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Can a guy you’re friends with caught feelings you because a guy friend zoned me but I would still like a relationship with him. I just hope all hope isn’t lost.
From experience you will know if they are love bombing you and move way too fast in the beginning. The tricky part is narcissists are very smart and manipulative. They will make everything seem so natural and genuine but this is not the case. Any time someone moves too fast.. RUN!
I like this suggestion a great deal, Kimberly 👌 I'm putting together a great video on this one because this is a subject I know all too well. Thanks for chiming in! 😊
Also they seduce talking about themselves and how wonderful they are, so you start admiring them. He won't show too much interest in you or the things that he could admire from you.
My husband connected most with his mother. Being young and naive I did not realize that it would become a problem in our marriage. Many times I felt that her desires and wants came before mine with my husband. I dealt with it as best I could and am still married. But if a man tells you his mother is super important to him or he is very close to his mother you may really want to think about that one.
I went through the same thing and it was a nightmare! I dated my last boyfriend years back who was very close to his mother. Thankfully, we weren’t married. She was very dominant and intrusive. She didn’t like any of the women he dated, including me. One day she wrote me a nasty letter and literally mailed it to me. It got so bad that I had to file a restraining order and I hadn’t even met her yet at that time. I believe it was during the second or third year into our relationship. He was so torn between me and his parents. Then a year later I was diagnosed with breast cancer. He stayed by my side throughout my entire cancer treatment and he didn’t talk to his parents for months. It was one of the most difficult situation I’ve ever been in and the most heartbreaking experience after we broke up. Very, very painful. We were emotionally burned out and just couldn’t stay together. I’ve been single ever since. I would never want to be in that situation ever again. So, through that experience, I’ve been very mindful about the relationship with men and their mothers when I date. I was seeing one guy two years ago who doesn’t get along with his mother who is very controlling. That was a big red flag for me and I ended that relationship fast!
@@accesstotheredcarpet I am sorry to hear of what you went through. Two key words you mentioned where dominant and intrusive. Those sure ring true with my experience. I hope that you are doing well and I am sending you love, happiness and a big hug.🌹
Def worth a little more investigating. Although I believe you DO want a man to have a good relationship with his mother, absolutely. The question becomes whether or not he's "flown the nest" psychologically and is living his own independent life and not still taking marching orders from either parent 🤦🏻♂️
If I may suggest: #1 is the only question I'd ask on the first date. Ask the others at a time you think is appropriate. I'd never mention family or how I might fit into his life on the first, second or even third get together. If I were a man, those question would freak me out at the beginning.
I like you're videos... I'm a women of a particular age. I find that men these days speak like politicians. These questions are great but if he knows how to work ppl to get what he wants, he's going to answer in ways that he knows u want to hear. I look at actions and how he treats me. I always follow my intuition. Never steers me wrong.
If Marker #4 doesn't work for you because you don't want kids or marriage, flip it around and state that you don't want kids and/or marriage. I don't want kids and I make sure that my potential partner feels the same. Saves a lot of grief down the road! Thanks for the vids, Ryan!
A friend told me see how he treats his mom. She had a few dates with a guy who wasn't very nice at times and she found out later from a friend of his that he treated his mom terribly.
I don’t believe in love or relationships anymore, but I still find these types of videos interesting and on my feed.. glad I found you, Ryan! Keep up the good work and happy holidays, you and yours! 😊
The more I listen to his videos the less hope I have of a relationship. It's like the women have to do all the hoop jumping for them so they dont have to change. Win/win or keep talking until it is. I've been dating and learning and practicing for 25 years and I don't feel any closer to achieving and maintaining a successful relationship. I think achieving a Banner relationship with myself is my future final endeavor and I'm at peace with that.
Its because the advice he gives sets up the narrative that man have to do stuff to make things work which makes it seem like you do more then you actually do....Men can spot that about woman if they expect too much from the beginning. A relationship is build casually and grows slowly...its like going to the gym....you dont have fit instantly you gotta respect the work progress. I suggest you should stop with these video's and focus more on yourself and less about finding "the one" cause working on yourself is a very attractive characteristic many men AND woman would want to find in somebody
i generally dont rly like the videos about how to test a person as it often seems to be quite toxic, so not sure why i even clicked on this video, but these are some legit good questions to ask to get to know a person. thank you
This was an absolutely awesome video Ryan! I just started exclusively dating a guy last night and I asked the first 2 questions you mentioned. It helped me out tremendously on whether or not Josh(bf) was looking to settle down. Your videos have helped me out in so many ways! Thank you so much!! The only down fall is, I work with this man but on different shifts at work. However, we were friends years before we ever decided to start dating. :) I'm sharing this video with all my single girlfriends so you will have some new subs coming your way!!🤙
Awesome, Katie, thanks! 😀 And good luck! I'm happy to help! Just make sure to lean back, and don't be afraid to let things grow incrementally over time. Marathon, not the sprint 😉 You got this!
