Accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and you will be saved. John 3:16 (share the good news of the gospel around the world!) Have a wonderful day/night, may the LORD bless you all, and farewell!,.,,,,,,
I love all of your videos! I would love to hear your thoughts on how childhood trauma contributes to procrastination & self sabotage. Thank you for all you do 💕
Aaron I click on the link and my cell phone went to the messages to send you don't no what exactly. Is that normal? 🧐🤦🏽♀️ I'm from Europe not EUA. So if you can help me understand what happened I appreciate. Thanks 👍🏽
As an empath, and as a highly sensitive person my whole life, I've been people pleaser for years for sure. I've realized it myself a few years ago. And one of my realizations was this one: if someone cannot handle my "no", they are not worthy of my " yes".
My ah ha moment was realizing that my parents shit was their own and my shit is mine. They were doing the best they could with what they had. I am my own being and I create my own best self.
*Empaths are people pleaser and take others energies and think of them as their own Energy. They are Sensitive and can easily be manipulated hence why its soooo important to have BOUNDARIES if you are an Empath! I sure I am!!*
I am...when I was a toddler I was sending energy to people, and talking to spirits and being GROUNDED. I teach other empaths how to navigate their gifts and understand it's not a weakenss, it's a SUPERPOWER...but as you said we need to develop boundaries and ground so that we can not sacrifice our sensitivity which is a gift but not be overwhelend by energy and wind up being poeple pleaser sto not feel the disapproval of others..I had a huge problem with this, I turned to drugs, even after my awakening but I learned and grew and am still growing...anyway, just wanted to pass this on because I liked your comment and I relate to it.
@@TheMediumChannel thank you! I resonate with what you said. It is indeed a Superpower, we just need to realise it and channel it in the right way! Thank you for sharing your story and congratulations for being an awaken human being!
Empaths are not people pleases nor do they take another's energy. They are people that know what trauma is for they have lived it. A child that is molested, put down constantly, physically or mentally abuse etc starts to need validation to feel that there is nothing wrong with them. They have a sincere compassion for people because they have gone through so much. Empaths need to be taught how to think of themselves first and then to love others. They don't want to see what was done to them happen to other people. They are not manipulators they wouldn't meet so many toxic or narcissists if it wasn't for their atience and compassion.
Accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and you will be saved. John 3:16 (share the good news of the gospel around the world!) Have a wonderful day/night, may the LORD bless you all, and farewell!,.,,,,,,
@@1CT1 Jesus Christ was only a messenger of God. He was a creation of God. Accept the one true God the Most High who created and sustains everything as your savior and you will be saved. Peace, thanks.
My issue I have with being an empath is if a friend or someone close to me pulls away I start to freak out I want to know what I did wrong how I contributed to it. My work is to not take it so personal . The part where you said it occurs when you felt abandonment really resonated. I guess we don’t want to relive that pain so we just give in
You'll watch an entire Netflix show even when the first episodes are slow and boring just because someone told you "it gets better." *But what if you looked at your goals like that and watched your life get better instead?*
Accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and you will be saved. John 3:16 (share the good news of the gospel around the world!) Have a wonderful day/night, may the LORD bless you all, and farewell!,.,,,,,,
Today I'm saying no to my job. I've worked a call center job for the past year, making myself sick from stress, all to make other people happy. I deserve to be happy. Thank you Aaron.
Yeah sticking to boundaries creates such an epic experience! Without them the joy and full performance of flow doesn’t even reach anywhere near its full potential without boundaries! I’ve got all kinds of comedy skits on my channel about success and spiritual concepts that you might enjoy too! 😈🔥
I’m 40. Either I left my lower chakras a LONG time ago or I never connected. I’m just now coming back down into them. I feel like a version of me that I’ve never been. Super different and I’m starting to experience a different reality. It’s cool and scary at the same time
Yeah sticking to boundaries creates such an epic experience! Without them the joy and full performance of flow doesn’t even reach anywhere near its full potential without boundaries! I’ve got all kinds of comedy skits on my channel about success and spiritual concepts that you might enjoy too! 😈
I’m 58 years old. I have to say to you Aaron, I’m so grateful for you, for your videos and great knowledge you have and share with us. Never thought that I would learn from such a young person🥰 Such a great guy.
Accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and you will be saved. John 3:16 (share the good news of the gospel around the world!) Have a wonderful day/night, may the LORD bless you all, and farewell!,.,,,,,,
Thank you Aaron for this video🙏💖 When I was a kid, I also couldn’t watch TV because of my mum‘s partner. In my case, when they came home he would check the TV too. Leaving it on the last channel was the only way to survive. A lot of work outside the house, no regular food, no decent clothes. All the time uncertainty. Still, I thought I was safe. Now I realise how much I wasn’t. You making such videos, give me Energy to take my power back. I wouldn’t say I’m a people pleaser, I’m very sensitive but I’m very strong at the same time and I know how to fight… but…yes for others not for myself. In a relationship however, I gave so much love to my partner, that I felt totally responsible for his happiness. Yes, learning how to be in my own body, stay in my solid frame is a lesson of my life I guess. Thank You Aaron 🙏💖
Luv this. Yes! Not my circus not my monkeys. (aka Thats your $h!+ not mine). Stop abandoning myself. I can say no to things that don’t align with my values, goals, and purpose. Thank you @Aaron Doughty. Self love baby!!
I discovered 6 months ago …that my parent’s stuff was just that their stuff I wish I found this video during my childhood My grandmother told me those exact words but my mind couldn’t connect the dots from that trauma I’m definitely an empath. I was engaged to a covert narc(but dated only narcs or selfish people). That traumatizing relationship made me finally say never again and let me figure this out I figured out that my mom is a covert narc. That I’m an empath. How to say no. I’m still a work in progress but I pray for healing for all that’s reading this and watching this video. It does get better
Yeah sticking to boundaries creates such an epic experience! Without them the joy and full performance of flow doesn’t even reach anywhere near its full potential without boundaries! I’ve got all kinds of comedy skits on my channel about success and spiritual concepts that you might enjoy too! 😈🔥
I thought I had the perfect strategy to avoid setting boundaries: be with people who have the same values and preferences as myself. It seemed to work out for twenty+ years until I came to a rude awakening. Lately, I have gotten a lot better at politely refusing and standing my ground. I no longer let my soon-to-be ex husband take advantage of me. I no longer engage in arguments with him. I give him nothing but facts and leave the conversation as soon as he gets personal. After the divorce, I can finally go no contact- yeah!
