its so beautiful! Harry is not good looking yet he was a beautiful character. He treated her so great
Funnily enough, I also thought Charlotte was in some ways the bravest character, and most likely to take unexpected risks? I loved when she posed for that painter, it was so empowering and totally off-brand for her.
Yet, she upends her life for him, too
She has amazing hair.
She's truly stunning, and still is. I kind of get the feeling her personality just kind of glows through.
I personally think Charlotte was the most beautiful out of the four women. Her and Samantha were the most stunning.
Sometimes it's a little to shiny, but yeah!
I wish I had her hair
Her hair has been thinning for some time now. She's even hawking a shampoo for thinning hair.
And cry, again.
A Samantha vídeo should be next, women enjoin their sexuality, but at the same time building a wall for the emotions. Please!!!!
Samantha enjoys sleeping around because she is lucky to always, with very few exceptions (maybe 2), sleep with guys who can satisfy her. In real life, you stumble upon a vast majority of guys who are terrible at sex and won't make any efforts unless you're their girlfriend. In real life, you do not want to spend years having countless sexual partners who won't give you any pleasure. In real life, you don't meet such hotties who will have sex with you after 1min of conversation. Samantha lives the ultimate porn fantasy for those reasons.
All of the four women in SATC are stereotypical but samantha goes one step further in my opinion.
PS) I adore this character nevertheless.
And Miranda too!!!
This!!!
@@chrissiem3958 that's true! But there's already a video about her 😍
@@sofitocyn100 Samantha is not a stereotype, is a satire. It's healthy if you don't buy that satire.
But deep down there's something more, it's a profound desire to be desired. And at the same time doing your own way, avoiding any chance of weakness or vulnerability.
It really shows how good of an actress Kristen Davis is to make Charlotte so likable and endearing. I feel like with a less talented actress Charlotte could come off as extremely vapid and ignorant but Kristen 's portrayal of her makes her feel so real that you kinda can't help but root for her.
Charlotte: the heart
Miranda: the mind
Samantha: the body
Carrie: the soul
Charlotte acts as the mind requires (she always calculates her future)
Miranda cannot stand pretending - she acts as the soul wants
Samantha follows her body's wishes
Carrie trusts her heart blindly
Carrie: The Psycho
Z M I’m thinking in terms of their whole being not just one aspect of their personality. Charlotte to me is the heart of the friend group. She is optimistic and loving and offers a grand romantic voice to the group. Miranda thinks for herself but also tries to think for the others and help guide them through their troubles with logic and reason. Samantha is sexually free and influences the girls to embrace their bodies and sexuality. And Carrie holds them together despite their differences and has a unique bond with each girl.
Carrie: the ego
@@tatianagoncalves944
classic carrie hater
I'm so glad you've finally made this vid, because over the years Charlotte has become my fave character on satc. She's actually really resilient and strong but people have the tendancy to not notice it because she's a "girly girl".
Charlotte's character arc is definitely the most intense. She does a whole 180 from episode 1 to the finale. Miranda's is a close second. I feel like Carrie never learned much and hurt a lot of people on the way. And Samantha.. well she's just always been Samantha😂
Samantha doesn’t need developement she’s perfect ;))
While she was very conventional and that rubbed me wrong at times, I did like Charlotte's ability to believe in love and to always believe in it. In the first movie, its tested in a very profound way when Big and Carrie marry. When Big leaves her at the altar, it is Charlotte who yells at him that "NO!" assertively because to Charlotte, this was Carrie's moment of love fulfilled and dashed. It's the brave love towards her friend that makes her feel bad that her infertility struggle is over and she is pregnant naturally when Carrie is still struggling after. When she's nine months and she bumps into Big accidentally at a restaurant and tells him off, that's so huge for her to do since she never really did it before because of the myths she believed during the show that her water breaks. Charlotte is stronger and even in the second movie, as she struggles with the reality of motherhood to the point where Carrie is just cold to her even after the events of the first movie, she can admit further that its okay to not be okay sometimes. Charlotte will always believe in love. That's hopeful.
