Makes me realize I have to act excited to see whatever my kids want to show me or tell me even if for the 1000th time .... don’t want to break their spirits
This is hard to watch as a teen who was neglected by a parent for i see myself in the baby the moment a mother looks back. 😔Imagine a baby who'se so young to understand the interactions with others, what more if a baby grew in that kind of situation. I'm a teen whose neglected by a parent and i admit even us teen that are in peek of adolescence still need that emotional support for our development and it is greatly affecting our interaction from the outside world. 😔
I'm sorry to hear that. I bet you'll be a good parent🌹❤ There will be a certain time period when you'll realize that only you are enough for you development. Also do visit a psychologist for guidance. I wish you all the best. Much love❤
True! Not just with phones though- the previous outsourced the parenting of their child to the TV set, and this generation might outsource it to the mobile phone.
I am an adoptee and I have throughout my whole life been told that “well you were only a few months old when you were abandoned so you didn’t suffer”. I used to believe that bs but it was not until last year when I started my healing journey that I realized how deep this trauma sits in my body. Everyone should watch this clip!
Absolutely... Body keeps the score... Sorry to hear this Hanna... Btw I suggest you follow John Bradshaw's work on YT and he has a book on this healing called Homecoming: Reclaim & championbyour inner child... It's groundbreaking... After that you can also start Carl Jung's shadow work...
This is absolutely incredible. I had no idea that playful engagements like these are that essential to babies, or that they would even pick up on it that quickly. Wow, of course who does'nt just love babies!!
Many so called carers don't love babies, and that's the point of this presentation, to show how being uninterested, unempathetic, causes distress, and that's just a blank face .. try adding anger, hostility, resentment, or rage for being inconvenienced by that child's needs, cries, bids for help or connection. Imagine....
All the Still Face experiment videos, I know I'll instantly fail. The moment the babies smiled at their unresponsive caregiver, I smiled back automatically.
What I found to be interesting was my response to the children's reaction...they were "distraught" and I literally felt sad! It would be interesting to investigate the emotional health (and the contributing factors to their emotional health) of a parent/adult who has no reaction to a child in distress.
+Melissa Henley We are hard wired to care about other, especially infants and children. Only damaged people dont have empathy towards young humans.They are the same people who hurt animals and worst. P.S. I could not have been one of those parents, who know what if any lasting effect this ''experiment'' would have on a small child.
The effect is if this is prolonged it is a form,of neglect leading to children struggling to form meaningful relationships in the future and if it is extremely severe neglect it can lead to juvenile behaviour and even narcissism and psychopathy due to the baby lacking emotional development so failing to understand interaction and care about the feelings of others. Of course a few minutes will not have any real effect so it is a safe experiment to do but the aim of the experiment is to explore the effect of neglect on children
That was a very interesting Project with that "Still face" of the mam and her baby or young child. I have thought about all the children in past 2 years who saw the most of time their parents, teachers and all the other people with masks on their face.😥 They just saw the eyes and a "still face". The interaction and "reading" the whole face re-action was not there..🤷♀️ the connection to the world was disrupted..
It may seem like an esoteric perception but it seems that receiving attention empowers us, as if receiving a charge of energy that is interpreted as positive and in the absence of it, the opposite happens.
Thank you for making this video. This clip is so much more compelling than reading or hearing someone talk on the subject. I hope you do more of these as there is not a lot out there. Great work!
With my 4 month old baby, he smiles at everyone. When my family smiles at him engages, he gets so happy and smiles all the time. When they then get distracted by the tv or their phone or something else, my 4 month old stares at them still for a while, smiles at them, gets no reaction and notices the disengagement, sort of gets sad and looks elsewhere. Its the loss of happiness that gets me when that happens. Thats why as his mother, i always try and make sure im engaging with him when he is trying to engage himself
Yes the mirroring face. The child is the mother for at least the first year. If they are accepted as they are( mirrored) they will internalise this and feel safe to be who they are. If not they will crave these unmet needs in others. They will carry that pain in their lives.
One of my greatests concerns is all the babies growing up with parents that are on their phones all the time, and this constant lack of connection with their children from when they are born!, even when they are taking their children out for a walk in the stroller.they don't talk or engage in conversation with their children! ....So sad and detrimental to the childs mental health. . Lack of emotional connection, leads to lack of empathy. A world full of people without empathy is going to be a frightening world. I never forget once about 5 years ago , I was having lunch in the mall and their was this young couple with a 6 month old baby, they both sat down ate their food in complete silence, baby was in a high chair and they were on their respective phones, neither talking to eachother or the baby the entire time they had lunch and the baby was awake! I could not believe this, and I thought what a hard life that child is going to have because it is going to be way behind in everything, if it ever catches up psychologically. Stupid parents!
