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- Опубліковано 19 тра 2024
- What a whirlwind of a week! New table, tears, demolition, tipsy sunsets, the sea and paddle boarding.
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I get those same waves when thinking about my mum getting older when I look through photos, it's a scary thought of parents passing because it feels like not too long ago my mum was around my age and now shes in her 60s. The thought of it scares the crap out of me and makes me emotional but it's a good reminder to cherish them while they and we are still here. 😊
That’s exactly what I wanted to say! It’s a good thing to realise all that ❤️
You’ve grown up into such an amazing woman right before my eyes. Incredibly proud of you, Helen! 🤗💞
Thank you 🥹
Amen!
I really felt it when you cried and parents getting older. I went with my mum to the hospital today as she found a lump on her breast, thank god she was given the all clear. But i really felt the same way today so you’re not alone in thinking about those things hun xx
oh im so glad shes ok xxx
Maximalism isn't my thing, but what I like about this final redecoration is that your lounge, bathrooms and all bedrooms match! Proper consistent vibe 🤌 And I love the warmth x
Helen you just get better with every passing year. I’ve been watching your videos for so many years. Even bumped into you at a press night once and on Bond Street in London on another occasion (which never happens to me as I’m awful at spotting people). Your videos are so comforting and like spending time with a friend. I related to you when I was in my early twenties and now near my 30’s your content is like a warm hug. I guess what I’m trying to say is thank you for sharing you! ❤
100%! She’s my most fave youtuber💘 she is someone you wish you had in your friend group because she seems like she would just make you feel loved and safe 💘💘
Awh thank you 🥹❤️😭😂 xxx
You saying "fuck off, go home" to the flies had me crying 🤣🤣
You COMPLETELY transformed the place it looks AMAZING!!! 😍
i did hehehe xxx
11:58 it’s crazy because I was cleaning my basement and found some old pictures of family no longer here. Even seeing pictures of my mom younger, I started to reflect and cry too. Time passes so quickly as we get older and look back on life.
I waited to watch this because I knew I would cry with you. I had a moment not unlike yours when I was going through old pictures with my mom. I lost all of my grandparents over the last few years and my dad 12 years ago... Memories are beautiful and we get to make new ones every day. My mom is my only parent now and I try to make every moment count. Sending love. I'm so happy your house is finally the way you like it
My mum is turning 70 and is my best friend. We go on nights out together to dance to live music and knock a few vodkas back.. she is wilder than me! But she has starting showing symptoms of dementia which is what her mother also has. She slips away sometimes and i am dreading the day she doesnt remember who i am or all the fun we have. I feel your pain Helen... It is tough ❤❤❤
This is so bittersweet 🥹❤️
I really love how your joy brought the guys in your garden so much joy too! I felt really happy watching it as well
Haha I hope so 😂😂
Having just lost my Dad, this vlog gives me a lot of comfort x
Not me sat here crying whilst watching your video 🥺🥺 I lost my dad when I was 17 so completely understand your emotions with looking at old photos, it scares to me to death to lose anyone else in my life so to look back at old photos is a little bit bittersweet really ♥️ happy memories but also some very sad emotions
Helen. I’ve been watching you since I was 13. I am now 27 sitting here watching your videos with my 2.5 year old by my side. Watching you grow into this women who is so in touch with who she is, where she is going and meant to be - just a real bloody surreal feeling to still be here watching you today. You’re the best. Never change ❤
I watched a Ladbible video this morning of a grandad seeing his granddaughter at the door, for a visit, he was overjoyed! and it was the most precious thing, his reaction was adorable. I just miss my grandad so much it's good to cry and look at photos
I saw that. It really got me in the feels xxz
What a gorgeous vlog. Gave me all the feels ☀
Had a right giggle at you knocking that shed over 😂 so funny!
