Elderly & Living Alone The Cost of Isolation

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  • Опубліковано 16 гру 2024

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  • @clambake3293
    @clambake3293 16 годин тому +7

    why is it always considered sad when someone dies alone? maybe its best for many

    • @derekmarsden8934
      @derekmarsden8934 15 годин тому

      I couldn't agree more. Can't think of anything worse than people fussing around you and getting upset.

    • @SaltyDraws
      @SaltyDraws 5 годин тому +1

      I call it Couple Tyranny

  • @ovlov245
    @ovlov245 2 години тому

    Another best video Mike , well presented and all too , you are a gem! Les

  • @markmitera4521
    @markmitera4521 22 години тому +6

    One of the whole reasons I came to the Philippines is to have a family. Another great video with great advice Mike!

  • @rjoetting7594
    @rjoetting7594 17 годин тому +2

    I always remind myself that today is the first day of the rest of my life.
    There's no guarantee that tomorrow will come.
    Make the most of every day and every moment ( it could be your last)and even if your girlfriend/wife is half your age, she's not guaranteed a tomorrow either, so thinking that she's going to be your caretaker might not happen. And if you are married, then her family is your family, and yours is hers.

  • @marcozopfi1736
    @marcozopfi1736 День тому +3

    Good worthy release feature, once again, sir Mike. Thanks for passing through such relevant thoughtful eyes-openers on us viewers. Well done on continuency.

    • @mikesphilippineretirement
      @mikesphilippineretirement  День тому +1

      Thank you kindly!

    • @marcozopfi1736
      @marcozopfi1736 День тому +1

      @mikesphilippineretirement highly appreciative thanks for being around there Mike. You run a quite informative no-nonsense channel. And that is a worthy thing nowadays.

  • @fifarage7389
    @fifarage7389 День тому +11

    The son was the owner of the property, James wouldn't have been able to lease it out as it wasn't his property.

  • @theadaptivefitnesschannel4308
    @theadaptivefitnesschannel4308 10 годин тому +1

    Great video, Mike! I have a good Filipina from a good family and I help them all. they treat me like one of their own. You are absolutely right you reap what you sow in the Philippines.
    I am confident that my Filipino family will do right by me if I ever need them. However, you have also convinced me to not be so cold toward ex-pats when I’m in the Philippines. I usually turn my head and walk the other way as soon as I see them coming.
    But you make a good point when you say we all get there one day if we live long enough, we will all need someone.
    So I’ll do better and be more friendly towards expats in the future.💯👊🏾🇵🇭

  • @samlolham2327
    @samlolham2327 День тому +4

    Great advice, another great video, thx Mike!

  • @gibblespascack1418
    @gibblespascack1418 21 годину тому +3

    The one thing that helps a person live longer is having a good social and family network. You need one or the other because you can not do everything for yourself up until you die, unless if you get hit by a car, truck, or bus. Other than that, it is a slow to medium walk down hill that you spent a lifetime climbing.

  • @JimboandGhen
    @JimboandGhen 22 години тому +2

    wow, good eye opener and you hit it on the spot too, they could go before we do. Good advice today brother!

  • @MisterDigDug
    @MisterDigDug 15 годин тому +1

    Wise words. It would be a tragic way to spend the final years of life if you weren’t a friend to others.
    Be happy in later years. You are retired, enjoying a new country, maybe a new love, and are closer to meeting your Lord. Not bad at all if you are a believer.

  • @rolandmueller7218
    @rolandmueller7218 16 годин тому +1

    Yes, that’s true. My mother is 87 and in readonably good health. My father is 78 and in hospice care. My mother is his main caregiver now. Luckily, she is getting some help.

  • @dannymckenzie3676
    @dannymckenzie3676 10 годин тому

    I felt all of that Mike!! Stay up

  • @judekidder
    @judekidder 12 годин тому +1

    Good video Mike Thumbs 👍

  • @mistermcluvin2425
    @mistermcluvin2425 21 годину тому +1

    Great video Mike, interesting topic. This is happening in the the US too and it's very common now in other countries. For some reason many men spend their final years isolated and alone then eventually just pass away via unattended d3ath. Sad.

  • @ofeliacabasal3948
    @ofeliacabasal3948 8 годин тому

    You gave a very good advice for these expats who are there now and for future expats ❤

  • @travelw.b12oo3
    @travelw.b12oo3 День тому +5

    "No man is an island" indeed!!!

  • @haroldholton1246
    @haroldholton1246 23 години тому +2

    Hey Mike! Just wanted to say that i seem to get something out of your videos. 😊 Thanks for helping to correct our very poor thinking 🤔 and Bad habits! You are truly a good man!

  • @Geoduck.
    @Geoduck. 11 годин тому

    Mental illness is not uncommon for older folks and nothing to be ashamed of. With age dementia, depression and or anxiety may slowly manifest itself. Self diagnosing is difficult especially if alcohol is involved.
    Having true friends and family is so important. Also giving to others and helping others.

