hating women is trendy BUT WHY? [caleb hammer financial audit]
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In this episode, Elle discusses how hating women has become trendy using Caleb Hammer's financial audit videos as an example. She expresses concern about how society pits women against each other and the dangers of internalizing misogyny from viewing such content. She argues that the popularity of misogynistic content is a reflection of societal values rather than the creators themselves. Elle also discusses the defense of financially successful men while women pursuing the same success are often criticized. She emphasizes the importance of acknowledging human nature and not allowing anger overpower us. Towards the end, Elle discusses the balance between individualism and collectivism, suggesting that stepping into an authentic version of oneself is not at the expense of others but also not at their mercy - INDIVIDUATION.
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I went on his show before he started doing the overtly misogynistic thumbnails. I listened to him on my way to work, and it was my first introduction into the world of personal finances at all. It was incredibly humiliating afterwards, but I honestly didn’t think it would be. Basically I cried on the show because my lack of finances was tied to not being able to leave my abusive home. My dad is very abusive to my mom and he was abusive to me when I lived there. I went for genuine financial advice. I didn’t even go on for marketing or anything, but soooooo many of the comments were misogynistic and commenting on my looks. The older men kept writing that I need an older man to take care of my finances. I honestly didn’t know the comments would be so misogynistic, because this was before these new thumbnails. It was also before that young mom went on.
Basically I went on because I wasn’t in a good mindset and I was just desperate to get out of that abusive situation. Looking back, maybe that aggression felt comfortable and inviting to me because of how I grew up and where I was at. Part of me wants to go back on now that I’m in a good place and have my finances in order to prove people wrong, but the other part doesn’t know what kind of thumbnail or portrayal of me there would be.
Thank you for sharing 🥺🥺🥺
I'm sorry hun, this is terrible. I hope you're doing better now. ❤
I’m so sorry. Chelsea at The Financial Diet is a more mature channel.
I'm so sorry you went through that. I admit that I used to watch his videos, though I don't remember watching your episode. I also didn't stick around to read the comments. I hope life is treating you so much better now. This video and your comment really opened my eyes to his content.
If men hate women so much, why don't they just date each other? Honestly. Even those AI robots that they're moving on to. Gosh.
They hate us because they can't own us.
Because then who would they blame for the absolute state of their lives?
I think they might be gay lol nothing wrong with that but don't hate us cuz you aint us lol
It’s so disturbing to me because even an AI woman cannot escape.
Apparently they are abusing their AI robots
Blaming a teenager instead of a grown man, nothing new smh
dude i saw a like there’s a grown woman on a youtube video saying that 9/10 year old girl knows the value of life and should carry a child to term even if she was raped. like and that just came on autoplay like i literally almost threw up this world makes me sick i genuinely cannot believe just anyone can birth a child and have another human being just so easily
@@be3p That should be illegal in my opinion. It’s insane that people put their personal beliefs above the wellbeing of children. Why are children being forced to give birth?? It never made sense to me
Everything we do is a problem for men.
We spend money on our looks we're vapid and bad with money, we don't we're letting ourselves go, being unwomanly. We are career-driven, ambitious and well-earning we're untraditional, not caring enough and intimidating oh and we'll definetely regret not having kids or not having them soon enough, but if we are traditional, want to take care of the home and kids and want a provider husband we are useless gold-diggers. You never win. If you try to do it all and have it all once you get totally burned out and guess what, now you're not interesting enough, there's no spark and you have not enough time for them, the romance is just not the same anymore srz.
this
Yet they won't leave us alone.
@@justynawisniewska1213 this is why decenter men. And no male friends either, all are nonsense and time consuming. Also ironic men tell they are truth tellers and honest yet these same men lie to women who they like by becoming friends with them and being "friendzoned".
@@harleenquinzel5814Definitely! It would be so much simpler if they started dating each other! You hate women? Date men!
Women also get hated on instagram for no reason. A woman can simply exist wearing normal clothes and someone will call her fat, skeleton or other degrading names and usually men are the ones doing this. There was a trend of mens instagram comments and womens instagram comments and how mean men are and nice women are and men say that hating on other is just being brutually honest while women are lying... Like when is insulting others being honest?
Or the car accident videos, where there may be a female passenger or driver and they scream because they’re seeing their life flash before their eyes. Like there are some that scream excessively but why do they hate so much that women express their fear or danger with screaming. They don’t give that same energy when it’s a male driver and they even assume that the one driving is a woman even if it’s not. It’s statistically proven that men, especially those who are younger, drive the most recklessly, but they’d rather blame women.
As a fat woman, brother me that you think being fat is degrading...
@@brunaschroeder7517 you know that's not what I mean. They use ”fat" as an insult, not that fat/plus size women are degrading. And really that's what you took from the comment, not the fact that it's usually men that spew such insults out? Almost every women's profile whether she's fat or not is filled with hate and especially if you are just a fat woman existing on Instagram you will get hate comments regardless of what content you post, the hate comments coming from men and some pick me women
@@brunaschroeder7517the xys use the word fat as degrading because it symbolises poor health and quality of life
It's okay to be blunt but at the same time, you don't have to be an asshole.
Single women do WAY BETTER than single men especially when they get older
Yup straight facts . Were better at making connections .
Agreed!!! Single mothers I’d wager to say do better than single men too! ❤if anyone hustles it’s a single mom
@@thecollector6746 *hear.
@thecollector6746 nope, she was just correcting your spelling. She doesn't have time to try and reprogram your misogynistic views. And neither do I, I only had a minute to leave a comment to further mock you 🙃
@@thecollector6746 there's literally articles and studies hat show that single women overall do better and are happir than the average single man. They also tend to outperform single men when it comes to investing.
I’ve noticed they’d have nothing if they didn’t have 5+ women on their silly little podcasts.
Funny how they need women for literally everything
That's a good point.
lol but then they hate on them endlessly
that true they need US sitting beside them or else no man even dare to listen to them speak. SAD
Exactly! If without the ladies, those red pill podcasts will be filled with sounds of crickets instead.
Countless of men have demanded that, at 22, I drop out of school, trust them, “be vulnerable” and just be with them.