Ok tissue warning. 😢😢 so true looking at the photos. Literally just keep making memories with them. I’m 31 and just lost my mum a few weeks ago and my dad lost his best friend. And it just breaks my heart. Time really goes too quickly life really is so unpredictable. Keep making memories and just love each other xxx
Sending you so much love, I lost my mum last year at 31 too. It’s the fucking worst 💔
I’m so sorry! Sending you a big hug xxxx
This video really resonated with me. Like you, I used to call upon my dad to help me with all sorts of things, and I really struggled when he suddenly seemed to age. We lost him three (and a bit) years ago, when he was only 79 years old. I felt too young (at 37) to lose him, and I still do. Crying is very therapeutic, so let it out. It's better than bottling it up x
Oh helen ❤ I get those same feelings to when I look at photos - it’s honestly my most favourite thing to do - to take photos and look back at them. People think I do it to show off but honestly, it makes my heart flutter with nostalgia and happiness when I look at photos from my life. I get so emotional looking at my parents when they were younger, my parents are 65+ now and I am also terrified of the future. You are a precious soul Helen ❤
14:50 Oh Helen how renewing is a big cry - it’s gotta happen sometimes FEEL THOSE FEELINGS ❤
I totally empathise with you expressing your burnout/fatigue... but generally in your videos you just seem like you're really thriving and enjoying being unapologetically yourself, it's lovely to see someone so genuinely happy in their normal life ❤ Obviously we all have things going on behind closed doors, but it is genuinely great to see someone enjoying the little things, and you deserve the happiness!!
You look so good! You stopped showing up in my feed so I haven’t seen you in many months. So many things have changed!
I love your long videos💘 i love looking forward to them on Mondays :)
I adore your heart Helen! Thanks for sharing ❤
Hi Helen, thank you for sharing such a vulnerable moment with us & your feelings are so valid & understandable. Life is just so precious & it isn't fair that we can't spend our whole lives together with our loved ones while on Earth.
I am a follower from day 1, & I lost my Mum this past New Year's Eve. I would always show her your posts over the years & she would continually ask "What is Helen posting". Your channel brought us & her a lot of joy, thank you for that 💓
Lots of love Xo
I love Helen’s reaction! 🤩 I need her commentary reaction playing in the background when I get something new! Her voice is so cozy and sweet! 🤗
I've never ever wanted to give a stranger a cuddle so bad ever!!
I frickin love you Helen, your vides are so reassuring and inspiring to me
I have no grandparents left, my dad and brother have also died along with godparents- I’ve been to so many funerals in the last 7 years it’s crazy. You have to take pix as I love looking through them it’s so lovely
I completely related to you looking through photos and sharing how you feel about losing your parents. I'm 35 and my Mum is very sick and I have these thoughts a lot, waves of emotion about losing my parents and an awareness of how quickly time goes. It was really refreshing to see I'm not alone in these thoughts and feelings so thank you for sharing Helen. I love watching you because you are so real.
Hello lovely , I had the same fear of loosing my parents due to my anxiety . Did the same to me bought me to flood of tears. Unfortunately I lost my mum 7 years ago when she was only 53 .yes it is awful thing but what it has done all the lovely memories it’s given me ,and I started a gardening to be closer to her (something she loved ) . Chin up girl . Much love to you xx❤
I cried when you cried looking through your photos, I get it - we're so lucky to have friends and family and experience life, and its also a bit of a reminder in those moments to really appreciate those memories and times you've had with people. Also how bloody cool that your landscaper let you do some damage with the digger - i had the biggest grin on my face, he was loving it too - how good! Its so cool you get involved in all that xo
I cried with you Helen I go through those same emotions often, luckily for me my parents are both here still and I hope it stays that way for a long time.
This vlog was just perfection could watch hours and hours! ❤
Crying with you I’m 27 lost my mam when I was 15 but me and my sister love getting the old albums out and reminiscing ❤
Girllll I feel the same way about looking at good memories of old photos. I cry hahha 😅 Some people don't sit down and go back in time and feel that moment by looking at photos. I look back at my photos and see how I came as a person. I look at how my style changed 😅 and I wanna bring it back, but in adult style in a way, hahaha. Anyway, I always love your videos, and I can't wait to see how your back back yard turns out.
the living dining room looks great!