Over and over and over, connect -still face, inconsistency sounds like a formula for disorganized attachment, where a child stops believing in the connection cycle of abuse/neglect stops believing they are safe or loved= loveable, even then....classical cond. 101
It's quite simple, really. When the mother is unresponsive the baby naturally assumes that she is ill. That begs the question: Who will keep me warm and fed if Mother is incapacitated? It also keeps the baby a little insight into the mother's mortality.
@@shycat5905 the baby wouldn't consciously know about loss, but it could well be the product of evolution and therefore instinct causing it to act in this way :)
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Makes me realize I have to act excited to see whatever my kids want to show me or tell me even if for the 1000th time .... don’t want to break their spirits
No you don't. They're overstimulated brats.
@@rodneyleon3645 The example of what unloving parents create.
@@salomesandroshvili5364 he is a middle aged man.
@@rodneyleon3645 yikes
@@rodneyleon3645 Lmao, actual fatherless behavior...rest in piss bozo
L + no dad.🥶🥵
thanks for educating my left ear
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This is hard to watch as a teen who was neglected by a parent for i see myself in the baby the moment a mother looks back. 😔Imagine a baby who'se so young to understand the interactions with others, what more if a baby grew in that kind of situation.
I'm a teen whose neglected by a parent and i admit even us teen that are in peek of adolescence still need that emotional support for our development and it is greatly affecting our interaction from the outside world. 😔
Janna I am so sorry to read that. Hope you are doing ok. Sending you lots of love. ❤️
I'm sorry to hear that. I bet you'll be a good parent🌹❤
There will be a certain time period when you'll realize that only you are enough for you development. Also do visit a psychologist for guidance. I wish you all the best. Much love❤
This is heart breaking! I think we are doing this more and more with our phones and computers in front of our faces. :(
True! Not just with phones though- the previous outsourced the parenting of their child to the TV set, and this generation might outsource it to the mobile phone.
I am an adoptee and I have throughout my whole life been told that “well you were only a few months old when you were abandoned so you didn’t suffer”. I used to believe that bs but it was not until last year when I started my healing journey that I realized how deep this trauma sits in my body. Everyone should watch this clip!
Absolutely... Body keeps the score... Sorry to hear this Hanna... Btw I suggest you follow John Bradshaw's work on YT and he has a book on this healing called Homecoming: Reclaim & championbyour inner child... It's groundbreaking... After that you can also start Carl Jung's shadow work...
@@rameshsharma4422 thank you! Will def check out your recommendations 🙏
This is absolutely incredible. I had no idea that playful engagements like these are that essential to babies, or that they would even pick up on it that quickly. Wow, of course who does'nt just love babies!!
Attention equals power.
Many so called carers don't love babies, and that's the point of this presentation, to show how being uninterested, unempathetic, causes distress, and that's just a blank face .. try adding anger, hostility, resentment, or rage for being inconvenienced by that child's needs, cries, bids for help or connection.
Imagine....
I don’t “jUsT LoVe bAbiEs”. The experiment is interesting but shut the hell up. They are unremarkable at best.
Sucks having a depressed caretaker.
All the Still Face experiment videos, I know I'll instantly fail. The moment the babies smiled at their unresponsive caregiver, I smiled back automatically.
What I found to be interesting was my response to the children's reaction...they were "distraught" and I literally felt sad! It would be interesting to investigate the emotional health (and the contributing factors to their emotional health) of a parent/adult who has no reaction to a child in distress.
+Melissa Henley We are hard wired to care about other, especially infants and children. Only damaged people dont have empathy towards young humans.They are the same people who hurt animals and worst. P.S. I could not have been one of those parents, who know what if any lasting effect this ''experiment'' would have on a small child.
Usually in psychology tests they train the parents ahead of time. I'm sure it's difficult for the parents to do this.
