5 Months With No Facebook, What I've Learned.
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- Опубліковано 22 сер 2024
- So it's been 5 months since I quit Facebook, here is what I've learned.
To watch my original video about why I decided to quit click the link below.
• 5 Reasons To Quit Face...
10 minutes ago I was happily using Facebook. Then I stumbled upon this video, realized I was unhappy, and deactivated my account. I quit! Thank you
+Oliver Betteridge The one thing I learned from facebook is I don't miss or need it, I'm clean now over 2 years.
+Oliver Betteridge u know u can't sustain that
Joe Budd Huh, you think its impossible to unplug yourself from this online social matrix? Wake up.
***** you're on youtube right now
Been off facebook for 4 months after being on it everyday for 9 years. I dont miss it. I dont think about it. My friends have found other ways to contact me. Im happier and healthier. Increased attention span. Zero regrets. :)
you still dont have facebook?
9 years too. Time to drop the ego. I want my life back. Thank you for the comment.
When you delete your FB account it gives you the opportunity to save your entire account to a file, zip file I think it is. So nothing is lost.
It's been two weeks and I'm filling so much better . Not knowing what is going on in everyone's life.
At the age of 88 decided to give up facebook reason why is my grandson and his wife never visit and we were on friends - I prefer direct contact not artificial airwaves.
I quit facebook 7 months ago and initially it was just a "oh, look I did it!" feeling. But slowly I started to realize that I was being mindful of things I was doing. Quality of my life improved, I started to get appreciation for my work, I started taking better care of myself... like simple things like condition my hair, exercise, cook better food, or take better care of my health. I find that over all, I am more at peace with my own self without all the noise that I really didn't need in the first place. At this point, I don't even think about Facebook.
Facebook is a waste of time!
I went back to reading great books and I enjoy my life more :)
I found this video through my own video called "Life Without Facebook". I deactivated 9 months ago (October 2015). It really does feel great. I have less anxiety.
p.s. I agree with everything you're saying! Exactly. Facebook has a unified swarm mentality that I didn't truly notice until I was gone.
Well, everything but the 'likes' thing. I wanted 'likes' on posts like important announcements I wanted more people to see (the more 'likes' a post receives, it will appear on more friends' news feeds). Everything else, though, spot on!
you still have facebook deactivated?
When people say they’re don’t with Facebook, and then remark that they’ve “deactivated” as opposed to permanently deleted their accounts it makes me sad. It’s like saying you’ve quit drinking forever, but you keep a flask of whiskey in your nightstand.
Your skin looked yellow in the video of the day you quit FB, and now you look so much more healthy! Good for you brother! :) I quit FB a few weeks ago, and it feels good!
I quit Facebook today . Never been happier and free now . My private life should be share with real friends in real life , not the “virtual” friends I never met.
That last sentence though👏👏👏
Facebook has no business in the life of a real man.
It could if you have a child custody case going on and you have a fake one just to see what your daughters mom is posting about to use against her in court. lol
@@blisterpacman sounds tiresome not worth it
Never had facebook never wanted it
Wow , nice , rarely to find people who never had facebook
you're not missing a thing
dont have facebook either. only socail media i use is youtube and whatsapp. all that time people spend on there social media, comparing themselves to other people, i spend working on myself.
So good, man. I just quit facebook and it was because of the way it was starting to affect my life. I don't own a cell phone either and never did and my mental health is already improving. Love the video.
My daughter quit facebook about 3 months ago and she loves being off there.
I deleted my facebook account over 9 years ago. Never gave it a second thought. The whole thing was a crock of shit. Can't believe people are only just discovering the benefits of ridding themselves of this scourge.
This is brilliant, leaving facebook is basically waking up. Thanks for this glad I stumbled upon this video.
4 years Facebook sober and will never look back. :)
What I also really like is taking pictures of cool events from time to time for the sole purpose of me looking at them a few days, weeks, years later. i love not feeling the need to post these intimate photos :)
Very interesting. I am thinking of deleting my fb, because it makes me unhappy. I´ve deleted it before, once for 4 months and then for one month this spring. But I always come back, only to realize that it makes me unhappy. It didn´t help my social life, and it made me insecure and feeling like shit, honestly. I´ll think about deleting it again. Thanks for this video.
