Thanks Dan for your video. Unfortunately, there are stereotypes for all countries which are very often difficult to get rid of. In France, the berets, the baguette, the French kisses, the complainers, the fact that we don't work a lot... That's why it's important to know other cultures, to meet people during our travels... Thank you again Dan for this review ❤️🤗
I'm happy to eat baguette I think It's a good stereotype, and yes french people complain a lot, they probably have their reasons to do so, and for the other ones I don't really know that much so I'll not talk about those ones. I'm planning to go to Korea next year, and I'm so excited to go there for several reason, It will be my first time taking plane, my first time outside of Europe, my first time outside of France, and also I'll meet one of my Korean Friend, but I'm scared to be disappointed (I'm sure I'll not). J'adore le pain
@@milcahsvlog oh so cool, for me It will be just for travelling, I'm not planning to study abroad, but in my studies I have to go study abroad for a semester, I'll try to see if my university has partnership with korean university, and if yes I need to see if they teach in english otherwhise It will be difficult for me to learn since I only have 1 year of korean.
@@morgannavel4552 ohhh that's nice I would love to get acquainted with you though, I need more friends who are like minded and also there are universities that offer courses in English you could check online
I actually just had a vacation in Korea (Apr 2023). I stayed in Seoul, and as a black man with locs, I had a really positive experience. I drank with random people and had conversations / interactions with people that were fantastic. From people asking about the states to people asking about my hair and wanting to touch it, it was a great experience. I will say this. I did notice that the Koreans I encountered seemed shy to start conversations, so try initiating if you're a foreigner. Also, I bought drinks for a table just to break the ice, and they couldn't understand at first, but it ended with good conversations. Point being... don't be afraid to make the first move and invite them to talk or drink/eat with you! (:
You found out the shortest way to their heart. It's a custom, that elders buy drinks or food to youngers. It's the ultimate way to show love all around the world.
If you're from US or west country you wont experience racism, but if you re from south asia or south east asia then yeah you'll probably will exp racism
@@de7898 Hi not sure who you are directing your comment to but one of the highlights of our trip was to visit the historical palaces,, we went to Itaewon, visited a bamboo forest and just use a tour bus to do some sightseeing. If you plan to visit the palaces, best to you a certified tour guide.
I am Black and I went to Korea in March 2023 with a colleague of mine and I never felt uncomfortable no matter where we went and we was in JEJU / BUSAN /SEOUL and was shocked that so many spoke English and was willing to help us find our way around and now I'm preparing to visit in September again
It is my dream to visit several cities in Korea before I transition to the after life. I especially want to visit Busan and Jeju Island to see for myself the beautiful landscapes. I am a Black 69 years young female and I very been super blessed not to be affected by racism as most people seem to accept me for me. The USA is really corrupt morally, socially, and mentally to the point that it is the least likely place I want to spend living my remaining life in.
Those are big/touristic areas so yes it's easy to go by even if one doesn't speak Korean. That's also why people there are used to foreigners/tourists and willing to help. I can speak intermediate Korean and even in more countryside areas I always found people that were helpful. But if you travel alone it's better to stick to more touristic places imo (even more if it's a first) My korean saved me quite a few times 😂😂😂
When I went to Korea (by myself..as a woman) on vacation, I had basically nothing but positive experiences. Everyone was nice to me. Maybe they were nicer because I took the time to learn a few dozen words to help me get by so I wasn't one of those stereotypical foreigners who expected everyone to speak English to me, or maybe it was because I chose to respect the culture and enjoy it as it is. I had a wonderful time and cannot wait to go back. I honestly wish I could live there. As soon as I got off the plane, I just felt like a part of me was "home". Sounds super corny, I know.
@@introvertbtsgirl220 No, i ask a girl who have korean parents but she was born and raised in Argentina and she told me that she dont like much the pressure so she go back here.
I've lived in Korea for 5 years and I have to admit that I still have some stereotypes like all Koreans can handle spicy food, Koreans are obsessed with their looks, Korean men are only interested in foreigners to "see what it's like". But at the same time people make assumptions about me because I'm a foreigner. Assuming I'm probably loud, I only like hamburgers and pizza, I can't handle spicy food, can't understand Korean, I'm obsessed with k-pop, etc. One thing I have to say about people who live in small towns. They are so kind and they get SO EXCITED when foreigners visit, even if their English isn't good and your Korean isn't good. Most tourists come just to visit Seoul, just like most Koreans go to the US to visit New York City or LA, so it's such a shock when they see a foreigner. One time I stayed in a hanok in 산청 near 지리산 in the middle of winter all by myself, and the lady was so surprised and excited. She showed me a bunch of books about the village and told me stories, asked me why I decided to come there. There are so many things to see in Korea besides Gyeongbok Palace and Hongdae, and I wish more tourists knew that.
Interesting culture. Curiosity: is racism something they are actively taught from family and school or something inherent to their culture? As in: Korean culture and race is superior, we can tolerate foreigners but never mix etc. or it's inevitably just part of their background? Do they despise foreigners or rather just find them disgusting? I am honestly very curious.
@adampr5242 i think they are proud people first of all. Against the tides, they've lifted themselves up from a wartorn nation only decades ago to a first world economy. Especially the older generation will likely disapprove mixed partners, but the younger generations are much more open minded about the rest of the world. The huge media consumption likely has had a big influence on that change. And the English lessons in school help.
Thanks for this video! I am American and lived abroad for years and was always frustrated when people thought that life in America was what they saw in the movies or pop music. So I can definitely understand that life in Korea isn’t like k-dramas and k-pop. Thanks for this !
As a European I was actually surprised when I came to the US it looked just like what I saw on TV since my childhood. As if it was a joke to live in a movie suddenly. Especially the NY taxis. But when you meet people like on the street then it’s just making real connections with real people.
@@nikkiross128b that’s cool that you got to visit. I do think there is a difference between what a city looks like in the movies (reality and movies often similar) and the every day life they portray in the movies (often very different than real life)
I agree with you! When my cousin came to visit me in California, he expected to see California like in movies. For him, California is like one big Hollywood 😅😊He discovered many different and new things in California . It was fun watching him how his stereotypes collapsed. Every country has its symbolic famous cities or some places and of course it’s stereotypes.
I am new to watching K-Drama’s and I have to say I enjoy seeing Koreans enjoying various foods, the fashions and how considerate they are of each other. Manners to seniors are so important and it’s nice to see that. I know this isn’t the majority of people. But just to have a small glimpse into the culture is nice.
Like Hollywood gives real picture of Amurican culture, showing for example all those hobo camps etc...? Maybe not quite right place to learn culture...
@johannalehtonen9590 Thanks 🤗🫂what I understood is all the time, kdrama nice I want to go to Korea meet nice people because in my country we don't have food or culture or mostly nice people who will treat us nice 😅or I'm wrong 😅
For me, I actually really like K-pop and K-Drama. And yes, this is exactly why I want to visit South Korea. But not for what everyone thinks. Not the fairytale dates or typical K-Drama stuff. But because of the places. Being there, visiting those places where some K-Dramas were filmed. It feels like when "The Witcher" series was released on Netflix. I played the game and immediately got a nostalgic feeling when I saw some places, details, scenes or monsters that I myself encountered during the game. (It results in the feeling of "Yes, I was there too".) Or when I was in Germany where the famous German series Cobra11 was filmed. I visited those places where the series was filmed. It gives a very different feeling to be there.
Yes, the palaces did it for me too! I dressed up in the traditional clothing and got in for free in one of them. Yes that nostalgic feeling overwhelms you that you don't even understand why and how you are feeling like that. It was great! I am a big K-drama fan. Love the historical one best.
The thing I love about K-drama is not the lifestyle/romance but the sense of humour - I think the Korean sense of humour and fun is quite similar to the British sense of humour (or mine at least!).
I said to one of my British Asian friends who shares with me Asian comedians once that I think Korean and British humour are extremely alike and that we would probably generally get on really well because of it and he agreed
Dear Dan, you did a good job in waking up the dreamers about the unrealistic view of Korea. It is a great country but not because of Kdrama and Kpop, but because it is a country that struggled to become the power house that it is today. No place on this earth is a perfect place. We are all humans, and we all have the good, the bad, and the ugly regardless of the country. I just hope with the new year we stop judging one another based on where we come from and just treat each other with respect and acceptance regardless of color or race. I wish all a Happy New Year, and let us make it a better year for all of us on this earth.
All points you talked are meant to be true. I went to Korea in 2019 and I lived with Korean family and I was able to meet Korean thank to my Korean host mom, so, I've learnt quite a lot about Korea and socials codes / how to behave yourself in the Korean society and it's so far from kdramas to be honest. The culture is different but they are people like us, around the world.
You are live in Korea right? Can you give me an ans of my question please? I wanna go south Korea for study and if it'll possible maybe I'll stay there. So I'm a foraginger for them and I'm a black person. Should I go Korea or chose any other country? Because as I know they don't like black people. I don't match their beauty standard. Please ans my question.
@@arifaakter9882 I don't live in Korea at the moment. Don't worry about it... People will look at you but it's because they are curious but they aren't bad. Maybe you will have people who will be racist but it's OK. Just ignore them. If you like Korea pls go and I recommend u this country.. Many places to visit and things to do
@@Gaby-iz7gn thank you soo much. I love the country but some people represent Korean people like no one can even survive there and so on. No one gonna talk to you, everyone will hate you and bully you etc etc. So I was afraid that if the teachers also neglects me so I can't even learn properly. So I was scared but thanks to you. You give me a hope again. Thanks a lot...❤️❤️❤️
@@arifaakter9882 don't worry about it. You can just travel there for 1 months like most people. What do you think about this? If not I recommend you to study in Canada.
I loved Korea. Was hosted by a business owner. I was treated like royalty. Food was amazing even at locals hangouts. Black pot and brazen meats were awesome. I was so impressed that everything named had a deep symbolic meaning even to the redbean ice cream. I even attended a formal Korean wedding. I unfortunately overdressed for the humidity which was a little overwhelming also in transit areas underground. I’ve had a chance to be friends with Young Nam Cho who has done credit to your Korean Culture. I shopped the local off street markets and had my assistant do all the negotiating on sales prices. It was great fun. The country is beautiful and I highly recommend it for anyone wanting to go. Love love love! ❤
I really appreciate your mixture of calmness, intellect, respect, honesty and warmness in your demeanor. Makes the learning process more enjoyable. Thank you again for the education!
About racism and xenophobia: You're so right. I have heard so much misinformation about Koreans but I don't believe things like that easily. A couple of months ago, I was talking to a Korean person living here, whom I know and we were having a normal conversation about entrepreneurship. Since I am into beauty blogging, we gradually touched on the topic of K-Beauty. I was surprised that he didn't know that the word "whitening" is problematic for many countries with a diverse population. I told him about it and even though he lived outside Korea for quite some time, he too didn't realize this. And what I learned from this is: Koreans aren't necessarily "racist" when they talk about fair skin. As you said, they don't have enough information or knowledge on this. They appreciate even skin tone. I realized how some Korean celebrities are often targeted because of the same reason. It's all about having a little bit of patience and teaching one another. We are all humans and I am sure, it's more about how you connect with someone than anything else. Thank you for this video. All the points are true and basic common sense. We can't generalize a whole country and culture just based on watching stuff on the internet. Gotta experience it with an open mind and open heart.
Historically, It has to do with royalty and not only Korean Asians are like this. Back in the days of Kings and Queens, people were able to tell what social class a person was based on their skin tone. If you had dark/tanned skin it was an indicator you were a peasant or slave working outdoors and people with money tend to have fair skin cause they be indoors all damn day. So naturally over time, people who had dark skin wanted to hide their dark skin so people didn’t know they were poor. That’s why there are all these skin lighters or “whiteners” in the skin care market. And btw when Koreans use the word “whitening” they are not talking about white-washing themselves to look like white people, PEOPLE. They are simply talking about making themselves look more fair skinned and unblemished. Koreans have all these crazy sun avoiding products like arm sleeves and wacky hats.
As a UA-camr myself, I admire this. The way you talk is so calming. I could listen straight through without even feeling to skip a few seconds in. And in regards to the topic; Whatever expectation you create about ANYTHING is YOUR OWN responsibility :) If you set unrealistic expectations on a country based on what you see online, you are setting yourself up for your own disappointment :) which will cause you to then sadly miss the many other UNIQUE and beautiful things about KOREA. Even though i'm not Korean, I know people always over exaggerate and stereotype when it comes to KOREA. My brother lives in Korea and tells / shows me all about it. So as a foreigner who will go there in 2023, I can assure you I will go with ZERO expectations other than the realistic facts I already know about. Korea is definitely a STAND OUT country. There is no doubting it. So I am excited to go with an open mind This way I will see many things about it that other people don't
So good!👏🏻 I’ve also have loved kpop and k-dramas since I was little, but I think it’s important to study the rest of the culture as well. I went to Korea a couple of years ago, and I would say Korean’s really appreciate you learning even just basic Korean (just like how you’d appreciate anyone coming to your country at least trying to learn your language). My friend’s always says they are bad at English but speak so well, everyone just needs a bit of encouragement (lol I feel the same when I speak Korean😅). When I went to Korea as well, I don’t think I’ve ever experienced anything bad. I mean when I’d go into the train and sometimes people would look (but more so when I was in like busan or daegu) or when I spoke but honestly it was fine. I know I look different from everyone and I’m speaking a different language, it’s just important for everyone to have open minds and not take everything to heart, people are just curious most of the time. And last thing😂😅 I have experience Korean guys asking me, “so have you ever been with a Korean guy👀” but not everyone is like that! I have Korean guy friends who are so sweet and respectful and I used to date a Korean guy as well, you are friends and date someone because of their personality and characteristics not their ethnicity 🤍 Sorry it’s so long😅
not long at all! thanks for sharing :) Your positive mindset and openness to embracing foreign cultures probably helped you have a nice experience also! I think it's natural to know just one side of a country but once you get more into it, it would help to learn and see the many other sides the country has to offer!
@@ThizisDanny Definitely! I love interacting with all kinds of people from different walks of life, and learning everyone’s culture is such a beautiful thing! I’m glad you made this video, I hope everyone will be able to take something good from it!
@@cassandra7437 I’m a lot like you too! I love learning new languages (currently trying to learn seven rn lol) and I have a very long list of countries I hope to visit in the future. I come from a very mixed ethnic background (a mix of Indian, Egyptian, Turkish, French, Spanish, and more) so I enjoy learning about different cultures and countries. What are five countries you wish to visit the most? 🙃 For me it’s: - Iran - Japan - Saudi Arabia - Thailand - South Korea Asian countries are mostly near the top of the list for me because of my love for the food, culture, and entertainment industries in those countries. But I also wish to visit South American and European countries as well.
@@grey_city I love it!!💛 I think that’s so cool and amazing you have so many backgrounds to learn about! I want to visit Korea again, Japan, New Zealand, Columbia and Australia! But honestly so much more! I want to see Europe and Greece as well. My job let’s me meet a lot of people with different backgrounds, so it makes me want to learn more about where everyone is from and what kind culture and traditions they have😊
@@cassandra7437 wow! That’s cool! If you are okay with sharing, what is your job? I might also want to consider getting it if it means interacting with and meeting new people.
Just back from Korea about a month ago. Enjoyed my travel there. Being a solo 65 yr Indian female traveller I had no problem . Will definitely return. Loved the food n your culture .
I just stumbled upon this video and I'm so happy I did!!! I've lived in Korea for almost 4 years now and it makes me so angry when foreigners generalize all Koreans or all of Korea. My own family was guilty but we've worked through it haha. I think everyone on both sides needs to understand that everyone is just people. There's going to be some for and some against literally EVERYTHING you can think of so why stereotype?? I can't believe some of the things people say about "all Koreans." Thank you for making this video and being so articulate about all of these topics 🖤🖤
Thank you for posting this Dan! Honestly, I tell a lot of my friends who also love Kpop or Kdramas that Korea isn't perfect like Kdramas and that not everyone in Korea loves Kpop. Everyone has different taste and personalities regardless of where you are from! (thank you again!)
They must not watch the Kdrama I watch. Corruption, serial killers, lol. For the Kpop part, it's like saying everybody in the USA loves the backstreet boys or every Canadian loves Justin Bieber. I agree those kinds of thinking is shallow and annoying.
@@Corvuspacificus exactly!! That's how I feel! Koreans are just people. And just because we are from a certain area does not suddenly identify our personalities and stuff. We are all different personality wise regardless of who are where we are from!