I wanted to be just like her as a nine year old. But alas! Am a hodgepodge of her and Miranda in a world where it's her or no go☹️😭
@@availanila I am more of a Miranda, because Miranda is my favorite character these days. When I was younger, I thought I was more Carrie and Samantha. Then, when I grew up a bit more, I felt more like Samantha. Now, I am more Miranda, but I have that piece of Charlotte hope.
And let’s be honest isn’t Carrie a Charlotte at heart? She is also a hopeless romantic but with a much more toxic taste! 🤷🏾♀️
I struggle with tipping into my Charlotte side at times. Seeing that you can be a career woman and hopeless romantic is the kind of representation that I personaly need!
Yeah atleast Charlotte is upfront about it.
It's been more than 16 years since that final episode and still, that moment where Charlotte and Harry see a picture of their baby and she says 'that's our baby'... I still well up with tears
As much as a don’t like Charlotte, she was right in calling out Carrie for having an affair with big.
And she was brave for doing that. Many people would have been too afraid to speak their minds, but she was firm with her values and she was caring for her friend as well.
I loved how the three of them had different reactions and I loved all of their reactions but Charlotte's really sticks with you
One reason why SATC is so powerful is that it shows how people with different perspectives and ideologies can still be friends, respect each other and learn from each other. Diversity is beautiful and there's nothing absolutely right or wrong. Everyone has the right to pursuit what they desire and there's no shame in that.
There is a disconnect between Charlotte's lived reality and what she believes, but it is her holding on to the delusion that gives her her tenacity. How detrimental is delusion if it is needed to be tenacious in an unshakable way? How many successful people got there because they are disconnected from reality?
Truth. Studies about successful people show they are better able to visualize and believe in a version of reality in which they have and deserve what they want. Some interpretations of that study say those people are better able to lie to themselves, but that's not quite right- building skill and personality requires a willingness to assess yourself as you are as well.
That sword cuts both ways, How many people crashed and burned because they weren't connected to reality ?
I think the line of detrimental delusion is, when you feel like life loses worth without reaching your goal. One can have strong faith and reach for their dreams even when they seem unrealistic, but you shouldnt lay your complete future happiness on it. Believe equally as much in your ability to adapt to whatever life offers despite your vision of how it should be. That creates true resilience and gives you your best chances to reach whatever you wish for.
"Got there" where?
I would argue that it was when she finally let go of that illusion that she finally got what she wanted.
It’s been 20 years and I still love Charlotte’s outfit. So classy and timeless♥️
"Men don't marry the up the butt girl"
😂😂😂😂 that line always got me along with the taxi abruptly stopping and the girls almost hitting the front of the car & telling her that that's how it'll feel.
I'd like to see a take on Girlfriends' Joan, who was that show's "Carrie" in the sense she was the main character but was more like Charlotte in terms of her view of marriage as the end all, be all. Mya could interesting too, as she came from a different background/social class and was already married and pregnant when the show started
Yes!! I was thinking they should do some takes on Girlfriends!! Please @thetake? I would love them to also analyze Toni and her relationship with her background and how it influenced her materialistic narcissistic nature/how she saw herself, or Lynn and how she flailed for a while and her identity stuff! I would love it
@@hyperfeminal Yea, it'd be great!
Girlfriend's Joan is the 90s Insecure Molly. Both are careerwomen who are desperate to have the correct Mr. Right. But I wholeheartedly agree, a take on each of the Girlfriends women is needed.
@@sylviamann5090 Or is Molly the 2010s Joan? Oop!😂
Yes, please do ALL girlfriends.
I think one thing that isn't talked about when doing this type of analysis is that some of us have crazy ideas about love because we were raised in extremely religious households that creates the Madonna/whore complex. That was the case for me.
which is why breaking such dichotomy is important and liberating for us!
Well said
I cried for Charlotte's character more than any other character. When she lost her baby, when she saw photo of her adopted child. She always knew what she wanted and did everything to follow her dream. She is amazing.
