Black men who are healed/healing or even aware of the fact they need to be healed. Men that desire to love their wife well AND love Jesus still exist!! I never get tired of seeing it! You both represent the culture well ♥️
Why is it always with race? How about two very handsome kind men not black men you make it sound like there are no good black men who love there wife’s and that is not true. We have to stop with defying someone based on the color of there skin. We are all souls in the end and we could have lived other lives before I could have beeen a black man so we are not our color and to be technical based on our ancestors we all are mixed in this world he is not just a black man etc we all are mixed some have better tans then others.
To the people that are put out when individuals make reference to race. It's not that it's about race, we just wonna love up on our black men and give them the huge props they deserve for digging deep and sharing their love walk. Please don't hate when we make reference to our black men. Some women just want to celebrate them.......and we are liberated to do so🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
My ex used to say this to me all the time and he had a daughter . He was still a lying cheating manipulative POS. His poor daughter had so much anxiety and I realized later that it was bc he was all about talk and his actions didn’t match up. My ex has a very similar convo to Gil. These are different men of course but I get an eerily similar feeling when he speaks.
Preference over Purpose is very real! I almost passed on my husband because he wasn’t my ideal height! Thank God for maturity at 20 years old and the vision God gave me. We were married 2 years later and will be celebrating 9 years of marriage this year.
Most women want a man who leads financially . It makes us feel safe to be in a relationship with you. I think based on the culture she was raised in, everyone in the partnership being financially stable is a must. This incident is what caused her to see you in a different light, based on what I saw in the show. Financial stability is important to her. She kept saying it in each interview she sat down for.
This comment "Rejection is God's protection." It is Yahweh's of revealing the other person's agenda of what will happen in the future. Sometimes our gut instinct is evident but because of denial and some saying you're crazy, we sometimes miss our purpose.
@@rashonabarton4190 Very true. I've prayed people out of my life and became upset when they left. 🤣 Pride and ego will drown out Holy Spirit and discernment.
I come from a latin/hispanic background. This is the first time I hear of a Latin man going to therapy. First time hearing a latin man wanting to heal self first. Refreshing. This interview renewed my hope in the latin man. Thank you
@@cjsanti1035I really believe that each culture thinks their men are the worst about.... *not going to therapy *being controlling * not being self regulated emotionally. Maybe it's just men period. Back in the day before a marriage license was issued...the couple had to have a blood test to check for syphilis.... Maybe all young men should be required to go to therapy before a marriage license is issued to them😊
I cosign Gil on not wanting a relationship until healing has taken place. Gotta do the work. And as always, Laterras, your letters to your future wifey are phenomenal.
This episode was so refreshing. It’s so beautiful to see men really drill down on the importance of healing from pain. Men also experience pain from breakups as well as women, but it’s truly not spoken about.
So rare to see a man whose so intentional about his healing and commitment to marriage. Love this episode and will be sharing it with my Kings. Thank you for accepting the assignment!!!
I watched this series and the entire time I screamed at Gil "PLEASE DONT DO IT" This man conducted himself with such eloquence. I thought patience of Job. The experts got it wrong which is ok because he has so many lessons to make him an even more stellar than he already was. It's obvious that he is a "real good dude " one of the real ones. He needed to spotlighted to remind the world good men really do exsist.
How? He was not a gentleman. He called Myrla old. A diva princess. Made her feel bad for the things she worked hard for. Myrla did not say one bad thing about Gil. Go back watch the season. Then not to have half of the rent, when he just got paid. 😆. You can have sorry behind Gil.
Gil, Woody & Miles these 3 men were great examples of men that are not necessarily seen or shown on social media. I'm glad Gil is in therapy & healing. This was a great episode/conversation 🙂
A person shouldn't be your reason for your happiness. It's hard to say. But you have to find your joy in God. They should be making you a better person and vice versa.
Gentlemen, you both did a FANTASTIC job! I love seeing two black Kings who are emotionally intelligent and transparent. Keep up the good work. Much love to you both.
first of all: GIL IS FINE FINE. second: i always knew Mirla wasn’t his match bc their values are incongruent. she also grossly overestimates her value and attractiveness. she aight 🤷🏽♀️ third: this journey was always about Gil. he needed to know what he was capable of being and how ready he was to go after what we wanted. last: the next one will be the☝🏾 🖤🖤🖤
Married or not, alienating affection is cruel, unusual and shouldn't be accepted by anyone. It's not a sign, it's a fact, that the one alienating, has no connection with you.
God sent me to your podcast several months ago the night I decided to stop my pandemic smoking/drinking binge. I love it here in this space. I feel God's genuine warmth, love and protection. I'm married 20+ years and relate to many of the couples. Yet, particularly for me, you are a wonderful example of being intentional and obedient. On my heart is to pray for your future wifey's ability to see you clearly and to know that she is deserving/worthy of you---that you are not "too good" for her. Be blessed and thank you. 💯❤
I am joining you in prayer for our Bro. Laterras, that God would strengthen him and give him patience as the Most High gets his queen ready! This show is truly a ministry and it is ordained by God to heal the broken hearted and set captives free. So our men can lead and protect his people. 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Awesome interview!! I appreciate Gil's transparency in his healing and being intentional on his journey to find his purpose partner...that's just it, Mirla wasn't Gil's purpose partners, but she was definitely necessary in his journey to find his purpose partner. She became the catalyst for his complete healing from past experiences, so he'll be whole once he meets the wife God prepared for him!
Yes you are absolutely correct, there really are no mistakes in life, we sometimes don’t want to see it that way but I believe it and Gil got it. Some women has a beautiful surprise coming her way.
