I love how honest you are. It is uncomfortable when you and baby are trying to learn what works best when breastfeeding and you have people coming in and out. But in any situation remember it’s your home and your baby if baby is hungry and you need to feed thin don’t feel bad for having some one on one time ❤️
I am so glad you made that distinction. That is your baby. You grew that baby in your body for 9 months. There isn't another soul on this earth who will know your baby better than you. Never, ever let a pediatrician bully you, guilt you or strong-arm you into doing something that you don't feel comfortable with, including vaccinating. You got this. You are a wonderful, loving momma.
Not started a family yet but I always envisaged having friends and family visit first couple of days to get the first visit out the way then not allow any for a while. But hearing your thoughts and experience has made me question. Would be interested to see what others have done. Your mention of bonds and having others hold the baby so much in the first two weeks etc... makes me think so much.
I love how you keep your dog as member of your family after giving birth. There are way too many people who will almost forget they have a dog once they have a kid and I absolutely hate those people And also it's absolutely crazy to me that in America you have to go back to work WEEKS after giving birth. Here in Czech Republic you get around 30 weeks of paid maternity leave (better money, almost like at work, it's calculated from your previous income) and then you get 1-4 YEARS of parenting support. Which is basically same amount of money for everyone, divided into 1-4 years as you wish... you can have a part time job with that, because if you divide for 3 or 4 years it's not that much money per month, but it's still a great system I think. Although it's extremely uncommon here to have nanny or someone else watching your baby.
Oh wow that is so interesting and how cool!!! Wow!!! And yes about dog 🥺🥺🥺 he’s our family and not just a “dog” or “pet” he’s perfection lol and has a part of my heart for literally ever
girl, yes to everything you said, especially the part about how everyone is all about the baby, yet don’t realize that baby and mom are practically a symbiotic relationship and both need support and attention. i Honestly felt so ignored for months and walked on during my entire birthing experience in the hospital but just like you i’ve wised up and will be doing so many things differently.
Yesssss. Just all yes. The pressure as a new mom from everything, just let it go and trust your inner mom instincts. You are speaking my heart in this video. 31 weeks Pregnant with our second boy too😭
So proud of you for giving it a go again. You rock Momma. My son is 13 months and has been Bf since birth. Not been an easy journey at all but we are still here going stringed and had so much support from my hubby and family. Keep going Mamma I’m here if you need help. Xxx
Omg when you got to the breastfeeding part... it’s like I was watching myself talk about how my experience was in the beginning. I had such a rough painful start and that pain lasted 3 months and the few breastfeeding mom friends I have would be like “it’s still hurting? It shouldn’t be hurting anymore.” Wasn’t able to see a lactation consultant due to covid but I just fought through the pain... was so close to giving up but I also was hearing about the formula shortage in my area at the time and even though it was so hard on me to breastfeed I was so grateful that I was able to and it was scary to think if I wasn’t able to breastfeed and couldn’t find formula to feed my baby... I felt for the moms in the those hard times. Here I am almost 14 months in and my son still breastfeeds for bedtime and naps and a few times during the night. You did breastfeed. Even moms who breastfed only in the hospital for the colostrum, they breastfed. Breastfeeding is breastfeeding. If you have a baby attached to your boob getting milk from you, even pumping is breastfeeding. If your baby is getting milk from you physically or in a bottle but came from you, you’re breastfeeding. Loved the video and yes girl stand up for yourself and your baby 💛 I wish I did
This is such good info! We’re starting to think of starting a family and I already started a list of boundaries. I just hope my family and friends respect them and don’t take it personally.
YES to cluster feeding 🙌 Especially the first few months! I swear that’s what has helped my milk supply! We are strictly breastfeeding and I’ve never had the need to pump or done much to keep my supply up (like teas and oats). Here and there I’ll drink body armors. My daughter will be 8 months on April 22nd and we are still going STRONG. But as always fed is best!! So happy for you guys ❤️
AW YAY MAMA OMG! Love that!!!! Did it give you constant pain and dread or no? I gotta make sure I’m not allowing myself to feed off that instense pain and blood
I can relate to you so much we were pregnant at the same time with our first and when I had given birth I also didn’t sleep and I was awake for 36hours before I just couldn’t go anymore. You aren’t on your own ❤️
How do you not have more subsribers? You are beyond real and raw it's amazing! I am also expecting. My son is 5 months and I am waiting for an appt to see how far along I am. I am in many mom groups but I just can't find anyone talking about having babies so close in age and I just found you about 2 days ago. Literally just keep being you girl!!