In love with the way you tell the information. Unfortunately racism is everywhere. No matter what country you are in. Society needs empathy, an open mind and more knowledge about different cultures. But above all respect for other people. Thanks for this video!❤
My daughter has been living in Korea for almost 2 yrs. She has had some people sit farther from her on the subway. She has had people shove her aside but mostly she has been safe and people have been kind to her. We recently got back from our first visit. She lives in Bucheon and it’s not common to see foreigners so we were quite the spectacle. 😂 We are so used to seeing all races and nationalities, we didn’t feel out of place but I guess we were? Idk. People were generally nice to us especially older Koreans. They used the English they knew and were proud they knew we we were Americans. We had some of the oldest Koreans offer us seats on crowded subways. We mostly declined but I found it very sweet. We already knew everything you have said in this video. We did find it very safe. I was not uncomfortable out at night alone(my daughters apt was about 4 min walk from where we stayed). Small restaurant owners were super nice. Other than the extreme humidity(we were dripping within 30 seconds of leaving the apartment) it was a really nice experience. I would recommend people learn greetings in Korea, the word for bathroom 😂, and just some general knowledge of the culture. Please let your viewers know that people are the same everywhere. The only difference is the language. But yes, the #1 thing is most don’t look or dress like idols and most Korean people won’t willingly interact with you. The biggest shock for my daughter’s bf when he visited us was that we hold conversations with complete strangers here and also that restaurant employees try to accommodate your every whim. Two things that don’t happen in Korea.
I will be moving to Bucheon in October and I didn't know what to expect (it will be my first time in Korea), but now at least I know that I will probably be stared at as a foreigner there haha
@@ilona855 Ive lived in Bucheon for a while now. Ive met several foreigners here. You dont have to worry about being stared at if you are by yourself. Groups of foreigners get stared at anywhere in Korea. Even in Seoul. Btw Bucheon is awesome. You're gonna love it!
I used to live in Bucheon! Such a nice city. Like Seoul but without the crowds. I did have one guy at the subway station wish death upon me and my family though 😅
@@ellasaurusrex9499 I’m so sorry I didn’t see your response until now! I’ve been living in Bucheon for a few weeks now and it’s been absolutely amazing so far! It’s a really nice place like you’ve said:)
First of all, your dog that came across the screen in the beginning is so so cute!! Also, you did a really nice job of explaining everything, and thank you for covering all of these topics. It's nice to hear a point of view from someone that's from and has lived in Korea.
Thanks for this topic. K-pop dramas actually made me want visit Korea one day. But I believe Korea has made an impact worldwide because they are everywhere, not only the people but mostly quality and reliable products that are Korean made.
I went to South Korea in October/November 2022 with 12 other persons; 10 family members and 2 close friends. We had nothing but positive experiences. One of my daughters who spent 3 weeks in Korea in 2017 told us not to expect any just go with an open mind and she was 100% correct. We visited 3 Asian countries: Singapore, Pattaya City, Thailand and Seoul, South Korea in 2022. Our group of 13 is diverse and we loved all three countries however because I do watch the K-dramas I was looking forward more to Korea and I really loved it. I got lost on the line 5 subway in Seoul and I received so much help and from the older people, the young people all the way until I got back to my hotel. My sister and one of the friends took the subway daily and they said people were very nice and helpful. We did not experience anyone being rude to us so we had a really great experience in all 3 Asian countries and would not think twice to visit all of them again. I also do want to say that I did see some very good looking Guys in the area we stayed at - We were in Gangnam so maybe that is why.
I love your videos. I also love Korean culture. Not because i think it’s all rainbows and butterflies but because it’s genuinely a cool culture. I also love the dramas. I have started watching the Josseon era dramas and I love them!! I am also trying to learn the language. My goal is to watch the dramas without subtitles.
1:57 - 1. Not everyone wants to be a K - Pop idol (or into K - Pop) 3:47 - 2. Life is not like a K - drama 6:33 - 3. It`s not 100% SAFE 8:15 - 4. Not everyone lives in SEOUL 8:50 - 5. Not everyone likes spicy food 9:10 - 6. Not everyone is into fashion or makeup 10:16 - 7. Some people DO speak English 11:35 - 8. Not everyone wants to "JUST" hook up with foreigners 12:54 - 9. Not everyone is OBSESSED with looks 14:11 - 10. Not everyone is RACIST 👍😉😊
I thought I`d make myself useful and make this list for your video, Danny, so people can find the points faster if they want to.😉👍😊 Thank you for your effort in putting another high-quality video together! I know and appreciate how much time (many, many hours) is needed to make a video like that. 🙌🙌
I had a wonderful time when I went to Korea. I wasn't fluent in the language but I knew enough to get by. The people were lovely. I was very respectful to them and I received the same in return. It's a beautiful country and the history is amazing. I was a 40 year old female at the time and I never felt fearful, but I wasn't foolish either. I'm 67 now. Would I go back, definitely. Stay healthy, happy and safe always
Dany, I liked this video and thanks for sharing information on racism and just generalizing about people. I really wanted to visit Korea but like others, I was saddened to hear so much about racism. I'm American and I understand what it means to experience racism and even so, I don't like lumping everyone into one group. Korean like Americans are not all the same and that came through your message.
I am a 76 year old white Stateside woman. Covid in 2020 brought me to UA-cam and I discovered there is so much more here than old MTV videos. First I started following people who actually own cats...not the silly compilations, and that led me to K-pop. And like the rest of the things I watch here, the title of this vlog brought to watch it. 1. I truly believe more USA teens love K-pop than Koreans. By really studying Stray Kids and TXT, I have learned that a lot of them never even thought of being an Idol but got into it one way or another. But once in, they are to be admired for their work ethic and passion. BTW, none of the people I follow in the cat world are into K-pop! 2. And life in the USA is not like a soap opera! Also, you are not going to get a miracle cure in our hospitals, like on TV...etc 3. I have not seen these arguments online, but it is not 100% safe in any country. Always 'buddy up' esp at night. 4. Speaking of SKZ and TXT, they talk about their home towns and how nice it is to get away from Seoul! Most cat people do not live in Seoul. Same goes for Japan/Tokyo. Or USA and NYC or California. I live in Michigan. And much like Northern Statesiders tease Southerners for their accent, so the same teasing goes in Korea. 5. I would love to visit Korea for the mountains and the countryside and museums and art galleries. But I have always wondered what I would eat! I cannot stomach spicy foods. Nor could I eat as much per day, as I see Korean families eat. 6. Some cat people are concerned with their appearance, but most aren't. As a matter-of-fact, there is a petition going around online...STOP WHITE-WASHING HWANG HYUNJIN! USA esp loves the natural color of his skin. 7. I find many Koreans who do not speak English. Esp not read it. Most everyone I follow pays a translator for the Eng subs. I have always felt that Statesiders are very snobbish like that. We expect the whole world to speak Eng. When I was visiting England in 1967, I did everything I could, so as not to be an 'ugly American.' Sign gestures and patience and smiles will get you through any country! 8. If you have any foreign accent or look, there are Statesiders who sure want to hook up! I think that is the same everywhere. 9. A vet mentioned that one penguin left her mate for another penguin. She said, "I thought Tux was better looking than Oreo, myself, but then I'm not a penguin." We all fall in love for different reasons (hopefully the right ones) and 'Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.' On the other hand, I cannot believe the amount of selfies K-pop stars take of themselves! Oh, my! Beomgyu spend 10 minutes fiddling with a few hairs on his bangs until I wanted to scream and I think someone finally mentioned it in the vlog. 10. Racism is so blatant in the USA. People who are 3rd or 4th generation Statesiders but look Asian are being beaten up and killed because of Covid! Racism is everywhere. Korea does not have a market on that area. You seem like a nice person and I hope you are. I judge people by their actions, not their looks. Am I rare or just old?
I'm with you , I'm 58 years old, and I know what you mean. Racism is bad here in the states 😒 I live here in Colorado for 30 years and I am originally from Germany and I never experienced so much racism than here I'm white but because I am German the call me a nazi and so on and people are so inconsiderate here. I'm going to korea in October with a friend, two old ladies want to see the country so much history there love to see it all. Fly in to Incheon airport be there for 20 days and want to see so much we can. I'm excited about it I know there are good and bad people everywhere so I try to keep a watch out to stay safe. Thanks for the video loved it and I'm old enough to know not everyone looks like an idol 😉.
Thank you for the last point! Regarding racism, Americans simply know how to say the right things about race but don’t do what’s right. Racist attacks are rife in America. In Korea because people are not well versed on the subject they don’t necessarily say the right things, but racial attacks by Koreans are few and far between. You’re far safer in Korea.
Thank you so much for the videos. As an African American woman, I had heard some pretty terrible things about how they were treated sometimes. This made me feel alot better.i do love kpop and kdramas and I would like to visit Korea one day. I am trying to learn Korean so when I go, I can show respect for the country and its culture . I just would love the experience to see it for myself without being as delusional as some tourists 😅
Let me ask you something, do African Americans treat Korean Americans well? Some of the most blatant racism I have received have come from African Americans. It's funny how when people hear about something happening in another country they act appalled, but when it happens in their backyards, they don't see any problem at all.
@@maybritt6457 I can't speak for everyone, but neither myself , my family nor anyone that I would call a dear friend would treat any other race that way .I have all races as family members. Cousins from Belize to the Philippines. I wasn't raised that way and that's the way I raised my children. I'm sorry if you have been mistreated, so have I. People can be mean and ignorant. Luckily not everyone is that way.🥰💜💜
@@maybritt6457 As an African American I really do believe it just depends on the people you meet. Some people are racist some aren’t. But don’t let one experience of a racist black person ruin your perception of all black people.
@@taetaeisbaeforever4447 it’s not one, but multiple experiences. Many blacks discriminate against Asians blatantly especially in metropolitan areas in the US. I find it hypocritical that so many do this and if they aren’t partaking in it are at least aware of what is happening, but then travel to Korea for a few days to months to make videos about how Koreans stared at them the wrong way. Look at the Asian attacks that happened all over post covid and who was many times responsible for them. It’s very hypocritical one fails to acknowledge the problems in their own community yet will make videos about people abroad complaining about how they stared the wrong way.
@@maybritt6457 I don't condone Asian hate or any other race. Latinos and blacks have it hard too. So do the gay community. Don't let the few stand for the many.there are also many videos of love, acceptance and understanding for each nationalities. I am a big kpop and kdrama fan. I not only love the entertainment, but because of it, it has opened my interests to learn more on its culture. That was one of its goals and it is working for the most part. Also some things are changing with time, just wait and see.you and I are proof.
I’m probably writing too much here BUT…i’ve been waiting for a video like yours on YouTUbe!! It’s so refreshing to hear something that’s not extreme, like too positive or too negative about Korea. Thank you for this well-said video and i appreciate your efforts in explaining these realities for foreigners or just other ppl in general.
Thank you Dan for your honest portrayal of your country and its people. It is true, no matter where you live, you encounter all types of behavior. The good, the bad is all entwined. I have gotten hooked on Kdramas and I love the culture that, at least is shown in dramas, the respect, courtesy, given toward family members and others. The good side of the citizens. I hope that that is portrayed accurately. This way of life could bring about peace among the people of the world. Ofcourse, I am also aware that no country is without the reality of wrong doing. But I pray that the majority of people love their fellow man. I look forward to your videos.
Beauty is on the inside, bad things happen everywhere, stereotypes can be funny….I walked the streets of Incheon, Busan, and other places felt extremely safe, I danced with old men on the beach to live music, fed by lovely generous women, communication was fine without knowing a word I was so impressed with the kindness, respect, beauty, cleanliness and overall culture….I loved visiting and will again if possible.
#7: Not only Koreans are shy when it comes to the English language. For example, to be honest, I didn't want to visit Zaneuk and dear Dan just because of the distance from Seoul to Incheon. I was also ashamed of my English compared to his. If you know the other person speaks good English, you are often inhibited from speaking freely yourself. But I survived in Korea. Wasn't difficult at all. A little bit of English, a little bit of Korean and a little bit of hands and feet.😃
Exactly darling Simone, and eyes. It is funny how suddenly people open their eyes to try to speak with them. It is good fun. I am saying this because Of the nature of my work I meet a lot of people who cannot speak English language, daily. So I have learned to speak with my hands and my eyes and legs of course, so everything gets very illustrative, literally. And on the end all finishes with a sweet smile and pleasant goodbye. All parties happy. About the English language though, or in fact any language. If you are learning it and you are trying to speak never feel ashamed and stop yourself speaking. You will never speak the language in the way the natives are speaking it, unless you have started to speak the language of that country from your childhood. So, I am for 30 years now in England and I still make mistakes mainly because I am in a hurry, it comes from my adorable nature and my mother's language. But I use the language excessively, every time I can. I make sure that I understand what people are saying to me and they understand me. In cases of confusion we repeat the sayings. Also, to confirm that sometimes the things I hear in a perfect English language are so bad that they actually shame the language. So you see, feeling shy of not speaking better is of no use. Enjoy your beautiful language and the beautiful English language, communicate and be happy. The communication will improve with time. Be blessed.💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
Hi Dan I'm from India Actually I think the points you mentioned are not only about Korea But also other places (Country ) One should not judge a place or people just by the looks ,they should go through them and try to understand them and finally come to a judgement. I think what you told is all true It actually kind of related to my place as well . Good or Bad , everything has its own reasons and meaning. Hehe i don't know what I'm speaking . Any ways thankyou for the video and your efforts. Have a good day .
Literally such a good video and knowledge from the Korean and American perspective when you know it. Everything you said is seriously real and educational. You got everything spot on. Did a real good job. Even better when it comes from an authentic Korean ethnicity. Even with things you talk about it shows your character. I wish more people can be more understandable like you. More open. You have a pure soul. ❤
I taught English in S.Korea from 2004 to 2011. It was the most awesome experience of my life. Yes I am a Black S.African, but if ever there may have been a racist incident, it paled into insignificance compared to the love I received from ALL my adult students, all the little kids I taught, my neighbors, my fellow brethren in church. I don't understand why you have to explain Koreans to the world. Back here in S.Africa I rave on about the generosity of Koreans, the friendliness of total strangers. My language school had a rule that you could not accept money for private work eg doing a research proposal in English for a graduate student. These masters students would not accept this. So they gave expensive gifts (you cannot return a bottle of Bulgari aftershave, it would be insensitive, even my bosses would say you cannot but accept it). You cannot turn down a dinner at VIPS or Outback - that is plain rudeness. Because I was in Korea so long I think I can speak with some authority. Also the language school had 48 branches, so I got to apart from Seoul, Wonju, Ulsan, Busan, Incheon and elsewhere (this was Sahmyook Language School) so I speak with a lot of experience. I describe to S.Africans the phenomenal work ethic of the Koreans, which makes it a materially comfortable to live in. If I were younger I would love to still be there and compared to my own country, Korea is a place where I lived with NO fear for my safety. My last application for the renewal of my contract with Sahmyook/Seventh Day Adventist language schools was not accepted because I replied honestly that I was gay. I accept that at THE time an openly gay teacher was not on. I have no issue with that, its a cultural matter with the country where I was a guest The issue was the Seventh Day Adventist church that does not countenance a gay member. It was a heavy secret that I was paranoid about. I had to find a loving relationship with a Filipino. PS It is with great peace in my soul that I got myself out of the clutches of religion. Here it is my Korean students who educated their teacher
K-drama is like a dream about the life that everyone would like to have at some point in their lives. Of course, I'm talking about those typical dramas where friendship is intertwined with love. It is logical that the life of the average person in Korea does not look like this. However, it is a nice escape from everyday life. I have the impression that for several years Korean series (It's Okay to Not Be Okay / 사이코지만 괜찮아) and movies (Always / 오직 그대만) have been doing a good job showing the world what Korean filmography can do. Greetings from Poland
K-drama is entertainment and as such, K-drama is working like any other piece of entertainment by showing us a dreamlike ideal while referencing reality. To take K-drama as reality is like taking Disneys depiction of life for real... foolish
I think 18gain was the kdrama i really felt that i learnt about basic Korean culture. I think Koreans are practical, living their own lives and they are accepting to different cultures but to a certain level.
@@chayo4537 i understand the bitterness or hostility; to give another contextual angle, imagine that in the U.S., women outnumber men, and men have mothers, sisters, daughters, aunts, grandmothers, and access to Ms. Magazine, feminist text, vast media coverage of rape culture and other inequality issues for women, yet there still are sexist men who are blinded by male privilege and don't realize how they don't care about women's equality. in korea, there is no media coverage comparatively; they might learn in school "racism is bad," but i've read comments from kids that have said they had no idea HOW it is....until they read a few things and they realize how much there is to learnabout it. knowing the need to read and research things on the internet is more common in the young probably. if there's a homogenous society to the degree that there isn't even a dominant groups, it's just pretty much all Koreans and a few foreigners, it's a place that is rigid/very tradiitonal/slow to change, and if not exposed to something in daily life let alone have it spelled out for them, just simply won't understand, let alone understand that there's something they need to be learning about; and are guaging just from what they see in movies, stereotypes, etc.
Hi Dan! Thank you for sharing positive reactions about Korea. Every country has its issues, but we should experience visiting a country with objectivity so one may enjoy! I have seen such videos where everything is a negative & just shake my head. I tend to take their reactions with a grain of salt. Hope you are well & your wine bar is too!
Thank you Dan! For educating us and giving us another output. I have personally worked with a lot of Korean people and they embraced me. I respected them and they honored my hard work. I feel it is how you treat others.
It's so good to have lucid and honest Koreans warning those who romanticize the country due to the lovely series, forgetting they are fantasy, hence totally different from real life, as in everything! I've subscribed and given the due thumbs-up!
