I actually got teary eyed when you spoke of your jury duty thing. I suffer from anxiety aswell. I dont go anywhere without my husband. But like you, there are things i can do alone...i just dont do people well. I love my space.
It's hard, but I do push myself when I can. Hubby and I did go into the city this week as I had an order to drop off. We went for a walk, and by the time we got to the end, I'd had enough but was pleased I did it. 🧡
I totally understand how you feel about people being too close. I cant stand people being too close to me or when im on a bus and someone sits next to me and with being so close they're touching me i can feel my heart rate quickening till i can get off. Ive got my fingers and toes crossed for your new business premises. This move is going to be the making of you, and become a household name. Love your videos and the longer the better for me.
Thank you 🧡 it's difficult when you can't stand people to be close. People often think you're being rude or difficult and often move closer or get nasty 😔
I understand how you feel on buses. I had space issues before COVID, but since COVID it has gotten worse...I am better if the person next to me has a mask on, but usually people just press in harder when I say I need space. Recently I have also had to deal with people not giving personal space at the pharmacy when the pharmacist is trying to explain your personal medication. So frustrating. I don't understand when people have ten foot wide sidewalks but insist on walking right next to you to get by you...at least this is what I experience in Oregon.
I can relate. Kudos to the clerk who recognized you and provided unbiased comfort to help you claim the nerves. It’s hard when you’re not aware of process in such a busy situation
I suffer from anxiety as well and it is not nice,I don't like people getting too close as well. I got quite sad watching you take all things down from your shop.but you will be going into a new adventure and a new home and such a beautiful house as well.cant wait until your next adventure .Take care 😊xx
It's difficult when your personal space is small 😔 it is sad to see the shop emptying but I can't wait to start setting up a new one and learning from this one 🧡
Wow you have so much going on Keeley my goodness. Congratulations on the sale of your house what a relief for you both. Good luck with the offer on the new shop. Take care of yourself. 😊
Wow, even with no soap making, you have been very busy. It is so good that you are having lots of customers, but keeping my fingers crossed that it will not be long before you have another fantastic amount of foot traffic in the new shop. You look very happy in this video - even after the stressful event of jury duty. Great news on the sale of your house. Keep up your energy as you will need lots of it in the next couple of weeks. Don't forget to take care of yourself. Look forward to the next video. xxx 😊😊💖💖
Thank you 🧡 this final week is looking to be super busy. I have now started packing all the ingredients away. I'm really looking forward to the next part of this journey
Thank you 🧡 we're so happy about the house. I hope you had a great trip to Borneo. My parents trip sounds amazing. They saw the Orang-utans and pigmy elephants
Wow thank you for sharing your experience with having anxiety. I’ve totally been there and can relate. Wish you all the best with looking for a new shop and with moving into your new home! ❤
Another great vlog. I really enjoy them and the considerations and behind the scenes activity of a small business. I know the right shop venue will come along. The selfish part of me hopes you'll have the capacity to be able to film the process of getting it ready to open, but in reality, I'd rather you take care of yourself and not overwhelm yourself with filming on top of everything else that you'll be doing. Take care.