Hello! My Name is Ellie and I have a 1 month old baby named Westin! And I have been breastfeeding and I lost my supply at like 2 weeks and then I drank a ton of water and ate oatmeal and was pumping a ton and I got my supply back!! And it’s better than ever!! I love your videos so much!! ❤️❤️
@@LysHeaster I’ll be praying for your delivery and Breastfeeding journey! I hope everything goes well! It’s so awesome/funny how my sons name is Westin and your is Wesson! Sending prayers your way! ❤️❤️
I literally agree so muxh with all of this!!!! Also that doctor🤬 it is besides me that any medical person can be like this to post partum women... they actually have such a huge impact on the way we feel!
in postpartum nursing they teach you that pain while nursing is actually something to be addressed sooner than later like pain or like nipple tenderness is obviously a thing. but actual pain isn't so lactation consultant is a great resource and is encouraged even before discharge for all moms.
In the hospital breastfeeding was seemingly just fine and the LC was great! And then after home and constant sucking they got so bad and left so much pain 😭 i definitely should’ve called sooner than 1 month but I didn’t :/ I’m do that differently! And I couldn’t even be seen so that was rough too! Then I was on calls and emails for 1.5 months after even. But I wanna be seen this next time for sure. I’ll even drive hours away if need be 🙏🏼 I don’t wanna hurt like I did. I’m suuuuuper curious if it was a tongue or lip tie???
Been slacking on keeping up to date with videos so a little behind. I seriously love you so much, I think your so inspiring and just love how real and authentic you are. You never "put on a show" for your followers. Can't wait to see you on this journey with 2 kids!
On my fourth kid here, 20 weeks pregnant. And I ALWAYS tell expectant moms my biggest piece of advice: get a lactation consultant prior to birth, get to know them, have a rapport with them prior to delivery because if you have any issues, you’ll be scrambling to find a lactation consultant and hopefully getting in with them quickly.
I know I’ve already left like a dozen comments (haha commenting as I watch. 🥰) but I just love your approach - I’ve noticed this before just in general but I thought I’d mention it - I just really admire and love that you are so considerate of other family dynamics like all about “what works for you” yknow - I really wish more people thought like that. Personally, I agree so much like every mom has her journey so one needs to respect that. Something I really struggled with and still do is my in-laws. They’re great people but I found the unsolicited advice and probing questions/opinions to be unbearable and still do. Especially when I hear the “we did this for our son (aka my fiancée)” or the “everyone does this in our country” ... it just makes me feel so overwhelmed and defeated at times because I’m just like okay that’s wonderful that that worked out for you or you chose to do that but please respect that I don’t want to do things simply on the basis that you did it or people in your country do it? I have my own journey that I want to discover. There’s also been the expectation and question of baptizing which doesn’t coincide with my beliefs and they know that so it just makes me feel almost disrespected and unrecognized as the mom like I carried this baby and endured a labor, birth, postpartum experience which has its challenges and then there’s this expectation for me to do something with MY baby that I don’t personally agree with... (no disrespect to those who do partake in baptism practices!!! 💕) I especially felt defeated and still do because my fiancée is on the side of “let’s just do it so my parents will stop bothering me or so they won’t look at me bad” which to me is hard for me to wrap my head around because why should I be making others happy when it has to do with OUR baby .. believe it or not, this has just caused me so much grief. I live with my in laws so it’s been a struggle to enjoy my mom journey as I wanted. I just wanted to be undisturbed. As depressing as it might sound, I spend most of my time in our room so I can just have that peace of mind. Sorry I went on a bit of a rant - but I just wanted to let you know how empowering it felt to hear that and to have heard that in previous videos. I just feel like I’m in my safe space when I watch your videos. There’s never any hint of judgement and I just feel so validated and understood even though we are clearly strangers and I’m watching through a screen. I just find your videos especially sit down and talk ones like this to be incredibly comforting. It’s also been pretty cool that our babies were born within days of each other and we’re pretty much the same age (I’m turning 23 in May!) so it’s helped me feel less alone and to be able to watch your journey as I am going through mine at a very similar pace. Thank you for being such a positive voice and presence. I just needed to tell you this because you seriously deserve to know how beautiful of a person you are (both inside and out :) Stay amazing. Your baby boys are so blessed to have such an amazing mother to nurture them 💙💙 many blessings to you and your family 🥰
This resonated with me so much, as a wife, even though our situations are different. You are right in your feelings & I just want you to know that. Boundaries matter & decisions concerning YOUR family are between you and your husband. I encourage you BOTH to stand your ground. It will get easier with time. My husband & I have been married for 7 years. 8 in December. I don't know what your personal situation is but I'd also like to recommend getting your own place to put some distance between your family & in laws. Trust me, it will help your relationship with them & simplify things so that you and your family can flourish so much more. I wish you all the best.