I do this with Cadbury fingers soooo good. Will try it the penguin way xx
Helen, I feel the same way thinking about my parents. My Mum is 79 & Dad is 84. Old photos are genuine photos captured how life really was in authentic moments. Important to do little things, like say I love you and see people you love before it’s too late ❤
I love your home account!! ❤
Really enjoyed this. Makes me wanna get up and get shit done 😂
As someone who lost her mum at 26, lost my gran last year snd not long after my best friend died not long adter her 40th birthday. We had been friends since nursery. I'm such an advocate now for taking all the photos. ❤
Awh God Hellen you make me feel so so normal crying this week for the same thing xxx
Aww Helen i wanted to hug you whilst you cried, i can tell you don't take your parents for granted, by the time i was 26 i had no parents, i am now 44 and i think of them everyday x
I feel the same especially getting to my 30s, my mom's in her 60s and it terrifies me to think about. here for you love~
and i'm a cancer ♋ /sympathy crier so I cried too.❤
Love you Helen ❤
I can really relate to this couple of months ago I was organizing my bookcase and went over some old photos, sometimes we need to feel these emotions, all at once. Aha I'm rambling idk if that makes sense. I think it's just a little part of adulting you're doing great helen! Love you 🫶🏻
When Diane launched off the board, I burst out laughing 😂
I cry thinking about my parents too and how fast time is passing. I hug my mum tighter and longer and text her good morning every day 🥺
I relate so much to this. I have such fear around the idea of my parents passing. I dread it sooo much and can't stop thinking about it either. To the extent I try and figure out how many more days we have together and then guilt myself if I don't go home for one weekend.
My dads in his 70s and my mum is in her late 60s, I feel the same. My partner lost his dad to cancer a few years ago and his mum has had cancer twice. I totally understand. I take loads of photos and I want to take videos to remember their voice and facial expressions too. I want memories. My partners not even got a photo of him and his dad together. It doesn’t seem to bother him but it would bother me. I want proof they were here and not to forget that. 😊
Try that penguin trick with a KitKat finger. Bite the end chocolate bits off obv. Amazing 😍
Aah, felt like a proper hang out with Helen. Had no idea weenie dogs were such good swimmers! Diane’s jump into the water took me out. You should definitely do a fire pit! I have one in my backyard and it’s a game changer during summer nights. I totally know what you mean about the smells of summer - I visited London years ago and remember there was a certain smell of greenery in the air that I haven’t smelled since, I can only imagine what Norwich smells like 👃🏾👃🏾👃🏾
Oh Helen, I cried with you 🩷 I lost my Gran unexpectedly on her birthday in August last year. She was everything to me and she took photos of everything. I'm so lucky to have her photo collection but it breaks my heart looking at the photos as half of the people in them aren't here anymore 💔
oh, Helen ...thanks for making me look up a recipe to remind me of some cookies me and my grand aunt would make as a kid ... they were the best ... good cry while making them, memories are grand ... keep them close ...when we lose folks (or will lose) just bring out those items (treasures they gave you) that make us think of them ... pics, recipes, tell a good joke that they did, memories with a family member ...whatever ... just keep their memories alive. big big hugs!! ( ;
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This video was a bit hard for me because I’ve just lost my dad, at the age of 63, last month. He was way healthier than I am, an athlete, and the thought of losing my parents even though it made me scared AF it always seemed very distant. Hug your loved ones tight and keep them close 💙 watching your videos brings me serenity which is what I need in this moment of my life. Sending you a big hug
Sorry to hear that xxxxxx
I cried with you Helen. All of those same thoughts are constantly on my mind lately too.
It’s not nice isn’t xxx
Cherish all the time and memories with your parents🥰
My mum passed away when she was just 49, she didn’t see me get married or meet my daughter and it breaks my heart .xx
I've followed you 100 years but don't follow any side channels so it's nice to see you again. Human to human much love to you. You seem to be doing well and it makes my heart happy.