Wow Keeley, u proved yourself to be one of the most honest persons in the world I knew so far again, and your bravety to open up and share your up & down with us, It seems that I can almost feel your helplessness and pain for the ordeal you've been thru for the jury duties stuff, my eyes also went red as I was also there with you. (no worries, I will keep a good & nice personal distance as I also need🥰:)) , BTW this is called personal space proximity when I learnt this term in the university studying psychology and this is absolutely important and normal to make people feeling comfortable in the public with a certain space (no matter the one surround is strangers or friends or even family). This vlog is emotional but meaningful and fruitful at the same time, good people always have good endings, esp. after your house has buyer then your life and your business have just brightened up like a spark! May your new house and new shop all run smooth (finger-crossed) and I will be awaiting for your further update patiently. Work hard, play hard, rest harder! p.s. my hubby once put the biteEze balm on lip but he was 200% fine & even told me it was great as gave him a cooling sensation, hahahaha~well, I didn't tell him it was actually for repelling beetles but I sneak back the cool mint lipbalm to him secretly, thrilled to see the new orange tube packing😍😍😍
Thank you 🧡 I always find it odd that I have different space needs for different people and on different days. Some days, it doesn't bother me, and others I have to have that space. Hopefully, hubby preferred the Cool Mint lip balm 😆
I am so glad that the bailiff was so nice to you, helped you and explained about your anxiety in crowds. I live in Portland, Oregon and we have a Saturday Market in downtown not far from me and i have only been to it once and I know I can never go back as a patron...there were to many people pushing and there were to many dogs...I am scared of most dogs. I step back when people step forward as well. However, I work with a haunted house and when I am acting I can handle the people, I think partially because we intentionally keep space between us and the patrons, but if I am in the same environment without the makeup and costume and character I get so anxious that I will have a panic attack that requires meds. If I am with a bunch of people that I can trust to protect me in a group then I am better and can somewhat function in a crowd.
I'm pleased I encountered an understanding Bailiff. It's been said most comedians have difficulty dealing with people, but the comedy gives them a mask to hide behind. Whenever we can pretend to be something different, we can cope better. 🧡
I know exactly what you are saying and how you feel, I am very much like you as well, while I was living in Perth, just the traffic was too much for me, I moved back to small town in New Zealand so I don’t have so many people around, I don’t even like going out of the house, I have to for work, but I do all my shopping online to avoid having to be around people
It's very difficult at times. I avoid shops in December but I'm okay on other days. I just try to avoid peak hour times. I love my outdoors too much so keep pushing myself 🧡
The city is definitely the hardest place to navigate. Hubby always knows if I grab his shirt. Sometimes, just holding the corner of a shirt is enough. 🧡
As I'm selling new candles, it wouldn't be right for me to reuse jars. Plus people bring jars that aren't mine. I have thought of offering second hand jars but it affects insurance
The last time I was sent a notification of Jury Duty I never received the notice, so the County never received my confirmation back. They sent my name to the Sheriff's Department to issue an arrest warrant for failing to comply. Luckly the County Sheriff is a good friend! He saw my name and knew I wouldn't have ignored the notification. He brought the paperwork down to me that night and explained what happened. We figured out that the court clerk used our old address, which is why I never received it. (We had to switch from a PO Box to a mailbox at our house.) No warrant was issued, and it all worked out. He made sure they removed our old address from their records. We had updated them with new address at the time we changed, they just never removed the old address.
About the anxiety and that feeling of not being safe and wondering where it came from. Because your mum noticed it so young (around 7) my guess would be it started with severe separation anxiety from your mum. How did you go at school when mum dropped you off every morning? I used to get terrible separation anxiety from my mum starting at pre-school which then led to a feeling of not being 'safe' because my mum was my safety. We learn that being in new situations, around other people who dont 'see' us and without our special person is scary, unpredictable and makes us feel awful. As an adult this leads to a life of not feeling safe in unknown crowded situations that we know we will never be able to control - lockdowns were awful for me - so much panic because it was all unknown and 'scary'. Some of us are just born more anxious than others and thats ok xx I dont have a hubby or an anchor and I havent found anything that helps (deep breathing just heightens my anxiety in those situations). Staring at the floor or focusing on something on a wall or counting cracks or 'bumps on the road helps redirect my energy somewhat. I'm like you - I just avoid situations that bring me stress at all costs. woolies home delivery is a blessing and so it online shopping but I live in a small town and know which cafes I can go to for coffee and which ones i need to avoid and stuff like that x I find movie theatres really hard but we have a drive in movies in my town so thats lucky. Its a hard way to live, I envy people who can go and do things without carefully planning and putting support systems in place first. Anyway, I'm at 28mins so back to the Vlog haha xx
I can definitely see how this can affect some, but I think my issues were well before school. I was the kid who waved goodbye and ran off without care. Mainly because I was in care since a young age as my mum worked full time and my dad was in the army so I was used to it. Mum said I've always been wary of people being close since I was a young kid. 🧡
I've had a number of people say this in different videos. Once we're settled into our new home, I will be finding someone to talk to at least about the anxiety 🧡
@@SoyandSheaam glad u are I wish u luck for me it was finally finding out where it come from which made me feel in control of it and better understand. I have a complex past due to abuse so I always put it down to that but really it was the other way round once I understood that things just went click click. Also on a side note dairy intolerance is a common part of autism. I to have that. I wish it was cheaper to post to the uk I lov your soaps
I actually got teary eyed when you spoke of your jury duty thing. I suffer from anxiety aswell. I dont go anywhere without my husband. But like you, there are things i can do alone...i just dont do people well. I love my space.
