Wow. You have no idea how much this hits home. I'm that kid too. A stellar student that graduated high school at 16, and then championed through building a career. I've always been so driven and motivated no matter how hard life slapped me in the face. Recently though, I hit a concrete wall in the most acclaimed area of my life - my profession. Doubt, shame, self expectations and not measuring up to my past achievements - these are the challenges I've been trying to come out from. Seeing YOU - like this. Just thank you. Thank you for putting yourself out there, especially when you're not sure you should be. Much love from Palestine. xx
I've seen a few videos from this channel before and enjoyed them, but this one really hooked me. I'm going to have to go and binge watch all of your stuff now. This isn't something we hear enough about in creative discussions, but the whole theme of disappointment is actually huge. Nobody really tells you how to deal with that as a creative person. Thank you for talking about it!
"i had many points in my career where my expectations of the things i make where so unreasonably high, that it crushes my spirit when i'm unable to achieve the things i was hoping for". jesus christ matthew, sums up pretty much everything i did in the last 15 years.
I really appreciate this video! "I am afraid to feel shame because I don't want to be a failure." That was the story I used to tell myself, now I'm working to be more kind with myself. Thanks, I'm glad we all are on this beautiful journey.
Editing Design From Scratch was tough. Like Matt said, there were high (made up) expectations for us since we were following up Building a Brand. When we dropped the first episode and it wasn't received well I also took it kinda hard. After reassurance from my colleagues saying how you can't compare the two I started to view it differently. I did my best and it's probably one of my favorite projects I got to work on, but it's not what the audience wanted...and that's okay. I still got to make something I was happy with and fun to work on. Everything "failure" is a learning lesson if you decide to view it as such. As long as you tried your best then that's all that matters.
Even though you work for your audience, people tend to be selfish. The end result of Design from Scratch might not have leveled with your expectation but the immense effort you put in easily reflected. I really appreciated Design from Scratch ESPECIALLY the fact that you didn't agree on the website design the first time. Little hiccups make us more grounded and connected. @Jona Garcia @Matthew Encina Kudos! 💕
I think you guys did a great job on this, even if it didn't hit the same mark as the previous series. I'd love to see you guys continue to explore this style and format and try new things. Thanks for all that you do!
I love your honesty and vulnerability. I am not alone in shame and disappointment.... you inspired me for I AM ENOUGH! Keep doing great work, @Mathew Encina. I love your work and approach! The most humble person I have ever seen. Love+Respect
This really hit home. For me, not meeting my high expectations translates to not being as valuable as I wish to be. We certainly can't please everyone or our selves every time ... It's very counterintuitive to be able to let go, it brings out a lot of insecurities from us creators. As you said, life is kind of like a game, which we should enjoy, even the struggles and failures which are just lessons on the end and shift our focus to the "cheese" instead of the holes in it. The video was professionally made dude, you got this! Keep it up :)!
This hit home real hard. Especially in this point in time with everything going on with this crisis we are all struggling with. My business was affected 100% due to the pandemic. I own a Landscape Design business and that means my business is all about meeting clients at their homes to conduct the remodeling of their outdoor spaces. So this pandemic slammed my business to the ground. This video showed exactly what I am currently feeling (although I am fully aware that this was never my fault), but it still is a huge ache to see how quickly business owners can get shot down from the cloud we live in. This video really made me feel better and I really thank you for that. It is hard to not forget that we are not alone. Regardless the struggle and heartache I currently am living with because of my business, I somehow motivated myself this morning to stand strong with it and came up with the idea of commencing a second business as a Graphic Designer. That would allow me to function online, without the need of having personal contact with people. After watching this video, it definitely motivated me to carry through with my idea. You guys are game changers! Thank you! P.s. Screw all those negative people who don't know a damn thing about hard work and sacrifice, especially as a creative professional. Their bad comments towards your series are only grains of salt in your global sea of success. Let them talk. Keep doing your thing.
Thank you Matthew, I actually enjoy all your posts as there's a vulnerability and natural empathy that you bring to your work. It fell authentic and that's how I feel about your personal brand. In relation to building a brand which I thoroughly enjoyed and learned a lot from, that felt authentic and you also had the right client, their brand chemistry and what they stood for helped draw people into their story as a whole and your team's desire to help them get to their desired outcome was fascinating. It was a first and then you wanted to replicate it which is a natural instinct. You should take the time to understand what people really enjoyed about building a brand and for me it was the combination of having the ideal client and also sharing your process in helping that specific client. It was more spontaneous and not so controlled. You had a client who was so authentic and communicated that authenticity so well with your support. If you can find that combination again then it would be awesome. Make it more about the client and less about you. The reason you may feel shame is because you really wanted it to work for your own ego more than you wanted to serve your audience. If you just created because you believe something would be great content and put it out there, then you would not feel all that guilt not receiving the outcome you desired. Just create because you are a creative person and quite enjoyable to learn from. I like your process of being vulnerable and well detailed in your content delivery. Keep doing that because you love it and because you are serving but not solely for the social praise and popularity. You are enough Mathew... You are enough whether you are amazing today or not. It doesn't really make a difference. The reason why people connect with you is because you help them connect with themselves so once you know and accept that, you become more free to express and create as you will. People don't smoke Marijuana or take drugs because they like it, they take them because of how it makes them feel. It helps them to forget about their pain and feel their higher frequency. If they knew another way to get to that end goal then they would. So people love your content because of what it activates in them. Connect to that intention rather than on people liking you. Keep on shining bright mind! 🙌🏾
a lot of people will look at this and think that it applied to 'creativity' and it does, kind of. all creativity means is 'thinking outside the box' and the box is whatver you have built in your head. venturing out of that box to try new things is scary and perhaps fear of something new is the reason we get dejected when things dont work out. now thinking outside the box applies to everything in your life I believe. having great expectation is also a state of being that comes from a place of insecurity and vulnerability. if you are secure and self aware, you know who you are and your skill level and your capabilities. so when you venture outside of it, you dont expect much because you know you dont know anything and that you gotta take baby steps. currently I am not at a place where i seek external validation, so I wouldnt have been disappointed by negative comments on youtube. but I know I will definitely get disappointed when I dont meet my personal expectations and standards in what I do. So this hinders my ability to take baby steps in the stuff I have expectations of myself. But when I try things which I have never thought about before or have expectations from, I do it with ease and without being stressed. LE BRAINISFOONY