  • @peterpoulter1420
    @peterpoulter1420 День тому +3

    Mike if something happens to your wife and your in the latter stages of life get a house keeper to move in . If you’re not interested in her family and never had been that’s ok for the small cost of a maid it would be definitely worth it . Thanks for the video. Cheers 🍻

  • @CraigHenderson-u9b
    @CraigHenderson-u9b 2 години тому

    Good video. I worry about making new friends and feeling lonely until I develop a group. Meeting a philippina would certainly help as well.

  • @karlenzmann
    @karlenzmann 21 годину тому +1

    Another great video Mike. These types of videos make you think about where you are in life, and where you want to go.
    I’m 14 months from retirement, and plan to move to the Philippines after I’m done working. I hope and pray I find the right girl. And I’ll be honest, I prefer it if she’s a single mom, with a child 3 or 4 years old, maybe up to 8 to 10 years old. I’d be happy if she’s from a big family (for me that’s 3 or 4 siblings), because that will make the holidays more enjoyable…I’ll still come back to the states to see my kids, but they are in the beginnings of their own careers and families, so their plates are pretty full…The last thing I would want is to be in my 80’s, and have burnt all my bridges behind me…that to me is a scary thought.
    Salamat

    • @clambake3293
      @clambake3293 16 годин тому +1

      nice thoughts but why scary?

    • @karlenzmann
      @karlenzmann 14 годин тому

      @ …the thought of spending the final years of your life alone. No family, no friends…I don’t lay awake at night worrying about it, but in my opinion it’s scary, and sad…

  • @jonfisher5351
    @jonfisher5351 22 години тому +1

    Well said mike. And such an important topic. People investing in people.. That's the deal with family. Especially if you live in the philippines. You take care of her and her family and they take care of you.

  • @Limixiton
    @Limixiton День тому

    It never hurts to have good, reliable relationships/friendship in this world. It goes a long way indeed. Great advice Mike. You can’t take resources to the grave. Be 😊

  • @manuelroque5840
    @manuelroque5840 14 годин тому

    Thanks for the eye opener! Will take it to heart.😊👍🙏

  • @BR10426
    @BR10426 15 годин тому +1

    Sad, but everybody is born alone and dies alone. The reality is that our thoughts are ours alone during or life, we are always alone with our thoughts!

  • @duanebock840
    @duanebock840 20 годин тому +1

    Great video

  • @paulk8444
    @paulk8444 19 годин тому

    Mike it's these wise words that truly make me want to sit down and talk with you and try to gain some of that Knowledge and experience. While i also thought one has to be a friend to have a friend; as making that consistent effort in our busy lives takes effort. While James may also seem like he died alone he did it on his terms and can serve as a cautionary tale to those of us who don't wish to end up that way. But at same time life doesn't always go the way we planned; so we just have to Adjust and Adapt and accept whatever God has planned for us.

  • @DesertVox
    @DesertVox День тому +1

    One the tragic but remediable issues with dementia is that a good diet can heal or mitigate it, but as these ppl get older, they tend to have poorer diets either because of finances or ianbility to cook and buy/grow good healthy organic food. So, it's a vicious cycle, but avoidable with help from others.

    • @mikesphilippineretirement
      @mikesphilippineretirement  День тому +1

      the apple a day/ BS

    • @jasonjames4254
      @jasonjames4254 День тому +1

      While diet and exercise helps with everything, there is no scientific evidence that dementia can be cured or mitigated with diet alone. About 13% of all Americans over the age of 75 have dementia. This includes vegans and carnivores, couch potatoes and athletes, janitors and astrophysicists, and everything in between. This has been studied in depth.

  • @kathleengarcia3261
    @kathleengarcia3261 19 годин тому

    Very informative video Mike. My wife and I are buying property in the Philippines and there are ways to protect yourself even if she dies first. See a lawyer and have her sign an agreement that you have exclusive rights to live on the property, alone if you want, until you relinquish your right to do so. With or without a will, her family will inherit at least 50% of the property if she precedes you in death.

  • @Michael-g8d
    @Michael-g8d День тому +1

    Great interview with.. Rob

  • @HunkyMan777
    @HunkyMan777 16 годин тому +1

    Only choose high quality people in your life

  • @strickerzone6749
    @strickerzone6749 14 годин тому

    Your truly an amazing life coach mike you share your awesome ambassador life coach to others. Especially the expats folks who leaves in other parts of the world. Great advice mike.❤ great videos.

  • @Airraidcd
    @Airraidcd 17 годин тому +1

    He will just keep suffering due to all his actions. Even with 50k pesos that’s still not enough for living in UK. Not enough to rent a room he will end up on the streets begging and when winter comes will die from the cold. That is his future because he kept to himself without any social network.

  • @abdurrahmanelmas9354
    @abdurrahmanelmas9354 День тому +1

    Good advice thanks

  • @garyhamilton9186
    @garyhamilton9186 21 годину тому

    Another great video Mike.

  • @MikaelP-fg7zb
    @MikaelP-fg7zb 23 години тому +1

    Thanks for yet another great video Mike!
    I fully agree to the importance of a solid and good relation to your wife's/girlfriends family!
    In addition to that I think I have read or heard that it's possible to arrange ownership so that the wife owns the property (land) and you own the house and have a long lease for the property. 25 (or even 25+25?) years lease. And that the lease will be valid even if the wife passes. In addition to the good relationship you then have a legal right to stay on the property for the period of the lease. It would then serve as a double protection together with a good relation. I might be right or wrong...