Yet most men have no desire to be kind, chivalrous, or protect ANY woman. And for the longest time I’ve had to convince myself that I am the exception to the rule and will be treated well if I do what men want. I’ve yet to see the day that men don’t dislike SOMETHING a woman is doing. Being well educated and having standards and boundaries almost makes men incredibly mad and angry towards me. I just want to cry at times.
Lots of men want women to lower their standards, because that's the only way they can get one. They want the benefits without putting in the effort. It's definitely frustrating! You're young. Go travel, make lots of friends, pursue things you're interested in, and eat delicious food. Ignore men for a few years and have fun!
I danced briefly in my 20s, and if I had a dollar for every time some dusty said "You look too innocent to work here. I could take care of you." 😂 Sir, you don't even have $20 for one dance. How are you going to pay even one of my bills?
53 year old nonpracticing lawyer, well-cared for and well-loved affluent woman here--Keep striving for your goals, get that education, decenter men, focus on yourself and your interests and skill sets. A **man of quality** will not shit on you for doing those things. A **man of quality** will cheer you on. Those other losers aren't fit to pick gunk out from under your toenail.
Not even sure what they think they are protecting us from. Your male partner is literally the biggest threat to your safety and life, by far, according to statistics...
@@jessn.3851 or ignore them forever. i realised over a decade ago that ''trying to meet somebody'' was making me unhappy because the quality of men is so awful. they're all just looking for free sex workers imo. awful. so i gave up. i got happier. i have my own life and it's not in a basement slagging off men.
I'm glad I have no idea who this sketch of a man is.
Me too
Same
Same
@@eghe12345says he. And you swallowed that hook, line, and sinker.
Same😂
A few months ago there was a case of passport Bros approaching young women in Brazil and asking simple questions like "Would you rather have a first date on a restaurant or at the beach?", then they posted the video and said men should come to Brazil because these women were selling themselves for 10 dollars. They go out of their way to degrade women who are minding their own business.
I remember one passport bro coming to Morocco thinking we are here for sell too , then he got shocked that women here are intelligent and know how to play their game , he was so confused that his face says "that's not what I came for , this can be right , women are using their brains here too damn"😂😂😂 all women he met were strong , passionate with high self esteem and that shocked him, I mean men here suck too but throwing myself to a passport bro to live as his slave isn't a good idea too 😂😅
Since then Brazil set up new Visa rules specifically for U.S.American citizens
@noumiiidia THIS! Women in the West MUST look up to our sisters in other parts of the world where the cultures of women are protected by women.
No one has it easy, it is our job to protect and respect eachother. ❤
@@mirandaivanochko6377 yes , it's our duty for me to protect each other, and I'm so glad to find channels like this one where it's a safe space for women to talk and express themselves, western men (red pill ones ) think that once they will go to east Europe , north Africa or Asia , they will find slaves waiting for them every where and that women here are brainless but reality is quite different, well men all over the world think that the grass is greener on the other side , like here they think that western women are waiting for them , some asian men for exemple (I see this often) are married to women from other countries only to abuse them after ,as it turns out kdramas aren't real ...women should understand how things work to protect themselves
Thats hypergamy for you😂
The biggest lie society has ever told about men and women is that men are logical, women are emotional. Humans in general can be emotional and logical, sometimes at the same time.
For example, tell a man to scrap the first car he bought as an adult and watch him get sentimental about it. That car objectively, is just a piece of metal, rubber and glass but to him, that car represented a time in his life when he had nothing and had to build himself up. All the journeys to his first job, picking up his dates, all the breakups he's been through, all the journey back home to his parents during thanksgiving. It is reliable and it was there when he needed it the most. To him that car is more than just a car, it's a part of him. Now tell me, how is this man not emotional?
My Brother just got his car scrapped.. It was the car he spent his prime years driving around...
It was our dad's but he passed when my brother was in college...
He was so literally in tears because it was getting scraped and it was the last drive..I felt so bad for him but our car was old and would be financially disastrous if we didn't do it.
My brother is one of the strongest men I've ever seen but he's such a gentleman and understands the value of emotions.. He'll never call crying or normal human emotions 'weakness'..
My standards are high because there aren't many men like my brother..
Shame to all the fools who think men shouldnt cry or that men can't be illogical..
Another thing. SA isn't that the ultimate loss of controlling your urges/emotions?
They say this without realizing that anger is an emotion. They've always been very angry and violent as a gender
M go through the whole spectrum of human emotion, they just love to pretend they dont.
Yet this lie is still being spread far and wide.
Despite all the proof that W are smart, and can have a better hold on their emotions than M.
The lie wont ever die.
M wont let it.
@@PraiseTheFSMonster
I wonder why people always just point out anger...?
There is a lot of emotions M go through.
Jealousy
Sadness
Anger
Shame
Etc.
They experience all of it but pretend otherwise.
They are liars.
Girlie pop, the rise of misogyny is so concerning. It needs to be stopped and I fear it has gotten too out of hand to be reeled back. I pray for the younger generations 🙏🏾
I hope it’ll be okay. Remember, misogyny is on the rise. But you have to remember there are still good people out there. Good men. More women are not putting up with this crap. I think only the good men will procreate if we keep our good standards. The dusties will either learn or their lineage will die out. Either way, let’s stay safe.
Misogyny was always there, it's just that it's on social media and so we think it's everywhere.....it's good though, these guys are telling on themselves and making us smarter in the process as we now know what to look out for and make our own moves accordingly
@@viridianacortes9642 I agree, If we were not winning, they would not be trying so hard to "Put Us In Our Place"
Misogyny is the natural order of things. You've been bamboozled by the society into thinking that it never existed, or isn't as bad. Lol
Misogyny is the natural order of things. You've been bamboozled by the society into thinking that it never existed, or isn't as bad. Lol
Unfortunately misogyny is the one hegemony that is still socially accepted and never seems to go away.
Is is getting better, but yeah, I noticed this too, is accepted racism
@dragonking9377 misandry and incomparable to misogyny. misandry hurts feelings, misogyny kills.
@@dragonkingsportsits called payback cope
@@jordynensor2081misandry kills million of baby
And ageism. The intergenerational hate is unreal.
They’re so angry they can’t have us.