I am so sorry your pediatrician treated you like that! That's so upsetting and not ok. You are such a great mom! You did breastfeed and you are your baby's source ♥️ I really loved this video because you always keep things real and honest. I think about what I will do differently with my next baby all the time and I'm not even pregnant lol
Breastfeeding is such an emotional topic to talk about. I planned to ebf but my baby’s latch was painful. I had probably 4 different nurses and 2 lactation consultants see me and try different positions and help her latch on. They all said it was a good latch and no lip/tongue tie, but that she was tongue thrusting. It felt like my nipples were being held into a garbage disposal lol. The hospital was very pro breastfeed and recommended me pumping since I couldn’t handle the pain. My milk hadn’t come in yet and pumping every 2 hours, not sleeping, it was super discouraging getting like .5 ounces of colostrum. My milk ended up coming in like 5 days later but I wasn’t sleeping, hardly eating and drinking so I couldn’t make myself stay up even later and pump after feeding her a bottle. I ended up giving into formula and felt so horrible and felt that way for a good month and a half but I do feel better now. Looking back I had no information and knew abosolutely nothing about pumping. I’m excited to have a chance again for future babies but am happy giving this one a bottle :) Anyways I’m so glad you shared your story about breastfeeding. And also the loneliness of pumping I 100% felt for the short time I did pump. I’ve cried countless times. It was so hard. You are very strong to push through and keep going. I feel like all of the stories I hear about breastfeeding are so close to picture perfect, I never hear the struggles that can come along with it. THANK YOU for sharing🙏🏼💛
Really appreciate your content and perspectives. I have 2 year toddler and a 8 Mos baby ! Here in Canada I get a year off with my baby and it still doesn't feel long enough 🤣😆
I sat in the bathroom crying so much when we first brought my daughter home because we had visitors every day and I was in so much pain and everyone held her and wouldn't give her back to me unless I said I needed to feed her. If God blesses me with another child ill be doing that different for sure!!
Ugh I feel so sorry you had such a terrible pediatrician & she made you feel like you shouldn’t breastfeed your baby. Having all the support is so important especially for a new mom who WANTS to breastfeed. That person should not be a pediatrician & should definitely find a different career! I also just want to mention that you should try to do lots of skin to skin with your baby in the first few weeks especially when breastfeeding. That’s what my lactation consultant suggested I do & I did with my baby girl for the first 3 or 4 weeks, every time I breastfed her I stripped her down to her diaper & I believe it helped so so so much with breastfeeding. I feel like it created such a strong bond & connection between me & my baby. Anyways you’re so amazing & your an amazing mama! Love your video Lys!
Ahh love you! Thank you for the comment! And yes she shouldn’t be 😭 it was in the wild times of cov*d and stressful for doctors I’m assuming but still!!!! I’m a patient! I should be cared for and my baby should be! She was way worse than I described!!! - also i did skin to skin ally everytime breastfeeding almost! And I’d get a bath with him in the first 3 weeks just to lay him on my chest. A subscriber actually gave me that tip 🥺😭🙏🏼🙏🏼 i remember being so thankful for that to lay skin to skin in the bath. I’ve talked about it before but in that moment it gave me the closest bond in that short moment (but then it went away)
Omg our time flies I can't believe you're so far in it and I agree no visitors people are so annoying and get all in your business when it comes with babies and who wants to deal with that when you're dealing with postpartum
That upsets me SO much that the pediatrician thought it was okay to talk to you like that and just downright disprespect you. That type of behavior and demeanor from her can be so detrimental especially as a new mom and all the hormones and how post partum depression can develop - omg that is just NOT okay. I’m so sorry you had to put up with that. You are an AMAZING mother and YOU know what’s best for YOUR babies. ♥️♥️♥️
I was so so so beyond frustrated and just drained by her! Had no direction too look bc she should’ve been it! Not all are that way clearly and it was right at the bringing of our “new normal” so i know she was stressed with that but STILL! Not okay. She needs to retire and let others in
Just found your channel! I’m pregnant with baby #2 as well due 9/17 & you go girl with no visitors for 2 weeks better than I was with my first it was 2 months for me 😂
I had my baby the week before thanksgiving, and I wish I stood up for my self about not having visitors. At one week postpartum I was deep cleaning my house because my husbands whole family was coming over for thanksgiving day, I don’t feel like I had time to relax and heal after having her because their was some at my house from the moment we got home from the hospital until we went back home for Christmas. I feel like me and my husband missed out on figuring out our family dynamic right away, and he felt like he didn’t get to bond with her right away either because a family member was constantly taking her away from him (they where trying to help) so they didn’t get to figure each other out until she was like a month old.