😆 “don’t spill coffee on purpose” love it - so true. I know my friends in Korea would 100% agree with you as well; Korea has so many great things but it is a diverse country full of individuals with many unique characteristics, preferences and lifestyles. This was a great video Danny, thanks for sharing your perspective. P.s. sorry to hear you get so much negativity in your dms 😕 grateful for your honesty and thoughtfulness though ❤️
Dan, so good to hear you again! I assumed you have been busy with life, you work and business. I hope those are all going well. So glad you get days off! Thank you for taking time to share these things. I appreciate how you invite us to see different perspectives, to understand the complexities. Especially since you have lived abroad and have shared your own story regarding racism. I trust you as you share a little about racism and xenophobia in SK. I live in California, diverse and progressive, and also racist and xenophobic (I know, so odd), and my understanding is that all cultures and places experience this. We all have room to grow. Regarding the myth that everyone in Korea is obsessed with make-up and looks, I think we see that reflected in all countries too. You have taken us with you to modeling gigs and given us tips regarding make-up, skin care and living healthy. Of course it's appropriate that you care about your looks. And being casual is good too. Good luck on your endeavors and I look forward to seeing you again soon.
My dear friend is a Korean and married to our Iranian friend with kids. And her family are always warm and welcoming to me. 💖 I’ve never been to Korea, but want to visit one day. I look forward to hearing more on the racism topic, it will really help build confidence.
Hi!! Thank you so much for addressing the thing that foreigners may misunderstand!! I'm Iranian and also student the next semester I'm gonna be graduated from University so I think of studying master in SK. For sure I googled about every single aspects of living in SK including academic, economical to social atmosphere but I heard so many heartbreaking memories of people of different ethnicities which broke my heart into pieces. At this stage I tried to search more and consulted my seniors however they shared almost the same stories. Absolutely they had amazing memories too and also they met sweet nice people BUT they faced so many bad things too!! I personally believe that the problem is that colorism and racism become unshamed in SK of course many people do it because they are not educated but this sad story should end somewhere!!!! There is NO AREA that is facing with such things but we have to love and respect each other to live happily together ❤️ Sadly I'm not gonna think about studying master in SK
Thank you Dan for doing these videos, my daughter was just in Seoul South Korea from june thru July. She was nervous and a bit uncomfortable about people staring at her but she did go out a lot and saw some sights, did some shopping. She was sick for a few weeks but This trip was always a dream for her since college and she went for it and plans to visit again.
My boyfriend is Korean and I always verify every single stereotype or assumption with him, turns out the view on Korean people that is made through dramas and K-pop artists are not always the realest. Nevertheless, Korean people are amazing, I can sincerely say that they are incredibly polite, at least the people I had the pleasure to meet :)
Really enjoyed this you tube video. Spent 3 months in your country this year. I felt very safe as a solo female traveller but as you quite rightly said you need to be aware of the situations around you . Also I only knew about 10 words of the Korean language but met so many helpful people even though there was a language barrier. I found that a smile works wonders. Thanks once again for a great video.
I was in Seoul a few weeks ago. I loved my visit, the people I met were very nice. Communication was easier than I thought. I wanted to travel to more cities but had a short visit. When I go back, I hope I will be better at speaking Korean. I felt safer there than places in the US. I was probably an anomaly to some. There were many stares on the subway and smiles too. I didn't experience any racism. I grew up with multicultural friends and adults in my life so for me it's the heart and soul I care about in people.
@@kaynesheenan I've walked up on sketchy situations, witnessed severe behaviors, and have been approached in aggressive ways in the US. Comparatively, my time in Seoul was mild and safe. Not saying things don't happen but I didn't experience anything negative.
New Subscriber, Thank you for creating your channel to share and educate us about the Korean culture. I also appreciate our patience. I just happen to stumble on a Korean film on Netflix(Record of Youth) while in quarantine from Covid last year and have been following ever since. Also a big fan of AAIFF in New York. I grew up in church and had to wear modest clothing so when I saw some of the walking videos(Seoul Walker) it reminded me so much of when I was growing up. Now as an adult I appreciate and embrace that modesty, so there are aspects of the Korean culture the resonates with me as being an adult like having manners, showing respect, carrying yourself in a respectful way, being well groomed, the diet(on the lighter side), etc. So I connected with a culture that embraces different aspects of my personality that I got teased about, that seemed old fashioned or not with the times in my culture(America). I know the k-pop dressing is another facet of your culture, that is nice as well. I do love the k-dramas, variety shows, etc. I think the content is clean, don't get me wrong I like action films, thrillers, etc but the content is not Rated R(to me at least). Lastly, then men(actors) are beautiful to me from a perspective of being a lover of aesthetics/makeup. It is like art to see them because they are dolled up, like the porcelain dolls, it is like feminine/masculine wrapped up into one, I love the juxtaposition of the masculine/feminine in your culture where the men care just as much about their appearance as women. I am learning Korean now and planning on visiting in December. I am excited to be stepping out of my comfort zone of America and exploring different cultures. Question wondering are the actors as humble as they seem? Keep the content flowing, Cheers!
This was a good educational video. I do think Americans can think Korea is like KDramas, and it was good to hear that people are diverse and similar everywhere!
This was very informative! Thank you, Dan! I am 70 years old and I am coming to Seoul in June. Do you mean to say I won’t find a hot, good looking Asian man to give me Kdrama romance?!LOL😂. My daughter is having a good laugh! Anyway, I look forward to meeting the people, eating different foods, and enjoying the historical aspects. Visiting Seoul has been on my bucket list forever! One question I do have is why they don’t allow Americans in some of the bars and nightclubs? Is it because some Americans get too rowdy when they drink?
It’s sort of like adult only hotels or restaurants. A few kids caused trouble some years back, irking their core clientele, so now they feel justified in denying access to any and all kids
There have been problems with some foreigners before, specifically the American military men. They can get rowdy and pushy when drunk. I was never denied anywhere, so it's not super common, but there are certain places that won't allow foreigners. It's not fair, but just find a different place, you know? I love Korea and had so many amazing adventures. Just go with an open mind.
i have never seen a such a truthful boy. you are a gem for people who wants people safety comes first. i am proud of you. i want to come to korea to experience things by myself.
I've been learning Korean for 1.5 years and I know at least a few words. My daughter, her best friend and I were in Korea for 3 weeks, 1 week round trip and 2 weeks in Seoul. No matter where we were and what people we met, they were friendly and very helpful. We traveled a lot and saw a lot of culture and landscape. We were neither afraid, not even at night, nor did we experience racism and the like. We got along very well with English and some Korean words. It's true, people are very shy and it takes time to start a conversation. We had a guide for the round trip, so it wasn't a problem at all. We respect the culture and mentality of other countries. Everyone should inform themselves about this beforehand and behave accordingly. We will definitely travel to Korea again as there is still so much to see.💜☮️💟☯️
And lastly, I greatly appreciated what you said about Kdrama. Everyone worldwide are becoming fans, especially because how many are shown on Netflix. The stories are unpredictable, the writing is so funny and clever, and the actors (in the States that refers to both women and men) are superb. But it was a good caution to this old lady (nuna?) that I’m not going to get off a plane and run into the arms of Lee Dong-Wook. 😂
Thanks for your video, Dan! I just moved to Korea from the US to teach English, and your videos have been helping me a lot coming in, giving a lot of good information and shedding light on some things that are more complicated than people (in general) make them out to be. I try to bear that in mind as much as I can, but hearing things clearly stated really helps. Have a great week!
Nice informative video, Danny. Always good to get your personal POV. Thanks for that. Now retired but some time ago I spent a few years doing business with UK based Koreans who worked for the UK division of a large Seoul corporation Always polite and helpful those people gave me a positive view of the nation that I still hold today. Talented in so many ways, Korea has become a positive world influence in business and entertainment. Something certainly to be proud of but like all countries, there is always room to do things better. Wishing you continued success and happiness. D
Thank you for your video Danny, I recently started watching your stuff because I spent 3 months in Seoul and having only returned to the UK 1 week ago, it makes me feel closer to your country. I think it's really important to address that, just as you said, generalising a country based on our perception of the media we are exposed, just isn't fair. Movies, series, kpop artists (in KR case) are a product of a lot of people's work, they are polished to make it look really good and to help us escape reality, which is why we love them, and while a lot of things can be based on real life stories, they are still fiction. That being said, there will be things that we do see out there, the restaurant culture, a bit of romance (seriously, at least in Seoul, it's like everyone is programmed to be in a couple :p), generally people care about looking good, which I think it's really refreshing, we should do it for ourselves as well. Another thing, about the "racism" part, personally, me and my friends did not suffer and major discrimination. Yes there are some limitations to what visitor visa only can do and cannot like not being able to register for some online shopping because require ID verification etc, but those things can be overlooked specially if one's stay is short. I think it's something that maybe going forward, the government can improve on. English speakers, I had different experiences with this, as you've said, some people will not engage in conversations because they're too shy or just don't want to go through the trouble of speaking in a different language, this happends everywhere in the world. I'm Portuguese, our population is very educated in the english language and you'll encounter similar situations. On the otherhand, there will be people with probably no ability to speak english who will not hesitate to help a foreigner, they will use hand signs or take us directly to where we need to be. Overall, I had a lovely experience in Seoul and Busan and I hope I can return soon and visit more cities, to see each nuance and learn more about the culture. P.s: sorry for the essay xD
I started watching kdrama on a whim recently and really liked the stories, plots, acting, and the unique Korean cultural aspects that is written into the plots. That inspired me to look into musix (not just kpop lol), art, food (i love to cook new recipes), and now im interested in learning the language. I can see how people can be unrealistic with things definitely and your video is really awesome and down to earth. The internet is turning into a fascinating alternate reality for people to escape to so i like the reality checks.😂
Thanks so much for this kind of topic to discuss. As much as I like ALL kinds of music, I appreciate the Korea Artists for their never ending amazing talents. I am planning to visit South Korea but not because of K dramas or K-Pop as many want to do. It has been on my bucket list to visit for a long time now and Covid put a kink into those plans for awhile, but I want to explore and experience the culture and history on a more personal level. I hope to meet a lot of nice, and interesting people along my journey to make my experience that much more memorable I don’t believe that anyone country is 100% safe. There is always another side to the calm peaceful life that everyone longs for, that is just reality. I am glad you did address these questions for others planning to visit as there is so much miss guidance on the internet. Keeping it real is so refreshing!
Omg thank you so much Danny! I would like to share around this meaningful video you posted because you are right about everything. People have to be aware of this because globally there will be people who accustomed to stereotyping anyone in General, Be it you are Chinese, Korean, filipino, etc etc. I am so glad that finally there is someone who did a post on this. That is why you are worth subscribing to! New subscriber here.. been a few days and i respect the fact that you post with honesty and sincerity. Please don't ever stop posting amazing videos and for being You. God bless you always :)
Thank you for your enlightening videos. I am from the United States and was tired of the things going on in my life. I was watching Netflix and came across K dramas . I have to say it gave me joy to discover them. It lead me to Kpop.music that I enjoy. I grew up in the age of disco and Michael Jackson too. The kpop music gives me the same joy I got from the music of my younger years. My curiosity about Korea grew each day. Your videos broaden my perspective of Korea. As much as I love the dramas and music I want to have a full understanding of what Korea is like. Keep educating me I like the topics you cover and have now subscribed . I look forward to learning more. I do not want to be an ignorant foreigner should I ever get the chance to visit your country in my lifetime. I'm not young anymore so its a bucket list dream. Thank you
this is me too, Chana and Jeanne :-) and same era growing up, just Australia not US. Thanks to channels like Dan's for balancing and educating, I'm learning more every day. My daughter wants me to visit there with her when she finishes school. I gently push videos like these in front of her so she keeps her head out of the clouds about it all sometimes!
I hope you will be able to go visit South Korea and of course accomplish every point of your list. Personally, I’m French, but I’m still in my 20’s, even though I’m older than most Kpop fans.
I' m glad I found this channel. I'm really into kdramas and quite interested in Korean Culture, watching your videos gives me another level of experience I learned a lot thanks Dan. I really wanted to visit Korea one of these days. 🇵🇭
Thanks for your thoughts. I was in s.korea last month and i have some thoughts to share with you. 1. Koreans don’t speak English, at coffee shop or shops young people work there and they don’t know even basic words!! It was really frustrating to even order coffee that isn’t ice americano!! Second, they look very good in the street and are very kind and nice. Some have even helped us with whatever we were looking for, even without knowing English.
Great job explaining your thoughts and taking the time to educate those who just don't know. I watched your entire video and all I could do was smile and I was smiling because of your carefulness to address both sides of the issue, not pointing fingers, and sympathizing/empathizing with both sides! 2 thumbs up Dan I am now a new subbie!
I really like the way you are talking saying facts without biased or generalizing everything and accepting that whenever it happens both sides should work on it thanks for your slow paced tone of voice its insightful and calming even though it pictured a real situation I could prepare to deal with.
I like your video very much because you´re saying:" Oh hear me! Korean people are just like anybody in the world,we are people just like you, not that different only a little,like you are a little different from us"
Great video, very informative! And looking forward to watching the video about racism! Could you also talk about pale skin as a beauty ideal for some koreans? I’ve heard that it doesn’t come from a racist mentality, but I still don’t understand the origin of it. Thank you!☺️
I know in China, it went back to historical times when if you were poorer you worked outside so you were naturally tanner. While people with more wealth you were inside all the time, so you were then more pale and it became a status as such. I think that sentiment stuck in the culture. I’m not sure it’s the same for Korea. X
@@cassaile5323 Yes, you are right. I am not korean, but know about this because of being a history nerd. It has been very fasionable to have tanned skin in a lot of contries where people have etnickly pale skin and still is in some plases, because that means that you are wealthy enough to spend time on hollidays in warm contries and have gotten a natrual tan. But if you go back 100 years or so, was the fasin deffenatly the paler you were the better because that meant that you not worked outside in the fields, but dancy enough to be able to spend your days inside, prefeably doing nothing and especially women went to exteodrenary lenghts to fitt that beauty ideal... crazy things such as washing you skin, especially your face and hands in arenich water, even led based face creams 👀👀 Sorry for the lenght of my comment 🙈😁
@@cassaile5323 I think this is probably one of the accurate historical backgrounds on it. I have to admit it still exists especially amongst teens? A lot of people still think this way: child with tanned skin= plays outside more= possibly lived in the countryside VS a child who has pale skin = a lot of indoor activities=lives in the city. HOWEVER this is changing because tanning is becoming a big thing. It costs a lot to do it and more to get a natural one (like traveling abroad) so among the newer generations it's changing?
Thank you for all the answers! It’s funny how opinions about tanning can change so much around the world! In Spain, if you have pale skin tone after summer it feels like people assume that you didn’t enjoy or didn’t have fun during the holidays 😂 (of course not everyone thinks like that, but it’s the feeling I get, specially amoung young people). Hopefully soon we value each other for who we are as humans and not for the reputation that a tanned/pale skin gives us.
I completely agree with both of you. Let us hope that young people learn to love themselves the way they are. I am affright that will take time, but I am hopeful that we a sociaty are slowly moving in the right direction all around the world. I am from the Faroe Islands myself and living in the middle of the norht atlantic leves us rather pale, our summers seldom reach 20°C when it is hottest. We generally have around 12°-14°C in summer and 4-6 in winther (when we not have a few days snow) alot of rain and fog. So of course it has been very trendy and popular to use tanning beds 😕 Luckily it has been less and less over the last 10 - 12 years, but fake tanning is still pretty normal, especially among the ladies in their late teens and their 20's. I myself only use a tanning bed, if I am going to teavle to a contry that has alot of sun. I am born with very pale skin and have found out the hard way, that I very eadily get sun burns (even on my hands, even with a sun protection factor 30+) But it is alot easier to prevent if I visit a tanning studio for 2 - 3 weeks before my trip. Not to actually get any colour as such, but simply to expose my sink to the UV a little at the time.
Thanks a bunch for sharing, Danny 💝💝💝.. btw, i’ve been visiting many countries, including Korea, and no, the people aren’t racist at all. I am quite smiley, and i will compliment things by smiling. Even if i faced a grumpy ahjumma (with curly hair and all 😄). There are racism experiences in a western country, but i always told ppl (who were with me) that they had a bad day so we should try to understand and… keep smiling… 😊😁
Thank you for this video Dan! A lot of the scary stuff I've come across really freaked me out until I realized that the sad truth is that this happens literally everywhere; even at home! I personally have more hope for SK to learn and overcome racism faster than the West. They get the opportunity to learn from our mistakes and can correct faster because they don't have generations of build-up to deal with. I do think it's important to emphasize your point about Koreans not intentionally being racist. For many (I would think) they are surrounded by their own people. They literally cannot fathom racism. Educate, don't discriminate!
This was well made, thanks. The world is getting smaller and the more we can understand and appreciate our differences as well as our commonalities, the better! Like many americans I became interested in Korea a few years ago because of BTS, but have grown to appreciate the wonderful things that I have seen in the culture, such as politeness, interpersonal warmth, humor, creativity, high standards. But I acknowledge the problematic areas as well (which are by no means limited to Korea) such as women's equality and limited opportunities, boomer excesses and unrealistic expectations for younger people, and the societal pressures that lead to such a high suicide rate. It seems like a fascinating country, rich in history and a unique culture, and like everywhere humans are humans and we all just keep trying to improve. Thanks, I'll be happy to subscribe and see what else I can learn.