i was going through this toxic loop of disappointment and unreasonably high expectations and this video is exactly what i needed it really comforted me. i totally agree and relate to everything you said here but i wanna add something from my opinion and point of view, i believe what drives those toxic thoughts and expectations is comparing yourself to others, as you mentioned in the beginning of the vid you see some amazing work online by experienced artists and people who have been in the industry for years and have much more knowledge and experience than you do and you say to yourself “oh i can do that” or “i can do even better” then you go on and do it then it doesn’t turn out as good as theirs then the toxic loop of disappointment and self hatred starts.. we have to tell ourselves that people are different what works for someone might not work for you and it’s OKAY because you are you and i am me everything from our backgrounds to our knowledge to our skills and experience to our pace and the way we learn things and even our finical status they all vary and everyone whenever i go through something like this i always look back and realize that it all started because i compared myself to someone else it’s the root of self hatred and if you don’t stop it grows into envy and jealousy and you’ll never be satisfied of yourself.. take inspiration from others and learn from them but never compare yourself to them be you and focus on your OWN journey and making yourself better do it for yourself and don’t do it to “beat” someone take your time to better yourself and keep in mind it’s not a competition and always remember to enjoy it
i also wanna add something people only post the results online they never show you the whole things, the ugly things and falls and failures and the hard process they go through so when you see a finished piece of artwork you think “wow this is so perfect” when there’s so much more to it than what you see so your brain unconsciously builds up more and more expectations.. we have to understand that things take time we need to learn how to be patient it takes a lot of tries and effort and failures to achieve and learn things it’s a hard pill to swallow but the truth is we have to ACCEPT and EMBRACE failures and look at them as a growing point for us
I feel like this almost every time when I create. Because after all of these hours of work you are so tired, exhausted, you poured all your soul, used all the skills you have and then you look what you did and it is not even close to your expectations. And then you think again that it was just a useless waste of time and nothing good will ever come out of these tries. But anyways, thank you for this video, It made me feel a little better, I hope that you will also take a little easy to yourself and keep creating
I just started a colective art group 4 days ago, I felt so bad when i saw my designs had less likes than other newbies designs, felt like I'm not really made for this, and i shoul stop trying, but this video really opened my chest to a better feeling with my project, I feel like leading again, and putting all my effort in my project. Thank you so much Matthew, and all the team.
The calmness you exude when you talk is soothing. It puts me in this zen state of total focus. Design from scratch was where I got exposed to webflow, so it wasn't a bad series for me. Cheers to winning without unrealistic expectations.
Awesome. Thanks for this. It is always hard to separate accomplishment from who I am. This is a good reminder that I (without my accomplishment or work) am enough!
What I love about this channel is you guys are intentional about tackling the creative experience from a multifaceted vantage-point. The actual "design" aspect of what we do is just the surface. Although we as designers are unique we are also very much so alike. We struggle with the same things and need constant reaffirmation. It is comforting and motivating to know I'm not alone. Thank you.
This is very relatable. This is what I'm experiencing right now as a designer. I'm planning to post my works on social media but then negativity always gets into me, thinking that my works aren't good, I'm not good enough, and no one will support me. I never had the courage to post them and it has been months.. since I started planning. I hope I can collect my courage and confidence soon.
I read the title, and realized is't this is what i did a minute ago.... HOLLY FUCK ...the timing of the video getting recomended to me is JUST PERFECT!
As creatives I think we always hold ourselves accountable if we don't recreate the success we had in previous projects, me being the first to do that actually, and that's where anxiety and shame (couldn't have expressed it with a better word) kicks in. I felt this so many times before that it drained my energy and creativity but now I began to see it in a different way. Like Melanie said it's all about the journey. It's okay to fail because if we don't we will not learn from our mistakes and get better. Love this! Thank you Matthew and the futur team keep 'em coming🙌
Matthew, thank you for this. I am the oldest child and my high expectations stem from my upbringing and nothing was ever good enough. Even into adulthood, my family never acknowledged my accomplishments. Sadly, it's been a new feeling to me to get amazing feedback and support from others.
A professional was once an amateur. Even geniuses have to "fine-tune". We as creatives need to recondition our mental atmosphere and we will reap the rewards.
It’s comforting to see other people managing similar issues like yourself. Most of the times we tend to believe that we are the only ones who are dealing with a particular problem, that we are alone and no one else can understand us but that’s not true! We are unique but not so different after all! Matthew thank you for sharing this video!🙏🤍
Matthew this was just what I needed to hear. Recently I have not been hitting home-runs at all with multiple clients and it weighs heavy on my heart and my confidence when I mess up or I fall short of what these clients are expecting from me. I expect too much of myself and then begin to question my abilities all together. Thank you for this reflection of yourself and your own expectations, it has helped me tremendously.
Brah... I realised through observing the great sport of boxing; "winning" all the time doesn't make a legend, it's how the person in question come back from the floor. Stay blessed. 🙏🏿
I find that because I watch a lot of videos on your channel as well as others like GaryVee, I automatically set high expectations for what I can do. And just like what you said in this video, the results are not always perfect. I also have experiences that I feel are not good about my result, but when I give it to my Art Director, or customers, they both say it is great. From that point on, I feel like I have set my own expectations too high. Many thanks mathew for this video, this is the 3rd time I watch and can understand a little bit about myself. Thanks so much mathew and thefutur
I appreciate the vulnerability of this video! It addresses a topic that creatives don’t enjoy talking about, and it’s helping me to get out of my creative slump! Thank you 🙌
This is my problem too! I am too severe with myself. I'm also a creator (young architect) and the lack of experience often puts me down, but deep in my heart I know it takes time to become who you want to be. Just one step at a time.
I'm currently an interior architecture student and last semester I started off with a lot of confidence in my designs, which made it feel 'easy' to come up with those ideas. But I didn't realize how key that confidence was. As time progressed, I started burning out and design ideas didn't always come 'easy' (obviously), but that messed with my ego and my confidence. As a result, I started spiraling. The lack of confidence made it harder to design, which made me lose more confidence in myself. Altogether I forgot about the sole purpose of design which was to solve problems for people. I ended up focusing too much on having the 'coolest' or most 'interesting' project in class. This turned into countless nights that lacked any sleep just to end up getting stuck over and over again --- to the point where I couldn't even meet the deadline. That crushed me, 40 hours in one weekend and I could not even turn it in on time. Then I realized that my ego and blown up expectations were my enemies. In short, expectations and ego are not what you need to satisfy. They are just a driving force to get you going. Like Melanie said, you must fall in love with the journey, because in the end, that is all you are as a person: a collection of journeys.