Do you have any dog mom tips?? We have a big boy German shedder too! How did he adjust? Anything you recommend to help the dog adjust, not coat the baby in hair or steal baby toys?! Lol my first baby girl is coming any day and I have been wondering about our dogs they have no clue how much of change their will be! Thanks again for an amazing video, your so sweet and beautiful 😍🥰
Thank youuu! And German shedder 😂😂 haha I’ve never heard that before lol! Soooo true HAHA! Also, we have a video of them meeting for the first time. We set baby in the car seat up on the kitchen table to bring baby farther away to our dog. Butttttt tips, first we gave a blanket and hat that he wore in hospital to my in laws that were watching our dog when we were in the hospital and he sniffed them (they videoed it and so sweet) 😭😍 and then this next time the next step we will do is have barrett see us first (without baby) bc he was so excited to see us in general. And we didn’t want him jumping on me after birth! - then baby in car seat up higher away from dog to let dog sniff - then when your comfortable hold baby in your arms up Hugh, then we sat on floor with Abby in our arms. He didn’t really care anymore after he sniffed baby and was more excited to see us than anything else honestly. - and he then quickly LOVED him!!! If you haven’t seen my IGTV on Instagram you should bc it’s our German Shepherd and baby growing up so sweet!!! Alsooooo no tips on not getting baby hairy it jsut happens! 🤷🏻♀️ for us anyways. I guess if you don’t get hair on your clothes at your house then your baby probably won’t. But i get hair on my clothes always and so does my son but I’m so used to it and don’t notice anymore lol
And he adjusted so so well! They are so amazing and such family dogs! Your GSD will definitely realize he’s family and loved by you and your GSD will become protective and loving to him! ITS SO SWEET! We trust them together so so so much! They laugh and play and Wesson hugs him and kisses him so sweet! 🥺
And toys... not really :/ our dog is 2.5 so he’s slowed down on chewing and buying I’d imagine if he was a puppy still it’d honestly be a challenge! Barrett (our GSD) has chewed toys up unfortunately:( so no tips really! But it hasn’t been tons. It sucks but what can ya do i guess
Thank you so much! I have heard of the dad taking the dog for a walk to tire him out a bit first. I will definitely do the blanket and hat smell introductions.. thank you!!! I can't believe baby boy #2 is already getting so close!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰 love you lady, sending you prayers I can't imagine the strength it takes to share so much online but I can't thank you enough 🙏
I had family come over and watch the football and I was exhausted. My husband wanted to have them over I had blood on my dressing gown! My other sons birth my husband was left to catch up with his grandmother only a few days after I had our son. I should have said no! My third I had a prem and the only up side from that was I didnt have to deal with any visitors. I'm now pregnant with my 4th I'll be saying a firm no on visitors and I just want my kids home with us not taken away. My third was so separated for months and this time I want to enjoy it with my family together! I need time to sort out my routine!!! I get upset when I remember these things.and the ones that were inconsiderate were woman that had children and knew what it was like!!!
Well know here soon enough ;) either a positive test will come along or your period will pick back up. You could always possibly be like me and thinking your period should be coming on a bit early??? That’s what happened with me bc I thought I ovulated on regular timeframe, but really i ovulated a whole week later, therefore pushing my positive pregnancy test/period timeframe back a week as well. If that makes sense 💛💛 in my finding out I’m pregnant video everyone tells me I’m testing too early which yes a was BUT it was on schedule with my regular cycle so if it was normal it would’ve been the right timing but i just had an abnormally long cycle
@@LysHeaster I’m not quite sure. I use an app to keep up and it has never been wrong. So it’s strange. I want a baby right now but my husband lol so I’m hoping maybe my period comes back but if not and I’m pregnant it will be my second blessing! Pregnancy is so exciting and I love being pregnant. It’s like I told you before I’d always be pregnant if I could be! Haha
you’re definitely one of my favorite UA-camrs. you are so real & positive about everything 💕
Aw 🥺 well thank you so much for that! I really appreciate it and I’m glad you can take something away from what I post and share 💛🙏🏼
I love how honest you are. It is uncomfortable when you and baby are trying to learn what works best when breastfeeding and you have people coming in and out. But in any situation remember it’s your home and your baby if baby is hungry and you need to feed thin don’t feel bad for having some one on one time ❤️
I am so glad you made that distinction. That is your baby. You grew that baby in your body for 9 months. There isn't another soul on this earth who will know your baby better than you. Never, ever let a pediatrician bully you, guilt you or strong-arm you into doing something that you don't feel comfortable with, including vaccinating. You got this. You are a wonderful, loving momma.
Aw thank you so so so much 🙏🏼🙏🏼 and i totally know that and feel that in me know and I feel so grateful too 💪🏻 thank you 🥺
Not started a family yet but I always envisaged having friends and family visit first couple of days to get the first visit out the way then not allow any for a while. But hearing your thoughts and experience has made me question. Would be interested to see what others have done. Your mention of bonds and having others hold the baby so much in the first two weeks etc... makes me think so much.
