Stop Giving Them Access and Protect Your Peace
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- Опубліковано 20 сер 2024
- In "Stop Giving Them Access and Protect Your Peace," we go on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment, focusing on the crucial task of setting boundaries and safeguarding our emotional well-being. This video serves as a guiding light for individuals who find themselves entangled in toxic relationships or environments, offering practical strategies to reclaim their autonomy and protect their peace of mind.
We begin by exploring the concept of boundaries and their fundamental importance in maintaining healthy relationships and personal integrity. Boundaries act as protective barriers, delineating what is acceptable and unacceptable in our interactions with others. By establishing clear boundaries, we create a framework that safeguards our emotional, mental, and physical well-being.
Next, we look at the harmful consequences of allowing toxic individuals or influences to have access to our lives. Whether it's a draining friendship, a toxic workplace, or negative family dynamics, giving others unrestricted access to our energy can lead to stress, anxiety, and diminished self-worth. Recognising the detrimental effects of these relationships is the first step toward reclaiming our power and restoring balance to our lives.
The video then offers practical strategies for setting and enforcing boundaries effectively. From assertive communication techniques to learning to say no without guilt, viewers are equipped with the tools they need to establish healthy boundaries and protect their peace of mind. We also discuss the importance of self-care practices and cultivating a supportive network of individuals who respect and honour our boundaries.
Throughout the video, real-life examples and anecdotes illustrate the transformative power of boundary-setting and the profound impact it can have on one's quality of life. By reclaiming control over who has access to our lives and prioritizing our own well-being, we can create a sense of empowerment and freedom that allows us to thrive.
In conclusion, "Stop Giving Them Access and Protect Your Peace" serves as a beacon of hope and empowerment for anyone who finds themselves trapped in toxic relationships or environments. By honouring our boundaries and valuing our own worth, we can reclaim our power, cultivate inner peace, and build a life filled with positivity, fulfillment, and authenticity.
#NoMoreDrama #StopGivingThemAccess #EmotionalWellness
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Blocking access if the best way to stop these monitoring spirits masking like people. timely message we need to hear this!
Yes I totally agree, it may seem selfish but if you don't align with someone best to stop forcing interactions and you can both find others who mean you well.
Yes Please stop!!! Don't interact with any demonic Narcissist spirits. I soon became knowledgeable to what they were all about!!! Nothing but True evil!!!!
Sis!!! this is a word I am sick of people who feel entitled to my time and energy when all they do if drain me like why come to me only to leave me more stressed/sad/miserable . I have learn to be alone and Im so much happier and peaceful i love this so much keep talking facts
Yes, it's tricky to navigate relationships when other are being negative but like you said we gradually learn to find peace and happiness in solitude. But keep your head up the right connections will come your way😇
It's a wake up call when people do not treat you the way you deserve to be treated . . . with just common courtesy. Stop making excuses for them, especially if the behavior is repeated. Back away and RUN!
Absolutely correct Cassandra! This shows that you have self respect for yourself and it’s the only way to be 💞
People monitor your every move this day in time. If you are private person they will watch you closely. Some people will become close to your family members just to gather info about you so they can use it against you later. So it's best to move alone keep quiet about your personal life just because private people tell you something doesn't mean they are telling you the truth some people who are private will tell you a lie just to see if you are going to run and tell.😅
Yes, this can definitely be the case and I think as with the case of "monitoring spirits" just leave them guessing and live your life. We can't control peoples actions but we can control our interactions with them and maintain peace! But thank you for adding this message 😊
Exactly
“We are not here to play free therapist (…) There’s no medal in participating in free therapy!” 😂 I laughed out loud because I felt so called out! I’m strong in my boundaries and giving access to myself but it’s that one area (giving free listening and advice giving session) where I need more growth. It’s definitely not an ego boost for me but being an active listener people feel like they can share with me, emotionally dump on me, and go on with word diarrhea but I’m realizing that I feed into it by wanting to give them advice. That part in your video was a beautiful confirmation for me, thank you Sheila 🙏🏾
So pleased that this resonated with you and that it was a confirmation for what you are going through! I will say that once we notice the problem we have as individuals the only way out is through finding a solution. I suppose in your case you noticed "enabling" the unnecessary chatter was an issue on your end and you took accountability and changed your ways. That is admirable and worth celebration as you are actively taking part in changing your narrative and not pointing fingers. Wishing you even more breakthroughs in your self-discovery journey! ❤️
They will gang stalk you and force themselves into your space.