Omg, when I see a man cry, it just breaks my heart. I just want to hug him and let him know he'll be ok. When my mom died 2 yrs ago, my brother broke down crying for 3 days. I hadn't seen him cry like that since he was a kid. I had to really go into big sister mode. Another male friend's father died. He cried on my shoulders. I started crying with him. ❤
I absolutely love to see my black brothers doing the work to resolve their trauma’s, heal from heartbreak & ultimately become better men not just for themselves but for others as well. A healed man shows up in the world differently & it’s a beautiful thing to see. 👏🏾👏🏾
So good to hear a man passionate about getting healing so he can present his best self to his wife.... I'm not sure if this theory is right, but I believe we meet a person that will break us so we can get healing we need in order to get God's blessings. The healing process is the bridge that takes us to the "one". "You are worth all of this work." ... that's a great reminder. Sometimes the healing process seems endless and dreadful, but we gotta believe there's a great person on the other end of the bridge!
@Joyful n Blessed you're right. The healing process is painful and a lot of men tend to shy away from pain. Personally I think they might be afraid of the pain and maybe dealing with their short comings. I hope that men who need healing will understand that it's not shameful to seek help, it's actually a sign of strength. You're right! A lot of women do themselves a disservice entertaining men who need healing, hoping that their love will heal the men. But these ladies end up being torn down at the end. It's really terrible. I hope both men and women will seek healing so we can treat each other better. I think a lot of relationships can bring healing, but I think that happens during the friendship stage.
This episode was touching to hear how Gil handled his experience and what he’s doing for self recovery and not ashamed to truly open up about it💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾As for myself a man shedding truthful tears makes me know he’s ok expressing his true self !!!
I simply love Married at First Sight. I've been watching it since day one. The show is awesome because I learn something about myself through each couple. First season's Monet made me truly take a look at what I wanted and not play the Representative to get who I wanted. Though I don't think Gil was matched properly on so many levels, he is a great guy. I pray he finds the wife/his rib/help mate God created for him
Very similar. November 12 was a pivot in my life. On that day I chose to leave my home church, my daddy pastored, my family was there, I was involved in ministry but had to leave it all behind because I found out a man that I loved who decided to marry someone else wife was pregnant. There's a back story to that too. I was going through a traumatic heartbreak, backstory too. It began July 2013 until November 12. November 12th is a my birthday. The only time I though I could have some joy was caboshed. Since then I made efforts to reframe that date. I can relate, brother.
I am so glad I stumbled across this podcast! I too am in the "healing phase" after ending a relationship with a narcissist. I want love and marriage but I want to step into the next relationship full and whole. Gil is wonderful and a breath of fresh air, as is this podcast!
It’s so refreshing to watch men be in a safe space being fully transparent and expressive with their feelings. To be intentional about the healing process and to see a man stick it out while being conscious of a woman’s feelings. I absolutely LOVE this podcast!!!
@@winter8646 me either!!! I can appreciate episodes like this because it wasn’t “normal” while I was growing up or even as “normal” now unless there is direct connection.
He thought about her feelings when he used his rent money on his car and bought clothes, letting her pay what he promised to pay half. I hope he is less selfish in the future.
Ya Gil is not as innocent. He came off as very insecure by being too fixed on Myrla's bougie lifestyle! She still had a significant savings despite her luxury spending. He barely had savings and wanted her to cut back to make up for his lack of finances, a huge turn off. Yup read she had to pay for their apartment deposit upfront, he paid her his half later and his X5 wasn't in his own name. So red flag seems in terms of his credit.
@@madjoabutterfly I feel she kept giving him grace was due to being matched by the experts. If wasn't for that he would have been dumped by her sooner.
@@tangajTANG and grace because ultimately he is a good guy at heart. They just aren't equally yoked. Their values weren't aligned. I just hated how he always tried to chastise her taste and choices even though she could afford them! And he would ask her opinion, knowing her taste, then say she was being a bray. I didn't like that. All of those things could have possibly been worked through...but both would have had to want to and it would have had to do couples therapy.
This was such a great episode. THe vulnerability, authenticity & transparency of the both of you is admirable. Your desire for marriage and love is very beautiful. God's blessings to you both
Love this interview with Gil. I watched his episode of MAFS. I love them as a couple and was hurt at reunion. My heart went out to him. Wishing Gil the best. He's going to make some lady a good husband.
I’ve never watched MAFS, I’ve heard of the show, but never tuned in. I’m always amazed at how life is always trying to get us to our destiny/purpose and by life, I mean God. As a believer, I always asked myself what I’m I supposed to learn from this situation or experience I’ve had to withstand. It seems both of your past relationship experiences have pushed you both to love better and with the right intentions! Thanks for sharing.
I 👏🏽 loved 👏🏽 this 👏🏽 discussion. Ahh, so good. From a fan of the show MAFS, a wife of almost 30 years and the mother of two sons, so refreshing to see mature healthy Black Men discuss love and how to find and love their Queen. And you included God and ended in prayer 🙏🏽 keep God first in Everything. 💜
It's Never Too Late as you say Gil, especially for someone who experienced a traumatic event such as death of a parent. Never too late to love, learn, get an education or a good job, save money, and start a family. This explains why so many men (and women too) don't have it all together by age 30.
One of the top episodes. It’s so beautiful to see a black man value healing and marriage! As someone who is going through a divorce and still desires to be married it’s encouraging to see that there are men like Gil in this world!
Gil, Gil, Gil.. I just prayed for all the Gils I'm the world. Laterras God bless you and your guests in such a special way.. may Gil find his wife in Jesus name. May she be overwhelmed and overcome to enjoy and experience his love and even more so the love of the Father. Laterras, you are setting a blaze a beautiful path for men to walk in. Keep journeying the uncharted roads that will be paved after you share. Peace and blessing my brothers.
Good to hear truth from our men. Most men feel the way Gil feel as it relates to needing time to heal but the pressure from society pressures them to keep moving. I pray our men find space to be whole between relationships
Another phenomenal episode. I thoroughly appreciate the fact you give voice to diverse experiences of our journey to fulfillment, wholeness and destiny. Beautiful and refreshing to hear authentic and vulnerable men share their stories👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Healing is so important. It cannot he stressed enough. Not just from past relationships but life. Life can really deal a powerful blow and in that can shape our perspectives on life. I enjoyed this, my heart goes out to him regarding his father. I'm healing too and have a therapist uncovering a lot in my past.