I always tear up in the scene where she and Trey realize they can't stay together. Neither of them was wrong, but Trey was a true gentleman to Charlotte throughout.
But Charlotte is right. The choice to be able to be a housewife or a go-getter should be up to the individual woman, and not the rigid rule of a political ideology.
Yesss
Ehi, leave Charlotte alone! She is intelligent, gentle, and generous! When she found out she could not have babies I was literally heartbroken. I think she learned a lot of things, but she is just not the "Me! Me! Me! Everybody look at me!" type.
Exactly. Charlotte was an amazing character and a great friend. I don’t know when will the society stop judging women for what they want
You can still look at her character with some gender studies glasses, nothing wrong with that! And they didn’t put her down they simply broke down her traits to the viewer. If people did this more they wouldn’t land themselves in toxic relationships (not at all saying Charlotte is toxic, but saying it should be done by people in general when they meet new potential friends).
@Sabrina Kall and ultimately through that divorce, an amazing husband and two beautiful girls, a happy marriage, a gorgeous park Avenue apartment and her life dream. So she got what she wanted, just stumbled her way down the path.
Charlotte: the superego
Miranda: the ego
Samantha: the Id
Charlotte: the heart
Miranda: the mind
Samantha: the soul
OMG yes
What’s carrie? I do believe no matter how toxic her relationships are she should be included in this.
Carrie: the one profiting off all three.
Carrie: the psycho
I'm here because my gay friends refer to me as the "Charlotte" of every friend group. lol
As a gay man, I want the husband, and children 😂. Rn in my life though , I’m very Samantha 😂
She was the only one i liked, carrie was the worst and i think her marriage to big sucks
Carrie would have been happier with Aiden. The writers messed up big time with that. You can tell the writers caved to the fans.
Harry was the only partner/love interest on that show I liked. He kept it real, he was kind and honest and funny, didn't dismiss Charlotte's friends but also knew when to point out when they were being ridiculous--basically everything to look for in a life partner.
@@leorising8074 i don’t think she would’ve been happier. she had a panic attack at the thought of marrying him and wouldn’t cut off the man she had an affair with when Aidan asked 🥲. she’s just as toxic as big, they honestly deserve each other.
(+ omg i’m a Leo rising too 🥰)
Charlotte was a character I hated at first but when I watched it again I really appreciated her story and her character. And when Carrie dedicates her book to Charlotte for her optimism on love always gets me teary eyed
My favourite episode was when Charlotte refused to lend Carrie money after the latter nearly found herself broke and homeless due to her shoe addiction. I was mad when Charlotte gave in though - it wasn't her job to sort out Carrie's finances.
Very true, but I think that was the essence of Charlotte's character. For all her conservative, prim values she always came through for her friends.
Charlotte was actually my favorite and the one I related to the most. And I don't think she is wrong. Misguided at times but it's what worked for her. Knowing what you want is empowering, even if what you want is more on the traditional side.
"Charlotte: Want Versus Need" would have been a more accurate title for this. I always love some good Charlotte feels, and this vid hit all of my top Charlotte moments. Also I just like to look at Kristin Davis especially in her SATC vintage looks because she's basically an anime character come to life. It's not fair that a single human being could be that beautiful.
Honestly she had one of the best arcs and personal transformations in tv ever.
Omg I'm so glad they're continuing with SATC characters! :D ❤️ can't wait for Sam, if they decide to do so :)
I hope they do :)
PLEASE do Samantha!
They did do Sam
@@9897mm I'm pretty sure they've only done Miranda and Carrie
@@9897mm and Big
"Men don't marry up-the-butt-girl!" 😂😂😂
🤣
Charlotte was always a little inspiration to me, I loved her classy appearance, style, brown hair and sometimes she was hilarious as hell. Carrie was the girl who irritated me most of the time.
may I just say... Kristin Davis is simply gorgeous!
Charlotte annoyed me at times, but something about her unshaken optimism and faith was charming and endearing. Kristen Davis played her so well.