I'd love to see your thoughts about the beauty standards, it's all very confusing. There are multiple cases where people were bullied because they were too "fat", then bullied again because they were too thin. This is probably a broad topic but it would still be nice to know your perception of that.
I've lived in geoje city for around 5 months, visited Jeju Island and other nearby cities. People were there way too helpful specially in Jeju Island. I always felt like i am walking in my own country no staring people, nothing. I really had an amazing experience in Korea specially in Jeju Island. It was overwhelming. I am an Indian, there were 2-3 Indian restaurant. I could easily find everything there. Yes, i found it pretty safe. Vegetable sellers uesd to give us extra vegetables on asking of service 😂. I loved being there. Hope to visit it again.
@@Gibon123_ well i have not said anywhere that Indians don't help. And i do agree that u can find all kind of people(good/bad) all around the world but ratio changes.
*Big sigh of relief* Thank you, immensely, for this video! I am from the US, and grew up in a very isolated home-life, in a very isolated community. I have always wanted to travel and learn about the world around me. I also grew up in poverty, and was lucky enough to have the opportunity to move to a completely different cultured/political/diverse area. I still haven't traveled out of the states, because of family changes and demands, but I'm still very curious. I've had a few different negative experiences in talking with people who have traveled to the US from other places, or just interactions on social media. I really appreciated your clarity on educating people who don't know, and the sensitivity that you approached each topic with. Great job! Your statements will make changes❤❤❤! On a different note, I sometimes have difficulty following videos, because I can't always hear what the creator is saying. Sometimes it's because they move around a lot, or maybe their equipment isn't working properly. I could clearly hear you in a separate room, which is really important when I am trying to multitask! Thank you very much for this excellent video!
This has to be the most candid discussion about Korea/ns. I’m a huge fan of K-dramas and I know it can’t be like that in real life. It just can’t, and that’s just how it is. Nothing to expect and to be disappointed about as Korea is just like any other countries. It has its good and bad. It has its share of beauty and crime, and the like. Regardless though, it’s still my dream country! And soon as I get enough, I’ll definitely travel there! 😂 Thank you for this!
thankyou for putting it out this way, i think it’s really resonates with my experiences, I’m Indonesian living in Bali but in my villa my neighbors were mostly Korean so I interacted with them daily and got a chance to learn that every Korean have unique personalities as much as anyone in the world, some like kpop, some like sport, they have different fave foods, but a lot of similarity too, so I think it helped me to burst the bubble of imagination and expectations of what a Korean should be that are shaped by media, kdrama, kpop, we’re just human being and I think it’s nicer to connect with people with no expectations or prejudgment and just learn about other people through our individual interactions and communication. I think we will always going to face challenges and difficulties anyway whether we’re in Korea, US, Indonesia, so its better to just focus on solutions rather on the problems, whether it’s racism, xenophobia, etc, imho all rooted from fear of the unknown, that’s why the solutions will be to know, to learn, to educate ourselves rather than fighting each other or making prejudgment. I believe people get different experiences based on their own personal mindset, anyway, a nice share Dani! looking forward to your next discussion!
Thank you for sharing this, Few people I know have had positive experiences other than notice some mild negatives due to darker skin tones. I’m British Indian (born in England, both parents Indian) I have quite light brown skin & myself cousins on mums side. My niece went🇰🇷& she was very honest about her experience. She also said the respect & etiquette is great towards elders especially which we all love. However she said people compliment her clothing, style, looks, hair etc directly to her but she’d hear them say as they walk away in korean if she has fair skin she would be like a model etc. Her Korean friend she made in her area, the gran said if she had white skin she would be perfect. Another friend made said come for dinner & the aunt said to the mother if she had little more fair skin I’d like daughter inlaw like her if she learned korean. What we told my niece to do & she did do is come to check it out herself for real but, by not revealing she understands & speaks Korean fluently. She used her app & only basic words to the extent Koreans thought they can freely talk about her in front of her smiling & she won’t understand. When she went to make up stalls high end brands they did have her skin tone but not much variety for darker skin & there are quite a lot of black ladies in korea, not branded & lower end brands did not cater for darker skin tones, so if people have a financial budgets then they’d need to save to go get what’s near to perfect or just save to go get what they need for their skin tone from high end. After 7 weeks in 1st area she lived before she left for the next area, she told the people she met she speaks fluent Korean & explained why she lied to them & their families for so long. As she was making a life changing decision so she had to see real sides & they were shocked, apologised, understood & said they learnt from what she she explained. She then did the same when she moved to the next area. Girls can be very cruel not that, that would be a problem because my niece is capable of taking on a grown ass man down verbally & physically if need be. She is confident which helps & we all are brought up in a way not to follow the crowd even if it’s wrong. It’s not cool & don’t be a bully/instigator but if you see something wrong step in & help the person who needs help. She was intervening when she’d see & hear girls talking real nasty about their own friend behind her back when she’d go loo etc with clear intent they’d simply used her. She saw that so much so she typed it up on her app so she just has to go to them & press play so it translates in korean to them. She didn’t blow her cover. Otherwise she said it’s beautiful, people that are not kind many join in instead of saying no don’t say/do that it’s wrong hence it happens so often. She tried 2 areas near a village & city checking vibes out both spectrums. When she came back it clear it wasn’t all doom & gloom so if she moved for a full straight 6 months to test the waters speaking korean & figure out if it was a long term place she’d want to stay & start a career. Asians are very beautiful people naturally but, she noticed before & more 1st hand when she came for 6 months young ladies are quite self conscious, they cover their faces with their hand a lot if bare faced not really wanting to take photos & if they get a spot (which is normal humans) females do freak out quite lot about it. Things like mental health, talking about puberty, periods etc is a taboo subject in households. Like here in 🇬🇧 for example I’m 34 have a son & daughter we openly educated both on periods etc when they were 9/10 & it was the best thing we did as my daughter now 12 & son 14 freely ask questions & don’t ever struggle in silence about anything & my son is very caring when my daughters on her period. At the end of the day puberty etc is all natural so it doesn’t have to be such a shhh shhh subject. She did make a Korean boyfriend quite soon (not the 1st Korean young gent that was a contender). She met his lovely family & they also had those traits even though quite modern. My niece said if this is going to work ALL need to meet half way & she don’t won’t raise her children IF she wanted children not openly being able to potentially say in front of her grandad for example I’m on my period & have to secretly pull a female aside & whisper. So she made quite a lot clear straight away & the family were quite shocked especially the grandparents 😅 even though she’s very respectful she’s not scared to say what she thinks & does stand her ground. They did want a definite answer if she wanted a child as that was important to them. Even though she does, she’s always said I’m sorry I don’t know 🤷🏻♀️maybe I won’t want children so i won’t say yes from the start IF the relationship flourishes. She wanted to set the ground respectfully & make it known she won’t be a yes, yes, yes person & be miserable just to make society & community happy. That’s not her problem, she asked they educate their circle so they can think about it & know it’s not a big deal at all & hope to make positive change. He did propose quite soon & she said no because 5 months to her felt way too soon. She did say to him from the start too if I have male friends that doesn’t mean I’m sleeping with them, males & females are able to be friends. So obsessive behaviour is not healthy & relationships foundations should start on trust. She did nip things she learnt straight away as of the other person/family has a issue she don’t waste her or his time. He proposed after a year she said yes🥰his entire family were so happy BUT 4 days after she found out she’s pregnant & that was a huge fear for his family. They panicked & said they should quickly get married what will people say? But in hope to make change they said No - we will stick with our plans to get married in a year or also been thinking maybe we will have as many children we want & then get married so all our children are there😂so that was a major problem for 4 months & then they accepted it knowing they won’t be changing their minds at all. The community did talk, work colleagues were in shock & eventually became a positive talking point. There really is no right or wrong way. She told her fiancés elder family she understands it’s scary because it’s different BUT look at the neighbours son, he married a korean lady & then had a baby but their divorced with a 2 year old child. So a marriage doesn’t guarantee anything, it’s about comparability & family pay a role in that too, all need to work together. They decided to have 2 children 1st & they have 2 beautiful children & got married 2 weeks ago which was beautiful. Korean ceremony, Indian wedding & English wedding 🥰♥️ both sides of family get along so well. I think change won’t happen over night but🤞slowly things get better not only in korea but globally. x
Thanks for this video. This is a very well articulated video and I like how you explain things. What really bothers me is that I live in the States, and some of my friends bring those thoughtlessly ranting videos about how Koreans are racist (but totally out of context), and ask me, if they are going to be shot in the streets or get threatened physically just by their skin color. One guy asked me out when I in fact had a boyfriend that he didn’t know, I didn’t want to tell him about my private life, so I just said I prefer to stay as friends - and then he shows me one of those ranting videos and tells me that I am racist. I got furious and told him that he is ill-mannered and thoughtless to believe what some random youtuber says out of spite and attention-seeking. I called the 24-hour hotline in school and asked for protection against him. I felt threatened by him being racist to me, actually. ln situations like above, I am always utterly ridiculed and I tell people the truth; that they may not be invited to a close Korean friends gathering, but that is mostly due to the language barrier. Koreans freak out, panic, or feel attacked when a foreigner just forges English conversation during a friends group gathering. I always ask my friend, how did you feel when that person from China used Chinese language to ask you about something, not even trying to use English? (This really hapoened and struck me by surprise, as well) He, an American, replied that he would feel attacked and upset that they are forcing him to understand a different country’s language in the States. I told him, that’s how many Koreans feel. And English is not an easy language to learn for Koreans, they feel stressed out to learn the language l their lives it literally traumatizes some people. I’ve been life-threatened by quite a few people in the States when I was younger and I had to learn how to deal with these issues. But I have had international friends in Korea, and when they knew that there are no sort of life-threatening racism in Korea whatsoever, they felt very relieved. There clearly is a different standard when someone rants about racism, in other countries and in Korea, but those thoughtless UA-camrs do not choose their words wisely nor thoughtfully enough. That eventually comes back to people who stays abroad like me, being attacked. I am really scared of people that may just come up to me and practice asian hate crimes. I’ve seen people yell at Asians, “I’ve heard you people are racist to me, so I will be guilt-free being racist to you. Don’t blame me for my hostility.” I once saw this UA-camr ranting that every time she goes outside in Korea, she gets groped. And I listened to everything she had to say, and realized her “go outside” meant go clubbing at late-night hours in fancy clothes and make-up. Well, that’s where all the obnoxious crooks and perverts may be found, if at all. That is exactly why not all Koreans will go clubbing. From that UA-camr’s video, I read this comment asking “does ‘going outside’ mean whenever you step out in the street or when you go partying in clubs? If it means going outside. I am scared to go to Korea now.” Like, seriously? I really hope people realize what they are complaining about Korea, because they already forgot how being life-threatened feels like after staying in Korea for a little too long.
Thank you for enlightening me on the misconception about Korean and Koreans. I know and understand there's racism in the world and it shouldn't be. I thank God, that we weren't raised to be racist and I'm black. All my life growing up I've always prayed and ask God to wipe out racism and allow all human beings to be just that human beings. I'm a people person and I love all people no matter your background or nationality. God created all of us to live together side-by-side in love, peace and harmony 🙏🏾❤. Please, let the world be of and about peace towards your fellow man. I am all about love.....loving on one another and building each other up.
Excellent video Dan. Your views of your country are amazing, and I can relate them to you having lived abroad, and studied and conquered English for 12 years. I agree that more Koreans in Korea do speak English, but fear speaking to foreigners because their English may not be as accurate as yours. However, I feel broken English is accepted by foreigners that speak English. I also believe this is where prejudice and racism may step into the equation because of the uncomfortable zone of feeling their English is not good enough to communicate with foreigners that speak and write English with perfection. Sadly, they feel this way. I am a fan of KDrama movies, because they are very educational culture wise, and they share with the world some of the social issues of Korea, and how it’s important for their young children to attend the English academies in Korea to become more globally knowledgeable for success in life. With time and hopefully with more foreigners visiting Korea, the communication between the Koreans and foreigners will get better and eliminate such uncomfortable. Continue to share your videos of your country with hopes that they are educating the world, but mainly education for Koreans in Korea, and also those living abroad. There are a lot of Koreans that live abroad especially throughout the United States. I chatted with a Korean gentleman that owns a business in my community and he said he hasn’t been back to Korea in 30 years. I found that very sad. However, thank you Dan for great video context. Stay positive and advisable. All the best, until your next video.
Hello, I am from USA born an american as a mixed race of Latina. And I have endured racism here and there was never a language barrier because I can speak fluently English and Spanish. I think that language barrier has alot to do with it when in a different country because of the not knowing what a person is saying. But for the most part racism exists everywhere and unfortunately amongst the same race because of the poverty class you live in. If you would like to know of so.e stories I would be more than happy to share. Your friend, Rachel R.
Thank you for the last part of your video. I was taught that Asians (Koreans), were racist. While here in America, as African American, we are looked at as villains which isn’t true. While I know you don’t represent your whole race, as I don’t either, it just makes it hard when society places us in positions where people watch things in tv and believe what they see as true. I remember during COVID, things were happening in both communities where we came together, but that was only briefly. I do hope that your next video would address this.
I'm really glad you touched on the racism aspect. Thank you for that! You are right. As a WoC, I often have to check on if it's safe for me to travel to places and how they perceive foreigners. Especially those with darker skin. Korea had received a huge "NO" on my list actually because of my own Korean friends who had dissuaded me from visiting. I also investigated to find how foreigners are treated abroad and other women's experiences, and there were quite a few negative ones for women of colour. I have since changed my mind because I'd rather see it anyway. I haven't been one to not experience racism -- the biggest thing that would be extremely offputting would be if my hair were to be touched. I'm just going to accept that as an inevitability and wrap it up. Away from anyone's reach. I can imagine as a native, hearing people label everyone as racist probably feels awful though.
I went to Korea at the age 35 and I found there is age discrimination. Basically I love dancing and I enjoy clubbing because it has good dance atmosphere. So I went to a club in the heart of Seoul and was rejected entry because I was too old. I could see only young ladies gaining entry and …OLDER men…That gave me a slightly lasting negative impression.
I had the same impression when trying to learn Korean and Japanese on an app for my upcoming travels. In the learning rooms the native Koreans blatanly discriminated against everyone over 40. I felt discrimination for being Latin America woman also. I registered for a Premium account to get access to the paid content and thus learn faster. Unfortunately it did not work and I was disappointed with the treatment.
I really love the way he is talking, and expressing himself in a calm way. I understood everything very well and I also knew some things, I think it was really helpful. Thank you so much for this video, I appreciate it. (I also like the way how his background changed from day to night and the background music is very soothing)
loved that " don't spill coffee on purpose to find your love" part😂
Thanks Dan for your video. Unfortunately, there are stereotypes for all countries which are very often difficult to get rid of. In France, the berets, the baguette, the French kisses, the complainers, the fact that we don't work a lot... That's why it's important to know other cultures, to meet people during our travels... Thank you again Dan for this review ❤️🤗
A friend was an exchange high school student from Jamaica and everyone wanted to know if she had brought weed with her to sell. Seriously?!
I'm happy to eat baguette I think It's a good stereotype, and yes french people complain a lot, they probably have their reasons to do so, and for the other ones I don't really know that much so I'll not talk about those ones. I'm planning to go to Korea next year, and I'm so excited to go there for several reason, It will be my first time taking plane, my first time outside of Europe, my first time outside of France, and also I'll meet one of my Korean Friend, but I'm scared to be disappointed (I'm sure I'll not).
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@@morgannavel4552 am applying for a scholarship in korea too. Hopefully I get accepted by next year
@@milcahsvlog oh so cool, for me It will be just for travelling, I'm not planning to study abroad, but in my studies I have to go study abroad for a semester, I'll try to see if my university has partnership with korean university, and if yes I need to see if they teach in english otherwhise It will be difficult for me to learn since I only have 1 year of korean.
@@morgannavel4552 ohhh that's nice I would love to get acquainted with you though, I need more friends who are like minded and also there are universities that offer courses in English you could check online
I actually just had a vacation in Korea (Apr 2023). I stayed in Seoul, and as a black man with locs, I had a really positive experience. I drank with random people and had conversations / interactions with people that were fantastic. From people asking about the states to people asking about my hair and wanting to touch it, it was a great experience.
I will say this. I did notice that the Koreans I encountered seemed shy to start conversations, so try initiating if you're a foreigner. Also, I bought drinks for a table just to break the ice, and they couldn't understand at first, but it ended with good conversations. Point being... don't be afraid to make the first move and invite them to talk or drink/eat with you! (:
You found out the shortest way to their heart. It's a custom, that elders buy drinks or food to youngers. It's the ultimate way to show love all around the world.
Good video.