Exactly💀
Men:☕☕🤣
@@catalinturcanu8698 it’s kind of a massive self own to admit that cat’s are better than you.
Men ☕
Men 🤡
Men 😂
Men 🤣
Can't wait for the era of freeeee women living in the world of true liberation. Good News that women are eventually figuring out and finally standing up
Spread the word. Share videos.
Liberation and Full Autonomy is what I dream for.
I went on the show and the thing is I went on for genuine free financial advice- I don’t have family or anyone else to give it to me so resorted to the internet- A lot of MEN actually are the ones to tell me “she only went on for the bag” “stupid egirl went on for attention” so - careful w that girl. Besides that I agree with this and coming up in the twitch scene since I was a teenager it’s been so hard to navigate what is normal and what is misogynistic and it’s been hard figuring that out as a now adult.
Thank you for sharing🥺🫶🏽
@@therealmanifestelle do you agree that it’s unhelpful to categorize these women participating on the show as ‘catering to men and misogynists for gain’ rather than looking for genuine support and guidance? :3
Actually I feel like the Barbie video was the worst one of his. He was very condescending towards the woman, she genuinely seemed to want advice from him but it seemed he was yelling at her, shouting at her for no reasons, cutting her phrases barely ever letting her speak or finish a sentence.
@@PuppyDog30565 Two things can coexist.
@@no.6377 i agree :)
I am really not surprised no effort men crave this kind of content in a world where now women are more successful than men.
Yes, as a dark skinned black woman, I try to have the audacity of a wealthy white man, it puts my confidence on a whole different level.
Affirm yourself and your humanity, daily, also affirm your womanhood and your femininity and be proud of WHO YOU ARE🙏🏾🤎♥️
What I realize about this society is that people treat you how you let them treat you, the other day a coworker said out loud that she was stupid, I told her you’re not stupid. She is 20 years old and already using negative language towards herself , ladies, stop seeking male approval, and stop dumbing yourself down to appease these men, they want you to be so low and vulnerable so they can take what they need and discard you easily🙏🏾
You can't see me, But I am standing and clapping for this comment! We are all of Royal. It is time that us Princesses and Queens stop messing about with the court jesters. Maybe then the men will step up, But I doubt it. THANK YOU for standing up for that young lady. We all need to do these things for other women!
Love this : ) we truly get it from all angles
Thanks for supporting her. I always say the same to my younger coworkers but there’s days when I catch myself doing it too. It helps to have a gentle reminder outside yourself.
Dark skin girl too, and I love how diverse the support group is!!
Exactly I have to work on my self depreciating humor. It's very pickme and in theyear of 2024 I need to learn how to PICK ME!😅
Each time a woman stands up for herself, without knowing it possibly, without claiming it, she stands up for all women.❤ #MayaAngelou
Wow
THANK YOU!!! I used to like his videos but then he changed format to get more views and now it's almost always tearing women apart. I unsubscribed long ago.
I watched ONE video and UA-cam keeps suggesting all his misogynistic themed videos no matter how many times I say "not interested"!!!!
Thank u🫶🏽🫶🏽
Same! He had great points early on. Seemed to genuinely care. But recently, he’s began including very red pill and degrading elements.
True, there were make UA-camrs U subscribed to who used to make sense then they switched and all their videos is using women who made poor choices to address ALL women. They talk about it in the context that "all single mothers are bad" or "females lack accountability", etc. It's really becoming bad even in non gender war content that a woman is in, I see men using red pill talking points to analyze a woman they know nothing of. Hmmm let's all be careful cuz....
Same! It was very surprising to see the change.
I used to be absolutely terrified of being forced to interact with misogynistic men. Watching society celebrate misogyny led me to believe that I would someday be coerced into a relationship with a man who would inevitably degrade me or see me as inferior. I am still breaking down so many limiting beliefs in this area of my life, and I am so grateful for your videos, because with each Spoiled Girlie Support Group Session, I come to realize my inherent value and worth in society. My entire belief system around men and dating has changed.
I am proud to be someone who will accept only kindness, respect, gentleness, and princess treatment. I am no longer afraid of misogynistic men, because I simply will not allow them in my life. I only allow kind, caring, generous, gentlemen into my world. Basic human decency is below the bare minimum. Princess treatment is my new bare minimum.
I think it is incredibly profound to practice radical acceptance. I don’t waste time being mad at people who I cannot change anymore. I observe people who do not align with me with as much empathy and kindness as I can. I think choosing to curate your own experience as opposed to spending time getting angry about others has ripple effects. We change the world by changing ourselves. We aren’t selfish for bettering our own lives, because when we are happy, safe, and engaging with soft, loving relationships, we glow. We glow, and we show others that it is possible to be happy, safe, and engaged in soft, loving relationships. Be love to create love, create love to spread love. 💖
I used to watch him for money advice but his content has moved more to yelling at women ( mostly go on his show) . His thumbnail has gotten unhinged as well.
Girl feel the same
Same... ive been not clicking them lately because I noticed that they are getting WAY too much towards the women.
@@lola-ford yeah he turned into the same ol incel 😒 it’s so exhausting and frustrating
😳
Last year when he was still getting started, his content was entertaining but mostly level-headed, encouraging and educational. I haven't been able to get more than 15 minutes into his videos in ages, and the last 5 or 6 months....yea no thank you.
some ppl will take their misogyny to the grave, they refuse to change & will never change. But they can go filter themselves out from the dating pool, whilst us spoiled girlies are thriving & vibing 💅✨
Exactly , you can't blame others for your problems aka Men . Or you will suffer from them your whole lives you will never better yourself if its everyone else's fault . I take radical responsibility for my life and my life has gotten way better. Keep giving and thriving lovely ladies
I actually watched the "dumb stripper" video and she wasn't even dumb or making a ton of bad choices or decisions. The comments also point out how weird and clickbaity the thumbnail was. From what i have seen, Caleb is blunt to men and women that come his show, but finance shows do tend to have a big misogynistic men fan base. He is definitely playing into that since it gets more views.
