Nothing makes me lose interest in people faster than betrayal, and that's been the norm with everyone. You have to be your own best friend in this toxic world.
You are 100% right about that.. They say don’t become friends with coworkers.. Well I was friends with this person I worked with for 10 years.. I actually felt this person was a true friend.. Told personal things to this person but once I left got another job they blocked me 🤷♂️ I was lost for words my texts wouldn’t go through my calls went straight to voicemail.. At first I thought maybe something was going on with their phone.. Waited a couple weeks tried again texts not going through calls straight to voicemail.. I was blown away like wtf.. Anymore I stay in my own lane and just mind my own business..
As soon as most people in American society stopped Jesus men being evil hearted betrayers & snakes, rats, fake men... and women being promiscuous, unable to pair bond & giving ALL of themselves to "boyfriends" in love with only their flesh not their heart spirit & soul became the norm for 95%+ of relationships.
I have been single for 10 years and I don't want to be in a relationship anymore because people failed me. Not only in a romantic relationship, I feel like society is made easy for narcissistic people. I just keep my distance.
trust me there a huge draw back for narcissist ppl but I will tell you this if they don't get karma they have already chosen what God they will served and that's satan himself only God can saved them!
The men and women who do not want relationships and children are because they did not have a good family model, their fathers and mothers failed to nurture them as children to become fully developed and to reach their full potentials. The social development of an individual begins in the family system. Unfortunately, many adults today came from those parents who were adults in 60s-80s, a time of sexual liberation and upheaval which destroyed the concept of relationships and family. This is why today there is a high rate of single men and women and a decline of population. Do not blame this generation, blame the parents who were failures to be a good model for marriage and family life. We learned the sad truth that having a wife and family are not true guarantees for happiness.
When you come from a broken home, you see the dark reality. You see the truth. And that truth inspires you to become the best version of yourself you can ever be. With or without family, friends, etc.
Yea my family is so broken than in every rarely reunion we have we always get into an argument i found out that i only got myself and i see all the hypocrisy in a lot of people
I have nobody right now,you and your channel is all I have getting me through this,you are the most REAL PERSON ever. Everything you say is 💯% TRUE ...THANKS BRO🤗
@okaxy-up1jj ,I have issues when your heart is taking for granted, manipulation tactics,mind games,silent treatment,Men are waking up to this,that's just the reality
@okaxy-up1jj,Life gets messy when yoylu get into a relationship,When your heart is taking for granted, manipulation tactics,mind games,the silent treatment,90 pc of women come to take away,,they will gut you like a fish, men are waking up to this
google "who is esus" aka lord aka baal aka satan. Esus means pig and was never a Hebrew name. YAHUSHA is the real Hebrew name of the Messiah. Means Salvation through YAH. YAHUAH is the name of the Father. HalleluYAH means praises to YAH. Wake up from idolatry. You'll call jesus name and no one will answer, just satan. Remember that satan wanted and wants to be praised instead of the Father. Cepher original names.
All things in moderation. Alcohol, tobacco, motorcycles, muscle cars, exercise, guitars, and real estate. Life is not all about suffering. Work hard and enjoy the harvest!
The back and forth paradox of my thoughts are crazy. I enjoy working on myself, but find myself feeling lonely. But once I interact with most people, I realize why I spend most of my time alone.
Amen to that. So many people need God. This morning I said good morning to another woman, who looked at me before slamming the door in my face 🤷🏻♀️ People are so angry all the time for no reason it seems
The men and women who do not want relationships and children are because they did not have a good family model, their fathers and mothers failed to nurture them as children to become fully developed and to reach their full potentials. The social development of an individual begins in the family system. Unfortunately, many adults today came from those parents who were adults in 60s-80s, a time of sexual liberation and upheaval which destroyed the concept of relationships and family. This is why today there is a high rate of single men and women and a decline of population. Do not blame this generation, blame the parents who were failures to be a good model for marriage and family life. We learned the sad truth that having a wife and family are not true guarantees for happiness.
Anyone who expects you to put up with their shit just because they are "someone" to you. Whoever they are. Needs a reality check. This is where we are allowed to redefine and re-establish our relationships. With siblings, parents, coworkers, whoever. Respect has to be the foundation. Then we can have fun. But as soon as there's any kind of expectation or assumption in the Air, we must reset. Every time. Because it only get worse if it goes unchecked. And we aren't obligated to put up with ANYONES shit. What's so ever. And if they think that and feel entitled to the benefits of knowing you/ having access to you, then they need reminded that it's a Privelage and it will be lost when taken for granted and unappreciated.
Matt. 24:12 And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold. Your video message is right. I think of all the love, sacrifices and hopes I put into friends, family and aquaintances with so very little in return. Sometimes nothing in return. After a while one has to wonder why they should put the effort in at all. Then things get worse, people start punishing you for doing good, for going out of your way, for putting them first. That's when I was done. I wish everyone the best, but I won't be putting myself out there anymore. I am totally happy living alone and being alone. No one to think about all day and work hard building something with someone that never comes to fruition. I have no bitterness, I just finally understand how the world really works and act accordingly. Thanks for all your videos. They help a lot of people.