Hello, If you come across this comment, please reach out. I'd like to know more. (Going there soon)
If you're from US or west country you wont experience racism, but if you re from south asia or south east asia then yeah you'll probably will exp racism
@@de7898 Hi not sure who you are directing your comment to but one of the highlights of our trip was to visit the historical palaces,, we went to Itaewon, visited a bamboo forest and just use a tour bus to do some sightseeing. If you plan to visit the palaces, best to you a certified tour guide.
I am Black and I went to Korea in March 2023 with a colleague of mine and I never felt uncomfortable no matter where we went and we was in JEJU / BUSAN /SEOUL and was shocked that so many spoke English and was willing to help us find our way around and now I'm preparing to visit in September again
It is my dream to visit several cities in Korea before I transition to the after life. I especially want to visit Busan and Jeju Island to see for myself the beautiful landscapes. I am a Black 69 years young female and I very been super blessed not to be affected by racism as most people seem to accept me for me. The USA is really corrupt morally, socially, and mentally to the point that it is the least likely place I want to spend living my remaining life in.
Those are big/touristic areas so yes it's easy to go by even if one doesn't speak Korean. That's also why people there are used to foreigners/tourists and willing to help. I can speak intermediate Korean and even in more countryside areas I always found people that were helpful. But if you travel alone it's better to stick to more touristic places imo (even more if it's a first) My korean saved me quite a few times 😂😂😂
“Were” .. not “was”.. Glad you had a great time.
I like how you are innocently acknowledging everyone is pretty in their own way
When I went to Korea (by myself..as a woman) on vacation, I had basically nothing but positive experiences. Everyone was nice to me. Maybe they were nicer because I took the time to learn a few dozen words to help me get by so I wasn't one of those stereotypical foreigners who expected everyone to speak English to me, or maybe it was because I chose to respect the culture and enjoy it as it is. I had a wonderful time and cannot wait to go back. I honestly wish I could live there. As soon as I got off the plane, I just felt like a part of me was "home". Sounds super corny, I know.
Not corny at all. Glad you were welcomed and had a great time in Korea ❤
I’m planning a vacation there
Live in Korea is other thing really different compared to vacation.
@@franciscovilcheavila960 Oh..do you live there?
@@introvertbtsgirl220 No, i ask a girl who have korean parents but she was born and raised in Argentina and she told me that she dont like much the pressure so she go back here.
I've lived in Korea for 5 years and I have to admit that I still have some stereotypes like all Koreans can handle spicy food, Koreans are obsessed with their looks, Korean men are only interested in foreigners to "see what it's like". But at the same time people make assumptions about me because I'm a foreigner. Assuming I'm probably loud, I only like hamburgers and pizza, I can't handle spicy food, can't understand Korean, I'm obsessed with k-pop, etc.
One thing I have to say about people who live in small towns. They are so kind and they get SO EXCITED when foreigners visit, even if their English isn't good and your Korean isn't good. Most tourists come just to visit Seoul, just like most Koreans go to the US to visit New York City or LA, so it's such a shock when they see a foreigner. One time I stayed in a hanok in 산청 near 지리산 in the middle of winter all by myself, and the lady was so surprised and excited. She showed me a bunch of books about the village and told me stories, asked me why I decided to come there. There are so many things to see in Korea besides Gyeongbok Palace and Hongdae, and I wish more tourists knew that.
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Could you give examples of cities / villages outside Seoul or Busan that you particularly enjoyed ? Thanks !
This!!! I actually plan to stay away from Seoul when I visit😂
Interesting culture. Curiosity: is racism something they are actively taught from family and school or something inherent to their culture? As in: Korean culture and race is superior, we can tolerate foreigners but never mix etc. or it's inevitably just part of their background? Do they despise foreigners or rather just find them disgusting? I am honestly very curious.
@adampr5242 i think they are proud people first of all. Against the tides, they've lifted themselves up from a wartorn nation only decades ago to a first world economy. Especially the older generation will likely disapprove mixed partners, but the younger generations are much more open minded about the rest of the world. The huge media consumption likely has had a big influence on that change. And the English lessons in school help.
Thanks for this video! I am American and lived abroad for years and was always frustrated when people thought that life in America was what they saw in the movies or pop music. So I can definitely understand that life in Korea isn’t like k-dramas and k-pop.
Thanks for this !
Now you all know how African people feels when people ask stupid question like do you ride on lion.
@@citamora this is everywhere iam from Slovakia and one guy from Sri lanka asked me if we have internet and smartphones 🙃
As a European I was actually surprised when I came to the US it looked just like what I saw on TV since my childhood. As if it was a joke to live in a movie suddenly. Especially the NY taxis. But when you meet people like on the street then it’s just making real connections with real people.
@@nikkiross128b that’s cool that you got to visit. I do think there is a difference between what a city looks like in the movies (reality and movies often similar) and the every day life they portray in the movies (often very different than real life)
I agree with you! When my cousin came to visit me in California, he expected to see California like in movies. For him, California is like one big Hollywood 😅😊He discovered many different and new things in California . It was fun watching him how his stereotypes collapsed.
Every country has its symbolic famous cities or some places and of course it’s stereotypes.
I am new to watching K-Drama’s and I have to say I enjoy seeing Koreans enjoying various foods, the fashions and how considerate they are of each other. Manners to seniors are so important and it’s nice to see that. I know this isn’t the majority of people. But just to have a small glimpse into the culture is nice.
Like Hollywood gives real picture of Amurican culture, showing for example all those hobo camps etc...? Maybe not quite right place to learn culture...
@johannalehtonen9590 Thanks 🤗🫂what I understood is all the time, kdrama nice I want to go to Korea meet nice people because in my country we don't have food or culture or mostly nice people who will treat us nice 😅or I'm wrong 😅
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For me, I actually really like K-pop and K-Drama. And yes, this is exactly why I want to visit South Korea. But not for what everyone thinks. Not the fairytale dates or typical K-Drama stuff. But because of the places. Being there, visiting those places where some K-Dramas were filmed. It feels like when "The Witcher" series was released on Netflix. I played the game and immediately got a nostalgic feeling when I saw some places, details, scenes or monsters that I myself encountered during the game. (It results in the feeling of "Yes, I was there too".) Or when I was in Germany where the famous German series Cobra11 was filmed. I visited those places where the series was filmed. It gives a very different feeling to be there.
Yes, the palaces did it for me too! I dressed up in the traditional clothing and got in for free in one of them. Yes that nostalgic feeling overwhelms you that you don't even understand why and how you are feeling like that. It was great! I am a big K-drama fan. Love the historical one best.
Omg yes 😍 cobra 11 so is good🥰
The thing I love about K-drama is not the lifestyle/romance but the sense of humour - I think the Korean sense of humour and fun is quite similar to the British sense of humour (or mine at least!).
100%. That's what drew me in. They have a very similar sense of humour to Scots. I watch kdrama and laugh as hard as I cry.
exactly i love the sence of humor 😄
Absolutely! The best drama are the community/family dramas with all age groups. They have such a great sense of humour. Can't get enough of them💗
I said to one of my British Asian friends who shares with me Asian comedians once that I think Korean and British humour are extremely alike and that we would probably generally get on really well because of it and he agreed
Interesting point. I’m an Asian who lives in britain and I do see that!
Dear Dan, you did a good job in waking up the dreamers about the unrealistic view of Korea. It is a great country but not because of Kdrama and Kpop, but because it is a country that struggled to become the power house that it is today. No place on this earth is a perfect place. We are all humans, and we all have the good, the bad, and the ugly regardless of the country. I just hope with the new year we stop judging one another based on where we come from and just treat each other with respect and acceptance regardless of color or race. I wish all a Happy New Year, and let us make it a better year for all of us on this earth.
So true and well said, all countries have the good the bad and the ugly!
Your opinion feels balanced and dignified due to life experiences.
U r right
Just thanks. Very insightful 😊
All points you talked are meant to be true. I went to Korea in 2019 and I lived with Korean family and I was able to meet Korean thank to my Korean host mom, so, I've learnt quite a lot about Korea and socials codes / how to behave yourself in the Korean society and it's so far from kdramas to be honest. The culture is different but they are people like us, around the world.
You are live in Korea right? Can you give me an ans of my question please? I wanna go south Korea for study and if it'll possible maybe I'll stay there. So I'm a foraginger for them and I'm a black person. Should I go Korea or chose any other country? Because as I know they don't like black people. I don't match their beauty standard. Please ans my question.
@@arifaakter9882 I don't live in Korea at the moment. Don't worry about it... People will look at you but it's because they are curious but they aren't bad. Maybe you will have people who will be racist but it's OK. Just ignore them. If you like Korea pls go and I recommend u this country.. Many places to visit and things to do
@@Gaby-iz7gn thank you soo much. I love the country but some people represent Korean people like no one can even survive there and so on. No one gonna talk to you, everyone will hate you and bully you etc etc. So I was afraid that if the teachers also neglects me so I can't even learn properly. So I was scared but thanks to you. You give me a hope again. Thanks a lot...❤️❤️❤️
@@arifaakter9882 don't worry about it. You can just travel there for 1 months like most people. What do you think about this? If not I recommend you to study in Canada.
I loved Korea. Was hosted by a business owner. I was treated like royalty. Food was amazing even at locals hangouts. Black pot and brazen meats were awesome. I was so impressed that everything named had a deep symbolic meaning even to the redbean ice cream. I even attended a formal Korean wedding. I unfortunately overdressed for the humidity which was a little overwhelming also in transit areas underground. I’ve had a chance to be friends with Young Nam Cho who has done credit to your Korean Culture. I shopped the local off street markets and had my assistant do all the negotiating on sales prices. It was great fun. The country is beautiful and I highly recommend it for anyone wanting to go. Love love love! ❤
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I really appreciate your mixture of calmness, intellect, respect, honesty and warmness in your demeanor. Makes the learning process more enjoyable. Thank you again for the education!
About racism and xenophobia: You're so right. I have heard so much misinformation about Koreans but I don't believe things like that easily. A couple of months ago, I was talking to a Korean person living here, whom I know and we were having a normal conversation about entrepreneurship. Since I am into beauty blogging, we gradually touched on the topic of K-Beauty. I was surprised that he didn't know that the word "whitening" is problematic for many countries with a diverse population. I told him about it and even though he lived outside Korea for quite some time, he too didn't realize this. And what I learned from this is: Koreans aren't necessarily "racist" when they talk about fair skin. As you said, they don't have enough information or knowledge on this. They appreciate even skin tone. I realized how some Korean celebrities are often targeted because of the same reason. It's all about having a little bit of patience and teaching one another. We are all humans and I am sure, it's more about how you connect with someone than anything else. Thank you for this video. All the points are true and basic common sense. We can't generalize a whole country and culture just based on watching stuff on the internet. Gotta experience it with an open mind and open heart.
So very true. People are individuals not groups.
@@jean12fication unless you're a Marxist
Then why is tan skin discriminated against?
Historically, It has to do with royalty and not only Korean Asians are like this. Back in the days of Kings and Queens, people were able to tell what social class a person was based on their skin tone. If you had dark/tanned skin it was an indicator you were a peasant or slave working outdoors and people with money tend to have fair skin cause they be indoors all damn day. So naturally over time, people who had dark skin wanted to hide their dark skin so people didn’t know they were poor. That’s why there are all these skin lighters or “whiteners” in the skin care market. And btw when Koreans use the word “whitening” they are not talking about white-washing themselves to look like white people, PEOPLE. They are simply talking about making themselves look more fair skinned and unblemished. Koreans have all these crazy sun avoiding products like arm sleeves and wacky hats.
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As a UA-camr myself, I admire this. The way you talk is so calming. I could listen straight through without even feeling to skip a few seconds in.
And in regards to the topic; Whatever expectation you create about ANYTHING is YOUR OWN responsibility :)
If you set unrealistic expectations on a country based on what you see online, you are setting yourself up for your own disappointment :) which will cause you to then sadly miss the many other UNIQUE and beautiful things about KOREA.
Even though i'm not Korean, I know people always over exaggerate and stereotype when it comes to KOREA. My brother lives in Korea and tells / shows me all about it. So as a foreigner who will go there in 2023, I can assure you I will go with ZERO expectations other than the realistic facts I already know about. Korea is definitely a STAND OUT country. There is no doubting it. So I am excited to go with an open mind This way I will see many things about it that other people don't
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So good!👏🏻 I’ve also have loved kpop and k-dramas since I was little, but I think it’s important to study the rest of the culture as well. I went to Korea a couple of years ago, and I would say Korean’s really appreciate you learning even just basic Korean (just like how you’d appreciate anyone coming to your country at least trying to learn your language). My friend’s always says they are bad at English but speak so well, everyone just needs a bit of encouragement (lol I feel the same when I speak Korean😅). When I went to Korea as well, I don’t think I’ve ever experienced anything bad. I mean when I’d go into the train and sometimes people would look (but more so when I was in like busan or daegu) or when I spoke but honestly it was fine. I know I look different from everyone and I’m speaking a different language, it’s just important for everyone to have open minds and not take everything to heart, people are just curious most of the time. And last thing😂😅 I have experience Korean guys asking me, “so have you ever been with a Korean guy👀” but not everyone is like that! I have Korean guy friends who are so sweet and respectful and I used to date a Korean guy as well, you are friends and date someone because of their personality and characteristics not their ethnicity 🤍
Sorry it’s so long😅
not long at all! thanks for sharing :) Your positive mindset and openness to embracing foreign cultures probably helped you have a nice experience also! I think it's natural to know just one side of a country but once you get more into it, it would help to learn and see the many other sides the country has to offer!
@@ThizisDanny Definitely! I love interacting with all kinds of people from different walks of life, and learning everyone’s culture is such a beautiful thing! I’m glad you made this video, I hope everyone will be able to take something good from it!
@@cassandra7437 I’m a lot like you too! I love learning new languages (currently trying to learn seven rn lol) and I have a very long list of countries I hope to visit in the future. I come from a very mixed ethnic background (a mix of Indian, Egyptian, Turkish, French, Spanish, and more) so I enjoy learning about different cultures and countries.
What are five countries you wish to visit the most? 🙃
For me it’s:
- Iran
- Japan
- Saudi Arabia
- Thailand
- South Korea
Asian countries are mostly near the top of the list for me because of my love for the food, culture, and entertainment industries in those countries. But I also wish to visit South American and European countries as well.
@@grey_city I love it!!💛 I think that’s so cool and amazing you have so many backgrounds to learn about! I want to visit Korea again, Japan, New Zealand, Columbia and Australia! But honestly so much more! I want to see Europe and Greece as well. My job let’s me meet a lot of people with different backgrounds, so it makes me want to learn more about where everyone is from and what kind culture and traditions they have😊
@@cassandra7437 wow! That’s cool! If you are okay with sharing, what is your job? I might also want to consider getting it if it means interacting with and meeting new people.
Just back from Korea about a month ago. Enjoyed my travel there. Being a solo 65 yr Indian female traveller I had no problem . Will definitely return. Loved the food n your culture .
I just stumbled upon this video and I'm so happy I did!!! I've lived in Korea for almost 4 years now and it makes me so angry when foreigners generalize all Koreans or all of Korea. My own family was guilty but we've worked through it haha. I think everyone on both sides needs to understand that everyone is just people. There's going to be some for and some against literally EVERYTHING you can think of so why stereotype?? I can't believe some of the things people say about "all Koreans." Thank you for making this video and being so articulate about all of these topics 🖤🖤
Thank you for posting this Dan! Honestly, I tell a lot of my friends who also love Kpop or Kdramas that Korea isn't perfect like Kdramas and that not everyone in Korea loves Kpop. Everyone has different taste and personalities regardless of where you are from! (thank you again!)
They must not watch the Kdrama I watch. Corruption, serial killers, lol. For the Kpop part, it's like saying everybody in the USA loves the backstreet boys or every Canadian loves Justin Bieber. I agree those kinds of thinking is shallow and annoying.
@@Corvuspacificus exactly!! That's how I feel! Koreans are just people. And just because we are from a certain area does not suddenly identify our personalities and stuff. We are all different personality wise regardless of who are where we are from!
@@Corvuspacificus exactly 😂
@@Corvuspacificus hahaha. Just finished watching Poong, the Joseon Psychiatrist. And still wondering who Big Mouse is in Big Mouth drama 🤣🤣🤣
It’s good to know different cultures.
In love with the way you tell the information. Unfortunately racism is everywhere. No matter what country you are in. Society needs empathy, an open mind and more knowledge about different cultures. But above all respect for other people.
Thanks for this video!❤
My daughter has been living in Korea for almost 2 yrs. She has had some people sit farther from her on the subway. She has had people shove her aside but mostly she has been safe and people have been kind to her. We recently got back from our first visit. She lives in Bucheon and it’s not common to see foreigners so we were quite the spectacle. 😂 We are so used to seeing all races and nationalities, we didn’t feel out of place but I guess we were? Idk. People were generally nice to us especially older Koreans. They used the English they knew and were proud they knew we we were Americans. We had some of the oldest Koreans offer us seats on crowded subways. We mostly declined but I found it very sweet. We already knew everything you have said in this video. We did find it very safe. I was not uncomfortable out at night alone(my daughters apt was about 4 min walk from where we stayed). Small restaurant owners were super nice. Other than the extreme humidity(we were dripping within 30 seconds of leaving the apartment) it was a really nice experience. I would recommend people learn greetings in Korea, the word for bathroom 😂, and just some general knowledge of the culture. Please let your viewers know that people are the same everywhere. The only difference is the language. But yes, the #1 thing is most don’t look or dress like idols and most Korean people won’t willingly interact with you. The biggest shock for my daughter’s bf when he visited us was that we hold conversations with complete strangers here and also that restaurant employees try to accommodate your every whim. Two things that don’t happen in Korea.