Oh, how right you are. Today I live with complex ptsd because I've had so many traumas happen in my life. I'm okay today- also I know I'm still an impath.🤗💞
None of us are alone in this. I've been on a journey of self-improvement for quite some time now (years), and I like to think I have a pretty solid sense of self. But there's always more to learn and always more room to grow. My biggest thing is beating myself up when I notice myself slipping again. Here's another mantra for everyone: "Triggers are my best friends." You need to feel it to heal it. You need to see it to tend to it. You need to sit with it and make peace with it, bit by bit. Triggers reveal these wounds to us, thus enabling us to tend to them and look at them for what they truly are. Healing comes in layers. There's no amount of time you can put on such a thing - and contrary to popular belief? Time doesn't heal wounds. It's what we do with said time that defines the rate and quality of healing. If you break your arm, what do you do? You put it in a cast and let it rest up for as long as it needs. You tend to it as the wound so demands. If you don't do so, then it's likely the broken arm won't heal properly and can lead to even more issues in the future. It never truly healed - in fact, the condition of the arm would likely only get worse. The same goes for emotional wounds. Pushing forward with these emotional wounds and beating ourselves up for them is the same as taking that broken arm and trying to do push ups with it. It does a lot more harm than good. Maybe the bone was shattered. Maybe further inspection for fragments is needed, perhaps they need to be found and removed. The cast then needs to be put on, after maybe needing some stitches or staples. Whatever the case may be, allow. Just allow. It's done wonders for me. And, side note? Being wounded doesn't make you weak. It makes you human. We cannot control the depth of a wound another Inflicts upon us, but we can control what we do about it. That's the only place your focus is meant to be. Thank you for making this video, Aaron. As a single mom at 25 who has been through countless amounts of traumas and also "identifies" as an empath (I do and don't - like you, I can now turn it on and off as necessary), I can't begin to express how helpful of a reminder this was. Life has been tough on everyone as of late, and I was thrown a massive curve ball. The father of my two year old son is narcissistic, possibly has antisocial personality disorder, and he managed to win custody despite me trying to make his domestic assault on me known (he got away with it and the statue of limitations passed - I waited too long and put other before self). I'm going through physical therapy to try and correct the damage done, and it's going to be a long time before I'm recovered. Some things I'll have to manage and deal with for the rest of my life. I made the mistake of not opting for the cast and did push ups instead. But it was a wake up call. A monumental one. For all those parents out there? We must lead by example. You have to BE who you want your child to be. Some of the things I wish for my son is a sense of confidence, fairness, authenticity, and personal sovereignty. And - of course - health, happiness, and safety. Lead by example. Eat healthy, live authentically. It doesn't matter how big or small the change is so long as it is a CHANGE. Don't stay in the same unless you want the same. It begins with us. And we co-create the future thus. Thanks for reading if you did - sending all of you lots of love and light to help assist through these dreary times. ♡ We got this, collective. We got this.
We may not have enough courage to display it. The great gift of human beings is that we have the power of empathy. You can only understand people if you feel them in yourself. Anyone who has experienced a certain amount of loss in their life has empathy for those who have experienced loss
Yes!! The hard truth we all need to hear. I had always put everyone before me until I realised I couldn't serve others when I was doing this. Definitely attracted narcissistic people and was stuck in a cycle of toxic relationships. Thank you for sharing this!!
I’ve never been able to have “hard” conversations until pressure built up. I’ve forgotten who “I” am. Your videos seem to have great insight. Thank you
Yeah sticking to boundaries creates such an epic experience! Without them the joy and full performance of flow doesn’t even reach anywhere near its full potential without boundaries! I’ve got all kinds of comedy skits on my channel about success and spiritual concepts that you might enjoy too! 😈
good explaination of the chakras/I went through that when younger /more in tune to others than to myself /not good/not anymore/been there done that/Now I can live the life I want
The new me...What can I say "NO" to today? That's your 💩 not mine! I used to go way outta my way and ask " What can I do for you today? " Thinking that's my way of showing I care 😢 I'm exhausted! Thank you Aaron!
When I was growing up my mother was someone who needed compliments and reassurance of love. My dad deprived her of the amount of compliments she required and it would effect her mood the whole day which would obviously effect my day. I remember constantly observing her to see what the day way going to be. It has made me very intuitive. Also anxious being around large groups because I’m so busy observing and feeling new people out. I have somehow managed this a lot better. I’m able to basically turn into a caiman. I feed off the emery of the room. Interesting relaxation I had last year. She’s a great mom, and person. She just has deep rooted issues that she has no idea about. To many years of covering up very old wounds. Always check yourself!
Thank you. This really made sense to me. You explained the reasons for my lack of boundaries, empathetic abilities and my attraction to Narcissists. Now at 55 I am learning to live my life for my own purpose
Definitely would like to hear more of your advice on narcissists and empaths. I was literally abandoned (not for long, but it scared the shit out of me) when I was 7. Then I was sexually abused at 11! Talk about a reason to abandon your lower chakras! My life has been barely survival, and I have been suicidal many times, starting at 16. Since I have been watching you, I feel happier than I ever have. I have seen dramatic changes in just a few days. I was just discarded by a classic, overt narcissist and was in a lot of pain until I came across your videos. I just have to thank you for helping me find some peace, helping me to NOT want to kill myself, and helping me experience completely different reactions from strangers. It's amazing.
Definitely needed this today, thank you so much Aaron! I often tried to tune to my parents emotional states, and how to bring balance to their relationship with each other and my siblings. I realize that’s no longer how I want to function or feel, so thank you!