This was one of the most immediately applicable and informative videos you've put out. thank you ♥️ love the simple format where I can change the verbs or nouns to fit whatever my boundaries are
Ryan!! Please make a video for us who are struggling to figure out the whole "love" situation... When is it a good time to say it? How can you tell if your boyfriend loves you?
I do have a video on my channel about "how to say I love you to a man" somewhere, Olivia, although I can't find it at first glance... It was one of my earlier videos and is only a few minutes long, but it will be at least a good start 😉
Do you have any recommendations on how to tell if someone likes you during covid? Of course, being safe is the top priority. But having masks makes it super hard to read people. Any suggestions?
Rule number 1: get to a place where you are figuring out if you like THEM. Total game changer. You’re interviewing them to see if they are good enough for YOU. Who cares if they like you? If they don’t they aren’t to your standards anyway bc the guy for you likes you and shows it so there’s no guessing: next!
I absolutely love your videos! You seem so real an down to earth. You also know the right subjects to bring up and give sound and actually useful advice. So many of these proclaimed "dating coaches" (personally I hate that name) give really wishy washy advice or advice that just isn't applicable to real life and real situations! You hit the nail on the head in pretty much most of these videos! What I like most is the fact it's not about manipulating someone or playing games. It's more about being real, open and secure as a way of "getting what you want" from life and saying no to the things which aren't good for you! Personally I struggle with slight anxious attachment which I'm working on, so things like setting boundaries can be difficult because you don't want the person to leave so you put up with toxic behaviours! --> IDEA ---> Perhaps you could do some advice on how people with different attachments deal with dating!!?? Hi from London!
How about the guy looking for Barbie instead of learning to love you from the inside out. I had a guy who enjoyed my wit but when he saw me he was turned off immediately.
@@datingcoachryanpatrick Well let's say you asked on the first date what are his intentions and he tells you basically he's not looking for anything serious. Then there's no point to continue peeling the onion, right?
@@FarahwantsPeace You're going to know if he's serious or not based on his actions early on, not so much his words or by asking him that particular question. I'd rather see y'all watch his actions closely... is he initiating texts and setting up dates regularly with you? That kind of thing 🙂 Think of that question as something you maybe ask on date #3 or #4 to size up his personality and get a more informed sense of what he's looking for on a deeper level
I’m upfront with my likes and dislikes, my mental condition, why I can’t drink socially, my plans for the next five years, and yet I still don’t always get a date even after I give him my number. What am I doing wrong?
These are gems!!!! Thanks 🙏🏾 I’ve always known these were the things to say but did not know how to say them directly, u know without all the blah blah inbetween! I can’t wait to try these things out! Definitely a craft I plan to practice and make my own! Thanks again
What about people who don't come from a picture perfect family? Most men I date are raised by their mom. I find it a bit discriminating the picture perfect questions.
I addressed the family question/issue pretty clearly in this video, Olivia. Not all questions will be appropriate to use with men; they’re meant to only be examples of things to bring up 🙂
I need some advice. If a guy says he likes me and persistently wants me to be in a ldr with him, but does not initiate meeting or calling me on the phone (i gave him hints and told him directly that i wanna meet him), he still doesnt try to do any of that. What do i do?
They are telling you right! I was done the same way with a long distance Relationship that was a waste of my time for 8 months. I was doing all the work, I even talked to him about it...didn't do any good. I walked away then he acted shocked that I wanted to move on. SMH, my own fault 😒
I think the key is to casually keep it part of the conversation. As you're talking, make it sound like just something that you thought in the spur of the moment, as opposed to reading it like a quiz.
They're just really sincere, honest questions that will only turn off guys who aren't looking for anything serious or have no intention of being real with you. But I can understand why that might come off as "aggressive" to people. You're certainly not "beating around the bush" with these questions 😄
The thing about these questions is you should only be asking them if he tells you specifically or is giving you the impression that he wants to be exclusive or if you guys have been on a few dates and the spark is there from his side as well. It's too much like an interview and the purpose is obvious. It might come across as too much if you're meeting up for the first date and don't even know what you guys are about. I have a problem with guys telling me what they're looking for in the very beginning (even online sometimes before we even meet). It spoils everything because 1. if you tell me you just got out of a relationship and want fun I know for a fact rebounds won't enjoy their time because they are not priorities so I won't go for it when I can go for someone else (even if I wanted fun I still want to be respected). 2. if you tell me you're in it to stay I'll worry about having to reject you if it doesn't work out and we haven't even been out yet, it's pressure. I say stop stating what you're looking for in the beginning and just enjoy the moments before jumping into these interviews.
I imagine you wouldn't bombarded him with all these questions at once. Let's use our common sense ☺ We wouldn't ask these questions to just any man either. Again common sense hehe
Anna nailed it here. You've got to "pepper" these in over multiple dates. You may even use them all, in fact, you probably don't need to. You may even only use two, or one. Def DON'T use these in back-to-back, rapid fire question-asking or *anything close* to that 🙅🏻♂️
Avoid it if you can. If you aren't mentally strong or have low self esteem or lonely you could end up making really wrong decisions. It isn't bad but be careful
Thank you! This is some good advise, love it❤️...I will put into practice some time in the near future, because as of now I haven’t had any luck with the people I have met online yet. In fact I didn’t like online dating at all. It was my 1st time trying online dating and I’m disappointed big time😞 but I can certainly use your advice the near future for sure!