I worked with family for a number of years and it costed me their relationship and many friends. Now I know where I stand with them. I am still working in the same place under new management and thriving. When my relatives were in charge they basically left me to rot and pretended I didn't exist. Yet I always there for them when it mattered. It stung big time and it still is very raw.
Man I just realized I am alone. Hurts the most when the people closest to you are your worst enemies tho 👌🏾. Real sad but hey it is what is. Bandaid is off 💯.
@@ruthlessmofo What is it that you want explained? The bible tells us that because evil sin has taken over the world, that people will not even want to show love. I can attest to that by saying I used to help people, unasked, because I love people and if I see a need I want to make it better. But because of my helping them it always seems to backfire on me and I end up being punished for it in some way, so I don't put forth my hand in love. I don't want to be punished. Instead I pray that God help them. Sometimes I DO help anyway, but still, I am punished for it by the very ones I try to help. The world didn't used to be like that, but it is now.
Exactly almost nobody comes into your life and tries to make it better. Most friends and partners but at least friends try to make your life worse when they come into your life and it’s ridiculous like that’s why I have no friends because I wanna be better in my life and do good thingsbut no people are evil
I used to be the family member and friend that everyone could rely on. I did it my whole life. Over the years, doing that cost me a whole lot of money that I was never repaid. Also, none of those people who I helped out ever offered to do any favors for me. For a while, I thought it was me. It couldn't be everybody else, right? It took me a while to figure out that it IS everybody else. People are looking out only for themselves and trying to extract anything and everything they can get out of you. Now, I just chill...and I don't give so easily anymore. The 'friend' thing is over-rated. Most (probably all) of them are fake and just using you to get something. But you will notice this only when you really start paying attention and stop running with them.
I've come to realize that I am a more reliable man than most of the other ones that I have met or been related to and that is scary because compared to other men in this world I have much left to be desired. I am working on being a better man.
When you work yourself up to be social it just gives you a reason to go back to not being social. Its been 5 years im finally talking more with people but ive done figured out people are draining so im kinda reverting back but not fully if that makes sense
Lol this remind me how I was shattered for like 4-5 years, I was depressed and only at home, cut contact with all except my only friend. Then I decided I wanna recluse, go back into society, be more social etc. And it only hurted me, friend betrayed me, disrespected and now I am alone without friends. So I am where I was before... All the effort to go out of my shell just to be hurt & disrespected. People are such a disappointment.
Love this! So inspiring! My mind has been completely consumed by thoughts of him. It’s been six months since he left, and the pain of losing him feels like a physical ache. The laughter, the memories, the adventures sadly, it’s all gone. I’ve tried everything to distract myself, but the harder I try, the more I find myself thinking about him. How do people let go and move on? It’s been months, yet the memories of him are still so vivid. I miss him more than words can say.
It’s clear that you’re not just missing him but also the part of yourself that you shared with him. Reaching out to him like that shows how much love you still carry it takes real courage to be so vulnerable. Heartbreak is painful, but don’t lose hope. I understand how you feel. My own heartbreak was devastating sudden and brutal. It left me feeling lost and shattered. In my desperation for solace and guidance, I turned to a spiritual counselor recommended by a friend.
IMO, the only cure is time. Avoid places you went with him, avoid songs you two shared. Concentrate on moving forward, doing things beneficial to you. After a while, perhaps a long while, you won't miss him, and you'll be a better person because you concentrated on yourself. Best wishes.
The only people I want to deal with is genuine people. They don't have to have a super great life or perform, just be real. Very hard to find today, many fake people out there... but time exposes them all... it's a beautiful thing.
It’s amazing every time I ask myself why I am the way I am because of bad experiences with women, Terry had a video answering my exact questions that I posed to myself. If you know you know
30 years ahead of you guys and learned the hard way. I used to help everyone but at my own expense. Please be very selective as to who you help otherwise it could cost you your future. Best thing to do is focus on building with a partner, and if you don't want that then focus on building yourself. Always try to have the support of a female who loves you, wether it's your gf, wife, mom or grandmother, it doesn't matter. Build yourself up! Help yourself. You need to be selfish in order to be selfless. Build you first, then you can help others later if you want.
Right on. It didn't matter if they were girlfriends my ex-wife or my close family they all wanted to use me for things. I never asked anybody for anything but they always wanted something and expected it.
Yup. And even sex gets old too, especially after kids. Most relationships are done after kids. And Im so glad Im not a father, and Im 30. Stress free. Jacked, and loving life.
The men and women who do not want relationships and children are because they did not have a good family model, their fathers and mothers failed to nurture them as children to become fully developed and to reach their full potentials. The social development of an individual begins in the family system. Unfortunately, many adults today came from those parents who were adults in 60s-80s, a time of sexual liberation and upheaval which destroyed the concept of relationships and family. This is why today there is a high rate of single men and women and a decline of population. Do not blame this generation, blame the parents who were failures to be a good model for marriage and family life. We learned the sad truth that having a wife and family are not true guarantees for happiness.