I have been shifting limiting and outdated beliefs for years now, and every time I watch one of Aarons videos, I come across and learn more of what I need to shift. Even having watched this video years ago, watching it again with a new level of awareness I can identify further beliefs to shift. Thank you Aaron ❤
Wow I'm so happy I've found this , I've struggled my whole life I'm now 34 and it's been one hell of a ride I've always tried understanding who am I and seen people just knowing who they are yet the constant up and down emotions are so draining I won't go to far back because this message will take forever but in my time ive had abuse when I was young struggled with rage and anger yet ive got a heart like a angel ive done care work loved connecting with people elderly and end of life and ive always helped and never want in return lately my saving grace is I met a man in a crystal shop who is a spiritual healer and also said if I fancied it there's a healing circle to witch I now go to and went from getting the healing to now giving it but I still didn't know how to protect myself because I was so sensitive with emotions . Thank you for this ive now subscribed
"Your own shit is yours not mine" I literally just felt years of what I now realize...was overcompensating for my parents,(and me feeling as though they didn't do as much caring as much as I felt they should) coming to the understanding that they did the best with what they had and they did a good job it's not my responsibility to take on other people's burdens no matter how much I care about them...
I have , im 22 year's old i've been an empath since i was 6 years old , when i started doing the guided meditations my energy has been changing and i feel more in my body , Thank you Aaron you're blessed.
Yes I also experienced traumas in my childhood, & I have always felt very empathic, literally feeling what another person is feeling, as well as predicting what they’re gonna do or say based on their energy, or sometimes kinda knowing their life story even just from meeting them once 😂 I never made the connection until seeing your videos that as a child, I left my lower chakras due to the trauma & moved up to my third eye chakra & stayed in that energy to be able to tune to other people for survival/safety, & this is why I am so empathetic. But coming here (entering life) I know that was my desire, to be able to connect to others on such a deep level, so of course my life set me up to have that 😌 It became detrimental for a long while though, as I was in the shadow side of that, but now I have been learning how to live with it & use it in a positive way. Like you said, being able to turn it on & off when I want/need. I now have a strong sense of self & don’t just tune to whatever everyone else is feeling all the time, I set my feelings. I imagine I am stable & strong, like a tree. & I can tune to others & feel what they feel when I choose to. What an amazing insight 😌🙏🏼
Everyone thought I was working today but I called out last minute, I feel so much peace everyone left me alone energetically... I was like I need to learn to do this consciously, and then I went to UA-cam and saw this video ❤
Yesss thank u this helped me understand the reason why I’m an empath we have to look back to our childhood and question what emotional burdens our parents put onto us whic made us feel unsafe and felt as if we were doing something wrong by being honest and truthful so we had to change ourselves and filter our young developing mind
Thank you, Aaron for making this video. From your videos I noticed that I was empath. The more I learn the empath people watching your videos, it became easier to live daily basis.
I'm currently weeding lots of narcissistic men out my life that I never knew who they were until this year. It has taken some doing but watching videos like this is helping! Thank you so so much xx
I love that cute voice you use suddenly in the middle of all this great advice and when you laugh and loosen up during the videos. Thank you and excellent stuff 🤗
I am an empath through and through. The textbook definition of an empath with 60 yrs of experience dealing with a few narcissist in my lifetime. Experience has been a very good teacher. I can spot a narcissist almost instantly. It's been my experience that there is no healing a narcissist. A narcissist lives and dies a narcissist. I just steer clear and the peace in my life is magical.
Wow Aaron, guaranteed this has happened to me. My parents hurt me very badly when my mom also told me she was pregnant. They told me I was adopted. For the rest of my life I have felt like I don’t measure up or have something to prove, like I will never be good enough. Needless to say my Dad has never adopted me and I still use my mother’s maiden name. Still hurts. Told when I was 8. I am now 40 and have very minimal contact with my Dad, sisters or my step mother.
This video hit home, I’m 62 and didn’t really know about empath’s. As little girl and teen I was scared most of my life due to a violent, angry, abusive father. I fit everything you said. My brother didn’t make and died from alcoholism at a young age. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.
I’m so sorry about those experiences with your ex step mom. No one deserves that. But you look at how you evolved and what you’ve become. You’ve made it so far in life. You can’t get back those parts of childhood where you were abused from that woman but look at where you are at now and know you will never have to be put in that type of situation again.
I have been following you for quite some time and you are a great soul. You explain things so well. I understand exactly what you mean. At the moment I am in this process staying in your own energy frame and letting go of your pain body is tough. But ultimately the road to enlightenment for which you were allowed to go through everything.
Thank you so much Aaron. I never knew that about empaths. You answered a lot of questions for me. I can feel other peoples energy very easily and I didn't know why. I can also feel people from the other side.
This video blew my mind. I have felt other people’s energies my whole life, to the extent it affects my mood. I often wondered if this was normal as no one in my family including my sibling experiences this. To hear you say it, it made me feel understood and I have relief, Thankyou so much for doing this video!!
Yes, I'm an empath. When I was 2 to 9 1/2 my dad molested me. I tried to tell my mother when I was 6 and she didn't believe me. I told her again when I was 9 1/2. She finally listened but stayed with him. She would shoo him out of my room until I was 14. I got married at 16 to get out. We were married 28 years and he's a covert narcissist. I am now 53 and still dealing with and healing from some of that stuff. Thank you for this video.
That mantra applied in this context is valuable. That mantra applied in other contexts is excusing a lot of abuse in the self-improvement community. There *is* some responsibility that comes with being in relationship with people. Boundaries are too simplistic a model - as empaths becoming tuned in to the energy exchange that's going on and deciding whether or not one is ok with that is a much better practice.
Yeah sticking to boundaries creates such an epic experience! Without them the joy and full performance of flow doesn’t even reach anywhere near its full potential without boundaries! I’ve got all kinds of comedy skits on my channel about success and spiritual concepts that you might enjoy too! 😈🔥
Dear Aaron, rhank you for your video. There were so many things that clicked with me. And yes - your theory of how empathy is started, makes total sense in my life. At the beginning It was thrown of by the lack of professionality of your video - however, after a few seconds I realised it made me connect to your message even better, because it's authentic.
Holy crap. Left the bottom chakras?? Wow. Explains a lot.....also "what can I say no to today?" I literally feel like youve given words to the process I've been in for a while. You gotta be there for yourself!!!