It's hard, but I do push myself when I can. Hubby and I did go into the city this week as I had an order to drop off. We went for a walk, and by the time we got to the end, I'd had enough but was pleased I did it. 🧡
I totally understand how you feel about people being too close. I cant stand people being too close to me or when im on a bus and someone sits next to me and with being so close they're touching me i can feel my heart rate quickening till i can get off. Ive got my fingers and toes crossed for your new business premises. This move is going to be the making of you, and become a household name. Love your videos and the longer the better for me.
Thank you 🧡 it's difficult when you can't stand people to be close. People often think you're being rude or difficult and often move closer or get nasty 😔
I understand how you feel on buses. I had space issues before COVID, but since COVID it has gotten worse...I am better if the person next to me has a mask on, but usually people just press in harder when I say I need space. Recently I have also had to deal with people not giving personal space at the pharmacy when the pharmacist is trying to explain your personal medication. So frustrating.
I don't understand when people have ten foot wide sidewalks but insist on walking right next to you to get by you...at least this is what I experience in Oregon.
This vlog is exactly what I needed this morning. ❤
Thank you for watching 🧡
I’ve been there. That level of anxiety is not fun. I’m so sorry you had that experience. Many hugs.
Thank you 🧡 it's not fun at all 😞
Glad you're ok ! Walking always great for the mind. So excited for your new future. Keep being you.❤
Thank you 🧡 I look forward to sharing more of the journey
Watching the lids be put on and labels is so nice to watch I really enjoy it ❤
It's something I enjoy doing as it's the last step before someone can enjoy them 🧡
So excited for your new adventures 🎉 totally understand the personal space thing
Thank you 🧡 it's been a huge year so far
what a great vlog for the last one in the Cleveland shop; looking forward to the new adventures
Thank you 🧡 hopefully the next one will be in the new shop
I can relate. Kudos to the clerk who recognized you and provided unbiased comfort to help you claim the nerves. It’s hard when you’re not aware of process in such a busy situation
I think how kind he was, was my undoing. He was so wonderful and realised that wasn't the main issue which made me feel better.
I suffer from anxiety as well and it is not nice,I don't like people getting too close as well. I got quite sad watching you take all things down from your shop.but you will be going into a new adventure and a new home and such a beautiful house as well.cant wait until your next adventure .Take care 😊xx
It's difficult when your personal space is small 😔 it is sad to see the shop emptying but I can't wait to start setting up a new one and learning from this one 🧡
Wow you have so much going on Keeley my goodness. Congratulations on the sale of your house what a relief for you both. Good luck with the offer on the new shop. Take care of yourself. 😊
Thank you 🧡 things are moving fast now.
Wow, even with no soap making, you have been very busy. It is so good that you are having lots of customers, but keeping my fingers crossed that it will not be long before you have another fantastic amount of foot traffic in the new shop. You look very happy in this video - even after the stressful event of jury duty. Great news on the sale of your house. Keep up your energy as you will need lots of it in the next couple of weeks. Don't forget to take care of yourself. Look forward to the next video. xxx 😊😊💖💖
Thank you 🧡 this final week is looking to be super busy. I have now started packing all the ingredients away. I'm really looking forward to the next part of this journey
What a kind, understanding bailiff. ❤ I got uncomfortable just hearing about that series of events. Wow so stressful!