I'm not defending any of the choices but the thumbnails and titles are decided on and green lit by and with the guests. Now you could argue that there's a power differential or there's incentive to just go with it but I'm not in a position to be patronizing and get offended on her behalf or judge her okaying it. Can you still get pissed about what this does in our culture as a whole sure! My understanding was that that one was tongue in cheek but I definitely get the criticism when the world is awful to women.
She commented on here I believe
This definitely feels like a support group to me. It makes me feel not so alone with these thoughts.
Same❤
Saame 😢
Same!
🩷 most younger women around me where I live are still in their pickmeishas era (and probably won’t leave 🫤), accepting crumbles from men, I feel validated here
Yupp 💖
Wow this is crazy bc I found him on Snapchat and actually enjoy his videos. His titles on Snapchat are COMPLETELY DIFFERENT. For example, he referred to the stripper as a dancer and didn’t comment once on her job. So like he def is trying to cashgrab on UA-cam
Oh. Wow. That's interesting. It's def a cash grab then. He's catering to different audiences.
@@transitionsncya for real. Like he seemed so nice on Snapchat and then I looked him up on YT and was like shocked😭😭😭
I've studied digital media for a year and unfortunately this happens a lot. People put out content for clicks and likes. Many will do or say anything for the $$$. They may or may not believe in the content they are recording and putting out to the masses. @@hollandcsuzy3719
Yes, unfortunately, that's correct.@@crestfire8008
I think UA-cam is male-dominated, and Snapchat might not be? It would make sense. It doesn't make it any better though.
I hate the hate on women as much as society loves to hate women. Makes me extremely bloodthirsty, leave my sisters alone, tf 🤬
Cry 😂
@@Joshua-eo5hr idk why your crying but I can’t help you, move around and make more money
Oh, what are you going to do about it?
Go get your own resources.
@@mountainmgtow5421 a bunch of children 😂
When we know well who should be hated instead.
M r weak, they call W weak but attack us.
Hence, M are weak.
I was supposed to be on a financial audit episode of his, but the guests aren’t compensated at all, and I would’ve had to choose spending money on a bus ticket and spending the night at a bus station just to be humiliated by Caleb for an hour instead of using that money for rent. And I ended up looking at his comment sections and seeing how much hate there was for his guests that he didn’t bother removing. I realized since he expects the guests to pay for transportation there and back home just to be humiliated that he’s literally profiting off of their trauma. I’m so glad I never went through with it, and I’m pretty disgusted by the thought that I even considered going. He’s not actually helping anyone and his fanbase is incredibly hateful, just like he is. Last week I received another email from his team asking me to join a call with them to talk more about my situation, even though months ago they already wanted me to be a guest and clearly I’m not interested. It’s nice to see someone finally calling him out because he’s absolutely disgusting and I don’t see enough people talking about that.
I’m so glad you didn’t go on the show girl. Many cities have free financial counselling run by charities. I worked reception for one when I was younger. They are free, and can write to creditors to help negotiate a repayment plan. Much better than going on UA-cam. Let me know if you want help finding something suitable for you.
For real, plenty of female finfluencers now with podcasts and books about this topic now. Their messages are actually relevant to normal people too like basic info to get started with investing or interviews with people on how to budget irregular income. This guy isn't helping anyone.
I saw the title and clicked so fast! This guy’s videos have been suggested to me many times and I noticed his titles are very red pill flat out disgusting.
I watched his video before the cringey thumbnails. They used to be unbiased. Sad to see it go in this direction.
This comment isn’t pertinent to this video however I needed ya’ll to know the craziest thing that happened the other day. My male coworker the other day found a list of which states allow no fault divorces and he said “these are the states I need to stay away from because I don’t want my wife to cheat on me and then take my money”. This man has no money. I could not, he was so bold.
Yeah, they are coming out BIG on no-fault divorce. They would instead force women to stay with them legally than just treat their wives like people. They benefit from their wives' free labor and build wealth and yet want to force their wives if they ask for a divorce to leave without their fair share. They have contempt for sahms even though they want it, ask for it, get on here and exclaim about the healthiness and holiness of Trad wives and marriages. But they do not value it at all.
"no fault", "cheating" those two do not fit together
Ikrr
I hate these social media finance gurus who ONLY have their wealth or financial security because of their public shaming and humiliation of peoples finances, specifically women.
Ty!! Go work a traditional job.... Esp now... And let's see how u do
He does the same to the guys. lol
@@jr5296that's his vibe. He's upfront about it.
Imagine all women would just collectively withdraw from such content, don't consume it, don't interact with it, don't take part in it, don't show up anywhere near it and leave the men to do their own thing. Then they can say whatever they want, but we're not gonna be a part of it. I wonder if they're gonna miss us or if they're gonna feel the sting of being left in a place that is devoid of women. Maybe then they would change their tune, because in the end they need us or else they're only gonna be amongst other men. Also, some people just like drama and love to argue, so why not let these men argue with each other. I bet it's gonna get boring real fast when they're not getting any backlash anymore.
No amount of words is gonna make any difference anyway, so long as they're benefiting off of it. I vote for silent retreat, even those who are trying to hold against it, because every view and every comment you write still benefits the creator and shows him that he should make more such content. Personally, I don't go anywhere near content that I don't wanna support by giving it views, much less interacting with it. That's my power as a consumer.
Sadly, we don't all agree on this, so I guess that's never gonna happen.
Quiet quitting misogynistic shows
I think this is happening in the dating market, a lot of women are choosing to be and stay single to keep a peace of mind and I love that for us 🥰
the 4b movement! google it!
Actually the more women can do this the smaller the pool of women they can access will get. And it becomes more and more obvious. Also, it will create socially separate circles which is great. Healthy people with standards should stay far away from people who have no desire to leave their dysfunction behind.
This could work a silent strike or just leave links on their pages to our women centered content. They are on the internet complaining because they are simply not enough. In any aspect. 😂 😅probably being ignored in their day to day lives in corporate America and at home .Instead of fighting for higher paying jobs more money they are fighting women which they all agree are lesser value to them..
