When you spot their pattern, you pretend to be played but in real sense you are the one playing them. Outgrow their visible malicious plans 😂😂😂, and refuse to be the victim!
Yeah, seems like they think we are stupid for having empathy. They just don't get it. I have seen it in some people's faces when I say something and they look like they are old and wise and I am some naive child. Now I start to play back and think it is pretty fun to make them uncomfortable,which they really are. I just keep going, before I let them make me feel small. It is kinda fun (in distance and not as a partner!) with random people at parties or so on. I am becoming authentic and narcs HATE that!
I heard this so much I was convinced there was no way he'd ever cheat... I was very often accused of cheating, and it always came totally out of left field!! I now understand it was a confession... every time. It's a miracle I never got an STD from that SOB...
The amount of bad things I wanna say right now about a person but I genuinely can’t because it’s the disorder, just mentally insane. They won’t get help until they want to, if they ever do. I wish I had advice to give but I’m one of the idiots that fell in love with a narc🤷🏻♀️ 😂 and after 9 years am just now leaving 😂😂
Smh... I've been accused of cheating and lying but my partner at the time was lying all the time about little things then big things and was cheating with multiple people.
Ive never known him to value loyalty or hate cheating. He seems to live like nothing matters other than how he feels, right or wrong doesn't matter, hes the only thing that matters.... he has 2 kids and they don't matter to him more than he matters to himself...
Absolutely! Narcs believe that they're entitled to shit but their partners have to "prove it" to them. Like no, respect is earned, and so is trust. Both parties in the relationship should be working towards it.
Ex narc too we would watch TV and if it's a show with cheating ......he would say why would a guy cheat mess up a home. I looked at him like it's you you're the cheater!
Idk, sorry as I may be dismissive to you with my experience- I was cheated with & the guy is/was flirty. I haven't cheated, however some shows triggered me. He said alot of questionable things that would make my head wander. Such as suggesting how he would cheat/flirt.. then go on like I'm being unreasonable for finding it hard to trust him
@@cletiawilliams1436see now I've had "it's clear he's controlling" & I'm like... bish for a whole year that was you! I alla have PTSD and you can't see yourself in that person? And you're oblivious to how it affected me
These people would be so insecure that oh your phone is busy are u cheating on me? You're going out, are u cheating on me? And on the contrary be the one lying and hiding stuff and then eventually cheat on you with no regret and take no accountability for their actions. Heck they'll even try not to tell you of the new relationship at all and keep coming back time to time to make sure you're still hooked to them and they can keep you as a backup. Glad realised all of this a bit earlier on and got out of it. Pathetic people out there man. Stay safe and save your precious emotions and love for someone worthy❤
I think they do this to trick ppl. My ex also used to falsely accuse me of cheating. It caused regular huge fights. But it turned out to be her, all along.
Verrrrrrry True! The older they are the more traumatic the experience will be in a relationship with a narcissist, especially a covert narcissist!!!!!!!! Because over the many years of their life they have learned how to be professional and habitual cheaters, pathological liars, and mass manipulators, etc *Mentally ill & Dangerous to society*
😂😂😂100% accurate. I know a certain someone exactly like this. I don't mean to laugh, but she's the biggest walking contradiction I've ever seen in my life. My heart breaks for her because she's mentally spiritually and emotionally tormented due to childhood trauma. She's an emotional toddler. May God have mercy on her soul
SPOT ON!!! My ex was like this. She kept on blabbing about how she hates cheaters and how nasty they are. But deep down,she is one. I felt it from the day she withholded the bare minumum stuff I needed from our relationship.
Yes..my ex narc husband once told me that he hate an actor(which is very popular in my country). I asked why u hate him he said he is a womanizer n cheater . I don't like these type of people..😅
Damn Lee! You couldn't have said this any better! My ex said he would kick me out if I cheated on him but all he did was CHEAT!😂🤣thank god I never moved in with him.
