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OP should have sadly hinted to babysitter that she had an STD and was afraid to tell her husband. Then stand back and observe some drama. I would use a stop watch and time how long it took for babysitter to confront OP's husband.
That was a chef’s kiss idea.
Brilliant!
That's just more drama than necessary. You don't know who she's going to spread that information to. Instead of bait on one hook you're throwing out a handful of breadcrumbs for anyone to pick up and poop back out.
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I could see this backfiring on him questioning OP where she got the STD and then accusing her of cheating.
Lmao arguing for AN HOUR about no longer contacting the FORMER BABYSITTER? He was cheating
If there was nothing going on he wouldn't have argued for an hour before "agreeing" to cut contact with her. Op needs to get out of this relationship.
My thoughts exactly
no someone is accusing you of some heinous shit ofc you would argue
PLOT TWIST she does tell Ellas dad and he has no idea she got fired because "she is still going to the house"
The fact the baby sitter texted him she was home is SUPER ODD
It is almost a guarantee that they were cheating. She just didn't want to know.
I would have immediately told the babysitter to kick rocks and watched the husband's phone for another text from the mistress
Please tell Ella's dad. Even if your husband totally rejected her advances, her dad should know she's trying to break up his friend's marriage.
Since she had money, she should have hired a private investigator to verify the cheating. Sounds to me like she didn’t really want to know the truth.
Oh, yes, Ella’s dad needs to know…his “friend “ messing around with his daughter…that Is Unforgivable…..PERIOD 🤬‼️‼️
If OP doesn’t want to tell the Dad outright that she could ask the Dad about Ella‘s “boyfriend” and the flowers that she received and let it go from there.
This is disgusting...regardless of if Ella was "coming onto him", it takes two to tango, and he did not have to respond, feed into it, etc. As someone who is older and MARRIED, he should be accountable and act respectfully regardless of Ella's actions. Especially with her young age, and she being the daughter of one of his friends, I imagine OP's husband is a good bit older and may have known Ella since she was a minor. This sounds like OP's husband is a predator who has been grooming this girl and much more the problem here.. so sad OP is planning to stay AND not telling Ella's dad - at very least, she should tell the dad so he can try to protect his daughter.
Yes! The grooming is obvious. The husband is a pos
I know right?! What if it was her daughter in Ella's shoes? Or heels😂
Doesn't even sound like the love for her husband is still strong by the end there. A marriage of convenience is just going to break down if she doesn't actually address the issues.
The ending to this was just sad.
He's going to cheat again. I'm sure he was already cheating, and he will do it again. It doesn't matter if she's constantly around, he'll "go on a business trip" or just rent a motel room, or something. He wasn't cheating because she wasn't around. Some people are just like that.
Sounds like the husband was more after the babysitter! Not sure why the comments were saying the babysitter was just after him.
Because she dressed up to babysit a couple toddlers. Hard to deny that she's at least baiting him into buying her attention..
@@death2boredom338 But what he’s been doing like staying home when she’s there and not his wife and wanting to buy her a car (and possibly bought her more stuff) is doing way more than just dressing up.
@@caseyjc5 Not necessarily. He's the one with money so it makes since for him to buy her stuff and not the other way around. The house is an easy place to have alone time with her so regardless of who started the affair they'd suggest using that.
As far as meeting goes, she also possibly showed up to his job. With purchases, the new jacket could be seen as her making a purchase for him.
He's older and is the one that would be cheating on a partner, so he should know better. However I think it's common knowledge that a woman can also be the one to initiate and push to continue an affair.
Unfortunately because of OP's personality and desires we likely will never know if, when, and how any of this started.
@@death2boredom338 You’re just making more assumptions here on the details based on nothing. None of us really know what went on except for the husband and babysitter.
@@caseyjc5 I'm not assuming anything, I gave reasons for why people would consider the babysitter in the wrong. An assumption would be stating any of the things I talked about is fact. All I did was state them as possibilities and reasons in response to what you said. This started cause you wanted to push your assertion that the husband was more in the wrong based on your own assumptions.
Honestly, I think OP’s confidence is shot. I bet her husband has been distant and gaslighting her for a while now. OP doesn’t believe she deserves better, but she does! I hope OP dumps him sooner rather than later. He sounds like an absolute douche.
Nope, OP's a Pick-Me. Like 90% of women, she believes that being "picked" is more important than the stability of having two divorced parents. This is why stable, financially-independent women don't screw or marry XYs. Dusty's 100% right here.
@@keplersdream901Oh, PLEASE! Wanting to stay in your own marriage is not being a “pick me” - it’s not wanting anything to change in your life and being afraid you can’t find love again. Not saying this woman should remain married to this man, but it is understandable why she still wants to.
@@caseyjc5 You sound like a Pick-Me. When the marriage is TOXIC, a sane woman does not stay. Stop making misogynistic excuses, Pickmeisha.
Just seems like only thing op wanted was for it to stop if it was, she didn't seem to want to know anything just not know and have him stop. I think Hubby will still do it but have a harder road which is going to cause more issues for OP. This going to have more updates in the future.