  • @mariavarnas960
    @mariavarnas960 19 годин тому

    Thank you for a good advise Mike for me I have no problem I have so many family that love me

  • @RetiredArmy2012
    @RetiredArmy2012 20 годин тому +2

    this story sounds like the usa in reality it doesnt matter what country you die in its the same old story if a person has no common sense at 27 or 87 they never will

  • @joseCalderon1976
    @joseCalderon1976 12 годин тому

    The man in this story is a victim of his own success. Nobody is going to want to help an old grouch that hates everyone. That's true for anywhere in the world indeed. Some people just have a bad attitude for life.

  • @JohnDoran-e7o
    @JohnDoran-e7o 14 годин тому

    This story should be on family classics with Frazier thomas

  • @homebasebelgium359
    @homebasebelgium359 День тому +1

    So true!

  • @davidparrish3538
    @davidparrish3538 8 годин тому

    I'm looking to move there in 6 years. Retiring early at 62. As of right now, I'm not looking to get remarried or have a girlfriend. I'd have no problem making g friends with the people living next door or anything like that. But that being said I am a simple man I really only have 2, maybe 3 real friends, and they both live in different states. So I'll go see 1 one year and the other the next. I mostly just work and come home. So when I retire there I'd like to go to the beach , maybe try my luck at some fishing . Do some snorkeling and may learn to scuba dive. Get me a bbq and do some grilling. And relax. If I find a nice lady, then we will just have to see.

  • @CiointhePhillippines
    @CiointhePhillippines 5 хвилин тому

    Mike, it's me. You want to leave Duma Drama Llama with me? Let's wrap up this UA-cam stuff and skedaddle. What do you say? Imagine being elderly and listening to your channel alone. Now that is a thought!

  • @mauricechatigny1066
    @mauricechatigny1066 14 годин тому

    We can be alone everywhere,alone in a big city with a lot of people,children are not there sometime.

  • @dovoso5685
    @dovoso5685 14 годин тому +1

    Hi Mike, this was a very important video. I am your age and I know that I will need help but since I have no intention to marry , I know that I wont be able to expect help over there. This is #1 reason why I will never retire abroad. Traveling - yes, but never go there to die alone.

  • @BelusTraveller
    @BelusTraveller День тому +2

    First thing is a house for your mate, Then its how the hell will she hold on when I’m gone, He could have incorporated, Its hard here for an expat, Even good people get shit on also. sad Fact, Remember 98% failure rate,
    James was just old, 😅😂🤣, He was old and should have been fishing in USA, Cursing the mail carrier, But he chose his path, Myself I am so open to all, But i would hope my wife outlives me, God Bless

  • @mikejones5364
    @mikejones5364 20 годин тому +2

    It would be a sad and lonely life living alone in Philippine.

    • @clambake3293
      @clambake3293 16 годин тому

      why may I ask?

    • @mikejones5364
      @mikejones5364 12 годин тому

      @@clambake3293 Philippines is 3rd world country, not much to do there, they have systemic poverty, poor infrastructure, poor medical care, Constant brown outs, and if you are living alone it would be a sad and lonely and boring life, not much going on

  • @Loigis
    @Loigis День тому +1

    Caregiver is a option

  • @ushapedcurve3831
    @ushapedcurve3831 6 годин тому

    He could have shared a house with some other expat. And paly chess together. Security for a human is in groups.

  • @HazelFlores-q5j
    @HazelFlores-q5j День тому +1

    ❤❤❤

  • @NicolasLampkin-qr4rx
    @NicolasLampkin-qr4rx 23 години тому

    You'll like James life

  • @michaelwuji1758
    @michaelwuji1758 23 години тому

    Old tigers
    die alone
    if they have
    a heart of stone
    forsake friends
    for empty home
    old tigers
    die alone
    mc24

  • @herbwitt7710
    @herbwitt7710 22 години тому

    Hi Mike and Janet 🙋 Mike you are so right you need family. Especially in the Philippines..One hand washes the other. Don't burn a bridge. You get more bees with honey.❤

  • @Julian-ez3iq
    @Julian-ez3iq День тому

    baa humbug! ;)

  • @ExtraGuac007
    @ExtraGuac007 23 години тому

    The money to purchase the house came from that expat. He and his wife consciously left the house to the son upon passing. It's that ungrateful son who should be vilified for elder abuse.

    • @mikesphilippineretirement
      @mikesphilippineretirement  22 години тому +1

      He let him live at the property. could have been some child abuse also

    • @ExtraGuac007
      @ExtraGuac007 22 години тому

      @mikesphilippineretirement We all grew up in the corporal punishment era where we were subjected to physical, emotional, and mental abuse from our parents. But, that doesn't excuse us from abandoning our parents when they age. If he can't take care of him, he could easily hire a live-in maid to do it. The son should decline the house if he wanted to stand on his morals.

  • @pidawhalimaw9163
    @pidawhalimaw9163 19 годин тому +1

    Sexpat stories .