Hi Ryan. Okay so my question is unrelated to this topic but i've been texting and video calling with this guy for 3months now and he lives in another country. How do I know if he really likes me like he says he does?
He'll mention/discuss a plan of meeting up soon. At least in the time of Covid he should make it clear you're the first thing he travels for in the future. Just my two cents after waiting for someone for 3 years 🙄 if he doesn't save up/make concrete plan to fly to you, screw him
@@huonghuynh3501 Hi😊, well He said this thing between us is probably not going were i want it to go but he still wants to meet me in person and he isn't going anywhere. I don't get it😅
What about doing a background check on the guy you fell in love with? I'm trying to do a marine/military background check while he's not around me and criminal background checks on him.
Umm yikes, that seems a little over the top, I would probably recommend asking him, and if it's a guy you feel like you would absolutely need to ask him that, I would look for other red flags first.
Hey Ryan, regarding marker #4, what if marriage is an option for me and definitely no kids, but eventually want to settle down long term? What words can be used to make that statement?
9 of out 10 guys who are out there "looking" for interaction will not pass this kind of test - which is good, it cuts down a possible dissapointment early. Any human being who becomes avoidant and flaky, or just vague when asked early about their possible intentions is not a wise time investment(man or woman).
One thing I think needs to be added to that 'not the casual sex type' point is that it most likely wont work in the situation where the guy is really young and the girl is considerably older than him. Putting that out there to him will probably scare him away as you being too serious and seeking a commitment,rather than have a possible casual fun:)That assuming you are open for it of corse..
What if I’m not a family person and that I’m close with none of them? Not the first time this topic has been brought up in these videos and seems a little biased towards those that grew up in a healthy, happy and non abusive family. Js I do love your videos and your advice is great, just this topic always bothers me.
As I clearly acknowledge in this video, these questions aren't for everyone to use, ask, or even think about, especially regarding family. If it bothers you, move on to the next, Louisa. These are merely suggestions of topics to think about. You may not even use most of them and probably would not be in a situation where you'd ask every single one of these over time with one guy. Use your best judgement 😉
@louisa Choi I think it’s still a wise question for a couple of reasons. First, you can see what kind of family he had growing up. And Secondly, how much time and importance goes into his family life.
Hi Ryan! Love your videos! Question: when you say early on how early? I'm dating this guy it's only early days like 3 weeks and we already met twice. We actually talked about few of the things that you mention but some others seems too soon?
Subject for you : interested in a guy but kinda messed the vibe by explaning to much of your self/past/defaults.. he searches for friendship or else...
Patrick what age group are you talking about usually in your videos? What about older women (35+)? What about online dating? This seems to be only for younger women who date offline. I wonder, if for example in online dating it is always better for the guy to initiate first?
So how do you accomplish this without it coming off as an interview or an interrogation? All these Qu’s in one conversation is a lot yet if you break it up over time I feel he will shy away because it is a never ending physiological evaluation that men are never open to...How do I handle this Patrick?
I could quite possibly be dating myself here, but I find this whole thing extremely sad. It’s sad that people feel as though they have to “test each other” in this way. I am a woman, and if a man started asking me these almost “interrogation/interview style“ questions In our first few dates… I would be gone. Why would I be gone? I would consider a person who asks these sorts of questions to be possibly clingy, insecure and needy - NOT traits that I find desirable in either sex. Like I said, I may be dating myself (been married twice, lost my first husband after six years and currently heading towards 26 years of marriage on number two), but what happened to the good old days when you met somebody face-to-face and got to know them without having to ask deep and personal… Almost interview like questions. I don’t know… Maybe there is too much “game playing“ these days. If a man was truly interested in you in a serious way, you knew, because there was actually serious “dating“ going on. A guy wasn’t “dating“ you but at the same time spending hours on websites like Tinder, and chatting up other girls all over the place. He wasn’t sitting on Instagram and chatting up attention seeking females with half naked, heavily filtered cleavage pictures either. Maybe things have changed so much because people hide behind picture filters and online profiles? I’m not sure… It just saddens me to see this sort of stuff happening.
Zucker Rat I totally agree. The dating world has changed dramatically. You can’t meet anyone anymore who doesn’t play games so it becomes a world of “play or be played” very sad. The fact that one can just “next” another person for simply breathing wrong makes it a game in itself. It’s hard to truly get to know someone because they are gone before they ever get invested! Put all this together along with the young ones who bed hop just because they can-it makes the entire dating process nothing more than a cesspool! Doubtful I’ll ever find another forever person who is of quality.