I will be moving to Bucheon in October and I didn't know what to expect (it will be my first time in Korea), but now at least I know that I will probably be stared at as a foreigner there haha
@@ilona855 Ive lived in Bucheon for a while now. Ive met several foreigners here. You dont have to worry about being stared at if you are by yourself. Groups of foreigners get stared at anywhere in Korea. Even in Seoul. Btw Bucheon is awesome. You're gonna love it!
I used to live in Bucheon! Such a nice city. Like Seoul but without the crowds. I did have one guy at the subway station wish death upon me and my family though 😅
@@ellasaurusrex9499 I’m so sorry I didn’t see your response until now! I’ve been living in Bucheon for a few weeks now and it’s been absolutely amazing so far! It’s a really nice place like you’ve said:)
@@Morrisseys7thFriend Yeah exactly!! It’s nice that it is a bit less busy here compared to Seoul! And omg the deathwish, that’s extreme👀
First of all, your dog that came across the screen in the beginning is so so cute!! Also, you did a really nice job of explaining everything, and thank you for covering all of these topics. It's nice to hear a point of view from someone that's from and has lived in Korea.
That was such fun. And real!
Thanks for this topic.
K-pop dramas actually made me want visit Korea one day.
But I believe Korea has made an impact worldwide because they are everywhere, not only the people but mostly quality and reliable products that are Korean made.
I went to South Korea in October/November 2022 with 12 other persons; 10 family members and 2 close friends. We had nothing but positive experiences. One of my daughters who spent 3 weeks in Korea in 2017 told us not to expect any just go with an open mind and she was 100% correct. We visited 3 Asian countries: Singapore, Pattaya City, Thailand and Seoul, South Korea in 2022. Our group of 13 is diverse and we loved all three countries however because I do watch the K-dramas I was looking forward more to Korea and I really loved it. I got lost on the line 5 subway in Seoul and I received so much help and from the older people, the young people all the way until I got back to my hotel. My sister and one of the friends took the subway daily and they said people were very nice and helpful. We did not experience anyone being rude to us so we had a really great experience in all 3 Asian countries and would not think twice to visit all of them again. I also do want to say that I did see some very good looking Guys in the area we stayed at - We were in Gangnam so maybe that is why.
@@vertigo2894 Are you an idiot or a troll?
@@vertigo2894 Good question 👍
I love your videos. I also love Korean culture. Not because i think it’s all rainbows and butterflies but because it’s genuinely a cool culture. I also love the dramas. I have started watching the Josseon era dramas and I love them!! I am also trying to learn the language. My goal is to watch the dramas without subtitles.
Same here. I love historical period
That is a very cool goal. Have you read the book Pachinko?
1:57 - 1. Not everyone wants to be a K - Pop idol (or into K - Pop)
3:47 - 2. Life is not like a K - drama
6:33 - 3. It`s not 100% SAFE
8:15 - 4. Not everyone lives in SEOUL
8:50 - 5. Not everyone likes spicy food
9:10 - 6. Not everyone is into fashion or makeup
10:16 - 7. Some people DO speak English
11:35 - 8. Not everyone wants to "JUST" hook up with foreigners
12:54 - 9. Not everyone is OBSESSED with looks
14:11 - 10. Not everyone is RACIST
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I thought I`d make myself useful and make this list for your video, Danny, so people can find the points faster if they want to.😉👍😊 Thank you for your effort in putting another high-quality video together! I know and appreciate how much time (many, many hours) is needed to make a video like that. 🙌🙌
My time saved
thanks for doing this. really helps
Txs for the summary
I had a wonderful time when I went to Korea. I wasn't fluent in the language but I knew enough to get by. The people were lovely. I was very respectful to them and I received the same in return. It's a beautiful country and the history is amazing. I was a 40 year old female at the time and I never felt fearful, but I wasn't foolish either. I'm 67 now. Would I go back, definitely. Stay healthy, happy and safe always
Dany, I liked this video and thanks for sharing information on racism and just generalizing about people. I really wanted to visit Korea but like others, I was saddened to hear so much about racism. I'm American and I understand what it means to experience racism and even so, I don't like lumping everyone into one group. Korean like Americans are not all the same and that came through your message.
I am a 76 year old white Stateside woman. Covid in 2020 brought me to UA-cam and I discovered there is so much more here than old MTV videos. First I started following people who actually own cats...not the silly compilations, and that led me to K-pop. And like the rest of the things I watch here, the title of this vlog brought to watch it.
1. I truly believe more USA teens love K-pop than Koreans. By really studying Stray Kids and TXT, I have learned that a lot of them never even thought of being an Idol but got into it one way or another. But once in, they are to be admired for their work ethic and passion. BTW, none of the people I follow in the cat world are into K-pop!
2. And life in the USA is not like a soap opera! Also, you are not going to get a miracle cure in our hospitals, like on TV...etc
3. I have not seen these arguments online, but it is not 100% safe in any country. Always 'buddy up' esp at night.
4. Speaking of SKZ and TXT, they talk about their home towns and how nice it is to get away from Seoul! Most cat people do not live in Seoul. Same goes for Japan/Tokyo. Or USA and NYC or California. I live in Michigan. And much like Northern Statesiders tease Southerners for their accent, so the same teasing goes in Korea.
5. I would love to visit Korea for the mountains and the countryside and museums and art galleries. But I have always wondered what I would eat! I cannot stomach spicy foods. Nor could I eat as much per day, as I see Korean families eat.
6. Some cat people are concerned with their appearance, but most aren't. As a matter-of-fact, there is a petition going around online...STOP WHITE-WASHING HWANG HYUNJIN! USA esp loves the natural color of his skin.
7. I find many Koreans who do not speak English. Esp not read it. Most everyone I follow pays a translator for the Eng subs. I have always felt that Statesiders are very snobbish like that. We expect the whole world to speak Eng. When I was visiting England in 1967, I did everything I could, so as not to be an 'ugly American.' Sign gestures and patience and smiles will get you through any country!
8. If you have any foreign accent or look, there are Statesiders who sure want to hook up! I think that is the same everywhere.
9. A vet mentioned that one penguin left her mate for another penguin. She said, "I thought Tux was better looking than Oreo, myself, but then I'm not a penguin." We all fall in love for different reasons (hopefully the right ones) and 'Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.' On the other hand, I cannot believe the amount of selfies K-pop stars take of themselves! Oh, my! Beomgyu spend 10 minutes fiddling with a few hairs on his bangs until I wanted to scream and I think someone finally mentioned it in the vlog.
10. Racism is so blatant in the USA. People who are 3rd or 4th generation Statesiders but look Asian are being beaten up and killed because of Covid! Racism is everywhere. Korea does not have a market on that area.
You seem like a nice person and I hope you are. I judge people by their actions, not their looks. Am I rare or just old?
I'm with you , I'm 58 years old, and I know what you mean. Racism is bad here in the states 😒 I live here in Colorado for 30 years and I am originally from Germany and I never experienced so much racism than here I'm white but because I am German the call me a nazi and so on and people are so inconsiderate here. I'm going to korea in October with a friend, two old ladies want to see the country so much history there love to see it all. Fly in to Incheon airport be there for 20 days and want to see so much we can. I'm excited about it I know there are good and bad people everywhere so I try to keep a watch out to stay safe.
Thanks for the video loved it and I'm old enough to know not everyone looks like an idol 😉.
I think you're young at heart, I love kpop as well
@@comflex.. Yes, music will get us through anything!
Thank you for the last point! Regarding racism, Americans simply know how to say the right things about race but don’t do what’s right. Racist attacks are rife in America. In Korea because people are not well versed on the subject they don’t necessarily say the right things, but racial attacks by Koreans are few and far between. You’re far safer in Korea.
@@isoldealsteen7896 Have a wonderful time!
Thank you so much for the videos. As an African American woman, I had heard some pretty terrible things about how they were treated sometimes. This made me feel alot better.i do love kpop and kdramas and I would like to visit Korea one day. I am trying to learn Korean so when I go, I can show respect for the country and its culture . I just would love the experience to see it for myself without being as delusional as some tourists 😅
Let me ask you something, do African Americans treat Korean Americans well? Some of the most blatant racism I have received have come from African Americans. It's funny how when people hear about something happening in another country they act appalled, but when it happens in their backyards, they don't see any problem at all.
@@maybritt6457 I can't speak for everyone, but neither myself , my family nor anyone that I would call a dear friend would treat any other race that way .I have all races as family members. Cousins from Belize to the Philippines. I wasn't raised that way and that's the way I raised my children. I'm sorry if you have been mistreated, so have I. People can be mean and ignorant. Luckily not everyone is that way.🥰💜💜
@@maybritt6457 As an African American I really do believe it just depends on the people you meet. Some people are racist some aren’t. But don’t let one experience of a racist black person ruin your perception of all black people.
@@taetaeisbaeforever4447 it’s not one, but multiple experiences. Many blacks discriminate against Asians blatantly especially in metropolitan areas in the US. I find it hypocritical that so many do this and if they aren’t partaking in it are at least aware of what is happening, but then travel to Korea for a few days to months to make videos about how Koreans stared at them the wrong way. Look at the Asian attacks that happened all over post covid and who was many times responsible for them. It’s very hypocritical one fails to acknowledge the problems in their own community yet will make videos about people abroad complaining about how they stared the wrong way.
@@maybritt6457 I don't condone Asian hate or any other race. Latinos and blacks have it hard too. So do the gay community. Don't let the few stand for the many.there are also many videos of love, acceptance and understanding for each nationalities. I am a big kpop and kdrama fan. I not only love the entertainment, but because of it, it has opened my interests to learn more on its culture. That was one of its goals and it is working for the most part. Also some things are changing with time, just wait and see.you and I are proof.
I’m probably writing too much here BUT…i’ve been waiting for a video like yours on YouTUbe!! It’s so refreshing to hear something that’s not extreme, like too positive or too negative about Korea. Thank you for this well-said video and i appreciate your efforts in explaining these realities for foreigners or just other ppl in general.
Thank you Dan for your honest portrayal of your country and its people. It is true, no matter where you live, you encounter all types of behavior. The good, the bad is all entwined. I have gotten hooked on Kdramas and I love the culture that, at least is shown in dramas, the respect, courtesy, given toward family members and others. The good side of the citizens. I hope that that is portrayed accurately. This way of life could bring about peace among the people of the world. Ofcourse, I am also aware that no country is without the reality of wrong doing. But I pray that the majority of people love their fellow man. I look forward to your videos.
Beauty is on the inside, bad things happen everywhere, stereotypes can be funny….I walked the streets of Incheon, Busan, and other places felt extremely safe, I danced with old men on the beach to live music, fed by lovely generous women, communication was fine without knowing a word I was so impressed with the kindness, respect, beauty, cleanliness and overall culture….I loved visiting and will again if possible.
#7: Not only Koreans are shy when it comes to the English language. For example, to be honest, I didn't want to visit Zaneuk and dear Dan just because of the distance from Seoul to Incheon. I was also ashamed of my English compared to his. If you know the other person speaks good English, you are often inhibited from speaking freely yourself. But I survived in Korea. Wasn't difficult at all. A little bit of English, a little bit of Korean and a little bit of hands and feet.😃
Exactly darling Simone, and eyes. It is funny how suddenly people open their eyes to try to speak with them. It is good fun. I am saying this because Of the nature of my work I meet a lot of people who cannot speak English language, daily. So I have learned to speak with my hands and my eyes and legs of course, so everything gets very illustrative, literally. And on the end all finishes with a sweet smile and pleasant goodbye. All parties happy. About the English language though, or in fact any language. If you are learning it and you are trying to speak never feel ashamed and stop yourself speaking. You will never speak the language in the way the natives are speaking it, unless you have started to speak the language of that country from your childhood. So, I am for 30 years now in England and I still make mistakes mainly because I am in a hurry, it comes from my adorable nature and my mother's language. But I use the language excessively, every time I can. I make sure that I understand what people are saying to me and they understand me. In cases of confusion we repeat the sayings. Also, to confirm that sometimes the things I hear in a perfect English language are so bad that they actually shame the language. So you see, feeling shy of not speaking better is of no use. Enjoy your beautiful language and the beautiful English language, communicate and be happy. The communication will improve with time. Be blessed.💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
@@kitchkashepherd4587 Thank you.😊
A little bit of hands and feet 🤣🤣
Hi Dan
I'm from India
Actually I think the points you mentioned are not only about Korea
But also other places (Country )
One should not judge a place or people just by the looks ,they should go through them and try to understand them and finally come to a judgement.
I think what you told is all true
It actually kind of related to my place as well .
Good or Bad , everything has its own reasons and meaning.
Hehe i don't know what I'm speaking .
Any ways thankyou for the video and your efforts. Have a good day .
Haaa
Literally such a good video and knowledge from the Korean and American perspective when you know it. Everything you said is seriously real and educational. You got everything spot on. Did a real good job. Even better when it comes from an authentic Korean ethnicity. Even with things you talk about it shows your character. I wish more people can be more understandable like you. More open. You have a pure soul. ❤
I taught English in S.Korea from 2004 to 2011. It was the most awesome experience of my life. Yes I am a Black S.African, but if ever there may have been a racist incident, it paled into insignificance compared to the love I received from ALL my adult students, all the little kids I taught, my neighbors, my fellow brethren in church. I don't understand why you have to explain Koreans to the world. Back here in S.Africa I rave on about the generosity of Koreans, the friendliness of total strangers. My language school had a rule that you could not accept money for private work eg doing a research proposal in English for a graduate student. These masters students would not accept this. So they gave expensive gifts (you cannot return a bottle of Bulgari aftershave, it would be insensitive, even my bosses would say you cannot but accept it). You cannot turn down a dinner at VIPS or Outback - that is plain rudeness. Because I was in Korea so long I think I can speak with some authority. Also the language school had 48 branches, so I got to apart from Seoul, Wonju, Ulsan, Busan, Incheon and elsewhere (this was Sahmyook Language School) so I speak with a lot of experience. I describe to S.Africans the phenomenal work ethic of the Koreans, which makes it a materially comfortable to live in. If I were younger I would love to still be there and compared to my own country, Korea is a place where I lived with NO fear for my safety. My last application for the renewal of my contract with Sahmyook/Seventh Day Adventist language schools was not accepted because I replied honestly that I was gay. I accept that at THE time an openly gay teacher was not on. I have no issue with that, its a cultural matter with the country where I was a guest
The issue was the Seventh Day Adventist church that does not countenance a gay member. It was a heavy secret that I was paranoid about. I had to find a loving relationship with a Filipino.
PS It is with great peace in my soul that I got myself out of the clutches of religion. Here it is my Korean students who educated their teacher
Wait, you are advent?
@@Vin.1904 *were
K-drama is like a dream about the life that everyone would like to have at some point in their lives. Of course, I'm talking about those typical dramas where friendship is intertwined with love. It is logical that the life of the average person in Korea does not look like this. However, it is a nice escape from everyday life. I have the impression that for several years Korean series (It's Okay to Not Be Okay / 사이코지만 괜찮아) and movies (Always / 오직 그대만) have been doing a good job showing the world what Korean filmography can do. Greetings from Poland
K-drama is entertainment and as such, K-drama is working like any other piece of entertainment by showing us a dreamlike ideal while referencing reality. To take K-drama as reality is like taking Disneys depiction of life for real... foolish
I think 18gain was the kdrama i really felt that i learnt about basic Korean culture. I think Koreans are practical, living their own lives and they are accepting to different cultures but to a certain level.
They accept the cultures of people they don't respect and don't see as Human, but they sure do enjoy being entertained by those cultures
@@chayo4537 i understand the bitterness or hostility; to give another contextual angle, imagine that in the U.S., women outnumber men, and men have mothers, sisters, daughters, aunts, grandmothers, and access to Ms. Magazine, feminist text, vast media coverage of rape culture and other inequality issues for women, yet there still are sexist men who are blinded by male privilege and don't realize how they don't care about women's equality. in korea, there is no media coverage comparatively; they might learn in school "racism is bad," but i've read comments from kids that have said they had no idea HOW it is....until they read a few things and they realize how much there is to learnabout it. knowing the need to read and research things on the internet is more common in the young probably. if there's a homogenous society to the degree that there isn't even a dominant groups, it's just pretty much all Koreans and a few foreigners, it's a place that is rigid/very tradiitonal/slow to change, and if not exposed to something in daily life let alone have it spelled out for them, just simply won't understand, let alone understand that there's something they need to be learning about; and are guaging just from what they see in movies, stereotypes, etc.
@@chayo4537 "don't see as human" that's a strong statement more on par with hate crime level racism isn't it
@@chayo4537 you are right...they don't like others culture...and they hate India 🙄also
@@chayo4537 Congratulations, you are now prejudiced against Koreans.
