I think the image we try to put out there is one that hides our insecurities and pains from when we are little. That image is false as to how we really feel. So, we have to admit to ourselves how sad we are and feel unimportant to begin to see that little child again and accept what she feels and let her express it.
That's right, but in the end we can let go of the dialogue between 'me' and 'my inner child'. It's all me, I'm just allowing myself to travel back to the different times in my life. Let's say I was insulted by someone yesterday and I wanted to process that. I would allow myself to go back to that scene and feel, say and do whatever I couldn't feel, say and do then. Maybe I'd feel angry and say "Don't talk to me like that!" or whatever it might be. However, I wouldn't become my 'inner person from yesterday'. I'd just be me. It's the same principle with travelling back to scenes from childhood or even earlier.
I would literally die if I were that child. I know. I have done a lot of things, I am a little resistant to inner child work even if I can comfort and support her. I tried to explain the future to him and I couldn't even fantasize about the idea, how do I explain more years of pure hell? Then I became extremely distressed for weeks. I really think I would die if I have to return there.
It's just about letting go of the construct. That 'inner child' is you. You are feeling whatever you're feeling in the present, it's not your inner child feeling it. It's just that you are 're-presencing' feelings from the past, it's about recognising that *I* am feeling this now.
I think the image we try to put out there is one that hides our insecurities and pains from when we are little. That image is false as to how we really feel. So, we have to admit to ourselves how sad we are and feel unimportant to begin to see that little child again and accept what she feels and let her express it.
That's right, but in the end we can let go of the dialogue between 'me' and 'my inner child'. It's all me, I'm just allowing myself to travel back to the different times in my life. Let's say I was insulted by someone yesterday and I wanted to process that. I would allow myself to go back to that scene and feel, say and do whatever I couldn't feel, say and do then. Maybe I'd feel angry and say "Don't talk to me like that!" or whatever it might be. However, I wouldn't become my 'inner person from yesterday'. I'd just be me. It's the same principle with travelling back to scenes from childhood or even earlier.
That sounds right: you have to stop talking to your little self in order to be and feel like your little self.
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I would literally die if I were that child. I know. I have done a lot of things, I am a little resistant to inner child work even if I can comfort and support her. I tried to explain the future to him and I couldn't even fantasize about the idea, how do I explain more years of pure hell? Then I became extremely distressed for weeks. I really think I would die if I have to return there.
Sometimes we need support, but I believe that everyone's capable of healing. If you can imagine it, you can do it!
That is actually an awesome idea … I just don’tknow how. Any advice?
It's just about letting go of the construct. That 'inner child' is you. You are feeling whatever you're feeling in the present, it's not your inner child feeling it. It's just that you are 're-presencing' feelings from the past, it's about recognising that *I* am feeling this now.