It's so easy to forget that as designers, we really need to give ourselves more grace and let go of the shame that comes with not measuring up to our lofty expectations. Sometimes we're just too hard on ourselves. Thanks for the great advice as always!
This is 100% me. Coupled with depression, it's a horrid cocktail to take. Thank you for putting this out there. I'm sure I'll watch it at least 10 more times before I can really start to stop being so hard on myself.
I've always known expectations are a pain point in my life in all its different ways. But this still was an eyeopener. "No one expects you to hit a homerun every single time" Gotta frame that one. It says it all. 8:46 Nails it. At college that was the moment I changed as a person (partially for the worse). Never really failed very hard before, but suddenly external expectations raised and I didn't know how to deal with the recurring rejection. If you identify yourself as a person with your creativity, you will feel worthless as a whole person then. To the point of depression. And that should never happen. Thanks for sharing this to help people out.
Awesome and valuable video! Thanks for your honesty Matthew. I feel that high self-expectations is hitting many of us that have high ambitions/goals. I think that we too often focus our minds on the end result, that the work we make before reaching that result is perceived as "not enough". So instead of focusing that it took me a few steps closer to my goal (as a learning process), we get frustrated that we're not there yet this particular time. All the best Matthew! 👏
Related to so much of this! We don’t even realize the weight we carry around due to expectations. Especially our own. Something I’m constantly working on. Thank you for sharing something vulnerable. 🙏🏼
Matt, thanks for this video! I've been putting this video off for days because I identified so much with this topic that it scared me. But I'm glad I watched it, and I hope I can deal with my expectations much better in the future. Please do more videos tackling issues like these! And of course, no pressure. :)
It's funny 'cause, from where I stand, you guys seem to be... unbreakable... I mean, I watched both series and both of them really helped and inspired me. It's nice to see you talking about this because the struggle is real and if we don't see people who inspire us talking about their own expectations and how sometimes they also feel like they're not good enough, we end up feeling even worse... With social media and everything that comes with it, we end up comparing other people's stages with our backstage. But we're all human. We're not perfect. We all struggle and we all can help each other out, no matter how many poeople are liking our stuff. Thank you for this
Welcome back Matthew and thank you for sharing this side of you, it's very humanising especially for a student and design business owner like myself. I always expect myself to do so much better in all areas and I get so much pressure from mistakes.
Amaizing video! So much raw honesty and truth. Deep change can be acquierd by truly understanding this and feeling it. I had my mind-blown when I came to live in other culture, far away from my home. That is one of the many ways to become ultra aware of numerous expectations we hold, and spread your perception more toward reality. Cuz reality is much more fun and alive than looping expectations. That's when the change come, and where you can find infinite inspiration and creativity. Love the process, love to grow, love to know more about everything. Peace out! Keep safe!
It happens recently where my own mind turns against me, it pulls me back. Observe and let go is my mantra for my self. Sometime do what you want, embrace slow down, failure and guilt. Allow time to do its job and bounce back with your best version.
Its been a while since ive dedicated my time to thefutur, i think my feed rarely mentioned you guys especially after building a brand (thats the last thing i remember), from my own perspective i can empathize with people who talk real and i feel it. afterwards i feel ive gone through that same experiences and gained the same insights which is, way way more helpful than any tutorial. thats what i felt. thanks matthew for putting yourself out here, for us, really appreciate it. thanks man.
One of the most authentic topics I saw in my life, actually it's a general problem that all people struggle with whatever industry they are in, I felt it when I was in the creative industry and faced the same problem when I shifted to business. It's a mental toughness problem I think.
Hey, this resonates with my feeling a lot. I have the same problem. I always wage a lot on my shoulder to the point it sounds unrealistic to other people so that I could brag about it if I did succeed. Overall, the experience is a negative sum. And it messed my emotions up, stirred me away from doing what I was supposed to do. Thank you for making this. It really helps to see that there are also people feeling the same way that I do.
This is the most awesome thing I could ever watch, as me, designer. I carry so much weight I've never realised those are expectations, it really clicked. Thank you so much for this !
I've completely identified with the first minute. That sensation of constanly look at your phone to see if anyone likes or comments on your artwork, and nothing... and nothing
Thank you so much for your honesty and vulnerability, first person I have come across who has articulated something I have been struggling with for 25 years!
This video came out at a perfect time. I was already in a slump, feeling stuck and and unsure of what my graphic design and sign writing career was going to amount to, and with all thats going on I've been in a really weird mindset. Thanks for making these types of videos. Its good that we are determined and hold ourselves up to high expectations, but at the same time having a balance and accepting we are not perfect is key to not making situations worse then they really are. This vid gave me a nice pep talk and helped me see a couple of mindset shifts I need to work on to keep moving foward. Be safe, and much love from Puerto Rico 🇵🇷✌🏼✌🏼
Good to hear you are coming back. I was wondering why we weren't seeing as much of you as we used to. You bring lots of value to the channel, in my opinion
This is good for these moments of self-analysis, where whatever near familiar and expected future seems uncertain & blurred. It is so easy to be pessimistic that it is so average, that it is better to say nothing. Great video!
I also thought I couldn't get up after failing. But, they are right. It might be a redirection. Reflecting on past failures makes you gain more perspective and wisdom. Going back, you're right. It isn't as bad as you think it was.
That's how I started, stopped and starting again : drawing, writing, guitar, piano, singing, music composition/beatmaking, learning japanese, portuguese, korean, fashion design and almost photography. YUP !!!! Lol..... I feel like I am not creative but it's just lack of self confidence and carefree attitude... Thanks for this video.
Sounds crazy, but I always say “Start the day or a project at the basement level (like an elevator) and you can only go up.” I’m learning to adjust the level of my expectations of myself, children, and friends so that I can enjoy the small wins in life, no matter what they may be. I like this format Matthew. A short fireside chat.
Thank you Matthew 👏🏽 I just messed up myself and I’m happy to know I held on to reality but I just didn’t want it to be so. Things didn’t pan out but I am not counting myself out and I’m getting back on the horse 🙏🏽
Man this video got me tears up. I was battling with myself over this few months and I kinda feel that this last 10 months I wasn't performing enough for my teams and I always kinda feel to have a downfall to them everytime. and I always seems in the games of chasing my expectation but honestly I never reach to the expectation and I'm blinded and paraylze because of it feeling demotivated and such I guess I haven't Appreciate myself enough and the process I went through. Thanks for shedding some light into it Man! from now on I'll try my best to appreciate myself and the process.