My mom offered me money that I was not "due". Yes, she has stolen from me plenty, but this situation I could have gotten over on her, but I didn't. I told my, I know you are glad I'm honest. She said, "Yes, I am." I tell you all everything else. My mom is coming home from the hospital tomorrow to start hospice at home. I'm sad/scared because of the change, but I'm ok with it because it is almost over. I've been taking care of her for 19 years. She's only been clearly mean for 5. I didn't have much of a problem with her before I started living for myself and keeping my resources for myself.
They set you up even tho you into being loyal. They warn they can't help themselves and yet have absolutely no mercy They test how cheating & mean they can be before you go date or visit somebody else.
When I listened to a new to me band, of course I found out about them through the person I cheated with. Every time I leave the house of course is an opportunity to cheat on the narcissist. In part the jealeousy is a method of control and in part for sure a confession about what they do or want to do if women are available.
It’s like the only way yall can tell you’re loved is if you do the most psychotic disloyal things, and they still choose to stay with you. And so yall constantly test that till the other persons so broken one day yall are like “ew, actually I changed my mind”. From what I’ve noticed and all the stories I’ve heard and experienced lol
Bc a loyal person is nice to have on your side.... But to actually BE one, you have to put in work... MORAL OF THE STORY: Never be extremely more loyal to someone else, than they are willing to be towards you.
My brother lol he always posts memes about how he wants someone loyal and loves him, but he has cheated in EVERY relationship he's been in. 😂😂😂 like my guy please. I commented under his posts so much he made a new page and blocked me from it. 😂😅😅😅
Let me tell ya they love the ART of Projection . Meaning what they accuse you of they are actually doing themselves to YOU, OLD OLD Story on a EX NARC So im heading out of town in my car and my phone rings i pick up and he say where you at so i proceed to tell him im heading out of town and before i could get the words out to what im going out of town for. HE then goes into this rant about i dont care if your going to see somebody else i dont care. so im looking at the phone like what ? What are you talking about where did that come from? Im going out of town to go SHOPPING not to meet anybody, SO i shook my head like what are you talking about so we arguing on the phone going back and forth. so fast forward were in another argument and i am asking him about his behavior, H e say oh nobody seen me with nobody else here , they cant tell you they seen me with no other woman here, Now pay close attention when i left Him and sit back and thought about the $hit it was darn near brilliant because no one would have seen him cheating because he was seeing someone in the next town. and thats why he freaked out just at me mentioning i was going out of town. Man them Folks some serious. They some characters .
Because they're hypocrites.
1,000,000,000,000%
Very much so.
That’s it
Yep, that's the truth.
This!! ❤
When you spot their pattern, you pretend to be played but in real sense you are the one playing them.
Outgrow their visible malicious plans 😂😂😂, and refuse to be the victim!
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I definitely went through that with my narc!! He despised cheaters. Once I learned his pattern, I understood that it takes one to know one. 😊
Yes that's why they'll pick these empaths to toy with they love how loyal and true but cannot be the same way
Yeah, seems like they think we are stupid for having empathy. They just don't get it. I have seen it in some people's faces when I say something and they look like they are old and wise and I am some naive child. Now I start to play back and think it is pretty fun to make them uncomfortable,which they really are. I just keep going, before I let them make me feel small. It is kinda fun (in distance and not as a partner!) with random people at parties or so on. I am becoming authentic and narcs HATE that!
Nice to be genuine (authentic) with someone not being strategic with one@@somethingbambi875
They can't have anyone invalidate what they're out there always trying to validate.
This makes so much sense! He would get fired up over certain celebrities because of certain scandals tied to them like he hadn’t done the same thing!
I heard this so much I was convinced there was no way he'd ever cheat...
I was very often accused of cheating, and it always came totally out of left field!!
I now understand it was a confession... every time. It's a miracle I never got an STD from that SOB...
I was accused constantly 🤯 they are nuts!!