People I meet are always shocked by the level of work I do on myself. Fitness, side passions, work ethic, my energy levels, etc. And most people I’ve connected with just aren’t on the same path and they don’t care to stay connected
Its not like we're stellar beings anymore. The world revolves around corporate jobs. We have gone back 200 years spiritually/psychologically. The baseline for most conversations today is narcissism.
Yep, we need to face who people are and not waste our time hoping they are who they pretend to be. “You will know them by their fruits” - poisonous or nourishing. Thankfully, nourishment, peace and connection comes from within and best not to eat poisonous fruit.
sad reality is most people who feel treated badly and crying about that on youtube cannot take accountability of how horrific they are for others. If most people are dissappointment, how come everyone on youtube feels the same? You are THOSE people for others, but that takes a lot of work to see and be ok with it
Even if you try visiting a family member. It’s like then they feel entitled to ask you for a drive in your vehicle somewhere. Then they think you’re obligated to say yes because you’re in their home.
I busted my ass for decades providing and supporting a family. Got very little in return but a lot of more, more, more, and attitude. Wife started cheating and said she wasn't emotionally validated.... some social media bs... The "family courts" gave her anything she wanted. Been single now for 14yrs and honestly regret ever getting married. I envision where I'd be if I focused all that time and energy inward instead of outward. Guys. Stay single!!!!
I want all that . I got all that stuff. But still , to be aware of the narcissist thing , is important. Back in the day , Before internet , didn't know what narcissist is. Now we know .
Many young people would benefit from hearing this. I can't tell you how many times its been proven to me directly and indirectly how much it is an absolute priority to know yourself and your boundaries and to spend time cultivating yourself. Even if you are not where you want to be in life, it cost almost nothing to ground yourself and feel your worth and then you will start to notice others who do so and you will soon find yourself fortified. And hes absolutely correct support doesnt always come from "friends" and "family". Sometimes family betrays you the worst. Just take care if yourself. Find honest work, this is important for too mamy reasons but if you dont have a job, keep chipping away at it. Everydau try to facilitate employment efficiently and effectively. THEN, work on a career. Acquire or perfect a skill, a skill you can competitively sell. More opportunities will open. And just have your house in order and mind your energy and vibration, never taking or giving too much. Many people will want to see you fail because they truly despise themselves, you know this energy. Let it be. Just carry on dont devote any time to it. Your attitude will take you where you need to be and theirs as well.
It is difficult to make friends as an adult for most. It is important to develop discernment about people to judge if you want any sort of relationship with them. Also, don't expect too much from others. Being, "let down" is half your fault.
I honestly wish I met a man like you my husband abandon me and baby . I pray to find someone with open eyes and awareness it seems so isolating like everyone is blind even family . I may end up in shelter soon I am surrounded by narcissists trying to provoke and make it impossible to get on my feet I have a baby grandparents don’t care they just want money they are asking money to watch their own grandchildren
Reminds me of the movie “Fallen”. With a dead body sitting at the kitchen table the patrol officers tells the detectives “well he had no wife, no friends, and no family”. The detective then says “then why is he dead”? 😂
I am a 34 year old man. I have never had a relationship, nor any woman gave me the time of day or a chance. I have tried in college, I have tried dating apps, and literally none of those things helped me. I have not gotten a single match on any app, ever. I have a good job, good income, have my own place - but I am not good enough for anyone (or do they care whether I live or die). But, social media tells me that I need to try harder or I am a loser... And wherever I look, I see 6 ft+ attractive looking chads meeting a woman every week. Even the average woman is able to go out, meet and date without issues. Tell me - how can a man like me then get experience in dating, when the odds are completely stacked against me? I see the 10% guys outside getting all the women, and the average women can easily get a date within seconds from any dating app. How is this fair for me? Am I a bad person? You guys here atleast had relationships, I never even touched a woman and I am 34. I feel like I wish I was never born in this timeline - this life is definitely not for me.
No one was ever meant to have "dating experience". God made a woman for a man. If you follow Jesus, and I hope you do, ask God to send you your wife and believe he will. If you do not follow Jesus, there is really no one that can help you in this area of your life or any other. Please seek your Maker today. He is waiting on you to call on him right now. He knows you have been lonely. He has seen every thought you have had, deed you have done and word you have spoken. Buy a KJV bible today. Read one of the gospels all the way through, praying inbetween that you want to know Him and to forgive you for your sins. Btw, God hates fornication so that's one sin you won't have to ask forgiveness for!
REAL men don’t desire or chase after women, only sissy-simps do that. A wise man knows that there is no such thing as love. Instead REAL men hire a sex-worker when they need sex, afterwards she leaves him alone to enjoy his freedom and hobbies which have infinitely more value than all the women in the world put together.
There are friends you can have that might not be able to uplift you emotionally or monetarily but that doesnt mean theyre trying to drag you down. Some ppl are sensitive or honest enough to know that and still value a friendship beyond those parasitic gains that low iq are looking for.
