BEARTOOTH + HARDY = METAL COUNTRY?! - "The Better Me"
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- Опубліковано 15 вер 2023
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Beartooth is now Postive-Core.
I'm a metal head and I'm not mad. I love this somg. I have listened to five finger death punch with Corey marks sing outlaws and outsiders. I love when groups from different generes get together and create a beautiful music piece. Also positive vibes all the way. Much love, kindness and care to everyone. ❤
Reaction request: Oktaf Kanis - Come On, thank you 🔥
I’m a metal head but also just a fan of great music and this is exactly that!
Beartooth is one of my favorite bands of all time. I love their new album and this song is one of my favorites. So many of their songs helped me when I was in a dark place and I love the positive direction they're taking. Caleb Shomo is also amazing, I love reading his interviews because his philosophy on life and mental health align pretty closely to my own views on the subject. And you can hear it in his songs.
I had been a Beartooth fan for a while before this came out. But back in October, after 10 years of being a daily drinker I finally got myself to stop, for many mental and physical reasons. I was less than a week in at this point, and it was not easy.
I got up really early on Friday the 13th, this album came up on my Spotify as I set out on an 850 mile road trip from Reno, over the Sierras, and out to Fresno to pickup a new camping trailer I had bought... the sun rise was absolutely beautiful, the desert and the mountains comforted me as they do, it was a cool and clear day out, just perfect for a road trip, myself and my 11 year old dog.... I listened to this whole album over and over and over, it was just the most perfect thing. Such inspiration to keep going and not turn back. Especially this song after trying to quit drinking many times before. I'll never forget it.
As much as the band has changed since Disgusting. The old Beartooth was for a different, drunk me. I feel like I’ve grown with Caleb.
Some days really really suck, but if we all keep fighting our demons together. We can do this together.
Congrats on the sobriety 🎉
I heard this song for the first time today! I chose to walk away from a heavy opioid addition they released this! It so hit home! Thanks y'all
That song just absolutely slaps.
You are absolutely right about this being a mental health anthem of sorts. I only found Beartooth months ago but I usually do a bit of digging into a new band and I freaking floored when I figured out Beartooth has been a whole mental health journey for Caleb. To see how far he has come and the new music he's putting out, its incredible and happy af. Its positive-core and I'm here for it.
I'm not a morning person but when this tune came out Friday on Spotify it instantly put me into a good mood BEFORE coffee, LOL. Caleb's journey has been so inspirational. Theres a lot of music that saved my life more than once but Beartooth and this whole journey is what alot of people really need to hear right now.
Just discovered your reviews and I love your energy.
Thanks for the positivity!
Man, this song hits deep, both my parents are alcoholics, I still live with them because I’m afraid of what will happen to them if I move out. They blame me for their problems. They do everything to deflect the problems from themselves. They try to get sober. They struggle to make it more than 14 days of sobriety before a relapse, they get mad when I hold them accountable. They try to say “I’m going to do it for you” but that’s never gotten them anywhere, they need to do it for themselves.
From @tjboylan20: @tjboylan20 Man, this song hits deep, both my parents are alcoholics, I still live with them because I’m afraid of what will happen to them if I move out. They blame me for their problems. They do everything to deflect the problems from themselves. They try to get sober. They struggle to make it more than 14 days of sobriety before a relapse, they get mad when I hold them accountable. They try to say “I’m going to do it for you” but that’s never gotten them anywhere, they need to do it for themselves.
From Micro: @tjboylan20 It must have been quitte a heavy load to carry on your shoulders. To see your parents struggling, to be a pillar of support to them but also dealing with the rollercoasteer that the road towards sobriety creates. It must feel sometimes as if you're interacting with different people from one day to another, and it's beautiful that in the midst of this you bring to them somehow a sense of stillness and grounding by... being you, being there, caring genuinely.