Bro facts I'm eternally grateful for that every day God is good he kept both of is from getting an Std from our nasty exs
@@misst3116🎯
I did get a STD ! And still like a idiot trusted and tried to make it work with him, just to get another STD later too
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You are the most honest narc I've ever listen. Thank you. I was going to be crazy before i listen to you.❤
& this type of behavior is the hardest for me to understand. The mind fuckery is UNREAL 🤷🏾♀️🙄
The amount of bad things I wanna say right now about a person but I genuinely can’t because it’s the disorder, just mentally insane. They won’t get help until they want to, if they ever do. I wish I had advice to give but I’m one of the idiots that fell in love with a narc🤷🏻♀️ 😂 and after 9 years am just now leaving 😂😂
Same plus a few years-- thanks to the trauma bond 🤦♀️
It's not a joking matter at all and I'm glad you finally left the trauma. You truly deserve better in life🙌👆🙌
Smh... I've been accused of cheating and lying but my partner at the time was lying all the time about little things then big things and was cheating with multiple people.
Ive never known him to value loyalty or hate cheating. He seems to live like nothing matters other than how he feels, right or wrong doesn't matter, hes the only thing that matters.... he has 2 kids and they don't matter to him more than he matters to himself...
We judge in others what we hate in ourselves
Or we judge because it's not only dragging us down w them but our children that we had with these narcs who didn't deserve any of it
Or that they want respect, but don't even respect themselves. Also, they want you to trust them, but they don't trust anyone, including themselves.
Absolutely! Narcs believe that they're entitled to shit but their partners have to "prove it" to them. Like no, respect is earned, and so is trust. Both parties in the relationship should be working towards it.
Wow …😮 you Got it!!! So true
My ex would get mad over movies if it was about cheating
Ex narc too we would watch TV and if it's a show with cheating ......he would say why would a guy cheat mess up a home. I looked at him like it's you you're the cheater!
@@cletiawilliams1436😂😂😂😂😂😂 and the truth on their faces.
Idk, sorry as I may be dismissive to you with my experience- I was cheated with & the guy is/was flirty. I haven't cheated, however some shows triggered me. He said alot of questionable things that would make my head wander. Such as suggesting how he would cheat/flirt.. then go on like I'm being unreasonable for finding it hard to trust him
@@cletiawilliams1436see now I've had "it's clear he's controlling" & I'm like... bish for a whole year that was you! I alla have PTSD and you can't see yourself in that person? And you're oblivious to how it affected me
These people would be so insecure that oh your phone is busy are u cheating on me? You're going out, are u cheating on me? And on the contrary be the one lying and hiding stuff and then eventually cheat on you with no regret and take no accountability for their actions. Heck they'll even try not to tell you of the new relationship at all and keep coming back time to time to make sure you're still hooked to them and they can keep you as a backup. Glad realised all of this a bit earlier on and got out of it. Pathetic people out there man. Stay safe and save your precious emotions and love for someone worthy❤
and still be glued to their phone, with all the secrecy going on. Pathetic.
I call it "The Other Rule Syndrome"
Which is THEY don't have to obey the rules...YOU DO...PERIOD!!
Double standards are so prevalent with a narc.
That's my narc ex. He always brings up my cheating but he wouldn't admit he was cheating but gaslite me instead.. such an hypocritical asshole
This thing you said is the biggest truth I've heard today. Thank you ❤
It's extreme selfishness and entitlement.
I think they do this to trick ppl.
My ex also used to falsely accuse me of cheating. It caused regular huge fights. But it turned out to be her, all along.
Verrrrrrry True!
The older they are the more traumatic the experience will be in a relationship with a narcissist, especially a covert narcissist!!!!!!!!
Because over the many years of their life they have learned how to be professional and habitual cheaters, pathological liars, and mass manipulators, etc
*Mentally ill & Dangerous to society*
😂😂😂100% accurate. I know a certain someone exactly like this. I don't mean to laugh, but she's the biggest walking contradiction I've ever seen in my life.