This podcast is very interesting it’s good to hear Gil side of the story. Him and his mother having such a great relationship makes him love a woman and treat her good because the way a black man treat his mother as a Queen he will do the same to any woman who he invites into his life. I wish Gil all the best be strong and let go and Let God. One brother talking to a next brother shows how transparent and authentic you guys are. Patience is a virtue and I respect Gil for all the patience he had during the whole process. Good he’s taking the time to heal first before he move forward again. Great Job guys well done.
I absolutely love this conversation. As a Latina I see it so often in the Latino community where counseling is a taboo and most will not think twice to say no to therapy because they "don't need it". I myself have gone through therapy for childhood and relationship trauma to help me heal. I raised my children mainly without their dad (single mom). Their dad was there every now and then however not consistent with being there emotionally or physically when needed. He is trying to heal those relationships with my son and daughter now. I see my son not having that father figure there to guide him like you said and it pains me. I as a mom can do and show but so much. I am grateful that my son and daughter have become good adults with guidance from myself and my family to help give them advice. I have more podcast/youtube videos to listen to however I want to say thanks Laterras for bringing the content! #healfirst
I'm a huge fan of MAFS (I've watched every season) and I have to admit that, although I liked how Gil conducted himself on the show, I did not like how he didn't protect Myrla as his wife. I've noticed that he hasn't been made to be responsible for that. It's almost like most people believe he was a saint and Myrla was just evil. But I do wish him the best and I hope he's found his true love. Great interview, Laterras. ❤
Wow…this was another good one…my goodness, this platform is something else!!! This podcast is needed on so many levels. Thank you so much!! Wait y’all are praying…wow…how healing this is!! 😭😭❤️❤️😭😭
Loved this episode! Nice to hear about a brother getting his healing on. Never watched that show, but I may have to go find it. I wish this young brother well.
Yes it HAS to be different this time. A big part of my healing is being transparent with men about my stance on abstaining until I'm married. Although being rejected may become the norm of revealing this, I'm at peace with the spiritual growth I'm making. DFW and brave and transparent guest such as this are aiding in the process and I have to keep trusting that God will direct me to my God- ordained husband(King) and he'll identify me as the Jewel in His Crown 👑 It's not easy but I'm sure it'll be worth it 🙌🏾 #healing #theirloss
Great session. Very much appreciate Gil's transparency. Gil, you showed up well with great maturity and have a beautiful approach to your role in marriage. You're a great example and your future wifey is a very blessed woman.
I could tell this young man was genuine when I watched the episodes of MAF. And to recognize and accept and intentionally take the time to work on personal healing is so good to both hear and see when it comes today men.
My goodness wow! I really enjoyed this episode! This episode was so raw and honest and authentic! And the prayer at the end was pretty amazing! It's such a blessing to know there are still good black praying men!
I am so very glad that Gil agreed to be a guest on this show. This blessed me. Great things are in his future and I eagerly await his future endeavors.
Amazing prayers in Spanish and English. I watched very few episodes of mafs. Gil definitely stood out and I could see the disconnect between Gil and his ex wife. I'm sorry you went thru that. You seem grounded, humble and the right one will see you for who you truly are. I pray you heal. You will make your next counterpart happy and i hope she makes you just as happy 🙏 🙌🏽💫 Refreshing discussion. Gives me hope that there are men out there wanting to intentionally invest in a commitment.
I have to say this was the most authentic, transparent, and inspirational interview I have ever seen. Truly amazing. The unfortunate part is when I saw three episodes of the show I knew that young lady was not the one for Mr. Gil. I saw my son in him and did not feel she was the one, but I was hoping for the best. He’s definitely genuine. I’m definitely in agreement with your prayer because it’s rough out here in this single life. We take for granted the power of being healed, both men and women. God bless the both of you and keep doing what you’re doing.
Another amazing episode! So moved and inspired by Gil. Praying for you as you heal and grow. May we all keep healing and working to be the best we can be. Amen 🙏🏾
Enjoyed the video!!! 100% For a man to detect when someone is open or even detecting rejection, then know how to be patient and wait and sensitive, is truly a miracle and a gift.
I have sent his video to 3 nephews, wanted to send to my son John Bell, he has had a poor example, his father so he is broken. He feels he needs no help. Please pray for him.
Married at first sight can be a catch 22. I say this because although there's a pastor (man led by God) involved there's still science and study involved and ppl are matched based on personality, compatibility, character ect. It's still a hit of miss. With that being said, I still enjoy the process of watching ppl placed together who you'd never imagine that would be put together, that sometimes last (Doug n Jamie).
Yes!!! Let's speak towards our Emotional Intelligence. Traumas past and present if not addressed and healed from will dictate our future. Knowing our worth affects and effects our men as well. It begins with being real with ourselves. If you're unable to be your authentic self, then who will know your truth? We must be willing to remove the bandaid from the wounds, breathe, and heal in it's designated time. I respect our men for acknowledging their needs for mental health and wellness.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Listen, I just tuned in because I'm divorced and I wanted to hear about somebody that's healing from divorce. I'm not a TV person so I've never watched marriage at first sight. But my brother Gil, representing the afro Latin community, Plus he's prayed in Spanish and he's a firefighter 😍 Thank you for letting him bring some good conversation to your podcast. Im taking the recording your therapy sessions and using it 💯
I love married at first sight...and I'm so happy gil is in a great place...this podcast give me so much confirmation and hope...im healing and waiting on my perfect man..he is not perfect but he is perfect for me..