Such a beautiful, vulnerable piece from you Matthew. The ending almost made me tear up. Never met a creative who wasn't a hard critic of themselves, including me. Thank you for this timely message, with the virus outbreak going on, it does make you reassess what is important. Being our own enemy isn't the way to go. Much love to this sanctuary of a channel
Thank you, Matthew, for this episode. I learned a lot from it and it was at the right moment. I'm that person who likes to hit all the home-runs and is hard and very disappointing when you don't do it. Thank you again! 👏
Im watching this again, I think it's so important to talk more about this kind of psychological issues that can sometimes lead to forgetting one's purpose, please do more of these.
This is exactly the type of advice and words of encouragement I was looking for. Thanks for your complete honesty and genuine thoughts. I was actually really stressing myself out today. After watching this is feel more at ease
Thank you for this true personnal (and universal) story ! I like more and more when true feelings are shared and be open to talk about them ! Thank you !!
I have been through this throughout my life, and especially now with my art. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. This has put so much into perspective and knowing that other people experience shame too. It’s not all that bad anyways!
I just lost my job due to the government closing down the economy after the Covid19 just a couple days. I was feeling terrible, angry and disappointed, as if it was my fault to have been one of the few that the printing company I worked for let go. I have a family, I need to provide; I'm older than most of the most talented Designers in town. I was thinking wiill never make it on my own, because I'm not good enough. (Sorry if it sounds so dramatic, I'm better now). I needed a push, I need to work on my portfolio, my website, and develop self confidence. This video was such an inspiration, it came out at the right moment. It gives me a starting point, I have to focus and work on myself, start fresh. Thanks
@@MatthewEncina My family is my gas, and it will keep me going. But having all these encouraging videos, is just the perfect boost that we all shy Designers need. I appreciate you taking the time to say something nice.
Loved this video! - I've been strugling a lot with depression and Impostor's Syndrome (telling myself I can't call myself a designer or even play on the same league as other designers I work with, due to lack of experience or not have went to a designer's school). Lucky enough for me I have great support from the people that surround me and believe in me, and I'm trying to go easy on myself, take it slow and be more understanding of my expectations - 🙏 Keep the good work guys, your content is truly amazing and I'm a huge fan of The Futur
I was reading Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck and it is so in line with what you guys are talking about in this video. I've had a fixed mindset (as opposed to a growth mindset) for years now. I've been so scared of failing and disappointing myself and others, that I've found it easier to just... not create. I’ve looked at failure as something that would reveal my inadequacies and show everyone that I wasn’t up to the task. I would transform failure from an action (I failed) to an identity (I’m a failure). But recently I’ve started to actively change my mindset. I’m trying to learn to fall in love with the process rather than the product. I've started to look at challenges as opportunities for growth and your channel has really helped me so much with that! :) True bravery is being afraid and doing it anyway
I can understand you guys... I'm having similar problems, and thousands of designers all over the globe are having too 😅 I believe these high standarts, which we put on ourselves, are coming from childhood, when our families, friends and society put pressure (I presume sometimes even unknowingly and without any wish to harm us) on us by expecting from us perfect results, perfect scores, perfect behavior etc. Then we grow up and still wanna prove ourselves and to everyone that we are capable of doing things good or perfect, but when we don't meet these expectations we fall apart and it is quite difficult to collect yourself together. Sometimes I even don't start a project or a drawing knowing that I might fail, I'm scared of the idea that probably I won't not succeed. I guess in order to solve that deep rooted problem some therapy is needed. So thank you for sharing this video, it is really nice to realize that we are all similar and we all can fail sometimes, even best ones as you guys🙈 And it is okay to make a mistake it is a way to become better. I have to try a new project, even if I'm scared, because it is a win-win situation: I either succeed, or gained a new experience 😊 Damn, guys, you are so inspiring! OMG, this is the longest comment I have ever written 😅
Mathew is back..yeeeeiiiiii! Such a powerful video to come back with. Thank you for being open and true it's helped me immensely. Looking forward to more videos & more of Melanie Whitney as well.
I’m not a successful entrepreneur, and I am not even a designer, but, damn it, I’m so grateful for that video! Just posted my paintings in a social media group which was made for unpopular artists to advertise themselves. Such a horrible feeling when you see that people like others but ignore you. Just as if you don’t exist (your art is not bad, but not good either). Guess it’s just a matter of taste... but it’s so frustrating to be someone, who is not interesting... you feel lonely and rejected by society. And you start to questioning yourself, maybe you are not enough to be loved?.. may be you lack something?.. Such a good advice to focus on the process of your life, not on the goals and results. Thank you for that. And I would also add another one: never search for love anywhere except your own heart. When you truly love yourself, and you are the one who knows that you are enough the way you are, no matter what, you won’t need others’ approval to feel better. Guess we all need to be reminded about that from time to time Thank you for your emotional support and your wisdom! ❤️ keep up good work
Wow. You have no idea how much this hits home. I'm that kid too. A stellar student that graduated high school at 16, and then championed through building a career. I've always been so driven and motivated no matter how hard life slapped me in the face. Recently though, I hit a concrete wall in the most acclaimed area of my life - my profession. Doubt, shame, self expectations and not measuring up to my past achievements - these are the challenges I've been trying to come out from. Seeing YOU - like this. Just thank you. Thank you for putting yourself out there, especially when you're not sure you should be. Much love from Palestine. xx
"This is gonna be the one that blows up". So True!!!!!!!🤣
It's better if you don't think in blowing up
I love your vulnerability, especially when you're talking about feeling shame. It touched me. Thank you for sharing!
Just the realisation that I’m not the only one who feels this way is very comforting. Thank you so much for this video.
Nice, and very relatable. Finding that Balance of pushing yourself to be your best and not hurting yourself when you aren't your best
I've seen a few videos from this channel before and enjoyed them, but this one really hooked me. I'm going to have to go and binge watch all of your stuff now. This isn't something we hear enough about in creative discussions, but the whole theme of disappointment is actually huge. Nobody really tells you how to deal with that as a creative person. Thank you for talking about it!
"i had many points in my career where my expectations of the things i make where so unreasonably high, that it crushes my spirit when i'm unable to achieve the things i was hoping for".
jesus christ matthew, sums up pretty much everything i did in the last 15 years.
I really appreciate this video! "I am afraid to feel shame because I don't want to be a failure." That was the story I used to tell myself, now I'm working to be more kind with myself. Thanks, I'm glad we all are on this beautiful journey.