I love how you keep your dog as member of your family after giving birth. There are way too many people who will almost forget they have a dog once they have a kid and I absolutely hate those people
And also it's absolutely crazy to me that in America you have to go back to work WEEKS after giving birth. Here in Czech Republic you get around 30 weeks of paid maternity leave (better money, almost like at work, it's calculated from your previous income) and then you get 1-4 YEARS of parenting support. Which is basically same amount of money for everyone, divided into 1-4 years as you wish... you can have a part time job with that, because if you divide for 3 or 4 years it's not that much money per month, but it's still a great system I think. Although it's extremely uncommon here to have nanny or someone else watching your baby.
Oh wow that is so interesting and how cool!!! Wow!!! And yes about dog 🥺🥺🥺 he’s our family and not just a “dog” or “pet” he’s perfection lol and has a part of my heart for literally ever
In the uk you get a years paid maternity leave which is good too.
girl, yes to everything you said, especially the part about how everyone is all about the baby, yet don’t realize that baby and mom are practically a symbiotic relationship and both need support and attention. i Honestly felt so ignored for months and walked on during my entire birthing experience in the hospital but just like you i’ve wised up and will be doing so many things differently.
Yesssss. Just all yes. The pressure as a new mom from everything, just let it go and trust your inner mom instincts. You are speaking my heart in this video. 31 weeks Pregnant with our second boy too😭
yes yes yesssss congrats mama
So proud of you for giving it a go again. You rock Momma. My son is 13 months and has been Bf since birth. Not been an easy journey at all but we are still here going stringed and had so much support from my hubby and family. Keep going Mamma I’m here if you need help. Xxx
Omg when you got to the breastfeeding part... it’s like I was watching myself talk about how my experience was in the beginning. I had such a rough painful start and that pain lasted 3 months and the few breastfeeding mom friends I have would be like “it’s still hurting? It shouldn’t be hurting anymore.” Wasn’t able to see a lactation consultant due to covid but I just fought through the pain... was so close to giving up but I also was hearing about the formula shortage in my area at the time and even though it was so hard on me to breastfeed I was so grateful that I was able to and it was scary to think if I wasn’t able to breastfeed and couldn’t find formula to feed my baby... I felt for the moms in the those hard times. Here I am almost 14 months in and my son still breastfeeds for bedtime and naps and a few times during the night.
You did breastfeed. Even moms who breastfed only in the hospital for the colostrum, they breastfed. Breastfeeding is breastfeeding. If you have a baby attached to your boob getting milk from you, even pumping is breastfeeding. If your baby is getting milk from you physically or in a bottle but came from you, you’re breastfeeding.
Loved the video and yes girl stand up for yourself and your baby 💛 I wish I did
This is such good info! We’re starting to think of starting a family and I already started a list of boundaries. I just hope my family and friends respect them and don’t take it personally.
Absolutely!!! I wish more family/friends would do jsut that respect wishes and understand where the person is coming from with love 💛 good luck jgirl!
@@LysHeaster exactly! Thank you 🤍
YES to cluster feeding 🙌 Especially the first few months! I swear that’s what has helped my milk supply! We are strictly breastfeeding and I’ve never had the need to pump or done much to keep my supply up (like teas and oats). Here and there I’ll drink body armors. My daughter will be 8 months on April 22nd and we are still going STRONG. But as always fed is best!! So happy for you guys ❤️
AW YAY MAMA OMG! Love that!!!! Did it give you constant pain and dread or no? I gotta make sure I’m not allowing myself to feed off that instense pain and blood
@@LysHeaster the first few weeks yes /: very much so.
I can relate to you so much we were pregnant at the same time with our first and when I had given birth I also didn’t sleep and I was awake for 36hours before I just couldn’t go anymore. You aren’t on your own ❤️
How do you not have more subsribers? You are beyond real and raw it's amazing! I am also expecting. My son is 5 months and I am waiting for an appt to see how far along I am. I am in many mom groups but I just can't find anyone talking about having babies so close in age and I just found you about 2 days ago. Literally just keep being you girl!!
Hello! My Name is Ellie and I have a 1 month old baby named Westin! And I have been breastfeeding and I lost my supply at like 2 weeks and then I drank a ton of water and ate oatmeal and was pumping a ton and I got my supply back!! And it’s better than ever!! I love your videos so much!! ❤️❤️
Yay mama!!! Go you! 😍
@@LysHeaster
I’ll be praying for your delivery and Breastfeeding journey! I hope everything goes well! It’s so awesome/funny how my sons name is Westin and your is Wesson! Sending prayers your way! ❤️❤️
I literally agree so muxh with all of this!!!!
Also that doctor🤬 it is besides me that any medical person can be like this to post partum women... they actually have such a huge impact on the way we feel!