Love this narrator!! She has such a laid back tone❤️
Charlotte got married with a man who cherishes her, had a happy marriage with him and had a loving family. So no she was NOT WRONG. She got everything she wanted and lived happily ever after.
Nothing wrong with wanting the fairy tale. That’s what made her happy.
And in despite of how her friends viewed relationships and how they dated men, she was always herself and stuck true to her femininity and traditional views. In my opinion she was the ONLY WOKE ONE of the group.
Charlotte chose the life many women chose a generation or two earlier. For some of those women things worked out; but many later regretted their choices, or at least after 20 years decided they wanted more. (I see Charlotte as Betty Draper in the 1960s.)
If any character was going to have a 1970s-style “midlife crisis” in the reboot, Charlotte would have been the most likely candidate.
I love Charlotte so much 🥺❤️
Absolute favorite character in the show.
She is literally me and I am her 😂
The female main characters were all wrong about everything, and that's the truth told by the show.
OMG, yes!!
Exactly this!
No one could possibly ever be right about everything. We learn as we live.
Unfortunate but true
I would still take these over those utter tosspots, that were the Entourage. I would be like no, no, no!!! to SATC but Entourage would make me want to scream and throw things at the screen.
I actually cried at the end watching this. As a lifelong dedicated SATC-er who watched and rewatched the show for 2 decades, I finally understood my obsession with it. I always told people I hated Charlotte but am really the most drawn to her story. I never understood my struggle with love is very similar to hers as I fight my own preconceptions of love and layers and layers of societal rules tightly bound upon it.
Charlotte is one of the characters on television that I really connect to because of her optimism and wanting true love, for herself and for her friends. It what makes her outburst at Big at the "not-wedding" in the movie all the more significant and still iconic to this day for me. That guttural "NO! NO!" still gives me goosebumps to this day.
I specifically hated how often it was mentioned in the show that a "golden Mastercard" was essential to Charlotte when it came to meeting men.
She was an upper class women. Of course she wanted to marty an upper class man. What is so wrong about wanting to marty the same level (which in her case was the rich because she is rich herself).
Agatha z Exactely!
It was American Express. They were much more exclusive. Why do you think the black American Express card exists?
@@ioanafilipescu2327 I agree.
While i side more with miranda when it comes to relationships. I cant blame charlotte for wanting a normal picture perfect marriage. I never disliked her because she had a traditional approach to life. The only thing that annoyed me is that she always planned everything. I thought that she never really searched for love, she just wanted someone who could fulfill her expectations. I'm glad that she finally understood what was good for her.
Charlotte is like a representation of the arch of feminism in 2010s. Unlike our parent's generation (particularly the 80s), women can have it all and don't have to be hard, perhaps aggressive to succeed as career women. They can be feminine, wives and mothers/play that role at home if they choose and still have a successful career. Modern feminism is about choice. I really admire Charlotte.
I fell like I’m a Charlotte even though I want to be a Miranda
Same
I get a sense that one of the reasons American society still has so much “Charlottes” is because certain social services are only accessible to high income families. I think the reason American women (understandably) are also looking for social status in a guy is because it is so challenging to fe keep working if daycare is very expensive, or knowing that if you’re sick someone will take care of you, because there are little to no social nets to rely on. It’s a theory i read about in a Nordic theory of everything, and it stuck with me.
Now THAT was useful and helpful for both men and women: finding love is about eliminating all the obstacles within us that keep us from it. And it applies to every other interaction in our lives, not just romance, from achieving our political ends to seeking enjoyment in others. Glorious, absolutely glorious.
I’ve always identified with Charlotte more than anyone else on the show. I just went through my first breakup with someone I thought was perfect for me, who turned out to be selfish, immature, and couldn’t take responsibility for himself let alone other people. I still love him and it’ll take me a while to completely move on, but watching this video helps.
Her character arch was very enjoyable.
She was a good character and the show knew what to do with her storyline.
I know a lot of people hate her but I think her character arc is the best in the show.