+pridden76 the thing is that without facebook, the ways of connecting with people are quite minimal
+caipirinh0 No, connecting with people is actually easier without Facebook. True connection cannot be found on Facebook. It´s not real life.
pridden76 ... in what are you saying that? As far as I know, the most fast way of comunication is the internet, so, the "easier" that you are saying is verry relative. You can say its not the most efficient or something else, but in terms of easieniest, is verry wtf
But I mean connection in real life, two people talking, meeting in real life, connecting and sharing face to face. Facebook can never do that. Anyway, I am Facebook free now. :-)
pridden76 but you can use the engine to meet people you lost the connection. Facebook is good doing that
Some of the posts on FB are like the 2 minute hate in 1984. I'm 2 days FB free. Good video. Thanks for sharing.
I just posted my final goodbye to Facebook so friends can stay in touch if they’re interested, and one of my observations was that George Orwell would have been horrifically impressed by Facebook.
Facebook deleted my account yesterday. No reason given. I lost 472 friends and all my photos. So I made a new one today and that was deleted too. Not going to make another one.
Lucky you sorry for your pics.
Why would they delete your account?
@@mmdmmj1 They did
I deleted my Facebook 3 days ago and you are so right about realizing it's not nearly as big of a deal as I thought it would be. Having to find an activity when I get bored is so much more fun than getting online.
Just turned Facebook free today!
Tom. I gave up facebook because of your videos. For that, I want to say THANK YOU. I was reading a book on Mindfulness today, and i ran across this poem. I thought it beautifully illustrated so much of what you said. I hope you enjoy this as much as i did:
"We call it a grain of sand,
but it calls itself neither grain nor sand.
It does just fine, without a name,
whether general, particular
permanent, passing,
incorrect, or apt.
Our glance, our touch means nothing to it.
It doesn't feel itself seen and touched.
And that it fell on the windowsill
is only our experience, not its.
For it, it is not different from falling on anything else
with no assurance that it has finished falling
or that it is falling still.
The window has a wonderful view of the lake,
but the view doesn't view itself.
It exists in this world
colorless, shapeless,
soundless, odorless, and painless.
The lake's floor exists floorlessly,
and its shore exists shorelessly.
The water feels itself neither wet nor dry
and its waves to themselves are neither singular nor plural.
The splash deaf to their own noise
on pebbles neither large nor small.
And all this beneath a sky by nature skyless
in which the sun sets without setting at all
and hides without hiding behind an unminding cloud.
The wind ruffles it, its only reason being
that it blows.
A second passes.
A second second.
A third.
But they're three seconds only for us.
Time has passed like a courier with urgent news.
But that's just our simile.
The character is invented, his haste is make believe,
his news inhuman.
-View with a Grain of Sand by Wislawa Symborska
i deleted my facebook too 3 weeks ago.
You're speaking faster in this video and it seems like your cognitive abilities are a bit sharper. Seems like social media might play a part.
I'm late but that's true.I remember the first video.
~I lived without facebook before it came on the internet~then I joined it in August 2009~after 9 years of being there I deleted it 3 months ago~feels like the many years before I joined it that now I live that life over again as tho I was never there on it in the first place~I guess I needed to get something out of me for 9 years then I said to myself when I was leaving~"what am I doing here and what am I proving?"~that is when I said~nothing and that cured me in that ah ha moment~went back to blogging on my three blogs~as I am a writer, poet and an author and that was my schtick when I was there on that platform~no more~I am glad to have seen the light~
3 years free of Facebook for me! ^-^
No money to be made. I have two websites that I want a brand and image. Facebook is too negative. People don't realize it.
I love the advice you gave about making Facebook boring. I'm planning to do the same with my Instagram
I deleted my Facebook back in November of 2016, haven't missed it at all
I've been on FB for a year more or less, and I quit in 2011. But just after a couple of months I was quite annoyes.
Reasons? easy: waste of time, false friends, etc. similar things
Never worry about what other people think. YOU ARE THE UNIVERSE!!!