Def never in one conversation. It's got to flow and you may find you don't need to use all of them, or even four of them. These are just some suggestions or things to think about. He's not going to shy away because you're NOT asking him these questions. Not at all. Sprinkle them into conversation where it makes sense 😉
These are very fair, direct questions to ask men. Straight shooters will have no problem answering them, and you have every right to ask them. It may seem like "interview" questions because of how I framed this entire video talking about my family member being an interrogator, but that FAR from how it's going to come off. It's just a way to peel an onion layer and get to deeper, more thought-provoking stuff. I'm not really sure what's sad about that, honestly 🤔
I think you might be missing my message in some of my videos. No one is talking about "Nexting another person for breathing wrong." It's about sorting through people who are either wasting your time or just aren't in symbiotic state that resonates with where YOU are in your life right now - that's all. I feel understanding the underlying intention of why it's important to get good at sorting (a process that's employs patience and *well-informed decision-making*) can really open you up to some core mindsets that can bring you some great success in today's dating endeavors 🙂
Hi Ryan, I had guy who kept messaging me on FB since like 6 to 7 years. Just a Hi, hello. Finally I replied and he gave his number. I added him. And we started chatting. He wanted me to meet him at his house. I denied. So now he stopped chatting and he is so angry with me. What should I do?? I want his attention now.
This was a really great video. I watched this after watching the one about how men test women and both were spot on in terms of important cues, I feel a bit more confident about the types of questions and markers to be mindful of on a date,
I'm terrible. I like a guy who I train. 😭. I'm not his personal trainer per se. I'm a personal trainer at a studio he trains, and his time is always on my shift so I always train him. Bleh. I wonder if this is a no go area.
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Can a guy you’re friends with caught feelings you because a guy friend zoned me but I would still like a relationship with him. I just hope all hope isn’t lost.
I also feel like he’s catching feelings for me
Ryan is that guy best friend we all need in our lives
True talk
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Agree 100 percent, Kayleigh!
I wished he were my neighbor
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I would love to see a video on how to avoid a narcissist because they're very clever and I'd like to avoid them at all cost.
From experience you will know if they are love bombing you and move way too fast in the beginning. The tricky part is narcissists are very smart and manipulative. They will make everything seem so natural and genuine but this is not the case. Any time someone moves too fast.. RUN!
I like this suggestion a great deal, Kimberly 👌 I'm putting together a great video on this one because this is a subject I know all too well. Thanks for chiming in! 😊
Yes, moving too fast is a HUGE tell, but there are a few others. I'll try to cover all of them in an upcoming video indeed 🙌
Also they seduce talking about themselves and how wonderful they are, so you start admiring them. He won't show too much interest in you or the things that he could admire from you.
I attract narcs... tips are always good x
I honestly look at his actions. It says a lot. And remember no communication is communicating no interest!
Yup and yup!!! 🥺🥺🥺
Hurts but true 🥲
I've been watching this everyday this week because I'm back in the dating game...so many gold nuggets in this.
My husband connected most with his mother. Being young and naive I did not realize that it would become a problem in our marriage. Many times I felt that her desires and wants came before mine with my husband. I dealt with it as best I could and am still married. But if a man tells you his mother is super important to him or he is very close to his mother you may really want to think about that one.
Yesss 👏🏽👏🏽
I went through the same thing and it was a nightmare! I dated my last boyfriend years back who was very close to his mother. Thankfully, we weren’t married. She was very dominant and intrusive. She didn’t like any of the women he dated, including me. One day she wrote me a nasty letter and literally mailed it to me. It got so bad that I had to file a restraining order and I hadn’t even met her yet at that time. I believe it was during the second or third year into our relationship. He was so torn between me and his parents. Then a year later I was diagnosed with breast cancer. He stayed by my side throughout my entire cancer treatment and he didn’t talk to his parents for months. It was one of the most difficult situation I’ve ever been in and the most heartbreaking experience after we broke up. Very, very painful. We were emotionally burned out and just couldn’t stay together. I’ve been single ever since. I would never want to be in that situation ever again. So, through that experience, I’ve been very mindful about the relationship with men and their mothers when I date. I was seeing one guy two years ago who doesn’t get along with his mother who is very controlling. That was a big red flag for me and I ended that relationship fast!
@@rw4898 Here here 🙌
@@accesstotheredcarpet I am sorry to hear of what you went through. Two key words you mentioned where dominant and intrusive. Those sure ring true with my experience. I hope that you are doing well and I am sending you love, happiness and a big hug.🌹
Def worth a little more investigating. Although I believe you DO want a man to have a good relationship with his mother, absolutely. The question becomes whether or not he's "flown the nest" psychologically and is living his own independent life and not still taking marching orders from either parent 🤦🏻♂️
He is the big brother we never had🙏
If I may suggest: #1 is the only question I'd ask on the first date. Ask the others at a time you think is appropriate. I'd never mention family or how I might fit into his life on the first, second or even third get together. If I were a man, those question would freak me out at the beginning.
You're so pure Ryan
You're too kind, Oluchi 🙂
I like you're videos... I'm a women of a particular age. I find that men these days speak like politicians. These questions are great but if he knows how to work ppl to get what he wants, he's going to answer in ways that he knows u want to hear. I look at actions and how he treats me. I always follow my intuition. Never steers me wrong.