I hope with all my heart that in the midst of this situation, you have some resources/spaces/safe people you can connect with? To get your mind off things, to focus on building good memories for yourself and a future you aspire to get. Being the carer, whether it is an unwanted role or not, can certainly feel isolating and overwhelming at times. What you're doing must sometimes feel unwanted yet chosen, and that is such a tough duality to navigate day in day out. Through all of this, you absolutely deserve peace yourself, and I hope you have regular times when you can feel disconnected from your parents struggles and own burdens. These moments will never make you selfish in any way. :heart:
From Micro: @tjboylan20 It must have been quitte a heavy load to carry on your shoulders. To see your parents struggling, to be a pillar of support to them but also dealing with the rollercoasteer that the road towards sobriety creates. It must feel sometimes as if you're interacting with different people from one day to another, and it's beautiful that in the midst of this you bring to them somehow a sense of stillness and grounding by... being you, being there, caring genuinely.
I hope with all my heart that in the midst of this situation, you have some resources/spaces/safe people you can connect with? To get your mind off things, to focus on building good memories for yourself and a future you aspire to get. Being the carer, whether it is an unwanted role or not, can certainly feel isolating and overwhelming at times. What you're doing must sometimes feel unwanted yet chosen, and that is such a tough duality to navigate day in day out. Through all of this, you absolutely deserve peace yourself, and I hope you have regular times when you can feel disconnected from your parents struggles and own burdens. These moments will never make you selfish in any way. :heart:
You should go check out "Brantley Gilbert Kick it in the Sticks" , "Five Finger Death Punch Blue on Black", and "Five Finger Death Punch Wrong Side of Heaven" (better have tissues for that one)
Absolutely loved this reaction! Beartooth kicks ass! 🤘🔥
Beartooths energy is fantastic and I love the transition ❤️
Big ❤
I work in ems and drinking is normalized. I've foe it nearly daily (not when i work) I don't know why I use it. I do know it makes me numb and helps me sleep (not a good excuse) I love this song and look to it for motivation. That being said I feel stuck so I try to change small things like the gym or a new place to eat. I'm also new to a new state and area with no friends. In today society it seems much less stressful to be alone.
From toastaintbad: @chris79118 Hi @HeartSupport_Fans,
I’m super proud of you being brave of expressing your drinking problems. People have no idea that alcohol is a drug. It’s okay to drink socially but remember to limit yourself due to physical health. I used to drink a lot due to stress from work and school. Drinking did affect my mental health a lot.
I have a back and forth journey of being sober. Sometimes it’s difficult to change a habit. You have to reward yourself when accomplish something small or big. You aren’t alone in this journey. This year I have been sober for 4 months. There are tons of different sports that you can workout besides the gym. Find a sport that you enjoy to exercise. I loved cardio kickboxing & dancing more than HITT.
Living in a new state is kind of hard since you aren’t familiar. That’s totally normal to feel isolated. What are your interests and hobbies that you like to do? You can join a club or group near your area to make friends. Technology has helped others meet new people. You can search up an event that you can do for fun to make new friends.
I think COVID-19 changed the whole world. It made us feel that being alone is okay. However, we can lose social skills. We need to talk in order to be happy. I believed that you can make a new friend.
From DyllonKG: @chris79118 Good Afternoon my friend
Thanks so much for taking time to post here and be vulnerable. I think that is often the hardest part.
You mention in your post that you work EMS and drink quite a bit when it isn't your day for a shift. You've mentioned that you understand the effect this is having on your life but also mentioned feeling stuck. Especially since you're in a new state with no friends.
First, I appreciate you. I appreciate the hard work you do to save lives and help others. You must deal with heavy topics, hard calls, and haunting experiences. So to some degree, I can understand wanting to be a bit more numb between shifts. Especially without friends to spend time with - I can see the days running together. It seems like it would be easy for it to feel like you were always just working. And if your bored, perhaps your mind wonders. Do you feel burdened by the things you see and the people you help?
Regardless, I don't blame you and am certainly not judging you for how you're getting through your days.
