Why Does TRAUMA & GRIEF STAY WITH US? || Psychotherapy Crash Course
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- Опубліковано 9 чер 2024
- Grief & trauma are two of the most difficult forms of human experience that we have to ALL experience at some point in our lives.
Some people experience it sooner than they should such as right after birth or sometimes during childhood.
Others may experience grief and trauma as they grow older and experience more of life and relationships.
No matter when it happens, grief and trauma can leave you feeling tired, hurt, and numb.
And if you have a family history of trauma -- including intergenerational trauma -- it is likely that you could be experiencing something known as vicarious trauma.
In this video, I walk you through exploring if you have vicarious trauma.
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DISCUSSED IN THIS VIDEO:
0:00 intro
2:00 what exactly is vicarious trauma?
3:30 secondary trauma
4:30 compassion fatigue
5:51 what is happening to you
-behavioral disturbance
-emotional disturbance
-physical disturbance
-cognitive disturbance
-social disturbance
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RESCHEDULED!! This video will go live TOMORROW (MONDAY) 2:30pm est. I hope to see you guys then. 🤗
If you missed the live chat on this topic from Friday, here it is: ua-cam.com/users/liveCw9owNqBP74.
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If I told you how much death I’ve experienced since 2015….no since 2020 you would not believe me!
I’m unable to grieve anymore 😰
I'm so sorry. I have too and it's such a painful, yet, very raw journey of learning and healing.
@@TherapistTamaraHill I’m so sorry you have also. I’m very grateful for this platform and looking forward yo you addressing this. Thank you.
Thank you. I appreciate that.
And you're welcome.
This is so essential for me
This video is mind opening . Like a window into the soul, vicarious trauma. Thank you for this video. So helpful
You're welcome!! I'm so glad to hear this. Thank you.
❤ Glad to make a live session. Love you. ❤
Thank you!! Love right back at you!🤗
I resonate with the vicarious trauma. And what u are saying about just suviving. Since i was a young child i felt my punishment to be given existence.
Thank for your videos you give be dome information and i hope i can find direction to take i feel like after 30 years my mind and emotions might be set. Plus most of my history is a blur. Remember something from hours ago is no different than trying to recall something from 30 years ago. No difference
Yes, you're welcome John. I understand this is a long and difficult journey that requires knowledge along the way and healing. I'm glad that I could offer this information to help. And I'm sure you will continue working through this for many years to come.
The cow bell they are ringing constantly right now is irritating me and overwhelming me. It could possibly be the PTSD kicking in.
Oh my. Yes, I understand.
I am so happy you explained this. My mother started divulging to me a little of what was going on in her and my siblings lives since I was seven years old. She started to do this because one day my grandparent decided she would show me who she truly was and started to act "crazy" as I could only describe it at that age. I went and told my mom and instead of confronting the adult she told me how to take it and how it was nothing compared to what my siblings had gone through.
So I would hear these stories amongst also watching chaos secondhand and would continue to be badgered by my other narc parent and grandparent with their problems. I didn't tell her again because of the first time I did she did nothing. I don't know if she realized it was still happening because I never really spoke of it again, but I began to live through daily stress of being a sounding board for the two narcs and then I would also hear from my mom about struggles.
Years later this turned into me completely sacrificing myself and life to my older very manipulative sibling. She needed my help, and I just ran to her aid because I knew her life story and did not identify with my own. I felt I was obligated to assist her because of all that she had been through, and I had been through nothing. She's more than a decade older than me and I was a teen at the time that this started, also suffering the loss of my mother at that time. I explained to a former therapist, and she simply just said I went with my sister because we were both codependents. I didn't feel that was fair being that I was conditioned since 7 years old to identify with her life and not my own. So, when she started to manipulate me for her own good, I just handed over everything. She groomed me on top of what my mom had already started years before. I know that my mother doing that is what really flipped my whole way of thinking and sort of brainwashed me. I know that without her doing that my sister wouldn't have been able to have the power over me to use me as well as others.