If Marker #4 doesn't work for you because you don't want kids or marriage, flip it around and state that you don't want kids and/or marriage. I don't want kids and I make sure that my potential partner feels the same. Saves a lot of grief down the road! Thanks for the vids, Ryan!
Met this girl. Going out in three days. Taking notes, gotta be prepared. She's very well behaved, I can't miss this.
A friend told me see how he treats his mom. She had a few dates with a guy who wasn't very nice at times and she found out later from a friend of his that he treated his mom terribly.
Always look at the dude how he treats his mother, sisters or female strangers. If he treats em bad then u know how hes gonna treat u in da future
Well..idk. i just knew that his mother is rlly "stressed" him out. Bc she wants to know a lot and yeah he isn't so good with her. 🤨😂 Hmm haha
I don’t believe in love or relationships anymore, but I still find these types of videos interesting and on my feed.. glad I found you, Ryan! Keep up the good work and happy holidays, you and yours! 😊
Same here. These videos caused me to just see more red flags. What is the point moving on to the next if there is no next, or no better men.
That’s just you lmao it’s a you problem
Love yourself and love God. If a good man comes around that's great but we all can survive without a mate.
Same here ❤ I believe in love , but not able to believe in romantic love due to the way guys play mind games. Some are aggressive ,some are confused.
I will say, the police interrogator advice is useful in WAY more situations than just that.
#2 actually short circuits quite a few right pretty quickly. It's super frustrating, but yet saves a lot of time too.
The more I listen to his videos the less hope I have of a relationship. It's like the women have to do all the hoop jumping for them so they dont have to change. Win/win or keep talking until it is. I've been dating and learning and practicing for 25 years and I don't feel any closer to achieving and maintaining a successful relationship. I think achieving a Banner relationship with myself is my future final endeavor and I'm at peace with that.
Its because the advice he gives sets up the narrative that man have to do stuff to make things work which makes it seem like you do more then you actually do....Men can spot that about woman if they expect too much from the beginning.
A relationship is build casually and grows slowly...its like going to the gym....you dont have fit instantly you gotta respect the work progress.
I suggest you should stop with these video's and focus more on yourself and less about finding "the one" cause working on yourself is a very attractive characteristic many men AND woman would want to find in somebody
I feel the same way!!
Trust me, men feel the same way. My brother has the worst time finding a woman willing to work on herself.
Just LOVE your sense of humor, Patrick! You're hilarious and help viewers to keep a healthy perspective...
Thanks LJ! 🤗
For me, this has been Ryan Patrick's MOST USEFUL advice 👍👍👍
Great to hear! 🙂
i generally dont rly like the videos about how to test a person as it often seems to be quite toxic, so not sure why i even clicked on this video, but these are some legit good questions to ask to get to know a person. thank you
I thought i already knew the power questions til i watched this. Pure genius. Thanks ryan
This was an absolutely awesome video Ryan! I just started exclusively dating a guy last night and I asked the first 2 questions you mentioned. It helped me out tremendously on whether or not Josh(bf) was looking to settle down. Your videos have helped me out in so many ways! Thank you so much!! The only down fall is, I work with this man but on different shifts at work. However, we were friends years before we ever decided to start dating. :) I'm sharing this video with all my single girlfriends so you will have some new subs coming your way!!🤙
Awesome, Katie, thanks! 😀 And good luck! I'm happy to help! Just make sure to lean back, and don't be afraid to let things grow incrementally over time. Marathon, not the sprint 😉 You got this!
I feel like I’m in a job interview for dating. 😂
This was one of the most immediately applicable and informative videos you've put out. thank you ♥️ love the simple format where I can change the verbs or nouns to fit whatever my boundaries are
Your videos are so helpful. I’m dealing with a guy who’s very confusing right now so watching your videos are helpful to me!!
Ryan!! Please make a video for us who are struggling to figure out the whole "love" situation... When is it a good time to say it? How can you tell if your boyfriend loves you?
I do have a video on my channel about "how to say I love you to a man" somewhere, Olivia, although I can't find it at first glance... It was one of my earlier videos and is only a few minutes long, but it will be at least a good start 😉
Do you have any recommendations on how to tell if someone likes you during covid? Of course, being safe is the top priority. But having masks makes it super hard to read people. Any suggestions?
Rule number 1: get to a place where you are figuring out if you like THEM. Total game changer. You’re interviewing them to see if they are good enough for YOU. Who cares if they like you? If they don’t they aren’t to your standards anyway bc the guy for you likes you and shows it so there’s no guessing: next!
Ryan is so cute! Doesn't he talk just like one of the girls? Love this channel.
Omg. The most important video ever. !!! Will be watching again n taking notes. You’re the best. Thanks Ryan 😘😘😘
My x always used to say "you just tell them what you know they want/like to hear".
Yes he did and it took me a while to read between the lines.