My heart breaks for her because she's mentally spiritually and emotionally tormented due to childhood trauma. She's an emotional toddler. May God have mercy on her soul
She preached about morals and integrity when we first got together. I slowly started realizing she lacked both.
😢
SPOT ON!!!
My ex was like this. She kept on blabbing about how she hates cheaters and how nasty they are. But deep down,she is one. I felt it from the day she withholded the bare minumum stuff I needed from our relationship.
Yes..my ex narc husband once told me that he hate an actor(which is very popular in my country). I asked why u hate him he said he is a womanizer n cheater . I don't like these type of people..😅
Damn Lee! You couldn't have said this any better! My ex said he would kick me out if I cheated on him but all he did was CHEAT!😂🤣thank god I never moved in with him.
"Dyin and ridin lol but with me" this is so funny and true
They aren’t loyal
My mom offered me money that I was not "due". Yes, she has stolen from me plenty, but this situation I could have gotten over on her, but I didn't. I told my, I know you are glad I'm honest. She said, "Yes, I am."
I tell you all everything else. My mom is coming home from the hospital tomorrow to start hospice at home. I'm sad/scared because of the change, but I'm ok with it because it is almost over. I've been taking care of her for 19 years. She's only been clearly mean for 5. I didn't have much of a problem with her before I started living for myself and keeping my resources for myself.
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They set you up even tho you into being loyal. They warn they can't help themselves and yet have absolutely no mercy They test how cheating & mean they can be before you go date or visit somebody else.
Thanks God I realized who I was dealing with
When I listened to a new to me band, of course I found out about them through the person I cheated with. Every time I leave the house of course is an opportunity to cheat on the narcissist.
In part the jealeousy is a method of control and in part for sure a confession about what they do or want to do if women are available.
Backwards and discombobulated
Dead on to my narc xboyfriend!!! I was so loyal and expected same back. Got the total opposite!!! 😅
I have to admit you are so funny!!
It’s like the only way yall can tell you’re loved is if you do the most psychotic disloyal things, and they still choose to stay with you. And so yall constantly test that till the other persons so broken one day yall are like “ew, actually I changed my mind”. From what I’ve noticed and all the stories I’ve heard and experienced lol
Bc a loyal person is nice to have on your side....
But to actually BE one, you have to put in work...
MORAL OF THE STORY: Never be extremely more loyal to someone else, than they are willing to be towards you.
Facts
I can't stand narcissists. They are demons.
My brother lol he always posts memes about how he wants someone loyal and loves him, but he has cheated in EVERY relationship he's been in. 😂😂😂 like my guy please. I commented under his posts so much he made a new page and blocked me from it. 😂😅😅😅
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Let me tell ya they love the ART of Projection . Meaning what they accuse you of they are actually doing themselves to YOU, OLD OLD Story on a EX NARC So im heading out of town in my car and my phone rings i pick up and he say where you at so i proceed to tell him im heading out of town and before i could get the words out to what im going out of town for. HE then goes into this rant about i dont care if your going to see somebody else i dont care. so im looking at the phone like what ? What are you talking about where did that come from? Im going out of town to go SHOPPING not to meet anybody, SO i shook my head like what are you talking about so we arguing on the phone going back and forth. so fast forward were in another argument and i am asking him about his behavior, H e say oh nobody seen me with nobody else here , they cant tell you they seen me with no other woman here, Now pay close attention when i left Him and sit back and thought about the $hit it was darn near brilliant because no one would have seen him cheating because he was seeing someone in the next town. and thats why he freaked out just at me mentioning i was going out of town. Man them Folks some serious. They some characters .
I know someone that has BPD that's the same way
No more
You have never lied
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Is any of these ppl JLinn Burnett-Brisco? My God
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Oh yes
They think they’re above the law. They do hate cheating: for the paupers and peasants in the village.