My favorite Charlotte moment is when Samantha is talking about how this guy's spunk tasted kinda funky and she just got up and left.
"and she's never coming back!"
I was always more of a Miranda boy, but this take on Charlotte really made the character engaging. I might even go back and watch a few episodes of that show again. Thanks so much, friends!
She is such an underrated character, especially her development and how she was able to find the right man for her after losing beliefs that didn't serve her or made her happy. If she didn't rush things with Trey, they MIGHT have been able to work out but she got caught up with her fantasies and ideals instead of sticking to the reality; and of course Trey's mom didn't help the situation at all and Trey could've tried harder
The 'If trey tried harder' is key here. He just wasn't interested in doing the work on the relationship, and in the end, he did not have the same views as Charlotte on having children. Those two things would have destroyed the relationship, no matter what Charlotte did.
When I first watched SATC as a child in the early 2000s (sooo inappropriate), I thought Charlotte was the only sane one amongst her friends. Watching it now as an adult I literally burst out laughing every time she talks, especially in the earlier seasons. Poor thing, glad she grew up a little eventually.
I think every character was wrong about something in this series. But I would argue than none of them were wrong about everything they did or thought. I also find it very sad that Carrie and Charlotte are so hated on these days. They both had more idealistic views on love but at the end they found their own happiness, no matter what someone else may think about it. I'm happy for Samantha for "fucking like a man" if that is how she found her empowerment, but I could never relate or live such a life. Simply because that doesn't make me happy, and that's ok. It's okay to want family and husband and maybe more "traditional" lifestyle. On the other hand there is pragmatic Miranda, realistic, down to earth but sometimes too realistic to let go and be with a man she loves. She also overcomes that and finds her happiness. Point is none of them are perfect, but they are all women, just because you relate more to one doesn't make others worse.
Thank you! I also find all the hate carrie and charlotte get absurd. I love all of them. They're flawed, like humans are. When I was younger I related to carrie and charlotte the most, now it's Miranda and samantha. All of them made mistakes, but so did every single person ever. I've been watching this show for 10 years now. I watch it when I'm sad, when I'm happy, when I'm heartbroken, it's just my go to. None of these women deserve the hate at all. 💙
@@anjab-1769 completely agree dear😊 i think all of us if we can be objective enough about ourselves can find bits and pieces of us that match each of these characters. Sometimes we relate to their flaws and sometimes we relate to their qualities. I truly think they were good friends and a great portrayal of modern women because i recognise myself and my female friends in them. If many people looked at my life like a show on tv there would be undoubtedly many who would find me annoying and flawed but that's exactly the point. It's such a good series, and the fact it's so relevant even now shows the greatness of it's characters
Very true. Also nowadays we tend to hate everything that is considered "girly". Romantic mindsets, love story, everything that is deemed "for girls" or as "girly" behavior is really heavily criticized. That's not normal, like why does society hate women ?
@@shanouboubou exactly!!! You're so right. I think someone sold us this mindset that only if you behave like a "man" (not be emotional, sleep around, be primarily career focused) you are than "empowered". I put men in quotations because this is obviously not how most of the men behave but it is a certain representation of masculinity in media. Women who are more reserved, romantic, women who cry and want family are now described as weak and wrong for wanting something that is traditionally more feminine. It's almost like the only way for woman to be seen as powerful is for them to behave like a stereotypical man hmm? 🤔
@@user-zh8bc7jo6l and that’s why I loved a phrase from the latest little women adaptation said by Meg : not because my dreams are different than yours are less valid.
Everyone know loves Joes( women who are like little women Joe) but have almost no respect for Megs. I really see the sex and city girls as modern day Little Women
Miranda is Joe- a very career focused women who cared for independence but still found love.
Charlotte is Meg a romantic woman who’s main interest was being a family woman. Have kids and take care of her home
Carrie is Amy cares for romance a lot but wants a glamours life, unlike Charlotte she wants a wealthy man she can spend on her Manolo Blaniks
Samantha she is Joe but with alternate ending of not settling with a man.
So yes this series is little women but the girls instead of being sisters they are friends.