Well i just had facebook send a message that proves they read messages in the messager they have blocked me from posting over something i sent a friend
This is a big problem. I am still there, but they watch on FB and messenger. I started texting stuff that could get me banned to a friend who lives a long way from me on regular texting on my phone. You have to follow their rules, no freedom of speech, I was threatened with losing my account for a post they claim was hate speech. I don't feel safe to say anything unless it is positive, easy to slip up and forget so not sure I am going to post much but cartoons or pictures, but they know all about me through pictures and they sell our data and use ad's to make money. They have us in a prison because if we manage not to get kicked off for life, we are afraid of leaving because all our friends and family are there and very few write each other in "private" emails where you can say what you want to anymore. We have let Zuckerberg control us. EVERYONE should delete their accounts. I would love to see his face if that happened. He is rich and doesn't really care about us. There is no way to contact them by phone if you slip up and say the wrong thing or post something against their Terms of Service, or whatever it is called. I am only now realizing what he is doing. Researched him, he is as bad as the guy who started Apple. We are all slaves to these kind of people. I am an introvert, depressed a lot, I think now what I thought helped is only isolating me more. I wish more people would see what you posted and it could be gotten out to more people via blogs, newspapers, maybe a book written about the him and fb. JMO.
I'm an infp-thank you for articulating these thoughts so well. They certainly resonate!
I quit came back again. Now I'm gonna delete it permanently. idk what do you guys do when Zuckerbergs paid websites force u to have a facebook account inorder to comment kn their website or blogs?
Although if your Facebook is deactivated, you can still use Facebook Messenger. You can still add people from Facebook and private message them and also still be invited to events.
So really, there are no negatives to quitting Facebook.
Thank you Tom for sharing an honest view on the whole Quit Facebook experience! Definitely a motivator. :)
Decided to do the same thing myself today as well. I got tired of making myself adapt to what's expected from you on Facebook, fighting off angry/"clever" commenters, and spending such great amounts of time posting random stuff and comparing myself with the "perfect" lives of others.
It's tough to quit FB completely - if you have FB page for your own business, have registered on, for example, Spotify and created tons of awesome playlists there... :P But I'll see how it goes! I just want to clear up all the space in myself and be more peaceful about everything that I'm doing.
If anyone else is wishing the same thing - DO IT, and do it your way!! And never regret it. :)
Nice video, looking forward to the next ones ;)
Ana Supertramp Thanks for watching Ana!
Tom Davison you're very welcome ;)
Excellent point about solitary experiences being your own, not for others. Congrats on your achievement.
You are more happier and lively now than your first video of ‘5 reasons why i should delete facebook’. it is good to see that and i hope some people would do the same thing or just live a normal and real life. that would make everyone happy and relationships would be more stronger without any fights.
Hey Tom, I deleted my account in october 2015, I´m totally agree with you in everything. I´m so happy to finally enjoy real things with true people. I had the feeling that i was treated more as an account than a real person, that was the worst for me. Now even the relations with people are changed. Hope that many people will do like us. Wish for a better world.
I quit Instagram for exactly 1 year now. I am really looking forward to removing FB & Reddit too. Love your personality btw & Like you said there’s something really special about enjoying that sunset just for your self.
The beautiful sunset example, holy shit!
I grew up without the internet but that still does not make it easier to quit for the older generations because you end up thinking that you might be missing something,if you spend a certain amount of time off it, like someone sending you a friend request or anything like that.
I been without facebook for four months and I feel wonderful. I go outside more, I talk to real people and I go out on dates and I do yoga now and I walk to the park. And im more aware of my surroundings.
to me the positives outweigh the negatives... I've recently started writing some nice letters to friends..because who does that anymore? I've been researching a more minimalistic lifestyle for some time...and the way I am... I just don't need that kind of distraction in my life... I'd rather watch people with itchy noses.. ha! sorry for all the comments...can't sleep tonight, it's almost 3 am....terrrrrrible.... I don't this all the time...just when I find someone who is talking from like my minds perspective...which is like never...
3 days technically without facebook and counting. and its life changing
Also I found Facebook is FULL of posturing. It is FULL of attention seekers. And it's easy to become that way yourself. It is image crafting - people shaping their profile to only display what they want others to see. Everyone making out their life to be something so perfect when the reality is usually a lot more bland. People do things just for likes and attention and validation from others - do you realise how draining and exhausting it is? If you have Facebook you have no idea how much of a release it is to unplug and not have to participate in that kind of bullshit, and how great it is to savour that extra free time. Like Tom says, going out and enjoying something like a walk and a sunset like he described is how it is SUPPOSED to be - that's what's possible when you get rid of your Facebook, or more specifically get rid of your need for constant validation from other people. It is a FAR more enjoyable way of life.