I can't say that I understand the job at all. But I can understand the feeling you identified at the end saying "it seems much les stressful to be alone." i use to feel the exact same way. No drama. No body to let you down or get your hopes up or hurt you. Life is a lot more predictable when you're only relying on yourself.
I'm 32 years old. I don't speak to anyone from highschool or college. I work a remote job in a state i moved to a year ago. Outside of my partner, I didn't know a single soul in this city and rarely felt the need to go out and meet people.
But my partner did. It was important to her to meet people and to have friends and have a community to rely on.
So, we tried. For the last 6 months. we've put ourselves out there. Started a new hobby. Started going to a local gameshop. Started making friends that bike. And I feel so embarrassed. For years I've held myself back thinking that I didn't need friends. When I was younger, people were so much the source of my pain that I had convinced myself that I was better off without them. So much so that I didn't realize that, yes, I was safer, but also life was less enjoyable.
Could any of these people hurt me, betray me, disappoint me? Sure. Absolutely. But the enjoyment that Ive found being around people again - well I'd take that. Can't enjoy the highs without the lows. How can I appreciate a sunny day without some clouds here and there.
I hope this little rant made some bit of sense. Really, what Im saying, is that perhaps there's a loneliness that you're nursing between shifts, when your mind is allowed to wonder.
I could also be super wrong.
Either way, we're here for you friend. You deserve to feel a fulfilled and happy life. Im proud of you for making small changes like going to the gym (a journey im also on) as well as trying new food and restaurants.
I think you're doing fantastic. Just be patient with yourself.
Hold fast <3
The song I didn't know I needed!💕🖤
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Change is really hard, there is really a truth to old habits die hard. Both mental loopholes and outside habits/behaviour. Small steps and one day at a time is one step forward, like for example brushing your teeth every morning when depressed and not feeling like it. It's okey to fall back and slip in to old habits when trying to change, everyone does, never beat yourself up over that. It have happened to me many times but every time it does i know how to avoid it the next time if im in the same situation again.
I dont know how many times i have tried to quit smoking, i know it's bad for me but i know i can do it and change my habits around it, but damn it's hard. The hardest thing is to not start smoking again once I've quit. 😅 it's almost time for me to quit smoking again, but as for now thats on hold because i lost my father 3weeks ago, the day before it was 14 years ago i lost my mother.
From Mamadien: Oh I'm so sorry that you are grieving the death of your father. It's so hard when we lose a parent and to be in that place where both are gone can be truly hard and painful. Grief takes its own path and I totally understand that trying to quit smoking now is not even a possibility right now. Please grieve and process the loss of your dad. If you can tuck in close to family or friends through this, do it. I lost my dad a long, long time ago and my mom died 20 years ago. The thought of trying to quit smoking would even register on my brain during that time. It took a year before I could even think about quitting. And yes, it was the hardest thing I ever did. It took a complete mindset change and it wasn't a smooth trip. I had to decide, like you've said, that having a day where you give in doesn't mean failure. You just try again the next day. And keep trying and changing things you do and keep eliminating triggers each time you find one. I had to change my route to work, change what I did after eating, etc. But eventually I made it. You will find the way to quitting when you decide you are ready. Until then, grieve and find you again. Thank you for being here and sharing.
From Micro: It makes sense to put this change on hold for now. It's actually wise - you *know* when you are going to be particularly vulnerable, and when a change like this is going to add more struggle to the struggle itself. Changing habits is tough work, but knowing when it is a more appropriate time - in terms of *increasing* our changes of success in the long run, is definitely a good thing. And the fact that you are grieving and hurting is definitely a vulnerable time. You're in the peak of it and it makes completely sense to not feel ready to initiate any radical change, regardless of as healthy they could be. It's often encouraged to not make big decisions when we are mourning - the potential for it to add more trauma on top of the existing trauma is high. September right now is a month of remembrance and loss anniversaries to me, and it's a time when I know I'm going to function at the bare minimum. Important life changes are definitely not part of it, but can wait the next month. In your situation you are listening to your heart, to your needs, and that is so commendable.