I used to listen to people tell me about their problems for a long time. Then when I thought it's ok to talk about myself now, they have to run! Now I give them about 10 minutes and try to share a little about me and when I see they aren't going to let that happen, I completely turn my focus away and stop listening. I got tired of people eating up my time only to complain about their life.
Why is it important for a narcissist to have total control over person, employees, and every area of life. It’s a dark side to even have money, and others that would destroy anyone. Till one day older mask come off others see who they really are plus they may not live anymore in their life brain disorder of processing not there at conception. Is this mental illlness yet able to function on job, and there daily needs only. Are they considered disabled? With a disorder what area does this go under?
The crazy thing is, these people can't even meet you half way let alone give you a fraction back what you give them...then shocked when you walk away...
Disappointment is the wrong word. It's not peoples job to live up to our predetermined expectations. Your vision of success isnt everyone's. Most people are on a path. In a moment. Its not the sum of who they are. Its a place. We can learn from all relationships. Even the toxic ones. Conflict forces us to grow. Careful not to get in the State of mind where everything needs to feel perfect, or that you are on such a high level that YOU aren't capable of disappointing others in your actions. The higher your consciousness becomes. The more it becomes your duty to elevate those around you. Sucks, but it's lonely at the top
Nothing makes me lose interest in people faster than betrayal, and that's been the norm with everyone. You have to be your own best friend in this toxic world.
You are 100% right about that.. They say don’t become friends with coworkers.. Well I was friends with this person I worked with for 10 years.. I actually felt this person was a true friend.. Told personal things to this person but once I left got another job they blocked me 🤷♂️ I was lost for words my texts wouldn’t go through my calls went straight to voicemail.. At first I thought maybe something was going on with their phone.. Waited a couple weeks tried again texts not going through calls straight to voicemail.. I was blown away like wtf.. Anymore I stay in my own lane and just mind my own business..
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Treachery is the greatest sin and it unfortunately commonplace in today's societies.
Man I hope that doesn't happen to me @@Steve-q3b1s
As soon as most people in American society stopped Jesus men being evil hearted betrayers & snakes, rats, fake men... and women being promiscuous, unable to pair bond & giving ALL of themselves to "boyfriends" in love with only their flesh not their heart spirit & soul became the norm for 95%+ of relationships.
I have been single for 10 years and I don't want to be in a relationship anymore because people failed me. Not only in a romantic relationship, I feel like society is made easy for narcissistic people. I just keep my distance.
trust me there a huge draw back for narcissist ppl but I will tell you this if they don't get karma they have already chosen what God they will served and that's satan himself only God can saved them!
@@kisigma1011 Thank you 😊
The men and women who do not want relationships and children are because they did not have a good family model, their fathers and mothers failed to nurture them as children to become fully developed and to reach their full potentials. The social development of an individual begins in the family system. Unfortunately, many adults today came from those parents who were adults in 60s-80s, a time of sexual liberation and upheaval which destroyed the concept of relationships and family. This is why today there is a high rate of single men and women and a decline of population. Do not blame this generation, blame the parents who were failures to be a good model for marriage and family life. We learned the sad truth that having a wife and family are not true guarantees for happiness.
@@kisigma1011 They have embraced the dark side 100%. As a response to their trauma they chose to become a perpetrator of trauma on others.
1000%.
I don’t want any human connection anymore. Every connection I had failed. I always gave more than I should in every aspect of relationships
Same here, I made friends with people in the past and they all show me their true colors.. I don’t make friends anymore just stay in my lane
Yup. I just try to connect to inner being now.
If you gave more than you got, what you gave must've been worth less.
Same. This is my major reason too.
@@Steve-q3b1sbro facts that how im feeling now 💯
Everybody tells me I'm to antisocial, my experience with people has driven me to being antisocial.
FACTS
Legit
Still need friends.( like minded ..dedicated )No man is an island . Forgiveness..no one is perfect ( though they think so)
When you come from a broken home, you see the dark reality. You see the truth. And that truth inspires you to become the best version of yourself you can ever be. With or without family, friends, etc.
And that higher version is what? What job you have? Lol 😆
This statement is true, i came from a broken home as well.
Yep it’s reality unfortunately
💯 % absolutely drained & I done nothing wrong
Yea my family is so broken than in every rarely reunion we have we always get into an argument i found out that i only got myself and i see all the hypocrisy in a lot of people
I have nobody right now,you and your channel is all I have getting me through this,you are the most REAL PERSON ever. Everything you say is 💯% TRUE ...THANKS BRO🤗
People today are draining to be around you’re not missing much
It should be freeing
I'm sorry
Forcing ANYTHING..........always BACKFIRES........
Everytime
100%
Force a fart and you'll shit yourself
I so resonate with this my brother. People suck.
I don't want to be surrounded by people who have given up on themselves in life. I want to surround myself with people who want to succeed in life.
Facts.
where they at though
Well why did you fail success in 2020? Lol
@@Daniel-Deshaun if your from the usa everyone should have a captail city that they visit all the time like I'm from nyc mahattan is the big apple 🍎
What do you mean..." succeed"..?
So,so,true,I'm happier on my own,I'm done with women,All we need is our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ
so your lord is okay with leaving women out of your life? Do u have issues with gods other creation?