Hi Dan! Thank you for sharing positive reactions about Korea. Every country has its issues, but we should experience visiting a country with objectivity so one may enjoy!
I have seen such videos where everything is a negative & just shake my head. I tend to take their reactions with a grain of salt.
Hope you are well & your wine bar is too!
Thank you Dan! For educating us and giving us another output. I have personally worked with a lot of Korean people and they embraced me. I respected them and they honored my hard work. I feel it is how you treat others.
It's so good to have lucid and honest Koreans warning those who romanticize the country due to the lovely series, forgetting they are fantasy, hence totally different from real life, as in everything!
I've subscribed and given the due thumbs-up!
I love the way he speaks, calm and really open minded. Korea is one of the places I plan to visit
😆 “don’t spill coffee on purpose” love it - so true.
I know my friends in Korea would 100% agree with you as well; Korea has so many great things but it is a diverse country full of individuals with many unique characteristics, preferences and lifestyles.
This was a great video Danny, thanks for sharing your perspective.
P.s. sorry to hear you get so much negativity in your dms 😕 grateful for your honesty and thoughtfulness though ❤️
Dan, so good to hear you again! I assumed you have been busy with life, you work and business. I hope those are all going well. So glad you get days off! Thank you for taking time to share these things. I appreciate how you invite us to see different perspectives, to understand the complexities. Especially since you have lived abroad and have shared your own story regarding racism. I trust you as you share a little about racism and xenophobia in SK. I live in California, diverse and progressive, and also racist and xenophobic (I know, so odd), and my understanding is that all cultures and places experience this. We all have room to grow.
Regarding the myth that everyone in Korea is obsessed with make-up and looks, I think we see that reflected in all countries too. You have taken us with you to modeling gigs and given us tips regarding make-up, skin care and living healthy. Of course it's appropriate that you care about your looks. And being casual is good too. Good luck on your endeavors and I look forward to seeing you again soon.
My dear friend is a Korean and married to our Iranian friend with kids. And her family are always warm and welcoming to me. 💖 I’ve never been to Korea, but want to visit one day. I look forward to hearing more on the racism topic, it will really help build confidence.
Hi!! Thank you so much for addressing the thing that foreigners may misunderstand!! I'm Iranian and also student the next semester I'm gonna be graduated from University so I think of studying master in SK. For sure I googled about every single aspects of living in SK including academic, economical to social atmosphere but I heard so many heartbreaking memories of people of different ethnicities which broke my heart into pieces. At this stage I tried to search more and consulted my seniors however they shared almost the same stories. Absolutely they had amazing memories too and also they met sweet nice people BUT they faced so many bad things too!! I personally believe that the problem is that colorism and racism become unshamed in SK of course many people do it because they are not educated but this sad story should end somewhere!!!! There is NO AREA that is facing with such things but we have to love and respect each other to live happily together ❤️ Sadly I'm not gonna think about studying master in SK
Thank you Dan for doing these videos, my daughter was just in Seoul South Korea from june thru July. She was nervous and a bit uncomfortable about people staring at her but she did go out a lot and saw some sights, did some shopping. She was sick for a few weeks but This trip was always a dream for her since college and she went for it and plans to visit again.
My boyfriend is Korean and I always verify every single stereotype or assumption with him, turns out the view on Korean people that is made through dramas and K-pop artists are not always the realest. Nevertheless, Korean people are amazing, I can sincerely say that they are incredibly polite, at least the people I had the pleasure to meet :)
Really enjoyed this you tube video. Spent 3 months in your country this year. I felt very safe as a solo female traveller but as you quite rightly said you need to be aware of the situations around you . Also I only knew about 10 words of the Korean language but met so many helpful people even though there was a language barrier. I found that a smile works wonders. Thanks once again for a great video.
I was in Seoul a few weeks ago. I loved my visit, the people I met were very nice. Communication was easier than I thought. I wanted to travel to more cities but had a short visit. When I go back, I hope I will be better at speaking Korean. I felt safer there than places in the US. I was probably an anomaly to some. There were many stares on the subway and smiles too. I didn't experience any racism. I grew up with multicultural friends and adults in my life so for me it's the heart and soul I care about in people.
Sounds like you had rose tinted glasses on whilst you were on holiday.
@@kaynesheenan I've walked up on sketchy situations, witnessed severe behaviors, and have been approached in aggressive ways in the US. Comparatively, my time in Seoul was mild and safe. Not saying things don't happen but I didn't experience anything negative.
New Subscriber, Thank you for creating your channel to share and educate us about the Korean culture. I also appreciate our patience. I just happen to stumble on a Korean film on Netflix(Record of Youth) while in quarantine from Covid last year and have been following ever since. Also a big fan of AAIFF in New York. I grew up in church and had to wear modest clothing so when I saw some of the walking videos(Seoul Walker) it reminded me so much of when I was growing up. Now as an adult I appreciate and embrace that modesty, so there are aspects of the Korean culture the resonates with me as being an adult like having manners, showing respect, carrying yourself in a respectful way, being well groomed, the diet(on the lighter side), etc. So I connected with a culture that embraces different aspects of my personality that I got teased about, that seemed old fashioned or not with the times in my culture(America). I know the k-pop dressing is another facet of your culture, that is nice as well. I do love the k-dramas, variety shows, etc. I think the content is clean, don't get me wrong I like action films, thrillers, etc but the content is not Rated R(to me at least). Lastly, then men(actors) are beautiful to me from a perspective of being a lover of aesthetics/makeup. It is like art to see them because they are dolled up, like the porcelain dolls, it is like feminine/masculine wrapped up into one, I love the juxtaposition of the masculine/feminine in your culture where the men care just as much about their appearance as women. I am learning Korean now and planning on visiting in December. I am excited to be stepping out of my comfort zone of America and exploring different cultures. Question wondering are the actors as humble as they seem? Keep the content flowing, Cheers!
This was a good educational video. I do think Americans can think Korea is like KDramas, and it was good to hear that people are diverse and similar everywhere!
This was very informative! Thank you, Dan! I am 70 years old and I am coming to Seoul in June. Do you mean to say I won’t find a hot, good looking Asian man to give me Kdrama romance?!LOL😂. My daughter is having a good laugh! Anyway, I look forward to meeting the people, eating different foods, and enjoying the historical aspects. Visiting Seoul has been on my bucket list forever! One question I do have is why they don’t allow Americans in some of the bars and nightclubs? Is it because some Americans get too rowdy when they drink?
It’s because they’re very racist and xenophobic
It’s sort of like adult only hotels or restaurants. A few kids caused trouble some years back, irking their core clientele, so now they feel justified in denying access to any and all kids
@@mark9294 I don't necessarily think that is the reason!
There have been problems with some foreigners before, specifically the American military men. They can get rowdy and pushy when drunk. I was never denied anywhere, so it's not super common, but there are certain places that won't allow foreigners. It's not fair, but just find a different place, you know? I love Korea and had so many amazing adventures. Just go with an open mind.
i have never seen a such a truthful boy. you are a gem for people who wants people safety comes first. i am proud of you. i want to come to korea to experience things by myself.
I've been learning Korean for 1.5 years and I know at least a few words. My daughter, her best friend and I were in Korea for 3 weeks, 1 week round trip and 2 weeks in Seoul. No matter where we were and what people we met, they were friendly and very helpful. We traveled a lot and saw a lot of culture and landscape. We were neither afraid, not even at night, nor did we experience racism and the like. We got along very well with English and some Korean words. It's true, people are very shy and it takes time to start a conversation. We had a guide for the round trip, so it wasn't a problem at all. We respect the culture and mentality of other countries. Everyone should inform themselves about this beforehand and behave accordingly. We will definitely travel to Korea again as there is still so much to see.💜☮️💟☯️
Your skin is amazing, I really appreciate your honesty, well done!
And lastly, I greatly appreciated what you said about Kdrama. Everyone worldwide are becoming fans, especially because how many are shown on Netflix. The stories are unpredictable, the writing is so funny and clever, and the actors (in the States that refers to both women and men) are superb. But it was a good caution to this old lady (nuna?) that I’m not going to get off a plane and run into the arms of Lee Dong-Wook. 😂
😂Loved your comment!! Don’t forget Viki! Seems to be my go to lately for kdramas and movies.
Thanks for your video, Dan! I just moved to Korea from the US to teach English, and your videos have been helping me a lot coming in, giving a lot of good information and shedding light on some things that are more complicated than people (in general) make them out to be. I try to bear that in mind as much as I can, but hearing things clearly stated really helps. Have a great week!
Nice informative video, Danny. Always good to get your personal POV. Thanks for that.
Now retired but some time ago I spent a few years doing business with UK based Koreans who worked for the UK division of a large Seoul corporation Always polite and helpful those people gave me a positive view of the nation that I still hold today. Talented in so many ways, Korea has become a positive world influence in business and entertainment. Something certainly to be proud of but like all countries, there is always room to do things better.
Wishing you continued success and happiness. D
Thank you for your video Danny, I recently started watching your stuff because I spent 3 months in Seoul and having only returned to the UK 1 week ago, it makes me feel closer to your country.
I think it's really important to address that, just as you said, generalising a country based on our perception of the media we are exposed, just isn't fair. Movies, series, kpop artists (in KR case) are a product of a lot of people's work, they are polished to make it look really good and to help us escape reality, which is why we love them, and while a lot of things can be based on real life stories, they are still fiction. That being said, there will be things that we do see out there, the restaurant culture, a bit of romance (seriously, at least in Seoul, it's like everyone is programmed to be in a couple :p), generally people care about looking good, which I think it's really refreshing, we should do it for ourselves as well.
Another thing, about the "racism" part, personally, me and my friends did not suffer and major discrimination. Yes there are some limitations to what visitor visa only can do and cannot like not being able to register for some online shopping because require ID verification etc, but those things can be overlooked specially if one's stay is short. I think it's something that maybe going forward, the government can improve on.
English speakers, I had different experiences with this, as you've said, some people will not engage in conversations because they're too shy or just don't want to go through the trouble of speaking in a different language, this happends everywhere in the world. I'm Portuguese, our population is very educated in the english language and you'll encounter similar situations. On the otherhand, there will be people with probably no ability to speak english who will not hesitate to help a foreigner, they will use hand signs or take us directly to where we need to be.
Overall, I had a lovely experience in Seoul and Busan and I hope I can return soon and visit more cities, to see each nuance and learn more about the culture.
P.s: sorry for the essay xD
Hi Dan thank you for your videos it helps to more about Korea and your culture. Appreciate.! You speak English very clear.! God bless you.
I started watching kdrama on a whim recently and really liked the stories, plots, acting, and the unique Korean cultural aspects that is written into the plots. That inspired me to look into musix (not just kpop lol), art, food (i love to cook new recipes), and now im interested in learning the language. I can see how people can be unrealistic with things definitely and your video is really awesome and down to earth. The internet is turning into a fascinating alternate reality for people to escape to so i like the reality checks.😂
Thanks so much for this kind of topic to discuss. As much as I like ALL kinds of music, I appreciate the Korea Artists for their never ending amazing talents. I am planning to visit South Korea but not because of K dramas or K-Pop as many want to do. It has been on my bucket list to visit for a long time now and Covid put a kink into those plans for awhile, but I want to explore and experience the culture and history on a more personal level. I hope to meet a lot of nice, and interesting people along my journey to make my experience that much more memorable I don’t believe that anyone country is 100% safe. There is always another side to the calm peaceful life that everyone longs for, that is just reality. I am glad you did address these questions for others planning to visit as there is so much miss guidance on the internet. Keeping it real is so refreshing!
Omg thank you so much Danny! I would like to share around this meaningful video you posted because you are right about everything. People have to be aware of this because globally there will be people who accustomed to stereotyping anyone in General, Be it you are Chinese, Korean, filipino, etc etc. I am so glad that finally there is someone who did a post on this. That is why you are worth subscribing to! New subscriber here.. been a few days and i respect the fact that you post with honesty and sincerity. Please don't ever stop posting amazing videos and for being You. God bless you always :)
Thank you for your enlightening videos. I am from the United States and was tired of the things going on in my life. I was watching Netflix and came across K dramas . I have to say it gave me joy to discover them. It lead me to Kpop.music that I enjoy. I grew up in the age of disco and Michael Jackson too. The kpop music gives me the same joy I got from the music of my younger years. My curiosity about Korea grew each day. Your videos broaden my perspective of Korea. As much as I love the dramas and music I want to have a full understanding of what Korea is like. Keep educating me I like the topics you cover and have now subscribed . I look forward to learning more. I do not want to be an ignorant foreigner should I ever get the chance to visit your country in my lifetime. I'm not young anymore so its a bucket list dream. Thank you
Me too Jeanne W. 😊❤️
this is me too, Chana and Jeanne :-) and same era growing up, just Australia not US. Thanks to channels like Dan's for balancing and educating, I'm learning more every day. My daughter wants me to visit there with her when she finishes school. I gently push videos like these in front of her so she keeps her head out of the clouds about it all sometimes!
@@ozskzkizz ❤️
I hope you will be able to go visit South Korea and of course accomplish every point of your list.
Personally, I’m French, but I’m still in my 20’s, even though I’m older than most Kpop fans.
I really enjoy listening to your videos. You have a lovely voice and so interesting. Thank you. A South Africa 🇿🇦 fan
I' m glad I found this channel. I'm really into kdramas and quite interested in Korean Culture, watching your videos gives me another level of experience I learned a lot thanks Dan. I really wanted to visit Korea one of these days. 🇵🇭
Thanks for your thoughts. I was in s.korea last month and i have some thoughts to share with you.
1. Koreans don’t speak English, at coffee shop or shops young people work there and they don’t know even basic words!! It was really frustrating to even order coffee that isn’t ice americano!! Second, they look very good in the street and are very kind and nice. Some have even helped us with whatever we were looking for, even without knowing English.
Great job explaining your thoughts and taking the time to educate those who just don't know. I watched your entire video and all I could do was smile and I was smiling because of your carefulness to address both sides of the issue, not pointing fingers, and sympathizing/empathizing with both sides! 2 thumbs up Dan I am now a new subbie!
Thanks for always making your opinion clear for us 💕
i agree with her
I really like the way you are talking saying facts without biased or generalizing everything and accepting that whenever it happens both sides should work on it thanks for your slow paced tone of voice its insightful and calming even though it pictured a real situation I could prepare to deal with.
I like your video very much because you´re saying:" Oh hear me! Korean people are just like anybody in the world,we are people just like you, not that different only a little,like you are a little different from us"
Great video, very informative! And looking forward to watching the video about racism! Could you also talk about pale skin as a beauty ideal for some koreans? I’ve heard that it doesn’t come from a racist mentality, but I still don’t understand the origin of it. Thank you!☺️
I know in China, it went back to historical times when if you were poorer you worked outside so you were naturally tanner. While people with more wealth you were inside all the time, so you were then more pale and it became a status as such. I think that sentiment stuck in the culture. I’m not sure it’s the same for Korea. X
@@cassaile5323 Yes, you are right. I am not korean, but know about this because of being a history nerd. It has been very fasionable to have tanned skin in a lot of contries where people have etnickly pale skin and still is in some plases, because that means that you are wealthy enough to spend time on hollidays in warm contries and have gotten a natrual tan. But if you go back 100 years or so, was the fasin deffenatly the paler you were the better because that meant that you not worked outside in the fields, but dancy enough to be able to spend your days inside, prefeably doing nothing and especially women went to exteodrenary lenghts to fitt that beauty ideal... crazy things such as washing you skin, especially your face and hands in arenich water, even led based face creams 👀👀
Sorry for the lenght of my comment 🙈😁
@@cassaile5323 I think this is probably one of the accurate historical backgrounds on it. I have to admit it still exists especially amongst teens? A lot of people still think this way: child with tanned skin= plays outside more= possibly lived in the countryside VS a child who has pale skin = a lot of indoor activities=lives in the city. HOWEVER this is changing because tanning is becoming a big thing. It costs a lot to do it and more to get a natural one (like traveling abroad) so among the newer generations it's changing?
Thank you for all the answers! It’s funny how opinions about tanning can change so much around the world! In Spain, if you have pale skin tone after summer it feels like people assume that you didn’t enjoy or didn’t have fun during the holidays 😂 (of course not everyone thinks like that, but it’s the feeling I get, specially amoung young people). Hopefully soon we value each other for who we are as humans and not for the reputation that a tanned/pale skin gives us.
I completely agree with both of you. Let us hope that young people learn to love themselves the way they are. I am affright that will take time, but I am hopeful that we a sociaty are slowly moving in the right direction all around the world.
I am from the Faroe Islands myself and living in the middle of the norht atlantic leves us rather pale, our summers seldom reach 20°C when it is hottest. We generally have around 12°-14°C in summer and 4-6 in winther (when we not have a few days snow) alot of rain and fog. So of course it has been very trendy and popular to use tanning beds 😕
Luckily it has been less and less over the last 10 - 12 years, but fake tanning is still pretty normal, especially among the ladies in their late teens and their 20's.