Ultimately, what can be particularly encouraging is to be as honest as possible with yourself when there is the temptation of saying "I'll do it later". Not to not take this thought for granted and simply moving on, but instead to pause and really answer to *why*. If the reasons behind are meant to prevent you from sabotaging yourself - like initiating a change during a *particularly* rough time - then that is truly a sign of support given to yourself. If it feels on the contrary like the answers are varied and stemming more out of *fear* of the change, then it can be worth digging more into those fears. Your intuition is strong, and in the end you know what is good for you or not. It is truly inspiring to see how willing you are to make this change but also to say "not now" in a way that respects your needs, that respects your heart. Everything at its own time. That's absolutely okay.
Sending hugs your way and wishing peace to you in times to come. Take your time, breathe, feel all that needs to be felt. We believe in you here. :orange_heart:
Thank you for the condolence, I'm still in the in between some days it feels unreal and some real, I think it will hit me after we bury the ashes. Sorrow and grief has it's time and I'm flowing with the emotions and let them come and be one with them.
My father will always be a part of me, and October 2 I will do a tattoo in his honor, I already have one for my mother ❤️
With that said, we all need to learn to be nicer to ourselves, life isn't smooth sailing all time and we all fall down sometimes, it's part of being human. Me quiting smoking will come in time when the time is right to take on that challenge. 🥰
@heartsupport Thanks - i heard this song and on the first listen I broke down. So many of the new Beartooth songs hit with were I am following the breakup of a marriage and navigating my new life. I have had counselling but feel I need more. The good days are good, but the bad are f*****g bad. Music is a healing tool, for self reflection and Beartooth atm are one of the more honest and amazing bands.
From Mamadien: Thank you for sharing! Yes, Beartooth really speaks what we're feeling so many times! I hear you on how to move on when a marriage ends. We take those vows with every intention that it really is forever and it feels so possible. Then it isn't forever and it doesn't work and oh the pain. The feelings of pain and hurt, anger, betrayal, loss. And we slowly rebuild our life without them there daily. It's good to hear that the music helps. I wish healing and peace for you as you move forward. I wish for you to find the best you as you go forward. Keep listening and know that you are heard.
From Micro: Good for you really for being aware of needing more therapy. Sometimes things seem to be better then we realize there are still layers of grief and hurt to process. There's still this memory, this situation, this relationship, this emotion that hasn't been acknowledged and fully unfolded... And breaking up after a marriage is surely a heavy loss to deal with, one that comes to the heart like ocean waves.
I hope that the bad days don't overshadow everything or make you feel like you wouldn't be progressing in your healing. As you said these days can be freaking bad, and it's hard to see beyond the pain when it is so very present. Yet you have been seeking support (and thankfully music helps too!) and you have been trying to keep moving forward in your life. You're on a strong path, friend. Little by little, the bad days will give more room to the good ones, even if sometimes it feels like running into circles over and over. You will get through this and your efforts are so very significant. You will feel like fully settled and back on your feet again. Know that we believe in you here. :orange_heart:
Getting back to the gym... Havent been able to do it for a couple months
From Whois: It’s definitely hard getting back into being active when you haven’t for a while. Ease it back in is always a good start, finding something new to train your body with can be exciting and make the motivation feel a bit stronger at times.
I hope your journey to re-engaging with getting your body moving is an easy transition.
From twixremix: wishing you the best in going back to the gym! it’s hard to get back into an old routine again but i believe in you to take that first leap!
From bunfart90: I personally have struggled to stay in shape and motivate myself to go to the gym so I can understand how hard it is to not only make the first step in going to the gym but continue to stick to that plan. Remember to take it at a pace that's comfortable for you. Working towards your goals at the gym can be incredibly rewarding. You got this!
From OneStepAtATime: You got this! Take your time don’t try to do too much. We believe in you!