When he talks about the death of his father, that’s exactly how I felt. Even though my father died of natural causes, still I was in shock I didn’t process it honestly…of course I cried but like at his funeral I didn’t cry..it was just me not wanting to accept it mainly, he’s been gone for two years now and it’s something I’m still trying to make peace with and accept, I was definitely a daddy’s girl so it was for sure difficult.
prayers. My dad transitioned 3 years ago and I still miss him like crazy! I wish that I had been more intentional with the time we had. Praying that God give you peace..My advice would be to look for signs. I saw dragonflies often after my dad passed. He will send you signs that all is well. That is what I believe anyway..God speed
@@MsLi-ef1xp yes thank you, I often have dreams about him so that’s what I love the most. But I’m not specific I guess when looking for a sign from him..i do always talk to him when I’m feeling stressed or overwhelmed, most definitely when it comes to my prayers
Wow, there is something that I'm realizing, and that is how you bring restoration to these ones who are hurting. I saw it with the last couple, that lady how she was when the show show stated and how she was when it ending, is completely different, even in her body language. That lady was fractured and in another mode, she was restless, but I saw light, calm & peace come into her eyes each time you spoke life into an event in their relationship that seemed bad. I saw her eyes light up and her mind switch on when you spoke to her, she received revelation. People know the mistakes they make or have made, they beat themselves up, the enemy beats them up, then there's the nasty people on social media, then you give them the complete opposite which is compassion & building up, you remind them that God loves them. You did again with this brother, I'm telling you, these guests walk away viewing God in a different light, as Father who loves them. Hmmmmm......
The one sentence that impacted me. Is when Gil said " I don't care about that other person this is my wife". I come on this podcast to hear the Men mostly. On point Latteras always
Great discussion! #Healing is essential! At times #TheWait gets uncomfortable. But 99% of time 😊 this Journey is peaceful and blessed! I thank and trust God in all things. 🙏🏾🙌🏾 Take great care 💙
Thank you for putting him on the show. I was wondering how he was doing after being on Married at first sight. Genuine nice guy and Intentional on finding person.
I love Gil's transparency, raw honesty, and unapologetically being his authentic self! I pray for the completion of his wholeness journey & the manifestation of new love when the time is right! Beautifully Human episode I so appreciate it❕️ 🤍🕊🙏
What an awesome podcast! I came here because I knew Gil was the guest. I thoroughly enjoyed BOTH of you. Your conversation made me think and actually laugh out loud. I'm so glad I found your channel.
It’s so refreshing to see a man that was so intentional, want to be married & want therapy that’s so rare in today time. Your forever person is coming Gil!!
Amazing content with real conversation and transparency. I sincerely appreciate what you both have poured out. I appreciate your authenticity and openness. We women need to hear and restore our faith in trusting that there are men who enjoy communicating. Keep doing the work. Your Queens are coming!! Blessings and Love on your journey 🙌🙏🙌
Woooow... Just on time this episode... 🔥💯 One thing that cut my attention and realize that man or woman that goes through a divorce, the women has more support than men. Sadly but truth because women and men, both we need help. I'm glad you've stepped up for yourself, that you take care of yourself emotionally, mentally and that's hard to see in men. It's a stereotype that men don't need help, when they go through divorce in their lives and that's not true. Thank you very much Gil for sharing what you have been through and I know that God continues to guide you to find that person for you. 😳Gil, when you pray in Spanish, I said, wait a minute... I also speak Spanish... And that change of voice, ok. 😅 Your prayer was humble. God knows your heart. Thank you Laterras for continuing to help us look at both sides of a relationship, women and men opinions. Healing our hearts before starting a new relationship, and continue to build our lives with or without a partner. I loved it! ❤️💯
I watched several seasons of MAFS and I have a lot of respect for Gil. He was not perfect throughout the process but he was genuine in his pursuit and honest in his communication with everyone (whether they were receptive to it or not). I appreciate that he acknowledges that he needs to heal before he moves on to another relationship, which is the ONLY reason I haven’t shot my shot lol. Cheering for you and hoping for God’s best for you, Gil.
Black men who are healed/healing or even aware of the fact they need to be healed. Men that desire to love their wife well AND love Jesus still exist!! I never get tired of seeing it! You both represent the culture well ♥️
Amen 🙏🏾
Yes! Love to see it!
Black men that love black women,don't forget that part
Two black men talking about being a husband. This makes me so proud to be a melanated sister. I support you both.
Why is it always with race? How about two very handsome kind men not black men you make it sound like there are no good black men who love there wife’s and that is not true. We have to stop with defying someone based on the color of there skin. We are all souls in the end and we could have lived other lives before I could have beeen a black man so we are not our color and to be technical based on our ancestors we all are mixed in this world he is not just a black man etc we all are mixed some have better tans then others.
Yet neither is married so it’s nice but still the same to me ijs
To the people that are put out when individuals make reference to race.
It's not that it's about race, we just wonna love up on our black men and give them the huge props they deserve for digging deep and sharing their love walk. Please don't hate when we make reference to our black men. Some women just want to celebrate them.......and we are liberated to do so🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
"For your own mental health, take mixed signals as a no." Take care and best wishes to Gil
Facts
Wise words 👏 👌 🙌
💯💯
this is 100% true. Nobody that wants to be with you will ever want you to be confused about how they feel for you
Wow, it hit me when you said to your daughter, that as her father it is your job to keep a smile on her face. I wish many fathers knew that
Amen!
My ex used to say this to me all the time and he had a daughter . He was still a lying cheating manipulative POS. His poor daughter had so much anxiety and I realized later that it was bc he was all about talk and his actions didn’t match up. My ex has a very similar convo to Gil. These are different men of course but I get an eerily similar feeling when he speaks.
I suffered many mishaps due to a neglected father, sob
Preference over Purpose is very real! I almost passed on my husband because he wasn’t my ideal height! Thank God for maturity at 20 years old and the vision God gave me. We were married 2 years later and will be celebrating 9 years of marriage this year.
Great job!
Most women want a man who leads financially . It makes us feel safe to be in a relationship with you. I think based on the culture she was raised in, everyone in the partnership being financially stable is a must. This incident is what caused her to see you in a different light, based on what I saw in the show. Financial stability is important to her. She kept saying it in each interview she sat down for.
Great conversation guys. Gill was a true gentleman during the process. Rejection is God's protection and blessing. 💗
“🕊REJECTION IS THE MOST HIGH’S PROTECTION & BLESSING” HALLELELA
🕊💜👑🙌🏾
This comment "Rejection is God's protection."