This sounds awful I hope that you can get some help if you’re in a situation that you’re feeling unsafe.
YESSSS
Yes darling this is good advice because people will ruin you and your life if you’re not careful - very important message God bless
Thank you! But I agree sadly that is a reality but hopefully we can all get wiser with time and avoid the issues discussed ❤
Took me a while but I did it. It actually feels uncomfortable to say No, until you prioritize yourself and tell people, I don’t have the space to be your therapist!! Now it feels amazing!
I am encouraged by your testimony of change! This is what I love to see people taking back the power that belongs to them. I know when you have been conditioned to be open and respective to others and their needs before yours, saying no feels like you are breaking a unwritten law but like you rightfully said it will eventually feel good and liberating. Keep it up 😊
To answer the last question: I blocked and move out, I had my people pleasure era done, once I've awakened to how little energy vampires posing as "friends" and "family could care.
So pleased to hear you done what was right for you and conserving your energy too. Being able to control your life to a degree helps in boosting your overall confidence so by you taking those steps you are choosing yourself which is key!
That colour is absolutely lovely on you!
Thank you so much Diana 😊
i'm putting up boundaries to protect my peace and like and love myself, and protect your energy, only have people that value you,
Absolutely, it’s the best way to honour yourself! 💕
Young lady, you are so knowledgeable on your subject matter. I'm sure the advice you give will uplift all who take the time to listen to your message.
Truly Blessed
Your support and kind comment is much appreciated, thank you ☺️
You are heaven sent 🙏I work in a bookstore..not hard work at all and I love what I do.yet I go home drained every evening tired to the point of going to bed as soon as I get home!!they suck me dry!!and guess what when I tell these vampires tell me when I state that I am tired?they say: what are you tired from??you dont work that hard😮speechless..your info is so valuable to me, thank you 🙏
I really appreciate this comment as I think it truly exemplifies just how we can all be impacted by daily life.
People need to learn we’re all made differently and one persons normal might be too much for the other. No one has the right to tell you what ‘exhausting work’ looks like!
You know your body, you know your capacity for entertaining other peoples energies too before you need to recharge. Don’t let anyone belittle your experience and keep fighting for yourself to get the rest you need to show up in life the way you feel comfortable. Thanks again for sharing your experiences and I hope this get better with your place of work 🤗
11:23 It’s like dating, never be too available.🙌🏻
Exactly! It’s good to have your own life and plans
I value those who value me ❤️
Yes, this is the only way! If the respect is not mutual just part ways it better that way 🤗
Thank you for sharing, I genuinely need to hear this. Your words really resonate with me.
So pleased the message found you at the right time 😊I hope you get clarity on how to deal with situation.
Excellent👍👍👍👍🎉💕
Thank you! Cheers! 😊
I've been ignoring my ex for 3 months now. He messaged me on mother's day, Nope, didn't even feel anything, im finally moving on❤
Moving on can be hard especially with relationships that didn’t work out! So I’m proud of you for choosing your peace over anything that brings you sadness. You got this and
remember you deserve a life filled with love, peace and happiness 😊
@@SheilaFoi Thank you😊
I’m way too much sincere and spontaneous : it means too naive because i cannot see bad intentions into people.
Your advices helping a lot.
LIMIT YOUR ACCESS IS A MANDATORY FOR PROTECT YOUR INNER PEACE.