Women should not be blamed for wanting to get married, have children and if they want to marry a man who can provide her while she is bearing a child or raising her children.
Her wardrobe is just wow.
I love her classic style. I’d still wear anything of hers today.
I disliked Charlotte a lot. She grew a little bit less annoying over time. But I liked seeing her happy with Harry. I cried when these two got engaged.
Harry really was the perfect partner for someone like Charlotte. They were my favorite couple on that show.
So pumped for the embodiment of my life, Samantha Jones' video to come out.
I don't get what the media has against more traditional women. What's wrong with wanting to have a husband and children?
It's the whole feminism thing, it's become a trend more than a serious movement unfortunately and part of that trend is to be indepedent and despise anything traditional like marriage and children. Especially if it's with a man.
What's wrong with not wanting those things? Bottom line is people look down on all types of women for many reasons. It's how it is.
There’s nothing wrong with it but the problem is that it’s very flimsy when written by men who don’t get the nuances. It requires women to be behind the camera, to do the writing, shooting, editing, etc. You can literally see the same problem manifest when men are put in charge of writing “empowered badass women” - we want the Charlize Theron of Mad Max and Atomic Blonde, not male-coded masturbation material with Jennifer Lawrence in Hunger Games and Red Sparrow.
It’s important to note that while Charlotte aspires to have these traditional things, Miranda has to actively choose them despite not really wanting them. The message that the show sends is that someone like her also realizes she wants a partner and to be a mother. She’s just as interesting as Charlotte because their preconceived notions are challenged and it’s so satisfying because they get what they want but on their own terms after struggling.
Same. I am sick of the society judging traditional women
Nothing, and this video doesn't attack that, despite the misleading title.
I love this video! I was a lot like Charlotte, in that I grew up wanting "what my grandparents had". I wanted to grow up, get married, have kids, live in a colonial house full of primitives, marry a man who was masculine and white collar, be a stay at home mother, and make dinner every night.
Some aspects of that were more important than others. When I got to the age I started dating seriously, I would latch onto a man "because he said the right things" or "wanted the right things". What I found myself in love with was more of the IDEA of the relationship than the man himself. We didn't laugh at the same things. He had weird expectations of me, and I had weird expectations of him. We may have had some surface commonality that didn't take us very far, but when it came to intimacy, there was a huge wall there, and when the wall was broken down, we found we didn't really LIKE each other very much, at all. We were ill matched.
When I met who I am pretty certain is "the one" it wasn't all perfect and planned out. I didn't follow "the rules". He had interests, as did I, that bored each other, but when we took the time to indulge the other person, even if it wasn't "our thing", we found we actually had a pretty good time, and the jokes wrote themselves! :'D He didn't look the way I imagined my soulmate to look. He wasn't super tall, he wasn't clean cut looking, he didn't work a white collar job, and he didn't wear button downs every day. He liked riding his sport bike, he wore t shirts and jeans, and instead of decorating his house with primitives, he had illustrations of snakes and tigers on his walls.
But when we first spent time together, we laughed, the whole time, as we had excellent conversation. The more time we spent together, the more free we felt to just be ourselves, without any affectation, without any expectation. We could be vulnerable, and goofy, and irritable, and apologetic, and lazy, and creative, and everything here, there, and in between. We accepted each other as we were, and loved each other even more for it. We agreed on the important things, and there was never a dull moment, because there was always so much to learn from each other and giggle at. And in our dullest moments, we had a best friend to cuddle up with, and fall asleep while watching Carpenter's THE THING.
And now as I look at him, eating lo mein and watching kung fu movies for the 74829574290th time, my heart swells with adoration, affection, sometimes irritation :P, but more than anything, true, unbridled love for the person he is. I can't imagine ever being attracted to another person the way I am to him. And part of love IS A CHOICE! At times when we don't agree, and we get annoyed with each other, we don't compete or put each other down. We come back, we either compromise or let the things that don't matter GO, and we are closer than ever. Love doesn't look like how I imagined Love would look - and I couldn't be more grateful for the surprise.