@okaxy-up1jj ,I have issues when your heart is taking for granted, manipulation tactics,mind games,silent treatment,Men are waking up to this,that's just the reality
@okaxy-up1jj,Life gets messy when yoylu get into a relationship,When your heart is taking for granted, manipulation tactics,mind games,the silent treatment,90 pc of women come to take away,,they will gut you like a fish, men are waking up to this
@okaxy-up1jj no, just only how they think and behave nowdays
google "who is esus" aka lord aka baal aka satan. Esus means pig and was never a Hebrew name. YAHUSHA is the real Hebrew name of the Messiah. Means Salvation through YAH. YAHUAH is the name of the Father. HalleluYAH means praises to YAH. Wake up from idolatry. You'll call jesus name and no one will answer, just satan. Remember that satan wanted and wants to be praised instead of the Father. Cepher original names.
The title alone is SPOT ON!
💯 % absolutely true 👍
Spot on. 98% are not doing the work on themselves and it highly shows
All things in moderation. Alcohol, tobacco, motorcycles, muscle cars, exercise, guitars, and real estate. Life is not all about suffering. Work hard and enjoy the harvest!
Alcohol, tobacco and drugs are the most harmful & npc things to do.
Working hard doesn’t result in a harvest for everyone who works hard.
Life isn't about anything
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The back and forth paradox of my thoughts are crazy. I enjoy working on myself, but find myself feeling lonely. But once I interact with most people, I realize why I spend most of my time alone.
This 💯
Amen to that. So many people need God. This morning I said good morning to another woman, who looked at me before slamming the door in my face 🤷🏻♀️ People are so angry all the time for no reason it seems
That’s their problem I speak when spoken to now it’s much easier to decipher who’s decent or not
The men and women who do not want relationships and children are because they did not have a good family model, their fathers and mothers failed to nurture them as children to become fully developed and to reach their full potentials. The social development of an individual begins in the family system. Unfortunately, many adults today came from those parents who were adults in 60s-80s, a time of sexual liberation and upheaval which destroyed the concept of relationships and family. This is why today there is a high rate of single men and women and a decline of population. Do not blame this generation, blame the parents who were failures to be a good model for marriage and family life. We learned the sad truth that having a wife and family are not true guarantees for happiness.
Why would you be in front of some lady's door??
Anyone who expects you to put up with their shit just because they are "someone" to you. Whoever they are. Needs a reality check. This is where we are allowed to redefine and re-establish our relationships. With siblings, parents, coworkers, whoever. Respect has to be the foundation. Then we can have fun. But as soon as there's any kind of expectation or assumption in the Air, we must reset. Every time. Because it only get worse if it goes unchecked. And we aren't obligated to put up with ANYONES shit. What's so ever. And if they think that and feel entitled to the benefits of knowing you/ having access to you, then they need reminded that it's a Privelage and it will be lost when taken for granted and unappreciated.
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Matt. 24:12 And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold. Your video message is right. I think of all the love, sacrifices and hopes I put into friends, family and aquaintances with so very little in return. Sometimes nothing in return. After a while one has to wonder why they should put the effort in at all. Then things get worse, people start punishing you for doing good, for going out of your way, for putting them first. That's when I was done. I wish everyone the best, but I won't be putting myself out there anymore. I am totally happy living alone and being alone. No one to think about all day and work hard building something with someone that never comes to fruition. I have no bitterness, I just finally understand how the world really works and act accordingly. Thanks for all your videos. They help a lot of people.
We all want good people in our lives..not just damaged, angry people..bring peace or stay away
nope.
spot on,people are just so full of themselves,makes me cringe big time seeing how the world is now,players and phone zombies everywhere!
Same in the uk ,cardboard cut outs I call them
Cause 99% of them are drama, backstabbing, or fake....that's why
What an amazing voice of truth, Terry Joel Jr is. Just sensational.
I worked with family for a number of years and it costed me their relationship and many friends. Now I know where I stand with them. I am still working in the same place under new management and thriving. When my relatives were in charge they basically left me to rot and pretended I didn't exist. Yet I always there for them when it mattered. It stung big time and it still is very raw.
One thing I am learning even with my own parents watch their actions not their words. Cold world out here good luck gentlemen
Most of my friends and family are nothing but drama and just want use people..😢..am better off by myself..❤.. people are fake now days
All I want is to lock myself in my room and be put into an eternal sleep surrounded by nothing but peace and tranquility. People just annoy me.
Man I just realized I am alone. Hurts the most when the people closest to you are your worst enemies tho 👌🏾. Real sad but hey it is what is. Bandaid is off 💯.
This is exactly what I’ve been going through. I’m fed up dog
Same here brother
The love of many shall wax cold.
The water is wide,
To wide to cross....
Seems so at times.
Yup Matt 24:12 Matt. 24:12 And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold.
