Losing hope ... just really, really sad and really miss my ex. And before people say You'll find someone better. Just Shut it. You don't connect to other people that easily. It could easily be years before I meet someone like her again. Just devastated.
You're obviously right. It took me 2 years between every relationship to find someone i connect to as well. But remember grief blinds your field of view. The sooner you can stop grief from creating walls the better
Breakups are painful. I know. I’m going through one right now. It’s like an emotional roller coaster. One day you think you might be getting over it. The next day, the pain is excruciating. Hang in there bro.
Give them your absence. It does make the heart grow fonder. Its hard but, good for both of you to grow apart to be even stronger so when you're both together again you know how to deal with problems that caused the seperation in the first place. If they truly loved you and your relationship was fullfilling they will come back. If it ended due to other circumstances out of your control in their life or yours.. or it didn't they will come back. I've learned a lot from these coaches and its helped to focus what i need to do to better myself. My long distance partner loved me to death and did everything to try and repair our relationship and so did I. She had a depressive episode that kept getting worse the month after i visited her. She just shut down in a sense. Her home life was too stressful and she was on a really bad spot mentally. I have mental health issues as well and have been diagnosed with clinical depression but I was starting to climb out of it because of her. I was doing everything i could to be strong enough to support her, but eventually she couldnt handle it anymore and decided to leave. She said that I deserve so much but she couldnt give me the love and reassurance I needed because of her declining mental health. She felt like she wasn't a good partner because of her depression, but i kept telling her that im going to wait and be strong for her until she improves, but she still kept getting distant and finally left.. I was truly heartbroken, but I now that i need to give her some space right now. That way we can work ourselves and hopefully rekindle in the future. Her last message to me was "please take care of yourself. Maybe one day we'll be together again." Thats exactly what ive been doing and even more. Im going to be the best possible version of myself for when she comes back. Better job, more money, better mental state, therapy, im going to try to enhance my physical attractiveness and everything else to be the best possible version of myself for her. I need to be more mentally strong for when she comes back and thats exactly what I'm going to do. All of this because of my love for her. I know she feels the same love for me. Thats why shes worth fighting for
What if you walked away as you didn’t think it was going where you wanted it to , but you regretted walking away too early even though she didn’t even ask why you stopped seeing/contacting them?….
What if my ex told me she is done done and her mind is made up and there is nothing that can be said or done to change anything. She says she should of left along time ago. She left based of the issue that I wasn’t initiating and leading and I never asked her to an actual date or to be my girlfriend in the year and 10 months we talked but she was my direct supervisor and I couldn’t get my class a fast enough so we couldn’t date in public until I left the station which I did but she left before the month agreement we had so no one speculate anything
Losing hope ... just really, really sad and really miss my ex. And before people say You'll find someone better. Just Shut it. You don't connect to other people that easily. It could easily be years before I meet someone like her again. Just devastated.
Did they leave you or you left them? Or what happened
You're obviously right. It took me 2 years between every relationship to find someone i connect to as well. But remember grief blinds your field of view. The sooner you can stop grief from creating walls the better
Breakups are painful. I know. I’m going through one right now. It’s like an emotional roller coaster. One day you think you might be getting over it. The next day, the pain is excruciating. Hang in there bro.
Give them your absence. It does make the heart grow fonder. Its hard but, good for both of you to grow apart to be even stronger so when you're both together again you know how to deal with problems that caused the seperation in the first place. If they truly loved you and your relationship was fullfilling they will come back. If it ended due to other circumstances out of your control in their life or yours.. or it didn't they will come back. I've learned a lot from these coaches and its helped to focus what i need to do to better myself. My long distance partner loved me to death and did everything to try and repair our relationship and so did I. She had a depressive episode that kept getting worse the month after i visited her. She just shut down in a sense. Her home life was too stressful and she was on a really bad spot mentally. I have mental health issues as well and have been diagnosed with clinical depression but I was starting to climb out of it because of her. I was doing everything i could to be strong enough to support her, but eventually she couldnt handle it anymore and decided to leave. She said that I deserve so much but she couldnt give me the love and reassurance I needed because of her declining mental health. She felt like she wasn't a good partner because of her depression, but i kept telling her that im going to wait and be strong for her until she improves, but she still kept getting distant and finally left.. I was truly heartbroken, but I now that i need to give her some space right now. That way we can work ourselves and hopefully rekindle in the future. Her last message to me was "please take care of yourself. Maybe one day we'll be together again." Thats exactly what ive been doing and even more. Im going to be the best possible version of myself for when she comes back. Better job, more money, better mental state, therapy, im going to try to enhance my physical attractiveness and everything else to be the best possible version of myself for her. I need to be more mentally strong for when she comes back and thats exactly what I'm going to do. All of this because of my love for her. I know she feels the same love for me. Thats why shes worth fighting for
Thanks!
Thank you so much again 🙂
How are you feeling?
What if you walked away as you didn’t think it was going where you wanted it to , but you regretted walking away too early even though she didn’t even ask why you stopped seeing/contacting them?….
I unfollowed him everywhere and deleted him from socials for my own sanity. We have no mutual friends. Now what?
she is thinking of me in a positive light now but still not having romantic feelings
Top man, excellent advice
What if my ex told me she is done done and her mind is made up and there is nothing that can be said or done to change anything. She says she should of left along time ago. She left based of the issue that I wasn’t initiating and leading and I never asked her to an actual date or to be my girlfriend in the year and 10 months we talked but she was my direct supervisor and I couldn’t get my class a fast enough so we couldn’t date in public until I left the station which I did but she left before the month agreement we had so no one speculate anything