Please do a video on Samantha Jones! Your Miranda vid was excellent, as was the one about how awful Carrie was
I've begged on like every video for this lol
Carrie was the worst
Her and big were both so toxic 🙄🤦🏾♀️
I honestly couldn’t stand how Charlotte treated Trey - who was an actual a good man , with flaws - he didn’t cheat, loved and took care of her and tried. He left her money and a gorgeous home - even after she asked for the divorce. That’s terrible how that story ended.
“Everyone needs a man!”
Me a gay girl: 👁👄👁
I really liked her character’s evolution. At the beginning of the show and mostly through all of it, she literally had a list of things she wanted on a man, and she literally wanted to control and force love. She learned to just relax and let love come to her naturally, and that’s when she met Harry and loosend up.
I think what was great about Charlotte's arch was that in the end, she found real love when she was willing to put aside all the assumptions and rules she had for who the perfect man was. When she was willing to let go of all the pretension and trust what she felt, that was when she found true happiness.
I don't enjoy Sex and the City as a show (nothing wrong with those who do, but I have my reasons), but I like this whole series of analyses on it. This one in particular with Charlotte makes me think more about myself.
I'm pretty independent-minded and self-sufficient, but also have some traditional romantic ideas of what I want from a relationship. I don't try to control anybody else's pace or set of rules, but I have my own. I try to make them flexible, but naturally I'm pretty stubborn and have grown to depend on rules for consistency in my life. That's probably my biggest conundrum/double standard as a person, but we all have them.
I like how with the different approaches the women take, nobody is really right or wrong. We all have flaws and strengths in our personalities. It makes sense we would have both blind spots, things we can learn from others, and good insights, or things people can learn from us, into love as well.
We need a video about Samatha- how wrong she was locking up her emotions.
She’s so funny when she’s drinking her way through the “married old gals” brunch and she is the Samantha of the group
She's the one who's learnt the most
Charlotte was oblivious! And ended up sad all the time. She's an emblem of privilege too!
Wasnt she the girl who took another men to her bedroom just to make her mister Right jeaulous?
What a failure.
Lol, why was she oblivious? And yes she was priviliged. But since when is it a bad thing to be rich?
@@ioanafilipescu2327 That was my opinion. Presuming we've both watched the show, you with know what I mean or not. I was talking about privilege not wealth. She was quite boring and had gormless nature. I feel she wasn't self aware mainly because of privilege. That's why I mentioned it!
But also wasn't that kind of the arc of her character's growth, learning to look outside her privilege and forge real connections with people like Harry? She had to learn that aesthetic privilege means nothing if you're not fulfilled.
Okay? Did you even watch the whole video. If you want to get down to the nitty gritty, all four of the ladies were the emblem of privilege. And you know? It’s whatever. It made for good TV. Every one of those ladies were EXTREMELY flawed, and that’s what makes them relatable. And I mean, in the end. She was the one that ended up with pretty much everything she wanted. She just had to learn some major lessons to get there.
I'm definitely a Charlotte with how optimistic I am. But I don't base relationships only on shallow images. Great video ladies! You inspired me to start my own channel!
Everybody talks about Steve and Miranda or Smith and Samantha but the best couple and love story is Charlotte and Harry, they're so adorable.
Charlotte & Harry one of the best love stories in the history of tv. In the best relationships you grow with the person you fall in love, that is exactly what happened to Charlotte. She had to let go of old behaviour patterns and beliefs in order to find true happiness.
I realize I have carried lot of Charlotte's beliefs in my own love life. Finally come to a point where I am ok not having a partner.