He was so good, which is what I think caused me to break. But it was good to learn what my limits are 🧡
Thank you for another great vlog, can't wait to see the new vlog in the new shop 🤞🏼😊
Thank you 🧡 hopefully the next vlog will be the new shop
Totally enjoyed your last vlog in the old shop and look forward to the next one on your new adventure 😊
Thank you for watching 🧡 I will keep sharing the adventure
Keeley thats great about the house…..fingers crossed. We went to Borneo the end of last year fabulous trip seeing the Orangutans was the highlight.
Thank you 🧡 we're so happy about the house. I hope you had a great trip to Borneo. My parents trip sounds amazing. They saw the Orang-utans and pigmy elephants
Wow thank you for sharing your experience with having anxiety. I’ve totally been there and can relate. Wish you all the best with looking for a new shop and with moving into your new home! ❤
Thank you 🧡 I can't wait to share the next part of the journey
Another great vlog. I really enjoy them and the considerations and behind the scenes activity of a small business.
I know the right shop venue will come along. The selfish part of me hopes you'll have the capacity to be able to film the process of getting it ready to open, but in reality, I'd rather you take care of yourself and not overwhelm yourself with filming on top of everything else that you'll be doing. Take care.
Thank you 🧡 I hope to film setting up the new shop and sharing what I've learned so far
Wow Keeley, u proved yourself to be one of the most honest persons in the world I knew so far again, and your bravety to open up and share your up & down with us, It seems that I can almost feel your helplessness and pain for the ordeal you've been thru for the jury duties stuff, my eyes also went red as I was also there with you. (no worries, I will keep a good & nice personal distance as I also need🥰:)) , BTW this is called personal space proximity when I learnt this term in the university studying psychology and this is absolutely important and normal to make people feeling comfortable in the public with a certain space (no matter the one surround is strangers or friends or even family). This vlog is emotional but meaningful and fruitful at the same time, good people always have good endings, esp. after your house has buyer then your life and your business have just brightened up like a spark! May your new house and new shop all run smooth (finger-crossed) and I will be awaiting for your further update patiently. Work hard, play hard, rest harder!
p.s. my hubby once put the biteEze balm on lip but he was 200% fine & even told me it was great as gave him a cooling sensation, hahahaha~well, I didn't tell him it was actually for repelling beetles but I sneak back the cool mint lipbalm to him secretly, thrilled to see the new orange tube packing😍😍😍
Thank you 🧡 I always find it odd that I have different space needs for different people and on different days. Some days, it doesn't bother me, and others I have to have that space.
Hopefully, hubby preferred the Cool Mint lip balm 😆
So excited for you!! Congratulations and good luck w the move!
Thank you 🧡
1:11:15 Squeee...So happy about the house!
Thank you 🧡
I am so glad that the bailiff was so nice to you, helped you and explained about your anxiety in crowds. I live in Portland, Oregon and we have a Saturday Market in downtown not far from me and i have only been to it once and I know I can never go back as a patron...there were to many people pushing and there were to many dogs...I am scared of most dogs. I step back when people step forward as well. However, I work with a haunted house and when I am acting I can handle the people, I think partially because we intentionally keep space between us and the patrons, but if I am in the same environment without the makeup and costume and character I get so anxious that I will have a panic attack that requires meds. If I am with a bunch of people that I can trust to protect me in a group then I am better and can somewhat function in a crowd.
I'm pleased I encountered an understanding Bailiff.
It's been said most comedians have difficulty dealing with people, but the comedy gives them a mask to hide behind. Whenever we can pretend to be something different, we can cope better. 🧡
@@SoyandShea this is definitely true.
I know exactly what you are saying and how you feel, I am very much like you as well, while I was living in Perth, just the traffic was too much for me, I moved back to small town in New Zealand so I don’t have so many people around, I don’t even like going out of the house, I have to for work, but I do all my shopping online to avoid having to be around people
It's very difficult at times. I avoid shops in December but I'm okay on other days. I just try to avoid peak hour times. I love my outdoors too much so keep pushing myself 🧡
My daughter is the same, especially when she was little and we would come to the city. She would be attached to me like glue.