I wish there was a place where we could tell our story, like to the world. Get it off our chest one good time and then let it go. Then would be so freeing for me, I know for a lot of others as well
I started telling a covert narc in my life "that's yours, not mine." When it came to thoughts, energy, and mindset. It was a shit storm at first but I kept my boundaries up and life has honestly been better. Also, I am learning how to stand in my own frame. Thank you for this message 😊
Wow! You did a very good job explaining Stockholm Syndrome, and how it ties into being an empath who feels others feelings. Very interesting stuff. Thank you
I didn't have childhood trauma but I didn't go from my childhood home into a 12 year abuse relationship from age 17-29, I have ptsd from that but I remember being a really sensitive child, I've been sensitive for as long as I can remember and been on my empathic self love healing journey the last 2 years and boundaries with my mother is probably the hardest thing to deal with. Thankyou for this video makes sense..I'm also a reiki master but am working on healing my energy first 🧚♀️
None of the other videos on you tube mentions how I feel responsible for other people. What you said is spot on about me! What I Learned from you in this video Would Haven Taken me Hours to Learn in face to face Therapy - If At All!!! Namaste.❤
Wow. I’m upset I didn’t watch this sooner. You really break it down and quite relate to me or at least help me understand myself. Thank you. Stay blessed!
Thank You Aaron!! So funny I have felt drawn to skunks for many years they are so cute and cuddly and love the smell as well ❤️ learning about them as a spirit animal made so much sense to me ! I resonate so much with this video ! I am an empath and I was married to a narcissist for a long time ! I had abandonment issues from childhood. I am in a much better place learning a lot! I said no to a friend today so I could stay home and did what I felt was necessary for my self care❤️ thanks for your videos I love them !!!
I’ve been doing the magnetic love challenge and have just finished Day 11. As I’m preparing myself for my homework I watched this video and it was spot on!!! Dear dad, this is your shit, not mine. Dear ex lovers, this is your shit, not mine. Thank you, Aaron. Much love!
Share share share with your fellow empaths! Sooo many people would have a transformative shift from watching this! Empaths more often than not are carrying trauma, share this with them!
I like the Namaste 🙏 from Aaron. I myself was devastated from my narcissistic GF when she left me, I knew there was something wrong with her, tried to heal her but was impossible.❤
I looked for absolutely different topic on UA-cam, but your video just pop up. And it made my day. I work on my self a lot of years to become the person who I always wanted to be. I have narcissistic controlling mom. So I'm still learning how to say "no" to people. The frame thing is really interesting. I never heard about it this way. Thank you for the insight! I'm your fan now❤
Yes I was adopted as a baby but was in 3 different group homes before I finally got to come home. This video makes me realize maybe that’s the reason for why I feel empathic since i didn’t get the attention right away. Idk thanks for expanding my understanding on myself
yeah, that's true, we don't feel the boundaries of our body and mistake people's emotions with ours. It took me a while to realise that root chakra is the body framework I must observe to distinguish myself from other's emotions. And not to be hurt by them.
I'm in my 20s and I can say I've spent my whole life being a people pleaser, I went to church every sunday because that's what my dad wanted, I got bullied at school because I didn't know how to set boundaries, I tolerated toxic friends because I still had fear of "dismissing" them, and so it goes. I managed to evolve a lot but I still see that I have a lot of this habit of having the need to be a people pleaser at all costs. THIS VIDEO WAS VERY ENLIGHTENING FOR ME, I WILL WATCH EVERY ONE YOU TALK ABOUT THIS SUBJECT (and your channel in general). I see now that I finally need to change this in myself, finally set myself free...
Yes was terribly physically abused as a small child. Consequently I started "sensing" about others. Their intentions, their state of mind sometimes even their thoughts. Felt like I always knew when I was in trouble. And my GUT was never wrong.
Aaron I can relate sooooo much to almost everything you said in this video! I feel understood where I am seriously questioning my own sanity at times right now 😂
Wow… you explained this so exquisitely Aaron! Although I’ve healed a lot in this lifetime, recently I’ve still been faced with consequences of people crossing my boundaries without me even consciously realising! Understanding it through chakra energetics is so so valuable and I love the model you showed us…Thank you so much 🙏 I’m gonna go do some Crystal chakra balancing now! Woohoo!❤️✨
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Accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and you will be saved. John 3:16 (share the good news of the gospel around the world!) Have a wonderful day/night, may the LORD bless you all, and farewell!,.,,,,,,
I love all of your videos! I would love to hear your thoughts on how childhood trauma contributes to procrastination & self sabotage. Thank you for all you do 💕
Aaron I click on the link and my cell phone went to the messages to send you don't no what exactly. Is that normal? 🧐🤦🏽♀️ I'm from Europe not EUA. So if you can help me understand what happened I appreciate. Thanks 👍🏽
Did you just message me directly on Instagram?
That's your shit not mine, thank you so much.
"if your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete."
As an empath, and as a highly sensitive person my whole life, I've been people pleaser for years for sure. I've realized it myself a few years ago. And one of my realizations was this one: if someone cannot handle my "no", they are not worthy of my " yes".
Truth.
@@mtvlagunabeach 🤝
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Aaron’s alignment is strong. He’s been vibrating at a high frequency for quite some time. Shoutout to the hard work this man has done
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True. he is firm now.
Having boundaries can also mean to: not overwork, limit unhealthy activities and limit your own negative thoughts.
My ah ha moment was realizing that my parents shit was their own and my shit is mine. They were doing the best they could with what they had. I am my own being and I create my own best self.
*Empaths are people pleaser and take others energies and think of them as their own Energy. They are Sensitive and can easily be manipulated hence why its soooo important to have BOUNDARIES if you are an Empath! I sure I am!!*
I am...when I was a toddler I was sending energy to people, and talking to spirits and being GROUNDED. I teach other empaths how to navigate their gifts and understand it's not a weakenss, it's a SUPERPOWER...but as you said we need to develop boundaries and ground so that we can not sacrifice our sensitivity which is a gift but not be overwhelend by energy and wind up being poeple pleaser sto not feel the disapproval of others..I had a huge problem with this, I turned to drugs, even after my awakening but I learned and grew and am still growing...anyway, just wanted to pass this on because I liked your comment and I relate to it.
Yes! Truth!
@@essr758 indeed✨
@@TheMediumChannel thank you! I resonate with what you said. It is indeed a Superpower, we just need to realise it and channel it in the right way! Thank you for sharing your story and congratulations for being an awaken human being!
Empaths are not people pleases nor do they take another's energy. They
are people that know what trauma is for they have lived it. A child that is molested, put down constantly, physically or mentally abuse etc starts to need validation to feel that there is nothing wrong with them. They have a sincere compassion for people because they have gone through so much. Empaths need to be taught how to think of themselves first and then to love others. They don't want to see what was done to them happen to other people. They are not manipulators they wouldn't meet so many toxic or narcissists if it wasn't for their atience and compassion.