The way misogynistic rhetoric has infected the entire online sphere is really telling. You can't click any video, especially any video about relationships, without some gross redpill comment about "women are..." "it's just your turn" -- and the most annoying ones are women cosigning the nonsense. It's seeped into every thing and I'm so glad channels like this exist to counteract the BS
I’ve seen videos about freaking kittens where men will make it about how disgusting and unworthy women are. They don’t even try to steer the conversation towards their misogyny, they just out right say it. It has become a plague on social media and I agree, the women who are participating in it are the most annoying part about it.
As someone who spent the last 5 years brainwashed into believing my son's father should "lead me"...I've spent the last 2 months having a shame spiral every time i think about my interactions with other women. I WAS one of the women unintentionally cosigning this behavior and it breaks my heart. Never again. I feel like I owe every single one of you a personal apology lol
Thank you for recognizing how some women cater to men at their own detriment. I'm not sure how I feel about it either, but I agree that it's most likely a net loss for all of us. So glad you've made this space for us 👑 💅🏻
This just gets so dark and you realize you can be perfect and still not be enough for these guys
even the ‘perfect’ fable of a woman ‘hits the wall,’ and commits the unforgivable crime of getting older by having a long life.
I’ve even seen comment sections on different videos where men are excusing their infidelity and blaming it on women. Some even say it’s natural, but when a woman does it, I notice the reaction is very different. It’s a strange and incoherent mindset to watch unfold online.
Of course not - they have to keep the goalposts moving...and moving...and moving. The true point is to exhaust you and convince you that they're superior.
Healthy, healed, and kind men don't pull these tricks.
It’s nice not caring what men think anymore. Women, please free yourselves from this unwinnable game. ✈️
@@avril.227my uncle and his spouse fs. He pays for everything, holds her hand while they drive and kisses it, opens doors for her, and gives her so much affection that she returns happily. Makes me realize love isn’t dead.
The real question is why don't us women seek each other out for help? Why do we feel the need to go to men each and every single time? If we have a good relationship with them why isn't our first choices our moms, aunts, sisters, cousins, girl friends?
Good question
Because we too have internalised that if we want sound advice on important matters ("matters that have been deemed important and of mens sphere by men and accepted by society) a man would be better to give that.
That is what internalised misogyny looks like in practice in real life girl.
I ask this myself. My sister, for instance, insists on staying with her current boyfriend "because she needs him for rent" and I'm sitting there like... I literally offered many times in the past to rent with you and I come with way less toxicity??? I'd encourage you and support you in all of your milestones????? It's ingrained hard into us unfortunately and many women need to do some serious work to change that
@@bandanarathore wow.... Sadly true..
@@haileyt857 agreed 😔 I wish I could somehow save all the girlies... Instead I guess I'll just try to be there when things do go bad eventually
I am honored to be a part of this collective, despite me being a single mom an oppressed woman in so many ways and not being able to relate to the freedoms of choice at this point of my life due to my previous choices. I am utterly grateful that this content is out here for young women I've put my younger sister onto this channel and my daughter and it is amazing to see them being girls girls and recognizing patterns in others that I failed to recognize at their age. Better yet that I had no one teach me about, I grew up in a toxic narcissistic dysfunctional home where my mother wanted to instill in me that if the refrigerator was white and I saw it white but my father said it was black that was what I had to believe. Thank God for my rebellious spirit to not succumb to those stupid ideals. I am just happy to know that I can do better for the young women in my life as opposed to how the women in my life failed to do so. I'm not blaming them either, I just know it's a different time and I'm so happy to see this in my lifetime. You are amazing girl❤
Elle you made me start loving women and also supporting women
I internalize misogyny
I was the cool girl trying to
Be different from other girls
Now I am redeeemeeeed!!!!!!!
Me too!! Elle is a savior!! My life officially changed once her content showed up on my feed. Good bless our sister!! ❤
@@Robotgirl7 Elle is doing the lord’s work 🥰🥰🥰🥰
@@kilaa3417 you take a permanent one.
Former SW here. The job was fine. The disgust from others, particularly women, was traumatizing. Although i understand that there are ppl who enjoy SW, I did not. I was a single parent to 3 with no support from anyone. Even working two full time jobs, which would have meant zero time with my children wouldn't pay the bills. I will never understand why ppl punch down on ppl who are already down. I feel like I was s*x trafficked by capitalism. It's not the life I ever thought I'd live and not the life i wanted, but i did my best to keep my head up and push through it. Other women at the very least being kind would have helped me with my mental health.
Hugs!!!!
Yeah I don’t get the hate. I always believed in the saying “you don’t know what it’s like to be hungry.” When you know you know how difficult life can be.
I've experienced the same. It wasn't my clients, it was the judgy wudgy "friends" etc
You are so brave. I hope you feel supported now and are thriving. Sending you so much encouragement! ✨
Wow, just coming back to the comments, and just wanted thank you very much to all of you!
All this misogyny on UA-cam for so many years has turned me into a misandrist.
"Don't get mad, get paid" is one of the most important things i learned from your channel
Its when he uses women, attractive women. I think its that simple. Thats where the high views are coming from.
I thought I was the only one that picked up on the video titles. I subconsciously stopped watching his videos and now I'm realizing why. I'm not here for misogyny.
Watching him makes me want to to help other women learn financial literacy and actually HELP not shame and berate wtf!!!!
You just inspired me to start talking about finances and helping other women. This is huge. I learned SO much about credit 2019-2021 and I can help. So I will ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
You should start a channel. Tagline: Financial literacy without the misogyny!
@@xxwoman oh my goodness that is freakin GENIUS!!!! I love that so much!!!! Yessssss can’t wait to be done with work so I can create!!! Thank you honey and thank you universe!!! I’ve been asking for guidance where to help and how. 🩷
@@xxwoman ps I screen shotted this so I can thank you later I hope that’s ok!!!
@@GetElevatedWithMe sure! No problem. Much luck to you
It’s a support group not a debate class!!!! 🗣️🎀
❤Jesus loves you❤🩷💙💚❤️🩵💜🧡💛💟💌❤️🔥💖
I absolutely LOVE how your channel is such a safe space for us women, it's probably the only one I can think of right now. No matter where you go, wheather it's instagram, twitter, youtube etc. there's hate and terrifying comments about women EVERYWHERE. No matter if it's a harmless video about traveling, working out, animals, cooking, fashion, there are tons of insulting, disgusting, scary, thr3atning, p3do comments by m3n. I don't want to open any kind of comment section anymore because I already know how it will look like and that I'll feel bad afterwards. So thank you SO much Elle!