Ummmm YES! It was awful 😭😭😭 like way worse than what i even shared!
in postpartum nursing they teach you that pain while nursing is actually something to be addressed sooner than later like pain or like nipple tenderness is obviously a thing. but actual pain isn't so lactation consultant is a great resource and is encouraged even before discharge for all moms.
In the hospital breastfeeding was seemingly just fine and the LC was great! And then after home and constant sucking they got so bad and left so much pain 😭 i definitely should’ve called sooner than 1 month but I didn’t :/ I’m do that differently! And I couldn’t even be seen so that was rough too! Then I was on calls and emails for 1.5 months after even. But I wanna be seen this next time for sure. I’ll even drive hours away if need be 🙏🏼 I don’t wanna hurt like I did. I’m suuuuuper curious if it was a tongue or lip tie???
Been slacking on keeping up to date with videos so a little behind. I seriously love you so much, I think your so inspiring and just love how real and authentic you are. You never "put on a show" for your followers. Can't wait to see you on this journey with 2 kids!
On my fourth kid here, 20 weeks pregnant. And I ALWAYS tell expectant moms my biggest piece of advice: get a lactation consultant prior to birth, get to know them, have a rapport with them prior to delivery because if you have any issues, you’ll be scrambling to find a lactation consultant and hopefully getting in with them quickly.
I know I’ve already left like a dozen comments (haha commenting as I watch. 🥰) but I just love your approach - I’ve noticed this before just in general but I thought I’d mention it - I just really admire and love that you are so considerate of other family dynamics like all about “what works for you” yknow - I really wish more people thought like that. Personally, I agree so much like every mom has her journey so one needs to respect that. Something I really struggled with and still do is my in-laws. They’re great people but I found the unsolicited advice and probing questions/opinions to be unbearable and still do. Especially when I hear the “we did this for our son (aka my fiancée)” or the “everyone does this in our country” ... it just makes me feel so overwhelmed and defeated at times because I’m just like okay that’s wonderful that that worked out for you or you chose to do that but please respect that I don’t want to do things simply on the basis that you did it or people in your country do it? I have my own journey that I want to discover. There’s also been the expectation and question of baptizing which doesn’t coincide with my beliefs and they know that so it just makes me feel almost disrespected and unrecognized as the mom like I carried this baby and endured a labor, birth, postpartum experience which has its challenges and then there’s this expectation for me to do something with MY baby that I don’t personally agree with... (no disrespect to those who do partake in baptism practices!!! 💕) I especially felt defeated and still do because my fiancée is on the side of “let’s just do it so my parents will stop bothering me or so they won’t look at me bad” which to me is hard for me to wrap my head around because why should I be making others happy when it has to do with OUR baby .. believe it or not, this has just caused me so much grief. I live with my in laws so it’s been a struggle to enjoy my mom journey as I wanted. I just wanted to be undisturbed. As depressing as it might sound, I spend most of my time in our room so I can just have that peace of mind. Sorry I went on a bit of a rant - but I just wanted to let you know how empowering it felt to hear that and to have heard that in previous videos. I just feel like I’m in my safe space when I watch your videos. There’s never any hint of judgement and I just feel so validated and understood even though we are clearly strangers and I’m watching through a screen. I just find your videos especially sit down and talk ones like this to be incredibly comforting. It’s also been pretty cool that our babies were born within days of each other and we’re pretty much the same age (I’m turning 23 in May!) so it’s helped me feel less alone and to be able to watch your journey as I am going through mine at a very similar pace. Thank you for being such a positive voice and presence. I just needed to tell you this because you seriously deserve to know how beautiful of a person you are (both inside and out :) Stay amazing. Your baby boys are so blessed to have such an amazing mother to nurture them 💙💙 many blessings to you and your family 🥰
This resonated with me so much, as a wife, even though our situations are different. You are right in your feelings & I just want you to know that. Boundaries matter & decisions concerning YOUR family are between you and your husband. I encourage you BOTH to stand your ground. It will get easier with time. My husband & I have been married for 7 years. 8 in December. I don't know what your personal situation is but I'd also like to recommend getting your own place to put some distance between your family & in laws. Trust me, it will help your relationship with them & simplify things so that you and your family can flourish so much more. I wish you all the best.