I absolutely love your videos! You seem so real an down to earth. You also know the right subjects to bring up and give sound and actually useful advice. So many of these proclaimed "dating coaches" (personally I hate that name) give really wishy washy advice or advice that just isn't applicable to real life and real situations! You hit the nail on the head in pretty much most of these videos! What I like most is the fact it's not about manipulating someone or playing games. It's more about being real, open and secure as a way of "getting what you want" from life and saying no to the things which aren't good for you! Personally I struggle with slight anxious attachment which I'm working on, so things like setting boundaries can be difficult because you don't want the person to leave so you put up with toxic behaviours! --> IDEA ---> Perhaps you could do some advice on how people with different attachments deal with dating!!?? Hi from London!
Good questions to determine if you are on the same page
I can’t wait to try these once lockdown is over in Melbourne!
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How about the guy looking for Barbie instead of learning to love you from the inside out. I had a guy who enjoyed my wit but when he saw me he was turned off immediately.
Can't do much about him really. He wants barbie, he can go get barbie.
These are all so helpful, I wonder if you should ask these questions on the FIRST date?
I might sprinkle them in after a few dates have taken place. One here, one there - that kind of thing over a couple months of dating 😉
@@datingcoachryanpatrick Well let's say you asked on the first date what are his intentions and he tells you basically he's not looking for anything serious. Then there's no point to continue peeling the onion, right?
@@FarahwantsPeace You're going to know if he's serious or not based on his actions early on, not so much his words or by asking him that particular question. I'd rather see y'all watch his actions closely... is he initiating texts and setting up dates regularly with you? That kind of thing 🙂 Think of that question as something you maybe ask on date #3 or #4 to size up his personality and get a more informed sense of what he's looking for on a deeper level
Ryan fabulous questions...i would really like to see more videos on how to online date...omg been on at least 10 dud dates and more!
Very informative. Thanks for sharing
Ryan is the typical elder brother every girls would want to have
Great video Patrick wish I had seen a video like this 4 months ago!!!
Haha thanks Holly! ✨
Thanks, I'm just getting into a new relationship. This would be the perfect time for questions about our future.
Awesome stuff Ryan! These questions are gold!!!
I’m upfront with my likes and dislikes, my mental condition, why I can’t drink socially, my plans for the next five years, and yet I still don’t always get a date even after I give him my number. What am I doing wrong?
Have watched 3 or 4 videos of yours tonight - very useful into. Thanks.
These are gems!!!! Thanks 🙏🏾 I’ve always known these were the things to say but did not know how to say them directly, u know without all the blah blah inbetween! I can’t wait to try these things out! Definitely a craft I plan to practice and make my own! Thanks again
What about people who don't come from a picture perfect family? Most men I date are raised by their mom. I find it a bit discriminating the picture perfect questions.
I addressed the family question/issue pretty clearly in this video, Olivia. Not all questions will be appropriate to use with men; they’re meant to only be examples of things to bring up 🙂
I think many of us come from dysfunctional families and relationships. Just finding a great guy would be nice.
I'm very good at this and I will not stop
I need some advice. If a guy says he likes me and persistently wants me to be in a ldr with him, but does not initiate meeting or calling me on the phone (i gave him hints and told him directly that i wanna meet him), he still doesnt try to do any of that. What do i do?
Move on. They're stringing you along and likely just putting you in their "harem closet." 😳
Take my advice: NEXTTTT
Always look at action over words. AlWAYS ☺
They are telling you right! I was done the same way with a long distance Relationship that was a waste of my time for 8 months. I was doing all the work, I even talked to him about it...didn't do any good. I walked away then he acted shocked that I wanted to move on. SMH, my own fault 😒
Next please.
I think these questions at the beginning is too "aggressive". People can read between the lines, even dumb guys.
I think the key is to casually keep it part of the conversation. As you're talking, make it sound like just something that you thought in the spur of the moment, as opposed to reading it like a quiz.
They're just really sincere, honest questions that will only turn off guys who aren't looking for anything serious or have no intention of being real with you. But I can understand why that might come off as "aggressive" to people. You're certainly not "beating around the bush" with these questions 😄
100% 😌
Yes , they will feel like there on a job interview.
The thing about these questions is you should only be asking them if he tells you specifically or is giving you the impression that he wants to be exclusive or if you guys have been on a few dates and the spark is there from his side as well. It's too much like an interview and the purpose is obvious. It might come across as too much if you're meeting up for the first date and don't even know what you guys are about. I have a problem with guys telling me what they're looking for in the very beginning (even online sometimes before we even meet). It spoils everything because 1. if you tell me you just got out of a relationship and want fun I know for a fact rebounds won't enjoy their time because they are not priorities so I won't go for it when I can go for someone else (even if I wanted fun I still want to be respected). 2. if you tell me you're in it to stay I'll worry about having to reject you if it doesn't work out and we haven't even been out yet, it's pressure. I say stop stating what you're looking for in the beginning and just enjoy the moments before jumping into these interviews.