Melanie hamlett worth checking out xx
I have been following Caleb for over a year and have previously enjoyed his content, yet recently have had to stop watching, but I could never quite put into words what I didn’t like. Thanks for making this video. I think he started off his channel with good intentions but got carried away with clickbait titles and story lines as opposed to genuinely helping his guests. Unfortunate.
Same. I didn’t realize how adept I was at ignoring bad male behavior but now I see that.
I used to watch Caleb almost all the time but would unconciously skip videos that had weird titles against women. I dont watch him anymore because I feel like its gone away from financial audits and helping the viewers, and more towards videos that get a reaction from its audience. Its sucks because i did find his content helpful and fun but now it gives me the ick
Yeah in his recent videos its like he's not even listening to guest
And he's gotten so much more reactionary with guests. Like not even giving them a chance to speak!
I stopped watching once it was clear he was never going to make a positive video, I was interested in seeing a successful person's finances, how they got there, any little tricks they know. Him and his subscribers just want him to shriek at people and give them all the same, one size fits all regurgitated advice.
If you've seen one of his videos, you've seen them all. The advice he gives literally never varies from situation to situation, it's the exact same response and approach he prescribes for everyone. (from his limited skewed perspective of "having done it himself")
I commented on a video of Caleb's where the title was 'woman can't stop going on cruises' but the sad reality was she was being taken advantage of by her grown family members.
His original title was intentionally demeaning and belittling of the woman who chose to go on the show.
People in the comments were calling it out and surprisingly the title was changed.
A guy responded to me that the people on the show help choose the title.
I find it hard to believe woman are like, 'sure call me stupid and dumb in the title'. 🤦♀
Glad you're calling him out. 👏👏👏
WOW
Never heard of this guy 🤷🏻♀️
Okay I thought I was the only one who started getting a weird vibe about this guy. It's like dude chill out before you give yourself a heart attack
Oh, and under this video as I'm watching it, one of Caleb's videos was suggested to me. I think we should girlcott him and not click on his videos, so I'm making sure to click "not interested" so that hopefully the algorithm doesn't keep suggesting him to me.
Yesssss girlcott 💜🧘♀️
Omg girlcott. Language for the matriarchy ❤
Women who step up for public shaming for profit may win in the short run but not in the long run; AKA ruined family ties & unseen reputation fall-out IMHO.
thank you for covering him - i've always noticed how he DRAGS women on his thumbnails and is greatly condescending on his "show." you can't tell me his doesn't know what he's doing low key.
I just want to say thank you, I've been hearing your classes since like 3 months ago and I want to say it feels really good knowing that other women think like me, even if I'm not a women (I'm only a 16 years old girl) I want to help other girls, the last year in philosophy class I would always end up trying to explain ti some dumb boys what even is feminism, didn't work since they are dumb but my teacher really likes my enthusiasm for women's topics and other girls like to hear me. But knowing that there is our space for the spoiled girlies is really refreshing, even if I'm just a girl I think is best if I start to hear other women instead of some misogynistic men. I'm really sorry if what I said was all over the place, English is my second language so it might not be so good
Very often they pretend to be dumb just so they can get away with acting dumb.
When they misunderstand feminism or pretend they don’t understand why we need to vet for safety or any of that, they are just playing dumb so they can get away with acting dumb
I'm so happy to see young girls watching this type of content before males have manipulated them into being completely under their control. Yes, most men do not know what feminism is and they scream and cut you off when you start explaining it.
@aurora8749 yeah, probably the best that could happen to me
Honestly this is why just like the 4B movement I’ve decided to just opt out of certain things in society until things get better. I refuse to not choose my peace. Period.
Elle you are such a breath of fresh air, finally someone that speaks out for all that mysogynistic bullshit spoken by money hungry wolves and women haters, really it is so sad.
Thank you so much for the support group and safe space you provide for us girlies♥️
me using the confidence and audacity of a cis white man to apply to new job opportunities
Get that bag, bestie!
Overconfidence isn't a white trait, it's a male trait. I promise you there are plenty of undeservedly confident Indian, Asian, Black, Hispanic, Aboriginal ect men
@@briskettacos oh for sure, i just meant it more so as a joke and i am white
That’s been allowed since the 60’s but I’m glad your finally catching on. Can’t wait till you find out you can also open a bank account too
@@briskettacosIt's definitely bigger in White men, though.
remember to 🚩🚩and report; this type of content_is_dangerous. use the tools available. we don't have to accept this or be victims_of_males.
@@AnnaGrace603 any little bit helps. Push a user far enough, and he might be the next Illuminaughty
Yeah, don’t engage but report
Thank you. I couldn’t watch him anymore due to his misogyny and superior attitude.
One of my exes went out of his way to make me feel intellectually inadequate and inferior to him because he knew appearance wise, he didn’t stand a chance. He did so in the guise of “just wanting to talk to me like adults because he loves me” 😒
What does that even mean?
@@Passions5555 I know!!! If he wanted to make me feel dumber to alleviate his personal insecurities, he could've just said that 🙄
A guy also tried to do that to me, turns out my IQ is much higher than his. I'm in the high average (113) while he's in the average (98).
as a teen girl i learn a lot from you and saved myself a lot of pain ❤
All I gotta say is thank you for calling this fundamentally rotten thinking out directly. The hateful men are reporting on themselves, let’s keep pointing this out.
I wanted to add I wish I had these videos around when I was in my 20s, I’m in my 40s now and I guess better late than never to open your eyes to the truth. I noticed women in my generation are extremely misogynistic because that’s how we were raised, and the slut shaming has been ridiculous. I noticed the younger generation is so much better with being open and accepting. Keep up the good work! It really starts with us and how we treat each other first. Let’s keep up the good work and continue to support each other. I support all of you ❤
Don't get mad, get paid. I love how women are so connected online nowadays. I'm so glad this channel exists coz this misogynistic bs and male loneliness crap is so exhausting. Men will do anything but be nice to each other or to women. And those few men who are good at it, will never be lonely.