I know this is long, but if you can provide any insight please do. This has caused me so much damage and I've never heard anyone talk about it before. My childhood issues were hardly physical, mostly all mental and emotional abuse. You can't see these scars and how it shapes the mind and it led to a lot of invalidation in my life whilst being extremely affected by it.
I hear you. If you feel/think your therapist is not understanding your situation, search for another. Maybe Tamara has a waiting list and can do zoom appointments. What she is talking about does happen. You can take on your parent's trauma and suffer it. I don't know how it happens, but it does. I have heard other therapists refer to it. But I suspect many know nothing about it. It is wrong to burden a child with such pain. Best to you.
You are amazing and a true gem if knowledge. Asn an provider, i love listening to you.
I appreciate that! Thank you 🤗
You are on point today!
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Thank you!!
I definitely have compassion fatigue 😞
I'm sorry. 😫 It's so draining just to suffer from this. Healing is possible thought and that's the hopeful part.
My adoptive mother never opened up to me she viewed me as her enemy and her and My adoptive father adopted me at the age of six months my sister at the age of 1 years old I can remember once I turn 5 all changed because of the new baby that entered into the household which is my younger adopted sister who was adopted from my adopted father's side of the family and after that point I got nothing but cold unwanted, unprotected vibes from my adopted mother I remember at a young age I think seven or eight I told her I wish the police would lock her up because the abuse had already started happening earlier than seven years of age food deprivation, sleep deprivation just to name a few. Till this day people outside and inside of that family Dynamic know who her favorites were which are the youngest baby girl that she got when I was five and then her biological son I am viewed as the toxic family Black Sheep or the mule every time she asked for me to be around it was to work or do something for her and once I got married my husband began to notice all of this it was enough that he noticed in my eyes on a photo that I wasn't happy but once he got to know me he begin to see why!,😔 The Stockholm syndrome that I had and that I am currently still getting over it's crazy but the abuse was even crazier even to the point that I cannot have children of my own I go through my lows and my highs some days I'm okay other days I don't want to get out of bed on the majority of other days my whole body hurts believe it or not I still deal with Phantom pains from where her and my father beat me in my genitals, we we're not raised to go to the doctor only on necessary visits for shots for school but because of my personal experience I don't trust the medical field because of the last doctor that I had made like my pain was a joke
even when I came in for medication for my polycystic ovarian syndrome he would say oh you're here for your drugs this is a white doctor mind you doctor Clinton that was his name this was two years ago but something is going to have to give because my fibromyalgia is spreading my polycystic ovarian syndrome gets worse as I age since I can't have children and my nightmares are just as Vivid I would say it's because of my very understanding and loving husband and my best friend and 3 God daughters that I'm still fighting it's hard to know that you don't have any family except the one that you have chosen as your family so sometimes I find myself getting emotional and jealous whenever my husband's family comes around and I feel guilty and ashamed of that , but I must say your videos have helped me throughout the past couple of years they have helped me go non-contact for the last 2 years smh Thank you ❤
You're welcome and thank you.
This is so tough and I'm sure is very difficult for you.
I'm am grateful, however, that this channel has been a support to you. That's the goal of every single video.
ONLY 30 MIN LATE THIS TIME LOL LOVE MY TAM-FAM
hahahahahahahaaha. Hope you had a restful day.
@@TherapistTamaraHill it was a really good nap. 😊 at least I can blame the narcolepsy.
hahahahaha. Thats good! You need that. We all need that kind of sleep.
Tamara i would like to get in contact to understand narcissistic abuse and if i have dependent personality. I was trained to be dependent and prevented from being my own person. I would like to recover and grow.
Hi Lucia, you can always email me at contact@anchoredinknowledge.com and tell me more about what you need. I am currently not taking on new patients/clients as I am maxed out. But I am offering 30min consultations.
Hi how are you. Have you dealt with aphanstasia and SDAM in any of your videos. I was in a very turbulate home before the age of 4. Not sure if its this that cause it or its a birth defect.
I have gone to multiple people trying to get help for my trauma. I would like to work with you to sort out my goals and learn how to change and how to deal with a manipulator. Do you have availability?