It is Yahweh's of revealing the other person's agenda of what will happen in the future.
Sometimes our gut instinct is evident but because of denial and some saying you're crazy, we sometimes miss our purpose.
@@rashonabarton4190 Very true. I've prayed people out of my life and became upset when they left. 🤣 Pride and ego will drown out Holy Spirit and discernment.
This is a good way to look at it because the rejection is tough and hurts. Thanks for sharing.
I come from a latin/hispanic background. This is the first time I hear of a Latin man going to therapy. First time hearing a latin man wanting to heal self first. Refreshing. This interview renewed my hope in the latin man. Thank you
Wow! That's awesome.
Not me Sis I need Therapy to be trending in the Latin community before my faith is restored in Latino men 🙁. It is tiny glimmer of hope though.
@@cjsanti1035I really believe that each culture thinks their men are the worst about....
*not going to therapy
*being controlling
* not being self regulated emotionally.
Maybe it's just men period.
Back in the day before a marriage license was issued...the couple had to have a blood test to check for syphilis....
Maybe all young men should be required to go to therapy before a marriage license is issued to them😊
Not only is he intelligent, he is EMOTIONALLY intelligent and thats what makes him a unicorn... I appreciate you Gil!!
I cosign Gil on not wanting a relationship until healing has taken place. Gotta do the work. And as always, Laterras, your letters to your future wifey are phenomenal.
Thank you
And getting his rent.
Don't put your preferences before your standards.
Heal before you deal.
This episode was so refreshing. It’s so beautiful to see men really drill down on the importance of healing from pain. Men also experience pain from breakups as well as women, but it’s truly not spoken about.
So rare to see a man whose so intentional about his healing and commitment to marriage. Love this episode and will be sharing it with my Kings. Thank you for accepting the assignment!!!
I watched this series and the entire time I screamed at Gil "PLEASE DONT DO IT" This man conducted himself with such eloquence. I thought patience of Job. The experts got it wrong which is ok because he has so many lessons to make him an even more stellar than he already was. It's obvious that he is a "real good dude " one of the real ones. He needed to spotlighted to remind the world good men really do exsist.
How? He was not a gentleman. He called Myrla old. A diva princess. Made her feel bad for the things she worked hard for. Myrla did not say one bad thing about Gil. Go back watch the season. Then not to have half of the rent, when he just got paid. 😆. You can have sorry behind Gil.
Gil, Woody & Miles these 3 men were great examples of men that are not necessarily seen or shown on social media.
I'm glad Gil is in therapy & healing.
This was a great episode/conversation 🙂
Yes! I love all 3 🙌🏽🤗♥️
A person shouldn't be your reason for your happiness. It's hard to say. But you have to find your joy in God. They should be making you a better person and vice versa.
Gentlemen, you both did a FANTASTIC job! I love seeing two black Kings who are emotionally intelligent and transparent. Keep up the good work. Much love to you both.
Purpose Not Preference. That's a phenomenal word. Many need to hear and heed. I try to teach my sister's this word.
first of all: GIL IS FINE FINE.
second: i always knew Mirla wasn’t his match bc their values are incongruent. she also grossly overestimates her value and attractiveness. she aight 🤷🏽♀️
third: this journey was always about Gil. he needed to know what he was capable of being and how ready he was to go after what we wanted.
last: the next one will be the☝🏾
🖤🖤🖤
Good observation
She think she JLo 😂
Married or not, alienating affection is cruel, unusual and shouldn't be accepted by anyone. It's not a sign, it's a fact, that the one alienating, has no connection with you.
This podcast was incredible. Gil is so transparent.
God sent me to your podcast several months ago the night I decided to stop my pandemic smoking/drinking binge. I love it here in this space. I feel God's genuine warmth, love and protection. I'm married 20+ years and relate to many of the couples. Yet, particularly for me, you are a wonderful example of being intentional and obedient. On my heart is to pray for your future wifey's ability to see you clearly and to know that she is deserving/worthy of you---that you are not "too good" for her. Be blessed and thank you. 💯❤
I am joining you in prayer for our Bro. Laterras, that God would strengthen him and give him patience as the Most High gets his queen ready! This show is truly a ministry and it is ordained by God to heal the broken hearted and set captives free. So our men can lead and protect his people. 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Awesome interview!! I appreciate Gil's transparency in his healing and being intentional on his journey to find his purpose partner...that's just it, Mirla wasn't Gil's purpose partners, but she was definitely necessary in his journey to find his purpose partner. She became the catalyst for his complete healing from past experiences, so he'll be whole once he meets the wife God prepared for him!
Amen! 🥰
Well said❤️❤️
Amen!
Yes you are absolutely correct, there really are no mistakes in life, we sometimes don’t want to see it that way but I believe it and Gil got it. Some women has a beautiful surprise coming her way.
Omg, when I see a man cry, it just breaks my heart. I just want to hug him and let him know he'll be ok. When my mom died 2 yrs ago, my brother broke down crying for 3 days. I hadn't seen him cry like that since he was a kid. I had to really go into big sister mode. Another male friend's father died. He cried on my shoulders. I started crying with him. ❤
I absolutely love to see my black brothers doing the work to resolve their trauma’s, heal from heartbreak & ultimately become better men not just for themselves but for others as well. A healed man shows up in the world differently & it’s a beautiful thing to see. 👏🏾👏🏾
So good to hear a man passionate about getting healing so he can present his best self to his wife.... I'm not sure if this theory is right, but I believe we meet a person that will break us so we can get healing we need in order to get God's blessings. The healing process is the bridge that takes us to the "one".
"You are worth all of this work." ... that's a great reminder. Sometimes the healing process seems endless and dreadful, but we gotta believe there's a great person on the other end of the bridge!
This comment is enlightening! Sooooo true!
@@vict6554 I'm glad it was enlightening ☺️
@Joyful n Blessed you're right. The healing process is painful and a lot of men tend to shy away from pain. Personally I think they might be afraid of the pain and maybe dealing with their short comings. I hope that men who need healing will understand that it's not shameful to seek help, it's actually a sign of strength.