I work at a bakery and we also make almond pan au chocolates but out of the pan au chocolates that don’t sell from the day before- bread source probably do the same, they’re cut open and filled with frangipane and topped with almonds. Therefore, they probably have limited numbers because of how many pan au chocolates they have left from the day before! Most places will fill day old pastries with frangipane and rebake them into almond pastries😇
I cried with you when you were talking about getting older and your parents aging like I often think the same and it makes me sad like one day they won't be here but like I'm getting older and so are they it's heartbreaking really. They're like my best mates idk how I'm going to cope one day when they leave me and my brother. Love you Helen just keep making memories with your mum ❤️
Sorry that it made you cry too! Xxx
Really loved this vlog❤
Helen you made me cry 😢 I feel you sweetheart … it’s all life ❤❤❤
I lost my grandad a year ago and I still can't understand that he's just not here anymore... it feels like he is, like he should be... but he isn't... I find myself randomly crying about it, and it's funny because if he knew I was crying, he'd tell me to lighten up and that "tears only wet your face" hahaha!! Let's cry together ladies, we've got this!
I love your dining table chairs, they remind me of butterscotch caramel 😂
God i feel this frustration so much with the "can't fucking sit still". Drives me mad but im constantly looking for the next stimulating task and never just bloody relaxing 😂
Helen I' ve been watching you for years. Just felt the need to comment for the first time. My biggest nightmare had always been losing my parents. I had an amazing bond with both of them. Unfortunately I lost my dad suddenly in March and the pain is unbearable. He was 62. The only thing that makes me feel better is that I have been a good daughter for him, and I have always cherished our moments together because I knew that anything could happen at any time. That's the way life is and we cannot change that. Sending you lots of love!
My mum passed away a few months ago from Cancer. It hit us like a truck when she was diagnosed because she was so healthy otherwise - it’s not even been a year yet since she was diagnosed.
I’ve lived a pretty sheltered from grief life before this and I always used to panic that things were too good in my life because you hear about terrible things happening to other people. Life is so cruel.
Tell your loved ones you love them all the time and take alllll the photos! I wish I had more of me and my mum (I guess we never have enough time or photos with our loved ones, we want forever) X
I totally get it! I said recently to my mom that I have no fear of death for myself but I’m terrified about the idea of her and my dad dying one day.
I love love love this vlog.
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I have my mums hat box full of photos and what you said about the pictures not being for show just being for family really touched me.
I lost my mum when i was 22, will be 9 yrs ago this year and that time has flown by! My 3yr old son knows all about her, apparently shes flyingg around like spiderman which is just fucking hilarious 😂
But yeah the photos i have i fucking treasure xx
The moment where you had a cry and spoke about people not being around forever got me... My amazing mom sadly has terminal cancer and it breaks me knowing she won't be with us for as long as we thought... She's only 66... I thought I would have at least 20 more years with her...
Take the photos. Spend the time with your loved one. Hug them and tell them you love them.
Also, please, check your moles everyone.
My mom isn't one for the sun and yet she got melanoma on the base of her foot, and now we have limited time. She had it for about 18 months before it was properly diagnosed.
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Ok Helen we need a tissue warning 😂❤. I’m sobbing and snotty at your crying 😢. Sending you squishy hugs 🤗 ❤ xxxxxx
IM SORRY AWWH!! XXXXX
Where’s your robe from?! 😍🤩
I lost my mum 8 months ago tomorrow, she was only 61 and I was 31. And then my grandma passed away in March. I feel this so so deeply. This is one of the things I hate most about getting older, and it’s not like we’re ever guaranteed to grow up with those people who are special to us, but you’re so aware of it as adults. But I’m so grateful for us all taking pictures and having those memories. I’m making an album of all the pictures I have of my mum, there’s hundreds.
Sending love xx
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Where is your gorgeous chunky heart necklace from? 😮
where is that lovely jumper from you keep wearing when you're out and about? it looks so comfy and cool! (the grey one xx
Oh yes I linked it! It’s actually green! One if the top links. Little spenny BUT so worth it xxx
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Unsolicited advice: Sit with your family and make sure you have notations on the back of all of those snaps! When we lost my Nana I inherited an entire suitcase of old family photos and half of them had nothing written on the back. Feels like a lost opportunity to have known more about my family. Oh and scan them! Front and back (with notations) so you can share them easily with the people in the pics while keeping the original.