The sun is a daily reminder that we too can rise again from the darkness, that we too can shine our own light.🙏🏽💙💫
Accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and you will be saved. John 3:16 (share the good news of the gospel around the world!) Have a wonderful day/night, may the LORD bless you all, and farewell!,.,,,,,,
@@1CT1 Jesus Christ was only a messenger of God. He was a creation of God. Accept the one true God the Most High who created and sustains everything as your savior and you will be saved. Peace, thanks.
More like a felt that u CAN become ur own savior.
My issue I have with being an empath is if a friend or someone close to me pulls away I start to freak out I want to know what I did wrong how I contributed to it. My work is to not take it so personal . The part where you said it occurs when you felt abandonment really resonated. I guess we don’t want to relive that pain so we just give in
Definitely we give in and we try to fix it even if there isn't a problem so that we over correct the problems that we didn't see in the past
That’s yoooo shit not mine “ ❤️
You'll watch an entire Netflix show even when the first episodes are slow and boring just because someone told you "it gets better." *But what if you looked at your goals like that and watched your life get better instead?*
Accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and you will be saved. John 3:16 (share the good news of the gospel around the world!) Have a wonderful day/night, may the LORD bless you all, and farewell!,.,,,,,,
beautifully said
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Today I'm saying no to my job. I've worked a call center job for the past year, making myself sick from stress, all to make other people happy. I deserve to be happy. Thank you Aaron.
Yeah sticking to boundaries creates such an epic experience! Without them the joy and full performance of flow doesn’t even reach anywhere near its full potential without boundaries! I’ve got all kinds of comedy skits on my channel about success and spiritual concepts that you might enjoy too! 😈🔥
I’m 40. Either I left my lower chakras a LONG time ago or I never connected. I’m just now coming back down into them. I feel like a version of me that I’ve never been. Super different and I’m starting to experience a different reality. It’s cool and scary at the same time
💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼 we are the same age and I feel your comment sooo much 🙏🏼
“What can I say no to today?” YES!! To saying more NOs!! 😂 And it recently occurred to me that, as I KNOW me more, I will say NO more!
Yeah sticking to boundaries creates such an epic experience! Without them the joy and full performance of flow doesn’t even reach anywhere near its full potential without boundaries! I’ve got all kinds of comedy skits on my channel about success and spiritual concepts that you might enjoy too! 😈
I’m 58 years old. I have to say to you Aaron, I’m so grateful for you, for your videos and great knowledge you have and share with us. Never thought that I would learn from such a young person🥰 Such a great guy.
Learning how to control my sensitivity as an empath has absolutely changed my life!
*"You will always have a good excuse to start later, just don't listen to yourself."*
Accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and you will be saved. John 3:16 (share the good news of the gospel around the world!) Have a wonderful day/night, may the LORD bless you all, and farewell!,.,,,,,,
Thank you Aaron for this video🙏💖 When I was a kid, I also couldn’t watch TV because of my mum‘s partner. In my case, when they came home he would check the TV too.
Leaving it on the last channel was the only way to survive.
A lot of work outside the house, no regular food, no decent clothes. All the time uncertainty. Still, I thought I was safe. Now I realise how much I wasn’t.
You making such videos, give me Energy to take my power back.
I wouldn’t say I’m a people pleaser, I’m very sensitive but I’m very strong at the same time and I know how to fight… but…yes for others not for myself.
In a relationship however, I gave so much love to my partner, that I felt totally responsible for his happiness.
Yes, learning how to be in my own body, stay in my solid frame is a lesson of my life I guess.
Thank You Aaron 🙏💖
We don’t realize until we’re out of it
Luv this. Yes! Not my circus not my monkeys. (aka Thats your $h!+ not mine). Stop abandoning myself. I can say no to things that don’t align with my values, goals, and purpose. Thank you @Aaron Doughty. Self love baby!!
I discovered 6 months ago …that my parent’s stuff was just that their stuff
I wish I found this video during my childhood
My grandmother told me those exact words but my mind couldn’t connect the dots from that trauma
I’m definitely an empath. I was engaged to a covert narc(but dated only narcs or selfish people). That traumatizing relationship made me finally say never again and let me figure this out
I figured out that my mom is a covert narc. That I’m an empath. How to say no.
I’m still a work in progress but I pray for healing for all that’s reading this and watching this video.
It does get better
My family's crap was there own crap not mine. I love how authentic this feels.🤗
I was the same, carried over all the crap my family and their generations before had. It is up to us to break the cycle!
Yeah sticking to boundaries creates such an epic experience! Without them the joy and full performance of flow doesn’t even reach anywhere near its full potential without boundaries! I’ve got all kinds of comedy skits on my channel about success and spiritual concepts that you might enjoy too! 😈🔥
I thought I had the perfect strategy to avoid setting boundaries: be with people who have the same values and preferences as myself. It seemed to work out for twenty+ years until I came to a rude awakening.
Lately, I have gotten a lot better at politely refusing and standing my ground. I no longer let my soon-to-be ex husband take advantage of me. I no longer engage in arguments with him. I give him nothing but facts and leave the conversation as soon as he gets personal. After the divorce, I can finally go no contact- yeah!
Congrats on making yourself first on your priority list. You are now a model of strength.
Good for you!!!
I have literally been stuck this whole time thinking i can't live life as a normal adult...I'm grateful for this video...💗
Total synchronicity that this showed up...Always EXCELLENCE! 💎
“That’s your Shit, NOT mine.” Hey Thanks Aaron, good looking out. love ya bro.🌞☯️✝️♊️
Oh, how right you are. Today I live with complex ptsd because I've had so many traumas happen in my life. I'm okay today- also I know I'm still an impath.🤗💞
This is actually exactly what I needed today ... 🙏
Empath Listening intently.
5:29 starts crying at the realization of absolute truth.
None of us are alone in this. I've been on a journey of self-improvement for quite some time now (years), and I like to think I have a pretty solid sense of self. But there's always more to learn and always more room to grow. My biggest thing is beating myself up when I notice myself slipping again.
Here's another mantra for everyone:
"Triggers are my best friends."