As a parent a of a daughter, I would definitely want to know. Her husband is victimizing the babysitter.
I find it odd that husband knew his wife was suspicious BEFORE he wanted to buy Ella a CAR for Christmas! The husband was just feeding OP's jealousy and insecurity whether or not he's cheating with the babysitter. The better move would have been if OP had seemingly ignored the behavior; I bet that would have shut it down really fast without her having to quit her job to be home. Babysitter's clothing choices are pretty obvious. Something was going on. I'm glad she fired her.
She is not a kid she is an adult . She should be held responsible for her decisions.
Ella's is a grown woman. She should be treated as such. Even if she never actually did the deed with OP's husband, she was clearly trying to entice him. I would want to know if my good friend was sleeping with my kid or if my kid was just trying to seduce my friend. Both are gross and OP is being way too diplomatic, in my opinion.
If its not Ella, it will be another woman.
See there's nothing wrong with an older person dating a younger person. The problem comes into effect is if that old person knew that young person when they were a child. And from the sounds of it he's known Ella for her entire life. That makes your husband a predator. There's no if ants or buts about it. He should not be daydreaming or sleeping with or anything if a sexual nature with an adult he knew as a child. Honestly OP sounds really browbeaten by this guy.
@dustythunder went to the post and she said that the MIL told her that “she would take care it and that the husband had been at the MIL’s all day” at the time she was writing it.
Oh yay. Pick-Me Girl has Mommy deal with Mommy's Boy. That'll fix it /s.
@@keplersdream901Wow you sound mature - NOT!
@@caseyjc5 Nice try, Gen Z.
I would definitely want to know. 🤷🏻♀️
Absolutely, that would drive me more insane than just trusting he’ll stop contacting the girl.
@@14hoursaheadabsolutely. And then a divorce
The fact she’s texting the dad she’s home said it all 🤦♀️
She should have said Ella was just telling me how nice it was that you gave her flowers.
This is actually sickening.
Once a cheater... OP should have divorced him after he agreed to cut contact with Ella, and she definitely should be have told Ella's dad.
Girl noooo keep the job! You probably will need it in the near future!!!😬😬😬
Did she not check the outside cameras to see who had the flowers? Did Ella walk in with them or her husband?
Please follow the updates for this story... Waiting for the "I knew it" post when she finally files for divorce.
I get the vibe OP isn’t bothered by the affair so much as the insult of it being brazenly under her nose.
Kinda understand the need to bury it for awhile. She mentioned she had two toddlers. Depending on what type of toddlers they are, the idea of the help from her husband is more beneficial. My kiddo was a very easy going and independent kid when he was a toddler. My sister was a horror. A little nudist escape artist. I’ve seen absolute nightmares of children on Super Nanny. Maybe when they’re older and in school, she’ll rethink everything.
Then again, she might be a doormat for the person she loves and it’ll bite her in the arse.
She's a clown for not leaving him. This was so obvious a toddler could've figured it out.
She mishandled this situation. If I were in her shoes and i saw the text warning my husband "your wife is home": I would put my husbands cell phone in my pocket, walk downstairs and fire the babysitter. I wouldnt even lie about firing her, I'd straight up say "I'm not comfortable with you staying at my home when my husband is home you are fired, never come back here again"
Guarantee she'd text or call the husband as soon as she left the house and then you would have your answer
OP, I would suggest that you NOT quit your job. At most reduce your hours. If things do fall apart you will need the income and any savings you have. Best wishes.
If OP tells dad it will also highlight several things: 1. Who actually told husband about Ella 2. By the reaction of the dad, OP will know a lot more about the dynamics (if Ella is a liar/hasnt told her dad that she isnt babysitting no more) and confirm the husband is lying and gaslighting) 3. When husband gets "beat up' by the Dad. When husband reacts to OP it will tell her everything about her husband and sadly if the husband has been up to more than one attempt of cheating since the 3month part. OP I know this hurts but you need to know the facts for your MH denying it or not wanting to know will make you feel like you are the one to blame (you're not), change your behaviours (which will give validity to your husband comments of gaslighting, to husbands POV) and make you miserable and poorly. If you want this to work (I think you'll be surprised by yourself if you divorced your husband) then you need to go to marriage counselling to sort this out and to protect your MH. 🌹💚
OP single woman are the happiest demographic. He is just gonna get sneaker. I agree with dusty if I was the friend and found out OP knew and never told me.... yep on the list
Nothing worse than being a coward to yourself. It'll be a big inconvenience when he brings home a serious STD like HIV. There are more practical reasons why infidelity isnt tolerated than just the emotional turmoil she's trying to avoid.
I suspect she values her outward appearance to others more than her own happiness and that's just sad.
She still needs to talk to the babysitters dad and explain her side of it. I think something happened between the husband and babysitter. If things end between them, he’ll find someone else. Don’t stay with him because of the inconvenience. If you stay, you’re teaching your kids to accept this behavior.