Thats her opinion and desires its her problem she doesnt do anything wrong
b s yeah
Shallow and misguided opinions though 🤷🏼♀️
Exactly
I honestly enjoy watching your videos. I've grown up around strong women and I love how watching them helps me be a better man through my actions and words. My Mother is actually Wonder Woman, my sisters are like Captain Marvel and Super Girl. Thanks for creating such great videos and I hope more and more people watch them. Charlotte was always my favourite and its eye opening watching this particular video because I've made a lot of the same mistakes as her. Lots of love x
A lot of people aren’t too keen on Charlotte but I always thought her arc was a wonderful feature of the show. I thought she was really sweet to be willing to go back to Harry without the promise of marriage. AND I thought it was cool that she was very not okay with Carrie sleeping with Big while he was married.
the skirt Charlotte has on during the "I choose my choice!" segment.. loooove 😩😍 she wore some really nice pieces.. I think her styling was underrated..
Charlotte by a landslide had the best husband & happily ever after. The scene when she wants marriage so badly that she went backwards & told harry he was lucky to have her b/c looks wise she was out of his league. That broke my heart esp when he said " I know it I didnt think u did " then when she adopted which happens in a good amount of cases she finally had her baby. I also loved that she met harry b/c he was her divorce lawyer. Talk about immediate " when one door closes a window opens " I also loved that on paper charlotte & trey were perfect. Both beautiful from wealthy upperclass upbringings & wasps. Harry was not the hunky tall dark & handsome or whatever & was not a wasp but Jewish & yet they just were perfect together. He was no slouch in the career dept either trey was a dr but harry was a high powered lawyer.
Waiting on you guys to do Samantha Jones!!!
What perfect timing; I recently rewatched SATC. I really enjoyed your analysis of Charlotte. I’d love to see videos for the other women and their journeys throughout the series.
I love all of the women from SATC for different reasons. Charlotte's demure approach to love wasn't totally wrong. I think everyone should have a LITTLE Charlotte in them. Her optimism kept her heart open.
Charlotte was my absolute favorite. She was kind, supportive and a loyal friend. I hated the way others talked to her and dismissed her sometimes, just because their ideas didn't align. As if there is one correct way to think about one's femininity and womanhood. Her and Miranda balanced each other well.
Charlotte is the character I walk away from the show feeling the most inspired by. Of course, I am an art major, so I automatically feel a bond towards her due to her career in the art gallery. She is capable of making mistakes or taking the wrong view of things, but she is so often the one who has to face these things head on and grow. I'm one of the few viewers who actually relates to and really likes Carrie, but even I can see how there is such a difference in their character as Charlotte chooses growth while Carrie suffers from some arrested development.
Charlotte has such beautiful style, is absolutely stunning, a lover of art, a lover of passion, is tender towards her friends, stands up for herself, and has such high standards. She has her own interesting form of neurotic that I adore because I feel like we all do. Her ability to have hope in the face of hardships...just so awesome.
And I'd like to say, her response to Carrie's demand about giving her money because Carrie is about to lose her apartment is one of my favorite moments of dialogue in the show. I love that she stands up for herself and the fact that she and Carrie are adults. And even when she offers money to Carrie (in the form of a ring), she does so gracefully.
In other words...I really love this character.
She wasn’t a romantic per say. Mostly obsessed with her social & romantic status.
Yes... I’d say actually Samantha was the most romantic in her own, camouflged way ;-) Charlotte was like .... living for a newspaper covers
Yes! Charlotte was a character that I wanted so badly to love, because I'm as girly and naive as her. But she's classist (with the kind of money she expects every man she dates to have), snobbish (refusing to eat or drink anything in a fancy resort just because it was in a different country), and had far too many odd rules and regulations. The saddest scene was her argument with Miranda, when she gave up something that made her so happy, just to devote herself to the IDEA of something happy. She just doesnt seem as realistic as the other women did. Maybe because the writers didnt know how to handle her character well at the time?
YES! Thank you! That's exactly how I feel about her. I wanna like her, but it feels really difficult because of that "rich classist snob" persona of her. It makes me sick when she goes to Mexico and doesn't eat anything, like the whole country is infected somehow. That and the prude thing.
@@iarahelenameirelles3027 Yeah but that shower sure taught her a lesson about xenophobia :-)
Can we take a moment to acknowledge how beautiful Charlotte was? And her hair and outfits?!