I am so sorry your pediatrician treated you like that! That's so upsetting and not ok. You are such a great mom! You did breastfeed and you are your baby's source ♥️ I really loved this video because you always keep things real and honest. I think about what I will do differently with my next baby all the time and I'm not even pregnant lol
Breastfeeding is such an emotional topic to talk about. I planned to ebf but my baby’s latch was painful. I had probably 4 different nurses and 2 lactation consultants see me and try different positions and help her latch on. They all said it was a good latch and no lip/tongue tie, but that she was tongue thrusting. It felt like my nipples were being held into a garbage disposal lol. The hospital was very pro breastfeed and recommended me pumping since I couldn’t handle the pain. My milk hadn’t come in yet and pumping every 2 hours, not sleeping, it was super discouraging getting like .5 ounces of colostrum. My milk ended up coming in like 5 days later but I wasn’t sleeping, hardly eating and drinking so I couldn’t make myself stay up even later and pump after feeding her a bottle. I ended up giving into formula and felt so horrible and felt that way for a good month and a half but I do feel better now. Looking back I had no information and knew abosolutely nothing about pumping. I’m excited to have a chance again for future babies but am happy giving this one a bottle :) Anyways I’m so glad you shared your story about breastfeeding. And also the loneliness of pumping I 100% felt for the short time I did pump. I’ve cried countless times. It was so hard. You are very strong to push through and keep going. I feel like all of the stories I hear about breastfeeding are so close to picture perfect, I never hear the struggles that can come along with it. THANK YOU for sharing🙏🏼💛
❤️❤️❤️ love watching your content. This helps us first time mamas so much 💙
yess girl.. always here, if you need me. Ive been through it all.. Ill be back in August
Really appreciate your content and perspectives. I have 2 year toddler and a 8 Mos baby ! Here in Canada I get a year off with my baby and it still doesn't feel long enough 🤣😆
Aw yay I’m so glad you do thats so great! I’m glad 😊😊
I sat in the bathroom crying so much when we first brought my daughter home because we had visitors every day and I was in so much pain and everyone held her and wouldn't give her back to me unless I said I needed to feed her. If God blesses me with another child ill be doing that different for sure!!
Ugh I feel so sorry you had such a terrible pediatrician & she made you feel like you shouldn’t breastfeed your baby. Having all the support is so important especially for a new mom who WANTS to breastfeed. That person should not be a pediatrician & should definitely find a different career! I also just want to mention that you should try to do lots of skin to skin with your baby in the first few weeks especially when breastfeeding. That’s what my lactation consultant suggested I do & I did with my baby girl for the first 3 or 4 weeks, every time I breastfed her I stripped her down to her diaper & I believe it helped so so so much with breastfeeding. I feel like it created such a strong bond & connection between me & my baby. Anyways you’re so amazing & your an amazing mama! Love your video Lys!
Ahh love you! Thank you for the comment! And yes she shouldn’t be 😭 it was in the wild times of cov*d and stressful for doctors I’m assuming but still!!!! I’m a patient! I should be cared for and my baby should be! She was way worse than I described!!! - also i did skin to skin ally everytime breastfeeding almost! And I’d get a bath with him in the first 3 weeks just to lay him on my chest. A subscriber actually gave me that tip 🥺😭🙏🏼🙏🏼 i remember being so thankful for that to lay skin to skin in the bath. I’ve talked about it before but in that moment it gave me the closest bond in that short moment (but then it went away)
Omg our time flies I can't believe you're so far in it and I agree no visitors people are so annoying and get all in your business when it comes with babies and who wants to deal with that when you're dealing with postpartum
That upsets me SO much that the pediatrician thought it was okay to talk to you like that and just downright disprespect you. That type of behavior and demeanor from her can be so detrimental especially as a new mom and all the hormones and how post partum depression can develop - omg that is just NOT okay. I’m so sorry you had to put up with that. You are an AMAZING mother and YOU know what’s best for YOUR babies. ♥️♥️♥️
I was so so so beyond frustrated and just drained by her! Had no direction too look bc she should’ve been it! Not all are that way clearly and it was right at the bringing of our “new normal” so i know she was stressed with that but STILL! Not okay. She needs to retire and let others in
Omg yesss I love being at the hospital! Steven and I view it as a mini vacay and love every second of it!! Lol
Congratulations girl !!!! I am happy for you
Just found your channel! I’m pregnant with baby #2 as well due 9/17 & you go girl with no visitors for 2 weeks better than I was with my first it was 2 months for me 😂
Hahahah omg yes see that’s great!!! 2 week minimum ;) see you can always start there and then change as you go;) lol! Thank you for subscribing 😍😍
I didn't do blinkies at all for any of my kids best choice ever
I had my baby the week before thanksgiving, and I wish I stood up for my self about not having visitors. At one week postpartum I was deep cleaning my house because my husbands whole family was coming over for thanksgiving day, I don’t feel like I had time to relax and heal after having her because their was some at my house from the moment we got home from the hospital until we went back home for Christmas. I feel like me and my husband missed out on figuring out our family dynamic right away, and he felt like he didn’t get to bond with her right away either because a family member was constantly taking her away from him (they where trying to help) so they didn’t get to figure each other out until she was like a month old.
So excited for you ! 🥰
What lip products do you use? You are beautiful!! & thanks for always keeping it real.
Congratulations on your new car lys!! It's absolutely beautiful, are you going to do a car tour??