Thank you for this kind message Bill! And I’m so happy that this message is finding amazing people like you as I know that these things don’t come naturally to all of us (I know I also struggle with it) and all it takes someone planting a seed and the strong mindset will take root. So excited for you to try some of these tips out as your inner peace is invaluable.
I learned my lesson tooooo many times!!! I’m done now!!!
So glad that this resonated with you Nadia! And yea sometimes it takes us falling down and getting back up repeatedly to learn from these tough moments but better now than never 😊
Sis the is a big worrdd!!! My biggest power is no access. One ounce of disrespect 🚫
Absolutely, thats how it should be. No disrespectful behaviour of any form is tolerated. Choose your peace over stressful situations.
I felt this so much... I've had a problem of not setting boundaries and allowing people to trauma dump on me. I'm learning to set boundaries and say NO, GO GET THERAPY!!
I’m so proud of you for noticing the trauma dumpers in your life and setting boundaries. It extremely hard as we have strong bounds with some people but your mental health is important - protect it at all cost! 😇
Thank you so much for this timely message. Being aware about giving my access especially when my needle is almost at times empty. I need to prioritize “me first” instead of being told & conflicted with “knock this out of the way & then you can do what you want.” Being more clear about establishing boundaries.❤.
You’re welcome! I’m pleased this found you right on time. Wishing you all the best in establishing the boundaries and prioritising yourself you deserve to 😉
Just found your channel. New subscriber here. I love the way you’re able to get your messages across. By the end of your video I was able to clearly understand that I needed to make some changes, and now I’m pretty confident that I will be able to get rid of the energy vampires in my life. Most importantly, I learned the value of being a better listener and the necessity of not over sharing personal information. Thank you!
Welcome aboard! So glad you’re enjoying the content and that you were able to take some wisdom to help you going forward 😊
Absolutely some of my family members and friends
I’m sure that’s very unpleasant but I hope you find a way round it and keep your peace 😇
This is a whole-ass word.
Glad you enjoyed it Idah 😊
Conversation w Devin is typically a heavy dreadful experience of waiting for him to ask for money
This one hard and feels horrible being made to feel like an atm machine ☹️
I’m struggling with this so hard at the moment but only with my step daughters. They’re 17 and 18. I love them a lot but they come with a lot of baggage and negative energy and one is depressed. My house and personal space is just so dark and “slimed” with their negative energy. I’m trying to find a way to protect my peace and space. I also have trouble with over sharing with them which I don’t know why I do since they’re teenagers 😩. Need to set my personal and house boundaries for sure!!!
Firstly the most important thing is that you have noticed the issue and now you can make a plan to make things better for all involved. I think dealing with teenagers is not always easy but also we have to acknowledge if we're also part of the problem. I think listening to them and seeing what you can do to make life more manageable could be a start, maybe they feel you tell them too much and they do not have the capacity to process all the issue you offload to them plus their own issues. So maybe that could be where you draw the line (create boundaries) speak to a friend or a therapist to balance out your personal matters, then leave room for them to lean on you as a co-parent and they might eventually warm to you and open up. Which might clear the negative energy they harbour against you. If they like doing things like activities outside the house encourage that so they do not feel stuck, movement is good for creating dopamine and lift mood. Thank you for sharing your experience and I hope that things get better soon 😊
I am so intentional this year. I can’t believe I wasted my time with wrong ppl. I think twice before I say yes to someone to hang out with. I don’t go everywhere anymore. I used to think is good to just be out and about, meet new ppl, however, I am tired dealing with fake ppl. I am evaluating my friendship and when I see I am valued then I continue my relationship with them. It has to be a give and take relationship. Also, I learn to shut my mouth about my personal life. It’s so hard but protections my peace is more important. Thanks gurl for this info.
Yes to all the above! Being intentional and honest with what you truly want to do and where you want to spend you’re energy is the single most powerful thing you can do.