From hermit: Definetly going back to the gym can be a difficult task in itself. Especially with seeing all the videos of people going to the gym, sharing motivational quotes/voice over and all, it can be intimidating/scary/overwhelming
But, the best, is to take it step by step, small excercice, no need to push at 100%.
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I recently started hanging out with an ex girlfriend. Everything had been going really well. We were pretty much a relationship again. Then 2 weeks ago she said she wanted to take a step back. I had kind of been treading water since then. Last night we went for a drive and she said that what she has is dismissive avoidance attachment. I have the opposite, anxious attachment. We both know how much of a good time we've been having. She said it's just getting too REAL and it freaks her out. She said it's not fair for me to wait around on her while she figures herself out. For once, I felt like I do deserve that, and I deserve to be happy too. But yet I still want to be with her. I haven't dated anyone else so she's all I know. She said well still be friends and still can hangout cuz we both enjoy that. It just sucks because I enjoy being more than that. Any advice?
From GaryYounOG: @Colt6661 I'm really glad you're willing to share your experience with us. It sounds like you're going through a mix of emotions right now, and that's understandable given the situation with your ex-girlfriend.
It's tough when you've reconnected with someone and started building something again, only to hear that they want to take a step back. Recognizing your different attachment styles shows a lot of insight and awareness on both your parts, and it's clear you both care about each other. Her decision to pause the relationship might feel confusing or frustrating, especially because you enjoy being more than friends.
At the same time, it's significant that you recognize you deserve happiness too. Wanting to be with her is completely understandable given the bond you share, and it's also okay to acknowledge that this shift in the relationship hurts.
Taking care of yourself during this time is important, and it’s not selfish to focus on what makes you feel good. Allow yourself to enjoy your time together as friends if that feels right, but also remember to set healthy boundaries that protect your well-being.
It's natural to hold on to feelings and want to be with someone you know well. But as you said, you deserve to be happy, whether that's by finding contentment in the friendship or eventually seeking other relationships that align with what you need. Give yourself time to process your feelings, and take things day by day. You're not alone in these emotions, and navigating them can help you figure out what makes you truly happy.
From Micro: @Colt6661 It's really hard to see that the person you love is in need of time and space in order to figure out how they feel and what they want to do moving forward. Based on what you describe, I would think that really it is a matter of time and patience there. Maybe also to discuss openly together about what you both aspire to have from this relationship. Maybe you both want to keep on being together, but need to work on your fears so it doesn't prevent you from attaining this dream. It's okay for her to be freaked out when things get real, and it sounds like somehow you both have a good understanding of the way you've developed your own sense of attachment over time. Somehow, in the midst of this, it seems that by *choosing* if you unite together, you might be able to move mountains for both of you and for the sake of your relationship. It doesn't have to be rushed, and ultimately being in a couple with someone implies to grow *together*, to follow each other's pace. If you can discuss these aspects, your core motivations and see if you would be ready to try to walk together on this path, even if it's scary, maybe it would help. Being afraid is understandable, and somehow that's where being in a relationship is beautiful: you are not alone on that path. There is someone by your side, sharing usually similar fears, ready to walk alongside you. :heart:
@heartsupport THIS F'N GUY @BeartoothBand Caleb keeps throwing these Pop/Metal bangers out and giving me hope for better possibilities.
I'm also in the middle of TMS therapy and that's helping as well.
Except, I'm stuck with C-PTSD and a fundamental lack of self-worth from the traumas I've suffered.
From NateTriesAgain: I made a video reply for you: www.loom.com/share/86fe2e295f444b4080aa337cf8526bdb
Jamming the same tunes, and appreciate you sharing <3
From Micro: Hey friend. Thank you for sharing all of this. For what it's worth, I'm right there with you on this wild ride that is the journey of healing from C-PTSD. Experiencing adversity in such a way that it leaves you with all these existential questions and dreading feelings, which hits you each time you feel like drowning or suffocating in your pain. It's hard to feel in movement and not stuck half in the past, half in the *consequences* of the past. In the middle of it, it just leaves you with all of these questions regarding who you are really, beyond the layers of traumas you've experienced, and beyond the way it's been affecting you. Hard to feel worthy of anything, but more than anything, hard to feel worthy of existence. I know for me that's the most difficult aspect of it all -- figuring out my worth and who I am while feeling like I've been removed of any sense of identity and direction in life. It's such a wild journey - so worthy, so deep, so important, but also incredibly challenging.