Do you have any dog mom tips?? We have a big boy German shedder too! How did he adjust? Anything you recommend to help the dog adjust, not coat the baby in hair or steal baby toys?! Lol my first baby girl is coming any day and I have been wondering about our dogs they have no clue how much of change their will be!
Thanks again for an amazing video, your so sweet and beautiful 😍🥰
Thank youuu! And German shedder 😂😂 haha I’ve never heard that before lol! Soooo true HAHA! Also, we have a video of them meeting for the first time. We set baby in the car seat up on the kitchen table to bring baby farther away to our dog. Butttttt tips, first we gave a blanket and hat that he wore in hospital to my in laws that were watching our dog when we were in the hospital and he sniffed them (they videoed it and so sweet) 😭😍 and then this next time the next step we will do is have barrett see us first (without baby) bc he was so excited to see us in general. And we didn’t want him jumping on me after birth! - then baby in car seat up higher away from dog to let dog sniff - then when your comfortable hold baby in your arms up Hugh, then we sat on floor with Abby in our arms. He didn’t really care anymore after he sniffed baby and was more excited to see us than anything else honestly. - and he then quickly LOVED him!!!
If you haven’t seen my IGTV on Instagram you should bc it’s our German Shepherd and baby growing up so sweet!!!
Alsooooo no tips on not getting baby hairy it jsut happens! 🤷🏻♀️ for us anyways. I guess if you don’t get hair on your clothes at your house then your baby probably won’t. But i get hair on my clothes always and so does my son but I’m so used to it and don’t notice anymore lol
And he adjusted so so well! They are so amazing and such family dogs! Your GSD will definitely realize he’s family and loved by you and your GSD will become protective and loving to him! ITS SO SWEET! We trust them together so so so much! They laugh and play and Wesson hugs him and kisses him so sweet! 🥺
And toys... not really :/ our dog is 2.5 so he’s slowed down on chewing and buying I’d imagine if he was a puppy still it’d honestly be a challenge! Barrett (our GSD) has chewed toys up unfortunately:( so no tips really! But it hasn’t been tons. It sucks but what can ya do i guess
Thank you so much! I have heard of the dad taking the dog for a walk to tire him out a bit first. I will definitely do the blanket and hat smell introductions.. thank you!!! I can't believe baby boy #2 is already getting so close!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰 love you lady, sending you prayers I can't imagine the strength it takes to share so much online but I can't thank you enough 🙏
At the beginning I thought you were about to say “I went out to get milk and came back with a car” hahahahaha
HAHAHAHAH DEAD DUDE 💀
I had family come over and watch the football and I was exhausted. My husband wanted to have them over I had blood on my dressing gown! My other sons birth my husband was left to catch up with his grandmother only a few days after I had our son. I should have said no!
My third I had a prem and the only up side from that was I didnt have to deal with any visitors. I'm now pregnant with my 4th I'll be saying a firm no on visitors and I just want my kids home with us not taken away. My third was so separated for months and this time I want to enjoy it with my family together! I need time to sort out my routine!!! I get upset when I remember these things.and the ones that were inconsiderate were woman that had children and knew what it was like!!!
Can you do a story time about why it is your last baby!
I share about it quite a bit in my last q&a 💛
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Always know what to do after the first kid!
Yes helps strength the way 💛
What kind of car is this, I love the interior
Thank you!! So do we 😍 it’s a bmw x3
@@LysHeaster i need one😩 after i watch this i’m gonna look😏
I am 4 days late on my period and I took a pregnancy test and they both came back negative. I’m not sure what’s going on.
Well know here soon enough ;) either a positive test will come along or your period will pick back up. You could always possibly be like me and thinking your period should be coming on a bit early??? That’s what happened with me bc I thought I ovulated on regular timeframe, but really i ovulated a whole week later, therefore pushing my positive pregnancy test/period timeframe back a week as well. If that makes sense 💛💛 in my finding out I’m pregnant video everyone tells me I’m testing too early which yes a was BUT it was on schedule with my regular cycle so if it was normal it would’ve been the right timing but i just had an abnormally long cycle
@@LysHeaster I’m not quite sure. I use an app to keep up and it has never been wrong. So it’s strange. I want a baby right now but my husband lol so I’m hoping maybe my period comes back but if not and I’m pregnant it will be my second blessing! Pregnancy is so exciting and I love being pregnant. It’s like I told you before I’d always be pregnant if I could be! Haha
The more baby feeds the more milk will be produced. Xx
A pedestrian that didn’t support breastfeeding?! Run away quickly!
I agree! I did lol
How about when family isn’t supportive of no visitors ... hard !
I just locked the house door 😂
hookinani😭😭😭
Hahahaha yessss the hookinani 😂
You are so stunningly beautiful it is untrue! :O