You're right! A lot of women do themselves a disservice entertaining men who need healing, hoping that their love will heal the men. But these ladies end up being torn down at the end. It's really terrible.
I hope both men and women will seek healing so we can treat each other better.
I think a lot of relationships can bring healing, but I think that happens during the friendship stage.
@Joyful n Blessed 🙏🏾❤️
@ij_ thank you ☺️
This episode was touching to hear how Gil handled his experience and what he’s doing for self recovery and not ashamed to truly open up about it💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾As for myself a man shedding truthful tears makes me know he’s ok expressing his true self !!!
I simply love Married at First Sight. I've been watching it since day one. The show is awesome because I learn something about myself through each couple. First season's Monet made me truly take a look at what I wanted and not play the Representative to get who I wanted. Though I don't think Gil was matched properly on so many levels, he is a great guy. I pray he finds the wife/his rib/help mate God created for him
I agree Monet made me dig dipper into what a traditional men is so that I could know what I need in a husband
Great conversation! This is refreshing to see…men taking the time to learn, heal, and prepare to be the husband that they desire to be.
Absolutely!!
Very similar. November 12 was a pivot in my life. On that day I chose to leave my home church, my daddy pastored, my family was there, I was involved in ministry but had to leave it all behind because I found out a man that I loved who decided to marry someone else wife was pregnant. There's a back story to that too. I was going through a traumatic heartbreak, backstory too. It began July 2013 until November 12. November 12th is a my birthday. The only time I though I could have some joy was caboshed. Since then I made efforts to reframe that date. I can relate, brother.
I am so glad I stumbled across this podcast! I too am in the "healing phase" after ending a relationship with a narcissist. I want love and marriage but I want to step into the next relationship full and whole. Gil is wonderful and a breath of fresh air, as is this podcast!
It’s so refreshing to watch men be in a safe space being fully transparent and expressive with their feelings. To be intentional about the healing process and to see a man stick it out while being conscious of a woman’s feelings. I absolutely LOVE this podcast!!!
I’m loving it as well, I’ve never really seen that growing up in my household so seeing this is good & refreshing
@@winter8646 me either!!! I can appreciate episodes like this because it wasn’t “normal” while I was growing up or even as “normal” now unless there is direct connection.
He thought about her feelings when he used his rent money on his car and bought clothes, letting her pay what he promised to pay half.
I hope he is less selfish in the future.
Ya Gil is not as innocent. He came off as very insecure by being too fixed on Myrla's bougie lifestyle! She still had a significant savings despite her luxury spending. He barely had savings and wanted her to cut back to make up for his lack of finances, a huge turn off. Yup read she had to pay for their apartment deposit upfront, he paid her his half later and his X5 wasn't in his own name. So red flag seems in terms of his credit.
@@madjoabutterfly I feel she kept giving him grace was due to being matched by the experts. If wasn't for that he would have been dumped by her sooner.
@@tangajTANG and grace because ultimately he is a good guy at heart. They just aren't equally yoked. Their values weren't aligned.
I just hated how he always tried to chastise her taste and choices even though she could afford them! And he would ask her opinion, knowing her taste, then say she was being a bray. I didn't like that. All of those things could have possibly been worked through...but both would have had to want to and it would have had to do couples therapy.
It wasn't just you... Everyone cried with Gil during the reunion show! Wish you both the best.
This was such a great episode. THe vulnerability, authenticity & transparency of the both of you is admirable. Your desire for marriage and love is very beautiful. God's blessings to you both
That prayer in Spanish!!!! So beautiful!
Love this interview with Gil. I watched his episode of MAFS. I love them as a couple and was hurt at reunion. My heart went out to him. Wishing Gil the best. He's going to make some lady a good husband.
I’ve never watched MAFS, I’ve heard of the show, but never tuned in. I’m always amazed at how life is always trying to get us to our destiny/purpose and by life, I mean God. As a believer, I always asked myself what I’m I supposed to learn from this situation or experience I’ve had to withstand. It seems both of your past relationship experiences have pushed you both to love better and with the right intentions! Thanks for sharing.
These type of love reality shows never work out. Bachelor, ready to love, etc.
Exactly!
Watching your podcast is showing me that their are truly some good godly men in the world. Thanks Laterra
I 👏🏽 loved 👏🏽 this 👏🏽 discussion. Ahh, so good. From a fan of the show MAFS, a wife of almost 30 years and the mother of two sons, so refreshing to see mature healthy Black Men discuss love and how to find and love their Queen. And you included God and ended in prayer 🙏🏽 keep God first in Everything. 💜
Gil is a beautiful person with a matching spirit. Recognizing and admitting you are in the healing phase of your life is intentional.
It's Never Too Late as you say Gil, especially for someone who experienced a traumatic event such as death of a parent. Never too late to love, learn, get an education or a good job, save money, and start a family. This explains why so many men (and women too) don't have it all together by age 30.
I'm ready for this because these dating streets are treacherous.
The dating pool has urine in it.😣😩🤣😂 As well as muddy waters, because folks are out here "switching teams".
@h s Say it again for the people it the back
Gil Cuero this was a great interview and thank you for your transparency ,
Dear Future wifey nice podcast .
Thanks for listening
One of the top episodes. It’s so beautiful to see a black man value healing and marriage! As someone who is going through a divorce and still desires to be married it’s encouraging to see that there are men like Gil in this world!
What a great interview Gil and Laterras gave me so much hope. Can't wait to meet my own "Gil". Praying for all of us!! Gracias Gil!!
Gil, Gil, Gil.. I just prayed for all the Gils I'm the world. Laterras God bless you and your guests in such a special way.. may Gil find his wife in Jesus name. May she be overwhelmed and overcome to enjoy and experience his love and even more so the love of the Father. Laterras, you are setting a blaze a beautiful path for men to walk in. Keep journeying the uncharted roads that will be paved after you share. Peace and blessing my brothers.