Five years for me this summer. If you're a fellow quitter like me and have a physiological reaction whenever you even THINK about going back, well, there's your answer. :)
You're a bit crazy, but it's great! :D Love your video :)
I quit facebook , nov 2015. Never going back on it again, lots of things I can point out, people just don't get it.
I joined Facebook back when I was 11. Now being 17, I start to see how it has dragged me down all the time. I'm not going so far as deleting my account (still need it for some things), but this video definitely spoke to me. I'll try to use Facebook only when necessary. Thank you for the video!
I want to leave Facebook but want get my pictures off there first. Last time I deleted my account I lost a lot of old photos. I randomly take breaks from fb, I haven’t been on there almost two weeks and feeling much happier!
I acendently found this video drunk, lol And deleated my account, lol. It's gone!
🤣
great vid! ive unplugged now for two weeks! freedom!
Been off facebook for a year. My mind is so clear and I do not miss it in the slightest. Facebook is internet cancer.
Everyone what He is saying is 100% true .Instead of just enjoying life and having a great time .Your thinking about what picture to take and what to say instead of loving the moment your in .Quit social Media and your life will be so much better.
I'm a photographer and I can still take pictures and enjoy the moment too. But then again, I'm not pulling out my phone and sharing it on Facebook either, haha.
i have just deleted mine 2 hours ago hope i can manage to stay off love your vids man... from newcastle uk
Would add one more thing...i realised i used to write my own stuff, mostly poetry, thoughts on politics, philosophy and i never saw what some ppl posted whom i always trusted and thought understanding ppl. I realised i was on their share "except" me list. This broke my trust in ppl. Thats another heartbreaking reason i decided to delete my account
I am so happy to find out there are still people on Earth who don't posess a washed brain. Congratulations, man!
This guy has a bit of an early Roger Daltrey look.
Evan McCarthy yes he does.good observation Evan
Thanks for sharing this. I recently deactivated my Facebook and I was contemplating it for a while. Your videos have only reenforced my decision to do so. Truly inspiring :) Thank you so much!
I "banned" Tracebook about 7 years ago. One of the best moves I ever made. The "service" is a scourge of humanity unfortunately. If it were not so stringently "managed" so as to promote certain views over others, and if it were not an ENORMOUS marketing/advertising cesspool, AND if it were not a gigantic privacy wreck, it would only be problematic. Even the least objectionable social media service with that much bandwidth and monopoly power would be problematic at best. But the fact is, Tracebook as it currently exists is just about as loathsome as a social media service could get. I feel sorry for the tens of millions of average folks who just want to use it to stay in touch with friends and family and don't really intend to promote such an unethical, invasive, biased, and frankly tyrannical firm; but the fact is, one is either part of the problem, or one is not. Everyone who still maintains an account IS part of the problem and unless their membership declines dramatically, there will be no real prospect of reform or change.
great vid. well said. brought a smile to my face. subscribed.
I starting having break from Facebook as got fed up of reading about people's life.
Its so integrated everywhere. All relevant information to my workplace gets posted there, so I feel kinda obliged to be a "user"
But I've kind of ended the news feed scrolling. That makes me the most depressed. The INFP group on Facebook is also very active and I enjoy interacting with members there.
I also most of the time prefer to use Reddit if I just want to distract myself. It's not about the users there, no profiles and such, just the discussion and the content. Its much more about feeding my actual interests than reading peoples mundane stupid crap
I dont think the first negative you mentioned isnt a negative. i kind of done the same as you, you just have to have realistic expectations of other people and dont expect too much from people. i know that sounds cynical but it isnt it, thinking like this has made me more social,
I quited 2 months and feel so happy and relaxed. Still have no intention to go back yet
I've been on facebook since 2012 and I would get on everyday but now I don't get on that much back in 2015 and 2016 I went a few months without getting on facebook and I enjoyed it.
Ive just been off fb and the entire internet for a bit over 2 months and feel great!!.