Editing Design From Scratch was tough. Like Matt said, there were high (made up) expectations for us since we were following up Building a Brand. When we dropped the first episode and it wasn't received well I also took it kinda hard. After reassurance from my colleagues saying how you can't compare the two I started to view it differently. I did my best and it's probably one of my favorite projects I got to work on, but it's not what the audience wanted...and that's okay. I still got to make something I was happy with and fun to work on. Everything "failure" is a learning lesson if you decide to view it as such. As long as you tried your best then that's all that matters.
@@MatthewEncina the stoicism from Sang helped a lot lol
Even though you work for your audience, people tend to be selfish.
The end result of Design from Scratch might not have leveled with your expectation but the immense effort you put in easily reflected. I really appreciated Design from Scratch ESPECIALLY the fact that you didn't agree on the website design the first time. Little hiccups make us more grounded and connected.
@Jona Garcia @Matthew Encina Kudos! 💕
I think you guys did a great job on this, even if it didn't hit the same mark as the previous series. I'd love to see you guys continue to explore this style and format and try new things. Thanks for all that you do!
I love your honesty and vulnerability. I am not alone in shame and disappointment.... you inspired me for I AM ENOUGH! Keep doing great work, @Mathew Encina. I love your work and approach! The most humble person I have ever seen. Love+Respect
This really hit home. For me, not meeting my high expectations translates to not being as valuable as I wish to be. We certainly can't please everyone or our selves every time ... It's very counterintuitive to be able to let go, it brings out a lot of insecurities from us creators. As you said, life is kind of like a game, which we should enjoy, even the struggles and failures which are just lessons on the end and shift our focus to the "cheese" instead of the holes in it. The video was professionally made dude, you got this! Keep it up :)!
This hit home real hard. Especially in this point in time with everything going on with this crisis we are all struggling with. My business was affected 100% due to the pandemic. I own a Landscape Design business and that means my business is all about meeting clients at their homes to conduct the remodeling of their outdoor spaces. So this pandemic slammed my business to the ground. This video showed exactly what I am currently feeling (although I am fully aware that this was never my fault), but it still is a huge ache to see how quickly business owners can get shot down from the cloud we live in. This video really made me feel better and I really thank you for that. It is hard to not forget that we are not alone. Regardless the struggle and heartache I currently am living with because of my business, I somehow motivated myself this morning to stand strong with it and came up with the idea of commencing a second business as a Graphic Designer. That would allow me to function online, without the need of having personal contact with people. After watching this video, it definitely motivated me to carry through with my idea. You guys are game changers! Thank you!
P.s. Screw all those negative people who don't know a damn thing about hard work and sacrifice, especially as a creative professional. Their bad comments towards your series are only grains of salt in your global sea of success. Let them talk. Keep doing your thing.
Good to see the human side, thanks for sharing dudes!!
Same...same...glad you made this video!
Thank you Matthew, I actually enjoy all your posts as there's a vulnerability and natural empathy that you bring to your work. It fell authentic and that's how I feel about your personal brand. In relation to building a brand which I thoroughly enjoyed and learned a lot from, that felt authentic and you also had the right client, their brand chemistry and what they stood for helped draw people into their story as a whole and your team's desire to help them get to their desired outcome was fascinating. It was a first and then you wanted to replicate it which is a natural instinct. You should take the time to understand what people really enjoyed about building a brand and for me it was the combination of having the ideal client and also sharing your process in helping that specific client. It was more spontaneous and not so controlled. You had a client who was so authentic and communicated that authenticity so well with your support. If you can find that combination again then it would be awesome. Make it more about the client and less about you. The reason you may feel shame is because you really wanted it to work for your own ego more than you wanted to serve your audience. If you just created because you believe something would be great content and put it out there, then you would not feel all that guilt not receiving the outcome you desired. Just create because you are a creative person and quite enjoyable to learn from. I like your process of being vulnerable and well detailed in your content delivery. Keep doing that because you love it and because you are serving but not solely for the social praise and popularity. You are enough Mathew... You are enough whether you are amazing today or not. It doesn't really make a difference. The reason why people connect with you is because you help them connect with themselves so once you know and accept that, you become more free to express and create as you will. People don't smoke Marijuana or take drugs because they like it, they take them because of how it makes them feel. It helps them to forget about their pain and feel their higher frequency. If they knew another way to get to that end goal then they would. So people love your content because of what it activates in them. Connect to that intention rather than on people liking you. Keep on shining bright mind! 🙌🏾
I really appreciate your vulnerability and honesty
a lot of people will look at this and think that it applied to 'creativity' and it does, kind of. all creativity means is 'thinking outside the box' and the box is whatver you have built in your head. venturing out of that box to try new things is scary and perhaps fear of something new is the reason we get dejected when things dont work out. now thinking outside the box applies to everything in your life I believe. having great expectation is also a state of being that comes from a place of insecurity and vulnerability. if you are secure and self aware, you know who you are and your skill level and your capabilities. so when you venture outside of it, you dont expect much because you know you dont know anything and that you gotta take baby steps. currently I am not at a place where i seek external validation, so I wouldnt have been disappointed by negative comments on youtube. but I know I will definitely get disappointed when I dont meet my personal expectations and standards in what I do. So this hinders my ability to take baby steps in the stuff I have expectations of myself. But when I try things which I have never thought about before or have expectations from, I do it with ease and without being stressed. LE BRAINISFOONY
i was going through this toxic loop of disappointment and unreasonably high expectations and this video is exactly what i needed it really comforted me. i totally agree and relate to everything you said here but i wanna add something from my opinion and point of view, i believe what drives those toxic thoughts and expectations is comparing yourself to others, as you mentioned in the beginning of the vid you see some amazing work online by experienced artists and people who have been in the industry for years and have much more knowledge and experience than you do and you say to yourself “oh i can do that” or “i can do even better” then you go on and do it then it doesn’t turn out as good as theirs then the toxic loop of disappointment and self hatred starts.. we have to tell ourselves that people are different what works for someone might not work for you and it’s OKAY because you are you and i am me everything from our backgrounds to our knowledge to our skills and experience to our pace and the way we learn things and even our finical status they all vary and everyone whenever i go through something like this i always look back and realize that it all started because i compared myself to someone else it’s the root of self hatred and if you don’t stop it grows into envy and jealousy and you’ll never be satisfied of yourself.. take inspiration from others and learn from them but never compare yourself to them be you and focus on your OWN journey and making yourself better do it for yourself and don’t do it to “beat” someone take your time to better yourself and keep in mind it’s not a competition and always remember to enjoy it
i also wanna add something people only post the results online they never show you the whole things, the ugly things and falls and failures and the hard process they go through so when you see a finished piece of artwork you think “wow this is so perfect” when there’s so much more to it than what you see so your brain unconsciously builds up more and more expectations.. we have to understand that things take time we need to learn how to be patient it takes a lot of tries and effort and failures to achieve and learn things it’s a hard pill to swallow but the truth is we have to ACCEPT and EMBRACE failures and look at them as a growing point for us
I feel like this almost every time when I create. Because after all of these hours of work you are so tired, exhausted, you poured all your soul, used all the skills you have and then you look what you did and it is not even close to your expectations. And then you think again that it was just a useless waste of time and nothing good will ever come out of these tries.