You need to feel it to heal it. You need to see it to tend to it. You need to sit with it and make peace with it, bit by bit. Triggers reveal these wounds to us, thus enabling us to tend to them and look at them for what they truly are.
Healing comes in layers. There's no amount of time you can put on such a thing - and contrary to popular belief? Time doesn't heal wounds. It's what we do with said time that defines the rate and quality of healing.
If you break your arm, what do you do? You put it in a cast and let it rest up for as long as it needs. You tend to it as the wound so demands. If you don't do so, then it's likely the broken arm won't heal properly and can lead to even more issues in the future. It never truly healed - in fact, the condition of the arm would likely only get worse.
The same goes for emotional wounds.
Pushing forward with these emotional wounds and beating ourselves up for them is the same as taking that broken arm and trying to do push ups with it. It does a lot more harm than good.
Maybe the bone was shattered. Maybe further inspection for fragments is needed, perhaps they need to be found and removed. The cast then needs to be put on, after maybe needing some stitches or staples. Whatever the case may be, allow. Just allow.
It's done wonders for me.
And, side note? Being wounded doesn't make you weak. It makes you human. We cannot control the depth of a wound another Inflicts upon us, but we can control what we do about it. That's the only place your focus is meant to be.
Thank you for making this video, Aaron. As a single mom at 25 who has been through countless amounts of traumas and also "identifies" as an empath (I do and don't - like you, I can now turn it on and off as necessary), I can't begin to express how helpful of a reminder this was. Life has been tough on everyone as of late, and I was thrown a massive curve ball. The father of my two year old son is narcissistic, possibly has antisocial personality disorder, and he managed to win custody despite me trying to make his domestic assault on me known (he got away with it and the statue of limitations passed - I waited too long and put other before self).
I'm going through physical therapy to try and correct the damage done, and it's going to be a long time before I'm recovered. Some things I'll have to manage and deal with for the rest of my life. I made the mistake of not opting for the cast and did push ups instead.
But it was a wake up call.
A monumental one.
For all those parents out there? We must lead by example. You have to BE who you want your child to be. Some of the things I wish for my son is a sense of confidence, fairness, authenticity, and personal sovereignty. And - of course - health, happiness, and safety.
Lead by example.
Eat healthy, live authentically. It doesn't matter how big or small the change is so long as it is a CHANGE. Don't stay in the same unless you want the same.
It begins with us.
And we co-create the future thus.
Thanks for reading if you did - sending all of you lots of love and light to help assist through these dreary times. ♡
We got this, collective. We got this.
We may not have enough courage to display it. The great gift of human beings is that we have the power of empathy. You can only understand people if you feel them in yourself. Anyone who has experienced a certain amount of loss in their life has empathy for those who have experienced loss
Yes!! The hard truth we all need to hear. I had always put everyone before me until I realised I couldn't serve others when I was doing this. Definitely attracted narcissistic people and was stuck in a cycle of toxic relationships. Thank you for sharing this!!
I’ve never been able to have “hard” conversations until pressure built up. I’ve forgotten who “I” am. Your videos seem to have great insight. Thank you
“That’s your shit, not mine.” Okay, yes. An important mantra!
Yeah sticking to boundaries creates such an epic experience! Without them the joy and full performance of flow doesn’t even reach anywhere near its full potential without boundaries! I’ve got all kinds of comedy skits on my channel about success and spiritual concepts that you might enjoy too! 😈
good explaination of the chakras/I went through that when younger /more in tune to others than to myself /not good/not anymore/been there done that/Now I can live the life I want
The new me...What can I say "NO" to today? That's your 💩 not mine!
I used to go way outta my way and ask " What can I do for you today? " Thinking that's my way of showing I care 😢 I'm exhausted!
Thank you Aaron!
When I was growing up my mother was someone who needed compliments and reassurance of love. My dad deprived her of the amount of compliments she required and it would effect her mood the whole day which would obviously effect my day. I remember constantly observing her to see what the day way going to be. It has made me very intuitive. Also anxious being around large groups because I’m so busy observing and feeling new people out. I have somehow managed this a lot better. I’m able to basically turn into a caiman. I feed off the emery of the room.
Interesting relaxation I had last year. She’s a great mom, and person. She just has deep rooted issues that she has no idea about. To many years of covering up very old wounds.
Always check yourself!
I claim my own energy and stand in my own power 🙌🏼🧿
Thank you. This really made sense to me. You explained the reasons for my lack of boundaries, empathetic abilities and my attraction to Narcissists. Now at 55 I am learning to live my life for my own purpose
Definitely would like to hear more of your advice on narcissists and empaths. I was literally abandoned (not for long, but it scared the shit out of me) when I was 7. Then I was sexually abused at 11! Talk about a reason to abandon your lower chakras! My life has been barely survival, and I have been suicidal many times, starting at 16. Since I have been watching you, I feel happier than I ever have. I have seen dramatic changes in just a few days. I was just discarded by a classic, overt narcissist and was in a lot of pain until I came across your videos. I just have to thank you for helping me find some peace, helping me to NOT want to kill myself, and helping me experience completely different reactions from strangers. It's amazing.
Definitely needed this today, thank you so much Aaron! I often tried to tune to my parents emotional states, and how to bring balance to their relationship with each other and my siblings. I realize that’s no longer how I want to function or feel, so thank you!
I have been shifting limiting and outdated beliefs for years now, and every time I watch one of Aarons videos, I come across and learn more of what I need to shift. Even having watched this video years ago, watching it again with a new level of awareness I can identify further beliefs to shift. Thank you Aaron ❤
Wow I'm so happy I've found this , I've struggled my whole life I'm now 34 and it's been one hell of a ride I've always tried understanding who am I and seen people just knowing who they are yet the constant up and down emotions are so draining I won't go to far back because this message will take forever but in my time ive had abuse when I was young struggled with rage and anger yet ive got a heart like a angel ive done care work loved connecting with people elderly and end of life and ive always helped and never want in return lately my saving grace is I met a man in a crystal shop who is a spiritual healer and also said if I fancied it there's a healing circle to witch I now go to and went from getting the healing to now giving it but I still didn't know how to protect myself because I was so sensitive with emotions . Thank you for this ive now subscribed
"Your own shit is yours not mine"
I literally just felt years of what I now realize...was overcompensating for my parents,(and me feeling as though they didn't do as much caring as much as I felt they should) coming to the understanding that they did the best with what they had and they did a good job it's not my responsibility to take on other people's burdens no matter how much I care about them...