The effect is if this is prolonged it is a form,of neglect leading to children struggling to form meaningful relationships in the future and if it is extremely severe neglect it can lead to juvenile behaviour and even narcissism and psychopathy due to the baby lacking emotional development so failing to understand interaction and care about the feelings of others. Of course a few minutes will not have any real effect so it is a safe experiment to do but the aim of the experiment is to explore the effect of neglect on children
there's lots of research in this area - look up attachment and infant mental health
That was a very interesting Project with that "Still face" of the mam and her baby or young child. I have thought about all the children in past 2 years who saw the most of time their parents, teachers and all the other people with masks on their face.😥 They just saw the eyes and a "still face".
The interaction and "reading" the whole face re-action was not there..🤷♀️ the connection to the world was disrupted..
It may seem like an esoteric perception but it seems that receiving attention empowers us, as if receiving a charge of energy that is interpreted as positive and in the absence of it, the opposite happens.
There's also another experiment that's really clarifying about the different kinds of attachment: safe, insecure/avoidant and insecure/ambivalent.
Yes... Attachment styles are influence of childhood attachment
“ yea I did it “ aww 😂
Thank you for making this video. This clip is so much more compelling than reading or hearing someone talk on the subject. I hope you do more of these as there is not a lot out there. Great work!
Why don't you try rearing a child [with a Male husband] for twenty years, and then you'll learn just how idiotic and unnecessary this kind of crap is.
With my 4 month old baby, he smiles at everyone. When my family smiles at him engages, he gets so happy and smiles all the time. When they then get distracted by the tv or their phone or something else, my 4 month old stares at them still for a while, smiles at them, gets no reaction and notices the disengagement, sort of gets sad and looks elsewhere. Its the loss of happiness that gets me when that happens. Thats why as his mother, i always try and make sure im engaging with him when he is trying to engage himself
A+ for diversity!!! An Asian baby!! A black baby!! This baby is so adorable!!! Quincy is like, "...What the hell is wrong w you???"
I thought the same thing. I like that they added families of color.
This helped open my mind thank you
mothers should be happy,for their children to be happy
PARENTS NEED TO BE HAPPY!
baby absorb from everyone in the household
Yes the mirroring face. The child is the mother for at least the first year. If they are accepted as they are( mirrored) they will internalise this and feel safe to be who they are. If not they will crave these unmet needs in others. They will carry that pain in their lives.
4:29 reminds me of Stewie 👀
He even has the red and yellow, well, not on his clothes but near him.
The exact same footage from 2:08 to 3:56 was used in an episode of "Law & Order: SVU"! :-)
One of my greatests concerns is all the babies growing up with parents that are on their phones all the time, and this constant lack of connection with their children from when they are born!, even when they are taking their children out for a walk in the stroller.they don't talk or engage in conversation with their children! ....So sad and detrimental to the childs mental health. . Lack of emotional connection, leads to lack of empathy. A world full of people without empathy is going to be a frightening world. I never forget once about 5 years ago , I was having lunch in the mall and their was this young couple with a 6 month old baby, they both sat down ate their food in complete silence, baby was in a high chair and they were on their respective phones, neither talking to eachother or the baby the entire time they had lunch and the baby was awake! I could not believe this, and I thought what a hard life that child is going to have because it is going to be way behind in everything, if it ever catches up psychologically. Stupid parents!
Here bc of an SVU episode. Anyone else?
Which one?
@@mauia88 Based on my research, I think it's called "Cage" but I'm not absolutely sure
Here wondering how the mandated masks are going to damage our children when everyone is masked around them.
@@adovgan84 Good point, Alex 👍
Over and over and over, connect -still face, inconsistency sounds like a formula for disorganized attachment, where a child stops believing in the connection cycle of abuse/neglect stops believing they are safe or loved= loveable, even then....classical cond. 101
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It's quite simple, really. When the mother is unresponsive the baby naturally assumes that she is ill. That begs the question: Who will keep me warm and fed if Mother is incapacitated? It also keeps the baby a little insight into the mother's mortality.
Simon I think its you that's simple..lol
It's not just that. It's the connection, the bond. The one person you trust most, who's basically you're whole world, what happens if you lose them?
zachanikwano A baby that young wouldn't know about loss, yet.
Simon I’m not sure a baby can process and make that connection. Does it state this somewhere in the study or is it just your take on it?
@@shycat5905 the baby wouldn't consciously know about loss, but it could well be the product of evolution and therefore instinct causing it to act in this way :)
Babies are so needy
No duh.
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Manipulation comes as standard!
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You could guess by the hairstyles which baby would hit mom.