She choosing would ignorance and it will mentally and emotionally cost her
What I think happened. Husband felt lonely because wife was never around, and he was starting to feel less lonely, with Ella there. As for how far things went, We will never know. I could be wrong, but I got vibez that Ella was uncomfortable, and was possibly happy to be let go. This is just my opinion.
one simple text confirms he’s cheating!! why would a babysitter EVER have to text the husband…. “you’re wife is home” that in itself is extremely odd.
OP ... Tell the Dad ... TELL THA DAD!!!
He wants to know why his daughter was fired ... TELL HIM!
OP probably doesn't want the Social Inconvenience and Stigma at the Country Club of being the divorced lady with kids ... it sounds like theres a lot of $$$$ and that's a life i have zero clue about, only stereotypes lol. But the stereotype is Appearances Matter .... so better to fake the perfect marriage/life ... than go it alone .... ain't right imo.
I think hubby is cheating with Ella already 🤔
This is gross. Even if noting happened the dad needs to know so he can squash this on his daughter’s level because at the very least she’s got a big crush.
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Trust your gut!!!!
Or.....or...this is all in the OP's head.
Come on… he was deleting msgs… this is not that hard to judge
Okay, controversial comment time (cracks knuckles): ESH. Dusty's spot on here -- OP is a Pick-Me Girl who believes that being "picked" is more important than leaving a toxic relationship that WILL affect her children. She gave her husband carte blanche when she "forgave" him for cheating when they were first dating. Once a cheater, ALWAYS A CHEATER. Unfortunately, 90% of women, especially those who absolutely CAN do better and are in the rare cat-bird seat of being financially independent, will sacrifice their money, kids, and even lives for the sake of a man who too often views the relationship as transitory or on HIS terms. And too often, he's right because women like OP will give themselves every excuse in the book to avoid doing the healthy thing. Yeah, he's a loser, but she's sunk to his level by being so desperate to keep him. I bet he adds nothing to the relationship. I hope OP lets THAT sink in.
The one being a pick me is the girl sleeping with a married man. The pick me is the one coming over to babysit in a little dress and high heels! How is op a pick me? Because she isn’t giving up her husband to little hot pants. She is acting like most married people do, they are afraid of change, afraid of the pain starting all over! She isn’t being a pick me. 😂😂 that is her husband. Some people just don’t want to walk away from their marriage.
@@vanessasampayan4587 Sweetie-Cakes, if OP wants to expose her kids to a piece of trash, just to get dick, then she is by definition a Pick-Me.
Dusty, there’s no proof, and until there is, this is a manufactured story someone got lots of traction on, and kept adding “oh I forgot to add” “I didn’t mention that”. Nanny cameras. Also, if OP is that well off, then she can be fine without him, but at this point, what is husband guilty of?
You don't have to retain her services regardless. If you just think something is up, just get a different person to come work.
Plus, why dress like you're trying to make babies if you're just watching them?
Honestly, I feel really badly for the nanny. She is broke and driving a crappy car. I don't see any real evidence of cheating. Dad of means is helping his poor buddy and his buddys family by employing the girl. Doesnt mean he is having an affair. He could actually give a dang about his friend and his friends family.
When you have a lot of money and are around people who dont, everyone looks for ulterior motives when you are generous.
I was an au pair. You don't show up in heels and a skirt to provide childcare unless you WANT to grab male attention. This girl was (at a minimum) using the husband's attraction to get him to buy things for her.
The reality is babysitters/nannies and other child minders are often hit on by fathers because it's SO easy to see them as a replacement for the wife. There's a huge risk of sexual harassment on the job. Her behavior suggests she's realized this and is utilizing the quid pro quo for herself. If you don't want the wife to be mad???? Shoot it down, discuss it with her. If you do not, iot looks like you WANT to become the wife and the wife is doing the 100% correct thing to remove the disruption from her family.
It's weird to even straight up buy your friend a car out of nowhere. If she got a new smartphone she was getting enough to save up for a decent car.
You have no idea what you’re talking about! No babysitter should be given anything from their employer other than pay for watching the kids, and certainly not a new car.
Ok how is the nanny being broke their problem?? As a married couple you make decisions together! You just don’t adopt a whole family and expect a way to be OK with it. Aww they are poor and the family she is working for is rich how dare she stop the good man from taking care of his buddy and his family.😂😂😂😂 he should give a damn about his wife!! When’s he voice for pain and her concerns, he shut her down, without giving a f***. Once you are married! There no room to be giving a damn about another family, and taking on a financial responsibility! She’s getting paid, she could’ve saved that money and bought her own car! And so what her car is old! And it’s still a car! You just don’t buy random people cars. Just because they have money doesn’t mean they own anyone. If I had a babysitter, and my husband was taking her out shopping and trying to buy a car, I would fire that babysitter in a quickness! Hell no! Would I be ok with my husband supporting another family, and caring about his buddies daughter that in college. 😂😂 there’s things you do, and things you don’t.