It must have taken time, energy and strength to seek therapy and to learn to name your own demons the way you do in this comment, and I truly wanted to acknowledge that. There must have been a time of your life when you were feeling like being completely controlled by your traumas. But you're not sitting on the passenger seat anymore, and that is *so huge*. Even more: it's amazing and inspiring to hear that TMS therapy is something that resonates with you and is of support to you. Heck it's yet another journey but to figure out what works to us personally, and it surely is a test of patience sometimes. But you're out there - you're seeking help, you're opening up about your experiences, you're breaking down layers of hurt and shame that never belonged to you. That is beautiful. YOU are beautiful. You are re-creating light where it could have seem extinguished at first. You're showing up for yourself -- and even though it's hard to *feel* that needed sense of self-worth, through your actions you are demonstrating to yourself that you *are* worth the fight, worth the efforts, worth the support and care, worth of *life*. I believe that, in due time, everything else will unfold for you -- as you continue to explore and grow in your own healing process. "Not all those who wander are lost". You got this. :heart:
@@HeartSupportThank you so much for that video! ❤ It means a lot.
@heartsupport I know I should do more excersize, it is something that if done routinely really really helps my anxiety and depression, but internally I struggle with carving the time out for it because I have 3 young kids that need me more. I feel no drive to do it because I know the kids are missing out on that time with me, but mentally I know that they are missing out on a happier me if I don't get back into it.
From Wings: I'm glad that you understand how exercise can help you. It makes my days better too. I find that I'm more relaxed, less depressed, and I sleep better. I can see why having young kids can't interfere with it. Is there someone who can watch them for an hour or so? If you waited for them to go to bed, is there someone else in the home who can make sure they stay in bed? Is there a way to include them or at least have them around while you are exercising? There were times when my kids were young that I wished I could put them on a treadmill just to wear them out so I could relax. :slightly_smiling_face:
From dbt_stiffy: What about making a work-out routine a game with them to join you, so you get that with them and the exercise you want. And get out of the house at least once a week to go work-out alone for 1 or 2 hours.
From Micro: It sounds like you really have a strong and healthy perspective on how workout is beneficial to you personally, and as a result to your family too. It is true that workout is such a good outlet for depression and anxiety. Both being struggles I deal with, I can tell how much of a difference it makes to have days when I go out for a long walk, or do some stationary bike, VS days when I stay at home focused only on life commitments and whatnot. It's a positive thing that you already have this experience and know how much of a positive impact it has on your mental health. But it is also completely understandable to struggle with finding the time to do it, and even more when you are taking care of your children. Yes, they need you, but at the same time - and as you said so very well -, they also need a peaceful/healthy version of you. As a parent you absolutely deserve to use outlets that support you personally and to make sure to dedicate time to it. It can feel selfish to dedicate time to do things for ourselves, but sometimes it can help to remind ourselves that time invested for *us* also benefit people around us. There's a positive effect that keeps echoing through the interactions we have with our loved ones afterwards. Even more, when you take care of yourself, you also show a healthy example to your children at the same time - of how much they physical health is important, and that self-care is a strong value/practice to have in life. Our friends here have shared some great recommendations, and I completely echo the possibiltiy to workout in a way that could be shared with your children, as a family activity. Gamifying it is a great way to approach this kind of activity, and there are many ways to be active and workout without needing to go to the gym for example. Gardening, walking, repairing things (...) plenty of opportunities to be active and to share an activity together. I wish you all the best on this journey. You are a good parent, and it is okay to take time for you too. <3
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@heartsupport caffeine/energy drink addiction