I myself only use a tanning bed, if I am going to teavle to a contry that has alot of sun. I am born with very pale skin and have found out the hard way, that I very eadily get sun burns (even on my hands, even with a sun protection factor 30+) But it is alot easier to prevent if I visit a tanning studio for 2 - 3 weeks before my trip. Not to actually get any colour as such, but simply to expose my sink to the UV a little at the time.
Thanks a bunch for sharing, Danny 💝💝💝.. btw, i’ve been visiting many countries, including Korea, and no, the people aren’t racist at all. I am quite smiley, and i will compliment things by smiling. Even if i faced a grumpy ahjumma (with curly hair and all 😄). There are racism experiences in a western country, but i always told ppl (who were with me) that they had a bad day so we should try to understand and… keep smiling… 😊😁
Thank you for this video Dan! A lot of the scary stuff I've come across really freaked me out until I realized that the sad truth is that this happens literally everywhere; even at home! I personally have more hope for SK to learn and overcome racism faster than the West. They get the opportunity to learn from our mistakes and can correct faster because they don't have generations of build-up to deal with. I do think it's important to emphasize your point about Koreans not intentionally being racist. For many (I would think) they are surrounded by their own people. They literally cannot fathom racism. Educate, don't discriminate!
Great pointers and tips! I'm planning to go this upcoming spring! I need to practice up on the language. Super excited!!
This is good. Thank you for clearing up the misconceptions.
This was well made, thanks. The world is getting smaller and the more we can understand and appreciate our differences as well as our commonalities, the better! Like many americans I became interested in Korea a few years ago because of BTS, but have grown to appreciate the wonderful things that I have seen in the culture, such as politeness, interpersonal warmth, humor, creativity, high standards. But I acknowledge the problematic areas as well (which are by no means limited to Korea) such as women's equality and limited opportunities, boomer excesses and unrealistic expectations for younger people, and the societal pressures that lead to such a high suicide rate. It seems like a fascinating country, rich in history and a unique culture, and like everywhere humans are humans and we all just keep trying to improve. Thanks, I'll be happy to subscribe and see what else I can learn.
Agreed .
I'd love to see your thoughts about the beauty standards, it's all very confusing. There are multiple cases where people were bullied because they were too "fat", then bullied again because they were too thin. This is probably a broad topic but it would still be nice to know your perception of that.
I've lived in geoje city for around 5 months, visited Jeju Island and other nearby cities. People were there way too helpful specially in Jeju Island. I always felt like i am walking in my own country no staring people, nothing. I really had an amazing experience in Korea specially in Jeju Island. It was overwhelming. I am an Indian, there were 2-3 Indian restaurant. I could easily find everything there. Yes, i found it pretty safe. Vegetable sellers uesd to give us extra vegetables on asking of service 😂. I loved being there. Hope to visit it again.
@@Gibon123_ well i have not said anywhere that Indians don't help. And i do agree that u can find all kind of people(good/bad) all around the world but ratio changes.
@@Gibon123_ I mean the same with every other country too
*Big sigh of relief* Thank you, immensely, for this video! I am from the US, and grew up in a very isolated home-life, in a very isolated community. I have always wanted to travel and learn about the world around me. I also grew up in poverty, and was lucky enough to have the opportunity to move to a completely different cultured/political/diverse area. I still haven't traveled out of the states, because of family changes and demands, but I'm still very curious. I've had a few different negative experiences in talking with people who have traveled to the US from other places, or just interactions on social media. I really appreciated your clarity on educating people who don't know, and the sensitivity that you approached each topic with. Great job! Your statements will make changes❤❤❤!
On a different note, I sometimes have difficulty following videos, because I can't always hear what the creator is saying. Sometimes it's because they move around a lot, or maybe their equipment isn't working properly. I could clearly hear you in a separate room, which is really important when I am trying to multitask! Thank you very much for this excellent video!
Thank you for being transparent and willing to share to help others.
This has to be the most candid discussion about Korea/ns. I’m a huge fan of K-dramas and I know it can’t be like that in real life. It just can’t, and that’s just how it is. Nothing to expect and to be disappointed about as Korea is just like any other countries. It has its good and bad. It has its share of beauty and crime, and the like.
Regardless though, it’s still my dream country! And soon as I get enough, I’ll definitely travel there! 😂 Thank you for this!
thankyou for putting it out this way, i think it’s really resonates with my experiences, I’m Indonesian living in Bali but in my villa my neighbors were mostly Korean so I interacted with them daily and got a chance to learn that every Korean have unique personalities as much as anyone in the world, some like kpop, some like sport, they have different fave foods, but a lot of similarity too, so I think it helped me to burst the bubble of imagination and expectations of what a Korean should be that are shaped by media, kdrama, kpop, we’re just human being and I think it’s nicer to connect with people with no expectations or prejudgment and just learn about other people through our individual interactions and communication. I think we will always going to face challenges and difficulties anyway whether we’re in Korea, US, Indonesia, so its better to just focus on solutions rather on the problems, whether it’s racism, xenophobia, etc, imho all rooted from fear of the unknown, that’s why the solutions will be to know, to learn, to educate ourselves rather than fighting each other or making prejudgment. I believe people get different experiences based on their own personal mindset, anyway, a nice share Dani! looking forward to your next discussion!
Thank you for sharing this, Few people I know have had positive experiences other than notice some mild negatives due to darker skin tones. I’m British Indian (born in England, both parents Indian) I have quite light brown skin & myself cousins on mums side. My niece went🇰🇷& she was very honest about her experience. She also said the respect & etiquette is great towards elders especially which we all love. However she said people compliment her clothing, style, looks, hair etc directly to her but she’d hear them say as they walk away in korean if she has fair skin she would be like a model etc. Her Korean friend she made in her area, the gran said if she had white skin she would be perfect. Another friend made said come for dinner & the aunt said to the mother if she had little more fair skin I’d like daughter inlaw like her if she learned korean. What we told my niece to do & she did do is come to check it out herself for real but, by not revealing she understands & speaks Korean fluently. She used her app & only basic words to the extent Koreans thought they can freely talk about her in front of her smiling & she won’t understand. When she went to make up stalls high end brands they did have her skin tone but not much variety for darker skin & there are quite a lot of black ladies in korea, not branded & lower end brands did not cater for darker skin tones, so if people have a financial budgets then they’d need to save to go get what’s near to perfect or just save to go get what they need for their skin tone from high end. After 7 weeks in 1st area she lived before she left for the next area, she told the people she met she speaks fluent Korean & explained why she lied to them & their families for so long. As she was making a life changing decision so she had to see real sides & they were shocked, apologised, understood & said they learnt from what she she explained. She then did the same when she moved to the next area. Girls can be very cruel not that, that would be a problem because my niece is capable of taking on a grown ass man down verbally & physically if need be. She is confident which helps & we all are brought up in a way not to follow the crowd even if it’s wrong. It’s not cool & don’t be a bully/instigator but if you see something wrong step in & help the person who needs help. She was intervening when she’d see & hear girls talking real nasty about their own friend behind her back when she’d go loo etc with clear intent they’d simply used her. She saw that so much so she typed it up on her app so she just has to go to them & press play so it translates in korean to them. She didn’t blow her cover. Otherwise she said it’s beautiful, people that are not kind many join in instead of saying no don’t say/do that it’s wrong hence it happens so often. She tried 2 areas near a village & city checking vibes out both spectrums. When she came back it clear it wasn’t all doom & gloom so if she moved for a full straight 6 months to test the waters speaking korean & figure out if it was a long term place she’d want to stay & start a career. Asians are very beautiful people naturally but, she noticed before & more 1st hand when she came for 6 months young ladies are quite self conscious, they cover their faces with their hand a lot if bare faced not really wanting to take photos & if they get a spot (which is normal humans) females do freak out quite lot about it. Things like mental health, talking about puberty, periods etc is a taboo subject in households. Like here in 🇬🇧 for example I’m 34 have a son & daughter we openly educated both on periods etc when they were 9/10 & it was the best thing we did as my daughter now 12 & son 14 freely ask questions & don’t ever struggle in silence about anything & my son is very caring when my daughters on her period. At the end of the day puberty etc is all natural so it doesn’t have to be such a shhh shhh subject. She did make a Korean boyfriend quite soon (not the 1st Korean young gent that was a contender). She met his lovely family & they also had those traits even though quite modern. My niece said if this is going to work ALL need to meet half way & she don’t won’t raise her children IF she wanted children not openly being able to potentially say in front of her grandad for example I’m on my period & have to secretly pull a female aside & whisper. So she made quite a lot clear straight away & the family were quite shocked especially the grandparents 😅 even though she’s very respectful she’s not scared to say what she thinks & does stand her ground. They did want a definite answer if she wanted a child as that was important to them. Even though she does, she’s always said I’m sorry I don’t know 🤷🏻♀️maybe I won’t want children so i won’t say yes from the start IF the relationship flourishes. She wanted to set the ground respectfully & make it known she won’t be a yes, yes, yes person & be miserable just to make society & community happy. That’s not her problem, she asked they educate their circle so they can think about it & know it’s not a big deal at all & hope to make positive change. He did propose quite soon & she said no because 5 months to her felt way too soon. She did say to him from the start too if I have male friends that doesn’t mean I’m sleeping with them, males & females are able to be friends. So obsessive behaviour is not healthy & relationships foundations should start on trust. She did nip things she learnt straight away as of the other person/family has a issue she don’t waste her or his time. He proposed after a year she said yes🥰his entire family were so happy BUT 4 days after she found out she’s pregnant & that was a huge fear for his family. They panicked & said they should quickly get married what will people say? But in hope to make change they said No - we will stick with our plans to get married in a year or also been thinking maybe we will have as many children we want & then get married so all our children are there😂so that was a major problem for 4 months & then they accepted it knowing they won’t be changing their minds at all. The community did talk, work colleagues were in shock & eventually became a positive talking point. There really is no right or wrong way. She told her fiancés elder family she understands it’s scary because it’s different BUT look at the neighbours son, he married a korean lady & then had a baby but their divorced with a 2 year old child. So a marriage doesn’t guarantee anything, it’s about comparability & family pay a role in that too, all need to work together. They decided to have 2 children 1st & they have 2 beautiful children & got married 2 weeks ago which was beautiful. Korean ceremony, Indian wedding & English wedding 🥰♥️ both sides of family get along so well. I think change won’t happen over night but🤞slowly things get better not only in korea but globally. x
I read your comment I admire my patience ...Good conclusion
@@advaysri2006 Thank you x
Your content is refreshingly candid, and I agree with everything you pointed out about the good and the bad.
Thanks for this video. This is a very well articulated video and I like how you explain things.
What really bothers me is that I live in the States, and some of my friends bring those thoughtlessly ranting videos about how Koreans are racist (but totally out of context), and ask me, if they are going to be shot in the streets or get threatened physically just by their skin color. One guy asked me out when I in fact had a boyfriend that he didn’t know, I didn’t want to tell him about my private life, so I just said I prefer to stay as friends - and then he shows me one of those ranting videos and tells me that I am racist. I got furious and told him that he is ill-mannered and thoughtless to believe what some random youtuber says out of spite and attention-seeking. I called the 24-hour hotline in school and asked for protection against him. I felt threatened by him being racist to me, actually.
ln situations like above, I am always utterly ridiculed and I tell people the truth; that they may not be invited to a close Korean friends gathering, but that is mostly due to the language barrier. Koreans freak out, panic, or feel attacked when a foreigner just forges English conversation during a friends group gathering. I always ask my friend, how did you feel when that person from China used Chinese language to ask you about something, not even trying to use English? (This really hapoened and struck me by surprise, as well) He, an American, replied that he would feel attacked and upset that they are forcing him to understand a different country’s language in the States. I told him, that’s how many Koreans feel. And English is not an easy language to learn for Koreans, they feel stressed out to learn the language l their lives it literally traumatizes some people.
I’ve been life-threatened by quite a few people in the States when I was younger and I had to learn how to deal with these issues. But I have had international friends in Korea, and when they knew that there are no sort of life-threatening racism in Korea whatsoever, they felt very relieved. There clearly is a different standard when someone rants about racism, in other countries and in Korea, but those thoughtless UA-camrs do not choose their words wisely nor thoughtfully enough. That eventually comes back to people who stays abroad like me, being attacked. I am really scared of people that may just come up to me and practice asian hate crimes. I’ve seen people yell at Asians, “I’ve heard you people are racist to me, so I will be guilt-free being racist to you. Don’t blame me for my hostility.”
I once saw this UA-camr ranting that every time she goes outside in Korea, she gets groped. And I listened to everything she had to say, and realized her “go outside” meant go clubbing at late-night hours in fancy clothes and make-up. Well, that’s where all the obnoxious crooks and perverts may be found, if at all. That is exactly why not all Koreans will go clubbing.
From that UA-camr’s video, I read this comment asking “does ‘going outside’ mean whenever you step out in the street or when you go partying in clubs? If it means going outside. I am scared to go to Korea now.” Like, seriously? I really hope people realize what they are complaining about Korea, because they already forgot how being life-threatened feels like after staying in Korea for a little too long.
Thank you for enlightening me on the misconception about Korean and Koreans. I know and understand there's racism in the world and it shouldn't be. I thank God, that we weren't raised to be racist and I'm black. All my life growing up I've always prayed and ask God to wipe out racism and allow all human beings to be just that human beings. I'm a people person and I love all people no matter your background or nationality. God created all of us to live together side-by-side in love, peace and harmony 🙏🏾❤. Please, let the world be of and about peace towards your fellow man. I am all about love.....loving on one another and building each other up.
Excellent video Dan. Your views of your country are amazing, and I can relate them to you having lived abroad, and studied and conquered English for 12 years. I agree that more Koreans in Korea do speak English, but fear speaking to foreigners because their English may not be as accurate as yours. However, I feel broken English is accepted by foreigners that speak English. I also believe this is where prejudice and racism may step into the equation because of the uncomfortable zone of feeling their English is not good enough to communicate with foreigners that speak and write English with perfection. Sadly, they feel this way. I am a fan of KDrama movies, because they are very educational culture wise, and they share with the world some of the social issues of Korea, and how it’s important for their young children to attend the English academies in Korea to become more globally knowledgeable for success in life. With time and hopefully with more foreigners visiting Korea, the communication between the Koreans and foreigners will get better and eliminate such uncomfortable. Continue to share your videos of your country with hopes that they are educating the world, but mainly education for Koreans in Korea, and also those living abroad. There are a lot of Koreans that live abroad especially throughout the United States. I chatted with a Korean gentleman that owns a business in my community and he said he hasn’t been back to Korea in 30 years. I found that very sad. However, thank you Dan for great video context. Stay positive and advisable. All the best, until your next video.
Hello, I am from USA born an american as a mixed race of Latina. And I have endured racism here and there was never a language barrier because I can speak fluently English and Spanish. I think that language barrier has alot to do with it when in a different country because of the not knowing what a person is saying. But for the most part racism exists everywhere and unfortunately amongst the same race because of the poverty class you live in. If you would like to know of so.e stories I would be more than happy to share. Your friend, Rachel R.
I love your honesty and transparency in misconceptions of outsiders of Korea. God bless you.
Thanks for these videos! So helpful and interesting! We live in Tucson Arizona and would love to travel to Korea someday…
Thank you for the last part of your video. I was taught that Asians (Koreans), were racist. While here in America, as African American, we are looked at as villains which isn’t true. While I know you don’t represent your whole race, as I don’t either, it just makes it hard when society places us in positions where people watch things in tv and believe what they see as true. I remember during COVID, things were happening in both communities where we came together, but that was only briefly. I do hope that your next video would address this.
I'm really glad you touched on the racism aspect. Thank you for that!
You are right. As a WoC, I often have to check on if it's safe for me to travel to places and how they perceive foreigners. Especially those with darker skin. Korea had received a huge "NO" on my list actually because of my own Korean friends who had dissuaded me from visiting. I also investigated to find how foreigners are treated abroad and other women's experiences, and there were quite a few negative ones for women of colour.
I have since changed my mind because I'd rather see it anyway. I haven't been one to not experience racism -- the biggest thing that would be extremely offputting would be if my hair were to be touched. I'm just going to accept that as an inevitability and wrap it up. Away from anyone's reach.
I can imagine as a native, hearing people label everyone as racist probably feels awful though.
I went to Korea at the age 35 and I found there is age discrimination. Basically I love dancing and I enjoy clubbing because it has good dance atmosphere. So I went to a club in the heart of Seoul and was rejected entry because I was too old. I could see only young ladies gaining entry and …OLDER men…That gave me a slightly lasting negative impression.
I had the same impression when trying to learn Korean and Japanese on an app for my upcoming travels. In the learning rooms the native Koreans blatanly discriminated against everyone over 40. I felt discrimination for being Latin America woman also. I registered for a Premium account to get access to the paid content and thus learn faster. Unfortunately it did not work and I was disappointed with the treatment.
I really love the way he is talking, and expressing himself in a calm way. I understood everything very well and I also knew some things, I think it was really helpful. Thank you so much for this video, I appreciate it. (I also like the way how his background changed from day to night and the background music is very soothing)
Your maturity is refreshing. Thank you for your honest videos.