Wishing you the best with your year of intentionality it’ll be a great one 😊
I been there many times
Haven't we all! 😇 Isn't it crazy how many times people come into our lives to test if we have learned the lessons from our previous encounters
this feels nearly impossible with invasive neighbours
I hear that can be difficult, but on the bright side you can lock your door and keep the peace in your home! But I hope things get better
@@SheilaFoi so true Sheila. but sometimes they talk to me through the shrub fence when im in the backyard or they come right up to my bedroom window to chat, even if im laying there napping. Its like beyyyyond :( thank you, will be setting some firm boundaries soon because I am about to give birth and everyone gets crazier for newborn babies
Totally relatable. I like your vibe, much integrity
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Much appreciated ❤️🤗
What you said about the priority of loving myself and your time really changes my perspective and is empowering. Up until now, Ive had that "mechanical" understanding that just would not stick. It will be difficult for me to practice but I am adding this as an affirmation. Thank you.
So glad that this message was one that you could resonate with and hopefully one that you can come back to when you feel you’re leaning back towards the old ways so you can recenter. Praying all works out well for you 🤗
Thank you for this timely message.😊 I really needed to hear this.😊🙏
Glad it was helpful and timely 😊
Thank you for sharing us ! GOD bless
You are so welcome! Thank you for taking the time to watch
Thank uuu❤❤❤
People pleasing is soo tiring and am done with that
very tiring and has zero benefits so best to shake this off sooner than later
Exactly: *radar*
I blocked them
Yes that’s an option that works well in real life or digitally 😇
This is a great video and You’re so eloquent 👏🏽 ❤
That’s incredibly kind of you, I’m glad you enjoyed the video. Really appreciate it 🤗
Very good talking points! Loved it
Thank you Deborah 😊
Thank you sis… I’m working on myself and your advice is really useful to me new subscriber
Thanks for subbing and I am glad that this video was useful too 😊
Ok Ms. Shelia! I just found you and I'm so glad I did. Keep shining and growing queen. Love your content ❤🎉 SUBSCRIBE!
Thanks for subbing Shana! I appreciate the support and kind words 🤗🎉
Howdy Sheila, amazing video yet again! How can we support you? also have you thought on making a book on AmazonKDP, they only need the file and they print it and ship it for you. Blessings xo
Thank you for the great suggestion I will keep that in mind and see how things progress but I really appreciate you planting the seed I am sure a written format could also help those who prefer books. I will keep you posted if/when we get to that. Again I appreciate the willingness to support the channel ❤️ 😊
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Thanks ☺️
Sheila my goodness! I have someone from my work who has been asking me millions of questions about my wedding everyday nd she gives me a bad vibe. Now she is coming to the church and I know she is only there to get gossip and take pictures of me. I have decided to ask her not to take pictures of me. Do you think am being harsh. She likes gossip and I think there is some envious going on. It’s stressing me out
This sounds like a very awkward situation to be in. But frankly speaking this is where you’re within your rights to apply your boundaries.
Think of it this way, this is your special day and you want to have only people that love, care and support you at your wedding.
So I would confidently speaking to her and say to her that you appreciate her wanting to come but this day is for you and your loved ones and you’ve had to reduce your numbers for this intimate occasion.
If she pushes back simply say since your relationship with her is work only it doesn’t feel natural for her to be there. Tell her you there’s no hard feelings!
But if she does act crazy, that’s enough to let you know that her intentions weren’t pure.
In which case she’ll be annoyed but won’t turn up to your special day.
Don’t be afraid of confrontation when it’s necessary. Good luck 😊
@@SheilaFoi Thank you so much 😊. I definitely will let her know how I feel.
@@Milly_in_denmark uninvite jer, those pictures can be used in witch craft too pls b carefull, trust ur gut
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Thank you! ☺️
THANKS DARLING LET ME SC
People look for your downfall!
Thankyou for your help and advice I really appreciate this ❤
You are welcome! Glad that I could be of help 😊