I have , im 22 year's old i've been an empath since i was 6 years old , when i started doing the guided meditations my energy has been changing and i feel more in my body , Thank you Aaron you're blessed.
Yes I also experienced traumas in my childhood, & I have always felt very empathic, literally feeling what another person is feeling, as well as predicting what they’re gonna do or say based on their energy, or sometimes kinda knowing their life story even just from meeting them once 😂 I never made the connection until seeing your videos that as a child, I left my lower chakras due to the trauma & moved up to my third eye chakra & stayed in that energy to be able to tune to other people for survival/safety, & this is why I am so empathetic. But coming here (entering life) I know that was my desire, to be able to connect to others on such a deep level, so of course my life set me up to have that 😌 It became detrimental for a long while though, as I was in the shadow side of that, but now I have been learning how to live with it & use it in a positive way. Like you said, being able to turn it on & off when I want/need. I now have a strong sense of self & don’t just tune to whatever everyone else is feeling all the time, I set my feelings. I imagine I am stable & strong, like a tree. & I can tune to others & feel what they feel when I choose to. What an amazing insight 😌🙏🏼
Everyone thought I was working today but I called out last minute, I feel so much peace everyone left me alone energetically... I was like I need to learn to do this consciously, and then I went to UA-cam and saw this video ❤
Yesss thank u this helped me understand the reason why I’m an empath we have to look back to our childhood and question what emotional burdens our parents put onto us whic made us feel unsafe and felt as if we were doing something wrong by being honest and truthful so we had to change ourselves and filter our young developing mind
Thank you! This was exactly what I needed today. THAT'S YOUR SHIT NOT MINE! I am very grateful for all you do. ✌🏻💜🙏🏻
After two narcissistic marriages- THIS YOUR SHIT NOT MINE! What a long spiritual journey but I am getting back to my old self 😍
Thank you, Aaron for making this video. From your videos I noticed that I was empath. The more I learn the empath people watching your videos, it became easier to live daily basis.
You are absolutely correct in your description! The NARC is so hard to break away from even when they are not in your daily life.
I'm currently weeding lots of narcissistic men out my life that I never knew who they were until this year. It has taken some doing but watching videos like this is helping! Thank you so so much xx
Nice guide to empaths and people who have troubles setting boundaries.. ❤️
I never knew or had any information that childhood abandonment led to being empathic (to survive)! Thank you so much for revealing this to us!
I needed this. "That's your shit, not mine". Thanks for sharing 👍
I love that cute voice you use suddenly in the middle of all this great advice and when you laugh and loosen up during the videos. Thank you and excellent stuff 🤗
I am an empath through and through. The textbook definition of an empath with 60 yrs of experience dealing with a few narcissist in my lifetime. Experience has been a very good teacher. I can spot a narcissist almost instantly. It's been my experience that there is no healing a narcissist. A narcissist lives and dies a narcissist. I just steer clear and the peace in my life is magical.
You and me both. I attracted narcs like anything. Glad we both have come to the light!
@@PhoenixRisingCollective 👍 Just subbed.
Wow Aaron, guaranteed this has happened to me. My parents hurt me very badly when my mom also told me she was pregnant. They told me I was adopted. For the rest of my life I have felt like I don’t measure up or have something to prove, like I will never be good enough. Needless to say my Dad has never adopted me and I still use my mother’s maiden name. Still hurts. Told when I was 8. I am now 40 and have very minimal contact with my Dad, sisters or my step mother.
Lots of LOVE to You.❣ .You have à very much more value than any of thèse persons!!..Take care...You can be proud of your beautiful Heart ♥️ 🌞
This video hit home, I’m 62 and didn’t really know about empath’s. As little girl and teen I was scared most of my life due to a violent, angry, abusive father. I fit everything you said. My brother didn’t make and died from alcoholism at a young age. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.
Omgoodness. So true...terrible trauma through whole childhood. Challenging trust issues/safety.
Great info...thank you
Love to you, and Nameste '
I’m so sorry about those experiences with your ex step mom. No one deserves that.
But you look at how you evolved and what you’ve become. You’ve made it so far in life.
You can’t get back those parts of childhood where you were abused from that woman but look at where you are at now and know you will never have to be put in that type of situation again.
Lots of childhood trauma! I've been doing the inner child meditation and this is helping a lot! ❤ Thank you Aaron 🤗
I realized I was an empath 20 years ago. So appreciative of finally finding information to help me heal and understand this.
I have been following you for quite some time and you are a great soul. You explain things so well. I understand exactly what you mean. At the moment I am in this process staying in your own energy frame and letting go of your pain body is tough. But ultimately the road to enlightenment for which you were allowed to go through everything.
I did that for decades but finally saw the light out of self preservation and your videos and program!
Thank You soo much Dear Aaron. It was really important to see this video, to became more aware of myself. Big hug and kiss 😘🤗🧞✳️✨💜
Thank you so much Aaron. I never knew that about empaths. You answered a lot of questions for me. I can feel other peoples energy very easily and I didn't know why. I can also feel people from the other side.
Hopefully you can learn how to connect to this energy,. It is such an amazing and powerful gift to have :)
This video blew my mind. I have felt other people’s energies my whole life, to the extent it affects my mood. I often wondered if this was normal as no one in my family including my sibling experiences this. To hear you say it, it made me feel understood and I have relief, Thankyou so much for doing this video!!
Aaron I feel what youre saying I'm an empaTH , LOTS TO LEARN FROM YOUR CONTENT / BLESS
Yes, I'm an empath. When I was 2 to 9 1/2 my dad molested me. I tried to tell my mother when I was 6 and she didn't believe me. I told her again when I was 9 1/2. She finally listened but stayed with him. She would shoo him out of my room until I was 14. I got married at 16 to get out. We were married 28 years and he's a covert narcissist. I am now 53 and still dealing with and healing from some of that stuff. Thank you for this video.
That mantra applied in this context is valuable.
That mantra applied in other contexts is excusing a lot of abuse in the self-improvement community.
There *is* some responsibility that comes with being in relationship with people.