I imagine you wouldn't bombarded him with all these questions at once. Let's use our common sense ☺ We wouldn't ask these questions to just any man either. Again common sense hehe
Anna nailed it here. You've got to "pepper" these in over multiple dates. You may even use them all, in fact, you probably don't need to. You may even only use two, or one. Def DON'T use these in back-to-back, rapid fire question-asking or *anything close* to that 🙅🏻♂️
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@@annamarie3288 well thanks for your input. I must add though, what's common sense to you may not be to another, otherwise we wouldn't be here ;)
@@datingcoachryanpatrick hahaha. Alright that I can work with, thanks
Best advice for dating in college or early 20s?
Avoid it if you can. If you aren't mentally strong or have low self esteem or lonely you could end up making really wrong decisions. It isn't bad but be careful
Don't! Support your BFF. Live together, uplift each other.
Oh, lord! Those first questions would have helped me out so much with my ex-BF.
Use em with the next one, Lisa 😉
I love Ryan's way of explaining 😀🇦🇺
Binge watching your channel
Love it 🙌
Thank you! This is some good advise, love it❤️...I will put into practice some time in the near future, because as of now I haven’t had any luck with the people I have met online yet. In fact I didn’t like online dating at all.
It was my 1st time trying online dating and I’m disappointed big time😞 but I can certainly use your advice the near future for sure!
Hi Ryan. Okay so my question is unrelated to this topic but i've been texting and video calling with this guy for 3months now and he lives in another country. How do I know if he really likes me like he says he does?
He'll mention/discuss a plan of meeting up soon. At least in the time of Covid he should make it clear you're the first thing he travels for in the future. Just my two cents after waiting for someone for 3 years 🙄 if he doesn't save up/make concrete plan to fly to you, screw him
@@huonghuynh3501 Hi😊, well He said this thing between us is probably not going were i want it to go but he still wants to meet me in person and he isn't going anywhere. I don't get it😅
Ryan this is a jewel box of invaluable information! Thank you.
I need to learn how to communicate with guys through sports metaphors
I love all ur advices because I've been learning from what u say, Keep up the great work 💛
I really like your videos. They are helpful. You are the best. Thanks so much for sharing great advice.
very good, especially coming from someone younger.. impressive.
Hi Ryan great video! I did #3 and found out that he didn’t like anybody so that was a big game changer🤷♀️
Nice one, Kathy 👌
Woow you have nailed this video, love this
What about doing a background check on the guy you fell in love with? I'm trying to do a marine/military background check while he's not around me and criminal background checks on him.
I HIGHLY recommend this
Umm yikes, that seems a little over the top, I would probably recommend asking him, and if it's a guy you feel like you would absolutely need to ask him that, I would look for other red flags first.
Patrick is the best 🙂 Thank you for helping us ladies
My pleasure, Lili! 😀
Hi Ryan
I really love this topic👍 very helpful
Glad it was helpful! 🤟
❤️thank you.
Great info!
New subscriber here from Philippines. Hoping for your more advices and tips. 😇🙌
Hey Ryan, regarding marker #4, what if marriage is an option for me and definitely no kids, but eventually want to settle down long term? What words can be used to make that statement?
Just take out the kids part. Marriage conveys long term, so you should be all set 😉
Ryan Patrick you’re awesome 👏🏼. Thank you
Awesome, I’m putting these to the test! Thanks Ryan!
Thank you so much Ryan this is so useful! One of your best videos so far...actually i love them all haha 🙏🙏
Spot on!
These are good questions...Thanks Ryan🤔
Much love, Ryan!
I'd like some in put in online dating. Where when communicating online from other states and countries. Do think a true relationship can be true?
9 of out 10 guys who are out there "looking" for interaction will not pass this kind of test - which is good, it cuts down a possible dissapointment early. Any human being who becomes avoidant and flaky, or just vague when asked early about their possible intentions is not a wise time investment(man or woman).
It's useful for cutting out people with avoidant/anxious attachment styles, for sure
Great questions thanks Ryan. Will deffinitely ask them whilst dating and see the reactions. Very curious now... 😃
One thing I think needs to be added to that 'not the casual sex type' point is that it most likely wont work in the situation where the guy is really young and the girl is considerably older than him. Putting that out there to him will probably scare him away as you being too serious and seeking a commitment,rather than have a possible casual fun:)That assuming you are open for it of corse..
What if I’m not a family person and that I’m close with none of them? Not the first time this topic has been brought up in these videos and seems a little biased towards those that grew up in a healthy, happy and non abusive family. Js
I do love your videos and your advice is great, just this topic always bothers me.
As I clearly acknowledge in this video, these questions aren't for everyone to use, ask, or even think about, especially regarding family. If it bothers you, move on to the next, Louisa. These are merely suggestions of topics to think about. You may not even use most of them and probably would not be in a situation where you'd ask every single one of these over time with one guy. Use your best judgement 😉
@louisa Choi I think it’s still a wise question for a couple of reasons. First, you can see what kind of family he had growing up. And Secondly, how much time and importance goes into his family life.