Girl I love you sm! You aren’t afraid to call out the misogyny when you see it and I respect you so much for that.
I used to watch him to be a financially literate girly, but you are so right about his content, it has become more for views and clicks and no longer provides the value that would help me but merely serves the misogynistic masses that value money over well being and balance
"Thousands of women are rooting for you!" - Aaaw, I felt that. ❤
Feels so good to know. Even if I don't know that many women like that in person, it's just a good feeling to know you're not alone.
Be blessed and protected, sisters. May you find what is yours and be happy with it.
Yes you are not alone. Unfortunately we are all scattered around the world. If only we can unite in one place at the same time, how amazing that will be!!!!✨
I have been binging your vids for like 3 days. Like seriously, non-stop. It's SO NICE that I finally got suggested a creator who is ABOUT WOMEN.
like I've been so depressed lately with the body-shaming and women-shaming content that I keep seeing pushed by men.
So your content was absolutely refreshing to see. I love your terms, i love the spoiled girly club and I love the no-nonsense behavior. I also have a hard of hearing friend who is also like been super depressed with the women hate and you putting sub titles on your videos to make them more accessible to people with disabilities is so nice. I very rarely see creators who make 30+ minute videos do that.
A lot of these men like caleb are going to end up with no fans because they are upping a male dominated community, like you are so right, men are not community-driven. Women are ride or die for their creators. Once the dust settles people are going to see how stupid their content is.
Like seriously 🙄
Anyway girl hope your channel gets more and more popular!! ❤❤
I am so thankful for you too, Elle! Boost this signal ladies!
There are so many bad men on the internet, yes I know (not all men) but hon there's a lot. All the good men I know are actually out in the world, living their lives, getting therapy, taking care of themselves, working towards their goals and dreams, etc. Women do not need to be a part of men's issues, go vibe and thrive babes
Ngl, I used to watch Caleb's content a year ago. His earlier videos did not have degrading titles like that. I did notice a shift in which he started calling his guests babies and stupid but the more misogynist titles are the end for me. Its sad seeing the shift he is going, because before his videos taught me to be more self-reliant while also having more compassion for my mental health. In his earlier videos he was more sympathetic to people who were struggling with depression and anxiety since he too had a hard time with his mental health which affected his finances. Idk whats happened in his current videos since I stopped watching him once I got my stuff together.
Easily angered = easily manipulated 👏
yeah i used to watch his content but it became clear that negativity and female clients boost views and interaction. i appreciated his harsh, tough love attitude because he’d apologize for coming off rude because it’s in the best interests of the client but it became unnecessary imo. i feel like people watch those specific videos more for the degradation of financially insecure women instead of seeking understanding of how to practice financial literacy.
Besties - if you want to boost a video, copy the video link. The algorithm will see that as promotion for the channel, no matter what you do with the link after copying it. Let's get Elle paid!
THIS! Radical acceptance of human nature! And not being ashamed of asking “What’s in it for me? Who are the beneficiaries of me getting mad?” I feel so supported here with the other girlies who share this view ❤
THANK YOU FOR TALKING ABOUT THIS!!! Me and my partner have been screaming this into the void for the last year - hot goss for the girlies, a business insider article is coming v soon that investigates the SA allegations against him. he’s such a creep. i have a video of me from before we interviewed him and secretly taped it last year where i’m expressing my extreme hatred of his vibe and content and i think im gonna post it in its entirety soon LMAOOOO. thanks again, you rock!!!
THANK UUUU for saying this. Whenever I see his videos I block his channel. Monetizing humiliating ppl is disgusting and the fact that so many ppl watch .. and call in … ugh don’t even get me started.
I used to advocate for “men’s rights”. I was tricked into thinking that as a feminist, I should care about men’s issues as well. I stopped advocating for males when I saw that they did not advocate for us. They love it when we help them, of course, but do they ever advocate for us? No, they very seldom do. They only bring up male issues in response to female struggle. To silence us.
I no longer advocate for males, stand up for males, or care about male issues. If they want to fix their issues, they should use their own voices and fix the problems that THEY themselves caused.
I love women so fkn much😭 Thanks to your channel and a few others, I've 100000% become a girl's girl. Barring a few extreme exceptions, I root for, compliment, and support every woman I possibly can.
They shame and bash all women yet it’s the women’s presence on their podcasts that brought them success. Little respect and thanks to the ladies that sat there wouldnt hurt!!!!
Elle speaking on how she creates this safe space for the girlies at the expense of ad revenue is so sweet but that means we should all chip in to support her in other ways y'all!
Get the hoodies, use her codes for sponsorships, and turn off your ad blocker!
Let's support her so we can continue to get this high quality content❤
i'm a philosophy girlie and absolutely adore the way you explore such polarizing, binary, and psychologically primitive content/ideas with nuance and emotional intelligence 🥺i was actually just unpacking to my male partner a few days ago about a boss and his ethic of "tough love". cruel honesty is easy, but to call one's conduct 'tough love' means holding the responsibility of loving another (in addition to honesty). so many forms of 'tough love' are not loving at all, honesty is not delivered with tact or care. because, in a capitalist/individualist society, we'll gladly pay the honesty we owe to each other but forget that we owe love, too.
also the dialectic synthesis between individualism and collectivism (love carl jung!) had me cheering yessssss we need this kind of discourse, gives me hope :')
Me too girl, Elle is such a vibe. She really highlights all the thinkers that enrich her own message and paved the way (her book recs have been so good!), but makes her messages so accessible and actionable to women of all age and education levels. She really gave me permission to stop suppressing and silencing the tiniest voice in my head that asserted my self-worth and the voice that wanted to find a way to win in a rigged ass patriarchy... It's crazy out here. I'm a jung head too, you seem really cool and thoughtful and wise. wishing you the best
I used to watch some of his video due to morbid curiosity,but couldn’t remember the thumbnails being that different between men and women. So I had to go and check, and by scrolling just even a little bit, I can tell that you are absolutely right. The titles with women are a lot more degrading on the person (calling THEM dumb, delusional, manipulating) while in the mens case the titles are more about their situation (this is a mess, refuses to pay taxes, HIS EX destroyed his life??!!) and the worst thing they are called are immature. Wow. He really does seem to cater to the incels/misogynists. Not that I have watched his content for a while now, but now I definitely won’t.