The city is definitely the hardest place to navigate. Hubby always knows if I grab his shirt. Sometimes, just holding the corner of a shirt is enough. 🧡
With the jars that those people left at the store, are you not able to reuse them again in the business.
As I'm selling new candles, it wouldn't be right for me to reuse jars. Plus people bring jars that aren't mine. I have thought of offering second hand jars but it affects insurance
@@SoyandShea I can understand that.
The last time I was sent a notification of Jury Duty I never received the notice, so the County never received my confirmation back. They sent my name to the Sheriff's Department to issue an arrest warrant for failing to comply. Luckly the County Sheriff is a good friend! He saw my name and knew I wouldn't have ignored the notification. He brought the paperwork down to me that night and explained what happened. We figured out that the court clerk used our old address, which is why I never received it. (We had to switch from a PO Box to a mailbox at our house.) No warrant was issued, and it all worked out. He made sure they removed our old address from their records. We had updated them with new address at the time we changed, they just never removed the old address.
That would have been so stressful. I'm pleased it all worked out for you 🧡
About the anxiety and that feeling of not being safe and wondering where it came from. Because your mum noticed it so young (around 7) my guess would be it started with severe separation anxiety from your mum. How did you go at school when mum dropped you off every morning? I used to get terrible separation anxiety from my mum starting at pre-school which then led to a feeling of not being 'safe' because my mum was my safety. We learn that being in new situations, around other people who dont 'see' us and without our special person is scary, unpredictable and makes us feel awful. As an adult this leads to a life of not feeling safe in unknown crowded situations that we know we will never be able to control - lockdowns were awful for me - so much panic because it was all unknown and 'scary'. Some of us are just born more anxious than others and thats ok xx I dont have a hubby or an anchor and I havent found anything that helps (deep breathing just heightens my anxiety in those situations). Staring at the floor or focusing on something on a wall or counting cracks or 'bumps on the road helps redirect my energy somewhat. I'm like you - I just avoid situations that bring me stress at all costs. woolies home delivery is a blessing and so it online shopping but I live in a small town and know which cafes I can go to for coffee and which ones i need to avoid and stuff like that x I find movie theatres really hard but we have a drive in movies in my town so thats lucky. Its a hard way to live, I envy people who can go and do things without carefully planning and putting support systems in place first. Anyway, I'm at 28mins so back to the Vlog haha xx
I can definitely see how this can affect some, but I think my issues were well before school. I was the kid who waved goodbye and ran off without care. Mainly because I was in care since a young age as my mum worked full time and my dad was in the army so I was used to it. Mum said I've always been wary of people being close since I was a young kid. 🧡
I do the same thing with people out and about.
There are a lot of people who feel this way but it's such a silent issue that very few see it.
When is your next video coming out?
Hopefully soon. We have only just had the internet connected. I couldn't edit or upload without it 😔
I have to admit that I was one that said you should yell "Quilty." That totally was a joke, sorry.
Quite a few people recommended that including ones I spoke to in person 🧡 my MIL said I should claim to be biased and a feminist 😆 all tempting.
Do you ever miss the Cleveland Markets?
Yes and No! I miss the other stall holders but I don't miss the politics, the cold, the heat, the rain and more 😆
Look into autism u sound like me I was diagnosed in my early 40s and it explained a lot for me
I've had a number of people say this in different videos. Once we're settled into our new home, I will be finding someone to talk to at least about the anxiety 🧡
@@SoyandSheaam glad u are I wish u luck for me it was finally finding out where it come from which made me feel in control of it and better understand. I have a complex past due to abuse so I always put it down to that but really it was the other way round once I understood that things just went click click. Also on a side note dairy intolerance is a common part of autism. I to have that. I wish it was cheaper to post to the uk I lov your soaps