But anyways, thank you for this video, It made me feel a little better, I hope that you will also take a little easy to yourself and keep creating
I just started a colective art group 4 days ago, I felt so bad when i saw my designs had less likes than other newbies designs, felt like I'm not really made for this, and i shoul stop trying, but this video really opened my chest to a better feeling with my project, I feel like leading again, and putting all my effort in my project. Thank you so much Matthew, and all the team.
This is my favourite video in a long while. It address circumstances currently happening in my life. Thank you for this!
The calmness you exude when you talk is soothing. It puts me in this zen state of total focus. Design from scratch was where I got exposed to webflow, so it wasn't a bad series for me.
Cheers to winning without unrealistic expectations.
Awesome. Thanks for this. It is always hard to separate accomplishment from who I am. This is a good reminder that I (without my accomplishment or work) am enough!
What I love about this channel is you guys are intentional about tackling the creative experience from a multifaceted vantage-point. The actual "design" aspect of what we do is just the surface. Although we as designers are unique we are also very much so alike. We struggle with the same things and need constant reaffirmation. It is comforting and motivating to know I'm not alone. Thank you.
This is very relatable. This is what I'm experiencing right now as a designer. I'm planning to post my works on social media but then negativity always gets into me, thinking that my works aren't good, I'm not good enough, and no one will support me. I never had the courage to post them and it has been months.. since I started planning. I hope I can collect my courage and confidence soon.
I read the title,
and realized is't this is what i did a minute ago....
HOLLY FUCK ...the timing of the video getting recomended to me is JUST PERFECT!
As creatives I think we always hold ourselves accountable if we don't recreate the success we had in previous projects, me being the first to do that actually, and that's where anxiety and shame (couldn't have expressed it with a better word) kicks in. I felt this so many times before that it drained my energy and creativity but now I began to see it in a different way. Like Melanie said it's all about the journey. It's okay to fail because if we don't we will not learn from our mistakes and get better. Love this! Thank you Matthew and the futur team keep 'em coming🙌
Matthew, thank you for this. I am the oldest child and my high expectations stem from my upbringing and nothing was ever good enough. Even into adulthood, my family never acknowledged my accomplishments. Sadly, it's been a new feeling to me to get amazing feedback and support from others.
A professional was once an amateur. Even geniuses have to "fine-tune". We as creatives need to recondition our mental atmosphere and we will reap the rewards.
Thank you for this. Made feel much better and rethink how bad I feel when I don't meet the expectations of my work colleagues.
Matthew, your videos are my favourite part of The Futur now. That's high praise.
Keep going, keep sharing.
thanks fot the video guys... i really need it .... (really thanks Matthew)
It’s comforting to see other people managing similar issues like yourself. Most of the times we tend to believe that we are the only ones who are dealing with a particular problem, that we are alone and no one else can understand us but that’s not true! We are unique but not so different after all!
Matthew thank you for sharing this video!🙏🤍
Matthew this was just what I needed to hear. Recently I have not been hitting home-runs at all with multiple clients and it weighs heavy on my heart and my confidence when I mess up or I fall short of what these clients are expecting from me. I expect too much of myself and then begin to question my abilities all together. Thank you for this reflection of yourself and your own expectations, it has helped me tremendously.
Brah... I realised through observing the great sport of boxing; "winning" all the time doesn't make a legend, it's how the person in question come back from the floor. Stay blessed. 🙏🏿
I find that because I watch a lot of videos on your channel as well as others like GaryVee, I automatically set high expectations for what I can do. And just like what you said in this video, the results are not always perfect.
I also have experiences that I feel are not good about my result, but when I give it to my Art Director, or customers, they both say it is great.
From that point on, I feel like I have set my own expectations too high.
Many thanks mathew for this video, this is the 3rd time I watch and can understand a little bit about myself. Thanks so much mathew and thefutur
this made me think twice before feeling disappointed not reaching expectations, but you know what !! it's about the journey, not the designation
I appreciate the vulnerability of this video! It addresses a topic that creatives don’t enjoy talking about, and it’s helping me to get out of my creative slump! Thank you 🙌
I appreciate the transparency and display of growth! Thanks for sharing this Matthew :)
This is my problem too! I am too severe with myself. I'm also a creator (young architect) and the lack of experience often puts me down, but deep in my heart I know it takes time to become who you want to be. Just one step at a time.
I'm currently an interior architecture student and last semester I started off with a lot of confidence in my designs, which made it feel 'easy' to come up with those ideas. But I didn't realize how key that confidence was. As time progressed, I started burning out and design ideas didn't always come 'easy' (obviously), but that messed with my ego and my confidence. As a result, I started spiraling. The lack of confidence made it harder to design, which made me lose more confidence in myself.
Altogether I forgot about the sole purpose of design which was to solve problems for people. I ended up focusing too much on having the 'coolest' or most 'interesting' project in class. This turned into countless nights that lacked any sleep just to end up getting stuck over and over again --- to the point where I couldn't even meet the deadline. That crushed me, 40 hours in one weekend and I could not even turn it in on time. Then I realized that my ego and blown up expectations were my enemies.
In short, expectations and ego are not what you need to satisfy. They are just a driving force to get you going. Like Melanie said, you must fall in love with the journey, because in the end, that is all you are as a person: a collection of journeys.
It's so easy to forget that as designers, we really need to give ourselves more grace and let go of the shame that comes with not measuring up to our lofty expectations. Sometimes we're just too hard on ourselves. Thanks for the great advice as always!
This is 100% me. Coupled with depression, it's a horrid cocktail to take. Thank you for putting this out there. I'm sure I'll watch it at least 10 more times before I can really start to stop being so hard on myself.
I've always known expectations are a pain point in my life in all its different ways. But this still was an eyeopener.