Boundaries are too simplistic a model - as empaths becoming tuned in to the energy exchange that's going on and deciding whether or not one is ok with that is a much better practice.
Yeah sticking to boundaries creates such an epic experience! Without them the joy and full performance of flow doesn’t even reach anywhere near its full potential without boundaries! I’ve got all kinds of comedy skits on my channel about success and spiritual concepts that you might enjoy too! 😈🔥
@@ollieewin4757 I'm a bit scared now!
:D
Love this video . Thank you ! Sooo helpful and insightful and 100% spot on. Thank you !
Dear Aaron, rhank you for your video. There were so many things that clicked with me. And yes - your theory of how empathy is started, makes total sense in my life. At the beginning It was thrown of by the lack of professionality of your video - however, after a few seconds I realised it made me connect to your message even better, because it's authentic.
Holy crap. Left the bottom chakras?? Wow. Explains a lot.....also "what can I say no to today?" I literally feel like youve given words to the process I've been in for a while. You gotta be there for yourself!!!
I wish there was a place where we could tell our story, like to the world. Get it off our chest one good time and then let it go. Then would be so freeing for me, I know for a lot of others as well
@Aaron Doúghty▫️ go meditate and become a better person. Stop trying to take from people. Find your integrity
To the scammer not Arron
I started telling a covert narc in my life "that's yours, not mine." When it came to thoughts, energy, and mindset. It was a shit storm at first but I kept my boundaries up and life has honestly been better.
Also, I am learning how to stand in my own frame. Thank you for this message 😊
Wow! You did a very good job explaining Stockholm Syndrome, and how it ties into being an empath who feels others feelings. Very interesting stuff. Thank you
I didn't have childhood trauma but I didn't go from my childhood home into a 12 year abuse relationship from age 17-29, I have ptsd from that but I remember being a really sensitive child, I've been sensitive for as long as I can remember and been on my empathic self love healing journey the last 2 years and boundaries with my mother is probably the hardest thing to deal with. Thankyou for this video makes sense..I'm also a reiki master but am working on healing my energy first 🧚♀️
That's their shit not mine lol
None of the other videos on you tube mentions how I feel responsible for other people. What you said is spot on about me! What I Learned from you in this video Would Haven Taken me Hours to Learn in face to face Therapy - If At All!!! Namaste.❤
Yes! Omg . My mind is blown. Empath here! This reaonates big time.
Best video ever on empaths! Wow. Just wow. I stayed with narcissistic parent and partner.. till I valued myself more
I allowed my mom to control me and my children. I am learning and have learned to set boundaries
Wow. I’m upset I didn’t watch this sooner. You really break it down and quite relate to me or at least help me understand myself. Thank you. Stay blessed!
Thank You Aaron!! So funny I have felt drawn to skunks for many years they are so cute and cuddly and love the smell as well ❤️ learning about them as a spirit animal made so much sense to me ! I resonate so much with this video ! I am an empath and I was married to a narcissist for a long time ! I had abandonment issues from childhood. I am in a much better place learning a lot! I said no to a friend today so I could stay home and did what I felt was necessary for my self care❤️ thanks for your videos I love them !!!
Thank you Aaron. You’re a precious soul, everything making sense now!
I’ve been doing the magnetic love challenge and have just finished Day 11. As I’m preparing myself for my homework I watched this video and it was spot on!!! Dear dad, this is your shit, not mine. Dear ex lovers, this is your shit, not mine. Thank you, Aaron. Much love!
Share share share with your fellow empaths! Sooo many people would have a transformative shift from watching this! Empaths more often than not are carrying trauma, share this with them!
Dead on ! My dad passed when I was 6. From that point on until now at 63 I have always been an empath.
I like the Namaste 🙏 from Aaron. I myself was devastated from my narcissistic GF when she left me, I knew there was something wrong with her, tried to heal her but was impossible.❤
I looked for absolutely different topic on UA-cam, but your video just pop up. And it made my day. I work on my self a lot of years to become the person who I always wanted to be. I have narcissistic controlling mom. So I'm still learning how to say "no" to people. The frame thing is really interesting. I never heard about it this way. Thank you for the insight! I'm your fan now❤
Yes I was adopted as a baby but was in 3 different group homes before I finally got to come home. This video makes me realize maybe that’s the reason for why I feel empathic since i didn’t get the attention right away. Idk thanks for expanding my understanding on myself
naww sending you so much love. You are so strong x
yeah, that's true, we don't feel the boundaries of our body and mistake people's emotions with ours.
It took me a while to realise that root chakra is the body framework I must observe to distinguish myself from other's emotions. And not to be hurt by them.
One of the best explanations of "why" your an empath💛
I'm in my 20s and I can say I've spent my whole life being a people pleaser, I went to church every sunday because that's what my dad wanted, I got bullied at school because I didn't know how to set boundaries, I tolerated toxic friends because I still had fear of "dismissing" them, and so it goes. I managed to evolve a lot but I still see that I have a lot of this habit of having the need to be a people pleaser at all costs. THIS VIDEO WAS VERY ENLIGHTENING FOR ME, I WILL WATCH EVERY ONE YOU TALK ABOUT THIS SUBJECT (and your channel in general). I see now that I finally need to change this in myself, finally set myself free...
Aaron, thank you so much for all your content! I recently started my own UA-cam channel all because of your influence. Thank you for the inspiration!
Yes was terribly physically abused as a small child. Consequently I started "sensing" about others. Their intentions, their state of mind sometimes even their thoughts. Felt like I always knew when I was in trouble. And my GUT was never wrong.
It's good to know iam not the only person like this. It's scary how much I can relate to what aaron speaks about.
Aaron I can relate sooooo much to almost everything you said in this video! I feel understood where I am seriously questioning my own sanity at times right now 😂
Totally 💯 %…left my body @ 4mo old bc was in mortal danger ⛔️ came back tuned into everything but myself.
Wow… you explained this so exquisitely Aaron! Although I’ve healed a lot in this lifetime, recently I’ve still been faced with consequences of people crossing my boundaries without me even consciously realising! Understanding it through chakra energetics is so so valuable and I love the model you showed us…Thank you so much 🙏 I’m gonna go do some Crystal chakra balancing now! Woohoo!❤️✨
Yes I have....I could feel my mother's mood.....now I feel everyone's mood.