I don't get it. Can someone explain 🤔
@@ruthlessmofo What is it that you want explained? The bible tells us that because evil sin has taken over the world, that people will not even want to show love. I can attest to that by saying I used to help people, unasked, because I love people and if I see a need I want to make it better. But because of my helping them it always seems to backfire on me and I end up being punished for it in some way, so I don't put forth my hand in love. I don't want to be punished. Instead I pray that God help them. Sometimes I DO help anyway, but still, I am punished for it by the very ones I try to help. The world didn't used to be like that, but it is now.
Exactly almost nobody comes into your life and tries to make it better. Most friends and partners but at least friends try to make your life worse when they come into your life and it’s ridiculous like that’s why I have no friends because I wanna be better in my life and do good thingsbut no people are evil
💯 % true 👍 . You end up totally drained and done nothing wrong
deadass they sold out to satan they're just waiting for you to do the same!
Keep a close circle. Everything else is an illusion
Preciate the vid big bro. Deff a message I needed to hear recently. Ppl in this world are just straight up disappointing
Yeah these people won’t change they almost get more pissed/crazy. I’d just pray for them. Stay safe
I used to be the family member and friend that everyone could rely on. I did it my whole life. Over the years, doing that cost me a whole lot of money that I was never repaid. Also, none of those people who I helped out ever offered to do any favors for me.
For a while, I thought it was me. It couldn't be everybody else, right? It took me a while to figure out that it IS everybody else. People are looking out only for themselves and trying to extract anything and everything they can get out of you. Now, I just chill...and I don't give so easily anymore. The 'friend' thing is over-rated. Most (probably all) of them are fake and just using you to get something. But you will notice this only when you really start paying attention and stop running with them.
Nobody Cares that's why Nobody and that's Fine We are on our Own.
I've come to realize that I am a more reliable man than most of the other ones that I have met or been related to and that is scary because compared to other men in this world I have much left to be desired. I am working on being a better man.
Please how ?
Am a born Christian and sometimes I feel so down 😭 of myself because of low finance but I still believe God😞
It's Elizabeth Ann Hanson doing she's changed my life. A BROKER- like her is what you need.
$356K monthly is something you should feel differently about....
Lovely! I enjoyed it like I enjoy a $100k monthly around the turn!!!
Have the same no need drama and fake ppl. Beeing alone is good and peaceful. Merry Christmas ppl 🎄
When you work yourself up to be social it just gives you a reason to go back to not being social. Its been 5 years im finally talking more with people but ive done figured out people are draining so im kinda reverting back but not fully if that makes sense
Lol this remind me how I was shattered for like 4-5 years, I was depressed and only at home, cut contact with all except my only friend. Then I decided I wanna recluse, go back into society, be more social etc. And it only hurted me, friend betrayed me, disrespected and now I am alone without friends. So I am where I was before... All the effort to go out of my shell just to be hurt & disrespected. People are such a disappointment.
@@intuitivevibes1818 yeup I feel you man
Most people nowadays are simply too self-centered to be decent friends, partners, or even family members..😓
This hit hard. Guys, to real, Cheers, bro. Happy Christmas, .
Happy Christmas bro
Perfect timing.
Thank you for uploading.
Your message is spot on. I wanted to hear it -it reflects my entire existence. Thank you for sharing this wisdom and enlightenment.
You are like a big bro Terry looking out for us.. You are all I got!
Gotta stay away from people and places that ain’t for you
@@Mrfocusonwaves wise
Thanks for the pep talk. I needed it. Bless you ❤️.
Terry, your podcast saves life. Thanks 🙏
I thought there is some thing wrong with me for wanting good relationships with people. A good video.
And they put a Fake Smile on their face to show you that they appreciate you even though they don't 🙍
Bingo!!
Can’t say I have my shii together yet but I’m trending in the right direction.
Love this! So inspiring! My mind has been completely consumed by thoughts of him. It’s been six months since he left, and the pain of losing him feels like a physical ache. The laughter, the memories, the adventures sadly, it’s all gone. I’ve tried everything to distract myself, but the harder I try, the more I find myself thinking about him. How do people let go and move on? It’s been months, yet the memories of him are still so vivid. I miss him more than words can say.
It’s clear that you’re not just missing him but also the part of yourself that you shared with him. Reaching out to him like that shows how much love you still carry it takes real courage to be so vulnerable. Heartbreak is painful, but don’t lose hope. I understand how you feel. My own heartbreak was devastating sudden and brutal. It left me feeling lost and shattered. In my desperation for solace and guidance, I turned to a spiritual counselor recommended by a friend.
A spiritual counselor? That sounds fascinating. How can I reach out to him?
he specializes in rekindling the spark in broken relationships.
His handle is FatherAbulu.
Thank you so much for sharing this I really appreciate your honesty and openness.
IMO, the only cure is time. Avoid places you went with him, avoid songs you two shared. Concentrate on moving forward, doing things beneficial to you. After a while, perhaps a long while, you won't miss him, and you'll be a better person because you concentrated on yourself. Best wishes.
Truest words ever spoken.
Excellent video Sir 👍😊💯
Insane that this video hit me rn. It's so hard to give a damn in this information driven world where madness is the regular.
The only people I want to deal with is genuine people.
They don't have to have a super great life or perform, just be real.