"No one expects you to hit a homerun every single time" Gotta frame that one. It says it all.
8:46 Nails it. At college that was the moment I changed as a person (partially for the worse). Never really failed very hard before, but suddenly external expectations raised and I didn't know how to deal with the recurring rejection. If you identify yourself as a person with your creativity, you will feel worthless as a whole person then. To the point of depression. And that should never happen. Thanks for sharing this to help people out.
Awesome and valuable video! Thanks for your honesty Matthew. I feel that high self-expectations is hitting many of us that have high ambitions/goals. I think that we too often focus our minds on the end result, that the work we make before reaching that result is perceived as "not enough". So instead of focusing that it took me a few steps closer to my goal (as a learning process), we get frustrated that we're not there yet this particular time. All the best Matthew! 👏
Man, this couldn't have come at a better time! Thank you for this, truly !!
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every bit was so relatable. I always have this feeling that so much is expected of me and feeling devastated when I let other people down
What can you do to start changing that?
The production on this one is flawless. The writing, the shots, the integration of an expert on the topic… I’m glad Matt is back.
Related to so much of this! We don’t even realize the weight we carry around due to expectations. Especially our own. Something I’m constantly working on. Thank you for sharing something vulnerable. 🙏🏼
Matt, thanks for this video! I've been putting this video off for days because I identified so much with this topic that it scared me. But I'm glad I watched it, and I hope I can deal with my expectations much better in the future. Please do more videos tackling issues like these! And of course, no pressure. :)
Thank you!!! Now I can get back to the game and create more works without feeling frustrated.
It's funny 'cause, from where I stand, you guys seem to be... unbreakable... I mean, I watched both series and both of them really helped and inspired me. It's nice to see you talking about this because the struggle is real and if we don't see people who inspire us talking about their own expectations and how sometimes they also feel like they're not good enough, we end up feeling even worse... With social media and everything that comes with it, we end up comparing other people's stages with our backstage. But we're all human. We're not perfect. We all struggle and we all can help each other out, no matter how many poeople are liking our stuff. Thank you for this
You have no idea guys how much y’all inspired us new designers. Thank you for putting Design from scratch out here! It helped me a LOT
Our pleasure!
This is so personal. Much appreciation for being transparent as what you and all of us feel. 🙏
Welcome back Matthew and thank you for sharing this side of you, it's very humanising especially for a student and design business owner like myself. I always expect myself to do so much better in all areas and I get so much pressure from mistakes.
Amaizing video! So much raw honesty and truth. Deep change can be acquierd by truly understanding this and feeling it. I had my mind-blown when I came to live in other culture, far away from my home. That is one of the many ways to become ultra aware of numerous expectations we hold, and spread your perception more toward reality. Cuz reality is much more fun and alive than looping expectations. That's when the change come, and where you can find infinite inspiration and creativity. Love the process, love to grow, love to know more about everything. Peace out! Keep safe!
Man, just found this now and it couldn't have come at a better time. I really needed this, Thank You.
seek and you will find.
This immediately made me think that I'm not alone in this creative journey. Thanks for sharing your honesty and vulnerability!!
It happens recently where my own mind turns against me, it pulls me back. Observe and let go is my mantra for my self. Sometime do what you want, embrace slow down, failure and guilt. Allow time to do its job and bounce back with your best version.
@@MatthewEncina Absolutely!!
Its been a while since ive dedicated my time to thefutur, i think my feed rarely mentioned you guys especially after building a brand (thats the last thing i remember), from my own perspective i can empathize with people who talk real and i feel it. afterwards i feel ive gone through that same experiences and gained the same insights which is, way way more helpful than any tutorial. thats what i felt. thanks matthew for putting yourself out here, for us, really appreciate it. thanks man.
@@MatthewEncina you're welcome
This is so beautiful. great work. beautiful story. I love how Matthew Encina explain.
One of the most authentic topics I saw in my life, actually it's a general problem that all people struggle with whatever industry they are in, I felt it when I was in the creative industry and faced the same problem when I shifted to business. It's a mental toughness problem I think.
Hey, this resonates with my feeling a lot. I have the same problem. I always wage a lot on my shoulder to the point it sounds unrealistic to other people so that I could brag about it if I did succeed. Overall, the experience is a negative sum. And it messed my emotions up, stirred me away from doing what I was supposed to do. Thank you for making this. It really helps to see that there are also people feeling the same way that I do.
I am just in the intro of the video and I am already hooked. My expectations are so unfairly high of myself.
This is the most awesome thing I could ever watch, as me, designer. I carry so much weight I've never realised those are expectations, it really clicked. Thank you so much for this !
Thanks for this video. It's hard to keep low expectations. This video came at the right time for me. Thanks again.
I've completely identified with the first minute.
That sensation of constanly look at your phone to see if anyone likes or comments on your artwork, and nothing... and nothing
It’s good to know even creatives at @Matthews’ level can feel this way. Thank you for this video.
I didn't know how much I needed this... Thank you SO much for this kind of content really, it helps me keep moving forward!
Thank you so much for your honesty and vulnerability, first person I have come across who has articulated something I have been struggling with for 25 years!
This video came out at a perfect time. I was already in a slump, feeling stuck and and unsure of what my graphic design and sign writing career was going to amount to, and with all thats going on I've been in a really weird mindset. Thanks for making these types of videos. Its good that we are determined and hold ourselves up to high expectations, but at the same time having a balance and accepting we are not perfect is key to not making situations worse then they really are. This vid gave me a nice pep talk and helped me see a couple of mindset shifts I need to work on to keep moving foward. Be safe, and much love from Puerto Rico 🇵🇷✌🏼✌🏼
Good to hear you are coming back. I was wondering why we weren't seeing as much of you as we used to. You bring lots of value to the channel, in my opinion
This is good for these moments of self-analysis, where whatever near familiar and expected future seems uncertain & blurred. It is so easy to be pessimistic that it is so average, that it is better to say nothing. Great video!
Thanks men !
I also thought I couldn't get up after failing. But, they are right. It might be a redirection. Reflecting on past failures makes you gain more perspective and wisdom. Going back, you're right. It isn't as bad as you think it was.
That's how I started, stopped and starting again : drawing, writing, guitar, piano, singing, music composition/beatmaking, learning japanese, portuguese, korean, fashion design and almost photography. YUP !!!! Lol..... I feel like I am not creative but it's just lack of self confidence and carefree attitude... Thanks for this video.
are you kidding? Look at all you've gone through, that's only tolerable for someone who's really, REALLY creative!
same with me.
i want to do everything but can`t focus on one specific thing. thats so hard to choose..