Ryan Patrick yes. You’re right. I realise I’m having a emotional reaction to this one
Thanks, Ryan!
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Hi Ryan! Love your videos! Question: when you say early on how early? I'm dating this guy it's only early days like 3 weeks and we already met twice. We actually talked about few of the things that you mention but some others seems too soon?
I'd say once you're seeing him consistently (once a week for a month or so) and you feel things are heading in the right direction 👌
Subject for you : interested in a guy but kinda messed the vibe by explaning to much of your self/past/defaults.. he searches for friendship or else...
I love this channel
Patrick what age group are you talking about usually in your videos? What about older women (35+)? What about online dating? This seems to be only for younger women who date offline. I wonder, if for example in online dating it is always better for the guy to initiate first?
I love these 🤩🤩
Hi Ryan I love your video
So how do you accomplish this without it coming off as an interview or an interrogation? All these Qu’s in one conversation is a lot yet if you break it up over time I feel he will shy away because it is a never ending physiological evaluation that men are never open to...How do I handle this Patrick?
I could quite possibly be dating myself here, but I find this whole thing extremely sad.
It’s sad that people feel as though they have to “test each other” in this way.
I am a woman, and if a man started asking me these almost “interrogation/interview style“ questions In our first few dates… I would be gone.
Why would I be gone? I would consider a person who asks these sorts of questions to be possibly clingy, insecure and needy - NOT traits that I find desirable in either sex.
Like I said, I may be dating myself (been married twice, lost my first husband after six years and currently heading towards 26 years of marriage on number two), but what happened to the good old days when you met somebody face-to-face and got to know them without having to ask deep and personal… Almost interview like questions.
I don’t know… Maybe there is too much “game playing“ these days. If a man was truly interested in you in a serious way, you knew, because there was actually serious “dating“ going on. A guy wasn’t “dating“ you but at the same time spending hours on websites like Tinder, and chatting up other girls all over the place. He wasn’t sitting on Instagram and chatting up attention seeking females with half naked, heavily filtered cleavage pictures either.
Maybe things have changed so much because people hide behind picture filters and online profiles? I’m not sure… It just saddens me to see this sort of stuff happening.
Zucker Rat I totally agree. The dating world has changed dramatically. You can’t meet anyone anymore who doesn’t play games so it becomes a world of “play or be played” very sad. The fact that one can just “next” another person for simply breathing wrong makes it a game in itself. It’s hard to truly get to know someone because they are gone before they ever get invested! Put all this together along with the young ones who bed hop just because they can-it makes the entire dating process nothing more than a cesspool! Doubtful I’ll ever find another forever person who is of quality.
Def never in one conversation. It's got to flow and you may find you don't need to use all of them, or even four of them. These are just some suggestions or things to think about. He's not going to shy away because you're NOT asking him these questions. Not at all. Sprinkle them into conversation where it makes sense 😉
These are very fair, direct questions to ask men. Straight shooters will have no problem answering them, and you have every right to ask them. It may seem like "interview" questions because of how I framed this entire video talking about my family member being an interrogator, but that FAR from how it's going to come off. It's just a way to peel an onion layer and get to deeper, more thought-provoking stuff. I'm not really sure what's sad about that, honestly 🤔
I think you might be missing my message in some of my videos. No one is talking about "Nexting another person for breathing wrong." It's about sorting through people who are either wasting your time or just aren't in symbiotic state that resonates with where YOU are in your life right now - that's all. I feel understanding the underlying intention of why it's important to get good at sorting (a process that's employs patience and *well-informed decision-making*) can really open you up to some core mindsets that can bring you some great success in today's dating endeavors 🙂
"Want to know how to know a guys true intentions, the answer is very tactical, are you ready... just ask him." That was the gist of this video 😂
You are very entertaining to watch
Awesome tips
Glad you think so, Ruth! 😄
Thanks Ryan
Sure thing, Melinda!
Hi Ryan, I had guy who kept messaging me on FB since like 6 to 7 years. Just a Hi, hello. Finally I replied and he gave his number. I added him. And we started chatting. He wanted me to meet him at his house. I denied. So now he stopped chatting and he is so angry with me. What should I do?? I want his attention now.
Thank you 🙏
This really helped me thank u so much I love watching all ur videos xx
This was a really great video. I watched this after watching the one about how men test women and both were spot on in terms of important cues, I feel a bit more confident about the types of questions and markers to be mindful of on a date,
I'm terrible. I like a guy who I train. 😭. I'm not his personal trainer per se. I'm a personal trainer at a studio he trains, and his time is always on my shift so I always train him. Bleh. I wonder if this is a no go area.
Thank you very much I used this to my boyfriend 😁😁😁😁
Ryan. What if you can't have kids? When do you bring this up and how do you say it?
Definitely try and read the closed captions on this, wow...someone was smoking something lol
What's going on! Caption guy/girl is having a huge laugh at his expense...
“Tonight you and artifacts when the contract treatment...” 😂😂😂😂
I wonder if there are more appropriate questions for dating over 60 retired etc men????
The 3rd question 💯💯🤔