Very hard to find today, many fake people out there... but time exposes them all... it's a beautiful thing.
Last of the real
It’s amazing every time I ask myself why I am the way I am because of bad experiences with women, Terry had a video answering my exact questions that I posed to myself. If you know you know
All i wanna do is make my myself and my family members feel proud of me ,,,,,,,,only genuine and authentic things are allowed in my life
30 years ahead of you guys and learned the hard way. I used to help everyone but at my own expense. Please be very selective as to who you help otherwise it could cost you your future. Best thing to do is focus on building with a partner, and if you don't want that then focus on building yourself. Always try to have the support of a female who loves you, wether it's your gf, wife, mom or grandmother, it doesn't matter. Build yourself up! Help yourself. You need to be selfish in order to be selfless. Build you first, then you can help others later if you want.
Right on. It didn't matter if they were girlfriends my ex-wife or my close family they all wanted to use me for things. I never asked anybody for anything but they always wanted something and expected it.
Yup. And even sex gets old too, especially after kids. Most relationships are done after kids. And Im so glad Im not a father, and Im 30. Stress free. Jacked, and loving life.
The men and women who do not want relationships and children are because they did not have a good family model, their fathers and mothers failed to nurture them as children to become fully developed and to reach their full potentials. The social development of an individual begins in the family system. Unfortunately, many adults today came from those parents who were adults in 60s-80s, a time of sexual liberation and upheaval which destroyed the concept of relationships and family. This is why today there is a high rate of single men and women and a decline of population. Do not blame this generation, blame the parents who were failures to be a good model for marriage and family life. We learned the sad truth that having a wife and family are not true guarantees for happiness.
People I meet are always shocked by the level of work I do on myself. Fitness, side passions, work ethic, my energy levels, etc. And most people I’ve connected with just aren’t on the same path and they don’t care to stay connected
Yes freeing, those bees don't fly around me anymore!
Its not like we're stellar beings anymore. The world revolves around corporate jobs. We have gone back 200 years spiritually/psychologically. The baseline for most conversations today is narcissism.
Yep, we need to face who people are and not waste our time hoping they are who they pretend to be. “You will know them by their fruits” - poisonous or nourishing. Thankfully, nourishment, peace and connection comes from within and best not to eat poisonous fruit.
Very good analysis sir
Bro the amount of fake vibes I’ve experienced with people in 2024 makes me not want too much people in my life📌
i really resonated with this. thank you
sad reality is most people who feel treated badly and crying about that on youtube cannot take accountability of how horrific they are for others. If most people are dissappointment, how come everyone on youtube feels the same? You are THOSE people for others, but that takes a lot of work to see and be ok with it
Even if you try visiting a family member. It’s like then they feel entitled to ask you for a drive in your vehicle somewhere. Then they think you’re obligated to say yes because you’re in their home.
So much solid truth! ❤
Too much snakin, faking, loserism, entitlement going on..Etc etc…
Guy speaks the truth like the videos 👍
This was good. I’ll try you one more time. I subscribed …. Keep it up.
Treat yourself to a beer or two this Crimbo Tel. Ready to get right back on it in 2025. You deserve it brother.
1. Dont force anything be joyful alone the lord will bless you, and keep you
There are good people out there.
Cuz most people are delusional and can’t accent the reality that is plaguing us younger generations. That’s a big one that gets me.
Thank you, Terry.
You telling the truth
You are so right. it's the harsh truth..
Users and losers......
Facts bruhhh😒
And abusers too.
I busted my ass for decades providing and supporting a family. Got very little in return but a lot of more, more, more, and attitude.
Wife started cheating and said she wasn't emotionally validated.... some social media bs...
The "family courts" gave her anything she wanted.
Been single now for 14yrs and honestly regret ever getting married.
I envision where I'd be if I focused all that time and energy inward instead of outward.
Guys. Stay single!!!!
I want all that . I got all that stuff.
But still , to be aware of the narcissist thing , is important.
Back in the day ,
Before internet , didn't know what narcissist is. Now we know .
almost everyone is selfish to some degree. its rare to find someone who is genuine in 2024/25. happy holidays and a happy new year people!!!!!!!!!!!
It's merry Christmas dude
selfish is fine, dishonest is not
@@MatthewJamesKent not everyone in these comment sections are Christian or followers of Christ (I mean this in the most respectful way:))
Many young people would benefit from hearing this. I can't tell you how many times its been proven to me directly and indirectly how much it is an absolute priority to know yourself and your boundaries and to spend time cultivating yourself. Even if you are not where you want to be in life, it cost almost nothing to ground yourself and feel your worth and then you will start to notice others who do so and you will soon find yourself fortified. And hes absolutely correct support doesnt always come from "friends" and "family". Sometimes family betrays you the worst.
Just take care if yourself. Find honest work, this is important for too mamy reasons but if you dont have a job, keep chipping away at it. Everydau try to facilitate employment efficiently and effectively. THEN, work on a career. Acquire or perfect a skill, a skill you can competitively sell. More opportunities will open. And just have your house in order and mind your energy and vibration, never taking or giving too much. Many people will want to see you fail because they truly despise themselves, you know this energy. Let it be. Just carry on dont devote any time to it. Your attitude will take you where you need to be and theirs as well.