Love this one so much! Thank you Matthew and the Futur team. These types of videos always helps me mentality grow as a designer.
Thank you for making me cry...
Sounds crazy, but I always say “Start the day or a project at the basement level (like an elevator) and you can only go up.” I’m learning to adjust the level of my expectations of myself, children, and friends so that I can enjoy the small wins in life, no matter what they may be. I like this format Matthew. A short fireside chat.
Thank you Matthew 👏🏽 I just messed up myself and I’m happy to know I held on to reality but I just didn’t want it to be so. Things didn’t pan out but I am not counting myself out and I’m getting back on the horse 🙏🏽
Thanks for bringing this theme. Really helped me to understand where I am, in my life and my job.
Man this video got me tears up. I was battling with myself over this few months and I kinda feel that this last 10 months I wasn't performing enough for my teams and I always kinda feel to have a downfall to them everytime. and I always seems in the games of chasing my expectation but honestly I never reach to the expectation and I'm blinded and paraylze because of it feeling demotivated and such I guess I haven't Appreciate myself enough and the process I went through. Thanks for shedding some light into it Man! from now on I'll try my best to appreciate myself and the process.
Wonderful insight. Absolutely touched.
Such a beautiful, vulnerable piece from you Matthew. The ending almost made me tear up. Never met a creative who wasn't a hard critic of themselves, including me. Thank you for this timely message, with the virus outbreak going on, it does make you reassess what is important. Being our own enemy isn't the way to go. Much love to this sanctuary of a channel
Thank you, Matthew, for this episode. I learned a lot from it and it was at the right moment. I'm that person who likes to hit all the home-runs and is hard and very disappointing when you don't do it. Thank you again! 👏
Im watching this again, I think it's so important to talk more about this kind of psychological issues that can sometimes lead to forgetting one's purpose, please do more of these.
This is exactly the type of advice and words of encouragement I was looking for. Thanks for your complete honesty and genuine thoughts. I was actually really stressing myself out today. After watching this is feel more at ease
Thank you Matthew.
Thank you for this true personnal (and universal) story ! I like more and more when true feelings are shared and be open to talk about them !
Thank you !!
I have been through this throughout my life, and especially now with my art. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. This has put so much into perspective and knowing that other people experience shame too. It’s not all that bad anyways!
This video is gonna be bigger than "Building a brand". Honesty wins myaan. ❤
Thank you. Things aren't as gray as they were before. Much love.
I just lost my job due to the government closing down the economy after the Covid19 just a couple days. I was feeling terrible, angry and disappointed, as if it was my fault to have been one of the few that the printing company I worked for let go. I have a family, I need to provide; I'm older than most of the most talented Designers in town. I was thinking wiill never make it on my own, because I'm not good enough. (Sorry if it sounds so dramatic, I'm better now). I needed a push, I need to work on my portfolio, my website, and develop self confidence. This video was such an inspiration, it came out at the right moment. It gives me a starting point, I have to focus and work on myself, start fresh. Thanks
Hang in there
@@MatthewEncina My family is my gas, and it will keep me going. But having all these encouraging videos, is just the perfect boost that we all shy Designers need. I appreciate you taking the time to say something nice.
Loved this video! - I've been strugling a lot with depression and Impostor's Syndrome (telling myself I can't call myself a designer or even play on the same league as other designers I work with, due to lack of experience or not have went to a designer's school). Lucky enough for me I have great support from the people that surround me and believe in me, and I'm trying to go easy on myself, take it slow and be more understanding of my expectations - 🙏 Keep the good work guys, your content is truly amazing and I'm a huge fan of The Futur
I was reading Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck and it is so in line with what you guys are talking about in this video. I've had a fixed mindset (as opposed to a growth mindset) for years now. I've been so scared of failing and disappointing myself and others, that I've found it easier to just... not create. I’ve looked at failure as something that would reveal my inadequacies and show everyone that I wasn’t up to the task. I would transform failure from an action (I failed) to an identity (I’m a failure). But recently I’ve started to actively change my mindset. I’m trying to learn to fall in love with the process rather than the product. I've started to look at challenges as opportunities for growth and your channel has really helped me so much with that! :)
True bravery is being afraid and doing it anyway
Wow! You made me realise that am not alone at this. Always love your content Matthew, it’s good to see you back.
I can understand you guys... I'm having similar problems, and thousands of designers all over the globe are having too 😅 I believe these high standarts, which we put on ourselves, are coming from childhood, when our families, friends and society put pressure (I presume sometimes even unknowingly and without any wish to harm us) on us by expecting from us perfect results, perfect scores, perfect behavior etc. Then we grow up and still wanna prove ourselves and to everyone that we are capable of doing things good or perfect, but when we don't meet these expectations we fall apart and it is quite difficult to collect yourself together. Sometimes I even don't start a project or a drawing knowing that I might fail, I'm scared of the idea that probably I won't not succeed. I guess in order to solve that deep rooted problem some therapy is needed.
So thank you for sharing this video, it is really nice to realize that we are all similar and we all can fail sometimes, even best ones as you guys🙈 And it is okay to make a mistake it is a way to become better. I have to try a new project, even if I'm scared, because it is a win-win situation: I either succeed, or gained a new experience 😊 Damn, guys, you are so inspiring! OMG, this is the longest comment I have ever written 😅
Mathew is back..yeeeeiiiiii! Such a powerful video to come back with. Thank you for being open and true it's helped me immensely. Looking forward to more videos & more of Melanie Whitney as well.
I’m not a successful entrepreneur, and I am not even a designer, but, damn it, I’m so grateful for that video!
Just posted my paintings in a social media group which was made for unpopular artists to advertise themselves. Such a horrible feeling when you see that people like others but ignore you. Just as if you don’t exist (your art is not bad, but not good either). Guess it’s just a matter of taste... but it’s so frustrating to be someone, who is not interesting... you feel lonely and rejected by society. And you start to questioning yourself, maybe you are not enough to be loved?.. may be you lack something?..
Such a good advice to focus on the process of your life, not on the goals and results. Thank you for that. And I would also add another one: never search for love anywhere except your own heart. When you truly love yourself, and you are the one who knows that you are enough the way you are, no matter what, you won’t need others’ approval to feel better. Guess we all need to be reminded about that from time to time
Thank you for your emotional support and your wisdom! ❤️ keep up good work
I think this cuts across disciplines and applies to almost everyone who feels this.