Good to hear truth from our men. Most men feel the way Gil feel as it relates to needing time to heal but the pressure from society pressures them to keep moving. I pray our men find space to be whole between relationships
Another phenomenal episode. I thoroughly appreciate the fact you give voice to diverse experiences of our journey to fulfillment, wholeness and destiny. Beautiful and refreshing to hear authentic and vulnerable men share their stories👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Healing is so important. It cannot he stressed enough. Not just from past relationships but life. Life can really deal a powerful blow and in that can shape our perspectives on life. I enjoyed this, my heart goes out to him regarding his father. I'm healing too and have a therapist uncovering a lot in my past.
This podcast is very interesting it’s good to hear Gil side of the story. Him and his mother having such a great relationship makes him love a woman and treat her good because the way a black man treat his mother as a Queen he will do the same to any woman who he invites into his life. I wish Gil all the best be strong and let go and Let God. One brother talking to a next brother shows how transparent and authentic you guys are. Patience is a virtue and I respect Gil for all the patience he had during the whole process. Good he’s taking the time to heal first before he move forward again. Great Job guys well done.
I absolutely love this conversation. As a Latina I see it so often in the Latino community where counseling is a taboo and most will not think twice to say no to therapy because they "don't need it". I myself have gone through therapy for childhood and relationship trauma to help me heal. I raised my children mainly without their dad (single mom). Their dad was there every now and then however not consistent with being there emotionally or physically when needed. He is trying to heal those relationships with my son and daughter now. I see my son not having that father figure there to guide him like you said and it pains me. I as a mom can do and show but so much. I am grateful that my son and daughter have become good adults with guidance from myself and my family to help give them advice. I have more podcast/youtube videos to listen to however I want to say thanks Laterras for bringing the content! #healfirst
I'm a huge fan of MAFS (I've watched every season) and I have to admit that, although I liked how Gil conducted himself on the show, I did not like how he didn't protect Myrla as his wife. I've noticed that he hasn't been made to be responsible for that. It's almost like most people believe he was a saint and Myrla was just evil. But I do wish him the best and I hope he's found his true love. Great interview, Laterras. ❤
Wow…this was another good one…my goodness, this platform is something else!!! This podcast is needed on so many levels. Thank you so much!! Wait y’all are praying…wow…how healing this is!! 😭😭❤️❤️😭😭
Loved this episode! Nice to hear about a brother getting his healing on. Never watched that show, but I may have to go find it. I wish this young brother well.
Yes it HAS to be different this time. A big part of my healing is being transparent with men about my stance on abstaining until I'm married. Although being rejected may become the norm of revealing this, I'm at peace with the spiritual growth I'm making. DFW and brave and transparent guest such as this are aiding in the process and I have to keep trusting that God will direct me to my God- ordained husband(King) and he'll identify me as the Jewel in His Crown 👑 It's not easy but I'm sure it'll be worth it 🙌🏾 #healing #theirloss
Great session. Very much appreciate Gil's transparency. Gil, you showed up well with great maturity and have a beautiful approach to your role in marriage. You're a great example and your future wifey is a very blessed woman.
I could tell this young man was genuine when I watched the episodes of MAF. And to recognize and accept and intentionally take the time to work on personal healing is so good to both hear and see when it comes today men.
My goodness wow! I really enjoyed this episode! This episode was so raw and honest and authentic! And the prayer at the end was pretty amazing! It's such a blessing to know there are still good black praying men!
I really enjoyed this podcast. There were several points that stuck with me and I grateful to hear this from a man’s perspective.
- Many Blessings
The transparency is beautiful. Thank you gentlemen for being open to share, God bless.
I am so very glad that Gil agreed to be a guest on this show. This blessed me. Great things are in his future and I eagerly await his future endeavors.
Amazing prayers in Spanish and English. I watched very few episodes of mafs. Gil definitely stood out and I could see the disconnect between Gil and his ex wife. I'm sorry you went thru that. You seem grounded, humble and the right one will see you for who you truly are. I pray you heal. You will make your next counterpart happy and i hope she makes you just as happy 🙏 🙌🏽💫 Refreshing discussion. Gives me hope that there are men out there wanting to intentionally invest in a commitment.
I have to say this was the most authentic, transparent, and inspirational interview I have ever seen. Truly amazing. The unfortunate part is when I saw three episodes of the show I knew that young lady was not the one for Mr. Gil. I saw my son in him and did not feel she was the one, but I was hoping for the best. He’s definitely genuine. I’m definitely in agreement with your prayer because it’s rough out here in this single life. We take for granted the power of being healed, both men and women. God bless the both of you and keep doing what you’re doing.
“I know that I will be healed, when that’s not even a thought “ 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
The beauty of no longer wasting your time. Love the transparency 🙏🏾❤️💪🏾
Another amazing episode! So moved and inspired by Gil. Praying for you as you heal and grow. May we all keep healing and working to be the best we can be. Amen 🙏🏾
Enjoyed the video!!! 100% For a man to detect when someone is open or even detecting rejection, then know how to be patient and wait and sensitive, is truly a miracle and a gift.
I have sent his video to 3 nephews, wanted to send to my son John Bell, he has had a poor example, his father so he is broken. He feels he needs no help. Please pray for him.
Married at first sight can be a catch 22. I say this because although there's a pastor (man led by God) involved there's still science and study involved and ppl are matched based on personality, compatibility, character ect. It's still a hit of miss. With that being said, I still enjoy the process of watching ppl placed together who you'd never imagine that would be put together, that sometimes last (Doug n Jamie).
Yes!!! Let's speak towards our Emotional Intelligence. Traumas past and present if not addressed and healed from will dictate our future. Knowing our worth affects and effects our men as well. It begins with being real with ourselves. If you're unable to be your authentic self, then who will know your truth? We must be willing to remove the bandaid from the wounds, breathe, and heal in it's designated time.
I respect our men for acknowledging their needs for mental health and wellness.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
WOW.... I'm so excited & love how my favorite shows I watch & favorite podcasts collide like this💪🏾‼💛🌻
He was the only one who took the process serious. I believe God is going to give me the man I want and need. Amen
This was really good
Kudos to the show for providing mental health services post show but a even bigger kudos to you Gil for continuing your healing journey!