I watched caleb in the early days and his advice helped me get out of debt, budget, and become enthusiastically informed about finances. I've been having an increasingly harder time with the changes to the content but stuck around out of habit and an old sense of gratitude for the help the channel once provided me. Theres no more applicable advice or education in these episodes anymore. He used to mention tidbits on the math behind different debt repayment plans, etc. Now it's just a circus and your video has articulated part of the ick I've been feeling very accurately.
I watch him frequently and never noticed the thumbnails. This was eye opening.
I used to watch his stuff and I recently unsubbed. But I noticed he was doing the most in his thumbnails
I worked with loans for a couple decades, and granted I’ve been out of it for a little while so things may have changed, but I don’t think he was giving people great advice. One video I watched seem to be OK but the other video seemed like it would just make her life worse. Maybe it was on purpose
THIS. Thank you for creating a safe space for us women. I’m still trying to figure myself out and I’m so fed up of hearing misogynistic comments and seeing the increasing hatred towards women from low vibrational men and men blaming women for their shortcomings. Women need to start supporting women and stop seeking male validation and bringing women down just to have these men support them.
OF girlie here 👋 I'd love to answer any questions. Personally I've been sexualized and harassed my entire life, r-worded, hired in corporate environments just because of my looks. I have 2 degrees and a masters in finance. No one cares when you look a certain way.
I started online s work at 29 years old, and 5 years later I have zero regrets. I'm finally getting ✨paid✨ for what I've been put through my entire life. Men are gross, we either get mad or get paid ❤ I've gained so much self respect and confidence from doing this (and I don't mean physically, this work has empowered me)
I'm sure there's plenty of social downsides to it depending on your environment, I was so lucky to have a supportive family, and an amazing spoiled-girlie dad who was nothing but proud of me before he passed.
I should add that I started before the pandemic and OF wasn't big. I'm an adult streamer, twitch with b00bs if you will. During slower hours I use my chatroom to talk about mental health and social issues, and I'm proud to say I've put a few of my regulars in therapy 😊
Wow. 2 degrees and a masters that's really impressive. I'm 20, still in college and trying to be financially independent 😢
I want to be able to support myself without my parents for once and move to my apartment before age 27 😅
Have a good day❤
No questions, just respect for you doing what you want and not letting the incels get to you! Keep doing you girlie💕
@@elizabethaloku4268 don't stress it girl! You'll get there ❤️ and in the mean time take advantage of living with your parents, life gets way harder after 🥲
@@AI-ch3if 💀🪦
So true. I can't believe how much men hate women. I wish I had these videos in my 20s! I hope the young ladies are here and listening. Save yourselves our mistakes ❤️❤️
This video feels pro women. It brings light to this issue in society. As women we have to protect ourselves so much from society. We have to protect ourselves physically (gmos,stds,birth control,grape), psychologically, emotionally, and financially. Decisions and choices matter obviously! Don’t make your life harder than it has to be but no one deserves this type of bullying.
When I first started following Shera, yt's algorithm recommend your channel and that's how I got lucky and found all your resources ❤
This channel is soo needed in today’s world
Girlie the reach of your videos has grown, I can spot many pick meisha comments and men comments disguised by strange usernames trying to put down the girls who are asking for your help on other topics.
Hope you are able to make more money and to the girlies in distress please don't be disheartened by such weird comments. As our girl says do not engage with these energy hungry vampires.
I always thought his thumbnails were ridiculous but never felt he spoke to the women much differently from the men 😮
Edit: On second thought, his old videos felt like he was actually trying to help, but more recently it feels like he's just doing videos for views.
needed this.
I repeated Don't get mad, get paid this morning at work over and over. coming home to this was fantastic
thank you as always Elle and the spoiled girlies support group.
love y'all and this little fam we have to love on each other.
🖤🖤🖤🖤
This content has always existed. From Reckless Tortuga and Tommy Sotomayor and Black Pigeon Speaks (who literally had a video essay about why women shouldn’t be allowed to vote that got like 70k likes and over 3million views), to PewDiaPie and Aba and Preach and Sargon of Akaad (who once had a scream rant defending Elliot Roger and blaming his attack on feminism), etc.
I feel old but I’ve been online long enough to notice that males online have always been openly hateful of and hostile towards women, and gleeful about them being harmed and have been able to create content expressing their misogynistic feelings and dehumanizing insults to glowing success and with much popularity. Like, “misandrists could never” I always thought.
Speaking of which, who remembers the “thot destroyer” meme where they used a clip of a little boy hitting his older sisters (who were still little girls) with a bat as the representation for being a slayer of “thots”? And I absorbed all of this slowly but constantly over the years and unconsciously learned from it that the male sex is pretty awful and hateful of my sex but most of the girls and women around me seemed blind to it or excusing of it and were never willing to agree with me or say anything critical about the male sex and their toxic “locker room” socialization. Women even said that I was being a “feminazi” to say that men often don’t really like women, and that most just like service and sex from them.
So what I notice is different all these years later is that you exist. And that so many of you gen z and younger millennial girls exist and are calling it out. I felt like I was so alone in calling it out over a decade ago. So it’s like… yeah Andrew Tate exists but so did Tommy Sotomayor 15 years before him. And so did “Straight Men Respond to: Gay Men Will Marry Your Girlfriends” 10 years before him. Men have always collectively hated women. I love that girls are realizing and reacting more appropriately to this reality now. I feel like a semblance of a sisterhood actually exists now though it could stand to be A LOT stronger.
Subscribed. I needed to hear this so bad, everywhere I turn I'm seeing so much hate towards women, navigating men sometimes feels like walking on broken glass, so thankful I found this channel feels like I'm not going crazy for once and have found kindred like minded ladies and its like a breath of fresh air! Much love and good will from Canada ♥
EXACTLYY!!
DONT.TRY.TO.CONTROL.OTHERSS.👏👏
Caleb’s insides match his outsides 😒 I watched one video and was absolutely shocked by how he treats people.
And he really be looking rough as hell these days 😂
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