Sometimes the repetitive message about attachment takes away for me. It often seems to play out as the other person being a type of avoidant and the Querent is anxious, doesn’t love themselves and chases. somtimes avoidants do fall in love and their coping mechanism is to then shut down. Also, avoidant types are often drawn to secure attachment styles-although they cycle with anxious attatchers. Some of us do love ourselves, aren’t chasing, but are sad and grieving the confusing experience
I think it can feel defeating and worse to get that message over and over. While absolutely true-maybe more on questions around positive progress in the opposite directions for the anxious attacher rather than reiterating the avoidant’s feelings of shutdown and not caring. Plus it’s good modeling to stop tending to a closed off persons emotions and to focus on your own future. Ty for your readings and I do enjoy them
Pile 2 - for the people saying bad things about the reader, the truth hurts, doesn't it? I listened to the reading, (I've healed from my FA ex) and this was just further confirmation about what I already know. You can be in denial all you want, continue to wait for a dead flower to bloom, but in the end, it's all pointless. Just focus on yourself, be secure, and find someone just as secured as you. I used to be an anxious attacher. It was exacerbated when I got into a relationship with my FA ex. It's not worth it. Only they can fix themselves, and plenty of times they DON'T want to, or don't know how, and they get stuck in that cycle. These people need intense therapy. So don't waste *years* just waiting for them to change, waiting they'll choose you again. Have some self-respect and grow some self-worth enough to completely leave and to give yourself a chance at a healthy relationship. As someone who's been in that situation, BE STRONG, be strong enough to walk away. Trust me, better things in life awaits you than waiting on a person you have no guarantee will never ghost you or blind-side you a second time or a third time. If it happened once, and it happened again, it's a pattern. Leave. Leave for your sake. You'll never get what you want from them which is vulnerability and emotional connection, very important aspects of a relationship. And even if they've fixed themselves over the years, why wait that long? When you could've been finding the right partner for you during that time, and building a stronger connection? Can you even guarantee your Avoidant person will still want you then? Just exit the door, and don't walk, RUN. Avoidants do deserve love but not if they're not taking therapy to fix their avoidance into a healthy secure one. And that takes years to undo.
Group Two: Yep, I knew this and it's absolutely right. Done with this person. Moving on.
Sometimes the repetitive message about attachment takes away for me. It often seems to play out as the other person being a type of avoidant and the Querent is anxious, doesn’t love themselves and chases. somtimes avoidants do fall in love and their coping mechanism is to then shut down. Also, avoidant types are often drawn to secure attachment styles-although they cycle with anxious attatchers. Some of us do love ourselves, aren’t chasing, but are sad and grieving the confusing experience
I think it can feel defeating and worse to get that message over and over. While absolutely true-maybe more on questions around positive progress in the opposite directions for the anxious attacher rather than reiterating the avoidant’s feelings of shutdown and not caring. Plus it’s good modeling to stop tending to a closed off persons emotions and to focus on your own future. Ty for your readings and I do enjoy them
Same pain 😭😭😭😭
You’ve just described my life 💔
Pile 2 - for the people saying bad things about the reader, the truth hurts, doesn't it? I listened to the reading, (I've healed from my FA ex) and this was just further confirmation about what I already know.
You can be in denial all you want, continue to wait for a dead flower to bloom, but in the end, it's all pointless. Just focus on yourself, be secure, and find someone just as secured as you.
I used to be an anxious attacher. It was exacerbated when I got into a relationship with my FA ex. It's not worth it. Only they can fix themselves, and plenty of times they DON'T want to, or don't know how, and they get stuck in that cycle. These people need intense therapy. So don't waste *years* just waiting for them to change, waiting they'll choose you again. Have some self-respect and grow some self-worth enough to completely leave and to give yourself a chance at a healthy relationship.
As someone who's been in that situation, BE STRONG, be strong enough to walk away. Trust me, better things in life awaits you than waiting on a person you have no guarantee will never ghost you or blind-side you a second time or a third time.
If it happened once, and it happened again, it's a pattern. Leave. Leave for your sake. You'll never get what you want from them which is vulnerability and emotional connection, very important aspects of a relationship. And even if they've fixed themselves over the years, why wait that long? When you could've been finding the right partner for you during that time, and building a stronger connection? Can you even guarantee your Avoidant person will still want you then?
Just exit the door, and don't walk, RUN. Avoidants do deserve love but not if they're not taking therapy to fix their avoidance into a healthy secure one. And that takes years to undo.
Pile 2 - This explains A LOT!!! Thank you! 😘
Pile 3, sadness, his brother died and the visitation/funeral is tomorrow.
This’s the first time I’m listening to you and you are great.❤ Thank you 🙏🏼💞
Group 1 exactly what has been going on .. exactly
Your readings are the best💖🙏🏼
Thank you for clarity ❤
Pile 2 Thanku I needed to hear that about creating ur reality .
Group 2❤❤
I so appreciate your honesty thank you. 1 & 2
I'm picking P1&2 will see🖤
Also live your ebook💖💖
I am sorry but I really don’t understand what you are trying to explain with the first group 🥺 but I really want to understand
Pile 3 👍
I picked Pile ,1.
Pile 3 ❤
2😅Starting to move on from him. He don't deserved the better me❤
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