Great interview. This episode afforded us the opportunity to know Gil better
Listen, I just tuned in because I'm divorced and I wanted to hear about somebody that's healing from divorce. I'm not a TV person so I've never watched marriage at first sight. But my brother Gil, representing the afro Latin community, Plus he's prayed in Spanish and he's a firefighter 😍
Thank you for letting him bring some good conversation to your podcast. Im taking the recording your therapy sessions and using it 💯
I love married at first sight...and I'm so happy gil is in a great place...this podcast give me so much confirmation and hope...im healing and waiting on my perfect man..he is not perfect but he is perfect for me..
Great job in caring for these young men and the homeless as well.Blessings to you always.
When he talks about the death of his father, that’s exactly how I felt. Even though my father died of natural causes, still I was in shock I didn’t process it honestly…of course I cried but like at his funeral I didn’t cry..it was just me not wanting to accept it mainly, he’s been gone for two years now and it’s something I’m still trying to make peace with and accept, I was definitely a daddy’s girl so it was for sure difficult.
prayers. My dad transitioned 3 years ago and I still miss him like crazy! I wish that I had been more intentional with the time we had. Praying that God give you peace..My advice would be to look for signs. I saw dragonflies often after my dad passed. He will send you signs that all is well. That is what I believe anyway..God speed
@@MsLi-ef1xp yes thank you, I often have dreams about him so that’s what I love the most. But I’m not specific I guess when looking for a sign from him..i do always talk to him when I’m feeling stressed or overwhelmed, most definitely when it comes to my prayers
Wow, there is something that I'm realizing, and that is how you bring restoration to these ones who are hurting. I saw it with the last couple, that lady how she was when the show show stated and how she was when it ending, is completely different, even in her body language. That lady was fractured and in another mode, she was restless, but I saw light, calm & peace come into her eyes each time you spoke life into an event in their relationship that seemed bad. I saw her eyes light up and her mind switch on when you spoke to her, she received revelation. People know the mistakes they make or have made, they beat themselves up, the enemy beats them up, then there's the nasty people on social media, then you give them the complete opposite which is compassion & building up, you remind them that God loves them. You did again with this brother, I'm telling you, these guests walk away viewing God in a different light, as Father who loves them. Hmmmmm......
Thank you for that observation. I never thought of it like that, but it's true.
The one sentence that impacted me. Is when Gil said " I don't care about that other person this is my wife". I come on this podcast to hear the Men mostly. On point Latteras always
Great content. Gil, it wasn't meant to be. Your future wifey is coming!!! Stay humbled and God will glorify Himself in you!!
Great discussion! #Healing is essential! At times #TheWait gets uncomfortable. But 99% of time 😊 this Journey is peaceful and blessed! I thank and trust God in all things. 🙏🏾🙌🏾 Take great care 💙
Thank you for putting him on the show. I was wondering how he was doing after being on Married at first sight. Genuine nice guy and Intentional on finding person.
I love Gil's transparency, raw honesty, and unapologetically being his authentic self! I pray for the completion of his wholeness journey & the manifestation of new love when the time is right! Beautifully Human episode I so appreciate it❕️ 🤍🕊🙏
Thank you for having Gil on this ❤️🙏🏾. I am now a follower of this podcast ! This was sooo good !
Glad you enjoyed it! Welcome to the journey
This was an AWESOME PODCAST!!! Refreshing and genuine, thank you for being REAL men😍💞
It's refreshing to hear men that honor covenant!!
What an awesome podcast! I came here because I knew Gil was the guest. I thoroughly enjoyed BOTH of you. Your conversation made me think and actually laugh out loud. I'm so glad I found your channel.
Welcome to the journey. Subscribe
@@DearFutureWifey Thanks for the welcome & I subscribed immediately after watching the interview.
Thank you for your honesty, this help me better understand MAN BEHAVIOR.
It’s so refreshing to see a man that was so intentional, want to be married & want therapy that’s so rare in today time. Your forever person is coming Gil!!
Yess I too felt Gill authenticity & heart broken & I pray 🙏🏽 he finds his queen!
Amazing content with real conversation and transparency. I sincerely appreciate what you both have poured out. I appreciate your authenticity and openness. We women need to hear and restore our faith in trusting that there are men who enjoy communicating. Keep doing the work. Your Queens are coming!! Blessings and Love on your journey 🙌🙏🙌
Such a great interview. I love how Gil is transparent and wishing him well.
Woooow... Just on time this episode... 🔥💯
One thing that cut my attention and realize that man or woman that goes through a divorce, the women has more support than men. Sadly but truth because women and men, both we need help.
I'm glad you've stepped up for yourself, that you take care of yourself emotionally, mentally and that's hard to see in men.
It's a stereotype that men don't need help, when they go through divorce in their lives and that's not true.
Thank you very much Gil for sharing what you have been through and I know that God continues to guide you to find that person for you.
😳Gil, when you pray in Spanish, I said, wait a minute... I also speak Spanish... And that change of voice, ok. 😅
Your prayer was humble.
God knows your heart.
Thank you Laterras for continuing to help us look at both sides of a relationship, women and men opinions. Healing our hearts before starting a new relationship, and continue to build our lives with or without a partner.
I loved it! ❤️💯
Thanks
Best wishes to Gil, he has success written all over him 🙏🏽 being authentic and transparent is a fine quality to have. Good job to you both, nice chat.
so honoured to hear him pray in Spanish
Great episode. The conversation was such an eye opener.
I watched several seasons of MAFS and I have a lot of respect for Gil. He was not perfect throughout the process but he was genuine in his pursuit and honest in his communication with everyone (whether they were receptive to it or not). I appreciate that he acknowledges that he needs to heal before he moves on to another relationship, which is the ONLY reason I haven’t shot my shot lol. Cheering for you and hoping for God’s best for you, Gil.
This episode was simply refreshing. ✌🏾💜🙏🏾 to all.