Hi guys! Congratulations ! Freedom from Facebook ! but i really love Zuck. he is a great guy and I keep learning English from him !
great insight bro ..very well presented hence the 60 likes no thumbs down,not even one hater.......yet ddaaa dooom.. lol i'm gona subscribe , u can be like my new online psychologist.. thanks the vid
I like the idea of making it as boring as possible. I'm going to delete groups I'm in. My nose used to get super itchy. I know the feeling
I never had facebook.I got rid of my T V.The only thing I have is You tube.I do feel I am on You tube too much .I should leave it for a while.Thanks Tom
I love your vids!!!! :)
I am going to imagine this is what I will experience when I start my "quitting" as of November 1. I always wanted to write a novel and sadly? in this society, eliminating social media has become a factor of living life or living a pretend life (that is created based on FB posts).... thank you! Also have you drawn more since quitting?
Awesome video. I just deactivated my Facebook account and I feel a lot better now because everytime I was there for 6 yrs all I mostly saw was people bitching about why they can't find a boyfriend and girlfriend and why their friends were getting married and why they're still single and now for 10 months all I saw is people bitching about Trump being our President and politics.
Facebook is a lazy way to keep in touch. I quit two years back and say those who want to keep in touch will find a way.
Thanks for this video! I'm going to take your advice at the end!
Everyone can watch another movie “ Peaceful Warrior”. You will figure out why we shouldn’t use Facebook or sth like that 😊
I've quit facebook many years ago, after first signs of destructive habit. I have the same opinions on that subject. People say "you know, facebook is really helpul and whatnot" but they really use it to gloat and shine in front of others, makeing themselves fake
The negative reasons mentioned on your video (12:04) aren't not really negative, they just excuses to come back. Right now Facebook and other companies are paying sites to force people to have an account with them in order to make a post. which sucks cause most right now say "choose Facebook, google + or twitter" what ever happen to just a damn email!. Anyways any one reading this QUIT Facebook or manage your time better. Time is a LUXURY.
Frankly I prefer to share link on twitter instead of Facebook.
You can still use Facebook messenger to contact people without the Facebook account.
Well I didn't deleted my fb, but there's a reason for it, I acctually never used it in a compulsive way, I'm used to watch some videos of "quebrando o Tabu" that talk about some social issues, I'm a boring person for everybody I guess, but I like to be the one that post something there with real meaning, so people that are lost in funny pictures will pass by it and maybe there's a little chance that it will make them think about something... I don't know
But it really pisses me off people that try to talk with me from the chat, I just hate it! I like to see the eyes of the one that I'm talking to and have the possibility of making a tea for both of us :p
I deleted my account in 2013 after all the games got discontinued so with nothing to play I immediately lost interest in the platform since they were the only reason why I created a Facebook in the first place.
Edit:I did make another account a few years later but didn't like the direction the platform was heading so I stopped using it Intel I decided that 2020 was the time to delete it.
You told us you were an artist in the earlier video. I can see by the Macintosh poster and the stuff on the counter behind you that you've got a good eye. With your disengagement from "the Game" you should be able to focus on being more productive.
Thank you, Tom.
Actually these are the things that I'm worrying when I quit Facebook but at the same time, worrying how do I get notified of news and events that are only posted on the Facebook.
Thumbs up for your videos. Thank you and now I got my answers. =)
By the way, do you have videos about Instagram quitting, pros and cons with or without Instagram? It's kinda addictive as Facebook :)
Thank you,
Have a wonderful day.
X
Seeing the silly side of an INFJ is refreshing (:
It took me less than 5 seconds to see how happy this guy it. Glad I got rid of Facebook
I use Facebook for different reasons at different times. I trust that I am wise enough to know when & how to be online/ offline w/o deleting anything. Good points for keeping face book actually; being able to stay in touch with long distance people who will not write a letter, take a call, or come visit. ~ As for people jazzing up for photos, of course we want nice photos & nice smiles. We used to care about that even back when we did photographs & videocams...🤗😉🤣❤️💃🏻🌺 It’s all good. ✅
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Facebook is trash I deleted my account all I can say is FREEDOM! 💪
I log to FB 2009 and was nice and fun, but now it just plain unpleasant. I finally figured out how to turn that sh** off as of 07/06/17 never to return.
You have made some very good points. What's with the Jim Carey facial expressions in this video??!!
Where's your earring? It looked good on you
Your recommendation on stripping down your Facebook account so it is less interesting was excellent. I will give this a try
Before quite Facebook I rethinking
Nice video.I have only google plus and facebook fan page just for the videos.
I hear you on making your facebook look lame BUT then the others you invite on may perceive you as exactly that! lol. Catch 22. I wish it did not exist for anyone haha.
Tom Davison be careful and safe