First of all, congratulations on this new men's podcast. It will be a massive success. We had a men's get-together listening to your show. Something happened that was an eye-opener of how drastically the same narrative that was told to us for decades was something mentioned by you when you said we as men need to find other ways to love outside of our wallet as soon as we all heard that the room was entirely silent. There we have four ambitious, outspoken men, and as soon as you said outside of our wallet what can we do, I felt that hit us all like a ton of bricks that you can hear a pin drop in the room. After the podcast was over, I could tell that statement was a mind screw to all of us as we have been told as men in our adolescent years to work hard, make money, get a solid career, and be the breadwinner of our family. After what you said, my friends admitted they didn't know how to amass a certain type of woman without showing pride in their achievements. The first question we get is about our career, so when something has been hammered to us for years, it is like Stockholm syndrome; this is all we know that to soothe a specific type of swag it comes with confidence in our finances, so seeing how you challenged us black men to think outside of our finances is like having us in the therapy of a reset. I love you, April, but myself included, and my friends it is apparent we have been programmed with the same talk: you aren't a man if you are not paying the bills. It's a narrative hammered to us in film, TV, church, school, work settings, and politics, so how do we get away from it? I feel after hearing this, I think I need therapy because it's been told to me for years, so what do we do as a black race if we are being told repeatedly that we must make six figures?
Thank you so much for sharing this heartfelt reflection. Your willingness to be vulnerable and open about the impact of that moment is truly inspiring. It’s conversations like these that help us grow and rethink the narratives we’ve been taught. I’m grateful to be a part of this journey with you and your friends. Stay encouraged; we’re all unlearning and evolving together.❤
As a wife that's been married for 9 years, I am taking notes lol It's so intriguing to hear what men are thinking and I love that married men are calling in.
Decentering men, to me, does not mean “i dont want a relationship with a man”. To me, it means, im going to focus on me my wants my life my hobbies, im going to built me up……… that’s my focus. Im going to come first to me, my main focus isnt going to be him. But neways, let me go head and watch the rest of this 💕
You gave friend zone Frank the perfect advice. We do like a man that knows what he wants and goes after it, when he’s well groomed, hygiene on point and smells goood.
1:15:30 what if the man’s perception isn’t what he thinks…let’s say a person is learning, growing, etc. we can’t assume people know all the things. Why hold a person accountable for what can possibly happen versus what is actually happening at that time.
And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. Genesis 2:18 “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh." - Genesis 2:24 and the two shall become one flesh’; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. Mark 10:8 Marriage is a refinement of your spirit, you should be in a relationship with someone that helps you GROW on your journey through life. 19 “Again[d] I say to you that if two of you agree on earth concerning anything that they ask, it will be done for them by My Father in heaven 20 For where two or three are gathered together in My name, I am there in the midst of them.” Matthew 18:19-20 and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’. Matthew 19:5
First of all, congratulations on this new men's podcast. It will be a massive success. We had a men's get-together listening to your show. Something happened that was an eye-opener of how drastically the same narrative that was told to us for decades was something mentioned by you when you said we as men need to find other ways to love outside of our wallet as soon as we all heard that the room was entirely silent.
There we have four ambitious, outspoken men, and as soon as you said outside of our wallet what can we do, I felt that hit us all like a ton of bricks that you can hear a pin drop in the room. After the podcast was over, I could tell that statement was a mind screw to all of us as we have been told as men in our adolescent years to work hard, make money, get a solid career, and be the breadwinner of our family. After what you said, my friends admitted they didn't know how to amass a certain type of woman without showing pride in their achievements.
The first question we get is about our career, so when something has been hammered to us for years, it is like Stockholm syndrome; this is all we know that to soothe a specific type of swag it comes with confidence in our finances, so seeing how you challenged us black men to think outside of our finances is like having us in the therapy of a reset. I love you, April, but myself included, and my friends it is apparent we have been programmed with the same talk: you aren't a man if you are not paying the bills. It's a narrative hammered to us in film, TV, church, school, work settings, and politics, so how do we get away from it? I feel after hearing this, I think I need therapy because it's been told to me for years, so what do we do as a black race if we are being told repeatedly that we must make six figures?
Thank you so much for sharing this heartfelt reflection. Your willingness to be vulnerable and open about the impact of that moment is truly inspiring. It’s conversations like these that help us grow and rethink the narratives we’ve been taught. I’m grateful to be a part of this journey with you and your friends. Stay encouraged; we’re all unlearning and evolving together.❤
Great insight
Ladies 😂😂😂 stop upsetting Ms. April! Let her do her thing! Just shut up and listen, take notes, learn something! Because this is great!
Ok! They stay upsetting her!! lol
As a wife that's been married for 9 years, I am taking notes lol It's so intriguing to hear what men are thinking and I love that married men are calling in.
This was great, I enjoyed the men's perspectives. They were respectful and insightful.
Congratulations on your new podcast! 🥳 Wow, now this!… is so good. There are some great gems 💎 here!
Yay, thank you!
Decentering men, to me, does not mean “i dont want a relationship with a man”. To me, it means, im going to focus on me my wants my life my hobbies, im going to built me up……… that’s my focus. Im going to come first to me, my main focus isnt going to be him. But neways, let me go head and watch the rest of this 💕
Life and Love to All the Devine Created. 😊 🎉 🐦 📦 🌐 🖤 🍓 💐
Love hearing a males perspective, great podcast Ms April😊❤
Great debut! This is going to be fun and enlightening. Continued success to you Ms. April🌺🌺🌺
Thank you so much!
Always A Pleasure💌
Friendzone Frank lol 😂😂 help them lol
This was amazing. Love this ❤
Love this 💛💛
Ms. Mason, this is a beautiful podcast.
Very good introductory show. I'm looking forward to hearing more. Can you provide info on your social club.
Excellent!!!
I'm happy about this Ms.April
You gave friend zone Frank the perfect advice. We do like a man that knows what he wants and goes after it, when he’s well groomed, hygiene on point and smells goood.
Love your feminine voice
❤❤❤❤
Loving this
Amazing
Love this, thank you April
❤
We can hear you
Yes, Frank.. if she’s anything like me she hates a hint. Just say it
We Appreciate the Heavens out of this Lovely Lady’
1:15:30 what if the man’s perception isn’t what he thinks…let’s say a person is learning, growing, etc. we can’t assume people know all the things. Why hold a person accountable for what can possibly happen versus what is actually happening at that time.
Love her ❤
And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. Genesis 2:18
“That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh." - Genesis 2:24
and the two shall become one flesh’; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. Mark 10:8
Marriage is a refinement of your spirit, you should be in a relationship with someone that helps you GROW on your journey through life.
19 “Again[d] I say to you that if two of you agree on earth concerning anything that they ask, it will be done for them by My Father in heaven 20 For where two or three are gathered together in My name, I am there in the midst of them.” Matthew 18:19-20
and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’. Matthew 19:5