It is difficult to make friends as an adult for most. It is important to develop discernment about people to judge if you want any sort of relationship with them. Also, don't expect too much from others. Being, "let down" is half your fault.
Yes, and it's a hard lesson to learn.
I honestly wish I met a man like you my husband abandon me and baby . I pray to find someone with open eyes and awareness it seems so isolating like everyone is blind even family . I may end up in shelter soon I am surrounded by narcissists trying to provoke and make it impossible to get on my feet I have a baby grandparents don’t care they just want money they are asking money to watch their own grandchildren
Reminds me of the movie “Fallen”. With a dead body sitting at the kitchen table the patrol officers tells the detectives “well he had no wife, no friends, and no family”. The detective then says “then why is he dead”? 😂
@@robertclark9 smart lol
Fantastic movie.
Say nah to to the narc. Sending Canada sunshine from sunny Spain. ☀️🔥
absolutely true it is facts done likes and shared
Exactly Terry, I've been to that movie as well,
I am a 34 year old man. I have never had a relationship, nor any woman gave me the time of day or a chance.
I have tried in college, I have tried dating apps, and literally none of those things helped me. I have not gotten a single match on any app, ever. I have a good job, good income, have my own place - but I am not good enough for anyone (or do they care whether I live or die). But, social media tells me that I need to try harder or I am a loser...
And wherever I look, I see 6 ft+ attractive looking chads meeting a woman every week. Even the average woman is able to go out, meet and date without issues. Tell me - how can a man like me then get experience in dating, when the odds are completely stacked against me? I see the 10% guys outside getting all the women, and the average women can easily get a date within seconds from any dating app.
How is this fair for me? Am I a bad person? You guys here atleast had relationships, I never even touched a woman and I am 34. I feel like I wish I was never born in this timeline - this life is definitely not for me.
chill out, stack money, invest, travel, go gym
You're not missing out on anything other than the fact that you " think " you are. Just live for yourself like everyone else.
Bro I see why you never had a woman and I'm not gonna tell you why
No one was ever meant to have "dating experience". God made a woman for a man. If you follow Jesus, and I hope you do, ask God to send you your wife and believe he will. If you do not follow Jesus, there is really no one that can help you in this area of your life or any other. Please seek your Maker today. He is waiting on you to call on him right now. He knows you have been lonely. He has seen every thought you have had, deed you have done and word you have spoken. Buy a KJV bible today. Read one of the gospels all the way through, praying inbetween that you want to know Him and to forgive you for your sins. Btw, God hates fornication so that's one sin you won't have to ask forgiveness for!
REAL men don’t desire or chase after women, only sissy-simps do that. A wise man knows that there is no such thing as love. Instead REAL men hire a sex-worker when they need sex, afterwards she leaves him alone to enjoy his freedom and hobbies which have infinitely more value than all the women in the world put together.
There are friends you can have that might not be able to uplift you emotionally or monetarily but that doesnt mean theyre trying to drag you down. Some ppl are sensitive or honest enough to know that and still value a friendship beyond those parasitic gains that low iq are looking for.
It’s mostly weird abuse? Issues? Be careful because they will come after you at jobs
huh?
exactly, they try to destroy your reputation in order to gain control over you and take revenge.
yeah they do its crazy how far they will go & lie to your boss and everything
@@kisigma1011 I don’t know all this is unsafe and crazy hate bs makes no sense how these people think and act
I noticed most ppl want to dump all their misery on your lap.
I used to listen to people tell me about their problems for a long time. Then when I thought it's ok to talk about myself now, they have to run! Now I give them about 10 minutes and try to share a little about me and when I see they aren't going to let that happen, I completely turn my focus away and stop listening. I got tired of people eating up my time only to complain about their life.
I'm scared of woman so I don't talk to them.
Preach Brother!
Why is it important for a narcissist to have total control over person, employees, and every area of life. It’s a dark side to even have money, and others that would destroy anyone. Till one day older mask come off others see who they really are plus they may not live anymore in their life brain disorder of processing not there at conception. Is this mental illlness yet able to function on job, and there daily needs only. Are they considered disabled? With a disorder what area does this go under?
I like your energy
I never had family or loved ones, but I do know betrayal. I've sold a few Pine Boxes. Taking care of yourself first and foremost is paramount.
The crazy thing is, these people can't even meet you half way let alone give you a fraction back what you give them...then shocked when you walk away...
Disappointment is the wrong word. It's not peoples job to live up to our predetermined expectations. Your vision of success isnt everyone's. Most people are on a path. In a moment. Its not the sum of who they are. Its a place. We can learn from all relationships. Even the toxic ones. Conflict forces us to grow. Careful not to get in the State of mind where everything needs to feel perfect, or that you are on such a high level that YOU aren't capable of disappointing others in your actions. The higher your consciousness becomes. The more it becomes your duty to elevate those around you. Sucks, but it's lonely at the top