I lost my dad when I was 32 yrs of age, my mum at 34yrs of age, both to cancer. Yes, I am officially an orphan and boy do I feel it... My mum was my best friend and to this day (it was 11yrs ago now) I miss our conversations, her company and her love and care for me. I lived with my parents and had never left home so it was even harder for me. It was always my worst fear..., losing my mum. I was literally 'forced to face' it and we all have to, in the end. How much it affects you, obviously depends on how close you are with your parents. I really had to dig deep and chose to do a lot of inner work by myself to come out the other side. Obviously it helps if you have a close support system which I personally didn't have at that time. You certainly realise how much 'inner strength' you have when you go through something like that... Seeing you with your mum in your videos makes me happy as you are honouring what I have lost. My advice? Try not to fear what hasn't happened yet. As soon as these thoughts enter your mind, get rid of them and focus on something else. I know it's hard but try to live in the moment, for the moment. You're doing the right thing by taking lots of photos etc.
We all need a good cry from time to time. I am in the unfortunate position of having lost both my parents and my in-laws, and only have my 97 year old grandfather left. This year marked 20 years since my mum died, I was 27 when she passed. She was only 52, but packed so much into her life. She had chronic health conditions from the age of 18, but her attitude was awesome. She was far too busy to let illness stop her fully. Her attitude was “I don’t have time to die, my kids (and later granddaughters) need me.”. I was 34 when dad passed, he was only 60. The one thing I am very grateful for is that I had good relationships with them all, and still do with my grandfather. I have cherished memories. Some people have awful relationships with their loved ones. I am so lucky to have had a short but loving relationship with my parents.
And buy the Chelsea Peers pyjamas, they are amazing. I only buy them in the sale as they are expensive, but they always wash up well and are so comfortable. I spend a lot of time in my pyjamas thanks to chronic fatigue syndrome, so I always want comfortable and well fitting pyjamas.
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I relate so much to the awareness of ones parents age :-/ I'm 26, and autistic; the thought of loosing them, is like loosing a safty net under me. The people who has and are there for me, in my hardest moments in life. When I don't know what society want with me, and from me. They always are there to guide and protect me.
I've neve lost anyone in my life; and the fear of loosing them as the first is just a heavy feeling of not knowing where to go and what to do afterwards.
Not that I can't live on my own, I've lived on my own in over 9 years; and have had to handle a lot on my own; but they've still been there as a form a silence protection in those days, as a way that you know even if you fall, someone will catch you; but when they're gone then what?
it is scary; but I try to use this fear in a way of never take them for granted :-)
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I have been watching your videos for over 13 years. I am really shy on the internet, so i am usually too scared to comment...but your cry about watching your parents get older hit home to me in a way that left me without words. My parents are in their 70s and 80s and I have not been able to see them in over 5 years...I don't know if I will get to see them again, and their recent pictures leave me speechless since it feels as if they are complete strangers. That there is no way that there has been that much time that I has passed since I was able to give them hugs. Hugs your folks for me.
oh this makes my heart hurt. sending love xxxx
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I know what that feels like. I am 29 and am loosing my mother to Alzheimers 😢
What is that galaxy projector at around 9:11?! I NEED one!
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@@helenanderz Thanks, Helen!!🖤🖤
Also Helen PLEASE where is your jumper from at 34:00 ? Thank YOU 🫶
I got emotional watching you get upset. I feel the compete same 😢 its so hard to imagine a life with them not here anymore
Have you had a blood test recently? The symptoms you’re describing are common with b12 deficiency. Your bones hurting and fatigue etc. I hope you feel better soon ❤
Oh I’m ok now 😂😂
I love your home instagram
What’s the name of your home account? :)
I had a wee cry with you, Helen 🥹
I’m 32 now and I can relate so much to what you said about your parents and getting older ❤
Awwhh sorry 😂❤️
aw Helen, I've been having these thoughts everyday for fuck knows how long now. The frontal lobe really do be developing, I'm 24 and it's been so overwhelming. It's all vvvvv scary and I've also been very overwhelmed with realising maybe I can't be an adult. Doing things on my own and recently not living with my parents and brother anymore like the realisation that I'll never live with them again is INSANE. Any time I go round & see them I notice more how much they've aged🙃🙃 Idk it's vvv odd and emotional and I feel stoooopid explaining it to people but it's honestly been crippling for me😂😂
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